WEBVTT - Shady Highlight:  Advice On Dealing With A 'Moocher!'

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<v Speaker 1>We love y'all, and we always want to answer the

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<v Speaker 1>questions that y'all ask. You ask and we answer. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what's going down today. We put out there on

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<v Speaker 1>We put it out there. You guys ask questions and

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<v Speaker 1>we will answer them. So we have a couple that

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna answer. This is from Tierra. Okay, she says, Hi, ladies. First,

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<v Speaker 1>let me let me say how much she should be

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<v Speaker 1>saying people's names sometimes. Why let's just say the first name,

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<v Speaker 1>just because what if the person she's talking about listens

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<v Speaker 1>to and she might know what. Oh, okay, she's talking

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<v Speaker 1>about somebody. Oh okay, that's right. That's right. Okay, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not her name is not Tara, it's something else. Okay, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>here we go. Hi, ladies, First, let me say how

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<v Speaker 1>much I love y'all. And now shady as a moment side,

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<v Speaker 1>I already love you because you have a shady moment. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I know. I'm known for throwing a nice party or

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<v Speaker 1>cook out. The food is good, the music is right,

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<v Speaker 1>and the drinks flow. For the fourth m For the

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<v Speaker 1>fourth me and my husband decided to host a barbecue.

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<v Speaker 1>Not tons of people, just some friends and their kids

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<v Speaker 1>over to swim and eat. She got a pool too. Okay, okay, here, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>this chick I know but don't really talk to like

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<v Speaker 1>that said she was coming, said, not asked. What she

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<v Speaker 1>didn't say was what can I brain? She's been known

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<v Speaker 1>to show up empty handed and just unhinge her jaw

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<v Speaker 1>and inhale. I don't even know what that means, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's getting good, y'all eating? Okay, I got eating good. Hell,

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<v Speaker 1>she showed up to my birthday party without so much

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<v Speaker 1>as even a card, just sat there quietly and ate crabs,

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<v Speaker 1>belched and left. Now, this is funny, not okay. Most

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<v Speaker 1>of the time when someone asked me what that means.

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<v Speaker 1>Most of the time, when someone asked what they can bring,

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<v Speaker 1>I tell them nothing. But she never asked. I'm really

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<v Speaker 1>tired of her and her bad manners. She never invites

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<v Speaker 1>me anywhere, but it's quick to pop up at my

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<v Speaker 1>parties and such empty handed. I want her to go away.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm about I'm about ready to block her on all

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<v Speaker 1>social media and block her number. But before I do,

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to see if y'all had a better solution.

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<v Speaker 1>Luckily she didn't show up on the fourth, but I

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<v Speaker 1>know the opportunity for her to party crash bringing nothing,

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<v Speaker 1>but her appetite was present itself. Again thanks, and then

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<v Speaker 1>she gives her name, which we won't say, but it's Tierra. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So I don't really know what the question is here.

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<v Speaker 1>So the question is how do you deal with a

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<v Speaker 1>friend that pretty much is a moocher that's always coming

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<v Speaker 1>to your stuff empty handed? Well, first of all, it

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<v Speaker 1>sounded like she invited herself. Yes, So you invite yourself

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<v Speaker 1>and you come with nothing handed, yes, and you eat

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<v Speaker 1>all the food right and right? Yes, and then you

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<v Speaker 1>and then she doesn't invite her to anything. Yes, So

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<v Speaker 1>but does she have anything to invite you to? That's

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<v Speaker 1>number one? Probably not right number two? Okay, So I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like I'm I need to do better at this.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really bad because I think she's talking about me.

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<v Speaker 1>I show up empty handed because it is like so

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<v Speaker 1>much for me just to get out of the house

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<v Speaker 1>that like, I'm like, oh my gosh, I gotta find

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<v Speaker 1>something like for me to like stop somewhere and bring

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<v Speaker 1>something too much. So I'm like my presences Okay, that

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<v Speaker 1>for that, but you have Okay, but you're eating the

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<v Speaker 1>food because we eat, we like to eat. And then okay,

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<v Speaker 1>but are you ever inviting people to anything you do? Yeah? Okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>but all right, let's let's say in tears because it

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<v Speaker 1>sounds like, okay, I feel like you don't really like

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<v Speaker 1>the girl period, you know what I mean, Like if

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<v Speaker 1>you liked her and she showed him empty handed, you

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't really notice, correct, you know what I mean? If

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<v Speaker 1>it was one of your good girl friends, you wouldn't care.

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<v Speaker 1>You'd be happy to see her. Yes, true, but people

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<v Speaker 1>can't wear thin they're they're welcome, they can wear out

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<v Speaker 1>that welcome. Okay, but I think if it's like, really,

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<v Speaker 1>you're really good friend, you like there's some such thing,

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<v Speaker 1>and if it's a really good friend, you're inviting them.

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<v Speaker 1>This girl has having to invite herself. Let me tell

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<v Speaker 1>you some tira, Yes, I'm with you, social media, black

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<v Speaker 1>her block her number, all of that, right, Like, who

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<v Speaker 1>was telling her that you're having this party? That's that's

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<v Speaker 1>that maybe we need to tell people. Can y'all stop

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<v Speaker 1>telling the girl that I'm having something because I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>invite her and she comes empty handed and she eats

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<v Speaker 1>all the food to cray the crabs. Not the crabs.

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<v Speaker 1>She need to pitch in at least crabs expensive these days.

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<v Speaker 1>Something at the door. That's a hard one. I mean

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<v Speaker 1>it's not that. I just feel like, Tira is your

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<v Speaker 1>house party. And if you're having a party and you

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<v Speaker 1>don't want extra folk there that aren't invited, you should

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<v Speaker 1>say that when you invite, you know, when you send

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<v Speaker 1>out your lists. Yes, I don't know. Maybe now you

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<v Speaker 1>just need to have a disclosure, like okay, text me

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<v Speaker 1>to see what you can bring, like on your invite. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>just like text me to see what you can bring.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what this you should do? Call the pot

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<v Speaker 1>luck and then people will reach out and say what

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<v Speaker 1>should I bring? And if if you really don't need

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<v Speaker 1>to bring anything, to be like, no, I'm girl need

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<v Speaker 1>to bring anything. But when the Belgian girl says, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a pot luck, what should I bring? Then you

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<v Speaker 1>tell her to bring yes, you know, crap, bring something.

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<v Speaker 1>Just bring you the money for all the food that

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<v Speaker 1>you didn't eat. Okay, Tierra, you are ending our show

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<v Speaker 1>and long story show, I get ready of your frands, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>scrap them and start over. And you can tell her

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<v Speaker 1>that I said you can be shady. Okay, yes, yes, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>just put it out there. Yes, the girl can't read

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