Speaker 1: We love y'all, and we always want to answer the
Speaker 1: questions that y'all ask. You ask and we answer. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's what's going down today. We put out there on
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Speaker 1: We put it out there. You guys ask questions and
Speaker 1: we will answer them. So we have a couple that
Speaker 1: we're gonna answer. This is from Tierra. Okay, she says, Hi, ladies. First,
Speaker 1: let me let me say how much she should be
Speaker 1: saying people's names sometimes. Why let's just say the first name,
Speaker 1: just because what if the person she's talking about listens
Speaker 1: to and she might know what. Oh, okay, she's talking
Speaker 1: about somebody. Oh okay, that's right. That's right. Okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: it's not her name is not Tara, it's something else. Okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: here we go. Hi, ladies, First, let me say how
Speaker 1: much I love y'all. And now shady as a moment side,
Speaker 1: I already love you because you have a shady moment. Okay.
Speaker 1: I know. I'm known for throwing a nice party or
Speaker 1: cook out. The food is good, the music is right,
Speaker 1: and the drinks flow. For the fourth m For the
Speaker 1: fourth me and my husband decided to host a barbecue.
Speaker 1: Not tons of people, just some friends and their kids
Speaker 1: over to swim and eat. She got a pool too. Okay, okay, here, Well,
Speaker 1: this chick I know but don't really talk to like
Speaker 1: that said she was coming, said, not asked. What she
Speaker 1: didn't say was what can I brain? She's been known
Speaker 1: to show up empty handed and just unhinge her jaw
Speaker 1: and inhale. I don't even know what that means, but
Speaker 1: it's getting good, y'all eating? Okay, I got eating good. Hell,
Speaker 1: she showed up to my birthday party without so much
Speaker 1: as even a card, just sat there quietly and ate crabs,
Speaker 1: belched and left. Now, this is funny, not okay. Most
Speaker 1: of the time when someone asked me what that means.
Speaker 1: Most of the time, when someone asked what they can bring,
Speaker 1: I tell them nothing. But she never asked. I'm really
Speaker 1: tired of her and her bad manners. She never invites
Speaker 1: me anywhere, but it's quick to pop up at my
Speaker 1: parties and such empty handed. I want her to go away.
Speaker 1: I'm about I'm about ready to block her on all
Speaker 1: social media and block her number. But before I do,
Speaker 1: I wanted to see if y'all had a better solution.
Speaker 1: Luckily she didn't show up on the fourth, but I
Speaker 1: know the opportunity for her to party crash bringing nothing,
Speaker 1: but her appetite was present itself. Again thanks, and then
Speaker 1: she gives her name, which we won't say, but it's Tierra. Okay,
Speaker 1: So I don't really know what the question is here.
Speaker 1: So the question is how do you deal with a
Speaker 1: friend that pretty much is a moocher that's always coming
Speaker 1: to your stuff empty handed? Well, first of all, it
Speaker 1: sounded like she invited herself. Yes, So you invite yourself
Speaker 1: and you come with nothing handed, yes, and you eat
Speaker 1: all the food right and right? Yes, and then you
Speaker 1: and then she doesn't invite her to anything. Yes, So
Speaker 1: but does she have anything to invite you to? That's
Speaker 1: number one? Probably not right number two? Okay, So I
Speaker 1: feel like I'm I need to do better at this.
Speaker 1: I'm really bad because I think she's talking about me.
Speaker 1: I show up empty handed because it is like so
Speaker 1: much for me just to get out of the house
Speaker 1: that like, I'm like, oh my gosh, I gotta find
Speaker 1: something like for me to like stop somewhere and bring
Speaker 1: something too much. So I'm like my presences Okay, that
Speaker 1: for that, but you have Okay, but you're eating the
Speaker 1: food because we eat, we like to eat. And then okay,
Speaker 1: but are you ever inviting people to anything you do? Yeah? Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: but all right, let's let's say in tears because it
Speaker 1: sounds like, okay, I feel like you don't really like
Speaker 1: the girl period, you know what I mean, Like if
Speaker 1: you liked her and she showed him empty handed, you
Speaker 1: wouldn't really notice, correct, you know what I mean? If
Speaker 1: it was one of your good girl friends, you wouldn't care.
Speaker 1: You'd be happy to see her. Yes, true, but people
Speaker 1: can't wear thin they're they're welcome, they can wear out
Speaker 1: that welcome. Okay, but I think if it's like, really,
Speaker 1: you're really good friend, you like there's some such thing,
Speaker 1: and if it's a really good friend, you're inviting them.
Speaker 1: This girl has having to invite herself. Let me tell
Speaker 1: you some tira, Yes, I'm with you, social media, black
Speaker 1: her block her number, all of that, right, Like, who
Speaker 1: was telling her that you're having this party? That's that's
Speaker 1: that maybe we need to tell people. Can y'all stop
Speaker 1: telling the girl that I'm having something because I didn't
Speaker 1: invite her and she comes empty handed and she eats
Speaker 1: all the food to cray the crabs. Not the crabs.
Speaker 1: She need to pitch in at least crabs expensive these days.
Speaker 1: Something at the door. That's a hard one. I mean
Speaker 1: it's not that. I just feel like, Tira is your
Speaker 1: house party. And if you're having a party and you
Speaker 1: don't want extra folk there that aren't invited, you should
Speaker 1: say that when you invite, you know, when you send
Speaker 1: out your lists. Yes, I don't know. Maybe now you
Speaker 1: just need to have a disclosure, like okay, text me
Speaker 1: to see what you can bring, like on your invite. Yes,
Speaker 1: just like text me to see what you can bring.
Speaker 1: You know what this you should do? Call the pot
Speaker 1: luck and then people will reach out and say what
Speaker 1: should I bring? And if if you really don't need
Speaker 1: to bring anything, to be like, no, I'm girl need
Speaker 1: to bring anything. But when the Belgian girl says, okay,
Speaker 1: it's a pot luck, what should I bring? Then you
Speaker 1: tell her to bring yes, you know, crap, bring something.
Speaker 1: Just bring you the money for all the food that
Speaker 1: you didn't eat. Okay, Tierra, you are ending our show
Speaker 1: and long story show, I get ready of your frands, Okay,
Speaker 1: scrap them and start over. And you can tell her
Speaker 1: that I said you can be shady. Okay, yes, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: just put it out there. Yes, the girl can't read
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