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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Jade is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named

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Speaker 2: ty So we're about to help her out see if

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Speaker 2: we can get him on the phone and find out

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Speaker 2: why he's ghosting and maybe get her another date. But

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Speaker 2: first let's find out about the date. Jade. Hello, Hey, Jade,

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Speaker 2: how long has it been since you heard from Tye.

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Speaker 1: It's been four days, which might not sound like a

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Speaker 1: lot to some people, but that's a lot for me.

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Speaker 3: Okay, because you've just never gone four days without hearing

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Speaker 3: from somebody.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like people just physically get back to

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Speaker 1: me pretty quickly, so I'm feeling really insecure about it.

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Speaker 3: How many times have you tried to reach out to

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Speaker 3: him in the four days? Did you try it all?

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 1: No, because when we left off, he said he would

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Speaker 1: call me, so I felt like it might feel desperate

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Speaker 1: to text again.

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Speaker 2: All right, So tell us a little bit about your date.

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Speaker 4: Then.

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Speaker 1: The date was really awesome. We actually met while back,

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Speaker 1: like almost probably almost ten years ago through mutual friends,

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Speaker 1: and I thought he was really cute, but like nothing

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Speaker 1: really went down at the time, but we recently matched

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Speaker 1: on hinge and we did like a cute little walk

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Speaker 1: date and we had some coffee and it just felt

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Speaker 1: really natural. Verre so nice. Yeah, it was really sweet

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Speaker 1: and cozy, and I just felt like I'd known him

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Speaker 1: for a long time, which I guess I do, but

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Speaker 1: like I felt a deeper connection, you know, and we

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Speaker 1: even like extended the date spontaneously, which I feel like

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Speaker 1: is always a good mutual sign.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: We went out to like a sports bar. We got

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Speaker 1: some snacks and stuff. She did actually have to like

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Speaker 1: dash because he has a daughter and she had texted

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Speaker 1: or maybe the baby Moon had texted about like the

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Speaker 1: daughter being sick, so he did have to dash, which

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Speaker 1: I didn't mind. Totally get the responsibility of being a parent.

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Speaker 1: But after that, you know, I wanted him to know

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Speaker 1: that I'd really had a really awesome time and felt

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Speaker 1: so comfortable with him, and I was interested in it

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Speaker 1: going somewhere. He texted me, you know, thanking me for

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Speaker 1: my understanding, and I was like, yeah, no problem. I

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Speaker 1: hope your daughter feels better soon. I want to do

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Speaker 1: this again. And he was like cool, I'll call you.

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Speaker 1: And that's kind of where it's been for the.

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Speaker 4: Last four days.

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Speaker 3: So he staidied call and he did it, and maybe

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Speaker 3: things got wrapped up with this kid.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, maybe I just feel like call is really specific,

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Speaker 1: like intention to follow up, and so I'm definitely freaking

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Speaker 1: out a little bit.

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Speaker 3: Did anything happen on the date, like, other than that call?

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Speaker 3: Was there any awkward moments? Was anything said that could

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Speaker 3: have made things a little bit weirder? Like, you know,

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Speaker 3: was there any flags?

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Speaker 1: I don't think there were any flags. I mean, again,

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Speaker 1: like he did we really abruptly and I ended up

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Speaker 1: paying the check. But again, I totally didn't mind. It

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Speaker 1: seemed like a genuine emergency.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So that's not because he goes out and he's like, Okay, whoops,

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Speaker 3: my kid's sick, thanks for dinner. Yeah, I would be

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Speaker 3: the worst scam of all time. But what if it

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Speaker 3: is also scam boy? Yeah? Do we know for sure?

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Speaker 1: He's the worst thing I've had happen on a date.

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Speaker 3: So, but do we know for sure that he's a dad?

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure, just because like we have mutual friends

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Speaker 1: and whatnot, and so I've heard about the child before.

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Speaker 4: The date.

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Speaker 3: So okay, I'm pretty sure it's a real hope.

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Speaker 2: Okay, is there any I mean, anything else you can

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Speaker 2: think of that might be a reason that he's ghosting you.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean maybe if he just like

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Speaker 1: totally crazy and really thought it went well and he

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Speaker 1: was like, oh my God, get me out of here,

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Speaker 1: and he's trying to be like polite about it. I

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Speaker 1: feel like sometimes people think.

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Speaker 4: It's nicer to ghost, which I do not agree with.

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Speaker 2: But okay, well, we'll try to figure out for you

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Speaker 2: a song come Back, and then call him and see

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Speaker 2: Ifield tell us why is ghosting you, and maybe get

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Speaker 2: you another date if you still want one. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 2: all right, we'll play a song come Back, get your

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Speaker 2: first Day follow up next if you're just joining us

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Speaker 2: for today's first Day follow up. Jade is on the

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Speaker 2: phone and she's getting ghosted by a dude named ty

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Speaker 2: We're about to call him, see Ifiel tell us why

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Speaker 2: he's ghosting, and maybe get her another date. Before we

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Speaker 2: do that, though, Jade, why don't you refresh everybody's memory

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Speaker 2: about your day with.

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Speaker 1: Thy Yeah, Tyana actually met a while ago, never really

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Speaker 1: got together. We matched on hinge, went on a cute

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Speaker 1: walk and even like chose to extend the date for lunch.

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Speaker 1: He had to run because his daughter was sick, which

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Speaker 1: was no big deal for me. But we left off

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Speaker 1: with him planning to call me. And now it's been

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Speaker 1: four days, so I'm just wondering if maybe something changed

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Speaker 1: his mind or Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Well and you did end up paying for the dates,

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Speaker 3: so we need to make sure it's not a scam.

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Speaker 2: Just to get a free day. You ready for us

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Speaker 2: to call him? Yeah, okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, man,

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Speaker 2: speak to Tie please, This is speaking Ty. What's up?

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Speaker 1: Man?

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Speaker 2: How are you? This is a Jewbel from a radio

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Speaker 2: show called The Jewbel Show.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and the whole show's here. My name is Nina. Hi,

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Speaker 3: I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 2: How are you say?

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Speaker 4: There? I'm doing pretty good? Did I win something?

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Speaker 2: Not sure yet? Do you ever listen to the show?

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Speaker 4: I have a couple of times.

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Speaker 2: Have you ever heard of first day follow Up?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 4: I haven't caught it.

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Speaker 2: A first day follow up is a segment with you

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Speaker 2: on the show where if you go out with someone

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Speaker 2: and then you end up ghosting them, that person can

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Speaker 2: email us to get you on the phone and ask

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Speaker 2: why you're ghosting them. So you are currently ghosting somebody?

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Speaker 2: Do you know who that is?

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Speaker 4: My ghoasting anyone that? No, I haven't. I can't think

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Speaker 4: I'm ghosting anybody right now.

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Speaker 3: Have you gone in any dates recently?

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Speaker 4: Hi wants just like a couple of days ago with

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Speaker 4: a girl that I actually kind of really enjoyed. But

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Speaker 4: I think it would be way too soon for her

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Speaker 3: I guess here, have you messaged back to her?

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Speaker 5: I'm actually a dad and I got kids that's been sick.

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Speaker 5: She knows that my kid was sick because I had

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Speaker 5: to leave the day and we spoke the following day.

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Speaker 5: I thought, I'm going to call her back. But my

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Speaker 5: kids not in the best condition. My baby mama.

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Speaker 4: Is also sick.

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Speaker 5: I'm taking care of my kid and working from home,

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Speaker 5: and you know, just treading water.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, super dad, we're talking about Jade? Is that

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Speaker 2: who you're talking about?

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Speaker 4: Wait? Is it Shade? Because I would not want to

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Speaker 4: have left her feeling like that, because I did have

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Speaker 4: a great time with her and I definitely do want

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Speaker 4: to see her. I've just haven't been able to come

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Speaker 4: up for air at all these past three days.

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Speaker 3: Wow, Sheade probably would like to know that A.

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Speaker 2: Ti Jays Jade's on the phone and has been listening.

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Speaker 4: Hi, O, wow, hey Jade, Hi, how are you doing?

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Speaker 1: Not the greatest, but okay?

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Speaker 3: How are you?

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Speaker 4: Oh? You know, taking care of a sick Kien tent

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Speaker 4: of people work? Just getn't buy right now?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't know what happened, so I kind of

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Speaker 1: just thought maybe you weren't that in to me and

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Speaker 1: didn't know how to say it.

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Speaker 6: Oh no, Hun, I'm just kind of in a unique

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Speaker 6: place where, you know, I really had an amazing time

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Speaker 6: and I actually would love to see you again.

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Speaker 5: It's just I got a kid and I got to

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Speaker 5: make sure she's okay, and the mom's also stick. So

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Speaker 5: she's been with me since that date, and that's the

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Speaker 5: reason that you haven't hear.

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Speaker 4: Back from me with you. No, my daughter's taking care

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Speaker 5: We're just good copare so we're friends, So I don't

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Speaker 4: Time with my daughter.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess when you said I'll call you, I

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Speaker 1: since I didn't know what was going on, I definitely

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Speaker 1: was wondering if maybe like, yeah, you change your mind,

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Speaker 1: or like things aren't wrapped up with your daughter's mother,

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Speaker 1: and it was totally fine. I just would rather know

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Speaker 5: I'm so sorry that you felt that way, babe. That

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Speaker 5: was not my infession at all. It's just I've just

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Speaker 5: been really just busy with my daughter and getting are well,

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Speaker 4: Be a couple more days and then you can have

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Speaker 4: my full attention. That's kind of where I wanted to be,

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Speaker 5: I didn't want to schedule another date than then after

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Speaker 3: Oh that's sweet, boring, Okay, Oh I think it sweet.

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Speaker 3: You know why I think this is sweet? I think

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Speaker 3: it's no. I think that Jade's feelings are super valid.

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Speaker 3: I know four days doesn't seem like a long time,

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Speaker 3: but if something goes really good, you can't help but

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Speaker 3: question things about yourself. So, and especially if you're dealing

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Speaker 3: it's about me? Or is this about you? Because I

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Speaker 3: kind of understand, but I can't help but feeling a

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Speaker 3: little bit insecure, you know what I mean. So this

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Speaker 3: communication is actually really sweet.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like, I totally get that, and I'm now

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Speaker 1: like a little embarrassed that I'm much doing in picture.

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Speaker 3: I think it's normal.

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Speaker 2: Ty, would you like to go on another day with Jade?

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Speaker 2: Will pay for it.

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Speaker 4: I would love to see you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, great, okay, doctor ono. So then you can say

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Speaker 3: I'm just kidding, that's not right if you have to

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Speaker 3: go to your kid always about it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would love to see you again. I guess

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Speaker 1: I just want to make like one hundred one thousand,

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Speaker 1: one million percent sure things with you and your daughter's

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Speaker 1: mother are like totally over. No chance you're moving on.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I think you can rest a shirt on that back.

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Speaker 5: We're pretty much just, you know, platonic friends. We're good

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Speaker 5: co parents, but there's definitely not a spark like the one.

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Speaker 4: That I feel like you she's super hot, but who

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Speaker 4: we're honestly just.

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Speaker 2: Front Okay, all right, well, congratulations Jade, you got another date.

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Speaker 3: Honesty is really happening. You will the first date follow

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Speaker 3: up