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Speaker 3: My boyfriend's friend called me manipulative for worrying about my

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Speaker 2: What are you doing?

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Speaker 3: Cut his friend off? So me, twenty two female, and

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Speaker 3: my boyfriend twenty three male, have been together for three

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Speaker 3: years now.

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Speaker 2: We met in.

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Speaker 3: College and it's our first relationship and honestly, he's the

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Speaker 3: most amazing person I have ever met. He has a

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Speaker 3: childhood friend Ruby Hmmm, she sounds like she's probably gonna

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Speaker 3: be jealous. Uh oh, who used to live near his

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Speaker 3: house and hence they spent their childhood together. By the way,

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Speaker 3: this comes from deleted on the r slash Okay Storytime

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Speaker 3: subburt it. So I never had a problem with their friendship,

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Speaker 3: as my boyfriend thinks of her as a little sister.

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Speaker 3: But what does she think of him? The real question, however,

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Speaker 3: she has been single mostly and knew basically everything about him,

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Speaker 3: and it was very obvious by how close they were,

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Speaker 3: which was sometimes a insecure and insecurity of mine. In

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Speaker 3: the beginning, Ruby and I were always respectful towards each other,

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Speaker 3: but were never really close enough due to different hobbies

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Speaker 3: few days to visit his parents, which is like forty

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Speaker 3: says listening to me helps him sleep, so I always

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Speaker 3: talked to him before we both fall asleep.

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Speaker 4: We love that is that's so cute.

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Speaker 3: I used to do this with my best friend in

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Speaker 3: high school. I would I would read her like the

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Speaker 4: Good night, Yeah, and he turned a page thirty five

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Speaker 4: the history of Mesopotamia. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Since he was home, I called him to talk so

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Speaker 3: he could sleep, and eventually I fell asleep on call

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Speaker 3: as well. Around seven hours later, I woke up and

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Speaker 3: text him good morning, to which he wished me good

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Speaker 3: morning as well. I asked if he slept well, and

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Speaker 3: he said he slept really well and just woke up.

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Speaker 3: Were you still on the call? Was the Presumably the

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Speaker 3: call wasn't still going even though he fell asleep on it.

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Speaker 3: I was happy since it's rare for him to have

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Speaker 3: as I had actually planned a small surprise day trip

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Speaker 3: too busy during Valentine's Day and had been stressed lately,

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Speaker 3: so I wanted to do something special for him. I

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Speaker 3: to help me as well. So I got ready, packed

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Speaker 3: I said hello to her, and she asked why I

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Speaker 3: him to a trip. But she said, oh, but you

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Speaker 3: shouldn't disturb him. He was playing games with them last

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Speaker 3: night who's them and went to sleep pretty late. Also,

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Speaker 4: Wait what but they already.

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Speaker 3: Texted, they already confirmed plans.

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Speaker 3: I told her it's okay, I had talked to him,

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Speaker 3: disturb him, saying I should go later. Mind your business. Ruby.

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Speaker 3: I went anyways, and as planned her mum quietly led

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Speaker 3: but he looked tired and groggy. He was seemingly happy

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Speaker 3: Oh no, I told him what Ruby said to me

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Speaker 3: more to the story, but that's a little bit annoying

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Speaker 3: when you know you have plans with your partner that

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Speaker 3: you feel sick, But like, why day of would you

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Speaker 3: But I think he knew that she was coming over.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah later, Yeah, I think she He probably didn't

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Speaker 3: Minecraft goes hard. I was sad with the fact that

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Speaker 3: and that Ruby knew about his well being but I didn't.

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Speaker 3: I told him to rest well and that I would

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Speaker 3: come later to check up on him. He asked if

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Speaker 3: that I should not nag too much. No, I told

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Speaker 3: he didn't have to apologize, gave him a kiss and

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Speaker 3: told him to rest.

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Speaker 4: Then.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, while I was going to my car. I saw

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Speaker 3: Ruby again and she looked pissed. Ruby, stop butting your

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Speaker 3: head into where it doesn't belong. It seems like, again,

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Speaker 3: there's more to the story, but it seems like Ruby's

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Speaker 4: I think maybe Ruby wants to the boyfriend.

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Speaker 3: I think so, And I think she's trying to kind

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Speaker 3: of push Ope away. Yeah, and she's like, oh, I'm

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Speaker 3: taking care of him. You're being overbear.

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Speaker 4: I know more than you do.

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Speaker 3: He's rubbing his face.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he's my.

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Speaker 3: Friends.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Later I got a text from her that basically said

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Speaker 3: something like, what is your problem? Really? He has a

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Speaker 3: let him rest for these days. Even though you're his girlfriend.

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Speaker 3: You don't have to follow him around. What did you

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Speaker 3: even say to him? Though? After you left, he texted

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Speaker 3: and you're angry at him, Like, seriously, why do you

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Speaker 3: always have to be so dramatic? I respected you since

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Speaker 3: you made him smile, but dang, you act so manipulative.

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Speaker 3: That's why he didn't want to tell you he was

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Speaker 3: an awesome person and honestly, if you want to act

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Speaker 3: like a pathetic be then it's better you leave us alone.

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Speaker 4: WHOA where is his coming out? Ruby?

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Speaker 3: I was honestly so shocked when I read all this.

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Speaker 3: I didn't know what to say, so I didn't reply

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Speaker 3: to her. I didn't know that she felt that way.

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Speaker 3: I am honestly so heartbroken. Yes, I am a bit

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Speaker 3: of an emotional person and cry easily, but I didn't

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Speaker 3: want my boyfriend to walk on eggshells because of it.

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Speaker 3: I didn't know he was so bothered by all of it.

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Speaker 3: I haven't said anything to him as I seriously, you

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Speaker 3: don't know what to say. He's sick and I don't

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Speaker 3: want to stress him out. I didn't follow him around,

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Speaker 3: I didn't throw tantrums. I simply apologized for making him

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Speaker 3: feel burden and asked him to rest. But you know

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Speaker 3: what is never a burden? You joining us live every

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Speaker 3: weekday at three pm PST on YouTube. Just tap her

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Speaker 3: profile and there is a little bit left to this story.

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Speaker 3: But what are your thoughts? What does OP do here?

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Speaker 4: I think one OP needs to kind of tell her

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, and you have the text.

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Speaker 2: You have, you have, you have the facts, you have

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Speaker 2: the receipts.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you immediately maybe give your boyfriend like

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Speaker 3: a day to rest because it seems like he has

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Speaker 3: a few or something. But then once he's feeling a

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Speaker 3: little better, you talk to him, You say, hey, I

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Speaker 3: got this text from your friend. I felt like it

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Speaker 3: express that, you know, I wish you didn't have to

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Speaker 3: keep that like you were sick, hitting.

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Speaker 4: Wish I wish you could, you know, you could tell

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I wasn't no mad at you, Yeah, disappointed, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: because Ruby, it's so weird. I think I don't think

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Speaker 3: I've ever texted one of my friend's partners to like

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Speaker 3: attack them for something. I don't really know if.

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Speaker 4: That's Yeah, you would probably just I feel like Ruby

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Speaker 4: would like, Oh, I feel like maybe it is the

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Speaker 3: You think maybe I don't know, maybe you just know

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Speaker 4: Don't know, because like, yeah, maybe he doesn't know, or

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Speaker 4: maybe Ruby's like, you know, pounding on him where it's

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Speaker 4: like she stopped talking to her like why are you

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Speaker 4: let her take control over your life? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Maybe she was the one who said don't tell her

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Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe she's manipulating everything. I feel like what op

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Speaker 4: he needs to do for sure is definitely talk to

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Speaker 3: Because that's another conversation. If you're actually upset and you're

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Speaker 3: actually you know, didn't like the way that I reacted,

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Speaker 3: then that's a conversation we need to have. But if

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Speaker 3: this is just Ruby being Ruby, yeah, then that's you know, yeah,

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Speaker 3: you know, set boundaries with her. Are you for such

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Speaker 3: a long post? But I don't know how to feel

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Speaker 3: right now. I don't know if I should talk to

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Speaker 3: my boyfriend about it or not. My boyfriend is an introvert,

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Speaker 3: so he does not have a lot of close friends.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so and that makes a lot more sense that

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Speaker 4: that's why.

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Speaker 3: He's very attached to it and probably kind of dependent

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Speaker 3: on or just like values her opinion very highly.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, if she's one of his and he doesn't speak up, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 4: he's like, I'll just I'll just be quiet. Yeah, I'll

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Speaker 4: just stay. I'll just do whatever what everybody else wants.

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Speaker 3: I think when you have when you don't have a

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Speaker 4: Take the best option you have. Yeah, and in this case,

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Speaker 4: the only option, which seems like it's going to be

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Speaker 3: Many power dynamics going on right now. There's like, it's

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Speaker 4: Where's how is your husband?

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Speaker 4: The main issue now is that next week we are

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Speaker 2: I'm nervous because they.

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Speaker 4: My husband has defended me and even went low contact

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Speaker 4: I feel really uncomfortable with going to see them, but

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Speaker 3: Because you're jealous that they're having a baby you did not.

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Speaker 4: It's like everything I do, I breathe there they hate me.

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Speaker 4: it's like, oh, you can't get anything.

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Speaker 4: And I feel like they just don't care, and it's

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Speaker 3: Like a smile. I mean, like on yeah, I think

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Speaker 4: You're comfortable letting him go visit his friends and he's

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Speaker 3: Yeah, which I'm like, why do you want to be

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, there's like mean comments, and then there's

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Speaker 2: It's like why why are you saying that?

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Speaker 4: I don't think I did anything on the trip to

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Speaker 3: So it was like, Ah, it's so good to see you.

446
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Speaker 2: Op you Yeah, Oh.

447
00:19:25,920 --> 00:19:28,520
Speaker 3: My god, remember that time we were swimming in the lake.

448
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Speaker 2: Oh, p, you don't deserve to have a baby. Was

449
00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:31,960
Speaker 2: that the cheese?

450
00:19:32,720 --> 00:19:32,920
Speaker 4: Like?

451
00:19:32,960 --> 00:19:33,840
Speaker 2: Who is she back?

452
00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:37,959
Speaker 4: But speaking of seeing each other every day, you can

453
00:19:38,040 --> 00:19:41,760
Speaker 4: join us live on YouTube every weekday at three pm PSD.

454
00:19:42,200 --> 00:19:44,119
Speaker 4: Just tap our profile. Just tap it.

455
00:19:44,200 --> 00:19:46,320
Speaker 3: But before we get into the last bit of that story,

456
00:19:46,440 --> 00:19:51,040
Speaker 3: let's let's chat about this. Let's has your advice changed.

457
00:19:51,280 --> 00:19:54,360
Speaker 4: No, my advice is still the same. Just get away

458
00:19:54,359 --> 00:19:56,560
Speaker 4: from that. It talks to the environment for not now now,

459
00:19:56,600 --> 00:19:58,200
Speaker 4: it's not just for yourself, yep.

460
00:19:58,080 --> 00:19:59,639
Speaker 2: For your baby chield.

461
00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:02,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, and get your husband out of there. I know

462
00:20:02,160 --> 00:20:06,359
Speaker 4: he has a lot of traumatic ties and that's understandable,

463
00:20:06,600 --> 00:20:07,120
Speaker 4: but it's not.

464
00:20:07,160 --> 00:20:11,480
Speaker 3: Worth putting your child in kind of that negative environment,

465
00:20:11,720 --> 00:20:15,280
Speaker 3: especially especially when you have a baby who is not

466
00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:20,080
Speaker 3: white around. I mean you confirmed, well, yeah, you don't

467
00:20:20,080 --> 00:20:22,520
Speaker 3: want to have that child like having to hear the

468
00:20:22,560 --> 00:20:23,800
Speaker 3: stuff that they're saying to you.

469
00:20:24,080 --> 00:20:25,879
Speaker 4: No, and grew up with that environment, yeah, is the

470
00:20:26,200 --> 00:20:29,359
Speaker 4: last thing you want. They don't contact me or text

471
00:20:29,440 --> 00:20:32,440
Speaker 4: me or harass me. I have absolutely zero text messages

472
00:20:32,440 --> 00:20:35,760
Speaker 4: between me and anyone in that friend group. So it's

473
00:20:35,800 --> 00:20:37,800
Speaker 4: not like I did anything outside of the trip to

474
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Speaker 4: make them dislike me. If I was a little bit

475
00:20:40,840 --> 00:20:43,760
Speaker 4: snappy on the trip, it's because I was pregnant and

476
00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:47,359
Speaker 4: also feeling really sick, and also you're kind of just

477
00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:49,320
Speaker 4: like trying to be on your best behavior, make a

478
00:20:49,320 --> 00:20:51,280
Speaker 4: great impression, and it's just so much going.

479
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Speaker 3: I think even if you were snappy, they shouldn't have

480
00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:58,000
Speaker 3: sett all that stuff to your face, no or behind

481
00:20:58,000 --> 00:21:00,440
Speaker 3: your back, behind your back, none of it, None of

482
00:21:00,440 --> 00:21:01,200
Speaker 3: it should have been said.

483
00:21:01,520 --> 00:21:04,880
Speaker 4: And here's the last one. Number six. My husband did

484
00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:08,680
Speaker 4: offer to go no contact with them if I wanted to. However,

485
00:21:08,920 --> 00:21:11,560
Speaker 4: I feel like making him do that because these are

486
00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:14,040
Speaker 4: his friends that have helped him through his abusive relationship

487
00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:17,200
Speaker 4: with his mother and they basically gave him a home.

488
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Speaker 3: No, if he's offering, you can take that offer. You

489
00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:23,320
Speaker 3: are not for asking him to do that.

490
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Speaker 4: This is yeah, no, no, no, you It's good that

491
00:21:26,320 --> 00:21:29,119
Speaker 4: he offered, great that he offered. Talked to him, but

492
00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:32,399
Speaker 4: also just whatever your child needs, you know best for

493
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Speaker 4: your child. And I feel like you guys have talked

494
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Speaker 4: about it.

495
00:21:34,400 --> 00:21:34,800
Speaker 5: Yeah.

496
00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:37,080
Speaker 4: That the fact that he's like willing.

497
00:21:36,880 --> 00:21:39,679
Speaker 3: To go no contact already. Yeah, but that is the

498
00:21:39,760 --> 00:21:44,320
Speaker 3: end of that story. My sister shared explicit photos of

499
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Speaker 3: me in front of our family.

500
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Speaker 2: Ah, very cool, sister.

501
00:21:49,200 --> 00:21:51,879
Speaker 3: This past weekend was my wedding, and it was technically

502
00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:55,080
Speaker 3: my second proper wedding because my husband and I eloped

503
00:21:55,119 --> 00:21:58,320
Speaker 3: and got married in Vegas, so this was an event

504
00:21:58,560 --> 00:22:01,080
Speaker 3: more for the family than for us. By the way,

505
00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:04,280
Speaker 3: this comes from fun Alternative ninety eight eight on the

506
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Speaker 3: r Slashokay story Times Separate It. So my sister was

507
00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:10,920
Speaker 3: made of honor and she showed a PowerPoint presentation slash

508
00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:13,920
Speaker 3: pick montage during the reception. But I thought it was

509
00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:16,639
Speaker 3: gonna be just cute photos and videos of me and

510
00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:19,520
Speaker 3: my husband. We've been friends since the first grade, so

511
00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:23,280
Speaker 3: there's a lot of material. But instead, my sister was like,

512
00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:26,119
Speaker 3: for all of you who don't know, this is my

513
00:22:26,240 --> 00:22:30,840
Speaker 3: sister and my husband's names second wedding. Let's see how

514
00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:31,960
Speaker 3: the first one went.

515
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Speaker 5: Oh. That was my exact theory was, it's like, this

516
00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:37,080
Speaker 5: is gonna be a story of the sister being like,

517
00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:39,960
Speaker 5: thanks for taking me to your first wedding. Let's show

518
00:22:39,960 --> 00:22:43,000
Speaker 5: everyone how that one went. And here's the thing. We

519
00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:44,680
Speaker 5: got married in Vegas.

520
00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:48,040
Speaker 3: Crab got a little weird, and we took a million

521
00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:52,640
Speaker 3: pictures and videos and many of them look super inappropriate

522
00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:55,000
Speaker 3: out of context and in context.

523
00:22:55,080 --> 00:22:56,879
Speaker 2: Sometimes something's just inappropriate.

524
00:22:56,960 --> 00:23:00,240
Speaker 3: Time something's yeah, you don't need any extra context. Like

525
00:23:00,280 --> 00:23:02,920
Speaker 3: we had no bachelor or bachelorette party. So the night

526
00:23:02,920 --> 00:23:06,239
Speaker 3: before the wedding, we went to a spicy club with

527
00:23:06,440 --> 00:23:10,719
Speaker 3: female spicy dancers and to one with male spicy dancers

528
00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:12,600
Speaker 3: as a gag. So there was a pick of me

529
00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:15,840
Speaker 3: glaring fake angry at my husband looking at some big

530
00:23:15,880 --> 00:23:21,200
Speaker 3: old dese tig oldies and one of my husband doing

531
00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:23,760
Speaker 3: the same while I'm looking at a dude doing the

532
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:28,679
Speaker 3: helicopter with his chunk. There was a pick of us

533
00:23:28,680 --> 00:23:31,520
Speaker 3: eating dominoes in a hotel room only in our underwear.

534
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:34,399
Speaker 3: There was a pick of us doing an impromptu schmechsy

535
00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:38,320
Speaker 3: cowboy slash cowgirl photo shoot near the Grand Canyon. It's

536
00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:41,159
Speaker 3: an inside joke too long to explain. There was a

537
00:23:41,160 --> 00:23:43,600
Speaker 3: pick of me at a hotel pool wearing a seriously

538
00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:46,880
Speaker 3: minuscule bikini that may as well be invisible and virtually

539
00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:49,560
Speaker 3: my whole butt hanging out with my husband doing the

540
00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:52,200
Speaker 3: Will Smith meme. There was a pick of my husband

541
00:23:52,640 --> 00:23:56,280
Speaker 3: not wearing clothes, playing the guitar with only the guitar

542
00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:59,160
Speaker 3: covering his junk, and me fake singing next to him

543
00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:02,000
Speaker 3: wearing only long T shirt. There was even a pick

544
00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:03,840
Speaker 3: that had nothing to do with the wedding, of us

545
00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:07,399
Speaker 3: in costume as Cyclops and Emma Frost for a Halloween party.

546
00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:11,600
Speaker 3: So it obviously looks like I'm wearing lingerie, which I

547
00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:15,760
Speaker 3: was half, and my husband's package in the tight suit

548
00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:20,119
Speaker 3: is super noticeable. The presentation finished with an admittedly very

549
00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:22,520
Speaker 3: nice montage of pictures and videos of me and my

550
00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:25,840
Speaker 3: husband in school and high school, et cetera. Juxtaposed with

551
00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:29,880
Speaker 3: more recent and appropriate pictures, and it was genuinely very

552
00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:32,840
Speaker 3: moving and everyone loved that part. But I was seriously

553
00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:36,960
Speaker 3: dying of embarrassment about the other picks. I mean, my

554
00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:39,439
Speaker 3: grandma was there too, and most and both of my

555
00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:42,720
Speaker 3: husband's grandparents too, and a bunch of people who were

556
00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:45,679
Speaker 3: technically but not really close to our friends thought it

557
00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:49,320
Speaker 3: was hilarious. Though. Am I overreacting for thinking my sister

558
00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:52,000
Speaker 3: crossed the line by including those pictures which I shared

559
00:24:52,040 --> 00:24:53,639
Speaker 3: only with her in confidence.

560
00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:58,399
Speaker 5: I think your sister was clearly like not happy about

561
00:24:58,440 --> 00:25:00,399
Speaker 5: being on the outside of your Vegas trip?

562
00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:02,840
Speaker 3: Was she not that? Did we have confirmation that she was?

563
00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:06,480
Speaker 5: Obviously it was an elope. So they just kind of

564
00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:08,959
Speaker 5: ran off to Vegas and had the time of their lives.

565
00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:10,960
Speaker 5: And it sounds like it was cool. Yeah, it sounds

566
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:13,399
Speaker 5: like you had a great time. Yeah, but maybe the

567
00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:17,320
Speaker 5: sister could have had a little more tact.

568
00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:18,680
Speaker 2: Yeah in which photo?

569
00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:18,879
Speaker 5: You know?

570
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:19,240
Speaker 3: Maybe?

571
00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:22,240
Speaker 5: Just like you know rule of three, right, you pick

572
00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:26,920
Speaker 5: three funny photos from the Vegas wedding to show hah, Yeah,

573
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:28,639
Speaker 5: don't none where everyone's naked.

574
00:25:29,480 --> 00:25:30,960
Speaker 3: They have to be clothed in it.

575
00:25:31,200 --> 00:25:34,199
Speaker 2: No helicopter ding dongs.

576
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Speaker 3: I think there's a chance that she genuinely thought it

577
00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:39,000
Speaker 3: was just like funny and lighthearted. But I think that

578
00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:42,520
Speaker 3: she just wasn't thinking about who was going to be

579
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:43,080
Speaker 3: at that wedding.

580
00:25:43,359 --> 00:25:46,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, but I don't think you're You know what happens

581
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:50,200
Speaker 5: in Vegas, right, it stays in Vegas.

582
00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:56,680
Speaker 3: Come to the wedding. Lucky Effective fifteen sixty four says,

583
00:25:56,840 --> 00:25:58,680
Speaker 3: thank you, sis for all your hard work in making

584
00:25:58,680 --> 00:26:01,600
Speaker 3: the presentation. It only goes to prove what an utterly

585
00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:05,000
Speaker 3: sid thoughtless person you are.

586
00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:05,800
Speaker 2: Ohp he says.

587
00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:07,720
Speaker 3: I said to her something to that effect, and she

588
00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:11,359
Speaker 3: started crying and called me ungrateful. The part that kills

589
00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:13,320
Speaker 3: me is that the second part of the presentation, the

590
00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 3: one that didn't include the Vegas picts, was the best

591
00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:18,880
Speaker 3: thing ever. Like she somehow found a previously unearthed home

592
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:21,000
Speaker 3: video of my husband and I when we were like

593
00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:23,560
Speaker 3: eight years old, saying we were going to marry each

594
00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:26,159
Speaker 3: other when we grew up. What And that made me

595
00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:28,560
Speaker 3: so emotional I felt like I was going to faint.

596
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:31,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, this, you guys suck.

597
00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:36,280
Speaker 5: This feels like a like a genuine just like miscommunication, yeah,

598
00:26:36,400 --> 00:26:38,600
Speaker 5: or just like a honest mistake.

599
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:40,640
Speaker 2: Where she was like, she thought this was gonna be funny, and.

600
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Speaker 5: She's like, I didn't want grandma to see any of

601
00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:46,119
Speaker 5: those pictures, but also, I love you so much.

602
00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:49,720
Speaker 3: That was so nice. No, it really is a juxtapositions

603
00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:51,360
Speaker 3: like that was the sweetest thing ever and also maybe

604
00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:52,359
Speaker 3: a little bit inappropriate.

605
00:26:52,520 --> 00:26:54,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then you learned the lesson.

606
00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:57,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then at the third wedding, you don't do that.

607
00:26:57,600 --> 00:27:00,720
Speaker 3: If she'd stuck to that, it would have been absolutely perfect.

608
00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:05,359
Speaker 3: And op when called prude, Opie says, I mean, I

609
00:27:05,359 --> 00:27:07,280
Speaker 3: don't think I'm a prude just because I don't want

610
00:27:07,280 --> 00:27:09,800
Speaker 3: my grandma and random family members to look at pictures

611
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:13,399
Speaker 3: of me looking at helicoptering, or me at my husband

612
00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:16,560
Speaker 3: in our underwear or semi naked, or my hanging out.

613
00:27:16,680 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 3: I suppose some people in the audience thought it was fun,

614
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:22,399
Speaker 3: but some probably found it scandalous. I don't think my

615
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:24,520
Speaker 3: sister did it to embarrass me at all. I think

616
00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:27,160
Speaker 3: she just wasn't thinking. And there is an.

617
00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:32,960
Speaker 2: Update, Oh, she was thinking. She was thinking, this so funny,

618
00:27:33,600 --> 00:27:34,600
Speaker 2: everyone's gonna love this.

619
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Speaker 3: I don't know what that commentary like, what type of

620
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:40,960
Speaker 3: relationship that commentary has with their family for them to

621
00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:41,720
Speaker 3: call OPI.

622
00:27:41,480 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 2: A prude for not one so prude.

623
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:47,919
Speaker 3: It's Tanya Gonzalez says the sister did not ask for

624
00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:50,600
Speaker 3: permission to use the photos, so it's the sister's fault. Yeah,

625
00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:53,400
Speaker 3: that's that's none, non debatable.

626
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 2: I think she was trying to make it a surprise though.

627
00:27:55,560 --> 00:27:57,520
Speaker 5: That's the thing is, so it's you couldn't really get

628
00:27:57,520 --> 00:28:01,880
Speaker 5: permission because she was doing it because I intermedd Yeah,

629
00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:05,320
Speaker 5: she's just hey, sometimes you swing and you miss, you know.

630
00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:09,320
Speaker 4: I don't understand why the sister has all the photo

631
00:28:09,359 --> 00:28:11,520
Speaker 4: because it'll be sent, I know, but like, why would

632
00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:14,800
Speaker 4: you send all the photos? Like what are some of

633
00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:18,280
Speaker 4: the scandalous funny stuff? Again, like I said, Vegas should

634
00:28:18,359 --> 00:28:20,160
Speaker 4: just stay and but you.

635
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:22,439
Speaker 3: Know it's not gonna stay in Vegas. This next update,

636
00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:25,199
Speaker 3: I'm going to give this little update forclosure sake and

637
00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:28,600
Speaker 3: then put this whole thing behind me. First off, I

638
00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:30,720
Speaker 3: was taken aback by the amount of comments that said

639
00:28:30,760 --> 00:28:34,160
Speaker 3: my sister clearly did this to humiliate me, most likely

640
00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 3: out of jealousy, jealousy of what my husband. She's gay

641
00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:41,920
Speaker 3: and has been in a loving relationship for ages. My wedding,

642
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:44,280
Speaker 3: my mom has even offered to pay for her wedding

643
00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:47,920
Speaker 3: a million times, and my sister has always declined she

644
00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:51,280
Speaker 3: doesn't want one. My trip to Las Vegas, my sister

645
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:54,720
Speaker 3: had wilder nights every other weekend back in the day. No,

646
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:57,680
Speaker 3: I don't think this was done maliciously. She was just

647
00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:01,360
Speaker 3: a moron. So the fallout of the pictures, my mom

648
00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 3: and aunt blew up at my sister about them, telling

649
00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 3: her that some family members lowke He commented that they

650
00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 3: were pretty trashy. My husband assures me that on his

651
00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:12,840
Speaker 3: family side, everyone thought it was hilarious and they're all

652
00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:16,120
Speaker 3: chill about it. Only one of my elderly aunts approached

653
00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:18,680
Speaker 3: me and, referring to the photo where my husband's package

654
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:24,680
Speaker 3: looks sizable in the Cyclops costume, whispered congratulations and walked

655
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:27,360
Speaker 3: away with a wink and a smile. So that was

656
00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:32,680
Speaker 3: wild and unabsessment, but nice. At least someone on my

657
00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:35,320
Speaker 3: side of the family can see the bright side. Anyway,

658
00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:37,600
Speaker 3: my sister got furious at me and my mom and

659
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 3: called this unbelievably ungrateful and says this is the last

660
00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:43,160
Speaker 3: time she does anything for either of us, and right

661
00:29:43,200 --> 00:29:45,480
Speaker 3: now she isn't talking to any one of us, and

662
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:47,880
Speaker 3: I don't feel like talking to her either. Things are

663
00:29:47,920 --> 00:29:50,360
Speaker 3: tense with my mom too, because she's kind of blaming me,

664
00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 3: saying things like, what were you thinking? Why would you

665
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:55,959
Speaker 3: take those kinds of pictures? I'm not here for the bs,

666
00:29:56,080 --> 00:29:58,120
Speaker 3: so I'm kind of muting her too. For the moment,

667
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:01,400
Speaker 3: out of curiosity, I call my sister's partner, let's call

668
00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:04,520
Speaker 3: her Rose, who helped her edit the presentation, and asked,

669
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 3: what was my sister thinking including those picks? She said

670
00:30:08,560 --> 00:30:13,000
Speaker 3: they cleared it with my husband in advance. I told

671
00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:18,720
Speaker 3: him and he was like, what, No, now they're lying liars, Yeah,

672
00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:20,960
Speaker 3: says my sister asked him if they could add some

673
00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:23,840
Speaker 3: of the Vegas picks to the presentation, but he assumed

674
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:27,560
Speaker 3: they were the non weird, non inappropriate ones, like the

675
00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:30,040
Speaker 3: ones of us at the strip, at the gondola thing,

676
00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:33,400
Speaker 3: et cetera. Why would he even assume she meant the

677
00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:37,720
Speaker 3: inappropriate pictures. She's going to try to claim some misunderstanding

678
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 3: or something, but I don't buy it. I guess like

679
00:30:40,760 --> 00:30:44,840
Speaker 3: slight misunderstanding, but I definitely think if I was specifically

680
00:30:44,880 --> 00:30:47,120
Speaker 3: talking about the inappropriate pictures, I would have been like,

681
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:48,720
Speaker 3: are these pictures okay to.

682
00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:52,040
Speaker 2: Use, Yeah, but I buy misunderstanding.

683
00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:55,800
Speaker 5: But at the same time, it's like she definitely did

684
00:30:55,800 --> 00:30:57,680
Speaker 5: the thing where it was like she was making sure

685
00:30:57,760 --> 00:31:00,640
Speaker 5: she didn't get any resistance, being like, yeah, I'm just

686
00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 5: gonna use some photos from Vegas.

687
00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:06,400
Speaker 2: That's fine, right, and he was like, yeah, sure.

688
00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:09,440
Speaker 3: By the way, you can join us live every week

689
00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 3: to at three PMPSD. Just tap our profile. I know

690
00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:14,800
Speaker 3: I'm going to forget my sister eventually, and my mom

691
00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:17,880
Speaker 3: will do that too. The portion with the other picks

692
00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:20,280
Speaker 3: and videos, and especially the video of eight year old

693
00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:24,480
Speaker 3: us seriously moved us so deeply that it's winning the

694
00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:28,040
Speaker 3: battle against the full body cringe. I'm still experiencing from

695
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:31,720
Speaker 3: the picks. I'm going on my honeymoon this weekend and

696
00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 3: hoping everything will be back to normal by the time

697
00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:36,280
Speaker 3: I come back. I hope you have a crazy honeymoon.

698
00:31:36,680 --> 00:31:39,960
Speaker 3: And there are some relevant comments to finish this story off,

699
00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:42,959
Speaker 3: But what are your final closing thoughts.

700
00:31:43,440 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 5: I think you should just like hang out with your cool,

701
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:49,600
Speaker 5: fun sister more often. Yeah, and she'll probably make your

702
00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:50,680
Speaker 5: marriage more fun too.

703
00:31:50,840 --> 00:31:52,479
Speaker 3: I think so too. I think you guys are you're

704
00:31:52,480 --> 00:31:53,640
Speaker 3: gonna have some wild times.

705
00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:55,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, hang out with your super cool gay sister who

706
00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:59,200
Speaker 5: clearly has wild times that are so wild.

707
00:31:59,240 --> 00:32:01,200
Speaker 2: She didn't even think that your Vegas photos were a

708
00:32:01,200 --> 00:32:01,600
Speaker 2: big deal.

709
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:02,880
Speaker 3: These are so lame.

710
00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:06,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, she's like, I have way cooler. She's like eye parties.

711
00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:10,520
Speaker 3: I was literally walking outside naked, and you're complaining about

712
00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:12,640
Speaker 3: a picture where you can't even see anything.

713
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:15,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean there was a guitar. The there was

714
00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 2: literally a guitar.

715
00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:20,840
Speaker 4: You were clothes guys. The helicopter like it was just.

716
00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:22,080
Speaker 2: A photo not a video.

717
00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:27,440
Speaker 3: Actually, I don't, you know, I don't fully understand the

718
00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:29,600
Speaker 3: concept of that picture, and I don't think I want.

719
00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:32,560
Speaker 2: To, Well a helicopter's like.

720
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:34,680
Speaker 3: I don't. Actually I don't need to. I don't need

721
00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:36,760
Speaker 3: to visualize it. I don't. We don't need to go

722
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 3: into it.

723
00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:38,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, they need to bring the mom to Vegas.

724
00:32:39,360 --> 00:32:41,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, let the mom have some fun.

725
00:32:41,480 --> 00:32:44,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, but my grandma bringing the grandma who was like

726
00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:47,400
Speaker 5: a congratulations, she actually she does.

727
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:50,040
Speaker 2: She doesn't need to go back to John here. We're

728
00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:51,880
Speaker 2: gonna get back to this juicy story. But a quick

729
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:53,720
Speaker 2: three minute break of ads from our sponsors.

730
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Speaker 5: I altered my wedding dress and my sister is fury

731
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:03,080
Speaker 5: that she wanted I think she did. I need an

732
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 5: unbiased opinion on this because I don't know if I

733
00:33:06,360 --> 00:33:08,280
Speaker 5: was the a hole. I throw away because I am

734
00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:10,840
Speaker 5: active in other communities and I don't want this to mix.

735
00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 5: By the way, this comes from user am I the

736
00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:18,320
Speaker 5: a wedding dress see you on the r slash okay

737
00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:21,320
Speaker 5: storytime sub reddit. So so, I was supposed to get

738
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:25,920
Speaker 5: married two months ago to my ex partner of five years. Sadly,

739
00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:28,200
Speaker 5: we broke it off because he cheated on me at

740
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:34,640
Speaker 5: his bachelor party with buyse dancer. I had this absolutely

741
00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:38,480
Speaker 5: beautiful dress that cost me around two thousand dollars out

742
00:33:38,520 --> 00:33:41,880
Speaker 5: of my pocket. I had been very depressed since everything

743
00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 5: happened because I felt it was somehow my fault for

744
00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 5: not being sexy enough or not giving him what he wanted.

745
00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:50,560
Speaker 3: You were too sexy that he couldn't handle it.

746
00:33:50,760 --> 00:33:55,240
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know that song too sexy It's really about you,

747
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:59,520
Speaker 5: yep pie. So last weekend I decided to take my

748
00:33:59,680 --> 00:34:02,840
Speaker 5: power back and I began altering the dress. I have

749
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:05,560
Speaker 5: been sewing for fifteen plus years, so I know what

750
00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:07,840
Speaker 5: I'm doing. I cut it a bit, changed the color

751
00:34:07,880 --> 00:34:10,680
Speaker 5: to something less wedding y and after a week of work,

752
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:12,759
Speaker 5: I had a beautiful gown that I could use for

753
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:13,480
Speaker 5: more stuff.

754
00:34:13,560 --> 00:34:15,399
Speaker 2: Now the problem, the problem comes now.

755
00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:18,640
Speaker 5: I uploaded that picture of the dress to Instagram with

756
00:34:18,680 --> 00:34:21,400
Speaker 5: a caption that said something along the lines of you

757
00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:24,160
Speaker 5: can change the worst memories.

758
00:34:23,880 --> 00:34:25,000
Speaker 2: Or some crap like that.

759
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:28,239
Speaker 5: My sister hits me up and asks me if that

760
00:34:28,360 --> 00:34:30,279
Speaker 5: was my old wedding dress, and I told her yes.

761
00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:33,000
Speaker 2: She then called me and asked me why I had

762
00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:33,560
Speaker 2: done this.

763
00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:35,879
Speaker 5: I asked her why it was such a big deal,

764
00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:38,480
Speaker 5: and she told me that I could have waited until

765
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Speaker 5: after her wedding.

766
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:41,160
Speaker 2: I was so confused.

767
00:34:41,600 --> 00:34:43,759
Speaker 5: Then she reminded me that when we were staying at

768
00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:46,239
Speaker 5: the hotel where my wedding was supposed to happen, my

769
00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:48,560
Speaker 5: mom and sister were there cheering me up, and my

770
00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:51,520
Speaker 5: sister says something along the lines of, oh, well, if

771
00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 5: you're not using it, I will, and we all laughed.

772
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:57,440
Speaker 5: So I thought it was a joke because it was

773
00:34:57,480 --> 00:35:00,560
Speaker 5: never brought up again after. She just to ask me

774
00:35:00,680 --> 00:35:03,840
Speaker 5: once what material it was, so I assumed she wanted

775
00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 5: something similar. Now my sister is mad at me, and

776
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 5: my mom says she understands both of our point of views,

777
00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:13,160
Speaker 5: but that I could have waited five more months until

778
00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:16,640
Speaker 5: after her wedding to quote, take my power back.

779
00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:20,239
Speaker 3: You just put postpone taking your power back. You don't

780
00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:21,120
Speaker 3: need it right now.

781
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:24,360
Speaker 2: What do you need all that power for? Are you

782
00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 2: trying to save the city? I don't Spider Man a

783
00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:30,879
Speaker 2: week from New York?

784
00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:34,200
Speaker 4: What's going on? I'm talking about New York?

785
00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:38,319
Speaker 2: What's going on? You defeat a villain? Your sister was

786
00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:40,760
Speaker 2: going to use that dress with great dress.

787
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:42,960
Speaker 3: Call your sister's responsibility.

788
00:35:43,200 --> 00:35:45,640
Speaker 2: She can't afford a two thousand dollars dress. She can't,

789
00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:47,920
Speaker 2: so you need to give her your power for free?

790
00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:48,920
Speaker 4: Uh?

791
00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:49,920
Speaker 2: Are you the a hole?

792
00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:52,919
Speaker 5: And we do have an edit no and an update

793
00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:56,640
Speaker 5: beneath it, but I'm going to say no, no.

794
00:35:57,040 --> 00:35:59,520
Speaker 2: Did she spends two thousand dollars on the dress?

795
00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:02,759
Speaker 3: Exactly? Unless she specifically said, Hey, I would love to

796
00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:05,080
Speaker 3: buy that dress from you or love to rent it

797
00:36:05,120 --> 00:36:08,080
Speaker 3: from you for my wedding. Can we talk about that?

798
00:36:08,640 --> 00:36:11,320
Speaker 3: And you had an actual, full on conversation about it.

799
00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:13,440
Speaker 3: Not your fault and she should have been more clear.

800
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:16,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, any any conversation that ends in like a laugh

801
00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:17,960
Speaker 5: where She's like, I mean, if you're.

802
00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:19,680
Speaker 2: Not going to use it, I totally will and everyone's

803
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:20,000
Speaker 2: just like.

804
00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:25,000
Speaker 5: And then moves one that is not set on that is,

805
00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:28,399
Speaker 5: that is not a buttoned up issue, like, we're done here.

806
00:36:28,640 --> 00:36:30,160
Speaker 2: Okay, so that's my wedding dress.

807
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:32,640
Speaker 5: Then in five months great exactly, they thought it was

808
00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:33,480
Speaker 5: such a great idea.

809
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:34,520
Speaker 2: They laughed about it.

810
00:36:35,040 --> 00:36:37,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I don't buy it. I don't buy it.

811
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:40,560
Speaker 3: So I'm you're not the ahole. But let me let

812
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:42,440
Speaker 3: me know what you guys think in the chat.

813
00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:45,279
Speaker 5: Yeah, if anything, they're the a hole for not like

814
00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 5: supporting you harder.

815
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:50,240
Speaker 3: Exactly. Why are they persisting that you you delay your power?

816
00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:51,439
Speaker 2: Yeah?

817
00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:55,680
Speaker 5: It's my power and I need right now. Okay, let's

818
00:36:55,680 --> 00:36:58,360
Speaker 5: get into this edit edit. What the f is wrong

819
00:36:58,440 --> 00:36:58,960
Speaker 5: with some of you?

820
00:36:59,160 --> 00:36:59,600
Speaker 2: Suddenly?

821
00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:02,160
Speaker 5: Hi, the a hole for leaving my ex for cheating

822
00:37:02,239 --> 00:37:04,399
Speaker 5: on me because it doesn't count because it.

823
00:37:04,320 --> 00:37:05,720
Speaker 2: Was his bachelor party.

824
00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:07,480
Speaker 3: What is wrong with you? Whoa?

825
00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 5: Do you understand how relationships were? Are you also going

826
00:37:12,719 --> 00:37:14,799
Speaker 5: to tell me that if he cheated on a Saturday

827
00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:17,719
Speaker 5: count Saturdays for the boys.

828
00:37:17,760 --> 00:37:20,520
Speaker 2: Saturday is for the boys. So if you if.

829
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:23,200
Speaker 5: You cheat on your wife, if you cheat on your

830
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:27,120
Speaker 5: wife with your boys on a Saturday. It doesn't count.

831
00:37:27,280 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 5: That's what we've established. Yeah, or if he left the country.

832
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:32,840
Speaker 5: This is hilarious coming from a sub that says cheaters

833
00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:35,280
Speaker 5: are the worst people in the world. Cheating is cheating, period.

834
00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:37,560
Speaker 5: And now we're onto the update. Am I the ahofa

835
00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:40,320
Speaker 5: cutting up and altering my wedding dress into a functional

836
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:42,360
Speaker 5: dress instead of giving it to my sister who can't

837
00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:42,879
Speaker 5: afford it.

838
00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:46,680
Speaker 3: You almost went kind of like South Park impression there.

839
00:37:47,320 --> 00:37:49,640
Speaker 2: Said, I sounded like Eric Cartman. You did a little bit.

840
00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:53,600
Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, okay, I don't like that.

841
00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:54,480
Speaker 3: That wasn't a right.

842
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:56,440
Speaker 2: Five months update.

843
00:37:56,960 --> 00:38:00,200
Speaker 5: I posted approximately five months ago about my sister being

844
00:38:00,200 --> 00:38:02,400
Speaker 5: mad at me for not giving her what was supposed

845
00:38:02,440 --> 00:38:05,520
Speaker 5: to be my wedding dress. So, after being assured that

846
00:38:05,600 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 5: I did nothing wrong, I decided to try to talk

847
00:38:08,160 --> 00:38:10,680
Speaker 5: it out with my sister. So I tried calling her,

848
00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:14,920
Speaker 5: but she had blocked my numbers. Drama Yo, Yeah, your

849
00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:17,879
Speaker 5: sister's wedding is going to be like crazy dramatic too.

850
00:38:18,000 --> 00:38:19,120
Speaker 2: I would try to crash that.

851
00:38:19,320 --> 00:38:21,640
Speaker 3: Lex Bly says, wait, so she asked for the dress

852
00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:26,480
Speaker 3: while comforting her sister right after she was cheated on yes, yes,

853
00:38:26,520 --> 00:38:28,719
Speaker 3: and then took that as legally binding.

854
00:38:29,000 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 4: Yeah.

855
00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:32,360
Speaker 2: She was like this is now written in stone.

856
00:38:32,239 --> 00:38:37,480
Speaker 3: Like take your dress, and just like that's funny, and

857
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:38,600
Speaker 3: then they didn't talk about it.

858
00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:40,759
Speaker 2: Thanks for the jokess. I needed that one.

859
00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:45,000
Speaker 5: I was very confused about being blocked and talked to

860
00:38:45,040 --> 00:38:47,600
Speaker 5: my mother. She was trying to still stay out of it,

861
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:49,560
Speaker 5: and I got a little mad and said that it

862
00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:52,720
Speaker 5: was not fair that my sister was not right because

863
00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:56,200
Speaker 5: she never formally asked me and how I was supposed

864
00:38:56,239 --> 00:38:58,759
Speaker 5: to just guess that she wanted it. She tried to

865
00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:01,799
Speaker 5: justify but it and the end also accepted that my

866
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:05,000
Speaker 5: sister is wrong. Nonetheless, she told me to just give

867
00:39:05,000 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 5: her space and that she would just come to terms

868
00:39:07,040 --> 00:39:09,400
Speaker 5: with it herself. I waited a few days until I

869
00:39:09,440 --> 00:39:12,279
Speaker 5: met her at the supermarket. At first, she tried to

870
00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:14,680
Speaker 5: act like she didn't see me, but I planted myself

871
00:39:14,719 --> 00:39:17,320
Speaker 5: in front of her. She was just rolling her eyes,

872
00:39:17,640 --> 00:39:21,120
Speaker 5: saying she had places to be, and I just said,

873
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:23,799
Speaker 5: you know, I hope you noticed how unfair you're treating me,

874
00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:26,960
Speaker 5: and then I left her alone. That night, I received

875
00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:30,040
Speaker 5: a call where I was berated for being selfish for

876
00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:33,359
Speaker 5: about twenty minutes by my sister. I asked her if

877
00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 5: she was done, and asked her if we could talk

878
00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:38,319
Speaker 5: it out like adults. She came over the next night

879
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:42,120
Speaker 5: and we had an exhausting fight, screaming, crying, and after

880
00:39:42,160 --> 00:39:45,120
Speaker 5: all was said and done, she actually apologized for everything.

881
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:48,160
Speaker 2: That's just exactly how adults go. That's how it goes.

882
00:39:48,320 --> 00:39:52,880
Speaker 3: Screaming, crying, rolling around on the floor, and then you apologize.

883
00:39:52,440 --> 00:39:55,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, and the chapel roane plays and then everyone forgives

884
00:39:55,920 --> 00:39:58,239
Speaker 5: each other. She was actually kind of jealous of my

885
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:01,520
Speaker 5: dress and of the wedding that I almost had, and

886
00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:04,720
Speaker 5: she was embarrassed that she couldn't afford everything that I could,

887
00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:07,320
Speaker 5: and that she felt like she failed as an adult

888
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:08,000
Speaker 5: and as a mother.

889
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:09,719
Speaker 2: And I honestly get it. Wow.

890
00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:12,400
Speaker 5: Oh, he's like, yeah, I get it. My sister is

891
00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:17,480
Speaker 5: a broke looser, broke child losser. Oh my god, just

892
00:40:17,520 --> 00:40:20,120
Speaker 5: like her sister telling her all the funniest dynamic.

893
00:40:20,560 --> 00:40:21,200
Speaker 3: Yeah.

894
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:24,479
Speaker 5: Yeah, She's like, no, that's actually you're right. I would

895
00:40:24,480 --> 00:40:26,319
Speaker 5: also be embarrassed if I couldn't afford this.

896
00:40:28,120 --> 00:40:30,160
Speaker 3: She's like, I may not have a husband, but at

897
00:40:30,239 --> 00:40:31,120
Speaker 3: least I have money.

898
00:40:31,200 --> 00:40:34,640
Speaker 5: She clarifies, not because I think she is a failure,

899
00:40:34,920 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 5: but because I get how it feels if your brain

900
00:40:37,239 --> 00:40:39,520
Speaker 5: tells you you failed at life because you don't have

901
00:40:39,600 --> 00:40:43,160
Speaker 5: things that other people have. She apologized also because she

902
00:40:43,239 --> 00:40:46,120
Speaker 5: was trying to blame me for her problems, and that

903
00:40:46,239 --> 00:40:49,200
Speaker 5: everything was easier if she wasn't the one to blame.

904
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:52,279
Speaker 5: We talked a lot more until recently. I told her

905
00:40:52,320 --> 00:40:54,839
Speaker 5: that we didn't need a fancy dress and that we

906
00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:57,560
Speaker 5: could search for something basic and I could help her

907
00:40:57,600 --> 00:41:01,399
Speaker 5: decorate it with something. She agreed, and we actually did

908
00:41:01,480 --> 00:41:03,799
Speaker 5: get to customize a very basic gown.

909
00:41:03,960 --> 00:41:05,800
Speaker 2: Yes, as we didn't have much time.

910
00:41:05,840 --> 00:41:09,239
Speaker 5: It's not super fancy, and sadly, due to the outbreak

911
00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:11,880
Speaker 5: at the wedding or maybe just the timing which was

912
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:15,480
Speaker 5: supposed to happen this month, was canceled. They had a

913
00:41:15,680 --> 00:41:18,880
Speaker 5: courthouse wedding where she wore one of my dresses and

914
00:41:18,920 --> 00:41:20,400
Speaker 5: she is celebrating in August.

915
00:41:20,560 --> 00:41:21,799
Speaker 2: If it's possible this.

916
00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:22,800
Speaker 3: Might have been during COVID.

917
00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:25,360
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, maybe there was some sort of outbreak and

918
00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:26,400
Speaker 5: the wedding got canceled.

919
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:27,280
Speaker 2: COVID outbreak.

920
00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:30,879
Speaker 5: But you know what's never canceled, you joining us live

921
00:41:30,920 --> 00:41:33,879
Speaker 5: on YouTube at three pm Pacific standard time.

922
00:41:34,040 --> 00:41:37,319
Speaker 2: Just tap our profiling. Tap it, you're in it. You're

923
00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:39,560
Speaker 2: already right there. That's everything.

924
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:42,239
Speaker 5: So even if I was not an a hole and

925
00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:44,799
Speaker 5: my sister seemed like a brat, she was dealing with

926
00:41:44,840 --> 00:41:47,440
Speaker 5: some heavy feelings and I still love her. Thanks for

927
00:41:47,480 --> 00:41:50,359
Speaker 5: the judgment and the advice, and that is the end

928
00:41:50,480 --> 00:41:51,799
Speaker 5: of that figuring it out.

929
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:54,040
Speaker 3: I think everyone got their power back, and it's nice

930
00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:59,120
Speaker 3: that Op used her her sewing skills to make peace

931
00:41:59,160 --> 00:41:59,760
Speaker 3: with their sister.

932
00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:02,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like, you wanted my dress, don't worry.

933
00:42:02,520 --> 00:42:06,120
Speaker 5: I'm gonna make you say yes toed. It was I'm

934
00:42:06,120 --> 00:42:08,560
Speaker 5: gonna make you a dress that you gotta say yes.

935
00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:11,560
Speaker 3: To, make you a dress that you can't refuse.

936
00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:13,920
Speaker 2: I'm gonna make him a dress that he can't refuse.

937
00:42:14,880 --> 00:42:16,960
Speaker 2: He's gonna be wearing that dress with the fishes.

938
00:42:18,160 --> 00:42:20,680
Speaker 3: I got invited to a wedding as a pity date,

939
00:42:20,920 --> 00:42:22,279
Speaker 3: but then they kicked me out.

940
00:42:22,840 --> 00:42:24,200
Speaker 2: Uh, what's a pity.

941
00:42:24,280 --> 00:42:27,320
Speaker 3: I, thirty six female, was asked by my brother forty mail,

942
00:42:27,400 --> 00:42:29,360
Speaker 3: to do him a favor and go to a wedding

943
00:42:29,400 --> 00:42:33,320
Speaker 3: with his recently divorced best friend forty two Mail Ted

944
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:36,680
Speaker 3: Ted's just out of the marriage and hasn't started dating yet,

945
00:42:36,760 --> 00:42:39,359
Speaker 3: but his sister was having her second wedding and he

946
00:42:39,400 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 3: didn't want to be the only groovesman going alone. By

947
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 3: the way, this comes from Temp Dump nine on the

948
00:42:45,080 --> 00:42:48,799
Speaker 3: ur Slashduky storytime Separateate it. So I've known Ted for

949
00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 3: years and he's always seemed a decent enough dude when

950
00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:54,800
Speaker 3: I bumped into him at my brother's events, lacking plans

951
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:57,279
Speaker 3: last Saturday, being a pity date to a wedding for

952
00:42:57,360 --> 00:43:00,160
Speaker 3: him seemed fine. I arrived on my own since he

953
00:43:00,200 --> 00:43:02,080
Speaker 3: was in the bridal party and the ceremony in the

954
00:43:02,160 --> 00:43:06,120
Speaker 3: art outdoor garden space was lovely. Upon entering the indoor

955
00:43:06,160 --> 00:43:09,000
Speaker 3: reception space, Ted's name was on the seating chart at

956
00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:13,279
Speaker 3: the head table. My name was not on the chart anywhere,

957
00:43:13,719 --> 00:43:17,160
Speaker 3: not as me, not as Ted's plus one. It was

958
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:21,239
Speaker 3: assigned seating in every chair at every table at a name.

959
00:43:21,440 --> 00:43:23,960
Speaker 3: I had not even spoken to Dead at this point,

960
00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:26,280
Speaker 3: as he was with the bridal party before the wedding

961
00:43:26,320 --> 00:43:29,200
Speaker 3: and taken off to do photos right after. One of

962
00:43:29,200 --> 00:43:31,279
Speaker 3: the event staff saw me at the seating chart for

963
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:34,920
Speaker 3: way too long and asked if I needed help. I explained,

964
00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:37,640
Speaker 3: my issue, and she called the wedding planner. After about

965
00:43:37,680 --> 00:43:40,680
Speaker 3: twenty minutes of standing awkwardly in the lobby type area,

966
00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:44,239
Speaker 3: she came and informed me Ted did not have a

967
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:46,359
Speaker 3: plus one for the wedding and they were at some

968
00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:48,719
Speaker 3: kind of fire safety limit for the venue for the

969
00:43:48,719 --> 00:43:51,759
Speaker 3: seat to dinner and they could not accommodate me at

970
00:43:51,800 --> 00:43:55,319
Speaker 3: the event. She was polite but firm. I wanted to

971
00:43:55,440 --> 00:43:59,680
Speaker 3: die of embarrassment, apologize, and texted Ted that the wedding

972
00:43:59,719 --> 00:44:03,400
Speaker 3: plan said I had to leave because of occupancy limits

973
00:44:03,400 --> 00:44:05,880
Speaker 3: and my not being on the guest list. Then I

974
00:44:05,920 --> 00:44:08,319
Speaker 3: hopped in my car and headed home. About a half

975
00:44:08,400 --> 00:44:11,319
Speaker 3: hour later, he texted me back saying his sister was

976
00:44:11,360 --> 00:44:14,719
Speaker 3: being in a hole and had invited his ex as

977
00:44:14,760 --> 00:44:18,000
Speaker 3: his plus one and put her on the seating chart.

978
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:21,800
Speaker 3: There was apparently drama and the X left. He wanted

979
00:44:21,800 --> 00:44:23,840
Speaker 3: me to come back and take her spot. It was

980
00:44:23,880 --> 00:44:26,759
Speaker 3: still cocktail time, so dinner hadn't even happened yet, and

981
00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:28,840
Speaker 3: he had an empty seat next to him at the

982
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:33,360
Speaker 3: head table. I was already home, changed out of my dress, makeup,

983
00:44:33,480 --> 00:44:36,880
Speaker 3: washed off, and looking at takeout menus. I texted him

984
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:40,080
Speaker 3: back that I wasn't comfortable returning when I'd already been

985
00:44:40,160 --> 00:44:42,560
Speaker 3: kicked out and I was already home and not in

986
00:44:42,600 --> 00:44:47,120
Speaker 3: an invent appropriate state anymore. Anyway, he got very demanding

987
00:44:47,280 --> 00:44:49,759
Speaker 3: that I returned because he was embarrassed by not having

988
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 3: a date and I'd promised to be there for him.

989
00:44:52,719 --> 00:44:55,160
Speaker 3: He got my brother in on it too and also

990
00:44:55,239 --> 00:44:58,440
Speaker 3: demanded I come back, and he's been guilting me ever

991
00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:01,279
Speaker 3: since for leaving his bff in the lurch, which I

992
00:45:01,280 --> 00:45:02,880
Speaker 3: think the brother has been gelting.

993
00:45:02,920 --> 00:45:03,160
Speaker 2: Ope.

994
00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:07,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, this has turned into a whole Facebook thing where

995
00:45:07,040 --> 00:45:09,800
Speaker 3: Ted's ex has been mocking him for his date running away,

996
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:12,719
Speaker 3: and people are blaming me for ditching him when my

997
00:45:12,800 --> 00:45:16,880
Speaker 3: whole job was to be a pity date. Also that

998
00:45:16,960 --> 00:45:19,400
Speaker 3: I should have stayed until I talked to Ted himself

999
00:45:19,440 --> 00:45:21,880
Speaker 3: instead of texting him. I could have stayed in the

1000
00:45:21,880 --> 00:45:24,919
Speaker 3: parking lot until he replied. I suppose, but it didn't

1001
00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:26,960
Speaker 3: occur to me at the time. I also could have

1002
00:45:27,000 --> 00:45:29,160
Speaker 3: gone back, but really I just didn't want to at

1003
00:45:29,160 --> 00:45:31,560
Speaker 3: that point. Am I the a hole?

1004
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:32,760
Speaker 2: And there is an update?

1005
00:45:33,760 --> 00:45:36,000
Speaker 3: But I think that, well, what do you think?

1006
00:45:36,239 --> 00:45:37,839
Speaker 5: I don't think you can really be an a hole

1007
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:40,839
Speaker 5: when it's like the entire context is like you're the

1008
00:45:41,000 --> 00:45:45,160
Speaker 5: pity date. Yeah, you are a nothing date, meant only

1009
00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:49,759
Speaker 5: for optics to play games between like other people that

1010
00:45:50,160 --> 00:45:51,359
Speaker 5: you're not even involved in.

1011
00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:53,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's embarrassed to go solo to a wedding.

1012
00:45:53,920 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 2: I guess. But then because now his ex wife is

1013
00:45:57,160 --> 00:45:57,680
Speaker 2: being like.

1014
00:45:58,040 --> 00:46:00,839
Speaker 5: Yeah, my ex husband was so late, like his own

1015
00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:03,840
Speaker 5: date like ran away from him, which is a self

1016
00:46:03,920 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 5: owned because you were married to that guy.

1017
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:09,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like what is wrong with these people? I don't know.

1018
00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:12,239
Speaker 3: Also, the only thing I would I mean, it's I

1019
00:46:12,280 --> 00:46:14,839
Speaker 3: was gonna say she should have texted him, which she did,

1020
00:46:16,880 --> 00:46:21,759
Speaker 3: but I I'm just yeah, I'm wondering why they kicked

1021
00:46:21,760 --> 00:46:23,960
Speaker 3: her out so quickly and no one like thought to

1022
00:46:24,080 --> 00:46:25,160
Speaker 3: like double check with any.

1023
00:46:25,160 --> 00:46:28,600
Speaker 5: No accommodations, Yeah, no accommodations whatsoever. They were like, we can't,

1024
00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:30,799
Speaker 5: we cannot let you sit here. If you sit here,

1025
00:46:30,880 --> 00:46:33,880
Speaker 5: everyone will burst into flames. No, I wouldn't, as per

1026
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:38,000
Speaker 5: the fire code. Bless you God, bless No.

1027
00:46:38,040 --> 00:46:39,840
Speaker 3: I don't think it's any oh peace all because she

1028
00:46:39,920 --> 00:46:42,479
Speaker 3: was kicked out, But I definitely think that more people

1029
00:46:42,560 --> 00:46:45,000
Speaker 3: at that party, shit, like the wedding planner should have

1030
00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:46,359
Speaker 3: double checked before, just like.

1031
00:46:46,480 --> 00:46:50,400
Speaker 2: Setting her home, where's the where's the groom? Where's the

1032
00:46:50,440 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 2: bride from? Where? People in charge? Here?

1033
00:46:54,000 --> 00:46:56,799
Speaker 3: Candice horses I would have left and never went back either,

1034
00:46:58,760 --> 00:47:03,480
Speaker 3: and Heleianna Bain says the bride did Ted dirty? And

1035
00:47:03,760 --> 00:47:08,319
Speaker 3: now are Art Dutchess. Gonna says not the a hole?

1036
00:47:08,360 --> 00:47:10,520
Speaker 3: How long was Opie supposed to stay in the car park?

1037
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:13,160
Speaker 3: It could have been hours, That's what I yeah, because

1038
00:47:13,239 --> 00:47:17,239
Speaker 3: no one really thought to check up on Ope, and

1039
00:47:17,840 --> 00:47:20,680
Speaker 3: I think the only time that someone did check up

1040
00:47:20,760 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 3: was was when Ted texted her, but she was already

1041
00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:25,520
Speaker 3: home at that point, which kind of gives me the

1042
00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:27,200
Speaker 3: idea that it would have been a while.

1043
00:47:28,200 --> 00:47:30,280
Speaker 2: I mean, you're a you're a pity date.

1044
00:47:30,960 --> 00:47:33,680
Speaker 5: No, it's like you're it's they told you, like, we

1045
00:47:33,719 --> 00:47:36,080
Speaker 5: can't even let you be here. There's no plus one.

1046
00:47:36,120 --> 00:47:38,680
Speaker 5: It's not what are you supposed to do? Like be

1047
00:47:38,840 --> 00:47:42,040
Speaker 5: like I'll have you know. I'm a pity dated.

1048
00:47:42,200 --> 00:47:43,040
Speaker 3: I deserve to be here.

1049
00:47:43,120 --> 00:47:46,240
Speaker 2: I'm on a mission of positivity.

1050
00:47:46,400 --> 00:47:49,200
Speaker 3: But there is an update, so let's get into that

1051
00:47:49,480 --> 00:47:51,960
Speaker 3: to clarify a couple of things. I knew I wasn't

1052
00:47:51,960 --> 00:47:54,839
Speaker 3: going to see Ted until after the pictures they got

1053
00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:57,520
Speaker 3: ready off site and did the arrival at the ceremony

1054
00:47:57,560 --> 00:48:01,120
Speaker 3: thing and classic cars. I was pre he warned pictures

1055
00:48:01,760 --> 00:48:05,239
Speaker 3: would be immediately after. Ted even suggested I only show

1056
00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:07,759
Speaker 3: up at the reception and skip the ceremony because of this,

1057
00:48:08,239 --> 00:48:11,320
Speaker 3: but I thought that was rude. Plus I like weddings.

1058
00:48:11,600 --> 00:48:13,800
Speaker 3: That's some of what got me into the mess, into

1059
00:48:13,840 --> 00:48:16,560
Speaker 3: this mess in the first place. This is not to

1060
00:48:16,640 --> 00:48:20,520
Speaker 3: defend Ted, just to explain the logistics drag him for

1061
00:48:20,560 --> 00:48:24,919
Speaker 3: whatever he deserves, not what was agreed to in advance. Also,

1062
00:48:25,040 --> 00:48:27,719
Speaker 3: the Facebook drama only started on Friday, which is what

1063
00:48:27,880 --> 00:48:32,120
Speaker 3: prompted my post From the Facebook drama. My brother realized

1064
00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:34,440
Speaker 3: he got a warped version of the story from Ted.

1065
00:48:35,040 --> 00:48:37,120
Speaker 3: He reached out last night and invited me to a

1066
00:48:37,239 --> 00:48:42,319
Speaker 3: nice dinner his treat. Later this week. He apologized sincerely.

1067
00:48:42,719 --> 00:48:45,359
Speaker 3: He also asked my permission to enter the Facebook fray

1068
00:48:45,440 --> 00:48:49,719
Speaker 3: on my behalf better him than me. We're good. The

1069
00:48:49,760 --> 00:48:52,120
Speaker 3: rest of the tea is from my brother. Ted Siss

1070
00:48:52,200 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 3: is the one who introduced Ted to his ex the

1071
00:48:54,680 --> 00:48:58,200
Speaker 3: ex cheated ooh, and was caught by the affair partner's

1072
00:48:58,200 --> 00:49:01,839
Speaker 3: wife who went full nuclear You're causing even oblivious Ted

1073
00:49:01,920 --> 00:49:06,439
Speaker 3: to realize what was going on. Unsurprisingly, they've been having

1074
00:49:06,440 --> 00:49:09,440
Speaker 3: trouble before this sis was attempting to get them back together,

1075
00:49:09,560 --> 00:49:13,080
Speaker 3: as the ex never wanted the divorce. Glad I left

1076
00:49:13,120 --> 00:49:15,799
Speaker 3: before the scheme hit ted in the face. But you

1077
00:49:15,840 --> 00:49:18,279
Speaker 3: know what, We're gonna hit you in the face with

1078
00:49:18,640 --> 00:49:23,319
Speaker 3: every week to at three pm pst US Live just

1079
00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:24,320
Speaker 3: top our profile.

1080
00:49:25,120 --> 00:49:27,319
Speaker 5: Shout out to all the comments who also predicted that

1081
00:49:27,320 --> 00:49:29,360
Speaker 5: that was what was going on. I saw some comments

1082
00:49:29,360 --> 00:49:31,959
Speaker 5: that were being like, this is the why, like they're

1083
00:49:31,960 --> 00:49:33,440
Speaker 5: trying to set the ax up.

1084
00:49:34,000 --> 00:49:34,080
Speaker 4: No.

1085
00:49:34,160 --> 00:49:37,719
Speaker 3: Absolutely, there's like I feel like they told the the

1086
00:49:37,719 --> 00:49:39,960
Speaker 3: wedding planner to kick her out or something.

1087
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:43,239
Speaker 2: That's why. Yeah, oh yeah, there's no plus one and

1088
00:49:43,280 --> 00:49:45,799
Speaker 2: because the fire code, it's like we can't because there's

1089
00:49:46,000 --> 00:49:47,600
Speaker 2: I don't know, I feel like what you tell someone

1090
00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:48,920
Speaker 2: you just want to get rid of.

1091
00:49:49,040 --> 00:49:51,319
Speaker 3: Absolutely, I don't think you would you can kick someone

1092
00:49:51,360 --> 00:49:53,760
Speaker 3: out who's at the wedding. But what I was gonna

1093
00:49:53,760 --> 00:49:56,239
Speaker 3: say before we there is a little chunk left of

1094
00:49:56,239 --> 00:49:59,880
Speaker 3: this story. But I am a little bit annoyed with

1095
00:50:00,680 --> 00:50:03,359
Speaker 3: the brother because it's good that they made up, but

1096
00:50:03,400 --> 00:50:06,520
Speaker 3: the fact that he immediately immediately kind of jumped on

1097
00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:08,920
Speaker 3: her and was like, how dare you do that without

1098
00:50:09,320 --> 00:50:11,120
Speaker 3: you know, getting her side of the story.

1099
00:50:11,280 --> 00:50:13,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, not not cool. Gross.

1100
00:50:13,719 --> 00:50:16,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, but at least he at least he owned up

1101
00:50:16,040 --> 00:50:17,960
Speaker 3: to it. I was trying to wing man from my brother.

1102
00:50:18,239 --> 00:50:21,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're messing up my wingman. I need you to

1103
00:50:21,680 --> 00:50:22,200
Speaker 2: be goose.

1104
00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:22,680
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1105
00:50:22,920 --> 00:50:26,200
Speaker 2: Right now you're like iceman because you're out nice top

1106
00:50:26,239 --> 00:50:30,800
Speaker 2: gun reference buddy, thanks to Yeah, that's.

1107
00:50:30,440 --> 00:50:30,880
Speaker 3: What he is.

1108
00:50:31,120 --> 00:50:34,000
Speaker 4: Someone here doesn't watch I've seen Top Gun.

1109
00:50:34,360 --> 00:50:36,600
Speaker 2: Someone's never seen Peak cinema before.

1110
00:50:36,840 --> 00:50:39,319
Speaker 3: Kimberly Holly says Opi did her part by showing up.

1111
00:50:39,440 --> 00:50:42,520
Speaker 3: They didn't let her in. Not Opie's fault exactly. Yeah,

1112
00:50:42,640 --> 00:50:44,640
Speaker 3: I got also just weird that she was lett into

1113
00:50:44,640 --> 00:50:47,400
Speaker 3: the ceremony and then not the reception.

1114
00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:50,480
Speaker 2: You're like, no, no, no, no, this is the pot where you disappear.

1115
00:50:50,719 --> 00:50:51,200
Speaker 2: I gotta go.

1116
00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:55,000
Speaker 3: But there is a little bit more to the story. Finally,

1117
00:50:55,239 --> 00:50:57,879
Speaker 3: there's no way Ted thought we were hooking up when

1118
00:50:57,920 --> 00:50:59,880
Speaker 3: we first met. I was a freshman in high school

1119
00:51:00,040 --> 00:51:03,880
Speaker 3: and he was my brother's big brother in his college fraternity.

1120
00:51:04,400 --> 00:51:06,840
Speaker 3: It would just be weird. Even though time is passed,

1121
00:51:07,080 --> 00:51:10,200
Speaker 3: we've never had any vibe of that sort. He knew

1122
00:51:10,200 --> 00:51:12,279
Speaker 3: I was only a seat filler, and he didn't even

1123
00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:14,400
Speaker 3: manage to get me a seat. But there are some

1124
00:51:14,480 --> 00:51:18,080
Speaker 3: relevant comments. Craig Hack says, So why didn't Ted realize

1125
00:51:18,120 --> 00:51:20,440
Speaker 3: all of this from the beginning? Why didn't he text

1126
00:51:20,480 --> 00:51:22,200
Speaker 3: you about it if you were there before the wedding?

1127
00:51:22,600 --> 00:51:24,880
Speaker 3: Seems like he should have easily realized his ex was

1128
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:27,319
Speaker 3: there and questioned his sister not the a hole, but

1129
00:51:27,400 --> 00:51:30,319
Speaker 3: your brother, Ted and his sister sure sound like they are,

1130
00:51:30,560 --> 00:51:33,520
Speaker 3: And Opie responds, Ted has always been a bit oblivious

1131
00:51:33,680 --> 00:51:37,080
Speaker 3: to the world around him beyond what he's actively engaged

1132
00:51:37,080 --> 00:51:39,279
Speaker 3: in at that moment. Think the sort of guy who

1133
00:51:39,400 --> 00:51:42,800
Speaker 3: asks when dinner is at barbecue, when it's being served

1134
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:44,920
Speaker 3: for the last hour and he's ten feet away from

1135
00:51:44,960 --> 00:51:47,280
Speaker 3: the grill and a table full of ready to food.

1136
00:51:47,520 --> 00:51:50,200
Speaker 3: He means well and was probably too busy playing with

1137
00:51:50,239 --> 00:51:51,320
Speaker 3: the kids to notice.

1138
00:51:51,360 --> 00:51:54,360
Speaker 5: So that I want to just say that definitely is

1139
00:51:54,440 --> 00:51:59,120
Speaker 5: something that Ted did. That specific of an example was like, yeah,

1140
00:51:59,160 --> 00:52:01,080
Speaker 5: like when Ted was at the barbecue and we were serving

1141
00:52:01,080 --> 00:52:02,719
Speaker 5: food for an hour and he kept asking.

1142
00:52:02,440 --> 00:52:05,160
Speaker 2: Where's the food? No, that happens, Go get your go,

1143
00:52:05,239 --> 00:52:06,440
Speaker 2: get it yourself right.

1144
00:52:06,280 --> 00:52:09,920
Speaker 3: There, Ted, you don't have a waiter. Crag Haak says,

1145
00:52:10,000 --> 00:52:12,240
Speaker 3: if it was so important for him that you should

1146
00:52:12,239 --> 00:52:15,400
Speaker 3: be there, he should have made sure you were there anyway.

1147
00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:18,320
Speaker 3: Biggest a hole is the sister. Don't understand how people

1148
00:52:18,320 --> 00:52:19,960
Speaker 3: don't get mad at her for what she did, and

1149
00:52:20,000 --> 00:52:22,840
Speaker 3: Hope says, it's very unclear to me what's up with

1150
00:52:22,840 --> 00:52:25,360
Speaker 3: the sister. The ex could have been invited before the

1151
00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:27,640
Speaker 3: divorce and nobody thought to update the list or tell

1152
00:52:27,640 --> 00:52:29,960
Speaker 3: her not to show. The sister and ex could have

1153
00:52:30,000 --> 00:52:33,160
Speaker 3: been crap stirring together. I'm not close to this broader

1154
00:52:33,200 --> 00:52:36,160
Speaker 3: social circle to have any real insight. I'd kind of

1155
00:52:36,160 --> 00:52:38,840
Speaker 3: hope they all be too busy to doing drama with

1156
00:52:38,960 --> 00:52:43,040
Speaker 3: each other to remember I existed at all. Sadly, no,

1157
00:52:43,600 --> 00:52:45,520
Speaker 3: and that is the end of that story. I think

1158
00:52:45,560 --> 00:52:48,000
Speaker 3: you just kind of have to distance yourself. You're not

1159
00:52:48,040 --> 00:52:51,640
Speaker 3: really Ted's friend. That's your's your brother's friend. And it's

1160
00:52:51,680 --> 00:52:54,080
Speaker 3: weird that they're making this whole thing about like they're

1161
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:55,920
Speaker 3: dragging you into the Facebook drama.

1162
00:52:56,160 --> 00:53:00,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's it's Facebook drama. It'll pass. Oh, it'll pay you.

1163
00:53:00,719 --> 00:53:03,200
Speaker 2: I'll find something new to do. Thinking about go be

1164
00:53:03,400 --> 00:53:04,480
Speaker 2: someone else's pity date.

1165
00:53:04,800 --> 00:53:09,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, focus someone's real date instead of a pity date.

1166
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:10,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'll be your date.

1167
00:53:11,840 --> 00:53:14,320
Speaker 2: You will, folks, and I won't pity you.

1168
00:53:14,360 --> 00:53:15,680
Speaker 4: No pity here, no pity.

1169
00:53:16,239 --> 00:53:18,279
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Sam og Host. We're gonn get back to

1170
00:53:18,320 --> 00:53:20,839
Speaker 1: these delectable stories. But here's three minutes of ads from

1171
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Speaker 1: our sponsors to help support the show.

1172
00:53:23,840 --> 00:53:27,000
Speaker 3: My girlfriend shows her guy best friend over me, so

1173
00:53:27,160 --> 00:53:28,600
Speaker 3: I want to break up with her?

1174
00:53:28,880 --> 00:53:29,560
Speaker 4: What are you doing?

1175
00:53:29,800 --> 00:53:32,880
Speaker 3: Seems like she may have already ended the relationship.

1176
00:53:32,920 --> 00:53:34,000
Speaker 2: Oh no, what did you do?

1177
00:53:34,719 --> 00:53:36,719
Speaker 3: Me and mine now ex have known each other for

1178
00:53:36,880 --> 00:53:40,399
Speaker 3: ten years since high school. We got super close pretty quick.

1179
00:53:40,760 --> 00:53:43,319
Speaker 3: I quickly found out she was super into me Back

1180
00:53:43,320 --> 00:53:45,719
Speaker 3: in high school. She asked me out, but as I

1181
00:53:45,800 --> 00:53:47,799
Speaker 3: was going through a lot of personal stuff, I told

1182
00:53:47,800 --> 00:53:50,439
Speaker 3: her I couldn't date anyone right now. By the way,

1183
00:53:50,520 --> 00:53:53,279
Speaker 3: this comes from minute drawing thirty eight seventy four on

1184
00:53:53,280 --> 00:53:56,240
Speaker 3: the Hour slash Showcase Storytimes Separate It. So she wanted

1185
00:53:56,280 --> 00:53:58,040
Speaker 3: to wait for me, but I told her not to

1186
00:53:58,200 --> 00:54:00,600
Speaker 3: because I had no idea how long it would take

1187
00:54:00,640 --> 00:54:03,280
Speaker 3: me to get better and didn't want to put burden

1188
00:54:03,320 --> 00:54:06,440
Speaker 3: of that burden on her. A couple of months later,

1189
00:54:06,560 --> 00:54:10,360
Speaker 3: she moved on but we remained friends. Fast forward almost

1190
00:54:10,360 --> 00:54:12,839
Speaker 3: two years, things got better for me and I did

1191
00:54:12,920 --> 00:54:15,920
Speaker 3: date a girl for three months before it ended. A

1192
00:54:15,960 --> 00:54:18,720
Speaker 3: couple of weeks after my break I got a text

1193
00:54:18,719 --> 00:54:21,400
Speaker 3: from her my recent ex, and she brings up the

1194
00:54:21,480 --> 00:54:24,319
Speaker 3: idea of us dating again a couple of weeks after

1195
00:54:24,360 --> 00:54:27,359
Speaker 3: the breakup. But two years, that's kind of weird.

1196
00:54:27,560 --> 00:54:31,120
Speaker 4: That's really weird, Like, oh, she saw an opportunity.

1197
00:54:31,400 --> 00:54:33,240
Speaker 3: I tell her that I need time to think because

1198
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:35,400
Speaker 3: I just got out of relationship. But I was open

1199
00:54:35,680 --> 00:54:37,520
Speaker 3: to taking her out on a date. You know what,

1200
00:54:37,960 --> 00:54:41,319
Speaker 3: Opie's really communicative, even in high school, was like, you

1201
00:54:41,320 --> 00:54:43,640
Speaker 3: know what, I'm not ready for relationship love.

1202
00:54:43,480 --> 00:54:46,439
Speaker 4: That yeah, good, good on you. It just like, rather

1203
00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:49,520
Speaker 4: than lie to your sofa and hurt.

1204
00:54:49,360 --> 00:54:52,320
Speaker 3: Other people, just knowing yourself, No, you're not running it.

1205
00:54:52,520 --> 00:54:55,239
Speaker 3: Two days after this conversation, she tells me that she

1206
00:54:55,360 --> 00:54:58,080
Speaker 3: might be in love with one of her guy best friends.

1207
00:54:58,320 --> 00:55:02,960
Speaker 3: Don't communicate communicating what you literally just asked him out.

1208
00:55:03,280 --> 00:55:05,279
Speaker 4: That's really odd. You're like, oh, I was so ready

1209
00:55:05,320 --> 00:55:06,680
Speaker 4: for you, but now I'm moving on.

1210
00:55:07,520 --> 00:55:09,520
Speaker 3: I took it back. Sorry. I told her to go

1211
00:55:09,600 --> 00:55:11,480
Speaker 3: pursue it, but she told me that he was dating

1212
00:55:11,520 --> 00:55:14,000
Speaker 3: someone already, but he told her that if he wasn't

1213
00:55:14,040 --> 00:55:16,439
Speaker 3: dating someone else, he would have totally dated her.

1214
00:55:16,960 --> 00:55:20,800
Speaker 4: What going back to my originals, don't communicate that stuff.

1215
00:55:20,800 --> 00:55:21,880
Speaker 4: This is so poor.

1216
00:55:21,920 --> 00:55:25,600
Speaker 3: What okay? That girl and that guy are crazy because

1217
00:55:25,640 --> 00:55:28,319
Speaker 3: why is she telling ope this and why is the

1218
00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:31,279
Speaker 3: boyfriend telling her the other guy telling her that. I

1219
00:55:31,280 --> 00:55:32,719
Speaker 3: told her I didn't want to feel like a second

1220
00:55:32,800 --> 00:55:35,680
Speaker 3: choice or backup and backed out of it. We did

1221
00:55:35,840 --> 00:55:38,480
Speaker 3: remain friends. I'd be like, you seem like you have

1222
00:55:38,560 --> 00:55:40,480
Speaker 3: something going on. I don't want to get in there.

1223
00:55:40,600 --> 00:55:42,759
Speaker 3: During the start of lockdown, she asked me out on

1224
00:55:42,800 --> 00:55:45,520
Speaker 3: a date and we did go and then started dating.

1225
00:55:46,120 --> 00:55:48,960
Speaker 3: Around eight months into the relationship, I find a Discord

1226
00:55:49,080 --> 00:55:52,520
Speaker 3: server with only her and the guy best friend. Eight

1227
00:55:52,640 --> 00:55:55,879
Speaker 3: months back in Uni, a bunch of us started using

1228
00:55:55,880 --> 00:55:58,920
Speaker 3: Discord to play games, discuss about classes, et cetera. I

1229
00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:01,480
Speaker 3: was actually pretty so prized to find out they had

1230
00:56:01,600 --> 00:56:06,880
Speaker 3: tons of corn shared there, oh, photos, videos, links, et cetera,

1231
00:56:07,040 --> 00:56:11,080
Speaker 3: and kept discussing about it regularly, and the conversations did

1232
00:56:11,080 --> 00:56:14,360
Speaker 3: not seem like two platonic friends. That's not a platonic

1233
00:56:14,400 --> 00:56:17,279
Speaker 3: friend move. That guy knew that we were dating and

1234
00:56:17,320 --> 00:56:20,480
Speaker 3: even he was in a relationship, he hasn't respected that

1235
00:56:20,560 --> 00:56:21,640
Speaker 3: relationship from the get go.

1236
00:56:21,719 --> 00:56:23,920
Speaker 4: He told there was zero I think there's zero respect

1237
00:56:25,040 --> 00:56:26,319
Speaker 4: among among that.

1238
00:56:28,520 --> 00:56:30,960
Speaker 3: I told her to stop and leave the server, and

1239
00:56:31,000 --> 00:56:34,239
Speaker 3: she initially refused, but then did leave and then told

1240
00:56:34,239 --> 00:56:36,680
Speaker 3: me that she was sorry and what she did wasn't okay.

1241
00:56:37,120 --> 00:56:39,080
Speaker 3: She said she did not have feelings for him at all,

1242
00:56:39,200 --> 00:56:42,680
Speaker 3: and it meant nothing, You're a liar. Things seemed okay,

1243
00:56:42,880 --> 00:56:45,160
Speaker 3: but then this guy remained friends with her and very

1244
00:56:45,200 --> 00:56:48,520
Speaker 3: occasionally met her since they lived very close to each other,

1245
00:56:48,600 --> 00:56:50,840
Speaker 3: which I found out a year ago, and in the

1246
00:56:50,960 --> 00:56:54,480
Speaker 3: year things got a little bad. In four years of

1247
00:56:54,560 --> 00:56:57,080
Speaker 3: us dating, we had broken up with each other for

1248
00:56:57,120 --> 00:56:59,200
Speaker 3: four months when I had to move to another city

1249
00:56:59,280 --> 00:57:02,560
Speaker 3: out of out for work and thought long distance wouldn't

1250
00:57:02,600 --> 00:57:06,000
Speaker 3: work out, But we decided to try long distance and

1251
00:57:06,080 --> 00:57:08,440
Speaker 3: put an insane amount of effort to make it work.

1252
00:57:09,000 --> 00:57:11,520
Speaker 3: During which she dated a guy and broke up with him,

1253
00:57:11,760 --> 00:57:15,879
Speaker 3: but kept contact with him until recently. He would constantly

1254
00:57:16,000 --> 00:57:18,800
Speaker 3: keep flirting with her even if he didn't engage, but

1255
00:57:18,920 --> 00:57:21,520
Speaker 3: she refused to cut contact with him or tell him

1256
00:57:21,640 --> 00:57:25,720
Speaker 3: she's dating someone, and she also ended up doing substances

1257
00:57:25,760 --> 00:57:28,720
Speaker 3: at a party and kept defending herself, saying that her

1258
00:57:28,760 --> 00:57:32,560
Speaker 3: friends forced her to girl girl girl. I have always

1259
00:57:32,600 --> 00:57:34,600
Speaker 3: been against it, and she knew about it. And a

1260
00:57:34,600 --> 00:57:36,840
Speaker 3: month ago, this guy best friend started to hang out

1261
00:57:36,840 --> 00:57:40,160
Speaker 3: with her a lot, and I found out that he

1262
00:57:40,200 --> 00:57:42,240
Speaker 3: had broken up with his long.

1263
00:57:42,000 --> 00:57:44,600
Speaker 2: Term girlfriend rot Row, and.

1264
00:57:44,440 --> 00:57:47,440
Speaker 3: We know what he said before. I instantly thought he

1265
00:57:47,480 --> 00:57:49,400
Speaker 3: was trying to use her as a backup because he

1266
00:57:49,480 --> 00:57:51,160
Speaker 3: knew that she had feelings for him a while ago.

1267
00:57:51,800 --> 00:57:53,800
Speaker 3: One day, she went to watch a movie with him

1268
00:57:53,920 --> 00:57:56,080
Speaker 3: that me and her had planned to watch for months,

1269
00:57:56,560 --> 00:57:58,520
Speaker 3: and she kept saying how she was excited to go

1270
00:57:58,560 --> 00:58:00,480
Speaker 3: watch it with me, but I could. I couldn't go

1271
00:58:00,640 --> 00:58:02,800
Speaker 3: on day one and had to keep it for the weekend.

1272
00:58:03,240 --> 00:58:04,760
Speaker 3: She then told me she didn't want to wait for

1273
00:58:04,800 --> 00:58:07,160
Speaker 3: me and told me she'd go with him instead.

1274
00:58:07,320 --> 00:58:07,959
Speaker 4: What the heck?

1275
00:58:08,120 --> 00:58:10,520
Speaker 3: This is just like a really inappropriate friendship.

1276
00:58:10,800 --> 00:58:13,920
Speaker 4: I don't like the girlfriend. The girlfriend.

1277
00:58:15,600 --> 00:58:18,120
Speaker 3: Just disrespecting all of the boundaries.

1278
00:58:19,040 --> 00:58:20,840
Speaker 4: Communicates all these things.

1279
00:58:21,040 --> 00:58:23,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's not doing that, She's not giving him that

1280
00:58:24,040 --> 00:58:27,000
Speaker 3: same courtesy. After the movie, I confronted her and told

1281
00:58:27,000 --> 00:58:29,480
Speaker 3: her that this isn't okay, and I don't feel okay

1282
00:58:29,480 --> 00:58:32,640
Speaker 3: with her hanging out with him so frequently since since

1283
00:58:32,760 --> 00:58:34,960
Speaker 3: she had a past with him. I told her he

1284
00:58:35,080 --> 00:58:37,000
Speaker 3: is just trying to use her as a rebound for

1285
00:58:37,000 --> 00:58:41,200
Speaker 3: what happened. She disagreed and fought, saying he's different and

1286
00:58:41,320 --> 00:58:45,600
Speaker 3: things have changed, but you know whatever changes us and

1287
00:58:45,680 --> 00:58:47,959
Speaker 3: you can join us live every weekday at three pm

1288
00:58:48,000 --> 00:58:49,080
Speaker 3: PSD on YouTube.

1289
00:58:49,160 --> 00:58:51,480
Speaker 4: Just dab a rebound, Tap tap it.

1290
00:58:51,800 --> 00:58:54,640
Speaker 3: A few days later, the guy invited her to a party.

1291
00:58:55,120 --> 00:58:57,440
Speaker 3: I told her I wasn't comfortable with her going alone.

1292
00:58:57,960 --> 00:59:00,760
Speaker 3: I prefer that she takes either me or one of

1293
00:59:00,760 --> 00:59:02,520
Speaker 3: her friends who I know will take care of her.

1294
00:59:02,640 --> 00:59:05,600
Speaker 3: She refused, saying that I am just doubting him and

1295
00:59:05,640 --> 00:59:07,640
Speaker 3: that he's a different guy. Hope he has no proof

1296
00:59:07,640 --> 00:59:09,800
Speaker 3: of that. But then I just found out that he

1297
00:59:09,880 --> 00:59:12,560
Speaker 3: was slowly starting to get flirty with her. So I

1298
00:59:12,640 --> 00:59:15,520
Speaker 3: told her to stop hanging out with him and gave

1299
00:59:15,600 --> 00:59:19,920
Speaker 3: her an ultimatum. She either chooses me or him, and

1300
00:59:19,960 --> 00:59:21,840
Speaker 3: there is a little bit left to the story. But

1301
00:59:21,920 --> 00:59:23,480
Speaker 3: what are your final thoughts here?

1302
00:59:23,760 --> 00:59:27,800
Speaker 4: I would just say, I'm say I choose me. Yeah,

1303
00:59:28,040 --> 00:59:29,120
Speaker 4: you two have yourselves.

1304
00:59:29,320 --> 00:59:33,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, if you're going to continuously continue to disrespect the

1305
00:59:33,640 --> 00:59:35,800
Speaker 3: boundaries that I am trying to place in the relationship.

1306
00:59:36,040 --> 00:59:38,440
Speaker 3: And I know that you have like a past with

1307
00:59:38,520 --> 00:59:41,080
Speaker 3: him and we're considering dating him.

1308
00:59:41,120 --> 00:59:43,640
Speaker 4: Just there's so many things that are tied with him

1309
00:59:43,720 --> 00:59:45,160
Speaker 4: that is just like it's.

1310
00:59:45,040 --> 00:59:46,360
Speaker 3: Like, you know what you can be with it.

1311
00:59:46,920 --> 00:59:47,680
Speaker 2: The facts are there.

1312
00:59:47,880 --> 00:59:50,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, I've seen everything, and the fact that you guys

1313
00:59:50,840 --> 00:59:55,720
Speaker 4: have pretty much verbally said I date you if if you.

1314
00:59:55,640 --> 00:59:59,000
Speaker 3: Know, if these circumstances. Yeah, so I think honestly, I

1315
00:59:59,000 --> 01:00:01,800
Speaker 3: wouldn't give the ultimate if she can't, if you've brought

1316
01:00:01,840 --> 01:00:04,680
Speaker 3: it up before, and if she can't respect that multiple times,

1317
01:00:04,880 --> 01:00:05,840
Speaker 3: then just break up with her.

1318
01:00:05,920 --> 01:00:07,960
Speaker 4: There's ultimately made them there's it's not worth it. The

1319
01:00:07,960 --> 01:00:09,880
Speaker 4: fact that she keeps just it's kind of like a

1320
01:00:10,000 --> 01:00:11,480
Speaker 4: verbal slap in the face exactly.

1321
01:00:11,640 --> 01:00:13,880
Speaker 3: But there is a little bit left to this story.

1322
01:00:14,120 --> 01:00:16,520
Speaker 3: She told me I was more important and chose me

1323
01:00:16,560 --> 01:00:20,800
Speaker 3: over him, but it is a few days later, when

1324
01:00:20,800 --> 01:00:23,080
Speaker 3: the party was nearer, she told me she cannot do

1325
01:00:23,160 --> 01:00:25,840
Speaker 3: that because she has known him for five years and

1326
01:00:25,880 --> 01:00:28,880
Speaker 3: told me she cannot choose. She started to call me

1327
01:00:28,920 --> 01:00:31,920
Speaker 3: controlling and told me things are different. She kept saying

1328
01:00:31,920 --> 01:00:34,920
Speaker 3: it's not a big deal. Sharing explicit things with friends.

1329
01:00:38,680 --> 01:00:41,600
Speaker 3: I told her that these are and have always remained

1330
01:00:41,760 --> 01:00:45,560
Speaker 3: my boundaries, and she has crossed them multiple times, and

1331
01:00:45,640 --> 01:00:49,760
Speaker 3: I broke up with her. I deserve Yeah, you deserve

1332
01:00:49,760 --> 01:00:50,200
Speaker 3: way better.

1333
01:00:50,480 --> 01:00:51,000
Speaker 4: Bye Bye.

1334
01:00:51,280 --> 01:00:53,360
Speaker 3: Now I am confused whether what I did was in

1335
01:00:53,400 --> 01:00:56,320
Speaker 3: fact too much. Most of my pretty close friends keep

1336
01:00:56,360 --> 01:00:59,160
Speaker 3: telling me that she was absolutely insane, But I still

1337
01:00:59,200 --> 01:01:01,880
Speaker 3: don't know how to feel. Just the fact that she

1338
01:01:02,120 --> 01:01:05,680
Speaker 3: like hounded you two years later, right off the bat.

1339
01:01:05,760 --> 01:01:06,960
Speaker 2: It wasn't like you got her.

1340
01:01:07,600 --> 01:01:12,440
Speaker 4: She's like, ah, he's mine, kind of like psycho behavior

1341
01:01:12,480 --> 01:01:15,840
Speaker 4: that she's like, oh, yeah, he's single, he's mine. You

1342
01:01:15,920 --> 01:01:19,920
Speaker 4: know yourself the best, and if they are not respecting that,

1343
01:01:20,200 --> 01:01:23,040
Speaker 4: what's best for you? Get him out of there. But also,

1344
01:01:23,080 --> 01:01:26,240
Speaker 4: if your friends told you that she's insane, your friends

1345
01:01:26,240 --> 01:01:28,960
Speaker 4: also know you better too. She might be insane. Your

1346
01:01:28,960 --> 01:01:32,320
Speaker 4: friends are an outside's perspective of seeing everything, so usually

1347
01:01:32,360 --> 01:01:33,600
Speaker 4: your friends have the best advice.