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Speaker 2: Hey everyone, Emily Abadi here. You are listening to episode

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Speaker 2: two hundred and forty five of Hurdle, a.

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Speaker 3: Wellness focused podcast.

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Speaker 2: Reconnect with everyone from your favorite athletes to top experts

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Speaker 2: and industry CEOs about their highest highs, toughest moments, and

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Speaker 2: this place motivating hundreds of thousands to be their best

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Speaker 2: thank you, Tom Walla for his time chatting with you

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Speaker 2: for this episode was an absolute joy. Make sure you

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Speaker 2: are following along with Hurdle over on social It's at

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Speaker 2: Hurdle podcast. I am over at Emily a Body and

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Speaker 2: I would be remiss if I didn't say a huge

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Speaker 2: congrats to all the ladies that conquered the La Marathon

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Speaker 3: How are you doing today?

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Speaker 2: I'm excited that we were finally able to make this happen.

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Speaker 1: this situation better? And that's where true growth is if

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Speaker 1: we can work on ourselves first and alone, and we

436
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Speaker 1: just keep polishing ourselves, the world will be a better place.

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Speaker 1: And so the best advice I can give is look within.

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Speaker 3: Look within, look within.

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Speaker 2: Well, you said that better communication skills make.

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Speaker 3: You better at what you do.

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Speaker 2: What you do being training and helping people live healthier

442
00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:33,679
Speaker 2: and happier life something that I truly resonate with. I

443
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Speaker 2: know that you really started this work deeply in twenty thirteen,

444
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Speaker 2: twenty fourteen. So in twenty fourteen you moved to Los Angeles.

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Speaker 2: Put us in your shoes. What's going on for you?

446
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Speaker 3: At that time?

447
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Speaker 1: Eight hundred bucks in my pocket. Moved to Los Angeles,

448
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Speaker 1: I had nothing. I was living on my brother's girlfriend couch.

449
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Speaker 1: Not my brother's couch. We were staying with his girlfriend.

450
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Speaker 1: So it was my back was against the wall. At

451
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Speaker 1: that time, I just realized that I grew up. I

452
00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:07,879
Speaker 1: was always a good a like a CB student, but

453
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Speaker 1: I never really like applied myself. So moving to Los Angeles,

454
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Speaker 1: I really had to apply myself. There was no I

455
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Speaker 1: couldn't accept to see Los Angeles. To see is a

456
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Speaker 1: horrible f and so in trying to survive out in

457
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Speaker 1: Los Angeles, So me moving out to LA was the

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Speaker 1: greatest shift that I ever had. And what I learned

459
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Speaker 1: from that was I learned how to talk to people.

460
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Speaker 1: I learned how to motivate. I learned how to be

461
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Speaker 1: disciplined because I had to be disciplined. I can't rely

462
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Speaker 1: on like my fast food check from college. I can't

463
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Speaker 1: rely on like these little odd out jobs that I

464
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Speaker 1: was doing. I don't know if you ever had financial

465
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Speaker 1: hate from college, and so for me, I had to

466
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Speaker 1: become an adult and I couldn't rely on those things anymore.

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Speaker 1: So I really learned a lot about myself. I worked

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Speaker 1: at La Fitness. I started at La Fitness. I was

469
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Speaker 1: a personal training director, so I was helping trainers learn

470
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Speaker 1: how to sell. Then I jumped over the Equinox for

471
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Speaker 1: a few months, and then I left Equalox and I

472
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Speaker 1: got into private training. And it was right when I

473
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Speaker 1: got into private training that was the biggest leak for me,

474
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Speaker 1: is when I learned to love myself, have some self

475
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Speaker 1: respect for myself, and I felt like I had some

476
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Speaker 1: foot in the game and I had a little bit

477
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Speaker 1: of skin in the game. And I knew then that

478
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Speaker 1: I could become a great trainer. And I've never worried

479
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Speaker 1: about training. I was always great at that I loved learning.

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Speaker 1: The hardest part was expanding and being able to provide

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Speaker 1: for myself but also be authentic and not just chase

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Speaker 1: a dollar but actually, like really try to help people.

483
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Speaker 1: And so trying to do both of those in Los

484
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Speaker 1: Angeles was tough. But after a while, you know, I

485
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Speaker 1: got to a place where I felt comfortable.

486
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Speaker 2: So what was the catalyst that made you decide to

487
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Speaker 2: leave that brief stint at Equinox and go out on

488
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Speaker 2: your own as a private trainer.

489
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Speaker 1: Well, when they wanted me to just pick up weights

490
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Speaker 1: with the blue shirt, you know, you gotta wear the

491
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Speaker 1: blue shirt pick up ways and then they charging like

492
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Speaker 1: one hundred and something dollars a session. At that time,

493
00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:08,440
Speaker 1: LA Fitness sessions were like thirty something bucks half an hour,

494
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Speaker 1: twenty five minutes, then it can go up to seventy

495
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Speaker 1: bucks if it was an hour. So the shift was man,

496
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Speaker 1: people were paying over one hundred dollars for a training

497
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Speaker 1: session really, And if I'm being honest, it's like, well,

498
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Speaker 1: I need to invest in myself like that, and I

499
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Speaker 1: need to see if I can get out here and

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Speaker 1: maybe inspire clients that could Because at that time I

501
00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:36,680
Speaker 1: was from Florida training sessions were like forty bucks, fifty bucks,

502
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Speaker 1: sixty bucks. I didn't know that people had money like that,

503
00:26:40,280 --> 00:26:43,159
Speaker 1: and so I felt confident enough to be able to

504
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Speaker 1: go out into the real world. I like to call

505
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Speaker 1: it is really getting out there and being a private trainer.

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Speaker 1: And once I learned that I am worth that, and

507
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Speaker 1: my knowledge says that, and the results say that, and

508
00:26:57,119 --> 00:26:59,439
Speaker 1: my clients say that, it was easier for me to

509
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Speaker 1: be able to do that. But I didn't think I was.

510
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:05,280
Speaker 1: I didn't. It was hard for me to imagine that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and again, big transition, totally understandable. That overwhelmed creeps

512
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Speaker 2: in that gremlin, as you stated, creeps in. What was

513
00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:17,720
Speaker 2: the most difficult part for you taking that leap the uncertainty?

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Speaker 1: The biggest part for me was I can't fail. If

515
00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:25,679
Speaker 1: I fail, I'm going back home. And if I go

516
00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:29,960
Speaker 1: back home, I'll never let this down. And I couldn't.

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Speaker 1: And so it was, you know, being able to provide

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Speaker 1: for myself. Mind you, When I left I graduated college,

519
00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:39,639
Speaker 1: I stayed with moms for like six months and then

520
00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:41,760
Speaker 1: I moved to Los Angeles. So I never really like

521
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 1: lived on my own. I never really even had real

522
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Speaker 1: bills in my life. I was a kid for such

523
00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:52,479
Speaker 1: a long time, and so, you know, being able to

524
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Speaker 1: go out here and have to learn how to be

525
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Speaker 1: a man, pay taxes, apply for a place like a

526
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Speaker 1: lot of this stuff was.

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Speaker 3: New for me, Amlla, don't I know it.

528
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Speaker 2: I literally filed my return today and it was it

529
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:05,879
Speaker 2: was a tough day for me.

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Speaker 3: If I'm beyond.

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Speaker 1: Agril fourteenth every year on the got I don't, I

532
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Speaker 1: wait till the very right. And these are the things

533
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:17,800
Speaker 1: you learn as you grow. And I'm you know, being

534
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 1: a trainer is not just collecting. You actually have to

535
00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:23,280
Speaker 1: learn how to grow and be a business and LLC

536
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:26,320
Speaker 1: and and learn all this and then you have employees,

537
00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:28,800
Speaker 1: now have employees, and it's just this is just a

538
00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:31,760
Speaker 1: different world that I ever I even I'd never thought

539
00:28:31,840 --> 00:28:33,639
Speaker 1: that I would ever be here doing stuff like this.

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Speaker 2: So well, don't jump around though, because we didn't go

541
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Speaker 2: from like, I'm so intimidated.

542
00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:39,960
Speaker 3: I'm so scared I'm going to go out on my

543
00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:40,520
Speaker 3: own too.

544
00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:44,239
Speaker 2: Also, I have employees within the same few sentences, So

545
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Speaker 2: talk to us about when you felt like you really

546
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Speaker 2: started to gain traction doing this on your own.

547
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Speaker 1: Uh, it started two thousand and seventeen, twenty eighteen, I

548
00:28:57,400 --> 00:29:00,880
Speaker 1: started a lot of high profile clients reaching out to me.

549
00:29:01,080 --> 00:29:03,760
Speaker 1: I started getting invested into the NBA. I worked with

550
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:07,760
Speaker 1: a lot of NBA clients, and so at that time

551
00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:11,480
Speaker 1: I started training a lot of players. That summer, I

552
00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 1: had like ten NBA players, And obviously that just showed that, okay,

553
00:29:18,560 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 1: obviously worries going around that I'm great at what I do,

554
00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:25,239
Speaker 1: but I also can't keep spreading myself thin. So I

555
00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:29,520
Speaker 1: started learning how to monetize my time but also delegate

556
00:29:29,560 --> 00:29:32,600
Speaker 1: things to people to make life easier for me. And

557
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:36,440
Speaker 1: so it was twenty seventeen, twenty eighteen. My first client

558
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Speaker 1: that helped me get notoriety was Julius Randall. At the time,

559
00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 1: he was playing for the Lakers, and so if you're

560
00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:45,480
Speaker 1: a Lakers fan, everybody just loves Julius. And so that

561
00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:49,800
Speaker 1: was like the beginning to this trajectory that took off.

562
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Speaker 1: And from there, you know, work just kept coming at

563
00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:56,760
Speaker 1: me every couple of weeks, just a new opportunity and

564
00:29:56,840 --> 00:30:00,040
Speaker 1: new job, and I couldn't handle it myself. So I

565
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:03,280
Speaker 1: to learn how to I need a manager. I need

566
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Speaker 1: someone to handle the schedule. I know, my grimlins organization

567
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Speaker 1: is one of them. I am not great at scheduling, calendars, preparation,

568
00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:16,400
Speaker 1: so all the things that were bad, and I knew

569
00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 1: that I wasn't great at I had to hire people

570
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Speaker 1: to and so, and believe it or not, most people

571
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Speaker 1: that makes them afraid to do that. But for me,

572
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Speaker 1: I actually leaned into that and that helped me expand

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Speaker 1: even further. And so just tapping into the areas that

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Speaker 1: I wasn't great at.

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Speaker 3: I need someone else to help me with these things.

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Speaker 2: But there are things that I'm not as good at

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Speaker 1: Now I'm out for it doesn't work because what ends

635
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Speaker 1: It's like this analysis paralysis, Like you analyze. I'm an

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Speaker 1: overthinker by the way. I overthink everything, so sometimes I

638
00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:24,560
Speaker 1: hold myself from actually getting it done. It'll take me

639
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Speaker 1: like two years to do a project that would have

640
00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:31,719
Speaker 1: took someone two months. So once I recognize that, and

641
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Speaker 1: especially when you get opportunities, they come, they come real quick.

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Speaker 1: So I wanted to capitalize off of as much as

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Speaker 1: I could, So I just had to. I had to

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Speaker 1: hire an assistant to help me with my schedule. I

645
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Speaker 1: had to hire a videographer. I got tired of wasting

646
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Speaker 1: time cropping up this camera here. And then a manager

647
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Speaker 1: helped me really just kind of manage my life. And

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Speaker 1: I think the best hire for me was the help

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Speaker 1: my Like. That was another hire that I thought was

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Speaker 1: But it is one of those things that I really

652
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Speaker 1: helped me identify some of my trouble areas, and so

653
00:35:10,000 --> 00:35:10,880
Speaker 1: I just got better from that.

654
00:35:11,440 --> 00:35:14,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, just getting better, just getting better asking for help,

655
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:17,799
Speaker 2: you don't regret it in the slightest. So what did

656
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:22,160
Speaker 2: you start to see as a direct result of bringing

657
00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:23,600
Speaker 2: other people into the fold.

658
00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:27,719
Speaker 1: Well, I got back time. I got time back, and

659
00:35:28,360 --> 00:35:30,680
Speaker 1: I think that's something we never did back. There's three

660
00:35:30,719 --> 00:35:33,080
Speaker 1: things we don't want to waste, gas, money, and time, right,

661
00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:37,120
Speaker 1: And so I got my time back and that was

662
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:40,040
Speaker 1: big because then I could start seeing family. I could.

663
00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:42,719
Speaker 1: I had left the West Coast and I wasn't able

664
00:35:42,719 --> 00:35:44,439
Speaker 1: to see my father, and my father had been sick.

665
00:35:44,520 --> 00:35:47,280
Speaker 1: So I think that was the biggest thing for me. Obviously,

666
00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:50,960
Speaker 1: when you expand, the goal is is that your money expands.

667
00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:54,120
Speaker 1: So I was very fortunate that that actually happened. And

668
00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 1: then my biggest joy is being able to help help

669
00:35:57,719 --> 00:36:01,480
Speaker 1: people and put people in positions. Videographer the person that's

670
00:36:01,560 --> 00:36:05,240
Speaker 1: been with me for five years now. We started basically

671
00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:08,280
Speaker 1: together on everything, and he was living with his mom

672
00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:11,239
Speaker 1: and now he has his own place, and so like

673
00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:13,560
Speaker 1: just the team that I'm working with, these are people

674
00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:16,000
Speaker 1: that I see myself if I work with anyone, I

675
00:36:16,000 --> 00:36:18,400
Speaker 1: see myself working with them for the rest of my life.

676
00:36:18,800 --> 00:36:22,840
Speaker 1: So if I go into business like body, all the

677
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:25,040
Speaker 1: jobs that I do, my goal is to work with

678
00:36:25,080 --> 00:36:27,000
Speaker 1: you for the rest of my life. So now everyone

679
00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:30,040
Speaker 1: that I work with, I'm seeing them flourish, and to me,

680
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:33,880
Speaker 1: that makes me excited. If my friends aren't flourishing and

681
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:38,239
Speaker 1: they're not taking off, and that I still have more

682
00:36:38,239 --> 00:36:40,360
Speaker 1: work to do, and so as long as they're successful,

683
00:36:40,680 --> 00:36:44,200
Speaker 1: that I'm happy. So that was the biggest thing seeing

684
00:36:44,400 --> 00:36:45,720
Speaker 1: everyone grow from.

685
00:36:45,560 --> 00:36:47,160
Speaker 3: This from the get go.

686
00:36:47,560 --> 00:36:50,600
Speaker 2: Where were you when you first heard from them that

687
00:36:50,640 --> 00:36:52,399
Speaker 2: they were interested in working with you.

688
00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 1: I was. I was in Los Angeles and the owner

689
00:36:56,760 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 1: DM me on my Instagram and his name is Daichler,

690
00:37:01,120 --> 00:37:03,640
Speaker 1: and I read it, and you know, he was talking

691
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:08,000
Speaker 1: about a program that he's beach Body basically created a

692
00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:09,799
Speaker 1: company called beast Body. At the time, I had no

693
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:12,440
Speaker 1: clue about Beachbody. I didn't know what beach Body was.

694
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:16,280
Speaker 1: And then I ignored the email. I mean not the email,

695
00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:17,600
Speaker 1: but the DM. I ignored it. I was like, I

696
00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:18,000
Speaker 1: don't know this.

697
00:37:18,080 --> 00:37:20,640
Speaker 2: It is not so funny that the craziest, like most

698
00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:26,080
Speaker 2: ridiculous business opportunities just come through as like on social media.

699
00:37:25,680 --> 00:37:28,200
Speaker 1: All of my business, like every one of my clients,

700
00:37:28,200 --> 00:37:29,840
Speaker 1: and I don't want to name drop, but I have

701
00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 1: a lot of high profile clients and they all come

702
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:39,840
Speaker 1: from Instagram. Never received a formal email ever or anything.

703
00:37:39,960 --> 00:37:43,120
Speaker 1: It all comes from Instagram. So he writes me, I

704
00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:45,960
Speaker 1: ignore it. Then we have a mutual friend. The mutual

705
00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 1: friend is a physical therapist. He reaches out to me

706
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:51,759
Speaker 1: and he's like, hey, I sent a friend your way.

707
00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:54,480
Speaker 1: He was looking for a new trainer. You might want

708
00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:58,160
Speaker 1: to open that. I think it'll change your life. And

709
00:37:58,200 --> 00:38:01,000
Speaker 1: I was like really, And then he explained that Beach

710
00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:05,480
Speaker 1: Body is the Unbrella company company two programs such as

711
00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:09,799
Speaker 1: P ninety X Insanity and so then that hit me

712
00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:12,799
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, okay, it sounds okay. I

713
00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:14,719
Speaker 1: know what this is. And so then I reached out.

714
00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:17,160
Speaker 1: We tall it. Then he had been following me for

715
00:38:17,200 --> 00:38:18,960
Speaker 1: a year. I had no clue, and he was watching

716
00:38:18,960 --> 00:38:20,920
Speaker 1: the work that I was doing with the Lakers, watching

717
00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 1: the work that I was doing with some of my

718
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:25,399
Speaker 1: private clients, and he loved what he saw, loved the personality.

719
00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:28,279
Speaker 1: I think you have to have a personality when you're

720
00:38:28,320 --> 00:38:31,719
Speaker 1: an on camera trainer and from there we just had

721
00:38:31,840 --> 00:38:34,040
Speaker 1: you know, back and forth dialogue and I wasn't sure

722
00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:36,400
Speaker 1: at the time, and there was an opening where I

723
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:39,279
Speaker 1: had a lot of space in my schedule and we

724
00:38:39,320 --> 00:38:43,120
Speaker 1: went out did a trial run and from there that's

725
00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:46,000
Speaker 1: how I became supertrainer. So I was excited. I had

726
00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:48,520
Speaker 1: no clue. I'm happy that my friend told me because

727
00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:51,040
Speaker 1: I would have never.

728
00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:53,800
Speaker 2: You said I think it'll change your life. Would you

729
00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:55,040
Speaker 2: say it's changed your life?

730
00:38:55,120 --> 00:38:58,960
Speaker 1: It has drastically changed my life. It is, It's made

731
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:04,480
Speaker 1: my family proud, It's made me happy. Or I love

732
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:07,080
Speaker 1: this job. The fact that I get to work with

733
00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:10,759
Speaker 1: thousands to millions of people and changing their lives and

734
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:15,239
Speaker 1: seeing their messages, and it just hits so home to

735
00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:18,600
Speaker 1: me and every person that I work with. I love

736
00:39:18,680 --> 00:39:21,000
Speaker 1: what I do. No one can ever tell you that

737
00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:24,719
Speaker 1: I don't love this. I will go beyond for anyone,

738
00:39:24,920 --> 00:39:27,439
Speaker 1: and just seeing how so many people want to learn

739
00:39:27,480 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 1: and get better is what I love. I love. If

740
00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:34,040
Speaker 1: the company doesn't have a great community, I don't want

741
00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:37,280
Speaker 1: to be a part of it. The community with Body

742
00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:40,960
Speaker 1: is so amazing. We host these live workouts all across

743
00:39:41,000 --> 00:39:44,160
Speaker 1: the world every year. We'll have about twelve live workouts,

744
00:39:44,160 --> 00:39:46,120
Speaker 1: so I get to travel all across the world and

745
00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:49,319
Speaker 1: get to meet everyone that presses played and those are

746
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:52,359
Speaker 1: my memorable things. That I love the most is just

747
00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:55,400
Speaker 1: being able to interact with people. So it has changed

748
00:39:55,400 --> 00:39:57,160
Speaker 1: my life. It's amazing.

749
00:39:57,719 --> 00:40:00,520
Speaker 2: You mentioned even from a young age that community was

750
00:40:00,960 --> 00:40:01,719
Speaker 2: important to you.

751
00:40:01,960 --> 00:40:02,839
Speaker 3: Why is that?

752
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:08,440
Speaker 2: Why is community such a cornerstone for everything that you are?

753
00:40:08,960 --> 00:40:13,360
Speaker 1: Well? Community just helps you stay grounded and also community

754
00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:15,759
Speaker 1: is a place where you can express yourself, but also

755
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:18,359
Speaker 1: you find life minded people. I don't know if you've

756
00:40:18,400 --> 00:40:20,520
Speaker 1: ever been in this world and you ever felt alone,

757
00:40:21,120 --> 00:40:23,320
Speaker 1: and you can be alone in this world and you

758
00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:25,359
Speaker 1: can be alone in your thoughts. And so when I

759
00:40:25,400 --> 00:40:27,880
Speaker 1: have people that I can that I see myself in

760
00:40:28,160 --> 00:40:31,239
Speaker 1: or or if I can talk to I can interact with,

761
00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:33,920
Speaker 1: I come to life like there's so many colors in

762
00:40:34,000 --> 00:40:37,239
Speaker 1: life and just someone's story might inspire me. And so

763
00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:41,560
Speaker 1: community is so important for you. I you know, I

764
00:40:41,560 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 1: I went through a dark phase in my life where

765
00:40:44,040 --> 00:40:46,959
Speaker 1: I didn't realize it was dark until I started doing

766
00:40:46,960 --> 00:40:49,400
Speaker 1: the work. I had like social anxiety. I didn't like

767
00:40:49,440 --> 00:40:53,320
Speaker 1: being around people, and I don't know where that came from.

768
00:40:53,360 --> 00:40:57,000
Speaker 1: But if I would see someone and I could feel

769
00:40:57,000 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 1: that they wanted to talk to me, I would hit

770
00:40:58,520 --> 00:41:02,480
Speaker 1: a U turn without them knowing. And so I don't

771
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:06,400
Speaker 1: know where that came from. But once I started like

772
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:09,319
Speaker 1: finding a community that was like minded with me, that

773
00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:12,080
Speaker 1: loved to work out, that loved to help, then it

774
00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:14,439
Speaker 1: just helped me like interact with people better. And it's

775
00:41:14,480 --> 00:41:17,239
Speaker 1: just like it's like healing. It's healing power in a community.

776
00:41:17,320 --> 00:41:20,359
Speaker 1: So we all have our tribe, you know, it takes

777
00:41:20,360 --> 00:41:23,920
Speaker 1: a village, and having people that we can rely on,

778
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:26,200
Speaker 1: that we can talk to, that we can vent to,

779
00:41:26,719 --> 00:41:30,320
Speaker 1: that we can reflect to, is important far sanity.

780
00:41:30,680 --> 00:41:35,480
Speaker 3: So and me with a timeline on that dark moment

781
00:41:35,560 --> 00:41:36,120
Speaker 3: for you.

782
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:40,960
Speaker 1: That was shortly, I will say maybe a year after Body.

783
00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:43,600
Speaker 1: There's a lot of great things about Body, but there

784
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:47,520
Speaker 1: was one thing that really it just magnified some things

785
00:41:47,560 --> 00:41:49,960
Speaker 1: that I was going through in my own life, having

786
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:54,600
Speaker 1: to deal with you know, a lot of people talking

787
00:41:54,640 --> 00:41:56,759
Speaker 1: to you, a lot of people looking up to you,

788
00:41:56,880 --> 00:41:59,680
Speaker 1: a lot of people you ever, you know, imposter syndrome

789
00:41:59,800 --> 00:42:02,920
Speaker 1: is you know, you go through these places in your

790
00:42:02,960 --> 00:42:05,239
Speaker 1: life like am I worth this? Am I worthy of this?

791
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:08,439
Speaker 1: If you go deeper into my life. You know, even

792
00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:10,400
Speaker 1: though my mother did raise me, there's two I have

793
00:42:10,480 --> 00:42:14,840
Speaker 1: two mothers. So I left my home at thirteen, and

794
00:42:14,920 --> 00:42:18,719
Speaker 1: I left my house. I ran away and my Italian mother,

795
00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:21,719
Speaker 1: Tanny Petranton, she raised me since I was thirteen years old,

796
00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:24,399
Speaker 1: So there's more to like my childhood. So I came

797
00:42:24,440 --> 00:42:27,560
Speaker 1: with a lot of baggage. I came with this, I'm

798
00:42:27,600 --> 00:42:30,680
Speaker 1: not worth it, my mother let me walk. I'm not

799
00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:32,640
Speaker 1: worth it. I'm not worth it. I'm not worth it.

800
00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:35,480
Speaker 1: And then then I became a trainer. Am I worth it?

801
00:42:35,520 --> 00:42:37,560
Speaker 1: I'm not worth it? Am I worth one hundred dollars

802
00:42:37,600 --> 00:42:39,839
Speaker 1: in a session? Am I worth being a supertrainer? Am I

803
00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:44,239
Speaker 1: worth being your trainer? So it only expanded and and

804
00:42:44,600 --> 00:42:47,160
Speaker 1: it shed a light on like the insecurities that I

805
00:42:47,200 --> 00:42:49,920
Speaker 1: had in my own life. And then it became a prisoner.

806
00:42:49,960 --> 00:42:52,439
Speaker 1: I became a prisoner of my own name because then, y'all,

807
00:42:52,480 --> 00:42:54,520
Speaker 1: you got to be perfect all the time, and now

808
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:57,960
Speaker 1: you got to be this motivator and you can't make mistakes.

809
00:42:58,320 --> 00:43:01,120
Speaker 1: So I just went through a lot of lows, up

810
00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:03,520
Speaker 1: and downs throughout that phase. And then it was also

811
00:43:03,719 --> 00:43:07,879
Speaker 1: affecting the relationships around me, because when you start doing

812
00:43:07,960 --> 00:43:11,840
Speaker 1: better for yourself, people around you not necessarily want the

813
00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:13,879
Speaker 1: same for you. And I just I kind of dealt

814
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:16,360
Speaker 1: with a lot of that, which was unfortunate. And so

815
00:43:16,920 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 1: I would say a year after Beach Body, Yeah, went

816
00:43:20,200 --> 00:43:22,040
Speaker 1: through that dark dase and I had to pull myself

817
00:43:22,080 --> 00:43:25,279
Speaker 1: out of it. And I went through a lot, man,

818
00:43:25,320 --> 00:43:28,080
Speaker 1: I was, I was, I'll be honest, I was getting

819
00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:30,719
Speaker 1: high all the time. I was escaping. Like, there was

820
00:43:30,760 --> 00:43:33,399
Speaker 1: like hurdles I had to go through, And I say, Hi, marijuana, guys,

821
00:43:33,440 --> 00:43:34,359
Speaker 1: I don't do anything else.

822
00:43:34,440 --> 00:43:37,560
Speaker 3: God, man, it's legal where you're at.

823
00:43:37,640 --> 00:43:38,640
Speaker 1: It legal.

824
00:43:38,680 --> 00:43:40,640
Speaker 3: It's legal where I'm at. Shoot, they're selling it down

825
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:41,560
Speaker 3: the street from my apartment.

826
00:43:41,600 --> 00:43:45,480
Speaker 1: Now, that was a hurdle for me because then I

827
00:43:45,520 --> 00:43:49,799
Speaker 1: started using it as a way to escape, and that

828
00:43:50,000 --> 00:43:51,960
Speaker 1: was the big issue for me, and I had to

829
00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:55,560
Speaker 1: learn how to If someone ever told you that marijuana's

830
00:43:55,600 --> 00:43:58,440
Speaker 1: not addicted, they lie. Let y'all know that right now.

831
00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:02,920
Speaker 2: So I think it's the feeling, right, just with alcohol, right,

832
00:44:02,960 --> 00:44:06,840
Speaker 2: It's the opportunity to numb. However it is that you

833
00:44:06,880 --> 00:44:09,400
Speaker 2: may be feeling or just go into this altered state

834
00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:12,720
Speaker 2: where maybe your problems or your troubles just don't feel

835
00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:15,440
Speaker 2: as grand joyce as they did before.

836
00:44:16,040 --> 00:44:17,760
Speaker 1: There were a lot of things that kind of opened

837
00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:20,200
Speaker 1: up my mind that kind of made me realize that

838
00:44:20,280 --> 00:44:23,399
Speaker 1: I have to like dive into myself. The trauma didn't

839
00:44:23,440 --> 00:44:27,400
Speaker 1: start with me have better relationships with my parents. My

840
00:44:27,440 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 1: mother passed away rest in Pease, so nor she passed

841
00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:42,359
Speaker 1: away and twenty twenty sixteen. So that was hard. That

842
00:44:42,480 --> 00:44:44,319
Speaker 1: was hard to adjust too, because there was a lot

843
00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:46,600
Speaker 1: of things that weren't said that I wish was said,

844
00:44:46,640 --> 00:44:48,680
Speaker 1: and there were things that were said that I wish

845
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:52,640
Speaker 1: wasn't said. And so you know, a lot of the

846
00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:56,160
Speaker 1: things that I was going through really stemmed from childhood

847
00:44:56,680 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 1: and you know, just trying to trying to find the

848
00:44:59,680 --> 00:45:02,319
Speaker 1: best way way to handle it. So just expanding and

849
00:45:02,360 --> 00:45:06,360
Speaker 1: opening up my mind too, Okay, okay, look within myself

850
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:07,040
Speaker 1: a little bit more.

851
00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:10,080
Speaker 3: So, Yeah, yeah, thank you for sharing that.

852
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:18,480
Speaker 2: I This is definitely a conversation that is modeled behavior

853
00:45:18,840 --> 00:45:26,160
Speaker 2: in how powerful vulnerability can be. Now you've spoken so

854
00:45:26,880 --> 00:45:29,480
Speaker 2: beautifully about the work that you're doing, the work that

855
00:45:29,520 --> 00:45:35,120
Speaker 2: you've done. Were there individuals in your life that modeled

856
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:40,000
Speaker 2: that level of vulnerability to help you get more comfortable

857
00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:40,520
Speaker 2: with it.

858
00:45:41,800 --> 00:45:47,719
Speaker 1: Unfortunately, no, there weren't any men in my life that

859
00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:51,040
Speaker 1: helped me. But I really say I had some healthy

860
00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:57,239
Speaker 1: relationships and it started with the relationships that I had.

861
00:45:57,360 --> 00:46:00,360
Speaker 1: So I an ex girlfriend, it would it is a

862
00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:05,560
Speaker 1: great relationship. We really like opened up and communicated, and

863
00:46:05,640 --> 00:46:07,880
Speaker 1: I also saw like, man, I really want to be

864
00:46:08,440 --> 00:46:12,120
Speaker 1: the best that I can be for her. But me

865
00:46:12,239 --> 00:46:14,120
Speaker 1: being my best I had to deal with some things.

866
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:17,799
Speaker 1: And so she, you know, she popped the light on it,

867
00:46:17,880 --> 00:46:20,960
Speaker 1: and from there I just started doing the work. But

868
00:46:21,120 --> 00:46:24,360
Speaker 1: I would say I didn't have any role models growing

869
00:46:24,440 --> 00:46:26,480
Speaker 1: up that I could look in and I could see

870
00:46:26,520 --> 00:46:30,360
Speaker 1: myself or because I also didn't open up and I

871
00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:33,360
Speaker 1: didn't have these conversations with the men around me. But

872
00:46:33,440 --> 00:46:36,200
Speaker 1: I would say very vulnerable for me anytime I got

873
00:46:36,200 --> 00:46:40,360
Speaker 1: in relationships and I saw some of my my flaws,

874
00:46:40,840 --> 00:46:43,239
Speaker 1: and I, like I said, at one point in your life,

875
00:46:43,280 --> 00:46:45,600
Speaker 1: you get tired of feeling the way you feel, and

876
00:46:46,040 --> 00:46:47,719
Speaker 1: at one point you're either going to change it or

877
00:46:47,719 --> 00:46:50,839
Speaker 1: you accept it. And I had to change it and

878
00:46:50,880 --> 00:46:52,600
Speaker 1: I wanted to be better. So it started from my

879
00:46:52,640 --> 00:46:55,919
Speaker 1: relationships and that helped me really kind of be who

880
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:58,080
Speaker 1: I am, right now and still continue to try to

881
00:46:58,080 --> 00:46:58,560
Speaker 1: be better.

882
00:46:59,280 --> 00:47:03,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, mentioned that you were able to get out of

883
00:47:03,400 --> 00:47:07,480
Speaker 2: that dark period for you. Aside from the power of

884
00:47:07,560 --> 00:47:11,040
Speaker 2: know which we talked about earlier, what else would you

885
00:47:11,200 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 2: say really helped you break through that barrier to the

886
00:47:16,040 --> 00:47:16,680
Speaker 2: other side.

887
00:47:17,360 --> 00:47:19,520
Speaker 1: What I would say the biggest change for me was

888
00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:24,480
Speaker 1: my inner monologue, the way I speak to myself. I

889
00:47:24,480 --> 00:47:27,400
Speaker 1: didn't realize I had a bad relationship with myself. So

890
00:47:27,600 --> 00:47:30,160
Speaker 1: your internal world will be your external world the way

891
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:32,960
Speaker 1: you You'll just trouble or find you or things will

892
00:47:32,960 --> 00:47:35,399
Speaker 1: never go your way. Because if you wake up and like, nah,

893
00:47:35,640 --> 00:47:37,879
Speaker 1: I'm not feeling good, Today's gonna be a crappy day.

894
00:47:38,040 --> 00:47:41,520
Speaker 1: Guess what's gonna happen? You have a crappy day. And

895
00:47:41,680 --> 00:47:43,720
Speaker 1: there was a point where, like I told you earlier,

896
00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:47,000
Speaker 1: I'm an overthinker, So if anything went wrong in my life,

897
00:47:47,080 --> 00:47:50,320
Speaker 1: I overthought it so much to the point I started

898
00:47:50,320 --> 00:47:53,200
Speaker 1: getting sick, to the point where I had a cold.

899
00:47:53,239 --> 00:47:55,080
Speaker 1: And there was a point I had a cold for

900
00:47:55,160 --> 00:47:56,920
Speaker 1: like three weeks straight and I was like, what is

901
00:47:56,960 --> 00:47:59,919
Speaker 1: going on? Didn't have COVID, I couldn't figure it out.

902
00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:03,839
Speaker 1: And I realize it's just from the overthinking. So once

903
00:48:03,880 --> 00:48:06,040
Speaker 1: I realize I have the power to make myself sick,

904
00:48:06,360 --> 00:48:08,200
Speaker 1: and that means I have the power to make myself strong,

905
00:48:08,840 --> 00:48:13,680
Speaker 1: And so I change my inner monologue. I wake up,

906
00:48:14,200 --> 00:48:17,000
Speaker 1: my morning routines are different. The way I talk to myself.

907
00:48:17,040 --> 00:48:19,600
Speaker 1: It's like an incantation that I have over myself. I

908
00:48:19,680 --> 00:48:21,719
Speaker 1: cast a spell like today's going to be a great day.

909
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:25,960
Speaker 1: I'm amazing, life's great, things are just. And then that

910
00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:28,800
Speaker 1: I feel it to the point I get goosebumps across

911
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:31,920
Speaker 1: my body and I feel alive. And then once I

912
00:48:31,960 --> 00:48:34,440
Speaker 1: started changing the way I spoke to myself, and I

913
00:48:34,480 --> 00:48:38,000
Speaker 1: saw the power behind that. You know, my training change.

914
00:48:38,000 --> 00:48:39,760
Speaker 1: I'm telling you. When you go through a dark place

915
00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:42,359
Speaker 1: and you got to pull yourself out of it, and

916
00:48:42,400 --> 00:48:44,200
Speaker 1: you find the strength to pull yourself out of it,

917
00:48:44,280 --> 00:48:46,480
Speaker 1: everything changes. The way you look at the world changes,

918
00:48:46,480 --> 00:48:48,600
Speaker 1: the way you talk to people changes, the way everything

919
00:48:48,640 --> 00:48:53,520
Speaker 1: that you do changes. And so that is the key

920
00:48:53,600 --> 00:48:56,000
Speaker 1: to me, is the way I speak to myself. I

921
00:48:56,120 --> 00:48:58,799
Speaker 1: gotta love myself. I have to love myself because the

922
00:48:58,800 --> 00:49:00,880
Speaker 1: world's gonna hate you no matter what. So find a

923
00:49:00,880 --> 00:49:04,200
Speaker 1: way to love yourself. And once that happened, now people

924
00:49:04,320 --> 00:49:09,720
Speaker 1: around me are loving people. My circle has completely changed

925
00:49:10,040 --> 00:49:12,560
Speaker 1: and I don't have I wouldn't say I don't have

926
00:49:12,560 --> 00:49:14,839
Speaker 1: the energy of a patience, but I don't have any

927
00:49:14,880 --> 00:49:18,160
Speaker 1: negativity around me. And I also learned how to distance

928
00:49:18,239 --> 00:49:21,040
Speaker 1: myself from things as well. And if it doesn't serve

929
00:49:21,120 --> 00:49:24,160
Speaker 1: me respectfully, that doesn't mean that I'm being selfish. I

930
00:49:24,239 --> 00:49:27,320
Speaker 1: just have to protect this temple my mind, my body,

931
00:49:27,400 --> 00:49:30,520
Speaker 1: my spirit. And once I started doing that, like life

932
00:49:30,560 --> 00:49:33,479
Speaker 1: is so much better, And it really came from the mind.

933
00:49:34,280 --> 00:49:40,040
Speaker 2: You're completely allowed to be selfish right in the pursuit

934
00:49:40,440 --> 00:49:44,160
Speaker 2: of that positivity, in the pursuit of you being your

935
00:49:44,200 --> 00:49:47,920
Speaker 2: best self, you then draw back what you are putting

936
00:49:47,960 --> 00:49:51,880
Speaker 2: into the world, so you are that positive energy and

937
00:49:51,880 --> 00:49:55,080
Speaker 2: then you'll be met with that positive energy back.

938
00:49:55,560 --> 00:50:01,000
Speaker 1: Yes, And it's literally how it works. And like I,

939
00:50:01,000 --> 00:50:03,520
Speaker 1: if anyone's struggling right now going through that, try it,

940
00:50:03,600 --> 00:50:07,120
Speaker 1: try it, Try it for a week, try it right now.

941
00:50:07,200 --> 00:50:10,480
Speaker 1: Just like tell yourself, you know what I'm saying, I'm amazing.

942
00:50:11,200 --> 00:50:13,719
Speaker 1: It could be your affirmation, it could be your mantras,

943
00:50:14,320 --> 00:50:16,719
Speaker 1: it can be this code of ethic that you live by.

944
00:50:16,840 --> 00:50:19,840
Speaker 1: But anytime you find yourself dipping, you know, have that moment.

945
00:50:19,920 --> 00:50:23,680
Speaker 1: And it's good to have these these little mantras around

946
00:50:23,760 --> 00:50:27,280
Speaker 1: or just these little sayings that you love that way

947
00:50:27,360 --> 00:50:29,680
Speaker 1: that you know it can remind yourself. Like I always say,

948
00:50:29,719 --> 00:50:32,520
Speaker 1: I'm built for this. I'm built for this, like regardless

949
00:50:32,560 --> 00:50:34,680
Speaker 1: of what pressure, it is, built for this. And so

950
00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:37,840
Speaker 1: like finding little things that help you is very important.

951
00:50:37,960 --> 00:50:41,360
Speaker 1: And if you're in a dark place, try that, try that. Definitely,

952
00:50:41,680 --> 00:50:44,080
Speaker 1: go for a walk, take time for yourself.

953
00:50:44,480 --> 00:50:49,640
Speaker 2: Code of ethics that you live by. What is part

954
00:50:50,000 --> 00:50:52,280
Speaker 2: of your code of ethects?

955
00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:56,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, so for me, there's one thing within the small

956
00:50:56,600 --> 00:50:59,840
Speaker 1: things your strength lives. So that's just one of my

957
00:51:00,280 --> 00:51:03,399
Speaker 1: like little mantras that I hold because it's like being

958
00:51:03,440 --> 00:51:06,759
Speaker 1: faithful to the process. Like I gotta be faithful to

959
00:51:06,800 --> 00:51:10,320
Speaker 1: the process, surrendered to the outcome. Be faithful to the process,

960
00:51:10,320 --> 00:51:12,719
Speaker 1: surrendered to the outcome. As long as I'm constantly doing

961
00:51:12,760 --> 00:51:15,640
Speaker 1: the work trying to get better at myself, I know

962
00:51:15,800 --> 00:51:17,319
Speaker 1: life is going to be good. I'm going to be

963
00:51:17,320 --> 00:51:20,239
Speaker 1: in alignment. I'm gonna walk. So my code of ethic is,

964
00:51:20,280 --> 00:51:24,480
Speaker 1: you know, be good to myself, love myself, eat well.

965
00:51:25,120 --> 00:51:29,400
Speaker 1: Move doesn't have to be exercise and just move, you know,

966
00:51:29,600 --> 00:51:33,279
Speaker 1: speak to my loved ones, call them more. If there's

967
00:51:33,320 --> 00:51:35,440
Speaker 1: a thought on my mind, If someone's on my mind,

968
00:51:35,680 --> 00:51:40,160
Speaker 1: give them a call, don't wait. If just little things

969
00:51:40,200 --> 00:51:42,720
Speaker 1: like that throughout the day, like and it makes you happy,

970
00:51:42,760 --> 00:51:46,080
Speaker 1: it's a skill. It's like I have this bias. You know,

971
00:51:46,120 --> 00:51:49,200
Speaker 1: it's biased, but it's it's it's important, Like I tell

972
00:51:49,239 --> 00:51:51,960
Speaker 1: myself these things, or if I tell somebody. So I

973
00:51:52,000 --> 00:51:56,560
Speaker 1: had a problem, like I said earlier, with smoking. So

974
00:51:56,640 --> 00:51:58,920
Speaker 1: then when my friends would see me, they're like, Yo,

975
00:51:58,960 --> 00:52:01,279
Speaker 1: how's the we going. I'm like doing better. I'm off

976
00:52:01,280 --> 00:52:04,920
Speaker 1: the week I was being biased, right, I'm lying a little.

977
00:52:05,160 --> 00:52:08,000
Speaker 1: But then what ended up happening was I had to

978
00:52:08,280 --> 00:52:10,560
Speaker 1: man up to those words, and I kept saying that.

979
00:52:10,640 --> 00:52:12,480
Speaker 1: I kept saying that. I kept saying that, and that

980
00:52:12,560 --> 00:52:15,120
Speaker 1: helped me get away from it because I want to

981
00:52:15,120 --> 00:52:17,880
Speaker 1: be better, so I have to do better, and so

982
00:52:18,440 --> 00:52:21,120
Speaker 1: you know, just doing a little, small little things throughout

983
00:52:21,160 --> 00:52:25,240
Speaker 1: the day to make me happy. Also not to desire

984
00:52:25,320 --> 00:52:28,400
Speaker 1: too much. You know, we desire so many things and

985
00:52:28,400 --> 00:52:30,240
Speaker 1: then we don't achieve it, and then we're not happy.

986
00:52:31,160 --> 00:52:33,840
Speaker 1: And like I've learned to come be at peace with

987
00:52:33,920 --> 00:52:36,439
Speaker 1: what's for me is what's for me, and if it's

988
00:52:36,440 --> 00:52:38,719
Speaker 1: not for me, I'm okay with that. But when I

989
00:52:38,760 --> 00:52:41,080
Speaker 1: would desire all these things, it felt like I was

990
00:52:41,400 --> 00:52:44,520
Speaker 1: signing a contract with myself. Until I got it, I

991
00:52:44,520 --> 00:52:47,960
Speaker 1: will never be happy. And once I learned that, you know,

992
00:52:48,040 --> 00:52:50,239
Speaker 1: I didn't look for the body. I didn't look for

993
00:52:50,320 --> 00:52:53,359
Speaker 1: these job opportunities. They came, but they all came from

994
00:52:53,360 --> 00:52:55,960
Speaker 1: my habits and my rituals. And as long as I

995
00:52:55,960 --> 00:52:58,959
Speaker 1: have good, healthy habits and rituals, I know everything works

996
00:52:59,000 --> 00:52:59,520
Speaker 1: out from there.

997
00:53:01,080 --> 00:53:04,040
Speaker 2: Hit me with a couple of the habits in your

998
00:53:04,080 --> 00:53:06,560
Speaker 2: life that you cannot imagine your routine without.

999
00:53:06,960 --> 00:53:11,040
Speaker 1: Okay, get up my information in the morning, So in

1000
00:53:11,080 --> 00:53:14,759
Speaker 1: the morning practice so when I wake up, basically, i'll

1001
00:53:14,760 --> 00:53:17,040
Speaker 1: play and my informations are different, right, it could be

1002
00:53:17,080 --> 00:53:19,359
Speaker 1: different every day. I'll play some music that just makes

1003
00:53:19,400 --> 00:53:23,360
Speaker 1: me happy. I look good, I look slagged like just

1004
00:53:23,440 --> 00:53:26,760
Speaker 1: certain things. Right, it's just funny. It's funny. It doesn't

1005
00:53:26,760 --> 00:53:28,800
Speaker 1: have to be serious. I don't have to take myself serious.

1006
00:53:29,200 --> 00:53:31,200
Speaker 1: But I just do things that like make me feel

1007
00:53:31,280 --> 00:53:34,680
Speaker 1: light throughout the day. Then I'll always work out in

1008
00:53:34,719 --> 00:53:37,239
Speaker 1: the morning. I always work out in the morning. I

1009
00:53:37,280 --> 00:53:39,400
Speaker 1: can't miss it. If there's some days that I miss it.

1010
00:53:39,400 --> 00:53:41,640
Speaker 1: I'll work out after, but working out is important for me.

1011
00:53:42,480 --> 00:53:45,760
Speaker 1: I take a cold shower. A cold shower every single

1012
00:53:45,800 --> 00:53:48,480
Speaker 1: day has been game changer for me because then it

1013
00:53:48,560 --> 00:53:51,440
Speaker 1: helps me just kind of stay in this this relax

1014
00:53:51,560 --> 00:53:55,400
Speaker 1: and this this different state of mind. My food is

1015
00:53:55,440 --> 00:53:57,880
Speaker 1: always clean. I always make sure I'm eating pretty clean.

1016
00:54:00,120 --> 00:54:01,800
Speaker 1: Like I said, you know, I'll check in on my

1017
00:54:01,920 --> 00:54:04,319
Speaker 1: dad first thing in the morning, like Pops, what you're

1018
00:54:04,360 --> 00:54:06,960
Speaker 1: up to, how you doing. We'll talk and then I

1019
00:54:06,960 --> 00:54:09,280
Speaker 1: can move on about my day. And so from there,

1020
00:54:09,640 --> 00:54:12,279
Speaker 1: if it's a book that I want to read, if

1021
00:54:12,320 --> 00:54:14,960
Speaker 1: it's programming that I have to do, if it's filming,

1022
00:54:15,000 --> 00:54:17,279
Speaker 1: I just I'm in a better mind space for it

1023
00:54:17,320 --> 00:54:20,759
Speaker 1: to do it because I did the important things and

1024
00:54:19,840 --> 00:54:24,120
Speaker 1: my habits and rituals before I can go on throughout

1025
00:54:24,120 --> 00:54:24,680
Speaker 1: my day.

1026
00:54:25,440 --> 00:54:29,800
Speaker 2: Putting on the oxygen mask. Before you help everybody else.

1027
00:54:29,920 --> 00:54:30,319
Speaker 2: I get it.

1028
00:54:30,320 --> 00:54:31,720
Speaker 3: I'm a big morning routine person.

1029
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:35,440
Speaker 2: You spoke a little bit earlier about navigating the challenges

1030
00:54:35,440 --> 00:54:38,480
Speaker 2: that go hand in hand with being a pretty public person,

1031
00:54:39,000 --> 00:54:43,960
Speaker 2: with joining the Body family and gaining a larger following. Now,

1032
00:54:44,000 --> 00:54:46,600
Speaker 2: these people that come to your social media and they

1033
00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:52,040
Speaker 2: see a supertrainer, creator of all these great programs. When

1034
00:54:52,160 --> 00:54:54,600
Speaker 2: you while to look in the mirror, what is it

1035
00:54:54,640 --> 00:54:57,160
Speaker 2: that you see looking back at you.

1036
00:54:58,480 --> 00:55:05,080
Speaker 1: That's a great question. I see a kid still learning,

1037
00:55:06,719 --> 00:55:09,680
Speaker 1: you know, and I'm proud about that. As a coach,

1038
00:55:09,760 --> 00:55:13,160
Speaker 1: you think you have to know it all. And once

1039
00:55:13,200 --> 00:55:15,640
Speaker 1: I learned that no one knows it all, and no

1040
00:55:15,680 --> 00:55:19,239
Speaker 1: one is that much smarter or that much this, it

1041
00:55:19,320 --> 00:55:22,120
Speaker 1: was easier for me to kind of like let go

1042
00:55:22,160 --> 00:55:24,000
Speaker 1: of the reins a little bit and kind of live

1043
00:55:24,040 --> 00:55:25,600
Speaker 1: a little bit. I felt like I was living like

1044
00:55:26,280 --> 00:55:31,000
Speaker 1: a very constipated life because everything was so like I

1045
00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:32,959
Speaker 1: would live a little, I'll stop, I'll live a little,

1046
00:55:33,000 --> 00:55:36,400
Speaker 1: I'll stop, And now I'm just letting life just flow.

1047
00:55:37,000 --> 00:55:40,080
Speaker 1: And so what I see in myself is this young

1048
00:55:40,160 --> 00:55:42,680
Speaker 1: kid that's still trying to learn get better every single day,

1049
00:55:44,000 --> 00:55:48,759
Speaker 1: who is always I'm always going to respect you, always

1050
00:55:49,280 --> 00:55:53,160
Speaker 1: always going to show respect. I'm always going to have empathy.

1051
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:57,320
Speaker 1: And I think empathy and respect is very important. And

1052
00:55:57,360 --> 00:55:59,280
Speaker 1: I think that's what I see it myself more than anything,

1053
00:55:59,320 --> 00:56:00,920
Speaker 1: and I just want to be better. I know that,

1054
00:56:02,560 --> 00:56:04,640
Speaker 1: you know, it's important for who I am as a person,

1055
00:56:04,680 --> 00:56:07,319
Speaker 1: as a man, and I know that as long as

1056
00:56:07,320 --> 00:56:10,120
Speaker 1: I'm constantly doing that work, I'm going to be great.

1057
00:56:10,640 --> 00:56:12,919
Speaker 1: It just has to be as long as I'm doing

1058
00:56:12,960 --> 00:56:14,759
Speaker 1: the work. So, like I said earlier, it's just being

1059
00:56:14,760 --> 00:56:18,680
Speaker 1: faithful to whatever that is for me and staying faithful

1060
00:56:18,719 --> 00:56:18,920
Speaker 1: to that.

1061
00:56:20,280 --> 00:56:21,960
Speaker 3: What excites you right now?

1062
00:56:23,160 --> 00:56:26,960
Speaker 1: What excites me? Everything excites me, So like the programming,

1063
00:56:27,160 --> 00:56:29,600
Speaker 1: everything that I'm doing right now excites me. The work

1064
00:56:29,600 --> 00:56:32,560
Speaker 1: that I'm doing right now with my clients excite me.

1065
00:56:34,239 --> 00:56:36,719
Speaker 1: Being able, even if it's like being able to just

1066
00:56:36,760 --> 00:56:38,680
Speaker 1: go to the beach, I get excited for that right

1067
00:56:38,719 --> 00:56:41,359
Speaker 1: because these are choices that I get to make. And

1068
00:56:42,200 --> 00:56:45,319
Speaker 1: I hope everyone at a point in their lives take

1069
00:56:45,360 --> 00:56:48,520
Speaker 1: control of their lives. And one of the best ways

1070
00:56:48,520 --> 00:56:51,080
Speaker 1: that helped me was just getting more disciplined. And once

1071
00:56:51,120 --> 00:56:54,520
Speaker 1: I got more disciplined, paradoxically, it allowed me to have

1072
00:56:54,520 --> 00:56:59,480
Speaker 1: more freedom. And so that's something that was important for me.

1073
00:56:59,600 --> 00:57:03,799
Speaker 1: And it can be a meal and I'm excited. I

1074
00:57:03,840 --> 00:57:05,520
Speaker 1: just want to be like a pupp I want to

1075
00:57:05,520 --> 00:57:08,080
Speaker 1: be a dog, a happy little puppy that's just excited

1076
00:57:08,880 --> 00:57:12,440
Speaker 1: you came home. So like everything in my life now

1077
00:57:12,840 --> 00:57:15,120
Speaker 1: excites me. If I get an opportunity to work with

1078
00:57:15,200 --> 00:57:17,919
Speaker 1: anyone that excites me, doesn't matter what level it's at.

1079
00:57:18,120 --> 00:57:20,640
Speaker 1: So I think everything.

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Speaker 2: Right now discipline being a game changer for those that

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Speaker 2: struggle with it. What's one small actionable tip that you

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Speaker 2: can offer to help them home in on that scale?

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Speaker 1: Right? Five minute actions five minutes, doesn't matter what it

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Speaker 1: is you want to you you want to read, and

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Speaker 1: you don't have the time to read. Read for five minutes,

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Speaker 1: and guess what happens. What ends up happening. It happened,

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Speaker 1: never fails. Once I read five minutes and I'm I'm

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Speaker 1: continuing to keep reading, and I get the ball rolling.

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Speaker 1: You know, breaking their nurser is the hardest part. So

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Speaker 1: you know, learning to take these five minute actions. It

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Speaker 1: could be working out, it can be talking, making a call,

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Speaker 1: whatever you've been dreading to do. If you give it

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Speaker 1: five minutes, I promise you it'll start. You'll just do it.

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Speaker 1: So those are things that I'm very disciplined about, and

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Speaker 1: those are things that I always do regardless. And also

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Speaker 1: I'm graceful about myself. If I don't finish that book,

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Speaker 1: it's cool as long as I started it, and I'm

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Speaker 1: continuing to do this and keep going forward and break

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Speaker 1: the inertia. I'm going to be great about it. Life

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Speaker 1: is not linear. It's curvature. It's like stocks. It goes

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Speaker 1: up and down. But as long as it's still going up,

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Speaker 1: then I know I'm winning. And so that's how I

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Speaker 1: look at my life.

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Speaker 3: I love that. All Right, we're winding down here right now.

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Speaker 2: You have a chance to offer yourself a piece of advice.

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Speaker 3: Let's set yourself up back.

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Speaker 2: At that dark period around about a year after joining body.

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Speaker 2: You have an opportunity, knowing what you know now, to

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Speaker 2: offer yourself a piece of advice. Going through that dark time,

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Speaker 2: What do you tell yourself?

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Speaker 1: Tell myself everything's gonna be okay. Tell myself that I'm happy.

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Speaker 1: And if I'm sad, it's okay. It's okay to be sad.

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Speaker 1: It's okay. Honor those feelings, but don't stay there, and

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Speaker 1: the moment you get tired of being there, do something

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Speaker 1: about it. I think we think that we're just going

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Speaker 1: to be wake up one day and be happy. That

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Speaker 1: does not happen. Like that doesn't matter. If you hit

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Speaker 1: the lotto and you make millions, you'll never be happy

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Speaker 1: unless you apply skills and so for me, I thought

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Speaker 1: that one day, once I became this, I would be happy.

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Speaker 1: That didn't happen for me, So then I had to

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Speaker 1: learn what happiness actually means. And happiness for me is

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Speaker 1: I'm an overthinker, so I want to be a clear thinker.

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Speaker 1: So once I became a clear thinker and I was

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Speaker 1: able to stop living in the past and the future.

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Speaker 1: That helps so young me or depress me. It's okay,

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Speaker 1: honor where you are. But again, if you're super tired

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Speaker 1: of it and tired of being there, then you got

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Speaker 1: to do something about it, because it's not just going

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Speaker 1: to go away, but also get up, call your family,

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Speaker 1: go for a walk, nature's therapy, Eat good because how

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Speaker 1: you eat will affect your mood. And move just constantly,

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Speaker 1: keep moving. And what ends up happening is you work

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Speaker 1: yourself out of these dark places. Or do an affirmation

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Speaker 1: every day until you get goosebumps. Play a song every

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Speaker 1: single day until it makes you feel alive, till it

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Speaker 1: brings you joy. Find things that bring you joy and

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Speaker 1: actually apply them. And that's the advice that I will give.

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Speaker 2: Find things that bring you join. I'm so happy that

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Speaker 2: we're able to make this happen. For the hurdlers that

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Speaker 2: don't yet follow along with you, give us the info.

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Speaker 3: How do they do that? How do you keep up

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Speaker 3: with you?

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Speaker 1: You can follow me on on Instagram or my website.

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Speaker 1: My Name'smala dot Caesar at dot com on my website,

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Speaker 1: or you can just do Amala Caesar on Instagram and

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Speaker 1: you'll be able to find me. No one has my

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Speaker 1: name but my father, so if you just type in

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Speaker 1: my first name, you'll find it. Promise you that so.

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Speaker 3: Easy, peasy.

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Speaker 2: I'm over at Emileybody at Hurdle Podcast Another hurdle concord.

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Speaker 3: Catch you guys next time