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Speaker 1: My sister's affair is getting out of hand. She's begging

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Speaker 1: me not to tell her husband, but I don't care.

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Speaker 2: Am I the a whole? Ooh?

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Speaker 3: The question is do I tell the husband?

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Speaker 2: Yes? Do I rock with my fam? I'm blood.

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Speaker 3: The repercussions of you telling the husband could damage like

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Speaker 3: your sister's relationship forever. But I would encourage her to

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Speaker 3: tell the truth.

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Speaker 2: That's right. Yeah, But do we need to make an ultimatum?

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Speaker 3: Ooh? An ultimatum? Ultimatums are the sign of a great relationship.

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Speaker 3: I've heard always, I hear that's how you start of

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Speaker 3: better things.

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Speaker 2: That's right. Ultimatums your way forward.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, ultimatums. If you haven't tried it, you don't love

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Speaker 3: your partner enough.

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Speaker 2: Boom.

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Speaker 1: Well let's see if we got one in this story,

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Speaker 1: I female thirty, caught my sister, female forty, cheating on

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Speaker 1: her husband, male forty nine with a guy male forty.

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Speaker 2: So this might complicate it way more.

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Speaker 3: That's double damage because you're seeing your sister get boned

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Speaker 3: and you're seeing your sister cheat on your husband. Just

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Speaker 3: bleach my eyes at that point.

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Speaker 1: Right, I was shocked because my sister and her husband

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Speaker 1: are the epitome for love that never dies. Literally, they

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Speaker 1: have been together for fifteen years and they still look

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Speaker 1: so much in love the way they treat each other.

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Speaker 1: I felt anger and despair because I love my brother

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Speaker 1: in law as a big brother, and he has been

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Speaker 1: there for my sister when she has been at her

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Speaker 1: worst mentally. He was there taking care of her without

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Speaker 3: This is so rough, dude, tough, fucking rough and tough

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Speaker 3: and humble.

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Speaker 1: Now that I found out, I confronted her and she

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Speaker 1: tried to deny it. I told her that she was

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Speaker 1: pathetic and now I hope she's happy with herself. After

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Speaker 1: her husband nursed her back to health, she is paying

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Speaker 1: him back with cheating on him. Not the best way

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Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, well maybe she is like now that I'm

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Speaker 3: better and was so close to I don't know, a

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Speaker 3: mental breakdown on her death. Now I really want to

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Speaker 3: live life. Yeah, to the fullest, Well, the fullest. I

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Speaker 3: got all those dick and downs.

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Speaker 2: Right, every dong this side of the Mississippi.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel bad for the husband, so do I.

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Speaker 3: No good deed goes unpunished.

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Speaker 2: That's right.

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Speaker 1: I told her I was going to expose her, and

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Speaker 1: she was begging me and crying, telling me I didn't understand.

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Speaker 3: She's like, I already exposed myself to you. Did he

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Speaker 3: expose me? More?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 1: I can't handle double triple exposure? My god, please don't

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Speaker 1: hurt us. You will be hurting my husband more than

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Speaker 1: you hurt me.

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Speaker 2: It's the truth and like.

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Speaker 3: No hiss, Like her husband will definitely be hurt.

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Speaker 2: But should he continue to live a lie? Red pill,

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Speaker 2: blue pill?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I think it's just like, is it ultimately up to

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Speaker 3: you to put yourself in that relationship? I think it

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Speaker 3: depends on how close he is to the brother. Like,

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Speaker 3: if it's like a really good friend, then maybe like

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Speaker 3: because of that friendship, he owes it to the friend.

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Speaker 2: It's female. By the way, op is female?

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Speaker 3: Oh, Opie is female?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, then I think OP sees her friendship with the

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Speaker 3: brother in law is significant. Then I think it makes

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, it's kind of tough because even if it's

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Speaker 1: not there, does the partner generally deserve to kind of

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Speaker 1: just like no know the truth essentially is happening?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 3: I think I think yes, Like I would want to

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think the question is like how

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Speaker 1: where it's like either you're telling them or I'm telling them.

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Speaker 3: Yeah right, so it's best coming from the partner.

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Speaker 2: Yes, hundred percent.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. After a few days, she asked to meet me.

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Speaker 1: She looked like she was crying the whole time. She

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Speaker 1: that's rough.

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Speaker 2: I didn't believe her.

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Speaker 1: So she showed me all the text and emails she

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Speaker 1: He hasn't touched her for almost twelve years.

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Speaker 3: What whoa?

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Speaker 1: And also, just to be super clear, impotent to me

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there we go.

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Speaker 2: Well, what are the other erections? A platonic erection.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I have for this twitch girl, an

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Speaker 3: intellectual erection, an intellectual direction. Her depression was because of it,

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Speaker 3: and her back to health was because of this new guy. Okay,

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Speaker 3: so her kind of like coming out of this like

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Speaker 2: Apparently.

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Speaker 1: She said that since she started sleeping with him, she

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Speaker 1: have been happier. I asked her why she doesn't just

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, Well, I mean, like, if you can't fulfill

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Speaker 3: your partner's sexual desires, that I think is a issue

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Speaker 3: in a relationship, and like the answer isn't cheating. The

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Speaker 3: situation that works for you both. If they haven't touched

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Speaker 3: get dicked down, Like like that's just that is a

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Speaker 3: human right in a relationship. And so brother, hey, and

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Speaker 3: so like, I don't know I feel for her, but

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Speaker 1: Husband one hundred percent like I think it's, you know, sex,

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Speaker 1: What kind of you know, resolutions can we do? And

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Speaker 1: it also sounds like the brother in law, I mean

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Speaker 2: You know, that's very bad.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think, I mean, I think she just needs

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Speaker 3: going to hurt. It's not necessarily the act of like

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Speaker 3: having sex with someone else. It is breaking the trust

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Speaker 3: in the relationship. That's like the real hard part, one

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Speaker 1: She says, don't you see that we are all happy,

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Speaker 1: Please don't hurt us. Now about the guy she met

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Speaker 1: maybe you could see if anyone's ah doc.

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Speaker 3: He's a famous entrepreneur in our famous impotent noodle.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh god, she showed me texts, et cetera.

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Speaker 2: He is also married, but he has three children.

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Speaker 1: Oh the guy that she's hooking up with the affair, ah.

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Speaker 3: Damn, that's even more difficult.

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Speaker 4: He's like got it all, dude, rock Hard company and

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Speaker 4: is full, and he has the same problem with his

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Speaker 1: Yesterday she asked me to meet her. She was with

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Speaker 1: him the audacity.

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Speaker 2: Whoa oh, bit's.

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Speaker 3: Bringing everyone to the gunfight. But I don't know. I think, well,

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Speaker 3: she should again say that she's going to bring him beforehand.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, I think it makes sense for them all

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Speaker 1: It like, all of this could have the action she

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Speaker 1: took could have been okay if she like brought the.

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Speaker 3: Things properly, like tap debt, you know, got.

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Speaker 1: Agreement and consensus with everyone. She looked totally broken, and

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Speaker 1: he looked smug and angry, and he didn't even want

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Speaker 1: all the people that would be hurt if this came out,

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Speaker 3: I think that's a great solution. I mean, I think

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Speaker 1: Literally, what do we have left, Like, you've already broken

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Speaker 1: from this point on out, exactly, Yeah, and maybe come

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Speaker 2: But though I don't know what to do.

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Speaker 1: She said that she kept her husband's secret because he

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Speaker 1: didn't agree to an open marriage.

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Speaker 3: Oh so she already talked about it, and he's like, no,

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Speaker 3: I don't want an open marriage.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I think you're it.

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Speaker 1: Doesn't say that super super explicit, but yeah, I was like,

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I think you're right. I think they've already discussed, right, dud.

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Speaker 1: She swore it was over with this other guy too,

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Speaker 1: and showed me texts where they had a huge fight

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Speaker 1: because he actually thinks I should tell her husband so

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Speaker 1: they could be together, but I don't know. He has

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Speaker 1: given her a Cardia Love ring that she still has, Riley,

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Speaker 1: can you look up how much Cardia Love rings are?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's like really it's an expensive brand, right?

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I'm pretty sure super expensive.

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Speaker 5: Uh I'm seeing like twelve hundred Come on.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that seems that seems low. It means thousands of dollars.

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Speaker 1: I guess it depends on what. Okay, hasn't it but.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, okay, so there's one Rose Gold diamonds. It's

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Speaker 5: like seventy two hundredesh.

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Speaker 1: Thousands of dollars for sure, at least at least and

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Speaker 1: that ring she still had on When I confronted her,

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Speaker 1: she said she couldn't throw an expensive ring away, but

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Speaker 1: that she will donate it. She wears it in a

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Speaker 1: chain underneath her clothes. I'm sorry this is getting long,

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Speaker 1: but I wanted to include all the details. Hope you

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Speaker 1: can give me an honest gestion. She's wearing the affair

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Speaker 1: ring currently. Yes, that's crazy.

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Speaker 2: She doesn't want to throw it away, like donate it?

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Speaker 2: Then donate it.

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Speaker 3: Like, yeah, I'm sure, I put it here in a box.

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Speaker 3: Don't flaunt it and wear it. That's crazy.

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Speaker 3: Because I think the right thing to do is to

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Speaker 3: You know, but it's like, are you comfortable living a lie?

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Speaker 3: And it's ope comfortable, you know, like living with that

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And I don't think that Op's sister deserves to

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Speaker 3: It feels like the relationship is just like what doesn't work? Yeah,

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Speaker 3: that's exactly what it feels like. I think Ope should

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Speaker 1: Yes, I think it is good to ultimately know the truth.

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Speaker 3: She texted me, do you feel any better right now?

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Speaker 3: How could you do this to me? I loved you.

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Speaker 3: You ruined my life, girl, I mean, you ruined your

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Speaker 2: By not but you could have brought this to the forefront.

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Speaker 3: You know you're not taking responsibility for your actions right now?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, in this instance, one hundred percent. I didn't want

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Speaker 1: I think op did the right thing the brother in law.

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Speaker 1: It's like, let's move away from all of this craziness

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Speaker 2: Do you think OPI should bow out at this point?

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Speaker 3: I mean, I don't like unless the brother in law

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Speaker 2: Well, let's see what Opie does.

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Speaker 3: Update.

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Speaker 1: I'm still giving a lot of messages about an update

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Speaker 2: They are fine. My brother in law is very.

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Speaker 1: Hurt and destroyed, but he assured me that he wasn't

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Speaker 1: She doesn't talk to me, and I get that, but

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Speaker 1: But let's face it, it was her own doing, and

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Speaker 2: My parents are very angry with my sister. They're not

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Speaker 1: The only thing they thought I could have done right differently,

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Speaker 3: I might have to revise my previous answer, but let's

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Speaker 1: As for her lover, I didn't know he was married,

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Speaker 1: he didn't seem to care either way. Boy, I hope

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Speaker 1: he doesn't have a prenup and she takes him for

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Speaker 4: SHH.

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Speaker 2: That's all for today.

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Speaker 1: I won't be making these frequent updates. If anything of

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Speaker 3: I was thinking while you were reading, like, if I've

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Speaker 3: But I wouldn't have butt in into that relationship because

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Speaker 2: Yeah. It's the challenge then becomes what if the.

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Speaker 3: Person, Yeah, if the outright refuse, Like if I don't

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Speaker 3: I saw that it happened, bro, like you should really

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I definitely think there's like there's like a line

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Speaker 1: you know, so where where is that line?

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Speaker 1: Honestly, I'm curious for everyone watching right now, like a,

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Speaker 1: you kind of come across your own scenario kind of

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Speaker 1: I'm still not like ruining your relationship and you've already

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Speaker 3: How doing that? You approach a complex situation? Dude, it's

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Speaker 2: Yeah, one hundred percent.

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Speaker 3: But let us know what you would do. Put your

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Speaker 3: want to do, Oh, what I want to get into

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Speaker 3: this next story?

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Speaker 2: Fait it to me.