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Speaker 1: My sister blackmailed me, destroyed my marriage, made me homeless,

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Speaker 1: and now she wants forgiveness.

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Speaker 2: That sounds like a raw deal to me.

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Speaker 1: This shark tank deal would be the worst shark Tank

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Speaker 1: deal of all time?

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Speaker 2: Are you kidding me?

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Speaker 3: Ten percent for destroying my life, excommunicating me from my family,

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Speaker 3: blackmailing me?

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Speaker 1: No, no way, no temper zero And for that reason,

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Speaker 1: I'm out done. I need a little advice on the matter.

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Speaker 1: Is I don't know what to do anymore. I was

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Speaker 1: Starts off good.

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Speaker 2: Of course.

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Speaker 1: He was the absolute light of my life. We had

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Speaker 1: known each other since preschool. Our families are very close.

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Speaker 1: You would come to have dinner with us on a

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Speaker 1: daily basis, and vice versa. He doesn't have any siblings,

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Speaker 1: but I have two older sisters, which is very important

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Speaker 1: as he was also close with them. We grew up

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Speaker 1: together and we started dating. I don't think our parents

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Speaker 1: stopped celebrating four weeks. He helped me deal with a

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Speaker 1: little weight and my mother berated me saying he was

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Speaker 1: going to leave me, he told her off and said

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Speaker 1: he loved me for who I was, not what I

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Speaker 1: looked like.

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Speaker 2: Thanks Mom.

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Speaker 1: At least he's supporting her. Sounds like a good guy,

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Speaker 1: I guess. So. He even claimed that I was the

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Speaker 1: most beautiful girl in the world to him. We were

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Speaker 1: only engaged six months before the incident. Thought, Oh, my

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Speaker 1: middle oldest sister, let's call her NICKI was a very

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Speaker 1: cold person. She never showed any affection and she only

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Speaker 1: ever opened up to my fiance as she said she

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Speaker 1: saw him as a brother, and he also helped her

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Speaker 1: through a lot of dark times, such as battling drug

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Speaker 1: addictions and breaking the law. Bad girl's sister breaking.

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Speaker 2: The laws brother in law.

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Speaker 1: I broke my brother in law in on the bedroom.

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Speaker 1: She and I never saw eye. I loved her dearly

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Speaker 2: Dang.

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Speaker 1: She out of the blue, she tells me she wants

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Speaker 1: to take me clubbing, as we had never been together

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Speaker 1: trying to repair relationship. Okay, that could be good with

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Speaker 1: op Yeah, I mean, never too late, right happens It happens. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I agreed, and that night we went out. Clubbing wasn't

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Speaker 1: yeah it is. Then I was going smoothly until Nicky

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Speaker 1: wanted to climb like a tree. She walked over to him,

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Speaker 1: had a sour expression on her face. Asked her what

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Speaker 1: Then told me the guy didn't want her number, but

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Speaker 1: he wanted mine instead. So he's looking like a bigger snack.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: I told her he was a loser and there was

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Speaker 1: need a lie. It sounds like your sister is a drag.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's nowhere near I mean you shot pulling all

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Speaker 3: these numbers all over the place your fiance this guy.

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Speaker 1: And also like it sounds like, I mean she's super

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's crazy.

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Speaker 1: On the way out, though, I bumped into a friend

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it sounds like something else, really bad as a

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like I feel like there might be some something

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Speaker 3: But also it's it's I could I could kind of

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Speaker 1: I didn't have her sister there to like watch her there,

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Speaker 2: So that's like a nice guy, I hope. So yeah,

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Speaker 1: So I told him I need to go home as

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Speaker 1: be totally. He called a cab and I left. When

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Speaker 1: I tried to explain that my phone went flat, but

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Speaker 1: So he's like freaking out, Yeah, how dare you? And

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Speaker 1: right right right? Great? Doesn't look great. That's true, that's true,

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Speaker 1: Nikki then chimed in and said I was a lying

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Speaker 1: So now Nicki's against her bro.

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Speaker 2: This is too much.

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Speaker 1: She went on to say, I kept flirting with the

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Speaker 1: I told her what happened, and she showed me photos

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Speaker 1: Optics are pretty bad. Going home with some guy drunk, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: completely different story. He said, I begged him to take

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Speaker 1: like that's as salt, you know, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, m hmm. Yeah, my god.

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Speaker 1: I saw red and started crying and yelling at Nikki

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Speaker 2: Ah shees.

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Speaker 1: So that's why Nikki invited her out clubbing. I wonder

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Speaker 2: I mean, that's what it's looking like.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what a terrible sister. I begged my fiance to

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Speaker 1: So it's not like I understand the boyfriend being mad,

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Speaker 1: Of course, right to slap your child. One. It seems

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Speaker 1: like cheating isn't like like to to disown to have

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Speaker 1: So yeah, I left and went to a friend's house,

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Speaker 1: I called my fiance, crying and pleading with him to

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Speaker 1: other hurtful slurs I don't think I could repeat here.

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Speaker 1: Oh so she's basically getting diswned. I'm thrown out. This

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Speaker 1: is insane. She didn't even give me time to get

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Speaker 1: of her stuff out. Oh my god, I'm getting really

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Speaker 1: angry at the mom. Honestly, what a parent. That is unacceptable.

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Speaker 1: I was homeless and single, and less than a day

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Speaker 1: because of Nicky's lies. NICKI sucks, he's evil.

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Speaker 3: And to just go through with this, and to me,

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Speaker 3: it's like the point where the family, where she's seeing

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Speaker 3: the mom slap her, where she's like seeing her get

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Speaker 3: dis owned. She doesn't step up and say like, okay,

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Speaker 3: well this has gone too far, like are you kidding me?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I mean, Nicky, I guess just wants to your apple.

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Speaker 3: I guess as far as the mom and the sister

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Speaker 1: This is now. For weeks, I tried everything to get

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Speaker 2: I mean, what do you do? I don't know.

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Speaker 1: But I also felt like they abandoned me too quickly

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Speaker 1: Thank you for taking time to read. I think maybe

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Speaker 3: They have so much trust to be I think with

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Speaker 2: Fighting for two years.

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Speaker 3: You know that would probably be pretty pretty nice. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: Yeah. The family in king Nikki evil like Satan, Satan, legit, terrible, legit.

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Speaker 1: Let's know what you think? That was painful? We'll see him?

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Speaker 2: How dare you wear what you please? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Come on, express yourself, express yourself. Hear me out. That's

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Speaker 1: My husband's brother was married to a woman from Grace

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Speaker 1: her name is Nana, Nana. No, no, I don't know

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Speaker 1: how the Greeks pronounced things. Nana, Nana, Nana. That's my

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Speaker 1: he didn't want a divorce and was hoping Nana would

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Speaker 1: Oh sorry, that's what you get for being a misogynistic prit.

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Speaker 2: That's right.

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Speaker 1: This happened two years ago. He now moved back with

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Speaker 3: Imagine if I'm like, Wow, Sam looking pretty promiscuous in.

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Speaker 2: And I would say, yes, straight.

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Speaker 1: Straight, straight, spread them. But since my in law said

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Speaker 1: It sounds like mumamea, I'm just like or I guess

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Speaker 3: I just imagine like a heart in the chestle regions.

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Speaker 1: I'm imagining like like you know, those like those guys

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Speaker 2: Everywhere, human heart functioning, literal human heart laws, Like, bro,

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Speaker 2: what are you wearing?

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Speaker 1: Why are you bleeding all?

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Speaker 2: I could maybe side with him if that was out

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Speaker 1: I shouldn't have worn this dress because it looked inappropriate

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Speaker 2: Family can't see some titties. Hello, We can say that

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is the spot of my family gains. He's

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Speaker 2: Family can't see some data with with a Southern accent.

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Speaker 2: And dirty with it. They deserve to be triggered.

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Speaker 1: They deserve to be triggered. Everyone was staring at me,

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Speaker 1: then faked a laugh and said, Nana who because now

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Speaker 1: And I said, Nana, you goddamn business business when I'm

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Speaker 1: husband and his parents were upset and later said that

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Speaker 1: I was out of line for bringing up Nana to

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Speaker 1: my brother in law, knowing how heartbroken and depressed he

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Speaker 1: was because of her. His mom said I was petty

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Speaker 1: and didn't need to dig at him just to prove

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Speaker 1: a point. My husband thinks I'm in the wrong as well,

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Speaker 1: and that I was being deliberately hurtful by bringing up

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Speaker 1: Nana whack okay, Well, to be fair, she was being

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Speaker 1: deliberately hurtful by bringing up Nana. She also her deck.

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Speaker 1: Yeah you fire back, you know if you if you

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Speaker 1: want to come to the to the gun range, well,

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Speaker 1: I guess the gun rang shouldn't shot back. If you

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Speaker 1: want to outlaw, yeah.

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Speaker 3: If you want to do a duel, yeah, if you

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Speaker 3: show up to a duel expect to get shot at.

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Speaker 1: Exactly Yeah, I don't expect to draw fire. And then

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Speaker 1: you know, get uh struck in the heart, and then

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Speaker 1: you're bleeding over and then you're wearing the heart shaped dress.

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Speaker 1: Come on, get out of here, Get out of here anyway,

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Speaker 1: Peace say