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Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out Hi. First of all, Hi,

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out what is going on for

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Speaker 1: a person when you say, hey, where are you from?

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Speaker 1: And they go all over? And I understand some people

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Speaker 1: do move a lot as kids and as young people.

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Speaker 1: I totally get that. That makes perfect sense to me.

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Speaker 1: But I'm sort of like shorthand think fast, where are

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Speaker 2: Like?

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Speaker 1: Where are you from? It could be you lived in

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Speaker 1: North Carolina and then you moved to Massachusetts when you

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Speaker 1: were older. I don't know, but you know, where are

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Speaker 1: you from? But people seem to dodge that question. Not always,

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Speaker 1: but every once in a while, people dodge that question.

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Speaker 1: And this isn't about like xenophobia. We might cut that out.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm just in case you're thinking that.

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Speaker 1: I just mean it's just interesting. You guys know those

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Speaker 1: people where you go where are you from? And they

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Speaker 1: go all over? And I'm like, yeah, but like, just

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Speaker 1: say a place, where'd you go to high school? And

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Speaker 1: maybe I should change the question. Maybe I'm the problem.

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Speaker 2: It's me.

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Speaker 1: I should say where did you go to high school?

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Speaker 1: But don't tell me the school because I don't know

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Speaker 1: ice high school's off hand but like, what city was

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Speaker 1: your high school in? That's what I'll do. But I

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Speaker 1: am really curious about the people and their whole I'm

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Speaker 1: from all over, and I'm like, why are you making

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Speaker 1: me probe you like this? Maybe you're like, bitch, stop

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Speaker 1: asking questions, say that to me instead, But I'm from

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Speaker 1: all over. I'm like, I guess I'll ask a follow up,

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Speaker 1: where'd you go to high school? What city? I'll start

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Speaker 1: with that next time. Anyway, just thinking about these interactions

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Speaker 1: I have with people, and I'm like, what, hey, just

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Speaker 1: say a place, but also do what you want and

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Speaker 1: I'll change my question and I'll see how it works

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Speaker 1: and i'll report back. People. So happy you're listening to

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Speaker 1: this episode, So happy you're here. I cannot wait to

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Speaker 1: be speaking with Titus Burgess in just a little bit.

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Speaker 1: It's I bet it's gonna be good. I'm excited. So

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Speaker 1: watch this as I do that, we need to do

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Speaker 1: an introduction. I want to address something first that she

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Speaker 1: might be wondering. You even acknowledge it initially about my beat.

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Speaker 1: You look great, Thank you so much. It's a beat.

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Speaker 1: It's a beat today.

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Speaker 2: Are you not normally assaulted?

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Speaker 1: No? No, no, I'm going to an event later tonight,

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Speaker 1: and I didn't want to have to sit and glab.

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Speaker 1: I go exactly, and so I'm I'm actually made up

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Speaker 1: for event, but also for you. Oh come on, I

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Speaker 1: want to I wasn't come out here no makeup.

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Speaker 2: On listen, you look beautiful either way.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: Agrees A beat don't matter.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes sometimes you could get from my face and get

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Speaker 1: beat in such a fashion that it becomes a problem.

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Speaker 2: Like and not in a like coat.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like put her in a yeah, put her under

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Speaker 1: because it's doing too much. Thank you. I just wanted

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Speaker 1: to acknowledge because it's giving contours, giving smoke, it's.

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Speaker 2: Giving everything great. And also I'm not crying. I'm just

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Speaker 2: my alergies are like really doing. I was gonna act

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Speaker 2: for the past week, Like I walk outside and just

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Speaker 2: like I can't stop the tears. So Cleriton and those

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Speaker 1: Now I can't. You know, Zertich is one of our sponsors,

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Speaker 1: and so now we can't. I'm kidding, kidding. I take

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Speaker 2: Does that work?

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Speaker 1: It's hard to say. I even got allergy shots at

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Speaker 1: one point. So this this little segment is for the

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Speaker 1: allergy community.

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Speaker 2: Perfect.

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Speaker 1: I took, I took. I take their take every day.

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Speaker 1: I do flow naise every day. And I got allergy shots,

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Speaker 1: but they were kind of I thought they worked.

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Speaker 2: And then because we live in such an unsanitary environment.

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Speaker 1: Potentially yes, and there's a lot of debris to irritate

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Speaker 1: our interiors. And that's that sounds like an official doctor

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: All Right, you'll go to talk to the nurse and

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Speaker 1: then come back. I need to do an intro for you,

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Speaker 1: all right. My next guest is a six time Emmy

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Speaker 1: Hat out in November twenty. That's coming out soon.

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Speaker 2: Titus Burgess should have correct you know, it didn't win

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Speaker 2: the Tony. Okay, so it was felt surprise nominated.

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Speaker 3: It was nominated, though, Okay, whoever wrote this, I'm getting

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Speaker 1: Okay. No, we're not rejoicing people saying somebody wrote this though.

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Speaker 1: This is the setup and this is another it's a

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Speaker 1: hit job. All right, I'm going to do it again,

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Speaker 1: and they should keep that in because I want people

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Speaker 1: to know this shit is not perfect. Right. That's the

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Speaker 1: problem with entertainment is we try to make everything look perfect,

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Speaker 2: It trickles down into real life.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and you're like, everything's got to look and feel perfect.

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Speaker 2: But you don't even realiz that you're operating until that

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Speaker 1: I when did you realize you were operating in that way?

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Speaker 2: Oh? I see, perhaps around forty my body started responding

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Speaker 2: I call it brutally honest. But I'll just say honest

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Speaker 2: because people take it as brutality because most of the

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Speaker 1: Oh, talk to me about it, and let's talk about

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Speaker 2: And I don't know what to do with that.

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Speaker 1: I know I don't either, So we're family, frank.

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Speaker 2: Yes, by all means, yes, you know I know what

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Speaker 1: M that's what It's familiarity. It's yeah, it's what It's

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Speaker 1: And now that I'm in a world outside of this community,

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Speaker 2: And even when I got to New York, I thought

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Speaker 1: It made its way here, it made.

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Speaker 2: Its way here, and you know, I was searching for,

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Speaker 1: it's interesting that some people conflate that frankness and directness

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Speaker 2: Yeah, my I think the thing that I want most

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you want it to do and I do have

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Speaker 1: And we have to also see to it that whoever

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Speaker 1: I'm kidding?

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Speaker 1: Titus Burgess, how did we do? Baby?

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Speaker 2: You're doing so fact checked good.

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Speaker 1: And we're good. Okay, Okay, So now you grew up

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Speaker 1: Pisces is everywhere. You're tending not to cry and it's allergies,

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Speaker 1: It's my allergy.

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Speaker 1: like you should be an external processor like me.

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Speaker 2: It sings out like I don't know. I don't know

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Speaker 2: how it's to be even tell people that I date,

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Speaker 2: which okay, I also talk.

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Speaker 1: Well, I know because we talked the same way. This

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Speaker 1: I'll remember the dating, but six years old. A thing

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Speaker 2: Ye, my mom tried to reprimmand me and she was

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Speaker 1: And that is that's actually a word and a sermon

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Speaker 2: because I'm not funny.

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Speaker 1: Are you mad to be here right now? Said? You

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Speaker 2: It's different, Yeah, this is different. I don't feel the

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Speaker 1: Yes, I'm so glad, and I don't want I want

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling it so much. Now you said you don't

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Speaker 1: Also, the reason I have a full beat on, like

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Speaker 2: The output of energy, or rather the conservation and desire

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Speaker 1: Because I'm like, I'm using so much energy here, the

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Speaker 1: it's a song. Someone sent me a song called energy budget,

436
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Speaker 1: and one day it's this woman is declaring various various

437
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Speaker 1: uh things about her energy budget and what she doesn't

438
00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:05,119
Speaker 1: have time for. It's more it's a song. She's actually

439
00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:06,800
Speaker 1: just talking and it's mantras.

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Speaker 2: It feels like I love it.

441
00:22:08,359 --> 00:22:12,040
Speaker 1: I'll send it to you. But you don't like going out,

442
00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:14,840
Speaker 1: you don't like doing that whole thing dating. You were

443
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Speaker 1: going to say something about you being an external processor,

444
00:22:17,920 --> 00:22:19,560
Speaker 1: how you're dating, right, So.

445
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Speaker 2: I think I need to get like, I think they

446
00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:24,320
Speaker 2: need to ask my astrologist to do my chart again,

447
00:22:24,359 --> 00:22:28,760
Speaker 2: to tell me what I'm most compatible with, because you know,

448
00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:30,280
Speaker 2: my so, I was just I was in a ten

449
00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:33,480
Speaker 2: ten year relationship that ended four years ago. He and

450
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Speaker 2: I are best friend, he's family, and Pablo taught me

451
00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:41,879
Speaker 2: so much about myself. Okay, and so I helped Pablo

452
00:22:42,359 --> 00:22:46,480
Speaker 2: go to school, to school for psychology. Papa brought me

453
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Speaker 2: this book called HSP Highly Sensitive People m and and

454
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Speaker 2: that acronym is a bit of an over simplification of

455
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Speaker 2: what the actual condition is. And it basically there's a

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Speaker 2: percentage of the twenty percent of the population, and medical

457
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Speaker 2: experts are divided on whether or not this is a

458
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Speaker 2: real thing or not. But there's a precentage of the

459
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Speaker 2: population that is overstimulated, that processes a lot of information

460
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Speaker 2: at once, and our natural impaths and to a fault

461
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Speaker 2: where you can't determine decipher what energy is yours and

462
00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 2: what has been deposited or inherited without your conscious I

463
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Speaker 2: accept this as my own or not my own. And

464
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Speaker 2: one of the things that occurred while we were together

465
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Speaker 2: was the more I realized what was happening, and when

466
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Speaker 2: I realized that he and I were not compatible. Oh,

467
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Speaker 2: it was almost like he gave you the book to

468
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Speaker 2: leave him.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, he had no idea. Okay, what did you

470
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Speaker 1: read in the book that made you be that I

471
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Speaker 1: can't be with Pablo An.

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Speaker 2: I read the whole book and it was a slow

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Speaker 2: gestation of this is who I am, has nothing, has

474
00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:05,399
Speaker 2: less to do with Pava and who who I, thanks

475
00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:09,600
Speaker 2: to him, had realized I always was and I am

476
00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:13,000
Speaker 2: now becoming more of and that is the ability to

477
00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:16,720
Speaker 2: fight for myself, speak up for myself, say out loud,

478
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Speaker 2: I don't, I can't be here, and not just roll

479
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Speaker 2: over and take it. Because we are we put other

480
00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:25,560
Speaker 2: people's feelings and needs before our own. Even to say, Pablo,

481
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Speaker 2: I can't sleep with you and not I me like

482
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Speaker 2: have sex, I mean like I have to I have

483
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Speaker 2: to go be in a bed by myself, because even

484
00:24:31,520 --> 00:24:34,000
Speaker 2: at rest, that is an exchange of energy when you

485
00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:35,800
Speaker 2: are in the same space with someone, and it is

486
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Speaker 2: so important, which is why you want your beat five

487
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:43,840
Speaker 2: hours before in a way, because sitting in that chair

488
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Speaker 2: is absorbing the energy of the person who is doing it.

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Speaker 1: Wait, Titus, am I an HSP? Do you think I think?

490
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Speaker 1: Not me discovering I'm an HSP? Because well, also, I

491
00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:58,679
Speaker 1: don't like sleepovers. I don't like sleepovers at all. I like,

492
00:24:58,720 --> 00:25:00,960
Speaker 1: I need to wake up in my I need to wait.

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Speaker 1: I don't care if I'm getting home at seven am.

494
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Speaker 1: Someone be like just stay here. I'm like, I have

495
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Speaker 1: to wake up in my.

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Speaker 2: It's not about sanitation sanitizing. It is wanting not to

497
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Speaker 2: have to sanitize the energy. Oh oh, a space that

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Speaker 2: you are not.

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Speaker 1: Wait, why do legitimately I need the book. I need

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Speaker 1: the book. And mind you, when you said you have

501
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:25,159
Speaker 1: an astrologer, I have been known to say that I

502
00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:27,040
Speaker 1: don't like I'll shout out that I'm a Pisces all

503
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Speaker 1: the time, and then I'll be like, I don't really

504
00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:31,440
Speaker 1: believe in astrology. Fun, heyha, I like to read the horoscopes.

505
00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:35,120
Speaker 1: If I see a moon omens on Instagram or something,

506
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 1: or astrology or or co star, I'm like, I want

507
00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:39,600
Speaker 1: to read it. I want to see if this applies.

508
00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:41,800
Speaker 1: So I'm not like a hard no, but it's like

509
00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:44,560
Speaker 1: a thing that's like playful for me. But for you,

510
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Speaker 1: you have an astrologer. When did you start to get

511
00:25:47,119 --> 00:25:49,040
Speaker 1: into astrology and what was that journey for you?

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Speaker 2: Well, I've always like read people's horoscopes and such whatever,

513
00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:54,000
Speaker 2: and I always seemed rather accurate, and I would read

514
00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:58,560
Speaker 2: more than one person's recanting of a particular sign on

515
00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 2: a particular day, okay, to cross reference and figure out

516
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Speaker 2: if any of this has any merit to it. I

517
00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:08,240
Speaker 2: don't do this often. I do like once a year

518
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:10,320
Speaker 2: where I get to read my chart or whatever, but

519
00:26:10,320 --> 00:26:13,320
Speaker 2: I'm always and I also have a a spiritual guide.

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00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 2: Her name is Joya Okay, and she people what is

521
00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:17,560
Speaker 2: going on?

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00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:23,200
Speaker 1: She says, he's a piss he's crying. He's got a

523
00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:27,760
Speaker 1: spiritual guid in astrologer, I need it. Okay, past and

524
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Speaker 1: you have a pastor.

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Speaker 2: Her name is doctor Jackie Lewis.

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Speaker 1: Doctor Jackie Lewis, Middle.

527
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Speaker 2: Collegiate church down in the Lower East Side. Okay, with

528
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Speaker 2: all these people because they all offer different things. You know,

529
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Speaker 2: you have your pediatrician, you have your gonecologists, you have

530
00:26:41,560 --> 00:26:44,280
Speaker 2: your they're all doctors, but they're all different and so

531
00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:44,960
Speaker 2: but if you have.

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Speaker 1: A pediatrician, you don't have a guy because I'll just say,

533
00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:50,600
Speaker 1: but you might have your internal medicine physicians.

534
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Speaker 2: And so astrologer I I she did my chart and

535
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Speaker 2: I was just blown away at you know, the actors.

536
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:03,120
Speaker 2: And she goes, don't tell anything else about you. And

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00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:06,560
Speaker 2: I gave herm my middle name. Okay, so she couldn't

538
00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:07,760
Speaker 2: look me up or anything of that.

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00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:09,600
Speaker 1: Can I ask what it is?

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00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:12,200
Speaker 2: Or is that Wemont? My mom got Titus from the Bible? Okay,

541
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:13,879
Speaker 2: Titus is the shortest book.

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00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:17,040
Speaker 1: It is, yes, yes, okay, and uh.

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00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:19,960
Speaker 2: Lamont from San Fernecean. So that tells you a lot about.

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00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:22,680
Speaker 1: Okay, did she go with Titus because she liked the

545
00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:24,159
Speaker 1: name or because she liked that it was the shortest

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00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:25,040
Speaker 1: book in the Bible.

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00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:28,439
Speaker 2: I think she liked the name. And then, you know,

548
00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:29,800
Speaker 2: do you believe people grow into a name?

549
00:27:30,240 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 1: I do, because I grew into Ago.

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00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:32,439
Speaker 2: What is it?

551
00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 1: What does mean Ago? Literally in Ebo, which is my name,

552
00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:39,439
Speaker 1: is Ebo means money. My family is part of a

553
00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:43,000
Speaker 1: tribe called the People. It's a small tribe, but my

554
00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:43,600
Speaker 1: name is.

555
00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:46,439
Speaker 2: Ebo and that's the currency in the tribe.

556
00:27:46,520 --> 00:27:49,280
Speaker 1: It means well, no, Ebo means money. The word Ebo

557
00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 1: means money. And then my full name is Ego Booma,

558
00:27:52,880 --> 00:28:00,600
Speaker 1: which means money is good. Okay, interesting, but yeah, I

559
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,399
Speaker 1: actually was like, why is this why I don't I

560
00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:07,199
Speaker 1: don't want to have a name that's like celebrating money.

561
00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:09,200
Speaker 2: But then my mom would.

562
00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:12,920
Speaker 1: Tell me my child is my Well, money is not

563
00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:16,080
Speaker 1: inherently bad. It's the love of money, and people forget that,

564
00:28:16,440 --> 00:28:19,399
Speaker 1: don't They forget that? The love of money? But I'm like,

565
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:21,840
Speaker 1: I don't need to celebrate money anyway. Point is a

566
00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:24,600
Speaker 1: go of it all. I dealt with people calling me

567
00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:27,040
Speaker 1: Ego when I was younger, and be like freud like

568
00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:31,440
Speaker 1: or Lego my ago very much a big marketing campaign

569
00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:34,160
Speaker 1: happening during my childhoods. I dealt with a lot of

570
00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 1: Lego my agos because I came home and I was like,

571
00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:40,480
Speaker 1: they're making fun of my name. And my aunt was like,

572
00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:43,400
Speaker 1: you go out there and you make fun of them

573
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:46,480
Speaker 1: right back. And that's what I did. And so and

574
00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:48,200
Speaker 1: then there was a period in middle school where people

575
00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:50,440
Speaker 1: would be like, you know, I went to elementary school

576
00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:52,560
Speaker 1: with a lot of the same people went to middle school.

577
00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:55,200
Speaker 1: Then it became a hodgepodge of people from other elementary schools,

578
00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:58,360
Speaker 1: and people meet me and be like, Lego my ago.

579
00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:04,000
Speaker 1: I'd go, no, yeah, and it worked every time. I

580
00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:07,120
Speaker 1: was like, I'm like, I've heard that before, and I'll

581
00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:08,680
Speaker 1: say to people, go, oh my god, I never heard that.

582
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:19,920
Speaker 1: You grew into your name.

583
00:29:21,120 --> 00:29:25,400
Speaker 2: She chose it right. So Titus was an apprentice to

584
00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 2: the apostle Paul. Paul loved Titus on the Island of

585
00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:33,280
Speaker 2: Crete to spread uh the good word, and Titus means

586
00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:36,880
Speaker 2: little warrior, and.

587
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 1: It means the warrior warrior. I said little, but okay,

588
00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:45,200
Speaker 1: you said like a Baltimore person because they said little,

589
00:29:46,200 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 1: little that's little but okay, but okay, it was.

590
00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:54,920
Speaker 2: It was warrior, and I have often felt like I

591
00:29:54,960 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 2: was leading the charge on the misunders Did I even

592
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:06,000
Speaker 2: still feel that way. Nothing fills me with rage then,

593
00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 2: and I means me today that means to walk around

594
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:10,680
Speaker 2: full of rage all the time. But nothing fills me

595
00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 2: with raged more than people being misunderstood and not seeing

596
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:16,120
Speaker 2: da da da. And that's such that that also is

597
00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:20,240
Speaker 2: so heavily used that it might not carry the weight

598
00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:23,000
Speaker 2: that it should. But you know, we we walk in

599
00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 2: a roll where now people are seeking out to be missed,

600
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:33,640
Speaker 2: to misunderstand people, to prevent the the bridging of the gaps.

601
00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:35,440
Speaker 2: As I said when we first sat down, because my

602
00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:40,000
Speaker 2: desire is to be frank and honest, and so I

603
00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:41,680
Speaker 2: don't know that my mom did all of that research

604
00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 2: to choose my name, but I feel like I once

605
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 2: I realized that that was because I had the same

606
00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:49,720
Speaker 2: thing that called me Titus, I mean Tyler. They would

607
00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:54,240
Speaker 2: call me Tito tiger tight ass, which you know I

608
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:54,920
Speaker 2: grew into that.

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00:30:54,920 --> 00:31:01,160
Speaker 1: Toots your workout, I have a trainer, so okay, okay,

610
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:07,280
Speaker 1: of course, but okay.

611
00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:09,320
Speaker 2: Which is but as a kid, that wasn't fun, you know,

612
00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:12,440
Speaker 2: yeah and so, but I grew into it and I

613
00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:13,080
Speaker 2: know own it.

614
00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:15,400
Speaker 1: That's how I feel about Ago. When I was eighteen,

615
00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:18,440
Speaker 1: I moved across the country from Baltimore to LA for college.

616
00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:21,400
Speaker 1: And then there's my mom at one point was like,

617
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:22,600
Speaker 1: if you don't like your name so much, you can

618
00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 1: start going by your middle name. And then I was like, no,

619
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:27,719
Speaker 1: I have earned the badge and a I've lived with this,

620
00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:30,120
Speaker 1: like during the hardest time to have the name Ago,

621
00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:33,480
Speaker 1: I feel, but the lego my Ago marketing campaign as

622
00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:36,360
Speaker 1: a child, I'm like, I earned this. I'm a go now.

623
00:31:36,360 --> 00:31:38,280
Speaker 1: I will not go to LA and be like I'm

624
00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:40,480
Speaker 1: a different name. Which once I got to LA for college,

625
00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:43,000
Speaker 1: there were so many people in my freshman class that

626
00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:45,680
Speaker 1: I knew in the little group that I knew who's

627
00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:47,880
Speaker 1: were going by their middle names. They had like made

628
00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:50,200
Speaker 1: the switch. People who moved from New York or elsewhere.

629
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:53,080
Speaker 2: Was like, in my people do that, especially when you

630
00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:55,040
Speaker 2: go to a place where no one already knows you. Yeah,

631
00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:58,880
Speaker 2: just so you can walk walk in with a different identity.

632
00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:01,320
Speaker 1: I think that's oh, I think it is to walk

633
00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:03,720
Speaker 1: in with a different identity. And but it's interesting because

634
00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:05,520
Speaker 1: by the time I was that age and had made

635
00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:07,840
Speaker 1: the choice to move across the country. I feel like

636
00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:10,800
Speaker 1: the person who made the move to move across the

637
00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:13,760
Speaker 1: country and made that bold move was ago. So to

638
00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:15,280
Speaker 1: go and show up and be like, and now my

639
00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:17,920
Speaker 1: name is my middle name would feel crazy to me

640
00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:22,120
Speaker 1: because I'm like, people are gonna ask and it's not.

641
00:32:22,160 --> 00:32:24,120
Speaker 1: I love my name. It's Kalechi. It's what my mom

642
00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:27,320
Speaker 1: wanted to name me. My dad picked my name, you know,

643
00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:34,800
Speaker 1: I interrogated her. Callechi. Thank God, thank god, God, thanks,

644
00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:38,680
Speaker 1: thank you. Thanks. Maybe the podcast should be Kella Dad.

645
00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:42,760
Speaker 1: Thanks Dad. Maybe maybe we'll think about it. Just let's

646
00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 1: talk after I don't know, we have to do all

647
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:48,880
Speaker 1: the branding over again, and somebody can we get somebody

648
00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:51,680
Speaker 1: on that the person we fired about the intro get

649
00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:56,840
Speaker 1: them back. I need him to redo the branding. Okay,

650
00:32:56,840 --> 00:33:00,160
Speaker 1: So astrology, I do want to know if you'm your

651
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 1: mom named you after a book of the Bible. You

652
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:04,360
Speaker 1: go to a church on the Lower east Side, so

653
00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:06,760
Speaker 1: you do have your own faith. So how did astrology

654
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:07,360
Speaker 1: get introduced?

655
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:08,680
Speaker 2: How did you meet this incomplete?

656
00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:11,960
Speaker 1: No, not at all, but not in my mind, But

657
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 1: how did it get introduced to you, because I feel

658
00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 1: like often people are like, I have this one thing,

659
00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:18,320
Speaker 1: and this one thing in terms of spirituality is enough

660
00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:19,760
Speaker 1: for me. I meditate, I do your.

661
00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:23,200
Speaker 2: God made the stars, God made the moon. They did everything,

662
00:33:23,440 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 2: they them.

663
00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:27,120
Speaker 1: They them, Okay, just fair enough, because.

664
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 2: They're in you, there in me.

665
00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:29,280
Speaker 1: Yeah.

666
00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:30,720
Speaker 2: Sure, it's a short answer.

667
00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:33,240
Speaker 1: Sure, okay, I will fight you on it. No, no, no, no.

668
00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:38,240
Speaker 2: I I think that they offer so many resources to

669
00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:42,480
Speaker 2: find them because they realize that we are such narrow

670
00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:47,720
Speaker 2: minded thinkers and often we'll cut our nose off spite

671
00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:54,000
Speaker 2: our face. Uh. And so they widespread themselves so that

672
00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 2: there's a path to something that resonates with you, that

673
00:33:57,160 --> 00:34:00,480
Speaker 2: you might be illuminated and vibrate on a much higher plane,

674
00:34:00,760 --> 00:34:02,800
Speaker 2: and you can walk around with that as the singular

675
00:34:02,840 --> 00:34:06,240
Speaker 2: thing that is. But if you do that, you are bound.

676
00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:10,000
Speaker 2: You are destined to run into all the other ways

677
00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:11,520
Speaker 2: that they are here.

678
00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:12,320
Speaker 1: Yeah.

679
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:13,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know.

680
00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:17,239
Speaker 1: There's a book I love, Barking to the Choir by

681
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:19,839
Speaker 1: Father Gregory Boyle. Do you know who that is? He

682
00:34:19,960 --> 00:34:22,400
Speaker 1: is a priest who I'm not Catholic, but he is

683
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:23,960
Speaker 1: a priest. I can read a book. I just think

684
00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:25,480
Speaker 1: that people go, oh, so you're Catholic when I say

685
00:34:25,480 --> 00:34:28,719
Speaker 1: I read this book, and no, I'm just curious. I've

686
00:34:28,760 --> 00:34:32,240
Speaker 1: read all kinds of books. But he is a Catholic

687
00:34:32,320 --> 00:34:35,759
Speaker 1: priest who runs the biggest gang rehabilitation program in the

688
00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:39,760
Speaker 1: world in la And in reading that book, I remember

689
00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:41,759
Speaker 1: some quote and I'm going to bastardize it slightly, but

690
00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:44,560
Speaker 1: essentially he's like, there's nothing beyond the sanctity of God,

691
00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:47,799
Speaker 1: which in his point in the little section I was

692
00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:50,040
Speaker 1: reading there was just like we put God in boxes.

693
00:34:50,200 --> 00:34:53,439
Speaker 1: We put God in boxes we can understand, and God

694
00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:56,520
Speaker 1: is so much bigger and that resonates with me also,

695
00:34:57,000 --> 00:34:59,520
Speaker 1: and I'm like, so, yeah, to your point, they're not

696
00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:02,759
Speaker 1: in conf like how did you find your astrologist? I

697
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:04,560
Speaker 1: don't need to keep driving home. I'm just like, always

698
00:35:04,600 --> 00:35:05,120
Speaker 1: so curious.

699
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:05,200
Speaker 2: I have.

700
00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:08,160
Speaker 1: I talked to a spiritual coach too, but I'm like,

701
00:35:08,280 --> 00:35:09,319
Speaker 1: how did I get here?

702
00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:13,000
Speaker 2: A psychic and an astrologist? And I was like, let

703
00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:16,480
Speaker 2: me do this astrologist right, And so I gave her

704
00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:19,360
Speaker 2: my my middle name. I gave her the time that

705
00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:23,600
Speaker 2: I was born and the location. Okay, and that was it,

706
00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:28,320
Speaker 2: and she went on on a tear. I learned things

707
00:35:28,360 --> 00:35:33,799
Speaker 2: about She revealed things about myself that I had long suspected,

708
00:35:34,040 --> 00:35:37,799
Speaker 2: and she, you know, that, sort of confirmed it. And

709
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:40,680
Speaker 2: now that I have put into practice some of the

710
00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:45,320
Speaker 2: things that I learned that were lying dormant, I'm eager

711
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:48,600
Speaker 2: to do it again to to now that I'm coming

712
00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:51,400
Speaker 2: with a different energy, it's a different time. This is

713
00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:53,799
Speaker 2: also like maybe like the last one was a year

714
00:35:53,800 --> 00:35:54,160
Speaker 2: and a half.

715
00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 1: Ago, so it's time.

716
00:35:55,080 --> 00:35:58,000
Speaker 2: It's time just to see. And I'm in pursuit of

717
00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:03,279
Speaker 2: a different I'm in pursuit of integrating the titles. I

718
00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:06,239
Speaker 2: have to come back into the world. I sort of

719
00:36:06,840 --> 00:36:09,640
Speaker 2: retreat it for a bit, not not it has nothing

720
00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:12,759
Speaker 2: to do with work, just being a member of society,

721
00:36:13,880 --> 00:36:20,040
Speaker 2: and I'm anxious to see how the world responds to him.

722
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:21,560
Speaker 1: I'm hopeful.

723
00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:22,319
Speaker 2: I am too.

724
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:25,400
Speaker 1: I'm hopeful, I really really am. Now you've been in

725
00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:28,439
Speaker 1: this recluse mode sort of working on things. You broke

726
00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:29,959
Speaker 1: up with the problem four years ago.

727
00:36:30,080 --> 00:36:31,200
Speaker 2: Yes, I'm very single.

728
00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:33,640
Speaker 1: Yes. Is that so when you were talking about not

729
00:36:33,680 --> 00:36:36,240
Speaker 1: wanting to sleep with someone like in the same baths

730
00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:38,239
Speaker 1: of the energy exchange, How are you in terms of

731
00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:42,200
Speaker 1: dating now? In this stage you're in are we single intentionally?

732
00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:43,480
Speaker 2: Do you?

733
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:45,000
Speaker 1: Are you curious about partnership.

734
00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:49,160
Speaker 2: I'm very cute about partnership. Okay, for let me start

735
00:36:49,160 --> 00:36:50,880
Speaker 2: with the big thing, and then I'll tell you about.

736
00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:52,800
Speaker 1: A date that I had two nights ago.

737
00:36:54,200 --> 00:37:00,680
Speaker 2: So I believe that I definitely, I desperately am desires

738
00:37:00,719 --> 00:37:01,520
Speaker 2: of being a wife.

739
00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:04,319
Speaker 1: You want to be a wife? Have you always wanted

740
00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:04,920
Speaker 1: to be a wife?

741
00:37:05,160 --> 00:37:05,560
Speaker 2: No?

742
00:37:05,760 --> 00:37:07,680
Speaker 1: When did this happen? In the In the years you've

743
00:37:07,719 --> 00:37:08,480
Speaker 1: been working on the.

744
00:37:08,520 --> 00:37:13,640
Speaker 2: Years of working, I realized that my insatiable desire to

745
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:17,279
Speaker 2: take care of someone, I have an insatiable desire to

746
00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:20,399
Speaker 2: take care of people. I can't help it. And even

747
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:22,120
Speaker 2: when I walk down the street, I have to not

748
00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:23,960
Speaker 2: look people in the eye because I can see into

749
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:27,719
Speaker 2: your soul. And you can too. Yeah, and and and

750
00:37:27,800 --> 00:37:30,200
Speaker 2: I and I and and and people. You you said

751
00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 2: something way earlier about people take they miss they misconstrued

752
00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:40,120
Speaker 2: you're not even retreating, but holding your energy close to

753
00:37:40,160 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 2: your person as being egotistical or or or flippant or

754
00:37:45,040 --> 00:37:52,279
Speaker 2: stand office And it's anything but. And so I you know,

755
00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:55,319
Speaker 2: just in life, I'm like, oh no, because I will,

756
00:37:56,520 --> 00:37:59,560
Speaker 2: I will connect myself with you in a way that

757
00:37:59,600 --> 00:38:02,439
Speaker 2: I don't have time for or wish to. But once

758
00:38:02,480 --> 00:38:05,279
Speaker 2: I make the connection, the connection is made and fall

759
00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:10,000
Speaker 2: through with it anyway. So with partnership, I feel that

760
00:38:10,080 --> 00:38:14,600
Speaker 2: I'm being called to do something else by them in

761
00:38:14,680 --> 00:38:18,000
Speaker 2: the world, and that calling is going to force me

762
00:38:19,160 --> 00:38:23,440
Speaker 2: to not participate in such frivolity.

763
00:38:23,760 --> 00:38:26,480
Speaker 1: Okay, and my frivolity mean.

764
00:38:27,560 --> 00:38:32,040
Speaker 2: I mean I'm I love men, okay. And the door

765
00:38:32,040 --> 00:38:35,759
Speaker 2: has revolved, yes, okay, you know in my past, and

766
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:36,840
Speaker 2: I just want to slow the door.

767
00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 1: Down like we're revisiting exis.

768
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:43,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just kind of I And also it's exhausting,

769
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:50,600
Speaker 2: you know. And I want the energy to be the

770
00:38:50,920 --> 00:38:54,800
Speaker 2: temperature that I set that we decide on together. And

771
00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:58,880
Speaker 2: I want, you know, more fur babies. And I want

772
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:02,040
Speaker 2: my good to not be evil spoken of because you

773
00:39:02,120 --> 00:39:04,360
Speaker 2: have to explain what you're do in your private life

774
00:39:04,719 --> 00:39:07,640
Speaker 2: as a celebrity that no one's going to the they

775
00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:10,600
Speaker 2: remove that past, that you are a human, they immediately

776
00:39:12,000 --> 00:39:13,920
Speaker 2: I want to know what's going on, you know. And

777
00:39:14,320 --> 00:39:16,880
Speaker 2: and I while I can walk around be like, oh

778
00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:19,280
Speaker 2: that's not your amazingess, it'll it'll.

779
00:39:19,320 --> 00:39:21,400
Speaker 1: Get it'll get out there there. And so if you

780
00:39:21,400 --> 00:39:22,760
Speaker 1: don't want somebody to know something.

781
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:25,200
Speaker 2: You're going to make sure they figure it out, and

782
00:39:25,280 --> 00:39:29,320
Speaker 2: so I just want and let me. I don't want

783
00:39:30,000 --> 00:39:33,160
Speaker 2: that for that reason, but I do realize that in

784
00:39:33,200 --> 00:39:35,560
Speaker 2: my ask there are things that I have to leave

785
00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:38,080
Speaker 2: behind because you have to make room for new things, right,

786
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:43,080
Speaker 2: And so that's part of it. And I'm in the

787
00:39:43,080 --> 00:39:45,319
Speaker 2: words of India Irea, I'm quiet, I'm ready for love.

788
00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:48,880
Speaker 2: I come on, there's something has risen up in me

789
00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:53,880
Speaker 2: that I walk around with and I'm not searching for

790
00:39:54,040 --> 00:39:58,200
Speaker 2: me as as much as I was in the past.

791
00:39:58,320 --> 00:40:01,479
Speaker 2: I feel found where where I am and I feel

792
00:40:01,520 --> 00:40:03,920
Speaker 2: founding out that I'm ready to share it with whoever

793
00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:04,319
Speaker 2: you are.

794
00:40:04,560 --> 00:40:06,840
Speaker 1: And you don't worry that it will deplete you.

795
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:10,360
Speaker 2: No, okay no, because I now know, thanks to Pablo,

796
00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:14,720
Speaker 2: what is a what is properly being yoked? Equally yoked?

797
00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:16,759
Speaker 1: I just asked a friend this on a voice note,

798
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:18,600
Speaker 1: no joke a week ago. What do you go on

799
00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:20,799
Speaker 1: what I said? What is equally yoked.

800
00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:22,120
Speaker 2: Mean to you? When you were in the presence of

801
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:26,799
Speaker 2: the other person and you are not thinking, you are

802
00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:31,600
Speaker 2: not searching for your peace, It is just there, the

803
00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 2: same way God is just here. They don't need you

804
00:40:35,280 --> 00:40:39,120
Speaker 2: to prove or disprove it. That love is before you

805
00:40:39,200 --> 00:40:42,320
Speaker 2: and after you, and right now that is the same

806
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:44,600
Speaker 2: energy I want in God, in the.

807
00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:48,719
Speaker 1: Flesh, peace, peace, I see Okay, I get it, I

808
00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:52,920
Speaker 1: get it. I hear you. I have to know about

809
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:53,440
Speaker 1: the state.

810
00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:57,840
Speaker 2: Okay. Well this is harkening back to Pablo give me

811
00:40:57,880 --> 00:40:59,759
Speaker 2: that book and me going, oh, I got to sleep

812
00:40:59,800 --> 00:41:00,319
Speaker 2: my though.

813
00:41:00,680 --> 00:41:03,440
Speaker 1: So we were in bed and you and the guy

814
00:41:03,480 --> 00:41:06,479
Speaker 1: on the data problem okay, okay, And it was great

815
00:41:06,480 --> 00:41:10,520
Speaker 1: and he's wonderful and you know, fine, I don't know

816
00:41:10,760 --> 00:41:13,120
Speaker 1: that he's my forever person, but do you want to?

817
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:16,840
Speaker 2: But if he sees this, I don't care. He he

818
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:23,560
Speaker 2: is very mature. And before the date started and we

819
00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:26,520
Speaker 2: had food and we're watching the TV or whatever, and

820
00:41:26,760 --> 00:41:29,000
Speaker 2: I was answering emails and stuff and I kept apologizing

821
00:41:29,000 --> 00:41:33,120
Speaker 2: because I do your life like this is so embryonic,

822
00:41:33,719 --> 00:41:37,640
Speaker 2: like I don't, and I'm in your space and I

823
00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:41,160
Speaker 2: if we were together, you wouldn't. You wouldn't not be

824
00:41:41,239 --> 00:41:43,560
Speaker 2: doing what you need to do. So let me see it.

825
00:41:44,040 --> 00:41:48,480
Speaker 1: Wow, your piece, I know your piece.

826
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:51,200
Speaker 2: But I get hot in the bed, okay.

827
00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:53,359
Speaker 1: Temperature wise, so cuddling you hate it.

828
00:41:53,480 --> 00:41:54,480
Speaker 2: I love cuddling.

829
00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:58,160
Speaker 1: But but then in practically practice.

830
00:41:57,800 --> 00:41:59,759
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, So I got up halfway there and I

831
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:01,000
Speaker 2: went slept it in the other.

832
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:05,440
Speaker 1: Room, Titus, somebody's gonna want to cuddle with your hot.

833
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:08,200
Speaker 2: Body, then the room is going to be ice cold.

834
00:42:08,560 --> 00:42:09,640
Speaker 1: What temperature do you used to be?

835
00:42:09,960 --> 00:42:13,239
Speaker 2: Sixty one and in the winter I cracked the windows.

836
00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, okay, because I just graduated like three years

837
00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 1: ago to sixty nine. That's too Oh my gosh, who's

838
00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:23,759
Speaker 1: gonna clip that.

839
00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:24,400
Speaker 2: I'm just I.

840
00:42:24,520 --> 00:42:32,439
Speaker 1: Just realized, I know sixty nine degrees is oh lot,

841
00:42:34,360 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 1: oh lo.

842
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:37,879
Speaker 2: I can't go back now.

843
00:42:38,239 --> 00:42:40,600
Speaker 1: They can't cut it because we fired the person. Oh no,

844
00:42:40,640 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 1: we hired them a get okay, so they're here. They

845
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:49,080
Speaker 1: a sixty nine degrees is my preferred temperature? Actually, farenheitshaw.

846
00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:52,239
Speaker 1: I'm talking about temperature in the bedroom. And I just graduated,

847
00:42:52,360 --> 00:42:54,359
Speaker 1: and I have a hard time if it's if it's

848
00:42:54,440 --> 00:42:55,839
Speaker 1: hotter than that. But I used to be a person

849
00:42:55,880 --> 00:42:57,319
Speaker 1: who was like, I need the room to be warm.

850
00:42:57,320 --> 00:42:59,480
Speaker 1: Why would I ever have the air on in the winter?

851
00:42:59,560 --> 00:43:01,080
Speaker 1: That was me. Why would I have the air on

852
00:43:01,120 --> 00:43:03,080
Speaker 1: in the winter? Why would I have the air on

853
00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:07,480
Speaker 1: in the middle of the night blowing on me, Like, oh.

854
00:43:07,360 --> 00:43:08,840
Speaker 2: Really, way from me?

855
00:43:09,360 --> 00:43:12,080
Speaker 1: Wow, So you like the winter. You excited for winter coming,

856
00:43:12,239 --> 00:43:14,200
Speaker 1: I'm excited. I get scared of winter.

857
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:16,200
Speaker 2: Because I don't like how it gets dark.

858
00:43:16,239 --> 00:43:18,440
Speaker 1: So that's the thing. And I'm a plant and I

859
00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:21,160
Speaker 1: genuinely need like light, and so even my apartment in

860
00:43:21,320 --> 00:43:23,840
Speaker 1: New York, Like, I think one of the two criteria

861
00:43:23,880 --> 00:43:26,600
Speaker 1: I had was I need natural light. Like it's there's

862
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:29,480
Speaker 1: an abundance of natural light and it is not gonna

863
00:43:29,480 --> 00:43:33,360
Speaker 1: in any way be obstructed based on where my apartment faces,

864
00:43:33,600 --> 00:43:35,759
Speaker 1: and I just like I need I can't. I get

865
00:43:35,800 --> 00:43:38,120
Speaker 1: scared winter. I'm like, oh lord, my, I feel very

866
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:40,560
Speaker 1: pist season winter though, where I'm like, I'm gonna be

867
00:43:40,760 --> 00:43:44,080
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be sad because it's dark earlier. And as

868
00:43:44,160 --> 00:43:46,000
Speaker 1: much as I am an introvert, I'm like, love to

869
00:43:46,000 --> 00:43:48,680
Speaker 1: be an introvert in the summertime. But I love watching

870
00:43:48,680 --> 00:43:51,719
Speaker 1: people bounce around, you get it. I'm like, but I'm

871
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:54,480
Speaker 1: loving the energy. I'm loving watching out my window and like.

872
00:43:55,120 --> 00:43:58,080
Speaker 2: A well, you love being alone with everybody?

873
00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:02,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like the one of the most comfortable times I've

874
00:44:02,160 --> 00:44:06,160
Speaker 1: felt was being at a friend's apartment in La We

875
00:44:06,239 --> 00:44:08,759
Speaker 1: had like had a rehearsal for sketch and we went

876
00:44:08,800 --> 00:44:11,640
Speaker 1: to his apartment and we were just there was no agenda.

877
00:44:11,719 --> 00:44:13,120
Speaker 1: It wasn't like we're going to the apartment because we're

878
00:44:13,120 --> 00:44:14,880
Speaker 1: gonna gout, We're gonna wing too your apartment, we're planning

879
00:44:14,880 --> 00:44:16,640
Speaker 1: to order this. We just were in his apartment right

880
00:44:16,920 --> 00:44:19,520
Speaker 1: at this real moment of clarity for myself where I

881
00:44:19,560 --> 00:44:22,840
Speaker 1: was like, this is really nice. There's no agenda, and

882
00:44:22,880 --> 00:44:24,520
Speaker 1: I'm on my laptop because I have something to do,

883
00:44:24,600 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 1: much like you and your emails on the date, there's

884
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:28,680
Speaker 1: something that was requiring my attention on my laptop. And

885
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:30,839
Speaker 1: I was like, this feels like family. Like I'm over

886
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:34,239
Speaker 1: here on my laptop. We don't have an agenda. There

887
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:36,799
Speaker 1: was no music playing. We were really just like at

888
00:44:36,800 --> 00:44:39,160
Speaker 1: his apartment and I was like, I'm on my laptop.

889
00:44:39,200 --> 00:44:42,160
Speaker 1: We've spent the day together. I feel easy, breezy. Everyone's

890
00:44:42,160 --> 00:44:44,080
Speaker 1: doing their thing. And then my friend at one point

891
00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:46,120
Speaker 1: was like what are you doing on the computer, And

892
00:44:46,160 --> 00:44:47,600
Speaker 1: it snapped me out of it and I was like, oh,

893
00:44:47,719 --> 00:44:50,960
Speaker 1: it's not as comforty. It's not as comfy as I thought.

894
00:44:51,120 --> 00:44:53,560
Speaker 1: But not the friend who owned the apartment, but it

895
00:44:53,600 --> 00:44:55,759
Speaker 1: was different and another friend in the group and I

896
00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:57,319
Speaker 1: was like, oh see, and I had told him. I

897
00:44:57,320 --> 00:44:58,800
Speaker 1: was like, you kind of we talked about it the

898
00:44:58,840 --> 00:45:00,880
Speaker 1: next day. I was like you and the the apartment,

899
00:45:01,000 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 1: me and the guy who goes, what are you doing?

900
00:45:02,560 --> 00:45:04,080
Speaker 1: Why are you on the laptop? I was like, you

901
00:45:04,160 --> 00:45:07,839
Speaker 1: kind of snapped me out of this. This then space

902
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:09,640
Speaker 1: where I was like, oh, this feels like family, Like

903
00:45:09,719 --> 00:45:11,480
Speaker 1: I don't have to be on and like, of course

904
00:45:11,520 --> 00:45:13,719
Speaker 1: I'm going to chime in the conversation here or there.

905
00:45:13,760 --> 00:45:15,680
Speaker 1: I'm gonna put the laptop away in a second, but

906
00:45:15,800 --> 00:45:16,399
Speaker 1: like I.

907
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:18,960
Speaker 2: Were cognizant of what was happening around. Yeah, but you

908
00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:20,200
Speaker 2: also felt safe to be doing.

909
00:45:20,160 --> 00:45:22,200
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, I feel this is so nice.

910
00:45:22,239 --> 00:45:25,080
Speaker 1: There's no expectation of me, and for me, part of

911
00:45:25,160 --> 00:45:27,840
Speaker 1: like being at home and part of why I like

912
00:45:27,920 --> 00:45:29,600
Speaker 1: being on my own a lot of the times is

913
00:45:29,600 --> 00:45:32,759
Speaker 1: because I'm like, there's no expectation of me. Like when

914
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:35,920
Speaker 1: I'm by myself, I'm like I can be whatever I

915
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:40,520
Speaker 1: want to be and no one's now scrutinizing my every move.

916
00:45:40,719 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 1: I still hang out with those friends. I still love them.

917
00:45:43,760 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 1: There are people that it got very strange with and

918
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:49,000
Speaker 1: I'm sure you experienced that right that it got strange with.

919
00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:51,319
Speaker 1: Did you have any friends that like you would be

920
00:45:51,360 --> 00:45:53,279
Speaker 1: like this person loves me, but they don't like me.

921
00:45:53,880 --> 00:45:54,360
Speaker 2: Yeah.

922
00:45:54,480 --> 00:45:55,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, my friend and I were talking about that.

923
00:45:56,120 --> 00:46:00,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've had a few of those people. And for why, well,

924
00:46:00,600 --> 00:46:04,920
Speaker 2: I had to keep them around because the social circle.

925
00:46:05,560 --> 00:46:07,240
Speaker 2: I was not going to not be in that circle

926
00:46:07,719 --> 00:46:11,360
Speaker 2: for a certain amount of time based on several different factors.

927
00:46:11,440 --> 00:46:13,839
Speaker 2: So to remove myself would only be able to be

928
00:46:13,960 --> 00:46:19,400
Speaker 2: to complicate mm hmm matters. And so sometimes I have

929
00:46:19,480 --> 00:46:22,600
Speaker 2: to be the the architect of peace, and to be

930
00:46:22,600 --> 00:46:24,640
Speaker 2: the architect of piece doesn't always mean that there is

931
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:29,799
Speaker 2: the absence of war. And so I thought, well, let

932
00:46:29,800 --> 00:46:32,600
Speaker 2: me just I'll play along for now until I know

933
00:46:32,680 --> 00:46:36,480
Speaker 2: that I can permanently remove myself from this cycle.

934
00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:39,360
Speaker 1: And you have removed yourself permanently from the cycle, you

935
00:46:39,400 --> 00:46:43,239
Speaker 1: seem to have no problem getting out removing yourself.

936
00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:46,239
Speaker 2: No, no, anymore. I don't want to be anywhere more

937
00:46:46,280 --> 00:46:48,960
Speaker 2: than I don't want to be anywhere where I were.

938
00:46:49,000 --> 00:46:52,160
Speaker 2: Tightest can't be m hm. And if Titus can't be there,

939
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:54,239
Speaker 2: I want to We can't do that I can't do

940
00:46:54,280 --> 00:46:57,200
Speaker 2: it anymore, even like yeah.

941
00:46:57,640 --> 00:47:08,880
Speaker 1: Even like hey, TuS, I thought we were about to Okay,

942
00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:11,920
Speaker 1: fair enough, I understand, you know, everything doesn't have to

943
00:47:11,920 --> 00:47:15,239
Speaker 1: be said, and sometimes things can just are understood. I

944
00:47:15,280 --> 00:47:18,719
Speaker 1: don't know what that was, but I feel like it

945
00:47:18,760 --> 00:47:24,760
Speaker 1: was good. It was going to be good. Your dad,

946
00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:29,279
Speaker 1: you call him dad, biological father, sperm donor what? How

947
00:47:29,320 --> 00:47:31,680
Speaker 1: do you actually refer to him if you weren't here, Like,

948
00:47:31,800 --> 00:47:33,600
Speaker 1: how would you refer to him in life?

949
00:47:33,880 --> 00:47:36,160
Speaker 2: I try not to. How do I refer to him

950
00:47:36,200 --> 00:47:36,720
Speaker 2: to his face?

951
00:47:38,200 --> 00:47:40,480
Speaker 1: That? And then also I just remove.

952
00:47:41,520 --> 00:47:44,360
Speaker 2: The pronoun or the noun whatever it's called, and I

953
00:47:44,440 --> 00:47:45,799
Speaker 2: just be like hey, and I get right to what

954
00:47:45,840 --> 00:47:46,279
Speaker 2: I want. Oh.

955
00:47:46,320 --> 00:47:48,759
Speaker 1: So there's no no calling hi, vice first name. It's

956
00:47:48,760 --> 00:47:50,680
Speaker 1: not calling dad. It's just but so you do talk

957
00:47:50,719 --> 00:47:51,360
Speaker 1: to him.

958
00:47:52,160 --> 00:47:55,480
Speaker 2: He will text me. I've asked him not, I've asked

959
00:47:55,560 --> 00:47:59,000
Speaker 2: him to leave me alone. Okay. About five years ago,

960
00:47:59,520 --> 00:48:06,520
Speaker 2: he I started having dreams about reconnecting and I had

961
00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:09,560
Speaker 2: not my current therapist, but my therapist before that said

962
00:48:09,600 --> 00:48:13,000
Speaker 2: to me, Titus. My mom had said to me, Titus,

963
00:48:13,040 --> 00:48:16,160
Speaker 2: maybe you should call him, talk to him, say what

964
00:48:16,200 --> 00:48:17,719
Speaker 2: you need to say and get it off your chest whatever.

965
00:48:18,160 --> 00:48:21,440
Speaker 2: I told my therapist what my mom had suggested, and

966
00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:23,120
Speaker 2: he said, Titus, you are not going to hear what

967
00:48:23,160 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 2: you want to hear. If you do it, just know

968
00:48:29,640 --> 00:48:32,359
Speaker 2: that it has to be for you, like it has

969
00:48:32,400 --> 00:48:34,600
Speaker 2: to be one side at me. I wanted to say this,

970
00:48:35,080 --> 00:48:38,000
Speaker 2: not because you are in pursuit of anything. And he

971
00:48:38,120 --> 00:48:41,799
Speaker 2: was absolutely right. And I was devastated. And it took

972
00:48:41,840 --> 00:48:48,879
Speaker 2: me a while to make peace with my therapists being

973
00:48:48,880 --> 00:48:54,440
Speaker 2: correct and my biological father having not having the capacity

974
00:48:55,560 --> 00:49:00,680
Speaker 2: to own his part of how my childhood was curated.

975
00:49:02,600 --> 00:49:08,319
Speaker 2: And so back in January I texted him after he,

976
00:49:08,600 --> 00:49:10,040
Speaker 2: you know, was like happy to hear and I was like,

977
00:49:10,719 --> 00:49:13,640
Speaker 2: I said, you're absolutely right, it's going to be And

978
00:49:13,760 --> 00:49:17,800
Speaker 2: I wut down the litany of things that I needed

979
00:49:17,800 --> 00:49:19,680
Speaker 2: to say to him, and I said, you got to

980
00:49:19,719 --> 00:49:23,200
Speaker 2: know this is not an indictment. I'm not mad anymore.

981
00:49:23,280 --> 00:49:28,719
Speaker 2: I'm not any of those things anymore. I said, but

982
00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:36,680
Speaker 2: I don't have the fervor that you have to ignite

983
00:49:37,960 --> 00:49:40,279
Speaker 2: a relationship with you. I can't do that with you.

984
00:49:40,480 --> 00:49:44,000
Speaker 2: And I said, you made your decision a long time ago.

985
00:49:45,280 --> 00:49:50,360
Speaker 2: I said, if you need anything, anything, I will be there. Like,

986
00:49:51,640 --> 00:49:54,360
Speaker 2: no problem. I had the resources, that's not a problem.

987
00:49:54,400 --> 00:49:56,200
Speaker 2: But I cannot have a relationship with you.

988
00:49:56,800 --> 00:49:59,920
Speaker 1: And so what made the fervor that you might have

989
00:50:00,120 --> 00:50:02,160
Speaker 1: had dissipate because there sounds like there was a time

990
00:50:02,200 --> 00:50:04,520
Speaker 1: where you were maybe on the same page about trying.

991
00:50:05,239 --> 00:50:09,919
Speaker 2: Well, I it dissipated it once I realized that he

992
00:50:10,120 --> 00:50:14,920
Speaker 2: was always interested to atone for he was aware his

993
00:50:15,040 --> 00:50:18,600
Speaker 2: guilt was the impetus, not his genuine love for me.

994
00:50:20,080 --> 00:50:23,759
Speaker 2: And I'm not going to unlocked that prison for you.

995
00:50:25,200 --> 00:50:30,680
Speaker 2: That's not mine, that's yours and me especially once I

996
00:50:30,800 --> 00:50:36,399
Speaker 2: understood what was underscoring this new move me entering into

997
00:50:36,440 --> 00:50:41,200
Speaker 2: a covenant whereby I would agree to participate in this

998
00:50:41,840 --> 00:50:45,479
Speaker 2: non relationship relationship put me in prison, and I spent

999
00:50:45,960 --> 00:50:48,080
Speaker 2: forty plus years trying to get out of it, so

1000
00:50:48,080 --> 00:50:49,880
Speaker 2: I not can go back and see it. Yeah, get

1001
00:50:49,880 --> 00:50:50,239
Speaker 2: out of here?

1002
00:50:50,320 --> 00:50:53,520
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah? How did he respond? I don't care, you

1003
00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:54,400
Speaker 1: don't care, Okay.

1004
00:50:54,480 --> 00:50:56,840
Speaker 2: I blocked it. I understand, and then I later I

1005
00:50:56,920 --> 00:50:57,560
Speaker 2: unblocked him.

1006
00:50:58,280 --> 00:50:59,120
Speaker 1: Why do I block?

1007
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:02,480
Speaker 2: I do that sometimes because I said to him, if

1008
00:51:02,520 --> 00:51:04,279
Speaker 2: you need something, how would you get in touch with me?

1009
00:51:04,360 --> 00:51:05,839
Speaker 1: That's true? You did say, that's fair.

1010
00:51:05,960 --> 00:51:10,160
Speaker 2: Fair, fair, But I deleted the conversation and then I

1011
00:51:10,200 --> 00:51:13,919
Speaker 2: deleted it from doing twice ye And so it makes

1012
00:51:13,960 --> 00:51:18,960
Speaker 2: me sad for him that he can't do it for himself,

1013
00:51:19,840 --> 00:51:25,400
Speaker 2: that he can't walk himself through his choices. I'm okay

1014
00:51:25,880 --> 00:51:29,000
Speaker 2: because I raised myself the part of me that needed

1015
00:51:29,040 --> 00:51:32,920
Speaker 2: my dad. I did that. I got me here. My

1016
00:51:33,000 --> 00:51:35,560
Speaker 2: mom was great, she did what she could. She's not

1017
00:51:35,800 --> 00:51:44,480
Speaker 2: without her shit. But you know I I I've done

1018
00:51:44,560 --> 00:51:47,120
Speaker 2: things where I've had to go back through some extreme

1019
00:51:47,160 --> 00:51:52,160
Speaker 2: discomfort where I could have at the time responded differently

1020
00:51:52,520 --> 00:51:54,759
Speaker 2: to a covenant that I had agreed to, and I

1021
00:51:54,800 --> 00:51:56,320
Speaker 2: didn't hold up to my end of the bargain. I

1022
00:51:57,440 --> 00:52:02,040
Speaker 2: will never do that to anyone. It's awful. It is awful.

1023
00:52:03,080 --> 00:52:07,640
Speaker 2: And so if he wants to be free, he has

1024
00:52:07,680 --> 00:52:09,920
Speaker 2: to free himself. I had to free myself.

1025
00:52:11,840 --> 00:52:13,680
Speaker 1: That's fair. Do you want kids?

1026
00:52:14,160 --> 00:52:19,520
Speaker 2: Fuck? No, no, no, no, no no. There are too

1027
00:52:19,520 --> 00:52:24,200
Speaker 2: many parameters. There are two, there's the absence. There's too

1028
00:52:24,239 --> 00:52:28,239
Speaker 2: many parameters that are absent in the day to day

1029
00:52:28,920 --> 00:52:34,239
Speaker 2: and globally and on the federal level, that are in

1030
00:52:34,360 --> 00:52:37,160
Speaker 2: place where if my kid walks out of the door,

1031
00:52:37,360 --> 00:52:39,040
Speaker 2: I'm not my assholes. Not mean fin to be tight

1032
00:52:39,080 --> 00:52:41,479
Speaker 2: when I don't know where you are. That's too much.

1033
00:52:41,880 --> 00:52:47,280
Speaker 2: And I see how he handled himself. Not granted, I

1034
00:52:47,320 --> 00:52:49,719
Speaker 2: would like to think that I won't do that, but

1035
00:52:50,000 --> 00:52:51,759
Speaker 2: I can only think as far as wanting to be

1036
00:52:51,840 --> 00:52:54,600
Speaker 2: in a relationship and having to get up out of bed.

1037
00:52:55,160 --> 00:52:56,719
Speaker 2: This thing. Then they say when a child is born,

1038
00:52:56,760 --> 00:53:00,880
Speaker 2: there's a natural you fall in love and information is

1039
00:53:01,320 --> 00:53:06,439
Speaker 2: downloaded that perhaps you've never knew was there. A new

1040
00:53:07,120 --> 00:53:11,680
Speaker 2: portal is opened up in your body. And I've experienced

1041
00:53:11,960 --> 00:53:19,759
Speaker 2: that we're dogs. But I think my children is art.

1042
00:53:20,400 --> 00:53:25,839
Speaker 2: And I think what I can leave behind that will

1043
00:53:25,880 --> 00:53:31,120
Speaker 2: go on after I leave here is what part of

1044
00:53:31,120 --> 00:53:35,240
Speaker 2: my mind I've let be recorded whereby people can listen

1045
00:53:35,239 --> 00:53:38,600
Speaker 2: and revisit it should they want to. I don't deem

1046
00:53:38,600 --> 00:53:44,880
Speaker 2: myself some extraordinary thinker that or an extremely artists in

1047
00:53:44,920 --> 00:53:48,000
Speaker 2: relation to but this is what I have, and this

1048
00:53:48,160 --> 00:53:51,480
Speaker 2: was the truth in my highverd many years. I will

1049
00:53:51,520 --> 00:53:54,399
Speaker 2: have been here when it's time to leave, and that's

1050
00:53:54,120 --> 00:53:56,400
Speaker 2: the that is I can get on board with that.

1051
00:53:56,480 --> 00:54:00,640
Speaker 2: I can be confident in that that I feel a

1052
00:54:00,680 --> 00:54:03,640
Speaker 2: paternal instinct about. And that is what rises up at

1053
00:54:03,680 --> 00:54:06,080
Speaker 2: me when I hear about legacy. I can't do that.

1054
00:54:06,360 --> 00:54:09,440
Speaker 2: I don't think it's safe for me to do that

1055
00:54:10,200 --> 00:54:12,040
Speaker 2: in the human form.

1056
00:54:12,160 --> 00:54:15,680
Speaker 1: That's fair. Yeah, I understand, and I appreciate that. And

1057
00:54:15,719 --> 00:54:18,040
Speaker 1: now it's time for a segment called that's nice, But

1058
00:54:18,160 --> 00:54:25,440
Speaker 1: what about me? It is stupid, fucking dumb. Okay, Titus,

1059
00:54:25,560 --> 00:54:31,239
Speaker 1: you get it. You're busy with acting, entertainment, projects on projects.

1060
00:54:31,840 --> 00:54:36,759
Speaker 1: How do I carve out time for myself? What is

1061
00:54:36,800 --> 00:54:39,120
Speaker 1: your methodology? Do you have two phones? Do you schedule

1062
00:54:39,120 --> 00:54:41,200
Speaker 1: a vacation every year? Well in advance? Like, what do

1063
00:54:41,239 --> 00:54:45,480
Speaker 1: you do so that you don't experience burnout? What should

1064
00:54:45,480 --> 00:54:53,160
Speaker 1: I do and experience burnout? What are your February or

1065
00:54:53,760 --> 00:54:57,000
Speaker 1: March pisces? Are you February? Okay? This is that's where

1066
00:54:57,000 --> 00:54:57,760
Speaker 1: the split begins.

1067
00:55:00,680 --> 00:55:06,960
Speaker 2: You You're just gonna have to okay, the same way

1068
00:55:07,040 --> 00:55:09,680
Speaker 2: you are the face of your art, the same way

1069
00:55:09,680 --> 00:55:16,200
Speaker 2: that you are the face of your yeah, chosen family,

1070
00:55:16,480 --> 00:55:19,680
Speaker 2: Like you have to act on behalf of of that.

1071
00:55:19,760 --> 00:55:21,920
Speaker 2: You also have to act on behalf of your piece.

1072
00:55:22,680 --> 00:55:29,520
Speaker 2: And these three things, while the currency is different in

1073
00:55:29,560 --> 00:55:33,080
Speaker 2: these planes, one is money, one is a type of love,

1074
00:55:33,120 --> 00:55:38,520
Speaker 2: and then one is uh self care. They are all

1075
00:55:39,840 --> 00:55:43,480
Speaker 2: the pendulum swings in terms of how much weight they carry.

1076
00:55:44,719 --> 00:55:48,839
Speaker 2: And you you have to even if it's a big

1077
00:55:48,880 --> 00:55:52,279
Speaker 2: money grab or the family really needs you, if you

1078
00:55:52,320 --> 00:55:55,120
Speaker 2: ain't got anything, or if you're not taking care of

1079
00:55:55,160 --> 00:56:00,279
Speaker 2: this this one thing you have offered energy and these

1080
00:56:00,280 --> 00:56:03,799
Speaker 2: other two things. That is murky and muddy and not

1081
00:56:04,000 --> 00:56:10,719
Speaker 2: as transparent as as it would be were you to

1082
00:56:10,840 --> 00:56:13,840
Speaker 2: take care of your your health. So you just have

1083
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Speaker 2: to put out some hard nose and and know that

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Speaker 2: once I take care of this and I'm in the

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00:56:20,360 --> 00:56:25,359
Speaker 2: right space, I will regenerate these other two things. It's

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Speaker 2: just as how it is.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So just fucking say no, Okay, say no no, yeah,

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Speaker 1: And that's a complete That is a complete. Yeah, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I really appreciate it. This podcast isn't just about you,

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00:56:37,960 --> 00:56:40,480
Speaker 1: and it's not just about me. We also help a listener.

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00:56:40,960 --> 00:56:43,440
Speaker 1: So we have a listener who needs advice. Kevin, you

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00:56:43,480 --> 00:56:46,280
Speaker 1: can play that. It's real life. This is a real listener.

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Speaker 4: Hey, I don't know if you're going to listen to this,

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Speaker 4: but I was wondering if you had advice for making

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00:56:53,360 --> 00:56:58,000
Speaker 4: friends in the city during college. Also, I love you

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00:56:58,000 --> 00:56:59,200
Speaker 4: guys so much. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Bye.

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Speaker 2: Making friends.

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Speaker 1: Since she goes to college in New York, it sounds

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Speaker 1: like it, Yes, what would you tell her?

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Speaker 2: You got time to go out out of your classes

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00:57:11,440 --> 00:57:15,560
Speaker 2: and have a social circle. That are people who don't

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00:57:16,480 --> 00:57:19,000
Speaker 2: who are not in your what you're trying to do,

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Speaker 2: she's not on the line. I'm trying to don't. I

1105
00:57:22,000 --> 00:57:24,000
Speaker 2: don't know. Okay, what do you think she's trying to do?

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Speaker 1: She's trying to make friends, she said, do you know

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Speaker 1: the answer was in the prompt? Yeah, trying to make friends.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I guess, well, you can't. How old are

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Speaker 2: you would college?

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Speaker 1: Eighteen to twenty two? Eighteen to twenty presumably not twenty two,

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Speaker 1: given it's sounding like college is relatively new to this listener.

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Speaker 2: I think I think social. I think you're you're going

1113
00:57:50,040 --> 00:57:52,720
Speaker 2: to do it anyways. You're going to be social. That's

1114
00:57:52,720 --> 00:57:54,880
Speaker 2: that's the thing. Like, you know, when we're in college,

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00:57:55,160 --> 00:57:58,400
Speaker 2: you want so desperately to not be in school. You know,

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00:57:58,480 --> 00:58:00,840
Speaker 2: you want to go out and party and and play

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00:58:00,880 --> 00:58:03,439
Speaker 2: and do all the things. So I mean, wear tight

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Speaker 2: clothes and like show your boobies and like.

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Speaker 1: This is why Titus can't be a dad. You know

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Speaker 1: what we've decided today.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. What do you think?

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00:58:16,720 --> 00:58:18,520
Speaker 1: You said, I'm a love it to you because I

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Speaker 1: lead this young soul of stress.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I mean, make friends. What are your interests, Lean into

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00:58:25,560 --> 00:58:28,400
Speaker 1: those interests, meet like minded people that way, and that's

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00:58:28,440 --> 00:58:32,200
Speaker 1: a good barometer for whether you would be friends. Naturally.

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Speaker 1: You like that, You're like, yeah, you take it between

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Speaker 1: the two of us. Child, Okay, Titus, I really appreciate

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00:58:42,280 --> 00:58:46,000
Speaker 1: you sharing yourself with me today. I really really really

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00:58:46,080 --> 00:58:48,400
Speaker 1: appreciate it. I know you would not be here if

1132
00:58:48,400 --> 00:58:50,520
Speaker 1: you didn't want to, So I'm honored you're here, and

1133
00:58:50,560 --> 00:58:54,040
Speaker 1: I appreciate your vulnerability, and I hope you felt me

1134
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Speaker 1: hold that. I adore you. Thank you, thank you. And

1135
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Speaker 1: that was my episode with Titus Burgess. I think we delivered.

1136
00:59:08,560 --> 00:59:11,200
Speaker 1: We delivered a product, and you might have opinions about

1137
00:59:11,200 --> 00:59:14,040
Speaker 1: that product, but keep them to yourself, No, don't. Actually,

1138
00:59:14,040 --> 00:59:16,920
Speaker 1: if you liked the podcast, I hope you subscribed, and

1139
00:59:17,000 --> 00:59:20,160
Speaker 1: I hope you've left a nice review. That would be nice.

1140
00:59:20,240 --> 00:59:21,840
Speaker 1: Why not? No one told me to ask you that,

1141
00:59:21,880 --> 00:59:23,800
Speaker 1: but I just thought that would be really nice. That'd

1142
00:59:23,840 --> 00:59:27,280
Speaker 1: be very sweet, and I would appreciate it anyway, Titus,

1143
00:59:27,320 --> 00:59:29,840
Speaker 1: how fun is he. We got a lot of tea,

1144
00:59:30,080 --> 00:59:33,880
Speaker 1: a lot of juice, and honestly wors chalk full of beverages.

1145
00:59:33,960 --> 00:59:38,200
Speaker 1: And I have to be that was like a dad joke.

1146
00:59:39,040 --> 00:59:42,200
Speaker 1: That was a dad joke. Oh boy, I have to

1147
00:59:42,240 --> 00:59:46,480
Speaker 1: go back to comedy school. If you want advice from

1148
00:59:46,520 --> 00:59:49,240
Speaker 1: me and Titus in the future, not me and Titus,

1149
00:59:49,280 --> 00:59:52,640
Speaker 1: me and my guest Titus. Titus may be back. I

1150
00:59:52,640 --> 00:59:53,920
Speaker 1: don't know if he'll be back. I don't know if

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00:59:53,920 --> 00:59:55,720
Speaker 1: he'll want to come back. I don't I haven't repeated

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00:59:55,720 --> 00:59:59,360
Speaker 1: any guests yet. I'm everyone's again, just like Dad of

1153
00:59:59,400 --> 01:00:02,640
Speaker 1: the day for But if you want advice from me

1154
01:00:02,880 --> 01:00:06,400
Speaker 1: and my next guest or another guest, call me. Leave

1155
01:00:06,440 --> 01:00:09,120
Speaker 1: a voice message. The numbers five oh two eight four

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Speaker 1: nine three two three seven five oh two eight four

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01:00:12,400 --> 01:00:16,120
Speaker 1: nine three two three seven five o two eight four

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Speaker 1: nine no five oh two. Thanks Dad's anyway, I just

1159
01:00:20,480 --> 01:00:22,440
Speaker 1: wanted to see if you were paying attention. Call leave

1160
01:00:22,480 --> 01:00:25,800
Speaker 1: a voice message. I love you so much. I don't

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01:00:25,800 --> 01:00:29,000
Speaker 1: think you get how much I love you, and it's

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01:00:29,040 --> 01:00:31,760
Speaker 1: really fucking me up right now. I'll see you guys

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01:00:31,840 --> 01:00:35,800
Speaker 1: next time. Please come back. I love you, no, I

1164
01:00:35,840 --> 01:00:38,160
Speaker 1: seriously love you, and you don't have to love me too.

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01:00:38,200 --> 01:00:39,960
Speaker 1: You don't have to say it back. There's no pressure

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01:00:40,000 --> 01:00:41,240
Speaker 1: to say it back, But I love you.

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Speaker 2: Bye.

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Speaker 1: Thanks Dad. Is a production of Will Ferrell's Big Money

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Speaker 1: Players and iHeart podcasts. I'm your host Ago wodem Our

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01:00:48,920 --> 01:00:52,439
Speaker 1: producer is Kevin Bartelt, and our executive producer is Matt

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