Speaker 1: Welcome back to I Do Part two. I am one
Speaker 1: of your celebrity mentors, Jen Pessler, and I am here
Speaker 1: at live in the vineyard in beautiful Napa Valley. I
Speaker 1: am having the best time with I Do Part two.
Speaker 2: Crewe new friends.
Speaker 1: I'm actually seeing some old friends. So we've been talking
Speaker 1: about this little match making moment that we've had here
Speaker 1: on the podcast, and I have sitting next to me,
Speaker 1: the man of the hour. I want you guys to
Speaker 1: please welcome Pascal from the Golden Bachelorette back to the pod. Hello,
Speaker 1: my new friend, how are you. I am so happy
Speaker 1: to be sitting here with you. We have had a
Speaker 1: chance to get to know each other a little bit tonight. Yes,
Speaker 1: and it's been an absolute pleasure.
Speaker 3: Same here.
Speaker 2: Thank you, Thank you for saying that, Pascal.
Speaker 1: Yes again, I've had a chance to spend a little
Speaker 1: bit of time with you today into tonight and it's
Speaker 1: been a pleasure. I'm a big fan already. I watched
Speaker 1: a little bit of you on the Golden Bachelorette. You
Speaker 1: got very close to the end there, but you were charming.
Speaker 1: I was charmed, the audience was charmed. I think Joan
Speaker 1: was charmed. The world was charmed. But now we're going
Speaker 1: to talk about Kelly being charmed. So Pascal, talk to
Speaker 1: me about you and Kelly. You slid into her DMS.
Speaker 1: Tell me why, and then we're going to get into
Speaker 1: a little bit about how the night went.
Speaker 3: Slim into the d M.
Speaker 4: I think there was a little misunderstanding in here because
Speaker 4: I think what I found out from Giddy then he
Speaker 4: went into the you know, the story about the the
Speaker 4: Valentine's Days, about the mystery that she was going to
Speaker 4: take for the Music Award, and I found that. Then
Speaker 4: the guy was going to go with her, and then
Speaker 4: I ended up seeing her with Gary, and I talked
Speaker 4: to Gary on the phone. I said, what happened? So
Speaker 4: Gary start telling me a little bit about the story.
Speaker 4: So you know, that's how we get in touch Killy
Speaker 4: and I.
Speaker 3: And then I think that's it.
Speaker 1: You but you heard that she wasn't with guys, she
Speaker 1: was Gary. And then you just listen to her DMS
Speaker 1: because you thought, let me jump on board this.
Speaker 3: She said, she said, trying to be funny. Yes, mostly
Speaker 3: try to be funny.
Speaker 4: And then you know she told her, I said, I
Speaker 4: think I would have better better match as a as
Speaker 4: a joke.
Speaker 1: You know, by the way, did you know anything about
Speaker 1: her at this point? You didn't hear the podcast?
Speaker 2: Had you? Did you listen to the Daily Game one?
Speaker 3: I heard about the didn't game.
Speaker 4: I heard about the didn't game and Valentines when she
Speaker 4: had to choose one of the board and bachelors you
Speaker 4: go to the fisty of the Music Award. So I
Speaker 4: heard that from Gary as well as I heard that
Speaker 4: from guys. Okay, okay, But I didn't know anything about Katy.
Speaker 4: I didn't know who she was.
Speaker 3: I didn't know. I had no idea who she was.
Speaker 3: You know, she looked like not either, no, no, no, nothing.
Speaker 1: It was just like, you know what she says, be funny,
Speaker 1: all right, So you took a little chance there, that's
Speaker 1: a little chance.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So if I say it one more time, I'm going
Speaker 1: to throw up. I hate the expression slid into her dms. Yes,
Speaker 1: the dumbest expression. Excuse me, I agree, thank you. But
Speaker 1: now here we are at live in the vineyard, the
Speaker 1: beautiful Napa Valley, California, and you meet the beautiful Kelly
Speaker 1: ben Simon. So just tell me what was your first impression.
Speaker 4: The first time I saw that she's very attractive. Definitely,
Speaker 4: she's tall, she's feet, she's a fashionable.
Speaker 2: She met her when she was in a bikini from Actually.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was working out of my hotel oom. I
Speaker 4: was walking downstairs and she was at the pool at
Speaker 4: the time. She woke out of the pool and that's
Speaker 4: how we met. So I met her in a bikini,
Speaker 4: so I was it was there already, So.
Speaker 2: Of course she's right, right.
Speaker 4: She's attractive, she's she's well spoken, she's uh, she's got.
Speaker 3: A good personality. She's she's a lot of fun.
Speaker 1: Was she what you pictured when you were, you know,
Speaker 1: talking to her on the pod?
Speaker 4: I didn't, I didn't. I told she was she was, yes, yes,
Speaker 4: me not taking the podcast. We were both sitting down
Speaker 4: so we couldn't really see the high But.
Speaker 2: That is that a turn on for you? Do you
Speaker 2: like tall women?
Speaker 4: I'm not.
Speaker 3: I like to be the dominant. Yeah, you know I'm
Speaker 3: five eleven.
Speaker 2: Five eleven, Yeah that is tall, Yeah exactly.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you like I like to be a little
Speaker 1: bit taller, yes, yes, yes, so tell me. I mean,
Speaker 1: we just came back from this whole adventure, and I
Speaker 1: guess you seem very confident to me.
Speaker 2: Were you nervous at all.
Speaker 1: I mean I watched you guys from the getting here,
Speaker 1: and you seem very just, I don't know, sure of
Speaker 1: yourself easy.
Speaker 2: Did you feel that way? Were you nervous?
Speaker 3: No, I wasn't nervous.
Speaker 4: I mean remember one time, I mean, I mean nine
Speaker 4: us toe where I deal with women all day long.
Speaker 3: Okay, this is what I do for a living.
Speaker 4: So I'm much more comfortable with women than i am
Speaker 4: with men. Wow, So to me, it's very easy when
Speaker 4: there is a woman around me. It's very easy for
Speaker 4: me to engage your conversation because that's what I do.
Speaker 4: So No, I wasn't insecure at all. I feel very confident.
Speaker 3: I knew then.
Speaker 4: Whatever happened after that experience is killing. I would be friend, okay,
Speaker 4: And that's the best part of it is I get
Speaker 4: a new friend today.
Speaker 2: I wish that everyone.
Speaker 1: I hope that everyone's listening who is single and who
Speaker 1: is looking for love. Here's what Pascal just said, and
Speaker 1: Kelly and I spoke about it a little bit and
Speaker 1: takes it to heart, like at the end of the
Speaker 1: day when you were out there and you were dating.
Speaker 1: I think the best attitude is when you meet someone
Speaker 1: who probably not going to be a love connection. But
Speaker 1: guess what I'm going it to make a new friend.
Speaker 1: Maybe who knows, we'll hit it off in a different way.
Speaker 1: But that is the best, healthiest attitude in my humble opinion.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry to interrupt, Please go on.
Speaker 3: Yes, I mean I think to me, that's the way
Speaker 3: I look at it.
Speaker 4: You know, sometimes you look at somebody and you're very
Speaker 4: attractive to them, and then when you meet them there
Speaker 4: is not that spark. But it doesn't mean because there
Speaker 4: is not that spark, then you cannot be friends. So
Speaker 4: I think you you know, sometimes you meet some people
Speaker 4: and you look at them and say, you know, you
Speaker 4: better keep them as a friend and lovers. And I
Speaker 4: think Kelly is a very attractive looking woman. I think
Speaker 4: she's got a lot of class, she's got a great personality.
Speaker 4: But I see her more as a friend than a partners.
Speaker 2: Okay, so interesting.
Speaker 1: What was there anything specific that she said did that
Speaker 1: made you feel that way that?
Speaker 4: No? I don't know, No, no, not at all. I
Speaker 4: think I think we're a wonderful conversation. You're on that
Speaker 4: event where we're together, you know, I mean the as
Speaker 4: I need, you know, to meet all about chemistry. You know,
Speaker 4: you know when the chemistry is.
Speaker 3: There or not.
Speaker 4: You know, have enough experience over over the years my daddy,
Speaker 4: in my marriage. I know then to me, chemistry is
Speaker 4: extremely important.
Speaker 2: And it gets like, yes.
Speaker 4: She sees somebody will say, you know, that's the person
Speaker 4: you want to get to know. You know there is
Speaker 4: there is fire there, okay. And to me, when I
Speaker 4: see Kelly, I see, don't get me wrong, Katy is.
Speaker 3: Kelly is a beautiful woman.
Speaker 4: She's an out Okay, she's she's mean, she's got a
Speaker 4: lot of confidence, and I thank you she's she's a
Speaker 4: wonderful woman.
Speaker 3: But I need that spark.
Speaker 4: And I had the same problem when I was in
Speaker 4: the Bachelor. I didn't have I didn't have the spark
Speaker 4: for John. And John is a wonderful woman. She's classy,
Speaker 4: well spoken, well dressed, elegant, easy to talk to, but
Speaker 4: I just didn't have that spark.
Speaker 1: I think that Kelly could tell and we'll bring her
Speaker 1: in and we'll talk a little more about that that
Speaker 1: you weren't feeling that spark. I don't think she Maybe
Speaker 1: we should save this from when she's actually in the room.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I think you guys are a little simpotical,
Speaker 1: like she was feeling what you were putting out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she was, she was getting that.
Speaker 1: Did you was there anything that you may have learned
Speaker 1: about her about I don't know her parenting style or
Speaker 1: her type, like do you think about her and do
Speaker 1: you think listen, she's a great woman. I'm sure you
Speaker 1: do think this, but not for me. Do you think
Speaker 1: of anybody else you would want to set her up with?
Speaker 1: You see, do you have any ideas in terms of
Speaker 1: like who she would click with if it wasn't you
Speaker 1: or why?
Speaker 4: You know, you know what, I'm not a good matchmakers,
Speaker 4: you know, as you just don't know her that well.
Speaker 4: Mean I did spend all the time we serve and
Speaker 4: we talked a little bit about her.
Speaker 2: Marie Gievo was flirting going on. Was there anything?
Speaker 4: No, no, no, nothing like that. I think you know,
Speaker 4: we talked a little bit about her ex husband or children.
Speaker 3: Where she live?
Speaker 4: How long did you have found out? And she was
Speaker 4: even in France in publish for quite a few years.
Speaker 4: She speaks French fluently, so we engage a bit of
Speaker 4: the French conversation together.
Speaker 3: That was wonderful.
Speaker 4: But no, she didn't do anything to turn me off
Speaker 4: or make me get away from it to enjoy your company,
Speaker 4: as you just don't think this is a good fit
Speaker 4: for me.
Speaker 1: So I just want to say this to our listeners.
Speaker 1: And I'm not a psychiatrist, I'm not a relationship expert.
Speaker 1: I'm just putting it out there, like what I'm hearing
Speaker 1: from you is so interesting, Like it just because Kelly
Speaker 1: is a knockout and smart and successful and a wonderful mother.
Speaker 1: But for some whatever it was, the planets were not aligning.
Speaker 1: You didn't feel it, and there wasn't that little tiny
Speaker 1: bit of chemistry. And I think that where from where
Speaker 1: Kelly's coming from. I think maybe she would have given
Speaker 1: it a little more time in space and maybe, you know,
Speaker 1: seeing it out.
Speaker 2: I don't know what the right thing here is.
Speaker 1: Again, I'm not a relationship expert, but it sounds like
Speaker 1: for you, you're the type of man that if you don't
Speaker 1: feel it, you don't feel it, You're not going to
Speaker 1: feel it. Let's be friends. You can appreciate the fact
Speaker 1: that she's beautiful and desirable and wonderful time about her,
Speaker 1: but the chemistry wasn't there, and so you.
Speaker 4: Know, it's not It's not always about beauty. Okay, you
Speaker 4: know it's not always a baud beauty. I think I
Speaker 4: think beauty is we we have a tendency to be
Speaker 4: a little bit too superficial by looking at a woman
Speaker 4: who want her to be beautiful. I mean, I've been
Speaker 4: out with some beautiful woman where the chemistry wasn't there,
Speaker 4: and I went out with some women weren't so attractive
Speaker 4: where the chemistry was there.
Speaker 3: I think it's not it's not about a beauty.
Speaker 2: It's just something chemical.
Speaker 3: The chemical.
Speaker 4: The chemistry wasn't there, and that's not Sometimes you could
Speaker 4: you could develop you have it or you don't mean
Speaker 4: sometimes you know, I've meet someone it's there. I know.
Speaker 4: I wanted to get to need this person. I want
Speaker 4: to engage your competion.
Speaker 3: I wanted to.
Speaker 4: Get to know her and Kallie, I want to get
Speaker 4: to know her as a friend. I was I don't
Speaker 4: think there is any physical attraction. And again, she's a
Speaker 4: very attractive looking woman, but she's not the type of
Speaker 4: woman I'm looking for.
Speaker 2: I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know why I'm thinking that this is so
Speaker 1: healthy and fabulous that we could like talk about it.
Speaker 1: You can be you know, so appreciative of who she
Speaker 1: is and yet say it just didn't there was no
Speaker 1: spark for me, And I don't know, like it just
Speaker 1: makes to me if I'm single, I feel like that's
Speaker 1: so encouraging.
Speaker 2: You know, you can go out with someone.
Speaker 1: They could see that you're a wonderful person, interesting, beautiful, intelligent,
Speaker 1: and just that's okay that there's not a spark there,
Speaker 1: and so you just we just keep moving, right because
Speaker 1: you can spark with someone else. Yes, yes, yes, it's
Speaker 1: not about Kelly or you necessarily or it's just it's there.
Speaker 4: It's not and that's I mean, you know you know
Speaker 4: it when he's there, now, you know. I mean I
Speaker 4: I've got enough experience over the years we's dating and Madge, yeah,
Speaker 4: and I know then you know he has to be
Speaker 4: that special sense, that special touch, the special you want.
Speaker 1: I think that some people feel like like maybe Kelly
Speaker 1: felt like she would have given it some more time,
Speaker 1: and maybe that would have you guys could have found that,
Speaker 1: But it doesn't really matter in the end. You both
Speaker 1: it seems to me you both thought that she thought
Speaker 1: wonderful things about you as well. She had all nice
Speaker 1: things to say. Okay, so now we move on, But
Speaker 1: before we move on, we're bringing Kelly back in Okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: which you know is going to be fun.
Speaker 2: Okay, you're all adults. Yes, I think this is so evolved.
Speaker 2: We've handled it all so beautifully. Yeah, and we're going
Speaker 2: to bring back your new friends. Okay, Kelly be love
Speaker 2: to two