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<v Speaker 1>Pat it, Welcome to the show, Welcome to the EEE Farm,

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<v Speaker 1>the EEE Apparel headquarters. This is a crazy time, so

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<v Speaker 1>many things to talk about. This is gonna be a

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<v Speaker 1>good show. I've been going through. I set up an

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<v Speaker 1>email a couple of shows ago called Granger Smith Podcast

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<v Speaker 1>at gmail dot com, and I have been fielding these emails.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm overwhelmed with how many emails are coming in. So

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<v Speaker 1>first of all, thank you. If you've emailed me, thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to go through some of these randomly because

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<v Speaker 1>there's so many. I'm not really gonna be able to

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<v Speaker 1>pick and choose, but I'm going to go through them

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<v Speaker 1>randomly and just sit there and scroll on my phone boom,

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<v Speaker 1>pop an email out and talk with you as if

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<v Speaker 1>you're sitting in the living room or sitting next to

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<v Speaker 1>me in the shotgun seat of a truck. That's the

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<v Speaker 1>way I want this show to be, not planned, not scripted,

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<v Speaker 1>very raw, and I believe that that's the way that

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<v Speaker 1>I think it should go. And I think that you

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<v Speaker 1>will enjoy it more if it's more just me and

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<v Speaker 1>you getting to know each other, very conversational, Very grateful

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<v Speaker 1>happened with everything shutting down so they decided to stick

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<v Speaker 1>with e commerce, and that's what we do. We have

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<v Speaker 1>plans down the road maybe to have like a ee

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<v Speaker 1>Seed and Feed, maybe some kind of storefront, but right

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<v Speaker 1>now we're sticking with e commerce. We are a mom

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<v Speaker 1>and pop company. Still, We're still a family run business.

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<v Speaker 1>We always will be. We fulfill everything, so we don't

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<v Speaker 1>print our shirts, but we have a lot of people

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<v Speaker 1>that we work with at print them, and then we

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<v Speaker 1>have a design team and then we get everything the

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<v Speaker 1>big bulk boxes mail here and then me and my

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<v Speaker 1>crew will go through personally, sort through them, ship them out,

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<v Speaker 1>which we're really busy because of the fall launch, so

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<v Speaker 1>we got a lot of people in there shipping away

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<v Speaker 1>like crazy, trying to make it happen. If you're one

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<v Speaker 1>of those people waiting on an order, it's going to

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<v Speaker 1>take a few days. Like I said, family run business,

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<v Speaker 1>that's just the way it is. I'm going to get

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<v Speaker 1>to some of these emails next week, next podcast. I

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<v Speaker 1>believe it is going to be done just like the

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<v Speaker 1>old ones were done. Back of my bus, a Wildflower

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<v Speaker 1>on tour at least that's the plan. We are starting

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<v Speaker 1>the tour here and there, so check check my website

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<v Speaker 1>Grangersmith dot com to check out that tour. And before

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<v Speaker 1>I get into these questions, there's one question overwhelming above

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<v Speaker 1>all others, and that is will you be in blank city?

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<v Speaker 1>Whether that's Sacramento, or Fayetteville or Charlotte. I'm getting all

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<v Speaker 1>these questions. The answer to all of them is yes,

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<v Speaker 1>we will be. We're not going to skip your city,

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<v Speaker 1>and if we do, we're coming close by to a

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<v Speaker 1>nearby town. We will not skip any of the fifty States.

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<v Speaker 1>We will not skip Europe coming up in the next

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<v Speaker 1>couple of years. So be patient with me. I know

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<v Speaker 1>this is a crazy time, but we will be coming

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<v Speaker 1>to your town. Promise you don't even have to ask

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<v Speaker 1>that question. I want to. I know you need me to,

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<v Speaker 1>and we will. Welcome to the granger Smith Podcast, Episode

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<v Speaker 1>fifty one. Roll that intro d month times and long

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<v Speaker 1>line of us down the back. It's Rangy Cog. I

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<v Speaker 1>guess the most important thing I could say to start

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<v Speaker 1>this this show is that the album is out. I've

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<v Speaker 1>been talking about this. I don't know how many episodes,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how many times I've built it up,

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<v Speaker 1>but as we speak right now, it is out. It's

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<v Speaker 1>called Country Things Volume one and it has eight songs

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<v Speaker 1>on it, and then there'll be a Volume two that

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<v Speaker 1>comes out at the end of November, so you'll be

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<v Speaker 1>able to get Volume two collect them. You'll have sixteen

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<v Speaker 1>songs total. Right now, there's eight. It's out wherever you

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<v Speaker 1>find music, whether that's iTunes or Spotify or Apple Music

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<v Speaker 1>or Pandora or YouTube. There's a million ways to hear

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<v Speaker 1>this album. I just hope you pick one of them.

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<v Speaker 1>The only thing you can't do right now is get

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<v Speaker 1>the physical copy the CD, but we will when Volume

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<v Speaker 1>two comes out and they're collected together into sixteen songs.

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<v Speaker 1>You'll be able to get the CD at Walmart or

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<v Speaker 1>wherever you do that, and you'll also be able to

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<v Speaker 1>get the vinyl album. The vinyl album doesn't have all

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<v Speaker 1>of them because you can you're only allowed twenty minutes

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<v Speaker 1>per side on an old timey vinyl record, so I

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<v Speaker 1>had to kind of pick and choose what would sound

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<v Speaker 1>better on vinyl. But oh, in all pretty pumped about it.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's a really important week for you guys to

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<v Speaker 1>check this out because this is the week that first

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<v Speaker 1>seven days is what matters most on if this album

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<v Speaker 1>gets to be ranked as a a top five or

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<v Speaker 1>top ten album on Billboard. I've never personally had a

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<v Speaker 1>number one. That's not to be confused with like an

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<v Speaker 1>iTunes number one. That's different. Billboard is everything combined, whether

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<v Speaker 1>that's iTunes or all the streaming service, all of that

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<v Speaker 1>combined into one. And this is a this is a

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<v Speaker 1>crazy fact that most people don't know. But the way

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<v Speaker 1>that Billboard counts this for units consumed, right, it used

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<v Speaker 1>to be so easy. You're just how many records did

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<v Speaker 1>you sell? Boom, that's it. But now because of streaming,

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<v Speaker 1>it adds this interesting wrinkle. So it takes fifteen hundred

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<v Speaker 1>streams equals one download. So that's either that's a song

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<v Speaker 1>or an album. Same thing. So my album right now,

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<v Speaker 1>if you buy it on iTunes, it costs I believe

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<v Speaker 1>it's seven ninety nine seven dollars and ninety nine cents.

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<v Speaker 1>That if you do that, that equals the equivalent of

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<v Speaker 1>you streaming it. The whole album fifteen hundred times one thousand,

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<v Speaker 1>five hundred times is the same equivalent on Billboard for

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<v Speaker 1>the charting system as you paying seven bucks in ninety

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<v Speaker 1>nine cents. Isn't that wild? Like? Who even comes up

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<v Speaker 1>with these numbers. Who was the one that said it

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<v Speaker 1>needs to be five hundred, No, it needs maybe a thousand, No,

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<v Speaker 1>fifteen hundred, like who came up with that? But that's

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<v Speaker 1>the way it is, and that's the way when you

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<v Speaker 1>get You see some of these plaques on the wall

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<v Speaker 1>from Billboard, and it'll say instead of saying like a

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<v Speaker 1>gold record, for instance, which is five hundred thousand sales.

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<v Speaker 1>It used to be so easy. You sell five hundred

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<v Speaker 1>thousand copies, you get a gold record. But now it'll

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<v Speaker 1>say instead of sales, it says I think I believe

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<v Speaker 1>it says equivalent sales, so that that means it's including

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<v Speaker 1>streams fifteen hundred streams per not wild. But this is

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<v Speaker 1>an important time for me. So if you do buy

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<v Speaker 1>the album for seven ninety nine, or if you already

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<v Speaker 1>have a few songs, you complete my album for just

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<v Speaker 1>a few bucks. More so, if you've already paid four bucks,

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<v Speaker 1>then it's you know, you only play three ninety nine.

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<v Speaker 1>But this is an important time because that's when those

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<v Speaker 1>numbers really matter. But that being said, ultimately my main

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<v Speaker 1>goal is for y'all just to hear it, hear it

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<v Speaker 1>and like it and connect with it. There's eight songs

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<v Speaker 1>on there, so let me let me be honest with you.

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<v Speaker 1>If there's eight songs, I hope you really I hope

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<v Speaker 1>you like them all, and I hope you really connect

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<v Speaker 1>with three of them. And I hope one of them

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<v Speaker 1>is one of your favorite songs. That would be amazing,

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<v Speaker 1>like that's that's the odds I would like to play.

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<v Speaker 1>I would like you to really deeply connect with three

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<v Speaker 1>of them and go, man, that's my jam, that's about me,

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<v Speaker 1>or or I used to live that song. Yeah, so

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<v Speaker 1>comment below. If you're watching this on YouTube, comment below,

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<v Speaker 1>and subscribe to this channel too, and subscribe. If your whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>your favorite podcast app that you're listening on, subscribe to

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<v Speaker 1>that and we'll keep this thing rolling. Then I'll start

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<v Speaker 1>previewing volume two. Yeah, I was going to go through,

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<v Speaker 1>and I've had this question before. Why don't I go

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<v Speaker 1>and do the old podcast where I it was really

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<v Speaker 1>in depth and the production value was higher and there

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<v Speaker 1>was a lot of cuts and there was music playing.

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<v Speaker 1>I had to cut that out because YouTube and these

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<v Speaker 1>podcast apps don't allow me to play music, even if

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<v Speaker 1>if it's my own music. They will literally, without explanation,

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<v Speaker 1>mute that song. So I could be talking in a

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<v Speaker 1>random podcast and then there's like a dead space where

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<v Speaker 1>a song was playing. So yes, I could go jump

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<v Speaker 1>some hoops and get you know, lawyer's approval on since

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<v Speaker 1>they're my own songs, and get it all cleared. But

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<v Speaker 1>it takes a long time, and the easiest thing is

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<v Speaker 1>just to tell you guys, sorry, I can't play the

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<v Speaker 1>songs on this podcast, but you could literally just click

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<v Speaker 1>one click away and listen to anything off Country Things.

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<v Speaker 1>And I have like all the descriptions of these songs

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<v Speaker 1>and how I wrote them and how I recorded them.

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<v Speaker 1>I was going to read it. It might be kind

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<v Speaker 1>of long, so I don't know. In the artist world,

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<v Speaker 1>we call that cut by cuts, and I probably won't

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<v Speaker 1>read them on this podcast. I'll probably get to your questions,

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<v Speaker 1>but if you do want me to read these, let

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<v Speaker 1>me know, and I could do that next time. Let

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<v Speaker 1>me know if you want to hear the full stories

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<v Speaker 1>these songs. It's country things. That's why I love dirt Roads,

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<v Speaker 1>Mexico country, and you know it. Heroes, Chevy's, Himmys, Yoda's

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<v Speaker 1>and Fords, hate you like I Love You, and I

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<v Speaker 1>Kill Spiders. Those are the eight songs on volume one.

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<v Speaker 1>Then I'll start revealing volume two soon, very soon. Let's

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<v Speaker 1>get to some of these questions and so this is

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<v Speaker 1>a Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. If you have

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<v Speaker 1>a question, if you want me to acknowledge something on

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<v Speaker 1>this podcast type of way, and I have them boom

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<v Speaker 1>right here on my phone. So I'm not I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna go in order, because that then I would just

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<v Speaker 1>be picking either the oldest or the newest. So I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna just gonna flip through and go boom. This one

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<v Speaker 1>is from Michael Cannon says, Hey Granger, once again, let

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<v Speaker 1>me let me preface before I read it. I have

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<v Speaker 1>not read these, so this is going to be random.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what I'm getting into. I'll do my best.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey Grainger, it's Michael from Indiana and he's actually from Granger, Indiana.

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<v Speaker 1>It says great town name. I wanted to get your

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<v Speaker 1>opinion on what you've done in the past when you're

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<v Speaker 1>working a job that you didn't like or that left

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<v Speaker 1>you unfulfilled. I'm only a few years out of college,

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<v Speaker 1>so don't get me wrong. I'm extremely thankful to be

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<v Speaker 1>working during these crazy times. But my day to day

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<v Speaker 1>typically leaves me feeling discouraged and unsatisfied where I'm at.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't wait to have a job parentheses like you do,

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<v Speaker 1>where it doesn't even feel like work, jumping out of

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<v Speaker 1>bed and excited to take on the day. I can't

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<v Speaker 1>wait to see one of your shows again. Yeeee Michael,

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<v Speaker 1>Where do I start? I think everything you're asking, Michael

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<v Speaker 1>is right when you're right to be thinking this, especially

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<v Speaker 1>you're only a few years out of college and you said,

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<v Speaker 1>don't get me wrong, I'm extremely thankful to be working

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<v Speaker 1>during these times, but my day to day typically leaves

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<v Speaker 1>me feeling discouraged and unsatisfied. So I can't wait to

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<v Speaker 1>have a job like you do, where it doesn't even

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<v Speaker 1>feel like work. Well, my first thing, let me talk

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<v Speaker 1>about this first. That I'd be lying to you if

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<v Speaker 1>I said that every single day in my life I

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<v Speaker 1>get out of bed and I go into my job

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<v Speaker 1>and it doesn't even feel like work, Because it does.

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<v Speaker 1>And it doesn't matter what job you have. It doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>matter if you have the ultimate dream job in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>You do it long enough, and we're all human. It

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<v Speaker 1>starts become monotonous at times, it becomes burdensome and discouraging

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<v Speaker 1>at times, and you can't get around that, and I

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<v Speaker 1>can't get around that. A job alone, a career cannot

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<v Speaker 1>fulfill you enough to satisfy you enough to find happiness. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>don't get me wrong, it helps. I'm very grateful to

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<v Speaker 1>be doing this instead of something else that I absolutely hate,

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<v Speaker 1>But I don't find my life fulfillment through this job.

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<v Speaker 1>And to answer that question better, you could just look

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<v Speaker 1>back in history and you could see how many people.

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<v Speaker 1>There's documentaries about how many people have lived their life

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<v Speaker 1>working one job. So it's a factory job. They're doing

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<v Speaker 1>one thing, very monotonous, getting the same paycheck, and they're happy,

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<v Speaker 1>way happier than someone else that's doing something that sounds

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<v Speaker 1>much more exotic, because the happiness comes from a different place.

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<v Speaker 1>That joy comes from a different place. So there are

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<v Speaker 1>definitely days when I'm I don't want to go to

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<v Speaker 1>work because I have a ton of radio calls coming

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<v Speaker 1>up or a bunch of interviews and I know it's

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<v Speaker 1>going to wear me out, or maybe I have to

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<v Speaker 1>go shoot a bunch of old nibble stuff and it's

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<v Speaker 1>either really cold or really hot outside, or it's raining,

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<v Speaker 1>and I gotta get it done. There's times when I'm

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<v Speaker 1>about to hit the road and go on a long tour,

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<v Speaker 1>and I know that my little girl's got a birthday

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<v Speaker 1>coming up. Then I'm gonna have to miss gonna there's

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<v Speaker 1>all kinds of housework and yard work I need to

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<v Speaker 1>take care of. I'm gonna miss it over these next

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<v Speaker 1>ten days. And I know that when I look at

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<v Speaker 1>those ten days, I see that we come home for

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<v Speaker 1>one day and then we're back out for another twelve

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<v Speaker 1>days or you know, And I'm just like, oh, I

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<v Speaker 1>hate this. I hate this feeling. And to balance that,

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<v Speaker 1>I have to go back to my old thing. I

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<v Speaker 1>always say, I have to raise up my gratefulness and

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<v Speaker 1>lower my expectations a little bit. Now, keep keep my

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<v Speaker 1>expectations as high as I can. But if I do that,

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<v Speaker 1>I got to keep my gratefulness a little bit higher.

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<v Speaker 1>So you're right, Michael in saying that. Don't get me wrong,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm extremely thankful to be working during these times. So dude,

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<v Speaker 1>you got a paycheck. That's awesome. All of that being said,

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<v Speaker 1>that was like my preface. All that being said, you're

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<v Speaker 1>a few years out of college and it's not too

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<v Speaker 1>late to change. It's fact that I don't think it's

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<v Speaker 1>ever too late to change and find something you're passionate about.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe you got to do a trade school thing to

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<v Speaker 1>get something you're more passionate about. Maybe you got to

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<v Speaker 1>go you got to go and intern and work double

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<v Speaker 1>so you're gonna work your job, and then after you

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<v Speaker 1>get off work, you got to go and work for

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<v Speaker 1>free to build up a skill or a trade or

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<v Speaker 1>find something you're passionate about. It might take money to

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<v Speaker 1>start up a company. Maybe you want to get it.

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<v Speaker 1>You need to invest in some kind of equipment to

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<v Speaker 1>start a new company, and it's going to take a

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<v Speaker 1>few years to build up, you know, slowly saving that

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<v Speaker 1>money for that investment. So none of these answers are easy.

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<v Speaker 1>Nothing's like, oh boom, I want to quit. I'm starting

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<v Speaker 1>my dream job. It all takes a lot of sacrifice.

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<v Speaker 1>This music business took endless sacrifice for me, and I

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<v Speaker 1>don't ever want to come across as a guy that's

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<v Speaker 1>had success or that feels like he's on top of

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<v Speaker 1>the music business. Because my first album came out in

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<v Speaker 1>nineteen ninety nine, so that's twenty one years ago, and

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<v Speaker 1>most of those twenty one years were a struggle and

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<v Speaker 1>it felt like life was slapping me in the face.

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<v Speaker 1>It felt like I wasn't going anywhere and nothing was

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<v Speaker 1>going to happen. But I kept trying and kept pushing forward,

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<v Speaker 1>kept believing, kept working other jobs to help fund it. Ultimately, Michael,

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<v Speaker 1>I think the thing to take away from this email

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<v Speaker 1>is you cannot rely on your job to provide you happiness.

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<v Speaker 1>You get that from other places. You get it from

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<v Speaker 1>your family, your either your mom and dad, or your siblings,

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<v Speaker 1>or your wife if you have one girlfriend, kids if

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<v Speaker 1>you have them, could even just be a dog, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>But you get that kind of happiness from that responsibility

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<v Speaker 1>you have taking care of something else, and you find

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<v Speaker 1>that gratefulness and keep cultivating that gratefulness and in the meantime,

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<v Speaker 1>keep your eyes open, keep your eyes wide open. Next

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<v Speaker 1>random question goes to Mary Marrieds from Iowa State University,

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<v Speaker 1>the Agricultural Engineering Department, and she says, Hey, Granger, my

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<v Speaker 1>name is Mary. I'm from Lowell, Michigan, but I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>here in Ames, Iowa for school. We have a great

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<v Speaker 1>livestock show arena for a concert. Just saying I'm down

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<v Speaker 1>said I've been wanting to ask a question about the

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<v Speaker 1>music industry, and with your new album coming out, it

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<v Speaker 1>fits perfectly. So how is the song slash album rated

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<v Speaker 1>or ranked? Is it YouTube, streams, Spotify followers, iTunes sales,

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<v Speaker 1>and when an album is going platinum? How does that

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<v Speaker 1>work and what makes that happen? Another question is what

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<v Speaker 1>helps in our just the most, like i e. Making

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<v Speaker 1>money and gaining popularity with iTunes sales, CD sales, watching

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<v Speaker 1>your music videos on YouTube or streaming music. Thank you

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<v Speaker 1>so much for reading my email. I've been a huge

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<v Speaker 1>fan of your music and all your YouTube channels and podcasts,

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<v Speaker 1>also slowly growing my ee apparel collection as well. Thank you, Mary.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for those kind words. It's ironic that I

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<v Speaker 1>almost answered all of that at the beginning of this

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<v Speaker 1>podcast with how an album is ranked and how it's

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<v Speaker 1>charted and talking about how one purchase of a song

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<v Speaker 1>equals fifteen hundred streams. Now, that doesn't totally answer your

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<v Speaker 1>question because you're asking how what helps an artist the

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<v Speaker 1>most to make money and gain popularity and you said,

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<v Speaker 1>is it iTunes sales, CD sales, watching your music videos

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<v Speaker 1>on YouTube? And the truth the truth is it's it's

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<v Speaker 1>all of it combined. So if I'm not really selling

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<v Speaker 1>any on iTunes, but I'm getting hundreds of millions of

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<v Speaker 1>views on YouTube. That makes up for it. If I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not getting any views on YouTube, but I'm selling a

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<v Speaker 1>whole lot of iTunes, that makes up for it. The

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<v Speaker 1>ultimate thing for an artist today right now that probably

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people don't know is touring. Touring is

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<v Speaker 1>where is really the bread and butter of our lifestyle

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<v Speaker 1>right now, I'm making zero on touring, and pretty much

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<v Speaker 1>every other artist is making zero on touring. We are

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<v Speaker 1>going out a little bit, but I was just in

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<v Speaker 1>here talking with my tour manager Chris and my lead

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<v Speaker 1>driver Bull, and we're going out on the Northeast run

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<v Speaker 1>and we're going to lose a little bit of money.

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to go into the hole a little bit,

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<v Speaker 1>just because the diesel fuel show, pay for the guys

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<v Speaker 1>making sure everybody has food, the commission I have to

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<v Speaker 1>pay to book an agent, things like that. It adds

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<v Speaker 1>up so fast, and the guarantees of us getting money

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<v Speaker 1>on tour right now during this crazy time is not much.

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<v Speaker 1>So I am going to lose a little bit of money.

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<v Speaker 1>That being said, on a normal year, a normal time,

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<v Speaker 1>when we put out music, it really is an advertisement

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<v Speaker 1>for shows, and ticket sales is where any artist really

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<v Speaker 1>makes his income, is able to pay all his guys

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<v Speaker 1>and to continue moving forward. So we hope we sell

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<v Speaker 1>a lot on iTunes, we hope we stream a lot,

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<v Speaker 1>but as you could imagine, those sales have plummeted over

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<v Speaker 1>the last fifteen years, and streams pay fractions of pennies,

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<v Speaker 1>and so do YouTube views. Really it's not much, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not enough. I can't make enough on a YouTube video

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<v Speaker 1>or a stream to put diesel fuel in my bus

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<v Speaker 1>to go on this next run, for example, to the Northeast.

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<v Speaker 1>It's going to cost a thirty six hundred dollars of

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<v Speaker 1>just fuel. That's just fuel. That's not including hotels for

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<v Speaker 1>a driver to sleep in, or meals or per diems

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<v Speaker 1>or show pay rental gear. It doesn't count for any

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<v Speaker 1>of that. And God forbid, something breaks down, we have

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<v Speaker 1>to fix it. I hope that answers your question. But

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<v Speaker 1>touring is the bread and butter of the music industry

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<v Speaker 1>now today. So the best thing you could do is

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<v Speaker 1>look on your calendar, look on the tour dates, see

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<v Speaker 1>when your favorite artist is coming to town, and support

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<v Speaker 1>them in that way. If you can't do it. If

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<v Speaker 1>you can't get out, then I would say the next

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<v Speaker 1>highest ranked thing is probably actually buying the song on iTunes.

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<v Speaker 1>And it doesn't necessarily go right into the artists pocket

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<v Speaker 1>because there's a lot of other hungry buzzards that get

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<v Speaker 1>that money, but it really helps with the popularity of

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<v Speaker 1>the artists, which then puts them in a bigger spotlight

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<v Speaker 1>for more opportunities down the road. Thank you, Mary. This

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<v Speaker 1>question is going to go from Zach. Zach says, Hey, Granger,

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<v Speaker 1>excuse me, I'm been working. God excuse me. I've been

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<v Speaker 1>wanting to ask this for a while now. Longtime listener,

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<v Speaker 1>first time contacting you. So, I graduated college with a

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<v Speaker 1>business degree, but I've always had a dream to make

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<v Speaker 1>country music and make and that moves people like it's

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<v Speaker 1>affected in me, in my life, in me too. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>from North Carolina and I have made trips to Nashville

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<v Speaker 1>to try networks some folks. My question is, what would

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<v Speaker 1>you say to a new artist trying to make a

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<v Speaker 1>living pursuing country music. Any advice has appreciated, Love the

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<v Speaker 1>new music you've put out, Thank you, Zach, and god speed,

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<v Speaker 1>my friend. It's a crazy business. It's especially a crazy time.

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<v Speaker 1>So my first piece of advice something I've given a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of advice on this podcast. This I haven't said

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<v Speaker 1>this chill out for COVID. Chill out right now to

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<v Speaker 1>this because because like I said, I'm losing money right now.

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<v Speaker 1>A new artist doesn't want to get into this mess

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<v Speaker 1>right now. It's not something you want to do. But

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<v Speaker 1>in the meantime, you could definitely be honing your skills.

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<v Speaker 1>Continue writing songs, continue practicing on that guitar and singing.

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<v Speaker 1>I always say, learn a recording software like pro Tools.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm running right now recording this podcast. Learn learn pro

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<v Speaker 1>Tools and get a little microphone. Record yourself singing, record

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<v Speaker 1>yourself playing guitar, Go back and listen to it. Put

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<v Speaker 1>it on an MP three, put it on your phone,

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<v Speaker 1>stream in in your truck, listen to it over and

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<v Speaker 1>over and over and over and over again. And then

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<v Speaker 1>after you do that, listen to it over and over

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<v Speaker 1>and over and over again, and learn those little nuances

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<v Speaker 1>that make you winch You know, it's like ooh, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't I don't like when I don't like when my

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<v Speaker 1>voice does that, or man, guitar doesn't sound good on

0:27:01.160 --> 0:27:04.680
<v Speaker 1>that part, or those lyrics are dumb right there, that

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<v Speaker 1>that doesn't make any sense. There's all kinds of things

0:27:07.119 --> 0:27:10.040
<v Speaker 1>that you could pick out, and there's of course, then

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<v Speaker 1>at the same time you can go, man, I love,

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<v Speaker 1>I love when this happens in this song, do more

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<v Speaker 1>of that. So Zach right now, during this time, really

0:27:21.040 --> 0:27:24.800
<v Speaker 1>focus on yourself and that aspect, and then when things

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<v Speaker 1>open back up. I've always been the guy that is

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<v Speaker 1>not advocating for trips to Nashville to network with people

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<v Speaker 1>because in my opinion, and there's a lot of opinions,

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<v Speaker 1>but it doesn't really matter. You can go network all

0:27:44.160 --> 0:27:46.520
<v Speaker 1>you want in Nashville and you can meet powerful people,

0:27:46.520 --> 0:27:48.200
<v Speaker 1>and you could sit at a bar next to somebody

0:27:48.240 --> 0:27:51.640
<v Speaker 1>that's powerful, but that powerful person can't do anything for

0:27:51.720 --> 0:27:54.440
<v Speaker 1>you if you don't have a product or something ready

0:27:54.480 --> 0:27:56.800
<v Speaker 1>to go, if you haven't honed your skills, if you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have a hit song in the box, and even

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<v Speaker 1>if that person could help you find songs, they're not

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<v Speaker 1>going to help you find songs unless you already have

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<v Speaker 1>something to play that makes you worthy of them finding

0:28:10.000 --> 0:28:14.240
<v Speaker 1>other songs. Even if you do have those songs, it's

0:28:14.280 --> 0:28:16.679
<v Speaker 1>hard for someone to commit anything to you if you

0:28:16.800 --> 0:28:19.320
<v Speaker 1>don't have any tour dates if you don't even have

0:28:19.720 --> 0:28:22.440
<v Speaker 1>a place for them to come watch you play. So

0:28:22.920 --> 0:28:26.399
<v Speaker 1>the bottom line Zact is no one is going to

0:28:26.480 --> 0:28:30.760
<v Speaker 1>move your career but you. It doesn't matter how powerful,

0:28:30.880 --> 0:28:34.640
<v Speaker 1>how popular, how amazing they are in the music business.

0:28:35.200 --> 0:28:38.440
<v Speaker 1>You are more important, the most important thing in your

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<v Speaker 1>career than moving yourself forward. And I cannot give a

0:28:43.680 --> 0:28:45.719
<v Speaker 1>better piece of advice than that, where do you start?

0:28:46.160 --> 0:28:48.200
<v Speaker 1>If you don't have a gig, you start with an

0:28:48.240 --> 0:28:51.760
<v Speaker 1>open mic night. You're in right there in North Carolina.

0:28:52.920 --> 0:28:55.520
<v Speaker 1>I'll go get an open mic night and start playing

0:28:55.800 --> 0:28:58.240
<v Speaker 1>every I did that every Thursday night at a place

0:28:58.280 --> 0:29:01.080
<v Speaker 1>in College Station, Texas, and tried to get a little

0:29:01.120 --> 0:29:04.080
<v Speaker 1>better recorded myself. Put set a video camera up there,

0:29:04.160 --> 0:29:06.280
<v Speaker 1>watch yourself. See what you're doing right, see what you're

0:29:06.280 --> 0:29:08.760
<v Speaker 1>doing wrong. See if you could start attracting some fans.

0:29:09.240 --> 0:29:12.800
<v Speaker 1>And as that happens, you're building a story that means

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<v Speaker 1>more to those people that you're going to network with

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<v Speaker 1>in Nashville. So that makes sense. Good question, buddy, I'll

0:29:23.760 --> 0:29:32.760
<v Speaker 1>take a break. Be wrote back. This question comes from Beth,

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<v Speaker 1>and she doesn't want to say where she's from. But

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<v Speaker 1>Beth says, thanks for opening this up for us to

0:29:39.800 --> 0:29:42.840
<v Speaker 1>ask you questions. I have so many for you. I'll

0:29:42.840 --> 0:29:45.560
<v Speaker 1>try to narrow it down to what or whom do

0:29:45.680 --> 0:29:49.720
<v Speaker 1>you attribute your wisdom? Oh gosh, from what I see,

0:29:49.760 --> 0:29:52.360
<v Speaker 1>your words, thoughts, and actions are well beyond your age.

0:29:52.960 --> 0:29:55.240
<v Speaker 1>Also wondering if you and Amber have ever thought about

0:29:55.280 --> 0:29:57.920
<v Speaker 1>doing a speaking tour or writing a book sharing your

0:29:57.960 --> 0:30:01.040
<v Speaker 1>story faith and wisdom. And on that same track, would

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<v Speaker 1>you ever consider writing and recording any Christian music? And

0:30:05.680 --> 0:30:09.400
<v Speaker 1>I ask these questions knowing you are so busy, and

0:30:09.920 --> 0:30:14.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying down the road, I have no idea how

0:30:14.120 --> 0:30:19.560
<v Speaker 1>you could accomplish all of these things every day. Thank

0:30:19.600 --> 0:30:25.480
<v Speaker 1>you so much, beth I. It's not the first time.

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<v Speaker 1>Here we go, Wisconsin, best from Wisconsin. It's not the

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<v Speaker 1>first time that someone has asked me about will I

0:30:33.760 --> 0:30:38.640
<v Speaker 1>sing Christian music. I had a guy, a friend of

0:30:38.720 --> 0:30:41.080
<v Speaker 1>mine a long time ago, who was ahead of me

0:30:41.120 --> 0:30:45.400
<v Speaker 1>in years, and he had very strong faith, and he

0:30:45.480 --> 0:30:50.880
<v Speaker 1>told me that there is a lot of corruption in

0:30:50.920 --> 0:30:54.400
<v Speaker 1>the Christian music industry. So that answers that question, do

0:30:54.440 --> 0:30:56.840
<v Speaker 1>you want to get into that actual industry and try

0:30:56.840 --> 0:30:59.440
<v Speaker 1>to excel Christian songs? So there's a lot of corruption

0:30:59.520 --> 0:31:03.520
<v Speaker 1>in that gosh, I hate that for those people. But

0:31:03.560 --> 0:31:06.040
<v Speaker 1>he told me, my friend, that he would rather be

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<v Speaker 1>try to be a light in a dark place than

0:31:11.280 --> 0:31:14.840
<v Speaker 1>to just go straight into the people that are expecting

0:31:14.840 --> 0:31:18.000
<v Speaker 1>you to hear that. I don't really think that's your question, Beth.

0:31:18.440 --> 0:31:21.760
<v Speaker 1>You're asking more me on my platform right now. Will

0:31:21.800 --> 0:31:26.280
<v Speaker 1>I ever sing Christian music and record Christian music? I

0:31:26.320 --> 0:31:30.080
<v Speaker 1>think I would say yes. I would say I can,

0:31:32.600 --> 0:31:37.200
<v Speaker 1>probably more so now in my life I'm more set

0:31:37.240 --> 0:31:41.360
<v Speaker 1>up for because writing songs for me has always been

0:31:41.800 --> 0:31:44.480
<v Speaker 1>a way to express my feelings, and so now more

0:31:44.520 --> 0:31:46.520
<v Speaker 1>than ever, I think that would be a good way

0:31:46.560 --> 0:31:51.600
<v Speaker 1>to express my feelings. The true, probably the truth to

0:31:51.640 --> 0:31:53.480
<v Speaker 1>all this is that I don't know if I feel

0:31:53.520 --> 0:32:02.800
<v Speaker 1>worthy of representing a Christian song right now. And you

0:32:02.840 --> 0:32:07.440
<v Speaker 1>know I'm I'm a country singer. I love country music

0:32:07.640 --> 0:32:11.600
<v Speaker 1>and I have lived the life of a country singer.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if I'm if I'm worthy yet of

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<v Speaker 1>representing Christian music. I don't even know if that makes

0:32:21.640 --> 0:32:24.040
<v Speaker 1>any sense. But that's that's just coming from my heart,

0:32:24.080 --> 0:32:28.080
<v Speaker 1>the first thing I think of. But all that being said,

0:32:28.080 --> 0:32:30.280
<v Speaker 1>there's no reason why I wouldn't just in my own

0:32:30.320 --> 0:32:34.880
<v Speaker 1>time as I'm writing songs, write something that expresses my

0:32:35.080 --> 0:32:41.160
<v Speaker 1>religious beliefs in Christianity. So I can't say when or

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<v Speaker 1>how or next album or is there going to be

0:32:43.760 --> 0:32:47.000
<v Speaker 1>a full gospel album. I've heard that question. I don't know,

0:32:48.360 --> 0:32:51.920
<v Speaker 1>But the answer, the true answer is it's not no.

0:32:52.720 --> 0:32:57.320
<v Speaker 1>The answer is not no. I just I just don't

0:32:57.360 --> 0:33:00.200
<v Speaker 1>know if it's in my heart to have that much

0:33:00.200 --> 0:33:06.480
<v Speaker 1>confidence in my spirituality to express it in music. But

0:33:06.600 --> 0:33:09.959
<v Speaker 1>I do like the idea of trying my best, and

0:33:10.000 --> 0:33:15.280
<v Speaker 1>I fail constantly. Guys, I fail. I'm a failed human

0:33:16.120 --> 0:33:21.320
<v Speaker 1>and I think most of us could admit that. And

0:33:21.360 --> 0:33:23.440
<v Speaker 1>my prayer always is to try to be a servant

0:33:23.480 --> 0:33:26.560
<v Speaker 1>of God, to try to try to get better, to

0:33:26.600 --> 0:33:29.200
<v Speaker 1>try to be reborn. Every day, every morning, my prayer

0:33:29.240 --> 0:33:31.160
<v Speaker 1>is that I want to be reborn, and I want

0:33:31.160 --> 0:33:36.640
<v Speaker 1>to start new today in my faith and being a

0:33:36.680 --> 0:33:40.600
<v Speaker 1>servant to God. And then throughout the day I start failing,

0:33:41.360 --> 0:33:43.040
<v Speaker 1>and then I have to start over again the next day,

0:33:43.040 --> 0:33:46.280
<v Speaker 1>and I'm okay. I'm okay with starting over, but I

0:33:46.360 --> 0:33:48.480
<v Speaker 1>just hope that I have a little bit less failures

0:33:48.520 --> 0:33:54.600
<v Speaker 1>each day, if that makes sense. Your first part of

0:33:54.640 --> 0:34:00.400
<v Speaker 1>your question, Beth to whom do you attribute attribute your wisdom?

0:34:00.720 --> 0:34:08.960
<v Speaker 1>Oh gosh, my parents. I have to start there. I

0:34:09.040 --> 0:34:17.000
<v Speaker 1>was raised in a very I was raised in a

0:34:17.000 --> 0:34:22.799
<v Speaker 1>good home parents that I'm very blessed to say that

0:34:22.800 --> 0:34:27.680
<v Speaker 1>I have parents that cared about me above their own ambitions.

0:34:28.120 --> 0:34:34.680
<v Speaker 1>My dad, to his own detriment, My dad didn't have

0:34:35.080 --> 0:34:40.560
<v Speaker 1>any hobbies that didn't include his three boys or his wife.

0:34:42.040 --> 0:34:46.600
<v Speaker 1>And we were always like, Dad, you know, save some

0:34:46.640 --> 0:34:50.880
<v Speaker 1>money and get like a motorcycle. You know, you always

0:34:50.880 --> 0:34:53.799
<v Speaker 1>see these old guys on motorcycles and Harley's like, there's

0:34:53.840 --> 0:34:55.640
<v Speaker 1>gotta be something fun of that. Dad, Once you get

0:34:55.640 --> 0:34:58.040
<v Speaker 1>like an old Harley and just drive it through the

0:34:58.080 --> 0:35:01.000
<v Speaker 1>Texas hill country and just free your mind. And he

0:35:01.040 --> 0:35:04.399
<v Speaker 1>would always be like, why would I do something like that? Oh?

0:35:04.680 --> 0:35:07.400
<v Speaker 1>Why would What am I going to do with the motorcycle? Granger?

0:35:08.440 --> 0:35:12.120
<v Speaker 1>Because the truth is he put his family ahead of

0:35:12.200 --> 0:35:15.040
<v Speaker 1>himself and ahead of his own wishes and ahead of

0:35:15.080 --> 0:35:19.879
<v Speaker 1>his own ambitions or hobbies or whatever. He always put

0:35:19.880 --> 0:35:24.839
<v Speaker 1>his family in front of that, and huge blessing that

0:35:25.000 --> 0:35:28.840
<v Speaker 1>was to us. A little bit of I think maybe

0:35:29.360 --> 0:35:31.360
<v Speaker 1>I wish I still wish that he would have, you know,

0:35:31.400 --> 0:35:32.919
<v Speaker 1>he passed away but I could still wish he would

0:35:32.960 --> 0:35:35.879
<v Speaker 1>have gotten some kind of hobby other than his three

0:35:35.920 --> 0:35:39.279
<v Speaker 1>boys and wife. But my dad was a very wise man,

0:35:40.000 --> 0:35:43.480
<v Speaker 1>and perhaps what I miss about him the most is

0:35:44.080 --> 0:35:47.600
<v Speaker 1>getting his advice on stuff, because I could call him

0:35:47.600 --> 0:35:51.320
<v Speaker 1>at any time and just say, Dad, I got problem,

0:35:51.719 --> 0:35:55.360
<v Speaker 1>I got a dilemma, or Dad, I got something to celebrate.

0:35:55.920 --> 0:35:59.160
<v Speaker 1>But he was always my first call, and I still

0:35:59.160 --> 0:36:01.120
<v Speaker 1>feel every once in a while, I still feel that

0:36:01.560 --> 0:36:05.200
<v Speaker 1>little two second urge to pull out my phone and

0:36:05.239 --> 0:36:09.880
<v Speaker 1>call him, and it could be something really good, or

0:36:09.920 --> 0:36:11.600
<v Speaker 1>it could be a dilemma I'm in and I feel

0:36:11.600 --> 0:36:14.840
<v Speaker 1>that I better call Dad, and I remember he's not

0:36:14.880 --> 0:36:18.480
<v Speaker 1>going to answer. But I still have his phone on

0:36:18.960 --> 0:36:21.160
<v Speaker 1>my speed dial. It's funny, like on my favorites on

0:36:21.160 --> 0:36:24.560
<v Speaker 1>my iPhone, I still have his number. And there have

0:36:24.680 --> 0:36:27.120
<v Speaker 1>been a couple of times I accidentally butt dialed him

0:36:28.080 --> 0:36:31.440
<v Speaker 1>and it's of course, it's somebody else now. And I

0:36:31.440 --> 0:36:33.360
<v Speaker 1>remember the first time that happened. I realized and I

0:36:33.440 --> 0:36:35.840
<v Speaker 1>hung up real quick, and then that person kept calling

0:36:35.840 --> 0:36:39.080
<v Speaker 1>me back to see who I was, and so my

0:36:39.080 --> 0:36:40.880
<v Speaker 1>phone would light up and it would say Dad, you

0:36:40.920 --> 0:36:44.040
<v Speaker 1>know lighting up. I was like, oh, my God's torturing myself.

0:36:44.680 --> 0:36:48.840
<v Speaker 1>But I would attribute any wisdom you hear from me,

0:36:49.880 --> 0:36:52.960
<v Speaker 1>it goes that comes from him, from long talks I

0:36:53.000 --> 0:36:57.000
<v Speaker 1>had with him, endless discussions, And I would like to

0:36:57.080 --> 0:37:00.520
<v Speaker 1>think that now that after he's gone, I would like

0:37:00.600 --> 0:37:03.759
<v Speaker 1>to think that I've I got enough questions with him

0:37:04.400 --> 0:37:08.799
<v Speaker 1>that even I want to ask him, I know what

0:37:08.840 --> 0:37:11.680
<v Speaker 1>his answer would be. I know him that well that

0:37:11.760 --> 0:37:15.520
<v Speaker 1>I already know what he would say whatever I asked him.

0:37:15.880 --> 0:37:19.719
<v Speaker 1>That doesn't make me feel better about it, but that's

0:37:19.719 --> 0:37:23.200
<v Speaker 1>the truth and the best I could do with all

0:37:23.239 --> 0:37:28.440
<v Speaker 1>this has passed that on that stuff on to Lincoln

0:37:28.480 --> 0:37:33.120
<v Speaker 1>in London, and I like to have these deeper conversations

0:37:33.160 --> 0:37:35.319
<v Speaker 1>through life, like for instance, last night, Lincoln and I

0:37:35.360 --> 0:37:38.879
<v Speaker 1>were watching We've been watching Rocky. We've watched Rocky one,

0:37:39.640 --> 0:37:43.279
<v Speaker 1>Rocky two, and then started watching Rocky three last night,

0:37:43.600 --> 0:37:48.279
<v Speaker 1>consecutive nights. I love Rocky, by the way, gosh. But

0:37:48.640 --> 0:37:51.640
<v Speaker 1>Lincoln looked at me and he said, Daddy, I don't

0:37:51.640 --> 0:37:55.320
<v Speaker 1>ever want to be a boxer. I said why, He said,

0:37:55.600 --> 0:37:58.800
<v Speaker 1>because you get hurt too much. And then there's that moment,

0:37:58.920 --> 0:38:01.440
<v Speaker 1>like that dad moment that comes over me and I

0:38:01.480 --> 0:38:03.600
<v Speaker 1>think about my dad and I think about this moment.

0:38:03.640 --> 0:38:06.320
<v Speaker 1>He's looking at me and he needs he needs something,

0:38:06.360 --> 0:38:10.560
<v Speaker 1>because that's the obvious. It's an obvious statement. You know,

0:38:10.560 --> 0:38:11.839
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to be a boxer because I don't

0:38:11.840 --> 0:38:14.640
<v Speaker 1>want to get hurt. And so if just like Lincoln,

0:38:15.960 --> 0:38:20.040
<v Speaker 1>sometimes in life there's things that are more important than

0:38:20.080 --> 0:38:25.560
<v Speaker 1>getting hurt. Pain is temporary, and some things are more

0:38:25.600 --> 0:38:31.239
<v Speaker 1>important that you're passionate about that outweigh getting hurt. And

0:38:31.280 --> 0:38:35.279
<v Speaker 1>he's like, yeah, and I'm just thinking, I'll hope that

0:38:35.360 --> 0:38:38.319
<v Speaker 1>sings in. I know he's only six years old, but man,

0:38:38.440 --> 0:38:41.319
<v Speaker 1>what a what an important thing that he brought up

0:38:41.360 --> 0:38:45.560
<v Speaker 1>to me, that he's you have to overcome pain, and

0:38:45.600 --> 0:38:47.880
<v Speaker 1>it's not just physical pain. But when you get older.

0:38:47.880 --> 0:38:49.319
<v Speaker 1>I didn't tell him this, but when you get older,

0:38:49.320 --> 0:38:51.480
<v Speaker 1>there's a lot of there's a lot more pain than

0:38:51.600 --> 0:38:54.960
<v Speaker 1>just getting your eyes punched by another boxer, and you

0:38:55.040 --> 0:39:00.600
<v Speaker 1>got to move on because other things are more important. Question, bet,

0:39:00.640 --> 0:39:06.399
<v Speaker 1>thank you, let me do the magic scroll. Here here

0:39:06.400 --> 0:39:10.560
<v Speaker 1>we go, Sean Lynch, what's up, buddy, Thank you for

0:39:10.600 --> 0:39:16.560
<v Speaker 1>the email. He says, Hey, y'all, I'm a big fan

0:39:17.000 --> 0:39:20.000
<v Speaker 1>of all that you stand for. My name is Sean Lynch.

0:39:20.000 --> 0:39:23.799
<v Speaker 1>I'm from Detroit, Michigan, now living in Alma, Kansas. I'm

0:39:23.840 --> 0:39:29.440
<v Speaker 1>a disabled veteran. Thank you for your service, Sean. The

0:39:29.560 --> 0:39:34.359
<v Speaker 1>book is The Good Soldiers by David Finkel and a

0:39:34.360 --> 0:39:36.400
<v Speaker 1>few more, plus a movie Thank You for Your Service.

0:39:36.840 --> 0:39:41.680
<v Speaker 1>It's all my employment. Might excuse me my deployment. I

0:39:41.800 --> 0:39:45.360
<v Speaker 1>was also recently baptized at the church that Duck Commander

0:39:45.400 --> 0:39:48.240
<v Speaker 1>goes to, and I've been raising both of my kids

0:39:48.440 --> 0:39:53.320
<v Speaker 1>Christian values. My wife has been Christian, but a foster

0:39:53.480 --> 0:40:00.399
<v Speaker 1>parent raped her and gosh, so she has PTSD that

0:40:00.520 --> 0:40:03.600
<v Speaker 1>and sees all the pastors and churches as horrible people.

0:40:03.640 --> 0:40:05.960
<v Speaker 1>We don't go to church because my views that all

0:40:06.040 --> 0:40:12.000
<v Speaker 1>churches here in Kansas hold the hold that the communion

0:40:12.040 --> 0:40:15.719
<v Speaker 1>for is for only for members, and I see that

0:40:15.800 --> 0:40:20.040
<v Speaker 1>God's I see that it is God's table and anyone

0:40:20.320 --> 0:40:22.799
<v Speaker 1>that anyone wants to partake in. Sorry, from my reading

0:40:23.320 --> 0:40:27.719
<v Speaker 1>are kind of paraphrasing. Regardless, my wife and I are

0:40:27.760 --> 0:40:30.640
<v Speaker 1>not on the same page about faith. She is helping

0:40:30.840 --> 0:40:35.080
<v Speaker 1>raise the kids Christian, but we've been through a lot.

0:40:35.200 --> 0:40:38.520
<v Speaker 1>She hates my family and I love hers. We're one

0:40:38.560 --> 0:40:42.720
<v Speaker 1>thousand miles away from our families. She has no parents.

0:40:42.800 --> 0:40:45.120
<v Speaker 1>They passed away when she was young. I don't know

0:40:45.600 --> 0:40:49.000
<v Speaker 1>how to bring her closer to God to strengthen our relationship.

0:40:49.840 --> 0:40:53.080
<v Speaker 1>I fear she's stealing and looking for an escape from

0:40:53.120 --> 0:40:58.719
<v Speaker 1>our marriage. She's just not. She's getting mean and forceful,

0:40:58.920 --> 0:41:01.160
<v Speaker 1>and this is my second and I want to save it.

0:41:01.520 --> 0:41:07.520
<v Speaker 1>But she disrespects me and my parents and her step son,

0:41:07.600 --> 0:41:11.279
<v Speaker 1>my son and her step son. I desperately need to

0:41:11.360 --> 0:41:13.680
<v Speaker 1>save my family as I know, Jesus is coming back

0:41:13.719 --> 0:41:16.120
<v Speaker 1>and I need all of us to be ready every day.

0:41:16.200 --> 0:41:19.440
<v Speaker 1>How can I find an avenue to help bring my

0:41:19.520 --> 0:41:23.560
<v Speaker 1>wife closer to God? I hope you get this. Thanks

0:41:23.560 --> 0:41:25.560
<v Speaker 1>for a little bit of your time. God blessed Sean Lynch.

0:41:31.800 --> 0:41:33.759
<v Speaker 1>How did I end up? How did I end up

0:41:33.800 --> 0:41:36.800
<v Speaker 1>as a country singer? That gets that kind of question?

0:41:38.760 --> 0:41:42.359
<v Speaker 1>But I'm gonna take it because I opened this up.

0:41:42.719 --> 0:41:44.680
<v Speaker 1>You know, I open this podcast up for you guys,

0:41:45.560 --> 0:41:47.919
<v Speaker 1>and I will take any question you ever want to ask.

0:41:49.840 --> 0:41:55.800
<v Speaker 1>But I wonder, Sean, why you think I'm qualified to

0:41:56.200 --> 0:42:06.520
<v Speaker 1>get into that. Being said, I'm gonna dive in. Sean

0:42:07.239 --> 0:42:12.879
<v Speaker 1>once again, thank you for your service. You're a disabled vet.

0:42:14.160 --> 0:42:19.319
<v Speaker 1>You've been through things that I cannot understand. And all

0:42:19.360 --> 0:42:24.000
<v Speaker 1>I could say to that is because of people like you,

0:42:24.000 --> 0:42:29.919
<v Speaker 1>you allow me to have a job that I love

0:42:30.120 --> 0:42:37.120
<v Speaker 1>in country music and have this podcast, and you represent

0:42:37.280 --> 0:42:41.279
<v Speaker 1>the freedom that I get to then exploit and be

0:42:41.400 --> 0:42:46.640
<v Speaker 1>protected with my family. I'll start with that, Thank you

0:42:46.680 --> 0:42:51.120
<v Speaker 1>for that. It sounds like you are in a tough,

0:42:51.840 --> 0:42:56.640
<v Speaker 1>really tough spot. Not only are you a disabled VET

0:42:56.640 --> 0:42:59.680
<v Speaker 1>who I'm sure is dealing with your own demons. You

0:42:59.719 --> 0:43:06.800
<v Speaker 1>say wife has PTSD from being raped by a foster parent,

0:43:09.239 --> 0:43:14.800
<v Speaker 1>and she now sees pastors and churches as horrible people,

0:43:16.520 --> 0:43:22.040
<v Speaker 1>and now you don't go to church, and you believe

0:43:22.080 --> 0:43:25.760
<v Speaker 1>that you should still raise your kids in a Christian household.

0:43:26.440 --> 0:43:29.480
<v Speaker 1>She hates your family, you love hers. You're a thousand

0:43:29.520 --> 0:43:33.839
<v Speaker 1>miles away. She has no real parents, they passed away

0:43:33.840 --> 0:43:36.680
<v Speaker 1>when she was young. You don't know how to bring

0:43:36.680 --> 0:43:40.360
<v Speaker 1>her closer to God, to strengthen your relationship with her together,

0:43:40.880 --> 0:43:43.680
<v Speaker 1>and you fear that she's stealing and looking for an

0:43:43.840 --> 0:43:51.360
<v Speaker 1>escape from marriage. She's getting forceful and mean, and maybe

0:43:51.400 --> 0:43:56.840
<v Speaker 1>the worst part of this whole thing is that she's

0:43:56.960 --> 0:44:07.480
<v Speaker 1>poorly treating your son, her stepson. Man, Dude, I don't

0:44:07.520 --> 0:44:12.440
<v Speaker 1>have it. I'm not qualified but here's what I think.

0:44:13.520 --> 0:44:25.440
<v Speaker 1>Your number one priority is your son. You will protect

0:44:25.480 --> 0:44:33.560
<v Speaker 1>him and his upbringing at all costs. And I say

0:44:33.600 --> 0:44:38.480
<v Speaker 1>that because it's not her biological son. If this was both,

0:44:38.680 --> 0:44:40.640
<v Speaker 1>if this was both of y'all's child, that was a

0:44:40.680 --> 0:44:46.319
<v Speaker 1>different story. But this is your son from a different marriage.

0:44:46.800 --> 0:44:52.400
<v Speaker 1>And if you feel like this is detrimental to his

0:44:52.600 --> 0:44:57.400
<v Speaker 1>upbringing to be around a woman with PTSD from a

0:44:57.440 --> 0:45:00.880
<v Speaker 1>formal rape former rape that hates churches and hates pastors

0:45:00.960 --> 0:45:05.480
<v Speaker 1>and is possibly stealing and hates your family and is

0:45:05.560 --> 0:45:14.120
<v Speaker 1>disrespecting your son, I believe. And it's hard for me

0:45:14.160 --> 0:45:17.080
<v Speaker 1>to say this kind of stuff because I know that

0:45:17.120 --> 0:45:19.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm because because of this podcast and because I'm a singer,

0:45:20.000 --> 0:45:21.880
<v Speaker 1>I have this little platform, and I don't want it

0:45:21.920 --> 0:45:25.759
<v Speaker 1>to be taken like I am the ultimate authority. But

0:45:26.600 --> 0:45:32.680
<v Speaker 1>I think I think it's time two with that. Without

0:45:32.719 --> 0:45:34.759
<v Speaker 1>having it, You've got to have a serious conversation with her.

0:45:34.840 --> 0:45:39.799
<v Speaker 1>We'll start with that, and there is an ultimatum that's

0:45:39.840 --> 0:45:45.000
<v Speaker 1>got to be involved, and it goes something like this, Babe,

0:45:46.040 --> 0:45:50.000
<v Speaker 1>I love you. That's why I married you. I see

0:45:50.040 --> 0:45:55.120
<v Speaker 1>the good in you. I believe in marriage. I believe

0:45:56.080 --> 0:46:01.880
<v Speaker 1>from my faith that a couple is united under God,

0:46:03.160 --> 0:46:12.279
<v Speaker 1>that the marriage is sacred, and I love you. I

0:46:12.280 --> 0:46:16.520
<v Speaker 1>would want nothing more than this to work out forever

0:46:16.800 --> 0:46:20.239
<v Speaker 1>me and you. That's why I'm with you, That's why

0:46:20.280 --> 0:46:26.960
<v Speaker 1>I've chosen you, and that's why I trust you. But

0:46:29.360 --> 0:46:32.200
<v Speaker 1>I have a limit, and that starts with my son,

0:46:32.640 --> 0:46:38.080
<v Speaker 1>who is my flesh and blood. And I'm here on

0:46:38.120 --> 0:46:41.799
<v Speaker 1>this earth to make sure that he is brought up right,

0:46:42.800 --> 0:46:46.000
<v Speaker 1>that he is, that he has brought up with the

0:46:46.080 --> 0:46:49.360
<v Speaker 1>values that I believe in with all my heart, and

0:46:49.440 --> 0:46:54.600
<v Speaker 1>a loving home where he's getting the right influence from

0:46:54.640 --> 0:47:01.400
<v Speaker 1>the adults that immediately influence him. And I'm worried that

0:47:01.480 --> 0:47:04.759
<v Speaker 1>this is going in the wrong direction and could possibly

0:47:05.920 --> 0:47:09.640
<v Speaker 1>mess him up. And because of that, I need to

0:47:09.680 --> 0:47:13.279
<v Speaker 1>know from you, right here, right now, if I could

0:47:13.280 --> 0:47:19.920
<v Speaker 1>trust you, if the love is mutual between us, if

0:47:19.920 --> 0:47:22.640
<v Speaker 1>we could work on finding a church that we could

0:47:22.640 --> 0:47:25.759
<v Speaker 1>both be involved in, if I could help you in

0:47:25.800 --> 0:47:31.239
<v Speaker 1>any way get over the demons of your past. I

0:47:31.239 --> 0:47:34.719
<v Speaker 1>will drive you all the way across the country to

0:47:34.840 --> 0:47:37.719
<v Speaker 1>find some kind of treatment, to find someone that could

0:47:37.719 --> 0:47:41.040
<v Speaker 1>help talk about this with you. And I'm willing to

0:47:41.080 --> 0:47:45.880
<v Speaker 1>commit everything to getting you better, But if you can't,

0:47:46.719 --> 0:47:49.799
<v Speaker 1>and if you refuse, then me and my son have

0:47:49.880 --> 0:47:53.279
<v Speaker 1>to walk away. And please don't make me do that,

0:47:53.280 --> 0:47:56.040
<v Speaker 1>because I don't want to. But we're going to walk

0:47:56.080 --> 0:48:00.640
<v Speaker 1>away out of love for my son and of love

0:48:00.719 --> 0:48:03.239
<v Speaker 1>for you. That needs to get better and you're obviously

0:48:03.320 --> 0:48:06.239
<v Speaker 1>not getting better with me, and maybe it is me.

0:48:06.640 --> 0:48:09.480
<v Speaker 1>Maybe I'm bringing out the worst in you, and God forbid,

0:48:10.040 --> 0:48:11.680
<v Speaker 1>that's the last thing I want to do is bring

0:48:11.719 --> 0:48:17.160
<v Speaker 1>out the worst in you. So then boom seohn. It's

0:48:17.160 --> 0:48:22.920
<v Speaker 1>in her court and her answer will mean everything. What

0:48:23.000 --> 0:48:27.040
<v Speaker 1>she says at that point will mean everything. And here's

0:48:27.080 --> 0:48:31.920
<v Speaker 1>the key. Whatever her answer is, you gotta go with that.

0:48:33.400 --> 0:48:38.600
<v Speaker 1>And if she says I don't think I can, then

0:48:38.640 --> 0:48:40.520
<v Speaker 1>you got to. You gotta take the step, and you

0:48:40.520 --> 0:48:45.040
<v Speaker 1>gotta get out. You gotta walk away for the sake

0:48:45.239 --> 0:48:48.680
<v Speaker 1>of your son. If anything else is for the sake

0:48:48.719 --> 0:48:51.960
<v Speaker 1>of your son. And if that wasn't involved, if you

0:48:52.000 --> 0:48:54.640
<v Speaker 1>didn't even mention that in the last paragraph of your question,

0:48:55.560 --> 0:49:00.279
<v Speaker 1>I probably would have said a different answer. And I

0:49:00.320 --> 0:49:05.160
<v Speaker 1>hate that I'm even advocating divorce here, but but there

0:49:05.200 --> 0:49:09.719
<v Speaker 1>is a limit. And before you take anything I say,

0:49:10.520 --> 0:49:14.960
<v Speaker 1>and before you listen to any of this. You stop

0:49:15.040 --> 0:49:18.200
<v Speaker 1>this podcast right now, and I would hit you. I

0:49:18.239 --> 0:49:22.080
<v Speaker 1>would hit my knees and say, God, here it is

0:49:23.880 --> 0:49:27.160
<v Speaker 1>your God. I'm not I don't know. I didn't want

0:49:27.200 --> 0:49:29.279
<v Speaker 1>to be here. I didn't want to end up here.

0:49:29.320 --> 0:49:31.920
<v Speaker 1>I didn't plan on this, But here I am. I'm

0:49:31.960 --> 0:49:36.080
<v Speaker 1>in this moment right now, flesh and blood. I'm breathing

0:49:36.280 --> 0:49:38.600
<v Speaker 1>in this moment. I need to know what to do.

0:49:38.680 --> 0:49:41.759
<v Speaker 1>What's the next step? And before you talk to her,

0:49:42.160 --> 0:49:48.320
<v Speaker 1>you say that, and then you ask God in that prayer, God,

0:49:48.960 --> 0:49:51.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to I'm going to open up to her.

0:49:51.480 --> 0:49:54.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to pour everything out to her, and whatever

0:49:54.800 --> 0:49:58.759
<v Speaker 1>she says back, I pray that you you direct her

0:49:58.800 --> 0:50:01.400
<v Speaker 1>words so that I I could hear them in the

0:50:01.400 --> 0:50:04.040
<v Speaker 1>way that you need me to hear them that way,

0:50:04.080 --> 0:50:07.080
<v Speaker 1>you know. And if she starts crying and says, yes,

0:50:07.120 --> 0:50:10.359
<v Speaker 1>I need help. I love you, I'll do anything. I

0:50:10.400 --> 0:50:13.960
<v Speaker 1>love your son, then you go, okay. Next the next

0:50:13.960 --> 0:50:16.160
<v Speaker 1>step is let's get on the internet and find somebody

0:50:16.200 --> 0:50:19.600
<v Speaker 1>they can help you, and I'll be willing to do anything.

0:50:19.840 --> 0:50:23.560
<v Speaker 1>But if she says Nope, I don't want to. This

0:50:23.600 --> 0:50:25.600
<v Speaker 1>is how I feel. I'm always going to be messed up.

0:50:26.680 --> 0:50:29.360
<v Speaker 1>Then you've got to believe that's God helping you with

0:50:29.400 --> 0:50:35.480
<v Speaker 1>that answer, and you got to walk out. Sean. I

0:50:35.560 --> 0:50:39.040
<v Speaker 1>appreciate you trusting me with this, and I for the

0:50:39.080 --> 0:50:42.000
<v Speaker 1>thousandths time, I want to say that I don't feel

0:50:42.080 --> 0:50:45.839
<v Speaker 1>qualified to answer something like that, but I would love

0:50:46.120 --> 0:50:47.840
<v Speaker 1>just as a buddy, me and you, Sean, in the

0:50:47.840 --> 0:50:50.520
<v Speaker 1>same room, when the same truck we're driving on the

0:50:50.520 --> 0:50:52.759
<v Speaker 1>same back road together. This is what I would tell

0:50:52.800 --> 0:50:56.360
<v Speaker 1>you if you were my buddy, and because you've opened

0:50:56.440 --> 0:50:59.239
<v Speaker 1>up so much, I feel like we are friends, and

0:50:59.320 --> 0:51:00.759
<v Speaker 1>this is what I would tak I'm a best friend.

0:51:01.440 --> 0:51:03.880
<v Speaker 1>That's all it is. Take it with a grain of salt.

0:51:07.600 --> 0:51:09.600
<v Speaker 1>I don't really want to go into another question after that.

0:51:10.360 --> 0:51:12.360
<v Speaker 1>I want to kind of let that sink in. But

0:51:13.280 --> 0:51:14.960
<v Speaker 1>I have so many more and I'm going to get

0:51:14.960 --> 0:51:17.480
<v Speaker 1>to these. If you didn't hear yours, I probably still

0:51:17.480 --> 0:51:19.960
<v Speaker 1>have it in my queue here on this email, but

0:51:20.560 --> 0:51:24.880
<v Speaker 1>that email is Granger Smith Podcast at gmail dot com. Man,

0:51:24.920 --> 0:51:27.479
<v Speaker 1>I appreciate you guys so much. Thank you for being

0:51:27.480 --> 0:51:31.399
<v Speaker 1>a part of this and for being so engaged. I'm

0:51:31.440 --> 0:51:33.279
<v Speaker 1>just grateful for this platform that we even get an

0:51:33.280 --> 0:51:37.919
<v Speaker 1>opportunity to sit here and talk so many states away,

0:51:37.960 --> 0:51:40.160
<v Speaker 1>so many miles away, and talk like we're in the

0:51:40.200 --> 0:51:43.080
<v Speaker 1>same room, just hanging out as friends. I hope to

0:51:43.120 --> 0:51:46.280
<v Speaker 1>see you guys really soon, whenever this craziness is finally

0:51:46.320 --> 0:51:48.200
<v Speaker 1>over and we're touring everywhere. We're going to be in

0:51:48.239 --> 0:51:53.080
<v Speaker 1>every city, and right now, I want to ask my

0:51:53.160 --> 0:51:55.920
<v Speaker 1>most heartfelt call to action that if you haven't, if

0:51:55.960 --> 0:51:58.160
<v Speaker 1>you haven't taken a look at Country Things, our new album,

0:51:58.200 --> 0:52:02.080
<v Speaker 1>please go check that out. It's seven ninety nine on iTunes.

0:52:02.600 --> 0:52:06.040
<v Speaker 1>That will equal fifteen hundred streams. I mean, if you

0:52:06.040 --> 0:52:08.520
<v Speaker 1>don't have seven ninety nine, you could watch it on

0:52:08.560 --> 0:52:10.600
<v Speaker 1>YouTube and it's free. We're gonna put all these songs

0:52:10.680 --> 0:52:13.880
<v Speaker 1>up on YouTube, so I understand if you don't have

0:52:13.880 --> 0:52:16.560
<v Speaker 1>seven ninety nine to spend on a record, I totally

0:52:16.560 --> 0:52:19.160
<v Speaker 1>get it. Budgets are super tight these days. I just

0:52:19.160 --> 0:52:21.400
<v Speaker 1>hope you listen to it at some point. There's a

0:52:21.400 --> 0:52:23.480
<v Speaker 1>lot of free ways to listen to it too. So

0:52:24.160 --> 0:52:27.160
<v Speaker 1>love you guys. We'll see you next Monday. Thanks for

0:52:27.160 --> 0:52:28.879
<v Speaker 1>listening to the greaterests of the podcast. Ey