1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:01,720 Speaker 1: Am I they a hole for turning down my friend 2 00:00:01,720 --> 00:00:06,760 Speaker 1: who proposed to me on Valentine's Day? Yes? Yes, And 3 00:00:06,840 --> 00:00:10,920 Speaker 1: this comes from uh, I'm too submissive? Oh who says 4 00:00:11,200 --> 00:00:13,480 Speaker 1: I'm too submissive? And I don't know if that's good 5 00:00:13,560 --> 00:00:15,400 Speaker 1: or bad. Now it's not in a spicy sleep sense, 6 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:18,319 Speaker 1: but more in the personality department. I'm not married, but 7 00:00:18,360 --> 00:00:21,360 Speaker 1: I literally can't imagine being the type of woman who 8 00:00:21,400 --> 00:00:24,720 Speaker 1: would want to spoil her husband rotten. I wouldn't mind 9 00:00:24,720 --> 00:00:27,520 Speaker 1: being the submissive wife, archetype who would treat my husband 10 00:00:27,560 --> 00:00:30,120 Speaker 1: like a king, with back massages, dinner prepared, tying his 11 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:33,000 Speaker 1: tie every morning, and making him lunch every day. Don't 12 00:00:33,040 --> 00:00:35,159 Speaker 1: tell Riley. You know what. 13 00:00:35,320 --> 00:00:38,519 Speaker 2: Riley's been actually really good about making dinner for his girlfriend. 14 00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:42,320 Speaker 2: He's been doing good, you know, been good beneath his surface, 15 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:44,640 Speaker 2: beneath his exterior lie. 16 00:00:44,479 --> 00:00:47,360 Speaker 1: Is such a sweet you know, he has this is 17 00:00:47,440 --> 00:00:50,639 Speaker 1: like this stick. He has a stick. But then if 18 00:00:50,640 --> 00:00:52,720 Speaker 1: you look at his soul, Yeah, if you look at. 19 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:56,800 Speaker 2: His actions over his words, you'll find uh, you'll find 20 00:00:56,800 --> 00:00:57,400 Speaker 2: something deeper. 21 00:00:57,560 --> 00:00:58,800 Speaker 1: Usually it's the opposite. 22 00:00:58,960 --> 00:01:00,959 Speaker 2: It is, I would say, so, I would say that 23 00:01:01,080 --> 00:01:03,240 Speaker 2: his actions are the opposite of. 24 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:05,760 Speaker 1: His words in the literal best way, in the best 25 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:08,560 Speaker 1: way when possibly could be on planet Earth. Yeah, of 26 00:01:08,680 --> 00:01:10,720 Speaker 1: a stick, No, I agree, love you Riley come back 27 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:12,200 Speaker 1: hashtag bring Riley back home. 28 00:01:14,080 --> 00:01:16,280 Speaker 2: By the time that this comes out, he'll be back. 29 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:20,480 Speaker 2: But I texted him like every day and I'm like, 30 00:01:20,520 --> 00:01:21,559 Speaker 2: I miss you, come home? 31 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:26,119 Speaker 1: Ready come back. I had to get one ugly cry 32 00:01:26,160 --> 00:01:28,280 Speaker 1: face in there, all right, So. 33 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:33,440 Speaker 2: Back to the sorry tax Believe Steel said, have you 34 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:37,160 Speaker 2: check your iron I just I just bad. 35 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:39,440 Speaker 1: Sleep, but get you got you ate your film meal? Right? 36 00:01:39,480 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 3: Okay? 37 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:42,680 Speaker 2: I know I hate I am I am iron fish. 38 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:44,920 Speaker 1: I was about to throw food. 39 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:48,880 Speaker 2: I have the food. The evidence of the food I 40 00:01:49,040 --> 00:01:52,320 Speaker 2: ate is next to me. I just like woke up 41 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:54,240 Speaker 2: three times for no reason last night. 42 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: I'm watching you. I might have the last say if possible, 43 00:01:57,840 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 1: so long as it's out of love, and probably be 44 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:03,880 Speaker 1: the wife who'd be at his becon call. If possible. 45 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:06,280 Speaker 1: I do all of these things even if I loved 46 00:02:06,360 --> 00:02:09,920 Speaker 1: him more than he loved me. Dang, yeah, so long 47 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:12,079 Speaker 1: as he isn't physically or emotionally abusive or cheating on me, 48 00:02:12,360 --> 00:02:16,680 Speaker 1: I can't imagine minding myself doing whatever he asked. 49 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:18,480 Speaker 2: O pee, I feel like you need to raise your 50 00:02:18,480 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 2: standards just a smidge. 51 00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:23,400 Speaker 1: Let's bump it up, girl, bump it up. Bump it up, 52 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:26,800 Speaker 1: bump it up. Dumb on. Problem is a lot of people, 53 00:02:26,840 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 1: including some of my friends, hate that the fact that 54 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:31,000 Speaker 1: I am the kind of woman who makes it easy 55 00:02:31,440 --> 00:02:33,400 Speaker 1: for me to be taken advantage of, and I admit 56 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:35,959 Speaker 1: I am fully aware they think that because I am away, 57 00:02:36,080 --> 00:02:37,959 Speaker 1: that I believe that men are superior to women, which 58 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:41,320 Speaker 1: I don't. I just want to fully please my future husband. 59 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:44,160 Speaker 1: I don't know if this is freakishly traditional or just 60 00:02:44,240 --> 00:02:47,480 Speaker 1: me to be honest, I've almost always been pretty submissive 61 00:02:47,480 --> 00:02:50,400 Speaker 1: and passive and used to be painfully shy growing up. 62 00:02:50,440 --> 00:02:54,079 Speaker 1: And while I have been growing out of my timidity, yes, 63 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:57,839 Speaker 1: timidity like being timid, being timid, my timidity. I knew 64 00:02:57,840 --> 00:02:59,480 Speaker 1: the word, but I was like, how do I pronounce it? Yeah? 65 00:02:59,480 --> 00:03:01,480 Speaker 2: No, you nail Thanks you nailed it. 66 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:03,960 Speaker 1: John, And well I've been growing out of my timidity. 67 00:03:04,080 --> 00:03:06,680 Speaker 1: I am still pretty soft and go through lengths to 68 00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:09,919 Speaker 1: avoid confrontation, which is a good thing and a bad thing. 69 00:03:10,040 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 1: While I acknowledge I need to work on that, I 70 00:03:12,360 --> 00:03:16,960 Speaker 1: still wouldn't mind being nearly subservient to my future husband, 71 00:03:17,120 --> 00:03:19,400 Speaker 1: so long as he's the type of person I could 72 00:03:19,720 --> 00:03:23,960 Speaker 1: absolutely adore. Are my friends? Right? Am I too submissive 73 00:03:24,200 --> 00:03:27,200 Speaker 1: for my own good? Would it even be possible to 74 00:03:27,280 --> 00:03:30,240 Speaker 1: be in a proper relationship with that kind of personality? 75 00:03:30,560 --> 00:03:33,400 Speaker 1: You know, we got some people that are have relevant 76 00:03:33,400 --> 00:03:34,160 Speaker 1: comments that are ways, So. 77 00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:35,880 Speaker 2: We'll have to do with April fools. 78 00:03:36,360 --> 00:03:40,000 Speaker 1: You know, I think we're think we're gearing up for it, 79 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:45,760 Speaker 1: building building interesting, But first I have to build a 80 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:49,680 Speaker 1: question to you, Sophia, build it. How do we feel 81 00:03:49,680 --> 00:03:54,240 Speaker 1: about op is op? Uh is op? In a good headspace? 82 00:03:54,360 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 1: In a bad head space? What's say you? 83 00:03:57,880 --> 00:04:00,920 Speaker 2: I don't think there's necessarily a problem woman wanting to 84 00:04:02,120 --> 00:04:05,640 Speaker 2: take care of your partner, even if those come out 85 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:08,360 Speaker 2: in gendered ways like wanting, you know, or typical like 86 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:11,480 Speaker 2: stereotypical gender ways of like a woman wanting to like 87 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:16,640 Speaker 2: feed and take care and everything and for her partner. 88 00:04:16,839 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 2: But I think I think the only thing that worries 89 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 2: me is just like I'll do this even if he 90 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:23,240 Speaker 2: doesn't love me that much. 91 00:04:23,760 --> 00:04:25,279 Speaker 1: And I think I heard you guys talking about this 92 00:04:25,320 --> 00:04:27,360 Speaker 1: a little bit before, with like like you were into 93 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:30,280 Speaker 1: ballet and it wasn't for a gendered reason, just because 94 00:04:30,400 --> 00:04:31,480 Speaker 1: that happened to be what you liked. 95 00:04:31,640 --> 00:04:33,440 Speaker 2: It could be she tried everything else. 96 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:34,719 Speaker 1: She tried everything. 97 00:04:35,120 --> 00:04:37,640 Speaker 2: Literally, I went through like eight sports before I got 98 00:04:37,680 --> 00:04:38,160 Speaker 2: to ballet. 99 00:04:38,279 --> 00:04:42,200 Speaker 1: Wow, that's that's that's an intensive rotation. But I agree 100 00:04:42,240 --> 00:04:44,960 Speaker 1: with you in thinking that, like basically everything op you 101 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:47,599 Speaker 1: said could be fine if that's just purely what she 102 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:50,560 Speaker 1: wants and she has a supportive partner that actually will 103 00:04:50,600 --> 00:04:52,719 Speaker 1: be loves her, who loves her, who'll be very good 104 00:04:52,720 --> 00:04:55,839 Speaker 1: to her, that they both agree upon that and he 105 00:04:56,560 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 1: gives back equally, entreats her phenomenally. Yeah. The one part 106 00:05:01,480 --> 00:05:04,120 Speaker 1: being like, even if he doesn't like that to me 107 00:05:04,200 --> 00:05:07,320 Speaker 1: is like submissiveness to the point of insecurity. 108 00:05:07,600 --> 00:05:11,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, submissive to the point of I don't deserve anything better. 109 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:14,160 Speaker 2: You know that idea of I don't deserve anything better. 110 00:05:14,360 --> 00:05:17,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's where I think it becomes an issue because 111 00:05:17,279 --> 00:05:20,400 Speaker 1: some people like some people like I'll make my girlfriend 112 00:05:20,440 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 1: like coffee in the morning or something. It's a nice 113 00:05:21,960 --> 00:05:23,960 Speaker 1: little like it's just like a nice little thing. But 114 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:26,359 Speaker 1: it's just, you know, it's just a thing. It's a 115 00:05:26,400 --> 00:05:29,159 Speaker 1: thing we do. I wake up a little earlier where 116 00:05:29,160 --> 00:05:30,760 Speaker 1: it works out well, you know. 117 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:35,000 Speaker 2: But yeah, but if I just said agreed. 118 00:05:34,960 --> 00:05:39,919 Speaker 1: Agreed, agreed, sorry to interrupt, I am petrified. You know, 119 00:05:39,960 --> 00:05:43,760 Speaker 1: we interrupt Sophia too often. You know that? Do you 120 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:47,280 Speaker 1: know that? Everyone? Yeah, I watch back and listen to 121 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:47,719 Speaker 1: the comments. 122 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:52,880 Speaker 2: No, no, you're I honestly am just a slight tangent 123 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:56,240 Speaker 2: that editor can take out. I think that all of us, 124 00:05:56,320 --> 00:06:00,960 Speaker 2: having diagnosed and undiagnosed ADHD, I mean that we interrupt 125 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:03,680 Speaker 2: each other a lot. And I think that because I 126 00:06:03,720 --> 00:06:05,960 Speaker 2: have a lot of friends in my life who are 127 00:06:06,120 --> 00:06:10,640 Speaker 2: diagnosed as ADHD. That is a type of conversation, like 128 00:06:10,680 --> 00:06:12,640 Speaker 2: a conversation style that I'm very used to. 129 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:15,960 Speaker 1: We we reach delibrium as long as we're all equally 130 00:06:16,040 --> 00:06:18,719 Speaker 1: in the same place, we can interrupt each other equally 131 00:06:18,760 --> 00:06:20,560 Speaker 1: and everyone wow, Like, I don't. 132 00:06:20,320 --> 00:06:24,400 Speaker 2: Find offense to getting interrupted, as long as I don't 133 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:28,000 Speaker 2: think it is intentional, which usually when you're surrounded by 134 00:06:28,040 --> 00:06:30,719 Speaker 2: people who have ADHD, it is not. It's just a 135 00:06:30,760 --> 00:06:31,680 Speaker 2: conversation style. 136 00:06:31,920 --> 00:06:34,360 Speaker 1: You just blew my mind. But you know what splows 137 00:06:34,400 --> 00:06:41,400 Speaker 1: my mind? The story? Yeah, Bob Marley. 138 00:06:43,760 --> 00:06:50,480 Speaker 3: Says what Bob Marley say sound wonderful. 139 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:54,640 Speaker 1: About a thing? 140 00:06:54,800 --> 00:06:59,280 Speaker 2: Okay, sound like a wonderful woman. 141 00:06:59,720 --> 00:07:02,400 Speaker 1: Right, you are the kind of woman a man dreams 142 00:07:02,400 --> 00:07:05,320 Speaker 1: that he can be married to. Song Right. I know 143 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 1: your friends have their own opinions on matters, but I 144 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:09,920 Speaker 1: feel as though you should not bother at all being 145 00:07:09,920 --> 00:07:12,720 Speaker 1: submissive in the manner you describe. It's not wrong at all. 146 00:07:12,720 --> 00:07:14,440 Speaker 1: It sounds really sweet and lovely. You sound like a 147 00:07:14,520 --> 00:07:17,320 Speaker 1: very lovely woman. You shouldn't change anything about yourself at all. 148 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:21,600 Speaker 1: Opie replies to Bob Marley, saying thank you. I've heard 149 00:07:21,640 --> 00:07:25,000 Speaker 1: that from many of my friends that I am ultimate 150 00:07:25,080 --> 00:07:27,920 Speaker 1: wife material, and while it does make me happy to hear, 151 00:07:28,000 --> 00:07:31,320 Speaker 1: it makes me ponder if I'm really a willing pushover 152 00:07:31,520 --> 00:07:35,480 Speaker 1: for what I've been told by my girlfriends. I like that. 153 00:07:35,520 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 2: Hope he looked out for the comments that I just 154 00:07:39,440 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 2: agreed with her that is true? 155 00:07:42,200 --> 00:07:43,680 Speaker 1: Or whoever put this together? 156 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:47,920 Speaker 2: Bob Marley, do you sound like the type of woman 157 00:07:48,040 --> 00:07:49,640 Speaker 2: a man could marry? 158 00:07:49,920 --> 00:07:53,760 Speaker 1: Is this ultimately some sort of secret marketing for Bob 159 00:07:53,760 --> 00:07:58,240 Speaker 1: Marley's the stages that you know what all allowed? But 160 00:07:58,920 --> 00:08:03,840 Speaker 1: there is an update. So a little over a week ago, 161 00:08:04,120 --> 00:08:06,560 Speaker 1: I have been talking with my friends about relationship dynamics, 162 00:08:06,560 --> 00:08:08,480 Speaker 1: and I told them that I actually view myself in 163 00:08:08,480 --> 00:08:11,000 Speaker 1: a submissive wife role and I have no problem with it. 164 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:13,040 Speaker 1: I go on a huge speel about it on my 165 00:08:13,160 --> 00:08:15,840 Speaker 1: r slash confession's post. I spoke with my girlfriends and 166 00:08:15,880 --> 00:08:17,560 Speaker 1: a few of my guy friends about it, and mainly 167 00:08:18,560 --> 00:08:22,320 Speaker 1: one of them went to tell either one of some 168 00:08:22,440 --> 00:08:26,480 Speaker 1: of my guy friends about it. So come April Fool's Day. 169 00:08:27,200 --> 00:08:29,840 Speaker 1: One of my guy friends huh, here it comes, here, 170 00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:33,320 Speaker 1: it comes. Are you ready? Everyone watching on? Here comes 171 00:08:33,360 --> 00:08:35,439 Speaker 1: April Fool's Day. We all know what's going to happen. 172 00:08:35,679 --> 00:08:37,600 Speaker 1: One of my guy friends, let's call him Be, who 173 00:08:37,679 --> 00:08:41,600 Speaker 1: I suspect is either somewhat bipolar, has add and ADHD, 174 00:08:41,760 --> 00:08:44,800 Speaker 1: or something that makes them rather impulsive. That is quite 175 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:47,560 Speaker 1: a gumbo, calls me over to meet with him that 176 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:50,240 Speaker 1: evening after work. My first thought is he's going to 177 00:08:50,280 --> 00:08:53,320 Speaker 1: do an April Fool's joke. I'm thinking I'm ready to 178 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:55,160 Speaker 1: see what he has in store, since he did a 179 00:08:55,160 --> 00:08:58,000 Speaker 1: funny one in college, literally having some of his friends 180 00:08:58,080 --> 00:09:01,960 Speaker 1: chase me in funny costumes all around the dorms lot. Anyway, 181 00:09:02,440 --> 00:09:06,040 Speaker 1: he turns around, kneels onto one knee, pulls out a case, 182 00:09:06,360 --> 00:09:12,959 Speaker 1: and proposes yep. Blue. Now, keep in mind, we're only friends. 183 00:09:13,040 --> 00:09:15,720 Speaker 1: I've never dated him or considered it because I can't 184 00:09:15,720 --> 00:09:19,400 Speaker 1: see each of us as anything beyond good friends. Super 185 00:09:19,440 --> 00:09:21,840 Speaker 1: slight side tangent. I would love we've had a story 186 00:09:21,880 --> 00:09:23,880 Speaker 1: where someone thought they were in a relationship for a year, 187 00:09:23,880 --> 00:09:26,240 Speaker 1: but it was a friendship. I would love to see 188 00:09:26,280 --> 00:09:29,920 Speaker 1: a story. This is my this is my request, Sophia. Yeah, 189 00:09:29,960 --> 00:09:32,520 Speaker 1: to find a story where someone was in a relationship 190 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 1: for so long not realizing it that the other person 191 00:09:34,760 --> 00:09:36,360 Speaker 1: proposed to them and that was the first time they 192 00:09:36,360 --> 00:09:37,240 Speaker 1: realized they weren't. 193 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:37,760 Speaker 2: Really on it. 194 00:09:37,960 --> 00:09:39,400 Speaker 1: I know, I know it's out there in the ether. 195 00:09:39,440 --> 00:09:40,880 Speaker 1: That's actually we have already read that. 196 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:46,520 Speaker 2: We read a somewhat similar story in which Op a 197 00:09:46,559 --> 00:09:51,800 Speaker 2: while ago, oh P's, one of Op's friends, proposed to 198 00:09:51,960 --> 00:09:54,160 Speaker 2: her because he thought that they were already dating, and 199 00:09:54,200 --> 00:09:55,360 Speaker 2: she was like, why would you think. 200 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:56,280 Speaker 1: That it help me? 201 00:09:56,800 --> 00:10:04,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, I sayd oh no, fu another don't worry. 202 00:10:04,760 --> 00:10:08,280 Speaker 1: Yeah I'm happy again. But back to the story. Also, 203 00:10:08,440 --> 00:10:11,400 Speaker 1: knowing my friend he would be the type of guy 204 00:10:11,440 --> 00:10:13,440 Speaker 1: to pull off this kind of thing as a joke, 205 00:10:13,760 --> 00:10:16,800 Speaker 1: So thinking it was another April Fool's joke, I laugh 206 00:10:16,840 --> 00:10:21,120 Speaker 1: and tell him nice, try because I truly think it's 207 00:10:21,120 --> 00:10:22,120 Speaker 1: an April Fool's joke. 208 00:10:22,360 --> 00:10:23,160 Speaker 2: I would it not be. 209 00:10:23,960 --> 00:10:25,679 Speaker 1: If you want to put some ICs in the comment, 210 00:10:26,440 --> 00:10:28,920 Speaker 1: please drop him. He raises the case more and I 211 00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:32,160 Speaker 1: keep giggling and asking if he's serious a couple of 212 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 1: times before he just says, yup, April Fools got him. 213 00:10:36,040 --> 00:10:38,079 Speaker 1: Here we go it's a joke, you know, or we're 214 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:40,320 Speaker 1: having fun. We both laugh and told him that he 215 00:10:40,320 --> 00:10:42,760 Speaker 1: couldn't get me that easily since I knew what day 216 00:10:42,800 --> 00:10:44,760 Speaker 1: it was, and we see each other off. Later on, 217 00:10:44,840 --> 00:10:46,680 Speaker 1: I found out from a friend that he's been in 218 00:10:46,720 --> 00:10:49,280 Speaker 1: a funk since it was MOPy. At first, I thought 219 00:10:49,280 --> 00:10:51,160 Speaker 1: something had happen until a friend of mine came to 220 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:53,160 Speaker 1: talk to me before I could say hi to him 221 00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:57,439 Speaker 1: in the morning. Apparently he was legitimately proposing to me. 222 00:10:57,679 --> 00:11:00,800 Speaker 2: Why would you legitimately propose to someone fools. 223 00:11:00,760 --> 00:11:04,280 Speaker 1: Because then you have a perfect doubt. Let's run down 224 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:06,440 Speaker 1: the list. First off, it was out up for fools 225 00:11:06,480 --> 00:11:10,440 Speaker 1: Day right. Second it was they were friends and haven't 226 00:11:10,480 --> 00:11:11,920 Speaker 1: even dated at all. 227 00:11:12,320 --> 00:11:13,240 Speaker 2: Third, give me a third. 228 00:11:13,480 --> 00:11:16,679 Speaker 1: Third, you're an idiot. What did you expect? 229 00:11:17,200 --> 00:11:20,520 Speaker 2: I know, like like you like physically can, But can 230 00:11:20,559 --> 00:11:23,480 Speaker 2: you propose to someone you have not dated? 231 00:11:23,840 --> 00:11:26,679 Speaker 1: You know, that's such a good question. And I actually 232 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:30,600 Speaker 1: do believe yes, because you know those like stories where 233 00:11:30,600 --> 00:11:32,840 Speaker 1: it's like, oh, like star cross lovers and they were 234 00:11:33,280 --> 00:11:36,520 Speaker 1: together for so long and and then there's like I 235 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:37,280 Speaker 1: think there's a way. 236 00:11:37,679 --> 00:11:41,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, they come in, it's raining, Yeah, they're dripping wet. 237 00:11:41,960 --> 00:11:45,360 Speaker 2: They're like Mary, Mary opened the door, and then Mary's there. 238 00:11:45,720 --> 00:11:51,920 Speaker 2: Oh am, I married, married, marry. I've gotta speak to you. 239 00:11:51,920 --> 00:11:52,880 Speaker 2: You gotta hear me out. 240 00:11:53,000 --> 00:11:55,400 Speaker 1: Mary. Oh my, what is this about? 241 00:11:55,960 --> 00:12:00,400 Speaker 2: It's about you and me and love what I've loved 242 00:12:00,440 --> 00:12:02,320 Speaker 2: you this whole time? Mary, and I didn't know how 243 00:12:02,320 --> 00:12:02,960 Speaker 2: to tell you. 244 00:12:03,120 --> 00:12:03,880 Speaker 1: Oh my god. 245 00:12:04,000 --> 00:12:06,880 Speaker 2: I know you're married to Tim, but but Tim is 246 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:08,320 Speaker 2: is half the man I am. 247 00:12:08,480 --> 00:12:09,160 Speaker 4: Oh. 248 00:12:09,200 --> 00:12:10,880 Speaker 1: I like Tim. He's not so bad. 249 00:12:11,520 --> 00:12:15,800 Speaker 3: He's an ale and he's he's a banker, he making 250 00:12:15,840 --> 00:12:18,560 Speaker 3: a lot of money. I'm a movie star, Mary, and 251 00:12:18,600 --> 00:12:21,760 Speaker 3: I love you, oh my, and I want to marry you. 252 00:12:22,040 --> 00:12:27,800 Speaker 1: Okay, And scene that's exactly how it happened. But that 253 00:12:27,800 --> 00:12:29,840 Speaker 1: one's gonna happen here are we gonna are we gonna 254 00:12:29,880 --> 00:12:33,040 Speaker 1: a We're gonna change chat? Do we think that ya? 255 00:12:33,280 --> 00:12:36,360 Speaker 1: Turn around? Is this gonna unlock the relationship that eventually 256 00:12:36,360 --> 00:12:38,439 Speaker 1: he's a marriage? And he was down. He was sad 257 00:12:38,640 --> 00:12:41,480 Speaker 1: that I thought it was a prank on April fools? 258 00:12:41,480 --> 00:12:42,320 Speaker 1: Who could have thunk it? 259 00:12:42,440 --> 00:12:44,000 Speaker 2: Who could have He's like, why would she? 260 00:12:45,160 --> 00:12:46,320 Speaker 1: I did this whole thing. 261 00:12:46,600 --> 00:12:48,199 Speaker 2: I thought it was gonna be a really lovely day 262 00:12:48,240 --> 00:12:49,680 Speaker 2: and I forgot it was April first. 263 00:12:49,840 --> 00:12:53,959 Speaker 1: But no, Apparently somewhere in that conversation my friend had 264 00:12:54,000 --> 00:12:56,640 Speaker 1: with them, he thought that I would accept his proposal. 265 00:12:56,920 --> 00:12:58,880 Speaker 1: I baffled and keep trying to wrap my head around 266 00:12:58,920 --> 00:13:00,800 Speaker 1: it until now. I never knew he had feelings for 267 00:13:00,840 --> 00:13:03,280 Speaker 1: me whatsoever. I mean, he never asked me out or 268 00:13:03,320 --> 00:13:05,600 Speaker 1: anything like that, and I never had feelings for him 269 00:13:05,640 --> 00:13:07,839 Speaker 1: like that either. I only see him as a friend 270 00:13:07,880 --> 00:13:10,320 Speaker 1: and I don't like him in that way. I honestly 271 00:13:10,440 --> 00:13:12,320 Speaker 1: don't know how to go about all this, the fact 272 00:13:12,360 --> 00:13:14,880 Speaker 1: that he liked me that way, his proposal was real, 273 00:13:14,920 --> 00:13:17,600 Speaker 1: and I honestly thought he was joking, and he did 274 00:13:17,640 --> 00:13:20,319 Speaker 1: say eventually it was a joke. He jokes around and 275 00:13:20,480 --> 00:13:23,560 Speaker 1: pulls branks so much. I never expected anything like this. 276 00:13:23,840 --> 00:13:25,800 Speaker 1: How do I proceed from here? This just made things 277 00:13:25,840 --> 00:13:28,600 Speaker 1: extremely awkward and I have no idea what to do 278 00:13:28,760 --> 00:13:31,440 Speaker 1: when I see him again. And before we get into 279 00:13:31,520 --> 00:13:34,800 Speaker 1: the edison, the relevant comments and yeah, all those goodies. 280 00:13:35,360 --> 00:13:38,960 Speaker 2: I think we need to pull together the first and 281 00:13:39,280 --> 00:13:42,840 Speaker 2: now this second part of the story, the seemingly unrelated 282 00:13:42,880 --> 00:13:43,800 Speaker 2: parts of these stories. 283 00:13:43,880 --> 00:13:48,120 Speaker 1: Yes, it's this is the Christopher Nolan tying together. 284 00:13:48,800 --> 00:13:49,640 Speaker 2: Yeah we thought. 285 00:13:49,440 --> 00:13:53,240 Speaker 1: We were experiencing two different realities, but now let's merge 286 00:13:53,280 --> 00:13:57,400 Speaker 1: it into one. The guy hears all of these things 287 00:13:58,080 --> 00:14:02,040 Speaker 1: and is like, Hey, I would love a woman who 288 00:14:02,040 --> 00:14:05,600 Speaker 1: will just wait on my every beck and call and 289 00:14:05,679 --> 00:14:08,280 Speaker 1: desire and want to please me no matter what. 290 00:14:08,800 --> 00:14:10,400 Speaker 2: Why wait, I'm right here. 291 00:14:10,720 --> 00:14:12,680 Speaker 1: I wait, baby, and then and then and then you 292 00:14:12,760 --> 00:14:16,800 Speaker 1: know what she does? The audacity Sofia, he displeases by 293 00:14:16,880 --> 00:14:19,560 Speaker 1: not accepting my marriage proposal. I thought you wanted to 294 00:14:19,560 --> 00:14:24,360 Speaker 1: be the traditional wife that is just down to service 295 00:14:24,400 --> 00:14:26,480 Speaker 1: her man in any way, form or fashion. 296 00:14:26,840 --> 00:14:29,200 Speaker 2: I assume that meant anyone would do. 297 00:14:29,480 --> 00:14:34,840 Speaker 1: I thought any any male meat sack with a pulse 298 00:14:35,240 --> 00:14:38,360 Speaker 1: was eligible for this offer. But I guess I was. 299 00:14:38,480 --> 00:14:39,800 Speaker 1: I guess I was in the room. 300 00:14:39,960 --> 00:14:43,520 Speaker 2: I submitted my resume and you didn't even look at it. 301 00:14:44,240 --> 00:14:48,520 Speaker 1: I thought I understood the assignment but I didn't. What 302 00:14:48,640 --> 00:14:50,400 Speaker 1: is this guy thinking? What is happening? 303 00:14:50,560 --> 00:14:52,840 Speaker 2: I don't, I truly don't understand. 304 00:14:52,960 --> 00:14:55,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm just kind of lost, to be honest, Like, 305 00:14:55,800 --> 00:14:57,920 Speaker 1: I also wonder, I'm like, is this like a long 306 00:14:57,960 --> 00:15:01,760 Speaker 1: tail prank? Where like part So the part of the 307 00:15:01,760 --> 00:15:05,680 Speaker 1: prank is like, oh, hey, I'm proposing to you a taper, fools, 308 00:15:05,680 --> 00:15:07,640 Speaker 1: And then the friend says, oh no, he was being serious, 309 00:15:07,760 --> 00:15:09,560 Speaker 1: and then it's like a long con and then they're like. 310 00:15:09,560 --> 00:15:12,400 Speaker 2: Brilliant, that's that would be so good. 311 00:15:12,560 --> 00:15:13,600 Speaker 1: That's actually pretty good. 312 00:15:14,120 --> 00:15:15,840 Speaker 2: I got youa what is that? 313 00:15:16,600 --> 00:15:21,240 Speaker 1: Can we pull? Can we pull? You'll find his post. 314 00:15:21,280 --> 00:15:24,160 Speaker 1: One day in our slash night, my friend said. 315 00:15:24,040 --> 00:15:27,240 Speaker 2: That she wanted a guy to cook for and care 316 00:15:27,480 --> 00:15:31,240 Speaker 2: for and that she would love him so much. And 317 00:15:31,480 --> 00:15:34,880 Speaker 2: I took her on that offer, and she was not 318 00:15:34,960 --> 00:15:36,720 Speaker 2: telling the truth. She's a liar. 319 00:15:37,160 --> 00:15:41,360 Speaker 4: Oh All my pals and lads were like, hey, this 320 00:15:41,480 --> 00:15:45,400 Speaker 4: lady's looking for a good lad, And I think, Hey, 321 00:15:45,520 --> 00:15:49,760 Speaker 4: I'm a good lad. Why didn't I just put my 322 00:15:50,320 --> 00:15:51,680 Speaker 4: application out there? 323 00:15:52,000 --> 00:16:00,360 Speaker 1: Just see by telling the crevice? Why not? I'm a goody, 324 00:16:01,360 --> 00:16:04,480 Speaker 1: you know me. I'm a good guy. Oh my bows say, 325 00:16:04,520 --> 00:16:07,680 Speaker 1: I'm a good guy. You are an idiot, sir, you're 326 00:16:07,680 --> 00:16:12,120 Speaker 1: an idiot. But the poll is, uh, what was the poll? 327 00:16:12,560 --> 00:16:15,920 Speaker 1: What was the poll? Chat the poll? 328 00:16:16,960 --> 00:16:19,800 Speaker 2: Oh, ongoing April fools prank. 329 00:16:19,880 --> 00:16:22,480 Speaker 1: Oh yeah yeah yeah yeah, on the going apols prank. 330 00:16:22,560 --> 00:16:25,400 Speaker 1: Yes or no. I think it's very plausible, given like 331 00:16:25,480 --> 00:16:27,600 Speaker 1: she's like this guy is like a big prankster, like 332 00:16:27,600 --> 00:16:30,840 Speaker 1: he got me before it was fun blase blah. So 333 00:16:31,320 --> 00:16:34,520 Speaker 1: we'll see. But we got an eddie all right. Wow. 334 00:16:34,680 --> 00:16:37,280 Speaker 1: I didn't expect this magnitude of responses when you have 335 00:16:37,320 --> 00:16:40,480 Speaker 1: an idiot that extraordinary. It elicits a response. 336 00:16:40,960 --> 00:16:42,600 Speaker 2: The people show up. 337 00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:45,040 Speaker 1: I haven't responded to all of them, but I'm reading 338 00:16:45,080 --> 00:16:48,120 Speaker 1: each and every last one, taking them into consideration. Thank 339 00:16:48,160 --> 00:16:50,080 Speaker 1: you all for taking the time to give me such 340 00:16:50,120 --> 00:16:52,200 Speaker 1: wonderful advice. I just wanted to say that to you 341 00:16:52,240 --> 00:16:56,280 Speaker 1: guys onto some relevant comments Here, little stray says, my 342 00:16:56,400 --> 00:17:01,120 Speaker 1: alarm bells are going off, ring ring, ring, Banana phone 343 00:17:01,760 --> 00:17:07,160 Speaker 1: got him. You're in your early twenties and he's thirty. 344 00:17:07,240 --> 00:17:10,240 Speaker 1: That's a sizable difference in maturity gap. Mind you, OP 345 00:17:10,440 --> 00:17:12,960 Speaker 1: is twenty three female and Ope is thirty male? 346 00:17:13,160 --> 00:17:15,560 Speaker 2: You mean OPI and the friend is three male? 347 00:17:16,119 --> 00:17:16,359 Speaker 1: Yes? 348 00:17:16,440 --> 00:17:17,080 Speaker 2: Okay, gotcha guy. 349 00:17:17,160 --> 00:17:19,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, the friend is thirty mail. Sorry. That he'd propose 350 00:17:19,640 --> 00:17:23,480 Speaker 1: without even dating you is frankly crazy. That he'd wrap 351 00:17:23,600 --> 00:17:27,600 Speaker 1: any sort of relationship step in a joke suggests he's immature. 352 00:17:27,880 --> 00:17:32,080 Speaker 1: Like really, it just suggests, uh, it's the my friend 353 00:17:32,160 --> 00:17:35,920 Speaker 1: stole my phone of romantic overtures. But he's a grown man. 354 00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:37,000 Speaker 1: What's that? Oh? 355 00:17:37,200 --> 00:17:40,040 Speaker 2: Like if he were to send her oh, hey, I 356 00:17:40,240 --> 00:17:43,360 Speaker 2: like you, and then she responded back, sorry, I only 357 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:46,439 Speaker 2: like you as a friend, he'd then text back, oh, sorry, 358 00:17:46,480 --> 00:17:49,119 Speaker 2: my friend, my friend's to my phone. He texted that 359 00:17:49,160 --> 00:17:49,680 Speaker 2: as a joke. 360 00:17:49,840 --> 00:17:53,320 Speaker 1: What a what a what a brilliant scelt You never 361 00:17:53,359 --> 00:17:55,520 Speaker 1: heard that I have, I have, I have? But what 362 00:17:55,560 --> 00:17:58,040 Speaker 1: does your mutual friend think about all this, Opie replies. 363 00:17:58,119 --> 00:18:00,760 Speaker 1: My mutual friend actually told me that at first they 364 00:18:00,760 --> 00:18:03,040 Speaker 1: thought he was joking too, until they learned from him 365 00:18:03,119 --> 00:18:05,119 Speaker 1: that he was being serious. She told me that it 366 00:18:05,160 --> 00:18:08,879 Speaker 1: was weird and that none she or I saw it coming. 367 00:18:09,080 --> 00:18:12,520 Speaker 1: Apparently he only told her his plans and that she 368 00:18:12,920 --> 00:18:15,199 Speaker 1: was weirded out by it, and he's always been a 369 00:18:15,200 --> 00:18:17,840 Speaker 1: weird guy, but still caught her off guard. I plan 370 00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:20,600 Speaker 1: to talk to her more about tomorrow. When someone's weird 371 00:18:20,720 --> 00:18:23,520 Speaker 1: but still catches you off guard with how weird it is, 372 00:18:24,680 --> 00:18:26,200 Speaker 1: that's an issue. 373 00:18:26,200 --> 00:18:28,040 Speaker 2: She like, got no, as my friend, there're super weird, 374 00:18:28,119 --> 00:18:29,600 Speaker 2: and then one day they do something You're. 375 00:18:29,440 --> 00:18:32,000 Speaker 1: Like, like, you're weird, but that was like that was 376 00:18:32,040 --> 00:18:35,800 Speaker 1: even weird for you weird. He's always acted younger than 377 00:18:35,800 --> 00:18:38,080 Speaker 1: he rusually than he truly is, and truth be told, 378 00:18:38,080 --> 00:18:41,000 Speaker 1: he's immature and impulsive in many ways. It never occurred 379 00:18:41,040 --> 00:18:42,679 Speaker 1: to me that he would do something like that in 380 00:18:42,720 --> 00:18:46,159 Speaker 1: all seriousness. I don't know that he knows that. I 381 00:18:46,320 --> 00:18:48,800 Speaker 1: know it wasn't a joke. Now the guy, He's not 382 00:18:48,880 --> 00:18:52,879 Speaker 1: sure whether the guy's aware that Opie's informed of this 383 00:18:52,880 --> 00:18:55,600 Speaker 1: whole situation or not. So it could be like, is 384 00:18:55,640 --> 00:18:59,240 Speaker 1: he thinking that he'll be pining I'll be maybe considering 385 00:18:59,240 --> 00:19:01,680 Speaker 1: it now that I know. Is it like he's he's 386 00:19:01,720 --> 00:19:02,160 Speaker 1: just like, you. 387 00:19:02,119 --> 00:19:03,960 Speaker 2: Know, look, I bet she's like at home right now, 388 00:19:04,119 --> 00:19:06,240 Speaker 2: just thinking about just turnning down my offer. 389 00:19:06,520 --> 00:19:10,119 Speaker 1: Just plot on wish. She said, yes, wish and she 390 00:19:10,160 --> 00:19:14,720 Speaker 1: could get a nice guy like me. Opie ads more info. 391 00:19:14,880 --> 00:19:17,960 Speaker 1: Thank you for the advice. So some context here, We've 392 00:19:17,960 --> 00:19:19,840 Speaker 1: known each other for three years and aside from hugs, 393 00:19:19,880 --> 00:19:23,159 Speaker 1: high five and the friendly, playful poke and stuff that 394 00:19:23,240 --> 00:19:25,199 Speaker 1: I do with all my friends. I never thought it 395 00:19:25,240 --> 00:19:27,439 Speaker 1: was out of the ordinary. At times we would have 396 00:19:27,480 --> 00:19:30,639 Speaker 1: deep conversations, but never anything too deeply romantic, let alone 397 00:19:30,680 --> 00:19:34,280 Speaker 1: anything implying any romantic feelings for each other, which I 398 00:19:34,640 --> 00:19:37,600 Speaker 1: don't have for him. Stuff nuts, buddy. As far as 399 00:19:37,640 --> 00:19:40,080 Speaker 1: I've witnessed, he's usually just as playful with his other 400 00:19:40,160 --> 00:19:43,080 Speaker 1: friends as he is with me, which I never truly 401 00:19:43,160 --> 00:19:46,119 Speaker 1: saw something like this coming. I saw no change in 402 00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:49,159 Speaker 1: his baby whatsoever. The last thing I was talking to 403 00:19:49,240 --> 00:19:51,760 Speaker 1: him about before all of this was if he wanted 404 00:19:51,760 --> 00:19:54,200 Speaker 1: to watch the Walking Dead with us, which, to be clear, 405 00:19:54,760 --> 00:19:55,320 Speaker 1: that is. 406 00:19:55,280 --> 00:19:58,600 Speaker 2: A sign of someone wanting to marry you if if. 407 00:19:58,440 --> 00:20:01,639 Speaker 1: The apocalypse happened, WHI do you want me to carry 408 00:20:01,720 --> 00:20:05,200 Speaker 1: you through the end times? That's what he was saying. 409 00:20:05,640 --> 00:20:08,760 Speaker 1: It was a clearly coded message, Sophia. It was so bad. 410 00:20:08,960 --> 00:20:10,679 Speaker 2: Oh do you want to watch Walking Dead with me? 411 00:20:10,760 --> 00:20:13,119 Speaker 2: And he here? Do you want to walk down the 412 00:20:13,160 --> 00:20:13,840 Speaker 2: aisle with me? 413 00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:18,959 Speaker 1: Do you want to watch Walking Dead and then walk 414 00:20:19,480 --> 00:20:20,320 Speaker 1: down the aisle? 415 00:20:20,960 --> 00:20:21,360 Speaker 2: So clear? 416 00:20:21,480 --> 00:20:22,680 Speaker 1: This is the most crystal clear. 417 00:20:22,720 --> 00:20:24,400 Speaker 2: There's only one way you could take this. 418 00:20:24,960 --> 00:20:28,399 Speaker 1: Yes, I accept I think the relationship conversation one of 419 00:20:28,400 --> 00:20:30,919 Speaker 1: my friends had with him definitely got misconstrued in the 420 00:20:30,960 --> 00:20:34,480 Speaker 1: mix some way. I need to ask her exactly how 421 00:20:34,520 --> 00:20:37,720 Speaker 1: she told him what happened during that conversation. I think 422 00:20:37,720 --> 00:20:40,640 Speaker 1: he does have some mental health problems, mainly a lower 423 00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:44,280 Speaker 1: level bipolar disorder that had been diagnosed. Thence he tends 424 00:20:44,280 --> 00:20:47,440 Speaker 1: to be moody before completely back to his energetic, playful self. 425 00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:50,440 Speaker 1: I never thought the conversation would spiral in that way. 426 00:20:50,560 --> 00:20:53,280 Speaker 1: I never expected for it to happen. I'm still wrapping 427 00:20:53,280 --> 00:20:56,000 Speaker 1: my head around that, and I'm beginning to reflect back 428 00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:59,280 Speaker 1: on any ways he's even shown remote interest in me. 429 00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:01,879 Speaker 1: I know ever meant to make him feel bad. I 430 00:21:01,920 --> 00:21:04,280 Speaker 1: didn't love him in that way, but he is my friend. 431 00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:07,480 Speaker 1: Had he known I was serious, I would have probably 432 00:21:07,520 --> 00:21:09,760 Speaker 1: handled it better. I mean, he's the type of guy 433 00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:12,600 Speaker 1: with an over the top sense of you God, this 434 00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:15,240 Speaker 1: guy think this is gonna work. So I truly thought 435 00:21:15,240 --> 00:21:18,439 Speaker 1: he was joking. I mean, it was April Fools and 436 00:21:18,440 --> 00:21:21,159 Speaker 1: he's done crazy things like this in the past, but 437 00:21:21,359 --> 00:21:24,000 Speaker 1: nothing like this. I'll try to talk to him when 438 00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:26,280 Speaker 1: I get the chance. I really want to salvage our 439 00:21:26,320 --> 00:21:29,760 Speaker 1: friendship despite everything. He's a funny and nice guy, a 440 00:21:29,840 --> 00:21:30,600 Speaker 1: nice guy. 441 00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:32,520 Speaker 2: Who he's such a nice guy. 442 00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:35,439 Speaker 1: He's such a nice guy whom I'm glad to have 443 00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:37,200 Speaker 1: as a friend as well. I just never liked him 444 00:21:37,200 --> 00:21:40,240 Speaker 1: in that way at all, and he never even inferred 445 00:21:40,240 --> 00:21:42,760 Speaker 1: he liked me in that way before. Now I really 446 00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:44,879 Speaker 1: hope that we can still be friends. But if we can't, 447 00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:48,640 Speaker 1: I understand taking some distance between us. What ms and 448 00:21:48,680 --> 00:21:53,680 Speaker 1: then we have an update after that? Boyo, you don't 449 00:21:53,960 --> 00:21:56,440 Speaker 1: owe this guy anything? Yeah, what do you think happened 450 00:21:56,440 --> 00:21:57,199 Speaker 1: to her? Sophia go? 451 00:21:57,400 --> 00:21:59,080 Speaker 2: She'll go for the first guy that offers. 452 00:21:59,320 --> 00:22:02,000 Speaker 1: She's ready to down. So like if a man gets 453 00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:05,160 Speaker 1: on if if a funny, playful guy who does these 454 00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:08,840 Speaker 1: kookie wacky April Fools jokes everyone loves gets on one knee, 455 00:22:08,960 --> 00:22:12,960 Speaker 1: she can't help but except yeah, but also on April. Dude, 456 00:22:13,200 --> 00:22:14,680 Speaker 1: I don't know what's happening right now. 457 00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:15,840 Speaker 2: I don't understand. 458 00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:17,439 Speaker 1: I don't know if he's lying, I don't know if 459 00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:18,280 Speaker 1: this is a bigger pro. 460 00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:21,200 Speaker 2: Who's telling the truth, who's telling the truth? 461 00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:25,239 Speaker 1: I don't know. But there's more. We might We just 462 00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:27,280 Speaker 1: might get to the bottom of this. Ladies, and gentlemen, 463 00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:33,399 Speaker 1: so please site Mama see Mama update. I actually wound 464 00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:35,320 Speaker 1: up not getting the chance to talk to my friend 465 00:22:35,560 --> 00:22:38,560 Speaker 1: after all about what he said, because he sought me 466 00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:41,040 Speaker 1: out before I got the chance to talk to him yesterday. Bud, 467 00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:44,240 Speaker 1: he's ready to chat one v one. You know what 468 00:22:44,240 --> 00:22:47,960 Speaker 1: I'm saying. As it turned out, several of you guys 469 00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:53,280 Speaker 1: were right. He was half joking, half serious about the proposal. 470 00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:58,359 Speaker 1: You can't be both, or can you because because if 471 00:22:58,400 --> 00:22:59,560 Speaker 1: you go and you're like, you know, this is a 472 00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:02,399 Speaker 1: silly part. But at the same time, he's what if 473 00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:05,720 Speaker 1: she said it is, if she actually said yes, I 474 00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:09,600 Speaker 1: would be down from a April fool. It's perspective. I do 475 00:23:09,680 --> 00:23:12,040 Speaker 1: see the logic. I do see this April fool's logic. 476 00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:16,320 Speaker 2: Maybe he thought that, maybe, like if I'm getting inside 477 00:23:16,359 --> 00:23:19,879 Speaker 2: his brain, Yeah, maybe he thought, Okay, I'm not actually 478 00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:22,119 Speaker 2: proposing to her because that's crazy, but. 479 00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:25,960 Speaker 1: Maybe on the off chance she'll date me, maybe. 480 00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:27,639 Speaker 2: This will like, like I still want to be friends 481 00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:29,360 Speaker 2: with her, but I like I'm a little into her. 482 00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:32,080 Speaker 2: Maybe I can lead this into dating. 483 00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:35,080 Speaker 1: Yeah. That like it kind of becomes this like place 484 00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:38,919 Speaker 1: for ruse. Everyone's like, oh hey, when's the wedding guys? Aha, 485 00:23:38,920 --> 00:23:42,000 Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah. One thing leads to another, and 486 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:44,520 Speaker 1: then all of a sudden they're like, hey, let's go 487 00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:46,080 Speaker 1: on a date or whatever. 488 00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:49,760 Speaker 2: Oh, sure, do a little date. This is a joke. 489 00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:51,639 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know'd be so funny if I got like 490 00:23:51,640 --> 00:23:55,320 Speaker 1: a little picnic basket, a little champagne. It just like, yeah. 491 00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:59,000 Speaker 2: Twelve days of April are all joke related. 492 00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:03,240 Speaker 1: Twelve days of April Fools dating? Yeah, honestly, am I 493 00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:06,879 Speaker 1: wrong in thinking this would be a a like cheesy 494 00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:10,359 Speaker 1: rom complot, Oh my cheezy rom complotuh? 495 00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:13,320 Speaker 2: Fake dating on April first, and then they keep up 496 00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:16,120 Speaker 2: the ruse for the twelve days of April Fools. 497 00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:18,360 Speaker 1: Tell me that is not a director stream of rom 498 00:24:18,359 --> 00:24:20,600 Speaker 1: comte Tell me right now, Yeah it is. 499 00:24:21,119 --> 00:24:21,439 Speaker 2: It is. 500 00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:25,160 Speaker 1: You're all you big streamers out there called April Fool's Day. 501 00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:29,040 Speaker 1: Call us in Sofia. We can, we can, right and 502 00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:34,240 Speaker 1: voice active Yes, okay, it's an animated movie. Animated Okay, 503 00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:37,520 Speaker 1: But so back to the story. He had liked me 504 00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:40,159 Speaker 1: for a long time, and he purposefully had chosen April's 505 00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:43,040 Speaker 1: Fool's Day to see if I had any romantic interest 506 00:24:43,080 --> 00:24:45,720 Speaker 1: in him as he did in me. I truly don't 507 00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:47,760 Speaker 1: understand why that would be a good case to see 508 00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:49,600 Speaker 1: if I liked him in that way, because to propose 509 00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:52,159 Speaker 1: to anyone out of the blue without dating them usually 510 00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:56,600 Speaker 1: means an automatic no. Wow, he is actually upset by 511 00:24:56,640 --> 00:24:59,879 Speaker 1: my reaction, or more than he thought he would. And 512 00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:03,080 Speaker 1: right after telling me this, he asked me out, Oh boy, 513 00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:05,240 Speaker 1: I don't like that. 514 00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:09,199 Speaker 2: Wait wait, wait, wait wait, sorry sorry I took it in, 515 00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:11,520 Speaker 2: but I didn't really take it in, so so op 516 00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:14,800 Speaker 2: has already been like no. And then he told her 517 00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,360 Speaker 2: this whole thing, and then he was like, that's this. 518 00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:19,439 Speaker 2: This is the moment where I asked her out. 519 00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:22,119 Speaker 1: Like basic, yeah, basically the exchange. So he sought her 520 00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:24,200 Speaker 1: out right, and then they're like he was like, oh yeah, 521 00:25:24,320 --> 00:25:26,720 Speaker 1: I didn't know that you were being serious. She's like, 522 00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:28,919 Speaker 1: you know, it was it was kind of a joke. 523 00:25:29,040 --> 00:25:31,520 Speaker 1: It was you know, I was kind of you know, 524 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:33,800 Speaker 1: maybe curious to see if there was anything there and 525 00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:35,520 Speaker 1: thought it could be funny. And you know it's like 526 00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:38,960 Speaker 1: again half joke, half like pesting the water to see 527 00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:41,159 Speaker 1: if there's any interest. And it's like, yeah, okay, so 528 00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:43,399 Speaker 1: that's okay. Like, oh, you know, that makes sense. I 529 00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:46,639 Speaker 1: see what you're saying. Do you want to like grab 530 00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:49,840 Speaker 1: some dinner to night? That's what happened. My god, I 531 00:25:49,880 --> 00:25:51,640 Speaker 1: am pouring sweat. 532 00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:55,400 Speaker 2: He's pouring sweat everybody. 533 00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:58,480 Speaker 1: For you, I would have passed this pillow away. 534 00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:00,200 Speaker 2: I love about John's. 535 00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:04,600 Speaker 1: Enough about me. Let's get to Opie. So I turned 536 00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:08,600 Speaker 1: him down as plightly as I could. Again, though a 537 00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:11,960 Speaker 1: sense I don't like him in any way like that 538 00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:14,880 Speaker 1: at all. He said he thought I had feelings for him. 539 00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:17,600 Speaker 1: I told him I loved him as a friend and 540 00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:19,879 Speaker 1: that I hope we could remain good friends still, but 541 00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:23,280 Speaker 1: he just stormed by me afterwards. Judging from that reaction, 542 00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:26,640 Speaker 1: I don't think our relationship will be repaired anytime soon. 543 00:26:26,800 --> 00:26:29,399 Speaker 1: I guess it's for the best in the end. I agree, 544 00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:31,639 Speaker 1: thank you all for your wonderful advice you gave me. 545 00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:35,119 Speaker 1: Things didn't really go as I expected them to, but 546 00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:38,080 Speaker 1: at least I have much more clarity on the situation 547 00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:43,560 Speaker 1: and we have some relevant comments to close us out here. 548 00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:48,040 Speaker 1: Opie says, Yeah, something tells me it'll make an interesting 549 00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:51,600 Speaker 1: April Fool's story in the future. I plan to definitely 550 00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:54,520 Speaker 1: distanced myself from him and definitely be more careful. It 551 00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:57,760 Speaker 1: actually started all off on just a conversation with friends 552 00:26:58,040 --> 00:27:02,320 Speaker 1: on relationships. Didn't expect it spiral into this. That is crazy. 553 00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:06,120 Speaker 1: How like her conversation about you know, oh I would 554 00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:10,480 Speaker 1: like to be the traditional wife or whatever ended with this, Yeah, 555 00:27:10,520 --> 00:27:11,520 Speaker 1: that's crazy. 556 00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:15,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, she was just talking about, you know, maybe slightly 557 00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:17,960 Speaker 2: misguided ideas about relationships. 558 00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:21,840 Speaker 1: Dude, this is and and she was like, wait a minute, No, 559 00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:25,480 Speaker 1: I guess that teaches me to put it all out there, lowl. 560 00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:28,520 Speaker 1: Definitely going to wait a while before I bring something 561 00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:32,280 Speaker 1: like that up again. Diesel says, Wow, this must be 562 00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:36,760 Speaker 1: the absolute most awkward, likely failway to ask a friend 563 00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:40,160 Speaker 1: out I've ever heard of, because imagine imagine you were like, hey, 564 00:27:40,160 --> 00:27:41,760 Speaker 1: would you want to go out with me? And then 565 00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:45,439 Speaker 1: they're like, uh no, you know you're a great a friend, 566 00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:48,000 Speaker 1: you know, but you know, honestly, I think we're better 567 00:27:48,040 --> 00:27:55,040 Speaker 1: as friends. It's a prank, bro, You just got pranks. Bro, 568 00:27:55,680 --> 00:27:57,840 Speaker 1: look at the camera and say, how to my followers, 569 00:27:58,240 --> 00:28:06,960 Speaker 1: be brave, be booth, b direct, easy, breezy direct, ask 570 00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:09,679 Speaker 1: her out. That is so much more awkward than just 571 00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:13,040 Speaker 1: straightforwardly asking you out. Like, did he really think you 572 00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:15,720 Speaker 1: would say yes? I'm baffled by the whole thing, but 573 00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:17,560 Speaker 1: it sounds like you handled it as well as you 574 00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:20,640 Speaker 1: possibly could have. Oh, he says, thanks. This whole thing 575 00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:23,320 Speaker 1: is crazy, and even thinking about it baffles me. I 576 00:28:23,359 --> 00:28:26,520 Speaker 1: honestly don't know what's going on. I honestly don't know 577 00:28:26,560 --> 00:28:28,840 Speaker 1: what was going through his head at the time, and 578 00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:31,639 Speaker 1: I guess now I never will. Granted with what everyone 579 00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:34,399 Speaker 1: pointed out, and a bit more hindsight, I realized that 580 00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:37,359 Speaker 1: maybe it was never a real friendship. Walking the Dead 581 00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:39,760 Speaker 1: says he was hoping you'd say yes and be his 582 00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:44,200 Speaker 1: perfect submissive fantasy wife. Girl. Make no mistake that what 583 00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:48,320 Speaker 1: sprung all of this was your previous declaration. He wants 584 00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:53,160 Speaker 1: an exclusive, particular fetish ps that in any way shifts 585 00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:55,680 Speaker 1: to blame onto you, Like that doesn't Maybe. 586 00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:57,640 Speaker 2: They meant to say that doesn't in any way sh Yeah, yeah, I. 587 00:28:57,600 --> 00:28:59,080 Speaker 1: Think I've meant to say that doesn't in any way 588 00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:02,760 Speaker 1: shipt a blame onto you, which OPI respond with, what's happened? 589 00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:06,080 Speaker 1: I guessed I really shouldn't have talked a loud about 590 00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:08,720 Speaker 1: that with my friends, given all that's happened. Going to 591 00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:11,640 Speaker 1: definitely keep things like that under wraps. 592 00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:13,880 Speaker 2: I think that you should be able to talk about 593 00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:16,320 Speaker 2: those types of things with your friends. Yeah, And if 594 00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:19,080 Speaker 2: you feel like you aren't able to, then they may 595 00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:22,480 Speaker 2: not be the right friends for you. This sucks, Yeah, 596 00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:24,520 Speaker 2: I don't think. I don't think the lesson of today 597 00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:26,560 Speaker 2: was don't tell your friends things. 598 00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:29,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, shut up, and never communicate with your friends like that. 599 00:29:30,120 --> 00:29:32,440 Speaker 1: I feel like this is what friends are for, yeah, 600 00:29:32,480 --> 00:29:35,239 Speaker 1: to be able to Like, we're all figure in life out, 601 00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:38,920 Speaker 1: especially open brainstorm, brainstorm, like OPI's twenty three in her 602 00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:41,600 Speaker 1: early twenties, trying to figure it all out. And I 603 00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:45,800 Speaker 1: feel like the we grow such great relationships and grow 604 00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:48,720 Speaker 1: as people like discussing these kinds of things with our 605 00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:50,440 Speaker 1: close friends, me and the most of us. But this 606 00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:52,320 Speaker 1: leads me to our question of the episode, which is 607 00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:56,240 Speaker 1: should you confront friends about their bad behavior or go 608 00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:56,960 Speaker 1: no contact? 609 00:29:57,280 --> 00:29:59,800 Speaker 2: I think this behavior should have been confronted first, which 610 00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:02,600 Speaker 2: kind of was, and then if it continues, then no 611 00:30:02,720 --> 00:30:04,280 Speaker 2: con or if it makes you uncomfortable. 612 00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:08,240 Speaker 1: So like the way that when the guy eventually approached 613 00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:10,240 Speaker 1: and they had the conversation, op was like, hey, like 614 00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:13,400 Speaker 1: I don't feel that way, and not not me, and 615 00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:16,320 Speaker 1: then after that when he's like, oh you don't want 616 00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:18,160 Speaker 1: me up? Okay, okay, cut it off. 617 00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:19,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, no more exactly. 618 00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:22,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like, I don't even know why OP like 619 00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:24,880 Speaker 1: OPI seems, which I guess kind of makes sense. She's 620 00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:28,720 Speaker 1: like slightly grieving the past friendship of like, yeah, the 621 00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:31,240 Speaker 1: good times that they had, you know what I mean. Yeah, 622 00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:34,360 Speaker 1: but it's also now realizing that he's a different person. 623 00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:37,080 Speaker 2: Probably, yes, And I think those situations can go in 624 00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:39,560 Speaker 2: a lot of like different ways. I don't I don't 625 00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:42,280 Speaker 2: think if someone like asks you out it necessarily means 626 00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:45,120 Speaker 2: that your friendship is over, because I feel like I've 627 00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:49,040 Speaker 2: experienced like both sides of like someone at like a 628 00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,600 Speaker 2: friend asking me out and me turning them down and 629 00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:55,280 Speaker 2: then them being awful and that relationship had to end. 630 00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:57,480 Speaker 2: But then I've also had like another instance where a 631 00:30:57,480 --> 00:30:59,720 Speaker 2: friend asked me out and they were really nice about it. 632 00:30:59,880 --> 00:31:03,120 Speaker 2: So it's like you can you confront them or you 633 00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:06,080 Speaker 2: you face the situation head on and then you go 634 00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:06,640 Speaker 2: from there. 635 00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:10,440 Speaker 1: So yeah, you're generally pro like, hey, let's let's trust 636 00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:13,520 Speaker 1: the situation and then if it goes if it goes sour, 637 00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:16,320 Speaker 1: from there, Yeah, you go no contact, but you kind 638 00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:19,480 Speaker 1: of lead with the you know, confronting the quote unquote 639 00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:22,040 Speaker 1: bad friend. Yeah. I think that's probably the best case 640 00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:25,760 Speaker 1: scenario for conflict resolution, for back of a lack of 641 00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:27,840 Speaker 1: a better Like the person you said that took it 642 00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:30,440 Speaker 1: very well. It's like it worked out great because it's 643 00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:32,640 Speaker 1: like you could have lost that friend. Yeah, if you 644 00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:35,400 Speaker 1: went no contact and it's like, hey, maybe I lose 645 00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:38,680 Speaker 1: out on a possible great friendship by not sitting down 646 00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:40,680 Speaker 1: and having the chance to have like a an open 647 00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:45,200 Speaker 1: and maybe awkward and painful, but ultimately honest dialogue. Yeah 648 00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:48,080 Speaker 1: about it. I like that. That's a good take. That's 649 00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:51,000 Speaker 1: a Sophia good take right there. But ladies and gentlemen, 650 00:31:51,120 --> 00:31:53,480 Speaker 1: you think this episode is over, you're freaking fool. It's not. 651 00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:56,440 Speaker 2: I need you to get back to reality because this 652 00:31:56,520 --> 00:32:00,520 Speaker 2: episode ain't over. I can't afford to get sickerte right now. 653 00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:02,680 Speaker 1: We can't do it. We're pushing through. 654 00:32:02,880 --> 00:32:04,960 Speaker 2: I didn't buy anything. I already had it all. I'm 655 00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:07,280 Speaker 2: just using it on this one week. 656 00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:10,640 Speaker 1: Speaking of persevering and pushing through the FI, are you 657 00:32:10,720 --> 00:32:15,760 Speaker 1: ready to close this out stronger than we have ever closed? Yeah? 658 00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:17,680 Speaker 1: That's the spirit, let's do it.