WEBVTT - Money & Wealth : A Master Class w/ Will Packer 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.440 Welcome the Money in Wealth with John O'Bryant, a production 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:15.160 of the Black Effect Podcast Network and iHeartRadio. Hey, Hey, hey, 0:00:15.200 --> 0:00:18.040 this is John Hope Bryant and this is Money and 0:00:18.160 --> 0:00:20.440 Wealth on the Black Effect Network. 0:00:21.280 --> 0:00:24.079 As you know, I normally don't have guests. 0:00:24.880 --> 0:00:30.800 I'm having a conversation directly with you about the things 0:00:30.800 --> 0:00:36.800 that I believe matter most. Every now and then I 0:00:36.880 --> 0:00:39.960 bring in somebody who I believe is not only a 0:00:40.080 --> 0:00:42.400 value add but a game changer. 0:00:44.120 --> 0:00:49.000 That's the case today my brother from another mother. 0:00:50.200 --> 0:00:53.040 A bad boy. He doesn't walk on water, but he 0:00:53.080 --> 0:00:56.880 knows who the stones are. I'm introducing everybody, well, you 0:00:56.920 --> 0:01:01.560 already know who he is. It's Will Packer. Will honored 0:01:01.560 --> 0:01:05.360 to have you with us. But to say having you 0:01:05.440 --> 0:01:12.200 with us is to really talk about your mom and 0:01:12.240 --> 0:01:12.800 your dad. 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:16.200 Mister and missus Packer. 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:26.000 From Saint Petersburg, Florida, who raised you your whole life. 0:01:26.120 --> 0:01:29.679 Is mom and dad, not baby daddy, not baby mama. 0:01:29.920 --> 0:01:34.480 Mom and dad who took no prisoners, who were excellent, 0:01:35.440 --> 0:01:37.880 who don't probably get like most of our mom and 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:41.440 Dad's the credit that they deserve. But I think that 0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:44.959 you would want to underscore as we're talking about where 0:01:45.000 --> 0:01:46.920 you are now and how you're moving forward in this 0:01:47.000 --> 0:01:50.520 great book that you have coming out very soon here 0:01:51.000 --> 0:01:54.320 that I encourage everybody to go pick up the Art 0:01:54.560 --> 0:01:58.000 of Healthy Arrogance and Dreaming Big. And that's a big title. 0:01:58.000 --> 0:02:00.280 And we're going to get into why and the who. 0:02:00.280 --> 0:02:04.400 But my guess is, in many ways you are breathing 0:02:04.560 --> 0:02:08.560 life and everything you do as a direct reflection of 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:12.160 growing up in Saint Petersburg with your mom and your dad. 0:02:13.440 --> 0:02:16.200 So I want to get into that in a second. 0:02:16.440 --> 0:02:24.080 For the audience who loves potentials, I got some. This 0:02:24.160 --> 0:02:26.480 is money and well, so let's talk about the money first. 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:33.680 His combined filmmaking collection that he's produced himself responsible for 0:02:33.760 --> 0:02:39.720 over a billion dollars in receivables worldwide. That's US currency, that's. 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:43.400 Not pay those. Will Packer. 0:02:45.160 --> 0:02:49.400 Is a graduate Magnicum Lottie not thank your Lottie, Magnetic 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:53.440 Cool Lot, Florida A and M University in nineteen ninety six, 0:02:54.240 --> 0:03:00.200 Bachelors of Science degree get this now in electrical engineering. So, 0:03:00.680 --> 0:03:05.079 following his dad's footsteps, which we'll get into in a moment, 0:03:05.680 --> 0:03:09.040 he had a vision that he fulfilled and that vision 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:15.720 you see in films and television shows. You've Got Chocolate 0:03:15.760 --> 0:03:19.000 City in nineteen ninety four that he did through rain 0:03:19.400 --> 0:03:24.880 Forest Films. You've got Will Packard Productions, which did films 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:27.920 that you remember like Think Like a Man, Ride Along, 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:35.600 Girls Trip. You know, these are iconic films that you 0:03:35.640 --> 0:03:40.440 may not have known the guy behind them. He has 0:03:41.120 --> 0:03:45.840 produced the Academy Awards. That was the ninety fourth annual 0:03:45.880 --> 0:03:52.040 in twenty twenty two. He has most recently become one 0:03:52.040 --> 0:03:57.480 of four limited partners in an NFL team, the Atlanta Falcons. 0:03:58.000 --> 0:03:59.720 He's deeply involved in his community. 0:04:00.600 --> 0:04:04.600 He is a philanthropist, let's just call it that way. 0:04:04.800 --> 0:04:09.560 At the HPCUS, most notably his home university where he 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:15.040 graduated from. He's always shown up, showing out and giving back. 0:04:15.320 --> 0:04:20.520 If I recall Will, You've had a tenure run of 0:04:20.560 --> 0:04:22.920 a TV series as well, I'm. 0:04:22.800 --> 0:04:23.440 Ready to Love. 0:04:23.960 --> 0:04:24.600 That's it. 0:04:25.080 --> 0:04:28.799 Yeah, Yeah, the longest running African American dating show on television. 0:04:28.839 --> 0:04:31.560 Ready to Love on own on Oprah's network. That's correct. 0:04:31.760 --> 0:04:35.200 Yeah, right, just the other day, who's an icon in 0:04:35.320 --> 0:04:35.920 our world? 0:04:36.480 --> 0:04:36.720 Yeah? 0:04:36.880 --> 0:04:40.000 And so your credentials are bona fides. And this is 0:04:40.040 --> 0:04:43.839 just a small collection of what you have done. I 0:04:43.920 --> 0:04:47.839 just did the high water mark. But a lot of 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:50.159 this goes back to mom and dad. Is that right, 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:51.720 no question, no question. 0:04:51.960 --> 0:04:53.840 First of all, thank you so much for having me, 0:04:55.320 --> 0:04:57.880 the fact that you allow me to come on. You're 0:04:57.960 --> 0:05:00.479 using your platform, You always use your pla PM for 0:05:00.560 --> 0:05:05.400 good and strengthening our community with knowledge, especially when it 0:05:05.440 --> 0:05:08.680 comes to the financial literacy piece. Part of what you 0:05:08.839 --> 0:05:10.280 always push, John is. 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:16.640 The positive cycle and the positivity of how the cyclical 0:05:16.760 --> 0:05:21.880 effect of knowledge and equity can benefit a community, not 0:05:21.920 --> 0:05:23.520 just an individual, but a community. 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:28.279 You're very big on community. Well, it's important that you 0:05:28.680 --> 0:05:32.440 started where you did because you're absolutely right. It is 0:05:32.480 --> 0:05:35.360 by no mistake that I sit here. I'm very proud 0:05:35.440 --> 0:05:41.680 to you know, be successful by any metric, certainly the 0:05:41.680 --> 0:05:44.680 financial ones. But for me, I measure success, you know, 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:48.160 on health and well being, mental health, and what I 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:50.600 give back to the community. I'm successful in those ways 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:57.240 because I had an incredible foundation. I did have two parents, 0:05:57.440 --> 0:05:59.520 Glad you pointed that out. Not a lot of people do, 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:02.840 but I had a two parent household, right, and a 0:06:02.920 --> 0:06:05.359 dad and a mom loved each other work together. I 0:06:05.400 --> 0:06:08.120 was born into a world where I knew I had 0:06:08.160 --> 0:06:13.840 a dual foundation of support from Mom from Dad, balancing 0:06:13.880 --> 0:06:17.080 each other out and telling me. I always like to say, 0:06:17.120 --> 0:06:19.960 when I came into the world, my parents lifted me 0:06:20.000 --> 0:06:23.680 into the air like Simba and the lion king, and 0:06:23.720 --> 0:06:26.720 they said, you see that, they took me to the 0:06:26.800 --> 0:06:29.520 highest point they can find. Say, everything the sun touches 0:06:29.640 --> 0:06:33.120 is yours. We have to start doing that to our children. 0:06:33.440 --> 0:06:35.640 We have to start doing that to that next generation. 0:06:35.880 --> 0:06:40.520 Everything that you see is possible. And I had the 0:06:40.560 --> 0:06:44.680 audacity to believe my parents when they told me that, 0:06:44.720 --> 0:06:46.720 when they told me you can go out and you 0:06:46.720 --> 0:06:49.880 can do anything. That's the only way A little black 0:06:50.000 --> 0:06:53.320 kid from Saint Pete, Florida, about as far as you 0:06:53.320 --> 0:06:56.840 can get from Hollywood on a map. Yep. I didn't 0:06:56.839 --> 0:06:59.839 know where Hollywood was. I didn't know anything about the entertainment. 0:06:59.839 --> 0:07:03.760 But that little kid was told you can do and 0:07:03.839 --> 0:07:06.279 be anything you want if you set your mind to 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:08.200 it and you're willing to work. And I believe that. 0:07:08.920 --> 0:07:09.560 I believe it. 0:07:10.480 --> 0:07:14.280 When I think about you, I actually find the title 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:17.280 of your book interesting because I think people in our 0:07:17.280 --> 0:07:22.280 community confuse arrogance with confidence. We're so used to not 0:07:22.440 --> 0:07:27.880 seeing real confidence that we can confuse it with arrogance, 0:07:28.400 --> 0:07:30.920 and so I want you to unpack the title because 0:07:30.920 --> 0:07:33.000 I know you did it intentionally and you did it provocatively. 0:07:33.600 --> 0:07:35.480 But one thing I like about you, one of the 0:07:35.480 --> 0:07:39.920 many things, is and we never talked about this, but 0:07:40.000 --> 0:07:43.560 I absolutely believe that it's our shared philosophy. 0:07:43.720 --> 0:07:44.960 There's a lot of love in the word. 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:49.680 No. You rather respect. 0:07:49.400 --> 0:07:51.080 People respect you or learning to like you than like 0:07:51.120 --> 0:07:54.640 you never respect you. An entrepreneur works eighteen hours day 0:07:54.640 --> 0:07:56.560 of keeping getting a job, so you're committed to the 0:07:56.600 --> 0:07:59.680 work and so no one's going to deny you on excellence. 0:08:01.960 --> 0:08:05.160 Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. 0:08:05.480 --> 0:08:08.680 You've doubled down, you've tripled down, You've you've achieved it, 0:08:08.720 --> 0:08:13.720 so there's no reason to not believe it. That is 0:08:13.760 --> 0:08:16.520 not one answer your self esteem, to quote Quincy Jones, 0:08:16.760 --> 0:08:18.760 that depends on someone else's acceptance of you. 0:08:19.520 --> 0:08:21.560 So you're reasonably comfortable in your own. 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:26.480 Skin, which is to me, it goes back to your 0:08:26.520 --> 0:08:29.320 parents saying you are somebody, you can do anything you 0:08:29.360 --> 0:08:31.680 want to do, and again lifting you up. 0:08:31.680 --> 0:08:33.600 So again, we all start from someplace. 0:08:33.840 --> 0:08:36.120 And I want to really underscore for this audience and 0:08:36.320 --> 0:08:40.640 part of wealth is culture and perspective, and we model 0:08:40.679 --> 0:08:41.240 what we see. 0:08:41.600 --> 0:08:43.400 And and your kids, and when. 0:08:43.200 --> 0:08:45.840 You have bring a childness in this world, you want 0:08:45.880 --> 0:08:49.360 to be more than a sperm donor, right. You want 0:08:49.400 --> 0:08:52.640 to be a positive influence in their life. And when 0:08:52.679 --> 0:08:55.520 you succeed, you need to understand whether you succeeding or 0:08:55.559 --> 0:08:58.560 you're failing. Is an old Southern quote. No matter how 0:08:58.600 --> 0:09:00.560 much I love you, my son and my I don't 0:09:00.559 --> 0:09:03.080 have wisdom, I can give you is my own ignorance. 0:09:03.520 --> 0:09:06.680 And that watch how you live your life. And maybe 0:09:06.760 --> 0:09:09.880 only Bible anybody else reads. So all of those quotes 0:09:09.920 --> 0:09:14.760 that I just used to me embody your spirit. So 0:09:15.000 --> 0:09:18.000 when you write a book call the Art of Healthy 0:09:18.120 --> 0:09:21.800 Arrogance and Dreaming Big, I know every word was intentional. 0:09:22.559 --> 0:09:25.040 Some of them had to trigger a little bit. So 0:09:25.200 --> 0:09:27.400 the book comes out by the way, February eighteen. I 0:09:27.440 --> 0:09:29.720 want everybody to go buy it. I want you to 0:09:29.760 --> 0:09:32.720 send Will a note on social media saying that you 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:35.360 purchased it. I want you to leave a review once 0:09:35.400 --> 0:09:38.480 you read it, or listen to it online where you 0:09:38.559 --> 0:09:41.679 bought it. We've got to as people a color. I 0:09:41.720 --> 0:09:43.480 want everybody to buy the book, but I certainly people 0:09:43.520 --> 0:09:44.000 are color. 0:09:44.320 --> 0:09:44.800 We've got to. 0:09:44.760 --> 0:09:50.320 Make smart sexy again. I'm way too long. We've done that, 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:53.760 celebrated it. It's time to make smart sexy again. The 0:09:53.840 --> 0:09:56.880 biggest group of buyers of books in this country are 0:09:56.920 --> 0:09:59.719 black women. I want to buy this book. I want 0:09:59.720 --> 0:10:04.080 you to leave or review, don't boycott somebody. I want 0:10:04.120 --> 0:10:06.280 you to clear the shelves. I don't want you to 0:10:06.360 --> 0:10:09.439 buy everything that they got this from a black man 0:10:09.520 --> 0:10:11.720 or a black woman to show that we have power. 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:15.720 Yes, well, it's interesting you talk about that power the 0:10:16.760 --> 0:10:19.120 working in Hollywood, right, And one of the reasons I 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:21.720 even wrote the book is because I've had a three 0:10:21.800 --> 0:10:25.720 decade career in Hollywood, and over. 0:10:25.559 --> 0:10:27.080 Those thirty years, I've been able to work with some 0:10:27.120 --> 0:10:31.280 of the most famous people, some of the most well known, powerful, 0:10:31.600 --> 0:10:34.240 some of the richest folks, also some of the most 0:10:34.240 --> 0:10:37.000 topsic people, some of the people that are the most insecure, 0:10:37.440 --> 0:10:39.640 some of the people that have got a lot of 0:10:39.720 --> 0:10:43.800 negativity that swirls around them all the time. Having to 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:45.880 deal with the people in that environment, I learned a 0:10:45.920 --> 0:10:49.480 set of skills that I believe is transferable to any industry. 0:10:50.440 --> 0:10:52.920 The other thing I learned is that what you just 0:10:52.920 --> 0:10:59.360 said about the power belonging to the consumer. Hollywood, like 0:10:59.520 --> 0:11:04.800 any consumer facing industry, operates under an economic comparative. People 0:11:05.559 --> 0:11:09.319 get it confused. Sometimes they think, oh, well, Hollywood is 0:11:09.360 --> 0:11:11.679 trying to promote a particular agenda. They only want to 0:11:11.760 --> 0:11:13.920 see this type of person win or that type of person. 0:11:14.840 --> 0:11:21.160 Hollywood is a business. Hollywood is driven by its consumers, 0:11:21.240 --> 0:11:25.520 not the other way around. Hollywood is reactive, not proactive, 0:11:26.200 --> 0:11:31.480 and so the power always is in the consumer. And 0:11:31.520 --> 0:11:34.880 I tell people all the time, there's content out there 0:11:34.679 --> 0:11:37.400 that's being made, and you don't like it, or you 0:11:37.400 --> 0:11:38.960 want to see more of a different type of content, 0:11:39.160 --> 0:11:42.840 Go find that content and spread the work problytized like 0:11:42.880 --> 0:11:46.840 you would something that is very important to you in 0:11:46.880 --> 0:11:50.400 another area. Let people know. Because when you do that, 0:11:51.559 --> 0:11:54.880 folks like myself and also the people that are financing 0:11:54.880 --> 0:11:57.560 projects in Hollywood, they have to pay attention. They have to. 0:11:58.080 --> 0:12:01.120 So you're absolutely right about that. I title the book 0:12:01.200 --> 0:12:03.240 so the title of the book is who Better Than You? 0:12:03.800 --> 0:12:06.000 And then the subtitle is the Art of healthy arrogance 0:12:06.000 --> 0:12:08.959 and Dreaming Big? And the title who Better than You 0:12:09.679 --> 0:12:14.600 clearly states, clearly states the question that each of us 0:12:14.679 --> 0:12:17.880 need to ask ourselves, not once a year, not once 0:12:17.920 --> 0:12:21.360 a month, not once a week, every day, every day, 0:12:22.000 --> 0:12:25.280 ask yourself, look yourself right in the mirror, and affirm 0:12:25.760 --> 0:12:29.800 that there is no one better than you to achieve. 0:12:29.960 --> 0:12:35.040 And I don't mean achieve like mediocre dreams, right, I 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:37.400 don't mean achieve things that are kind of good. I 0:12:37.480 --> 0:12:43.760 mean great, I mean huge, outsized John. At the end 0:12:43.800 --> 0:12:46.760 of the day, the folks in this world that you 0:12:46.840 --> 0:12:50.720 and I know that have been extremely successful are people 0:12:50.760 --> 0:12:53.520 that believe not only that they could do it, but 0:12:53.520 --> 0:12:55.679 that they were going to do it and that they 0:12:55.720 --> 0:12:58.240 were meant to do And when you walk into a 0:12:58.320 --> 0:12:59.679 room and I've been right there with you, you and 0:12:59.720 --> 0:13:05.120 I've been in some powerful rooms, brother, in those rooms, yeah, 0:13:05.200 --> 0:13:08.840 don't believe that. In those rooms sometimes I'm like, what 0:13:08.880 --> 0:13:10.520 am I doing here? And then I see you. I said, well, 0:13:10.600 --> 0:13:12.760 let me go talk to my friend John, because he's 0:13:12.800 --> 0:13:17.280 the only what I know here and everybody else knows him. 0:13:17.360 --> 0:13:19.920 You know what I mean? What I will say is 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:22.959 that you walk into those rooms and we've all been 0:13:22.960 --> 0:13:26.280 in those positions, and you're around people, and you know, 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:29.160 you may have a little bit of trepidation. What am 0:13:29.200 --> 0:13:33.840 I doing? Here do I belong? Once you have that confidence, 0:13:35.720 --> 0:13:39.400 you walk into the room, and that confidence manifests itself 0:13:39.400 --> 0:13:41.400 in ways that you don't even realize. You don't walk 0:13:41.440 --> 0:13:45.280 in and say what am I doing here? You walk 0:13:45.320 --> 0:13:47.240 in and say what can I add to this room? 0:13:47.480 --> 0:13:48.040 That's right? 0:13:48.240 --> 0:13:51.200 This room is better because I'm in it and I'm 0:13:51.240 --> 0:13:54.600 out to show people. See when I say healthy arrogance, 0:13:54.679 --> 0:13:59.720 make no mistake, that is very important, very important, because 0:13:59.840 --> 0:14:04.600 we associate arrogance and most times it is toxic arrogance. 0:14:04.920 --> 0:14:07.880 Arrogance and toxic arrogance is about tearing people down. It 0:14:07.960 --> 0:14:10.720 is about I'm better than you. Right, I'm going to 0:14:10.840 --> 0:14:14.760 beat you. Look at me, everybody look at me, and 0:14:14.840 --> 0:14:18.040 don't look at them. Right. That is what typical arrogance is. 0:14:18.080 --> 0:14:20.960 And I know I work in Hollywood. I'm I'm tired 0:14:21.000 --> 0:14:25.880 talking about me. Now you talk about me exactly exactly right, Nutherboue, 0:14:25.880 --> 0:14:30.680 you were about me. I work in an industry that 0:14:30.800 --> 0:14:37.520 created unsubstantiated humors, right, I'm not talking about that. Healthy 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:41.160 arrogance is that supreme confidence in yourself that helps you 0:14:41.240 --> 0:14:45.400 to understand what true leaders understand, which is that I'm 0:14:45.440 --> 0:14:49.560 successful when I can get you and the other persons 0:14:49.760 --> 0:14:53.800 around us to realize that our success is tied together. Right, 0:14:54.160 --> 0:14:57.400 So it's not about tearing anybody else down. It is 0:14:57.440 --> 0:15:00.920 about lifting yourself and everybody else around you up. True 0:15:01.040 --> 0:15:03.520 leaders are able to get people to row in the 0:15:03.560 --> 0:15:06.920 same direction. It is not until you get the folks 0:15:06.960 --> 0:15:08.960 that are either on your team and your network and 0:15:08.960 --> 0:15:13.160 your family and your relationships to understand that your success 0:15:13.200 --> 0:15:18.120 benefits them and vice versa. That's what true leaders do, 0:15:18.400 --> 0:15:21.240 and that's when you get people saying, oh, you know what, 0:15:21.600 --> 0:15:23.560 I need John Hope Framing to win because I don't 0:15:23.600 --> 0:15:26.560 rind the win because I'm working with him, because his 0:15:26.680 --> 0:15:30.600 success is my success right because he is the person 0:15:31.000 --> 0:15:34.560 that is helping to unlock success for all of us. 0:15:34.960 --> 0:15:38.320 And so too many times we get in these silos 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:42.480 and that's where that arrogance comes in, tearing everybody else down. 0:15:42.840 --> 0:15:46.120 If you win it, I'm losing. No, you can't think 0:15:46.240 --> 0:15:50.000 like that. It's about first that internal self confidence, and 0:15:50.040 --> 0:15:52.680 that self confidence is a muscle that you can build 0:15:52.800 --> 0:15:55.760 over time, you can build up right. I know there 0:15:55.760 --> 0:15:58.320 are people that may be watching that aren't you know, 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:01.920 work born with the outside as confidence that that maybe 0:16:01.960 --> 0:16:05.120 John and myself have That's that's okay. You can build 0:16:05.120 --> 0:16:07.560 it up, and you do it by doing small things 0:16:07.600 --> 0:16:10.800 and by succeeding at small things, and by looking yourself 0:16:10.840 --> 0:16:13.320 in that mirror every day and giving yourself the credit 0:16:13.360 --> 0:16:15.800 for it. And you go on to something bigger, and 0:16:15.840 --> 0:16:17.680 then something bigger, and before you know what, you got 0:16:17.680 --> 0:16:22.360 some momentum. So that's that's where my concept of healthy 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:23.000 arrogance came. 0:16:33.320 --> 0:16:37.560 I want people to slow down and and rewind this 0:16:38.240 --> 0:16:41.600 and listen slowly to what he said. Take it to 0:16:41.640 --> 0:16:44.160 half speed, and listen to what he said. How he 0:16:44.200 --> 0:16:48.760 impact that is very important, his differentiation. How do I 0:16:48.800 --> 0:16:52.760 describe him? I said, he's reasonably comfortable in his own skin. 0:16:53.200 --> 0:16:55.880 No one's comfortable in their own skin. That's a lie, 0:16:56.440 --> 0:16:58.800 he acknowledged when he wants when he comes into the room. 0:16:58.840 --> 0:17:02.320 When I go into a room, I'm acknowledging sometimes it's 0:17:02.320 --> 0:17:06.159 a little bit of a of a wondering whether you're 0:17:06.680 --> 0:17:11.000 worthy of being in that room, a little bit of insecurity. 0:17:11.080 --> 0:17:14.880 That's that's okay. It goes away as natural. It keeps 0:17:14.880 --> 0:17:19.959 you from being obnoxious, right, It is a humility. But 0:17:20.000 --> 0:17:22.439 then you with rainbow's after storms, then you buck up 0:17:22.480 --> 0:17:24.679 and you say, yeah, I really, I'm God's child, I 0:17:24.720 --> 0:17:27.400 am somebody. I'm different from everybody here, and I add 0:17:27.480 --> 0:17:30.280 value and all of a sudden, that warmth, that authenticity 0:17:31.000 --> 0:17:33.719 attracts people to you. And you look up and Will's 0:17:33.760 --> 0:17:36.640 got ten people around him, pulling seats around him, as 0:17:36.640 --> 0:17:39.200 we were at the last I saw of the Magic 0:17:39.280 --> 0:17:42.800 Johnson reception in Atlanta. You look up and there's a 0:17:42.840 --> 0:17:46.000 half dozen people centering around him, trying to pull off 0:17:46.000 --> 0:17:50.640 of his energy because he's the strongest energy in that room. 0:17:50.800 --> 0:17:53.920 That healthy, I'm gonna call it at the moment, confidence 0:17:54.119 --> 0:17:55.439 that comes from self esteem. 0:17:55.680 --> 0:17:57.359 If I don't like me, I'm not gonna like you. 0:17:58.040 --> 0:17:59.640 If I don't feel good about me, I'm not gonna 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:02.520 feel good about you, That is right me. Don't expect 0:18:02.520 --> 0:18:03.840 me to respect you if I don't love me, I 0:18:03.880 --> 0:18:06.200 don't have a clue how to love you. Don't have 0:18:06.280 --> 0:18:08.120 a clue because in my life, will make your life 0:18:08.160 --> 0:18:08.960 a living hell. 0:18:08.960 --> 0:18:11.120 And hurt people, hurt people here. 0:18:11.680 --> 0:18:15.520 So he is trying to get you to adopt yourself. 0:18:16.760 --> 0:18:21.040 Huh, how about that? How about that? And and and 0:18:21.240 --> 0:18:26.800 just to go a little bit further with that, when 0:18:26.880 --> 0:18:34.560 you realize that the most important voice that you're going 0:18:34.600 --> 0:18:38.640 to hear all day is yours, and you start off 0:18:38.680 --> 0:18:44.840 with that voice telling you you're qualified, you're prepared, you 0:18:44.960 --> 0:18:49.520 have the skills, you are ready for whatever may come today. 0:18:49.600 --> 0:18:53.360 That's the most important voice. You probably aren't gonna hear 0:18:53.359 --> 0:18:55.840 it any more the rest of that day. But when 0:18:55.880 --> 0:19:01.119 you hear it from the most important voice first, you 0:19:01.160 --> 0:19:05.359 are better prepared. You are undergirded to go out and 0:19:05.400 --> 0:19:07.880 face the challenges of the day. Too often we give 0:19:07.920 --> 0:19:11.520 our power away to people because they may have a 0:19:11.560 --> 0:19:16.639 fancy title, they may have access to resources. Nothing wrong 0:19:16.800 --> 0:19:21.080 with interfacing with folks that are in positions of power 0:19:21.160 --> 0:19:25.240 at all, Nothing wrong with taking in what they said, 0:19:25.480 --> 0:19:29.399 what they say in their perspectives. You said is a 0:19:29.440 --> 0:19:34.000 little love in every note. Right. What I see people doing, 0:19:34.440 --> 0:19:37.919 especially in my industry, John, is they're giving their power 0:19:38.080 --> 0:19:42.960 to people who aren't them. I sent my script to 0:19:43.040 --> 0:19:45.840 Will Packer and Will Packer said no, he said he's 0:19:45.840 --> 0:19:47.439 not going to produce it. I said it to Sony 0:19:47.480 --> 0:19:49.520 and they said no. I said Paramount and they said no. 0:19:50.200 --> 0:19:52.760 All right. Audition for a Will Packer movie and I 0:19:52.760 --> 0:19:59.720 didn't get the role. That's just that person's perspective opinion 0:19:59.760 --> 0:20:02.160 in this decision being made based on their unique set 0:20:02.160 --> 0:20:02.720 of experience. 0:20:02.920 --> 0:20:05.240 It's that a value on you. 0:20:05.240 --> 0:20:09.399 You gotta remember that even though this person is all 0:20:09.440 --> 0:20:11.359 those fancy things that John said about me at the 0:20:11.400 --> 0:20:14.960 beginning of this all that's true, that still doesn't mean 0:20:15.320 --> 0:20:17.680 that I have the right to assign value to you 0:20:17.680 --> 0:20:20.840 your life or your dream. I may say, you know, 0:20:20.920 --> 0:20:22.879 I'm not going to hire you as an actress. Or 0:20:22.920 --> 0:20:24.800 you may have somebody saying they're not going to invest 0:20:24.800 --> 0:20:27.240 in your new business. Min you may have a new 0:20:27.280 --> 0:20:28.879 boss that you apply for a job, I'm not going 0:20:28.960 --> 0:20:32.520 to hire you. That's okay, that's that person's opinion. But 0:20:32.720 --> 0:20:37.119 don't give your power to say that your dream is 0:20:37.160 --> 0:20:39.399 not over until you say it's over. Don't get that 0:20:39.480 --> 0:20:42.000 to anybody. I don't care what their timele is. I 0:20:42.000 --> 0:20:44.040 don't care what access to resource they have a rich 0:20:44.080 --> 0:20:47.560 day are, I don't care. That is your power. That's 0:20:47.600 --> 0:20:51.640 why you're the most important person. You gotta affirm that daily, 0:20:51.760 --> 0:20:54.639 you really really do, because that's the thing that gets 0:20:54.920 --> 0:20:57.840 you get used to hearing, and then you start to 0:20:57.880 --> 0:21:00.920 expect yourself to perform that way, just like it works 0:21:00.920 --> 0:21:03.160 in the opposite direction. If you have that drum beat 0:21:03.200 --> 0:21:06.320 and negativity always tell you I'm not ready, I'm not worthy, 0:21:06.560 --> 0:21:09.120 I don't have it, I'm not prepared. If you're constantly 0:21:09.119 --> 0:21:12.240 telling yourself that, that drum beat gets louder and louder, 0:21:12.359 --> 0:21:14.600 it works the other way. It's the positive cycle, just 0:21:14.600 --> 0:21:16.320 like we talked about before, Just like John you talk 0:21:16.320 --> 0:21:19.960 about all the time. That's that positive cycle, that cycle 0:21:20.000 --> 0:21:23.080 of positivity that you can create within yourself. We're talking 0:21:23.080 --> 0:21:25.440 about you having an internal conversation. You don't need anybody 0:21:25.440 --> 0:21:27.399 else to help you with this. You don't need any money, 0:21:27.480 --> 0:21:29.439 you don't need any mentor. This is something that you 0:21:29.480 --> 0:21:32.360 can do. Start with yourself. Don just said adopt yourself. 0:21:32.560 --> 0:21:35.439 I love that mantra. I love that right because it 0:21:35.520 --> 0:21:38.480 requires you to love yourself. It requires you to nurture yourself. 0:21:38.520 --> 0:21:40.440 It requires you to take care of yourself and give 0:21:40.480 --> 0:21:43.720 yourself what you need. That's where you gotta start, and 0:21:43.760 --> 0:21:45.920 not enough of us do that. That's where that question 0:21:45.960 --> 0:21:47.720 who better than you? Come from. 0:21:49.760 --> 0:21:52.119 I don't think this applies to you now, but twenty 0:21:52.200 --> 0:21:54.760 years ago I would say one of your greatest assets 0:21:54.920 --> 0:21:58.000 was there's a lot of I mean, you take no 0:21:58.080 --> 0:22:00.480 for vitamins. I mean, I know that was also one 0:22:00.520 --> 0:22:03.000 of my greatest answers. You didn't you ignore the noise 0:22:03.520 --> 0:22:06.320 and you didn't let a know define you take no 0:22:06.400 --> 0:22:07.840 for vitamins. And it's a little bit of what you're 0:22:07.840 --> 0:22:11.120 telling people coming at you now and others who are 0:22:11.160 --> 0:22:12.800 getting rejected, not rejecting you. 0:22:13.440 --> 0:22:14.240 We're just saying this is. 0:22:14.280 --> 0:22:16.480 Not that, this doesn't work for what I'm doing right 0:22:16.520 --> 0:22:19.280 now has no identity. I'm not identifying you at all. 0:22:19.320 --> 0:22:21.360 I'm not even thinking about you think about my project. 0:22:21.640 --> 0:22:25.000 So you early on have to as you're building this up, 0:22:25.000 --> 0:22:27.360 you have to take no for vitamins and believe in 0:22:27.400 --> 0:22:30.480 yourself and say, focus on the rare yes you got, 0:22:30.600 --> 0:22:33.000 not the nose you didn't get. The glass was half 0:22:33.040 --> 0:22:35.719 flip full, not half empty. The way I see you 0:22:35.840 --> 0:22:39.480 now is and we share this trait and never said 0:22:39.480 --> 0:22:42.400 this to you publicly, but we're both ruthless about our time. 0:22:43.119 --> 0:22:48.200 MM we'll give away the money. I don't be don't. 0:22:48.040 --> 0:22:51.400 Mess with our time. I say no to things. 0:22:51.680 --> 0:22:54.600 Hey will no, No, No, I'm sorry, brother, I can't do that. Hey, 0:22:54.600 --> 0:22:56.919 well I got to be in Central Pei. 0:22:57.080 --> 0:22:57.520 Can't do that. 0:22:58.240 --> 0:23:00.919 No, that doesn't work right now, good luck with that. 0:23:01.600 --> 0:23:07.600 You're focused, You're absolutely laser focused on the thing you 0:23:07.640 --> 0:23:11.600 want to achieve. No shade to anybody else, but you 0:23:11.640 --> 0:23:13.919 can't be successful in life unless you're focused on what 0:23:14.000 --> 0:23:17.160