WEBVTT - Can You Pay My Bills? 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.120 Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:16.759 and the Black Effect. Then as the ask back there, 0:00:17.960 --> 0:00:20.520 Oh ship, we back on the air. Welcome to the 0:00:20.600 --> 0:00:23.120 eighth episode of Carefully Reckless. To y'all, it's your girl. 0:00:23.200 --> 0:00:26.079 Just hilarious, y'all. This feels good. I've been doing this 0:00:26.320 --> 0:00:29.160 for only eight weeks and I'm killing that thanks to 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:32.520 y'all listeners out there. Grab your tea because we're about 0:00:32.520 --> 0:00:34.159 to get into the storytime. I got some real good 0:00:34.159 --> 0:00:38.680 ship for you, all right. So for those who don't know, 0:00:38.800 --> 0:00:41.599 my dad is a karaoke host slash DJ, and he 0:00:41.720 --> 0:00:44.720 just karaoke at this restaurant every Tuesday in Maryland. Right, 0:00:45.040 --> 0:00:46.919 I go when I can, and every time I go, 0:00:46.960 --> 0:00:50.040 I see this particular girl with a different dude. Now 0:00:50.120 --> 0:00:52.600 I've gone like eight times, so that's like eight niggas. 0:00:52.600 --> 0:00:54.560 I'll sing all way. Right, let me find out. Eight 0:00:54.640 --> 0:00:57.040 is the lucky number. We're on the eighth episode. Okay, 0:00:57.200 --> 0:00:59.320 let me go play that number. So I'm sitting at 0:00:59.360 --> 0:01:01.760 the bar right now. She sees me and she never 0:01:01.760 --> 0:01:04.559 says anything, but this particular night last week, she wanted 0:01:04.600 --> 0:01:06.920 to take a picture. She got kids and they would 0:01:06.920 --> 0:01:10.000 love if she brought home a picture with Jess hilarious. 0:01:10.319 --> 0:01:12.040 So I took a picture and she was there with 0:01:12.080 --> 0:01:14.959 a different dude again last week. The week before that 0:01:15.000 --> 0:01:17.320 she was there with another dude, and the six times 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:20.280 before that she was with different niggas. So in exchange 0:01:20.319 --> 0:01:22.440 for the picture, I wanted to get in her business. 0:01:22.480 --> 0:01:24.760 You know, I think that was fair. So after the picture, 0:01:24.920 --> 0:01:26.680 we got the chopping it up, and I said, Yo, 0:01:26.800 --> 0:01:29.800 let me ask you something. Every time I'm in here 0:01:30.040 --> 0:01:32.280 I see you with a different guy, teach me the 0:01:32.319 --> 0:01:35.039 game goes, How the fund do you do that? Now? Listen. 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:37.000 I didn't actually want her to teach me the game. 0:01:37.040 --> 0:01:38.920 I just wanted her to let her guard down a 0:01:38.959 --> 0:01:40.920 little bit, to let me know how the funk she 0:01:41.040 --> 0:01:43.240 is doing this and why the funk she's doing this, 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:46.919 because it ain't cute to me. So she said, well, Jos, 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:49.840 I got a nigga for every bill that I have. 0:01:50.560 --> 0:01:52.559 I said, what, Let me let me get this straight. 0:01:52.960 --> 0:01:55.960 So you got a nigga for the rent? She said, oh, no, baby, 0:01:56.120 --> 0:01:59.520 the mortgage. I said, okay, okay, Chocho, black woman owning 0:01:59.600 --> 0:02:02.440 some ship like that? Still a hole? So I said, okay, 0:02:02.560 --> 0:02:04.720 you gotta nigga for the mortgage. You gotta nigga for 0:02:04.760 --> 0:02:06.200 the car payment. You gotta nigga for the B G 0:02:06.320 --> 0:02:09.200 and E, which is electric here in Baltimore. You gotta 0:02:09.240 --> 0:02:11.680 nigga for the water bill. You gotta nigga for the 0:02:11.720 --> 0:02:14.639 car insurance. She gotta nigga for And she's not in 0:02:14.680 --> 0:02:16.920 her head as I'm naming the bills, and so I 0:02:16.960 --> 0:02:19.720 stopped at six. So I'm like, so you got six niggas. 0:02:20.320 --> 0:02:22.760 She said, no, no, six men. I said, okay, okay, 0:02:22.919 --> 0:02:26.680 six niggers for each bill. You know that you have 0:02:27.440 --> 0:02:30.000 to to pay the bill. She said, yeah, because the 0:02:30.080 --> 0:02:32.119 nigga came funk with me unless he paying a bill. 0:02:32.400 --> 0:02:35.080 And I said, okay, so you're not in a relationship 0:02:35.080 --> 0:02:36.519 with any of them. She said, oh no, I'm saying 0:02:36.639 --> 0:02:39.040 I do what I want. I said, obviously, but they 0:02:39.120 --> 0:02:42.720 have to pay a bill to funk with you. She said, yes, man, 0:02:42.760 --> 0:02:45.600 I got kids to feed. I said, okay, where are 0:02:45.639 --> 0:02:48.760 their fathers? She said, bits not no intervention. I said, no, 0:02:48.840 --> 0:02:50.919 hopefully it can be by the end of this conversation. 0:02:51.360 --> 0:02:54.560 Where are their fathers? And she she said, I don't know, 0:02:54.639 --> 0:02:56.240 and I don't give a funk I said, got many 0:02:56.320 --> 0:02:58.880 kids you got? She said, I got two girls. I said, okay, okay, cool, 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:01.919 two girls. So you only got two baby fathers. Okay. 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:04.440 In the world today, it's usually around five or six 0:03:04.840 --> 0:03:07.600 for your age. She's thirty five. I said, so you 0:03:07.639 --> 0:03:12.440 don't get emotionally attached to any of these guys. She's like, nah, 0:03:12.720 --> 0:03:15.120 half of them are in relationships and that's how I 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:17.880 like to keep it, so there is no emotional attachment. 0:03:18.440 --> 0:03:22.360 I said, okay, you do realize this is prostitution and 0:03:22.480 --> 0:03:27.120 somewhat extortion. She laughed, and then she ordered around the shots. 0:03:27.400 --> 0:03:29.840 The nigga she was with came over and I was like, 0:03:29.840 --> 0:03:31.600 you ready to sing? They were about to go up 0:03:31.600 --> 0:03:33.799 and sing a song, so she was like, yeah, but 0:03:33.840 --> 0:03:35.720 when I finished talking to Jazz. When I finished talking 0:03:35.720 --> 0:03:37.920 to Jazz, so he kissed the on our neck. She 0:03:38.040 --> 0:03:40.040 was already drunk and ship right. So when he walked 0:03:40.080 --> 0:03:42.480 off to go back to the table, I leaned over. 0:03:42.520 --> 0:03:45.360 I said, so, which bill is that? And she laughed 0:03:45.360 --> 0:03:47.640 and she was like car payment. I said, yeah, he 0:03:47.680 --> 0:03:50.040 looked like a car payment type nigga. He was lazed. 0:03:50.080 --> 0:03:52.040 He was good, you know what I'm saying. He looked 0:03:52.120 --> 0:03:54.520 much younger than her. He looked like he's so drugs. 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:57.360 What I'm saying, I'm not stereotype the niggas, but in 0:03:57.400 --> 0:03:59.800 my city, I know each and every type of nigga 0:03:59.840 --> 0:04:02.000 you've on me, And this nigga looked like he sold 0:04:02.080 --> 0:04:05.280 some some some mean ass coke, you know. So I'm like, okay. 0:04:05.440 --> 0:04:07.520 He looked like he he paid and she has she 0:04:07.560 --> 0:04:09.920 got a nice bends, and he pays the car payment. 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:11.800 I said, okay, you look like the car payment type. 0:04:12.240 --> 0:04:13.720 The only thing that threw me off was that he 0:04:13.760 --> 0:04:17.120 had braids, And I was like, damn it, I don't 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:19.240 given how old you are, why do you have braids? 0:04:19.360 --> 0:04:22.479 It's okay, right, that's neither here there. So she was like, 0:04:22.560 --> 0:04:24.479 I can't teach you the game if you want. I 0:04:24.480 --> 0:04:26.760 said no, I was just bullshit. I don't want to 0:04:26.800 --> 0:04:28.520 be you. I don't want to be like you. In fact, 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:31.680 I want you to be more like me, be independent. 0:04:32.040 --> 0:04:33.960 She walked away. She wasn't trying to hear that ship 0:04:34.040 --> 0:04:36.480 and it's cool, and it's cool, but that brings me 0:04:36.520 --> 0:04:40.719 to the carefully reckless discussion. Ladies and these days and times, 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:44.800 why the funk do you feel now listen, it's not 0:04:44.880 --> 0:04:47.640 all of y'all, but it's a lot of women out 0:04:47.680 --> 0:04:50.360 here these days that feel like a nigga can't funk 0:04:50.400 --> 0:04:53.839 with me unless he paying for a bill or paying something. 0:04:54.640 --> 0:04:58.120 That's not how you go into it, unless that's your profession, 0:04:58.240 --> 0:05:01.920 unless you are a proster to unless you do just 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:04.279 want to use this nigga, unless you don't want nothing 0:05:04.320 --> 0:05:06.920 more than just the coin from the nigga. But if 0:05:07.000 --> 0:05:09.960 this is the way you're operating in your everyday love life, 0:05:10.600 --> 0:05:12.880 it's not okay. This is just how I feel, and 0:05:12.920 --> 0:05:16.839 this is my opinion, and opinions are like assholes. Everybody 0:05:16.839 --> 0:05:19.000 got one. I got a strong one about this topic. 0:05:19.279 --> 0:05:23.240 I don't feel that a woman should base her liking 0:05:23.360 --> 0:05:25.960 of a guy on what he can pay for her, 0:05:26.400 --> 0:05:29.400 you know what I mean. I feel like self stability, 0:05:29.560 --> 0:05:35.520 being independent, all of those things are what women must embody, 0:05:35.720 --> 0:05:38.279 you know what I mean. I've never fucked with a 0:05:38.360 --> 0:05:40.640 dude based off of what the funk he could do 0:05:40.720 --> 0:05:43.520 for me. I've never done that. In fact, I've done 0:05:43.520 --> 0:05:45.839 the total opposite. Now, I've been dumb and shipped for 0:05:45.880 --> 0:05:48.240 a nigga, Like I didn't took care of a guy 0:05:48.440 --> 0:05:50.520 two years in a row. Learned to never do that 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:53.440 ship again. So I kicked myself for my own ass 0:05:53.440 --> 0:05:56.640 for doing that ship. Even with doing that and never 0:05:56.720 --> 0:05:58.440 doing it again, I only did it one time. Never, 0:05:58.560 --> 0:06:00.240 never in my life will I ever do it again. 0:06:00.279 --> 0:06:02.240 And y'all know who I'm talking about. Took care of 0:06:02.240 --> 0:06:04.120 the nigga for two years, was with the nigga for three. 0:06:04.520 --> 0:06:06.640 For the first everything was good. Then he got comfortable 0:06:06.839 --> 0:06:08.400 and I started taking care of him. And it was 0:06:08.440 --> 0:06:10.479 convenient for me because in those times I didn't like 0:06:10.520 --> 0:06:12.360 to be alone. So I just stayed with this nigga 0:06:12.440 --> 0:06:14.480 because I didn't like being alone, you know, the nigga 0:06:14.480 --> 0:06:18.360 with the braids. Now, when I woke the funk up right, 0:06:18.360 --> 0:06:20.120 because I was in denial for a long time, my 0:06:20.160 --> 0:06:22.200 friends were around me. They were saying, this ship going on. 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:25.680 They were like, Yo, this nigger having paid Like my 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:29.440 mom even stepped in because my mom is my financial advisor. 0:06:29.520 --> 0:06:31.560 She pays my bills for me, you know, just to 0:06:31.600 --> 0:06:34.240 keep my ship all together and organizing ship. She said. 0:06:34.400 --> 0:06:37.080 I noticed that he hasn't turned in his half for 0:06:37.120 --> 0:06:39.880 the rent in six months. Jessica, what the funk are 0:06:39.880 --> 0:06:42.400 you doing? He's still living in your house. You have 0:06:42.440 --> 0:06:45.360 a son, You're feeding everybody in your fucking household, so 0:06:45.400 --> 0:06:48.040 he's kind of like your oldest son at this point, Ladies, 0:06:48.160 --> 0:06:49.960 I'm not saying take care of the nigga. I'm not 0:06:50.000 --> 0:06:53.359 saying pay up for everything. But I'm saying, do not 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:56.599 make it a standard for a nigga to pay something 0:06:56.640 --> 0:06:58.640 to funk with you. Now, I'm not even saying to 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:02.280 be with you, because this girl at the bar, she 0:07:02.400 --> 0:07:04.640 was telling me she's not in a relationship with any 0:07:04.640 --> 0:07:07.160 of these guys. Now that's different when you want a relationship, yes, 0:07:07.560 --> 0:07:10.160 but the bill, pay a bill, especially if you're living 0:07:10.160 --> 0:07:14.080 in my house or we're living together everything. If you 0:07:14.160 --> 0:07:16.560 stand with me, pay some bills, nigga. If I'm staying 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:19.000 with you, I'm gonna offer to pay some bills to 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:20.880 you because that's not my house, that's your house, you 0:07:20.920 --> 0:07:22.920 know what I mean. I feel like she should be 0:07:23.480 --> 0:07:25.600 all the time, especially if you make your own money, Ladies. 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:28.080 If you make your own money, pay your own ship. 0:07:28.360 --> 0:07:30.760 Show a nigga that you independent make a niggna want 0:07:30.760 --> 0:07:32.480 to pay some ship for you because you got your 0:07:32.520 --> 0:07:37.320 own Like Neo said, she got Harrald like seriously, have 0:07:37.520 --> 0:07:40.560 your own to make a nigga want to pay yo. 0:07:40.680 --> 0:07:42.760 Neo said it best. I love it because she got 0:07:42.760 --> 0:07:45.760 her own. She don't touch mine. She leave my ship alone. 0:07:46.120 --> 0:07:49.200 There ain't nothing that's more sexy than the girl that 0:07:49.320 --> 0:07:53.360 want but don't need me. Ladies, don't make these niggas 0:07:53.440 --> 0:07:55.520 feel like you need them, because if you give a 0:07:55.600 --> 0:07:58.680 nigga the power to feed you, you're giving them the 0:07:58.680 --> 0:08:01.280 power to starve you. And that's the word. You know 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:03.840 what I'm saying. Yeah, Yeah, we're gonna clap it up. 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:06.200 I'm gonna I'm gonna bring it back. I'm gonna bring 0:08:06.200 --> 0:08:09.440 it back. If you give a nigga the power to 0:08:09.600 --> 0:08:12.520 feed you, you're giving them the power to stop you. 0:08:12.960 --> 0:08:15.120 And we're gonna be serious about that. That's on some 0:08:15.160 --> 0:08:18.000 real ship. But that gets into something else. I'm letting 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:21.320 y'all know. We need to stop normalizing these niggas paying 0:08:21.320 --> 0:08:26.160 our bills for us for some pussy. That is fucking prostitution. 0:08:26.680 --> 0:08:29.480 I don't care how you slice it, how your dice it, 0:08:29.520 --> 0:08:33.319 if you turn it on a side, horizontal, vertical, bitches, prostitution. 0:08:33.880 --> 0:08:37.040 If you ain't with that, nigga, now listen, I've been 0:08:37.080 --> 0:08:38.839 a situation where I sucked with a guy. I was 0:08:38.880 --> 0:08:41.040 working with him for a couple of months, and he 0:08:41.120 --> 0:08:43.080 was buying me ship. You know what I mean, design 0:08:43.120 --> 0:08:45.680 and ship Gucci Louis what you know, he was buying 0:08:45.760 --> 0:08:49.320 me ship. That's different. Those are not my bills, Those 0:08:49.320 --> 0:08:52.040 are not my bills. I got my bills. Actually got 0:08:52.080 --> 0:08:54.280 all my fucking shopping too. I got my this. I 0:08:54.320 --> 0:08:57.599 don't expect that they're gonna buy me because I dressed expensively, 0:08:57.760 --> 0:09:00.000 now you know what I mean, Like, that's not all 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:02.280 I'll wear. I wear Alexander McQueen. Then I might pop 0:09:02.360 --> 0:09:04.640 up with a pair of fucking Nike Air Forces or 0:09:04.760 --> 0:09:07.160 pay Adidas or under arm like you know what I mean. 0:09:07.200 --> 0:09:10.280 I wear everything, But I have a very expensive taste 0:09:10.520 --> 0:09:12.920 when I want to get particularly cute when I go 0:09:12.960 --> 0:09:14.400 on when you know, when I want to go out 0:09:14.400 --> 0:09:16.559 and put on my ship. You know, because I throws 0:09:16.640 --> 0:09:18.440 that ship on you know what I'm saying. I'm just 0:09:18.440 --> 0:09:20.920 gonna brag and boats for a second, just be throwing 0:09:20.960 --> 0:09:22.360 that ship on it. I don't give a funk who 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:24.520 don't like what I wear A bitch, I love it, 0:09:24.640 --> 0:09:27.240 and my style can get a bit expensive, So No, 0:09:27.360 --> 0:09:29.360 I don't expect the guy come and buy me. Why 0:09:29.400 --> 0:09:31.760 I sell because that's what he sees me wear or 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:34.040 that's what he's seeing me put on. You know, I 0:09:34.040 --> 0:09:36.120 don't expect you to buy me a Gucci bag to match, 0:09:36.320 --> 0:09:38.280 you know, my Gucci boots and ship. No, I'll do 0:09:38.360 --> 0:09:40.520 that my own self. But by all means, if you 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:42.880 want to go to fun Head, even if you want 0:09:42.880 --> 0:09:44.520 to pay a bill, you can ask, but I won't 0:09:44.520 --> 0:09:46.960 be asking you. I don't feel that we should ask 0:09:46.960 --> 0:09:49.360 these niggas to pay bills, like I said, unless they're 0:09:49.360 --> 0:09:53.679 staying in our homes or we're in relationships. It's just different. 0:09:54.000 --> 0:09:55.600 I don't know it would be a turn off to 0:09:55.640 --> 0:09:58.600 me if I was a nigga. Bitch. I just I like, you, 0:09:58.640 --> 0:10:00.920 can can we go out on a date? Like? Can 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:02.840 can we please go out on the date? Before you 0:10:02.880 --> 0:10:05.160 ask me? You know? Can I pay your water bill? 0:10:05.200 --> 0:10:08.160 And I'm saying, bitch, I I ain't. I ain't wash 0:10:08.240 --> 0:10:10.600 my hands in your house one time and I'm paying 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:12.640 the fucking water bill. Bitch? Can I drink some water 0:10:12.679 --> 0:10:15.200 in your house before I go ahead? And you know, 0:10:15.360 --> 0:10:18.000 give you some money for this bill? Damn? Can I 0:10:18.040 --> 0:10:20.600 watch TV in your ship? Can I at least watch 0:10:20.600 --> 0:10:24.679 a commercial before I pay your cable bill? Bitch, before 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:28.520 I buy you a fighter stick? Damn something. Now we 0:10:28.600 --> 0:10:30.880 got a commercial, and if you click off of this podcast, 0:10:30.920 --> 0:10:34.000 I swear I'm gonna beat your ass. Listen that brings 0:10:34.000 --> 0:10:37.199 me to just fix my mess where I ask questions 0:10:37.480 --> 0:10:40.600 to my fans about their personal experiences and I help 0:10:40.640 --> 0:10:42.559 y'all or try my best to help y'all get out 0:10:42.559 --> 0:10:44.760 of the ship that y'all got yourselves into. So I'm 0:10:44.800 --> 0:10:47.800 gonna read a little bit off I posted on Instagram. Ladies, 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:50.440 do you feel a man it's obligated to pay your bills? 0:10:50.480 --> 0:10:55.559 If y'all are involved, go and explain your answer. Shanny 0:10:55.640 --> 0:10:59.559 Crawford said, Um, if we're together, he's definitely paying all 0:10:59.600 --> 0:11:02.679 the major your ones, rent, utilities, et cetera. I can 0:11:02.679 --> 0:11:05.079 take care of everything else. And this is coming from 0:11:05.080 --> 0:11:08.440 a space of me already being financially stable. Well, bet 0:11:08.520 --> 0:11:11.280 you're selfish and greedy at the same time, because what 0:11:11.320 --> 0:11:13.480 if he got his own goddamn house, so we're gonna 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:15.760 pay his bills and your bills, and then your selfish 0:11:15.800 --> 0:11:18.640 that sitting up there some about and I'm already financially stable, 0:11:18.760 --> 0:11:22.719 So I'm yeah, like bitch, and I didn't say if 0:11:22.800 --> 0:11:24.600 y'all were together. Now, I like what she said at 0:11:24.600 --> 0:11:26.199 the beginning. I'm gonna take back one of my bitches. 0:11:26.240 --> 0:11:28.200 I called you a bit twice. I'm gonna leave one there, 0:11:28.240 --> 0:11:30.120 but I'm gonna take back the one because you did 0:11:30.160 --> 0:11:33.040 say if we're together. However, I'm not talking about if 0:11:33.120 --> 0:11:36.560 y'all are together. I'm saying if y'all are involved. Involved, 0:11:36.600 --> 0:11:39.679 can be dating, involved, can be just fucking involved, can 0:11:39.679 --> 0:11:41.600 be you talked this the nigga you text every day 0:11:41.600 --> 0:11:43.480 when you wake up, the nigga the last nigga you 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:44.960 talked to every night before you go to sleep. But 0:11:45.040 --> 0:11:48.920 y'all are not necessarily together because in relationships it is different. 0:11:49.360 --> 0:11:53.160 Billion Blinks says, not obligated, but if I need, he 0:11:53.200 --> 0:11:56.520 should provide or offer without me asking. I like that. 0:11:56.640 --> 0:12:00.520 I agree, she said, not obligated. I love the non 0:12:00.520 --> 0:12:03.360 obligation because the guy is not required to pay any 0:12:03.400 --> 0:12:06.080 fucking thing just to funk with you, you know what 0:12:06.120 --> 0:12:08.120 I mean, just to take you out, you know, just 0:12:08.200 --> 0:12:10.840 to see you, just to like you. I shouldn't have 0:12:10.880 --> 0:12:13.400 to pay a bill to like you. You understand what 0:12:13.400 --> 0:12:16.160 I'm saying. Now, that's a manly duty. Anyway, if you 0:12:16.240 --> 0:12:18.000 see that the woman that you are dealing with, or 0:12:18.040 --> 0:12:20.800 you're involved with, or even in a relationship needs something, 0:12:21.280 --> 0:12:23.719 it's your manly duty to do that, you know what 0:12:23.800 --> 0:12:28.240 I mean, Like like it's your manly duties. Like for instance, 0:12:28.280 --> 0:12:30.720 the guy that I'm dealing with now, who shall reing 0:12:31.120 --> 0:12:33.520 main nameless and don't be in my d m asking 0:12:33.520 --> 0:12:34.959 me who it is. I don't give a fox that 0:12:35.120 --> 0:12:40.400 my job business my job business. So he goes shopping 0:12:40.440 --> 0:12:42.600 from my house. He loves going to like home goods 0:12:42.640 --> 0:12:45.560 and and and marshals, and like he loves home decor. 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:47.199 And now he's older, you know what I mean. And 0:12:47.440 --> 0:12:50.200 and he loves doing this ship for me. Fine, you 0:12:50.200 --> 0:12:53.280 guys own ship. But he sees like in my house 0:12:53.360 --> 0:12:55.160 when I need ship, so he gets it for me, 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:58.000 all types of ship like that. I think that's fine. 0:12:58.240 --> 0:13:00.280 I'm not really a needy person to need and if 0:13:00.280 --> 0:13:02.040 I did need him, not the type to show you 0:13:02.120 --> 0:13:05.200 that I need anything. That's just my dignity and my pride. 0:13:05.440 --> 0:13:07.200 I've never been the type to let a nigga know 0:13:07.440 --> 0:13:10.240 I'm broke, like I really need it not, it's not 0:13:10.280 --> 0:13:12.280 gonna have a happened. I just I don't know. I've 0:13:12.280 --> 0:13:15.000 never been I wasn't raised like that. I'm very very 0:13:15.040 --> 0:13:19.360 strong in that particular area. I've never been. I need 0:13:19.400 --> 0:13:21.439 you to pay my bill and I and I there 0:13:21.440 --> 0:13:24.320 has been times I've been flat broke as a fuck. Okay, 0:13:24.640 --> 0:13:27.480 still faking it till I make it. You would never notice, 0:13:27.520 --> 0:13:32.120 bitch was broke. My rent was late so many times, 0:13:32.320 --> 0:13:34.560 and I was dealing with guys with money and they 0:13:34.559 --> 0:13:36.720 would buy me ship and I would go sell it 0:13:36.800 --> 0:13:38.560 and then pay my bills. You know what I mean. 0:13:38.720 --> 0:13:40.400 But I was never gonna be like, can you pay 0:13:40.440 --> 0:13:43.280 this bill? Can you? Can? You? Can? You? Can? You? 0:13:43.320 --> 0:13:46.640 Can you? I've never been a can you person. Sharon 0:13:46.720 --> 0:13:50.080 d Rogers says, heck no. My responsibilities are mine. Even 0:13:50.120 --> 0:13:52.840 if he's my husband, I'm still going to carry my weight. 0:13:53.160 --> 0:13:56.360 What he does extra is a bonus period. And I 0:13:56.400 --> 0:14:00.120 love you, Sharon d Rogers, because that is the to 0:14:00.200 --> 0:14:04.400 me of a woman, a real woman. My responsibilities are mine. 0:14:04.520 --> 0:14:06.800 That's how I was raised. That's that goes back to 0:14:06.840 --> 0:14:08.640 what I said. I've never been a ken you bitch. 0:14:08.800 --> 0:14:12.000 I've always made it happy. Myself, and that's what we 0:14:12.040 --> 0:14:13.800 want to show these guys, that's what we want to 0:14:13.840 --> 0:14:18.280 normalize again. Independent. Okay, this is interesting. She would like 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:21.400 to remain anonymous. Okay, so her boyfriend must listen to 0:14:21.440 --> 0:14:24.560 this ship, she said no, because then he's gonna feel 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:27.080 like he gotta move in or he runs ship. Nah, 0:14:27.120 --> 0:14:30.480 I'm good, Jack, I got these bills. But that's another 0:14:30.560 --> 0:14:33.680 thing that's me. I don't want you to ever ever 0:14:33.760 --> 0:14:36.440 feel like, oh I did this, I paid this, because 0:14:36.480 --> 0:14:39.120 you know, petty, guys will hold ship over your head. 0:14:39.240 --> 0:14:41.440 That's the last thing I've ever take from And don't 0:14:41.440 --> 0:14:44.080 you have in your life throw something back in my face. 0:14:44.440 --> 0:14:46.600 That's not the ship that I'm on. I don't like that, 0:14:46.680 --> 0:14:49.520 and guys have a tendency of doing that. Women do 0:14:49.560 --> 0:14:51.600 it as well. But I'm never, like I said in 0:14:51.640 --> 0:14:55.600 the beginning of this episode, will ever give a nigga 0:14:55.680 --> 0:14:58.120 the power to feed me, Because he can starve you 0:14:58.160 --> 0:15:01.840 with that same drive, with that same money, with that 0:15:02.200 --> 0:15:05.400 very same ship you always got your fucking palm out 0:15:05.480 --> 0:15:09.120 for he can stop dropping in the hand any day 0:15:09.400 --> 0:15:12.040 and hold over your head what he's dropped in it before. 0:15:12.520 --> 0:15:15.320 So I definitely understand baby, who would love to remain 0:15:15.400 --> 0:15:21.560 anonymous sister Underscore Survivor said, uh no, niggas aren't reliable. 0:15:21.840 --> 0:15:24.200 Pay your own ship and use them for what you 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:27.200 need the dick and some casual chit chat. I know 0:15:27.320 --> 0:15:30.400 that's right. I know that's right. And you're saying pretty 0:15:30.400 --> 0:15:32.760 single sister survivor, and I love it. I love what 0:15:32.880 --> 0:15:35.440 you're staying for now. At least she knows what she wants. 0:15:35.560 --> 0:15:37.720 She knows she just wants. I'm digging some casual chit chat, 0:15:37.760 --> 0:15:39.200 you know what I'm saying. She ain't saying that he 0:15:39.200 --> 0:15:41.960 ain't gotta buy her nothing because gifts are different. But 0:15:42.080 --> 0:15:44.560 you ain't gotta pay my ship. I'm reliable for my 0:15:44.640 --> 0:15:47.920 own ship, not you. I don't want to be redundant 0:15:48.000 --> 0:15:49.840 or repetitive, but y'all need to get to see you'll 0:15:49.880 --> 0:15:52.760 greasy heads and this is the last one I'm gonna read. 0:15:53.240 --> 0:15:58.520 Gabrielle Boysellino says, hell, no, women need to be independent. 0:15:58.640 --> 0:16:01.400 You are your own person. Be okay with taking care 0:16:01.440 --> 0:16:03.920 of yourself. If you take things to the next level, 0:16:03.960 --> 0:16:06.680 like sharing a place together or getting married, then yes, 0:16:07.040 --> 0:16:10.360 splitting bills between both of you is just fair. Relationships 0:16:10.400 --> 0:16:13.600 should be fair. But if you're just involved, take care 0:16:13.600 --> 0:16:16.760 of yourself. Now, listen, I agree with that. It's nothing 0:16:16.840 --> 0:16:20.160 like taking care of yourself. That's how you discover self love. 0:16:20.240 --> 0:16:23.400 That's how you open up Pandora's box of self love 0:16:23.800 --> 0:16:27.400 because you'll learn through taking care of yourself that you 0:16:27.480 --> 0:16:32.080 don't need You don't have to depend on anyone to 0:16:32.200 --> 0:16:34.480 take care of you ever, because you know how it is. 0:16:34.520 --> 0:16:37.880 You know how you've gotten through that struggle. You know 0:16:38.440 --> 0:16:41.120 how you didn't know where your next meal was coming from, 0:16:41.120 --> 0:16:44.200 but you made a motherfucking way. You know how it 0:16:44.320 --> 0:16:47.880 feels to grind it the funk out and get it yourself. 0:16:48.040 --> 0:16:51.080 So therefore, you don't need a negd to take care 0:16:51.120 --> 0:16:53.080 of You don't need a man. And I want you 0:16:53.080 --> 0:16:57.600 all to realize that we don't need these men financially now, 0:16:57.600 --> 0:17:01.840 women we need these men. Set surely we need these men. 0:17:02.200 --> 0:17:04.480 We we need our men. That that's what we were 0:17:04.480 --> 0:17:07.080 created for. A man and a one was created to 0:17:07.080 --> 0:17:09.240 be together. Nowadays, you know it's remixed. You know we 0:17:09.320 --> 0:17:11.440 got a man and man, we've got women and women whatever. 0:17:11.480 --> 0:17:13.720 You know. For all the gays listening, yes, you need 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:16.199 that affection, you need to love. But You do not 0:17:16.400 --> 0:17:20.040 need your companion to pay your motherfucking bills, especially if 0:17:20.080 --> 0:17:23.000 they ain't your motherfucking If it ain't official between y'all. 0:17:23.000 --> 0:17:26.240 Come on, man, it's normalized stability and people self stability. 0:17:26.520 --> 0:17:31.440 It's normalized responsibility being responsible. If you love me, you'll 0:17:31.480 --> 0:17:35.240 listen to this commercial and then we'll be right back. Now. 0:17:35.280 --> 0:17:38.480 That brings me to my current news. Okay, So Lisa 0:17:38.600 --> 0:17:41.720 Ray has announced that there will be a reboot or 0:17:41.720 --> 0:17:45.960 a remake of Players Club Now Johnson Hernandez Love and 0:17:46.000 --> 0:17:49.720 hip hop reality star and Drea Michelle. They want to 0:17:49.760 --> 0:17:53.360 both go up for the part of Diamond. Um. If 0:17:53.359 --> 0:17:56.080 I had to choose between them too, it would be Drea. 0:17:56.520 --> 0:17:59.120 If I had to choose period, it would be none 0:17:59.119 --> 0:18:00.919 of them. You know what I'm mean. I think there 0:18:00.960 --> 0:18:04.600 are other people who could embody Diamond, and probably a 0:18:04.640 --> 0:18:06.639 little better than Lisa did it, you know what I'm saying. 0:18:06.800 --> 0:18:08.280 She was in a problem, she was very young in 0:18:08.320 --> 0:18:10.080 that movie. She did good. She did good. I just 0:18:10.080 --> 0:18:12.120 feel like it's somebody else that could do, you know, 0:18:12.240 --> 0:18:14.679 even better than she did. Shout out to Lisa Ray. 0:18:14.840 --> 0:18:18.480 I do love her and to death, by the way, now, Joscelyn. 0:18:18.800 --> 0:18:20.959 I do feel like she could play Ronnie with a 0:18:21.000 --> 0:18:24.040 couple of speech classes. And I'm not being funny. Y'all 0:18:24.040 --> 0:18:26.360 know this the fun y'all know, y'all, y'all know this. 0:18:26.600 --> 0:18:28.480 She could clean out English up a little more now 0:18:28.520 --> 0:18:31.960 she's gotten better. But when I was checking out her 0:18:32.000 --> 0:18:35.000 show on Zeus Johnson's Cabaret, I noticed that she still 0:18:35.000 --> 0:18:37.640 says cavaway, you know what I'm saying, And I'm like, damn, 0:18:37.720 --> 0:18:40.080 you know, she sounds like she bought you know, four 0:18:40.560 --> 0:18:44.040 you know, as an English baby. You know that's cavaway, 0:18:44.080 --> 0:18:46.560 you know. But she can clean up in English a 0:18:46.600 --> 0:18:48.520 little bit. I think she would be grateful a movie 0:18:48.560 --> 0:18:50.760 like that. She got the banging body. She knows how 0:18:50.800 --> 0:18:52.359 to dance, you know, how to pop it and ship. 0:18:52.680 --> 0:18:54.760 She could play you know, one of the dances. She 0:18:54.880 --> 0:18:58.600