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Speaker 1: Hello, I'm Christal Renette Hazel and this is keep It Positive, sweetie,

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Speaker 1: A safe face to heal, a laugh, grow, and love.

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Speaker 1: And Season six is underweighted off to a great start.

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Speaker 1: We've got this amazing new set and we've had some

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Speaker 1: incredible conversations so far. I'm gonna keep the momentum going

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Speaker 1: with my guests for today. My sister, my friend be Simone. Now,

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Speaker 1: it only took six seasons to get her here, but

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Speaker 1: we're gonna have some good girl talk about any and

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Speaker 1: everything like we always do. She does so many things

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Speaker 1: well and she means so much to so many people,

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Speaker 1: I finally got her here, y'all. I am so excited.

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Speaker 1: My friend, my sister, be Simone fee Thank you, sus,

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Speaker 3: But we finally got her here, guys, finally and.

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Speaker 1: Been on the road with me. We've been everywhere with

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Speaker 2: I had to know, y'all keep it classy and keep

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Speaker 2: Thank you, Thank you for having me. What you got

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Speaker 2: it is so beautiful. I'm so proud of you.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much, thank you. It is the labor

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Speaker 2: Thank you. I'm excited y'all been trying to get me

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Speaker 1: We always have amazing conversations. Yeah, people have heard our story.

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Speaker 2: The first word. It's two words. Resilience. Obviously, That's what

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Speaker 1: This is why I love you.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if that's something we could talk about.

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Speaker 2: So you know what it is for me, I think

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Speaker 2: You gotta be that.

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Speaker 2: I think I would if I could still, I wouldn't

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Speaker 2: I can't do all these things because we can't afford it. Right,

435
00:21:34,720 --> 00:21:37,560
Speaker 2: So as long as we can have the same lifestyle,

436
00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:40,400
Speaker 2: I would love to still travel and live and invest

437
00:21:40,440 --> 00:21:42,400
Speaker 2: in businesses. And when you invest, you know you're gonna

438
00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:45,520
Speaker 2: lose sometimes. Do we have the money to take those risks?

439
00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:49,199
Speaker 2: I done invested in properties and in certain text things

440
00:21:49,240 --> 00:21:51,479
Speaker 2: that just like that didn't really work out. But I

441
00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:55,160
Speaker 2: invest over here, you know, so he could make less

442
00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:57,280
Speaker 2: than me, for sure, But I would love to keep

443
00:21:57,320 --> 00:21:59,480
Speaker 2: up the same lifestyle. If that makes sense.

444
00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:02,600
Speaker 1: No, it's perfect sense. It's funny because I've said the

445
00:22:02,600 --> 00:22:05,320
Speaker 1: same thing because people always ask like, would you date

446
00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:08,919
Speaker 1: some I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I definitely would.

447
00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:11,000
Speaker 1: But I do. I love the things that I love

448
00:22:11,080 --> 00:22:13,400
Speaker 1: and I've never been ashamed of that. Yeah. I always

449
00:22:13,680 --> 00:22:15,679
Speaker 1: very transparent about that, Like, this is what I like

450
00:22:15,720 --> 00:22:18,760
Speaker 1: to do and as long as I can do it. Lord,

451
00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:21,240
Speaker 1: I want to.

452
00:22:20,800 --> 00:22:24,320
Speaker 2: Christmaal place on a vineyard, drinking wine, eating cheese. I'm like, Christ,

453
00:22:24,359 --> 00:22:28,680
Speaker 2: what are you at in Paris with the president? And

454
00:22:28,720 --> 00:22:34,879
Speaker 2: I'm back, I'm in Atlanta. When you get bring me

455
00:22:34,920 --> 00:22:36,320
Speaker 2: some cheese. Yeah.

456
00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:38,800
Speaker 1: I just feel like, once you a lot that comes

457
00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:42,360
Speaker 1: with exposure. Yes, you know, sometimes for me, exposure inspires.

458
00:22:42,600 --> 00:22:44,720
Speaker 2: When you're exposed, it's like I can't go back.

459
00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:45,240
Speaker 1: I can't.

460
00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:48,240
Speaker 2: Steve Harvey said that once you sit in first class,

461
00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:50,560
Speaker 2: I don't want to go back to the rope twenty

462
00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:53,160
Speaker 2: in the middle seat. I want that space. I want

463
00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:57,840
Speaker 2: to relax. Work up there, you can more, it's more productive,

464
00:22:57,880 --> 00:23:01,160
Speaker 2: it is, and you get to sit in your feminine

465
00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:04,239
Speaker 2: and relax and enjoy the moment and enjoy all the

466
00:23:04,240 --> 00:23:07,600
Speaker 2: things that life has for you without worrying about can

467
00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:09,880
Speaker 2: I afford this? Can I do this? So the stresses

468
00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:10,439
Speaker 2: that come with that.

469
00:23:10,560 --> 00:23:12,119
Speaker 1: So you know what, And I've been broke before, so

470
00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:16,320
Speaker 1: I know the stress. Oh yeah, yeah, yes, I've been broken.

471
00:23:16,359 --> 00:23:17,920
Speaker 1: It's a different type of stress. I used to always

472
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:21,440
Speaker 1: say I'd rather be rich in stress than be broken stress. Yes,

473
00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:24,040
Speaker 1: So I'm grateful. And even a friend says, he's like,

474
00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:26,879
Speaker 1: it's a privilege to be able to do what you

475
00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:29,000
Speaker 1: want to do, be able to take care of everything

476
00:23:29,119 --> 00:23:30,879
Speaker 1: and then also be like, oh I want to go

477
00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:33,040
Speaker 1: do this or do that, or I want to invest

478
00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:35,199
Speaker 1: in this, and you can take the risk. That is

479
00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:36,840
Speaker 1: a privilege and a blessing. He did do that, and

480
00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 1: I don't take it for granted at Yeah. When it

481
00:23:39,600 --> 00:23:41,879
Speaker 1: comes to finances, how are you doing? Like with budget?

482
00:23:41,920 --> 00:23:44,439
Speaker 1: Can we talked about this? Yeah, that's the big thing.

483
00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:47,080
Speaker 1: When you get relationships trying to figure out okay, like

484
00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:49,760
Speaker 1: has money? How are you with money?

485
00:23:49,920 --> 00:23:53,440
Speaker 2: You hear these things because we've all not we've all

486
00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:55,280
Speaker 2: but me and You's speak for me and you, because

487
00:23:55,280 --> 00:23:58,240
Speaker 2: we've talked about finance is hitting a certain tax bracket

488
00:23:58,160 --> 00:24:00,800
Speaker 2: and a certain amount recently, this is new in our

489
00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:04,240
Speaker 2: walk with being a celebrity or being financially stable and

490
00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:06,720
Speaker 2: you know, making this amount of money and having the

491
00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:09,240
Speaker 2: budgeted and having accountants and people look over your stuff.

492
00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:11,919
Speaker 2: And I for the first time, I wasn't even like

493
00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:13,679
Speaker 2: this when I was broke. Girl, I would have like

494
00:24:13,720 --> 00:24:15,560
Speaker 2: fifty dollars I'd be like this, fifty dollars for a week.

495
00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:18,920
Speaker 2: We going out. I'm gonna live my life. It's gonna

496
00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:20,600
Speaker 2: come back. I'm gonna make it next week. I've never

497
00:24:20,640 --> 00:24:23,240
Speaker 2: been like fickle or like holding onto money because I

498
00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:26,879
Speaker 2: always believe it's gonna come back. But I show my

499
00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:29,639
Speaker 2: million dollar journey on YouTube back in twenty twenty. That

500
00:24:29,720 --> 00:24:31,800
Speaker 2: was the year I made my first million. I wanted

501
00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:33,840
Speaker 2: to be like, Okay, by the time I'm thirty, I

502
00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:35,920
Speaker 2: want to see it in my account. I want to

503
00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:39,000
Speaker 2: see it liquid, right, So I want to see it

504
00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:40,040
Speaker 2: liquid liquid.

505
00:24:40,040 --> 00:24:40,560
Speaker 1: It's different.

506
00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:41,280
Speaker 3: It's different.

507
00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:42,480
Speaker 1: It's different to.

508
00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:45,439
Speaker 2: See them zeros, like it's not assets, it's not a car.

509
00:24:45,560 --> 00:24:49,119
Speaker 2: It's not like it's in the account, right. That was

510
00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:51,600
Speaker 2: in twenty twenty. After that thirty It took me thirty

511
00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:53,920
Speaker 2: years to make my first million, thirty days to make

512
00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:56,600
Speaker 2: my second. So within thirty days after my birthday, I

513
00:24:56,640 --> 00:25:00,720
Speaker 2: was a multi millionaire. Come quick, Them zeros ain't in

514
00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:01,160
Speaker 2: that account.

515
00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:03,760
Speaker 1: After the first million, it's easy to get the next million.

516
00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:05,680
Speaker 3: That first easier to spend too.

517
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:09,800
Speaker 2: You see them zeros, You're like, get the jet, Yeah, yeah,

518
00:25:10,359 --> 00:25:12,959
Speaker 2: dinner on me. You want to fly to Jamaica.

519
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:23,000
Speaker 3: The shot collars dollars, baby, let me be I'm transparent again.

520
00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:25,320
Speaker 2: Some zeros ain't in that account no more. That liquid

521
00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:27,080
Speaker 2: ain't there no more. Now do I have? I did

522
00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:30,040
Speaker 2: buy my first home. It's an asset. I have invested

523
00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:33,640
Speaker 2: in my businesses. I'm launching the ltt A app, which

524
00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:35,720
Speaker 2: is exclusive. This is the first time I've ever said that.

525
00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:42,640
Speaker 2: So I'm investing, right, So I still have. You know,

526
00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:47,119
Speaker 2: I'm still technically a millionaire, but with assets. Right, But

527
00:25:48,040 --> 00:25:51,960
Speaker 2: when you start spending, you realize how quick it can go.

528
00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:55,199
Speaker 1: And the million dollars is nothing nothing. People think that's like,

529
00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:56,640
Speaker 1: oh my god, it's nothing.

530
00:25:57,119 --> 00:26:01,160
Speaker 2: It's nothing. When you constantly are reinvesting.

531
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:03,440
Speaker 1: What Texas.

532
00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:05,160
Speaker 3: I said, y'all this.

533
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:07,840
Speaker 2: Much, honey, But you remember when we used to get

534
00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 2: refund checks.

535
00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 1: This year he had a good account.

536
00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:19,199
Speaker 2: That's good. Yeah. So yeah. To answer your question for

537
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:22,160
Speaker 2: the first time, I'm in a season where I'm being

538
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:25,080
Speaker 2: more diligent with my money. I look back on all

539
00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:28,879
Speaker 2: the people I gave money to didn't do nothing with it.

540
00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:33,000
Speaker 2: They still in the same position, just so many things.

541
00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:37,679
Speaker 2: Being Santa Claus and being here such a I'm better.

542
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:40,960
Speaker 2: I'm you know what, I'm not a people pleaser. I'm

543
00:26:41,000 --> 00:26:44,480
Speaker 2: a recovering people. I am recovering. I mean a a

544
00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:50,239
Speaker 2: I am okay, So I am recovering. I'm getting so

545
00:26:50,359 --> 00:26:53,439
Speaker 2: much better at saying no. And I'm asking God first

546
00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:57,560
Speaker 2: before I do things smart. You didn't ask, You didn't

547
00:26:57,560 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 2: ask if you was supposed to buy that person house

548
00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:02,880
Speaker 2: like they had it, I got it. What I gotta

549
00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:06,119
Speaker 2: tell you a story I've never shared this publicly. I

550
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:09,920
Speaker 2: was downtown and we were filming Wild and Out downtown

551
00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:13,480
Speaker 2: in Atlanta. I see a lady, she has her five

552
00:27:13,560 --> 00:27:17,119
Speaker 2: she's changing her baby's diaper on the ground, and she

553
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:19,800
Speaker 2: got five kids with her right and I'm staying in

554
00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:23,080
Speaker 2: this hotel. We end up talking going going long story short,

555
00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:24,840
Speaker 2: I put her in her kids in this hotel for

556
00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:27,440
Speaker 2: the week, just you know, put them in the hotel.

557
00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:31,919
Speaker 2: Boom me. Now, y'all, this is crazy. This don't make

558
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:33,919
Speaker 2: no sense, and I'm not advising anybody to do this.

559
00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:37,520
Speaker 2: A month later, you think I didn't have that lady house,

560
00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:42,520
Speaker 2: that's who you are. But it wasn't wise, it wasn't

561
00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:46,600
Speaker 2: why not even the space I wasn't. She couldn't keep

562
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:49,440
Speaker 2: it up. She was stressed. I walked in the house.

563
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:52,119
Speaker 2: It was flies and gnats and food.

564
00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:52,960
Speaker 1: Oh.

565
00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:54,879
Speaker 2: I just came in the house and I started crying,

566
00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:57,119
Speaker 2: you know. But we worked our way up to that,

567
00:27:57,400 --> 00:27:59,840
Speaker 2: you know, I had, I had, I had a real

568
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 2: her help me and I talked to her and I

569
00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:03,920
Speaker 2: try to get her housing and I try to get

570
00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:05,960
Speaker 2: her a job, and we were working our way up

571
00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:07,920
Speaker 2: to it. I just didn't buy a stranger a house.

572
00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:10,159
Speaker 2: And it was an investment property. So I was like,

573
00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:12,240
Speaker 2: if anything, I could sell it, and it's still an

574
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:14,919
Speaker 2: investment for me, right. But I said all that to say,

575
00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:18,400
Speaker 2: I didn't pray about that. I just saw somebody in need.

576
00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:20,520
Speaker 2: It was off impulse, like you can't be on the

577
00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 2: street with your five kids, you know. So I built

578
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:26,320
Speaker 2: a relationship with her, but she it don't matter what

579
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:29,159
Speaker 2: you do for people if their mind doesn't change. She

580
00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:31,879
Speaker 2: still thought she was on the street even though she

581
00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:35,760
Speaker 2: was in a house. So more, it's more than just

582
00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:38,080
Speaker 2: putting her in the house. It's giving her the resources

583
00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:40,840
Speaker 2: to keep it up, the resources to pay the rent,

584
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:44,480
Speaker 2: the resources to mentally grow. So she was in the house,

585
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:47,480
Speaker 2: but her mind was still in the streets. So helping

586
00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:50,720
Speaker 2: people that God calls you to and the way he

587
00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:53,960
Speaker 2: caused you to do it, not just impulsively giving. So

588
00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:56,440
Speaker 2: I'm learning that in the season with my businesses too.

589
00:28:56,880 --> 00:28:59,400
Speaker 2: You know, I'm getting better. I'd be looking over everything.

590
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 2: I'm like, yes, back in the days, Oh it's five grand,

591
00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:05,400
Speaker 2: give it no, Okay, break it down what I'm paying for?

592
00:29:05,960 --> 00:29:08,680
Speaker 2: Why is it five grand? Well this person is three grand.

593
00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 2: Why are you five Let's let's let's break it down

594
00:29:11,440 --> 00:29:13,480
Speaker 2: and talk about it before I just swipe my card.

595
00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:16,200
Speaker 1: No, seriously, I'm doing the same thing. I have a

596
00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:20,760
Speaker 1: new accounting team, and I have Marquise every trip business

597
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:23,000
Speaker 1: trip I go on, anytime I leave the house for

598
00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 1: a period of time, where I'm sending a lot of money. Yeah,

599
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:27,719
Speaker 1: he does a spreadsheet of how much money I'm spending.

600
00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 1: How much did we spend last week when I was

601
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 1: going to New York in a week? No three days? Well,

602
00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:40,040
Speaker 1: what was y'all eating, what was y'all flying?

603
00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:41,280
Speaker 2: What was your booking?

604
00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 1: What was your fair hotels for people, trains for.

605
00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:49,160
Speaker 2: People already know her M already know day rates booking,

606
00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:52,120
Speaker 2: day rates booking, And they gonna send you that invoice.

607
00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:57,960
Speaker 3: Yes, that invoy's gonna come.

608
00:29:58,040 --> 00:29:59,440
Speaker 2: You be like, what am I paying for?

609
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:01,480
Speaker 1: If people don't see that, they don't stay, see all

610
00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:04,520
Speaker 1: the things that they don't know what goes behind making everything.

611
00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:07,320
Speaker 1: And what I'm grateful for now is my team who's like,

612
00:30:07,600 --> 00:30:10,080
Speaker 1: we're like, I mean finding a place where they can

613
00:30:10,200 --> 00:30:12,680
Speaker 1: like source out the money. Yeah, but like right now

614
00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:14,760
Speaker 1: it comes out of my pocket until we get the money. Yeah,

615
00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:17,720
Speaker 1: you know. And it wasn't always like that. Yeah, And

616
00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:20,040
Speaker 1: it costs money to make money, so I always again,

617
00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 1: this is investment.

618
00:30:21,120 --> 00:30:23,480
Speaker 2: We have a beer gonna come back, We have the vision.

619
00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:26,000
Speaker 1: But yeah, I have to be diligent. I need to

620
00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:28,560
Speaker 1: go through those line items and see what's important and

621
00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:29,680
Speaker 1: what's not important.

622
00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:31,600
Speaker 2: And see where you can cut back. I've been cooking more.

623
00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 2: I'm like my accountan hit me. He said, you spent

624
00:30:34,520 --> 00:30:37,000
Speaker 2: twenty thousand dollars on food in a month.

625
00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:37,800
Speaker 1: I believe it.

626
00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:43,320
Speaker 2: Uber eating a day not getting up. I said, no, no,

627
00:30:43,240 --> 00:30:46,640
Speaker 2: I said, you're looking. You're talking about the year, he said,

628
00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:47,240
Speaker 2: he called me.

629
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:49,080
Speaker 1: It could be like two dolls a day.

630
00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:50,720
Speaker 2: And then you go out to eat. You're picking up

631
00:30:50,720 --> 00:30:52,720
Speaker 2: the tab for everybody, so it.

632
00:30:57,600 --> 00:31:00,840
Speaker 1: Get out. Yes, he has a and then you look up.

633
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:03,920
Speaker 1: You got everybody dreams. Everybody feels were not eating.

634
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:08,600
Speaker 3: Know we are cow old Charlie chilies.

635
00:31:09,200 --> 00:31:12,440
Speaker 1: We at town and no boo no boom mats.

636
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:14,680
Speaker 2: And you know you want to do it.

637
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:17,360
Speaker 1: You want to take care, you want to expose everybody.

638
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:18,920
Speaker 2: To everything, you know.

639
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:21,080
Speaker 1: But and I feel the burden like, oh I can't really.

640
00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 1: I got it over.

641
00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:23,560
Speaker 2: I got it because I want to go there. So

642
00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:25,880
Speaker 2: if I got to go to town alone, I'm gonna go

643
00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:27,760
Speaker 2: see it alone and wait for my man to come.

644
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:31,120
Speaker 2: I'm gonna sit there, have a date by myself and

645
00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:32,320
Speaker 2: just say.

646
00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:34,560
Speaker 3: Too, did he come in?

647
00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:37,800
Speaker 1: So?

648
00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:41,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's twenty grand in a month on food? I said,

649
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:41,920
Speaker 2: what am I eating?

650
00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:43,760
Speaker 1: By yourself. That's crazy, and I.

651
00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:46,680
Speaker 2: Like to eat. Now order six things just to the

652
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:49,480
Speaker 2: same way. I just don't want to bite everything.

653
00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 3: No, literally, we talked about that after church.

654
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:55,240
Speaker 2: We went out to eat after you have to eat

655
00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:56,640
Speaker 2: on Eastern and she was like, you want to? I

656
00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:57,840
Speaker 2: was like, I want to try all the it.

657
00:31:57,880 --> 00:32:00,480
Speaker 1: She's like me too, No, I'm literally like, that are

658
00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:03,240
Speaker 1: the keys. I ordered the whole menu. I want to

659
00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:05,480
Speaker 1: try everything, even if I order like I love like

660
00:32:05,600 --> 00:32:08,120
Speaker 1: colonial Yeah, I'll order to the house. Yep. I get

661
00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:11,720
Speaker 1: like three appetites. I get it tar, the chicken dumplings,

662
00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:15,040
Speaker 1: I get the salad. I guess the meat shaking beat.

663
00:32:15,800 --> 00:32:17,280
Speaker 2: Do you understand what we're saying?

664
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 1: This is nuts nuts. It's like a three hundred dollars

665
00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:24,880
Speaker 1: uber Eatstville and for one in the breakfast.

666
00:32:25,440 --> 00:32:28,720
Speaker 3: Smoothie, no, the post workout.

667
00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:30,600
Speaker 1: Bar.

668
00:32:31,200 --> 00:32:36,240
Speaker 2: That's three Literally, you spending three hundred, five hundred dollars

669
00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:40,040
Speaker 2: a day on food. I love it, though. See that's

670
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:42,200
Speaker 2: why I need a man that can keep up, because

671
00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:42,720
Speaker 2: I gotta eat.

672
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:43,560
Speaker 3: I'm not cutting that out.

673
00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:47,600
Speaker 1: Listen Greenland just right, She goes, I ain't no salady

674
00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:49,640
Speaker 1: me either.

675
00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:53,000
Speaker 2: I want all the food I want to taste everything.

676
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:56,000
Speaker 2: So yeah, I've been cut but I have been cooking

677
00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:57,520
Speaker 2: more and I'm like, you know this is nice. I

678
00:32:57,520 --> 00:33:00,240
Speaker 2: actually feel lighter because you know what's going in your food.

679
00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:02,360
Speaker 2: You feel healthier. I can eat a lot of carbs

680
00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:04,800
Speaker 2: at home and I'm like this, you cook, you know

681
00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:07,520
Speaker 2: what you just cooked? Then, So cutting back on where

682
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:09,959
Speaker 2: I can, I've been getting my nails done less. I'm like, okay,

683
00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 2: if I get pink at the at the bottom when

684
00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 2: it grows out, you't gonna be able to tell. I

685
00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:15,000
Speaker 2: can last a couple.

686
00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:15,520
Speaker 1: Of more weeks.

687
00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:16,440
Speaker 3: I'm doing good.

688
00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:20,400
Speaker 2: I'm getting longer hairstyles. So this hairstyle gonna last me?

689
00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:31,880
Speaker 2: What's after New Year Ship? I'm like, shuld up, I'm

690
00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:32,760
Speaker 2: washing my braids.

691
00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:34,800
Speaker 3: This this gotta last.

692
00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:36,000
Speaker 1: Do you know?

693
00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:38,240
Speaker 2: These are the braids? Is eight hundred dollars hairstyle for

694
00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:40,160
Speaker 2: the girl to come for twelve you know. So if

695
00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 2: you're spending the money, take care of it. And I

696
00:33:43,560 --> 00:33:46,320
Speaker 2: used to be, you know, purses on the floor, not

697
00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:48,200
Speaker 2: taking Why you buying the Mowi bag?

698
00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:52,920
Speaker 1: It is so organized. I was like, girl, who did

699
00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:53,480
Speaker 1: this closet?

700
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:55,600
Speaker 2: But got to give your information?

701
00:33:56,400 --> 00:34:00,120
Speaker 1: You know it over it I was talking to a

702
00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:03,080
Speaker 1: friend of mine about tithing and about making I said,

703
00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:05,520
Speaker 1: my mom used to start off with shoes. I'm like,

704
00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:06,960
Speaker 1: I want a new pair of shoes. She's like, I'm

705
00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:08,400
Speaker 1: not giving another pair of shoes. Ntil you take care

706
00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:11,160
Speaker 1: of what you have. Wow, we want this, we want this,

707
00:34:11,200 --> 00:34:12,680
Speaker 1: you want that, And guys like, but you're not taking

708
00:34:12,680 --> 00:34:15,560
Speaker 1: care of what you got, So how can I trust

709
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 1: that you when I give you more, you're gonna blow

710
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:19,360
Speaker 1: through that too. Yeah, So making sure that like I

711
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:22,040
Speaker 1: tied before, Like pet he talked about, y'all know how

712
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:23,719
Speaker 1: y'all get on the weekend, y'all want to go out.

713
00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:25,640
Speaker 1: He was like, if you know how you are, go

714
00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:27,880
Speaker 1: ahead and give God his so you can go do

715
00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:29,200
Speaker 1: what you want to do with the rest of it.

716
00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:29,880
Speaker 2: Yeah.

717
00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:34,080
Speaker 1: But the moment I really started taking that seriously, I

718
00:34:34,120 --> 00:34:37,200
Speaker 1: saw God continue to bless you more because he knew

719
00:34:37,200 --> 00:34:38,520
Speaker 1: I was gonna do the right thing. I love that,

720
00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:43,239
Speaker 1: and it's like it's exciting to give God his saying

721
00:34:43,239 --> 00:34:43,879
Speaker 1: what belongs to.

722
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:46,400
Speaker 2: Me, it's his anyway it is anyway.

723
00:34:46,600 --> 00:34:48,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, But I too was like you girl, I would

724
00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:51,080
Speaker 1: blow through money just its like itching a hole in

725
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:52,680
Speaker 1: my pocket, Like literally I was.

726
00:34:52,680 --> 00:34:55,000
Speaker 2: Like, literally, like, we're in New York, let's go shopping.

727
00:34:55,120 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm just spend what you want, get you something

728
00:34:58,160 --> 00:34:59,840
Speaker 1: to what? Oh? Yeah?

729
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:02,839
Speaker 2: And then you don't want to be, you know, for people.

730
00:35:02,880 --> 00:35:03,759
Speaker 1: I get it.

731
00:35:04,320 --> 00:35:05,760
Speaker 2: You don't want to do it in front of people.

732
00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 2: You don't want to feel like I'm you know, so yeah,

733
00:35:08,239 --> 00:35:10,479
Speaker 2: grab something here. I got this for you, and.

734
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 1: It feels good.

735
00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:14,799
Speaker 2: It feels good, it feels good. But then you look

736
00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:18,399
Speaker 2: up all them Nigga's gone and my account is low

737
00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:20,680
Speaker 2: and I'm sitting here with this Louis bag and no friends.

738
00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:21,120
Speaker 1: Hello.

739
00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:23,279
Speaker 3: So I ain't doing that no more.

740
00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:26,719
Speaker 2: You're not, you know, making smarter, making smarter decisions.

741
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm proud of you.

742
00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:28,520
Speaker 2: Thank you.

743
00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:30,840
Speaker 1: I really am thank you. It was the strike that

744
00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:34,200
Speaker 1: really shifted my mind set on where my money making.

745
00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:36,400
Speaker 1: All these millions of dollars every year, What are you

746
00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:37,719
Speaker 1: doing with it? What are you doing with it? What

747
00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:39,279
Speaker 1: are you doing with it? Yes? I can have all

748
00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:41,640
Speaker 1: designer clothes in the world, but I can make Zara

749
00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:43,560
Speaker 1: look like designer honey and desire.

750
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:46,799
Speaker 2: I don't hey, what don't sleep on baby, Steve Madden.

751
00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:49,200
Speaker 1: Honey Girls new collection.

752
00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 2: Man I bought two bags and some drum Steve Madden

753
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:57,279
Speaker 2: earrings right here looking like Balencia baby. I spent five

754
00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:59,480
Speaker 2: hundred dollars in Steve Madden got the whole store.

755
00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:01,600
Speaker 1: No, I didn't know they man had clothes. I was

756
00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:04,240
Speaker 1: on Revolved O and I was like, see you got closing.

757
00:36:04,239 --> 00:36:05,880
Speaker 2: They're cu She was just my friend was just on

758
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:12,160
Speaker 2: your second they got closes now yeah, the sponsor. It's

759
00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:16,920
Speaker 2: a come over yes to day.

760
00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:20,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's good. I love that. I love that

761
00:36:20,800 --> 00:36:24,680
Speaker 1: we always talk about friendships. Yes, And I wanted to

762
00:36:24,680 --> 00:36:26,799
Speaker 1: ask you something because this is always a question that

763
00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:29,000
Speaker 1: I wanted to know. Then I asked some of my

764
00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 1: friends what are things that you look for in a friend?

765
00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:35,640
Speaker 1: And the second part is what makes you a good friend?

766
00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:37,200
Speaker 1: Because I know it makes you a good friend. But

767
00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:40,120
Speaker 1: you know, sometimes we don't understand ye we are and

768
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:41,279
Speaker 1: what we bring to the t. Yeah.

769
00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:43,560
Speaker 2: As a friend, for me, I can only say what

770
00:36:43,600 --> 00:36:45,640
Speaker 2: makes me a good friend by what I've been told.

771
00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:48,080
Speaker 2: I can't say I'm a good friend. I need my

772
00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:52,200
Speaker 2: friends they have. You can't I'm a great friend. Are

773
00:36:52,239 --> 00:36:55,759
Speaker 2: your friends saying that? Yeah? You can't say? You know

774
00:36:55,760 --> 00:36:57,719
Speaker 2: what I mean? Yeah? Are you?

775
00:36:57,840 --> 00:36:58,240
Speaker 1: Yeah?

776
00:36:58,520 --> 00:37:02,640
Speaker 2: So I think from what I've been told, like showing

777
00:37:02,719 --> 00:37:06,200
Speaker 2: up for people. I just I really support my people.

778
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:10,080
Speaker 2: Like I'm like, it's inspiring to me, like the Vena's

779
00:37:10,239 --> 00:37:13,640
Speaker 2: you guessie, Like I look at y'all, Like when Verena

780
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 2: had her show, her one woman show, I'm like, this

781
00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:18,800
Speaker 2: is lit, bro, Like I want to produce this for you, yes,

782
00:37:18,840 --> 00:37:21,000
Speaker 2: Like I would love to produce. I would love to help.

783
00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:23,040
Speaker 2: I would love to I was on the soundboard like

784
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:25,920
Speaker 2: this is lit. How can I? How can I help?

785
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 2: So I'm very supportive. It's support.

786
00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you are.

787
00:37:31,160 --> 00:37:33,600
Speaker 2: It inspires me. When I walk in here, I was like, yo,

788
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:37,800
Speaker 2: like this is inspiring what we're doing next to ltt A.

789
00:37:38,200 --> 00:37:40,839
Speaker 2: You know, like, how can I It's not a competition thing.

790
00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:44,319
Speaker 2: It's an inspiring things. The way you carry yourself, the

791
00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:47,360
Speaker 2: way you show up, the way you you're you're so graceful,

792
00:37:47,400 --> 00:37:49,719
Speaker 2: but you you're you're very assertive. I'm like, I got

793
00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:52,239
Speaker 2: to work on that. You can't let people walk all over.

794
00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:56,040
Speaker 2: It's inspiring. So I love supporting my friends. I love

795
00:37:56,200 --> 00:38:00,080
Speaker 2: I love uh making them feel loved. I think I

796
00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:01,360
Speaker 2: think I'm a great friend.

797
00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:02,239
Speaker 1: You are I do.

798
00:38:02,480 --> 00:38:05,880
Speaker 2: I think I'm loyal, baby. You could tell me you

799
00:38:05,960 --> 00:38:07,880
Speaker 2: dated this nigga in second grade.

800
00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:12,040
Speaker 3: I will block him and got nothing to do with me.

801
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:14,359
Speaker 2: You introducing me to your nigga. I'm like, hey, I'm

802
00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:17,200
Speaker 2: looking on the floor. That's all I need. Hello.

803
00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:17,600
Speaker 1: Bye.

804
00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:19,480
Speaker 3: I don't need to be in no nigga face.

805
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:23,160
Speaker 2: I don't need all that. The people be deadly wedly.

806
00:38:23,680 --> 00:38:27,120
Speaker 2: You can't trust these girls, you know. So I treat

807
00:38:27,200 --> 00:38:29,040
Speaker 2: friendship the way I would want somebody to treat me.

808
00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:32,719
Speaker 2: Just show up, you know. In this season, friendship has

809
00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:34,680
Speaker 2: shanged for me. I don't think I ever required a

810
00:38:34,680 --> 00:38:35,600
Speaker 2: lot for my friends.

811
00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:37,319
Speaker 1: Wow, what does being required now?

812
00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:39,920
Speaker 2: Oh my god. I need to know you you for me.

813
00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:43,359
Speaker 2: I need to know your for me, by your actions,

814
00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:48,280
Speaker 2: by the safe space you create for me. I'm willing

815
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:50,640
Speaker 2: to go through the trenches with my friend, but I'm

816
00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:52,879
Speaker 2: willing to walk with them. I'm not willing to drag

817
00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:55,279
Speaker 2: them out the darkness. So, if you got that dark

818
00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:57,680
Speaker 2: cloud over you, if you're in the darkness, if you

819
00:38:57,800 --> 00:39:01,399
Speaker 2: got that victim mindset, if you I'll come check on you,

820
00:39:01,440 --> 00:39:03,440
Speaker 2: but I'm gonna keep walking. I'm not sitting in the

821
00:39:03,520 --> 00:39:05,759
Speaker 2: dark with you. And I did that a lot in

822
00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:08,319
Speaker 2: my past, and it put the dark cloud on me.

823
00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:11,160
Speaker 2: And now I got anxiety, and now I'm nervous, and

824
00:39:11,200 --> 00:39:13,480
Speaker 2: now my stomach curtain and now I'm walking in rooms.

825
00:39:13,480 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 2: I can't be my full authentic self because whatever was

826
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:18,400
Speaker 2: on you, now it's on me. So I'm no longer

827
00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:21,239
Speaker 2: willing to do that. I'll help you and walk with you,

828
00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:24,839
Speaker 2: but I'm not going to drag you. Yeah, so what

829
00:39:24,920 --> 00:39:29,680
Speaker 2: I require is just loyalty conversations. If something bothers you,

830
00:39:29,800 --> 00:39:31,640
Speaker 2: let's talk about it. You know, we got to have

831
00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:36,080
Speaker 2: those conversations in friendship too, So yeah, you know, it's like.

832
00:39:36,080 --> 00:39:37,799
Speaker 3: You're blowing up with you never told me.

833
00:39:38,440 --> 00:39:40,520
Speaker 2: I didn't know. I didn't know it was important to

834
00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:44,239
Speaker 2: you that I showed up for this soccer practice or

835
00:39:44,239 --> 00:39:45,080
Speaker 2: whatever it is.

836
00:39:45,160 --> 00:39:46,600
Speaker 3: Like whatever, it is a big deal.

837
00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:48,640
Speaker 2: You never told me. So you know you have to

838
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:51,920
Speaker 2: treat each friend different because each friend requires different things.

839
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:55,480
Speaker 1: Just that so true. Yeah, everybody needs something different.

840
00:39:55,239 --> 00:39:58,640
Speaker 2: Everybody needs something different. So I truly believe I'm a

841
00:39:58,680 --> 00:40:02,840
Speaker 2: great friend. I've gotten no complaints and anytime. And I

842
00:40:02,880 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 2: talked about this on the Craze podcast. He was like,

843
00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:07,400
Speaker 2: how do you take accountability? I'm like, I'm such a

844
00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:11,359
Speaker 2: people pleaser that accountability is easy for me because when

845
00:40:11,360 --> 00:40:13,000
Speaker 2: people tell me there's a problem, I'm like, how do

846
00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:15,600
Speaker 2: I fix this? I never like I did that. I'm like,

847
00:40:15,719 --> 00:40:19,560
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry. It's almost over accountable. And I don't

848
00:40:19,600 --> 00:40:23,480
Speaker 2: sit back and say, well, hold on, I didn't do that,

849
00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:25,520
Speaker 2: or you know, or hold on, let's talk about this

850
00:40:25,640 --> 00:40:29,359
Speaker 2: or so accountability is pretty pretty easy for me. But

851
00:40:29,880 --> 00:40:32,680
Speaker 2: as far as friendships, I feel like I'm a great friend.

852
00:40:33,239 --> 00:40:36,919
Speaker 2: Thank you friend. You are too too. You just show

853
00:40:37,040 --> 00:40:39,239
Speaker 2: up and show you want to go to the Hawks game? Yes,

854
00:40:39,400 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 2: not plan right right right? And I still I still

855
00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:48,160
Speaker 2: got to come to this house. We be so busy,

856
00:40:48,320 --> 00:40:49,840
Speaker 2: but we're gonna make it happen. We're gonna make it.

857
00:40:50,800 --> 00:40:53,080
Speaker 2: But yeah, I feel like I'm a great friend and

858
00:40:53,120 --> 00:40:58,040
Speaker 2: I'm super open to constructive criticism, whether it's in my relationship.

859
00:40:58,080 --> 00:41:00,880
Speaker 2: And I'm sure let's let's not let's be real. I'm human.

860
00:41:01,040 --> 00:41:03,319
Speaker 2: I'm sure there's been moments where I might have gotten

861
00:41:03,320 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 2: offended or might have been like not taking accountability. But

862
00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:09,399
Speaker 2: for the most part, overall, yeah, I feel like I'm

863
00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:13,040
Speaker 2: pretty easy to talk to. I fix it. I'm like

864
00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:15,040
Speaker 2: let's fix it. Like, I want to show up in

865
00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:16,960
Speaker 2: the way you need me to show up. So I'm

866
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:19,360
Speaker 2: open to constructive criticism even in friendships.

867
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:21,440
Speaker 1: I love that. Yeah, I love that's so important, And

868
00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:25,359
Speaker 1: it's also important to know that, like sometimes to take

869
00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:27,719
Speaker 1: in Beto him like, wait, did I do something wrong? Yeah,

870
00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:30,319
Speaker 1: because sometimes you can take things out of contest and

871
00:41:30,600 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 1: you really have to know where you're coming from on

872
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:32,800
Speaker 1: certain things.

873
00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:36,719
Speaker 2: And people need different stuff in different seasons. Maybe, Like

874
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:38,600
Speaker 2: I have a friend who went through a divorce. Before

875
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:40,399
Speaker 2: her divorce, she didn't need as much as she needs.

876
00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:45,200
Speaker 2: Now she's in a season of like I need my friends,

877
00:41:45,760 --> 00:41:47,800
Speaker 2: I need my sister. I'm trying to figure this out.

878
00:41:47,920 --> 00:41:50,200
Speaker 2: I'm like, you know, there's differences when you go through

879
00:41:50,239 --> 00:41:53,040
Speaker 2: a horrible friend breakup. I'm like, in this season, I

880
00:41:53,080 --> 00:41:56,000
Speaker 2: need loyalty. I need to know you my friend. Yes,

881
00:41:56,120 --> 00:41:59,359
Speaker 2: I didn't require as much at the beginning, but once

882
00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:02,680
Speaker 2: you go through stuff, you need certain things in certain seasons.

883
00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:03,799
Speaker 2: So just being vocal with.

884
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:04,520
Speaker 1: That, I love that.

885
00:42:04,600 --> 00:42:04,839
Speaker 2: Yeah.

886
00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:07,680
Speaker 1: I love that we have You and I both have

887
00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:13,400
Speaker 1: talked about friends, family, and forgiveness. Yes, this summer we

888
00:42:13,440 --> 00:42:16,439
Speaker 1: talked about something personal that I hang on through and

889
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:18,719
Speaker 1: how I was navigating that forgiveness.

890
00:42:18,840 --> 00:42:19,320
Speaker 2: Man.

891
00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:23,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, as a woman where you are now in your

892
00:42:23,320 --> 00:42:27,239
Speaker 1: walk with God, If you had to grade yourself A

893
00:42:27,760 --> 00:42:31,280
Speaker 1: to an F, what would you grade yourself on forgiving others?

894
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:37,800
Speaker 2: Mmm? I would say a B.

895
00:42:38,560 --> 00:42:39,680
Speaker 1: I said, I'd be minus.

896
00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 2: I would say a bee. It's so crazy. Can I

897
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:44,160
Speaker 2: read you something?

898
00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:44,439
Speaker 1: Yeah?

899
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:48,680
Speaker 2: I just text my sister yesterday. Wow, this is crazy.

900
00:42:48,719 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 2: You brought this up. Hold on, hold on, hold on,

901
00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:56,160
Speaker 2: my sister, But not yesterday today. I was with my

902
00:42:56,200 --> 00:42:59,359
Speaker 2: family yesterday. And sometimes I feel like we run from

903
00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:02,920
Speaker 2: family because family is a trigger for our past. So

904
00:43:02,960 --> 00:43:06,360
Speaker 2: certain things trigger us, Like we could choose our friends.

905
00:43:06,360 --> 00:43:08,200
Speaker 2: You can't choose your family, so but you always with

906
00:43:08,320 --> 00:43:10,839
Speaker 2: your friends, Well, I choose them. I didn't choose y'all.

907
00:43:10,920 --> 00:43:13,839
Speaker 2: And sometimes there's triggers over here with family. But my

908
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:16,239
Speaker 2: sister was like, it's so good you're around the family more.

909
00:43:16,440 --> 00:43:17,960
Speaker 2: And they were so happy you were there. I went

910
00:43:18,000 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 2: to Columbus and that's my dad grew up there. And

911
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:23,920
Speaker 2: we were there and I had a show, and my uncle,

912
00:43:24,040 --> 00:43:26,279
Speaker 2: my aunt, my dad's siblings who were all together, we

913
00:43:26,320 --> 00:43:28,440
Speaker 2: went to eat and it was just a beautiful family

914
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 2: something that I'm appreciating. The older I get in, the

915
00:43:31,160 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 2: more healing I know. So I was like, the more

916
00:43:34,600 --> 00:43:37,399
Speaker 2: I heal, the less family is a trigger. It used

917
00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:40,160
Speaker 2: to trigger me being around family sometimes, but that just

918
00:43:40,200 --> 00:43:43,320
Speaker 2: come from unhealed wounds. I'm glad I could bring everybody,

919
00:43:43,480 --> 00:43:47,319
Speaker 2: everybody together, I'm working through healing. Therapy has helped me

920
00:43:47,400 --> 00:43:50,799
Speaker 2: so much. Even so, and so I'm not gonna say

921
00:43:50,800 --> 00:43:54,720
Speaker 2: their name publicly. I'm not letting anybody control my emotions anymore.

922
00:43:55,640 --> 00:43:57,879
Speaker 2: I forgive her. And one day I'm gonna sit down

923
00:43:57,920 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 2: and talk to her and let her know she hurt me,

924
00:43:59,680 --> 00:44:02,440
Speaker 2: but let her know I forgive her. I'm moving on

925
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:05,400
Speaker 2: with life, with life, excuse me, and I'm going to

926
00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:08,719
Speaker 2: be happy. No one in this world will control how

927
00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 2: I feel. So the more you heal, and you're like,

928
00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:14,200
Speaker 2: I just want to be happy. I don't want to

929
00:44:14,239 --> 00:44:17,920
Speaker 2: hold this. It doesn't feel good. You address it and

930
00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:21,439
Speaker 2: you find the proper steps in tools to move through

931
00:44:21,480 --> 00:44:23,880
Speaker 2: it and move forward. You don't have to forget, but

932
00:44:23,880 --> 00:44:27,040
Speaker 2: it's no more anger. You gotta let it go, and

933
00:44:27,080 --> 00:44:28,880
Speaker 2: you gotta find the tools that help you do that.

934
00:44:29,000 --> 00:44:33,919
Speaker 2: Therapy honesty being real, Like, yes, I was angry. Yes,

935
00:44:33,960 --> 00:44:37,000
Speaker 2: I was jealous. Yes I was envious. Yes I was bitter. Yes,

936
00:44:37,040 --> 00:44:40,799
Speaker 2: this upset me. Addressing those emotions being honest so you

937
00:44:40,840 --> 00:44:42,719
Speaker 2: can move through them and not hold on to them.

938
00:44:42,880 --> 00:44:43,560
Speaker 1: Oh that's good.

939
00:44:43,640 --> 00:44:45,960
Speaker 2: Yeah. One of the best books. Have you read, The

940
00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:46,640
Speaker 2: Untethered Soul?

941
00:44:46,880 --> 00:44:52,240
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, Carl, you listen my tailor, one of my tailors.

942
00:44:52,239 --> 00:44:53,600
Speaker 1: He actually gave me that book a few years ago

943
00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 1: to read.

944
00:44:54,120 --> 00:44:54,719
Speaker 2: It's so good.

945
00:44:54,840 --> 00:44:55,120
Speaker 1: Yeah.

946
00:44:55,160 --> 00:44:58,279
Speaker 2: It shows you how to just let go, go, be

947
00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:00,920
Speaker 2: in the moment. If we were really just in this moment,

948
00:45:01,360 --> 00:45:03,480
Speaker 2: we would have no issues because I'm just sitting here

949
00:45:03,520 --> 00:45:05,000
Speaker 2: with you. I'm not thinking about what I'm gonna eat later.

950
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:06,960
Speaker 2: I'm not thinking about where I gotta go. I'm not

951
00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:09,240
Speaker 2: thinking about my nap, I'm not thinking about it I'm tired,

952
00:45:09,640 --> 00:45:12,839
Speaker 2: I'm not thinking. I'm just here with Crystal, be where

953
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:15,000
Speaker 2: your feet are, be in the moment. And when you

954
00:45:15,040 --> 00:45:16,960
Speaker 2: do that, you can forgive and let go.

955
00:45:17,480 --> 00:45:20,440
Speaker 1: Yes, so good. Now, how would you grade yourself on

956
00:45:20,520 --> 00:45:21,440
Speaker 1: forgiving yourself?

957
00:45:21,760 --> 00:45:22,080
Speaker 2: Man?

958
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:24,360
Speaker 1: Because I know for me it's harder. I'm harder on

959
00:45:24,400 --> 00:45:26,920
Speaker 1: myself than I am among other people. I can be like, Okay,

960
00:45:27,040 --> 00:45:30,400
Speaker 1: that's fine, whatever, move on. But when it comes to me,

961
00:45:30,680 --> 00:45:32,520
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm harder on myself than I am

962
00:45:32,560 --> 00:45:33,120
Speaker 1: on others.

963
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:36,319
Speaker 2: A recent situation about a year year and a half ago,

964
00:45:37,440 --> 00:45:41,160
Speaker 2: it took me I probably went from an F to

965
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:43,799
Speaker 2: now a year and a half later, I'm at like

966
00:45:43,840 --> 00:45:46,839
Speaker 2: a C A B. Because you'd be like, why would

967
00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:48,799
Speaker 2: you do that? How could you be so stupid when

968
00:45:48,800 --> 00:45:51,960
Speaker 2: you allowed that person to do that? Like you beat

969
00:45:52,000 --> 00:45:54,319
Speaker 2: yourself up on what you allowed, but you only did

970
00:45:54,360 --> 00:45:58,440
Speaker 2: what you knew you can only do with the tools

971
00:45:58,440 --> 00:46:00,840
Speaker 2: and the wisdom you have in that sea. That's I

972
00:46:00,880 --> 00:46:03,239
Speaker 2: thought I was. I was being the best version of

973
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:06,120
Speaker 2: myself that I could be then. So with forgiving myself,

974
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:09,920
Speaker 2: I'm much better now. But I have been hard on myself,

975
00:46:09,960 --> 00:46:11,920
Speaker 2: Like and you gotta stop. You gotta be like you're

976
00:46:12,000 --> 00:46:15,160
Speaker 2: bullying yourself, Like you're being a bully. You're being a

977
00:46:15,160 --> 00:46:17,360
Speaker 2: bully to you. You wouldn't say this to anybody else.

978
00:46:17,760 --> 00:46:19,800
Speaker 2: That was dumb. I would never say that to you

979
00:46:19,840 --> 00:46:21,520
Speaker 2: if you if you told me, even if it was

980
00:46:21,560 --> 00:46:24,120
Speaker 2: a dumb decision, I wouldn't be like, friend, that's dumb.

981
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:26,919
Speaker 2: I'd be like, why'd you do that? It's okay? Though,

982
00:46:27,360 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 2: I would I would comfort you, and I would let

983
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:31,239
Speaker 2: you know it's gonna be okay. So I think we

984
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:34,840
Speaker 2: need to extend the same grace to ourselves. Yeah, so

985
00:46:34,880 --> 00:46:36,320
Speaker 2: I'm better we forgiving myself.

986
00:46:36,440 --> 00:46:39,600
Speaker 1: I love that. I love that. I just love our dogs.

987
00:46:39,680 --> 00:46:40,640
Speaker 1: I know. Is it over?

988
00:46:41,600 --> 00:46:42,880
Speaker 2: Don't kick me off the count.

989
00:46:43,160 --> 00:46:46,200
Speaker 1: I would never I would never know. But seriously, this

990
00:46:46,280 --> 00:46:49,279
Speaker 1: has been amazing. I love like how we can just

991
00:46:49,280 --> 00:46:50,480
Speaker 1: talk about anything, anything.

992
00:46:50,520 --> 00:46:53,280
Speaker 2: This is what we'd be at the house.

993
00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:55,640
Speaker 3: Key Ken, do you hear me on the phone?

994
00:46:55,719 --> 00:46:56,360
Speaker 1: Key Ken?

995
00:46:56,640 --> 00:47:04,600
Speaker 5: You let me know y'are Yeah, girl, I ran And

996
00:47:04,680 --> 00:47:07,560
Speaker 5: when you text me that girl, it's so stupid.

997
00:47:08,600 --> 00:47:11,799
Speaker 2: See we're not secretcy we private. Yeah, we ain't telling

998
00:47:11,840 --> 00:47:17,080
Speaker 2: y'all everything. Yeah, keeping cute, positive, sweetie. I love you.

999
00:47:17,160 --> 00:47:17,600
Speaker 1: I love you.

1000
00:47:17,880 --> 00:47:20,399
Speaker 2: I love you so much. I am so proud of you, bro.

1001
00:47:20,840 --> 00:47:22,840
Speaker 1: You Wow, I'm proud of you.

1002
00:47:22,880 --> 00:47:23,080
Speaker 2: Wow.

1003
00:47:23,360 --> 00:47:25,760
Speaker 1: You and you equally. You talk about how I inspire you.

1004
00:47:25,760 --> 00:47:29,799
Speaker 1: You inspired me, like seriously, the way you pushed me.

1005
00:47:29,840 --> 00:47:31,840
Speaker 1: And remember I remember when I was first doing this

1006
00:47:31,880 --> 00:47:33,440
Speaker 1: and I was like, yeah, I'm gonna do a podcast

1007
00:47:33,680 --> 00:47:35,560
Speaker 1: and said like okay, yeah that's good. What's what's up?

1008
00:47:35,680 --> 00:47:37,040
Speaker 1: You were like let me know, like if you need

1009
00:47:37,080 --> 00:47:39,120
Speaker 1: like camera people are where to get equipment, or if

1010
00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:41,280
Speaker 1: you need me to help you, like if you already

1011
00:47:41,320 --> 00:47:43,920
Speaker 1: had your own podcasts. I was like, this girl is

1012
00:47:44,040 --> 00:47:46,640
Speaker 1: like you're just a unicorn thing. I just love you.

1013
00:47:46,760 --> 00:47:47,480
Speaker 1: I love you too.

1014
00:47:47,760 --> 00:47:50,000
Speaker 2: I'm so proud of this. I see it. I'm like

1015
00:47:50,120 --> 00:47:52,120
Speaker 2: literally seeing it. You're gonna be This is gonna be

1016
00:47:52,160 --> 00:47:56,400
Speaker 2: a show TV like Daytime taught you. I see it,

1017
00:47:56,520 --> 00:47:59,680
Speaker 2: red carpets, everything, everything you've been manifesting, It's gonna happen.

1018
00:47:59,680 --> 00:48:01,600
Speaker 2: It's come. You're already in it. You just got to

1019
00:48:01,640 --> 00:48:03,680
Speaker 2: keep walking towards it. Already there.

1020
00:48:03,920 --> 00:48:05,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I feel it. I feel like God is

1021
00:48:05,800 --> 00:48:09,200
Speaker 1: really moving and I'm just excited. When I'm telling you.

1022
00:48:09,200 --> 00:48:12,560
Speaker 1: When I saw this space, I was my guy tears. Yeah,

1023
00:48:12,640 --> 00:48:15,800
Speaker 1: I live. Suri was in the middle of like going okay,

1024
00:48:15,880 --> 00:48:16,359
Speaker 1: this what were doing.

1025
00:48:16,400 --> 00:48:18,920
Speaker 2: I was just like, I know, because it's like it's

1026
00:48:18,960 --> 00:48:21,560
Speaker 2: all coming together and all the losses you took, even

1027
00:48:21,560 --> 00:48:25,440
Speaker 2: the people that the opportunities whatever doors were shut, you

1028
00:48:25,520 --> 00:48:28,200
Speaker 2: realize why God allowed it to happen for this very moment.

1029
00:48:28,360 --> 00:48:30,000
Speaker 2: And I just have one request. I just want to

1030
00:48:30,040 --> 00:48:32,760
Speaker 2: ask you one thing. Yes, love, when you get married

1031
00:48:32,800 --> 00:48:34,120
Speaker 2: please let me be the flower girl.

1032
00:48:39,560 --> 00:48:40,319
Speaker 3: I just want to.

1033
00:48:45,680 --> 00:48:48,879
Speaker 1: That's all I want. I got you, so I would

1034
00:48:48,960 --> 00:48:50,960
Speaker 1: love to know, or my people will want to know

1035
00:48:51,000 --> 00:48:52,040
Speaker 1: because I probably already know.

1036
00:48:52,280 --> 00:48:53,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know everything already.

1037
00:48:53,560 --> 00:48:55,680
Speaker 1: Yeah. When is there anything that you have on the

1038
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Speaker 1: horizon that you want to share with us? Because we

1039
00:48:57,719 --> 00:48:59,080
Speaker 1: want to support you in any way we can.

1040
00:48:59,200 --> 00:48:59,399
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1041
00:48:59,440 --> 00:49:01,319
Speaker 2: So this is my first time sharing this. I was

1042
00:49:01,360 --> 00:49:03,279
Speaker 2: gonna go to Patreon, but I decided to start my

1043
00:49:03,320 --> 00:49:06,160
Speaker 2: own platform. You are actually a part of it. I

1044
00:49:06,200 --> 00:49:08,759
Speaker 2: can't wait for them to see us on there. But

1045
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Speaker 2: the LTCA app just community for women where we share.

1046
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Speaker 2: I'm producing shows for the app, extra content, daily motivation,

1047
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Speaker 2: daily demotionals, daily affirmations, journaling, just a whole healing mentally, spiritually, physically.

1048
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Speaker 2: We even got workouts on there. Everything. Yeah. So app

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1052
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Speaker 1: I love it, Thank you, thank you. I'll check her out.

1053
00:49:40,400 --> 00:49:42,840
Speaker 1: One of the reasons I love the conversations we have

1054
00:49:42,960 --> 00:49:45,279
Speaker 1: on this show is they leave me so full and

1055
00:49:45,320 --> 00:49:48,480
Speaker 1: I learned so much. One of my biggest takeaways from

1056
00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:52,920
Speaker 1: today's talk is everything doesn't have to be talked about.

1057
00:49:53,040 --> 00:49:57,120
Speaker 1: Transparency is fine, but privacy is definitely important. Keep the

1058
00:49:57,120 --> 00:49:59,439
Speaker 1: things that are sacred to you close to your heart.

1059
00:50:04,960 --> 00:50:07,280
Speaker 1: Thank you guys so much for hanging out with me today.

1060
00:50:07,600 --> 00:50:09,880
Speaker 1: You can follow me on all social media platforms that

1061
00:50:09,960 --> 00:50:12,920
Speaker 1: love Christopherne and you can also follow our show at

1062
00:50:13,000 --> 00:50:15,799
Speaker 1: Keep It Positive Sweetie. If you wanna write into our

1063
00:50:15,800 --> 00:50:18,760
Speaker 1: positive Outcomes listener letter, you can send us an email

1064
00:50:18,840 --> 00:50:22,800
Speaker 1: at Keep It Positivesweetie at gmail dot com. In the meantime,

1065
00:50:22,840 --> 00:50:25,719
Speaker 1: in between time, y'all already know what to do. Keep

1066
00:50:25,760 --> 00:50:28,680
Speaker 1: it Positive, Sweeties. See you next time. Love you, guys,