WEBVTT - Charge it To The Game: with Jemele Hill

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<v Speaker 1>Big things happen when you're pretty, pretty bold, pretty clever,

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<v Speaker 1>pretty strong. I'm Danielle Robe and each week my guests

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<v Speaker 1>and I have conversations that put a new spin on

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<v Speaker 1>pretty this is pretty smart. Today, I'm talking to one

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<v Speaker 1>of my favorite journalists, Jammel Hill. She's an Emmy winning

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<v Speaker 1>sports journalist who spent twelve years with ESPN. And it's

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<v Speaker 1>not so much what she covers, but for me, it's

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<v Speaker 1>how she covers it. I know I'm going to read

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<v Speaker 1>or watch something valuable In a world that is so

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<v Speaker 1>consumed with nonsense, Jammel Hill lives and works above the noise.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, sports media isn't known for being controversial or

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<v Speaker 1>even inherently political, but in twenty seventeen, she made her

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<v Speaker 1>mark in shifting that landscape with one single tweet. You

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<v Speaker 1>may remember her headline making moment when she tweeted about

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<v Speaker 1>then President Donald Trump, calling him a white supremacist. The

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<v Speaker 1>White House called on ESPN to fire her, and Jammel

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<v Speaker 1>received death threats and I can only imagine much more.

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<v Speaker 2>But those who had hoped.

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<v Speaker 1>To silence her quickly learned that Jammel is a woman

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<v Speaker 1>who is not afraid to say what's on her mind.

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<v Speaker 1>She's not afraid to have the conversation that everyone else

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<v Speaker 1>is avoiding. She's a woman and a person of conviction.

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<v Speaker 1>She left ESPN in twenty eighteen, and now she's doing

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<v Speaker 1>things on her own terms and making more money than

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<v Speaker 1>ever before. She's a writer for The Atlantic, podcast host

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<v Speaker 1>creator of the podcast network Unbothered, which is a partnership

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<v Speaker 1>with Spotify, highlighting black female voices both in front.

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<v Speaker 2>And behind the microphone.

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<v Speaker 1>And she's the author of a new memoir, Aupill, a

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<v Speaker 1>book she said she never wanted to write. You've said

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<v Speaker 1>that Detroit is built into the fabric of who you are.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like geography actually plays a big role in

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<v Speaker 1>who people become.

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<v Speaker 2>What about you is so Detroit?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, if people notice, I mean, I guess you could

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<v Speaker 3>say this to a degree about everybody is that everybody

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<v Speaker 3>puts on for their city. But I feel like if

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<v Speaker 3>you're from Detroit, you put on even harder because Detroit

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<v Speaker 3>often does not get the attention that other major cities get.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, we don't get the attention of New York

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<v Speaker 3>or Chicago. Our sisters, yes, yes, the not to Chicago,

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<v Speaker 3>and so you know, we don't get that love of

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<v Speaker 3>an La or Miami. So when we go hard, we

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<v Speaker 3>go hard, and because of that, we have this chip

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<v Speaker 3>on our shoulders, you know, we feel the inferiority complex.

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<v Speaker 3>But it also works to our benefit because it makes

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<v Speaker 3>you want to grind and you want to show people

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<v Speaker 3>that not only good things can come from Detroit, but

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<v Speaker 3>that we have a different sense and work ethic than

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<v Speaker 3>other places.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, everybody in Detroit got a hustle.

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<v Speaker 3>That's just that's that's just how we grew up, that's

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<v Speaker 3>how we're raised. And I think the fact that we

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<v Speaker 3>have such a you know, blue collar culture, being that

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<v Speaker 3>the auto industry is you know, positioned and headquartered in Detroit.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, that kind of bleeds into your personality. It's

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<v Speaker 3>like you grow up knowing that you have to prove yourself,

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<v Speaker 3>that you have to work hard, that you have a

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<v Speaker 3>grit and a determination, and so all those things are

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<v Speaker 3>very much fused into my DNA.

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<v Speaker 1>That grit is something I feel from all my Detroit friends.

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<v Speaker 1>And there's a groundedness too, like, no matter where you

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<v Speaker 1>guys go, you're the same person you've always been.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I heard that from a lot of people, and

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<v Speaker 3>that makes me feel good because everybody usually tells me like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>I know somebody from Detroit.

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<v Speaker 4>Detroit people are the best.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's a combination of not just how we

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<v Speaker 3>are raised in the city, but also the Midwest, as

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<v Speaker 3>you know, like it's just different. You know, there's a

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<v Speaker 3>different sense of value, of different sense of priorities in

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<v Speaker 3>the Midwest, and we are generally friendly, I think, And

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<v Speaker 3>so I think so yeah, I mean I found in

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<v Speaker 3>Chicago people to be wonderful, so relatives in Chicago, and

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<v Speaker 3>so you know, I think just culturally the Midwest is nicer.

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<v Speaker 4>No, this is everywhere else, but.

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<v Speaker 2>It is best.

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<v Speaker 4>I will say, we're a little more friendly.

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<v Speaker 1>So you wrote, my parents had a lot of drug

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<v Speaker 1>issues when I was growing up. And the one thing

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<v Speaker 1>I loved about writing is that if you don't like

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<v Speaker 1>your reality, it allows you.

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<v Speaker 2>To create a new one.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that you are a writer first. It's one

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<v Speaker 1>of my favorite things. When I was researching for this interview.

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<v Speaker 1>I can tell you truly love it. You don't just

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<v Speaker 1>put that on your bio because it's like a thing

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<v Speaker 1>that you do.

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<v Speaker 2>How did writing create this new reality for you?

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<v Speaker 3>So writing is something I've loved from the beginning. As

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<v Speaker 3>a child, two things I love to do read and

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<v Speaker 3>to write, which sounds very basic, but I was a

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<v Speaker 3>voracious reader and I also love to write fiction and poetry.

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<v Speaker 4>I just really took to language in general.

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<v Speaker 3>And when you read a book, it does transpor into

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<v Speaker 3>another place. Really good books, you know, you get lost

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<v Speaker 3>to them. It's a reason why they say that. And

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<v Speaker 3>even though I know people see the ESPN resume and

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<v Speaker 3>some of the other things I've done, I didn't come

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<v Speaker 3>to ESPN as a television personality. I came there as

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<v Speaker 3>a writer and that was what I did and have

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<v Speaker 3>done the bulk of my career, despite the television success

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<v Speaker 3>I've been fortunate.

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<v Speaker 4>Enough to experience.

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<v Speaker 3>So with writing, it was not only just about expressing myself,

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<v Speaker 3>but it was also about telling stories and imagination. And

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<v Speaker 3>when you grow up in some of the challenging circumstances

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<v Speaker 3>that I did with MO both my parents being recovering addicts,

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<v Speaker 3>writing was very much a refuge for me.

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<v Speaker 4>It was a safe haven for me.

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<v Speaker 3>I could create without boundaries or limits, and it was

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<v Speaker 3>also a sounding board.

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<v Speaker 4>You know. My my earliest writings, beyond.

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<v Speaker 3>Just the fiction and the poetry, was keeping a journal

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<v Speaker 3>and so at journal I was able to vent and

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<v Speaker 3>to rage.

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<v Speaker 4>And to observe and to do all these things that.

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<v Speaker 3>I think are a very integral part of writing, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>writing especially, I would say journalism in particular, which is

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<v Speaker 3>what I obviously gravitated toward. Journalism is about curiosity. It's

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<v Speaker 3>about wanting to know how the world works and why.

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<v Speaker 3>And I tell younger journalists it's like, you can't really

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<v Speaker 3>be a journalist if you aren't curious, if you don't

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<v Speaker 3>walk down the street and say, hey, I wonder why.

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<v Speaker 3>If you don't do that, you're in the wrong profession.

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<v Speaker 3>And so I had the sense of wonder, curiosity and creativity,

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<v Speaker 3>and because of that, journalism was just such a natural

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<v Speaker 3>route for me to take.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's interesting that you said creativity. What about

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<v Speaker 1>creativity you think plays a role?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I can't do math, and I hate science.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I admire science, and you science and believe

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<v Speaker 3>in science, but oh God is so boring, right, you

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<v Speaker 3>know what I'm saying. And math it was like, ooh mean,

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<v Speaker 3>numbers do not get along. We are sworn enemies. Once

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<v Speaker 3>you eliminate those two, like, what's left? Oh, that's right, righting?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I'm big on critical thinking, big on reading,

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<v Speaker 3>big on discovery, and I think creativity is a part

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<v Speaker 3>of that. It's always easy for me to tap into

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<v Speaker 3>my imagination and to use language to communicate sometimes the

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<v Speaker 3>things that you can't do verbally.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that's the beauty of it. And so I just

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<v Speaker 4>said this.

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<v Speaker 3>Recently to an author I was interviewing. Is that reading

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<v Speaker 3>her fiction novels. Her name is adak A Lotte, and

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<v Speaker 3>you know, she's written some amazing fiction novels.

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<v Speaker 4>And I told her, I was like.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, reading you made me realize writing is you

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<v Speaker 3>answering the questions you can't.

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<v Speaker 4>Say out loud. That's what writing is.

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<v Speaker 3>And so that's what I've always tried to do, is

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<v Speaker 3>like answer the questions I've always wondering that people wonder.

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<v Speaker 3>And sometimes those questions aren't comfortable, but you want to

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<v Speaker 3>answer and get to a truth when you write. And

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<v Speaker 3>that's what writing represents for me.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you because you're on TV all the time, do

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<v Speaker 1>you find it easier to write down your thoughts versus

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<v Speaker 1>because you seem like very easy to speak them.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it is.

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<v Speaker 3>TV is just different. I mean, the medium is very

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<v Speaker 3>instantly impactful. People when you write something might have to

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<v Speaker 3>sit with it for a minute, or it just shifts

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<v Speaker 3>them in a different way.

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<v Speaker 4>With TV is much more thunderous.

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<v Speaker 3>And so what I had to learn as especially during

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<v Speaker 3>the early stages of my television career, is how to

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<v Speaker 3>be succinct.

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<v Speaker 4>Is how to be succinct?

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<v Speaker 2>Give them radio people figure that out.

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<v Speaker 3>I got to write, like you, you don't have a

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<v Speaker 3>thousand words to explain. You got thirty seconds tops if

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<v Speaker 3>you're lucky, and so you have to figure out how

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<v Speaker 3>to do that. So it just forced me to use

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<v Speaker 3>a different muscle, but it was all in sync with

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<v Speaker 3>what you do and what.

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<v Speaker 4>I should say. What I do as a journalist, it

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<v Speaker 4>was the same thing but shorter.

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<v Speaker 2>So come up with a bar, that's it.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think it also helped because I never saw

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<v Speaker 3>myself as a TV person. I was always a writer masquerading.

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<v Speaker 4>As a TV person. And when you have.

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<v Speaker 3>That mentality, I think you don't take TV as seriously,

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<v Speaker 3>and by that I mean yourself seriously.

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<v Speaker 4>I took TV itself seriously, the craft and understanding it.

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't take myself seriously.

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<v Speaker 3>And there are people, as you know, in television that

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<v Speaker 3>tend to take themselves very seriously, and so I always

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<v Speaker 3>had a natural comfort in front of the camera because

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<v Speaker 3>I was only trying to be myself and that was it.

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<v Speaker 2>That's such a good distinction.

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<v Speaker 1>So you've actually been earning a living writing since you

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<v Speaker 1>were fifteen, which is wild because most people can't earn

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<v Speaker 1>a living writing.

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<v Speaker 4>Ever, that is true.

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<v Speaker 2>So how do you.

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<v Speaker 1>Think that your life experiences as a kid gave you

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<v Speaker 1>an edge? Because you see things in a very particular way,

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<v Speaker 1>which is why people gravitate towards you.

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<v Speaker 4>That's a really fascinating question.

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<v Speaker 3>Is because your lived experience does shape you as a writer,

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<v Speaker 3>and that's very true.

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<v Speaker 4>So I think.

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<v Speaker 3>I was able because I grew up in poverty, grew

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<v Speaker 3>up again surrounded by addiction, you know, and other things

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<v Speaker 3>in challenging neighborhoods. It allowed me to have a level

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<v Speaker 3>of empathy because I know what I I had been through.

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<v Speaker 3>I had been around people who had been through far

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<v Speaker 3>worse and saw how their trauma played out in their

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<v Speaker 3>lives consistently, and so it gives you a different sensibility.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, when you write without.

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<v Speaker 3>Empathy, then you're never going to reach a different place

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<v Speaker 3>of understanding. And even if it was something that I

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<v Speaker 3>could never have imagined for myself. If you just really

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<v Speaker 3>do something as simple as putting yourself in somebody else's shoes,

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's much easier to translate why something is

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<v Speaker 3>important and mean something.

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<v Speaker 4>I may not be able to identify with Lebron James

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<v Speaker 4>physically because he's six's eight and.

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<v Speaker 3>Two hundred and seventy pounds and is, you know, one

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<v Speaker 3>of the greatest basketball players who ever played. When you

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<v Speaker 3>read about how he grew up, you know, his mother,

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<v Speaker 3>having him at fourteen or fifteen years old, living in

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<v Speaker 3>eleven different houses, you can very much understand the pressure

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<v Speaker 3>he's under or was under, you know, to be on

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<v Speaker 3>the cover of Sports Illustrated at sixteen.

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<v Speaker 2>And tools had to cultivate.

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<v Speaker 4>Like right on the fly.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean he was given a hundred million dollars when

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<v Speaker 3>he was eighteen years old. So you think about that,

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<v Speaker 3>and you think about what he's become a successful husband

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<v Speaker 3>and father and businessman. It's one of the most amazing

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<v Speaker 3>sports stories, amazing American stories ever told.

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<v Speaker 4>So I think the route to understand.

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<v Speaker 3>Again is not necessarily and how talented he is, but

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<v Speaker 3>understanding what drives him, and I can understand what drives

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<v Speaker 3>him because it drove me. And so that's what I

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<v Speaker 3>mean about, like, if you approach writing and understanding the

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<v Speaker 3>people you're talking about from a position of empathy and

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<v Speaker 3>understanding those other circumstances, it allows you to have more

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<v Speaker 3>nuanced conversations about them. I mean that's not to say

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<v Speaker 3>that people who oooh dude, Lebron doesn't fall into this category,

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<v Speaker 3>but people who do, like really awful things. I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't I'm not saying that you don't go into

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<v Speaker 3>it having a level of accountability either, But I do

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<v Speaker 3>think the empathy is a core component when you write.

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<v Speaker 1>As you said that, I kept thinking, that is exactly

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<v Speaker 1>what differentiates your writing. I heard you talk about Michael

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<v Speaker 1>Vick once and I was like, she's the only person

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<v Speaker 1>that's speaking about this with nuance. There's so much more

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<v Speaker 1>to that story than just he did something bad.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean an empathy.

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<v Speaker 3>It is the empathy. And I also, you know, you

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<v Speaker 3>just follow the course of things. It's just like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>he grew up in a subculture where fighting dogs was

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<v Speaker 3>not wrong.

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<v Speaker 4>He also is you know at that point.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I think financially the lynchpin of his family,

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<v Speaker 3>he is coming to more money than he ever thought possible,

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<v Speaker 3>and between the pressures of family, the pressures of being

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<v Speaker 3>a highly paid professional athlete.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not saying that these things drove him to dogfight.

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<v Speaker 3>What I am saying is that, you know, a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of people are trying to understand how somebody in that

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<v Speaker 3>position could put it on the line for that, and

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<v Speaker 3>that's the question you're trying to figure it out, and

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<v Speaker 3>to figure out, you know, frankly, is that are we

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<v Speaker 3>going to Some people will never forgive Michael Vick and

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<v Speaker 3>are harder on him than they are on people who have,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, no disrespected dolls, but harm. So, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I try to bring that level of understanding to it.

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<v Speaker 3>But I have to say the one thing I do

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<v Speaker 3>not miss about television because it was only always so

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<v Speaker 3>important to me, I don't honestly miss having to come

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<v Speaker 3>up with bite sized viewpoints on people where nuance is required.

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<v Speaker 3>And what I love about writing is that it begs

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<v Speaker 3>you for the nuance.

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<v Speaker 4>TV doesn't like.

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<v Speaker 3>Unless you are able to have an hour long show

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<v Speaker 3>where you can go on and go any place you want,

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<v Speaker 3>which nobody does because you're trying to keep everybody's attention.

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<v Speaker 3>TV just doesn't give you that, And I have to

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<v Speaker 3>say I do not miss on a daily basis having

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<v Speaker 3>to put out soundbites about people I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>The podcast space has given me that. Do you feel

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<v Speaker 2>that way?

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<v Speaker 4>I feel that way.

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<v Speaker 3>I love podcasting And the reason why when I left

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<v Speaker 3>ESPN one of the first deals I signed was to

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<v Speaker 3>do a podcast is because I missed the nuance. I

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<v Speaker 3>miss being able to do this, miss having those convers

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<v Speaker 3>and just the nature of podcasting lends itself to intimacy,

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<v Speaker 3>which you don't get in TV. So it was the

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<v Speaker 3>perfect platform for me. And I do a lot of things,

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<v Speaker 3>but you know, the podcast really is a passion project.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a sole thing it is.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that's a perfect way to put it.

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<v Speaker 2>I did not know you love baseball so much.

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<v Speaker 4>I did. Look, let me let me explain before thee

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<v Speaker 4>has come from me.

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<v Speaker 3>Baseball was my first love growing up, and people have

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<v Speaker 3>to understand one, I'm a thousand years old and because

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<v Speaker 3>of that, there were certain things that are at our

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<v Speaker 3>fingertips now that were not in existence.

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<v Speaker 4>And we're talking about.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, the early nineteen eighties and the Detroit Tigers

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<v Speaker 3>were really good and they won World Series in nineteen

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<v Speaker 3>eighty four, and then they were competitive for a while.

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<v Speaker 3>And so growing up in the backdrop of your city's

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<v Speaker 3>team being great is going to suck you in. And

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<v Speaker 3>that's exactly what happened. And I used to listen to

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<v Speaker 3>their games on the radio, watch them on TV. When

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<v Speaker 3>you followed your teams, you had to follow them either

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<v Speaker 3>through watching the local newscast, through some snippets on national news,

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<v Speaker 3>or you had to read the newspaper, which is something

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<v Speaker 3>that I did religiously.

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<v Speaker 4>As I read the newspaper to follow my sports.

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<v Speaker 2>That's amazing. No one does.

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<v Speaker 4>No one don't know that. You don't even know what

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<v Speaker 4>a paper feels like anymore.

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<v Speaker 3>But I grew up reading the newspaper, which was honestly

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<v Speaker 3>divine intervention because that sucked me into journalism is reading

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<v Speaker 3>about sports and just reading about it. I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>so people write about sports for a living.

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<v Speaker 4>That's interesting.

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<v Speaker 3>And you know, fast forward to when I was a

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<v Speaker 3>sophomore junior in high school is when I joined the

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<v Speaker 3>newspaper staff. From there, I started working for the local

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<v Speaker 3>newspaper answering phones.

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<v Speaker 4>So I've been very lucky to have always been paid

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<v Speaker 4>as a writer.

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<v Speaker 3>So since I was like fifteen, sixteen years old, I've

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<v Speaker 3>been a paid writer, So that in itself is like

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<v Speaker 3>a tremendous achievement for somebody who had never heard of

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<v Speaker 3>sports writing growing up or didn't know any sports writers.

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<v Speaker 3>It was like, Yeah, I'm gonna be a sports writer.

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<v Speaker 4>That was the goal.

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<v Speaker 1>You write for one of my favorite outlets now, The Atlantic,

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<v Speaker 1>and your bio sports at its conversion with gender, race,

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<v Speaker 1>and politics. I don't mean to keep bringing this back

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<v Speaker 1>to geography, but I do think that people that grow

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<v Speaker 1>up in cities where race is a part of their

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<v Speaker 1>city more so a different perspective for me. Chicago's the

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<v Speaker 1>second most segregated city in America. Race is at the forefront,

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<v Speaker 1>so I've always thought about it. Detroit's very similar. Race

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<v Speaker 1>has always been a part of that city.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean, even though I grew up in a

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<v Speaker 3>city that was I think right now Detroit is the

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<v Speaker 3>blackest city in the country because I think it's I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>it's basically like eighty five percent black. DC was the

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<v Speaker 3>chocolate city that people were familiar with that. I know

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<v Speaker 3>people look at Atlanta, but we have more black folks

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<v Speaker 3>in Detroit than they, you know, haveing Atlanta. I'm pretty

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<v Speaker 3>positive that's the case. And even DC, because you know,

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<v Speaker 3>gentrification and everything, they've lost a little of the chocolatedness,

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<v Speaker 3>if you will. But I say all that to say,

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<v Speaker 3>even though you're growing up largely around people that look

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<v Speaker 3>like you, the race informs the policies that lead to

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<v Speaker 3>what you see play out every day. So you talked

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<v Speaker 3>about the segregation of Chicago, which is very real and

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<v Speaker 3>continues to be that way. In Detroit, it's the same way.

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<v Speaker 3>The reason why Eminem named his movie eight Mile is

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<v Speaker 3>because eight miles the dividing line between the city and

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<v Speaker 3>the suburbs. Detroit, like many urban centers, was the casualty

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<v Speaker 3>of white flight. I mean, there were race riots in Detroit,

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<v Speaker 3>and when it got to a point with the auto industry,

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<v Speaker 3>there were race riots in the plants. When the auto

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<v Speaker 3>industry where you had you know, black and white workers

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<v Speaker 3>working alongside each other, there was a lot of beef,

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<v Speaker 3>even though really they should have been on the side

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<v Speaker 3>of being against ownership and the corporate nature of what

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<v Speaker 3>they were doing. A lot of racial tension that developed,

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<v Speaker 3>and the race riots that happened in nineteen sixty seven.

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<v Speaker 3>That wasn't even the worst race riots that have ever

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<v Speaker 3>happened in Detroit's history, which people don't know. But when

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<v Speaker 3>the race riots happened, after that, white people fled the

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<v Speaker 3>city of Detroit and droves.

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<v Speaker 4>And see when that happens.

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<v Speaker 3>The reason why people point out the impact of white

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<v Speaker 3>flight is that because of the perceptions of race, perceptions

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<v Speaker 3>of black people, it kills your tax base. So all

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<v Speaker 3>of a sudden, if you go from a city that

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<v Speaker 3>is a million too, suddenly.

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<v Speaker 4>You have like two three hundred thousand white people just leave.

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<v Speaker 3>Then it's taking the tax space with them, which means

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<v Speaker 3>it changes the dynamic of city services, of policies, schools,

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<v Speaker 3>all of that. And you know, still very much at

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<v Speaker 3>that time, and it still happens today in America. You

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<v Speaker 3>have redlining, you have all these things that have happened

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<v Speaker 3>to depress and oppress the people that are left behind.

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<v Speaker 3>And as a result, Detroit fell on some very challenging

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<v Speaker 3>economic times. Detroit used to be one of the richest

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<v Speaker 3>cities in the world and now it's one of the poorest.

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<v Speaker 3>The motor city, yeah, because all you know, the Great

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<v Speaker 3>migration happened because everybody was trying to get to jobs

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<v Speaker 3>in the plant right, and so you have this very

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<v Speaker 3>stable manufacturing base, and suddenly that starts to erode, and

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<v Speaker 3>then you have white people who cross eight mile. They're

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<v Speaker 3>all living in the suburbs, leaving the city behind to die.

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<v Speaker 4>It becomes a.

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<v Speaker 3>Very great racial divide. The odd thing is is that

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<v Speaker 3>now it's reverse migration. Is that a lot of white

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<v Speaker 3>people moving back to Detroit because they're trying to birth

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<v Speaker 3>some new industries in downtown Detroit.

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<v Speaker 4>I go down there now.

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<v Speaker 3>It is very strange because this is the impact of

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<v Speaker 3>gentrification whole another conversation. But I'm like the only black

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<v Speaker 3>person sometimes when I go into places, which is very

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<v Speaker 3>bizarre because the neighborhoods are still all mostly black except

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<v Speaker 3>for their pockets that are now getting many more, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>white people. So it's very different because downtown, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>is right off a riverfront, very prime property.

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<v Speaker 4>So people.

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<v Speaker 3>We have seen this happen in pretty much a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of the major American cities, from Atlanta to DC. Chicago's

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<v Speaker 3>that when the cool industries come, the people who put

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<v Speaker 3>their sweat equity into the city when it wasn't cool,

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<v Speaker 3>they get pushed out and there all of a sudden

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<v Speaker 3>want to appeal to a different type of detroitter, which.

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<v Speaker 4>Is not a black detroiter.

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<v Speaker 3>So the city has come back and come a long way,

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<v Speaker 3>but for people who are longtime Detroiters, it's uncomfortable to

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<v Speaker 3>watch because for years when nobody was going downtown, they

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<v Speaker 3>were going downtown and now to some degree, feel like

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<v Speaker 3>strangers in their own city.

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to touch on it because you were on

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<v Speaker 1>a podcast, a Revolt podcast, and you said, growing up

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<v Speaker 1>black in this country is intertwined with the sports experience,

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<v Speaker 1>how we frame sports, how we view sports, how we

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<v Speaker 1>talk about sports.

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<v Speaker 2>Can you say more about that?

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<v Speaker 4>Sure?

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<v Speaker 3>I think we all see the optics when it comes

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<v Speaker 3>to particularly football and basketball, because those are the sports

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<v Speaker 3>that are dominated by black athletes.

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<v Speaker 4>So you have black.

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<v Speaker 3>Entertainment, the athletes, mostly white ownership, if not pretty much

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<v Speaker 3>all white ownership, and large majority white fan basis watching

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<v Speaker 3>the entertainment. So that racial dynamic in itself is very

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<v Speaker 3>much a mirror of America, where you have a black

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<v Speaker 3>labor force, often working and usually borderline being exploited, if

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<v Speaker 3>not fully exploited by a white upper class to serve

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<v Speaker 3>mostly you know, white people. Even though you may see

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<v Speaker 3>black athletes making an incredible living, you know making twenty

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<v Speaker 3>thirty thirty five to forty However many millions a year

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<v Speaker 3>somebody wrote that check easily okay, And yet a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of times when it's the criticism, when it's all those things,

0:21:56.240 --> 0:22:01.760
<v Speaker 3>people direct their anger at the product and not the

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<v Speaker 3>people who are above them. And I find that to

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<v Speaker 3>be very fascinating and very much on brand for America.

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<v Speaker 2>That to me sums up your view of the world.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I think that you think of sports as a

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<v Speaker 1>microcosm of America, which is why your writing.

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<v Speaker 4>Is so interesting.

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<v Speaker 3>It always has been, and that's why with The Atlantic,

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<v Speaker 3>I wanted to specifically be given the license and the

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<v Speaker 3>freedom to write about the intersection of race, class, gender

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<v Speaker 3>in sports because it is very definitive of the American experience,

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<v Speaker 3>not just from a money standpoint, but in sports you

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<v Speaker 3>get to see things that you may not understand is

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<v Speaker 3>happening in the real world, but when you see it

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<v Speaker 3>in sports, it might register differently. Plus, sports is one

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<v Speaker 3>of the few things that we do together. Like a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of experiences in America are segregated religious experiences, school

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<v Speaker 3>sports is not. It forces every together because you could

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<v Speaker 3>be from any economic background and y'all all could be

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<v Speaker 3>Laker fans and y'all all could be Pistons fans or

0:23:08.560 --> 0:23:13.560
<v Speaker 3>it's unifying. And so that's why I think having conversations

0:23:13.680 --> 0:23:16.840
<v Speaker 3>using sports as a lens or backdrop are often more

0:23:16.880 --> 0:23:22.240
<v Speaker 3>constructive because people are able to lower their guard, they're

0:23:22.280 --> 0:23:26.600
<v Speaker 3>able to understand somebody else through the lens of sports.

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<v Speaker 1>I've always felt that way about entertainment, and I came

0:23:30.040 --> 0:23:34.080
<v Speaker 1>from a lot of teachers, professors, and they would be like,

0:23:34.440 --> 0:23:36.720
<v Speaker 1>what are you doing with your life? This is so

0:23:37.440 --> 0:23:39.639
<v Speaker 1>you cannot go do that that you're wasting your brain.

0:23:39.680 --> 0:23:42.240
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, I see it differently, and I

0:23:42.680 --> 0:23:44.080
<v Speaker 1>don't know, I feel the same way.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, No, I mean, entertainment is definitely a huge vehicle

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<v Speaker 3>to look at at race, you know, even when.

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<v Speaker 2>You look at gender.

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<v Speaker 4>And gender and everything.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, when you look at what we're consuming, as you know,

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<v Speaker 3>as people who are into pop culture, as you know,

0:24:00.000 --> 0:24:03.960
<v Speaker 3>I wanted to be entertained, you know, movies, films, they

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<v Speaker 3>have an ability to make statements that other sectors of

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<v Speaker 3>society can't make. Yeah, an ability to make you understand

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<v Speaker 1>get your opinion. The top ten most followed people on

0:25:41.040 --> 0:25:46.880
<v Speaker 1>Instagram are nearly all women. It's Taylor Swift, Selena Gomez,

0:25:47.080 --> 0:25:48.320
<v Speaker 1>Ariana Grande.

0:25:48.400 --> 0:25:50.480
<v Speaker 4>Kim Kardashian, right, yes, Beyonce.

0:25:50.200 --> 0:25:50.960
<v Speaker 2>Maybe Beyonce.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that they're nearly all performers of some sort, right.

0:25:55.359 --> 0:26:00.080
<v Speaker 1>The top ten most followed athletes are all men. To me,

0:26:01.119 --> 0:26:04.560
<v Speaker 1>that signals that we're still not used to seeing women

0:26:05.080 --> 0:26:07.400
<v Speaker 1>use their bodies to compete instead of performed.

0:26:07.720 --> 0:26:11.360
<v Speaker 4>Ooh, okay, dropping a bar? What do I think?

0:26:11.400 --> 0:26:14.280
<v Speaker 3>There is probably a lot of truth to that. The

0:26:14.280 --> 0:26:16.640
<v Speaker 3>best observation I can think of about why there's such

0:26:16.640 --> 0:26:19.919
<v Speaker 3>a disparity is that I think, you know, in the

0:26:19.960 --> 0:26:23.280
<v Speaker 3>sports space, in the sports media space, women's you know,

0:26:23.400 --> 0:26:26.320
<v Speaker 3>female athletes just are not They're not talked about in

0:26:26.359 --> 0:26:31.440
<v Speaker 3>that same constant media cycle as you know as their

0:26:31.440 --> 0:26:34.800
<v Speaker 3>male counterparts. You know, Serena has talked about obviously because

0:26:34.840 --> 0:26:38.520
<v Speaker 3>she is about to you know, she's retiring or evolving involving, yes,

0:26:38.640 --> 0:26:41.159
<v Speaker 3>not retiring, Sorry, Serena, do you mean to use the artword,

0:26:41.680 --> 0:26:44.000
<v Speaker 3>but you have that, and obviously it was a US open.

0:26:44.359 --> 0:26:48.200
<v Speaker 3>But they're not on ESPN. They're not doing daily serena topics,

0:26:48.720 --> 0:26:52.200
<v Speaker 3>but they'll do seven hundred topics about Tom Brady whether

0:26:52.200 --> 0:26:56.040
<v Speaker 3>it's in season or not. And so male athletes are

0:26:56.160 --> 0:27:03.440
<v Speaker 3>constantly being focused, centered, discuss dissected all the time, and

0:27:03.480 --> 0:27:05.879
<v Speaker 3>with women it's just not it's just not the same.

0:27:07.040 --> 0:27:11.360
<v Speaker 3>But when it comes to music or movies, and even

0:27:12.040 --> 0:27:15.360
<v Speaker 3>if a woman who's an actress has one movie out

0:27:15.400 --> 0:27:19.000
<v Speaker 3>the year, the fact is like either who she's dating,

0:27:19.040 --> 0:27:22.240
<v Speaker 3>who she's married to, her kids, like it's body her body,

0:27:22.280 --> 0:27:24.119
<v Speaker 3>it's so many things that are going to keep her

0:27:24.160 --> 0:27:27.159
<v Speaker 3>in the news and being discussed and dissected all the time.

0:27:27.800 --> 0:27:30.240
<v Speaker 3>So when I step back and take more of a

0:27:30.280 --> 0:27:33.240
<v Speaker 3>sixty thousand foot view, I'm not surprised that most of

0:27:33.280 --> 0:27:35.399
<v Speaker 3>the women who are in the top ten follows on

0:27:35.440 --> 0:27:38.159
<v Speaker 3>Instagram are are in the entertainment space.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to harp on ESPN that much because

0:27:41.760 --> 0:27:44.080
<v Speaker 1>you've done a million interviews about that, but I do

0:27:44.119 --> 0:27:47.359
<v Speaker 1>have two questions. One is i've heard you talk about

0:27:47.400 --> 0:27:49.680
<v Speaker 1>how when you did His and Hers, which was before

0:27:49.680 --> 0:27:52.440
<v Speaker 1>a Sports Center that you were paid two hundred thousand

0:27:52.480 --> 0:27:55.800
<v Speaker 1>dollars less than your male co hosts doing the same job.

0:27:55.880 --> 0:27:58.440
<v Speaker 2>Yep, you don't seem mad about it.

0:27:58.800 --> 0:27:59.560
<v Speaker 4>So here's the thing.

0:27:59.720 --> 0:28:02.240
<v Speaker 3>And you know, I know that grab that was quite

0:28:02.240 --> 0:28:05.720
<v Speaker 3>a juicy headline, and the other part of it. It

0:28:05.800 --> 0:28:08.200
<v Speaker 3>was also at that point the biggest contract I've ever signed.

0:28:08.520 --> 0:28:10.840
<v Speaker 3>It was also the most money I'd ever made. So

0:28:11.480 --> 0:28:15.640
<v Speaker 3>while there is something to be said for there being

0:28:15.840 --> 0:28:18.840
<v Speaker 3>such a disparity for the same job, and some people

0:28:19.000 --> 0:28:21.080
<v Speaker 3>just reading you know, it was funny like reading some

0:28:21.119 --> 0:28:23.719
<v Speaker 3>of the comments or where people would write to me like, well,

0:28:23.720 --> 0:28:27.000
<v Speaker 3>why did you sign the contract? Because it was I

0:28:27.040 --> 0:28:28.640
<v Speaker 3>was getting paid over four hundred thousand dollars.

0:28:28.720 --> 0:28:29.200
<v Speaker 4>That's why.

0:28:29.480 --> 0:28:32.440
<v Speaker 3>Okay, right, that is why I signed the contract. That's

0:28:32.480 --> 0:28:35.680
<v Speaker 3>not bad, but at all, Like, that's a great living.

0:28:35.720 --> 0:28:37.840
<v Speaker 3>If you'd have told me when I was eighteen that

0:28:37.880 --> 0:28:39.960
<v Speaker 3>I'd be making four hundred thousand dollars one day or

0:28:40.000 --> 0:28:42.560
<v Speaker 3>four hundred plus, I'd be like, hell, yeah, I'm taking

0:28:42.600 --> 0:28:46.760
<v Speaker 3>that right. And you know, other people are like, oh, well,

0:28:46.840 --> 0:28:49.440
<v Speaker 3>you know, well Michael Smith was more experienced. Michael Smith's

0:28:49.440 --> 0:28:49.960
<v Speaker 3>younger than me.

0:28:50.320 --> 0:28:53.400
<v Speaker 4>Okay, and that's that's an insight.

0:28:53.560 --> 0:28:56.720
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, was younger than me, and that it wasn't based

0:28:56.720 --> 0:28:59.440
<v Speaker 3>off age. I understood some of it just in this

0:28:59.560 --> 0:29:03.440
<v Speaker 3>sense that Mike had been doing tv TV specifically longer

0:29:03.760 --> 0:29:06.720
<v Speaker 3>than me, but journalistically I had more years in the

0:29:06.760 --> 0:29:08.920
<v Speaker 3>game than him, and I think.

0:29:09.040 --> 0:29:10.400
<v Speaker 4>It wasn't really about that.

0:29:10.560 --> 0:29:13.160
<v Speaker 3>It was really mostly about we are literally at the

0:29:13.200 --> 0:29:17.080
<v Speaker 3>same desk, doing the same job. And to Mike's credit,

0:29:17.280 --> 0:29:20.720
<v Speaker 3>and because he's my boy and one of my closest friends,

0:29:21.200 --> 0:29:23.520
<v Speaker 3>you know, Mike told me what he was making, right,

0:29:23.640 --> 0:29:25.880
<v Speaker 3>And he told me, Yeah, it's like he told me

0:29:25.920 --> 0:29:29.600
<v Speaker 3>what he was making because he wanted me to understand.

0:29:29.160 --> 0:29:30.000
<v Speaker 4>What I was worth.

0:29:30.600 --> 0:29:34.120
<v Speaker 3>And we had those conversations and there was a strategy

0:29:34.160 --> 0:29:37.280
<v Speaker 3>involved with that too, with me and my representation, and

0:29:37.320 --> 0:29:40.560
<v Speaker 3>that strategy was like, didn't get him this round, got

0:29:40.640 --> 0:29:43.240
<v Speaker 3>something for him next round, and the next contract looked

0:29:43.280 --> 0:29:46.720
<v Speaker 3>a lot different, okay, And Mike and I were making

0:29:46.760 --> 0:29:50.280
<v Speaker 3>the exact same amount of money, and I was, you know,

0:29:50.360 --> 0:29:54.240
<v Speaker 3>even given a signing bonus that was essentially a financial

0:29:54.320 --> 0:29:55.760
<v Speaker 3>apology for the disparity.

0:29:56.200 --> 0:29:58.680
<v Speaker 4>You no pay equity became a real.

0:29:58.520 --> 0:30:01.360
<v Speaker 3>Focus, like you know, John Skipper, who is the president

0:30:01.400 --> 0:30:03.840
<v Speaker 3>at the time. You know, he said it publicly that

0:30:03.920 --> 0:30:08.040
<v Speaker 3>he really wanted to narrow the gender pay gap at ESPN,

0:30:08.200 --> 0:30:11.200
<v Speaker 3>and so I was a part of him really making

0:30:11.200 --> 0:30:14.080
<v Speaker 3>good on his pledge to do that. So while yeah,

0:30:14.120 --> 0:30:16.680
<v Speaker 3>that was definitely true, but what came out of it

0:30:16.760 --> 0:30:20.200
<v Speaker 3>was something so much, you know, greater. So I was

0:30:20.280 --> 0:30:23.080
<v Speaker 3>still making good money, don't get me wrong, but yeah,

0:30:23.080 --> 0:30:26.680
<v Speaker 3>I mean there was something kind of initially a tan

0:30:26.760 --> 0:30:29.600
<v Speaker 3>insulting about the fact that I was like, oh, this

0:30:29.760 --> 0:30:33.760
<v Speaker 3>is interesting, but I found out in television that's actually

0:30:33.840 --> 0:30:35.200
<v Speaker 3>really common.

0:30:35.240 --> 0:30:37.280
<v Speaker 2>I mean, it happened to me, it was super common.

0:30:37.400 --> 0:30:40.920
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's frustrating when you're in it because it's a

0:30:40.960 --> 0:30:44.280
<v Speaker 1>passion career, like nobody in it is like in it

0:30:44.320 --> 0:30:45.040
<v Speaker 1>for anything else.

0:30:45.120 --> 0:30:47.720
<v Speaker 2>Usually, Yeah, and it feels insulting.

0:30:47.320 --> 0:30:49.160
<v Speaker 4>But you want to be compensated for your work.

0:30:49.160 --> 0:30:51.400
<v Speaker 3>And especially if you know, if we're sitting on this

0:30:51.480 --> 0:30:54.040
<v Speaker 3>couch and we're both hosting this show and I'm making

0:30:54.120 --> 0:30:56.720
<v Speaker 3>eggs and you make it why and it's a disparity

0:30:56.840 --> 0:30:59.360
<v Speaker 3>like it's and you're putting in the same amount of work.

0:30:59.400 --> 0:31:02.080
<v Speaker 3>I know, people like to judge everything based off like

0:31:02.240 --> 0:31:04.440
<v Speaker 3>popularity and this and that. Well, do you have the

0:31:04.480 --> 0:31:07.120
<v Speaker 3>same followers or do all this all this kind of stuff.

0:31:07.320 --> 0:31:09.080
<v Speaker 3>And I get that, and maybe that's a small part

0:31:09.080 --> 0:31:11.280
<v Speaker 3>of the equation, but in day in and day out,

0:31:11.680 --> 0:31:13.440
<v Speaker 3>if you have a show with somebody and you guys

0:31:13.480 --> 0:31:15.400
<v Speaker 3>are doing the same amount of work to make the

0:31:15.440 --> 0:31:18.360
<v Speaker 3>show great, it's kind of hard to be like, yeah,

0:31:18.440 --> 0:31:22.400
<v Speaker 3>you know, I should be paid lessantly and so significantly

0:31:22.480 --> 0:31:25.000
<v Speaker 3>is one thing. If it's just like a couple thousand,

0:31:25.200 --> 0:31:27.800
<v Speaker 3>it's another thing if it's just like, well, damn, I.

0:31:27.760 --> 0:31:30.040
<v Speaker 2>Mean two hundred thousands, life changing.

0:31:30.280 --> 0:31:33.959
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's that's a nice that's a nice chunk a change.

0:31:34.040 --> 0:31:36.880
<v Speaker 3>And and thankfully to I'll add that by the end

0:31:36.960 --> 0:31:41.040
<v Speaker 3>of that that particular contract, we were we were much

0:31:41.120 --> 0:31:43.120
<v Speaker 3>We were not equal, but we were much closer by

0:31:43.120 --> 0:31:45.480
<v Speaker 3>the end of that one until we got to Sports

0:31:45.480 --> 0:31:47.000
<v Speaker 3>Center where we were making the exact same.

0:31:47.440 --> 0:31:49.720
<v Speaker 1>So you said that you became a better journalist when

0:31:49.720 --> 0:31:51.160
<v Speaker 1>you became a better business woman.

0:31:52.040 --> 0:31:53.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm dying to know what you mean by that.

0:31:54.000 --> 0:31:58.600
<v Speaker 3>When I became more vigilant about my money, and I

0:31:58.640 --> 0:32:02.760
<v Speaker 3>think what happens. It is societal conditioning that we as

0:32:02.840 --> 0:32:07.520
<v Speaker 3>women absorb, and it gets in our heads. We very

0:32:07.600 --> 0:32:11.840
<v Speaker 3>much despite the fact we outperformed so many times. You know,

0:32:11.880 --> 0:32:15.000
<v Speaker 3>we're carrying a tremendous amount of weight, but yet we

0:32:15.040 --> 0:32:17.840
<v Speaker 3>have this conditioning that tells us we should.

0:32:17.560 --> 0:32:18.600
<v Speaker 4>Be happy to be there.

0:32:19.280 --> 0:32:20.920
<v Speaker 3>And when you have that we should be happy to

0:32:20.920 --> 0:32:23.200
<v Speaker 3>be there, it will cost you money because you will

0:32:23.240 --> 0:32:30.200
<v Speaker 3>wind up taking jobs that are taking jobs and taking

0:32:30.440 --> 0:32:34.160
<v Speaker 3>less compensation because you feel like somebody's taking a chance

0:32:34.200 --> 0:32:36.400
<v Speaker 3>on you. And like, no, they hired you because you're.

0:32:36.280 --> 0:32:39.760
<v Speaker 4>Talented and you're good. They didn't hire you because of charity.

0:32:40.000 --> 0:32:42.239
<v Speaker 3>Like I didn't get to ESPN because they were like,

0:32:42.280 --> 0:32:46.000
<v Speaker 3>you know what, let's come a little black girl. We're

0:32:46.000 --> 0:32:48.760
<v Speaker 3>going to uplift you and you can be on this

0:32:48.840 --> 0:32:52.520
<v Speaker 3>network and we'll pay you money, and because this is

0:32:52.560 --> 0:32:56.040
<v Speaker 3>our charitable season. No, they hired me because I could

0:32:56.080 --> 0:32:59.320
<v Speaker 3>do a job and feel a need that they had. So,

0:33:00.240 --> 0:33:03.560
<v Speaker 3>because we're constantly underestimating what we bring to the table,

0:33:04.680 --> 0:33:07.520
<v Speaker 3>we have a tendency to take less than what we're worth.

0:33:07.880 --> 0:33:10.160
<v Speaker 3>And so when I got out of that mentality, when

0:33:10.200 --> 0:33:11.960
<v Speaker 3>I got out of the you should just be happy

0:33:11.960 --> 0:33:14.840
<v Speaker 3>to be here, I became more serious about my money

0:33:14.880 --> 0:33:20.040
<v Speaker 3>and I stopped worrying about how the people maybe in

0:33:20.120 --> 0:33:22.840
<v Speaker 3>negotiation with or you know, the people that were pulling

0:33:22.840 --> 0:33:26.360
<v Speaker 3>the purse rings. I stopped worrying about their feelings because

0:33:26.600 --> 0:33:29.920
<v Speaker 3>all it took was me hearing enough stories. And this

0:33:29.960 --> 0:33:32.520
<v Speaker 3>is you know, this was an education I received at

0:33:32.680 --> 0:33:36.080
<v Speaker 3>ESPN because as you know, you get in TV, it's treacherous,

0:33:36.400 --> 0:33:41.440
<v Speaker 3>like and it's treacherous and people are really about.

0:33:41.200 --> 0:33:42.160
<v Speaker 4>Getting their bread.

0:33:42.280 --> 0:33:44.120
<v Speaker 3>And when I heard stories about some of the things

0:33:44.160 --> 0:33:45.840
<v Speaker 3>people are asking for, and I'm like.

0:33:46.000 --> 0:33:47.040
<v Speaker 4>Why am I feeling bad?

0:33:47.080 --> 0:33:48.880
<v Speaker 3>Like why am I feeling like I'm asking for something

0:33:48.920 --> 0:33:52.520
<v Speaker 3>I don't deserve when people have asked for bolder things

0:33:52.600 --> 0:33:55.560
<v Speaker 3>than I have. And so I just think it's something

0:33:55.560 --> 0:33:58.000
<v Speaker 3>as women, it's a habit that we have to break.

0:33:58.040 --> 0:34:03.680
<v Speaker 3>It's hard because we our behavior is policed.

0:34:03.200 --> 0:34:04.200
<v Speaker 4>So much differently.

0:34:04.600 --> 0:34:07.840
<v Speaker 3>You know, people calling us emotional or sometimes if you

0:34:07.920 --> 0:34:11.520
<v Speaker 3>are just assertive and you create boundaries, people want to

0:34:11.560 --> 0:34:13.200
<v Speaker 3>call you a bitch for that and all of that.

0:34:13.520 --> 0:34:16.960
<v Speaker 3>Because we get those labels so easily over things that

0:34:17.000 --> 0:34:20.960
<v Speaker 3>men do all the time. We instead of forcing other

0:34:21.000 --> 0:34:23.400
<v Speaker 3>people to just have to deal with it or just

0:34:23.600 --> 0:34:27.080
<v Speaker 3>learn to like it, we change, or we tone down,

0:34:27.360 --> 0:34:30.359
<v Speaker 3>or we shrink or we start playing it to the back. Nah,

0:34:30.400 --> 0:34:33.560
<v Speaker 3>I ain't doing that because, especially when you're at your

0:34:33.600 --> 0:34:37.799
<v Speaker 3>prime of your career and you got a lot of

0:34:37.840 --> 0:34:40.439
<v Speaker 3>opportunities come in your way, you only got one time

0:34:40.480 --> 0:34:42.800
<v Speaker 3>to make that money, and so you might as well

0:34:43.480 --> 0:34:45.959
<v Speaker 3>make sure that you are getting the.

0:34:45.880 --> 0:34:47.240
<v Speaker 4>Compensation you deserve.

0:34:47.440 --> 0:34:51.359
<v Speaker 3>And plus, we have to start being open about what

0:34:51.400 --> 0:34:53.600
<v Speaker 3>we're making. That's why I didn't have any problem telling

0:34:53.600 --> 0:34:56.239
<v Speaker 3>people that I made less money than Mike, hoping that

0:34:56.840 --> 0:35:01.000
<v Speaker 3>the next woman that's in that position will feel empowered

0:35:01.040 --> 0:35:05.000
<v Speaker 3>to say, hold on, let me make sure that we

0:35:05.080 --> 0:35:07.520
<v Speaker 3>getting paid the same for doing the same thing, right,

0:35:07.560 --> 0:35:11.279
<v Speaker 3>And so I think we have to start being transparent

0:35:11.560 --> 0:35:15.000
<v Speaker 3>about those conversations because a lot of these companies and

0:35:15.040 --> 0:35:18.440
<v Speaker 3>businesses depend on our silence. They depend on it because

0:35:18.680 --> 0:35:21.719
<v Speaker 3>if I'm not telling you what you know, Hey, I

0:35:21.760 --> 0:35:24.080
<v Speaker 3>had the same job, since this is what they pay me,

0:35:24.760 --> 0:35:28.919
<v Speaker 3>then they're allowed to have all the leverage. I mean,

0:35:28.960 --> 0:35:33.480
<v Speaker 3>there's definitely been many occasions where some of my friends

0:35:33.800 --> 0:35:36.520
<v Speaker 3>and even some people who I don't even know as well,

0:35:36.560 --> 0:35:39.800
<v Speaker 3>have come to me and said, Hey, this particular school

0:35:39.920 --> 0:35:42.360
<v Speaker 3>or this particular business they asked me to come do

0:35:42.400 --> 0:35:45.080
<v Speaker 3>a speaking engagement. They said they only had fifteen thousand

0:35:45.120 --> 0:35:47.399
<v Speaker 3>dollars in the budget. What did they pay you, girl?

0:35:47.440 --> 0:35:49.920
<v Speaker 3>They paid me thirty. Ask for thirty. Actually ask for

0:35:50.000 --> 0:35:52.160
<v Speaker 3>more and make them come back to thirty if that's

0:35:52.160 --> 0:35:53.640
<v Speaker 3>what they really have. I was like, no, that the

0:35:53.640 --> 0:35:56.320
<v Speaker 3>first thing they offer you ain't all they got. Okay,

0:35:56.680 --> 0:36:01.520
<v Speaker 3>So that's how you allow other women, all of us,

0:36:01.560 --> 0:36:03.799
<v Speaker 3>to be able to boost one another up. I've never

0:36:03.880 --> 0:36:07.240
<v Speaker 3>believed that we should be holding these things as state

0:36:07.360 --> 0:36:12.200
<v Speaker 3>secrets because I think truly that when whatever industry, when

0:36:12.200 --> 0:36:16.640
<v Speaker 3>we all begin to succeed, it just raises every level

0:36:16.680 --> 0:36:19.760
<v Speaker 3>for everybody else. And so when I became a better

0:36:19.880 --> 0:36:23.080
<v Speaker 3>business person, I became a better journalist because it is

0:36:23.120 --> 0:36:27.680
<v Speaker 3>going to impact psychologically how you work and what you

0:36:27.840 --> 0:36:31.000
<v Speaker 3>do when you know that you are getting paid what

0:36:31.080 --> 0:36:31.600
<v Speaker 3>you deserve.

0:36:33.000 --> 0:36:36.319
<v Speaker 2>The idea that if you walk through a door, you have.

0:36:36.320 --> 0:36:38.319
<v Speaker 1>To like look back and bring someone else through is

0:36:38.360 --> 0:36:41.480
<v Speaker 1>something that I think is spoken about, but you really

0:36:41.520 --> 0:36:43.840
<v Speaker 1>love it. I think you're doing that with your podcast

0:36:43.920 --> 0:36:45.640
<v Speaker 1>network with Spotify.

0:36:46.160 --> 0:36:47.200
<v Speaker 2>Can you tell us about that?

0:36:47.960 --> 0:36:51.319
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean this was not you know, in all candidness,

0:36:51.320 --> 0:36:53.880
<v Speaker 3>this was not something I came into the door of

0:36:53.960 --> 0:36:56.680
<v Speaker 3>Spotify thinking I wanted to do. I was only thinking

0:36:56.760 --> 0:36:59.560
<v Speaker 3>about Okay, I know, I want my podcast.

0:36:59.120 --> 0:37:00.720
<v Speaker 4>To be this.

0:37:00.719 --> 0:37:03.560
<v Speaker 3>This is you know, kind of the involvement that I

0:37:03.560 --> 0:37:06.960
<v Speaker 3>want to have is churning out a weekly podcast and

0:37:07.080 --> 0:37:11.880
<v Speaker 3>talking to people and interviewing folks. But as I you know,

0:37:12.480 --> 0:37:15.320
<v Speaker 3>dug deeper into that relationship with Spotify and just looking

0:37:15.360 --> 0:37:18.640
<v Speaker 3>around the podcast landscape, I was like, there is not

0:37:19.200 --> 0:37:22.920
<v Speaker 3>there's certainly black women who are podcasting, but not a

0:37:22.960 --> 0:37:25.359
<v Speaker 3>lot and there's not a lot of content, you know,

0:37:25.480 --> 0:37:30.279
<v Speaker 3>for black women in a space that is exploding. And so,

0:37:31.080 --> 0:37:35.640
<v Speaker 3>from a creative standpoint, a leadership standpoint, I wondered, what

0:37:35.760 --> 0:37:42.799
<v Speaker 3>could I do to leave something lasting that will impact, amplify,

0:37:43.160 --> 0:37:45.960
<v Speaker 3>uplift and center black women. And so I went to

0:37:46.000 --> 0:37:49.840
<v Speaker 3>Spotify and asked them if we could partner together to

0:37:49.920 --> 0:37:54.680
<v Speaker 3>create a network that specifically centered black women. And you

0:37:54.719 --> 0:37:57.680
<v Speaker 3>know the reason why to me that was the focus

0:37:57.800 --> 0:37:59.520
<v Speaker 3>is obviously I'm a black woman.

0:38:00.719 --> 0:38:01.480
<v Speaker 4>This just the end.

0:38:01.640 --> 0:38:05.160
<v Speaker 3>And two, I was just thinking about the bigger landscape.

0:38:05.520 --> 0:38:08.280
<v Speaker 3>So we have a black woman who's the vice president.

0:38:08.400 --> 0:38:10.839
<v Speaker 3>We have Stacy Abrams trying to be the first black

0:38:10.880 --> 0:38:15.040
<v Speaker 3>female governor in history, in history, all right, we have

0:38:15.200 --> 0:38:17.760
<v Speaker 3>so many you know, you look at the Democratic Party,

0:38:17.760 --> 0:38:20.279
<v Speaker 3>in particular, black women have become the backbone of that.

0:38:20.440 --> 0:38:23.800
<v Speaker 3>From an education standpoint, black women became the most educated

0:38:23.800 --> 0:38:24.840
<v Speaker 3>group in the country.

0:38:25.160 --> 0:38:25.719
<v Speaker 4>They were the.

0:38:25.640 --> 0:38:30.839
<v Speaker 3>Only group who owned more businesses than their male ethnic counterpart. So, you,

0:38:30.840 --> 0:38:34.000
<v Speaker 3>you know, black women saving Wakanda, like they're doing all

0:38:34.080 --> 0:38:36.759
<v Speaker 3>kinds of things, and people tend to put us in

0:38:36.840 --> 0:38:39.720
<v Speaker 3>this savior role of like, come save us black women

0:38:39.760 --> 0:38:41.799
<v Speaker 3>from the awful decisions we told y'all not to make

0:38:41.920 --> 0:38:44.239
<v Speaker 3>to begin with. We're much more than that. We're much

0:38:44.239 --> 0:38:46.640
<v Speaker 3>more than mules and much more than saviors. And so

0:38:47.080 --> 0:38:49.680
<v Speaker 3>I wanted to look at the fullness of who Black

0:38:49.680 --> 0:38:56.160
<v Speaker 3>women are through wellness, through relationships, through trauma, through laughter

0:38:56.560 --> 0:39:00.400
<v Speaker 3>and comedy, through all these different vehicles. I wanted to

0:39:00.960 --> 0:39:05.080
<v Speaker 3>create a network that really really highlighted what black women are.

0:39:05.800 --> 0:39:08.799
<v Speaker 1>You're producing Colin Kaepernick's thirty for thirty. You tell a

0:39:08.840 --> 0:39:12.760
<v Speaker 1>story about how this was after you left ESPN, Colin

0:39:12.880 --> 0:39:15.960
<v Speaker 1>calls you and says, Hey, they came to me with this.

0:39:16.680 --> 0:39:18.399
<v Speaker 2>What do you think. I don't want to undermine you.

0:39:18.640 --> 0:39:19.799
<v Speaker 4>Which says a lot about him.

0:39:20.440 --> 0:39:23.040
<v Speaker 3>And realize that, you know, Colin and I were friendly,

0:39:23.160 --> 0:39:25.440
<v Speaker 3>but we were not friends. He did not owe me

0:39:25.480 --> 0:39:27.520
<v Speaker 3>that phone call, and had he never called me, I

0:39:27.560 --> 0:39:29.800
<v Speaker 3>wouldn't have lost any respect for him. And in fact,

0:39:29.880 --> 0:39:33.560
<v Speaker 3>I considered him factoring me into his decision making to

0:39:33.640 --> 0:39:38.200
<v Speaker 3>be very humbling, because it was no reason to really

0:39:38.239 --> 0:39:42.080
<v Speaker 3>do that. And when he asked my honest opinion, which

0:39:42.080 --> 0:39:44.400
<v Speaker 3>I gave, and I told him that I thought ESPN

0:39:44.520 --> 0:39:47.520
<v Speaker 3>was the best vehicle for his story, some people were

0:39:47.520 --> 0:39:51.279
<v Speaker 3>surprised by that, because, you know, while I left there amicably,

0:39:51.400 --> 0:39:53.759
<v Speaker 3>it was awkward, you know, the way that I left,

0:39:53.800 --> 0:39:57.040
<v Speaker 3>and some people might assume that I had some bitterness

0:39:57.040 --> 0:39:59.759
<v Speaker 3>towards ESPN, which I don't, or was resentful, and I

0:39:59.840 --> 0:40:01.719
<v Speaker 3>was no. I was like, I think this makes a

0:40:01.719 --> 0:40:05.520
<v Speaker 3>lot of sense for you, and for him to then say, well,

0:40:05.800 --> 0:40:07.760
<v Speaker 3>I tell you what, what would make me really comfortable

0:40:07.880 --> 0:40:12.239
<v Speaker 3>is if you came on as an executive producer and

0:40:12.280 --> 0:40:12.719
<v Speaker 3>I'm like.

0:40:12.840 --> 0:40:14.040
<v Speaker 4>Don't threaten me with a good time.

0:40:14.880 --> 0:40:16.840
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean I'm here for that, like, because his story,

0:40:17.840 --> 0:40:20.480
<v Speaker 3>you know, needs to be told, and I'm just really

0:40:21.600 --> 0:40:23.560
<v Speaker 3>really excited about where we are with it.

0:40:24.239 --> 0:40:26.360
<v Speaker 2>I was shocked when you told that story.

0:40:26.440 --> 0:40:30.080
<v Speaker 1>I think it'd be incredible if more people went on

0:40:30.200 --> 0:40:30.920
<v Speaker 1>of their way like that.

0:40:31.880 --> 0:40:34.120
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And I think, you know, for him to have

0:40:34.160 --> 0:40:36.440
<v Speaker 3>that level of sensibility, and.

0:40:36.160 --> 0:40:38.600
<v Speaker 1>I think probably so many people did or didn't show

0:40:38.680 --> 0:40:40.520
<v Speaker 1>up for him, he saw it in such a s.

0:40:40.680 --> 0:40:41.799
<v Speaker 4>I think you're right.

0:40:41.840 --> 0:40:45.240
<v Speaker 3>I mean, I think there were times where he wished

0:40:45.280 --> 0:40:48.239
<v Speaker 3>others had done the same thing. And it was a

0:40:48.400 --> 0:40:52.440
<v Speaker 3>very and I knew this before we started working on

0:40:52.480 --> 0:40:56.040
<v Speaker 3>the documentary, but even more so, you know, hearing him

0:40:56.400 --> 0:40:59.520
<v Speaker 3>talk about what happened and what has been his life

0:41:00.120 --> 0:41:04.000
<v Speaker 3>since he began his protest in twenty sixteen, it's so

0:41:04.200 --> 0:41:07.440
<v Speaker 3>much lonelier than people have imagined in their mind.

0:41:07.239 --> 0:41:08.120
<v Speaker 4>To do what he's done.

0:41:08.840 --> 0:41:13.799
<v Speaker 3>And you saw pockets of people standing with him, but

0:41:14.080 --> 0:41:15.120
<v Speaker 3>very few people really.

0:41:15.160 --> 0:41:16.960
<v Speaker 4>It's only one, his best friend, Eric.

0:41:16.800 --> 0:41:21.120
<v Speaker 3>Reid, stood with him the entire way to the point

0:41:21.480 --> 0:41:24.360
<v Speaker 3>Eric and of course his partner nessa but to the

0:41:24.360 --> 0:41:28.279
<v Speaker 3>point where it cost Eric, I think his job in

0:41:28.280 --> 0:41:28.840
<v Speaker 3>the NFL.

0:41:29.200 --> 0:41:30.480
<v Speaker 4>So very few people did that.

0:41:30.560 --> 0:41:33.320
<v Speaker 2>And that's also a story that really has in fancy.

0:41:33.120 --> 0:41:35.600
<v Speaker 3>No because people forget that, you know, yes, Eric Reid,

0:41:35.640 --> 0:41:39.200
<v Speaker 3>he did play longer than Colin in the NFL. But

0:41:40.000 --> 0:41:43.200
<v Speaker 3>despite his production, when it was over with the Panthers,

0:41:43.520 --> 0:41:46.120
<v Speaker 3>it was over in the NFL. I mean, his phone

0:41:46.200 --> 0:41:49.000
<v Speaker 3>has not rung from an NFL team since, and you

0:41:49.320 --> 0:41:52.359
<v Speaker 3>just again, given what his production was, his last year

0:41:52.360 --> 0:41:54.839
<v Speaker 3>in the league, his age, you know, the fact that

0:41:54.880 --> 0:41:57.719
<v Speaker 3>he's still one of the better, you know safeties in

0:41:57.760 --> 0:41:59.239
<v Speaker 3>the NFL, it was.

0:41:59.200 --> 0:42:02.080
<v Speaker 4>Just really, it wasn't surprising.

0:42:02.280 --> 0:42:05.400
<v Speaker 3>It was more of the same from the NFL of

0:42:05.440 --> 0:42:10.200
<v Speaker 3>penalizing people for daring to actually, you know, take a

0:42:10.239 --> 0:42:13.560
<v Speaker 3>stance against something we should all frankly be very vigilant

0:42:13.560 --> 0:42:16.400
<v Speaker 3>about ending, you know, uphill.

0:42:16.960 --> 0:42:19.000
<v Speaker 1>It's a memoir. I heard it's the book that you

0:42:19.080 --> 0:42:20.080
<v Speaker 1>never wanted to write.

0:42:20.400 --> 0:42:23.880
<v Speaker 3>It's not I didn't want to write about myself. I

0:42:23.920 --> 0:42:26.319
<v Speaker 3>did not want to write about myself. And maybe that

0:42:26.400 --> 0:42:30.560
<v Speaker 3>just comes from it does along it comes from two things.

0:42:30.680 --> 0:42:33.960
<v Speaker 3>Is that one I struggle with and I feel like

0:42:34.000 --> 0:42:35.919
<v Speaker 3>this is a relatable struggle for a lot of women.

0:42:36.600 --> 0:42:43.040
<v Speaker 3>Is I definitely struggle with appreciating myself in the moment,

0:42:43.520 --> 0:42:46.239
<v Speaker 3>like I'm a deflector, I'm a self deprecating person, Like

0:42:46.719 --> 0:42:48.920
<v Speaker 3>I don't really like being the center of attention. So

0:42:49.000 --> 0:42:51.600
<v Speaker 3>the idea of writing a memoir was like, no, and

0:42:51.760 --> 0:42:54.400
<v Speaker 3>that doesn't mean I mind being transparent, like you know,

0:42:54.480 --> 0:42:56.840
<v Speaker 3>in a setting like this like you interviewed me, like,

0:42:56.880 --> 0:43:00.160
<v Speaker 3>I'm going to give you honest, transparent answers, but to

0:43:00.200 --> 0:43:03.520
<v Speaker 3>write a whole book about just me. I was like, oh,

0:43:03.719 --> 0:43:08.680
<v Speaker 3>that sounds so lame, but many a great decision has

0:43:08.719 --> 0:43:09.680
<v Speaker 3>been made because of this.

0:43:10.920 --> 0:43:12.879
<v Speaker 4>The money was too good. I'm not gonna lie. That's

0:43:12.920 --> 0:43:13.600
<v Speaker 4>just what it was.

0:43:13.880 --> 0:43:17.719
<v Speaker 3>It was My literary agent SCA was very honest with me,

0:43:17.800 --> 0:43:21.320
<v Speaker 3>and he was just like, there is a tremendous amount

0:43:21.360 --> 0:43:23.359
<v Speaker 3>of interest in you writing a memoir. I was like,

0:43:23.360 --> 0:43:27.160
<v Speaker 3>you gotta be kidding me, And really cool it is,

0:43:27.239 --> 0:43:29.240
<v Speaker 3>you know, but at the time I was just whining

0:43:29.320 --> 0:43:31.520
<v Speaker 3>about it, and I know he was like, are you insane?

0:43:31.600 --> 0:43:35.759
<v Speaker 3>Like do you know how few people when their memoirs

0:43:35.880 --> 0:43:38.520
<v Speaker 3>go to auctions so that you have multiple bidders for

0:43:38.640 --> 0:43:42.319
<v Speaker 3>one book? Like it doesn't happen, and you know, So

0:43:42.400 --> 0:43:45.680
<v Speaker 3>I had to suck it up and write a memoir.

0:43:45.880 --> 0:43:48.799
<v Speaker 3>And as I got into the process of writing it,

0:43:48.840 --> 0:43:54.520
<v Speaker 3>which started in twenty nineteen, it was really difficult, painful,

0:43:55.600 --> 0:43:59.919
<v Speaker 3>but very rewarding. Coming out of it, I'm so glad

0:44:00.120 --> 0:44:00.640
<v Speaker 3>that I did it.

0:44:01.080 --> 0:44:03.239
<v Speaker 4>Wow, So thank you for offering me a lot of

0:44:03.280 --> 0:44:05.759
<v Speaker 4>money to make me ready before and go through some.

0:44:06.920 --> 0:44:09.000
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean it's true. I mean it does when

0:44:09.040 --> 0:44:11.680
<v Speaker 3>you write a memoir. And I think this was frankly

0:44:11.719 --> 0:44:16.640
<v Speaker 3>part of my fear is that it forces you to relive,

0:44:17.440 --> 0:44:19.840
<v Speaker 3>open up the boxes of your life that you have

0:44:19.920 --> 0:44:22.279
<v Speaker 3>firmly put in the closet, that are in the back,

0:44:22.320 --> 0:44:24.600
<v Speaker 3>the boxes you don't touch. You know, we all have

0:44:24.640 --> 0:44:26.879
<v Speaker 3>been to the moving experience where, like you, all you're

0:44:26.880 --> 0:44:28.919
<v Speaker 3>doing is like moving the same boxes from one place

0:44:28.960 --> 0:44:30.799
<v Speaker 3>to the next that you never opened. And I'm like,

0:44:30.840 --> 0:44:32.440
<v Speaker 3>if I didn't open this box at the last three

0:44:32.480 --> 0:44:34.280
<v Speaker 3>residences and put this away, why does.

0:44:34.120 --> 0:44:35.879
<v Speaker 4>This boxtel with me? Right?

0:44:36.040 --> 0:44:39.480
<v Speaker 3>And so for me, I was just really afraid to

0:44:39.520 --> 0:44:40.600
<v Speaker 3>open a lot of boxes.

0:44:40.880 --> 0:44:43.680
<v Speaker 4>And yeah, it was very emotional writing this.

0:44:43.760 --> 0:44:45.320
<v Speaker 3>I mean there was a time where I was writing

0:44:45.360 --> 0:44:47.600
<v Speaker 3>and crying at the same time.

0:44:48.400 --> 0:44:51.239
<v Speaker 4>And who wants to go through that? Nobody does.

0:44:52.080 --> 0:44:55.000
<v Speaker 3>But at the same time, I was really proud of

0:44:55.000 --> 0:44:59.200
<v Speaker 3>myself when it was done, and I am.

0:44:59.400 --> 0:45:00.600
<v Speaker 4>Glad so over her.

0:45:01.520 --> 0:45:04.560
<v Speaker 3>But I think it allowed me to get out of

0:45:04.600 --> 0:45:08.200
<v Speaker 3>that mode of constantly deflecting.

0:45:08.719 --> 0:45:09.840
<v Speaker 4>So it was good.

0:45:09.920 --> 0:45:12.200
<v Speaker 1>If there's one, not one thing, if there are two

0:45:12.239 --> 0:45:14.920
<v Speaker 1>things that I have garnered from all my research for

0:45:14.960 --> 0:45:15.520
<v Speaker 1>this interview.

0:45:15.560 --> 0:45:19.200
<v Speaker 2>It's that you have a real conviction.

0:45:20.480 --> 0:45:23.480
<v Speaker 1>That word kept coming up as I was watching your interviews,

0:45:23.840 --> 0:45:27.080
<v Speaker 1>and you really believe in the truth, which I think

0:45:27.160 --> 0:45:29.399
<v Speaker 1>is partly maybe why you went into journalism. But it's

0:45:29.400 --> 0:45:31.880
<v Speaker 1>just inherent to you. So I think there's probably going

0:45:31.920 --> 0:45:34.160
<v Speaker 1>to be a lot of that in the book, which.

0:45:33.960 --> 0:45:36.640
<v Speaker 4>Makes it is. I mean, it's a lot of it

0:45:36.719 --> 0:45:37.040
<v Speaker 4>in there.

0:45:37.280 --> 0:45:42.000
<v Speaker 3>I think people in their minds are probably assuming because

0:45:42.040 --> 0:45:44.759
<v Speaker 3>of you know, I've had a very public career, particularly

0:45:44.800 --> 0:45:48.920
<v Speaker 3>the last five or six years. Yeah, they're going to

0:45:49.160 --> 0:45:52.000
<v Speaker 3>wrongly assume that that is the bulk of the book,

0:45:52.920 --> 0:45:56.520
<v Speaker 3>very small percentage. It might be twenty percent. You know,

0:45:56.680 --> 0:45:59.479
<v Speaker 3>I'll give you guys a cheek code. All the stuff

0:45:59.480 --> 0:46:02.839
<v Speaker 3>about esp in the back of the book, right into

0:46:02.880 --> 0:46:03.400
<v Speaker 3>the back.

0:46:03.719 --> 0:46:06.680
<v Speaker 2>Right, but it was defining moment, it wasn't.

0:46:06.760 --> 0:46:09.320
<v Speaker 3>And you know, and even the Donald Trump stuff is

0:46:09.360 --> 0:46:12.200
<v Speaker 3>all on the back of the book. So yeah, it's

0:46:12.200 --> 0:46:13.840
<v Speaker 3>like it's in the back, you know, that that stuff

0:46:13.880 --> 0:46:15.879
<v Speaker 3>I don't even get into until probably like the last

0:46:15.880 --> 0:46:16.840
<v Speaker 3>four or five chapters.

0:46:16.960 --> 0:46:18.480
<v Speaker 4>But everything that happens.

0:46:18.200 --> 0:46:22.879
<v Speaker 3>Before then is really a journey into who I am

0:46:23.120 --> 0:46:26.640
<v Speaker 3>and to what shaped me. And it's some triumphs. It's

0:46:27.160 --> 0:46:30.160
<v Speaker 3>it's a good fair amount of ugliness, you know. I mean,

0:46:30.200 --> 0:46:35.560
<v Speaker 3>I really spend much of it talking about the very

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<v Speaker 3>complicated relationship that I have, you know, with my mother,

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<v Speaker 3>and you know, mothers and daughters go through things, and

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<v Speaker 3>particularly having to witness and be in the middle of

0:46:45.239 --> 0:46:48.000
<v Speaker 3>my mother's drug addiction was very difficult for me. So

0:46:48.080 --> 0:46:51.040
<v Speaker 3>I have to relive some childhood trauma. She had to

0:46:51.080 --> 0:46:54.160
<v Speaker 3>belive some trauma because I, you know, interviewed her multiple

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<v Speaker 3>times for the book, and it was tough.

0:46:57.680 --> 0:46:59.120
<v Speaker 4>You know, my mother has survived a lot.

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<v Speaker 3>She's the greatest survivor I've ever known, and so by

0:47:02.760 --> 0:47:07.360
<v Speaker 3>exposing my story, I'm exposing her story at.

0:47:07.200 --> 0:47:07.839
<v Speaker 4>The same time.

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<v Speaker 3>So I am really curious as to how this will

0:47:12.800 --> 0:47:16.400
<v Speaker 3>how people will will receive that. But I hope people

0:47:16.480 --> 0:47:20.880
<v Speaker 3>understand that this is about how you come out of

0:47:20.960 --> 0:47:23.080
<v Speaker 3>things and not how you state in them.

0:47:23.440 --> 0:47:26.480
<v Speaker 4>And so I know, I wish I'd have thought of

0:47:26.520 --> 0:47:27.240
<v Speaker 4>that before I came.

0:47:27.400 --> 0:47:30.680
<v Speaker 3>Up Hill, which wasn't I mean, to be honest, that

0:47:30.719 --> 0:47:33.040
<v Speaker 3>wasn't actually my title, Like the title I came up with,

0:47:33.080 --> 0:47:35.680
<v Speaker 3>which I loved, but book Bubblish didn't love.

0:47:35.560 --> 0:47:36.240
<v Speaker 1>It so much.

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<v Speaker 2>What was it.

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<v Speaker 4>The title I came up with was broken Curses.

0:47:39.600 --> 0:47:42.520
<v Speaker 3>And you know, my mother, she used to talk a

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<v Speaker 3>lot about how families can be beset by generational curses,

0:47:47.120 --> 0:47:50.840
<v Speaker 3>where you're passing down trauma from you know, one matriarch

0:47:50.920 --> 0:47:53.440
<v Speaker 3>or patriarch to the next, like you're just passing it

0:47:53.520 --> 0:47:56.560
<v Speaker 3>along and not really dealing with it. And they thought

0:47:56.600 --> 0:48:00.000
<v Speaker 3>that Broken Curses was a bit too negative and that whole.

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<v Speaker 3>But I was like, you're breaking the curse though it's

0:48:03.560 --> 0:48:04.520
<v Speaker 3>not staying in the curse.

0:48:04.560 --> 0:48:05.120
<v Speaker 4>You're breaking in.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, we do some rapid fire.

0:48:06.840 --> 0:48:08.640
<v Speaker 4>Oh my favorite? You ready to see me?

0:48:09.760 --> 0:48:13.839
<v Speaker 1>Best sports film of all time, of all time?

0:48:14.360 --> 0:48:15.239
<v Speaker 2>Or your favorite?

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<v Speaker 3>Hmmm, I'm gonna say I always believe like saying the

0:48:18.800 --> 0:48:22.160
<v Speaker 3>first thing that pops even mine any given Sunday.

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<v Speaker 2>Why did your mom name you Jamel?

0:48:25.000 --> 0:48:28.080
<v Speaker 3>Because actually my mother, the story behind this is that

0:48:28.960 --> 0:48:31.200
<v Speaker 3>that wasn't the name she wanted. The name she wanted

0:48:31.320 --> 0:48:35.160
<v Speaker 3>was actually Jamila, which in Arabic means beautiful. But while

0:48:35.320 --> 0:48:39.759
<v Speaker 3>she was recovering from having me, my grandmother's and my

0:48:39.880 --> 0:48:43.480
<v Speaker 3>father conspired and changed my name while she was in there,

0:48:43.520 --> 0:48:45.439
<v Speaker 3>and that's what wound up on the more certificate, which

0:48:45.520 --> 0:48:49.359
<v Speaker 3>was Jamel, but it's derivative of Jamila in her mind,

0:48:49.400 --> 0:48:51.920
<v Speaker 3>so that's why she named me that it's unique.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>What is a book that has changed your life? Something

0:48:55.840 --> 0:48:56.960
<v Speaker 1>you think everyone should read?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I'll tell you the most recent one. Okay, Biola

0:48:59.640 --> 0:49:00.760
<v Speaker 3>Davis is memoir.

0:49:01.040 --> 0:49:08.759
<v Speaker 4>It's unbelievable. It's unbelievable. Yes, I mean so that one.

0:49:09.600 --> 0:49:13.080
<v Speaker 3>Oh a book I read and I hated that I

0:49:13.120 --> 0:49:14.600
<v Speaker 3>got on this book late because I think it came

0:49:14.640 --> 0:49:17.440
<v Speaker 3>out like twenty fifteen. Twenty sixteen, a book by author

0:49:17.520 --> 0:49:20.920
<v Speaker 3>named Yah Jesse called Homecoming phenomenal, one of the best

0:49:20.920 --> 0:49:24.319
<v Speaker 3>books I've ever read. And she's brilliant. Oh, I'll give

0:49:24.320 --> 0:49:25.879
<v Speaker 3>you a third because I talked about books all day long.

0:49:26.000 --> 0:49:28.239
<v Speaker 2>But it's a bookie podcast. It's so good.

0:49:28.360 --> 0:49:32.040
<v Speaker 3>Okay, I just finished this book. I believe her name

0:49:32.440 --> 0:49:37.719
<v Speaker 3>is Leela Motley. She's out of Oakland Night Crawling fantastic.

0:49:38.280 --> 0:49:39.879
<v Speaker 3>That was actually the last book that I read.

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<v Speaker 2>Pretty smart card deck. We do a question.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, okay, do I get to pick her you? Oh?

0:49:44.000 --> 0:49:45.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you get to pick which everyone.

0:49:45.520 --> 0:49:47.840
<v Speaker 4>This is gonna be some ridiculous second. I already feel it.

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<v Speaker 3>What is the best advice someone has given you, and

0:49:51.640 --> 0:49:56.560
<v Speaker 3>why how about the worst the worst advice? That's funny,

0:49:56.719 --> 0:49:59.800
<v Speaker 3>great advice. Walter Mosley, the author, since this is a

0:50:00.080 --> 0:50:02.520
<v Speaker 3>a book, intensive it was, Lee told me i interviewed

0:50:02.600 --> 0:50:03.800
<v Speaker 3>him for my own podcast.

0:50:04.239 --> 0:50:07.720
<v Speaker 4>He's prolific, like he just writes. I'm like, you just write.

0:50:08.239 --> 0:50:11.600
<v Speaker 3>And I was struggling at that point with my memoir

0:50:11.719 --> 0:50:16.319
<v Speaker 3>because as even though journalists have deadlines, you wind up

0:50:16.320 --> 0:50:19.480
<v Speaker 3>writing by field, meaning oh, I'm in the mood. You know,

0:50:19.640 --> 0:50:21.040
<v Speaker 3>it might be three o'clock in the morning, and be like,

0:50:21.120 --> 0:50:23.239
<v Speaker 3>let me bang this story out because I can feel it,

0:50:23.280 --> 0:50:24.480
<v Speaker 3>I know where I want to go with it, I

0:50:24.600 --> 0:50:28.440
<v Speaker 3>understand it. And so when you write that way, you're

0:50:28.480 --> 0:50:30.880
<v Speaker 3>not very disciplined. And that's how I was doing my memoir.

0:50:31.000 --> 0:50:34.680
<v Speaker 3>So I might in one day, I might write forty

0:50:34.760 --> 0:50:37.759
<v Speaker 3>pages and then I won't write for three weeks. And

0:50:37.840 --> 0:50:40.960
<v Speaker 3>Walter Mosley, he told me, every day he gets up

0:50:41.120 --> 0:50:44.280
<v Speaker 3>and writes for two hours no matter what he said.

0:50:44.120 --> 0:50:44.920
<v Speaker 4>Even if it's crap.

0:50:45.160 --> 0:50:46.319
<v Speaker 2>Did it change the way you write?

0:50:46.560 --> 0:50:47.040
<v Speaker 4>Totally did?

0:50:47.200 --> 0:50:51.880
<v Speaker 3>And then I realized I had to stop being emotional

0:50:52.200 --> 0:50:55.360
<v Speaker 3>about when I wrote and waiting until I was ready

0:50:55.800 --> 0:50:57.960
<v Speaker 3>and just had to write. So then I made it

0:50:58.040 --> 0:51:00.719
<v Speaker 3>a discipline, and then I said a time every day

0:51:01.040 --> 0:51:03.920
<v Speaker 3>and wrote, and that's how I finished the memoir.

0:51:04.200 --> 0:51:05.239
<v Speaker 4>And it's true. He was right.

0:51:05.560 --> 0:51:08.759
<v Speaker 3>Worst advice I probably got. It's from a girlfriend about

0:51:08.760 --> 0:51:10.920
<v Speaker 3>it and she sees it, she'll know, she'll know what

0:51:11.000 --> 0:51:11.239
<v Speaker 3>it is.

0:51:12.440 --> 0:51:15.440
<v Speaker 4>She was like, never tell the truth? Who cares about that?

0:51:15.920 --> 0:51:18.120
<v Speaker 4>I was like, what does she know? Who she's talking

0:51:18.160 --> 0:51:18.400
<v Speaker 4>to her?

0:51:19.400 --> 0:51:21.000
<v Speaker 3>She's like, don't tell the truth. No one has time

0:51:21.040 --> 0:51:22.600
<v Speaker 3>for that. And I was like, she was like, but

0:51:22.800 --> 0:51:24.080
<v Speaker 3>why it's so pointless?

0:51:24.960 --> 0:51:25.959
<v Speaker 2>Okay, Donald Trump?

0:51:26.640 --> 0:51:29.080
<v Speaker 4>Right? I was like, this is really awful advice.

0:51:29.160 --> 0:51:29.480
<v Speaker 1>You know that.

0:51:29.560 --> 0:51:31.600
<v Speaker 4>She was like, I'm just saying no one, no one cares.

0:51:31.680 --> 0:51:34.959
<v Speaker 3>I was like, okay, that's actually really good answer, no question,

0:51:35.160 --> 0:51:36.200
<v Speaker 3>and I was hollering.

0:51:36.239 --> 0:51:38.279
<v Speaker 4>I was just like, you are going to get me,

0:51:38.719 --> 0:51:40.960
<v Speaker 4>like in a total world of trouble. It was. It

0:51:41.120 --> 0:51:44.640
<v Speaker 4>was about a very specific situation, and I was like,

0:51:44.920 --> 0:51:46.000
<v Speaker 4>this is awful advice.

0:51:46.560 --> 0:51:48.279
<v Speaker 2>The smartest decision you've ever made?

0:51:48.520 --> 0:51:51.520
<v Speaker 3>Oh, marry my husband. That has definitely the smartest decision

0:51:51.560 --> 0:51:52.120
<v Speaker 3>I've ever made.

0:51:52.160 --> 0:51:54.080
<v Speaker 1>I actually want to do a whole separate podcast with

0:51:54.160 --> 0:51:56.400
<v Speaker 1>you about that, because it seems like you guys have

0:51:56.560 --> 0:51:57.120
<v Speaker 1>the thing.

0:51:58.560 --> 0:52:01.719
<v Speaker 3>Well, you know, the thing is that I guess that

0:52:01.840 --> 0:52:05.000
<v Speaker 3>we have is like obviously, you know, there's love, there's affection,

0:52:05.200 --> 0:52:10.320
<v Speaker 3>but there's mutual respect. And I have not been I

0:52:10.360 --> 0:52:13.399
<v Speaker 3>don't think really I ever have been in a relationship

0:52:14.120 --> 0:52:16.600
<v Speaker 3>where somebody actually brought out the best of me. He

0:52:16.920 --> 0:52:18.960
<v Speaker 3>actually brings out the best of me, and I want

0:52:19.040 --> 0:52:20.920
<v Speaker 3>to be the best for him, and I have not

0:52:21.480 --> 0:52:26.960
<v Speaker 3>felt that really at all, you know, and which I

0:52:27.080 --> 0:52:29.640
<v Speaker 3>was like, wow, Q, all my exis somewhere like what

0:52:31.880 --> 0:52:35.840
<v Speaker 3>I mean, you know, different people different at different stages

0:52:35.880 --> 0:52:39.759
<v Speaker 3>in your life, and I you know, so I think, yeah,

0:52:39.920 --> 0:52:45.120
<v Speaker 3>that part was an unexpected twist in our relationship because

0:52:45.120 --> 0:52:48.120
<v Speaker 3>I don't I think generally speaking, most women is me

0:52:48.160 --> 0:52:50.359
<v Speaker 3>and my husband actually debate this a little bit because

0:52:50.360 --> 0:52:52.160
<v Speaker 3>I told him, I was like, you know, I think

0:52:52.280 --> 0:52:53.600
<v Speaker 3>women have bigger egos.

0:52:53.760 --> 0:52:55.120
<v Speaker 4>Men have more fragile egos.

0:52:55.400 --> 0:52:57.760
<v Speaker 3>And I know people are like women have bigger egos

0:52:58.040 --> 0:52:59.960
<v Speaker 3>only because of this, And I don't mean bigger ego

0:53:00.200 --> 0:53:05.400
<v Speaker 3>with everything I mean, particularly about relationships. And most women

0:53:05.840 --> 0:53:08.680
<v Speaker 3>believe every person they've dated they've been the best thing they've.

0:53:08.520 --> 0:53:09.239
<v Speaker 4>Ever happened to them.

0:53:09.880 --> 0:53:12.640
<v Speaker 3>Every woman believes this, like have you been the best

0:53:12.680 --> 0:53:16.399
<v Speaker 3>thing that ever happened to whoever you've dated, I don't think. So, Okay,

0:53:16.440 --> 0:53:18.520
<v Speaker 3>you're like the first woman I've ever run into that

0:53:18.600 --> 0:53:19.000
<v Speaker 3>has said that.

0:53:19.040 --> 0:53:22.560
<v Speaker 2>Most of it like yeah, therapy, Okay, that's true.

0:53:22.840 --> 0:53:27.520
<v Speaker 3>See that's how you know you're like, ooh, yeah, you

0:53:27.640 --> 0:53:31.200
<v Speaker 3>might have said yes. I think most women tend to

0:53:31.400 --> 0:53:34.880
<v Speaker 3>say that because we do really feel that way, and

0:53:35.080 --> 0:53:38.600
<v Speaker 3>because of that, we miss a lot of keywork.

0:53:38.200 --> 0:53:39.400
<v Speaker 4>We could do on ourselves.

0:53:39.560 --> 0:53:43.000
<v Speaker 3>And so my my husband is the first person who

0:53:43.200 --> 0:53:46.439
<v Speaker 3>really exposed me, and I mean that in a great way.

0:53:46.880 --> 0:53:49.960
<v Speaker 3>And because I had, I struggled a lot with being

0:53:50.080 --> 0:53:53.640
<v Speaker 3>vulnerable a lot with it, and another reason I didn't

0:53:53.640 --> 0:53:57.320
<v Speaker 3>want to write a memoir. And he didn't give me

0:53:57.480 --> 0:54:01.320
<v Speaker 3>any place to run because he's very open, he's very honest,

0:54:01.520 --> 0:54:04.759
<v Speaker 3>he's like direct, like and so it made me. It

0:54:04.880 --> 0:54:07.319
<v Speaker 3>put me in that space of discomfort to the point

0:54:07.360 --> 0:54:09.560
<v Speaker 3>where I was like, I gotta deal with this. So

0:54:09.760 --> 0:54:12.040
<v Speaker 3>I'm not saying I'm perfect at it, but yeah, he

0:54:12.160 --> 0:54:15.279
<v Speaker 3>made me want to do it, want to try to

0:54:15.520 --> 0:54:20.399
<v Speaker 3>like really be unvarnished and vulnerable with him. So best

0:54:20.440 --> 0:54:23.960
<v Speaker 3>decision I've ever made, Smartest decision I've ever made is

0:54:24.120 --> 0:54:25.440
<v Speaker 3>marrying this man.

0:54:52.960 --> 0:54:54.960
<v Speaker 2>All right, today's a good day to have a good day.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll see you next week.