1 00:00:01,160 --> 00:00:03,680 Speaker 1: All right, it is time for the Strawberry Letter. Now, 2 00:00:03,760 --> 00:00:07,840 Speaker 1: ladies and gentlemen, if you have issues in your relationships, 3 00:00:07,840 --> 00:00:11,000 Speaker 1: if you have problems with work, with sex, with parenting, 4 00:00:11,119 --> 00:00:14,440 Speaker 1: all of that, uh, why don't you give us a letter? 5 00:00:14,560 --> 00:00:17,840 Speaker 1: Send us a letter. Email us Steve Harvey FM dot 6 00:00:17,840 --> 00:00:21,360 Speaker 1: com click submit Strawberry Letter and we will definitely try 7 00:00:21,400 --> 00:00:25,640 Speaker 1: and help you out with your situation and be able 8 00:00:25,640 --> 00:00:30,479 Speaker 1: to help you. Yes, we can't help, right, I wish 9 00:00:30,480 --> 00:00:33,360 Speaker 1: no matter help me? Well send let Yeah, it's like 10 00:00:33,400 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: the lottery. You can't win if you don't play. You're ready, ready, bug, 11 00:00:39,600 --> 00:00:42,360 Speaker 1: hold on time. We got it by you. The Strawberry 12 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:47,520 Speaker 1: Letter subject. He's pulling out tracks and giving me whiplash. Here, 13 00:00:47,600 --> 00:00:50,680 Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. I'm in a new relationship, and about two 14 00:00:50,680 --> 00:00:54,560 Speaker 1: months ago we started our sexual adventures. He is an 15 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:58,080 Speaker 1: amazing man in and out of bed. I am twenty 16 00:00:58,120 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 1: eight years old and he's ten years older than I am. 17 00:01:01,280 --> 00:01:04,840 Speaker 1: I love our relationship, but I have one major issue. 18 00:01:05,240 --> 00:01:08,919 Speaker 1: He likes to pull my hair. To be more specific, 19 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:12,600 Speaker 1: he likes to pull my weave while we're being intimate. 20 00:01:13,040 --> 00:01:15,679 Speaker 1: A couple of nights ago, he pulled my hair so 21 00:01:15,760 --> 00:01:18,759 Speaker 1: hard that my scalp was on fire the next day 22 00:01:18,959 --> 00:01:22,440 Speaker 1: and I had whiplash for the past two days. Or 23 00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:27,400 Speaker 1: bring it, my darn neck herds. I will admit that 24 00:01:27,440 --> 00:01:30,120 Speaker 1: when he's messed up my hair or loosened up one 25 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:32,679 Speaker 1: of my tracks, he had no problem paying for my 26 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:36,480 Speaker 1: next install. I'm not one of those girls that is 27 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:39,479 Speaker 1: into rough love making and kinky stuff in the bedroom, 28 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:42,720 Speaker 1: and I feel like hair pulling may be just the beginning. 29 00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:45,679 Speaker 1: He is amazing in bed, so I don't want him 30 00:01:45,720 --> 00:01:47,960 Speaker 1: to stop what he's doing. I just want him to 31 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:50,480 Speaker 1: be more gentle. How should I bring this up to 32 00:01:50,560 --> 00:01:53,000 Speaker 1: him without offending him. I don't want him to think 33 00:01:53,040 --> 00:01:56,760 Speaker 1: I can't handle myself in the bedroom, especially since I'm younger. 34 00:01:57,040 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 1: I also don't want sex to be boring for him. 35 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:04,360 Speaker 1: But he's hurting me, plane and simple. The hair pulling 36 00:02:04,400 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 1: needs to stop immediately. How should I tell him? Please help? 37 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:12,400 Speaker 1: So many things wrong in this letter, but the number 38 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:15,320 Speaker 1: one thing for me. Men, come on now, you know 39 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:18,519 Speaker 1: you cannot mess with the black woman's hair in or 40 00:02:18,680 --> 00:02:21,520 Speaker 1: out of bed. Okay, those are the rules I believe 41 00:02:21,560 --> 00:02:26,720 Speaker 1: that is in the Bible. You know we spend countless 42 00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 1: in the salon. We spend countless hours in the salon, 43 00:02:30,320 --> 00:02:33,520 Speaker 1: waiting a long, long, long time for our turn in 44 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:36,000 Speaker 1: the chair. This is what we go through, okay, Not 45 00:02:36,120 --> 00:02:38,239 Speaker 1: to mention we have to go by the hair store. 46 00:02:38,360 --> 00:02:41,200 Speaker 1: We have to haul all these bundles back to the shop, 47 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:46,440 Speaker 1: sit patiently for the install, even sometimes take meds because 48 00:02:46,480 --> 00:02:49,600 Speaker 1: the pain of the braids underneath the weave are too tight. 49 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 1: We lose our edges dealing with these weaves. So listen 50 00:02:54,200 --> 00:03:00,560 Speaker 1: for your man to be pulling your hair. Sometimes tracks 51 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:04,919 Speaker 1: out and stuff. That's a lot going on. Who cares 52 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:07,919 Speaker 1: if he pays for the next install, for your next deployment. 53 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:10,880 Speaker 1: We don't care about that your scalp, your head is 54 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:14,520 Speaker 1: on fire. Sex should never be that uncomfortable, all right. 55 00:03:14,560 --> 00:03:17,160 Speaker 1: I gotta tell you that it should never be that uncomfortable. 56 00:03:17,400 --> 00:03:20,200 Speaker 1: It should never be hurtful. It should never cause you 57 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:23,280 Speaker 1: any pain like that. So forget about not wanting him 58 00:03:23,280 --> 00:03:26,079 Speaker 1: to think you can't handle yourself in bed because you're young. 59 00:03:26,320 --> 00:03:29,520 Speaker 1: That's not what's important here. Think about yourself, how you 60 00:03:29,600 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 1: feel and what you want. And you have a voice 61 00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 1: and you need to use it. Okay, tell him that 62 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:37,720 Speaker 1: you enjoy sex with him. He's amazing but this hair 63 00:03:37,760 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 1: pulling stuff, it has to stop. It really hurts you, 64 00:03:41,400 --> 00:03:43,800 Speaker 1: and you would like it to stop immediately because of 65 00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:46,640 Speaker 1: the whiplash. Okay, you can't go through life like that. 66 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:56,840 Speaker 1: It's not that serious, Steve, Well, you better make me proud. 67 00:03:57,440 --> 00:04:00,760 Speaker 1: She's covered all the hair objects. That's right. I just 68 00:04:00,800 --> 00:04:03,000 Speaker 1: probably need to get to what you need to know. 69 00:04:03,320 --> 00:04:07,880 Speaker 1: A little girl, you're messing with this grown man. Then 70 00:04:08,080 --> 00:04:10,120 Speaker 1: your letter, you said, a couple of nights ago, we 71 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:13,400 Speaker 1: pulled my hair so hard my scout was on fire. 72 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:17,000 Speaker 1: The next day I had whipped lads for past two days. 73 00:04:17,040 --> 00:04:19,360 Speaker 1: My damn neck hurt. I would admit that when he's 74 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:21,719 Speaker 1: messed up my hair and loosing up my tracks, he 75 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:24,520 Speaker 1: had no problem playing for my next install. I'm not 76 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:28,520 Speaker 1: one of them girls into rough love making and kinky 77 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:31,800 Speaker 1: stuff in the bedroom. And here's the key line. And 78 00:04:31,960 --> 00:04:37,200 Speaker 1: I feel like half pulling may just be the beginning. Well, 79 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 1: I'm here to clear this part of the letter. It 80 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 1: is just the beginning. Oh, it's more where that comes from. See, 81 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:47,039 Speaker 1: y'all just been at trying to see how you're handling 82 00:04:47,080 --> 00:04:49,720 Speaker 1: the hair pullet. Now you all have been crying in 83 00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:52,920 Speaker 1: a letter. Tell about your neck hurt and you got whipped. Lad. 84 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:57,400 Speaker 1: Oh it's more coming. Oh, it's more. It's way more 85 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:00,719 Speaker 1: that hal pulling is in the big in the beginning. 86 00:05:01,360 --> 00:05:05,320 Speaker 1: Let me tell your listening stuff that's coming. Neck choking connects, 87 00:05:06,000 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 1: nick choking is in here. That's what you think. Yeah, yeah, hammelelocks. 88 00:05:10,720 --> 00:05:13,159 Speaker 1: You're gonna be in a hammelelock. You're gonna get loved 89 00:05:13,240 --> 00:05:16,000 Speaker 1: on your wrist up by the base of your scollar. 90 00:05:17,080 --> 00:05:21,359 Speaker 1: It's gonna be ankle bending. Your ankle is gonna be 91 00:05:21,480 --> 00:05:26,760 Speaker 1: behind your neck. I hope you're ready. You findn't get 92 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:30,200 Speaker 1: holy feel you're gonna get one of your damn here 93 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:34,719 Speaker 1: took off. Oh the hell pulling. It's just the beginning. 94 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:38,240 Speaker 1: Looking you don't like roth Sayson kicking though, he's just 95 00:05:38,360 --> 00:05:41,120 Speaker 1: trying to see how you heling. He paying for his stalls. 96 00:05:41,120 --> 00:05:42,919 Speaker 1: He's gonna have to be paying for teeth and lips 97 00:05:42,960 --> 00:05:45,560 Speaker 1: and stuff. You're gonna have to get your face restructed. 98 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:48,200 Speaker 1: This boyfriend to come in here and do some banging 99 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:51,880 Speaker 1: you ain't really familiar with. Also, there's gonna be some 100 00:05:52,120 --> 00:05:57,039 Speaker 1: tongue in Helen. See you haven't been in here, and Shelly, 101 00:05:57,160 --> 00:06:00,640 Speaker 1: I don't expect you to like my response. You've done 102 00:06:00,720 --> 00:06:04,680 Speaker 1: all the little hair comments. This ain't about hair. This 103 00:06:04,920 --> 00:06:07,680 Speaker 1: is about this could get a little more different, and 104 00:06:07,960 --> 00:06:11,080 Speaker 1: obviously you're gonna sit there and act like you're unfamiliar 105 00:06:11,160 --> 00:06:13,720 Speaker 1: with it. But you all have had a man in 106 00:06:13,839 --> 00:06:18,839 Speaker 1: heale your tongue U. No, yes you have. If you haven't, 107 00:06:18,880 --> 00:06:23,720 Speaker 1: you miss it. It's actually good fast in hell, you're 108 00:06:23,720 --> 00:06:27,000 Speaker 1: gonna end up getting bent and twisted. It's gonna you 109 00:06:27,120 --> 00:06:30,400 Speaker 1: had to go to Contortia school to continue relationship with 110 00:06:30,520 --> 00:06:32,280 Speaker 1: this man right here. You had to get into some 111 00:06:32,360 --> 00:06:36,160 Speaker 1: type of circus training if you're gonna stay with this 112 00:06:36,360 --> 00:06:40,000 Speaker 1: man right here, sut the so late our strongly said, yes, 113 00:06:40,560 --> 00:06:43,200 Speaker 1: you take something like yoga. You definitely gotta get it. 114 00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:48,760 Speaker 1: Because Downward Dog is coming. Downward Dog Warrior Stands is coming. 115 00:06:48,880 --> 00:06:51,200 Speaker 1: We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up in 116 00:06:51,279 --> 00:06:58,480 Speaker 1: twenty our mission. You're listening to show, all right, Steve, 117 00:06:58,560 --> 00:07:00,880 Speaker 1: come on, let's go with part two of your response. 118 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:05,760 Speaker 1: I can father than you should because of the level 119 00:07:05,839 --> 00:07:09,160 Speaker 1: of intensity that this man is able to go into 120 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:12,440 Speaker 1: now with all this hair track pulling. She's afraid that 121 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:15,680 Speaker 1: this is the beginning. She don't like rough sex. I 122 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:21,120 Speaker 1: don't either. I don't like pain in my game. But 123 00:07:21,240 --> 00:07:23,640 Speaker 1: you're gonna have to get another man because he do pain. 124 00:07:24,080 --> 00:07:25,720 Speaker 1: Because after he hurts you, he want to pay for 125 00:07:28,800 --> 00:07:30,480 Speaker 1: You're gonna you're gonna mess around to get one of 126 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:35,000 Speaker 1: your little nostrils told. It ain't gonna tell what's gonna happen. Yeah, 127 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:37,840 Speaker 1: you don't get I put out you. You probably even 128 00:07:37,840 --> 00:07:42,120 Speaker 1: believe this man unless you do like I'm telling you to, dude, 129 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:45,800 Speaker 1: and get into some type of circus trainer. Get you 130 00:07:45,920 --> 00:07:49,040 Speaker 1: a net put in your backyard and a trap piece practice. 131 00:07:49,920 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 1: Get a trampoline because he gonna dive off of something. 132 00:07:54,080 --> 00:07:56,680 Speaker 1: You're gonna want to know how to handle. There's something 133 00:07:57,120 --> 00:08:00,360 Speaker 1: that I strongly suggest that you don start doing that gym. 134 00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:05,560 Speaker 1: Try to do toe thrust because it'll it'll help you. 135 00:08:05,680 --> 00:08:08,360 Speaker 1: It'll give you escaping powers. You can get away better. 136 00:08:08,400 --> 00:08:11,160 Speaker 1: You gotta strengthen your toes so when he's coming towards you, 137 00:08:11,240 --> 00:08:13,560 Speaker 1: you can toe thrust. Just be right apart the way. 138 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:16,400 Speaker 1: It's things like that that you want to do, and 139 00:08:16,520 --> 00:08:21,080 Speaker 1: you know a lot of stuff. Try to lose some weight. 140 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:24,080 Speaker 1: I don't know what size you are now. A matter 141 00:08:24,120 --> 00:08:26,640 Speaker 1: of fact, I take that back. Gain some weight so 142 00:08:26,760 --> 00:08:29,840 Speaker 1: you can handle it better. Put some weight on. Be heavy. 143 00:08:29,920 --> 00:08:33,600 Speaker 1: That way, all that tossing is limited. That's a beautiful 144 00:08:33,640 --> 00:08:36,400 Speaker 1: thing about full figure women. They real fine and all 145 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:38,240 Speaker 1: with it. They got what you want. You know, you 146 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:41,160 Speaker 1: just gotta handle them different. But you handle them wrong. 147 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:44,360 Speaker 1: Your mess around it get handled and maybe that's what 148 00:08:44,480 --> 00:08:46,440 Speaker 1: you need to. Just put on some weight for his ass. 149 00:08:46,679 --> 00:08:48,559 Speaker 1: And next time he coming there with all that hair pulling, 150 00:08:48,559 --> 00:08:52,440 Speaker 1: you turn around, pull his hat, get in the gym. 151 00:08:52,640 --> 00:08:54,560 Speaker 1: You get in the gym and get your upper body right. 152 00:08:54,640 --> 00:08:56,320 Speaker 1: So when he pulled your hair, you pull his hair. 153 00:08:56,520 --> 00:08:58,520 Speaker 1: Whatever he do you, you do the same thing here. 154 00:08:58,760 --> 00:09:02,880 Speaker 1: If he ain't ball headed, pull some my hair from somewhere. Now, 155 00:09:03,360 --> 00:09:07,760 Speaker 1: how you like that? Wow? Yeah, pull his eyebrows out, 156 00:09:07,880 --> 00:09:16,319 Speaker 1: that's very pluck his eyebrows that one of them. Grab 157 00:09:16,480 --> 00:09:18,920 Speaker 1: a mustairs hair and pull it out. I'm telling you 158 00:09:19,040 --> 00:09:21,439 Speaker 1: right now to put tears and now pull out some 159 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:28,599 Speaker 1: nose hair. And that's what I think you should do. 160 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:33,679 Speaker 1: That's my response to the nasty cover all stuff about 161 00:09:33,760 --> 00:09:36,120 Speaker 1: the hair. I don't I don't have no hair. I 162 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:45,040 Speaker 1: don't know before you know half a hair, right? He 163 00:09:45,160 --> 00:09:48,160 Speaker 1: pulling your hair, you pull his hair. You bite your tongue, 164 00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:50,000 Speaker 1: you bite his tongue. Y'all. Just be in there, bleed. 165 00:09:52,080 --> 00:09:54,040 Speaker 1: I thought all women had the hair tied up when 166 00:09:54,040 --> 00:10:04,280 Speaker 1: they come to be to this. Come on, Tommy by Way, 167 00:10:04,760 --> 00:10:11,520 Speaker 1: be tied up. No comment, kay, no no comment, sir. 168 00:10:12,400 --> 00:10:15,560 Speaker 1: All right, Steve, we gotta get out of here. Email us, 169 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:18,679 Speaker 1: your Instagram us, your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter and 170 00:10:18,920 --> 00:10:25,440 Speaker 1: my girls, Shirley. It's all good, it's all good. Remember 171 00:10:25,520 --> 00:10:29,079 Speaker 1: to submit your letters to Steve Harvey FM. Click on 172 00:10:29,360 --> 00:10:32,920 Speaker 1: Submit Strawberry Letter. Okay, we'll come right back with more 173 00:10:33,000 --> 00:10:36,360 Speaker 1: of the Steve Harvey Morning Show right after this. 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