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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: advice and relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more. Please

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Speaker 1: this one right here, right now. Buggala, hold on tight,

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Speaker 1: We got it for you. Here It is the Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: subject me him and her Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been

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Speaker 1: in a relationship with a man for at least twelve years,

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Speaker 1: and we've known each other since we were children growing

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Speaker 1: up in the church. We are the perfect couple. We

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Speaker 1: have great memories, and we always plan to spend the

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Speaker 1: rest of our lives together. The only thing that's coming

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Speaker 1: between us is the woman he lives with. My man

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Speaker 1: was in prison for fourteen years, but I was faithful

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Speaker 1: to him the entire time. But when he got out,

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Speaker 1: he moved in with a female he'd only known a

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Speaker 1: few months. He's been out for five years, and now

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Speaker 1: he's trapped with her. Her because she's helping him get

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Speaker 1: back on his feet, and he's helping her take care

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Speaker 1: of her kids and his kid. He told me that

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Speaker 1: her youngest child is his, and I didn't hold it

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Speaker 1: against him because things happen whenever we talk. He tells

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Speaker 1: me he's miserable and says he wants to come live

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Speaker 1: with me. The final straw was when he told me

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Speaker 1: that she's making him marry her since she's been taking

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Speaker 1: care of him for five years. He told me that

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Speaker 1: she knows about me and thinks we're just best friends.

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Speaker 1: I want to stop him from marrying her because he

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Speaker 1: does not love her. He's in the threesomes and he's

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Speaker 1: out of his mind with her. I have a nice

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Speaker 1: home and enough money to take care of us, so

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Speaker 1: it would be a smooth transition for him. I failed

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Speaker 1: to mention that I'm a very handsome and debonair man,

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Speaker 1: because that has nothing that has nothing to do with

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Speaker 1: I wrote this letter. Okay, I want my man with

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Speaker 1: me where he belongs. How can I get him from

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Speaker 1: this woman? Okay, okay, okay, you tried to trick us

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Speaker 1: right there in the end, but I'm gonna tell you,

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Speaker 1: uh huh uh, I'm completely tricked. He tried it. Uh.

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Speaker 1: The advice I'm gonna give it will be the same

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Speaker 1: if it's a man or a woman in this particular

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Speaker 1: and in this particular instance. Yeah, So you ask the question,

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Speaker 1: how can you get him from this woman? And the

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Speaker 1: answer is you can't. You can't get him away. He

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Speaker 1: you've heard the expression wanting his cake, I want my

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Speaker 1: cake and eat it too. Well, that's what this is about.

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Speaker 1: I mean, twelve years is a long time to be

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Speaker 1: with anyone, all right, anyone without sometime or any type

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Speaker 1: of commitment marriage. I'm going to marry you, be a

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Speaker 1: yourself a favor and realize that he's lying to you

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Speaker 1: just to keep you on the side and to make

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Speaker 1: So you got to stop believing his lies. You have to.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know he's telling you he's miserable and

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Speaker 1: I mean he's helping she's helping him get back on

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Speaker 1: for all of the five years he's been out. And

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Speaker 1: the biggest lie she's making him marry her. Well, how

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Speaker 1: is she doing that? There's no mention in the letter

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Speaker 1: because of the kids or whatever. No, he's lying. He

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Speaker 1: does not want to be with you full time like that.

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Speaker 1: He wants to keep it on the down low. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you need to let him go and and let him

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Speaker 1: just be with her and you find yourself someone else

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Speaker 1: because you know this is all you're gonna get from him.

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Speaker 1: This is it, and you don't want to waste another

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Speaker 1: twelve years with him. You're you're just wasting your time

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Speaker 1: waiting for this guy. He's not gonna change. Steve. Oh, Steve,

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Speaker 1: I ain't seen none of this coming. Yeah. Oh, let

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Speaker 1: this letter the same way Sheryl did. Sherley did with

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Speaker 1: I didn't appreciate the fact that he tricked me. See,

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Speaker 1: I didn't appreciate this. Gonna wait all wait to the

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Speaker 1: down all this easy right here, all pol girl, Oh,

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Speaker 1: this letter? Will it do to me? So now I

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Speaker 1: don't I don't know what to do. Now what do

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Speaker 1: you want? Now? First of all, let me say this.

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Speaker 1: You have written in to Shirley Strawberry as Steve Harvey. Now, dog,

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Speaker 1: you already know who I am. You already know. So

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Speaker 1: now as I attempt to answer this letter, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: try to keep the fact out that you are man.

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Speaker 1: But now, okay, here we go. Let's just try. Steve,

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Speaker 1: come on, do your best. I've been in relationship with

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Speaker 1: a man for at least twelve years, and we've known

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Speaker 1: other since we were children growing up in church. Okay,

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Speaker 1: we are the perfect couple right there? You do When

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Speaker 1: you say perfect couple to me, I go one way. Sorry,

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Speaker 1: that's just me. It's Wow's raise grew up. You said

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Speaker 1: perfect couple. You got me throwed off. I'm already not

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Speaker 1: ready for the end of this letter. We have great

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Speaker 1: I've told that lie to about fourteen women. Ain't a problem.

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Speaker 1: I got that. The only thing that's coming between us

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Speaker 1: this before. I've had the woman I live with come

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Speaker 1: between several relationships in my past. So I'm with you, though, Okay,

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Speaker 1: the rest of it when I come back. I'm struggling

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Speaker 1: with this. All right. We'll have part two of Steve's

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Speaker 1: of the subject Me, Him and Her. We'll get back

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Speaker 1: into it right after this. You're listening to Steve Morning Show.

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Speaker 1: All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters,

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Speaker 1: subject Me, Him and Her. Now, this whole letter hinged

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Speaker 1: on the end of it. He's talking about this woman.

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Speaker 1: He's talking about this man that's involved with this woman.

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking it's another woman, and all the letter, will

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Speaker 1: you know he's bored out of his mind with her.

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Speaker 1: I have a nice home, enough money to take care

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Speaker 1: of us. It would be a smooth transition for him.

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Speaker 1: I failed to mention, now this is a letter from

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Speaker 1: what I'm thinking is a woman writing a letter about

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Speaker 1: a man who came out of prison after fourteen years

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Speaker 1: and moved in with another woman. Because he said, moved

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Speaker 1: At the end of the letter, he tricked me. He said,

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Speaker 1: I failed to mention that I'm a very handsome and

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Speaker 1: deaving their man, because that has nothing to do with

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Speaker 1: who I wrote this letter. I want my man with

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Speaker 1: me where he belongs. How can I get him from

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Speaker 1: this woman? Now I'm throwed off. So now all my

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Speaker 1: answer is it's just messed up because I was going

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Speaker 1: with him. You in a relationship with a man for

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Speaker 1: twelve years, knowing each other since we've children, growing up

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Speaker 1: in church. I was fine with that. We're a perfect couple,

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Speaker 1: of course, quite natural. I went to what I considered

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Speaker 1: perfect couple. I'm still going. I remember I ain't got

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Speaker 1: the information yet that I just read y'all. We have

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Speaker 1: great memories. We've always planned to spend the rest of

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Speaker 1: our life together. I've said that I can't counter women.

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Speaker 1: The only thing that's coming between us is the woman

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Speaker 1: he lived with. I've kind of been there before. Two. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: my man was in prison for fourteen years. Okay, I

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Speaker 1: ain't never done that. Your man was in prison. I'm

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Speaker 1: tough right there, that's all they're fourteen years down. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I appreciate you hanging in there, baby, But little did

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Speaker 1: I know, baby really cared money, you know. Anyway, anyway,

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Speaker 1: that baby my man was in prison for. But I

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Speaker 1: a few months. I went, Okay, cool, I understand that.

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Speaker 1: So some something going on for he went into prison.

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Speaker 1: You ain't knowing nobody got this little girl, like he's

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Speaker 1: let us start getting real stupid. How you've been trapped

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Speaker 1: for five years? You're trapped in prison? For fourteen. Why

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Speaker 1: five years? Somebody lying? So you can walk off out

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Speaker 1: They got a ouba, you can ride off. You ain't

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Speaker 1: got signed in at night. So I'm just going, Damn,

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Speaker 1: this is crazy. And now he's trapped with her because

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Speaker 1: she's been helping him get back on his feet. Damn,

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Speaker 1: didn't hold that against him. Well, if you ain't gonna

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Speaker 1: damn the you need to let this go. Find the straggles.

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Speaker 1: When he told me that she's making him marry him

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Speaker 1: He told me that she knows about me and thinks

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Speaker 1: that we just best friends. Okay, that's natural, knowing what

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Speaker 1: going damn, he told it to y'all just friends. I

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Speaker 1: want to stop him from manning her because he does

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Speaker 1: not love her. He's he's into threesomes, and he's had

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Speaker 1: a smooth transition for him. I failed to mention. Then,

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Speaker 1: I'm a very handsome and debonair man. That's what this

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Speaker 1: Steve don't know how to help you, bro. Sorry, dog,

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Speaker 1: but you'll do then. God with a girl, which I understand.

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Speaker 1: I fully understand the trap with her. I understand the

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Speaker 1: because you know, my dog, I've been with a woman

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Speaker 1: in a relationship since I was nineteen. I ain't ever

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Speaker 1: was nineteen. I ain't ever took thirty days off out

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Speaker 1: has overridden every damn decision I've ever made. I'm making

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Speaker 1: decisions on the daily basis based around the woman. Is

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Speaker 1: this letter about you or him? So I understand why

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Speaker 1: your man is struggling. You need to recognize that the

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