1 00:00:00,320 --> 00:00:03,920 Speaker 1: When I say no, it opens up space for the 2 00:00:03,960 --> 00:00:07,400 Speaker 1: hell yes somewhere else. Sometimes I will say no to 3 00:00:07,560 --> 00:00:13,000 Speaker 1: something so that I can say yes to protecting my piece. 4 00:00:28,120 --> 00:00:33,000 Speaker 2: Hey, everybody, Emily Abadi coming to you from the Age Studio. 5 00:00:33,360 --> 00:00:37,839 Speaker 2: You are listening to episode two hundred and five of Hurdle, 6 00:00:38,120 --> 00:00:40,800 Speaker 2: a wellness focus podcast where I connect with everyone from 7 00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:44,640 Speaker 2: your favorite athletes to top experts and industry CEOs about 8 00:00:44,640 --> 00:00:49,120 Speaker 2: their highest highs, toughest moments, and everything in between. We 9 00:00:49,280 --> 00:00:52,040 Speaker 2: all go through hurdles in life, and my goal through 10 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:55,200 Speaker 2: these discussions is to empower you to better navigate yours 11 00:00:55,520 --> 00:00:58,760 Speaker 2: and move with intention so that you can stride towards 12 00:00:58,760 --> 00:01:02,720 Speaker 2: your own big potential and of course have some fun 13 00:01:03,320 --> 00:01:06,679 Speaker 2: along the way. Today I am bringing you up my 14 00:01:06,840 --> 00:01:10,360 Speaker 2: conversation with tonday Oi Nane that you know and. 15 00:01:10,440 --> 00:01:12,280 Speaker 3: Love her from the Peloton Bike. 16 00:01:12,600 --> 00:01:16,160 Speaker 2: This is her third appearance here on Hurdle, and I 17 00:01:16,200 --> 00:01:20,440 Speaker 2: am so so excited to have her here talking about 18 00:01:20,520 --> 00:01:24,360 Speaker 2: a bunch of things, including her upcoming book Speak, Find 19 00:01:24,400 --> 00:01:27,200 Speaker 2: your voice, trust your gut, and get from where you 20 00:01:27,319 --> 00:01:29,520 Speaker 2: are to where you want to be. 21 00:01:30,080 --> 00:01:32,080 Speaker 3: For today's episode, we're really catching up. 22 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:34,840 Speaker 2: We're talking about the last couple of years and a 23 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:37,960 Speaker 2: lot of the really special topics that are in her book. 24 00:01:38,040 --> 00:01:41,479 Speaker 2: You know, this woman crazy busy leading. After this launch, 25 00:01:41,720 --> 00:01:44,959 Speaker 2: we're chatting about what soul care, as she loves to 26 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:47,400 Speaker 2: call it, looks like these days, a topic she introduced 27 00:01:47,480 --> 00:01:50,720 Speaker 2: on the show last time. Also how it feels for 28 00:01:50,760 --> 00:01:53,600 Speaker 2: her to be more established in her career right now. 29 00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:56,080 Speaker 2: She opens her book, I'm a fitness instructor and a 30 00:01:56,160 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 2: Nike athlete, And these are two designations, two ways she 31 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:05,080 Speaker 2: identifies that have really come into light over the last 32 00:02:05,120 --> 00:02:07,360 Speaker 2: few years. She's really stepped into this beautiful role as 33 00:02:07,360 --> 00:02:11,640 Speaker 2: a peloton instructor. She landed this really amazing opportunity with Nike, 34 00:02:11,800 --> 00:02:14,240 Speaker 2: and I ask her how she feels about that, How 35 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:16,680 Speaker 2: she feels when she closes her eyes and puts herself 36 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 2: maybe into the body of her younger self. 37 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:21,240 Speaker 3: Would she even believe it? 38 00:02:21,560 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 2: We also talk about the idea of your calling and 39 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:27,280 Speaker 2: if everyone has the same opportunity to lead a life 40 00:02:27,320 --> 00:02:30,359 Speaker 2: where you get to chase that calling, how to navigate 41 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:34,960 Speaker 2: unexpected challenges, how to embrace authenticity, and what else She's 42 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:37,959 Speaker 2: excited about where she's going, what's coming next. So much 43 00:02:37,960 --> 00:02:40,919 Speaker 2: goodness in this conversation. So grateful for my girl tune 44 00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:43,320 Speaker 2: day and her time. And I'm also really amped a 45 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:46,160 Speaker 2: going to her live show this week in New York City. 46 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:47,440 Speaker 3: Love supporting my people. 47 00:02:47,520 --> 00:02:50,800 Speaker 2: I love the vibe of this conversation and happy to 48 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 2: share it with you. 49 00:02:51,880 --> 00:02:53,919 Speaker 3: I'm coming off of a really special trip to Germany. 50 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:56,800 Speaker 2: I went out there to attend the Adidas Roads to 51 00:02:56,880 --> 00:03:00,240 Speaker 2: Records event. They ran a three different distance races is 52 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:02,280 Speaker 2: the five k to ten k and the half marathon, 53 00:03:02,600 --> 00:03:06,240 Speaker 2: encouraging some of their professional athletes to go after new 54 00:03:06,400 --> 00:03:11,520 Speaker 2: personal records. And the whole environment super motivating, super exciting. 55 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:13,200 Speaker 2: I'm so grateful that I got to be a part 56 00:03:13,240 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 2: of it. It was great to have some time strolling 57 00:03:15,880 --> 00:03:18,800 Speaker 2: around the streets of a town called Erlog in my 58 00:03:18,919 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 2: German not good after all of the festivities were done, 59 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:28,079 Speaker 2: and getting my German fear and gelato and yeah, it 60 00:03:28,200 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 2: was just a nice little. 61 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 3: Breath of fresh air. 62 00:03:31,000 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 2: Spring has sprung and I am feeling amped. Make sure 63 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:37,760 Speaker 2: you're following along with the show over at Hurdle podcast. 64 00:03:37,880 --> 00:03:41,440 Speaker 2: I Am over at Emily a Body and subscribe to 65 00:03:41,480 --> 00:03:43,840 Speaker 2: the weekly Hurdle, Rate and review the podcast. 66 00:03:44,080 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 3: Show what your love for the brand. 67 00:03:46,200 --> 00:03:49,400 Speaker 2: It is always always appreciated. Links to do all of 68 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:54,200 Speaker 2: this are in the show notes. With that, let's get 69 00:03:54,280 --> 00:03:56,720 Speaker 2: to hurdling. 70 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:05,960 Speaker 1: Today. 71 00:04:06,160 --> 00:04:09,040 Speaker 2: I am sitting down with my girl tune day. How 72 00:04:09,120 --> 00:04:10,320 Speaker 2: you doing today, my friend? 73 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:14,520 Speaker 1: Hey, you're off? Hey, Hey, how are you okay? 74 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:18,680 Speaker 2: I'm good, I'm good. You are joining an elite club 75 00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:22,280 Speaker 2: of people. This is your third appearance on Hurdle. Your 76 00:04:22,279 --> 00:04:25,960 Speaker 2: first appearance on Hurdle back in February twenty twenty one, 77 00:04:26,080 --> 00:04:28,839 Speaker 2: your second appearance May twenty twenty one. 78 00:04:29,080 --> 00:04:30,080 Speaker 4: It's been a minute. 79 00:04:30,960 --> 00:04:33,280 Speaker 1: I know. I thought this was gonna be like a 80 00:04:33,320 --> 00:04:36,560 Speaker 1: once a quarter thing, but I'm down with once a year. 81 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:40,000 Speaker 2: But if you wanted to be once a quarter, girlfriend, 82 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:42,279 Speaker 2: I'm sure we can find something to talk about. 83 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:44,719 Speaker 4: What's a quarter? How are we feeling? 84 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:47,599 Speaker 1: I'm doing good today with a little bit of a 85 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:52,360 Speaker 1: wild day and still I'm doing pretty great, very energized. Today. 86 00:04:52,400 --> 00:04:53,040 Speaker 1: I feeling good. 87 00:04:53,440 --> 00:04:56,280 Speaker 2: If you had to pick two highlights, I know two 88 00:04:56,360 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 2: is like not many, but two from the last year 89 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:03,279 Speaker 2: since we last spoke. 90 00:05:03,440 --> 00:05:04,800 Speaker 4: Do you have anything to pop in with me? 91 00:05:05,600 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 1: One? I have a book coming out on May third 92 00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 1: called Speak Find your Voice, Trust your gut, and get 93 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:14,039 Speaker 1: from where you are to where you want to be. 94 00:05:14,240 --> 00:05:16,960 Speaker 1: In the third grade, I said that I wanted to 95 00:05:16,960 --> 00:05:19,880 Speaker 1: write a book before I'd lived the lessons that I 96 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:23,440 Speaker 1: will speak to in this book. And so now that 97 00:05:23,480 --> 00:05:27,240 Speaker 1: moment's here, that moment's arrived at feels really good. And 98 00:05:27,279 --> 00:05:33,159 Speaker 1: then number two, I am Nike's first ever trainer to 99 00:05:33,279 --> 00:05:38,240 Speaker 1: be named Nike Athlete, and so to have a partnership 100 00:05:38,279 --> 00:05:43,680 Speaker 1: with Nike, to be the first anything with Nike is 101 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:50,280 Speaker 1: like beyond beyond what I would have ever thought was possible. 102 00:05:50,320 --> 00:05:56,680 Speaker 1: So yeah, girl, so many when in the last three 103 00:05:56,760 --> 00:06:00,040 Speaker 1: hundred and sixty five days, And with that is so 104 00:06:00,240 --> 00:06:05,640 Speaker 1: much gratitude, an immense level of gratitude not only for 105 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:09,919 Speaker 1: all the opportunities, but to the community at Heloton who's 106 00:06:09,920 --> 00:06:14,240 Speaker 1: made this possible for me. Gratitude with self for believing 107 00:06:14,279 --> 00:06:19,240 Speaker 1: myself worthy, for believing myself able, capable, for trying, for 108 00:06:19,320 --> 00:06:22,719 Speaker 1: never giving up. Lots of gratitude. 109 00:06:22,920 --> 00:06:28,560 Speaker 2: Before we talk about speak, I want to touch on 110 00:06:28,800 --> 00:06:33,239 Speaker 2: something knowing how busy that you've been and how busy 111 00:06:33,279 --> 00:06:37,680 Speaker 2: you've embraced being as of recently that you and I 112 00:06:37,760 --> 00:06:42,360 Speaker 2: spoke about, I believe it was your first episode of 113 00:06:42,440 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 2: hurdle and which I know that you do speak too often, 114 00:06:45,640 --> 00:06:50,160 Speaker 2: and that is the idea of soul care. How is Tunday, 115 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:54,839 Speaker 2: in the craziness of everything that's going on, making sure 116 00:06:55,360 --> 00:06:56,240 Speaker 2: I'm looking at you. 117 00:06:57,760 --> 00:06:59,280 Speaker 4: To get that soul care. 118 00:07:00,080 --> 00:07:02,520 Speaker 1: It's tough. Let me not mislead you my soul care. 119 00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:06,120 Speaker 1: In the last few weeks, as we're leading up to 120 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:09,119 Speaker 1: this tour, my soul care has come in like little 121 00:07:09,120 --> 00:07:12,240 Speaker 1: micro doses of soul care, like five minutes here, five 122 00:07:12,280 --> 00:07:17,160 Speaker 1: minutes there, three minutes pure, a minute of stillness there, 123 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:20,600 Speaker 1: a song that I play on repeat, like that's one 124 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:22,760 Speaker 1: of the things I do play the same song. My 125 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:27,720 Speaker 1: soul care comes in doses. You know I've said this before, 126 00:07:27,840 --> 00:07:30,120 Speaker 1: but you know soul care for me, sometimes it's just 127 00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:33,840 Speaker 1: say no. When I say no, it opens up space 128 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:38,480 Speaker 1: for hell yes somewhere else. Sometimes I will say no 129 00:07:38,880 --> 00:07:43,160 Speaker 1: to something so that I can say yes to protecting 130 00:07:44,160 --> 00:07:48,840 Speaker 1: my piece, because if my piece isn't protected, if I'm 131 00:07:48,960 --> 00:07:53,040 Speaker 1: not good, then what is it for. Yeah, I have 132 00:07:53,080 --> 00:07:54,360 Speaker 1: to be good to me so that I can be 133 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:56,960 Speaker 1: good to other people. When I'm not showing up for myself, 134 00:07:57,320 --> 00:08:00,680 Speaker 1: I'm not showing up for other people. My job requires 135 00:08:00,720 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 1: me to show up for other people. And so if 136 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:08,320 Speaker 1: I can't do that for self first, then I have 137 00:08:08,360 --> 00:08:09,120 Speaker 1: nothing to pour. 138 00:08:09,720 --> 00:08:12,960 Speaker 2: When you are super burnt out, where do you dig 139 00:08:13,000 --> 00:08:17,000 Speaker 2: from for the gratitude in what you do to keep 140 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:20,480 Speaker 2: showing up anyway? Because I know that that's where you 141 00:08:20,520 --> 00:08:24,200 Speaker 2: have to reach in those really tough moments people. 142 00:08:24,960 --> 00:08:28,400 Speaker 1: I'm big on energy and frequency and vibe and feeling 143 00:08:28,480 --> 00:08:32,160 Speaker 1: people's vibes. Like you know, it'll be a Saturday and 144 00:08:32,240 --> 00:08:34,680 Speaker 1: I'm in that studio and then Alex Hussaint walks in, 145 00:08:34,800 --> 00:08:40,079 Speaker 1: and Alex like carries a high vibration. He just walks 146 00:08:40,080 --> 00:08:45,480 Speaker 1: around nightly. You know. Adriane is another one where I 147 00:08:45,559 --> 00:08:49,000 Speaker 1: almost feel uncomfortable being in a bad mood around Adriane 148 00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:51,760 Speaker 1: because he's just pure sunshine. And so I absorb that 149 00:08:51,800 --> 00:08:54,840 Speaker 1: stuff my friends. I have friends who will remind me, 150 00:08:55,200 --> 00:08:59,280 Speaker 1: like you know, of the beginning and then when someone 151 00:08:59,360 --> 00:09:01,720 Speaker 1: faces you, you and you have to stand in front 152 00:09:01,720 --> 00:09:04,959 Speaker 1: of a mirror and see your reflection and recall or 153 00:09:05,080 --> 00:09:10,640 Speaker 1: count on the beginning. Two. There's so much gratitude in 154 00:09:10,679 --> 00:09:15,880 Speaker 1: that we are so busy chasing the goal that not 155 00:09:15,920 --> 00:09:19,040 Speaker 1: only do we not enjoy the journey, but we often 156 00:09:19,280 --> 00:09:22,640 Speaker 1: we're moving so straight ahead, even though success isn't only near, 157 00:09:22,679 --> 00:09:27,839 Speaker 1: it's up and down, highs, low's valleys, dips, bends, misdirections, 158 00:09:28,559 --> 00:09:31,560 Speaker 1: right direction. We are so focused on ahead that we 159 00:09:31,679 --> 00:09:35,600 Speaker 1: forget to look back. And when you look back, you 160 00:09:35,640 --> 00:09:42,000 Speaker 1: can see all the shit. You can see all of 161 00:09:42,040 --> 00:09:46,840 Speaker 1: the friction. You can see everything that you moved through. 162 00:09:47,400 --> 00:09:51,720 Speaker 1: My friends, they're they're the mirror. They're the mirror that 163 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:56,480 Speaker 1: that I see my reflection and they remind me. And 164 00:09:56,880 --> 00:10:02,679 Speaker 1: you can't but feel gratitude when you remember. 165 00:10:02,840 --> 00:10:06,960 Speaker 2: Definitely, definitely, And I love how when I asked you 166 00:10:07,080 --> 00:10:10,000 Speaker 2: two of the things that really resonated with you from 167 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:13,280 Speaker 2: this past year or two of your highlights, you undoubtedly 168 00:10:13,360 --> 00:10:17,920 Speaker 2: said the book coming out shortly, but also mentioned being 169 00:10:17,960 --> 00:10:22,520 Speaker 2: a Nike athlete. And I noticed, because spoiler alert, I've 170 00:10:22,559 --> 00:10:26,720 Speaker 2: seen your book that the first line of it you write, 171 00:10:26,760 --> 00:10:30,640 Speaker 2: I'm a fitness instructor and Nike athlete. Now, when I 172 00:10:30,679 --> 00:10:34,000 Speaker 2: say that back to you, if you close your eyes 173 00:10:34,120 --> 00:10:38,800 Speaker 2: right now and like put your current self in the 174 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:44,679 Speaker 2: body of Tune day a decade ago, how does that 175 00:10:44,720 --> 00:10:45,360 Speaker 2: make you feel? 176 00:10:46,480 --> 00:10:51,560 Speaker 1: Twenty six? Tun Ate twenty six makes me feel proud 177 00:10:52,880 --> 00:10:55,760 Speaker 1: of myself, proud of myself for believing myself. 178 00:10:55,880 --> 00:10:58,360 Speaker 4: And what do you mean by believing yourself, not. 179 00:10:58,320 --> 00:11:01,840 Speaker 1: Believing that it was worthy, believing myself worth be capable 180 00:11:02,080 --> 00:11:05,000 Speaker 1: believing my intuition. You know, I think it was the 181 00:11:05,040 --> 00:11:09,400 Speaker 1: first time. Remember was second time we met via podcast World, 182 00:11:09,800 --> 00:11:13,360 Speaker 1: and I talked about that blue light experience where I 183 00:11:13,559 --> 00:11:17,520 Speaker 1: saw this, this, this time, everything that's happening right now, 184 00:11:17,720 --> 00:11:19,480 Speaker 1: I saw this in a vision. After my very first 185 00:11:19,520 --> 00:11:21,520 Speaker 1: cycling class, I knew that I'd be cycling for the 186 00:11:21,520 --> 00:11:23,760 Speaker 1: rest of my life. I knew that I'd be teaching it. 187 00:11:23,840 --> 00:11:25,280 Speaker 1: I knew that i'd be teaching it on the world's 188 00:11:25,280 --> 00:11:28,400 Speaker 1: with this platform able to connect with tens of thousands 189 00:11:28,440 --> 00:11:30,839 Speaker 1: of millions of people. After my very first second class, 190 00:11:30,880 --> 00:11:34,040 Speaker 1: without knowing what Peloton was, I saw it. I was clear, 191 00:11:34,760 --> 00:11:38,560 Speaker 1: it was clear, and I was certain. I am so 192 00:11:38,800 --> 00:11:45,640 Speaker 1: proud of myself for trusting that divine download. I am 193 00:11:45,720 --> 00:11:52,160 Speaker 1: so proud of myself for believing that intuition listening to 194 00:11:52,280 --> 00:11:53,719 Speaker 1: its call. I could have easily said it was a 195 00:11:53,760 --> 00:11:57,720 Speaker 1: dre dream, Oh I'm just thinking about something, But instead 196 00:11:57,920 --> 00:12:01,319 Speaker 1: I trusted it for what it was, and that's hard 197 00:12:01,400 --> 00:12:05,040 Speaker 1: to do. Authenticity is the intersection of trust and truth. 198 00:12:05,559 --> 00:12:07,840 Speaker 1: Authenticity is the intersection of trust and truth when you 199 00:12:07,840 --> 00:12:10,679 Speaker 1: trust yourself enough to show up as you truly are. 200 00:12:13,400 --> 00:12:17,680 Speaker 1: I'm proud that in this moment, I am able to 201 00:12:17,760 --> 00:12:23,640 Speaker 1: show up as me because me, I am good enough. 202 00:12:23,679 --> 00:12:26,480 Speaker 1: I am not perfect, I do not pretend to be, 203 00:12:28,679 --> 00:12:35,040 Speaker 1: and I am me, and that's good enough. 204 00:12:35,640 --> 00:12:38,840 Speaker 2: In the way that you speak, and I you know, 205 00:12:38,920 --> 00:12:41,920 Speaker 2: it's funny because I've learned so much about the way 206 00:12:42,120 --> 00:12:47,640 Speaker 2: that I speak from editing myself over and over and 207 00:12:47,679 --> 00:12:50,280 Speaker 2: over again, as I'm sure you've learned a lot about 208 00:12:50,320 --> 00:12:55,560 Speaker 2: the way that you speak, watching your classes over and 209 00:12:55,640 --> 00:12:58,160 Speaker 2: over and over again and seeing the you know, the 210 00:12:58,280 --> 00:13:01,960 Speaker 2: Instagram posts of the things that you're saying. 211 00:13:02,240 --> 00:13:03,520 Speaker 4: Over and over and over again. 212 00:13:03,559 --> 00:13:04,960 Speaker 2: But one of the things I love about the way 213 00:13:04,960 --> 00:13:09,240 Speaker 2: that you speak is when you say something and you 214 00:13:09,280 --> 00:13:15,720 Speaker 2: go and say it again, and it's something that is 215 00:13:15,760 --> 00:13:19,960 Speaker 2: not signature or exclusive to tune day, but I think 216 00:13:20,000 --> 00:13:22,000 Speaker 2: it's very effective. 217 00:13:22,640 --> 00:13:24,920 Speaker 4: Do you notice that you're doing that? 218 00:13:26,120 --> 00:13:31,280 Speaker 1: Mm hmm, Yes and no. I think that power and 219 00:13:31,400 --> 00:13:37,480 Speaker 1: purpose are connected. I think that your power is connected 220 00:13:37,480 --> 00:13:40,080 Speaker 1: to your purpose when you're living in purpose, on purpose 221 00:13:40,200 --> 00:13:44,679 Speaker 1: of purpose, moving in purpose on purpose of purpose, speaking 222 00:13:46,160 --> 00:13:50,600 Speaker 1: in purpose with purpose, on purpose of purpose, when that 223 00:13:50,920 --> 00:13:54,920 Speaker 1: chant almost comes over me, the chant being like a rhythm, 224 00:13:55,600 --> 00:14:03,120 Speaker 1: the rhythm that causes me to repeat something. Those are 225 00:14:03,160 --> 00:14:10,120 Speaker 1: the moments where I'm so connected to a higher frequency. 226 00:14:11,360 --> 00:14:17,199 Speaker 1: Those are the moments when so connected to my power. 227 00:14:17,720 --> 00:14:21,760 Speaker 1: And so do I say something knowing that I'm about 228 00:14:21,800 --> 00:14:24,960 Speaker 1: to repeat it? No, I don't go into to repeat it. 229 00:14:25,800 --> 00:14:29,960 Speaker 1: But the tingle that comes over my body when I 230 00:14:29,960 --> 00:14:35,000 Speaker 1: say something, the drum that comes over my body when 231 00:14:35,040 --> 00:14:38,479 Speaker 1: I say something that I know needs to be repeated, 232 00:14:39,240 --> 00:14:43,440 Speaker 1: that's what guides that. In the book, I say sometimes 233 00:14:43,440 --> 00:14:44,800 Speaker 1: in the book, I speak to it, and I say 234 00:14:44,840 --> 00:14:50,080 Speaker 1: sometimes when I'm teaching a class, I repeat things twice 235 00:14:50,480 --> 00:14:54,880 Speaker 1: so that the writer has the opportunity to absorb it, 236 00:14:55,400 --> 00:15:00,040 Speaker 1: so that I have the opportunity to absorb it. And 237 00:15:00,120 --> 00:15:04,120 Speaker 1: so me repeating that moment, in that repeating what I'm 238 00:15:04,160 --> 00:15:08,560 Speaker 1: saying in that high frequency moment, it's for the listener 239 00:15:09,320 --> 00:15:11,880 Speaker 1: and it's for me. We're absorbing it together. 240 00:15:12,280 --> 00:15:15,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, because that's kind of what I gather from that 241 00:15:15,640 --> 00:15:19,560 Speaker 2: vocal infection from you. It's as though the sentence comes 242 00:15:19,560 --> 00:15:23,280 Speaker 2: out and it's almost as though whether I'm looking at 243 00:15:23,320 --> 00:15:25,640 Speaker 2: you or I'm not looking at you, I can hear 244 00:15:25,680 --> 00:15:28,680 Speaker 2: it within your voice that you know I need to 245 00:15:28,720 --> 00:15:31,640 Speaker 2: say that one more time because I need to absorb that. 246 00:15:32,640 --> 00:15:34,480 Speaker 2: I want to come back to that. I want to 247 00:15:34,480 --> 00:15:38,160 Speaker 2: revisit that. And that's really special because it is indicative, 248 00:15:38,280 --> 00:15:42,160 Speaker 2: I would say, of that alignment and of that passion 249 00:15:42,200 --> 00:15:46,520 Speaker 2: and of that purpose. Something else that I know that 250 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:49,600 Speaker 2: you speak to a lot. Aligning with those words of 251 00:15:49,640 --> 00:15:52,560 Speaker 2: passion and purpose is your calling. And in the book 252 00:15:52,600 --> 00:15:55,160 Speaker 2: you write, here's the thing about your calling. It doesn't 253 00:15:55,200 --> 00:15:58,040 Speaker 2: come with instructions. It's like getting into a car with 254 00:15:58,080 --> 00:16:01,320 Speaker 2: a destination but no map. You know where you're supposed 255 00:16:01,360 --> 00:16:03,880 Speaker 2: to go, but you don't know how to get there, 256 00:16:03,920 --> 00:16:06,560 Speaker 2: so you get in the car and you just start driving. 257 00:16:07,320 --> 00:16:10,680 Speaker 2: My question for you when it comes to your calling 258 00:16:10,800 --> 00:16:12,560 Speaker 2: is do. 259 00:16:12,400 --> 00:16:15,840 Speaker 4: You think that you are. 260 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:22,200 Speaker 2: Lucky that you get to live out your calling every day? 261 00:16:22,200 --> 00:16:25,400 Speaker 2: Do you think that everyone has that opportunity to align 262 00:16:25,520 --> 00:16:29,560 Speaker 2: their work with their calling, or do you think that 263 00:16:29,880 --> 00:16:33,280 Speaker 2: they don't always need to be one in the same. 264 00:16:34,640 --> 00:16:37,840 Speaker 1: Hm. That's tough. I think two years ago I would 265 00:16:37,840 --> 00:16:40,840 Speaker 1: have said lucky. Now I would say to chop it 266 00:16:41,040 --> 00:16:45,920 Speaker 1: all up to luck would be doing myself a disservice. 267 00:16:46,800 --> 00:16:51,600 Speaker 1: I think. I agree preparation meets opportunity meets some luck 268 00:16:51,960 --> 00:16:53,840 Speaker 1: because I say some luck because there are people that 269 00:16:53,880 --> 00:16:57,840 Speaker 1: prepare and then the opportunity and you know it doesn't happen. 270 00:16:57,920 --> 00:17:00,600 Speaker 1: So yeah, there's definitely you know, maybe a bit of 271 00:17:00,680 --> 00:17:03,480 Speaker 1: magic in there, right, But I would top magic up 272 00:17:03,520 --> 00:17:08,160 Speaker 1: to like manifestation as well, like really really really believing, 273 00:17:08,320 --> 00:17:09,600 Speaker 1: really putting it out there. 274 00:17:09,920 --> 00:17:12,480 Speaker 2: Can we hash on manifestation for a second, because I 275 00:17:12,520 --> 00:17:16,240 Speaker 2: know that you earlier were talking about, you know, that 276 00:17:16,359 --> 00:17:18,720 Speaker 2: firm manifestation and belief that you were going to be 277 00:17:18,760 --> 00:17:22,560 Speaker 2: teaching cycling on the world's biggest cycling platform. And I'm 278 00:17:22,640 --> 00:17:24,679 Speaker 2: sure that there are a handful of people that are 279 00:17:24,720 --> 00:17:31,280 Speaker 2: listening to this that want and do dream that big, 280 00:17:32,000 --> 00:17:37,840 Speaker 2: but feel as though their manifestation just isn't working for them. 281 00:17:37,920 --> 00:17:41,520 Speaker 2: It's not happening. They're getting frustrated with the process. Perhaps, 282 00:17:42,040 --> 00:17:43,919 Speaker 2: what do you say to that person? 283 00:17:45,880 --> 00:17:48,639 Speaker 1: I mean, look, I didn't just like decide I wanted to. 284 00:17:48,840 --> 00:17:51,439 Speaker 1: I didn't just have this blue light vision, this divine 285 00:17:51,440 --> 00:17:55,560 Speaker 1: and download and then you know, fairy tales and butterflies 286 00:17:55,560 --> 00:17:57,560 Speaker 1: and everything was great. No, I went back to la 287 00:17:57,640 --> 00:18:00,159 Speaker 1: I was in New York when this vision came. I 288 00:18:00,200 --> 00:18:04,119 Speaker 1: went back to LA told myself that that I couldn't 289 00:18:04,160 --> 00:18:06,040 Speaker 1: do it. I don't look like an instructor. I don't 290 00:18:06,040 --> 00:18:08,840 Speaker 1: sound like an instructor. Who the hell would find me motivating? 291 00:18:09,080 --> 00:18:10,919 Speaker 1: What would I even say to people? Nobody wants to 292 00:18:10,920 --> 00:18:12,560 Speaker 1: look at me on a bike? These are all the 293 00:18:12,600 --> 00:18:16,480 Speaker 1: things that I told myself. My friends called me a liar. 294 00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:19,040 Speaker 1: When I said those things about myself, my friends called 295 00:18:19,040 --> 00:18:20,880 Speaker 1: me a liar. I talked about my friends in the book. 296 00:18:20,880 --> 00:18:23,880 Speaker 1: I say that my friends aren't just friends, like yeah, 297 00:18:23,880 --> 00:18:25,879 Speaker 1: I got friends, and then I got like people people 298 00:18:26,160 --> 00:18:30,080 Speaker 1: people friends, and it's a very short list of my people. 299 00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:33,440 Speaker 1: I like it in the book to the Meredith Gray 300 00:18:33,560 --> 00:18:38,920 Speaker 1: and Christina Yang friendship like people, I said all those things, 301 00:18:38,960 --> 00:18:41,880 Speaker 1: those are all the reasons I wouldn't be able to 302 00:18:41,920 --> 00:18:44,879 Speaker 1: do it. See this vision through, And they called me 303 00:18:44,920 --> 00:18:48,760 Speaker 1: a liar. And I was lying to myself, not to them. 304 00:18:49,080 --> 00:18:53,199 Speaker 1: They knew what was really under There was fear, fear, spear. 305 00:18:53,240 --> 00:18:54,960 Speaker 1: I was allowing fear to steer. I was allowing fear 306 00:18:55,000 --> 00:18:59,680 Speaker 1: to hold me hostage. Then I moved through that fear, 307 00:18:59,680 --> 00:19:03,040 Speaker 1: and I do anyways awesome, still not a fairy tell story. 308 00:19:03,800 --> 00:19:09,399 Speaker 1: I auditioned for a Peloton, had a wonderful audition, couldn't 309 00:19:09,440 --> 00:19:14,040 Speaker 1: have gone any better, got rave reviews after the audition, 310 00:19:15,920 --> 00:19:17,560 Speaker 1: and then I didn't get the job. A month later 311 00:19:17,600 --> 00:19:19,240 Speaker 1: they called me and said we won't be moving forward, 312 00:19:19,320 --> 00:19:21,639 Speaker 1: or emailed me and said we won't be moving forward 313 00:19:21,960 --> 00:19:25,199 Speaker 1: with your candidacy. Thank you. Yeah, And so then you know, 314 00:19:25,240 --> 00:19:27,399 Speaker 1: you go through this stage where for me it wasn't 315 00:19:27,440 --> 00:19:28,920 Speaker 1: just you didn't I didn't get a job. It wasn't 316 00:19:28,960 --> 00:19:32,679 Speaker 1: that get a job. It was I've seen something and 317 00:19:32,720 --> 00:19:39,040 Speaker 1: I believed it to be so true, trusted myself fully, 318 00:19:39,119 --> 00:19:44,480 Speaker 1: and then realized that was wrong until I then realized 319 00:19:44,480 --> 00:19:47,560 Speaker 1: that I wasn't wrong, and I realized that my life 320 00:19:47,600 --> 00:19:50,200 Speaker 1: when I looked at my life thirty six years, it's 321 00:19:50,240 --> 00:19:53,480 Speaker 1: been thirty six years of collecting data. Data shows me 322 00:19:53,520 --> 00:19:55,399 Speaker 1: that things are going my way, even when they're not 323 00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:58,720 Speaker 1: going my way, that they ultimately go my way. And 324 00:19:58,760 --> 00:20:01,919 Speaker 1: I've experienced a lot of loss in my life, a 325 00:20:01,920 --> 00:20:07,520 Speaker 1: lot of trauma, and still things believe things that are happening, 326 00:20:08,280 --> 00:20:13,800 Speaker 1: they end up working moving in my favor. You don't 327 00:20:13,840 --> 00:20:16,919 Speaker 1: realize you know something happens, you say shit that you know, 328 00:20:18,080 --> 00:20:21,760 Speaker 1: why is this happening? And then five years later you see, okay, 329 00:20:21,760 --> 00:20:24,080 Speaker 1: that had to happen for this happened. Ten years later 330 00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:26,919 Speaker 1: you see, oh okay, well that little piece had to 331 00:20:27,000 --> 00:20:30,119 Speaker 1: fall and land in that perfect spot because this was 332 00:20:30,160 --> 00:20:33,239 Speaker 1: a result of that not happening or that happening. I 333 00:20:33,320 --> 00:20:35,040 Speaker 1: was not supposed to get the job with Polton the 334 00:20:35,040 --> 00:20:38,480 Speaker 1: first time around. I wasn't. I realized that now there 335 00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:42,200 Speaker 1: was there was players that had changed. I was supposed 336 00:20:42,200 --> 00:20:44,399 Speaker 1: to start the job when I started the job, and 337 00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:50,720 Speaker 1: not a day sooner. So yeah, it was. It wasn't 338 00:20:50,760 --> 00:20:55,400 Speaker 1: a Kumbai yah story, and it wasn't easy. There wasn't 339 00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:57,160 Speaker 1: a needing story that I got here. And I say 340 00:20:57,200 --> 00:21:01,159 Speaker 1: that to speak to the person who's going through whatever 341 00:21:01,760 --> 00:21:02,840 Speaker 1: they're going through. 342 00:21:03,720 --> 00:21:06,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think that, as you say in the book, 343 00:21:06,160 --> 00:21:09,520 Speaker 2: like these unexpected challenges, these hurdle moments, so to speak, 344 00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:13,600 Speaker 2: they are our opportunity to then harness the strength that 345 00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:15,800 Speaker 2: we have garnered from all of. 346 00:21:15,760 --> 00:21:18,480 Speaker 4: The difficulties that we faced up into that point. 347 00:21:18,800 --> 00:21:21,240 Speaker 1: Right first and foremost. I love it whenever you work 348 00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:26,520 Speaker 1: hurdle into a line, so good. But yeah, whether it's 349 00:21:26,560 --> 00:21:30,600 Speaker 1: something that your parents go through, and it's a young person. 350 00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:34,280 Speaker 1: You don't understand the full scope of what they're going through, 351 00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:40,720 Speaker 1: but you see the emotion and then we're walking. We 352 00:21:40,880 --> 00:21:44,440 Speaker 1: moved through life collecting information data. As I said earlier, 353 00:21:44,560 --> 00:21:48,520 Speaker 1: he was their life, collecting information and data. I think 354 00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:55,879 Speaker 1: that resilience is innate. As you're collecting these small moments, 355 00:21:56,000 --> 00:22:03,879 Speaker 1: you store it to call on, to pull on later. 356 00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:07,760 Speaker 5: I sat when I was writing the book, and I 357 00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:14,879 Speaker 5: thought about how I watched my mother after she'd lost 358 00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:15,720 Speaker 5: her father. 359 00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:25,040 Speaker 1: I watched her collect the pieces of herself that were shattered. 360 00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:32,600 Speaker 1: I watched her collect them and then continue to live, 361 00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:40,480 Speaker 1: not to survive, but continue to live. And I think 362 00:22:40,640 --> 00:22:44,560 Speaker 1: that the resilience that came over me when I lost 363 00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:50,920 Speaker 1: my little brother, and my ability to then almost parrot 364 00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:56,520 Speaker 1: my parents through that loss in many ways, was from 365 00:22:56,600 --> 00:23:03,200 Speaker 1: some of the information that I had collected throughout my life. 366 00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:08,440 Speaker 1: When I lost my dad and then had to mother 367 00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:15,800 Speaker 1: my mother, I called on the information the moments that 368 00:23:15,880 --> 00:23:18,359 Speaker 1: I'd gone through just three years earlier, when I'd lost 369 00:23:18,440 --> 00:23:20,960 Speaker 1: my brother, and then when I lost my mom, my 370 00:23:21,040 --> 00:23:25,040 Speaker 1: best friend, and was able to rise in that moment 371 00:23:25,320 --> 00:23:29,879 Speaker 1: to be a glue for the family. It was a 372 00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:35,400 Speaker 1: result of being able to use these moments that I 373 00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:37,760 Speaker 1: created this internal reservoir. 374 00:23:38,119 --> 00:23:41,000 Speaker 2: I would say that I'm not sure if resilience is innate, 375 00:23:41,119 --> 00:23:46,080 Speaker 2: but I feel as though you can choose to channel 376 00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:50,800 Speaker 2: your own resilience. It's kind of like when you're going 377 00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:56,000 Speaker 2: through any hurdle moment and you have the opportunity to 378 00:23:56,080 --> 00:24:01,000 Speaker 2: play the victim or ask the question what's next, right, 379 00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:06,720 Speaker 2: And it takes perhaps a handful of those hurdles to 380 00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:09,920 Speaker 2: get to a place where you're like, Okay, I'm ready 381 00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:13,520 Speaker 2: to chin up and ask what's next instead of lingering 382 00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:15,080 Speaker 2: in that malaise. 383 00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:19,240 Speaker 4: But it doesn't always happen for some naturally. 384 00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:22,639 Speaker 1: I think to your point, resilience is a choice. I 385 00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:26,920 Speaker 1: say resilience is innate in that resilience is like confidence. 386 00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:29,720 Speaker 1: It's not something that you buy. 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Was there a certain moment or a 451 00:28:12,400 --> 00:28:18,240 Speaker 2: certain thing that guided you toward this being the time 452 00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:22,080 Speaker 2: to dive into this arena? 453 00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:26,560 Speaker 1: I mean, when's the right time for anything in terms 454 00:28:26,560 --> 00:28:30,119 Speaker 1: of like feeling ready, right, in terms of you feeling ready, 455 00:28:30,480 --> 00:28:32,280 Speaker 1: I don't think this was a matter of oh, I 456 00:28:32,440 --> 00:28:34,800 Speaker 1: feel ready, and that's why I'm putting this out now. 457 00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:41,920 Speaker 1: It was more so the last two years have been 458 00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:46,040 Speaker 1: full of so much doubt and so much uncertainty for 459 00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:49,440 Speaker 1: so many people, so much doubt and so much uncertainty 460 00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:53,320 Speaker 1: for so many people. The title of the book speak, 461 00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:56,480 Speaker 1: find your voice, trust your gut, and get from where 462 00:28:56,560 --> 00:28:59,360 Speaker 1: you are to where you want to be. If there's 463 00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:02,680 Speaker 1: ever been a time where collectively, as of people, we 464 00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:07,400 Speaker 1: rethink the way we think or look at any and everything, 465 00:29:08,320 --> 00:29:11,960 Speaker 1: it's right now. The book is a memoir, a manifesto, 466 00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:16,040 Speaker 1: a story of my life, a guide if you will. 467 00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:19,200 Speaker 1: It's a story of all the loss and all the 468 00:29:19,240 --> 00:29:23,120 Speaker 1: heartache and heartbreak and setbacks and missed opportunities and body 469 00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:30,360 Speaker 1: image issues and joy and hope. I think that we 470 00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:33,000 Speaker 1: are all more like than we are different. I think 471 00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:34,880 Speaker 1: we're a lot more like than we are different. My 472 00:29:35,080 --> 00:29:39,080 Speaker 1: hope is that you pick up this book and it 473 00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:42,840 Speaker 1: meets you exactly where you are. My hope is that 474 00:29:43,280 --> 00:29:48,560 Speaker 1: you see a little bit of yourself within my stories, 475 00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:53,640 Speaker 1: and then when you close the book, you're inspired to 476 00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:57,800 Speaker 1: grab the pen that writes out the next chapter of 477 00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:00,560 Speaker 1: your life. And so yeah, I mean, I said I 478 00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:02,480 Speaker 1: wanted to write a book in third grade, and then 479 00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:05,440 Speaker 1: all the stuff sets and people tell you can't, you can't, 480 00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:07,560 Speaker 1: you don't know where to put the comma, the punctuation period, 481 00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:09,520 Speaker 1: you know the teacher, and the teacher comes in with 482 00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:11,240 Speaker 1: that right thing and tells you that you know, basically, 483 00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:13,680 Speaker 1: you're not a good writer. And you know I wasn't 484 00:30:13,760 --> 00:30:15,320 Speaker 1: until maybe a year and a half two years ago. 485 00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:17,160 Speaker 1: A friend of mine said, because I've said it my 486 00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:18,360 Speaker 1: entire life, I want to write, but one day I 487 00:30:18,360 --> 00:30:19,640 Speaker 1: want to write a book. One day I better write 488 00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:22,760 Speaker 1: a book. And a friend of mine said, you know 489 00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:25,600 Speaker 1: that somebody else edits the book, right, they do all 490 00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:29,080 Speaker 1: the comments in the periods. I said, oh, well, yeah, 491 00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:31,120 Speaker 1: you're right. At the end of the day, I know 492 00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:33,479 Speaker 1: that I'm a storyteller and I knew that I had 493 00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:39,280 Speaker 1: a story to tell. And this moment, I felt like 494 00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:44,800 Speaker 1: I could connect with people in connect with people through 495 00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:45,640 Speaker 1: connect with people. 496 00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:48,840 Speaker 2: Do you also feel like that moment aligns with you 497 00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:52,440 Speaker 2: being in a place where you're living as your most 498 00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:56,280 Speaker 2: authentic self? Say that again, do you also feel like 499 00:30:56,440 --> 00:30:59,840 Speaker 2: this moment that you feel as though, I mean, the 500 00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:03,960 Speaker 2: memoir it's a big word, right, And it's not like 501 00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:07,160 Speaker 2: at third grade you're like, I'm ready to write my memoir. 502 00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:12,200 Speaker 2: But now you have come into this space not only 503 00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:16,440 Speaker 2: in your career, but also I would say looking at 504 00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:19,600 Speaker 2: you as my friend, as a woman, where you are 505 00:31:19,840 --> 00:31:24,960 Speaker 2: standing in your purpose, living without hesitation, as your most 506 00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:29,400 Speaker 2: authentic I don't give up what anybody else thinks about 507 00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:35,160 Speaker 2: me self. My question is is that why this is 508 00:31:35,200 --> 00:31:38,479 Speaker 2: the time? Yes, a lot of people struggle with that 509 00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:46,360 Speaker 2: coming into their own in their authenticity. And I say 510 00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:51,160 Speaker 2: that recognizing that just because you tune day are very 511 00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:54,160 Speaker 2: sure of who you are and what you have to offer. 512 00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:59,320 Speaker 2: I know that doesn't come without moments where you have 513 00:31:59,520 --> 00:32:02,920 Speaker 2: like a about something that someone somewhere says at some 514 00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:05,960 Speaker 2: point or whatever like that like happens to all of us. 515 00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:10,320 Speaker 4: But there is a point I. 516 00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:13,640 Speaker 2: Believe when you're stepping into your purpose that you stop 517 00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:17,720 Speaker 2: caring so much, or maybe get better at judging how 518 00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:19,040 Speaker 2: to deal with that. 519 00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:21,680 Speaker 4: I'll call it white noise. 520 00:32:22,160 --> 00:32:24,920 Speaker 2: Can you talk about that process for you and what 521 00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:29,800 Speaker 2: it's been like, because I know it has not been easy, right. 522 00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:34,360 Speaker 1: Or I like to define authenticity as the intersection of 523 00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:38,520 Speaker 1: truth and trust. When you trust yourself enough to show up, 524 00:32:38,600 --> 00:32:42,160 Speaker 1: it's who you truly are, When you trust yourself enough 525 00:32:42,200 --> 00:32:47,080 Speaker 1: to live in your truth as you truly are. I 526 00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:52,920 Speaker 1: was an overweight kid. I was the black girl at 527 00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:55,960 Speaker 1: a predominantly white school, the only dark skin black girl. 528 00:32:56,520 --> 00:33:02,160 Speaker 1: For so long, I tried to fade in, Faden, faded, Faiden. 529 00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:05,000 Speaker 1: If you fade in, nobody notice you. I tried that 530 00:33:05,040 --> 00:33:08,120 Speaker 1: for so long. Very low confidence, very low self esteem, 531 00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:10,760 Speaker 1: all the things. Maybe just because you tried to fade 532 00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:13,280 Speaker 1: in doesn't mean people aren't going to realize you're black. 533 00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:17,120 Speaker 1: And so it was just this matter of you can 534 00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:21,960 Speaker 1: hide and hide and hide, but people are still going 535 00:33:22,000 --> 00:33:26,800 Speaker 1: to see you. Now. Couple that with words that my 536 00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:30,000 Speaker 1: friend Latasha lovel Latasha. If you're listening to this, hey girl, 537 00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:34,680 Speaker 1: my friend Latasha very wise, She said to me tune day, 538 00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:41,960 Speaker 1: people's opinion of you is none of your business. People's 539 00:33:41,960 --> 00:33:44,080 Speaker 1: opinion of me is none of my business. In fact, 540 00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:46,240 Speaker 1: if I'm worried about what somebody else thinks of me, 541 00:33:46,920 --> 00:33:51,000 Speaker 1: I'm being nosy. And you know, in this public facing world, 542 00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:54,680 Speaker 1: there's two things. There's two things I've learned. Number One, 543 00:33:54,680 --> 00:33:56,960 Speaker 1: a friend of mine who was in the public eye 544 00:33:57,600 --> 00:33:59,680 Speaker 1: for quite some time, she said to me when I 545 00:33:59,680 --> 00:34:02,960 Speaker 1: moved to to the space, she said, you know, just remember, 546 00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:05,120 Speaker 1: you know this is like you know, Instagram, people say 547 00:34:05,200 --> 00:34:06,880 Speaker 1: nasty things comment, message, whatever. 548 00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:08,200 Speaker 4: Yeah, And she. 549 00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:13,000 Speaker 1: Said, Tunedi, would you ever write something nasty on anyone's page, 550 00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:15,399 Speaker 1: much less a page of a random stranger or someone 551 00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:17,719 Speaker 1: that you didn't know? And I thought, no, why would 552 00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:20,560 Speaker 1: I do that? She was yes, me again, would you 553 00:34:20,640 --> 00:34:27,000 Speaker 1: ever write something nasty on someone's page? I said no, 554 00:34:27,719 --> 00:34:28,400 Speaker 1: why would. 555 00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:28,680 Speaker 3: I do that? 556 00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:36,080 Speaker 1: She said, exactly, exactly. Those aren't your kind of people anyways, 557 00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:39,280 Speaker 1: So why would you give a damn what they think? 558 00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:43,040 Speaker 1: Those aren't your type of people anyways. You wouldn't align 559 00:34:43,160 --> 00:34:46,439 Speaker 1: yourself with somebody like that, so why would you care 560 00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:49,799 Speaker 1: what they thought? Anyways? And then you move into the 561 00:34:49,840 --> 00:34:54,880 Speaker 1: space where you spend time dwelling over one nasty thing 562 00:34:55,480 --> 00:35:01,040 Speaker 1: that someone says, and fifty other people said nothing but 563 00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:03,960 Speaker 1: wonderful things, nothing but things that were great, and then 564 00:35:04,000 --> 00:35:06,319 Speaker 1: you I told myself a long time ago, I was like, 565 00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:08,279 Speaker 1: my days are wild, my days are crazy, et cetera, 566 00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:08,760 Speaker 1: et cetera. 567 00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:09,560 Speaker 2: I don't. 568 00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:13,880 Speaker 1: Unfortunately, I wish I could respond to every single comment 569 00:35:14,239 --> 00:35:17,600 Speaker 1: and every single message on Instagram, because people say, oh 570 00:35:17,680 --> 00:35:20,040 Speaker 1: my god, the way that I'm supporting Emily, the way 571 00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:24,480 Speaker 1: that I am supported Emily. Oh, I wish I had 572 00:35:24,560 --> 00:35:27,520 Speaker 1: the time and the bandwidth to respond to everybody. If 573 00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:32,360 Speaker 1: I don't have the time to respond to the nice things, hell, yes, 574 00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:38,080 Speaker 1: why in the hell would I exert any extra time 575 00:35:38,239 --> 00:35:42,480 Speaker 1: that or energy that I do have on something nasty 576 00:35:42,800 --> 00:35:45,160 Speaker 1: on a nasayer. If you have five seconds to respond 577 00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:48,279 Speaker 1: to day, respond to somebody who deserves the response because 578 00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:50,240 Speaker 1: that other person was just doing it out of spite. 579 00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:51,799 Speaker 1: And then the last thing I'll say here is that 580 00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:56,040 Speaker 1: typically what someone doesn't like in you, it's really a 581 00:35:56,080 --> 00:35:58,560 Speaker 1: reflection of what they don't like in themselves. And so 582 00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:02,480 Speaker 1: when somebody says something to me that doesn't serve me, 583 00:36:03,200 --> 00:36:06,719 Speaker 1: when somebody says something to me that's full of hate, 584 00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:10,480 Speaker 1: I remind myself it's really just a mirror. It's reflection 585 00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:14,480 Speaker 1: of what they see in themselves. And then and then 586 00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:17,399 Speaker 1: I'm not even mad. And then I'm not even mad. 587 00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:23,359 Speaker 1: Then I almost have empathy for them. I feel bad 588 00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:26,000 Speaker 1: for them and what they might be going through. 589 00:36:26,280 --> 00:36:29,799 Speaker 2: The takeaway there is so valuable and the idea that like, 590 00:36:29,920 --> 00:36:33,319 Speaker 2: why am I going to give this person who is 591 00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:35,960 Speaker 2: trying to take me down my energy when there are 592 00:36:36,040 --> 00:36:40,960 Speaker 2: so many people here that are supporting me. It's beautiful 593 00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:44,960 Speaker 2: and it's certainly a hard thing to come by. It 594 00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:49,600 Speaker 2: does not matter if you have one person that is 595 00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:51,480 Speaker 2: like keeping up with your life, whether it be on 596 00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:53,719 Speaker 2: social media or in the real world, or you have 597 00:36:53,880 --> 00:36:57,520 Speaker 2: hundreds of thousands of people. It's human nature to like 598 00:36:57,719 --> 00:37:02,120 Speaker 2: listen to that oneative human And something that I tell 599 00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:04,160 Speaker 2: myself sometimes is I'll come back. 600 00:37:04,040 --> 00:37:06,520 Speaker 4: To this idea. I'll think about the people in my. 601 00:37:06,560 --> 00:37:11,359 Speaker 2: Life that I admire beyond you know, my parents and 602 00:37:11,400 --> 00:37:14,160 Speaker 2: my family, although I'm sure that they probably at one 603 00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:16,800 Speaker 2: point or another in their lives had haters as well. 604 00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:20,239 Speaker 2: But every single person that I think of that I 605 00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:24,280 Speaker 2: admire in my existence are people that have been willing 606 00:37:24,320 --> 00:37:26,839 Speaker 2: to put themselves out there, that have been willing to 607 00:37:26,920 --> 00:37:29,319 Speaker 2: take a stand and be like, this is what I 608 00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:32,759 Speaker 2: have to offer the world, and everyone will always have 609 00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:34,279 Speaker 2: something to say about them too. 610 00:37:34,680 --> 00:37:38,040 Speaker 1: Everyone will always have something to say about them too. 611 00:37:38,520 --> 00:37:43,120 Speaker 1: People hate the greatest bands in the world. I said 612 00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:46,920 Speaker 1: this recently in an interview. There are people that hate Coldplay, 613 00:37:47,520 --> 00:37:51,320 Speaker 1: there are people that hate Beyond Say, there are people 614 00:37:51,360 --> 00:37:56,280 Speaker 1: that hate Oprah Winfrey. If there are people that hate 615 00:37:56,360 --> 00:38:00,399 Speaker 1: Oprah Winfrey and they don't like me, I'm okay with that. 616 00:38:00,480 --> 00:38:01,080 Speaker 1: I'm good. 617 00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:06,239 Speaker 2: So what you're saying is that Oprah is going to 618 00:38:06,320 --> 00:38:09,120 Speaker 2: be one of the guests on your book tour. 619 00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:13,560 Speaker 1: You know, I mean I got some pretty I got 620 00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:18,879 Speaker 1: some Oprah level. Yeah. Actually one of the guests is 621 00:38:19,200 --> 00:38:21,319 Speaker 1: what is it called six degrees of separation? But I 622 00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:22,880 Speaker 1: think it's only like it's not even what it's is 623 00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:26,040 Speaker 1: this is that's one degree of separation. So yes, basically 624 00:38:26,040 --> 00:38:28,600 Speaker 1: Oprah's there. She's not there. Before I get sued, she's not. 625 00:38:29,719 --> 00:38:31,520 Speaker 1: But one of her friends is how about that? 626 00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:35,000 Speaker 4: Well, girl, I'll be seeing you in New York, you. 627 00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:39,440 Speaker 2: Know, yes, please, yes, pivoting a little bit away from 628 00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:41,960 Speaker 2: the haters because we don't want to give them any 629 00:38:42,000 --> 00:38:48,120 Speaker 2: more of our beautiful energy. Obviously, writing a book is 630 00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:52,799 Speaker 2: a really big undertaking. We've already talked about all of 631 00:38:52,800 --> 00:38:55,760 Speaker 2: the obligations that go hand in hand with that. Forget 632 00:38:55,800 --> 00:38:59,120 Speaker 2: about the obligations that go hand in hand with teaching 633 00:38:59,400 --> 00:39:03,280 Speaker 2: and so many other things hand in hand. 634 00:39:03,040 --> 00:39:03,720 Speaker 4: With your job. 635 00:39:04,840 --> 00:39:12,560 Speaker 2: How do you manage to find the time to give 636 00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:16,880 Speaker 2: each of these individual things your whole self? 637 00:39:17,120 --> 00:39:23,200 Speaker 1: You know what, that is a really really really good question. 638 00:39:23,719 --> 00:39:28,960 Speaker 1: I try to focus on what I'm focusing on while 639 00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:37,320 Speaker 1: I'm in whatever I'm in I could write a email 640 00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:44,000 Speaker 1: that and then if I'm going to teach a class, 641 00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:50,279 Speaker 1: I wipe that energy off of me because I know 642 00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:54,320 Speaker 1: that my frequency is felt right, I would be doing 643 00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:58,399 Speaker 1: a disservice to the people who were absorbing it if 644 00:39:58,400 --> 00:40:01,640 Speaker 1: I was to give anything less than my best. Now, 645 00:40:02,160 --> 00:40:06,400 Speaker 1: my best looks different day to day, and so sometimes 646 00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:09,920 Speaker 1: what I might be saying in class might be coming 647 00:40:09,960 --> 00:40:14,879 Speaker 1: from whatever I'm going through, and my belief is that 648 00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:18,560 Speaker 1: it meets someone that's taking that right, that needs to 649 00:40:18,600 --> 00:40:21,640 Speaker 1: hear that, whether it's live or three months later. You know, 650 00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:25,600 Speaker 1: sometimes I'll get a DM from someone and they'll say, 651 00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:30,399 Speaker 1: you said X, Y and Z and I felt that, 652 00:40:30,560 --> 00:40:33,080 Speaker 1: and they'll tell me about something that they're experiencing in 653 00:40:33,120 --> 00:40:36,520 Speaker 1: their life and why those words meant what they did. 654 00:40:36,640 --> 00:40:38,760 Speaker 1: And I think I've thought about it. You know, sometimes 655 00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:42,600 Speaker 1: I think I remember that day, and I remember I 656 00:40:42,760 --> 00:40:48,160 Speaker 1: wasn't my best that day, but I was honest and 657 00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:59,959 Speaker 1: someone and my honesty was able to better someone's day. Yeah. 658 00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:04,120 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm sitting here having this wonderful conversation with you, 659 00:41:04,160 --> 00:41:07,480 Speaker 1: with Caesar on my lap. You know, my first moment 660 00:41:07,560 --> 00:41:09,560 Speaker 1: today where I'm really able to kind of sit and 661 00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:13,120 Speaker 1: love on this dog as I'm chatting with you, knowing 662 00:41:13,200 --> 00:41:17,680 Speaker 1: that there is a massive to do list that waits 663 00:41:17,719 --> 00:41:22,360 Speaker 1: for me. But I don't think. I don't. It wouldn't 664 00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:27,800 Speaker 1: be fair to you, or to anyone listening to allow 665 00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:34,120 Speaker 1: the thoughts of what lie ahead to hinder this. Often 666 00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:36,799 Speaker 1: on the bike at the beginning of the class, I 667 00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:39,560 Speaker 1: say this, you know, this is a thirty minute ride. 668 00:41:40,080 --> 00:41:44,040 Speaker 1: Be here and only here. If it's not on this bike, 669 00:41:44,560 --> 00:41:47,600 Speaker 1: it doesn't exist. We all have our shit, we all 670 00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:50,840 Speaker 1: have the bags, we all have the things. Allow yourself 671 00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:53,520 Speaker 1: to let this be your escape. This is your escape. 672 00:41:53,520 --> 00:41:55,919 Speaker 1: Be here. And so when I'm moving through each motion 673 00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:58,200 Speaker 1: of the day, I try to just be in that 674 00:41:58,280 --> 00:42:01,160 Speaker 1: one Well, shit not you have kids. It's very difficult, 675 00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:04,120 Speaker 1: and it's you know, not as easier said than done, 676 00:42:04,200 --> 00:42:09,160 Speaker 1: for sure. But yeah, I think that the trying to 677 00:42:09,320 --> 00:42:13,759 Speaker 1: kind of create boundaries in space is literally the only 678 00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:18,120 Speaker 1: thing that girl, the only way to move. 679 00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:19,240 Speaker 3: Yeah. 680 00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:22,080 Speaker 2: I also think that sometimes if you feel as though 681 00:42:22,120 --> 00:42:26,120 Speaker 2: you're not the kind of person that thrives in creating 682 00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:30,319 Speaker 2: those boundaries in space to start small, it's kind of like, 683 00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:32,880 Speaker 2: I mean, I'm talking to you, your peloton instructor. 684 00:42:33,080 --> 00:42:34,960 Speaker 4: For someone who's never gotten on. 685 00:42:35,360 --> 00:42:39,040 Speaker 2: The peloton bike, you wouldn't be like, come take this 686 00:42:39,280 --> 00:42:43,359 Speaker 2: ninety minute endurance power zone class. Yeah, Like that's not 687 00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:47,040 Speaker 2: that's not happening. But you could be like, start with 688 00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:50,560 Speaker 2: this five minute warm up. Start there, meet yourself with 689 00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:53,600 Speaker 2: where you're at, and instead of getting mad about the 690 00:42:53,600 --> 00:42:58,120 Speaker 2: fact that you're having difficulty. I don't know, you're a journalist, 691 00:42:58,200 --> 00:43:01,040 Speaker 2: you're having a difficulty sitting down to your desk and 692 00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:03,320 Speaker 2: working on an article for forty five minutes at a 693 00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:05,759 Speaker 2: time and giving yourself entirely to that article, or you're 694 00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:08,839 Speaker 2: mad that you are working. You're an account and you're 695 00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:10,800 Speaker 2: working on someone's taxes, and your head is also in 696 00:43:10,840 --> 00:43:12,760 Speaker 2: the fact that your kid needs to get home from 697 00:43:13,120 --> 00:43:16,319 Speaker 2: god knows what. I'm giving really random ass examples right here, 698 00:43:16,440 --> 00:43:17,680 Speaker 2: but you totally get what I'm saying. 699 00:43:17,719 --> 00:43:19,479 Speaker 4: It's that like, it is. 700 00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:25,040 Speaker 2: Hard to get to this place, and it's like exercise, 701 00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:29,200 Speaker 2: it's like strengthening a muscle. It needs repeat work to 702 00:43:29,280 --> 00:43:32,840 Speaker 2: get to that place where you can confidently say, Okay, 703 00:43:33,320 --> 00:43:36,520 Speaker 2: I can be here, I can be present, and recognizing 704 00:43:36,520 --> 00:43:39,000 Speaker 2: that in small doses will then empower you to do 705 00:43:39,040 --> 00:43:40,120 Speaker 2: that going forward. 706 00:43:40,760 --> 00:43:45,880 Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, absolutely small doses, attainable doses, bite sized doses, 707 00:43:46,680 --> 00:43:51,640 Speaker 1: until you're able to take bigger bites, bigger. Yeah. 708 00:43:51,680 --> 00:43:57,400 Speaker 2: What would you say tunday that you, in writing your 709 00:43:57,760 --> 00:44:05,600 Speaker 2: book were the most surprised about yourself in your reflection? 710 00:44:06,200 --> 00:44:08,880 Speaker 4: And I say that, and sometimes. 711 00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:12,719 Speaker 2: In writing for even the Weekly Hurdle newsletter, I'll start 712 00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:15,800 Speaker 2: to write something and maybe open up about something and realize, 713 00:44:15,840 --> 00:44:18,200 Speaker 2: like I'm really diving in right here? 714 00:44:18,719 --> 00:44:20,359 Speaker 4: Were there things in the. 715 00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:23,400 Speaker 2: Book that you started to open up about maybe that 716 00:44:23,719 --> 00:44:26,600 Speaker 2: you hadn't opened up about in that capacity before? 717 00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:30,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think when the book writing process requires you, 718 00:44:30,480 --> 00:44:32,319 Speaker 1: you know, we all have our stuff and you kind 719 00:44:32,320 --> 00:44:33,880 Speaker 1: of throw some of your stuff in a closet and 720 00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:36,000 Speaker 1: then you throw more stuff in there, and then you 721 00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:38,399 Speaker 1: take key, you lock the door, you just throw the key. 722 00:44:38,960 --> 00:44:40,880 Speaker 1: This required me to like dig the key, dig up 723 00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:43,480 Speaker 1: the key, find the key, find a day on door, 724 00:44:43,680 --> 00:44:45,960 Speaker 1: and then unlock it and then everything just kind of 725 00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:51,360 Speaker 1: comes rolling out. It requires you to relive things, moments, relive. 726 00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:55,800 Speaker 1: Then you edit and you relive relive, and then you 727 00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:57,960 Speaker 1: realize that everyone's going to live in those moments with you. 728 00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:04,600 Speaker 1: So yeah, definitely required, uh, soul searching. Yeah, there's like moments. 729 00:45:04,960 --> 00:45:10,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, what did you do to process the feelings that 730 00:45:10,600 --> 00:45:14,240 Speaker 2: came up while you were quote unquote digging through the closet? 731 00:45:14,719 --> 00:45:15,040 Speaker 1: Hmmm? 732 00:45:15,880 --> 00:45:19,799 Speaker 6: It was therapeutic, just therapeutic, not only to dig it 733 00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:22,560 Speaker 6: up and let it all fall on me and feel it, 734 00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:26,920 Speaker 6: but to write about it so much therapy and writing. 735 00:45:27,120 --> 00:45:30,160 Speaker 1: Right, to write about it, I think, to write about 736 00:45:30,160 --> 00:45:31,799 Speaker 1: it about you writing about it on a computer, and 737 00:45:31,800 --> 00:45:33,480 Speaker 1: then you see it printed out. Because you print it out, 738 00:45:33,560 --> 00:45:35,640 Speaker 1: that's one thing, but then to see it like bound 739 00:45:35,680 --> 00:45:38,919 Speaker 1: in a book, then you like really feel it. Yeah, 740 00:45:38,960 --> 00:45:42,000 Speaker 1: and there's things I've never given myself. You know how 741 00:45:42,040 --> 00:45:45,600 Speaker 1: you your parents? Right, well, parents, you look at your 742 00:45:45,640 --> 00:45:47,160 Speaker 1: parents as like mom and dad, but you don't look 743 00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:49,439 Speaker 1: at them like I never looked at my mom as Baronica. 744 00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:51,880 Speaker 1: I looked at myself as me reading the book. I 745 00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:54,480 Speaker 1: looked at myself as Tombay. I saw myself as a human. 746 00:45:54,960 --> 00:45:57,640 Speaker 1: And I don't even know if that makes sense at all, 747 00:45:57,719 --> 00:46:03,160 Speaker 1: but yeah, I saw my self as Tunday. Which it's wild, 748 00:46:03,840 --> 00:46:04,520 Speaker 1: it's wild. 749 00:46:05,760 --> 00:46:08,080 Speaker 2: I feel like that's what happens a lot in therapy though, 750 00:46:08,160 --> 00:46:11,880 Speaker 2: right when someone says, like, what does Tunday need or 751 00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:15,040 Speaker 2: what does Emily need? Like, this isn't something that I'm 752 00:46:15,080 --> 00:46:18,120 Speaker 2: sitting here looking at myself, staring at myself in this 753 00:46:18,200 --> 00:46:20,279 Speaker 2: out of body experience, being like what do you. 754 00:46:20,320 --> 00:46:22,400 Speaker 4: Need right now all the time. 755 00:46:23,160 --> 00:46:27,400 Speaker 2: So the writing process provided a platform to you for 756 00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:31,479 Speaker 2: you to be a little bit more introspective, which is great. 757 00:46:32,160 --> 00:46:33,000 Speaker 4: Okay, tune day. 758 00:46:33,120 --> 00:46:36,360 Speaker 2: So as we wind down here now, I have to 759 00:46:36,400 --> 00:46:39,320 Speaker 2: ask you, aside from this book launch, what else excites 760 00:46:39,360 --> 00:46:40,240 Speaker 2: you at the moment? 761 00:46:40,680 --> 00:46:43,440 Speaker 1: Pizza? Pizza? 762 00:46:43,960 --> 00:46:45,879 Speaker 7: Like when you said that, the first thing I could 763 00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:46,200 Speaker 7: think of. 764 00:46:46,160 --> 00:46:50,920 Speaker 1: It was like, ooh, pizza and champagne. What else excites me? 765 00:46:52,280 --> 00:46:54,719 Speaker 1: I'm excited to well, that's sill the book, but I'm 766 00:46:54,760 --> 00:46:57,040 Speaker 1: excited to meet everyone on the tour, like to see 767 00:46:57,080 --> 00:47:01,520 Speaker 1: people that I've just been interfacing with over a touch 768 00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:04,040 Speaker 1: screen for two years. I'm excited to spend some more 769 00:47:04,040 --> 00:47:08,479 Speaker 1: time with Caesar, who's staring at me. I mean, there's 770 00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:10,960 Speaker 1: just so much, there's so much good, there's so much 771 00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:14,160 Speaker 1: to be excited about it. I mean, there's so much. 772 00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:15,919 Speaker 1: I just moved into a new place and so I'm 773 00:47:15,960 --> 00:47:18,880 Speaker 1: decorating and that's really really fun. You just told me 774 00:47:18,920 --> 00:47:22,239 Speaker 1: before we started that we are neighbors, so I'm excited 775 00:47:22,280 --> 00:47:25,319 Speaker 1: to hopefully have a good brunch moment with you. 776 00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:29,319 Speaker 2: Hell yes, Typically at the end of the show, as 777 00:47:29,360 --> 00:47:31,520 Speaker 2: you know, I ask people to give themselves a piece 778 00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:34,840 Speaker 2: of advice looking back on some of their toughest moments. 779 00:47:34,880 --> 00:47:39,600 Speaker 2: But for you appropriate walking out of this conversation, new 780 00:47:39,640 --> 00:47:44,760 Speaker 2: book author, When someone walks away from your book after 781 00:47:44,840 --> 00:47:49,960 Speaker 2: finishing it, reads the whole thing, they look back at 782 00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:52,400 Speaker 2: that experience and they reflect on it. What is it 783 00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:57,960 Speaker 2: that you want them to take from your story to today? 784 00:47:58,520 --> 00:48:06,880 Speaker 1: I want them to hear that inner voice, to connect 785 00:48:07,280 --> 00:48:13,040 Speaker 1: to that drum beat, the compass intuition, the guiding light, 786 00:48:14,640 --> 00:48:20,880 Speaker 1: lean into moments that allow them. 787 00:48:20,239 --> 00:48:29,600 Speaker 8: To access their power, live in purpose, move through loss, 788 00:48:29,960 --> 00:48:32,120 Speaker 8: their missteps, missed opportunities. 789 00:48:32,520 --> 00:48:35,279 Speaker 1: I hope this meets them exactly where they are and 790 00:48:35,440 --> 00:48:41,280 Speaker 1: moves them to exactly where they want to be today. 791 00:48:41,360 --> 00:48:43,359 Speaker 2: OI and A and that tell us how do we 792 00:48:43,640 --> 00:48:45,719 Speaker 2: keep up with you? How do we follow along with you? 793 00:48:46,080 --> 00:48:48,160 Speaker 2: The book is available everywhere books are sold. 794 00:48:48,200 --> 00:48:49,239 Speaker 4: Give us the details. 795 00:48:49,560 --> 00:48:53,239 Speaker 1: Book is available everywhere books are sold. Hard copy available, 796 00:48:53,440 --> 00:48:56,840 Speaker 1: Audio book available narrated by yours Truly. 797 00:48:58,400 --> 00:49:04,759 Speaker 7: Check my website. Speak Tunday for tour details. I hope 798 00:49:04,800 --> 00:49:06,640 Speaker 7: to see you on the road. You know, I'd like 799 00:49:06,680 --> 00:49:08,960 Speaker 7: to say that I'm gen Z. I do have a TikTok. 800 00:49:09,000 --> 00:49:11,759 Speaker 7: I have all of I think five followers to chout 801 00:49:11,880 --> 00:49:14,760 Speaker 7: up with the fin you. You can find me on TikTok. 802 00:49:15,040 --> 00:49:17,600 Speaker 1: I think my top name is tune to Tunday, but 803 00:49:17,600 --> 00:49:19,880 Speaker 1: most certainly hit me up on Instagram at tune to 804 00:49:20,440 --> 00:49:23,240 Speaker 1: tune Day. Thank you so much, Emily. 805 00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:26,399 Speaker 2: We didn't even mention fitness fliped, but listen to tune 806 00:49:26,440 --> 00:49:30,040 Speaker 2: Day's angelic voice also on fitness clip. 807 00:49:31,160 --> 00:49:34,719 Speaker 1: Yes on fitness flip available wherever you listen to podcasts. 808 00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:36,279 Speaker 1: Thank you so much. 809 00:49:36,120 --> 00:49:38,440 Speaker 4: Girl, Thank you girlfriend. 810 00:49:38,640 --> 00:49:42,400 Speaker 2: I'm over at Emily Body at Hurdle podcast Another Hurdle Conquered. 811 00:49:42,760 --> 00:49:43,799 Speaker 4: Catch you guys next time.