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Speaker 1: It is a strawberry letter, all right. Subject my husband's

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Speaker 1: big brother. Dear Stephen Shirley. I was a faithful and

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Speaker 1: committed wife to an undeserving man for three years before

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Speaker 1: I decided to flip the script on him. My soon

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Speaker 1: to be ex husband and I dated back when we

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Speaker 1: were in college, and we reconnected five years ago. We

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Speaker 1: got married three years ago, and a few months after

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Speaker 1: our wedding, I found out that he had a girlfriend

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Speaker 1: and a newborn baby. He admitted it after the girl

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Speaker 1: came to our house. We started arguing a lot, and

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Speaker 1: he decided that he needed a break from our marriage.

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Speaker 1: So he moved in with his older brother. I was

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Speaker 1: willing to fight for my marriage, so I would go

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Speaker 1: by his brother's house to beg him to come home.

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Speaker 1: About a month ago, we had a heated discussion and

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Speaker 1: I decided to go see him. He wasn't there, but

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Speaker 1: me in. I started crying uncontrollably, and his brother hugged

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Speaker 1: me tightly and rubbed my back and shoulders. He kept whispering, Relax, Relax, Relax.

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Speaker 1: His body felt so good against mine, and I could

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Speaker 1: feel him getting excited from all of the closeness and rubbing.

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Speaker 1: I tried to pull away from him, and he started

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Speaker 1: kissing me on my neck. Then we ended up naked

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Speaker 1: and all tangled up on his couch. This man is

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Speaker 1: huge and he knows how to please a woman. We

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Speaker 1: made love for at least an hour. I stopped begging

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Speaker 1: my husband to come home, and I filed for divorce.

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Speaker 1: His big brother all caps be ig. His big brother

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Speaker 1: has helped me adjust to being single, and I've moved

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Speaker 1: on with my life, but I still want my husband

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Speaker 1: to know that I got my sweet revenge. By the

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Speaker 1: way they are stepbrothers, So it is not so bad.

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking of dropping hints so my husband will know

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Speaker 1: what I've been doing, should I do it or not?

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Speaker 1: Now you know you shouldn't be doing that, and you

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Speaker 1: know letting us know that their stepbrothers, So it's not

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Speaker 1: so bad. Well, I'm sure your husband still thinks of

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Speaker 1: it with his brother, the man who he considers his brother.

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Speaker 1: I'm assuming, but no, I definitely wouldn't tell him. I

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Speaker 1: definitely wouldn't get my revenge. You want to tell somebody

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Speaker 1: you got revenge? No, you don't have to do that.

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Speaker 1: Let's be adult. You want everyone to know, you want

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Speaker 1: your husband you wrote in to Steve and I you

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Speaker 1: know millions of listeners are hearing this strawberry letter. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you do know that, so everybody is gonna know in

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Speaker 1: a minute, the brother everybody. I mean, haven't you heard

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Speaker 1: the saying don't let your right hand know what your

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Speaker 1: I know you've heard that. I just think some things

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Speaker 1: are best left unseid, best better left unseid, is what

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to say. And this is just one of them.

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Speaker 1: I think you got your revenge. You were satisfied, so

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Speaker 1: there's no reason for you to take this any farther.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know you're the big brother, help you

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Speaker 1: adjust to being single. Now you've moved on with your life.

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Speaker 1: I just think, you know, you don't know what your

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Speaker 1: he goes over to his brother slash step brother's house

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Speaker 1: you think about that? I just think, you know, let

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Speaker 1: this go. Take this to your grave. You'll be divorced

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Speaker 1: soon anyway. Steve, Uh, I see a woman that's saying

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Speaker 1: has nothing to do with what she's actually saying. Let

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Speaker 1: me show you what I'm talking about. Yeah, I was

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Speaker 1: a faithful and committed wife. Okay, now this show of

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Speaker 1: committed wife. Okay, Oh you mean sure? Okay, you said show? Okay,

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Speaker 1: I got you. I'm with you. Go ahead. No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: My soon to be ex husband, y'all dating when y'all

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Speaker 1: After about a month ago, we had another heated discussion.

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Speaker 1: You went to see him. He wasn't now, but his

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Speaker 1: his brother hugged me, tightening, rubbed my back and shoulders.

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Speaker 1: He kept switchman, relax, relax. His body felt so good

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Speaker 1: Oh really much, really really, how hard was you trying?

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Speaker 1: All right? Hold that thought, Steve, Hold that thought. We'll

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Speaker 1: have part two of Steve's response coming up at twenty

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Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour My Strawberry letter for today's

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Speaker 1: subject my husband's big brother. All right, capital B I G.

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Speaker 1: All right, we'll be back right after this. You're listening,

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Speaker 1: all right, Come on, Steve looks recap today's Strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: the subject my husband's big brother. You know, Shelly you okay, baby,

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Speaker 1: but it's emphasized. I mean this. Anybody said this big

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Speaker 1: The out y'all started arguing, he fell out, decided the

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Speaker 1: I was willing to fight for my marriage. Well how hard?

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Speaker 1: let's try to find out. So you go with his brother,

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Speaker 1: so he invited me in. I started crying, uncontrolling, blah

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Speaker 1: blah blah blah, no no fighting. Who shirley her for

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Speaker 1: her marriage? Her marriage ain't there? He was gone, He

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Speaker 1: wasn't never have her marriage? Ain't there? Her marriage? Brother

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Speaker 1: Stopped stop you you kissing him up? You stopped kissing

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Speaker 1: you kiss this woman? Just nick, she's hurts my neck.

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Speaker 1: You go down, you nippling on my shoulder. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Go down, you own my chest what you what you're doing? Okay,

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Speaker 1: stuff happened, but let me tell you what happened. Sure,

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Speaker 1: they ended up naked and tangled up on his couch.

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Speaker 1: That's another word for entanglement. We all for me with that.

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Speaker 1: You ended up tangle up on the couch. That ain't okay.

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Speaker 1: an hour and then let me play something to you.

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Speaker 1: But I love it somebody for an hour. What a

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Speaker 1: lot of times to pull away in our yeah, say

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Speaker 1: and I filed for divorce. Now now he go to line.

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Speaker 1: His big brother has helped me adjust to being single.

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Speaker 1: Help you adjust to being single? You know what that

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Speaker 1: really mean. He's been in that. Just tune in your pipe, yep.

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Speaker 1: want my husband to know how I got my sweet revenge. Lady.

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Speaker 1: This was way molded revenge because you kept going back

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Speaker 1: She was enjoying herself. Absolutely she was. They ain't got

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Speaker 1: it has everything to do with revenge. Uh, that's a baby,

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Speaker 1: That's stupid. Now, that's more than revenge. Why would you

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Speaker 1: what chick? Come up to me, dog? This is my brother, right,

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Speaker 1: It na, man, what you can't come up to me

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Speaker 1: Can you understand what that is? To have a brother?

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Speaker 1: He's my brother? Man? So the brother wrong, You wrong

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