WEBVTT - ANJELAH JOHNSON-REYES: Funjelah 0:00:04.120 --> 0:00:09.880 Oh, where did the month go? September was here with 0:00:10.160 --> 0:00:14.480 lots of birthdays, lots of big birthdays in my family, 0:00:14.560 --> 0:00:18.800 and then wish the month was gone. I did find 0:00:18.800 --> 0:00:22.279 myself saying that often I'm in a perpetual state of 0:00:22.440 --> 0:00:27.800 surprise with every passing month, every passing season, every passing year. 0:00:27.880 --> 0:00:32.280 Now when they say it all goes by so fast, 0:00:33.479 --> 0:00:39.040 they aren't kidding. You know what happened in a nanosecond. 0:00:40.440 --> 0:00:47.479 My babies grew up. My first born son, Isaiah, turned 0:00:47.560 --> 0:00:53.040 forty forty forty this month, and my second born, Sheila, 0:00:54.120 --> 0:00:57.520 will have her thirtieth birthday before the month is over. 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:02.520 Remember being in awe when they were five and fifteen, 0:01:02.760 --> 0:01:08.640 but nothing prepared me for this. I am, however, happy 0:01:08.680 --> 0:01:12.279 and grateful that they are happy and well and living 0:01:12.319 --> 0:01:16.240 their best lives or raising their own children, beautiful children. 0:01:16.880 --> 0:01:19.839 I'm even hearing more than a few heavy size from 0:01:19.959 --> 0:01:24.440 them that time is moving too swiftly and their babies 0:01:24.480 --> 0:01:28.080 are growing up too fast. But you know what the 0:01:28.120 --> 0:01:33.319 best balm is to everything, humor. If you can laugh, 0:01:33.480 --> 0:01:36.479 If you can have a good laugh once or twice 0:01:36.520 --> 0:01:42.600 a day, ah, it makes all the other things survivable. 0:01:43.360 --> 0:01:49.320 Today's podcast guest offers dose upon healing, dose of humor. 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:53.520 Angela Johnson Rays is one of the most successful stand 0:01:53.600 --> 0:01:58.560 up comedians today, with six comedy specials streaming on various 0:01:58.600 --> 0:02:04.400 platforms and selling out theaters around the world. Her most 0:02:04.640 --> 0:02:09.920 recent special, Say I Won't, debut on YouTube in twenty 0:02:09.960 --> 0:02:14.240 twenty three with over four point two million views in counting. 0:02:15.600 --> 0:02:19.639 She might be best known for her nail salon sketch 0:02:20.480 --> 0:02:23.760 that was memorized line by line by all my daughters 0:02:23.800 --> 0:02:29.040 and nieces and maybe one or two myself, and has 0:02:29.080 --> 0:02:34.080 been quoted at family gatherings. Angela, who was born and 0:02:34.160 --> 0:02:37.480 raised in San Jose, California, is of Mexican and Native 0:02:37.520 --> 0:02:42.040 American descent. Her life and her family feature prominently in 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:45.799 her comedy sketches. She published her first memoir titled Who 0:02:45.840 --> 0:02:49.720 Do I Think I Am in twenty twenty two. She's 0:02:49.800 --> 0:02:53.880 guest starred on shows such as Life and Beth, Superstore, 0:02:53.919 --> 0:02:59.720 The Shield, Ugly Betty, and Curbear Enthusiasm. Her film roles 0:02:59.720 --> 0:03:03.480 in clin Lude Enough Said, Our Family Wedding, and My 0:03:03.639 --> 0:03:09.720 Favorite Alvin and the Chipmunks, The Squeak Quell. Angela also 0:03:09.800 --> 0:03:13.480 joined Eddie Murphy and Tracy Ellis Ross in the Amazon 0:03:13.600 --> 0:03:18.520 Prime feature Candy Cane Lane. In February, she returned for 0:03:18.560 --> 0:03:22.280 the second season of the Hulu original series Life and 0:03:22.360 --> 0:03:27.520 Beth and hosted the to be original series My Crazy Quins, 0:03:27.800 --> 0:03:32.600 which dropped in me. Most recently, she launched a podcast 0:03:32.680 --> 0:03:37.520 about mental health called Fungela that focuses on gratitude because, 0:03:37.560 --> 0:03:41.240 in Angela's words, when you remind yourself of what you're 0:03:41.240 --> 0:03:45.040 grateful for and say it out loud, you're not only 0:03:45.280 --> 0:03:49.920 speaking good into the world, but good into yourself. Can't 0:03:49.960 --> 0:03:52.640 wait to get into our conversation with Angela and share 0:03:52.680 --> 0:03:56.320 some laughs with this very funny lady. First, let me 0:03:56.360 --> 0:03:59.480 share a few words about one of today's podcast sponsors, 0:03:59.800 --> 0:04:04.240 and then we will dive in. Have you been looking 0:04:04.320 --> 0:04:10.240 for a milk replacement because you have dairy allergies or sensitivities. Well, 0:04:10.560 --> 0:04:16.839 I found one that's absolutely amazing. It's Sherry's hazel Cream, 0:04:16.920 --> 0:04:21.920 made from Oregon hazelnuts. 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Use code Love twenty four 0:05:39.960 --> 0:05:44.599 for ten percent off your order that Sherries Hazel Cream 0:05:45.160 --> 0:05:50.120 and Love twenty four with me on today's edition of Love. 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:54.239 Someone is Angela Johnson rays You're so pretty. 0:05:55.080 --> 0:05:56.839 Thank you. I put makeup on for you. 0:05:57.120 --> 0:05:59.400 I put makeup on for you. I put my lips on. 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:03.080 Look at that like it's a good Yeah. Here's the thing. 0:06:03.200 --> 0:06:06.520 I growing up, like teenage twenties, I would rarely wear 0:06:06.560 --> 0:06:09.120 lipstick because my lips were like already vibrant, like I 0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:11.160 didn't need it. And I remember my thea Mary, who 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:12.839 lived to be one hundred and two years old. She 0:06:12.920 --> 0:06:15.080 wore lipstick till the day she died. She loved putting 0:06:15.160 --> 0:06:17.240 on her lipstick. And I would be I'd be like, 0:06:17.440 --> 0:06:19.240 why is she still putting lipstick on? I don't care. 0:06:19.279 --> 0:06:21.640 And then now that I'm aging a little bit more, 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:24.440 I notice, I'm like, oh, I need to put. 0:06:24.240 --> 0:06:27.120 Some lipstick on. Like now I care about putting lipstick on. 0:06:27.800 --> 0:06:29.640 I don't. If I'm going to go out, I have 0:06:29.720 --> 0:06:32.480 to have my lipstick on. And I have a granddaughter 0:06:33.000 --> 0:06:36.760 who lives on my property. She's five. She's so cute 0:06:37.040 --> 0:06:41.839 and every day but she's just starting kindergarten. Before kindergarten start, 0:06:41.960 --> 0:06:46.479 she comes her. They have an apartment that's on my property, 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:49.280 and she runs over to the farmhouse where I am 0:06:49.360 --> 0:06:53.320 says Gramma, NA, I need my lipsticks, and it's flural. 0:06:53.400 --> 0:06:55.280 I need my lipsticks. 0:06:54.720 --> 0:06:57.240 Special that she gets to run to Grandma's house before 0:06:57.279 --> 0:06:58.800 school and get her lipsticks. 0:06:59.160 --> 0:07:01.400 Also, your properties sounds amazing. Can I move in? 0:07:01.640 --> 0:07:04.440 You can? There's plenty of room there is there's fifty 0:07:04.480 --> 0:07:08.080 five acres and so you're you are more than welcome 0:07:08.120 --> 0:07:10.640 and your husband. I have a music room above my 0:07:10.760 --> 0:07:14.840 carport for my kids because I'm old and cranky. So 0:07:14.960 --> 0:07:19.560 when they want to like jam, because they're not professional 0:07:19.680 --> 0:07:25.440 musicians and it's really loud and noisy, they can go 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:27.920 above the carport and jam. So he could probably put 0:07:27.920 --> 0:07:31.600 his equipment up there and something incredible. Yeah, yeah, we 0:07:31.680 --> 0:07:33.960 have a fire pit in the backyard so he can 0:07:34.160 --> 0:07:37.880 like play under the stars and oh magical. 0:07:37.960 --> 0:07:41.120 This is so dreamy what you're describing right now. I 0:07:41.160 --> 0:07:43.440 love this. I love this for us. Since I now 0:07:43.520 --> 0:07:44.200 live there. 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:47.200 You and I can just tell stupid jokes all day long. 0:07:47.960 --> 0:07:48.720 Do it like? 0:07:49.040 --> 0:07:53.360 You make me laugh Angela so hard I pee myself 0:07:54.200 --> 0:07:56.720 thanks to lan well sneezing makes me pee myself. So 0:07:56.760 --> 0:08:04.000 that's a compliment, but take it with a grain of Yeah. 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:08.520 My girls had memorized your whole pretty nails routine years ago, 0:08:09.320 --> 0:08:11.320 and every time I would say, because I don't do 0:08:11.440 --> 0:08:14.200 my nails. You can see here. I'm a farm girl. 0:08:14.320 --> 0:08:17.400 I have animals and I've been canning. But my toes. 0:08:18.840 --> 0:08:21.800 I gotta do my toes. I just I cannot have coffee. 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:22.440 I can't. 0:08:22.520 --> 0:08:24.600 No, no, I can't. 0:08:24.640 --> 0:08:27.880 I'll cut my own ankles with my one foot and 0:08:27.920 --> 0:08:29.520 I'll be like, oh, no, I gotta go get a petty. 0:08:29.560 --> 0:08:31.520 Yeah, it's time to get a petty when you're cutting 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:34.280 yourself with your on toenails. And I would say, I'm 0:08:35.080 --> 0:08:36.920 you know, don't bother me. I'm going to be gone 0:08:36.960 --> 0:08:38.800 for an hour or two. I'm gonna go get a pedicure. 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:42.400 They're like, ah, you got a boyfriend. They would do 0:08:42.480 --> 0:08:43.520 your whole routine. 0:08:44.320 --> 0:08:49.800 Yeah, it's wild how that joke is seventeen years old. 0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:53.440 It's very old, and yet it's open. 0:08:53.800 --> 0:08:57.760 It's part of our vernacular now. Yes, it's become like 0:08:57.840 --> 0:09:00.400 I cannot say anything about a petticure and to make 0:09:00.400 --> 0:09:03.120 my husband go with me without one of my girls saying, ah, 0:09:03.160 --> 0:09:04.160 you got a boyfriend. 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:06.760 It's wild. 0:09:06.840 --> 0:09:09.480 I was just having this conversation with somebody about how 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:12.720 my joke has become a part of people's everyday life, 0:09:12.760 --> 0:09:16.440 like they quote it on a regular even just like, hey, yeah, 0:09:16.520 --> 0:09:18.160 the grocery story, give me an apple? 0:09:18.200 --> 0:09:19.480 How many? Just one? 0:09:19.679 --> 0:09:22.160 And they throw that in there in any part of 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:25.080 their daily life. And I think about like the movies 0:09:25.120 --> 0:09:27.720 that I quote, Dumb and Dummer, Wayne's World, like from 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:31.320 my era that still are in my everyday life. I 0:09:31.400 --> 0:09:34.240 quote these movies and I'm like, that's wild to me 0:09:34.280 --> 0:09:36.480 to think that my joke is a part of somebody 0:09:36.480 --> 0:09:38.880 else's life that they quote when they do every time 0:09:38.920 --> 0:09:39.800 they do this one thing. 0:09:40.400 --> 0:09:44.079 I love that. What's your favorite favorite all time movie 0:09:44.080 --> 0:09:44.600 to quote? 0:09:45.559 --> 0:09:47.880 Oh, those two that I just said, but probably Dumb 0:09:47.880 --> 0:09:50.000 and Dumber, I would Yeah, it has to be Dumb 0:09:50.000 --> 0:09:50.440 and Dummer. 0:09:52.120 --> 0:09:56.280 Yeah, so for me, stop it now, I mean it. 0:09:57.040 --> 0:09:57.720 What's that from? 0:09:58.080 --> 0:10:01.480 You were supposed to say? Does anyone a benut? You've 0:10:01.520 --> 0:10:07.120 never seen Princess Bride? You've not watched Princess Bride? Angela 0:10:07.320 --> 0:10:08.120 that one you? 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:11.079 Everyone hates me right now? 0:10:11.120 --> 0:10:13.680 I know, no, No, As one of my favorite comedians, 0:10:13.720 --> 0:10:16.439 I have to tell you before the day is over, 0:10:17.559 --> 0:10:21.160 you have to watch Princess Bride at least once, if 0:10:21.160 --> 0:10:24.720 not five times. Okay, this is one of those things 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:26.560 that I knew I was going to marry my husband 0:10:26.559 --> 0:10:30.240 when we became friends and he started quoting Princess Bride, 0:10:30.280 --> 0:10:31.480 and I'm like, oh my. 0:10:31.320 --> 0:10:33.000 God, he's the one. 0:10:33.240 --> 0:10:37.040 He's the one. He's the man with six fingers. You know. 0:10:37.400 --> 0:10:38.880 You have to watch it. 0:10:39.200 --> 0:10:41.440 Okay, I'll do it just for you, and I think 0:10:41.440 --> 0:10:42.360 about you the whole time. 0:10:42.800 --> 0:10:47.320 Do do There are so many great characters in it, 0:10:47.480 --> 0:10:50.559 and there's so many great lines in it. You're gonna 0:10:50.679 --> 0:10:55.240 you're gonna call me back and you're gonna just like. 0:10:54.360 --> 0:10:55.880 They just quote again. I can finish it. 0:10:55.840 --> 0:10:57.760 Now, Yeah, I can do it. I can do it. 0:10:57.800 --> 0:11:03.560 I'm not a witch. I'm your wife, all right. Okay. 0:11:03.640 --> 0:11:06.720 So something that you helped me understand in your comedy, 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:09.960 not even knowing you helped me understand it. I didn't 0:11:09.960 --> 0:11:14.240 know the what ifs were anxiety. Yeah, I didn't know 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:15.880 the what ifs were anxiety. 0:11:16.920 --> 0:11:19.559 Yep mm hmm. Here you were just thinking you were 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:22.839 a healthy, old, thriving. 0:11:22.720 --> 0:11:28.000 Thriving mama bear uh, and that the what ifs are 0:11:28.160 --> 0:11:33.440 actually like maybe anxiety. Yeah, this is how bad my 0:11:33.480 --> 0:11:35.559 what ifs are. They're as bad as yours. 0:11:36.160 --> 0:11:36.840 Tell me, tell me. 0:11:37.160 --> 0:11:37.439 Okay. 0:11:37.520 --> 0:11:41.240 I have a best friend and I didn't hear from 0:11:41.240 --> 0:11:43.600 her one day and like we talk every day, it's 0:11:43.640 --> 0:11:46.600 a sad I hadn't heard from her, and so I 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:49.800 called her, and then I called her and left jerky comments, 0:11:49.880 --> 0:11:53.080 you know, on her flassage. And then I texted her 0:11:53.080 --> 0:11:58.040 and she didn't text me back. And after like you know, 0:11:58.120 --> 0:12:01.280 the second text, I was sure she's got some very 0:12:01.280 --> 0:12:05.040 steep stairs in her house that I said, my daughter, 0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:10.280 you did she lives a mile away, I said, my daughter, 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:14.440 because I was sure tripped on the stairs, dog ran 0:12:14.559 --> 0:12:19.840 underneath her, lost her balance and what happened. She was 0:12:20.080 --> 0:12:24.400 not happy when midnight my daughter is waking her up. 0:12:24.480 --> 0:12:25.240 Wait, you were calling. 0:12:25.360 --> 0:12:27.360 You were trying to get a hold of her at midnight, well, 0:12:27.400 --> 0:12:29.599 because I hadn't heard from her during the day, and 0:12:29.760 --> 0:12:30.920 by because it was all day. 0:12:31.080 --> 0:12:33.600 Yeah, I see, And by the time I got to 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:35.120 the end of the day, you're like, I can't, I 0:12:35.160 --> 0:12:39.280 can't go by. You know, we could have avoided. 0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:40.960 We could have avoided this, thank you. 0:12:42.200 --> 0:12:44.360 Yeah, but you let the whole day go by. That's 0:12:44.520 --> 0:12:45.360 good on you. 0:12:45.600 --> 0:12:49.200 I recently had my brother here visiting and he's up early, 0:12:49.440 --> 0:12:51.400 like seven am. He's already gone for a rind and 0:12:51.480 --> 0:12:54.240 come back and it was like almost eight am, and 0:12:54.280 --> 0:12:56.160 he still hadn't come downstairs yet. 0:12:56.400 --> 0:12:57.520 My first thought he died. 0:12:57.640 --> 0:12:58.040 He died. 0:12:58.120 --> 0:13:00.000 He's right upstair. 0:13:00.240 --> 0:13:03.800 I'm like, oh my god, somebody poisoned him. Somebody broke 0:13:03.840 --> 0:13:05.680 in last night, he tripped and fell. 0:13:05.760 --> 0:13:07.440 I didn't hear it. He's for sure dead. 0:13:07.720 --> 0:13:11.960 And then I text him you good good morning, and 0:13:12.000 --> 0:13:12.959 he didn't reply. 0:13:12.760 --> 0:13:15.199 And I was like, oh my god, this is the day. 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:17.559 This is the day. And then like ten minutes later 0:13:17.760 --> 0:13:20.120 he comes downstairs. But it was just the day. He 0:13:20.160 --> 0:13:21.959 was flying out, so he was busy packing up. 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:24.280 His suitcase whatever, whatever. 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:27.240 But back, how dare you pack up. 0:13:28.080 --> 0:13:31.320 Your suitcase and make me think that you're dead. So 0:13:31.440 --> 0:13:34.560 in one of your specials, you were talking about how 0:13:34.600 --> 0:13:37.640 you how you signed your husband up for the find 0:13:37.640 --> 0:13:40.360 Me app find a Friend app on your phone? You 0:13:40.440 --> 0:13:42.079 signed him up on. 0:13:44.960 --> 0:13:45.560 Sure, I did. 0:13:45.720 --> 0:13:48.400 I gotta steal my friend's phone so I can sign 0:13:48.440 --> 0:13:49.400 her up on my phone. 0:13:49.559 --> 0:13:51.319 Okay, there's a better one I'll tell you about. Okay, 0:13:51.320 --> 0:13:53.880 So Find my Friends comes on Apple phones, Like everybody 0:13:53.920 --> 0:13:57.360 gets that one. But there's another one Life three sixty. 0:13:57.440 --> 0:14:01.760 I think it's called girl. This one is nosy. This 0:14:01.800 --> 0:14:05.040 one I get alerts on my phone. Manuel just finished 0:14:05.160 --> 0:14:10.439 a thirty mile drive. His mac speed was seventy six 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:14.360 miles per hour. Yes, it'll tell me. I think it'll 0:14:14.400 --> 0:14:17.120 even tell if he used his phone while he was driving, 0:14:17.280 --> 0:14:20.960 Like it's no sock. Oh yeah, it gives me all 0:14:21.000 --> 0:14:21.520 the goods. 0:14:21.760 --> 0:14:24.600 And so do you have to download the app on 0:14:24.680 --> 0:14:28.360 the other person's phone in order for you to follow them? 0:14:28.880 --> 0:14:30.600 So how am I gonna find? How am I going 0:14:30.680 --> 0:14:34.200 to get hold of my adult children's phones and download 0:14:34.320 --> 0:14:34.960 a party? 0:14:35.240 --> 0:14:36.040 Everybody, come over. 0:14:36.360 --> 0:14:40.360 We're having dinner at the farm, the ranch, whatever you said, 0:14:40.360 --> 0:14:42.840 you had right to come over. We're doing a little dinner. 0:14:43.000 --> 0:14:45.920 But this one. Listen, you guys, no phones. You guys 0:14:45.960 --> 0:14:48.560 are always on your phones. Everybody put your phones right 0:14:48.560 --> 0:14:49.640 here on the counter. 0:14:49.480 --> 0:14:51.200 And leave your password on. 0:14:51.240 --> 0:14:52.760 Your password right there next to it. 0:14:56.720 --> 0:14:59.720 Because I have adult children, I would do that with 0:15:10.640 --> 0:15:13.320 what's your worst? What if? I mean the one of 0:15:13.360 --> 0:15:16.240 your husband, which is in your routine, dying on the 0:15:16.280 --> 0:15:17.920 freeway outside of your house. 0:15:18.000 --> 0:15:21.560 That was I thought he was dead. I looked it was. 0:15:22.560 --> 0:15:27.040 The story is he went to the movies with friends 0:15:27.120 --> 0:15:29.840 and he called me when he was on his way back. 0:15:30.120 --> 0:15:34.920 I fell asleep. Okay, Well it was too hot in 0:15:34.960 --> 0:15:35.800 the room, so. 0:15:35.720 --> 0:15:37.680 He just slept on the couch, is what it was. 0:15:37.720 --> 0:15:39.080 But I woke up at two in the morning and 0:15:39.120 --> 0:15:41.160 he was not there, and I was like, no. I 0:15:41.200 --> 0:15:42.680 talked to him at eleven pm. He was on his 0:15:42.680 --> 0:15:45.240 way home, and he's still not home. And his bed 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:47.400 hadn't even been lived in, you know what I mean, 0:15:47.440 --> 0:15:49.880 Like it was still flat. He had not even It's 0:15:49.920 --> 0:15:51.000 not that he came in for a little bit and 0:15:51.040 --> 0:15:53.080 he got up, it was still flat. I said, oh, 0:15:53.200 --> 0:15:56.000 he's dead. Immediately he died. I call him, he's not answering. 0:15:56.080 --> 0:15:59.280 Oh damn. And then I checked the friend finder. It 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:02.480 shows his phone on the side of the freeway, like 0:16:03.120 --> 0:16:05.320 it lied to me. I would have been okay, but. 0:16:05.480 --> 0:16:07.160 It showed he was in the house somewhere and they'd 0:16:07.160 --> 0:16:08.600 be like, okay, I'll let me just go. 0:16:09.000 --> 0:16:12.040 I wonder if there's like somebody that can control that, 0:16:12.160 --> 0:16:14.720 or going, let's mess with her, let's really mess with her. 0:16:14.880 --> 0:16:17.520 How did this happen? Like, how was that even possible? 0:16:17.560 --> 0:16:19.920 It was literally a mile away on the side of 0:16:19.960 --> 0:16:23.520 the freeway, like it was a lag of some I 0:16:23.520 --> 0:16:25.880 don't know what, but I really thought he was dead 0:16:25.960 --> 0:16:27.880 until I came downstairs and I saw him on the couch. 0:16:28.040 --> 0:16:31.200 I really was like, how do I But you. 0:16:31.200 --> 0:16:34.640 Hadn't called the cops or or an adult daughter to 0:16:34.640 --> 0:16:36.200 go check on him like I did. 0:16:36.640 --> 0:16:36.800 Yeah. 0:16:36.920 --> 0:16:38.760 No, I started playing in the funeral in my brain. 0:16:38.880 --> 0:16:40.760 Yeah, and what were you wearing? What were you gonna 0:16:40.760 --> 0:16:41.480 wear to the funeral? 0:16:42.160 --> 0:16:43.640 Something very modest? Something. 0:16:43.680 --> 0:16:45.120 But I don't want people to think I'm already back 0:16:45.160 --> 0:16:46.520 on the market, you know what I mean? Like it's 0:16:46.560 --> 0:16:48.560 just something cover up because if I so much to 0:16:48.680 --> 0:16:50.320 cleave and then be like, ooh, she trying to get 0:16:50.320 --> 0:16:50.920 wiped up again? 0:16:51.000 --> 0:16:53.160 You know what I mean? Just no, just so. 0:16:53.320 --> 0:16:56.560 Covered dress, slack suit, jumpsuit, like. 0:16:57.200 --> 0:17:01.080 Not a dress, No, it would be pants, definitely can 0:17:02.240 --> 0:17:05.560 mm hmmm yep, he. 0:17:07.040 --> 0:17:11.600 Are you flat flies? But my husband always loved it, 0:17:12.200 --> 0:17:13.400 loved it like he's already died. 0:17:13.520 --> 0:17:20.320 He uh, okay, dress up the best. 0:17:20.320 --> 0:17:22.360 Maybe I do that for him the best. 0:17:22.960 --> 0:17:25.320 The best part of that was when you said I 0:17:25.359 --> 0:17:27.439 didn't even think about that he might be cheating, that 0:17:27.480 --> 0:17:29.639 he might be out with somebody else. I thought he 0:17:29.720 --> 0:17:32.080 was dead, because if he was cheating, it'd be. 0:17:32.080 --> 0:17:34.679 Dead, exactly, exactly. 0:17:34.880 --> 0:17:40.480 Please ah, you kill me. So many of your routines 0:17:40.760 --> 0:17:44.160 just like speak to my heart in such a sweet way. 0:17:45.240 --> 0:17:48.560 And now you're doing a podcast Fungela. 0:17:48.800 --> 0:17:51.760 Yeah, I am. I. 0:17:51.760 --> 0:17:55.240 I started this podcast because it was one of my 0:17:55.520 --> 0:17:58.439 tools that I use in my mental health and on 0:17:58.480 --> 0:17:59.400 the road touring. 0:17:59.640 --> 0:18:01.640 It's like I talk about my anxiety and that one 0:18:01.680 --> 0:18:03.800 special and the wood ifs and all that kind of stuff, 0:18:05.040 --> 0:18:10.879 just struggling with anxiety sometimes depression sometimes just like the 0:18:10.920 --> 0:18:13.840 intrusive thoughts, like all the stuff that I'd be dealing with. 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:17.399 And I had different tools over the years, different supplements 0:18:17.400 --> 0:18:20.240 that I would use, different breathing techniques that I would use, 0:18:20.359 --> 0:18:25.320 my gratitude journal, prayer, whatever it may be. And the 0:18:25.359 --> 0:18:27.959 one that I would go to the most because it 0:18:28.000 --> 0:18:30.920 worked quickly, it was efficient, it was free, and it 0:18:31.000 --> 0:18:35.040 was right there within you is gratitude. And when we 0:18:35.160 --> 0:18:38.000 start practicing gratitude, you say the thing that you're grateful 0:18:38.040 --> 0:18:40.639 for out loud, and then you hear yourself saying the 0:18:40.640 --> 0:18:42.399 thing that you're grateful for. So it's one thing to 0:18:42.440 --> 0:18:44.320 think about what are you grateful for? And you're already 0:18:44.400 --> 0:18:46.960 changing your mood just thinking about these things. Think about 0:18:47.000 --> 0:18:47.920 something positive instead. 0:18:47.920 --> 0:18:49.919 Of something negative. You already did a step in changing it. 0:18:50.160 --> 0:18:52.320 But then when you say it out loud, now you 0:18:52.359 --> 0:18:55.800 actually hear yourself. So you're using different senses too, now 0:18:55.840 --> 0:18:58.800 your mind, now your ears, you're saying it out loud. 0:18:59.200 --> 0:19:02.040 So it's this big gratitude circle that goes in and out, 0:19:02.080 --> 0:19:03.719 in and out of your body. You just start raising 0:19:03.760 --> 0:19:06.679 your vibration, raising it to like this level where you 0:19:06.720 --> 0:19:09.600 start attracting like beautiful things in your life. And so 0:19:09.680 --> 0:19:11.840 I said, I'm going to do a podcast based on 0:19:12.000 --> 0:19:15.000 gratitude and just practice gratitude with people. So I bring 0:19:15.080 --> 0:19:17.440 guests on and we talk about five things that they're 0:19:17.440 --> 0:19:20.360 grateful for in their life, and it leads to amazing 0:19:20.440 --> 0:19:23.920 stories that they have. And we also do one mattitude 0:19:23.960 --> 0:19:26.080 and the one mattitude is the thing that's making you 0:19:26.160 --> 0:19:29.120 mad these days, giving you a bad attitude. 0:19:28.600 --> 0:19:30.360 Or as I like to call it, a matitude. 0:19:30.480 --> 0:19:32.600 And so we start with the one, we get it 0:19:32.640 --> 0:19:34.640 out of our body, we let it go, and then 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:36.840 we move into gratitude and we just talk about stuff 0:19:36.880 --> 0:19:39.240 that we're grateful for, put out the good vibes. 0:19:39.480 --> 0:19:41.240 What a wonderful tool. 0:19:42.359 --> 0:19:42.920 I love it. 0:19:43.280 --> 0:19:45.159 What is your matitude today? 0:19:46.080 --> 0:19:53.239 Ooh, my matitude today. Let's see you know, today's been 0:19:53.280 --> 0:19:54.600 a really good day. 0:19:56.280 --> 0:19:59.080 Okay, you put your makeup on, so I put my 0:19:59.119 --> 0:20:02.760 magamon on for you. I had to, although I almost 0:20:03.000 --> 0:20:05.399 I'll be honest. I started walking up to the office 0:20:05.400 --> 0:20:07.280 to come beyond here. But I was a half hour 0:20:07.320 --> 0:20:09.040 early and I had no makeup on. I was like, ooh, 0:20:09.040 --> 0:20:09.640 I'm be late. 0:20:09.720 --> 0:20:11.000 I was like, wait, I have a half hour, so 0:20:11.320 --> 0:20:11.959 I put makeabon. 0:20:13.600 --> 0:20:16.119 My mattitude these days is these little gnats and I 0:20:16.119 --> 0:20:17.720 don't know if they're coming from the sink. 0:20:17.880 --> 0:20:18.359 I don't know. 0:20:18.440 --> 0:20:20.959 Fruit flies, but are they gnats or fruitflies? 0:20:21.480 --> 0:20:23.560 I think they're nuts because sometimes I'll see them. 0:20:23.680 --> 0:20:27.280 Nats are lighter colored, but fruitflies, fruit flies can go 0:20:27.320 --> 0:20:30.000 in the bathroom. How scary? Did I know this? 0:20:30.720 --> 0:20:31.000 Yeah? 0:20:31.200 --> 0:20:33.439 Well, I mean you live out on some acreage, so 0:20:33.520 --> 0:20:36.440 I'm sure you have a lot of knowledge of critters 0:20:36.440 --> 0:20:37.720 and insects and stuff. 0:20:37.720 --> 0:20:39.680 And I'm canning. It's canning season. 0:20:40.200 --> 0:20:40.760 What's that mean? 0:20:41.040 --> 0:20:46.600 It means I garden all spring in summer stupidly hundreds 0:20:46.640 --> 0:20:49.680 of acres or dozens of acres, and then fall hits 0:20:49.720 --> 0:20:53.760 and I'm like, I am five hundred bushels of corn 0:20:53.840 --> 0:20:57.680 that I have to blanch and freeze and can and 0:20:58.480 --> 0:20:59.919 dry and dehydrated. 0:21:00.600 --> 0:21:03.520 Oh, I see what you're saying, actual canning of food 0:21:03.680 --> 0:21:05.600 to eat and use and store. 0:21:06.119 --> 0:21:10.120 Oh. During twenty twenty, I started a garden and. 0:21:10.080 --> 0:21:14.720 I absolutely loved it. And I ended up pickling my 0:21:14.800 --> 0:21:18.399 own cucumbers. Oh my gosh, it was so fun and 0:21:18.440 --> 0:21:20.639 they were so No, I've never tasted a pickle as 0:21:20.640 --> 0:21:22.040 good as my pickle, you know what I mean. 0:21:22.080 --> 0:21:23.280