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Speaker 4: Expert all from Sierra.
Speaker 3: Sierra.
Speaker 4: Hey, geck, what's up?
Speaker 3: You know, Sierra? Can you so missed so many things?
Speaker 3: Do you mean, what's up with me? Or just what's
Speaker 3: up in the world in general? Because I don't. I
Speaker 3: really I'm an expert on what's going on in my world,
Speaker 3: but I as far as the world at large, you know,
Speaker 3: I feel like I feel like I'm working through, you know,
Speaker 3: personal problems that you know, I you know, I mean,
Speaker 3: I know that there's a lot of problems pressing the earth,
Speaker 3: like climate change and wildfires and politics. But I'm too
Speaker 3: busy trying to think about what I'm gonna eat for
Speaker 3: dinner tonight and that, and is that selfish? Probably?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, but I don't know.
Speaker 3: I only have so much brain power.
Speaker 6: You know what.
Speaker 4: Think about yourself, man, Yeah, it's okay, think about you.
Speaker 4: It's really fine to take yourself as a priority. I'm
Speaker 4: just gonna like fangirl for a little bit because I
Speaker 4: I've been listening to you, like your podcasts or like
Speaker 4: a street run you like get me through my work day.
Speaker 4: I just want to say, like, thank you for doing
Speaker 4: you and like it's.
Speaker 7: The same that.
Speaker 4: You like see someone across the street and like I
Speaker 4: I wonder what he does when he goes home, and
Speaker 4: like that's what your podcast is for me, and like
Speaker 4: lets me know, you know, there's guys that want to
Speaker 4: fuck like minotaurs, and you know people that are like
Speaker 4: totally the swingers and they're okay with it. I just
Speaker 4: think you're with it and it makes me I leave
Speaker 4: your streams like thinking it's okay.
Speaker 8: Not to know what's going on.
Speaker 4: And it is a blessing and a curse to have
Speaker 4: problems and have feelings about having problems because this is
Speaker 4: life and life is like an amazing thing to have,
Speaker 4: even if it's shitty sometimes. So I just want to
Speaker 4: thank you, honestly.
Speaker 3: Thank you so much, Sarah. I really appreciate all the
Speaker 3: Sierra and not Sarah, thank you so much, Cierra for
Speaker 3: all those kind words. I must ask you now after
Speaker 3: having listened to the podcast, after having listened to the stream,
Speaker 3: after having you know, really enjoyed the voyeuristic experience of
Speaker 3: learning so many things about so many people. Uh uh
Speaker 3: through this, through this stream, uh, you must have Sierra
Speaker 3: formed some idea perhaps of what you might say were
Speaker 3: you to ever appear on the Therapy Get Goo show.
Speaker 3: And I am curious what that might be.
Speaker 4: Okay, I know I've been thinking about this all day.
Speaker 4: I'm like, fuck, I had to have something great, okay.
Speaker 4: I mean we can get like personal and I could
Speaker 4: talk about like my personal problem, or I could just
Speaker 4: talk about something dramatic that happened to me.
Speaker 7: You'll know.
Speaker 4: When you hear something spicy or it makes you sound
Speaker 4: like a massol maybe or something that's like I just
Speaker 4: kind of deal with this throughout my life.
Speaker 3: You know what I wanna. I want to let's get spicy.
Speaker 3: I want to hear the spicy thing.
Speaker 4: All right. So I used to work at this restaurant.
Speaker 4: I like went back because my unemployment, like I was
Speaker 4: running out, so I had to like go back to
Speaker 4: this old job. And then in the meantime, I was
Speaker 4: conversating with a He's like a dishwasher, but he you
Speaker 4: can tell that he's mentally not all there, trying to
Speaker 4: say it nicely like challenge in a way.
Speaker 9: So I would talk to him.
Speaker 4: You know, conversate and then of the day he asked
Speaker 4: for my numbers, and I, you know, I gave it
Speaker 4: to him like oh bad, saying no. Well, of course,
Speaker 4: like the first day he's like ask me, you know,
Speaker 4: and some things about wasn't the DC Show and all
Speaker 4: that stuff. And then it became because your boyfriend looked
Speaker 4: through your phone and I said no, no, because you know,
Speaker 4: we trust each other. I don't have to worry about that.
Speaker 4: And then and sueing was instally the question was like, yeah,
Speaker 4: my aversion all this. I just thought, okay, maybe he
Speaker 4: doesn't know about things, so like I don't like yeah,
Speaker 4: and just like like what are blue jobs like or whatever?
Speaker 4: So like I was like, all right, I'll let you know.
Speaker 4: Like what I kind of thought it was funny. It's
Speaker 4: like a thing that I'm doing throughout the day, like yeah.
Speaker 4: And then it became obsessive and he would call me
Speaker 4: like three times in a row, and I had to
Speaker 4: be like, hey, buddy, you know when I hear we
Speaker 4: could be saying, I didn't mean like you can text
Speaker 4: me all day, So you know, I kind of had
Speaker 4: to like put him in this way. It's made it
Speaker 4: made me we go back to There was a kid
Speaker 4: in my high school who had down.
Speaker 8: Syndrome, and the rumor was, oh.
Speaker 4: He kind of like advanced it up when he's around
Speaker 4: the girls, so like they won't yell at him if
Speaker 4: they if he accidentally touches the boom.
Speaker 10: So like that what.
Speaker 11: I felt like I was going through.
Speaker 4: It was like he knew I was being nice to
Speaker 4: him to then just make it a raunchy conversation where
Speaker 4: then I eventually start feeling like uncomfortable. So I kind
Speaker 4: of I don't know, I feel like a dick. But
Speaker 4: so yeah, that's that's all I got.
Speaker 3: I don't know if you're a dick. I mean, listen,
Speaker 3: you have you have your boundaries.
Speaker 12: Mm hmm.
Speaker 3: You have every right to have those boundaries respected, you know.
Speaker 3: I mean what was he do? Was he like he
Speaker 3: was sexting you? Yeah?
Speaker 4: Like it would be yeah, Like it was like if
Speaker 4: I was your it would be like, uh, what if
Speaker 4: I touched your boom? Like I mean, you gotta do
Speaker 4: a lot more than.
Speaker 11: Just touching boom.
Speaker 4: But that's where like comedy came from. But like if
Speaker 4: I was your boyfriend's like whoa woa, buddy? You know,
Speaker 4: Like I didn't think that we were talking about this.
Speaker 4: It's just like you maybe.
Speaker 3: When you said you said just did you say just
Speaker 3: now that's where the comedy came from.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's kind of funny, Like who's gonna be like
Speaker 4: what am I gonna? What are you gonna do if
Speaker 4: I you know, touch your boob or give a whole honk?
Speaker 13: Like that's nice?
Speaker 3: You know, you know there's a couple. There's a lot
Speaker 3: of elements here, you know. Was it nice of you
Speaker 3: to sort of I don't even know what you would
Speaker 3: call this, but uh, deriving comedy from this person probably
Speaker 3: not the nicest thing to do. Uh, I don't know,
Speaker 3: this is Uh did did you feel as though this
Speaker 3: this this these sexual conversations did you like I don't know,
Speaker 3: were you like inviting them in any way?
Speaker 13: No?
Speaker 4: I mean like if you asked you like here, it
Speaker 4: would be I can ask you a question, And I
Speaker 4: was like sure, like you're you know you're gonna ask anyway,
Speaker 4: So like yeah, I ask, and then it would be
Speaker 4: like would you give me a blow drop? And I'm like, whoa, whoa,
Speaker 4: why are we talking about me? And I don't know,
Speaker 4: give me a little chuckle because it's just some some
Speaker 4: men have the crazy confidence that just jump the friend hurdle.
Speaker 4: I mean, I have a boyfriend anyways, but jump that
Speaker 4: friend hurdle, Like all right, I'm gonna I can see
Speaker 4: what I can get from you.
Speaker 8: So that's I guess.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I sound like a fucking asshole, but it's too
Speaker 4: late now. But I just I got a little chuckle
Speaker 4: of like I can't believe, like this is where the
Speaker 4: direction is going. You know, you were just asking me
Speaker 4: like what my favorite like type of music was, and
Speaker 4: then boom, You're like would have I would have my
Speaker 4: parents were gone for the weekend and we were alone
Speaker 4: kind of thing.
Speaker 3: What is the current status of this relationship? Are you
Speaker 3: guys still texting?
Speaker 12: No?
Speaker 4: I well, funny a funny thing as I'm watching the
Speaker 4: stream as of trying to get on the line, which
Speaker 4: I can't believe I'm one of the first like one
Speaker 4: of those people was like this is the first time
Speaker 4: I'm calling kind of thing. So like, as I'm waiting
Speaker 4: to get in line for the queue, he's like calling
Speaker 4: me and we haven't talked for a few days, and
Speaker 4: he's like, I don't know where it's like ten thirty
Speaker 4: where I am. And he's just like bomboarding me with calls,
Speaker 4: So of course, I mean, you're priority ways more than that.
Speaker 4: So I just ignore them. So I don't know what
Speaker 4: they would what they could have been about.
Speaker 3: Well, I have no guidance for you in this situation.
Speaker 3: I would say, Okay, I wasn't act. I would say, though,
Speaker 3: you know, uh uh, probably not the best idea to
Speaker 3: use this guy for comedy. Also not good for him
Speaker 3: to be asking a random strangers these questions. You know.
Speaker 3: I mean, good luck with whatever you decide to do
Speaker 3: with this.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I mean it's nothing. I mean I don't
Speaker 4: I don't work it there anymore anyway, So I just uh,
Speaker 4: I answered something spicy, and I don't have much going
Speaker 4: on other than that unless we want to talk about
Speaker 4: like actual therapist stuff. But I know you're not certified,
Speaker 4: but it's okay.
Speaker 3: Well listen, Sier. I appreciate very much you sharing with
Speaker 3: us this evening, and thank you again for the kind words.
Speaker 4: Very thank you, Gick.
Speaker 8: I love I love you.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna go see chat shooting on you right now,
Speaker 4: so thank you so much.
Speaker 8: Sake.
Speaker 4: I hope, I hope the calls get better. You know,
Speaker 4: we don't get a lot of people dropping calls.
Speaker 3: That is what it is. But thank you so much.
Speaker 3: Here you have a good rest of the night.
Speaker 13: Thank you.
Speaker 3: I don't know how I feel about that. I don't
Speaker 3: know how I feel about anything that ever happens.
Speaker 14: Ever, all from Jay Jay.
Speaker 5: Yes you called me, Yes I didn't.
Speaker 3: What's your deal?
Speaker 5: My expectations are too high for everything.
Speaker 3: Your expectations are too high for everything? Yeah, man, this
Speaker 3: is a class It's a classic issue. I'm so glad.
Speaker 3: I'm actually really glad you called in because this is
Speaker 3: one of my favorite topics.
Speaker 5: Oh thank you.
Speaker 3: Tell me about the last time your expectations were extremely
Speaker 3: high for something and they were brutally, brutally really destroyed
Speaker 3: and you were left disappointed.
Speaker 5: Well, So the other day, I wanted pizza. So I
Speaker 5: saw the commercial for Little Caesars their new pepperoni stuffed crust,
Speaker 5: and I was I was thinking, that looks pretty freaking good.
Speaker 5: So I was like, fuck it, there's a pizza place.
Speaker 5: It was a Little Caesars right around the corner. I'll
Speaker 5: go get me a little Caesar pizza. Well, the commercial
Speaker 5: claim there's nine feet of pepperoni.
Speaker 3: So claim that there was nine feet I was.
Speaker 5: I was promised nine feet of pepperoni in this commercial.
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, there's nine feet of pepperoni in the crust, on.
Speaker 5: The whole pizza. It was it was like there was
Speaker 5: so there was a lot of pepperoni.
Speaker 3: Why would you I was surprised at of pepperoni on
Speaker 3: your pizza.
Speaker 5: I didn't want it. The commercial promised it to me.
Speaker 3: How big was the pizza?
Speaker 5: It was a good sixteen inch diameter.
Speaker 3: How would nine feet this is your fault, how would
Speaker 3: nine feet of pepperoni even fit on a sixteen inch
Speaker 3: diameter pizza?
Speaker 5: I mean, I'm I'm no a mathematician. That's what I
Speaker 5: was promised.
Speaker 3: I was told, all right, continue what happened next?
Speaker 5: Well, so of course, wow, I got interested. I measured
Speaker 5: it out. Sure, So I measured every single slice of
Speaker 5: pepperoni out and I stacked it. Yeah, And of course
Speaker 5: it was only like two feet of pizza of pepperoni.
Speaker 3: Still two feet of pepperonis a lot.
Speaker 5: So then I stacked it edge to edge. They were
Speaker 5: pretty damn close, but they were still like, I leave
Speaker 5: the pepperoni out and next to each other. It was
Speaker 5: only it was only seven seven feet and three sixteenths
Speaker 5: of an inch. That's still a lot of pizza or
Speaker 5: a lot of pepperoni. But it wasn't nine feet and
Speaker 5: I was very disappointed and it ruined the experience of
Speaker 5: the pizza for me.
Speaker 3: Did it ruin the rest of your day?
Speaker 5: Luckily not?
Speaker 14: You know.
Speaker 5: I had other things to do that day and that
Speaker 5: brightened my day up. But I was disappointed with the pizza.
Speaker 3: Did how long did the effects of this disappointment last
Speaker 3: for you?
Speaker 5: Oh? A few hours? A few hours, about three o'clock
Speaker 5: to six. I'm over it. I'll think about it again, though,
Speaker 5: and it'll piss me off.
Speaker 3: What's your name?
Speaker 5: Jay?
Speaker 3: Jay? You know, Jay, Expectations are different from hopes. I
Speaker 3: hope that you lower your expectations, but keep your hopes
Speaker 3: where they are, because you know, I wouldn't want you
Speaker 3: to experience so many situations like this in which you
Speaker 3: have high expectations, or rather high hopes for a great
Speaker 3: pizza experience, and then those hopes are crushed and then
Speaker 3: you decide never to hope again, because that would be
Speaker 3: a miserable existence for you. And I want you to
Speaker 3: maintain the hope that you have. But as far as
Speaker 3: your expectations go, you should lower them. Expect the worst,
Speaker 3: but hope for the best.
Speaker 5: That sounds like a pretty good way to live your life.
Speaker 5: You know, some people would object and say you'd always hope,
Speaker 5: but you know it's it's my hopes were crushed a
Speaker 5: little bit by that. But if I had known, if
Speaker 5: I had hoped not to get nine feet and I
Speaker 5: ended up with seven and three sixteenths of an inch,
Speaker 5: I'd i'd be out of my pants excited for that
Speaker 5: much Pepperoni.
Speaker 3: I just go to the store, man, Yeah.
Speaker 5: Yeah, But what I want to do with what I
Speaker 5: want to do with the whole thing at Pepperoni, It's
Speaker 5: got to sit in the fridge.
Speaker 3: You got to do with nine feet of pepperoni?
Speaker 5: I was gonna eat it on a pizza. That's totally different.
Speaker 3: Thank you so much for sharing, Jay. You have a
Speaker 3: good rest of the night, you too.
Speaker 14: Can I.
Speaker 11: All from moments?
Speaker 3: Moments moments moments.
Speaker 8: Moment like movement Valley?
Speaker 3: I have I have moved done?
Speaker 14: Oh?
Speaker 11: What do you mean?
Speaker 3: Tell me?
Speaker 5: Anne?
Speaker 3: What are you doing right now?
Speaker 15: Uh?
Speaker 8: I just got done washing my hair. I didn't expect
Speaker 8: you to answer, so I'm kind of nervous, but I'm grateful.
Speaker 11: That you answered.
Speaker 3: Oh, Okay, why do you let me answer you thing.
Speaker 3: Are you a nervous person in general?
Speaker 12: Oh?
Speaker 8: Not really, only getting nervous when other people getting nervous.
Speaker 8: Like I work at Starbucks, so it's a lot of
Speaker 8: anxious people around me all the time. So I kind
Speaker 8: of have to battle that every time.
Speaker 3: We're anxious people around you all the time. With these
Speaker 3: anxious people, are they the customers or your fellow co workers,
Speaker 3: my coworkers? Why are they so anxious?
Speaker 8: Because Starbucks is a crazy chaotic ass place. I mean.
Speaker 14: It is crazy.
Speaker 3: Starbucks is a crazy chaotic ass place.
Speaker 11: Yes, very much so.
Speaker 3: And why would you say it's so crazy? Let me
Speaker 3: ask you a question here, and well, do you feel
Speaker 3: as though, secretly, secretly, secretly, secretly you're actually attracted to
Speaker 3: the chaos of Starbucks and that is what continues to
Speaker 3: compel you to work there.
Speaker 8: No, I'm not attracted to it at all. I want
Speaker 8: to leave. I'm trying to find some more more local,
Speaker 8: like to be a Barissa, because I actually like being
Speaker 8: a Barisa. I just do not like Starbucks because it's
Speaker 8: because of like the culture of it, like it enforces it.
Speaker 8: Like they'll be like, oh, we enforce positive positivity and
Speaker 8: diversity and all of this, and then it'll be like
Speaker 8: a totally different thing, Like I don't think they pay
Speaker 8: attention to that kind of thing when they hire people,
Speaker 8: Like they just say it, but they don't pay attention
Speaker 8: to it.
Speaker 3: You know, you said they don't pay attention to it. Okay,
Speaker 3: So what have you noticed about your experience of Starbucks
Speaker 3: that has been negative and opposite to the positivity the
Speaker 3: positive vibe that they seem to project.
Speaker 8: I mean, I feel like my like coworkers, they just
Speaker 8: they don't really they're not very supportive, like they can be,
Speaker 8: but like they only do it if you're like having
Speaker 8: a manic episode or like flipping out, like say I'm
Speaker 8: on bar and then I'm like having a panic attack
Speaker 8: because they're like micro managing me. And then they'll be like,
Speaker 8: you're doing so good. But other than that, it's like
Speaker 8: you're doing horrible or they'll be like you you just
Speaker 8: wasted something. And maybe I'm focusing on the negative aspects
Speaker 8: of it, like I'm focusing on what they say that's
Speaker 8: negative to me. But most of the time it's just
Speaker 8: like I feel like I don't hear anything positive about me.
Speaker 8: I've been there for two years, never been employee of
Speaker 8: the quarter or anything. But like everyone always says, oh,
Speaker 8: I love you, I love you so much, but like
Speaker 8: I don't wait.
Speaker 3: So that is so so they are giving you some
Speaker 3: positive positive no.
Speaker 8: No, no no, But it's like they say, but then
Speaker 8: they act a different way. You know, they don't they
Speaker 8: don't show the love. They just say it.
Speaker 3: And you know, sometimes look if nobody, if you don't
Speaker 3: feel the energy, if you don't feel anyone in your corner,
Speaker 3: you gotta be your own cheerleader. Okay, you gotta look
Speaker 3: at your vanilla frappuccino and you gotta go. That's a
Speaker 3: damn good vanilla fracino. Nobody in the history of the
Speaker 3: Starbucks has ever made it of an creation, you know,
Speaker 3: quite as good as the one that I made.
Speaker 8: You know, my customer, you're right. My customers always say
Speaker 8: I've never had a complaint from a customer except for
Speaker 8: in my three months of working, like the first three months.
Speaker 8: But I've never really gotten complains from customers anymore. They're
Speaker 8: always like, I love one she makes my drinks, and
Speaker 8: I'm like, yep, Well, I have a question for you.
Speaker 3: If you are not getting the praise that you clearly
Speaker 3: deserve at this Starbucks location, you have worked there for
Speaker 3: two years? How long have you been feeling this like?
Speaker 8: They made me feel in confident from the first time
Speaker 8: I walked in there. This is what I mean by
Speaker 8: they don't forth like positivity or anything like when I
Speaker 8: first started working there, and I only turned for about
Speaker 8: a week because that's how long they train you. And
Speaker 8: after that I was thrown off the bar and everything.
Speaker 8: And I would ask questions because I didn't remember everything
Speaker 8: it was a week of training. I would ask the
Speaker 8: questions and they'd be like no, or they just wouldn't
Speaker 8: tell me anything. They just wouldn't tell me what I
Speaker 8: needed to know, and I felt very dumb. Or they
Speaker 8: would just like look at me. I'd be like, how
Speaker 8: many shocks does this get? And they would just look
Speaker 8: at me, And I'm like.
Speaker 3: All right, so you but so let me am so listen.
Speaker 3: So you've been feeling like this for two years, and
Speaker 3: yet two years you've you've you've stayed, You've continue to work.
Speaker 8: Then I'm a slave to capitalism.
Speaker 3: You're a slave to capitalism.
Speaker 11: Yeah, I'm broke.
Speaker 3: You're not a slave to capital.
Speaker 8: I'm going I'm nineteen.
Speaker 3: What I have. And what if I told you you
Speaker 3: had free will? I?
Speaker 8: I guess.
Speaker 12: So with all this debt that I've.
Speaker 3: Accumulated, what are you accumulating that? Are you going? Are
Speaker 3: you in college? Yeah? Waiting college for biology? All right,
Speaker 3: that's a real thing. I want to go, but you shouldn't.
Speaker 3: All right, so you're in debt with Well? Okay, you say,
Speaker 3: have you have you? Have you gone and tried to
Speaker 3: apply at other places?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 10: I have.
Speaker 8: I actually got another job, like I just had an
Speaker 8: interview for it and I'm waiting to hear back from
Speaker 8: them Friday.
Speaker 3: Where where are they at?
Speaker 8: It's another coffee shop, like I said, looking somewhere more
Speaker 8: local and they pay more a chain. Yeahs are you?
Speaker 13: Huh?
Speaker 3: Was the interview process good?
Speaker 14: Yeah? I think it went pretty well.
Speaker 3: Hmm. I'm sorry what were you going to say?
Speaker 8: I was saying?
Speaker 3: You said you were from Missouri forests, deserts and cold
Speaker 3: mountain slopes.
Speaker 14: Oh all right, all right.
Speaker 3: And thank you so much for calling. And I wish
Speaker 3: you the best of and please look am I say
Speaker 3: this to you? I say this to everyone who feels
Speaker 3: like they don't get the praise they deserve. You gotta
Speaker 3: sometimes you gotta be your own fucking cheerleader.
Speaker 5: Okay, I'm trying.
Speaker 8: I'm trying.
Speaker 3: Next time you, next time you, next time you pour
Speaker 3: a cup of just regular black coffee, I want you
Speaker 3: to look at it and go Nobody could have poured
Speaker 3: that fucking coffee the right the exactly the way that
Speaker 3: I did. I'm a genius. I am the most valuable
Speaker 3: Starbucks employee that ever lived. Because I believe it is true,
Speaker 3: and I want you to believe it is true.
Speaker 8: But yourself, all right, I appreciate it.
Speaker 12: Have a good way, Paul from Caleb.
Speaker 16: Okay, I wanted to talk to you about my new job. Sure,
Speaker 16: I live in the Bay Area and I originally got
Speaker 16: a job working for a defend attorney. I'm still in college,
Speaker 16: but uh I I work for a defense attorney and
Speaker 16: I like the work a lot, like what I do,
Speaker 16: but you know the nature of the work.
Speaker 5: It's like I've lost some friends over it, you know,
Speaker 5: because of you know, the kind of clients we take,
Speaker 5: and it's just been bumming me out.
Speaker 3: I guess you're a defense attorney. Do you do you
Speaker 3: like a criminal defense attorney?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 16: Well, I'm not sorry, I'm not a defense attorney.
Speaker 5: I'm like a paralegal.
Speaker 16: I work for a defense attorney. I'm still in college,
Speaker 16: but I want to be a defense attorney.
Speaker 5: That's correct, That's correct.
Speaker 3: Okay. Uh And you say you've been losing friends over this.
Speaker 16: Yeah, you know, like, uh, I live in Berkeley. I
Speaker 16: guess where I go to school, actually Berkeley, California. And
Speaker 16: it's you know, the political like you know, everyone's kind
Speaker 16: of like to the left, I guess, which I am too.
Speaker 16: But you know, I tell people about some of the
Speaker 16: clients that we take in and we take like, you know,
Speaker 16: alleged rapists and.
Speaker 5: Stuff like that. And that's and I I've also also
Speaker 5: I've also like friends friends over that, like people, you know,
Speaker 5: people who are like, well, if you were really uh
Speaker 5: you really stood with rape victims and victims of sexual assault,
Speaker 5: you wouldn't be helping to get them acquidit or whatever.
Speaker 3: Well, I mean, what is your interest in this career path?
Speaker 5: Well, I want to be a come on defens attorney.
Speaker 16: And I I like, I like the idea of you know,
Speaker 16: I like I like the adversarial nature of our core
Speaker 16: system where it's like, you know, one party against the other.
Speaker 16: And I was I'm on the debate team right now.
Speaker 16: And I was always good at debating and stuff, So
Speaker 16: you know, I like I like debating.
Speaker 5: I like arguing.
Speaker 16: I like uh, you know, proving a point, even if
Speaker 16: it's something aren't necessarily believe in.
Speaker 11: So doing.
Speaker 3: And I like the fact that here's the thing, the
Speaker 3: way that the court system works, everyone gets no matter
Speaker 3: what you're uh suspected of doing, you get legal there.
Speaker 3: You want to be like a public defender.
Speaker 16: Oh no, I'm going to own my own business. I
Speaker 16: want to be a private defense attorney.
Speaker 3: Oh sure, sure. Well look, I mean you know that's
Speaker 3: how the court system works. Is you get a defense
Speaker 3: attorney if you have been accused of committing a crime.
Speaker 3: You know, right, that's now that's a tough gig. You know,
Speaker 3: I personally would not want to do that, but I
Speaker 3: mean it's a legitimate career.
Speaker 4: For sure.
Speaker 16: And you know I think, uh, you know, my my
Speaker 16: friends call me like they call me anihilist, which I
Speaker 16: don't I don't agree with. They call me an iilist
Speaker 16: because they're like, well, when you own your own firm,
Speaker 16: are you going to take like rapists or whatever? And
Speaker 16: I'm like, yeah, like you know, I'll take whoever, whoever
Speaker 16: pays me money, I'll tell I'll defend any one.
Speaker 14: And you know I don't.
Speaker 16: I don't think they just they don't understand, like the
Speaker 16: the thrill I get I get out of, Like they
Speaker 16: don't understand how how much I enjoy doing this, and
Speaker 16: it just it just hurt hurtful.
Speaker 3: Well, look, I'm not here to judge anyone on what
Speaker 3: career path they want to take, you know, I mean
Speaker 3: everyone gets there. You know, again, this is how the
Speaker 3: court system works. Whatever you did, you get legal defense.
Speaker 3: I mean, damn. You know, look, if this is what
Speaker 3: you want to do, then again I personally wouldn't want
Speaker 3: to do it. I you know, I'm not here to
Speaker 3: judge you and give my opinion on what I think
Speaker 3: about the thing. But if it's what you want to do,
Speaker 3: then uh, you know, you should be able to uh
Speaker 3: withstand the backlash that you might get if it's something
Speaker 3: you want to do that badly.
Speaker 5: What what do you think about the thing? I want
Speaker 5: to hear your.
Speaker 3: Opinion, you know what, you know what I think? You
Speaker 3: fucking like when people tell you that they disapprove because
Speaker 3: you know my opinion. Yeah, I'm not giving you my opinion.
Speaker 3: And you know my opinion. You're asking me for my
Speaker 3: opinion because you know that I'm gonna not agree with you,
Speaker 3: and you enjoy that.
Speaker 12: Yeah, I mean I do.
Speaker 3: I do because you enjoy adversarial arguing and that's why
Speaker 3: you want.
Speaker 5: To do it, so yet to know.
Speaker 3: So, yeah, I like people getting pissed off of you.
Speaker 3: That's the vibe I'm getting.
Speaker 16: I like, Yes, you're you're sort of right. I do
Speaker 16: like people getting pissed off at me. I do, like,
Speaker 16: you know, at adversarial situations.
Speaker 3: So well, here's what I understand. You like people getting
Speaker 3: pissed off of you. A bunch of people are pissed
Speaker 3: off at you. What's the problem.
Speaker 16: Okay, So I like people, you know, I don't like
Speaker 16: my friends getting pissed off of me. And I don't
Speaker 16: like them getting pissed off at me so much that
Speaker 16: they want to break it because they're like saying I'm
Speaker 16: a bad person and stuff, and I I never I
Speaker 16: don't like going there.
Speaker 5: You know. I don't like being thought of as a
Speaker 5: bad person.
Speaker 3: You don't like being thought of as a bad person? No,
Speaker 3: I think you're lying. I think you enjoy any adversarial
Speaker 3: vibes that come your way, which I mean look different.
Speaker 3: You know some some people like that you might be
Speaker 3: some sort of emotional masochist.
Speaker 16: I enjoy some address sort of vibes that don't enjoy
Speaker 16: all of them. Like I don't like it when you know,
Speaker 16: like just today, I was like walking to my bart,
Speaker 16: my you know subway, not not subway, but like it's
Speaker 16: called it's like high speed rail train we called bart
Speaker 16: in San Francisco, and the some like homeless drag addict
Speaker 16: person started like following me and chasing me and stuff.
Speaker 16: And I don't like that situation, you know, I like,
Speaker 16: I like a intellectual base.
Speaker 3: See yeah, what if they what you know, how would
Speaker 3: you let me ask you some if someone came if
Speaker 3: someone you know came up, you know, beat the ship
Speaker 3: out of you in the street, would you like give
Speaker 3: them your card afterwards and be like, hey, you know,
Speaker 3: if I assue you, I can I can at me.
Speaker 5: That's that's that's not allowed.
Speaker 16: And you say that, you know, the victim can't be
Speaker 16: the defense like the defense attorney. That's a conflict of.
Speaker 3: Interest, says, who dude, go do it.
Speaker 16: You can do the bar, the conflent and state bar.
Speaker 3: They would, Yeah, but you can. Here's what you do
Speaker 3: is you do it, and then they'll say you can't
Speaker 3: do that, and you'll go, fuck you. I can do
Speaker 3: whatever I want. I love conflict, Bring it on. This
Speaker 3: is your life now, just as you going around the world,
Speaker 3: causing as much conflict, getting as much people pissed off
Speaker 3: at you as possible, soaking it all in with this
Speaker 3: just deep pleasure. That's your life. And again I wouldn't
Speaker 3: want it. But different, you know, things for different people.
Speaker 3: Different people are wired differently. So I hope that you
Speaker 3: enjoy your battle with the court system. I hope that
Speaker 3: you enjoy the battle with your friends. And thank you
Speaker 3: so much for for calling in. And I hope that, uh,
Speaker 3: you know, I'm not mad at you. I don't. I
Speaker 3: hope you're I hope you're not upset that I'm not
Speaker 3: mad at you.
Speaker 5: No, thank you, call back again later on another day.
Speaker 5: That's allowed.
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Speaker 3: the calls Paul from JP Jonathan, Hey, Hello, what's up?
Speaker 12: Jon?
Speaker 5: Hey?
Speaker 3: What's up?
Speaker 6: Man?
Speaker 7: Oh?
Speaker 6: Be gone?
Speaker 10: How are you?
Speaker 6: It's not too bad. I was just thinking, like when
Speaker 6: I called it asked for my name, and almost every situation,
Speaker 6: depending on where I'm at, I go by something different,
Speaker 6: so it's hard to like kind of think of something
Speaker 6: on the spot.
Speaker 3: Have you ever heard the expression that a man who
Speaker 3: tells the truth never has to remember what they said?
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 3: Absolutely, because I believe that the opposite is true. A
Speaker 3: man who has a different fake name for tens and
Speaker 3: possibly even hundreds of situations has a lot to remember.
Speaker 6: You got a point there.
Speaker 3: Do you feel like if you've got into a situation
Speaker 3: in which all your different aliases have gotten mixed up
Speaker 3: and it's caused you some trouble.
Speaker 6: So see, I guess it's the people that I'm with
Speaker 6: that kind of determine my name. So when I'm at home,
Speaker 6: I go by, you know, just my first well my
Speaker 6: first and middle name. But then when I'm at work,
Speaker 6: I'm called Pope and then my friends call me JP.
Speaker 6: So it's kind of determined by the setting that I'm in.
Speaker 3: So you would consider me your friend, by the fact
Speaker 3: that you called me, that you refer to yourself to
Speaker 3: me as JP. Absolutely, now we've never met each other,
Speaker 3: we have no.
Speaker 6: But I feel like we have at least I have
Speaker 6: a connection with you. You have no idea who I am,
Speaker 6: but I definitely, over these last couple of weeks have
Speaker 6: developed the connection bond with you that you have no
Speaker 6: idea that existed.
Speaker 3: But I feel that you've developed a bond with me
Speaker 3: without me knowing that you exist.
Speaker 6: So it's actually kind of surreal because I've done that
Speaker 6: with a lot of different like different musicians and athletes,
Speaker 6: but this is the first time I've actually been able to,
Speaker 6: you know, speak to someone that I've kind of developed
Speaker 6: this one way bond with and it's it's just really interesting,
Speaker 6: very It's it's they say, you don't want to meet
Speaker 6: your heroes. But it's pretty sweet.
Speaker 3: Well, it's interesting because by the nature of what I
Speaker 3: do in comparison to a musician is, you know, all
Speaker 3: I really do is talk to people who watch me.
Speaker 3: So I do feel like I have a little bit
Speaker 3: more interaction with people who have formed these these weird
Speaker 3: sort of one sided relationships more than a you know,
Speaker 3: like like Lebron James talks to people that watch him
Speaker 3: play basketball or something like that.
Speaker 6: Yeah, but I mean, uh, with those kind of guys,
Speaker 6: like you know, they they do meet and greets and
Speaker 6: they put themselves out there quite a bit. But it's
Speaker 6: it's you know, it's just like I'm almost nervous right now.
Speaker 6: It's just it's pretty sweet.
Speaker 3: JP. I have a question for.
Speaker 6: You, Absolutely go for it.
Speaker 3: What's your deal?
Speaker 6: My deal right now, I've kind of you know, gone
Speaker 6: past I wish I had like a clever one word answer,
Speaker 6: you know, the but my deal right now if I've
Speaker 6: kind of gotten past the you know, party stage of
Speaker 6: my life and I'm kind of settling down now into
Speaker 6: I guess I would say a career, but you know,
Speaker 6: have the partying behind me kind of you know, just yeah,
Speaker 6: like I'm learning different trades now and just kind of,
Speaker 6: you know, just moving on the stage. I'm twenty five,
Speaker 6: so kind of you know, have the partying done and
Speaker 6: trying to just settle down here. So yeah, I wish
Speaker 6: I had a clever one word answer for you, but yeah,
Speaker 6: my deal is just kind of.
Speaker 3: For me, JP. I have a question for forgive me
Speaker 3: if I misheard something, But are you with someone?
Speaker 6: My mom's actually in the background speaking, you know, I
Speaker 6: am on speakerphone.
Speaker 3: Here, but can I talk to her?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 6: Absolutely?
Speaker 12: Hello?
Speaker 5: Hi?
Speaker 12: Hi?
Speaker 3: Would would you be going to take me off speaker
Speaker 3: missus JP? Missus P?
Speaker 14: I guess how do you take it off?
Speaker 7: Speaking?
Speaker 6: Hello?
Speaker 3: Hello, missus P?
Speaker 13: How are you good?
Speaker 12: How are you?
Speaker 3: I'm good? So your son JP, he tells me that
Speaker 3: he's sort of getting out of his party phase and
Speaker 3: trying to take on a serious adults career, and I
Speaker 3: want to sort of get your thoughts about where where
Speaker 3: he is in life and your perspective on.
Speaker 13: That he's doing a good job. It took we had
Speaker 13: a tragedy or his dad and my husband passed away recently,
Speaker 13: so that was tough one of the kids. And he's
Speaker 13: pulling it together and taking care of me and the
Speaker 13: house and trying to decide what path he wants to
Speaker 13: take in life. He's learning a lot of trades, and
Speaker 13: you know, he wants to move forward and get a
Speaker 13: family and settle down some day in his own house.
Speaker 13: So he's in a good path right now. It's taken
Speaker 13: a while to get to this this path because, like
Speaker 13: I said, we had a lot of heartache, but we're
Speaker 13: all working towards getting everybody healthy.
Speaker 3: And you said that JP was did a very good
Speaker 3: job of sort of stepping up and comforting everyone in
Speaker 3: this very hard time.
Speaker 13: Yes, at first it was rough, but right now he's
Speaker 13: figuring it out and doing an awesome job.
Speaker 3: That's great, that's great. What do you know, what do
Speaker 3: you hope for him?
Speaker 13: I hope to find somebody, develops a relationship that he
Speaker 13: can have for the rest of his life and you know,
Speaker 13: you have a family and a home and be happy,
Speaker 13: because that's what his goals are, that's what he would like,
Speaker 13: so I'd like them for him.
Speaker 3: How would you describe your relationship with your son.
Speaker 13: I think we're pretty close. I think it's a good,
Speaker 13: healthy relationship. We can talk open about anything, and we
Speaker 13: try to help each other good or bad. You know,
Speaker 13: we we're honest and just try to help each other,
Speaker 13: especially if we see one might be you know, dragging along.
Speaker 13: You know, we try to be there for each other.
Speaker 3: Sounds like a very valuable relationship to have, you know,
Speaker 3: not every mother and son relationship seems like it, says,
Speaker 3: you know, open and I'm close as you guys are right.
Speaker 13: I'm fortunate, yes.
Speaker 3: Glad to hear that from you. Guys.
Speaker 13: Yes, I've always told them they can come to me
Speaker 13: with anything, whether I'm going to like it or not,
Speaker 13: but you know, always come to me and we'll figure
Speaker 13: it out.
Speaker 3: Well, thank you so much for sharing, missus.
Speaker 13: P Well, thank you for talking to me. Here's dp.
Speaker 6: GHEK, my man, what's up?
Speaker 3: Not a whole lot of champing. I'm a get go
Speaker 3: on the computer. Thank you very much for sharing with me, JAP.
Speaker 3: I hope you and your mom have a good rest
Speaker 3: of the day.
Speaker 6: Absolutely, take care of guess.
Speaker 11: All from Hello?
Speaker 3: What year were you born?
Speaker 11: What year were born?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 11: Hello?
Speaker 3: What you read one to two? So you're nineteen?
Speaker 11: No, I'm eighteen. My birthdays in October.
Speaker 3: Your birthday is in October? Are you excited for your birthday.
Speaker 11: I'm very excited.
Speaker 3: Really, why.
Speaker 11: My friend is born two days after me, So we're
Speaker 11: going to merge our birthdays and it's on a weekend.
Speaker 3: See this is interesting to me because you you find
Speaker 3: that it's better that you're you are looking full word
Speaker 3: to the fact that you will be sharing the attention
Speaker 3: on your birthday.
Speaker 11: Yes, I love my friend very daily.
Speaker 3: That's so sweet, so sweet. How old are they turning?
Speaker 3: Same age? Nineteen?
Speaker 14: Yes?
Speaker 11: No, actually he's turning eighteen.
Speaker 3: He's okay, he's turning eighteen.
Speaker 11: Yes, you love him, love him very much. He's actually
Speaker 11: my best friend's brother.
Speaker 3: He's your best friend's brother. What do you love so
Speaker 3: much about him?
Speaker 11: What I love so much about him? Well, he got
Speaker 11: me into smoking weed and that has changed my life.
Speaker 3: He got you into smoking weed and that has changed
Speaker 3: your life.
Speaker 11: Yes, I love it very much. Every single day I do.
Speaker 3: Now, you smoke weed every single day. And would you
Speaker 3: say that smoking weed every single day is at a
Speaker 3: pot positive effect on your life?
Speaker 11: Yes, Well, it's gonna be very close to people.
Speaker 3: In what way do you believe it has gotten you
Speaker 3: closer to people?
Speaker 11: Well, when you're high and you're with a group of people,
Speaker 11: you just let go, you know, like I don't. I
Speaker 11: have anxiety, so sometimes it's hard to like get close
Speaker 11: to people. But if you're if you're high, like, I
Speaker 11: don't care.
Speaker 3: Let me ask you a question, Coleslaw. It's a do
Speaker 3: do you have a real therapist?
Speaker 11: Uh no, I'm trying to get one though, because I
Speaker 11: was in an accident recently.
Speaker 3: Mhm, because I'm curious what a real therapist would say
Speaker 3: about you smoking weed every day.
Speaker 7: Now.
Speaker 3: Look, I don't think about it. I don't actively do it,
Speaker 3: but I also probably smoke weed every day.
Speaker 11: You probably smoke either.
Speaker 3: No, no, it's like a thing I don't. I don't
Speaker 3: really think about it. Like I'm not high right now,
Speaker 3: if I would hate Oh yeah, but uh uh is
Speaker 3: it a good thing to be doing at eighteen years old? Well,
Speaker 3: here's the thing is if you're doing it as a
Speaker 3: crutch to try to talk to.
Speaker 11: People, Oh no, no, no, no, no, not a crutch.
Speaker 3: How you were describing it at least?
Speaker 11: No, no, no, no, definitely not a crutch, I would say.
Speaker 11: I just I live in New York City and weed
Speaker 11: is on every corner.
Speaker 14: You.
Speaker 11: I get that so easily. I was smoking back like
Speaker 11: in eighth grade.
Speaker 3: None of what you said addressed any of what I said.
Speaker 11: I'm so sorry.
Speaker 3: You don't have to be sorry. But you saying that
Speaker 3: you've been smoking since you were thirteen doesn't answer the
Speaker 3: question of are you Do you believe that you're using
Speaker 3: it as a crutch for a learner, for you know,
Speaker 3: talking to people?
Speaker 11: No, so I answered, no, I don't think I am.
Speaker 11: I think it's just super accessible, which you of itself
Speaker 11: is probably a problem.
Speaker 3: What is super accessible.
Speaker 4: Weed?
Speaker 3: That's really that doesn't answer the accessibility of weed is
Speaker 3: irrelevance to what I'm asking. You say that you say
Speaker 3: you have anxiety, which totally legitimate. Totally respect that, but
Speaker 3: that smoking weed helps you talk to people.
Speaker 11: I see where the name therapy Jacko comes in right now,
Speaker 11: because you're making me realize a little stom.
Speaker 3: What what do you believe I am making you realize?
Speaker 11: Maybe I am using you have a crutch.
Speaker 3: It's quite possible, do you know. Look, you to be
Speaker 3: ashamed of this. I'm not here to shame you, but
Speaker 3: you know you should think about that.
Speaker 11: I will think about that, Yeah, I will. I really
Speaker 11: tried to call in today for a very specific reason.
Speaker 3: Do you have to call into it for a very
Speaker 3: specific reason. Okay, what was the very specific reason?
Speaker 11: Last Friday I almost died and I wanted to call
Speaker 11: in and tell my story.
Speaker 3: How did you almost die last Friday?
Speaker 11: I almost drowned in at the beach.
Speaker 3: Were you high?
Speaker 7: Maybe?
Speaker 11: Quite possibly, but not very.
Speaker 5: Do you think I got caught?
Speaker 3: Do you think it was Do you think you were
Speaker 3: so high you forgot that you got you were so
Speaker 3: hih you forgot that you were in the ocean your
Speaker 3: mind transport. I forgot you were in the ocean, and
Speaker 3: the daisies pulled you closer and closer into the sort
Speaker 3: of horizon line of the field. And then you woke
Speaker 3: up and you realize you weren't in a field of daisies.
Speaker 3: You were in the ocean.
Speaker 11: I don't think I forgot, No, I think it was
Speaker 11: just I was a subject to the elements.
Speaker 3: You know how to fuck with nature?
Speaker 14: I don't.
Speaker 11: I really don't. Nature is really scary, and I learned.
Speaker 3: That close closely. You should go see a real therapist
Speaker 3: and you should get their opinion on whether or I
Speaker 3: should be smoking weed every day.
Speaker 11: I was eighteen.
Speaker 3: By the way, Look, by the way, I'm not shitting
Speaker 3: on you. When I was eighteen, I was probably also
Speaker 3: smoking weed every day. I had my times when I
Speaker 3: was smoking weed.
Speaker 11: I'm just living it up right now.
Speaker 3: But do you got but look, you gotta take some time.
Speaker 3: You gotta take inventory coleslaw, because eighteen years old is
Speaker 3: a good time for you to learn the skills of
Speaker 3: talking to other human beings.
Speaker 11: Talk. It's just helped, sure, But you know.
Speaker 3: Here's what here's here's the thing is again, I'm not
Speaker 3: here to fuck with you because I smoke weed. I
Speaker 3: like smoking weed. But but you don't want to get
Speaker 3: into a situation in which you feel like, here's the danger,
Speaker 3: here's the danger. You want to be you You look,
Speaker 3: I don't think there'snything wrong with smoking weed as long
Speaker 3: as you were avoiding this danger, which is the danger
Speaker 3: of thinking to yourself, Oh, when I smoke weed, I'm
Speaker 3: better at talking to people. I'm gonna smoke weed all
Speaker 3: the time I get I'm I'm fucking getting the zone.
Speaker 3: I'm going fucking business meeting. Let's get high. Birthday party,
Speaker 3: let's fucking get high. You know, you know you don't
Speaker 3: want to you don't want to feel like you're you know,
Speaker 3: I understand it's getting high it's like something to take
Speaker 3: the edge off. That's what I use it for at
Speaker 3: the end of the day, take the edge off. But
Speaker 3: you don't want to use it to escape things or
Speaker 3: to like become a totally different person, you know what
Speaker 3: I'm saying. That's that's what you want to avoid. I
Speaker 3: want to make sure you avoid that.
Speaker 13: You know.
Speaker 3: It's one thing for take the edge off, or you
Speaker 3: at a party you want to fucking you know party,
Speaker 3: But I don't want I don't want you using it
Speaker 3: to like become this better version of yourself, because that
Speaker 3: that that never works out.
Speaker 6: Well, yeah, thank you.
Speaker 11: That's that's really good advice that I think I will
Speaker 11: one hundred percent take.
Speaker 3: Okay, good good.
Speaker 11: I have definitely gotten fines that I need to calm down.
Speaker 11: Friday was definitely a big scare that like I'm not
Speaker 11: immortal and like untouchable.
Speaker 3: You know, no, no, we can't all be immortal.
Speaker 11: You can't you can't be all like you just to
Speaker 11: live on forever.
Speaker 3: Thank you for sharing Cole Slam and continue to say
Speaker 3: you think about what we said, think about what I said.
Speaker 3: Don't use uh you know, I won't repeat myself. I
Speaker 3: think you sound you sounded like you got it. Thank
Speaker 3: you so much coming into this conversation open minded, and
Speaker 3: you have the rest of the night.
Speaker 11: You too, have a great day.
Speaker 3: I hate cole Slaw, not the caller, but I did
Speaker 3: the food. I don't like cold Slaw. It's kind of
Speaker 3: fucking It's gross. It's like a big does anyone else
Speaker 3: see what I'm talking about? Like it's like a fucking
Speaker 3: like all like weird, like cummy cream.
Speaker 14: So I don't like it all from ooga boogle.
Speaker 3: Ooga booga.
Speaker 14: Hello, Hey, Hello, Hey, how's it going.
Speaker 3: What's the most persistent problem in your life right now?
Speaker 14: I'm sorry? Can you repeat the question?
Speaker 3: What's the most persistent problem in your life right now?
Speaker 14: Uh uh? I'm not entirely sure, to be honest, I
Speaker 14: guess just trying to figure out what's going what to
Speaker 14: do after high school?
Speaker 3: Are you in high school right now?
Speaker 12: No?
Speaker 14: I just graduated last year.
Speaker 3: Yes, okay, So what are your options? What are you
Speaker 3: what's are you looking at here?
Speaker 14: I mean the things that I have laid out right now?
Speaker 14: Are trade school, do some kind of welding or hvac,
Speaker 14: work on mac unions and yes, or work sorry, work
Speaker 14: at an O'Reilly potentially become a manager. That's kind of
Speaker 14: have a family friend that can help me out that school.
Speaker 6: I like.
Speaker 3: I like all those options. They all seem like good trades.
Speaker 3: I like a trade reade. You know, you come out
Speaker 3: of the trade. You come out of the trades as
Speaker 3: like you're a guy that you can you can do something.
Speaker 14: Yeah, like empowering, you know.
Speaker 3: I can. I can fix a vacuum. I could fix
Speaker 3: an air conditioning unit. It's a powerful thing to be
Speaker 3: able to do. I can't do anything. I mean, I mean,
Speaker 3: you know, not empower me.
Speaker 14: You empower many people on the internet and nothingiate.
Speaker 3: That, but you you empower you know, things that people
Speaker 3: use that it's you know, I like, if I didn't
Speaker 3: have ac right now, I would be melting and I
Speaker 3: would be dying. It's good to have a hard skill
Speaker 3: of a thing that you can do. I respect that.
Speaker 3: I respect a hard skill.
Speaker 14: That is very respectable.
Speaker 3: I agree people when someone's fucking air conditioning unit breaks,
Speaker 3: you know what they say, they say, Oh no, my
Speaker 3: air conditioning broke, And I'm a fucking moron and I
Speaker 3: don't know. I don't I'm stupid. I know how I
Speaker 3: use the thing every day constantly. But I'm so dumb.
Speaker 3: I'm such a dumb, silly, horrible person. I'm going to
Speaker 3: hell because I don't know how to use this air
Speaker 3: CONDI I don't know how to fix this air condition.
Speaker 3: I need to call. I need to call someone who's smart.
Speaker 3: I need to call a genius who's going to heaven.
Speaker 3: I need to call a messenger of God that he
Speaker 3: that God, someone that God trusts, someone who has skills,
Speaker 3: someone who did something with their life to come and
Speaker 3: fix my air conditioning unit. And that guy that I
Speaker 3: need to call someone handsome. I need to call a
Speaker 3: beautiful man, likely well endowed in the penis, who's the
Speaker 3: good person, who's a good guy, gives to charity, probably
Speaker 3: would do it for free if he wasn't well. I
Speaker 3: need that guy. I need this guy to come and
Speaker 3: fix my air conditioning unit because I'm an idiot, asshole
Speaker 3: who doesn't know how to takes things. That's gonna be
Speaker 3: You're gonna be that guy that people need.
Speaker 14: And yes, sir, of course, you know if it's a
Speaker 14: real hot summer day, you know it's getting real, real extreme,
Speaker 14: of course you gotta go out there as fast as
Speaker 14: you can take it for free and the world will
Speaker 14: repay it. Karma come back, superpod.
Speaker 3: Karma you believe? Do you believe in karma?
Speaker 14: I somewhat do. It's a little bit iffy, but I
Speaker 14: I guess I would say, yes.
Speaker 3: Really, why why is it if?
Speaker 11: He?
Speaker 14: I mean, there's been times where I'm like, I'm a
Speaker 14: bad person. I've done different things, you know, I've sucked
Speaker 14: things up, and I'm like, that's gonna buy me in
Speaker 14: the ass, and then I never does, and then I
Speaker 14: did do good things, and then I mean, then good
Speaker 14: things happened back. I mean, I don't know. I believe
Speaker 14: in the idea of it, but it's.
Speaker 3: Just, what's the last really good thing that happened to you?
Speaker 14: Huh? Honestly graduating high school? I'd say, because I never tried.
Speaker 14: I just it was I was kind of I was
Speaker 14: kind of the the guy that didn't try. Like, if
Speaker 14: if I actually put effort into it, it wouldn't it
Speaker 14: wouldn't have been a problem. But I never really cared.
Speaker 3: Do you feel like, do you feel like if you
Speaker 3: were to enter a trade school, do you feel like
Speaker 3: you would you would be able to care? Do you
Speaker 3: think if you were to learn how without a doubt.
Speaker 17: Okay, great, like I like from I believe my junior
Speaker 17: year I was I was ready to do like some
Speaker 17: kind of trade, and I figured that's just being easy,
Speaker 17: always going to need some kind of trade.
Speaker 14: So I kind of just gave up on normal high
Speaker 14: school and then I just kept my mind focused on
Speaker 14: the trade.
Speaker 3: I love that. I respect that high You don't learn
Speaker 3: that I when I graduated high school, I was so stupid.
Speaker 3: I didn't even know, you know what. I didn't even
Speaker 3: know how to fix a fact. I didn't even know
Speaker 3: how to fix an air conditioning unit. When I graduated
Speaker 3: high school. They don't teach you how to do shit
Speaker 3: in there. You can graduate high school. You can be
Speaker 3: so dumb and graduate high school. They really just let
Speaker 3: anyone do it. But you're going to come out of
Speaker 3: these these trade schools knowing stuff, knowing actual practical skills.
Speaker 3: So I'm proud of you for that. I think that's
Speaker 3: a good I.
Speaker 14: Think I appreciate that a lot.
Speaker 3: Lord for sure. For sure, don't call men you're the
Speaker 3: lord man when I when you see how much of
Speaker 3: a fucking lord I am when my air conditioning breaks?
Speaker 14: Well, I mean all right now, now, mister, get go,
Speaker 14: I I can't. I mean, you sit here for for
Speaker 14: hours a day, you know that? What three times a week?
Speaker 13: That is.
Speaker 14: I'm sorry, It's been a while since I've been to
Speaker 14: a stream.
Speaker 6: But you, uh, you.
Speaker 14: Sit here, you inspire, you bring, you bring your king
Speaker 14: and the people. I mean, you have one thousand, you
Speaker 14: have eleven hundred views right now, and you're sitting here
Speaker 14: thing random idiots ramble and and you're just flying entertaining
Speaker 14: the world.
Speaker 3: This world is sucked up, but luckily I agree to
Speaker 3: bring us light in these weird times. Thank you so
Speaker 3: much for calling.
Speaker 5: Man.
Speaker 3: I hope you have a good rest of the night.
Speaker 14: Thank you very much, you too, Man.
Speaker 4: All from Abigail.
Speaker 15: Abigail, Hi, what's up, Abigail, Well, watching my daughter.
Speaker 7: Kind of roll around.
Speaker 3: You're watching your dad run around?
Speaker 13: No, no, no, no, my dog.
Speaker 3: Okay, I thought you said you're watching your dad. You're
Speaker 3: watching your dog around you. What are you noticing about
Speaker 3: your dog, anything in particular, anything special?
Speaker 7: Well, I just told you the rat dog. So she
Speaker 7: kind of has like big eyes a human almost, So
Speaker 7: I don't know how rat.
Speaker 14: And human go together.
Speaker 3: But she's a rat dog, you said, yes, so a
Speaker 3: tiny dog. Yes, I hate tiny dogs. They're a waste
Speaker 3: of dogs. It's like, if you're going to be a dog,
Speaker 3: be a dog. You know, if you're going to be
Speaker 3: a rat dog, be a rat. I don't like the
Speaker 3: hybrid of rat and dog. But I'm not God. The
Speaker 3: judges decisions on what creatures to make.
Speaker 7: Well thankful that you're not God because I love my
Speaker 7: rat dog.
Speaker 3: I'm not saying that you shouldn't love your rat dog,
Speaker 3: but I'm saying that I personally, I wasn't bringing it
Speaker 3: up to the mean to you always bringing it up.
Speaker 3: I don't actually I don't know there's I don't think
Speaker 3: bringing it up really brought anything to the conversation. But
Speaker 3: I did bring it up. I don't think it took
Speaker 3: away from the conversation either. I don't think it messed
Speaker 3: with our dynamic. But I did say it, and I
Speaker 3: cannot take it back, and I will not take it back.
Speaker 3: I mean it completely. I hate rat dogs, but I
Speaker 3: don't think that you. I don't think that you should
Speaker 3: interpret it as any sort of attack on you. I
Speaker 3: think you sound I mean, I don't know you, but
Speaker 3: I think that you sound like a nice person. I
Speaker 3: think that we can build this relationship on a on
Speaker 3: a greater foundation of trust in one another?
Speaker 11: Of course?
Speaker 3: What's your favorite idea.
Speaker 13: Yet?
Speaker 3: What's your favorite idea?
Speaker 7: My favorite idea? Oh, it's that people don't exist to
Speaker 7: me if I don't think about them.
Speaker 3: People don't.
Speaker 7: People no longer become ideas if.
Speaker 3: You do not think about them.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Have you ever had a person in your life that
Speaker 3: you wanted to no longer exist and so you made
Speaker 3: a deliberate decision to never think about them ever again?
Speaker 7: Yes, but it doesn't work out that well.
Speaker 3: You know this is difficult because I would love to
Speaker 3: ask you follow up questions, but in order for you
Speaker 3: to answer these follow up questions, you would have to
Speaker 3: bring this person into your mind. Are you comfortable with that?
Speaker 5: I am comfortable, Abigail.
Speaker 3: Please, I would love to hear about the last person
Speaker 3: that you had to deliberately not think about.
Speaker 7: It is a past friend who I have an infatuation with,
Speaker 7: but I kind of already know myself that it's unrequited,
Speaker 7: so I want to get rid of them in their minds.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's a musician, a musician, Yes, okay, so.
Speaker 13: I don't know.
Speaker 16: I just like him.
Speaker 3: What what about him? Do you find so infatuating.
Speaker 7: I would say, it's just that, like I could have
Speaker 7: it sounds like the bare minimum, but a conversation with
Speaker 7: him and he would kind of like give me like
Speaker 7: hm hmm. I don't know what's so infatuating. To be
Speaker 7: honest with you, I talked to my grapist about it,
Speaker 7: real therapist. She said, he's a normal dude. You just
Speaker 7: like that he can give you intellectual conversations.
Speaker 3: I mean, of course he's a normal dude. Everyone is it,
Speaker 3: I mean, in one way or another normal person. I
Speaker 3: don't think that your infatuation with someone automatically means that
Speaker 3: they are like not normal. And by the way, I
Speaker 3: know you say it's a bare minimum, but lots of
Speaker 3: people have a hard times, you know, finding people that
Speaker 3: they can connect with, so you know it might be
Speaker 3: a I don't I would. I would consider it a minimum,
Speaker 3: not even a bare minimum.
Speaker 7: Uh I guess, okay, a minimum.
Speaker 3: What else did your therapist tell you about your infatuation
Speaker 3: with this guy? What is your therapist's opinion on this
Speaker 3: strategy that you have of not thinking about people and
Speaker 3: having them disappeared.
Speaker 7: Well, I think she approves of it, but I don't.
Speaker 7: She's very like, I think she's skeptical because I told
Speaker 7: her about this and she was like, okay, so how
Speaker 7: do you feel now?
Speaker 13: And I'm like, oh, well, I'm good.
Speaker 7: I'm great now. Come to find a couple days they
Speaker 7: I'm thinking about him, so it doesn't really work, so
Speaker 7: I gotta tell him that later.
Speaker 3: So you said that you know for sure that this
Speaker 3: was unrequited. But when you said that, you said, I
Speaker 3: know myself and I know that it's unrequited. What does
Speaker 3: that mean? How does your knowledge of yourself clue you
Speaker 3: into the fact that this is unrequited. Why are those
Speaker 3: two things related?
Speaker 7: I guess because I know what I currently want and
Speaker 7: I know what he wanted a while back in to
Speaker 7: throw so I've kind of put two and two together
Speaker 7: and those things aren't the same. So yeah, So.
Speaker 3: It's not necessary that he doesn't, you know, find you, uh,
Speaker 3: you know, romantically suitable, but rather that your interests do
Speaker 3: not align in terms of what you would like out
Speaker 3: of your romantic lives of course.
Speaker 5: Mm hmm.
Speaker 3: Okay, what is it that you would like? Are you
Speaker 3: looking for a long term relationship?
Speaker 7: Yeah? I used to, but currently on this girl journey
Speaker 7: I got going on, which you know I call every
Speaker 7: man a trap, So no more relationship period.
Speaker 3: You know what what you say? Your name was, Abigail, Abigail,
Speaker 3: I love the girl trip. I love the girl journey.
Speaker 3: I love taking some time to find yourself. I think
Speaker 3: that's always a good idea. I think a lot of people,
Speaker 3: you know, they they I like that. I like that
Speaker 3: you're taking the girl journey. You know better than Russian
Speaker 3: in better than you know, filling that hole with other people.
Speaker 3: You know, a lot of people don't take the deliberate
Speaker 3: time to get to know themselves, to get to build
Speaker 3: themselves up before they rush into a relationship. I'm proud
Speaker 3: of you, Abigail. I think it's a good I think
Speaker 3: it's a smart move. I think you're doing good. I'm
Speaker 3: proud of you. Keep going to real therapy for sure,
Speaker 3: for sure. Thank you for sharing, Abigail. You have a
Speaker 3: good rest of the night.
Speaker 12: Thank you. Paul from Baha, I'm hello.
Speaker 14: Hello's up?
Speaker 12: No way, I'm on, You're on all let's go. What
Speaker 12: is your deal?
Speaker 9: Gecko?
Speaker 3: What your name was? Alejandro?
Speaker 12: No, my name is Baja Baha. Yeah, Baja b a
Speaker 12: h a like the Baha men.
Speaker 3: What ad the Baha men.
Speaker 14: They're are like.
Speaker 12: The ones who let the dogs out who.
Speaker 3: Literally musical group. Yeah yeah, okay, I'm familiar with the song,
Speaker 3: but not the name of the people to make the song.
Speaker 12: Well now you know, now you know what's your life like?
Speaker 3: Baha?
Speaker 12: Yeah, I just want to Can I shout out my family?
Speaker 3: Can I be honest? Look, I'm wanna be honest with
Speaker 3: you about things like that. Here's the thing is, you
Speaker 3: know a lot of people when they come on, they
Speaker 3: either want to like you know, I've had people who
Speaker 3: come on they want to like shout out people or
Speaker 3: like promote themselves in some way, shape or form. And
Speaker 3: I think it always works best if you do at
Speaker 3: the end, right because well because no, I mean I'm
Speaker 3: being said, you know, look, because we don't have anything
Speaker 3: from you yet, So I feel like for you to
Speaker 3: give a shout out. You know, we don't know. I
Speaker 3: don't know anything about you yet, you know what I mean,
Speaker 3: a little too early for me to for you to
Speaker 3: shout someone out. I don't know anything about your family.
Speaker 3: I don't know anything about you. I would feel bad.
Speaker 3: But if your family are bad people, I don't think
Speaker 3: that they are. I'm not saying that they are, but
Speaker 3: I don't know. They could be, and I want to
Speaker 3: sort of I live in sort of a I'm just
Speaker 3: it's just it's like risk management. Do you understand?
Speaker 12: I under think completely. I get what you're saying. It's
Speaker 12: actually a really good idea.
Speaker 3: Set you now much more that you like you've understood me,
Speaker 3: and I understand that that was nice. Who are you with?
Speaker 12: I'm with my mom? You want to stay high?
Speaker 3: Sure? I would love to. Can't talk to her?
Speaker 13: Hi?
Speaker 12: Right here?
Speaker 3: What's your name?
Speaker 5: What's your name?
Speaker 10: What do they call you?
Speaker 3: They call me ghek.
Speaker 12: And he doesn't answer the they called me mom? Mom?
Speaker 3: Do you mind if i'm I'm on speakerphone right now?
Speaker 6: Right?
Speaker 12: Yeah?
Speaker 14: You are?
Speaker 16: Do you?
Speaker 3: Do you mind handing the fund to your mom? And
Speaker 3: I could just talk to her.
Speaker 14: He's right there.
Speaker 10: Go ahead.
Speaker 3: Oh, could you tell me off a speakerphone?
Speaker 12: Can I take you up as speaker phone? Yes?
Speaker 11: Okay?
Speaker 3: Hello?
Speaker 10: Hello, hello, yes be.
Speaker 3: So tell me about your relationship with Baha.
Speaker 12: Baha.
Speaker 10: Well, like he's a good kid, but I want to
Speaker 10: kick him out of the house. Do you have any
Speaker 10: other homes he can go too?
Speaker 3: Why do you want to kick him out of the house?
Speaker 13: He's on my nurse.
Speaker 3: He gets on your nurse. What does he do to
Speaker 3: get on your nose?
Speaker 10: He won't put his hair up. He looks like Jesus
Speaker 10: when his hair is down like that. He's got a
Speaker 10: he's got a couch downstairs that I hate that brown saying.
Speaker 9: I was just laying on it mm hmm.
Speaker 10: And then what else? And he doesn't want to go
Speaker 10: to work. I just want to stay home in the
Speaker 10: basement forever.
Speaker 8: You work every days?
Speaker 10: This not beside who is this person?
Speaker 6: Is the good?
Speaker 13: Is the gick?
Speaker 10: I hear you, you're a good man.
Speaker 3: So he doesn't work. So so you're saying he doesn't work,
Speaker 3: but he's saying he does work. Why is he saying
Speaker 3: he does work but you're saying he doesn't.
Speaker 10: He thinks he does work. Does anybody do work while
Speaker 10: they're laying in bed and snoring?
Speaker 3: Whoa whoa, whoa, whoa whoa, whoa, whoa whoa.
Speaker 10: He called all his clients today, according to him. But Jack,
Speaker 10: you know, have you ever tasted our tacos?
Speaker 3: Have ever tasted what?
Speaker 11: Now tacos?
Speaker 3: I thought tacos?
Speaker 10: You no our tacos, your tacos. He's never tasted our tacos. Oh,
Speaker 10: he lives in them. Didn't you invite him over for
Speaker 10: when he comes to Chicago?
Speaker 8: You just met him.
Speaker 14: He's a steamer and it.
Speaker 10: Oh interesting, interesting, he's a therapy gecko.
Speaker 12: Yeah, I'm sorry I put you back on speaker. I
Speaker 12: just want to let you know. She didn't believe me.
Speaker 12: She thought I was just playing.
Speaker 14: A prank and you're one of my friends.
Speaker 12: Oh really, Yeah, I'm gonna put I'm gonna show her
Speaker 12: the live stream really quick.
Speaker 3: Sure is she still there?
Speaker 14: Yeah, she's still here.
Speaker 9: How old are you?
Speaker 12: Guys?
Speaker 3: You run a small business?
Speaker 8: Are you run a small business? Okay?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 3: No, no, no, I'm saying that about your son. Your
Speaker 3: son you because because I'm still confused here, because your
Speaker 3: son says that he works, but you're saying that he doesn't.
Speaker 11: No.
Speaker 9: No, I thought I bet you were related to I
Speaker 9: thought I'm talking to one of his cousins.
Speaker 4: But yeah, he does work, he does.
Speaker 12: Okay, she runs a nonprofit organization.
Speaker 3: Okay, so you're both are entrepreneurs. That's nice.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 12: Yeah, and I worked for her.
Speaker 8: I worked for her.
Speaker 12: I'm I'm I'm doing some different stuff right now. You know,
Speaker 12: I got a podcast shut out my podcast.
Speaker 3: Do you feel like your mother has been very influential
Speaker 3: to you in your career?
Speaker 12: Very much?
Speaker 13: So?
Speaker 3: Mhm? What else has your mother influenced about you? Mom?
Speaker 3: Are you there?
Speaker 14: Yeah?
Speaker 9: Yeah, I'm here.
Speaker 3: How do you feel like you've influenced your son? What
Speaker 3: do you think he's gotten from you?
Speaker 10: What is his good looks and his down to earth
Speaker 10: and his honesty and his.
Speaker 9: Kindness? But I'm really concerned, because I'm honestly concerned. Which
Speaker 9: dare are you in? And what am I concerned about?
Speaker 12: That?
Speaker 9: I'm talking to a complete stranger that I saw was
Speaker 9: one of my kid's friends. And of course wouldn't you
Speaker 9: be concerned when you talk to people you don't know.
Speaker 3: I'm talking to someone very calm.
Speaker 11: Yeah, I know.
Speaker 9: That's why you should be. Because, so, what do you do
Speaker 9: for a living besides gaming?
Speaker 3: Besides gaming?
Speaker 12: What you do? From what I gather your stand up comedian?
Speaker 5: Get ye, he's a gecko?
Speaker 3: You he's therapy therapy.
Speaker 9: You're a therapy guy. So what type of there provide.
Speaker 3: Does you? Does your dad live with you? Guys? Is
Speaker 3: there is the dad there?
Speaker 9: Yeah?
Speaker 6: He is?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Okay? Is he in the room?
Speaker 10: No, he's not here.
Speaker 3: Okay, who do you Who do you think has had
Speaker 3: a bigger influence on on your son? Between you and
Speaker 3: your dad and you and your.
Speaker 9: Husband, I think it's me and I think at this
Speaker 9: point I'm gonna put us off to the questioning. And
Speaker 9: it was really nice to meet you. Yeah, yeah, you're
Speaker 9: very interesting. I'm gonna look you up and see what
Speaker 9: else do you do.
Speaker 3: Awesome, Thank you so much for talking to me. Absolutely, well,
Speaker 3: there we go. You don't have a shout out your family.
Speaker 3: Your family shout out themselves by talking.
Speaker 12: Yeah, there you go, There you go.
Speaker 14: I might have some cousins watching too.
Speaker 3: Do you have a good rest of the night?
Speaker 6: Man?
Speaker 12: All right, wait, my body, can't you shout out my podcast?
Speaker 12: An anime podcast?
Speaker 3: You know what? Sure?
Speaker 12: My guys, all right, anybody watching? If you like animes,
Speaker 12: go and see us on Spotify, Apple, podcast, anywhere. We're
Speaker 12: called B B as in boy M as in Mary
Speaker 12: B Pirates, B M B Pirates and we talked about
Speaker 12: all ship anime, all that kind of stuff, you know,
Speaker 12: so see us, let us know how you like it.
Speaker 12: We're also on Instagram, so there you go. All right, Jack,
Speaker 12: it was nice talking to you.
Speaker 3: Let's talk at youtubebout huh have a good night you too,
Speaker 3: that I would listen to that guy's anime podcast, but
Speaker 3: only if it was him explaining various animes to his mom.
Speaker 3: Maybe it is time for him to move out. Goes
Speaker 3: on the line.
Speaker 17: Every night, every
Speaker 9: Teaching you