1 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:21,439 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:23,880 Speaker 1: voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you 3 00:00:23,960 --> 00:00:26,880 Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe 4 00:00:26,920 --> 00:00:29,040 Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with 5 00:00:29,080 --> 00:00:31,880 Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how 6 00:00:31,880 --> 00:00:34,400 Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business. 7 00:00:34,680 --> 00:00:37,839 Speaker 1: Whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember 8 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:40,320 Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're suffering 9 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:42,479 Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from 10 00:00:42,520 --> 00:00:45,479 Speaker 1: a qualified professional. All right, now go ahead and leave 11 00:00:45,520 --> 00:00:47,080 Speaker 1: your question at the sound of the beeB. 12 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:49,560 Speaker 2: Hi, Cheeky's. 13 00:00:49,680 --> 00:00:51,879 Speaker 3: My name is Stasia, and I like to start off 14 00:00:51,920 --> 00:00:55,400 Speaker 3: by saying you're so amazing and a huge inspiration to me. 15 00:00:55,840 --> 00:00:59,160 Speaker 3: This year, I am getting married on September ninth, and 16 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:02,440 Speaker 3: of course I am incredibly excited for my big day. 17 00:01:02,840 --> 00:01:07,280 Speaker 3: I'm also incredibly sad. My mom has recently passed away 18 00:01:07,480 --> 00:01:10,400 Speaker 3: in December, and it's so hard for me to imagine 19 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:15,000 Speaker 3: getting ready, walking down the aisle, and enjoying my entire 20 00:01:15,080 --> 00:01:18,360 Speaker 3: day without her physical presence. I'm hoping you can give 21 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:21,039 Speaker 3: me some advice on how I can still enjoy every 22 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:24,199 Speaker 3: moment of that day without feeling guilty that she can't 23 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:28,280 Speaker 3: be here with me. Thank you so much, Love you, Daisia. 24 00:01:29,600 --> 00:01:32,080 Speaker 1: First of all, congratulations, I'm sure you're going to be 25 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:35,039 Speaker 1: a beautiful, beautiful bride. Your voice, you have such a 26 00:01:35,080 --> 00:01:37,920 Speaker 1: pretty voice, by the way, So this is what I 27 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:39,920 Speaker 1: did when I got married. We're not going to talk 28 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:41,880 Speaker 1: too much about that, but when I got married, once 29 00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:46,040 Speaker 1: upon a time, I had a chair at the ceremony 30 00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:48,080 Speaker 1: that had a picture of my mom, and I just 31 00:01:48,120 --> 00:01:50,520 Speaker 1: it made me feel better that I'm like, Okay, she's there. 32 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 1: I see her picture. At the reception, I also had 33 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:55,640 Speaker 1: a picture of her. It just makes you feel just 34 00:01:55,760 --> 00:01:58,360 Speaker 1: closer to your loved one. It may just made me 35 00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 1: feel better. So I'm hoping that you can have like 36 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:03,440 Speaker 1: a little not necessarily sanctuary, but just somewhere where you 37 00:02:03,480 --> 00:02:04,760 Speaker 1: can have a picture of her, where you know that 38 00:02:04,800 --> 00:02:07,480 Speaker 1: she's present, because regardless, she's there with you. And I'm 39 00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:09,800 Speaker 1: not gonna lie and tell you that it's not gonna 40 00:02:09,840 --> 00:02:12,880 Speaker 1: be hard, because when you're getting ready and all that stuff, 41 00:02:12,880 --> 00:02:16,320 Speaker 1: it's gonna hurt. I definitely cried. I cried so much 42 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:18,000 Speaker 1: in the shower that morning, and I let it out 43 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:19,520 Speaker 1: and I was like, I'm just gonna let it out, 44 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:21,359 Speaker 1: and then I said a prayer, and I'm like, Mom, 45 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:24,639 Speaker 1: be with me because I'm gonna need you today and 46 00:02:25,440 --> 00:02:27,880 Speaker 1: then you feel better and I'm hoping that's your situation 47 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:30,720 Speaker 1: as well. But definitely, I think you should cry it out, 48 00:02:30,840 --> 00:02:33,680 Speaker 1: cry it out before your hair and makeup, and just 49 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:37,080 Speaker 1: know that she's with you. And it sounds a low cliche, 50 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:39,480 Speaker 1: but it's the truth. There with us and they're definitely 51 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:41,600 Speaker 1: angels and I know she's gonna be there walking you 52 00:02:41,639 --> 00:02:44,000 Speaker 1: down the aisle as well. So I'm sending you a 53 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:46,840 Speaker 1: big hug and hopefully you can send us pictures of 54 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:49,359 Speaker 1: you and your wedding dress. I can't wait to see him. 55 00:02:49,480 --> 00:02:54,839 Speaker 1: Thank you for your question, bim Okay, So our next 56 00:02:54,919 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 1: question comes from Lesdi Hi Cheeky's. 57 00:02:58,320 --> 00:03:01,880 Speaker 4: I am reaching out because I haven't very stressed relationship 58 00:03:01,960 --> 00:03:05,760 Speaker 4: with my mother. I know that I have never been 59 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 4: her favorite child. I think her and I have just 60 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:12,560 Speaker 4: always butt heads, and so it's been really hard to 61 00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:16,799 Speaker 4: be around her. She is a very invasive woman, and 62 00:03:17,080 --> 00:03:21,160 Speaker 4: so it's really hard because she triggers a lot of 63 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 4: anger and disappointment. And sadness in me all the time. 64 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:30,120 Speaker 4: So I just want to know if you can help 65 00:03:30,200 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 4: me and give me some tips and tricks, because even 66 00:03:33,840 --> 00:03:38,000 Speaker 4: staying away from her, she will reach out to send 67 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:41,440 Speaker 4: me nasty messages and make me feel bad, and she 68 00:03:41,600 --> 00:03:44,440 Speaker 4: will just do everything in her power to be invasive 69 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:47,240 Speaker 4: of absolutely everything that's going on in my life. 70 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:50,280 Speaker 2: Thank you by ooh. 71 00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:54,120 Speaker 1: Okay, this was tough because you know, I know we 72 00:03:54,200 --> 00:03:58,600 Speaker 1: have to honor our parents, and she's your mother, and 73 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:00,960 Speaker 1: you are so blessed to have your other here on earth. 74 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 1: I am one that has learned throughout the years and 75 00:04:04,720 --> 00:04:09,320 Speaker 1: through therapy that it is okay to love people from afar. 76 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:12,920 Speaker 1: If she still and continues to reach out to you 77 00:04:13,320 --> 00:04:17,279 Speaker 1: and sending you nasty messages, that doesn't mean that you 78 00:04:17,520 --> 00:04:21,120 Speaker 1: have to engage in those messages and make the situation worse. 79 00:04:21,400 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 1: I think sometimes when you ignore things like that, especially 80 00:04:23,800 --> 00:04:26,640 Speaker 1: because she's your mom and you know you have to 81 00:04:26,680 --> 00:04:30,480 Speaker 1: respect her, in my opinion, it's better to just not 82 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:32,720 Speaker 1: say anything at all and just kind of ignore them, 83 00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:36,880 Speaker 1: and they're going to hopefully get tired and stop it eventually. 84 00:04:37,120 --> 00:04:39,320 Speaker 1: I would suggest having a conversation with her, but it 85 00:04:39,360 --> 00:04:42,560 Speaker 1: sounds like you've tried. I'm one that loves to write 86 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:46,000 Speaker 1: letters because sometimes when I'm in front of the person, 87 00:04:46,040 --> 00:04:48,120 Speaker 1: I get nervous or I get to emotional, and like 88 00:04:48,600 --> 00:04:51,560 Speaker 1: writing a letter to someone. It allows you to express 89 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:54,320 Speaker 1: yourself fully without being interrupted, and then they have no 90 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:57,080 Speaker 1: choice but to read it and sit on it and 91 00:04:57,160 --> 00:04:58,560 Speaker 1: hopefully listen to your heart. 92 00:04:58,720 --> 00:04:58,919 Speaker 4: You know. 93 00:04:59,080 --> 00:05:01,080 Speaker 1: So I think that that would be a great way 94 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:02,840 Speaker 1: to speak to her and tell her how she's making 95 00:05:02,880 --> 00:05:06,880 Speaker 1: you feel. And if it continues, I think it is okay. 96 00:05:06,920 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 1: And it sounds like you have a baby, because I 97 00:05:08,600 --> 00:05:10,400 Speaker 1: heard a baby in the background. You have to be 98 00:05:10,480 --> 00:05:13,080 Speaker 1: okay for your family, for your partner, for your life, 99 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:15,479 Speaker 1: for your child, if you have a child, and it's 100 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:17,840 Speaker 1: sometimes okay to say I'm going to give this relationship 101 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:22,840 Speaker 1: some space. Pray for them from afar, because it's just 102 00:05:22,880 --> 00:05:25,839 Speaker 1: not fair if someone is trying to drag you into 103 00:05:26,240 --> 00:05:29,359 Speaker 1: a dark hole that they're in emotionally, even if it 104 00:05:29,400 --> 00:05:31,159 Speaker 1: is your mom. And I know that sounds some people 105 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:33,599 Speaker 1: might not agree with me, and that is okay, but 106 00:05:33,960 --> 00:05:37,919 Speaker 1: you have to be okay your peace of mind and 107 00:05:37,960 --> 00:05:40,880 Speaker 1: don't engage and don't be disrespectful, don't go back and 108 00:05:40,920 --> 00:05:43,359 Speaker 1: forth with her. That's your mom. Respect her and just 109 00:05:43,400 --> 00:05:47,480 Speaker 1: love her. But you do have to give yourself your place. 110 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: Like that's what my heart is telling me to tell you, 111 00:05:50,400 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 1: and it's my best advice. And I hope that it 112 00:05:52,720 --> 00:05:55,200 Speaker 1: works out for you guys, and the relationship mens eventually. 113 00:05:55,279 --> 00:05:57,960 Speaker 1: But sometimes people don't know what they have until you 114 00:05:58,000 --> 00:06:00,719 Speaker 1: know you're not as available. I don't know. It's something 115 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:02,960 Speaker 1: you and I both have to pray for because it 116 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 1: is your mom. So I really really hope it gets better. 117 00:06:06,560 --> 00:06:10,760 Speaker 1: But that is my suggestion. I think a nice, long, intimate, 118 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:14,480 Speaker 1: detailed letter will help. I hope it gets better. I'm 119 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:17,680 Speaker 1: sending you up big, big, big big hug because I 120 00:06:17,680 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 1: feel it. I am like I'm feeling your emotions right now. Okay, 121 00:06:24,839 --> 00:06:27,480 Speaker 1: so our next question comes from Lydia. 122 00:06:28,680 --> 00:06:32,919 Speaker 2: All the chickies right now. My questions are do I 123 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 2: move forward with my wedding planning. I'm literally two months 124 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:43,080 Speaker 2: away from my wedding day and I hate commitment. You know, 125 00:06:43,480 --> 00:06:47,200 Speaker 2: I have two kids from a previous relationship. They are teenagers, 126 00:06:47,240 --> 00:06:52,599 Speaker 2: though they do get along great with my fiance. I 127 00:06:52,640 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 2: am six years older than him. He does have a 128 00:06:56,440 --> 00:07:01,719 Speaker 2: child with another woman in Californi Ornia. She's a better 129 00:07:01,760 --> 00:07:06,760 Speaker 2: baby Mama. Let sid And right now he's going through 130 00:07:07,080 --> 00:07:12,640 Speaker 2: a file for a visitation, right since she's not allowing 131 00:07:12,720 --> 00:07:16,400 Speaker 2: him to see his child just because he's with me, 132 00:07:16,600 --> 00:07:20,640 Speaker 2: just because he's getting married, just because, And I'm like, 133 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:22,600 Speaker 2: do I really want to go through this? You know 134 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 2: this is just a beginning. 135 00:07:25,120 --> 00:07:28,880 Speaker 1: It stay okay, Well, if you hate commitment, then you 136 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:30,160 Speaker 1: probably shouldn't be getting married. 137 00:07:30,200 --> 00:07:30,440 Speaker 4: Girl. 138 00:07:31,080 --> 00:07:33,920 Speaker 1: I'm just kidding, but I get it, because commitment is scary. 139 00:07:34,280 --> 00:07:36,920 Speaker 1: I I've been there, and a therapy really helped me 140 00:07:37,000 --> 00:07:40,840 Speaker 1: understand what marriage is. And only you know if this 141 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:43,760 Speaker 1: person is worth it? How does he treat you? Does 142 00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:46,400 Speaker 1: he love you? He loves your kids? Like? All of 143 00:07:46,440 --> 00:07:48,480 Speaker 1: those are questions that you need to ask yourself and 144 00:07:48,560 --> 00:07:52,920 Speaker 1: put it on a balance, right down on a piece 145 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:55,120 Speaker 1: of paper, the pros and the cons. You know, the 146 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:57,480 Speaker 1: good things about him, the bad things about him, and 147 00:07:57,800 --> 00:07:59,640 Speaker 1: you'll see in the list. Okay, well he has more 148 00:07:59,640 --> 00:08:03,680 Speaker 1: good things. This is worth fighting for, baby Mama. Drama sucks. 149 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:08,360 Speaker 1: Been there, done that. It sucks so bad and it 150 00:08:08,440 --> 00:08:11,840 Speaker 1: is heavy. But does your partner? Does your man make 151 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:14,240 Speaker 1: you feel better about it? Does he give you your place. 152 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:17,720 Speaker 1: That all changes everything. Like if he's like, hey, I'm 153 00:08:17,760 --> 00:08:20,240 Speaker 1: going to marry you, you are now my priority, even 154 00:08:20,280 --> 00:08:22,760 Speaker 1: before the children. Like that's just even in the Bible 155 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:24,760 Speaker 1: it says that it's just kind of like when you 156 00:08:24,840 --> 00:08:28,720 Speaker 1: get married, that is what's most important, even before your children. 157 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:31,920 Speaker 1: So the good thing is that you're there supporting him 158 00:08:32,200 --> 00:08:35,600 Speaker 1: through this whole like legal situation and trying to get 159 00:08:35,640 --> 00:08:38,520 Speaker 1: like you know, to see his child more. That that's good. 160 00:08:38,520 --> 00:08:41,079 Speaker 1: That says a lot about you. But if he's also 161 00:08:41,320 --> 00:08:43,079 Speaker 1: like putting you to the side, then that's a red 162 00:08:43,120 --> 00:08:46,720 Speaker 1: flag to me. But then it's maybe something that you 163 00:08:46,760 --> 00:08:51,000 Speaker 1: should fight for, you know, sola mene, is this man 164 00:08:51,200 --> 00:08:54,640 Speaker 1: worth all of this? Bs? You know what I mean? 165 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:58,040 Speaker 1: So that's kind of where it kind of like lays 166 00:08:58,080 --> 00:08:58,559 Speaker 1: and lies. 167 00:08:58,679 --> 00:08:58,959 Speaker 4: I mean. 168 00:08:59,200 --> 00:09:03,120 Speaker 1: So I don't know, you're two months away and one time, 169 00:09:03,360 --> 00:09:07,920 Speaker 1: once upon a time again I canceled the wedding a 170 00:09:07,960 --> 00:09:11,720 Speaker 1: month before. So I'm not saying to do that. I'm 171 00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:14,360 Speaker 1: just saying, you know, you probably have the place and everything. 172 00:09:14,360 --> 00:09:18,720 Speaker 1: It's a lot to think about. Bettltu tennis la claves 173 00:09:19,880 --> 00:09:24,680 Speaker 1: laresposta uzmos Is he worth it? Does he love you 174 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:27,280 Speaker 1: the right way does he value you ask yourself those questions. 175 00:09:27,320 --> 00:09:30,000 Speaker 1: That's important. It goes a long way. All right, thank 176 00:09:30,000 --> 00:09:35,600 Speaker 1: you for your question, babe. Okay, so our last question 177 00:09:35,679 --> 00:09:38,440 Speaker 1: comes from Jessica Hi Chiki's. 178 00:09:38,960 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 5: First of all, oh my god, myhead. I have the 179 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:47,720 Speaker 5: privilege of seeing you in Fresno, and you are freaking amazing. 180 00:09:48,559 --> 00:09:54,080 Speaker 5: The show was amazing, the atmosphere like, you are one 181 00:09:54,240 --> 00:09:57,760 Speaker 5: badass bitch. I also got to do the meet and 182 00:09:57,840 --> 00:10:01,480 Speaker 5: greet and I just love how humble you are, how 183 00:10:01,600 --> 00:10:05,760 Speaker 5: you really just are not about the talk, you actually 184 00:10:05,840 --> 00:10:09,280 Speaker 5: walk the walk and that's something that I really appreciate. 185 00:10:09,920 --> 00:10:12,400 Speaker 5: So with that being said, I have a two part question. 186 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:16,679 Speaker 5: My first question is with the show that you just 187 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:19,160 Speaker 5: put on, I know it takes a lot of hours 188 00:10:19,800 --> 00:10:23,400 Speaker 5: to put it all together, So how do you prepare 189 00:10:23,440 --> 00:10:27,680 Speaker 5: for that or what goes into play as you're trying 190 00:10:27,880 --> 00:10:31,960 Speaker 5: to come up with your show? So just curious of 191 00:10:33,000 --> 00:10:36,480 Speaker 5: you know where you get your ideas from, because yeah, 192 00:10:36,559 --> 00:10:40,560 Speaker 5: the two hours and a half flew by when I 193 00:10:40,679 --> 00:10:43,480 Speaker 5: was there because it was just such an amazing show. 194 00:10:43,559 --> 00:10:47,520 Speaker 5: So that's part one. Part two is I know you 195 00:10:47,600 --> 00:10:52,160 Speaker 5: have your team that are with you from your hairstylists, 196 00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:57,199 Speaker 5: to your manager, you know, everybody and your team, what 197 00:10:57,200 --> 00:11:01,600 Speaker 5: do you do to show your appreciation to them, especially 198 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:05,679 Speaker 5: when you work long hours or you guys travel. I 199 00:11:05,760 --> 00:11:08,840 Speaker 5: currently manage a team, and I always feel that I'm 200 00:11:08,840 --> 00:11:11,920 Speaker 5: not doing enough for them, So just wondering, like, how 201 00:11:11,920 --> 00:11:14,840 Speaker 5: do you show your appreciation to them? 202 00:11:15,280 --> 00:11:19,319 Speaker 1: Jessica, You're making me blush. You made me blush. Thank 203 00:11:19,360 --> 00:11:21,520 Speaker 1: you so much. That is like the best compliment that 204 00:11:21,559 --> 00:11:24,320 Speaker 1: you can give me is that you went to my show, 205 00:11:24,440 --> 00:11:27,560 Speaker 1: that you met me, that you are happy and satisfied, 206 00:11:27,800 --> 00:11:30,800 Speaker 1: mission accomplished one hundred and thousand percent, So thank you 207 00:11:30,840 --> 00:11:33,960 Speaker 1: for taking the time to go and see my performance. 208 00:11:34,280 --> 00:11:37,040 Speaker 1: I'm very proud to say that I am definitely involved 209 00:11:37,120 --> 00:11:41,320 Speaker 1: in everything in the wardrobe and the colors I want 210 00:11:41,320 --> 00:11:43,720 Speaker 1: to use in the set list. The set list is 211 00:11:43,760 --> 00:11:48,440 Speaker 1: the hardest part for me because I think of me 212 00:11:48,800 --> 00:11:51,760 Speaker 1: as a fan and as a consumer of music and 213 00:11:52,280 --> 00:11:54,560 Speaker 1: what i'd like to feel and what i'd like to 214 00:11:54,640 --> 00:11:57,000 Speaker 1: hear if I go to someone's concert, you know, and 215 00:11:57,040 --> 00:11:59,320 Speaker 1: I want to take you on the emotional roller coaster 216 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:01,120 Speaker 1: that I'm on, you know, I want to take you 217 00:12:01,160 --> 00:12:02,679 Speaker 1: on a high and then bring you down and then 218 00:12:02,679 --> 00:12:04,320 Speaker 1: make you cry and then make you laugh and then 219 00:12:04,559 --> 00:12:06,880 Speaker 1: you go home super happy. So it's like, that's what 220 00:12:07,120 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 1: I that's the most important part for me is where 221 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:12,240 Speaker 1: am I going to place this song? And that took 222 00:12:12,360 --> 00:12:15,320 Speaker 1: me hours and I don't let anyone else get involved 223 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:16,880 Speaker 1: until the very end where I'm like, Okay, this is 224 00:12:16,880 --> 00:12:19,800 Speaker 1: my idea. Then I get my you know, my musical 225 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:22,479 Speaker 1: director and my manager. I'm like, okay, what are your suggestions? 226 00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:25,880 Speaker 1: And I'm also open to hearing suggestions. I'm not like Mente, 227 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:28,199 Speaker 1: like it's what I say and what I say goes. 228 00:12:28,480 --> 00:12:31,360 Speaker 1: I think that's super important. No matter what level you're 229 00:12:31,400 --> 00:12:34,200 Speaker 1: at or if you're the boss or whatnot. Always listening 230 00:12:34,240 --> 00:12:36,959 Speaker 1: to your team is super important. That's going to take 231 00:12:37,000 --> 00:12:39,640 Speaker 1: you a long way. Like they say, two minds are 232 00:12:39,679 --> 00:12:42,200 Speaker 1: better than one, you know. So that's one thing that 233 00:12:42,640 --> 00:12:44,840 Speaker 1: I like to do, and I like to incorporate my 234 00:12:44,920 --> 00:12:46,640 Speaker 1: team and everything that I do. And talking about my 235 00:12:46,679 --> 00:12:49,559 Speaker 1: team the second part of your question. I love my 236 00:12:49,640 --> 00:12:52,880 Speaker 1: team and I treat them as as family and I 237 00:12:52,920 --> 00:12:55,200 Speaker 1: want them to be happy and I want them to 238 00:12:56,400 --> 00:13:00,240 Speaker 1: be happy working. So you don't have to necessarily like 239 00:13:00,320 --> 00:13:04,080 Speaker 1: do extravagant things to show your appreciation. I think just 240 00:13:04,120 --> 00:13:07,000 Speaker 1: even saying thank you, like texting them, hey, thank you guys, 241 00:13:07,040 --> 00:13:10,160 Speaker 1: a great job today. I really like what you did, 242 00:13:10,400 --> 00:13:12,720 Speaker 1: or you know, show that you're happy with their work 243 00:13:12,920 --> 00:13:15,120 Speaker 1: before you're gonna like lash out, you know, because sometimes 244 00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:17,559 Speaker 1: heat and say hey, I don't like this, but it's 245 00:13:17,600 --> 00:13:19,440 Speaker 1: all again. I always say this you guys. How you 246 00:13:19,440 --> 00:13:22,720 Speaker 1: deliver your message, of course, but you can also even say, hey, 247 00:13:22,760 --> 00:13:25,440 Speaker 1: here's a ten dollar gift card. You know, I just 248 00:13:25,640 --> 00:13:27,920 Speaker 1: thought about you and I'm so grateful for you. Here 249 00:13:28,120 --> 00:13:30,280 Speaker 1: something on me. You know, little things like that go 250 00:13:30,400 --> 00:13:32,959 Speaker 1: a long way, and I think just even stopping and 251 00:13:33,000 --> 00:13:34,760 Speaker 1: saying here, let me give you a hug. You know, 252 00:13:34,920 --> 00:13:37,120 Speaker 1: I'm very like that, Like I like to treat my 253 00:13:37,160 --> 00:13:39,480 Speaker 1: people that are around me like my family and show 254 00:13:39,480 --> 00:13:41,480 Speaker 1: that I love them and I appreciate them, not a 255 00:13:41,640 --> 00:13:44,120 Speaker 1: i'm the boss. And here's the thing. Some people get 256 00:13:44,200 --> 00:13:46,440 Speaker 1: it confused with I'm the boss and you have to 257 00:13:46,440 --> 00:13:48,760 Speaker 1: do what I say. But no, it's how you leave them. 258 00:13:48,880 --> 00:13:51,520 Speaker 1: It's let me show you by example. You know, so 259 00:13:52,040 --> 00:13:53,560 Speaker 1: to go a hole to learn that, but I got it. 260 00:13:53,640 --> 00:13:55,680 Speaker 1: So I hope that helps with your team, you know, 261 00:13:56,080 --> 00:13:58,000 Speaker 1: So thank you for your question. It was so lovely 262 00:13:58,080 --> 00:14:00,520 Speaker 1: listening to you and to your question. I'm so glad 263 00:14:00,559 --> 00:14:03,600 Speaker 1: you loved it. What's up? We still have a few 264 00:14:03,640 --> 00:14:06,200 Speaker 1: more days, guys. Check on Instagram okay to see if 265 00:14:06,200 --> 00:14:10,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be in your city. Okay, guys, So Deja, Leslie, Lydia, 266 00:14:10,840 --> 00:14:14,120 Speaker 1: and Jessica. 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