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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for calling mother in law

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Speaker 2: Call you what?

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Speaker 1: I This is all to answer the question of when

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Speaker 1: is it worth it to stand up for yourself every time?

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Speaker 1: Every time? Stand by yourself because no one else will.

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Speaker 2: Severe? Are you okay?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 2: What stands with me?

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Speaker 1: Thank you?

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Speaker 2: Johns so Babe.

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Speaker 1: Miller says, my relationship with my mother in law, Missus Smith,

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Speaker 1: is frap. She's cold me because I kept my last

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Speaker 1: name Miller. She says, I'll treat her like family when

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Speaker 1: she wants to be part of it. She calls me

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Speaker 1: Jake's friend.

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Speaker 2: Yikes, ouch oof.

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Speaker 1: My husband, Jake loves me all the same. He doesn't

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Speaker 1: bother standing up to her because it's a way for

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Speaker 1: her to start a fight. We rarely talk to her.

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Speaker 1: She may no effort.

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Speaker 2: Neither do we.

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Speaker 1: Jake and I discussed whose last name our kids would

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Speaker 1: have prior to the birth. Initiated the conversation, but I

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Speaker 1: left the decision up to him. After the birth, the

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Speaker 1: family's visited at the hospital. Jake asked what our son's

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Speaker 1: last name was going to be, and I told him

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Speaker 1: it was still his choice. He smiled and said, little

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Speaker 1: baby Miller, I like it. He filled out the paperwork,

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Speaker 1: and mother in law looked livid. Wait, the Bagler is

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Speaker 1: oh P's last name, and so they're deciding what the

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Speaker 1: last name of the child.

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Speaker 3: Should be, right, and and her husband is saying he

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Speaker 3: should have your last exactly.

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Speaker 2: That's cute.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, cute, very cute. But the mother one, I

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Speaker 1: don't think she's going to about, oh god, naming the

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Speaker 1: baby after Jake's friend. She started asking questions, but my

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Speaker 1: dad started crying.

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Speaker 2: Oh, both of my brothers have died.

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Speaker 1: Dad has never mentioned it, but I know passing the

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Speaker 1: last name down makes him happy. Neither Jake or I

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Speaker 1: anticipated this, nor did it for this reason, but it

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Speaker 1: was sweet all the same. After she left, mother in

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Speaker 1: law let people know what I had done and how

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Speaker 1: now she wouldn't feel like a grandmother. A month later,

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Speaker 1: a sister in law announced her pregnancy. Mother in law said,

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Speaker 1: finally I'll feel like a grandmother. Oh sweet, so hey, grandma,

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Speaker 1: put your dukes up. Okay, maternal grandparents are your grandchildren.

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Speaker 2: But this is going too far. We need three pm PSD.

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Speaker 3: Next Tuesday, John Fry gets in the ring with terrible

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Speaker 3: annoying mother.

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Speaker 1: And blod backyard. We're gonna set up a whole ring.

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Speaker 3: Knock out of the century. I hate her, woman, Oh

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Speaker 3: my god, I don't even care. I don't even see

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Speaker 3: a monster in a in.

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Speaker 2: A regulated boxing ring.

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Speaker 3: Okay, only only if she agrees, because if she's like,

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Speaker 3: if she's like, I'm fighting to defend how terrible I am,

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Speaker 3: I'm like, bring it on, Grandma, let's go agreed.

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Speaker 2: Knock her out.

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Speaker 1: Ko Our son started talking during a video call where

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Speaker 1: my mother in law did nothing but gush about sister's

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Speaker 1: in law, sister in law's daughter, who's adorable. Jake was

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Speaker 2: Son lost interest.

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Speaker 1: I took son and Jake let mother in law ramble

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Speaker 1: some more before ending the call. Mother in law said

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Speaker 1: she wanted to say bye to son. Jake turned the phone.

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Speaker 1: Mother in law said say bye to grandma.

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Speaker 2: Makes some say it. I'm grandma now, Jesus Christ, lady.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I snapped inside, so I said say bye,

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Speaker 2: Damn, Yo, that was cold. Damn that was cold.

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Speaker 1: My mother in law's face dropped. Jake turned the camera

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Speaker 1: away and said bye quickly. He laughed, said I was awesome,

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Speaker 1: but we better put our phones on silent. The only

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Speaker 1: went around saying how excited she was, but son lie

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Speaker 1: that her initial comments were understandable because I talked Jake

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Speaker 2: Mother in law.

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Speaker 1: Mother in law needed time to adjust. I said thank

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Speaker 1: you for your input. Mother in law texted eventually saying

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Speaker 1: I'd really upset her. I said, here, I was trying

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Speaker 1: to respect the importance you feel to last names. You

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Speaker 1: said multiple times, I'm not family because of my last name.

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Speaker 1: Oh I I don't don't think I really gathered that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she was like flipping it back on her. No, no, no,

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Speaker 2: I got that.

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Speaker 1: I woul just saying that I didn't understand why the

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Speaker 1: not you know, his partner or his wife. I think

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Speaker 1: it's because she kept her last name. And so the

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Speaker 1: grandma was like yeah, okay, yeah, yeah, I didn't get

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Speaker 2: You made it more than clear.

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Speaker 1: That's the reason my child doesn't make you feel like

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Speaker 1: a grandma. Now you'll be known as missus Smith.

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Speaker 2: She said sorry, she didn't.

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Speaker 1: Mean it that way, but that my dad's reaction was

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Speaker 1: an example of how important last names are. Dang I

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Speaker 1: now had to forgive her because family. It made me

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Speaker 1: And there is a small edit. There's two edits, actually

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Speaker 1: edit one. Thank you again to everyone who gave awards.

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Speaker 1: Jake is home and I had him read the post.

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Speaker 1: Some of you really cracked him up. Some made good points,

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Speaker 1: which we have discussed.

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Speaker 2: Apparently.

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Speaker 1: He also got a text from his sister and asked

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Speaker 1: nothing against her. Should mother in law try to spin

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Speaker 1: it that way. She knows mother in law better, thankfully.

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Speaker 1: Jake would also like to tell those who are telling

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Speaker 1: me I should take his name, but he disagrees, and

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Speaker 1: he's not about the sexism you're spewing. Jake sounds great,

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Speaker 1: j Jake great. From day one, has been like Mom.

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Speaker 2: You're here. I'm not putting up with it. Man, I'm

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Speaker 2: not here with it.

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Speaker 1: This is my my child, and I'm naming her after

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Speaker 3: She wants to keep her last name. Boom, I get

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Speaker 3: to decide, my wife. Lets me name our our baby

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Speaker 3: given it, give her name to honor her. Uh Dad, Dad,

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Speaker 3: Dad sound off?

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Speaker 2: Sound off? Sound off? Put some Jake's in the chat.

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Speaker 1: Jack Jake, though he does now want to send mother

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Speaker 2: The Miller's hilarious. Oh oh my god.

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Speaker 1: It would be so good if he then changed his name.

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Speaker 1: I think that's the only thing that could make Jake

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Speaker 1: like even more of a w dude, a king a meme,

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Speaker 1: just for the meme. Change your last name.

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Speaker 2: Where the Millers, Yeah, dude, where the law is perfect? Amazing.

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Speaker 1: Edit to you guys, are being great. I woke up

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Speaker 1: too many more responses than I anticipated. Just to clarify,

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Speaker 1: my son will not be calling mother in law miss

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Speaker 1: a Smith. They barely have a relationship as he's still

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Speaker 1: a baby and mother in law makes no effort. After

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Speaker 1: if he thinks that's possible, and there are some relevant

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Speaker 1: comments and did updates. Oh but what are your thoughts here?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so what should they do? I think they need

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Speaker 3: to have a sit down with the mother in law

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Speaker 3: and be like, here's.

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Speaker 2: Where you disrespect. I know it's kind of been touched upon, but.

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Speaker 3: Like, is where you really disrespected me and and us?

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Speaker 3: Because ultimately it was the son's decision to like Opiopy

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Speaker 3: literally said this is on. You gave Jake the power, Like, hey,

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Speaker 3: whatever you want to do, I'm on board with you

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Speaker 3: pick and he was the one that picked Op's last

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Speaker 3: both of them, but mostly OPI like calling her Jake's

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Speaker 3: friend insanity. Yeah, like they've chosen each other's life partner.

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Speaker 1: Over literally just her keeping her last name.

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Speaker 3: So I think you lay it out and be like

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Speaker 3: you you.

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Speaker 1: Know, or you're consistent disrespect Yeah, gone too far.

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Speaker 3: We can be cordial, but if you want to have

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Speaker 3: like a real, like actual relationship beyond just like being

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Speaker 3: cordial at family functions or whatever, we need to see

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Speaker 3: you put in the effort to show with your actions

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Speaker 3: that you're sorry, not just here are yeah.

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Speaker 1: Their marriage to recognize them as you know, a family unit. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and not just her the friend.

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Speaker 3: Totally, Like I want to see your at like like

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Speaker 3: if she if she now is like lending a helping

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Speaker 3: hand obviously stopping this like Jake's friend bs and all this,

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Speaker 3: it's like, okay, you know what, she's come around and

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Speaker 3: obviously you know you want to have a great grandmother

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Speaker 3: for your baby and like all all that stuff. Have

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Speaker 3: a good relationship with your partner's mom if she does

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Speaker 3: all the actions to prove she's turned round, Okay, yes,

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Speaker 3: but I need to see it.

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Speaker 2: Agreed. Agreed.

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Speaker 1: Let's get into these relevant comments, see what they're thinking.

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Speaker 2: Let's get after it deleted.

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Speaker 1: Says, Oh, can I just say your marriage sounds great.

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Speaker 1: The way you wanted the baby's last name to be

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Speaker 1: his choice and he chose.

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Speaker 2: Yours doesn't get better.

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Speaker 1: There's so much love and respect here. And I like

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Speaker 1: how he stands by your side in his mother's nonsense.

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Speaker 1: You're both awesome, not the able and oh, he says,

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Speaker 1: I just assume our son would have his he brought

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Speaker 1: on it, which makes me laugh. I still let it

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Speaker 1: be his choice because regardless of his name, I'm going

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Speaker 2: Seems fair, adorable. I am a very lucky woman.

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Speaker 1: But it should be noted he wears his gross shoes

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Speaker 1: through the house, so not perfect. But he says I

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Speaker 1: sleep like an MMA fighter, So I suppose Forrett even

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Speaker 1: is she just kicking him?

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, what did you think that? I

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Speaker 2: was thinking, like snoring, right, that's what I thought that.

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Speaker 1: I was like, that doesn't make sense for an MMA fighter.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, my girlfriend will randomly.

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Speaker 3: She doesn't do this anymore, but she used to like

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Speaker 3: ask me questions in her like basically like sleep sleep talking. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: instead of sleepwalking.

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Speaker 2: He'd be like, sleep into you. We need to reset

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Speaker 3: And then I'd be like really like getting all worked up,

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Speaker 2: She literally don't have a printer.

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Speaker 3: We were, uh, yesterday night, we were watching Bridgerton and

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Speaker 2: She was headed in my lap and I was talking

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Speaker 1: And then Opie response to that, mother in law divorced

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Speaker 2: But the verdict was not the a hole.

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Speaker 3: Which I agree with, I wholeheartedly, willheartedly agree with all

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Speaker 1: All of my heart says, not the ahle, it's written

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's you know what it is, it's the it's

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Speaker 1: Maybe it's doing real surgeries now.

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Speaker 2: You know, hopefully. Yeah, maybe that was just training.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, stop stop cutting grape. Stop God, there's real people.

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Speaker 3: Why are you helping me?

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Speaker 1: It's like the beginning part of the neuralink thing because

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Speaker 3: Let's throw the grapes in the trash and let's start

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Speaker 3: helping real humans. That's what I say, Yes, John, But

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Speaker 2: What do we have? Next time? Give to this update.

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Speaker 2: Let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Oh dear, what what?

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Speaker 1: This brought him a good chuckle before the serious talk.

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Speaker 1: We both also want to be very clear that taking

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Speaker 1: I also do want to say I know how great

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Speaker 3: They literally just keep getting cutter. There's okay, they keep

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Speaker 1: Because it's his mom. I let him decide how to

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Speaker 1: blatant favoritism. That conversation did not go ill. She denied

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Speaker 1: She's like, if I have to accept that you have

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Speaker 2: One of these things is not like the other.

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Speaker 1: I didn't respond before Jake ripped into her about how

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Speaker 1: that this conversation was happening because we didn't accept who

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Speaker 3: Oh, you'd take one, he'd take the last name. Oh

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Speaker 3: my god, he would change his names.

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Speaker 2: Threat. Dude, that what a threat? Kill her?

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Speaker 1: Threat?

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Speaker 1: Oh, she started crying about losing her family, and he

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Speaker 1: I wonder if your dead brother would be happy you

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Speaker 2: Are you kidding me?

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Speaker 1: How did Jake become such a like a lovely person

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Speaker 3: Whole family line is poison poisoned, poisoned with awfulness, awful?

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Speaker 2: Like who says that? Who says that?

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Speaker 1: Even the mother in law didn't bring I mean, the

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Speaker 1: closest she got to bring it up was, oh, well,

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Speaker 3: There's like there's like very disrespectful and very rude, and

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Speaker 3: then there's like saying something inexcusable.

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Speaker 1: Truly, Yeah, yeah, no, this is just like that is

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Speaker 1: completely inexcusable. How like, how could you think that the's okay,

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Speaker 2: But oh, pe has a little clapback.

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Speaker 1: I sent the screenshots to mother in law and said,

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Speaker 2: Pork poro, pork port that's right.

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Speaker 1: Don't mess with the millers. Don't do it because they bite.

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Speaker 2: Or we'll release the hounds. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I have sent a screenshot of that to anyone who

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Speaker 2: To the mother in law with that comment? I think

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Speaker 2: the screenshot to the mother in law, Like.

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Speaker 1: I hope, I hope it's that double screenshot that she said.

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Speaker 1: That's perfect cause you get you get what they've said,

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Speaker 1: and then you also get Ope.

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Speaker 2: We need the clarification, Yeah, we need it.

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Speaker 1: Oh, if they tried to defend mother in law or

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Speaker 1: sister in law, I blocked them. Word got around quickly

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Speaker 1: cut out of father in law's side at the family.

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Speaker 1: Even father in law had come down on her hard.

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Speaker 1: Sister in law is desperately trying to apologize and fix this.

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Speaker 1: She even allowed Jake to read everything mother in law

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Speaker 2: I tried to.

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Speaker 1: Read some of it but stopped. I don't want to

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Speaker 2: Wait, so let me get this straight.

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Speaker 3: So the sister in law was like evil and said

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Speaker 3: the thing about the dead brother, right, and then she's like, oh,

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Speaker 3: but look about look at what mom said. Like Mom

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Speaker 3: That's like, you're not taking responsibility. You're just trying to

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Speaker 1: You're just trying to freaking scapegoat, and it's not gonna work.

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Speaker 1: Everyone recognizes you for the dog.

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Speaker 2: I hate it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, No, this family sucks. I hope they run away

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Speaker 1: and he changes his name.

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Speaker 2: Just give me too. Me freaking here.

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Speaker 1: I am happy to be done with mother in law.

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Speaker 1: She never really bothered me. It does take a lot

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Speaker 2: That is That's it. She never really bothered you. After

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Speaker 1: Impressive. It does take a lot to get to me.

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Speaker 1: But I don't want her behavior and attitudes to be

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Speaker 1: my son my last.

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Speaker 2: Name or my dad.

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Speaker 1: Okay, because before they said it was it wasn't intentional,

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Speaker 2: My dad actually did the same thing.

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Speaker 3: He named me completely after my mom's dad because he

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Speaker 1: That's that's lovely, pretty durable, right, that's really really cute.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so your your grandpa's name.

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Speaker 3: I have my maternal grandfather's full name, and they just

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Speaker 3: So my grand my grandfather, my maternal grandfather, was John

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Speaker 2: Oh, okay, word, I love that. A word.

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Speaker 1: Years ago, my dad asked if Jake was gonna propose

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Speaker 1: to me. Jake said, if my dad wanted to know,

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Speaker 1: he would give him a heads up, but he wouldn't

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Speaker 1: ask for his blessing or permission.

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Speaker 2: In many more.

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Speaker 1: Words, Dad said he had never had any expectations of that.

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Speaker 1: He didn't worry about gender roles, that he was glad

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Speaker 1: He just wanted to do that or my dad. Sincerely,

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Speaker 1: thank you all. Edit. Hey, everyone, I didn't expect to

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Speaker 1: wake up to this amount of messages. Mother in law

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Speaker 1: took father in law's name. They're divorced. They have two

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Speaker 1: sister in law's husband's name. Sister in law also took

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Speaker 1: who sent the text. So we're just getting clarification.

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Speaker 3: We need a whiteboard is on the way, guys, We're

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to apologize for how I spoke to

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Speaker 1: my brother like that. There is text proof that mother

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Speaker 2: They were in on it.

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Speaker 1: They were both in on it, the mother in law

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Speaker 1: and sister in law.

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Speaker 2: Not surprised at all. In the slightest sister in.

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Speaker 1: Law showed Jake, I have no intentions on seeking therapy

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Speaker 1: most that can be asked of me in this upset

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Speaker 1: I always intended for them to get Jake's last name.

445
00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:08,200
Speaker 2: Jake knows and is cool with it.

446
00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:10,960
Speaker 1: Jake is willing to be called by my last name,

447
00:22:11,119 --> 00:22:14,119
Speaker 1: but I doubt he'll actually change it. Neither of us

448
00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:17,400
Speaker 1: are willing to do paperwork out of spite either. Yes,

449
00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:21,320
Speaker 1: I still cry remembering my dad cry about this. I

450
00:22:21,359 --> 00:22:24,919
Speaker 1: always assume did this for this reason. He really is

451
00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:31,040
Speaker 1: a great man. And there are some comments to finish

452
00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:34,720
Speaker 1: the story off s Margo says, you've got yourself a

453
00:22:34,760 --> 00:22:36,760
Speaker 1: great husband. Not a lot of people could stand their

454
00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:38,560
Speaker 1: ground like he did. Good luck to both of you

455
00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:41,600
Speaker 1: and your little son. Opie says he's always been able

456
00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:43,760
Speaker 1: to stand up for himself. I won't say it didn't

457
00:22:43,760 --> 00:22:47,080
Speaker 1: get to him especially what his sister did, but he

458
00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:49,639
Speaker 1: just runs it out. He may also make himself a

459
00:22:49,680 --> 00:22:53,240
Speaker 1: World's Best Husband t shirt if he sees more compliments.

460
00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:54,760
Speaker 2: But he does deserve it.

461
00:22:55,840 --> 00:22:59,159
Speaker 1: And Rafster says would he consider changing his name to

462
00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:01,560
Speaker 1: Miller or that just pour more gas on the fire,

463
00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:05,080
Speaker 1: and Opie says, yes, he would, but he tries not

464
00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:07,920
Speaker 1: to let Anger make his decisions. I also don't think

465
00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:11,040
Speaker 1: he would because of the paperwork required, and he does

466
00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:14,240
Speaker 1: everything he can to avoid it, including bribe me to

467
00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:18,600
Speaker 1: do it. And fan Pal says that line call your

468
00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:20,679
Speaker 1: dog off or I'll take her to the pound, so

469
00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:23,080
Speaker 1: bloody good, and Opie.

470
00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:24,400
Speaker 2: Says, I didn't mean it violently.

471
00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:27,159
Speaker 1: Either just keep your yapping dog in your yard, or

472
00:23:27,200 --> 00:23:29,879
Speaker 1: I'll make it someone else's problem. Sister in law is

473
00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:33,000
Speaker 1: still yapping, just more whiny now. I don't think she

474
00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:35,400
Speaker 1: realized her family would draw a line in the sand.

475
00:23:35,960 --> 00:23:39,359
Speaker 1: The majority aren't necessarily taking her side, but it's clear

476
00:23:39,400 --> 00:23:43,040
Speaker 1: they're staying out of it because defending her isn't really

477
00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:48,359
Speaker 1: an option. And that is where that story ends, and

478
00:23:48,400 --> 00:23:50,280
Speaker 1: it seems pretty pretty positive.

479
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:54,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I think ends well. Jake is literally

480
00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:57,720
Speaker 3: w husband, father in law is w father in law.

481
00:23:58,840 --> 00:24:01,119
Speaker 2: We love to see it. What was the question for

482
00:24:01,160 --> 00:24:01,879
Speaker 2: this episode?

483
00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:06,120
Speaker 1: The question for this episode is when is it? Yeah,

484
00:24:06,119 --> 00:24:07,960
Speaker 1: when is it worth it to stand up for yourself?

485
00:24:08,680 --> 00:24:10,000
Speaker 1: And I think it was worth it now.

486
00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:14,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean yeah, it's hard to imagine a scenario

487
00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:16,440
Speaker 3: not I guess there's a few scenarios where it's like

488
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:18,399
Speaker 3: maybe someone you don't interact with much, and it's like

489
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:21,119
Speaker 3: maybe it's not even worth it. But like I feel

490
00:24:21,119 --> 00:24:23,919
Speaker 3: like almost every scenario, yeah, think of one.

491
00:24:24,280 --> 00:24:26,960
Speaker 1: Well, I think maybe in this scenario it could have

492
00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:29,960
Speaker 1: gone or she could have been thinking, oh, well, it's

493
00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:30,399
Speaker 1: this family.

494
00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:32,840
Speaker 2: I don't want to rock the boat, right right.

495
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:35,480
Speaker 1: But I think I think it worked out very well

496
00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:36,120
Speaker 1: for everybody.

497
00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:37,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, or for them at least.

498
00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:41,240
Speaker 1: To get these this horrible family offer.

499
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:46,399
Speaker 3: Baty, the mother in lawsys and the laws sucked, sucked, sucked.

500
00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:49,440
Speaker 2: I hate them more than grapes. You hate grapes, I

501
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:53,560
Speaker 2: do why because the robots are only performing surgery on them.

502
00:24:53,600 --> 00:24:57,560
Speaker 2: They're getting all the surgery. It's prejudice. We talked about it, yeah, right,

503
00:24:57,640 --> 00:24:59,720
Speaker 2: right right, I see I hate the grapes. I thought

504
00:24:59,720 --> 00:25:01,720
Speaker 2: you like hate grapes. It is like a fruit.

505
00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:03,879
Speaker 3: Oh, I love Actually I love eating them. Which is

506
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:06,000
Speaker 3: which is you just hate scoring them?

507
00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:06,520
Speaker 2: Yeah?

508
00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:08,359
Speaker 3: I just hate that they're getting all of the surgery

509
00:25:08,359 --> 00:25:11,400
Speaker 3: that we should get. Yeah, come on, you love healthcare.

510
00:25:11,520 --> 00:25:15,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's freaking go. Anyways, seems like a rap on

511
00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:18,320
Speaker 2: That seems like a rap on that story. But Sophia,

512
00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:20,439
Speaker 2: that's not a rap on the episode? What are you talk?

513
00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:23,280
Speaker 2: How dare you try to end? This episode? Is over?

514
00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:25,200
Speaker 2: This episode is over? Are you kidding me?

515
00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:27,040
Speaker 1: No?

516
00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:31,359
Speaker 2: No, no, but don't don't. Don't use that you mean

517
00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:31,720
Speaker 2: to end it?

518
00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 3: No, no, you mean no, No, just kidding because we

519
00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:46,560
Speaker 3: have another story? Am I the a hole for struggling

520
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:51,840
Speaker 3: to forgive my husband for getting petty revenge? Don't forgive them.

521
00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:55,680
Speaker 2: Don't forgive them be petty, be petty er. And this

522
00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:57,560
Speaker 2: is the answer the question when is it worth it

523
00:25:57,600 --> 00:25:58,520
Speaker 2: to stand up for yourself?

524
00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:01,120
Speaker 3: The story comes from throw away address Size, who says

525
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:04,399
Speaker 3: husband thirty four male and I thirty two female, have

526
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,040
Speaker 3: been married for six years. Two months ago, I stopped

527
00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:09,280
Speaker 3: him from going on a bachelor's trip with his long

528
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:13,280
Speaker 3: term school friends. I was okay and was kind of

529
00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:16,960
Speaker 3: looking forward to him having fun until I learned the

530
00:26:17,080 --> 00:26:19,680
Speaker 3: fact that he would be doing a lot of adult

531
00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:24,280
Speaker 3: themed activities, think strippers and happy ending massages.

532
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:27,040
Speaker 2: No, she doesn't want him to have an happy ending, Sofia,

533
00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:27,480
Speaker 2: why not?

534
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:27,960
Speaker 3: You know what?

535
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 1: I didn't know what that was for the longest time,

536
00:26:30,280 --> 00:26:32,800
Speaker 1: and I learned about it from Shit's Creek.

537
00:26:33,520 --> 00:26:36,720
Speaker 2: Sofia, you are too innocent? You are you are? You

538
00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:40,360
Speaker 2: are ab a a wee babe that just sees all

539
00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:43,359
Speaker 2: of the goodness. You're like, happy ending, Happy endings are great.

540
00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:45,680
Speaker 2: I last fairy tales and stories.

541
00:26:45,920 --> 00:26:48,600
Speaker 1: I remember watching the Shit's Creek scene where they're like,

542
00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:50,760
Speaker 1: do you know the scene that I refined?

543
00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:51,040
Speaker 2: No?

544
00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:53,920
Speaker 1: No, no, So the two characters are getting married and

545
00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:57,720
Speaker 1: one of them buys him like a massage. Yeah, and

546
00:26:57,840 --> 00:26:59,280
Speaker 1: he comes back and he's like, I've never had a

547
00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:01,320
Speaker 1: happy ending for thank you so much. And he's like

548
00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:03,720
Speaker 1: like what what are you talking about? I didn't pay

549
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:08,280
Speaker 1: for that, And I was like, what what's the big deal?

550
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:13,040
Speaker 3: Because they got all the knots out that was the

551
00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:17,639
Speaker 3: happy ending, right story results Yeah, oh sweet sweet, and

552
00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 3: this is Sophia. Well they had all of that as

553
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:23,240
Speaker 3: part of their itenerary. Happy ending massages included.

554
00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:25,600
Speaker 2: That's crazy, that's crazy.

555
00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:29,160
Speaker 3: It sadly happens many many times. We've talked about it before.

556
00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:30,680
Speaker 3: It's like, why is that normal for it?

557
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:31,439
Speaker 2: I don't understand.

558
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:33,879
Speaker 1: I don't understand why it's normal, And also why you

559
00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 1: wouldn't tell your like, ask your partner.

560
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:37,520
Speaker 2: That's the thing. Well, you didn't even want to do it.

561
00:27:38,280 --> 00:27:40,879
Speaker 2: Why would you want to do that? Well, Sophia, it

562
00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:41,800
Speaker 2: caused a huge fight.

563
00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:45,440
Speaker 3: I wonder why, as we've always maintained that this is

564
00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:47,720
Speaker 3: a deal breaker for me, and the fact that he

565
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:51,000
Speaker 3: hid it from me made it worse. He argued that

566
00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:54,480
Speaker 3: he only did it because of my tendency to overreact.

567
00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:56,359
Speaker 3: I'm going to this man, Babe, you're.

568
00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:58,240
Speaker 2: Always over reacting, Babe. Just just chill.

569
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:04,680
Speaker 3: And of course he wouldn't engage in those activities, but

570
00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:06,760
Speaker 3: that didn't mean he couldn't go.

571
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:10,160
Speaker 2: I don't know, he wouldn't engage other thevities. So he's

572
00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:12,040
Speaker 2: basically saying like, I'm not gonna.

573
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:14,320
Speaker 1: Do the actual I'm gonna participate, but I want to, but.

574
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 2: I want to go my boys, the friends. But the

575
00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:20,480
Speaker 2: thing is that what else are you going to be doing?

576
00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:23,000
Speaker 1: If that's the whole weekend, You're just gonna be sitting

577
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:26,640
Speaker 1: back in your hotel room. It seems like this whole

578
00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:31,760
Speaker 1: friend group is that's their vibe, very very naughty vibes.

579
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:37,720
Speaker 1: And if you continue to you know, uh, what's the word,

580
00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:39,520
Speaker 1: like say you're okay.

581
00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 2: Enable it, then it's going to keep happening.

582
00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:44,920
Speaker 3: If you have a real friend, you should be able

583
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 3: to sit down and be like, look, I'm not comfortable

584
00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:50,200
Speaker 3: with whatever you want to do. But like me and

585
00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:51,880
Speaker 3: my this is what me and my wife have, This

586
00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:55,560
Speaker 3: is our relationship. Like, here's here's a quick question before

587
00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:58,000
Speaker 3: real quick, before we get back into it. Can he

588
00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 3: ask him to not do that on this trip?

589
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:02,880
Speaker 2: What do you mean?

590
00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:03,280
Speaker 1: So?

591
00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:06,200
Speaker 3: So put yourself in Opie's husband's juice. So it's like,

592
00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:09,160
Speaker 3: all right, all my friends are doing this bachelor trip.

593
00:29:09,200 --> 00:29:11,040
Speaker 3: I want to obviously, you know, celebrate with my friend

594
00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:11,680
Speaker 3: before it gets married.

595
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 1: Da da.

596
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:15,160
Speaker 3: But they're like, hey, we're doing these happy ening massages

597
00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:18,240
Speaker 3: and getting all these strippers. You sit down and you're like, hey,

598
00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:21,840
Speaker 3: I can't do that. I think, yeah, can you? Can

599
00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 3: you ask him to not do it on his own

600
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:25,480
Speaker 3: bachelor trip? Is what I'm what I'm asking.

601
00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:29,440
Speaker 1: I think you could say, hey, I am not comfortable

602
00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:31,600
Speaker 1: my wife and I aren't comfortable with the activities that

603
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 1: you guys are going to do.

604
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:35,000
Speaker 2: I would still like to be there.

605
00:29:36,080 --> 00:29:38,480
Speaker 1: Is there any way we could, you know, do something

606
00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 1: like have a day at least if you still want

607
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:43,360
Speaker 1: to do that, okay, but if we could have a

608
00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:45,560
Speaker 1: day or something where we can.

609
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 2: Do any activity that is not erect.

610
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:50,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, a different activity that is a little bit

611
00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:51,560
Speaker 1: more appropriate.

612
00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:53,800
Speaker 2: Yeah. So it's like, hey, look, you do you do

613
00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:56,080
Speaker 2: what you want, but like, I'm not going to be

614
00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:59,120
Speaker 2: participating in this and if you want me there, these

615
00:29:59,160 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 2: are the terms.

616
00:29:59,800 --> 00:30:02,200
Speaker 3: But also if you had a conversation like that, it's

617
00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:05,120
Speaker 3: maybe not implicit, but that kind of assumes that you

618
00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:09,960
Speaker 3: would have told your your partner yet that he uh's

619
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 3: husband hid it from her.

620
00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:14,840
Speaker 1: No, he's making all of the incorrect decisions. He one

621
00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:18,000
Speaker 1: hit it from her, then told her that she was overreacting.

622
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:24,160
Speaker 2: Ah, no, that she always over she always reacts. He sucks,

623
00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:29,120
Speaker 2: he sucks. He This man is not a jake. My cadulli, Oh,

624
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:31,640
Speaker 2: this is this is This is not a jake. Can

625
00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:35,760
Speaker 2: tell you that for free, this is zero three ninety nine.

626
00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:38,120
Speaker 2: This guy is no ja. He's no jake.

627
00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:42,600
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, Pamela Roja says, wouldn't marry any of

628
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 1: those guys?

629
00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 2: You very true?

630
00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, everyone on this on this Bachelor trip is disco unmarriable, unmarriable.

631
00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 1: Man oh man, No, this is I don't know. I

632
00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:58,640
Speaker 1: think it's right now based off well we know about

633
00:30:58,640 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 1: this guy. I do not trust him saying, oh, I'm

634
00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:01,800
Speaker 1: not going to.

635
00:31:01,840 --> 00:31:04,240
Speaker 3: Participate in that, because that's the thing, like he probably

636
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:06,320
Speaker 3: was like, let me not tell her so he could

637
00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:08,880
Speaker 3: participate in it and it would have been a secret

638
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:09,800
Speaker 3: the whole time.

639
00:31:09,960 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 2: But now she knows. Now she knows, and he's just

640
00:31:12,080 --> 00:31:13,800
Speaker 2: trying to be like, oh, I wasn't going to participate,

641
00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:14,200
Speaker 2: but you know.

642
00:31:14,240 --> 00:31:20,960
Speaker 3: You just you just always over reacts, baby, Yeah, you

643
00:31:21,040 --> 00:31:23,640
Speaker 3: know that that boundary that you said I could never cross.

644
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:24,560
Speaker 2: I just just don't.

645
00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:27,560
Speaker 1: She just put my toe over the line, don't worry.

646
00:31:28,480 --> 00:31:36,240
Speaker 1: Just one little toe, okay, just a little toe free

647
00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:41,160
Speaker 1: contact like that. It's okay, it's locked up, socked locked up.

648
00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:49,520
Speaker 1: What I'm not going to show my feet, but I am.

649
00:31:49,600 --> 00:31:50,520
Speaker 1: I'm wearing socks.

650
00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:57,360
Speaker 2: Don't they're so dirty? They covered it dust because I ran?

651
00:31:59,240 --> 00:32:00,840
Speaker 2: Why did you show them on camera?

652
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 1: Editor?

653
00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:06,840
Speaker 2: Please edit that out or keep it, keep it.

654
00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:12,680
Speaker 1: Sarah Shock says, maybe the friends fiance is okay with

655
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:15,280
Speaker 1: it though, so it wouldn't be cheating there. Yeah, there's

656
00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:19,400
Speaker 1: a chance for the fiance and his wife are having

657
00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:23,080
Speaker 1: going on. But regardless of that, this is about O P.

658
00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:28,320
Speaker 1: This is about yeah, this is their relationship, which exactly, And.

659
00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:31,000
Speaker 3: Someone said, uh, would Jake have done it? And then

660
00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:33,120
Speaker 3: so I was like, yeah, that adds a whole new meeting.

661
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:36,000
Speaker 3: Got what would Jake do?

662
00:32:36,320 --> 00:32:38,840
Speaker 2: What would Jake do? Put it on? Put it on

663
00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:40,160
Speaker 2: a bracelet?

664
00:32:40,280 --> 00:32:42,400
Speaker 1: They got lots of bracelets of that already out, so

665
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:44,719
Speaker 1: you can just you can just get it right now.

666
00:32:45,480 --> 00:32:48,200
Speaker 2: And then everyone's like, oh my god, that's that's what

667
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 2: would you say? No, Jake, Jake, my boy, Jake, my boy. Okay,

668
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:58,440
Speaker 2: step aside, Jesus, there's a new marriage like taking your name,

669
00:33:00,480 --> 00:33:02,720
Speaker 2: but there's more as a story.

670
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:06,840
Speaker 3: So I would have been fine with him going okay

671
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:10,280
Speaker 3: if he told me about the itinerary, and I would

672
00:33:10,280 --> 00:33:12,440
Speaker 3: have trusted the fact that he would keep away. So

673
00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 3: if he came forth with it, if he came forth

674
00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:18,840
Speaker 3: with it and was honest, she would have believed that

675
00:33:18,960 --> 00:33:21,120
Speaker 3: he would have stayed away because he was honest about well,

676
00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:22,440
Speaker 3: if he had come to her.

677
00:33:22,360 --> 00:33:24,760
Speaker 1: And said, hey, this is what's happening. I'm not going

678
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:26,640
Speaker 1: to be participating, but I want to go to support

679
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:31,120
Speaker 1: my friend. Totally different than him going not telling her

680
00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:37,760
Speaker 1: and then saying you're overreacting. I'll react this Jesus, I.

681
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:40,680
Speaker 2: Would have been no word, just sounds.

682
00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:44,920
Speaker 3: What he did broke my trust, and the only way

683
00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 3: I could see him earning it back is if he

684
00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:52,280
Speaker 3: voluntarily told his friends that he couldn't come, which he did.

685
00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:57,320
Speaker 1: WHOA, Okay, I still don't trust him away.

686
00:33:57,920 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 2: At the time, he looked really apology and we made up.

687
00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:04,320
Speaker 2: He took me to go shopping and all was good.

688
00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:07,440
Speaker 3: I bought some fashionable outfits and was looking to wear

689
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:10,200
Speaker 3: them ahead of the summer. Where we live, it's still

690
00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:12,719
Speaker 3: a little cold, and I didn't get to immediately dress

691
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:14,960
Speaker 3: up in the clothes that I bought. Also, most of

692
00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:17,360
Speaker 3: my summer clothes had shrunk in the washer, so I

693
00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 3: practically only had oversized casuals and these clothes.

694
00:34:21,160 --> 00:34:23,120
Speaker 2: That I had just bought. How are you washing your

695
00:34:23,160 --> 00:34:25,440
Speaker 2: clothes A thousand new rewatered?

696
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:28,920
Speaker 3: Be more careful a thousand no, a thousand degrees or

697
00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:32,720
Speaker 3: not that A few weeks later, it started to get warmer,

698
00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:35,680
Speaker 3: and as I slip into my new dress, it feels tight.

699
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:39,359
Speaker 3: I'm confused. I just tried them on in the store

700
00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:42,880
Speaker 3: in imsize fourteen, as the label on the dress said. So, no,

701
00:34:43,400 --> 00:34:44,960
Speaker 3: I didn't get the wrong size in the store.

702
00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:46,000
Speaker 2: Did he?

703
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:49,920
Speaker 1: Did the husband shrink those dresses too? I sei used

704
00:34:49,920 --> 00:34:53,400
Speaker 1: in the My first thought was cheating, but then my

705
00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:57,040
Speaker 1: second thought was she would recognize the dresses, So did

706
00:34:57,080 --> 00:34:57,640
Speaker 1: you shrink them?

707
00:34:58,000 --> 00:35:01,319
Speaker 3: I'm very because she's like, I RECOGNI these dresses. It's

708
00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:04,480
Speaker 3: the same size, that is my right size. Yet it's small.

709
00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:06,359
Speaker 3: But I haven't worn or washed it yet.

710
00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:10,160
Speaker 2: I'm confused. I think I see an I see you. Guys,

711
00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:11,960
Speaker 2: I see you. I don't see you.

712
00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:14,880
Speaker 3: I think I see you. I think I see you. Actually,

713
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:16,680
Speaker 3: let me let me text it to Riley because they

714
00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:18,840
Speaker 3: don't want to just spoil it with everyone.

715
00:35:19,239 --> 00:35:23,040
Speaker 2: But I want to have it right now. No, No,

716
00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:26,719
Speaker 2: we're gonna get We're gonna get confirmed to do this

717
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:27,480
Speaker 2: on on.

718
00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:31,560
Speaker 1: My D and D podcast, where sometimes there's like a

719
00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:35,120
Speaker 1: hit point that they're trying to reach and the d

720
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 1: M Brendan Lee Mulligan write down the amount just so

721
00:35:40,320 --> 00:35:41,160
Speaker 1: everyone knows that.

722
00:35:41,280 --> 00:35:44,000
Speaker 2: You know that is true? Riley, did you get my message?

723
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:47,879
Speaker 2: Do you see it? You see what I'm saying? See

724
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 2: what I'm saying. Find out if John I don't see it.

725
00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:52,520
Speaker 2: Sophia doesn't even know. I don't even know. She's just

726
00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:55,800
Speaker 2: completely close. It is good. Has with the world, not

727
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:56,880
Speaker 2: a single clue.

728
00:35:57,640 --> 00:36:03,360
Speaker 3: So then another dress was tight, same with the pants

729
00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:06,880
Speaker 3: and other tops. I see it, I don't see it.

730
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 3: I start feeling absolutely crazy. Had I just put on

731
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:13,200
Speaker 3: so much weight in a matter of a few weeks

732
00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:16,400
Speaker 3: that my new dresses didn't even fit. I've always been

733
00:36:16,440 --> 00:36:19,160
Speaker 3: a bit sensitive about my body looks, and I remember

734
00:36:19,239 --> 00:36:21,560
Speaker 3: telling my husband how excited I was about these new

735
00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:25,920
Speaker 3: clothes that looked so flattering on me, and now they look.

736
00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:29,239
Speaker 2: So hideous on me. I started crying on the floor. Ooh,

737
00:36:29,760 --> 00:36:33,080
Speaker 2: I think I might see you. I was too embarrassed

738
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:35,279
Speaker 2: to tell my husband this. I thought he must have

739
00:36:35,480 --> 00:36:38,279
Speaker 2: noticed if I had put on weight. I was a wreck.

740
00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:41,239
Speaker 3: I was feeling crazy for a few weeks. Now, even

741
00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:44,080
Speaker 3: the clothes that I had on before felt tighter. I

742
00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:47,320
Speaker 3: didn't know if it was placebo or reality, but it

743
00:36:47,400 --> 00:36:50,319
Speaker 3: didn't help my husband. A few days ago during dinner,

744
00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:54,719
Speaker 3: said he wanted to confess something. I think the U

745
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:59,920
Speaker 3: we've seen is about to be revealed. He was snickering

746
00:37:00,239 --> 00:37:03,719
Speaker 3: while saying this, and what he said absolutely crushed me.

747
00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:06,239
Speaker 3: He said this while I was gone to see my

748
00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:08,439
Speaker 3: sister who had just had a baby for a week.

749
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:12,120
Speaker 3: He had secretly taken all of my outfits that he

750
00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:16,120
Speaker 3: knows I routinely wear and gave them to a local

751
00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:20,360
Speaker 3: tailor to make them a size or two smaller.

752
00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:21,520
Speaker 1: I did not see that.

753
00:37:21,640 --> 00:37:25,640
Speaker 2: You, to be fair, I also didn't see that. You

754
00:37:25,680 --> 00:37:27,879
Speaker 2: didn't see the mine was. I'll read the text for beati.

755
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:30,839
Speaker 3: He gave the clothes for another girl to wear a cheater,

756
00:37:31,120 --> 00:37:33,800
Speaker 3: so basically like he was cheating with a girl and

757
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:36,000
Speaker 3: to be like because he's like I thought, he was like,

758
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:39,840
Speaker 3: actually so evil. He started taking all of Opie's clothes,

759
00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:42,000
Speaker 3: giving it to his a fair partner to wear, and

760
00:37:42,160 --> 00:37:44,719
Speaker 3: then washing them, not realizing it.

761
00:37:44,840 --> 00:37:48,520
Speaker 2: Was too small. But that's a very in depth flint.

762
00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:53,759
Speaker 3: I was like, if this is right, it's gonna be specific. Yeah,

763
00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:55,000
Speaker 3: it would have been all time, but.

764
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:59,160
Speaker 2: Now I did not. I thought pregnant maybe, Oh yeah,

765
00:37:59,239 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 2: that's a good one. That's a good one. I did

766
00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:03,080
Speaker 2: not see this. You well, we didn't see it, but

767
00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:05,759
Speaker 2: I digress. We know it now, so let's keep going.

768
00:38:06,320 --> 00:38:06,800
Speaker 2: He said.

769
00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:12,160
Speaker 3: He paid him generously to stitch things faster and said, sorry,

770
00:38:12,360 --> 00:38:15,560
Speaker 3: but it felt like a funny payback for what I

771
00:38:15,760 --> 00:38:17,600
Speaker 3: had done stopping.

772
00:38:17,280 --> 00:38:18,560
Speaker 2: Him from going on them.

773
00:38:19,160 --> 00:38:24,080
Speaker 3: Oh my god, he sucks buddy, buddy, old pal, except

774
00:38:24,120 --> 00:38:24,839
Speaker 3: you're not my pal.

775
00:38:25,080 --> 00:38:28,320
Speaker 2: This is really bad. We're up there. Hey, I just

776
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:31,840
Speaker 2: wanted to get you back after I betrayed your trust. Wow.

777
00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:35,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's like, I know, I know I did something wrong,

778
00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:38,840
Speaker 1: but actually you deserve to be punished for it.

779
00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:39,239
Speaker 2: Yeah.

780
00:38:39,320 --> 00:38:41,840
Speaker 3: You you punished me for doing something actually wrong. So

781
00:38:41,880 --> 00:38:43,880
Speaker 3: I'm just gonna punish you because I yeah, and.

782
00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 1: I'm actually going to wreck your self confidence and make

783
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:47,240
Speaker 1: you think.

784
00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:49,640
Speaker 2: That you're crazy. Yeah, it's gonna be great. It's gonna

785
00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:50,480
Speaker 2: be fine, baby.

786
00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:50,680
Speaker 1: It was.

787
00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:52,920
Speaker 2: It was a little prank, and to do that, I'm

788
00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:53,400
Speaker 2: going to go.

789
00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:56,800
Speaker 1: To the tailor and have them restitch all of your clothes,

790
00:38:57,640 --> 00:39:01,160
Speaker 1: like kind of psycho psychotic.

791
00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:05,840
Speaker 3: I said, that wasn't funny. He made me feel crazy.

792
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:09,320
Speaker 3: I was crying and screaming at that point. He severed

793
00:39:09,520 --> 00:39:13,719
Speaker 3: my sense of self and made me feel ugly. Eventually,

794
00:39:13,840 --> 00:39:15,840
Speaker 3: I tried to be okay, but I'm not.

795
00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:17,520
Speaker 2: I would not be I would break up with him

796
00:39:17,560 --> 00:39:19,920
Speaker 2: on the spot. No, this is crazy. You're done. I'm

797
00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 2: still reeling from what he did as a petty revenge.

798
00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:25,400
Speaker 3: It's been some time since he confessed and offered to

799
00:39:25,440 --> 00:39:27,479
Speaker 3: get them stitched back to their original size.

800
00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:28,400
Speaker 2: I mean offered.

801
00:39:29,400 --> 00:39:33,839
Speaker 1: He offered to get them stitched if any like one,

802
00:39:33,920 --> 00:39:36,040
Speaker 1: I would have dumped him for the first thing, and

803
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:38,560
Speaker 1: then I wouldn't dumped him here again. But the fact

804
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:42,799
Speaker 1: that he wasn't immediately going to get them fixed after

805
00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:45,839
Speaker 1: this prank was revealed, and he was like, oh, well,

806
00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:48,800
Speaker 1: woul do you want me to get them restitched? Obviously

807
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:50,280
Speaker 1: she wants you to get them restitched.

808
00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:53,640
Speaker 2: Those are her clothes, But Babe, I don't know if

809
00:39:53,840 --> 00:39:55,880
Speaker 2: you maybe, Babe, I don't know if you.

810
00:39:55,920 --> 00:39:58,960
Speaker 3: Want to have them as your goal clothes. He slimmed. A.

811
00:39:59,120 --> 00:40:01,600
Speaker 3: He's just he just he keeps digging his grade deeper.

812
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:04,239
Speaker 3: He's like, Babe, actually, like what if what if we

813
00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:07,279
Speaker 3: reframed this as a way for both of us.

814
00:40:07,600 --> 00:40:09,680
Speaker 1: He's like, I understand that you're mad, but I think

815
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:11,040
Speaker 1: that you're overreacting.

816
00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:15,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm back to over Let's go back to the overreactions. Baby.

817
00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:18,000
Speaker 2: This is exhibit A. Babe, I told you I just

818
00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:22,600
Speaker 2: restitched all of your clothes, but it was it was

819
00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:25,920
Speaker 2: for you, trying to help, trying to help, trying, and

820
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:27,560
Speaker 2: you're punishing me again.

821
00:40:28,440 --> 00:40:31,799
Speaker 3: Not to sound crazy, there was also a happy ending

822
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:33,840
Speaker 3: somewhere involved in the story, too, right.

823
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:38,480
Speaker 1: That didn't actually happen. Actually, so the Bachelor trip was

824
00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:41,600
Speaker 1: going to have happy endings. I don't know why they

825
00:40:41,640 --> 00:40:43,840
Speaker 1: specified that it was going to have happy endings, but

826
00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:45,000
Speaker 1: it's gonna have happy.

827
00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:45,759
Speaker 2: Endings and strippers.

828
00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:48,360
Speaker 1: And so op was like, I'm not comfortable with that,

829
00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:50,440
Speaker 1: and so he didn't go, And now he's punishing her

830
00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:51,320
Speaker 1: for not letting him go.

831
00:40:51,640 --> 00:40:54,800
Speaker 2: But he was the board, huh, I'm on board.

832
00:40:55,000 --> 00:40:57,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, and he was gonna go and not tell

833
00:40:57,120 --> 00:40:59,600
Speaker 3: her even though that's a specific boundary that she's like

834
00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:03,440
Speaker 3: laid out for them in the relationship. Yes, Opie says,

835
00:41:04,440 --> 00:41:07,120
Speaker 3: I'm struggling with what he just did. I want to

836
00:41:07,160 --> 00:41:11,560
Speaker 3: forgive him. Opie wants to forgive him, don't bring him

837
00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:14,839
Speaker 3: back in he wants to do. I never knew how

838
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:18,040
Speaker 3: resentful he was of me about that trip. Maybe it's

839
00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:23,719
Speaker 3: my fault. No, no, wrong, I should have been more trusting. No,

840
00:41:24,440 --> 00:41:27,879
Speaker 3: I knew he would never cheat. What in my heart

841
00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:31,320
Speaker 3: I knew he would keep away and from his POV.

842
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:34,840
Speaker 3: His petty revenge on me probably feels deserved.

843
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 2: Wrong, this is stop, this is bad.

844
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:40,719
Speaker 3: I would be mad too if he stopped me from

845
00:41:40,760 --> 00:41:43,880
Speaker 3: doing something I was looking forward to. But still, if

846
00:41:43,960 --> 00:41:48,359
Speaker 3: you were me, how would you feel? Has anyone had

847
00:41:48,400 --> 00:41:51,600
Speaker 3: their spouse do petty revenge on them?

848
00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:55,319
Speaker 2: Is that the end of the story? It is over?

849
00:41:55,719 --> 00:41:58,360
Speaker 2: That is I need comments? I need comments.

850
00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:01,839
Speaker 3: There no relevant comments, there's updates, there's nothing, there's no edits,

851
00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:02,279
Speaker 3: there's nothing.

852
00:42:02,320 --> 00:42:05,360
Speaker 1: I need someone to tell this girl that she's like,

853
00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:08,439
Speaker 1: she needs to get out of this relationship right now.

854
00:42:08,840 --> 00:42:11,240
Speaker 2: As Pamela Rojas says, row.

855
00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:18,640
Speaker 1: And don't look back your your tailored clothes, which someone

856
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:21,680
Speaker 1: said I which was a great point. Someone said to

857
00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:24,359
Speaker 1: make them smaller, they would have to cut fabric off.

858
00:42:24,440 --> 00:42:26,640
Speaker 1: So it's not like he can restitch these clothes anyway.

859
00:42:27,640 --> 00:42:29,839
Speaker 1: He has to buy her a whole new wardrobe. Yeah,

860
00:42:30,760 --> 00:42:33,960
Speaker 1: this is this is where did he even find this tailor?

861
00:42:34,880 --> 00:42:38,239
Speaker 3: The It's like, not only the fact that he thought

862
00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 3: of this like so weirdly specifically horrible thing. But the

863
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:45,560
Speaker 3: fact that he went through with that, he like paid

864
00:42:45,600 --> 00:42:50,320
Speaker 3: him extra to do it quickly. So he Opie, don't

865
00:42:50,680 --> 00:42:55,960
Speaker 3: don't go back to this man. No, he's just he's horrible.

866
00:42:56,080 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 3: He showed you in multiple instances true color.

867
00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:01,879
Speaker 1: No, he showed you the first time after the first

868
00:43:01,960 --> 00:43:04,600
Speaker 1: time of not telling you what he was going to

869
00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:05,200
Speaker 1: be doing at.

870
00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:08,759
Speaker 3: This bachelor party, and he wasn't. The big thing for

871
00:43:08,880 --> 00:43:11,160
Speaker 3: me was he wasn't like, you know what, you were

872
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:13,719
Speaker 3: totally right. I broke the trust. This is something you've

873
00:43:13,719 --> 00:43:16,480
Speaker 3: specifically relaid out as a boundary. I didn't respect that.

874
00:43:16,960 --> 00:43:20,480
Speaker 3: I I messed up, and I'm going to you know, uh,

875
00:43:21,480 --> 00:43:22,839
Speaker 3: do you want me to not go on this trip?

876
00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:25,719
Speaker 3: Like what would make what would be meaningful to you

877
00:43:25,880 --> 00:43:27,920
Speaker 3: to show that I'm like making a change in the

878
00:43:27,920 --> 00:43:30,680
Speaker 3: positive direction? He said, I didn't want to tell you you'd.

879
00:43:30,560 --> 00:43:33,040
Speaker 2: Overreact, and he made her think that.

880
00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:36,799
Speaker 1: He then made her think that he was apologetic when

881
00:43:36,880 --> 00:43:38,759
Speaker 1: he didn't go, like when he chose not to go

882
00:43:38,840 --> 00:43:39,239
Speaker 1: on the trip.

883
00:43:39,440 --> 00:43:41,920
Speaker 3: Yes he was, he was lying, yeah, And then he

884
00:43:42,200 --> 00:43:49,120
Speaker 3: pulled this weirdly sinister prance. He knew, he knew how

885
00:43:49,239 --> 00:43:51,440
Speaker 3: much this would hurt her. That's the thing it was.

886
00:43:51,640 --> 00:43:54,279
Speaker 3: It was so it wasn't like, uh, I can't even

887
00:43:54,320 --> 00:43:55,240
Speaker 3: think of another example.

888
00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:56,240
Speaker 2: Was it like a freaking.

889
00:43:56,040 --> 00:43:59,880
Speaker 1: Whoopee cushion under the chair? Yeah, this was psychological torture.

890
00:44:00,040 --> 00:44:03,719
Speaker 1: Psychological She made her think that she was crazy, and

891
00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:06,560
Speaker 1: then made her doubt her self confidence and then made

892
00:44:06,600 --> 00:44:08,880
Speaker 1: her feel like she was going to be unlovable. She

893
00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:11,080
Speaker 1: was literally she said she was embarrassed to tell her

894
00:44:11,160 --> 00:44:15,880
Speaker 1: husband about it. And now and now our self confidence

895
00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:21,000
Speaker 1: is like we see that it is impacted because she's saying, oh, well,

896
00:44:21,040 --> 00:44:22,600
Speaker 1: maybe I deserved this treatment.

897
00:44:23,920 --> 00:44:27,720
Speaker 3: There's a certain chant that I'd like to chime in, Unison,

898
00:44:27,719 --> 00:44:28,799
Speaker 3: Are you ready, Sophia ready?

899
00:44:29,280 --> 00:44:31,520
Speaker 2: Divor devor DeVos?

900
00:44:32,520 --> 00:44:34,960
Speaker 3: That's it now, that's literally, that's literally all we can

901
00:44:35,000 --> 00:44:37,600
Speaker 3: say here, and to maybe she wrote very quickly, answer

902
00:44:37,680 --> 00:44:40,480
Speaker 3: this question, when is it worth it to stand up

903
00:44:40,520 --> 00:44:40,960
Speaker 3: for yourself?

904
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:43,360
Speaker 2: My god? Please? Please?

905
00:44:43,800 --> 00:44:46,759
Speaker 1: She hasn't stood up for herself yet, and I need

906
00:44:46,840 --> 00:44:49,600
Speaker 1: her to. That's right, I mean she I mean she

907
00:44:49,680 --> 00:44:54,080
Speaker 1: did after with the kind of with the bachelor party,

908
00:44:54,120 --> 00:44:56,520
Speaker 1: but I need her to to do it now because

909
00:44:56,560 --> 00:44:57,720
Speaker 1: she doesn't deserve this treatment.

910
00:44:57,800 --> 00:45:00,520
Speaker 2: You deserve to be far, far away from from this man.

911
00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:03,560
Speaker 2: Far You deserve a jake. You deserve a jake, not

912
00:45:03,680 --> 00:45:05,080
Speaker 2: a spencer breach.