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Speaker 1: Good morning, peeps, and welcome to woke f Daily with

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Speaker 1: me your girl, Danielle Moody. I want to first thank

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Speaker 1: you all for rocking with us for our reflection on

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty one, sadly the year of hate. But as

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Speaker 1: we wind down this year and this week, on this

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Speaker 1: New Year's Eve, I want to leave you all with

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Speaker 1: a much more hopeful conversation which I am so fortunate

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Speaker 1: to have been able to have with my mother, Yogi

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Speaker 1: and owner of Essence of Yoga Studios on Long Island,

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Speaker 1: Shirley Newton. As many of you know, if you've been

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Speaker 1: listening to me and rocking with me on woke f

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Speaker 1: for the Power several years, on different stations and in

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Speaker 1: different places, you know how my mother has always been

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Speaker 1: my spiritual guide. I feel so fortunate and I tell

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Speaker 1: her on a regular basis that I am that our

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Speaker 1: souls chose each other. And it's because you know, I

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Speaker 1: chose the profession that isn't for the week, that is

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Speaker 1: not for the faint of heart, that is about getting

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Speaker 1: to the truth, regardless of how ugly, how sad, how

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Speaker 1: cruel it is. But at the same time, it is

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Speaker 1: incredibly important that as we go through our journey. Wherever

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Speaker 1: we are in our journey of consciousness, of getting woke,

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Speaker 1: that we also find balance, that we also create space

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Speaker 1: for our trauma, for our healing, for mindfulness, and more importantly,

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Speaker 1: for rest. So back in April, I invited my mother,

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Speaker 1: who was very reluctant about joining woke f to come

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Speaker 1: on to talk about just that. You know, she would

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Speaker 1: tell me after she'd listen to a show or watch

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Speaker 1: to let go, that the work that I was doing

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Speaker 1: was important and it was necessary, but that I could

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Speaker 1: cellular level and allow it to consume me, allow it

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Speaker 1: to cloud my vision to hope and possibility and to joy.

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Speaker 1: And so in this conversation we talk about the power

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Speaker 1: of yoga, of what it means to stretch, to breathe,

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Speaker 1: and to create space in our bodies, which allows us

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Speaker 1: then to create space in our minds. You know, over

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Speaker 1: the past two years, at the beginning of the pandemic,

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Speaker 1: I finally, you know, after years of pressure from my

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Speaker 1: mother and my sister, who is also a trained yogi,

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Speaker 1: began a meditation practice, a daily meditation practice, and I've

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Speaker 1: talked about this many times, and the fact is it

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Speaker 1: changed me doesn't mean that I'm any less angry. It

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Speaker 1: just means that I have found a way to realign

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Speaker 1: been able to use my rage as another form of meditation.

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Speaker 1: But that once it leaves my body, once it enters

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Speaker 1: that that is the really big lesson that I've learned

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Speaker 1: over the past several years of living through Folks. You know,

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Speaker 1: we've been through a lot of trauma. It's not just

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Speaker 1: the pandemic we live through the Trump administration. There's the

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Speaker 1: possibility of another Trump administration. We've been going through a lot,

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Speaker 1: and I think that the most important thing is is

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Speaker 1: to let it go, to breathe it out. We can

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Speaker 1: recognize that in many ways the world is is terrifying

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Speaker 1: the things that I've learned with my meditation practice, and

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Speaker 1: practicing yoga while you move through poses and breath is

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Speaker 1: really about being grounded in the present. My mother, when

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Speaker 1: she teaches a classes, she will joke with her yogis

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Speaker 1: You'll get there. And that's a really profound lesson with

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Speaker 1: knew what would happen when Donald Trump was elected. I

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty two will bring us. Many of us are

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Speaker 1: dear friends, is right now, That's what we have. That's

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Speaker 1: what we can be certain of, and that shouldn't send

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Speaker 1: us running for the hills. It should allow us to

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Speaker 1: honor and embrace each moment as a gift, because it

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Speaker 1: truly is. By the time you hear this, more Americans

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Speaker 1: will have perished to COVID, More Americans will have died

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Speaker 1: at the hands of police violence, domestic violence, poverty. There

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Speaker 1: may be more disastrous storms that will have hit the

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Speaker 1: headlines and change people's lives forever. What we know for

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Speaker 1: sure is that in this moment, we are breathing. So

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Speaker 1: make that breath deep, Hold it, feel your organs working

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Speaker 1: and churning, your blood flowing, and exhale it out. Feel

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Speaker 1: other lesson that we've gotten, that we've taken in over

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Speaker 1: to not be in such a hurry to rush through

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Speaker 1: your life. What are we rushing towards the end? Take

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Speaker 1: the time today, of all days, on New Year's Eve,

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Speaker 1: take a couple of really nice, big, full, deep breaths,

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Speaker 1: the breaths that allow us to remember that we are alive.

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Speaker 1: Close your eyes, see and feel with your other senses,

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Speaker 1: take in the space around you. Slow down, Breathe in,

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Speaker 1: breathe out. The world has sadly seen darker times than

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Speaker 1: don't know what twenty twenty two has to offer us,

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Speaker 1: that we are going to center joy, that on top

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Speaker 1: of our rage, our righteous rage, will be revolutionary joy.

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Speaker 1: That we will not allow those who want to exist

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Speaker 1: My mother says it all the time. She texts me

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Speaker 1: all the time, don't let them steal your joy. You're

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Speaker 1: doing good work. Keep going, but you can do so

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Speaker 1: a happy warrior. That doesn't mean that we dismiss what

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Speaker 1: don't remember what is behind us. Just means that we

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Speaker 1: many lessons that I have been fortunate to learn throughout

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Speaker 1: my many, many, many many years with my mother, who

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Speaker 1: in this conversation, I hope as you close out this year,

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Speaker 1: whatever it is that you plan to do for your

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Speaker 1: connecting safely, God willing with friends and family, if it's

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Speaker 1: you take a moment to pat yourself, to hug yourself,

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Speaker 1: to congratulate yourself. Regardless of what shape you think you

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Speaker 1: excited to bring it to you my very special feel

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Speaker 1: Good Friday guest, which is my mother, Shirley Newton, who

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Speaker 1: is the owner and founder of Essence of Yoga Studio

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Speaker 1: on Long Island, also now virtually thanks to COVID. You

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Speaker 1: all directly. Hello Mother, Hello Danielle, No, not so, Mom,

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Speaker 1: I want to talk to you about your journey in yoga.

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Speaker 1: Many people right now are seeking out different forms of

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Speaker 1: through this pandemic, the uprisings, all of these things, and

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Speaker 1: they're looking for a way to get involved in yoga

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Speaker 1: own journey. It's a long journey. Do you have all

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Speaker 1: ye my journey to Yoga. Well, how I started practicing yoga?

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Speaker 1: Always been into fitness in some form. I've always been

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Speaker 1: and she said, Mom, you know, I think you should

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Speaker 1: Mommy used to try the yoga too, And I did it.

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Speaker 1: I tried it and that was it. I fell in love.

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Speaker 1: And most, I would say, most of us now probably

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Speaker 1: physical part of it, the journey becomes a completely different journey.

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Speaker 1: It's more so, instead of thinking of your yoga practice

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Speaker 1: made of all these layers. You know, when we show

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Speaker 1: have different personalities with our families, with our friends, with

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Speaker 1: our work coworkers. We are different. So what yoga really

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Speaker 1: teaches you to do is penetrate those layers, the layers below,

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Speaker 1: And that's what the physical part of it. Once you

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Speaker 1: your emotional, and your spiritual being is your corporation. You

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Speaker 1: are the CEO, and you must allow this corporation to

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Speaker 1: be sustainable. Treat it well so it's sustainable through all

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Speaker 1: the stages of your life when your twenties, your thirties,

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Speaker 1: your forties, your fifties, your sixthies, like cheese in So

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Speaker 1: you know, I think that that's so important, and it's

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Speaker 1: one of the things that I've learned most from you,

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Speaker 1: but making yourself a priority. And I will tell people

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Speaker 1: a story about the fact that I used to grow

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Speaker 1: because and people were like, well, come over for sleepovers

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Speaker 1: at night? And it was because my mother was a

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Speaker 1: teaching a spin class or our step class, or you know,

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Speaker 1: and so that's what she did. And it was always

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Speaker 1: recognizing and I think that and I'm going to ask

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Speaker 1: you to say this especially for you know, for caregivers,

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Speaker 1: for parents who either have children or they are carrying

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Speaker 1: caretakers for their elderly parents. You know, you always made

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Speaker 1: yourself a priority so that Nicole and I could grow

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Speaker 1: up seeing ourselves as a priority. A lot of people

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Speaker 1: are still stuck in martyrdom where they feel like they

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Speaker 1: have to sacrifice themselves for their kids or for their parents.

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Speaker 1: So can you speak to that about like the importance

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Speaker 1: You know in that you cared for you know, my grandparents.

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Speaker 1: You cared for Nicole and I and like and other

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Speaker 1: stranger friends and things like that. How did you manage that? So?

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Speaker 1: Did you know? How? Mother has all these sayings, all

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Speaker 1: of them that I share with my students and I

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Speaker 1: share with my family. Remember this you cannot pour from

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Speaker 1: and I credit you all the time. Another analogy that

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Speaker 1: you can use. And I say this to my students

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Speaker 1: their well being. And one of the things that we

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Speaker 1: should realize, like when you're caring for your family and

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Speaker 1: Where's this coming from? And I will tell you a

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Speaker 1: little secret. That is coming from built up resentment. Because

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Speaker 1: you have given so much of yourself and you have

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Speaker 1: not taken anything back. So it is really important to

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Speaker 1: refill your cup. I say to my students, think of this,

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Speaker 1: Like every Friday morning, I do a restorative you old

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Speaker 1: class and I call it this is a class that

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Speaker 1: you come back to to redeposit in the ATM machine,

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Speaker 1: because think of your being, like everyone is taken, your

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Speaker 1: taken withdrawing from your ATM machine, the physical being, the

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Speaker 1: well being, your spiritual being, your emotional being. You give

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Speaker 1: it to your job, to your family members and your friends,

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Speaker 1: and they keep depleting you all week of that energy.

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Speaker 1: When do you take the time to make a redeposit

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Speaker 1: in your bank? And that is what the resort of

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Speaker 1: yoga class is all about on a Friday morning, is

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Speaker 1: redepositing in your energy bank so that you can pour

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Speaker 1: from that up that's fall. I love that, and I

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Speaker 1: best pott It's so good. The resentment and the anger,

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Speaker 1: the outburst is coming from the depletion of your energy bank,

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Speaker 1: and you cannot be depleted and continue to give. So

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Speaker 1: for mothers out there, I did it. Always made myself

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Speaker 1: a priority because if you don't take care of your

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Speaker 1: well being, you won't have enough to take care of

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Speaker 1: the ones that you really truly need to take care of.

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Speaker 1: And when you love yourself to take care of yourself,

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Speaker 1: it energetically radiates out to your family members, to your

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Speaker 1: co workers. Taking care of yourself first, making yourself a priority.

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Speaker 1: Your children will learn that how important it is from

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Speaker 1: mom or dad to take care of themselves so they

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Speaker 1: that what is so incredibly important and valuable is that

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Speaker 1: All you are teaching your kids, your you know, if

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Speaker 1: you are a caregiver to other people's children, all you

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Speaker 1: are teaching them is that they come last, right, Like,

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Speaker 1: that's all. That's all that you are teaching. And if

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Speaker 1: you want to raise you know, healthy people, right because

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Speaker 1: want to raise healthy people, then you have to model

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Speaker 1: healthy behavior and that and that and a healthy lifestyle,

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Speaker 1: and that means putting yourself first. Another question for you,

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Speaker 1: mom is that you know everyone knows, um okay, f

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Speaker 1: that last year was a very traumatic year. Uh for

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Speaker 1: a brain tumor, and the family was able, you know,

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Speaker 1: through the grace of God, to be able to be

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Speaker 1: together for five months of the most critical heightened time

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Speaker 1: of the pandemic. How did yoga and meditation help you

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Speaker 1: on your healing journey after your after your surgery, even

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Speaker 1: place to land with my daughters, with you and Nicole

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Speaker 1: a it's really important to have connection. And what that did.

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Speaker 1: And I will tell I say this all the time

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Speaker 1: that I don't know the universe had a plan. I

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Speaker 1: had one of my students that told me that, you know,

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Speaker 1: you actually started the pandemic because the universe took you

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Speaker 1: then the universe came down. But the important thing here

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Speaker 1: is that I had a lot of support, and you

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Speaker 1: know I did. I do meditation twice a day. I

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Speaker 1: do it while I'm walking, I do it before I

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Speaker 1: go to bed. I do it the first thing I

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Speaker 1: wake up, even if it's five minutes. You don't need

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Speaker 1: an hour of meditation. You can do one minute of deep,

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Speaker 1: deep breathing just to reconnect with yourself. Movement was also

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Speaker 1: very important, and even if you're immobile at some point,

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Speaker 1: which I was, you know when I just got out

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Speaker 1: movement because you're moving the energy. You're moving your lungs,

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Speaker 1: so breathing deeply and most of us in the population

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Speaker 1: the things. Even if you're not doing physical arm or

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Speaker 1: legs or muscle movement, moving your breath moves the internal organs.

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Speaker 1: You are still using your lungs, so breathing deeply, take

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Speaker 1: a minute time yourself and take one moment of nice

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Speaker 1: deep inhale to help you. So again I had a

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Speaker 1: soft place to land. I was really grateful, and you know,

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Speaker 1: I can't the gratitude that I have that my whole

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Speaker 1: family was with me for five months of recovery and

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Speaker 1: the moment I got home and got out of the

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Speaker 1: hospital and you know, we did the deep breathing that

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Speaker 1: was part of yours. I started back with my movement

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Speaker 1: like two days out, doing restorative yoga. So there's so

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Speaker 1: many different forms. Whatever you're yearning for, physical, emotional, and spiritually,

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Speaker 1: there's something there for you. Someday we may need a physical,

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Speaker 1: energetic movement, but another day we may need a little

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Speaker 1: bit more restorative yoga because we need to heal, and

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Speaker 1: maybe physical healing, but spiritual and emotional healing. So there's

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Speaker 1: a balance. So, yes, we know that we have to hustle.

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Speaker 1: But I am telling you, and I almost said to you,

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Speaker 1: yogis please, Yeah, you could call that, take the time,

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Speaker 1: stop the hustle and take care of yourself, self care,

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Speaker 1: do it now, do it for yourself. My So it's

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Speaker 1: just so everyone knows. People ask all the time like oh, Danielle,

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Speaker 1: like you seem to know so much, and I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I don't. I just I just parrot the things my

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Speaker 1: mother has told me over the over my entire life.

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Speaker 1: M mom. Last question for you is, you know, again,

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Speaker 1: this time has been really trying on people. People are

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Speaker 1: going through you know, COVID, a fatigue, the emotional disconnect

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Speaker 1: inability to see family members, the inability to gather in groups.

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Speaker 1: It's been hard. It's been emotionally taxing for people. What

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Speaker 1: advice do you give to folks to help them deal

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Speaker 1: with this trauma? Because that's what we're all experiencing, is

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Speaker 1: this collective trauma of what it is like to create

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Speaker 1: a new normal while we're living in this pandemic. So

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Speaker 1: what can you offer to people as as some advice

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Speaker 1: to maintain their emotional and spiritual well being. What I've

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Speaker 1: gained learned with COVID, what COVID brought to me is

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Speaker 1: that the only thing that is consistent is change, yep, change.

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Speaker 1: So we must adapt to whatever it is that's going

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Speaker 1: on and try to live our best life because nothing

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Speaker 1: is permanent and the only thing that is consistent again

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Speaker 1: is changed, and so we must change. What I've learned

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Speaker 1: is that a simpler lifestyle is more grounding for me.

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Speaker 1: Being home and make your home a sanctuary, make it

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Speaker 1: someplace that you want to be in, you know, introduce

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Speaker 1: your plans. Yes, somebody became a plant mother during the pandemic.

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Speaker 1: My my, oh she's a black grandmother because she now

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Speaker 1: has an entire fourest in her house, like I do.

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Speaker 1: You know, go back to eating together, eating meals together.

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Speaker 1: That's very important in my family that when we are

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Speaker 1: Put away you know, the phones, the technology, and just

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Speaker 1: take time and make meals together. And those are the things.

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Speaker 1: And just what are you taking away from this pandemic?

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Speaker 1: And I believe you know the universe is bringing us

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Speaker 1: down because we were all scattered all over the place,

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Speaker 1: running from one appointment to the next, on the grind

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Speaker 1: on that hamster wheel. And what this pandemic has done

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Speaker 1: for us, if you really go deep within your soup

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Speaker 1: and think about it, it is grounding us, grounding us,

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Speaker 1: taking us down, and say stop listen, feel feel what

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Speaker 1: is going on within you and around you. Let's stop listen.

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Speaker 1: So we we had many, many, many, many signs and

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Speaker 1: that we did not pay attention to. And this is

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Speaker 1: my own personal feeling, an analogy on. We had hurricanes,

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Speaker 1: like universe is speaking to us and we're not truly listening.

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Speaker 1: And until we get the message there, the universe is

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Speaker 1: still going to pilot on on us. So here we

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Speaker 1: are in the pandemic. What have you learned from this?

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Speaker 1: What can we take away from this. Yes, it's brought

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Speaker 1: us some really uncomfortable situation, uncomfortable situations to be in.

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Speaker 1: But what lesson. There's a lesson here for all of

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Speaker 1: us to care about each other, to care about ourselves.

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Speaker 1: And another thing I'd like to leave with everyone, and

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Speaker 1: passage in my in my yoga classes. Is one of

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Speaker 1: the yoga Guru's yoga budget. It said, let us all

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Speaker 1: be a forklift for each other. When someone leaves your present,

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Speaker 1: let them feel like they were uplifted and not like

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Speaker 1: the energy was sucked out of them. So let's all

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Speaker 1: try to be a forklift for our siblings, for our partners,

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Speaker 1: for family members, for our friends, for co workers. And

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Speaker 1: if we keep lifting each other up, yeah, yeah, and

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Speaker 1: we vibrate on the same on the same level, and

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Speaker 1: waveler be a forklift, yeah for each other. Mother Shirley Newton,

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Speaker 1: owner of Essence of Yoga Studio. Guys, if you want

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Speaker 1: to take virtual classes with my mother, I highly highly

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Speaker 1: If you use the Mind Body app Mind Body app,

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Speaker 1: you can find Essence of Yoga Studio on there. As well. Mother,

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Speaker 1: surely last word, oh, one last word, to remember to

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Speaker 1: make time for your wellness so you will not be

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Speaker 1: forced to make time for your illness. That is it.

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Speaker 1: Remember that, make time for your wellness so you won't

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Speaker 1: be forced to make time for your illness. Take care

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Speaker 1: of self care necessary. Thank you, namaste, thank you for listening.

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Speaker 1: I wish you all a happy, healthy, safe and brilliant

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Speaker 1: new Year, and we will see you back here, live

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Speaker 1: and filled with passion, ready to hit the ground running

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Speaker 1: in twenty twenty two. Be well, dear friends. Power to

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Speaker 1: and stay woke as fuck. See in twenty twenty two.