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Speaker 2: Charlotte is on the phone today for our first day
Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Henry.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're going to call him
Speaker 2: and see if hoo tellus why's ghostinger and maybe get
Speaker 2: her another date. But first, Charlotte, how long has it beens?
Speaker 2: Has you heard from Henry?
Speaker 3: It's been a couple of weeks since I've heard from him,
Speaker 3: Which it's weird because we were friends before this, and
Speaker 3: we definitely texted now and again. So I'm just a
Speaker 3: little thrown. I'm curious and maybe a little hurt too.
Speaker 1: So yeah, understandably, especially since you guys knew each other before. Yeah,
Speaker 1: what was your last interaction with him?
Speaker 4: Like?
Speaker 3: So, I actually planned on this whole day of events
Speaker 3: because it is kind of our first actual date because
Speaker 3: we've been friends for a long time and I've been, uh,
Speaker 3: I've had a crush on him for kind of a while,
Speaker 3: and so I planned this day of dates. It wasn't
Speaker 3: too intense, but it was you know, a bunch of
Speaker 3: different stuff. We went on a mini hike, and then
Speaker 3: we got brunch at this place that I know both
Speaker 3: of us like, and then we recovered from brunch separately,
Speaker 3: we kind of flit up for a while and then
Speaker 3: we met up for a concert in the park. So
Speaker 3: and you know, it was fun. I feel like we
Speaker 3: both had a really good time. So I just don't
Speaker 3: know what's going on. I mean, we didn't look at
Speaker 3: the end, like we didn't kiss or anything, So I
Speaker 3: don't know if I'm supposed to read into that, but
Speaker 3: nothing bad happened, and so I just don't understand why
Speaker 3: I haven't heard from him at all.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so, when you guys decided to go on a date,
Speaker 1: was he also understanding that it was not a friend
Speaker 1: hangout and that it was a date. Did you guys
Speaker 1: have that conversation where like, oh, let's explore taking this
Speaker 1: to another level.
Speaker 3: I mean, we didn't like have that conversation, but I
Speaker 3: think it was pretty clear based on, you know, the
Speaker 3: way we were talking about it. And we've now hung
Speaker 3: out just the two of us, like for a whole
Speaker 3: day like that.
Speaker 1: I mean we have hung.
Speaker 3: Out the two of us, but not very often over
Speaker 3: the past several years. I mean, definitely not at this level,
Speaker 3: you know, I think, and he didn't ask. I think
Speaker 3: it was clear for both of us, you know. I
Speaker 3: mean that's what it feels like. I've had a crush
Speaker 3: on him, and I feel like probably he could tell
Speaker 3: at this point, you know, And so it just seems
Speaker 3: like we both knew and we both went out and
Speaker 3: we had a good time. I really I really wanted
Speaker 3: to work with him because I've just had feelings for
Speaker 3: him for a while and he's just kind of a
Speaker 3: special person to me. You know, he makes me laugh
Speaker 3: and he's he makes me feel safe and stuff, but
Speaker 3: also he's like guys guy, you know. So I feel
Speaker 3: it's just a good balance and we get along really well.
Speaker 1: You really like him. I really like him.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like how many times you text him or calling him? Well,
Speaker 3: I I texted I try to go overdo it. You know.
Speaker 3: I've texted him a couple times over the past couple
Speaker 3: of weeks, But we.
Speaker 1: Used to text.
Speaker 3: I mean before this day, we would text pretty regularly,
Speaker 3: like at least two or three days a week. You know,
Speaker 3: we're I mean we've been in contact, you know, we're friends,
Speaker 3: and we watched on the same shows and stuff that
Speaker 3: we talked about that, but I just haven't heard from him,
Speaker 3: and like it's been it's been over two weeks now,
Speaker 3: so I just feel like it's not normal, and I
Speaker 3: just don't.
Speaker 1: Know what happened.
Speaker 3: I mean maybe, Look, I don't know if I messed up.
Speaker 3: I guess after brunch, like I had, I had a
Speaker 3: few mimosas, and I didn't think I was acting weird
Speaker 3: or anything. And I just know that when I got
Speaker 3: to the park for the concert, you know, for to
Speaker 3: get some drinks before the show, like he seemed maybe
Speaker 3: a little annoyed because I was at I was late.
Speaker 3: I wasn't that late, but I was a little late.
Speaker 3: And but I asked him if he was annoyed, and
Speaker 3: he said no, he was just tired because we had
Speaker 3: already had like a.
Speaker 1: Whole day, you know.
Speaker 2: So I don't know if it was that.
Speaker 3: I'm not sure.
Speaker 2: Okay, well we'll try to figure it out for you
Speaker 2: to play a song come back, and then call him
Speaker 2: and see if Hotels why is ghosting you? And maybe
Speaker 2: get to another date. Okay, Okay, thanks, all right, we'll
Speaker 2: play a song, come back, and get your first date
Speaker 2: follow up next. If you're just joining us for today's
Speaker 2: first date follow up, Charlotte is on the phone and
Speaker 2: she's getting ghosted by a guy named Henry. So in
Speaker 2: a second we're going to call him and see if
Speaker 2: holthels why is ghostinger. But before we do that, Charlotte, wy,
Speaker 2: don't you refresh our memory on your date with Henry?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: So, Henry and I have been friends for a while
Speaker 3: for a few years, and we definitely texted regularly over time,
Speaker 3: and we finally took it to the next level and
Speaker 3: went on a date. But it was kind of a
Speaker 3: whole day of stuff, hike and brunch in the show.
Speaker 3: But I haven't heard from him since then. It's been
Speaker 3: over two weeks, and that's weird because we usually do
Speaker 3: text during the week, so I don't know if something happened,
Speaker 3: but I'm feeling nervous about it, and I just want
Speaker 3: to find out what's going on.
Speaker 2: You can't think of a reason why he'd be ghosting.
Speaker 3: You, No, I mean, like I said, I said, I
Speaker 3: was a little bit late for the concert, But I
Speaker 3: even asked him if he said it was an issue,
Speaker 3: and he said no, he wasn't annoyed about it. So
Speaker 3: that's kind of the only thing.
Speaker 2: I can think of really, well, you're ready for us
Speaker 2: to call him?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess so, Okay, here we go.
Speaker 2: Hi, I'm I asking to Henry please.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is Henry. How are you?
Speaker 2: My name is Jubil. I'm calling from a radio show.
Speaker 2: It's called The Jubil Show.
Speaker 1: Hi, Henry, I'm Nina also on the show. Hi. I'm Victoria.
Speaker 2: How are you?
Speaker 1: What's up?
Speaker 3: Guys? I'm good.
Speaker 2: Do you listen to the show at all? Not?
Speaker 3: Really?
Speaker 2: No worries. We're calling you because somebody you know does
Speaker 2: listen to the show and they email us about you.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 2: We do a segment called the First Day follow Up.
Speaker 2: That's where if you go out on a date with
Speaker 2: somebody and you end up ghosting them, that person can
Speaker 2: email us to ask you why you're ghosting them.
Speaker 4: Really, okay, I have no idea who you're talking about.
Speaker 2: Have you gone any dates recently? Uh?
Speaker 4: Well, kind of personal?
Speaker 3: But yes?
Speaker 4: Was it Kelly Champ?
Speaker 2: No, it's not Kelly?
Speaker 1: Okay, gotta no.
Speaker 2: I want to keep trying to tell you anybody else?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean that's really kind of it. I honestly
Speaker 4: don't know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, please tell me you didn't.
Speaker 1: Go to brunch or like a show with somebody.
Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, but you mean Charlotte.
Speaker 2: Yes, Charlotte emailed us and she wants to know why
Speaker 2: you're ghosting.
Speaker 4: Oh okay, I don't think I'm ghosting. I had no
Speaker 4: idea that was even a date, like what, because we're friends.
Speaker 3: I've known her for years.
Speaker 1: That was not a date it or was she thought
Speaker 1: you were able to tell that she has had a
Speaker 1: crush on you for a long time.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 4: No, I thought we were just doing like a friend
Speaker 4: hang sing all day to be honest, like, and we
Speaker 4: spent the day which was super fun.
Speaker 3: It was fine.
Speaker 4: I had no idea she was interested in me, though.
Speaker 1: Does that change things for you?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: I think so.
Speaker 2: I mean she definitely CuO.
Speaker 4: I never thought of her like that, like you know
Speaker 4: what I mean, We never really went went that way.
Speaker 3: You know, we had sort of like boundaries and.
Speaker 4: Your friendship boundaries, and like I said, we hung off
Speaker 4: that day. Was totally fine. I just thought it was
Speaker 4: just a friendly hang. I didn't know she had more
Speaker 4: like feelings.
Speaker 2: This is like crazy, Okay.
Speaker 1: She reached out to you though, after you guys hung
Speaker 1: out that day and you didn't respond to her.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I like most too. I mean, I thought up
Speaker 4: at work or like when friends text you, she don't
Speaker 4: get back to run away, I don't think anything of it.
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, well she definitely thought it was a date.
Speaker 2: And Henry, she's on the phone right now and I'll
Speaker 2: talk to you.
Speaker 3: Oh what, oh wow, Hey, Okay, this has been very
Speaker 3: much a roller coaster. I'm like kind of embarrassed honestly,
Speaker 3: but also Henry, like, really, you really didn't know. You
Speaker 3: really couldn't tell. I really couldn't tell.
Speaker 4: No, Like it was super obvious.
Speaker 3: We didn't kiss her anything, so there was no I
Speaker 3: think it's me when we were flirting. Now, oh my gosh, honestly,
Speaker 3: like I thought, I've been so obvious recently that there
Speaker 3: was no way that you would have ever not thought
Speaker 3: that was a date. Like we haven't hung out that
Speaker 3: that much. Like I mean, like it sounds like, what
Speaker 3: do you want him?
Speaker 1: Should it be a date?
Speaker 3: Should we? I mean, what do you think? You don't
Speaker 3: have to tell me right now? Oh my gosh, you
Speaker 3: don't have to tell her right now. I just I
Speaker 3: have fun and I don't know.
Speaker 4: Well, I mean, oh my gosh, no, you know, I
Speaker 4: know this is crazy.
Speaker 3: This is totally crazy.
Speaker 4: I mean, so you're yes, I mean, if you want
Speaker 4: to go out like a real date, like make it official,
Speaker 4: like a day, yes, hell yeah, I'm into it.
Speaker 1: You are I mean, do you want to? Not just me?
Speaker 3: Do you want to?
Speaker 4: I do want to?
Speaker 1: Yeah? And I feel like an.
Speaker 4: Idiot for like not even realizing this. I'm like super
Speaker 4: stoked that, like because that's how you were super too too,
Speaker 4: But like I never want to cross that friendship line.
Speaker 4: And oh my gosh, yeah of course, because once you
Speaker 4: cross that friendship line and someone's note into you, and
Speaker 4: then you look like an idiot.
Speaker 2: And now you're embarrassed in the friendship and you have
Speaker 2: to call a radio station to call.
Speaker 3: Them so cut though, Oh my god, this is crazy.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so yeah, I have Yes, I'm super excited. Yes, yes, yes,
Speaker 4: like I'm in totally.
Speaker 1: Totally, totally okay.
Speaker 2: Well I didn't even need to ask what I have
Speaker 2: to because that's what happens in the segment. So, Henry,
Speaker 2: would you like to go on another day with Charlotte?
Speaker 2: Will pay for it?
Speaker 4: Hell?
Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, Well congratulations Charlotte, You've got another day?
Speaker 3: Wow, thank you. This is amazing And maybe I'll need
Speaker 3: a copy of this in the future, so I might.
Speaker 1: Ask you to play at your wedding, okay, but not
Speaker 1: to put pressure on it. Just a little advice. Right
Speaker 1: when you guys get together for that next date, just
Speaker 1: kiss right away because it'll take away all the anticipation
Speaker 1: and all the awkwardnesses. Do it right away, I mean,
Speaker 1: it just breaks the away.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Juble's first day follow up