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Speaker 1: First Date of follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Charlotte is on the phone today for our first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Henry.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're going to call him

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Speaker 2: and see if hoo tellus why's ghostinger and maybe get

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Speaker 2: her another date. But first, Charlotte, how long has it beens?

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Speaker 2: Has you heard from Henry?

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Speaker 3: It's been a couple of weeks since I've heard from him,

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Speaker 3: Which it's weird because we were friends before this, and

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Speaker 3: we definitely texted now and again. So I'm just a

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Speaker 3: little thrown. I'm curious and maybe a little hurt too.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, understandably, especially since you guys knew each other before. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: what was your last interaction with him?

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Speaker 4: Like?

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Speaker 3: So, I actually planned on this whole day of events

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Speaker 3: because it is kind of our first actual date because

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Speaker 3: we've been friends for a long time and I've been, uh,

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Speaker 3: I've had a crush on him for kind of a while,

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Speaker 3: and so I planned this day of dates. It wasn't

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Speaker 3: too intense, but it was you know, a bunch of

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Speaker 3: different stuff. We went on a mini hike, and then

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Speaker 3: we got brunch at this place that I know both

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Speaker 3: of us like, and then we recovered from brunch separately,

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Speaker 3: we kind of flit up for a while and then

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Speaker 3: we met up for a concert in the park. So

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Speaker 3: and you know, it was fun. I feel like we

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Speaker 3: both had a really good time. So I just don't

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Speaker 3: know what's going on. I mean, we didn't look at

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Speaker 3: the end, like we didn't kiss or anything, So I

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Speaker 3: don't know if I'm supposed to read into that, but

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Speaker 3: nothing bad happened, and so I just don't understand why

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Speaker 3: I haven't heard from him at all.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so, when you guys decided to go on a date,

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Speaker 1: was he also understanding that it was not a friend

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Speaker 1: hangout and that it was a date. Did you guys

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Speaker 1: have that conversation where like, oh, let's explore taking this

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Speaker 1: to another level.

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Speaker 3: I mean, we didn't like have that conversation, but I

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Speaker 3: think it was pretty clear based on, you know, the

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Speaker 3: way we were talking about it. And we've now hung

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Speaker 3: out just the two of us, like for a whole

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Speaker 1: I mean we have hung.

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Speaker 3: Out the two of us, but not very often over

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Speaker 3: the past several years. I mean, definitely not at this level,

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Speaker 3: you know, I think, and he didn't ask. I think

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Speaker 3: mean that's what it feels like. I've had a crush

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Speaker 3: like we both knew and we both went out and

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Speaker 3: we had a good time. I really I really wanted

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Speaker 3: to work with him because I've just had feelings for

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Speaker 3: him for a while and he's just kind of a

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Speaker 3: special person to me. You know, he makes me laugh

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Speaker 3: and he's he makes me feel safe and stuff, but

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Speaker 3: also he's like guys guy, you know. So I feel

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Speaker 3: it's just a good balance and we get along really well.

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Speaker 1: You really like him. I really like him.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like how many times you text him or calling him? Well,

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Speaker 3: I I texted I try to go overdo it. You know.

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Speaker 3: I've texted him a couple times over the past couple

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Speaker 1: Used to text.

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Speaker 3: I mean before this day, we would text pretty regularly,

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Speaker 3: like at least two or three days a week. You know,

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Speaker 3: we're I mean we've been in contact, you know, we're friends,

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Speaker 3: and we watched on the same shows and stuff that

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Speaker 3: and like it's been it's been over two weeks now,

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Speaker 3: so I just feel like it's not normal, and I

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Speaker 1: Know what happened.

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Speaker 3: I mean maybe, Look, I don't know if I messed up.

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Speaker 3: I guess after brunch, like I had, I had a

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Speaker 3: few mimosas, and I didn't think I was acting weird

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Speaker 3: a little annoyed because I was at I was late.

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Speaker 3: I wasn't that late, but I was a little late.

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Speaker 3: And but I asked him if he was annoyed, and

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Speaker 1: Whole day, you know.

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Speaker 2: So I don't know if it was that.

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Speaker 3: I'm not sure.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well we'll try to figure it out for you

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Speaker 2: to play a song come back, and then call him

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Speaker 2: and see if Hotels why is ghosting you? And maybe

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Speaker 2: get to another date. Okay, Okay, thanks, all right, we'll

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Speaker 2: play a song, come back, and get your first date

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Speaker 2: follow up next. If you're just joining us for today's

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Speaker 2: first date follow up, Charlotte is on the phone and

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Speaker 2: she's getting ghosted by a guy named Henry. So in

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Speaker 2: a second we're going to call him and see if

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Speaker 2: holthels why is ghostinger. But before we do that, Charlotte, wy,

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Speaker 2: don't you refresh our memory on your date with Henry?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: So, Henry and I have been friends for a while

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Speaker 3: for a few years, and we definitely texted regularly over time,

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Speaker 3: and we finally took it to the next level and

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Speaker 3: went on a date. But it was kind of a

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Speaker 3: whole day of stuff, hike and brunch in the show.

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Speaker 3: But I haven't heard from him since then. It's been

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Speaker 3: over two weeks, and that's weird because we usually do

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Speaker 3: but I'm feeling nervous about it, and I just want

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Speaker 2: You can't think of a reason why he'd be ghosting.

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Speaker 3: You, No, I mean, like I said, I said, I

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Speaker 3: was a little bit late for the concert, But I

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Speaker 3: and he said no, he wasn't annoyed about it. So

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Speaker 3: that's kind of the only thing.

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Speaker 2: I can think of really, well, you're ready for us

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Speaker 2: to call him?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess so, Okay, here we go.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I'm I asking to Henry please.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is Henry. How are you?

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Speaker 2: My name is Jubil. I'm calling from a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called The Jubil Show.

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Speaker 1: Hi, Henry, I'm Nina also on the show. Hi. I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 2: How are you?

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Speaker 1: What's up?

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Speaker 3: Guys? I'm good.

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Speaker 2: Do you listen to the show at all? Not?

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Speaker 3: Really?

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Speaker 2: No worries. We're calling you because somebody you know does

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Speaker 2: listen to the show and they email us about you.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 2: We do a segment called the First Day follow Up.

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Speaker 2: That's where if you go out on a date with

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Speaker 2: somebody and you end up ghosting them, that person can

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Speaker 2: email us to ask you why you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 4: Really, okay, I have no idea who you're talking about.

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Speaker 2: Have you gone any dates recently? Uh?

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Speaker 4: Well, kind of personal?

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Speaker 3: But yes?

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Speaker 4: Was it Kelly Champ?

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Speaker 2: No, it's not Kelly?

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Speaker 1: Okay, gotta no.

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Speaker 2: I want to keep trying to tell you anybody else?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean that's really kind of it. I honestly

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Speaker 2: Yeah, please tell me you didn't.

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Speaker 1: Go to brunch or like a show with somebody.

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Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, but you mean Charlotte.

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Speaker 2: Yes, Charlotte emailed us and she wants to know why

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Speaker 2: you're ghosting.

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Speaker 4: Oh okay, I don't think I'm ghosting. I had no

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Speaker 4: idea that was even a date, like what, because we're friends.

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Speaker 3: I've known her for years.

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Speaker 1: That was not a date it or was she thought

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Speaker 1: you were able to tell that she has had a

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 4: No, I thought we were just doing like a friend

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Speaker 4: hang sing all day to be honest, like, and we

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Speaker 3: It was fine.

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Speaker 4: I had no idea she was interested in me, though.

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Speaker 1: Does that change things for you?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I think so.

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Speaker 2: I mean she definitely CuO.

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Speaker 4: I never thought of her like that, like you know

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Speaker 4: what I mean, We never really went went that way.

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Speaker 3: You know, we had sort of like boundaries and.

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Speaker 4: Your friendship boundaries, and like I said, we hung off

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Speaker 2: This is like crazy, Okay.

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Speaker 1: She reached out to you though, after you guys hung

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I like most too. I mean, I thought up

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Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, well she definitely thought it was a date.

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Speaker 2: And Henry, she's on the phone right now and I'll

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Speaker 3: Oh what, oh wow, Hey, Okay, this has been very

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Speaker 3: much a roller coaster. I'm like kind of embarrassed honestly,

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Speaker 3: but also Henry, like, really, you really didn't know. You

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Speaker 4: No, Like it was super obvious.

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Speaker 3: We didn't kiss her anything, so there was no I

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Speaker 1: Should it be a date?

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Speaker 3: Should we? I mean, what do you think? You don't

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Speaker 4: Well, I mean, oh my gosh, no, you know, I

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Speaker 3: This is totally crazy.

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Speaker 4: I mean, so you're yes, I mean, if you want

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Speaker 4: to go out like a real date, like make it official,

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Speaker 4: like a day, yes, hell yeah, I'm into it.

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Speaker 1: You are I mean, do you want to? Not just me?

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Speaker 3: Do you want to?

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Speaker 4: I do want to?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? And I feel like an.

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Speaker 4: Idiot for like not even realizing this. I'm like super

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Speaker 4: stoked that, like because that's how you were super too too,

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Speaker 4: But like I never want to cross that friendship line.

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Speaker 4: And oh my gosh, yeah of course, because once you

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Speaker 2: And now you're embarrassed in the friendship and you have

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Speaker 2: to call a radio station to call.

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Speaker 3: Them so cut though, Oh my god, this is crazy.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so yeah, I have Yes, I'm super excited. Yes, yes, yes,

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Speaker 4: like I'm in totally.

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Speaker 1: Totally, totally okay.

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Speaker 2: Well I didn't even need to ask what I have

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Speaker 2: would you like to go on another day with Charlotte?

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Speaker 2: Will pay for it?

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Speaker 4: Hell?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, Well congratulations Charlotte, You've got another day?

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Speaker 3: Wow, thank you. This is amazing And maybe I'll need

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Speaker 3: a copy of this in the future, so I might.

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Speaker 1: Ask you to play at your wedding, okay, but not

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Speaker 1: to put pressure on it. Just a little advice. Right

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Speaker 1: when you guys get together for that next date, just

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Speaker 1: kiss right away because it'll take away all the anticipation

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Speaker 1: and all the awkwardnesses. Do it right away, I mean,

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Speaker 1: it just breaks the away.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Juble's first day follow up