WEBVTT - Ask HTM - Combining Our Finances, Dental Insurance Considerations, & When Whole Life Makes Sense #712

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Head of Money. I'm Joel and I am

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<v Speaker 1>Matt and today, of course it's Monday. We're answering your

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<v Speaker 1>listener questions.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, buddy, I had to say my name real clearly there,

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<v Speaker 2>just to make sure everyone knew knew my name. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want anybody to forget about me, Joel. But we've

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<v Speaker 2>got do you worry about that? We've got a listener

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<v Speaker 2>question Monday episode lined up for folks. We've got a

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<v Speaker 2>question from a newlywed couple. They've got a money question,

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<v Speaker 2>specifically about combining their finances. Another listener is asking about

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<v Speaker 2>dental insurance, wanted to know whether or not it's worth it.

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<v Speaker 2>And another listener she has a less than ideal insurance product,

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<v Speaker 2>and we're gonna talk about that. Plus we're gonna get

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<v Speaker 2>to two additional questions.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like two of these questions are right in

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<v Speaker 1>your wheelhouse because people always ask you questions about marriage

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<v Speaker 1>and dental work, you know, because it's it's two things.

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<v Speaker 2>You've got a lot of expertise on where'd you get

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<v Speaker 2>yourdental work? So you no, oh man, this is all

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<v Speaker 2>natural right here. So literally, I think we've even talked

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<v Speaker 2>about this before sitting at a particular light nearish our house.

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<v Speaker 2>There's this giant billboard and it's a billboard for I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think it's a dentist. It's somebody that does Veneers.

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<v Speaker 2>And they've got the most gnarly before and after pictures

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<v Speaker 2>of these guys that I swear must have done meth

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<v Speaker 2>or something like that. But their teeth. I hear that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it looks I mean, their teeth look terrible. And then

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<v Speaker 2>it's like twenty four hours later and it's a picture

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<v Speaker 2>of this handsome dude and it's literally the exact same dude.

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<v Speaker 2>It's crazy. The mirror dentistry. Yeah, what new teeth do?

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<v Speaker 2>And the girls are like, is that really the same guy?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, sweetie, I think it is. That's what Veneers do. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it's impressed. Because of that, I feel like we talk

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<v Speaker 2>about dental work more than the average bear, more than

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<v Speaker 2>the average family at home. But yeah, we are gonna

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<v Speaker 2>get to those question.

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<v Speaker 1>And just the heads up to listeners if you missed

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<v Speaker 1>our announcement last week, we're taking listener questions every single

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<v Speaker 1>Monday from here on out, and so if you have

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<v Speaker 1>a money question, holler at us. You can always submit

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<v Speaker 1>one at out how toomoney dot com, slash ask, or

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<v Speaker 1>just email us with your voice memo. But we're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be taking a lot more double the listener questions we used,

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<v Speaker 1>like a higher chance of your question getting answered. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>So please submit one. But Matt, real quick, I just

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<v Speaker 1>want to mention my my buddy, Tim, our mutual buddy

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<v Speaker 1>Tim He so I know that Tim. He did he

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<v Speaker 1>booked a flight via Delta. And the thing about booking

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<v Speaker 1>with the major airlines and not booking with one of

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<v Speaker 1>the discounters, or specifically Southwest, is that there are change

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<v Speaker 1>fees involved when you are, you know, looking to switch

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<v Speaker 1>up your dates or your times or something like that,

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<v Speaker 1>and often they're pretty inflexible. Uh, Southwest is great for

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<v Speaker 1>that because.

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<v Speaker 2>They can be and you know they've got that they've

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<v Speaker 2>got a premium product, so like, we don't have to

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<v Speaker 2>cave to your request, your demands.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess that's what they think, at least right I

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<v Speaker 1>personally impartial to Southwest, but he'd called anyway and he said, listen,

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<v Speaker 1>I know this is like not your policy, but could

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<v Speaker 1>you help a guy out?

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<v Speaker 2>And old delataly, well.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, Delta probably doesn't want me revealing this, but

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<v Speaker 1>Delta said, okay, sure, yeah, well yeah, they don't want

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<v Speaker 1>other people doing this. But this is one of those

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<v Speaker 1>things where we always talk about asking for a discount

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<v Speaker 1>or asking for some help in one way or another,

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<v Speaker 1>and lots of times a business like that is gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be like no way. But if you ask nicely and

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<v Speaker 1>if you ask the right person, you really might get help.

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<v Speaker 1>You might get your flight changed without having to pay

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<v Speaker 1>a fee. Like there are all sorts of ways that

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<v Speaker 1>you can ask to be refunded for something or to

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<v Speaker 1>change something about a service that you've received, and the

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<v Speaker 1>worst they can do is say no. The worst that

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<v Speaker 1>happens is that the policy as stated is what you

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<v Speaker 1>is what you have to like abide by.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's right.

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<v Speaker 1>Just kudos to Tim for doing the right thing asking yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and encouragements everyone else out there listening, like, ask for

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<v Speaker 1>the discount.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. It gets to show that even though you know

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<v Speaker 2>it's like, well, I know what the rules are, like

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<v Speaker 2>they're going to say no, but you don't know what

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<v Speaker 2>they just announced earlier that week, like what HR or whoever,

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<v Speaker 2>like the performance folks, what they send out and what

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<v Speaker 2>they're willing to make concessions on giving the industry, given

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<v Speaker 2>what's going on, giving internal changes that might be have

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<v Speaker 2>might be happening given what their earnings are that quarter

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<v Speaker 2>where you're like, Okay, we got to turn things around.

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<v Speaker 2>We're going to start making some concessions.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe like demands lower or actually they want to switch

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<v Speaker 1>to you've heard is less packed, and so we want

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<v Speaker 1>him to be on this other earlier flight. So we'll

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<v Speaker 1>do it because it helps us out. You never know exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it. Yeah, it does not hurt to ask Joel.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's introduce the beer. Are you ready for a big

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<v Speaker 2>one here on this Monday always? This is a yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>this is a bigger beer. This is Angel of Darkness

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<v Speaker 2>by Wicked Weed. And what's crazy you can tell that

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<v Speaker 2>this is Wicked Weed from a couple of years ago

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<v Speaker 2>because it's like the old label because you know, they

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<v Speaker 2>did a rebrand.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a great thing about a good sour is sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>it tastes better a few years left in the bottle.

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<v Speaker 1>So we'll give our thoughts on this one at the

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<v Speaker 1>end of the episode.

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<v Speaker 2>It smells great.

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<v Speaker 1>But Matt, let's get to the topic of hand. We're

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<v Speaker 1>answering listener questions on this episode and let's get to

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<v Speaker 1>the first one. This one is about your Pearly Whites.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi'm Matt and Joel. This is Phil from Annapolis. I

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<v Speaker 3>wanted to get your opinion on dental insurance. I know

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<v Speaker 3>you've mentioned other financial instruments in the past, such as

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<v Speaker 3>home warranties and so forth, and episode number seven hundred,

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<v Speaker 3>I thought that you might have a unique take on

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<v Speaker 3>dental insurance. From what I understand, most dental insurance does

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<v Speaker 3>have a cap as what they pay out, and also

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<v Speaker 3>there seems to be a fifty dollars deductible pretty frequently.

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<v Speaker 3>So anyway, I welcome your input and thank you very much.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like Phil needs to take the mat route,

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<v Speaker 1>which is not only avoiding dental insurance, but avoiding dental work.

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<v Speaker 2>Just it has been ten years. Well, so I got

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<v Speaker 2>my teeth checked out last was it last year? Is

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<v Speaker 2>right before we moved, and it had been ten years

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<v Speaker 2>before I had previously seen the seen the dentists. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>your philosophy has always been today broke my teeth weren't broke.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, it depends on why do I need one? Hey,

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<v Speaker 2>it's true, but it is a personal thing. Right, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>lucky enough to have healthy teeth, healthy gums when I

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<v Speaker 2>went last year, no Cavity's baby do So okay, let

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<v Speaker 2>me throw let me.

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<v Speaker 1>Some people are naturally predisposed to have clean mouth, I guess,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're one of them.

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<v Speaker 2>So here's the thing I might be assuming that all

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<v Speaker 2>of our family members also have the same teeth as

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<v Speaker 2>I do. So this is where the real fill I

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<v Speaker 2>probably will get to your will answer your question here

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<v Speaker 2>in a second. But Joel, so I haven't take We

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<v Speaker 2>haven't taken any of the kids in to get their

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<v Speaker 2>teeth checked. And our oldest is ten, she has not

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<v Speaker 2>yet been into the dentist. Obviously, we've got younger kids

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<v Speaker 2>as well, And so that's the potential frugal or cheap

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<v Speaker 2>where I might wear Kate and I. It's both of

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<v Speaker 2>us where we might be going a little cheap because

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<v Speaker 2>we haven't taken them into the dentist. But it's also

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<v Speaker 2>because in the state of Georgia, you need a certain

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<v Speaker 2>form filled out in order for them to go to

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<v Speaker 2>the public school. It's the Georgia Department of Health Form

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<v Speaker 2>thirty three hundred. I know it because it's always kind

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<v Speaker 2>of a battle to get your pediatrician to sign it,

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<v Speaker 2>but they are authorized. They can sign off and say, oh, yep,

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<v Speaker 2>I looked at their teeth.

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<v Speaker 1>They're good, and I figure's so authorized to roll their

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<v Speaker 1>eyes when you ask them to do it. They're like,

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<v Speaker 1>just take your kid to the dentists.

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<v Speaker 2>But I figure, if there's something bad enough that a ptry,

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<v Speaker 2>your family.

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<v Speaker 1>Doctor will be able to catch it. Sure, but at

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<v Speaker 1>some point I do know there's.

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<v Speaker 2>Something really wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>Hopefully your patric shop like, dude, come on exactly and

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<v Speaker 1>speak to you forthrightly. But at some point, yes, I

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<v Speaker 1>do know.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody, don't send in the hate, noil I we will

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<v Speaker 2>take our kids to the dentist, but it's a thing

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<v Speaker 2>in our household. Literally, Kate Man, this is long winded.

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<v Speaker 2>Last point. Did did I have I shared that Kate

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<v Speaker 2>got me dental tools for Christmas last year?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 2>Did I have ever even told you this?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't know that. It was like a stocking stuffer.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like a joke, but literally like the little

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<v Speaker 2>pick with like little scraper she got me a little

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<v Speaker 2>like it was a pack that you could buy of

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<v Speaker 2>dental tools. And I'm like, babe, you're just you're taking

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<v Speaker 2>things a little too far here, because I'm not going

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<v Speaker 2>to like poke my up myself in the gun, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like that's like the painful part. Let me reinforce getting

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<v Speaker 2>your Partically, anything you hear on this podcast should not

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<v Speaker 2>be done for batim. You should listen to the advice

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<v Speaker 2>of a trusted medical professional. And I have not used

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<v Speaker 2>these tools. I'm just saying it, Okay, I think it

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<v Speaker 2>was part joke, part he actually might want to give

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<v Speaker 2>us a shot. So let's get it. Let's get to

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<v Speaker 2>Phil's question.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry, Phil, let's get to it and specifically talk about

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<v Speaker 1>dental insurance and our thoughts on it. Monetarily, we won't

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<v Speaker 1>let insurance that's not dental care. Lack of desire to

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<v Speaker 1>go to the dentist impact our advice here.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't mind it, actually, I don't. Yeah, like when

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<v Speaker 2>I go into the dentists, it's actually I think I

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<v Speaker 2>almost view it like you getting a massage where somebody

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<v Speaker 2>is working on me making so weird, healthier and better.

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<v Speaker 2>You're the only person who thinks that. I think. Do

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<v Speaker 2>you feel that way when you get it to get

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<v Speaker 2>your cartooned up? Like I feel so good after getting

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<v Speaker 2>my car tune decks? I'm just like, oh man, this

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<v Speaker 2>thing is perfect, and I'm glad I did it, But

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<v Speaker 2>in the moment, I'm like, this is painful from not

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<v Speaker 2>terribly painful.

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<v Speaker 1>My teeth are frying too. But uh, okay, let's get

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<v Speaker 1>to Phil's question. And first the question is like, how

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<v Speaker 1>are you getting this dental insurance policy?

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<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 1>That's true because if it's subsidized through your employer, it's

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<v Speaker 1>likely still worth it because you're paying a fraction of

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<v Speaker 1>what it actually costs to have that insurance. But if

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<v Speaker 1>you're buying it as an individual, it's it's not nearly

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<v Speaker 1>as important as you as you think. From specifically, from

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<v Speaker 1>the financial perspective, it doesn't mean that you shouldn't go

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<v Speaker 1>see the dentists, but it means that you're you might

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<v Speaker 1>not need the insurance, you might not come ahead having

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<v Speaker 1>that insurance. And so, like all insurance policies, the specifics matter.

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<v Speaker 1>Health insurance is a no brainer for most people, and

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<v Speaker 1>not because it allows you to get cheaper prescription drugs

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<v Speaker 1>or you know, doctor's visits with a cope. We should

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<v Speaker 1>do away with cope is in my estimation, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think it's a good part of the insurance system. But

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<v Speaker 1>the whole reason to have medical insurance is because how

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<v Speaker 1>you're going to be covered if something catastrophic were to happen.

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<v Speaker 1>The annual out of pocket limit is like the best

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<v Speaker 1>benefit you have. That's the best part of health insurance.

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<v Speaker 1>Knowing that you're not on the hook beyond a certain amount. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>you get the worst, most devastating diagnosis, a life threatening

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<v Speaker 1>disease or injury, and you know the hospital bills could

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<v Speaker 1>rack up, and saying guess what, I'm capped at ten

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<v Speaker 1>K or twelve K out of pocket for my family whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>That annual out of pocket max is your saving grace.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not the wellnesses or checkups that allow you to

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<v Speaker 1>come out ahead, because cash payers actually often do pretty

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<v Speaker 1>well for themselves pricing wise. So I would say this, Phil,

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<v Speaker 1>I would say, don't be afraid to ask your dentist

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<v Speaker 1>office for discounts for paying in full when you get

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<v Speaker 1>the procedure done.

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<v Speaker 2>Be like old tim Yeah, never hears it.

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<v Speaker 1>Ask unless you have this like massively discounted dental insurance

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<v Speaker 1>policy through your work, which in case, like I said,

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<v Speaker 1>it might make sense, but if you're looking at buying

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<v Speaker 1>one on your own on the open market, it might

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<v Speaker 1>make sense instead to deal directly with your dentist for

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<v Speaker 1>the work you need to get done.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I like that direct to patient model too. And

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<v Speaker 2>is it the concierge medical services that are starting to

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<v Speaker 2>crop up? But yeah, I totally agree.

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<v Speaker 3>Man.

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<v Speaker 2>The thing that makes health insurance so crucial like that

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<v Speaker 2>is the same thing that makes dental insurance far less

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<v Speaker 2>necessary because most people are just using their dental insurance

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<v Speaker 2>to lower the cost of their routine visits. Right to

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<v Speaker 2>get a free cleaning except for your paying for the

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<v Speaker 2>premiums you know, throughout the year. It's like a credit.

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<v Speaker 2>You're like pre paying. It's like it's like you've joined

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<v Speaker 2>some sort of dental club and you've all agreed to

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<v Speaker 2>keep your teeth extra straight and white, right, something like that,

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<v Speaker 2>which is fine, But I'm just saying there's something to

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<v Speaker 2>be said for the British model where everyone's got crooked teeth.

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<v Speaker 2>What's ConTroll with that? Come on? But so, yeah, if

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<v Speaker 2>you're getting your teeth cleaned, you know your insurance it

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<v Speaker 2>might cover the cost. Actually, there's there's basically like one

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<v Speaker 2>hundred and eighty fifty model, right, so it's one hundred

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<v Speaker 2>Like if you're going in for routine maintenance like just

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<v Speaker 2>a cleaning, they typically cover one hundred percent of it.

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<v Speaker 2>If you even have a cavity a lot of plans

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<v Speaker 2>they only cover eighty percent of that. But if there's

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<v Speaker 2>something even bigger, like something more catastrophic like a crown

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<v Speaker 2>or something, they only cover fifty percent oftentimes of that procedure.

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<v Speaker 2>So sometimes even less.

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<v Speaker 1>Lot of times it's twenty And it really depends on

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<v Speaker 1>the policy, which is why the details are moth exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>But like I had something that where my Dennis was

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<v Speaker 1>recommending that I get some sort of mouthguard, but it

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<v Speaker 1>was no. The insurance company then said, and this was

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<v Speaker 1>back when I had traditional health interants in my employer,

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<v Speaker 1>they said, actually, this is orthodontic, and we only cover

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<v Speaker 1>orthodontia stuff up until you're eighteen or twenty five. Everget

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I'm much older than that now, so

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<v Speaker 1>you're not going to cover it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just a part of it. Like at the same

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<v Speaker 2>mouthguard at like the sports score like the football players.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah right, so, and so I literally did buy one

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<v Speaker 2>on Amazon and I can live that. What it was, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>where you like take the measurements or you take the

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<v Speaker 2>impression in your mouth. Yeah, okay, nice but it's one

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<v Speaker 2>of those things where you don't know sometimes how your

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<v Speaker 2>insurance is going to classify it, or what work you

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<v Speaker 2>need to get done and what percentage is covered at.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why it's important to dive into the details. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>the key question to ask before you opt in to

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<v Speaker 2>go out there and maybe get dental insurance if you're

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<v Speaker 2>so inclinent, is what your premiums are going to be,

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<v Speaker 2>and then what the policy covers. Because if let's just

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<v Speaker 2>say a routine cleaning it costs hundred and fifty bucks,

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<v Speaker 2>and then your plan, let's say it costs you three

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<v Speaker 2>hundred dollars a year in premiums, and say you're only

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<v Speaker 2>allowed you're only able to get cleaning done like once

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<v Speaker 2>a year or something like that. Well, for you in

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<v Speaker 2>this specific instance, the insurance, it probably doesn't make a

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<v Speaker 2>whole lot of sense.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, And like Phil alluded to, Matt, dental coverage usually

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<v Speaker 1>has an annual max payout and certain procedures have ridiculously

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<v Speaker 1>high co insurance payments, and so dental insurance is a

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<v Speaker 1>case where ditching it and opting to self insure really

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<v Speaker 1>can make a lot more sense. So instead of paying

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<v Speaker 1>for a portion of the work being done. Just pay

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<v Speaker 1>the full price of the cleaning, the cavity fill, whatever

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<v Speaker 1>it is. The premium money you've been able to save

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<v Speaker 1>by canceling your insurance policy, funnel that into a savings

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<v Speaker 1>account to pay for those procedures that you need done.

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<v Speaker 1>Plus it allows you this added flexibility being able to

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<v Speaker 1>shop around before you actually go in to see the doctor.

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<v Speaker 1>But again, so much of the equation comes down to

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<v Speaker 1>your own dental needs, the price and the coverage. So

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<v Speaker 1>it's not like we're mass recommending everyone to ditch dental insurance,

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<v Speaker 1>but it just really depends on the individual and depends

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<v Speaker 1>on your own dental needs.

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<v Speaker 2>That's right. Yeah, Okay, So one interesting additional option if

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<v Speaker 2>it's looking like you might need more significant dental work

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<v Speaker 2>done is medical tourism, which sounds kind of crazy, but

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<v Speaker 2>it's actually becoming more and more more popular.

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<v Speaker 1>My preferred destination Antarctica. Yeah, the Polar Bears work.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, it's becoming more popular specifically because because it's becoming

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<v Speaker 2>more affordable to go to another country to fly and

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<v Speaker 2>pay for medical procedures, specifically dental care.

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<v Speaker 1>In this case, oftentimes you're able to stay in a

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<v Speaker 1>nice hotel on the beach kind of thing. And that's

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<v Speaker 1>timber one way.

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<v Speaker 2>Way nicer than just running an errand, and you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like make a make a trip out of it. Sure,

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<v Speaker 2>literally we've talked about was it with Marshall Allen. We

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<v Speaker 2>talked about Molar City. We talked down to Mexico. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>down in Mexico that people are crossing the border to

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<v Speaker 2>get solid dental work done at a fraction of the

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<v Speaker 2>price costa Rica. That's another top destination. But for you

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<v Speaker 2>run the numbers because you know, even after paying for

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<v Speaker 2>the airfare, paying for the hotel, not to mention if

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<v Speaker 2>you're able to get it at a discount because you

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<v Speaker 2>got points. But it might make sense to get on

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<v Speaker 2>a plane get some dental work done abroad. And you

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<v Speaker 2>definitely don't need dental insurance in order to do this

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<v Speaker 2>in order to partake. It's the medical tourism. So we

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<v Speaker 2>want you Phil to take care of this Jompers man.

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<v Speaker 1>But figure a disclaimer here. Floss every day, brush it

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<v Speaker 1>brush twice a day, maybe three times a day, like

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<v Speaker 1>do those things you lost every day. That's the biggest

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<v Speaker 1>kind of insurance. It's kind of like I'll get to

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<v Speaker 1>that one stone. It's kind of like the cell phone case,

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<v Speaker 1>like the case yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>Preventative medicine is always is always the best.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't need the expensive insurance coverage. If you can

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<v Speaker 1>take a prevention is worth a pound of cure. And

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<v Speaker 1>does that mean that your phone will never ever get

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<v Speaker 1>a cracks screen. No, but you've done ninety percent of

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<v Speaker 1>it for the cheapest possible price, and so that is

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<v Speaker 1>that's the thing to do as long as you're If

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing those main things every day and going to

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<v Speaker 1>see it for ess often enough, I think you can

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<v Speaker 1>ditch dental insurance. You don't need it, but run the numbers.

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<v Speaker 1>Run the numbers, and I floss twice week, Okay, I

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<v Speaker 1>should floss every day.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I've been doing it more regularly because my daughter

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<v Speaker 2>and I were like talking about it, UNTI. We're both

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<v Speaker 2>kind of trying to well with kids. You want to

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<v Speaker 2>instill the habit, but their teeth are their little mouths.

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<v Speaker 2>But then their teeth are so far apart. They're like,

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<v Speaker 2>why would you floss? I'm like, food gets in between

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<v Speaker 2>your teeth and they're like, no, it doesn't. I'm like, what,

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<v Speaker 2>show me your teeth open and I'm like, oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>there's like, let me poke around with this fisher, but

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<v Speaker 2>your mom got me. It's all it's all gappy in here.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't have your grown up teeth yet. Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 2>it's still get a instill some of those habits. On

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<v Speaker 2>a related note, Kate just bought do you okay? Do

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<v Speaker 2>y'all use string floss that you wrap around your fingers

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<v Speaker 2>or do you use flossers? So they just like they

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<v Speaker 2>make it so easy. They make it easy and fun.

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<v Speaker 2>They do.

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<v Speaker 1>I used to always talk a little more, but it

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<v Speaker 1>makes it more likely that I'm gonna do it.

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<v Speaker 2>You buy the bolt pack at Costco, which is what

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<v Speaker 2>Kate did. Anyway, I'm a recent floss or convert. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>a fan. There you go. Yeah, I'm doing it way

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<v Speaker 2>more often because of that.

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<v Speaker 1>Nice are We've got more questions to get to fill.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope that helps.

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<v Speaker 2>And talk about other body parts now yeah, yeah, well yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>this is really going to we're going to dive down

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<v Speaker 2>the medical rabbit hole in a big way.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, we're going to talk about life insurance in a second.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's like you know something you need if you die, well,

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<v Speaker 1>but what kindy you need? And can you get too

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<v Speaker 1>much or something that's too expensive. We'll talk about that

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<v Speaker 1>and more right after this.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, man, we are back from the break, and

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<v Speaker 2>yes we will get to that question on life insurance.

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<v Speaker 2>But first, let's here from a listener who has just

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<v Speaker 2>recently gotten to money Gear number five.

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<v Speaker 5>Hi, Matt and Joel, this is Renee from Pennsylvania. First time,

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<v Speaker 5>long time. I love your down to earth advice and

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<v Speaker 5>the fact that you're not trying to scam your listeners

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<v Speaker 5>with time shares. My husband and I work full time.

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<v Speaker 5>We don't have children, and we are not planning to

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<v Speaker 5>have children. Our debts include our mortgage, zero percent interest

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<v Speaker 5>loan for our new HVAC system, and just under twenty

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<v Speaker 5>thousand dollars in school loans. We're finally at a point

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<v Speaker 5>in our finances where we can think about investing aka

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<v Speaker 5>money Gear five. We are both contributing to our employee

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<v Speaker 5>match four oh one k's and employer hsas, with plans

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<v Speaker 5>to increase those contributions each year. We have about sixty

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<v Speaker 5>thousand dollars in a high heeled savings account, earning four

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<v Speaker 5>point twenty five percent, and we continue to put money

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<v Speaker 5>in that account almost every month. I would like to

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<v Speaker 5>start investing some of that money, but I'm not sure

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<v Speaker 5>where to start. When I look at CD rates, they

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<v Speaker 5>don't seem that much better than our savings account unless

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<v Speaker 5>I'm misunderstanding the rates. I'm interested in something like a

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<v Speaker 5>practice money market account that has a positive social impact

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<v Speaker 5>associated with it. What do you suggest for our next move? Thanks?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, Renee. Those timeshare scams are coming. We're going to

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<v Speaker 1>start pitching those probably tomorrow, is my guest. It's been

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<v Speaker 1>a minute since we've talked about time shares.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, no, that's false. I'm just joking.

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<v Speaker 1>We're not going to add something we like. We'll never

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<v Speaker 1>go down that rabbit hole. Because timeshares are the worst.

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<v Speaker 1>People should avoid them. And it's it's very very rare

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<v Speaker 1>that I hear someone Matt who's like, I love my

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<v Speaker 1>time share. Most people are like, how do I get

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<v Speaker 1>out of this about losing my shirt?

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<v Speaker 2>Where? What's the little website where I can go to

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<v Speaker 2>trade or sell? Because folks, yeah, they're tired of them.

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<v Speaker 2>Sell it for literally pennies on the dollar because I'll

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<v Speaker 2>pay nobody value to take over. Yes, the responsibilities, like

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<v Speaker 2>nobody values timeshares on the secondary market, that's for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>They're sold, not bought. That's right, Renee. But onto your question.

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<v Speaker 2>It sounds like you've paid down a lot of debt,

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<v Speaker 2>it sounds like you created a sizeable chunk of savings.

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<v Speaker 2>Plus you are investing in some smart ways as well,

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<v Speaker 2>so you're yeah, the question, you're asking what are the

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<v Speaker 2>next steps? How can you invest some more? And we

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<v Speaker 2>want you focused less on the like within the savings sphere,

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<v Speaker 2>the different savings products here, and more on those actual

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<v Speaker 2>investment accounts that you mentioned, because while it's a spectacular

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<v Speaker 2>thing that savers that they're not getting collaborated anymore, except

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<v Speaker 2>for the ones specifically with the big banks, they're still

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<v Speaker 2>getting paid the absolute least that being sevent raised rates

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<v Speaker 2>at all. No, Yeah, ramping up your savings even more,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not going to necessarily get you where you're looking

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<v Speaker 2>to go. It's a good idea for short term, short

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<v Speaker 2>term goals that you might be saving up for in

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<v Speaker 2>quote unquote investing for, but when it comes to long

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<v Speaker 2>term investments, you need to change. Basically your mindset shift

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<v Speaker 2>out is that you're looking at your money because you

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<v Speaker 2>might feel more comfortable adding to your high yel savings account.

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<v Speaker 2>Right's socking more money into a CD or that money

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<v Speaker 2>market fund that you mentioned. But the way that you're

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<v Speaker 2>actually going to make bigger strides and in order to

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<v Speaker 2>grow your wealth is by embracing the risk but also

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<v Speaker 2>the reward that comes with investing your money. I think

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<v Speaker 2>it's gotten more volatility that you're going to expose yourself to,

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<v Speaker 2>but that is how you're actually going to grow.

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<v Speaker 1>It's become easier to be more comfortable being a saver

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<v Speaker 1>because rates aren't complete crap, right, They're not all the

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<v Speaker 1>way down to the dumps like they were for a

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<v Speaker 1>decade plus, and so now it feels like, oh cool,

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<v Speaker 1>I can make close to five percent on savings. So

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<v Speaker 1>maybe I'll just be happy savings and I won't think

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<v Speaker 1>about investing as much. But the truth is, over the years,

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<v Speaker 1>over the decades, you're losing out on meaningful additional returns

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<v Speaker 1>by priority tizing safes. And yes, you need liquid cash,

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<v Speaker 1>you need savings, but you don't want to save so

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<v Speaker 1>much that you're not investing as much as you could

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<v Speaker 1>or should.

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<v Speaker 2>And so I think one of the tricks is the

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<v Speaker 2>fact that we most folks aren't necessarily comparing their expenses today, right,

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<v Speaker 2>So we've all experienced inflation. Yeah, and we're not necessarily

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<v Speaker 2>some folks are, which is great. But at the end

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<v Speaker 2>of the year, when it comes to your savings account,

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<v Speaker 2>you get a little statement and it tells you this

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<v Speaker 2>is how much you earned this year. And you're going

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<v Speaker 2>to say, oh, wow, that's so much more than last year.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm earning so much money by investing my money in

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<v Speaker 2>a high yo savings. But what they're not looking at

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<v Speaker 2>is the itemized breakdown of how much they spent on groceries,

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<v Speaker 2>for instance. And if you were automatically sent that, I

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<v Speaker 2>think that would have an impact on how it is

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<v Speaker 2>that you view the money that you're spending and the

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<v Speaker 2>money that you're saving, not necessarily investing, you'd be like, oh, man,

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<v Speaker 2>I need to out earn this inflation exactly, which is

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<v Speaker 2>the main reason to invest in the first place. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>That inflation is steadily eating away at our money, and

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<v Speaker 2>so we need to invest to grow that money so

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<v Speaker 2>that you know, we're not getting stung by inflation over time,

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<v Speaker 2>that we're able to kind of mitigate that and actually

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<v Speaker 2>outpace it.

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<v Speaker 3>Right.

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<v Speaker 1>And so the thing is, I think Renee doesn't even

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<v Speaker 1>necessarily need to open up a new account. You've got

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<v Speaker 1>plenty of good ones already at your disposal. It sounds like,

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<v Speaker 1>and I love that you already have plans to increase

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<v Speaker 1>what you're putting into that four oh one K and

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<v Speaker 1>that HSA, but it might make sense to ramp up

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<v Speaker 1>contributions to those even sooner than maybe you thought, like

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<v Speaker 1>we're all about liquid savings, But it's a good idea

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<v Speaker 1>to see how many months of expenses that sixty thousand

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<v Speaker 1>dollars you mentioned you had. How much would that cover?

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<v Speaker 1>Like do you need that much or would forty thousand

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<v Speaker 1>dollars suffice? Would that be enough? Like if that would

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<v Speaker 1>be plenty to cover five or six months of expenses

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<v Speaker 1>and your jobs feel steady, I would be funneling more

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<v Speaker 1>of that cash into those investment accounts for the increased

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<v Speaker 1>tax and wealth building benefits that you're.

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<v Speaker 2>Going to receive. Yeah, I would say, as you're looking

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<v Speaker 2>at the amount of money that you have to decide

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<v Speaker 2>to make sure you have because you mentioned a zero

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<v Speaker 2>percent loan that you've got on your HVAC, which I

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<v Speaker 2>get it. Sometimes we're in situations where we don't have

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<v Speaker 2>the money on hand. But it sounds like you have

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<v Speaker 2>the money on hand, and maybe you chose to go

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<v Speaker 2>with a zero percent HVAC loan because you're like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>why not, you can hang on my money for longer.

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to make sure that you have a

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<v Speaker 2>plan to pay that off once that zero percent window closes, sure,

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<v Speaker 2>because like, okay, so they're not really like quote unquote

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<v Speaker 2>HVAC loans oftentimes, they're just personal loans, and personal loan

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<v Speaker 2>rates very widely. Like it's so like anywhere from like

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<v Speaker 2>seven percent all we up to thirty, like thirty five percent,

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<v Speaker 2>and so they're counting on folks getting used to perhaps

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<v Speaker 2>not paying that and then all of a sudden they

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<v Speaker 2>roll out of that window and boom, if your credit

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<v Speaker 2>is not so stellar, you're gonna be on that higher

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<v Speaker 2>end of that unsecured loan and you're all of a

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<v Speaker 2>sudden paying thirty percent on something that you didn't have

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<v Speaker 2>a plan to pay off, and so renee.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like those furniture commercials you see on TV and

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<v Speaker 1>it's yeah, no payments, no interest until twenty thirty five,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's like they're hoping that you're gonna forget commediately

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<v Speaker 1>about when.

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<v Speaker 2>They're gonna come calling. Yes, and then you owe a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of money and exactly yes, But Renee, she seems organized,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm guessing they have a lump sum set aside

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<v Speaker 2>that when the time comes, you're gonna blute pay that

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<v Speaker 2>thing off. But yeah, just make sure if not, though,

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<v Speaker 2>make sure that you do have a plan for them,

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<v Speaker 2>and that you've got that much money set aside in

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<v Speaker 2>addition to your emergency fund. But make sure you're taking

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<v Speaker 2>that into account as well as student loans resuming as well,

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<v Speaker 2>because it sounds like you've got a couple more twenty

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<v Speaker 2>thousand in student loans that will be resuming. Yeah, So

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<v Speaker 2>just a quick note on savings and making sure that

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<v Speaker 2>you're not fully depleting those that you're looking out in

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<v Speaker 2>the full picture. Yeah, And I guess I mentioned that

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<v Speaker 2>Renee doesn't in all likelihood need another account. She doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>need to add anything else to the mix. I think

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<v Speaker 2>if she's just kind of getting closer to maxing out

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<v Speaker 2>both those two accounts, so she's currently investing in she's

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of the way there right, Like she is

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<v Speaker 2>doing a lot more than most people can or do.

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<v Speaker 2>But there is one other thing that's probably worth mentioning

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<v Speaker 2>mentioning when it comes to crushing your retirement account goals

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<v Speaker 2>more fully, and that is adding one additional account account

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<v Speaker 2>to the mix and RENEE you and your husband you

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<v Speaker 2>could likely consider and you probably should consider the roth IRA's.

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<v Speaker 2>That would be like the trifecta essentially all that with

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<v Speaker 2>the other two HSA four oh one k roth ira

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<v Speaker 2>doing all above funneling and the maxing out the wroth

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<v Speaker 2>IRA and the HSA those two together would be incredible

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<v Speaker 2>and then getting at least a match on the four

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<v Speaker 2>one K and then any additional dollar I would say

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<v Speaker 2>should go into the four to one K. After those

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<v Speaker 2>two are maxed.

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<v Speaker 1>You can contribute up to sixty five hundred dollars annually

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<v Speaker 1>each into those wroth iras. And if you're doing all

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<v Speaker 1>the above, that would be a lot of investing, right

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<v Speaker 1>which you might not be able to do all the above,

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<v Speaker 1>or at least be able to do all the above

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<v Speaker 1>this year, But even just opening the wrath investing a little,

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<v Speaker 1>that would be a great start. And so we would say, yeah, again,

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<v Speaker 1>saving money is important, but savings alone aren't going to

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<v Speaker 1>fund retirement, So make sure you're not leaning too hard

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<v Speaker 1>in that direction. Just because rates are higher and it

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<v Speaker 1>feels a little more comfortable. It doesn't mean that you

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<v Speaker 1>should rest on your laurels and just kind of allow

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<v Speaker 1>your savings to accumulate and accumulate unless you have specific

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<v Speaker 1>short term to medium term goals that you're saving for.

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<v Speaker 1>If these are long term goals, we want you putting

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<v Speaker 1>more aside in those retirement accounts.

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<v Speaker 4>That's right.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. And you asked specifically too, about putting your money

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<v Speaker 2>with maybe a money mark fund that has like a

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<v Speaker 2>social bent or something like that, and we would caution

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<v Speaker 2>you against going with a bank or somebody that's paying

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<v Speaker 2>you less than what it is that you can get

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<v Speaker 2>competitively on the open market. You specifically asked about practice

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<v Speaker 2>and they're actually at you know, we look them up.

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<v Speaker 2>They're paying four point eight percent, which is pretty dang

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<v Speaker 2>good that they're paying that out to customers, but also

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<v Speaker 2>have a social benefit that they're providing providing the community, right, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and so and that's a question whether or not that

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<v Speaker 2>is good. It's more of a question about whether or

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<v Speaker 2>not she should be doing more savings and less investing

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<v Speaker 2>exactly exactly. But as far as those medium term goals,

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<v Speaker 2>if you are looking to move your money into to

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<v Speaker 2>something like that, that's totally fine, I just want to

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<v Speaker 2>see you necessarily getting like two to three percent at

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<v Speaker 2>the expense of that they happen to be doing some

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<v Speaker 2>quote unquote good when you don't, you may not necessarily

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<v Speaker 2>know what good it is that they're providing for a community.

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<v Speaker 2>It makes me think of like ESG Investing and even

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<v Speaker 2>SMP like the rating agency, Like they just dropped ESG

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<v Speaker 2>like the rating because it's like, what is does that

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<v Speaker 2>even mean anymore to different companies because so many eye

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<v Speaker 2>of the beholders and it's gotten pretty murky well on,

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<v Speaker 2>and we've been covering that for a while in the show.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not that we're against doing good or caring about this.

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<v Speaker 2>Vironment do it separately from your savings and investing, and

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<v Speaker 2>so for instance, like if they were only paying out

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<v Speaker 2>like two percent, I would say, well, shoot, get with

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<v Speaker 2>the high held savings us paying you five percent, but

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<v Speaker 2>then take a portion of your money and donate it

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<v Speaker 2>directly to the different causes that you believe and just

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<v Speaker 2>keep them separate, specifically the good that you're able to

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<v Speaker 2>provide the community in the world. It just helps things

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<v Speaker 2>to remain a little more clear. Proper alignment, you know, yeah, exactly,

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<v Speaker 2>all right, let's hear from our listener who has that

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<v Speaker 2>less than ideal insurance product.

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<v Speaker 6>Hey, Matt and Joel, this is Robin from northern Colorado.

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<v Speaker 6>I have a question for you guys regarding whole life insurance.

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<v Speaker 6>Back in the nineties, I was in the Marine Corps

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<v Speaker 6>and started investing with an investment bank that caters largely

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<v Speaker 6>to the military in general. It's a good company. However,

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<v Speaker 6>I have learned that perhaps they did not always have

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<v Speaker 6>my best interest in mind with regard to their near

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<v Speaker 6>insistence on getting whole life insurance, which I ended up doing.

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<v Speaker 6>My three children also have their own whole life insurance policies.

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<v Speaker 6>In recent years, mainly from the good advice from my

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<v Speaker 6>fiancee and also from reading some articles on your website.

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<v Speaker 6>I am now convinced that whole life insurance is not

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<v Speaker 6>all it's cracked up to be, and I probably would

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<v Speaker 6>do better with a term life insurance policy for the

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<v Speaker 6>remaining years that my children are dependent upon my income.

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<v Speaker 6>My question is what should I do. I wonder what

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<v Speaker 6>the tax or any other financial implications might be if

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<v Speaker 6>I close out the policy. Should I invest what remaining

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<v Speaker 6>cash I get back into some other investment vehicle? Or

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<v Speaker 6>maybe put it towards a term policy instead. I appreciate

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<v Speaker 6>your thoughts on this rather confusing financial matter that has

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<v Speaker 6>bothered me for quite some time now. If you guys

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<v Speaker 6>ever find yourself in the northern Colorado area, I'd love

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<v Speaker 6>to recommend some of my favors breweries, and if the

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<v Speaker 6>timing is right, you might even get to see some

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<v Speaker 6>of my artwork on display at these breweries. I have

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<v Speaker 6>a super cool side hustle painting art and recycle wood

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<v Speaker 6>that features the Colorado flag.

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<v Speaker 2>Thanks guys, Robin.

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<v Speaker 1>First off, we dig the side hustle, the small business

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<v Speaker 1>that you're starting right, And it's true that there are

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<v Speaker 1>some good companies out there, by the way, that don't

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<v Speaker 1>do a good job advising their customers as they're making

0:28:22.560 --> 0:28:26.560
<v Speaker 1>big financial decisions. Even companies that we like don't necessarily

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<v Speaker 1>do the due diligence, especially some of these financial companies,

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<v Speaker 1>that they should do with their customers. My mom was

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<v Speaker 1>thinking about rolling over a Wroth four oh one k

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<v Speaker 1>recently into a roth Ira with Fidelity, and they were like, cool,

0:28:38.120 --> 0:28:40.200
<v Speaker 1>let's do it. And they didn't really ask her any

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<v Speaker 1>important questions, and they didn't notify her about the five

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<v Speaker 1>year rule. It doesn't mean that Fidelity's not a great

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<v Speaker 1>company with low fees, But man, that was a little

0:28:47.120 --> 0:28:50.280
<v Speaker 1>disconcerting to hear that they didn't like ask those questions

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<v Speaker 1>of her, right.

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<v Speaker 2>Or she didn't get an email that said this is

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<v Speaker 2>what you should expect. Yeah, got it?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, So once again, I think this reveals the need

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<v Speaker 1>for more basic financial education in schools and maybe less

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<v Speaker 1>complexity in the rules overall. But it's something that impacts

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<v Speaker 1>all of us every single day of our lives, this

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<v Speaker 1>money thing, right, We're dealing with it all the time,

0:29:09.280 --> 0:29:11.520
<v Speaker 1>yet most of us we graduate learning nothing about it.

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<v Speaker 1>And the truth is a lot of financial mistakes can

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<v Speaker 1>be mitigated. But man, wouldn't it be nice if we

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<v Speaker 1>work to prevent more of these financial issues from the

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<v Speaker 1>get go. I think we owe it to generations of

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<v Speaker 1>future Americans to help teach them what it looks like

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<v Speaker 1>to handle personal finance as well, especially something like a

0:29:29.680 --> 0:29:32.920
<v Speaker 1>life insurance policy that you're stuck with paying for decades

0:29:32.960 --> 0:29:34.920
<v Speaker 1>down the road. You might not realize until a decade

0:29:35.160 --> 0:29:37.360
<v Speaker 1>is gone and you're like, Wow, that's a decade of

0:29:37.440 --> 0:29:40.480
<v Speaker 1>returns on money I could have instead invested that.

0:29:40.480 --> 0:29:43.120
<v Speaker 2>I lost out on that's true. Yeah, And so the

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<v Speaker 2>whole life policies that she has specifically on our kids, Robin,

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<v Speaker 2>those are the absolute most unnecessary that you have. They're

0:29:50.160 --> 0:29:53.400
<v Speaker 2>all kind of unnecessary. Not life insurance in Geril but

0:29:53.440 --> 0:29:56.880
<v Speaker 2>whole life specifically. But the entire purpose of life insurance

0:29:56.920 --> 0:29:59.800
<v Speaker 2>is to cover loss of income in the case of

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<v Speaker 2>or untimely death. And so unless your kids, I think

0:30:03.240 --> 0:30:05.160
<v Speaker 2>you said you have three of them, unless they earn

0:30:05.200 --> 0:30:10.160
<v Speaker 2>you money, right, like if they're child stars like Mcallai Culkin, right,

0:30:10.960 --> 0:30:15.200
<v Speaker 2>they're probably not contributing to the family finances. On More

0:30:15.240 --> 0:30:17.600
<v Speaker 2>than likely they're actually a drain on them. They cost

0:30:17.680 --> 0:30:19.200
<v Speaker 2>you money. Not to say that kids aren't worth it,

0:30:19.240 --> 0:30:21.680
<v Speaker 2>but they're not bringing in. They're not carrying their own

0:30:21.720 --> 0:30:24.960
<v Speaker 2>weight right when it comes to the financial situation. That's

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<v Speaker 2>what I'm saying is that there is not even a

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<v Speaker 2>need to have term life insurance on them at all,

0:30:30.000 --> 0:30:33.600
<v Speaker 2>which is our absolute whole life on them. But any

0:30:33.640 --> 0:30:36.240
<v Speaker 2>sort of life insurany life insurance, exactly, it's a cheaper

0:30:36.320 --> 0:30:38.880
<v Speaker 2>kind zero life insurance that is the right amount for

0:30:38.920 --> 0:30:41.280
<v Speaker 2>each one of your kiddos. If are you, I'd be

0:30:41.280 --> 0:30:43.760
<v Speaker 2>getting rid of those policies as soon as possible.

0:30:43.800 --> 0:30:45.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and some people will say, oh, but we need

0:30:45.840 --> 0:30:48.560
<v Speaker 1>a policy on our kids to cover potential burial costs.

0:30:49.040 --> 0:30:51.040
<v Speaker 1>That's a case for self insurance, not a case for

0:30:51.080 --> 0:30:54.000
<v Speaker 1>life insurance, because that is not the purpose of life insurance.

0:30:54.280 --> 0:30:56.360
<v Speaker 1>But yeah, so cancel those things to get those premiums

0:30:56.360 --> 0:30:58.479
<v Speaker 1>back in your life every single month. And then when

0:30:58.520 --> 0:31:00.320
<v Speaker 1>it comes to the whole life policy that you and

0:31:00.360 --> 0:31:03.400
<v Speaker 1>your fiance you're soon to be husband have, well, whether

0:31:03.480 --> 0:31:05.640
<v Speaker 1>or not you're gonna want to ditch those that depends

0:31:05.960 --> 0:31:08.320
<v Speaker 1>on how long you've had those policies in place and

0:31:08.400 --> 0:31:10.680
<v Speaker 1>what changes there may have been to your health in

0:31:10.720 --> 0:31:14.560
<v Speaker 1>the meantime, Because on average, the premiums are ten x

0:31:14.920 --> 0:31:17.160
<v Speaker 1>sometimes more than what a term policy would be. So

0:31:17.360 --> 0:31:19.400
<v Speaker 1>in the case of term you might pay eighteen dollars

0:31:19.440 --> 0:31:21.200
<v Speaker 1>a month, Well, for your whole life it might be

0:31:21.400 --> 0:31:25.080
<v Speaker 1>two hundred dollars a month, But your age and your

0:31:25.120 --> 0:31:28.160
<v Speaker 1>health factor into those premiums and what you're actually paying.

0:31:28.360 --> 0:31:30.040
<v Speaker 1>So that's a pretty good rule of thumb, I would

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<v Speaker 1>say when it comes to thinking about how much cheaper

0:31:32.240 --> 0:31:35.240
<v Speaker 1>term insurance is likely to be. But like, let's say,

0:31:35.240 --> 0:31:37.800
<v Speaker 1>for instance, you've been diagnosed to something that would impact

0:31:38.040 --> 0:31:40.480
<v Speaker 1>rates on a future policy. You might be better off

0:31:40.520 --> 0:31:43.120
<v Speaker 1>keeping your whole life policy intact because rates on that

0:31:43.160 --> 0:31:45.600
<v Speaker 1>new policy, even a term one which comes with on

0:31:45.720 --> 0:31:48.719
<v Speaker 1>average ten x less, will be affected. And again, if

0:31:48.920 --> 0:31:52.160
<v Speaker 1>you've got this policy fifteen years ago, well, rates are

0:31:52.160 --> 0:31:54.680
<v Speaker 1>going to go up just by factor of just by

0:31:54.720 --> 0:31:57.560
<v Speaker 1>consequence of your age, So that's important to take into considerable.

0:31:57.560 --> 0:31:59.360
<v Speaker 2>Well, so the flip side of the coin would be

0:31:59.400 --> 0:32:01.840
<v Speaker 2>if you're actually in better health. For instance, it makes

0:32:01.840 --> 0:32:04.200
<v Speaker 2>me think if you, like, say you smoked back when

0:32:04.200 --> 0:32:07.560
<v Speaker 2>you got that policy, you could actually save drastically more

0:32:07.600 --> 0:32:09.960
<v Speaker 2>money now by getting a new policy in addition to

0:32:10.000 --> 0:32:11.840
<v Speaker 2>the fact that you're going to pay you know, ten

0:32:11.920 --> 0:32:15.080
<v Speaker 2>times less for a term policy over that whole life policy.

0:32:15.120 --> 0:32:17.120
<v Speaker 2>But also it's not only how long that you've had

0:32:17.120 --> 0:32:19.960
<v Speaker 2>the policy, right, but it's also how much longer you're

0:32:19.960 --> 0:32:22.480
<v Speaker 2>going to need that policy moving forward, how much longer

0:32:22.520 --> 0:32:25.040
<v Speaker 2>that you'll have folks who are dependent on your income. So,

0:32:25.440 --> 0:32:27.800
<v Speaker 2>for instance, let's say your kids are let's say your

0:32:27.840 --> 0:32:30.640
<v Speaker 2>youngest kid is twelve years old, Well, that means there

0:32:30.680 --> 0:32:33.280
<v Speaker 2>might be only like six years where they are solely

0:32:33.320 --> 0:32:36.400
<v Speaker 2>dependent on your income, at which point you could potentially

0:32:36.520 --> 0:32:38.480
<v Speaker 2>cancel if you wanted to, Like, you could potentially be

0:32:38.520 --> 0:32:40.880
<v Speaker 2>without life insurance altogether because you don't have anybody who

0:32:41.000 --> 0:32:45.200
<v Speaker 2>is dependent on that income. If you're your partner, maybe

0:32:45.240 --> 0:32:48.960
<v Speaker 2>they're not necessarily in a position where they need your income. Yeah,

0:32:49.080 --> 0:32:52.120
<v Speaker 2>it might be certainly the icing on top. Certainly life

0:32:52.160 --> 0:32:53.600
<v Speaker 2>would look a whole lot different where you did not

0:32:53.640 --> 0:32:55.800
<v Speaker 2>be there, But it may not be necessary.

0:32:55.480 --> 0:32:57.880
<v Speaker 1>Especially if your savings and your investments are robust. You

0:32:57.960 --> 0:32:59.840
<v Speaker 1>might say, oh, in six years time, based on the

0:33:00.000 --> 0:33:02.400
<v Speaker 1>out we're talking a size often, sure, baby, we don't

0:33:02.400 --> 0:33:03.400
<v Speaker 1>need that policy anymore.

0:33:03.400 --> 0:33:05.040
<v Speaker 2>Exactly. Kind of goes back to the whole dental thing,

0:33:05.080 --> 0:33:06.720
<v Speaker 2>which is why we recommend term in the first place,

0:33:06.760 --> 0:33:10.640
<v Speaker 2>because usually covering a specific period of time where kids

0:33:10.680 --> 0:33:12.040
<v Speaker 2>are under the roof, for where your spouse is going

0:33:12.120 --> 0:33:14.360
<v Speaker 2>to need that, and hopefully hopefully over that twenty or

0:33:14.400 --> 0:33:18.080
<v Speaker 2>thirty year term policy you have built financial independence, beef

0:33:18.120 --> 0:33:20.240
<v Speaker 2>up your nest day in the meantime to be set. Yes,

0:33:20.360 --> 0:33:21.680
<v Speaker 2>and then you don't need.

0:33:21.520 --> 0:33:24.440
<v Speaker 1>The life insurance anymore because it covered the period of

0:33:24.480 --> 0:33:27.040
<v Speaker 1>time where you weren't financially in and then now you are.

0:33:27.160 --> 0:33:29.840
<v Speaker 2>The designated period of time exactly and you also so

0:33:29.880 --> 0:33:31.880
<v Speaker 2>you mentioned the tax implications as well. So if you've

0:33:31.920 --> 0:33:34.800
<v Speaker 2>surrendered the policy, you actually you only have to pay

0:33:34.840 --> 0:33:37.520
<v Speaker 2>taxes on anything that you receive that is over what

0:33:37.600 --> 0:33:40.440
<v Speaker 2>you paid. So the dollar amount of the cash basis,

0:33:40.560 --> 0:33:42.280
<v Speaker 2>so what it is that you paid into it, you

0:33:42.320 --> 0:33:44.800
<v Speaker 2>will receive that back tax free, no income tax on

0:33:44.840 --> 0:33:46.640
<v Speaker 2>that amount of money. I think it's also important to

0:33:46.640 --> 0:33:49.360
<v Speaker 2>mention Matt like term life yes, better, But we were

0:33:49.360 --> 0:33:51.720
<v Speaker 2>mentioning all these little caveats because yeah, it depends on

0:33:51.760 --> 0:33:53.080
<v Speaker 2>how long you've had that. There's a lot of different

0:33:53.120 --> 0:33:54.959
<v Speaker 2>factors that you plan to have it taken into account.

0:33:55.040 --> 0:33:57.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, health stuff, and what the actual cost you would

0:33:58.000 --> 0:33:59.720
<v Speaker 1>be paying for term life policy. I think it's probably

0:33:59.760 --> 0:34:04.080
<v Speaker 1>worth getting quotes on term life policies for yourself. And

0:34:04.240 --> 0:34:08.279
<v Speaker 1>you're soon to be, you know, in your fiance to see, okay,

0:34:08.280 --> 0:34:10.239
<v Speaker 1>well how much could we actually say and are we

0:34:10.360 --> 0:34:13.239
<v Speaker 1>ensurable at a decent rate? But I would also say this,

0:34:13.320 --> 0:34:15.880
<v Speaker 1>there's the devil's in the details. And there's a nonprofit

0:34:15.920 --> 0:34:18.759
<v Speaker 1>called the Consumer Federation of America that will review your

0:34:18.800 --> 0:34:21.640
<v Speaker 1>policy for a reasonable one hundred and fifty dollars fee.

0:34:21.719 --> 0:34:23.560
<v Speaker 1>And since this is such a big decision, and there

0:34:23.600 --> 0:34:25.319
<v Speaker 1>are a lot of factors that go into whether or

0:34:25.360 --> 0:34:28.120
<v Speaker 1>not you opt to keep her ditchit. It's probably worth

0:34:28.120 --> 0:34:30.160
<v Speaker 1>getting insight from a pro. So we'll put a link

0:34:30.200 --> 0:34:33.640
<v Speaker 1>in the show notes to this website, the Consumer Federation

0:34:33.719 --> 0:34:35.440
<v Speaker 1>of America. The service they offer is it just run

0:34:35.480 --> 0:34:37.160
<v Speaker 1>by this one guy. It's this one guy. Okay, this

0:34:37.200 --> 0:34:39.400
<v Speaker 1>one guy whose name is James Hunts, and he has

0:34:39.480 --> 0:34:42.279
<v Speaker 1>literally been reviewing life insurance policies since I was born

0:34:42.320 --> 0:34:45.800
<v Speaker 1>in nineteen eighty four. That's thirty nine years of experience.

0:34:46.080 --> 0:34:47.040
<v Speaker 1>And he does it now.

0:34:47.080 --> 0:34:49.759
<v Speaker 2>Talk about laser focus, right right. This guy does one

0:34:49.760 --> 0:34:51.960
<v Speaker 2>thing and he does it really well exactly. So yeah,

0:34:52.160 --> 0:34:54.400
<v Speaker 2>he literally says on the website, I've basically seen everything.

0:34:55.080 --> 0:34:56.719
<v Speaker 2>Nothing you send my way is going to shock well.

0:34:56.719 --> 0:34:59.879
<v Speaker 2>And before that, he used to be the tax commissioner

0:35:00.080 --> 0:35:02.400
<v Speaker 2>for Vermont and so he was in the industry before.

0:35:02.400 --> 0:35:04.160
<v Speaker 2>This guy is a pro. He's been doing this specifically

0:35:04.200 --> 0:35:06.640
<v Speaker 2>for a long time. I honestly, I really like the

0:35:06.680 --> 0:35:09.759
<v Speaker 2>simplicity of his model, like this business.

0:35:09.520 --> 0:35:11.600
<v Speaker 1>And that he's set up public servant basically in a

0:35:11.640 --> 0:35:13.120
<v Speaker 1>lot of ways, like he's doing this as a way

0:35:13.120 --> 0:35:15.000
<v Speaker 1>to help people and just cover costs and so, but I.

0:35:14.920 --> 0:35:16.719
<v Speaker 2>Think he probably makes decent money doing it too. Maybe

0:35:16.719 --> 0:35:18.200
<v Speaker 2>he does, Okay, I don't know, I've heard of anybody

0:35:18.200 --> 0:35:20.880
<v Speaker 2>else doing this, But he'll talk it through with you

0:35:20.920 --> 0:35:22.920
<v Speaker 2>too after he runs the numbers. I just think it's

0:35:22.920 --> 0:35:24.520
<v Speaker 2>one of those things where it's like, well, hey, if

0:35:24.520 --> 0:35:27.399
<v Speaker 2>you've had this policy for in that borderline ten to

0:35:27.440 --> 0:35:29.279
<v Speaker 2>fifteen year period and you're not sure where to go,

0:35:29.360 --> 0:35:32.640
<v Speaker 2>and I think it's borderline, running it through with him

0:35:32.680 --> 0:35:34.960
<v Speaker 2>and having him crunch the numbers will help provide some

0:35:34.960 --> 0:35:36.680
<v Speaker 2>peace of mind knowing that then you're making the right

0:35:36.719 --> 0:35:39.440
<v Speaker 2>decision on whether to keep it or cancel it. But Robin,

0:35:39.480 --> 0:35:42.879
<v Speaker 2>hopefully that's helpful again if we can all go back

0:35:42.920 --> 0:35:45.520
<v Speaker 2>like almost everyone would get term life and not whole

0:35:45.520 --> 0:35:48.080
<v Speaker 2>life policies. And I'm sorry, I'm sorry that someone even

0:35:48.120 --> 0:35:50.880
<v Speaker 2>at a decent company, led you astray in the beginning,

0:35:50.960 --> 0:35:53.319
<v Speaker 2>because I'm sure, yeah, that of course has cost you

0:35:53.400 --> 0:35:56.000
<v Speaker 2>over the years. But while that's a bummer, you can

0:35:56.040 --> 0:35:58.480
<v Speaker 2>still make hopefully a smart move here in the here

0:35:58.520 --> 0:36:00.400
<v Speaker 2>and now. Right, But Matt, let's get too a couple

0:36:00.400 --> 0:36:03.879
<v Speaker 2>more questions, including a frugal or cheap we'll talk about

0:36:03.920 --> 0:36:05.960
<v Speaker 2>one listener going to the County Fair, whether he made

0:36:05.960 --> 0:36:07.719
<v Speaker 2>a wise decision or not. We'll get to that and

0:36:07.800 --> 0:36:19.680
<v Speaker 2>more right after this. All right, we are back and

0:36:19.719 --> 0:36:22.560
<v Speaker 2>we will get to that frugal or cheap County Fair edition.

0:36:22.640 --> 0:36:24.880
<v Speaker 2>But before that, let's hear from a listener who is

0:36:24.920 --> 0:36:26.000
<v Speaker 2>going to be getting married soon.

0:36:26.600 --> 0:36:29.240
<v Speaker 4>Hi there, my name is Cassie and I'm from British Columbia.

0:36:29.840 --> 0:36:31.680
<v Speaker 4>I'm also getting married soon. So I was wondering what

0:36:31.719 --> 0:36:34.680
<v Speaker 4>the best way to manage finances together slash blend our money.

0:36:34.920 --> 0:36:36.640
<v Speaker 4>I've heard that it's one of the most difficult things

0:36:36.640 --> 0:36:39.040
<v Speaker 4>in marriage, and so what do you guys suggest from

0:36:39.080 --> 0:36:42.560
<v Speaker 4>your experiences, like what credit cards or budgeting? Will also

0:36:42.640 --> 0:36:44.840
<v Speaker 4>be in a university during this time, so if you

0:36:44.880 --> 0:36:46.200
<v Speaker 4>have any extra advice.

0:36:46.000 --> 0:36:46.680
<v Speaker 7>Please let me know.

0:36:46.920 --> 0:36:49.319
<v Speaker 1>Thank you, Matt. Cassie is north of the border. We

0:36:49.360 --> 0:36:51.960
<v Speaker 1>have a nice contingent of international listeners.

0:36:52.320 --> 0:36:54.080
<v Speaker 2>We some number of folks up there in Canada. Yeah,

0:36:54.080 --> 0:36:55.680
<v Speaker 2>and I know that there's a lot of advice we offer,

0:36:55.680 --> 0:36:58.120
<v Speaker 2>hopefully on the show that is applicable to people that

0:36:58.280 --> 0:37:00.239
<v Speaker 2>fans orders living on shore, Ye.

0:37:00.320 --> 0:37:02.000
<v Speaker 1>Live in Canada, live in you know whatever. There's a

0:37:02.000 --> 0:37:02.960
<v Speaker 1>lot of people in Europe as well.

0:37:03.239 --> 0:37:05.960
<v Speaker 2>But there's certain principles that hold no matter what the

0:37:06.000 --> 0:37:09.759
<v Speaker 2>actual products investment accounts, that you can invest with it

0:37:09.840 --> 0:37:11.920
<v Speaker 2>even if you don't care about the roth Hira income

0:37:12.160 --> 0:37:14.400
<v Speaker 2>contribution limits where I just keep over the last one

0:37:14.280 --> 0:37:15.440
<v Speaker 2>where Yeah.

0:37:15.280 --> 0:37:17.520
<v Speaker 1>Now, I guess we have talked about loonies. Not that's

0:37:17.560 --> 0:37:20.320
<v Speaker 1>what they're called. Yeah, I think they're actually Canadian dollars,

0:37:20.320 --> 0:37:22.600
<v Speaker 1>but loonies and tuonies. That's like the common vernaxt right

0:37:22.680 --> 0:37:25.399
<v Speaker 1>one dollar two dollar coin. Right, Yeah, but I've never again,

0:37:25.440 --> 0:37:28.520
<v Speaker 1>I've never been. But all right, question for you, do

0:37:28.600 --> 0:37:31.640
<v Speaker 1>you think that combining finances is the most difficult thing

0:37:31.640 --> 0:37:32.240
<v Speaker 1>in marriage?

0:37:33.239 --> 0:37:35.080
<v Speaker 2>I think it can be, right, It's always it's like

0:37:35.120 --> 0:37:37.400
<v Speaker 2>it's either money, it's how many kids you're going to have?

0:37:37.680 --> 0:37:40.319
<v Speaker 2>It is what is your relationship going to look like

0:37:40.320 --> 0:37:43.279
<v Speaker 2>with your in laws? Like those are all the they're

0:37:43.320 --> 0:37:46.840
<v Speaker 2>like snares and waiting, like they could all potentially be

0:37:47.719 --> 0:37:50.440
<v Speaker 2>topics that lead to the worst arguments or fights that

0:37:50.480 --> 0:37:51.600
<v Speaker 2>you have, but they don't have to be, and I

0:37:51.600 --> 0:37:53.000
<v Speaker 2>don't think they're going to be when it comes to

0:37:53.040 --> 0:37:56.200
<v Speaker 2>Cassie because I love for her that she's being proactive. Yeah,

0:37:56.360 --> 0:37:59.560
<v Speaker 2>and I love that Cassie, I feel like you're the

0:37:59.600 --> 0:38:01.640
<v Speaker 2>type A I don't know, you remind me of me

0:38:01.760 --> 0:38:03.439
<v Speaker 2>a little bit because this is something I was worried

0:38:03.480 --> 0:38:05.719
<v Speaker 2>about before I got married. We were super intentional and

0:38:05.760 --> 0:38:08.240
<v Speaker 2>made sure that we sat down because we had premieral

0:38:08.280 --> 0:38:10.600
<v Speaker 2>counseling before we got married, and we talked through some

0:38:10.840 --> 0:38:13.239
<v Speaker 2>really important life stuff. We talked about faith stuff, we

0:38:13.239 --> 0:38:15.120
<v Speaker 2>talked about we even talked about kids. Guess what we

0:38:15.120 --> 0:38:18.200
<v Speaker 2>didn't talk about at all? Money? And I was just like,

0:38:18.239 --> 0:38:20.640
<v Speaker 2>wait a minute, I feel like there's a big sort

0:38:20.640 --> 0:38:24.279
<v Speaker 2>of sector here that that just went untouched. Again, it's

0:38:24.520 --> 0:38:26.720
<v Speaker 2>because of that I had to be a little little proactive.

0:38:26.800 --> 0:38:28.200
<v Speaker 1>Amazing that gets left out of a lot of those

0:38:28.239 --> 0:38:30.200
<v Speaker 1>combos when it's such an important topic for us all

0:38:30.200 --> 0:38:32.120
<v Speaker 1>to be discussing. But I agree with you, Matt. I

0:38:32.160 --> 0:38:34.160
<v Speaker 1>think the fact that Cassie is asking the question that

0:38:34.200 --> 0:38:36.239
<v Speaker 1>she is being intentional on the front end. She's so

0:38:36.239 --> 0:38:38.480
<v Speaker 1>ahead of the game already. You're you're setting yourself up

0:38:38.520 --> 0:38:39.400
<v Speaker 1>for success because you.

0:38:39.400 --> 0:38:42.920
<v Speaker 2>Care exactly yeah, yeah, you know. And money finances, it's

0:38:42.960 --> 0:38:45.439
<v Speaker 2>just one of the like the mini areas that you're

0:38:45.440 --> 0:38:48.360
<v Speaker 2>combining in, all of which require a lot of communication,

0:38:49.040 --> 0:38:51.080
<v Speaker 2>you know, like when you're single, you used to make

0:38:51.280 --> 0:38:53.759
<v Speaker 2>that decision and you just keep on moving with your day,

0:38:53.800 --> 0:38:55.560
<v Speaker 2>like how it is you're gonna spend money, what is

0:38:55.600 --> 0:38:57.720
<v Speaker 2>it that you're gonna do? But now there's someone else's

0:38:57.719 --> 0:39:01.040
<v Speaker 2>feelings to take into account to take into consideration. And

0:39:01.040 --> 0:39:03.560
<v Speaker 2>that's true whether we're talking about spending and saving or

0:39:03.600 --> 0:39:05.240
<v Speaker 2>whether we're just talking about going out with your friends

0:39:05.600 --> 0:39:06.279
<v Speaker 2>on a Friday night.

0:39:06.320 --> 0:39:08.000
<v Speaker 1>But I thought we were going to Netflix and chill together,

0:39:08.080 --> 0:39:10.600
<v Speaker 1>baby was like, and then there's hurt feelings.

0:39:11.440 --> 0:39:15.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So what I'm getting at is regular, healthy communication,

0:39:16.520 --> 0:39:19.040
<v Speaker 2>Like that's going to be key to all of these discussions,

0:39:19.040 --> 0:39:21.719
<v Speaker 2>whether you're talking about money, whether you're talking about friendships,

0:39:22.200 --> 0:39:24.080
<v Speaker 2>whether you're talking about kids and in law is all.

0:39:24.000 --> 0:39:27.160
<v Speaker 1>That And I think that means humility and asking for forgiveness.

0:39:27.239 --> 0:39:29.480
<v Speaker 1>I've realized this with my kids too, Matt. The more

0:39:29.920 --> 0:39:32.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm able to apologize for things that I've done, the

0:39:32.600 --> 0:39:35.120
<v Speaker 1>ways I've hurt them, or ways that I was rude

0:39:35.200 --> 0:39:37.239
<v Speaker 1>or short or something like that, that I feel like

0:39:37.320 --> 0:39:40.040
<v Speaker 1>that is building a level of trust in our relationship,

0:39:40.120 --> 0:39:42.560
<v Speaker 1>even when I've done something that hurt them or that

0:39:42.640 --> 0:39:43.600
<v Speaker 1>wasn't that was short sighted.

0:39:43.719 --> 0:39:46.719
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and so Cassie sounds like a humble lady. Yeah,

0:39:46.760 --> 0:39:48.239
<v Speaker 2>but you got to just got this on lot. Both

0:39:48.280 --> 0:39:50.320
<v Speaker 2>of those are really important in that relationship dynamic.

0:39:50.400 --> 0:39:50.520
<v Speaker 3>Right.

0:39:50.560 --> 0:39:52.359
<v Speaker 1>The more you can kind of incorporate those two things,

0:39:52.440 --> 0:39:55.239
<v Speaker 1>the more firm foundation foundation you're going to build. And

0:39:55.280 --> 0:39:57.040
<v Speaker 1>I would say our advice for most folks who get

0:39:57.080 --> 0:40:01.440
<v Speaker 1>married is to combine finances. That advice is somewhat malleable, right,

0:40:01.440 --> 0:40:04.360
<v Speaker 1>It might change a little for a duo who's getting

0:40:04.360 --> 0:40:06.200
<v Speaker 1>married later in life. Let's say you're getting married in

0:40:06.239 --> 0:40:08.839
<v Speaker 1>your forties or fifties or whatever, or you've had a

0:40:08.880 --> 0:40:11.960
<v Speaker 1>previous relationship that failed. I mean, those that can impact

0:40:11.960 --> 0:40:14.800
<v Speaker 1>our advice here. But studies show that couples who combine

0:40:14.800 --> 0:40:17.560
<v Speaker 1>finances are happier and they also tend to build more

0:40:17.600 --> 0:40:19.880
<v Speaker 1>wealth with that approach. And so it doesn't mean that

0:40:19.920 --> 0:40:23.480
<v Speaker 1>you can't or shouldn't have some level of autonomy and

0:40:23.560 --> 0:40:26.160
<v Speaker 1>ability to spend how you want. You should still remain

0:40:26.760 --> 0:40:29.560
<v Speaker 1>a distinct individual inside of that relationship, and we do

0:40:29.600 --> 0:40:32.440
<v Speaker 1>want you to create room for that in your budget.

0:40:32.600 --> 0:40:35.320
<v Speaker 1>It's just important to be able to spend without getting

0:40:35.320 --> 0:40:38.840
<v Speaker 1>approval for everything. But that doesn't necessarily mean that you

0:40:38.880 --> 0:40:41.560
<v Speaker 1>should not be combining most things, because I think it's

0:40:41.560 --> 0:40:43.799
<v Speaker 1>going to help accentuate your goals and your ability to

0:40:44.120 --> 0:40:46.000
<v Speaker 1>achieve them, and it's going to put you guys on

0:40:46.000 --> 0:40:47.880
<v Speaker 1>the same page. It's actually going to force some of

0:40:47.880 --> 0:40:50.480
<v Speaker 1>those discussions that are necessary to make the progress you're

0:40:50.480 --> 0:40:52.000
<v Speaker 1>going to want to make with your money.

0:40:52.120 --> 0:40:54.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Yeah, so you said goals, Like, some advice I

0:40:54.520 --> 0:40:56.640
<v Speaker 2>would have is just to dream together, right, like, come

0:40:56.719 --> 0:40:59.439
<v Speaker 2>up with shared goals together, because I think that common

0:40:59.480 --> 0:41:01.680
<v Speaker 2>division is to ensure that you both feel like that

0:41:01.680 --> 0:41:04.600
<v Speaker 2>you're on the same team, which is exactly why those

0:41:04.640 --> 0:41:08.640
<v Speaker 2>couples in that research. We can link to the article

0:41:08.680 --> 0:41:11.120
<v Speaker 2>as well that talked about that research about happier and

0:41:11.160 --> 0:41:14.040
<v Speaker 2>wealthier couples who have combined their money. But I think

0:41:14.040 --> 0:41:16.279
<v Speaker 2>that's why they tend to be better at building wealth. Yeah,

0:41:16.520 --> 0:41:20.359
<v Speaker 2>there is serious legit power in two people who are

0:41:20.360 --> 0:41:24.080
<v Speaker 2>going hard after the same thing. And which also makes

0:41:24.120 --> 0:41:25.799
<v Speaker 2>me think about prenups by the way, because there's going

0:41:25.840 --> 0:41:28.360
<v Speaker 2>to be some folks who tell you to get a prenup.

0:41:28.560 --> 0:41:31.960
<v Speaker 2>I am personally not a fan. I feel like by

0:41:32.360 --> 0:41:35.120
<v Speaker 2>someone somebody getting those, there is like a lack of

0:41:35.160 --> 0:41:37.680
<v Speaker 2>trust that is implicit with that, right, and it almost

0:41:37.719 --> 0:41:40.279
<v Speaker 2>becomes like a self fulfilling prophecy when it's just like, oh,

0:41:40.320 --> 0:41:43.000
<v Speaker 2>I trust you with everything except for this, you know,

0:41:43.080 --> 0:41:45.240
<v Speaker 2>my money, the thing that allows me to do everything

0:41:45.239 --> 0:41:47.160
<v Speaker 2>else that I'm able to do in life with.

0:41:47.320 --> 0:41:49.360
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you're like, hey, there's a distinct chance this doesn't

0:41:49.400 --> 0:41:52.280
<v Speaker 1>work out, and you are exoing seeds.

0:41:52.360 --> 0:41:54.480
<v Speaker 2>Yes, yeah, it's self fulfilling. It's a self fulfilling prophecy.

0:41:54.520 --> 0:41:57.040
<v Speaker 2>You're some of those seeds. I think with the inherent

0:41:57.160 --> 0:42:00.799
<v Speaker 2>act of creating a prenups a negative for your money,

0:42:00.840 --> 0:42:02.839
<v Speaker 2>which I don't like. And I know that there are

0:42:02.840 --> 0:42:05.439
<v Speaker 2>plenty of couples who are going to say, oh, I've

0:42:05.440 --> 0:42:08.239
<v Speaker 2>got a perfectly happy relationship, but I would venture to

0:42:08.280 --> 0:42:10.719
<v Speaker 2>guess that they would be even happier, that they would

0:42:10.719 --> 0:42:13.440
<v Speaker 2>be even wealthier, that that relationship would last even longer

0:42:13.600 --> 0:42:14.680
<v Speaker 2>if they didn't have a prenup.

0:42:14.719 --> 0:42:16.400
<v Speaker 1>Well, there are a lot of couples that where they're

0:42:16.440 --> 0:42:19.319
<v Speaker 1>that relationship fell apart in the prenup process, right, Like

0:42:19.360 --> 0:42:22.560
<v Speaker 1>they really just that one step of trying to hammer

0:42:22.560 --> 0:42:24.640
<v Speaker 1>out a bunch of those things. And maybe you would

0:42:24.640 --> 0:42:26.880
<v Speaker 1>just say, well, that revealed kind of the underlying dysfunction

0:42:26.960 --> 0:42:29.279
<v Speaker 1>to begin with, maybe, but I do think like.

0:42:29.200 --> 0:42:34.399
<v Speaker 2>A crash course of its better to identify these cracks now, right,

0:42:34.480 --> 0:42:37.200
<v Speaker 2>Like identify this fact the potential cracks in the foundation

0:42:37.400 --> 0:42:39.680
<v Speaker 2>now uh. And as to whether or not these are

0:42:39.719 --> 0:42:41.720
<v Speaker 2>things that can be mended or I think my advice

0:42:41.760 --> 0:42:43.760
<v Speaker 2>would be if you if you think that a prenup

0:42:43.800 --> 0:42:47.040
<v Speaker 2>is necessary, then why I guess it makes me question

0:42:47.120 --> 0:42:51.560
<v Speaker 2>why marriage is the ultimate goal then, because there are

0:42:51.840 --> 0:42:53.960
<v Speaker 2>other ways to have a long term, committed partner partnership.

0:42:54.000 --> 0:42:54.480
<v Speaker 2>Valid question.

0:42:54.560 --> 0:42:56.160
<v Speaker 1>But if you're saying listen, no, no, I'm going to commit

0:42:56.200 --> 0:42:57.160
<v Speaker 1>to you for the rest of my life. We are

0:42:57.200 --> 0:43:00.960
<v Speaker 1>going to get married in the eyes of the state

0:43:01.360 --> 0:43:04.640
<v Speaker 1>and my church or whatever, then at why at the

0:43:04.640 --> 0:43:06.640
<v Speaker 1>same time would you have to have this backup?

0:43:07.000 --> 0:43:09.719
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well, I feel like we could potentially go down

0:43:09.840 --> 0:43:14.440
<v Speaker 2>this path. But like it raises the question of like

0:43:14.520 --> 0:43:16.560
<v Speaker 2>marriage in general, and I think that there are a

0:43:16.600 --> 0:43:19.640
<v Speaker 2>lot of folks who are entering into marriages and relationships

0:43:19.680 --> 0:43:22.160
<v Speaker 2>like that that aren't taking those seriously enough.

0:43:22.200 --> 0:43:22.279
<v Speaker 4>Ye.

0:43:22.360 --> 0:43:23.600
<v Speaker 2>Like, I feel like that that's what it's a more,

0:43:24.080 --> 0:43:26.120
<v Speaker 2>it's a larger indicator of But I feel like we're

0:43:26.160 --> 0:43:28.560
<v Speaker 2>getting a little too heavy here, So I'm gonna like

0:43:28.600 --> 0:43:29.279
<v Speaker 2>back out a little bit.

0:43:29.480 --> 0:43:30.839
<v Speaker 1>You just have to be careful if you're saying I'm

0:43:30.840 --> 0:43:32.399
<v Speaker 1>going to commit to all these things and then you say,

0:43:32.400 --> 0:43:34.640
<v Speaker 1>but I'm not committing to combining my finances, I think

0:43:34.640 --> 0:43:37.520
<v Speaker 1>it just raises some deeper questions totally. Cassie also mentioned

0:43:37.640 --> 0:43:40.880
<v Speaker 1>credit cards and budgeting, and so yeah, a couple suggestions

0:43:40.920 --> 0:43:43.319
<v Speaker 1>on that front. Use credit cards responsibly, of course, but

0:43:43.360 --> 0:43:45.680
<v Speaker 1>which ones that's really up to you. I mean, you

0:43:45.719 --> 0:43:49.200
<v Speaker 1>can choose to optimize cash back or travel rewards, and

0:43:49.360 --> 0:43:51.800
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if you're interested in traveling for free,

0:43:52.160 --> 0:43:54.880
<v Speaker 1>that is definitely one one route to go. We have

0:43:55.040 --> 0:43:58.759
<v Speaker 1>content related to that in previous podcast episodes and up

0:43:58.800 --> 0:44:02.399
<v Speaker 1>on the website. But really, how complex do you want

0:44:02.400 --> 0:44:04.080
<v Speaker 1>to get and what are you shooting for? That should

0:44:04.120 --> 0:44:06.640
<v Speaker 1>inform which credit cards you opt to get. For budgeting,

0:44:06.719 --> 0:44:09.200
<v Speaker 1>that's also personal, right If you prefer digital we love

0:44:09.280 --> 0:44:11.640
<v Speaker 1>wine ab you need a budget that rocks. But there

0:44:11.680 --> 0:44:13.839
<v Speaker 1>are lots of ways to skin that cat too, So

0:44:14.280 --> 0:44:16.920
<v Speaker 1>Matt does the old school Excel spreadsheet. I mean, really,

0:44:17.239 --> 0:44:19.920
<v Speaker 1>whatever floats your boat on that front and whatever allows

0:44:19.920 --> 0:44:22.880
<v Speaker 1>you really like, I think whatever aids communication for the

0:44:22.880 --> 0:44:25.279
<v Speaker 1>two of you and makes it easy for both to

0:44:25.360 --> 0:44:27.719
<v Speaker 1>kind of get in on the money things so you

0:44:27.719 --> 0:44:30.000
<v Speaker 1>can have good conversations. I would prioritize that.

0:44:30.160 --> 0:44:33.360
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, which makes me think that Cassie should prioritize simplicity

0:44:33.400 --> 0:44:35.560
<v Speaker 2>because you're saying like it depends on how complex you

0:44:35.560 --> 0:44:37.200
<v Speaker 2>want to go with it. That kind of determines maybe

0:44:37.239 --> 0:44:40.120
<v Speaker 2>what card you get, Cassie. I mean, if I I'm looking,

0:44:40.160 --> 0:44:41.799
<v Speaker 2>I'm thinking back to when I first started out, and

0:44:41.840 --> 0:44:44.960
<v Speaker 2>I think this simpler the better, especially if your partner

0:44:45.640 --> 0:44:49.160
<v Speaker 2>may not be one hundred percent on board all in,

0:44:49.239 --> 0:44:51.080
<v Speaker 2>because I'm guessing, like again, you kind of sound like

0:44:51.080 --> 0:44:54.080
<v Speaker 2>the type a personality, and I think if you put

0:44:54.080 --> 0:44:57.279
<v Speaker 2>together this really elaborate, complex plan, and even if you

0:44:57.719 --> 0:45:00.319
<v Speaker 2>have a special fun date night where you make you know,

0:45:00.360 --> 0:45:01.600
<v Speaker 2>it's like, oh, we're going to talk about this and

0:45:01.640 --> 0:45:03.279
<v Speaker 2>it's gonna be great, and you have a bottle line

0:45:03.360 --> 0:45:06.719
<v Speaker 2>or craft beer or whatever, even still I think your

0:45:06.719 --> 0:45:09.480
<v Speaker 2>partner could have there might be a sense of resentment

0:45:09.719 --> 0:45:11.960
<v Speaker 2>where he's just like, man, I feel like she's trying

0:45:11.960 --> 0:45:13.000
<v Speaker 2>to control.

0:45:12.640 --> 0:45:14.520
<v Speaker 1>How it is like we're going to live our lives,

0:45:14.600 --> 0:45:15.120
<v Speaker 1>or how.

0:45:15.040 --> 0:45:17.279
<v Speaker 2>It is I can spend or when am I going

0:45:17.360 --> 0:45:19.880
<v Speaker 2>to give my input statements like that, And even on

0:45:19.920 --> 0:45:22.799
<v Speaker 2>your part, if he doesn't stick with a plan, you

0:45:22.880 --> 0:45:24.880
<v Speaker 2>might have like a sense of resentment a little bit

0:45:24.920 --> 0:45:26.719
<v Speaker 2>because you're like, man, I work so hard to put

0:45:26.719 --> 0:45:28.440
<v Speaker 2>together this awesome plan that's going to allow us to

0:45:28.480 --> 0:45:31.200
<v Speaker 2>achieve our goals, but it's not really panning out. And

0:45:31.239 --> 0:45:33.280
<v Speaker 2>so I think for now at least keeping being simple

0:45:33.320 --> 0:45:35.839
<v Speaker 2>and then kind of slowly taking some baby steps and

0:45:36.000 --> 0:45:38.879
<v Speaker 2>upping the level of complexity, especially early on while you're

0:45:38.880 --> 0:45:40.080
<v Speaker 2>in school you've got other stuff going on.

0:45:40.080 --> 0:45:41.600
<v Speaker 1>I feel like what you're pointing to here is that

0:45:41.640 --> 0:45:43.839
<v Speaker 1>the process matters more than the results. And that's something

0:45:43.880 --> 0:45:46.319
<v Speaker 1>Emily says a whole lot at my wife, who is

0:45:46.560 --> 0:45:48.319
<v Speaker 1>studying to become a therapist. I think she's spot on.

0:45:48.400 --> 0:45:52.560
<v Speaker 1>It's like how you tackle this together, even the forming

0:45:52.840 --> 0:45:56.880
<v Speaker 1>of the methodology, and like how you communicate about it

0:45:56.920 --> 0:45:59.120
<v Speaker 1>and the tools you use, and how you incorporate each

0:45:59.160 --> 0:46:02.800
<v Speaker 1>other into that place process that matters, and that shows

0:46:02.880 --> 0:46:05.960
<v Speaker 1>a lot of love and respect if you're able to

0:46:06.640 --> 0:46:08.680
<v Speaker 1>make sure they feel comfortable with the process too, not

0:46:08.800 --> 0:46:10.719
<v Speaker 1>just saying like, all right, I figured it out, here's

0:46:10.719 --> 0:46:11.400
<v Speaker 1>what we're doing.

0:46:11.480 --> 0:46:14.640
<v Speaker 2>And so I'm making that other party feel seen and

0:46:14.719 --> 0:46:16.600
<v Speaker 2>heard as they're able to kind of come to the

0:46:16.640 --> 0:46:18.239
<v Speaker 2>table with their own ideas as well.

0:46:18.320 --> 0:46:20.799
<v Speaker 1>So yeah, yep, casey, best of luck. We can't wait

0:46:20.840 --> 0:46:22.560
<v Speaker 1>to be invited to the wedding. It'll be our first

0:46:22.560 --> 0:46:26.719
<v Speaker 1>stop in Canada, so I might go, hey, don't invite

0:46:26.760 --> 0:46:28.000
<v Speaker 1>me a let you're serious road trip.

0:46:28.080 --> 0:46:28.600
<v Speaker 2>Let's do it.

0:46:29.160 --> 0:46:31.759
<v Speaker 1>Matt will even perform the ceremony. All right, let's get

0:46:31.800 --> 0:46:33.960
<v Speaker 1>to our last question for this episode. This is a

0:46:34.000 --> 0:46:37.040
<v Speaker 1>frugaler cheap, a fun one from a listener in Indiana.

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<v Speaker 7>Hey man, Angel, my name is Bobby from Bellpraizo, Indiana.

0:46:40.840 --> 0:46:43.800
<v Speaker 7>I have a frugaler cheap situation for you. So I

0:46:43.840 --> 0:46:45.560
<v Speaker 7>took my family to the fair the other day, the

0:46:45.560 --> 0:46:47.759
<v Speaker 7>County Fair, and it was a lot of fun, but

0:46:48.320 --> 0:46:49.719
<v Speaker 7>a little bit of prep work. I was able to

0:46:49.760 --> 0:46:51.879
<v Speaker 7>save about forty bucks on lemonade. I'll tell you how.

0:46:52.440 --> 0:46:55.600
<v Speaker 7>So I had some of those souvenir sand castle cups

0:46:55.680 --> 0:46:59.400
<v Speaker 7>from previous years. So before we left, we stopped at

0:46:59.400 --> 0:47:02.200
<v Speaker 7>all the gots lemonade, got a nice and cold and

0:47:02.280 --> 0:47:04.640
<v Speaker 7>I washed those old cups out real good. We went

0:47:04.680 --> 0:47:06.759
<v Speaker 7>to the fair, had a nice picnic, and then as

0:47:06.800 --> 0:47:09.480
<v Speaker 7>we're walking around, we're thirsty. I just busted out my

0:47:09.600 --> 0:47:12.880
<v Speaker 7>ald lemonade from the cooler, filled up our sand castle cups,

0:47:12.880 --> 0:47:16.480
<v Speaker 7>and were sipping lemonade in style. Except our three jugs

0:47:16.480 --> 0:47:20.080
<v Speaker 7>cost me about six dollars instead of forty five. So

0:47:20.120 --> 0:47:23.880
<v Speaker 7>my question is is that frugal or is that you Bobby?

0:47:24.680 --> 0:47:27.840
<v Speaker 2>Love it, buddy, sipping and style. Okay, what is the

0:47:27.880 --> 0:47:30.960
<v Speaker 2>sand castle cup? I don't know. I have a specimply

0:47:31.160 --> 0:47:34.359
<v Speaker 2>related to that county fair for the Indiana County whatever

0:47:34.400 --> 0:47:36.719
<v Speaker 2>state fair. I love it. Okay, So this actually I

0:47:36.760 --> 0:47:38.280
<v Speaker 2>was getting, by the way when I was like hearing

0:47:38.280 --> 0:47:40.200
<v Speaker 2>his question, getting like Charlotte's web vibes to make me

0:47:40.239 --> 0:47:42.440
<v Speaker 2>think of Wilberg going to the what is it the

0:47:42.680 --> 0:47:45.440
<v Speaker 2>Prettiest Pig Contest whatever it is show. Yeah, yeah, I'm like,

0:47:45.480 --> 0:47:48.480
<v Speaker 2>oh man, that's such a good book. It's a nice throwback. Okay.

0:47:48.520 --> 0:47:51.480
<v Speaker 2>So Bobby's situation here, it kind of reminds me I

0:47:51.719 --> 0:47:54.319
<v Speaker 2>shared maybe not too long ago, about when we went

0:47:54.320 --> 0:47:58.000
<v Speaker 2>to six Flags we got a refillable you had unlimited

0:47:58.000 --> 0:48:00.520
<v Speaker 2>refills on a single cup, and you know we're taking

0:48:00.520 --> 0:48:02.120
<v Speaker 2>all six of us in. I'm like, man, these cups

0:48:02.160 --> 0:48:05.760
<v Speaker 2>are twenty five bucks. So I don't know, it reminded

0:48:05.800 --> 0:48:07.799
<v Speaker 2>me of that because there's a part of me that

0:48:08.000 --> 0:48:11.680
<v Speaker 2>was like, oh, this feels a little bit cheap. And specifically,

0:48:11.760 --> 0:48:15.520
<v Speaker 2>like I guess to Bobby's question here is I wonder

0:48:16.040 --> 0:48:19.040
<v Speaker 2>how his family felt, right, because our kids were young

0:48:19.160 --> 0:48:21.480
<v Speaker 2>enough that they didn't. I don't think they felt the

0:48:21.480 --> 0:48:23.960
<v Speaker 2>stigma of us all sharing the same cup. You know,

0:48:24.000 --> 0:48:26.720
<v Speaker 2>like there's other families walking around and they each person

0:48:26.800 --> 0:48:28.600
<v Speaker 2>has their own cup. There's other groups, each one of

0:48:28.600 --> 0:48:30.759
<v Speaker 2>them has their own cup. Here's our family walking around

0:48:30.800 --> 0:48:32.680
<v Speaker 2>waiting in line for the rides. We got one cup

0:48:32.680 --> 0:48:35.200
<v Speaker 2>and we're all like passing it back and forth. But

0:48:35.280 --> 0:48:36.919
<v Speaker 2>I think they're young enough that they're just like, oh whatever,

0:48:36.960 --> 0:48:38.680
<v Speaker 2>we're just this is just how we're doing it. Yeah,

0:48:38.719 --> 0:48:40.799
<v Speaker 2>And so I think that's a consideration, Bobby, is your

0:48:40.880 --> 0:48:44.200
<v Speaker 2>family family members, were they on board as well? As

0:48:44.239 --> 0:48:47.960
<v Speaker 2>you're busting out the jugs of all the lemonade are

0:48:48.040 --> 0:48:50.160
<v Speaker 2>lapping their foreheads, They're like, oh damn, are there people

0:48:50.160 --> 0:48:52.080
<v Speaker 2>around you giving you the eye? And all of a sudden,

0:48:52.080 --> 0:48:54.600
<v Speaker 2>they feel they're just embarrassed at the fact that this

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<v Speaker 2>is a step that y'all are taking in order to

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<v Speaker 2>save money. Because that's way back when when we did

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<v Speaker 2>the original Frugal or Cheap episode where we talked to

0:49:02.239 --> 0:49:03.960
<v Speaker 2>spend a whole episode talking about what it means to

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<v Speaker 2>be frugal, what it means to be cheap. Imposing your

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<v Speaker 2>frugalness on somebody else without necessarily giving them a choice

0:49:10.640 --> 0:49:14.200
<v Speaker 2>is might be a form of cheapness. And in this way, but.

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<v Speaker 1>You also might say, hey, listen, even if we don't

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<v Speaker 1>do this, like we're not buying a fourteen dollars leimonade

0:49:19.160 --> 0:49:20.480
<v Speaker 1>or whatever it is at the count of care, like

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<v Speaker 1>that's not our budget.

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<v Speaker 2>There's always trade offs, right, And so I welcome that conversation, right,

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<v Speaker 2>the ability because if your kids are like, oh my gosh,

0:49:28.200 --> 0:49:31.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm so embarrassed, Well, that's a learning opportunity. That's that's

0:49:31.200 --> 0:49:33.960
<v Speaker 2>an ability for you to for them to learn the

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<v Speaker 2>value of money and to even get them on board

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit and say, hey, we might save a

0:49:39.800 --> 0:49:42.520
<v Speaker 2>ton of money here, and hey, you're gonna be on

0:49:42.560 --> 0:49:44.799
<v Speaker 2>the receiving end of this because of this, each one

0:49:44.800 --> 0:49:45.840
<v Speaker 2>of us is going to be able to get an

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<v Speaker 2>extra ice cream snack. Oh, we'll be able to go

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<v Speaker 2>do this ride when before we weren't able to. And

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's the important lesson and moving forward. If

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<v Speaker 2>they're like, nah, I really want to get this year's

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<v Speaker 2>sand Castle Cup, And what if changed the cup? The

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<v Speaker 2>cup it's tied eye this year, dad, and those are

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<v Speaker 2>all green or something like that. It's like, oh man,

0:50:04.719 --> 0:50:07.000
<v Speaker 2>we're the only ones with the green sand Castle Cup.

0:50:07.040 --> 0:50:09.160
<v Speaker 2>There are all these small things that take into account,

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<v Speaker 2>and I think different folks are going to make different decisions.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's all sort of like you're saying, like the

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<v Speaker 2>Emily's counseling thing, it's it's all the process is so

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<v Speaker 2>important in hearing your kids and your spouse, and I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, just you got to take all that into

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<v Speaker 2>account as you're trying to make the best decision not

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<v Speaker 2>only for your money, but for your family and the

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<v Speaker 2>culture and everyone around you too.

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<v Speaker 1>So one other thing that I think could make this

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<v Speaker 1>land in squarely in the cheap category instead of frugal

0:50:33.000 --> 0:50:36.200
<v Speaker 1>is if the money that you spend on those lemonades

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<v Speaker 1>and the special sand Castle cups goes to like a

0:50:38.960 --> 0:50:43.040
<v Speaker 1>community organization or a nonprofit proceeds go to charity. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and then if you're like being super super cheap with that,

0:50:46.360 --> 0:50:49.279
<v Speaker 1>then that that feels that's just cheap instead of frugal

0:50:49.000 --> 0:50:51.080
<v Speaker 1>total totally. It makes me think of like Emily and

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<v Speaker 1>I we took the kids to this mini pony petting

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<v Speaker 1>thing which it was all about a fundraiser for ponies

0:50:56.000 --> 0:50:57.680
<v Speaker 1>and pastries and animal rescue organizations.

0:50:57.719 --> 0:50:58.239
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's right.

0:50:58.880 --> 0:51:01.080
<v Speaker 1>And so they they were selling pace trees there and

0:51:01.360 --> 0:51:04.800
<v Speaker 1>there was a whole pie that someone had made from scratch.

0:51:04.800 --> 0:51:07.279
<v Speaker 1>It looked delicious. They were selling it nice and like

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<v Speaker 1>they had cookies on the table too. There were two

0:51:08.840 --> 0:51:10.560
<v Speaker 1>or three bucks. But then this pie. I was like, hey,

0:51:10.960 --> 0:51:13.239
<v Speaker 1>how much for the pie? There was no dollars tign

0:51:13.239 --> 0:51:14.719
<v Speaker 1>attached to it. He was like, oh, do we take

0:51:14.800 --> 0:51:16.799
<v Speaker 1>like five bucks? And I was like, no way, I'm

0:51:16.800 --> 0:51:18.680
<v Speaker 1>not paying you five. I'm paying you a lot more

0:51:18.719 --> 0:51:21.000
<v Speaker 1>than that because this is a nonprofit man, and like,

0:51:21.000 --> 0:51:23.399
<v Speaker 1>I want to help them. Came here distinctly to help

0:51:23.400 --> 0:51:25.520
<v Speaker 1>support it, and so so you talked them up. Yes,

0:51:25.640 --> 0:51:27.120
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I'm giving you twenty five bucks for

0:51:27.160 --> 0:51:27.480
<v Speaker 1>this pile.

0:51:27.520 --> 0:51:30.400
<v Speaker 2>Oh yes, because look at you, who are you rich

0:51:30.400 --> 0:51:35.080
<v Speaker 2>steady fat sacks? Who are you being cheap towards night. Yeah,

0:51:35.120 --> 0:51:39.080
<v Speaker 2>and if it's a nonprofit or community fundraiser, I would say,

0:51:39.160 --> 0:51:42.320
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to buy those those cups with gusto because

0:51:42.360 --> 0:51:44.360
<v Speaker 2>I want to support what's going on here. It's a

0:51:44.440 --> 0:51:47.080
<v Speaker 2>badge of honor that you're paying that much. It's one

0:51:47.080 --> 0:51:49.200
<v Speaker 2>thing if you're doing it with that in mind. It's

0:51:49.200 --> 0:51:51.520
<v Speaker 2>a completely different thing if you are just partaking in

0:51:51.600 --> 0:51:54.640
<v Speaker 2>mindless consumption. And that's I guess the sort of the

0:51:54.680 --> 0:51:57.080
<v Speaker 2>angle I was coming at it with is if everyone's

0:51:57.280 --> 0:51:59.200
<v Speaker 2>doing it, and because everyone's doing it, you feel that

0:51:59.239 --> 0:52:01.200
<v Speaker 2>you have to do it and it's not even a

0:52:01.280 --> 0:52:05.239
<v Speaker 2>question that gets raised whether or not we UH used

0:52:05.239 --> 0:52:07.520
<v Speaker 2>our cups from last year. That's what I'm pushing back on,

0:52:07.560 --> 0:52:09.680
<v Speaker 2>and I think that's the lesson that you can that

0:52:09.719 --> 0:52:11.960
<v Speaker 2>you're able to share with your kids. But it makes me, oh,

0:52:12.000 --> 0:52:13.640
<v Speaker 2>it makes me think of y'all went to Disney and

0:52:13.719 --> 0:52:14.920
<v Speaker 2>y'all came back with some bucket.

0:52:14.960 --> 0:52:17.320
<v Speaker 1>What's the bucket thing? It's like the popcorn bucket. Popcorn bucket,

0:52:17.320 --> 0:52:19.120
<v Speaker 1>you pay like thirteen bucks, but then you get refills

0:52:19.120 --> 0:52:20.960
<v Speaker 1>for two dollars and twenty five cents every time.

0:52:20.880 --> 0:52:23.279
<v Speaker 2>And you guys loaned us the bucket and we're going

0:52:23.360 --> 0:52:24.719
<v Speaker 2>to use it when we go down there next month.

0:52:24.719 --> 0:52:27.280
<v Speaker 2>I think that's frugal, right, I think that's frugal, totally frugal.

0:52:27.360 --> 0:52:29.879
<v Speaker 2>So yeah, but you're asking the question, which is good

0:52:29.960 --> 0:52:31.440
<v Speaker 2>just say, hey, who am I? Who am I harming?

0:52:31.520 --> 0:52:33.400
<v Speaker 2>Am I having the right conversations with the right people

0:52:33.880 --> 0:52:34.879
<v Speaker 2>in order to pull this off?

0:52:35.000 --> 0:52:37.640
<v Speaker 1>And yeah, hopefully that'll help you think about whether it's

0:52:37.680 --> 0:52:39.640
<v Speaker 1>frugal or cheap in your case, it's kind of hard

0:52:39.680 --> 0:52:42.080
<v Speaker 1>not knowing all the details. And again this is like, uh,

0:52:42.520 --> 0:52:45.319
<v Speaker 1>somewhat silly the frugaler cheap sometimes, right, But it's also

0:52:45.520 --> 0:52:47.959
<v Speaker 1>I think it brings to light something that is something

0:52:48.000 --> 0:52:50.200
<v Speaker 1>that we're all faced with every day every week in

0:52:50.239 --> 0:52:51.600
<v Speaker 1>our own lives, like am I being cheaper?

0:52:51.640 --> 0:52:52.240
<v Speaker 2>Am I being frugal?

0:52:52.320 --> 0:52:54.040
<v Speaker 1>Especially as you're trying to save money, You're trying to

0:52:54.040 --> 0:52:56.479
<v Speaker 1>cut back so that you can save and invest more

0:52:56.680 --> 0:52:58.759
<v Speaker 1>so you can live the life you want. Sometimes you're

0:52:58.760 --> 0:53:01.799
<v Speaker 1>going to come to a junction point. You've got to

0:53:01.800 --> 0:53:04.239
<v Speaker 1>figure out am I frugal or am I cheap? And

0:53:04.320 --> 0:53:07.040
<v Speaker 1>which path am I going to go? And sometimes yeah,

0:53:07.080 --> 0:53:09.560
<v Speaker 1>even if it is supporting a community or nonprofit organization,

0:53:09.600 --> 0:53:11.600
<v Speaker 1>you might say I'm not there right now. Yeah, and

0:53:11.640 --> 0:53:15.359
<v Speaker 1>so I have to just avoid it altogether. But it's

0:53:15.400 --> 0:53:17.080
<v Speaker 1>clearly a fork in the road that all of us

0:53:17.080 --> 0:53:19.279
<v Speaker 1>come to on our financial journey a different points, that's right.

0:53:19.320 --> 0:53:22.680
<v Speaker 2>And either way, Bobby's being frugal by being a patron

0:53:22.880 --> 0:53:25.520
<v Speaker 2>of Aldi, Like, there's no way that you're not gonna

0:53:25.520 --> 0:53:29.120
<v Speaker 2>be able to save boatloads of cash. Literally when we

0:53:29.160 --> 0:53:31.080
<v Speaker 2>switch over to all the like years ago, we were

0:53:31.160 --> 0:53:34.799
<v Speaker 2>able to slash our grocery budget by thirty percent. Huge

0:53:34.840 --> 0:53:38.480
<v Speaker 2>win there, Bobby. And if you haven't given Aldi a shot,

0:53:38.719 --> 0:53:40.640
<v Speaker 2>and there happens to be one near you, definitely give

0:53:41.040 --> 0:53:42.959
<v Speaker 2>it a go. You're missing out, Joel. Let's go ahead.

0:53:42.960 --> 0:53:44.880
<v Speaker 2>Get back to the beer that you and I enjoyed

0:53:45.000 --> 0:53:48.640
<v Speaker 2>during this episode. This is a Angel of Darkness. This

0:53:48.719 --> 0:53:51.320
<v Speaker 2>is a beer by Wicked Weed Brewing. What were your thoughts?

0:53:51.360 --> 0:53:54.160
<v Speaker 1>So this one had red wine vibes in my estimation, Yeah,

0:53:54.160 --> 0:53:56.200
<v Speaker 1>but it was like a tart red wine with a

0:53:56.200 --> 0:53:59.840
<v Speaker 1>bunch of fruit in there. So I'm kind I'm not

0:54:00.040 --> 0:54:02.439
<v Speaker 1>definitely not into wine, I'll say that, but I am

0:54:02.560 --> 0:54:06.520
<v Speaker 1>trying out some more Kirkland signature wines on occasion, like

0:54:06.600 --> 0:54:09.000
<v Speaker 1>four Paints once a month a twelve or thirteen dollars

0:54:09.040 --> 0:54:12.000
<v Speaker 1>bottle of Kirkland signature wine. We've moved beyond the box

0:54:12.040 --> 0:54:16.000
<v Speaker 1>wine finally as we near our forties, but this still

0:54:16.040 --> 0:54:18.040
<v Speaker 1>craft beer is my favorite. I prefer craft beer, and

0:54:18.080 --> 0:54:22.080
<v Speaker 1>I love Kraft beer that has wine ish kind of qualities,

0:54:22.280 --> 0:54:24.359
<v Speaker 1>and so this one fits that fits that note. And

0:54:24.480 --> 0:54:26.680
<v Speaker 1>it's a good sour lots of good fruit coming through.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, barrel aged American sour ale with boys and berries, blackberries, raspberries,

0:54:31.920 --> 0:54:34.560
<v Speaker 2>and cherries as well. I was gonna say it almost

0:54:34.560 --> 0:54:38.360
<v Speaker 2>had like it had a lot of berry fruity tartness

0:54:38.400 --> 0:54:40.759
<v Speaker 2>going on, but it almost had like this leatheriness that

0:54:40.840 --> 0:54:44.880
<v Speaker 2>I think came from it aging in oak. Do you

0:54:44.880 --> 0:54:47.680
<v Speaker 2>ever drink craymerry juice? I have? You know, there's like

0:54:47.680 --> 0:54:50.240
<v Speaker 2>the a minute you kind of have like this feeling

0:54:50.280 --> 0:54:52.719
<v Speaker 2>on your tongue, Like it leaves like a leathery feeling. Yeah,

0:54:52.760 --> 0:54:55.120
<v Speaker 2>that's what I get with this. I see it kind

0:54:55.120 --> 0:54:57.400
<v Speaker 2>of has like this in the texture or the feeling

0:54:57.400 --> 0:54:59.560
<v Speaker 2>that it leaves in your mouth from the darkness translates

0:54:59.600 --> 0:55:01.279
<v Speaker 2>into fl a little bit. And so even though this

0:55:01.320 --> 0:55:03.080
<v Speaker 2>is a tart cherry, it makes me think of like

0:55:03.760 --> 0:55:07.440
<v Speaker 2>dark wood and weathered leather kind of you know, like

0:55:07.520 --> 0:55:09.680
<v Speaker 2>it makes me think of like their frontier or like

0:55:09.680 --> 0:55:14.000
<v Speaker 2>a well appointed library. Flavors that would accompany that, like

0:55:14.000 --> 0:55:16.480
<v Speaker 2>a cigar smoking room where yeah, yeah, that's there's like

0:55:16.480 --> 0:55:18.279
<v Speaker 2>a richness that you need to be in anything like this,

0:55:18.360 --> 0:55:22.000
<v Speaker 2>a dark, moody room with mahogany and enjoy this beer. Absolutely. Yeah.

0:55:22.040 --> 0:55:25.040
<v Speaker 2>So anyway, yeah that's what I was thinking, well while

0:55:25.040 --> 0:55:28.360
<v Speaker 2>we're drinking this one. But yeah, Angel of Darkness by Wicked.

0:55:28.400 --> 0:55:30.479
<v Speaker 2>We we've had tons of beers by them, all right.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's gonna do it for this episode though, Bud. Yeah,

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