Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,
Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's
Speaker 1: tip is that you don't need to wait for someone
Speaker 1: else to make your day. You can make any day
Speaker 1: special all by yourself. So this episode is airing a
Speaker 1: few weeks before Valentine's Day. If you have a partner
Speaker 1: or kids, it can be fun to show a little
Speaker 1: love to them on this day. In particular, if you
Speaker 1: have a partner who is going to expect you to
Speaker 1: do something, you might want to get on that. But
Speaker 1: if you personally don't know that your partner is going
Speaker 1: to get you what you want, or you aren't partnered
Speaker 1: up with someone this Valentine's Day, why not give yourself
Speaker 1: whatever it is that you would actually like. You can
Speaker 1: treat yourself and be your own Valentine whatever any one
Speaker 1: else happens to do. So go ahead and buy yourself
Speaker 1: the exact flower arrangement you would like, pick out your
Speaker 1: favorite chocolates. You could even take yourself out to a
Speaker 1: fancy dinner. I mean, maybe not exactly on the fourteenth,
Speaker 1: as you risk being the only solo diner in the restaurant,
Speaker 1: but any time around then, or if you have friends
Speaker 1: who all want certain things for Valentine's Day, you can
Speaker 1: team up with them and give each other exactly what
Speaker 1: you all want with none of the pressure that comes
Speaker 1: with romantic relationships. Of course, Valentine's Day isn't the only
Speaker 1: time to do something nice for yourself. Lots of people
Speaker 1: by themselves birthday presents, or you might want to remember
Speaker 1: this for the next holiday season figure out what they'd
Speaker 1: like in their own stockings. Santa brought me a miniature
Speaker 1: piano and a miniature formal chair for the living room
Speaker 1: vignette of dollhouse furniture that I set up in my office.
Speaker 1: Let's just say that Santa needed really, really specific help here.
Speaker 1: There is no way anyone else would come up with this.
Speaker 1: But I was thrilled with what was in my stocking,
Speaker 1: which seems to me to be kind of the point
Speaker 1: of stockings. If you walk around daydreaming about what you'd
Speaker 1: like Valentine to do for you on Valentine's Day, or
Speaker 1: maybe you're making a mental list of items that you
Speaker 1: wish Santa would put in your stocking, you may find
Speaker 1: yourself disappointed and that would be unfortunate. So know this,
Speaker 1: you don't need to wait for someone else to read
Speaker 1: your mind and know what would delight you. Delight yourself.
Speaker 1: You can treat yourself to little pleasures and do whatever
Speaker 1: brings you joy. If you do, our relationships may have
Speaker 1: less pressure on them. Now. To be clear here, I
Speaker 1: am not saying people shouldn't do kind things for the
Speaker 1: people they love. I'm also not saying that people shouldn't
Speaker 1: be paying attention to what their loved ones like and desire,
Speaker 1: and thinking enough about the people they love that they
Speaker 1: can act on those desires even if they are unstated.
Speaker 1: This is part of emotional intelligence. But let's just say
Speaker 1: that the success rate on all of this is not
Speaker 1: going to be one hundred percent. If you absolutely one
Speaker 1: hundred percent want a dozen red roses on Valentine's Day,
Speaker 1: you either need to tell your partner that in no
Speaker 1: uncertain terms, or if you think it won't sink in
Speaker 1: or you don't have a partner, just go ahead and
Speaker 1: buy those roses yourself. That way, you absolutely know you
Speaker 1: will have them in the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks
Speaker 1: for listening, and here's to making the most of our time.
Speaker 1: Thanks for listening to before breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas,
Speaker 1: or feedback. You can reach me at Laura at Laura
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