WEBVTT - Be yours

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that you don't need to wait for someone

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<v Speaker 1>else to make your day. You can make any day

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<v Speaker 1>special all by yourself. So this episode is airing a

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<v Speaker 1>few weeks before Valentine's Day. If you have a partner

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<v Speaker 1>or kids, it can be fun to show a little

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<v Speaker 1>love to them on this day. In particular, if you

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<v Speaker 1>have a partner who is going to expect you to

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<v Speaker 1>do something, you might want to get on that. But

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<v Speaker 1>if you personally don't know that your partner is going

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<v Speaker 1>to get you what you want, or you aren't partnered

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<v Speaker 1>up with someone this Valentine's Day, why not give yourself

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<v Speaker 1>whatever it is that you would actually like. You can

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<v Speaker 1>treat yourself and be your own Valentine whatever any one

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<v Speaker 1>else happens to do. So go ahead and buy yourself

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<v Speaker 1>the exact flower arrangement you would like, pick out your

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<v Speaker 1>favorite chocolates. You could even take yourself out to a

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<v Speaker 1>fancy dinner. I mean, maybe not exactly on the fourteenth,

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<v Speaker 1>as you risk being the only solo diner in the restaurant,

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<v Speaker 1>but any time around then, or if you have friends

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<v Speaker 1>who all want certain things for Valentine's Day, you can

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<v Speaker 1>team up with them and give each other exactly what

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<v Speaker 1>you all want with none of the pressure that comes

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<v Speaker 1>with romantic relationships. Of course, Valentine's Day isn't the only

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<v Speaker 1>time to do something nice for yourself. Lots of people

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<v Speaker 1>by themselves birthday presents, or you might want to remember

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<v Speaker 1>this for the next holiday season figure out what they'd

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<v Speaker 1>like in their own stockings. Santa brought me a miniature

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<v Speaker 1>piano and a miniature formal chair for the living room

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<v Speaker 1>vignette of dollhouse furniture that I set up in my office.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's just say that Santa needed really, really specific help here.

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<v Speaker 1>There is no way anyone else would come up with this.

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<v Speaker 1>But I was thrilled with what was in my stocking,

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<v Speaker 1>which seems to me to be kind of the point

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<v Speaker 1>of stockings. If you walk around daydreaming about what you'd

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<v Speaker 1>like Valentine to do for you on Valentine's Day, or

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<v Speaker 1>maybe you're making a mental list of items that you

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<v Speaker 1>wish Santa would put in your stocking, you may find

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<v Speaker 1>yourself disappointed and that would be unfortunate. So know this,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't need to wait for someone else to read

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<v Speaker 1>your mind and know what would delight you. Delight yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>You can treat yourself to little pleasures and do whatever

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<v Speaker 1>brings you joy. If you do, our relationships may have

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<v Speaker 1>less pressure on them. Now. To be clear here, I

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<v Speaker 1>am not saying people shouldn't do kind things for the

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<v Speaker 1>people they love. I'm also not saying that people shouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>be paying attention to what their loved ones like and desire,

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<v Speaker 1>and thinking enough about the people they love that they

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<v Speaker 1>can act on those desires even if they are unstated.

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<v Speaker 1>This is part of emotional intelligence. But let's just say

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<v Speaker 1>that the success rate on all of this is not

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<v Speaker 1>going to be one hundred percent. If you absolutely one

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<v Speaker 1>hundred percent want a dozen red roses on Valentine's Day,

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<v Speaker 1>you either need to tell your partner that in no

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<v Speaker 1>uncertain terms, or if you think it won't sink in

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<v Speaker 1>or you don't have a partner, just go ahead and

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<v Speaker 1>buy those roses yourself. That way, you absolutely know you

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<v Speaker 1>will have them in the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening, and here's to making the most of our time.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening to before breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas,

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<v Speaker 1>or feedback. You can reach me at Laura at Laura

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