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Speaker 1: Like running in our diary, except we said him aloud.

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Speaker 1: We call them blogs, Paulina go, thank you so.

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Speaker 2: Much, dear blog.

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Speaker 3: So you know, in marriage there is a thing where

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Speaker 3: you know, you got to compromise. You gotta make sure

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Speaker 3: you communicate and you talk things through. So or you

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Speaker 3: just call his mom or I call my husband's mom. No,

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Speaker 3: I don't call her a texter. Oh yeah, okay, sorry

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Speaker 3: for another day. I'm silly, but well we can get

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Speaker 3: to it. But my question really quick is you know,

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Speaker 3: if you're going to purchase something, right, what are kind

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Speaker 3: of like your rules around that in your relationship and

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Speaker 3: your marriage Because obviously, when I think of something, I'm like, okay,

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Speaker 3: a big purchase.

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Speaker 2: Let's just say.

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Speaker 3: Even like a car or something that's going to like

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Speaker 3: affect our finances. You know obviously how something big? I

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Speaker 3: don't know, I'm making this up. A motorcycle like something

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Speaker 3: big would be something we discussed.

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Speaker 2: But what if it's something that's a little.

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Speaker 3: Pricey, but like you want to buy it, like what

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Speaker 3: are you supposed to like ask? So back in the day,

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Speaker 3: I used to wear not like a lot of gold,

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Speaker 3: but I used to wear like a goal shame my

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Speaker 3: mom bought it for me. I have the and polish.

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Speaker 3: You called it a budget, but I think it's called

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Speaker 3: the medallion a pendant. So I want to wear it,

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Speaker 3: but i'd have to buy the chain part, right, and

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Speaker 3: my daughter.

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Speaker 1: Got one's got the cube of Licks.

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Speaker 3: Well, he won't let me use it only. I can

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Speaker 3: only use it only through Friday because the weekends he

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Speaker 3: does his thing expense.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, well then I'm going to need it. I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna company paid for those Cuban List Okay, anyway, so

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Speaker 2: you need a chain, I.

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Speaker 3: Need the chain part. But then I was like, well,

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Speaker 3: maybe I want another pendant because I would want it

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Speaker 3: to maybe be like a little different or bigger, right,

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Speaker 3: So I was like, I want to buy that. So

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Speaker 3: I got a.

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Speaker 2: Quote for it.

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Speaker 3: How much would be at my jewelry shop that I go.

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Speaker 2: To, and it's not cheap.

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Speaker 3: And then on top of that, I want to exchange

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Speaker 3: my not exchange my ring, but I want to get

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Speaker 3: a gold a band. Yes, I want to get a

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Speaker 3: gold band, and I would basically just get the diamond

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Speaker 3: and put it in the gold band. And Hobby's like, well,

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Speaker 3: why didn't you tell me that in the beginning, that

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Speaker 3: you wanted gold, and I was like, because I thought

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Speaker 3: I wanted white gold, but you know, people change, people grow,

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Speaker 3: and I want gold now because I'm wearing fortes eighteen minutes.

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Speaker 2: But I noticed.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, well, all my stuff is gold. I have

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Speaker 3: a bracelet and g for my daughter. Then I have

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Speaker 3: my evil Eye bracelet that's gold. He bought this for me,

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Speaker 3: and I'm like, so I kind of want it all

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Speaker 3: to match, but it's kind of pricey, and I'm like,

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Speaker 3: do I just do it or do I like have

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Speaker 3: to talk about it with my partner.

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Speaker 2: Who's money is it?

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Speaker 3: I mean, it's my money. Yeah, But then he, you know,

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Speaker 3: he scolds me. He's like, you spendy money you don't have.

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Speaker 3: It's that whole talk my mom used to give me that.

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Speaker 2: You have the money to do this. No, not right now. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I got to move things around, but I can't.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, well, why don't you ask him maybe like

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Speaker 1: as a gift, like for you know, I don't know

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Speaker 1: Christmas is coming. Why don't you say I want it

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Speaker 1: for Christmas? And then he buys it for you, and

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Speaker 1: then he probably be really happy because now he knows

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Speaker 1: what you want.

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Speaker 2: That's true. We kind of stopped gifts giving.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if that's a good thing or a

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Speaker 3: bad thing, but we kind of stopped because I just

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Speaker 3: felt like it was getting ridiculous and we didn't really

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Speaker 3: like we don't need to gift each other things like

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Speaker 3: we do it all the time. That makes sense, you

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Speaker 3: know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: It's an interesting conversation because it's like, I don't know

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Speaker 1: how that.

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Speaker 3: Would work, Like would you tell your wife? I mean,

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Speaker 3: he feel like would go and get his self. Like

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Speaker 3: he bought a rosary and he just came home with it.

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Speaker 3: This is also like three years ago. We weren't really

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Speaker 3: married yet, but he just came home with it and

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Speaker 3: it was not cheap.

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Speaker 1: You can just go buy whatever you want, Rufio, as

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Speaker 1: long as you can still pay the bills.

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Speaker 4: Right exactly. I mean that we don't have a joint

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Speaker 4: bank account anything like that. We don't either, So it's

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Speaker 4: if I spend whatever, I just can't complain if I

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Speaker 4: don't have Like that's like I can't I can't spend

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Speaker 4: money on that because I don't have any money right now. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I can't complain if I buy a big purchase of something.

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Speaker 1: If you go spend three hundred bucks on Jordan's. Then

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Speaker 1: can she go spend three hundred bucks on something else?

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Speaker 1: And then it's is that how that works?

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Speaker 2: I don't. I don't ever.

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Speaker 4: I don't ever tell Jess like you're spending too much

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Speaker 4: money on whatever.

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Speaker 2: She just spends. She just buys whatever she wants. Like

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Speaker 2: I don't. I don't ever go to Jess and be like, yo,

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Speaker 2: you're buying too much. All these packages are coming in.

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Speaker 2: What is this? What is that? I don't, I don't care,

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Speaker 2: but like for me, I just feel it should be

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Speaker 2: the same way. But then I'm the one that's, oh,

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Speaker 2: you have too much of that already? Why do you

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Speaker 2: get another pair of this? Why get into the pair

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Speaker 2: of that?

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Speaker 4: But I never tell Jess you have too many watch

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Speaker 4: more call its.

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Speaker 2: But I like this dynamic.

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Speaker 3: I want this because I don't get scolded for my

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Speaker 3: Amazon packages because mostly stuff for the baby. But I

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Speaker 3: get the because then I'll be like, hey, can I

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Speaker 3: get like fifty bucks for like groceries? And then it's

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Speaker 3: like what are you doing with your money? It's like

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Speaker 3: I feel like I'm being scolded, like mom and dad

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Speaker 3: are yelling at me. I don't like that because that's

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Speaker 3: how my mom used to be.

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Speaker 1: Have you guys outlined clearly though, like here are my

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Speaker 1: responsibilities and here are yours, and then if those are

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Speaker 1: all met, then whatever you know, and here's how much

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Speaker 1: we're gonna save, and then whatever's left, then I can

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Speaker 1: spend that because I feel like that that takes some

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Speaker 1: of the ambiguity out of it, right, because it's like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna pay for all this stuff, and then you're

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Speaker 1: gonna pay for that stuff, and then we're gonna set

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Speaker 1: this much aside and then if there's something left.

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Speaker 3: M hmm.

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Speaker 2: I sound like Dave Ramsey over here. I know you

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Speaker 2: can't afford it.

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Speaker 3: No, really, I need him to tell me that, like,

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Speaker 3: and he knew all had told me that. It's like,

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Speaker 3: it's not buying stuff that's not necessary for me. The

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Speaker 3: baby is different, but like for me, Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Have you had that conversation though, or does he just

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Speaker 1: pay everything?

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Speaker 2: You're gonna do it?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 2: Right, we have that conversation.

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Speaker 3: The bills are all paid, but I mean, yeah, some

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Speaker 3: months I'm just kind of like, can I get some money?

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Speaker 3: Can I get some money, daddy? Because it's not good.

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Speaker 3: But he he always comes through, and that's not the problem.

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Speaker 3: I just feel like it's guilty for spending money on

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Speaker 3: a chain when you know, I know that it's not

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Speaker 3: the right thing to do. That money can go somewhere else,

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Speaker 3: like to save, Like we're trying to get something done

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Speaker 3: in the backyard this summer that's gonna cost money.

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Speaker 2: You know, I feel guilty. I think if I set

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Speaker 2: a new shirt though, that is a new shirt, and.

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Speaker 3: I'm about to go buy some more because I like.

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Speaker 2: How okay, you're tag right there. Do you want me

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Speaker 2: to cut it off for your love? It cut it

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Speaker 2: off for you tomorrow shout. I was wondering if that was,

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Speaker 2: like why did purpose? Like, why you still have? I

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Speaker 2: can't it for you?

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Speaker 1: You need to cut that off before you go be

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Speaker 1: like is that new