1 00:00:05,200 --> 00:00:10,200 Speaker 1: Good morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the New Corner Office, 2 00:00:10,920 --> 00:00:14,120 Speaker 1: the podcast where we share strategies for thriving in the 3 00:00:14,200 --> 00:00:18,239 Speaker 1: new world of work where location and ours are more 4 00:00:18,280 --> 00:00:22,680 Speaker 1: flexible than in the past. Today's tip is to be 5 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:27,880 Speaker 1: generous and specific with your appreciation. Let people know when 6 00:00:27,920 --> 00:00:30,720 Speaker 1: they've done something that made a difference for you with 7 00:00:30,760 --> 00:00:35,000 Speaker 1: as many details as makes sense. This will make people 8 00:00:35,040 --> 00:00:37,800 Speaker 1: feel good and probably make them want to help you 9 00:00:37,840 --> 00:00:42,720 Speaker 1: more in the future. So we've all received casual and 10 00:00:43,120 --> 00:00:48,360 Speaker 1: non specific praise, great job, way to go, Thanks for this, 11 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:52,200 Speaker 1: this is great. These bits of praise do feel good, 12 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:55,920 Speaker 1: but they don't really show much thought. These could be 13 00:00:56,000 --> 00:01:00,320 Speaker 1: said to anybody about anything, and they probably are said 14 00:01:00,560 --> 00:01:05,399 Speaker 1: to many people about many things. So when someone does 15 00:01:05,480 --> 00:01:08,920 Speaker 1: something you appreciate, try to thank and praise them in 16 00:01:08,920 --> 00:01:13,039 Speaker 1: a way that feels more tailored. Identify what it is 17 00:01:13,080 --> 00:01:18,679 Speaker 1: they did, and identify the impact. Bonus points if you 18 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:21,640 Speaker 1: can tie the specific act to a capacity or skill 19 00:01:21,720 --> 00:01:26,640 Speaker 1: you admire in that person. So, for instance, lindsay, thank 20 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:29,479 Speaker 1: you so much for connecting Tom and me. It looks 21 00:01:29,480 --> 00:01:31,360 Speaker 1: like we'll be able to work together on the project. 22 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:36,480 Speaker 1: I appreciate the way you make such thoughtful introductions. You've 23 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:40,280 Speaker 1: named the act you appreciate that is connecting you with Tom. 24 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:44,840 Speaker 1: You've identified the impact of promising partnership, and you've connected 25 00:01:44,840 --> 00:01:48,559 Speaker 1: this specific act with a characteristic strength of Lindsay's, namely 26 00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:54,200 Speaker 1: her making mutually beneficial introductions. Lindsay will surely feel glowing 27 00:01:54,560 --> 00:02:00,000 Speaker 1: after that. Here's another example, Lucas, I really appreciate your 28 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 1: feedback on the proposed changes to this policy. Thanks to you, 29 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:06,520 Speaker 1: I was able to clarify the changes so people understand 30 00:02:06,560 --> 00:02:09,679 Speaker 1: the new policy and its purpose. Now, the point is 31 00:02:09,720 --> 00:02:12,359 Speaker 1: not to be labor your thanks or to be inauthentic 32 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:15,400 Speaker 1: or awkward in any way. But when you thank a 33 00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:19,800 Speaker 1: person in a way that is specific and impact oriented 34 00:02:20,440 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 1: and that connects to their core strengths, if you can, 35 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:27,400 Speaker 1: the person will feel seen and valued and effective, and 36 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:29,560 Speaker 1: they'll look forward to getting to help you again in 37 00:02:29,560 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 1: the future. That's for being specific. As for being generous, well, 38 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:37,679 Speaker 1: feel free to thank people in more ways than one 39 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:42,400 Speaker 1: call and then send a follow up note, send a 40 00:02:42,480 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 1: quick text and then a longer email later. Another part 41 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:50,840 Speaker 1: of generosity is expressing your thanks publicly. Now this doesn't 42 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:53,079 Speaker 1: have to be in a grand speech, though it can 43 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:56,440 Speaker 1: Tagging a note up on a public bulletin board can work, 44 00:02:56,560 --> 00:02:58,760 Speaker 1: or a quick email to a list of people who 45 00:02:58,800 --> 00:03:02,440 Speaker 1: would have been aware of what happened. Well. People sometimes 46 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:05,520 Speaker 1: think that praise will be taken more seriously if they're 47 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:09,640 Speaker 1: stingy with it. I have not seen any real evidence 48 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:12,959 Speaker 1: that this is true. As long as you are being 49 00:03:13,000 --> 00:03:18,720 Speaker 1: authentic and praising specifics, then you can praise lots of specifics. 50 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:23,640 Speaker 1: It's the meaningless good jobs tossed around everywhere that don't 51 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:28,480 Speaker 1: actually help. So today, I think if there's someone you 52 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 1: could thank specifically and generously, make sure you describe the 53 00:03:33,480 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 1: impact the person's thoughtfulness had on you, note how it 54 00:03:37,120 --> 00:03:40,560 Speaker 1: reflects on the person's character. Now, of course this is 55 00:03:40,560 --> 00:03:43,680 Speaker 1: a nice thing to do, but it's actually really fun 56 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:48,240 Speaker 1: as well. Watching someone beam is one of the best 57 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:52,000 Speaker 1: parts of a work day, or at least imagining them 58 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:57,840 Speaker 1: beaming on a phone call. Life is tough. Being thankful 59 00:03:58,560 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 1: doesn't need to be in the meantime. This is Laura, 60 00:04:03,680 --> 00:04:07,200 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, and here's to succeeding in the New 61 00:04:07,240 --> 00:04:13,880 Speaker 1: Corner Office. The New Corner Office is a production of 62 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 1: I Heart Radio. For more podcasts, visit the I Heart 63 00:04:17,160 --> 00:04:20,760 Speaker 1: Radio app, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your favorite shows.