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Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, Brown Ambition, I'm back, Mandy's back.

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Speaker 2: We're back, and we're still black.

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Speaker 3: Yes, if you were wondering the world didn't end every

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Speaker 3: morning now with like one eye squinting waiting for the apocalypse,

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Speaker 3: but we're still alive. It's crazy.

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Speaker 2: I know the mark of the Beast and everything.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, wow, so I haven't gotten my mark yet,

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Speaker 1: So hopefully that doesn't mean that I'm going to be

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Speaker 1: left behind. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I feel like everyone is sort of like moving on

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Speaker 3: with life now, and that's what I want to do.

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Speaker 3: I want to like move on, focus on some positive

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Speaker 3: still keep one eye open. Yeah, the shay, the national shadery.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, I'm starting to feel back kind of to normal,

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Speaker 3: kind of to normal. I mean Thanksgiving and Christmas are

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Speaker 3: coming up, so it's hard to kind of be It's

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Speaker 3: either hard to be in a bad mood or it's

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Speaker 3: real easy, and I'm choosing for it to be real hard.

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Speaker 3: Like I just may be happy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And I just I feel like, you know, there's

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Speaker 1: always something like I'm trying on, like on my timeline,

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Speaker 1: on my Facebook timeline. When something comes up, you know,

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Speaker 1: I make an executive decision whether or not I want

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Speaker 1: to jump down that rabbit hole. Sometimes, you know, you

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Speaker 1: want to know, like what's happening. On the other days,

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Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I can learn that.

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Speaker 2: Tomorrow in staid, I'm gonna watch.

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Speaker 1: This little video of this little two year old dancing

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Speaker 1: to WAMS wake Me Up Before You Go Go.

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Speaker 2: And it was so cute. I posted on my Facebook page. Yo,

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Speaker 2: he was going in. I'm like, how does he know

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Speaker 2: all the moves?

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Speaker 3: I can't think of a more obnoxious song, but it

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Speaker 3: was adorable with him wake Me Up Up before. It

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Speaker 3: reminds me of the Carlton What did Carlton dance too?

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Speaker 3: I don't usually anyone yes and sync. See the connection

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Speaker 3: between us, the brown ambition connection is so strong across

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Speaker 3: the state lines exactly.

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Speaker 2: Nikki, ain't no see say what you never? Oh my god?

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Speaker 2: Just talking about the color purple.

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Speaker 1: Remember when like they were trying to separate Woop Goldberg's

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Speaker 1: character from her sister.

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Speaker 3: Do you know? Confession? I have not watched the actual

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Speaker 3: the Goldberg production with Oprah and everything, probably since the nineties. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: but I've seen the play twice.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, well you can pa.

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Speaker 3: I'm more familiar with the musical than I am with

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Speaker 1: So they were like they were like separating them I

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Speaker 1: think from her cheering. Yeah, well her the Nellie Nessie girl,

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Speaker 1: the wop no so Ceely and her sister Neddie or

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Speaker 2: I think it's Nettie. So mister remember mister Danny.

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Speaker 1: Glover's character the Terrible, So he tried to sleep and

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Speaker 1: Nettie tried to rape her. She wouldn't let him, so

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Speaker 1: he had her sent away. And when they were being separated,

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Speaker 1: they were like doing this like handclap like Niki da

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Speaker 1: Da Ain't no mountain, Ain't no sea. And even they

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Speaker 1: kept doing it and they pulled them apart.

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Speaker 3: It's just such a wh They do that in the

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Speaker 3: play too. Yeah, I don't remember the song. Yeah, that's

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Speaker 3: a sad image.

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Speaker 2: No what I was just saying what it wasn't sometimes

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Speaker 2: I've used it.

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Speaker 3: You guys had told her on the lolo that this

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Speaker 3: is going to be a positive show talking about best

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Speaker 3: friends being ripped apart different countries.

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Speaker 2: No matter where we are, we're still close.

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Speaker 3: So when I get pulled away and sent off to Africa.

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Speaker 1: We can sing Niki Mountain.

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Speaker 3: Okay, that's some small comfort ize.

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Speaker 1: Everybody does it like if you're leaving your friend, like

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Speaker 3: I got Facebook, text chat.

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Speaker 1: Will never be separated.

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Speaker 3: Not really, It's so hard. I yeah, it's crazy to

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Speaker 2: But I barely know my parents. I'm always like wait nine, oh, wait.

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Speaker 1: Isn't that so crazy? And then like the only way

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Speaker 2: You're like, oh, everyone's over here.

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Speaker 3: Yes, that was the old status update location. Well, listen,

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Speaker 3: I need to tell you about my week last week

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Speaker 3: because so much adulting happened. My head is still spending

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Speaker 3: okay for one uh fiance bou and I you know,

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Speaker 3: I you know, I love you know. I've enjoyed my

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Speaker 3: is up. It's time to go. We've known this for

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Speaker 3: a while and we casually discussed, you know, looking for

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Speaker 3: all the research and he's like, I found a great place.

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Speaker 3: It's in our budget, it's you know, got all the

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Speaker 3: and date, which is December twenty ninth.

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Speaker 2: Like, did you move closer to me?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 3: I did I move. I'm moving across the Hudson. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it's the Nikita. What is that song? It's the it's

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Speaker 3: a little the little rhyme, the song that you just did.

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Speaker 3: It's that poll pulling. Yeah, that Naki dada.

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Speaker 2: I don't even know the real words. I'm like, I'm

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Speaker 3: Really more than the sound of a dishwasher and in

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Speaker 3: unit laundry, which is what's drawing me to you.

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Speaker 2: That is so awesome. Yay, we can like tape in

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm really excited. So yeah, I'll be moving to Jersey,

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Speaker 3: Jersey City to be good. Yes, right across the Hudson

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Speaker 3: and my our quality of life already is going to improve.

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Speaker 3: It's one stop to work for fiance, it's four stops

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Speaker 3: And on top of that, the same weekend, we were like, okay,

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Speaker 3: well we've seen you know, we've been saving up here.

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Speaker 3: finally I'm ready to be like on board. I just

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Speaker 3: I know when I'm telling you, I was like having

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Speaker 3: like money whiplash. I was like, wait a second, my

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Speaker 3: a lot of credit because he really took on the

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Speaker 3: used Magnifying Money, hey, to get pre qualified for a

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Speaker 3: good rate on his loan, and he negotiated the loan

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Speaker 3: I mean in twenty sixteen used, but you know, still

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Speaker 3: used that we saved. We saved a lot of money

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Speaker 3: gonna try and sell it for a lot more. And

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Speaker 3: dealer confessionals and stuff and learning. He was way it

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Speaker 3: like Jack Bowering this whole situation. Yeah, so long story short,

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Speaker 3: You know, it's really hard, that feeling you get when

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Speaker 2: Ye, Like what, so we just did what you did?

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Speaker 1: Inquiring brown minds want to know.

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Speaker 3: It's so funny to meet people care. It's like it

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Speaker 3: really it's everyone's like, what kind of car? I'm like, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: You lost me at Matha.

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Speaker 3: I'm like something I've never whatever. My My grandpa drove

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Speaker 3: to Mazda. Anyway, cool car, you know what. The first

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Speaker 3: We said the car we went joy riding. I was like,

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Speaker 3: let's go.

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Speaker 2: To the mall.

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Speaker 1: No, that's awesome, though, Oh you're better than me. I'm

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Speaker 1: still driving my old behind car. You know. It's not

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Speaker 1: to call the carpet in this dealership.

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Speaker 3: Let's go really, Oh they always see, they always feel shisty.

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Speaker 3: You just got to go prepared, you know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I went to the initial we went once in person

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Speaker 3: We don't want to stay. It's cold, it's late. We left,

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Speaker 3: and then he went back by himself to sort of

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Speaker 3: nothing for him to sell them, like there is nothing

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Speaker 3: they could do. He like came with his rate. He

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Speaker 3: does not really happen because they suck you in. They try,

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Speaker 3: and a lot of people I think don't realize too,

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Speaker 3: is that the negotiating the price of the car is

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Speaker 1: No, I'm gonna save it for Wins because it's pretty good.

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Speaker 1: So anybody who knows knows that she's my publicist, but

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Speaker 1: You're gonna be on a national show and if it

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Speaker 2: No, that's not my win.

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Speaker 1: I just wanted to share that, Okay, I just I

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Speaker 3: Now, well congruts.

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Speaker 2: Thanks, I'm excited about it.

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Speaker 3: And miss Gina, what's her website? Send the people to her?

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Speaker 1: So oh god, Drina's gonna be like girl. So if

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Speaker 1: I've known him for a long time and we've become friends.

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00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:16,840
Speaker 1: And my my coo, Sierra, you know, she was an

436
00:20:16,880 --> 00:20:19,359
Speaker 1: internet front at first, but now we've become friends, and

437
00:20:19,800 --> 00:20:22,560
Speaker 1: what happens is you you grow this bond where everyone's

438
00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:24,359
Speaker 1: working in your best interests and it.

439
00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:27,399
Speaker 2: Just feels I don't know, I like it that.

440
00:20:28,240 --> 00:20:29,840
Speaker 1: You know, people tell you it's not professional to be

441
00:20:29,880 --> 00:20:32,400
Speaker 1: friends with the people that you work with, but I disagree,

442
00:20:32,480 --> 00:20:34,440
Speaker 1: like look at us. It just it makes it better

443
00:20:34,520 --> 00:20:36,640
Speaker 1: because you know everyone is always working in the best

444
00:20:36,720 --> 00:20:39,880
Speaker 1: interests of the issue at hand, and not like, ooh,

445
00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:41,240
Speaker 1: how can I get over you.

446
00:20:41,280 --> 00:20:47,240
Speaker 3: Know yeah sometimes yeah, yeah, that's had a lot of

447
00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:48,920
Speaker 3: different experiences in life.

448
00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:49,840
Speaker 2: That's true.

449
00:20:50,359 --> 00:20:53,680
Speaker 1: Sound like that, Yes, okay, you're right, not across the board,

450
00:20:53,760 --> 00:20:55,560
Speaker 1: but when you get it right, it does seem like

451
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Speaker 1: that because there are definitely people who I definitely would

452
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Speaker 1: not although I love them, I would not work with

453
00:21:01,359 --> 00:21:02,960
Speaker 1: them professionally family and friends.

454
00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:05,520
Speaker 2: But when you get you know, when it's the right mix, it's.

455
00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:07,600
Speaker 3: Great totally, when it's the right thing and you and

456
00:21:07,720 --> 00:21:10,920
Speaker 3: you know who not to call or who not to

457
00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:13,240
Speaker 3: ask for help, Like there's certain people in your life

458
00:21:13,280 --> 00:21:15,440
Speaker 3: you're like, I'm not going to call him when I'm

459
00:21:15,480 --> 00:21:16,880
Speaker 3: on the side of the road with a broken leg,

460
00:21:17,680 --> 00:21:20,000
Speaker 3: but I will call him when I need to go

461
00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:23,240
Speaker 3: to the day party in Brooklyn and he needs to

462
00:21:23,320 --> 00:21:23,720
Speaker 3: have the party.

463
00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:25,480
Speaker 2: Well you know what I mean, like, no, very sure,

464
00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:28,160
Speaker 2: They're very true in categories.

465
00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:40,560
Speaker 1: Time for brown break, brown boost. What you're gonna do.

466
00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:43,639
Speaker 3: When they boost on you?

467
00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:44,000
Speaker 2: Oh?

468
00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:48,280
Speaker 3: Well, classic classic, I'd be ever stopped doing that.

469
00:21:48,720 --> 00:21:49,000
Speaker 1: I know.

470
00:21:49,760 --> 00:21:53,600
Speaker 2: I think we're going to be signed to Solange any minute.

471
00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:55,880
Speaker 3: Now, any minute. Yeah, speaking of people who get married

472
00:21:55,920 --> 00:21:58,159
Speaker 3: in New Orleans, Solange's wedding in New Orleans. If you

473
00:21:58,160 --> 00:21:59,640
Speaker 3: haven't seen those photos, that was dope.

474
00:22:00,040 --> 00:22:00,639
Speaker 2: Those are epic.

475
00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:04,200
Speaker 3: I'm making everyone wear white dresses too, are you really JK,

476
00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:06,240
Speaker 3: I'll be the center of attention. Get out of here, she.

477
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:08,960
Speaker 2: Said, jklneal of you.

478
00:22:11,840 --> 00:22:15,760
Speaker 3: No, no, I'm not even allowing small children on my

479
00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:17,479
Speaker 3: wedding because I want all the attention.

480
00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:20,200
Speaker 1: It's really bad, No, I mean, I feel you small

481
00:22:20,280 --> 00:22:21,360
Speaker 1: children are very distracting.

482
00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:23,600
Speaker 3: God bless her, though, to have Beyonce as your sister

483
00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:25,440
Speaker 3: at your own wedding and still managed to be the

484
00:22:25,520 --> 00:22:26,200
Speaker 3: center of attention.

485
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Speaker 1: Wufta, I know she's a real MVP.

486
00:22:30,160 --> 00:22:33,399
Speaker 3: Go ahead, Clanche, all right, Well, Solange is not my

487
00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:38,560
Speaker 3: boost this week, and my boost is my my next

488
00:22:38,720 --> 00:22:42,040
Speaker 3: love next to my future husband has got to be

489
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Speaker 3: Google Calendar. Okay, I literally I wouldn't know when to pee,

490
00:22:47,520 --> 00:22:50,120
Speaker 3: or when to sleep, or when to eat or when

491
00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:52,480
Speaker 3: to do anything if not for my Google calendar. And like,

492
00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:55,160
Speaker 3: I don't think I understood the power of a calendar

493
00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:59,520
Speaker 3: until this year. Yeah, Like there's no excuse anymore. There

494
00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:02,399
Speaker 3: all those things I flaked on and forgot about, it

495
00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:03,760
Speaker 3: is because I didn't put it on the calendar.

496
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:07,720
Speaker 1: Honestly, Google, I was opposed to. I was very much

497
00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:09,480
Speaker 1: like I'm on hands on. I like to write in

498
00:23:09,600 --> 00:23:13,440
Speaker 1: my planner and feel like girl buy burn it. I'm

499
00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:16,359
Speaker 1: telling you the Google calendar because first of all, you

500
00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:19,080
Speaker 1: put it in your calendar, and then like on your computer,

501
00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:21,320
Speaker 1: it's like you're gonna take You're taping right Ambition in

502
00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:23,280
Speaker 1: ten minutes, and then on your phone you're taping Ride

503
00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:26,320
Speaker 1: Ambition in ten minutes. There's no excuse. And then what's

504
00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:29,840
Speaker 1: so dope is is that like Mandy could create an

505
00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:33,080
Speaker 1: invite send it to me and I just click accept

506
00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:35,840
Speaker 1: and all of a sudden it populates to my calendar.

507
00:23:35,920 --> 00:23:39,320
Speaker 1: So there's no there's no forgetting. And if I don't accept,

508
00:23:39,400 --> 00:23:41,960
Speaker 1: she can see like, hey, Tiffany, you didn't accept my invite?

509
00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:44,720
Speaker 1: Did you see it? We can even do video calls,

510
00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:45,960
Speaker 1: Like you could say, do you want this to be

511
00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:48,720
Speaker 1: a video call? You click the little yes, and so

512
00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:52,360
Speaker 1: when you get the little notification, you get a pop

513
00:23:52,480 --> 00:23:54,960
Speaker 1: up on your email, you get something on your phone,

514
00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:57,639
Speaker 1: but then you also get it a pop up on

515
00:23:57,680 --> 00:23:59,399
Speaker 1: your computer, and then when you get it, it'll you

516
00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:01,280
Speaker 1: click on it and they'll say this is a video call,

517
00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:03,000
Speaker 1: and you click and then all of a sudden, the

518
00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:06,320
Speaker 1: person you're chatting with is looking at you, smiling hopefully,

519
00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:08,760
Speaker 1: which was right? Which was a little like I taped

520
00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:12,800
Speaker 1: pet money. You know fin Con We always talk about

521
00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:17,240
Speaker 1: fin Con guys. Fin CON's he is the FINCN owner

522
00:24:17,359 --> 00:24:20,760
Speaker 1: or founder. So he has a podcast now called Masters

523
00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:23,119
Speaker 1: of Money. I think it's called And I did it

524
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:26,239
Speaker 1: like two days ago, three days ago, one of these

525
00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:28,960
Speaker 1: days last week, and I didn't know it was a

526
00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:31,800
Speaker 1: video chat. Meanwhile, Mandy, I'm in bed literally with like

527
00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:34,520
Speaker 1: the worst my silly headwragon.

528
00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:37,840
Speaker 3: Okay, we need to talk about sillily headrugs. But continue.

529
00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:41,440
Speaker 1: So I'm sitting into bed and like you know, I

530
00:24:41,520 --> 00:24:44,119
Speaker 1: pressed the button and I'm like, waits can you see me?

531
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Speaker 2: Oh?

532
00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:48,159
Speaker 1: My God, and then he proceeds to say, so, this

533
00:24:48,320 --> 00:24:50,560
Speaker 1: is like a we also tape it video for video

534
00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:52,520
Speaker 1: so people can watch it. I'm like, yeah, I'm gonna

535
00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:54,320
Speaker 1: have to put I'm gonna have to go with no.

536
00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:56,440
Speaker 1: I'm like, he's like, you look great.

537
00:24:56,480 --> 00:24:57,240
Speaker 2: I'm like, I really do.

538
00:24:57,400 --> 00:24:58,600
Speaker 1: I literally just woke up.

539
00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:01,880
Speaker 3: I need you to google Goal Sealy head rag by

540
00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:04,560
Speaker 3: the way, because at the first image is a white woman.

541
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:07,160
Speaker 3: Oh it's a cancer survivor. Never mind, that's not funny.

542
00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:08,439
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, I.

543
00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:13,480
Speaker 3: Don't know how that picture wound up, but yeah, there's

544
00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:15,720
Speaker 3: a white woman with a how to tie your bow

545
00:25:15,800 --> 00:25:19,800
Speaker 3: hoe head wrap the head wrap. Okay, all right, now

546
00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:25,640
Speaker 3: I'm getting cultural appropriations. Continue. But yeah, so you're saying

547
00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:26,639
Speaker 3: about my brown boost.

548
00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 1: Yes, you're so.

549
00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:34,119
Speaker 2: Anyway, google calendar it is I jacked my brown rights boosted.

550
00:25:34,160 --> 00:25:35,000
Speaker 2: Go ahead it boost.

551
00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:39,000
Speaker 3: You're like the kid who when their best friend comes

552
00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:41,359
Speaker 3: over and like shows in the new bicycle, they like

553
00:25:41,520 --> 00:25:43,000
Speaker 3: take it out for a test ride. They're like, yeah,

554
00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:44,680
Speaker 3: you know how to use this this featured I know

555
00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:47,480
Speaker 3: how to use that wheel.

556
00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:52,679
Speaker 2: It is like, and then you're sitting there like, oh,

557
00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:53,760
Speaker 2: here you go. My bad.

558
00:25:54,280 --> 00:26:03,200
Speaker 3: It's okay, Google Calendar, get it. Okay, I have to

559
00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:06,320
Speaker 3: make a public service announcement about the noise in the background.

560
00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:09,520
Speaker 3: I live in a pre war building, and I'm really sorry.

561
00:26:09,640 --> 00:26:11,840
Speaker 3: This is what radiators sound like in New York City.

562
00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:15,080
Speaker 3: You now have a window into my nightly routine of

563
00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:19,360
Speaker 3: not sleeping because there is like someone dying in this radiator.

564
00:26:19,400 --> 00:26:21,600
Speaker 3: That's what it sounds like. Don't worry.

565
00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:22,320
Speaker 2: We got to work it out.

566
00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:23,600
Speaker 3: It's our hold in New York.

567
00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:24,800
Speaker 1: I will be.

568
00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:29,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's right, you haven't even done your Okay.

569
00:26:30,280 --> 00:26:34,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I'm breaking from the damn dentist. So I'm

570
00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:36,119
Speaker 1: the type of person that doesn't like to go to

571
00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:39,040
Speaker 1: the dentist until I'm like, I think my head is

572
00:26:39,040 --> 00:26:42,080
Speaker 1: going to explode because it's just like throbbing. I don't know,

573
00:26:42,119 --> 00:26:43,800
Speaker 1: I'm like afraid of the dentist. And so then I

574
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:47,240
Speaker 1: go and then they're like, oh, you need a root canal,

575
00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:50,600
Speaker 1: you have two cavities and whatever, and I'm like, oh,

576
00:26:51,040 --> 00:26:52,440
Speaker 1: so for the last three weeks I've been at the

577
00:26:52,520 --> 00:26:54,600
Speaker 1: dentist every Monday. It's just sitting there there like I'm

578
00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:57,800
Speaker 1: back because I know, like and not to say I

579
00:26:57,800 --> 00:26:59,560
Speaker 1: didn't even really I think I had like two cavities,

580
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:02,440
Speaker 1: but a root canal requires like all of these visits

581
00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:04,160
Speaker 1: because you're like, you need a crown and a post

582
00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:07,040
Speaker 1: and this event. And I'm like, and every time this happens,

583
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 1: I tell myself, I'm never gonna do this again.

584
00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna go every six months like I'm supposed to,

585
00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:15,600
Speaker 2: and then I don't. So I know my dents is

586
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:16,120
Speaker 2: very well.

587
00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:18,320
Speaker 1: I know he's married, I know about his kids, he

588
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:21,399
Speaker 1: knows about my engagement, like we're best friends now, but

589
00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:25,160
Speaker 1: I want to take a brown break from the dentist.

590
00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 1: I know I ought to do better, but I promise

591
00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 1: this time around, I shall. But I'm just so sick

592
00:27:30,400 --> 00:27:33,639
Speaker 1: tired of seeing him because I know, like whenever he

593
00:27:33,720 --> 00:27:35,320
Speaker 1: takes a needle out, I just close my eyes.

594
00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:38,639
Speaker 3: I have to have a tooth removed myself, and I

595
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:41,560
Speaker 3: just I've been told that, and then I've gotten said

596
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:43,560
Speaker 3: we talked this before. I had to get a second opinion,

597
00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:45,000
Speaker 3: and they're like, you don't need to get the whole

598
00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:50,040
Speaker 3: tooth removed, just like something complicated we can do differently. Anyway,

599
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 3: I've been putting it off for months. I'm like, just

600
00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:54,639
Speaker 3: until after that wedding oh, one more wedding. I'll just

601
00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:56,760
Speaker 3: wait toll after that. Oh but Thanksgiving is coming up,

602
00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:58,359
Speaker 3: but then it's Christmas and then it's the New Year.

603
00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:01,560
Speaker 3: So I'm like January at this point, and I'm just

604
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:04,080
Speaker 3: gonna keep waiting, I guess until my Yeah, like you said,

605
00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:07,160
Speaker 3: my head explodes. I had a tooth right now.

606
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:10,480
Speaker 1: But there's nothing. Literally, one time, I think it was

607
00:28:10,560 --> 00:28:12,640
Speaker 1: maybe two or three years ago, maybe three years ago,

608
00:28:12,680 --> 00:28:15,320
Speaker 1: I had a toothache that was so bad. I like

609
00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:19,920
Speaker 1: I called like like an emergency, like like nine to

610
00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:22,160
Speaker 1: one one it was, and I was like I didn't

611
00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:24,840
Speaker 1: know what to do. I was a damn yeah, like

612
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:26,760
Speaker 1: I called and they like they like patched me into

613
00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:28,800
Speaker 1: like the hospital and they were like, there's nothing we

614
00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:30,840
Speaker 1: can do for you. I was like, I I'm not

615
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 1: going to make it through the night. I it it

616
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:35,760
Speaker 1: felt I felt like out of body, Like that's how

617
00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 1: much pain I was in. I had never felt anything

618
00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 1: like that before. And yeah, it was. I mean, you know,

619
00:28:41,320 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 1: there's toothaches and there's oh my god, like I don't

620
00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:48,720
Speaker 1: I can't even describe the pain. And I remember, like

621
00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:53,040
Speaker 1: I think, like the hospital told me, like there's some

622
00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:55,200
Speaker 1: dentists that do like twenty four hour calls whatever.

623
00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:58,680
Speaker 2: So I like researched it through my tears, and I

624
00:28:59,320 --> 00:28:59,920
Speaker 2: I couldn't find it.

625
00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:02,440
Speaker 1: I tried to take like some like sleep aid to

626
00:29:02,520 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 1: try to at least maybe like sleep and then go

627
00:29:04,160 --> 00:29:06,720
Speaker 1: in the morning. I couldn't even sleep. The pain was

628
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 1: just that severe. So I got up first thing and

629
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:12,600
Speaker 1: went to like you know whatever. Dancest was open at

630
00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:16,000
Speaker 1: like seven am, and I'm sitting like in the in

631
00:29:16,080 --> 00:29:17,800
Speaker 1: the waiting room, and you know, they're all being all

632
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 1: pleasant and literally I'm just there sitting like stone by.

633
00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:22,680
Speaker 2: I know, they're like, who's this girl? She looks so mean.

634
00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:25,240
Speaker 1: I couldn't open my mouth, and she was like, so

635
00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:27,719
Speaker 1: to Talktory'll be with you. And so as soon as

636
00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 1: I get into the chair, he's like, so, how you doing.

637
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:34,000
Speaker 1: I literally tears just started pouring down my face and

638
00:29:34,040 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 1: he was like, oh my, I mean, I was like,

639
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 1: it was like no other pain. I could not hold

640
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:40,560
Speaker 1: it back and just like no, that wasn't even hysterical.

641
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 1: It was just tears of pain. And he was like okay.

642
00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:46,560
Speaker 1: So and then obviously, as a dancist, I'm sure he'd

643
00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:49,120
Speaker 1: seen it before, so he got me numb, and it

644
00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:51,000
Speaker 1: was like the first relief I had in like twenty

645
00:29:51,000 --> 00:29:53,680
Speaker 1: four hours. And he was like, it was I just

646
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:56,480
Speaker 1: had like it was whatever the decay was had hit

647
00:29:56,600 --> 00:29:59,600
Speaker 1: like a nerve, but this nerve was connected to these

648
00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:01,520
Speaker 1: other parts of my soul. It's like it felt like

649
00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 1: my head was exploding because whatever that nerve was was

650
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 1: also connected to like the side of my face and

651
00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:08,880
Speaker 1: my ear and this and that, you know, and so yeah,

652
00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:11,200
Speaker 1: it was whoo. I didn't even care. I remember whatever

653
00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:15,040
Speaker 1: the bill was with something ridiculous Mandy. I remember joyfully.

654
00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 2: Paying, like here's six thousand dollars.

655
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:22,200
Speaker 1: Honestly, it was something ridiculous because he was like I

656
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:24,480
Speaker 1: didn't even realize. Of course I picked the most expensive dentists,

657
00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:26,320
Speaker 1: but he was the only one opened that early. He

658
00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 1: was like a dentist to the stars. Like when I

659
00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:30,120
Speaker 1: got in there, you see all these stars on his

660
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 1: wall and I'm like, I don't even care, and he said, oh,

661
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 1: it's it's gonna be a lot. I was like, take

662
00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:39,000
Speaker 1: my firstborn child. He belongs to you, oh child. I

663
00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 1: can't even hoof like I have never experienced. I don't

664
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Speaker 1: know who. I think to myself, what do people back

665
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:46,960
Speaker 1: in the day before dentists existed, like you know, the

666
00:30:47,000 --> 00:30:48,880
Speaker 1: ancient Egyptians and stuff. What do they do?

667
00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 3: That is, no doubt one of the scariest things. If

668
00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 3: you ever go look at old dental tools, O scariest

669
00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:57,400
Speaker 3: thing you'll ever do. You will have nightmares. Don't do it.

670
00:30:57,560 --> 00:30:58,680
Speaker 3: Don't do it, but do it.

671
00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:01,480
Speaker 1: So take care every teeth, y'all, because it ain't no

672
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:03,680
Speaker 1: pain like dental pain. Like this time around, I didn't

673
00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:05,800
Speaker 1: have any pain. It was just like I was like, Tiffany,

674
00:31:05,840 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 1: you need to.

675
00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:07,640
Speaker 2: Go to the dentist. It's been too long and you

676
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:09,239
Speaker 2: actually have insurance that you don't use.

677
00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:13,840
Speaker 3: Yeah right, see, yeah, well there's your PSA, another PSA

678
00:31:13,960 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 3: for you.

679
00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:17,120
Speaker 2: Yes, please go to the dentists. You don't want to

680
00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:19,760
Speaker 2: to be like, oh, don't you look at your mouths.

681
00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 2: That's my dad, Look at your mouth?

682
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:24,320
Speaker 1: Why would you let this happen too yourself?

683
00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:28,760
Speaker 3: I was he looking inside it?

684
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:29,440
Speaker 2: How does he know?

685
00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:30,880
Speaker 1: I call my mom?

686
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,800
Speaker 2: My mom's a nurse, and I was like she was like.

687
00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 3: Can we do you have to whip? Oh?

688
00:31:41,520 --> 00:31:42,120
Speaker 1: Anyway? Yeah.

689
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:44,080
Speaker 2: So those are our brown breaking and our brown boost.

690
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Speaker 1: We're moving on to questions.

691
00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:49,240
Speaker 3: Questions We have a question we're gonna get to today.

692
00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:52,360
Speaker 3: It's kind of a two parter. I don't know if

693
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:54,440
Speaker 3: we can tackle both. Let's just tackle the first part.

694
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Speaker 3: This is from someone named Jay, says, Mandy and tiff,

695
00:31:58,200 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 3: I love the show. You were my go to haven

696
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:03,880
Speaker 3: for financial advice. I'd like your insight and any tips

697
00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:07,800
Speaker 3: on how a young brown couple can significantly save towards

698
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:12,480
Speaker 3: a wedding. Thank you in advance, xoxoj Ooh.

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Speaker 2: Well, I'm gonna let you take most of it.

700
00:32:15,800 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 1: I mean I could talk to just savings in general,

701
00:32:18,040 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 1: but I mean I think that you have better insight.

702
00:32:20,520 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm really smug about it. Well, it's also kind

703
00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:27,280
Speaker 3: of like single white female almost because I would say

704
00:32:27,320 --> 00:32:30,200
Speaker 3: the secret saving for a wedding is to save before

705
00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:34,720
Speaker 3: you actually are engaged. But don't tell your fiance that

706
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:36,840
Speaker 3: you're doing it. Just do it because you were smart

707
00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:38,800
Speaker 3: enough to know that this is where things are going

708
00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:41,680
Speaker 3: and you're not going to have any parents to help you,

709
00:32:41,880 --> 00:32:43,640
Speaker 3: and that you need to save for a wedding. So

710
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:46,120
Speaker 3: that's what I did about I would say we moved

711
00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:48,920
Speaker 3: intogether two years or so into our relationship, and it

712
00:32:49,040 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 3: was then that I set aside money, started setting aside

713
00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:55,440
Speaker 3: money specifically for like a future with him. I don't

714
00:32:55,440 --> 00:32:57,320
Speaker 3: know if I have a labeled at wedding or whatever,

715
00:32:57,480 --> 00:33:00,360
Speaker 3: but it was definitely like a wedding fund. I'm gonna

716
00:33:00,360 --> 00:33:03,320
Speaker 3: be real with myself. So by the time that we

717
00:33:03,400 --> 00:33:07,160
Speaker 3: got engaged to two years later and then like it

718
00:33:07,280 --> 00:33:09,440
Speaker 3: actually it's a year to It'll be a year next

719
00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 3: week from the day we got engaged, so I've had

720
00:33:11,360 --> 00:33:14,640
Speaker 3: three years since then to save and we we're fine.

721
00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:18,720
Speaker 3: Like for the wedding, I've I sort of had a

722
00:33:18,800 --> 00:33:21,400
Speaker 3: budget in mind and I had money saved up, so

723
00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:23,480
Speaker 3: that by the time we actually got engaged, I was like,

724
00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:27,240
Speaker 3: we could totally get married. So basically the whole pressure

725
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:29,840
Speaker 3: for us to save this past year has been okay,

726
00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:31,760
Speaker 3: but let's save now so that when we actually have

727
00:33:31,880 --> 00:33:34,800
Speaker 3: the wedding, we're not, you know, depleting the majority of

728
00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:36,920
Speaker 3: our savings, so we actually have like something left over.

729
00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:39,520
Speaker 3: So so that's good. But if you are you know,

730
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:41,760
Speaker 3: of course, with your with your husband, with your fiance

731
00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:44,400
Speaker 3: right now, and you guys, you know, want to save

732
00:33:44,480 --> 00:33:47,400
Speaker 3: for a wedding even if you're not engaged, I think

733
00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 3: it's super smart to start early, Like you may not

734
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:52,680
Speaker 3: have a ring, but if you know it's going a

735
00:33:52,720 --> 00:33:54,600
Speaker 3: certain way. It's the same way you want to save

736
00:33:54,680 --> 00:33:56,680
Speaker 3: up for any big purchase like a house or a

737
00:33:56,800 --> 00:33:59,480
Speaker 3: car or a retirement, Like you may not need it

738
00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:02,600
Speaker 3: right now, but you'll have to save so much less

739
00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:05,760
Speaker 3: every month now if you start early, then if you

740
00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:08,200
Speaker 3: try to play catch up, you know, six months away

741
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 3: from the big day, and then you sell your soul

742
00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:12,759
Speaker 3: to your mother in law who wants to invite like

743
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:15,399
Speaker 3: two hundred guests because she offers to pay. Like, that's

744
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:18,239
Speaker 3: not that's kind of what happened. I've had friends do that,

745
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:20,239
Speaker 3: and you know, you don't save up, and then you

746
00:34:20,320 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 3: end up really needing money from family and then they're like, okay,

747
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:25,880
Speaker 3: but we get fifty more guests with that, you know,

748
00:34:26,200 --> 00:34:29,520
Speaker 3: five thousand dollars or whatever. So I think if you

749
00:34:29,719 --> 00:34:31,440
Speaker 3: are able to save up for your wedding, you just

750
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:35,160
Speaker 3: get so much more control. You know, everything is what

751
00:34:35,320 --> 00:34:37,400
Speaker 3: we want the way we want it, because it's our money,

752
00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:38,960
Speaker 3: and no one can.

753
00:34:38,960 --> 00:34:42,480
Speaker 2: Tell us differently exactly. My dad would say, he who

754
00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:44,520
Speaker 2: pays the piper determines the tune.

755
00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:46,840
Speaker 3: Oh that's a good one, I know.

756
00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:48,040
Speaker 1: Isn't that good very much?

757
00:34:48,480 --> 00:34:49,799
Speaker 3: Twist on the paid piper thing.

758
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:52,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, And at first as a kid, I was like,

759
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:53,400
Speaker 2: who's a piper?

760
00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:55,719
Speaker 1: He's like, oh, never mind, but I get that, like

761
00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:57,880
Speaker 1: you know, if whoever pays the money gets to make

762
00:34:57,920 --> 00:35:00,239
Speaker 1: the choices. So what I would say, like, so for

763
00:35:00,400 --> 00:35:03,759
Speaker 1: me and fiance boom, I kind of knew I didn't

764
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:05,960
Speaker 1: want like a big wedding.

765
00:35:06,080 --> 00:35:09,319
Speaker 2: But what I did do early on, like Mike Mandy said,

766
00:35:09,480 --> 00:35:09,759
Speaker 2: you know you.

767
00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:12,160
Speaker 3: Just called Superman fiance boo, right, I did.

768
00:35:12,239 --> 00:35:15,360
Speaker 1: Look at me, I Loveman.

769
00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:17,200
Speaker 2: Superman's like, see I need one name.

770
00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:19,480
Speaker 3: So real fans are like, what I'm good?

771
00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:23,200
Speaker 2: Used so anyway, Superman.

772
00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:26,640
Speaker 1: So what I did was early on I had him

773
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:29,920
Speaker 1: separate because depending on what kind of company you work for,

774
00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:33,840
Speaker 1: any modern medium to large sized company will allow you

775
00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:36,919
Speaker 1: to split your paycheck, meaning that like you know, let's

776
00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:39,719
Speaker 1: just say you get one thousand dollars every two weeks, right,

777
00:35:39,840 --> 00:35:44,080
Speaker 1: so you can say, instead of depositing a full thousand

778
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:47,560
Speaker 1: in my normal checking account, deposit one hundred of that

779
00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:49,920
Speaker 1: into a savings and then nine hundred into my checking

780
00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:53,000
Speaker 1: So both of you can do that is divert some

781
00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 1: of your take home pay to a joint savings so

782
00:35:56,160 --> 00:35:58,680
Speaker 1: that way you guys can start saving towards the wedding automatically.

783
00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:01,040
Speaker 1: That way, the money doesn't you're not having to make

784
00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:03,319
Speaker 1: a transfer, it's already done for you. So I would

785
00:36:03,360 --> 00:36:07,800
Speaker 1: suggest that because automation is the new discipline, it's you know,

786
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:09,480
Speaker 1: like I mean, obviously you want to look at your

787
00:36:09,480 --> 00:36:12,200
Speaker 1: budget and make sure that you know depositing that money

788
00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:13,800
Speaker 1: is not going to put you in peril of not

789
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:17,239
Speaker 1: you know, eating like groceries and stuff. And you want

790
00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:19,280
Speaker 1: to make sure that you know you can actually afford

791
00:36:19,320 --> 00:36:20,920
Speaker 1: to deposit whatever that amount is.

792
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:22,360
Speaker 2: But doing that is going to be helpful.

793
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:26,279
Speaker 1: I would also suggest, like start pricing things out, like

794
00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:29,080
Speaker 1: do you know how much your wedding's going to cost?

795
00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:33,000
Speaker 1: You know, because it's saving without like a specific goal

796
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:34,960
Speaker 1: in mind is a little bit harder. But if you

797
00:36:35,080 --> 00:36:36,719
Speaker 1: know your pricings out, you're like, you know what it's

798
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:38,960
Speaker 1: looking like it's going to cost me twenty five thousand dollars,

799
00:36:39,280 --> 00:36:41,439
Speaker 1: then you can and then you can do the math.

800
00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:43,160
Speaker 1: You could say, Okay, if my wedding's going to cost

801
00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:45,000
Speaker 1: me twenty five thousand, and we want to get married

802
00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:48,600
Speaker 1: in a year, then you know, twenty five thousand divided

803
00:36:48,640 --> 00:36:50,440
Speaker 1: by twelve months is how much we need to save

804
00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:52,480
Speaker 1: a month. Can we do that? You see what I mean?

805
00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:55,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, just having like a plan in place and.

806
00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:59,560
Speaker 1: Automate that savings and cut back on some things.

807
00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:02,799
Speaker 2: You know, they typically you know, people talking about your

808
00:37:02,840 --> 00:37:05,799
Speaker 2: in laws. Yeah, I mean, so we did.

809
00:37:05,880 --> 00:37:09,759
Speaker 3: We did. There's no greater sacrifice than giving up your independence,

810
00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:12,640
Speaker 3: I would say, to save money. But it's been like that.

811
00:37:12,760 --> 00:37:14,560
Speaker 3: It's been you know, as much as I complain about it,

812
00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:16,920
Speaker 3: it's been the boost exactly the boost that we needed

813
00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:20,120
Speaker 3: so that we are feeling financially secure later.

814
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:22,600
Speaker 2: But how much what how many months did you stay

815
00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:24,239
Speaker 2: with you? Are you been there?

816
00:37:24,760 --> 00:37:27,719
Speaker 3: It will have been six I think since May which

817
00:37:27,880 --> 00:37:30,880
Speaker 3: was the fifth month, until the end of December seventh.

818
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:33,880
Speaker 1: Okay, So see, like you know, it's not forever, but

819
00:37:34,440 --> 00:37:36,680
Speaker 1: making those like large choices, like a lot of people

820
00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:38,279
Speaker 1: are not willing to be like I'm going to move

821
00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:40,360
Speaker 1: in with my in laws, but it's only half a

822
00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:42,320
Speaker 1: year or a year whatever that looks like.

823
00:37:42,440 --> 00:37:44,279
Speaker 2: So that way you can save money, you know.

824
00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:47,319
Speaker 1: So look, I always tell people list everything that you're

825
00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:50,080
Speaker 1: kind of spending money on and then ask yourself, where

826
00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:51,640
Speaker 1: are some cuts that we can make, Like do we

827
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 1: really need full fledged cable? You know? Can we take

828
00:37:55,120 --> 00:37:57,880
Speaker 1: a year off and like you know, use Netflix or

829
00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:01,960
Speaker 1: whatever in order to to save that two hundred bucks

830
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:04,200
Speaker 1: a month toward the wedding. You know, so start making

831
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 1: those little cuts, and then it's not enough to make

832
00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:09,719
Speaker 1: those cuts. You have to make those cuts and then

833
00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:11,960
Speaker 1: purposefully divert that money. So let's just say you have

834
00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:14,920
Speaker 1: files and it's like two hundred bucks a month, and

835
00:38:15,000 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 1: you pay that on the fifth of every month, and

836
00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:19,439
Speaker 1: it automatically withdraws from your account. So on the fifth

837
00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:21,560
Speaker 1: of every month, you continue to pay the two hundred

838
00:38:21,760 --> 00:38:24,959
Speaker 1: but to your wedding account, so it still feels the same.

839
00:38:25,600 --> 00:38:27,839
Speaker 1: You know, it's just a quick little click on your

840
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:31,719
Speaker 1: online bill pay option with your bank, so you're still

841
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:33,680
Speaker 1: paying that two hundred, but it's putting it into your

842
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:36,120
Speaker 1: wedding account. So anything that you cut from your budget,

843
00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:38,560
Speaker 1: that's what you should do. Continue to pay that bill

844
00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:40,640
Speaker 1: on the same day because you're used to it, but

845
00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:42,320
Speaker 1: pay that bill to your wedding account.

846
00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:44,959
Speaker 3: And you could really use this advice for any major

847
00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:46,760
Speaker 3: I know, there's lots of people right now who aren't

848
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:48,920
Speaker 3: thinking about getting married, don't want to get married, think

849
00:38:49,040 --> 00:38:52,680
Speaker 3: weddings are stupid. You don't have to use this advice

850
00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:54,719
Speaker 3: for a wedding. You can use it for any any

851
00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:58,160
Speaker 3: major purpose. But I also want to say with weddings

852
00:38:58,400 --> 00:39:03,000
Speaker 3: is listen to the numbers. Okay, if the numbers tell

853
00:39:03,120 --> 00:39:06,600
Speaker 3: you have a small intimate ceremony on the beach for

854
00:39:06,920 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 3: five thousand dollars, then do it. Don't try and make

855
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:13,200
Speaker 3: the numbers bigger so that you can afford the huge luxury,

856
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:17,319
Speaker 3: you know, castle wedding or whatever, because you don't want

857
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:19,279
Speaker 3: to start Like all I keep thinking about is I

858
00:39:19,320 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 3: don't want to start our life together in debt, like

859
00:39:21,640 --> 00:39:24,759
Speaker 3: worse off actually than we are now. So it's really

860
00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 3: like we've been really pushing to have a wedding within

861
00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:31,280
Speaker 3: our means. Everything sort of feels comfortable, like my dress,

862
00:39:31,320 --> 00:39:33,759
Speaker 3: for example. Listen, have I talked about my dress yet?

863
00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:34,120
Speaker 4: No?

864
00:39:34,880 --> 00:39:36,759
Speaker 3: I finally got my dress. I'm pretty sure the last

865
00:39:36,760 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 3: I ever said about it was I hate dress shopping

866
00:39:39,120 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 3: as the worst. Everything's a lie. I did hate dress shopping,

867
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:44,320
Speaker 3: but I finally found a dress. You know where I

868
00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:47,320
Speaker 3: got it from? Where Dunda dot David's bridal.

869
00:39:48,000 --> 00:39:50,239
Speaker 2: Really, that's my sister got, Like both my sisters got

870
00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:50,839
Speaker 2: those from there.

871
00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:54,360
Speaker 3: How I was being so judgy about not judgy, but

872
00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:56,120
Speaker 3: I guess I was being like a little upitdy, like, oh,

873
00:39:56,160 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 3: I live in New York, I must go to all

874
00:39:57,680 --> 00:40:00,719
Speaker 3: the boutiques in the salons. Well, here's a fact. One

875
00:40:00,960 --> 00:40:04,640
Speaker 3: dresses there are four thousand dollars up, which is twice

876
00:40:04,640 --> 00:40:07,239
Speaker 3: as much as I wanted to pay. Two I could

877
00:40:07,320 --> 00:40:11,240
Speaker 3: not squeeze my voluptuousness into any of the sample sizes,

878
00:40:11,719 --> 00:40:14,520
Speaker 3: so it wasn't It was like demoralizing, and I felt

879
00:40:15,360 --> 00:40:17,719
Speaker 3: horrible and it was not fun. So it's like, you

880
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:19,719
Speaker 3: can't not only can you not afford the dresses, but

881
00:40:19,760 --> 00:40:22,759
Speaker 3: you also can't even fit them. So here's this rag

882
00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:26,920
Speaker 3: we dug up from the bi Like I literally I

883
00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:29,840
Speaker 3: went to No, I'm not even exaggerating. I went to

884
00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:32,680
Speaker 3: I went to Kleinfeld like this the you know the

885
00:40:32,719 --> 00:40:36,800
Speaker 3: say guest to the dress, uh, you know place or

886
00:40:36,800 --> 00:40:38,600
Speaker 3: whatever in the city. I went there once at the

887
00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:42,719
Speaker 3: very beginning, and then for the last time, this a

888
00:40:42,760 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 3: few weeks ago with my best friend who's also engaged.

889
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:48,359
Speaker 3: And when I tell you, like they literally were gone

890
00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:51,000
Speaker 3: looking for dresses for me for like fifteen minutes, and

891
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:52,799
Speaker 3: they came back and they were like panting, and they

892
00:40:52,840 --> 00:40:55,200
Speaker 3: were like, we had to go to Guam to get

893
00:40:55,280 --> 00:41:00,120
Speaker 3: these terrible Yes, I'm that was what she said. We

894
00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:04,799
Speaker 3: went to Guam, and I'm like, oh, so, okay, that's great.

895
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:08,239
Speaker 3: I need to get out of here. Yeah, yeah, I

896
00:41:09,000 --> 00:41:10,279
Speaker 3: finally I was just like, let me just go to

897
00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 3: David's Bridle. And when I tell you, not only do

898
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:16,080
Speaker 3: they have great, beautiful dresses within a reasonable price point,

899
00:41:16,480 --> 00:41:19,759
Speaker 3: but they also have sample sizes for normal women, like

900
00:41:20,160 --> 00:41:23,400
Speaker 3: real women can try on even the slim fitting dresses

901
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:25,920
Speaker 3: like I wanted to buy, real women can put. Not

902
00:41:26,040 --> 00:41:28,680
Speaker 3: real like you know, skinny women are not that not

903
00:41:28,760 --> 00:41:32,319
Speaker 3: that they're fake, but you know, voluptuous women with women of.

904
00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:34,919
Speaker 1: All sizes, because even like all of my I think

905
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:37,719
Speaker 1: my sister, one of my sisters got hers at Macy's.

906
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 1: But she's very curvy like but really nice shape like yours.

907
00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:42,640
Speaker 1: You know, So she got hers at Macy's and it

908
00:41:42,719 --> 00:41:45,319
Speaker 1: was a mermaid fit and it was great because when

909
00:41:45,320 --> 00:41:49,160
Speaker 1: we went dress shopping with her, it didn't feel demoralizing

910
00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:51,719
Speaker 1: because they had her sizes, you know, like, oh, this

911
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:54,880
Speaker 1: is pretty my size. And then my other sisters got

912
00:41:54,960 --> 00:41:59,600
Speaker 1: heard from David Bridle and she's curvy born, like athletic curvy,

913
00:41:59,719 --> 00:42:02,360
Speaker 1: and we actually, all of us for both of their weddings,

914
00:42:02,400 --> 00:42:05,680
Speaker 1: we got our bridesmaid dresses from David Bridle because we're

915
00:42:05,719 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 1: all different and like we're all kirby in our own ways,

916
00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:11,960
Speaker 1: like slim, curvy, tall kirvy, athletic curvey, curvey curvey, and

917
00:42:12,080 --> 00:42:16,200
Speaker 1: so they can fit anybody, anybody, like honestly, we just

918
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:18,000
Speaker 1: had a great time because one sister was like, we

919
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:20,320
Speaker 1: all wore the same dress, and the other sister was like,

920
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:21,959
Speaker 1: all I care about is get this color.

921
00:42:22,040 --> 00:42:23,960
Speaker 2: You could pick whatever dress you wanted, which was fun.

922
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:28,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm so happy with David's Bridal, and the sales

923
00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:31,040
Speaker 3: staff were really nice. They made me ring a little bell,

924
00:42:31,400 --> 00:42:33,960
Speaker 3: like like no shit, I mean no, no joking when

925
00:42:34,000 --> 00:42:37,520
Speaker 3: I took Basically, here's what happened. I tried this dress

926
00:42:37,600 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 3: on back in September and I liked it a lot,

927
00:42:39,719 --> 00:42:41,959
Speaker 3: and I was like, but it's a David's Bridal dress.

928
00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:44,640
Speaker 3: They make their dresses and sweatshops and supporting childla bla

929
00:42:44,640 --> 00:42:47,439
Speaker 3: blah blah blah. But then after the whole client felt

930
00:42:47,440 --> 00:42:50,320
Speaker 3: disaster and this was like the dozens time I'd been someplace.

931
00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:52,400
Speaker 3: I sat down and I was like, listen. I was

932
00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:55,200
Speaker 3: sort of being like judging about David's bridle because I

933
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:57,319
Speaker 3: read a book about the sweatshops and how they make

934
00:42:57,360 --> 00:43:00,400
Speaker 3: the dresses, and not really sweatshops, but how little they

935
00:43:00,400 --> 00:43:03,200
Speaker 3: pay the workers in Asia and China for making the gowons.

936
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:04,880
Speaker 3: And then I was like, but look at what you're wearing,

937
00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:08,520
Speaker 3: like Nords, Torac j Crew outlet. Everything on your body

938
00:43:08,680 --> 00:43:12,040
Speaker 3: was made in a China factory. Get off your high horse.

939
00:43:12,120 --> 00:43:13,520
Speaker 3: And so I went back. I put the dress on.

940
00:43:13,560 --> 00:43:16,320
Speaker 3: It was gorgeous, and I was like, yes, this is it.

941
00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:18,040
Speaker 3: Let's just get it over with. And not only that,

942
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:21,719
Speaker 3: this is the best part. The reason I decided to

943
00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:24,200
Speaker 3: go on a whim on my lunch break was because

944
00:43:24,200 --> 00:43:27,239
Speaker 3: I went online to the website Davidsbridle dot com. It

945
00:43:27,360 --> 00:43:29,360
Speaker 3: was a day it was like Halloween or something like that.

946
00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 3: They were having a twenty percent off sale wool. So

947
00:43:33,440 --> 00:43:35,640
Speaker 3: I almost bought the dress online, but I was said,

948
00:43:35,680 --> 00:43:36,800
Speaker 3: let me go in the store try it on to

949
00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:40,400
Speaker 3: see if they'll honor the online price online discount and

950
00:43:40,520 --> 00:43:43,080
Speaker 3: I went, loved the dress, super excited in the dress.

951
00:43:43,160 --> 00:43:45,320
Speaker 3: Everyone's watching, and I'm like, okay, but how about this

952
00:43:45,440 --> 00:43:48,320
Speaker 3: twenty percent off. Not only did I get that discount,

953
00:43:48,320 --> 00:43:50,440
Speaker 3: but they were also doing one hundred dollars off in

954
00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:54,000
Speaker 3: the store that day, So I saved probably close to

955
00:43:54,080 --> 00:43:56,320
Speaker 3: four hundred dollars on the dress.

956
00:43:58,040 --> 00:43:58,360
Speaker 1: Thank you.

957
00:43:58,560 --> 00:44:02,200
Speaker 3: I just so satisfied by your reaction. No, because I'm

958
00:44:02,239 --> 00:44:04,440
Speaker 3: just like that, that's a lot of money, you know,

959
00:44:05,000 --> 00:44:06,680
Speaker 3: And this is the money I would not have saved.

960
00:44:06,960 --> 00:44:08,560
Speaker 3: I would have gotten one hundred dollars. I wouldn't have

961
00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:12,960
Speaker 3: gotten two three hundred dollars I saved with the online

962
00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:15,160
Speaker 3: discount if I hadn't just asked for it, you know.

963
00:44:16,280 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 3: So I was so happy I even let them sell

964
00:44:18,320 --> 00:44:21,480
Speaker 3: me this stupid cleaning did like the seventy five dollars

965
00:44:21,520 --> 00:44:23,520
Speaker 3: cleaning service. I was like, just I'll fall and I'll

966
00:44:23,560 --> 00:44:25,640
Speaker 3: take it. You gave me so much already.

967
00:44:26,920 --> 00:44:28,680
Speaker 2: They could never let you. They're like, you, sure you

968
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:30,120
Speaker 2: don't want the coverage for your hop caps.

969
00:44:30,360 --> 00:44:31,960
Speaker 3: I know, well real quick though, they did try. I

970
00:44:32,000 --> 00:44:34,160
Speaker 3: think it was ninety nine dollars. It's a kit that

971
00:44:34,360 --> 00:44:36,320
Speaker 3: you as soon as you're done with the wedding, you

972
00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:39,160
Speaker 3: mail the dress back to them, they press it or

973
00:44:39,200 --> 00:44:40,640
Speaker 3: they dry clean it, and then they give it back

974
00:44:40,640 --> 00:44:42,759
Speaker 3: to you in a preservation box. But I did some

975
00:44:42,880 --> 00:44:45,480
Speaker 3: stealthy googling in the dressing room to make sure it

976
00:44:45,600 --> 00:44:47,400
Speaker 3: was worth it, and it's it was worth it, so

977
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:50,760
Speaker 3: I let them sell it to me because it costs

978
00:44:50,800 --> 00:44:53,080
Speaker 3: like over one hundred dollars at normal dry cleaners to

979
00:44:53,200 --> 00:44:56,440
Speaker 3: dry cleaner dress, you know, of course, But anyway, so

980
00:44:56,480 --> 00:44:59,120
Speaker 3: I'm done. I'm so excited, I'm so I'm so I'm

981
00:44:59,200 --> 00:45:01,319
Speaker 3: just I'm so happy I didn't spend that much money.

982
00:45:02,239 --> 00:45:05,040
Speaker 3: There were times when I thought, I just I might

983
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:07,359
Speaker 3: need to spend five thousand dollars on a dress. I'm

984
00:45:07,360 --> 00:45:09,200
Speaker 3: not like, there were those moments throughout the learning to

985
00:45:09,320 --> 00:45:11,360
Speaker 3: just do it, just to get it over with, and

986
00:45:11,440 --> 00:45:13,359
Speaker 3: I'm so glad I didn't, and I'm so I feel

987
00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:16,040
Speaker 3: I would have felt so sick knowing that I spent

988
00:45:16,120 --> 00:45:17,680
Speaker 3: that much money on a dress, And now I can

989
00:45:17,719 --> 00:45:19,800
Speaker 3: feel so happy and relieve that I still get to

990
00:45:19,800 --> 00:45:22,640
Speaker 3: feel really beautiful. But I'm not you know, living or

991
00:45:22,880 --> 00:45:27,240
Speaker 3: you know, having beyond my means of what I'm comfortable spending,

992
00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:29,360
Speaker 3: and to kind of go back to my point earlier.

993
00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:31,719
Speaker 3: That's what I mean, Like, you want to be comfortable

994
00:45:31,800 --> 00:45:33,560
Speaker 3: so that you can enjoy your day and you're not

995
00:45:34,280 --> 00:45:37,040
Speaker 3: going home with that sinking feeling of like, oh crap,

996
00:45:37,760 --> 00:45:39,600
Speaker 3: now we have to make up for all this, all

997
00:45:39,640 --> 00:45:41,279
Speaker 3: the money that we've spent on this wedding that we

998
00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:41,759
Speaker 3: didn't have.

999
00:45:42,480 --> 00:45:44,279
Speaker 1: You know, I think I'm gonna get like if I

1000
00:45:44,440 --> 00:45:47,160
Speaker 1: do an if I like, I don't know, if I

1001
00:45:47,239 --> 00:45:48,960
Speaker 1: do something, I think I'm gonna get it made. Like

1002
00:45:49,000 --> 00:45:51,840
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go to my seamstress who like makes my

1003
00:45:52,120 --> 00:45:52,960
Speaker 1: Nigerian outfit.

1004
00:45:53,160 --> 00:45:55,279
Speaker 3: Like everyone has a seam stress but me, everyone told

1005
00:45:55,320 --> 00:45:57,239
Speaker 3: me just get it made. I'm like, what do I

1006
00:45:57,320 --> 00:45:58,480
Speaker 3: have mice in my basement?

1007
00:45:58,640 --> 00:46:02,000
Speaker 1: And this, you know, like honestly, it seems like a

1008
00:46:02,040 --> 00:46:04,320
Speaker 1: good seamstress. The way you find her is that someone

1009
00:46:04,719 --> 00:46:07,520
Speaker 1: who knows somebody knows somebody's like, oh, you should use Mercedes,

1010
00:46:07,719 --> 00:46:10,239
Speaker 1: like and so I found her because my sister was

1011
00:46:10,360 --> 00:46:12,880
Speaker 1: using her because her coworker told her. And she's just

1012
00:46:13,520 --> 00:46:16,359
Speaker 1: a sweet little old lady who lives in this little

1013
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:18,920
Speaker 1: building and it's like home most of the days. But

1014
00:46:19,040 --> 00:46:22,680
Speaker 1: her work is impeccable. When I tell you so like

1015
00:46:23,400 --> 00:46:26,600
Speaker 1: when my sister they has something called like it's like, uh,

1016
00:46:27,080 --> 00:46:29,960
Speaker 1: if you're Nigerian, it's like the bridesmaids, but it's like

1017
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:32,719
Speaker 1: the Nigerian part of the wedding. And so like your

1018
00:46:32,760 --> 00:46:36,239
Speaker 1: girlfriends all wear the same fabric. So you you go

1019
00:46:36,360 --> 00:46:38,440
Speaker 1: to the fabric store usually like in New York or whatever, you.

1020
00:46:38,440 --> 00:46:43,560
Speaker 3: Buy your late I was that in a Nigerian wedding, yes, right.

1021
00:46:43,520 --> 00:46:45,879
Speaker 1: And so like so you buy and then everyone makes

1022
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:47,640
Speaker 1: their own like you go and you get your own

1023
00:46:47,719 --> 00:46:50,560
Speaker 1: dress made. So for example, for my sisters, like my

1024
00:46:50,800 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 1: dress was gorgeous and my seamstress charged me thirty five

1025
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 1: bucks and like you know, yeah to make it and

1026
00:46:56,280 --> 00:47:00,040
Speaker 1: it was gorgeous and so or here yo here in

1027
00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:03,320
Speaker 1: American Newark, New Jersey, baby Mercedes living in them the

1028
00:47:03,440 --> 00:47:05,919
Speaker 1: Nevada Building, NewYork Downtown, downtown in North New.

1029
00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:08,600
Speaker 3: Jersey, and you took my return policy on this dress

1030
00:47:08,600 --> 00:47:09,040
Speaker 3: real quick.

1031
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:11,360
Speaker 1: So I think that if I'm going to do anything,

1032
00:47:11,400 --> 00:47:14,040
Speaker 1: I might you know, get something. I might see something

1033
00:47:14,040 --> 00:47:15,600
Speaker 1: that I really like and be like, Mercedes, you can

1034
00:47:15,640 --> 00:47:17,239
Speaker 1: make this. So that's what I did last time. I

1035
00:47:17,360 --> 00:47:18,040
Speaker 1: was like you canna make this?

1036
00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:20,520
Speaker 2: And she was like sure, thirty five bucks or like

1037
00:47:20,600 --> 00:47:24,320
Speaker 2: a skirt twenty bucks, and so I just she's just dope.

1038
00:47:24,360 --> 00:47:28,360
Speaker 1: But finding a good seamstress is hard because many seamstress

1039
00:47:28,560 --> 00:47:33,680
Speaker 1: are not as timely, especially Nigerian seamstress.

1040
00:47:33,880 --> 00:47:36,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like that's probably good if you want

1041
00:47:36,040 --> 00:47:38,400
Speaker 3: like a Nigerian like garment, right, like a style.

1042
00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:41,680
Speaker 1: Oh no, no, no, Mercedes is I venture to say

1043
00:47:41,680 --> 00:47:46,120
Speaker 1: Puerto Rican, Dominican. But she just makes Yeah, she's just

1044
00:47:46,239 --> 00:47:48,240
Speaker 1: But what I like about Mercedes is she can make anything.

1045
00:47:48,360 --> 00:47:51,280
Speaker 3: So so when you could change my whole mental image

1046
00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:54,080
Speaker 3: of her, because I was envisioning a little small Nigerian woman, so.

1047
00:47:54,920 --> 00:47:57,759
Speaker 1: Sades is a small Hispanic woman, I like, I said,

1048
00:47:57,760 --> 00:48:00,719
Speaker 1: I venture to say Dominican and Puerto Rican and my

1049
00:48:00,800 --> 00:48:02,960
Speaker 1: mother in law. Then okay, yeah, super sweet and she

1050
00:48:03,120 --> 00:48:04,719
Speaker 1: just she's just a really good seamstress. So if you

1051
00:48:04,800 --> 00:48:08,120
Speaker 1: bring her and what I like is like typically now,

1052
00:48:08,239 --> 00:48:10,680
Speaker 1: especially for the young Nigerian girls, they don't necessarily want

1053
00:48:10,760 --> 00:48:15,239
Speaker 1: Nigerian style dresses. They want the traditional cloth made in

1054
00:48:15,360 --> 00:48:18,120
Speaker 1: a modern way. So you show her like a dress

1055
00:48:18,160 --> 00:48:20,600
Speaker 1: online like, oh, this Zach Posen dress is super cute,

1056
00:48:20,800 --> 00:48:23,080
Speaker 1: can you make this with this fabric? And so like

1057
00:48:23,160 --> 00:48:25,960
Speaker 1: you get a really cool dress because it's like this

1058
00:48:26,080 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 1: traditional fabric but it's like this like new design.

1059
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:30,840
Speaker 2: So she like is just good at making whatever you

1060
00:48:30,920 --> 00:48:32,200
Speaker 2: show her cool.

1061
00:48:32,320 --> 00:48:33,880
Speaker 3: You have to really know what you want, though, right,

1062
00:48:34,400 --> 00:48:36,719
Speaker 3: because she was always I don't even know what I want.

1063
00:48:36,800 --> 00:48:39,760
Speaker 3: How can I tell a seamstress, like, well, usually.

1064
00:48:39,560 --> 00:48:41,000
Speaker 1: I just take a picture, like I'm like I like

1065
00:48:41,080 --> 00:48:43,000
Speaker 1: this dress, and then she'll just take your measurements and

1066
00:48:43,080 --> 00:48:45,160
Speaker 1: she'll be like, so you might say I like this dress,

1067
00:48:45,200 --> 00:48:46,600
Speaker 1: but I don't like the long sleeves, so make my

1068
00:48:46,719 --> 00:48:47,280
Speaker 1: short sleeves.

1069
00:48:47,360 --> 00:48:49,000
Speaker 3: And she's just like, Okay, come back in a week.

1070
00:48:49,320 --> 00:48:50,880
Speaker 1: So then when you come back, there's like, you know,

1071
00:48:51,040 --> 00:48:52,920
Speaker 1: she's got the shell of it, and she's fitting it

1072
00:48:52,960 --> 00:48:55,160
Speaker 1: a little bit tighter, looser, whatever, and then she's like,

1073
00:48:55,200 --> 00:48:57,480
Speaker 1: all right, come back next week. Like honestly, I think

1074
00:48:57,520 --> 00:48:59,000
Speaker 1: she did one of my friend's dresses in like a

1075
00:48:59,040 --> 00:49:03,719
Speaker 1: week and a half was gorgeous. Mercedesesobom dot com. But

1076
00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:06,320
Speaker 1: I told everybody about Mercedes. As a result, when I

1077
00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:08,560
Speaker 1: go to her, she's busy. I'm like, Mercedes, that's not

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Speaker 1: how it's worth. She's made.

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Speaker 2: Like, for example, a friend of mine gets shirts made

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Speaker 2: from her.

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Speaker 1: He he loves her. He's like, yeah, I saw Mercedes today.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, really tell her to pick up her phone.

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Speaker 3: I'm trying to think of other ways I've saved if

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Speaker 3: I can help her. Well. She mostly wanted to know

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Speaker 3: about how to save up before the wedding, So I

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Speaker 3: just think as soon as possible. And you know, one thing,

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Speaker 3: do we say, name the savings account wedding, Like just

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Speaker 3: give it a name so that Yeah, you can set up,

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Speaker 3: but you don't know what kind of bank you have.

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Speaker 3: But if you have any online bank and ally Capital

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Speaker 3: one three sixty, you can set up multiple savings accounts

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Speaker 3: and give them different names for vacation for a wedding.

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Speaker 3: And that helped me so that I wasn't like stealing

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Speaker 3: from my future wedding like honeypot.

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 3: Anyway, just save early, save often, and live or you know,

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Speaker 3: wed within your means or whatever the expression is. That's

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Speaker 3: the best advice I can give.

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Speaker 2: I think, yeah, no, and I think I think we

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Speaker 2: gave you some good advice.

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Speaker 1: Because we'dobom dot com.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, totally.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: If you guys have questions, go ahead and shoot us

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Speaker 3: an email. The email or the all of our information email, Facebook,

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00:50:22,960 --> 00:50:26,080
Speaker 3: Twitter is all at Brown Ambition Podcast dot com. There

1107
00:50:26,160 --> 00:50:28,759
Speaker 3: is a super easy form for you to fill out.

1108
00:50:28,760 --> 00:50:32,080
Speaker 3: You can ask us anything directly through the website and

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Speaker 3: we look forward to getting your questions dot com.

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Speaker 1: I haven't done that in a while.

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Speaker 3: Bringing all the oldies but goodies out.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, let me dust it, let me dust off this.

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Speaker 3: Hey, hey, hey, you are that on at the party?

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Speaker 2: I'm doing all the old dancewers Like, you know, you

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Speaker 2: don't know nothing about this. You'll know nothing about this, Junior.

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00:50:53,719 --> 00:50:56,000
Speaker 1: And she's like, I don't want to know nothing about that.

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Speaker 1: It's time for weird. All we do is when when when,

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Speaker 1: No matter what, do you want to go first? Second?

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Speaker 3: I feel like I talked a lot, you go first?

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Speaker 1: All right? So this win is not just a win

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Speaker 1: for me, it's a wind for New Jersey. So a

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00:51:16,920 --> 00:51:20,680
Speaker 1: friend of mine hit me up today. She actually is

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Speaker 1: the New Jersey Let me get her title right before

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Speaker 1: I say it correctly.

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Speaker 2: She is the new Jersey Assembly Women Women, Angela v. McKnight.

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Speaker 1: She's also a DreamCatcher. Woo woot. So Angela hit me

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00:51:34,320 --> 00:51:36,920
Speaker 1: up and she said, hey, Tiff, there's this law that

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Speaker 1: she and I were working on together. She hit me

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Speaker 1: up when she became assembly woman. Why does she become

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Speaker 1: assembly I think earlier this year or.

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Speaker 2: Late last year?

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Speaker 1: And she said, you know, one of the first things

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Speaker 1: I want to focus on is financial education and really

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Speaker 1: infusing that into our school system.

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Speaker 2: And I said, okay.

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Speaker 1: She said, you know, would you sit with me and

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Speaker 1: help me to write out a law that would benefit

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Speaker 1: our kids?

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Speaker 2: And I said sure. So I told her, you know,

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Speaker 2: there's already a long place.

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Speaker 1: In New Jersey for high school students that they must

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Speaker 1: learn some financial literacy and some financial education. And she

1143
00:52:06,160 --> 00:52:08,520
Speaker 1: said okay. I said, but there's no law place for

1144
00:52:08,600 --> 00:52:11,680
Speaker 1: elementary and middle school and there really should be. You know,

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Speaker 1: there should be something that they're learning about money, so

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Speaker 1: that way it's not like they get to high school

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Speaker 1: and it's.

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Speaker 2: Like surprise, this is what a bank account is.

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Speaker 1: And she said, okay. So we crafted this law with

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Speaker 1: really well done. It went through something called committee.

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Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie, I.

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Speaker 3: Don't know what that means, but where they kicked the tires.

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Speaker 1: Okay. So yeah, so I went through committee and then

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Speaker 1: today she texted me and she said, I'm about to

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Speaker 1: go to the full Assembly House and we have to

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Speaker 1: see if they're gonna, you know, okay, then pass it.

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Speaker 1: And it passed, and so she said, the next step

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Speaker 1: is for it to go to seek Senate approval, and

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Speaker 1: if it actually during for the Senate approval, I actually

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Speaker 1: have to go and testify before Senate.

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Speaker 2: Isn't that crazy?

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Speaker 3: Oh that's so cool. Isn't it called the Budget Nesta Law?

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Speaker 1: Yes, so it is. So it's called officially it's called

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Speaker 1: Law A three three nine, but that's not sexy, so

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Speaker 1: we call it the bud of Lisa Law.

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Speaker 3: The law books.

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Speaker 2: No, I mean, I don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't think legally they're gonna be calling it the

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Speaker 1: Budget Esta Law. But like just like colloquially, it's not.

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Speaker 3: It's the word, you know how every long it's you know, nicknamed.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly exactly.

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Speaker 1: So I'm really excited, I mean, because one, it's just

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Speaker 1: really cool to see like the system working, you know,

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Speaker 1: because here she Angela is just someone I've known for

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Speaker 1: a while.

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Speaker 2: She took one of my classes, one of my series

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Speaker 2: at the United Way.

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Speaker 1: I've seen her kind of like just like help the

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Speaker 1: community and as a result the community asking her to

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Speaker 1: be to run for public office. I've seen her accept

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Speaker 1: I've seen her, you know, actually do good work. She's

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Speaker 1: like one of these politicians that you dream about that

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00:53:48,040 --> 00:53:50,520
Speaker 1: was like volunteering and as a result, they're like, hey,

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Speaker 1: we want you to have a we want you to

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Speaker 1: represent us in government, and her being like oh okay,

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Speaker 1: and her continue to do it great work. Honestly, she's amazing.

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Speaker 1: And so when she came to me and I was

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Speaker 1: just like, oh okay. And then to see it actually

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Speaker 1: start to move forward and to see that, you know,

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Speaker 1: this actually might happen.

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Speaker 2: So it goes before the Senate.

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Speaker 1: I'll testify, and then if the Senate passes it, then

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00:54:14,640 --> 00:54:16,720
Speaker 1: it goes to the Governor's desk and then he signs

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Speaker 1: it into law or he doesn't. And so, fingers crossed,

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Speaker 1: say a prayer, light a candle, you know, chant whatever

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Speaker 1: it is that you believe in, because this would be

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Speaker 1: really great for our kids in New Jersey. And so

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00:54:27,760 --> 00:54:30,359
Speaker 1: it's not just New Jersey. A lot of people don't

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Speaker 1: realize that if a law is successful in one state,

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Speaker 1: a lot of states will mimic it and put it

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Speaker 1: in their own like, you know, as make it a

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Speaker 1: law for them as well.

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Speaker 2: So it's just a good start so if we.

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Speaker 1: Can make it happen here and then we can help

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Speaker 1: this to spread across the country. So that's my wind,

1206
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Speaker 1: so great.

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Speaker 2: I was so excited.

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Speaker 3: Go ahead. What's her name, Ashley mcveee, Oh my gosh,

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00:54:54,280 --> 00:54:54,680
Speaker 3: worse than me.

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Speaker 2: It's not like my father, all I know.

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Speaker 3: She has the best name for like an assembly and.

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Speaker 2: Assembly woman, Angela the McKnight ant.

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Speaker 1: Yes that he doesn't call me by money Taffany Stephani,

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00:55:14,960 --> 00:55:15,640
Speaker 1: what do you call it?

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Speaker 3: Girl?

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Speaker 2: Just come in here and get me a piece of

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Speaker 2: paper towel.

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Speaker 3: He has like seven daughters, I knows. Yeah, bless his heart.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, Angela.

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Speaker 1: Just congratulations, Angela, and thank you for actually being of

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Speaker 1: service to your community, for hearing what it is they

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Speaker 1: need and supplying it to them, and for doing it

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Speaker 1: before you were officially like on the books.

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Speaker 2: To do it. You know.

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Speaker 1: I just love people like that who were who were

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Speaker 1: just givers by nature and then they found the perfect

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Speaker 1: outlet with which to give through.

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Speaker 3: Just like you. Thanks just for laughing at Ashley McPhee.

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Speaker 3: My bad, Any went on your side. Well, I don't

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Speaker 3: have a piece of legislation named after me, but I am.

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Speaker 3: I am listening to a new audio book. I'm really

1232
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Speaker 3: excited about it. I've been burning up the book charts lately.

1233
00:56:06,080 --> 00:56:08,719
Speaker 3: So this was written by a I can call him

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00:56:08,719 --> 00:56:11,560
Speaker 3: a colleague, but I don't know him legitimately. He's like

1235
00:56:12,040 --> 00:56:15,839
Speaker 3: my friend through several degrees of separation. But it's he's

1236
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Speaker 3: a journalist's named Wesley Lowry with the Washington Post, and

1237
00:56:19,120 --> 00:56:21,600
Speaker 3: he had just released a book this week called They

1238
00:56:21,680 --> 00:56:25,040
Speaker 3: Can't Kill Us All. It's basically this. It's like the

1239
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Speaker 3: the untold but told story of the Black lives black

1240
00:56:29,080 --> 00:56:34,160
Speaker 3: Lives Matter movement. God, what's wrong with me? After the shooting?

1241
00:56:34,239 --> 00:56:37,360
Speaker 3: It picks up after the shooting of Michael Brown and Ferguson.

1242
00:56:37,840 --> 00:56:40,400
Speaker 3: And if you were like me, where I mean, all

1243
00:56:40,480 --> 00:56:42,800
Speaker 3: the news about Black Lives Matter, all the shootings, it

1244
00:56:42,920 --> 00:56:47,719
Speaker 3: just they just all blur together. Everything the protests, the headlines,

1245
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Speaker 3: the social media posts. There's been so much bad news

1246
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Speaker 3: these last couple of years, and especially in twenty sixteen.

1247
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Speaker 3: And I feel like what's really missing is like the

1248
00:56:56,600 --> 00:57:00,960
Speaker 3: real story, like capturing everything, the truth and what's actually happened.

1249
00:57:01,400 --> 00:57:04,759
Speaker 3: And I listened to an hour of the audio book

1250
00:57:04,840 --> 00:57:08,480
Speaker 3: so far, I have about six hours left, but and

1251
00:57:08,600 --> 00:57:10,520
Speaker 3: I've already learned so much of what I thought I

1252
00:57:10,600 --> 00:57:13,799
Speaker 3: knew about Black Lives Matter and the Ferguson shooting weren't true.

1253
00:57:14,480 --> 00:57:17,440
Speaker 3: Like so much was based on these lies and these

1254
00:57:17,520 --> 00:57:20,800
Speaker 3: rumors and all this, you know, all the media getting

1255
00:57:20,880 --> 00:57:24,240
Speaker 3: things wrong and people spreading rumors, and I'm just like

1256
00:57:24,360 --> 00:57:28,160
Speaker 3: so enraptured, and it's actually it's not as at first

1257
00:57:28,200 --> 00:57:30,520
Speaker 3: I was like, Okay, I'm gonna download this because he's

1258
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Speaker 3: a friend of all my journalist's friends, of that little circle,

1259
00:57:34,600 --> 00:57:36,560
Speaker 3: and I want to support him. But I was sort

1260
00:57:36,560 --> 00:57:38,960
Speaker 3: of dreading it, you know, like like true talk. I

1261
00:57:39,040 --> 00:57:42,200
Speaker 3: still have the copy of Tanahasse's Coats his book unread

1262
00:57:42,240 --> 00:57:45,479
Speaker 3: on my bookshelf because I'm almost like afraid to read

1263
00:57:46,320 --> 00:57:49,240
Speaker 3: the negativity and read what I feel like I already know,

1264
00:57:49,320 --> 00:57:51,440
Speaker 3: which is that everything is the worst in the world's terrible.

1265
00:57:51,560 --> 00:57:56,120
Speaker 3: You know, everything is awful. But I'm really glad I

1266
00:57:56,440 --> 00:57:59,040
Speaker 3: dug into it because I'm learning so much, and I

1267
00:57:59,080 --> 00:58:02,800
Speaker 3: think it's important. It's really important for journalists like Wesley

1268
00:58:03,320 --> 00:58:05,280
Speaker 3: to be going out there and saying, Okay, I'm going

1269
00:58:05,360 --> 00:58:09,040
Speaker 3: to do the work. He interviewed hundreds of people, police,

1270
00:58:09,080 --> 00:58:13,640
Speaker 3: informant journalists, you know, obviously citizens impacted all this violence

1271
00:58:13,800 --> 00:58:16,840
Speaker 3: and tells the real story of what happens and helps

1272
00:58:16,920 --> 00:58:21,760
Speaker 3: me see where the untrue, false stories have come from

1273
00:58:22,400 --> 00:58:23,960
Speaker 3: and just opened my eyes in a lot of ways.

1274
00:58:24,000 --> 00:58:26,560
Speaker 3: So I'm really enjoying it. And the narrator. If you

1275
00:58:26,600 --> 00:58:28,560
Speaker 3: guys are fans of audiobooks, you know when a bad

1276
00:58:28,680 --> 00:58:31,280
Speaker 3: narrator can really ruin a book for you, Yes, like

1277
00:58:31,560 --> 00:58:34,440
Speaker 3: makes you really cranky. I've definitely returned books to Audible,

1278
00:58:35,200 --> 00:58:38,720
Speaker 3: but this one the narrator's great. He did a great

1279
00:58:38,720 --> 00:58:41,200
Speaker 3: impression of Michael Brown's mom. I thought, you know, for

1280
00:58:41,400 --> 00:58:44,200
Speaker 3: a dude, Yeah, I just really like it. So again,

1281
00:58:44,240 --> 00:58:46,160
Speaker 3: the book is called They Can't Kill Us All. It's

1282
00:58:46,200 --> 00:58:48,680
Speaker 3: out this week and it's by Wesley Lowry. So go

1283
00:58:48,800 --> 00:58:50,960
Speaker 3: pick it up if you want something good. It probably

1284
00:58:50,960 --> 00:58:51,880
Speaker 3: make a good holiday gift.

1285
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Speaker 1: Even Oh, sometimes I'm like, you know, I'm afraid to

1286
00:58:55,440 --> 00:58:57,120
Speaker 1: read books like that, but I'm glad to hear that

1287
00:58:57,200 --> 00:58:57,480
Speaker 1: that one.

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Speaker 3: I really was too. But it's not, it's it's it's

1289
00:59:00,560 --> 00:59:03,400
Speaker 3: just and he's such a he's young, he's my age,

1290
00:59:03,480 --> 00:59:06,120
Speaker 3: you know, and so it's almost like, I guess what

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Speaker 3: I enjoy about it too, is envisioning someone like my peers,

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Speaker 3: someone my age out there experiencing this and the and

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Speaker 3: to be covering it in the news almost makes me

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Speaker 3: like morbid, like in a like a bad way, sort

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Speaker 3: of jealous of him getting to be in the in

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Speaker 3: the trenches like that and see things up close and

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Speaker 3: get the real story. And the fact that he put

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Speaker 3: the book together like to tell the stories is just

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Speaker 3: great journalism. It's great writing. And can't say enough about it.

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Speaker 1: So everybody go out and get that book if you're

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Speaker 1: needing a little bit of brown ambition in your life.

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Speaker 2: Front and center.

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Speaker 1: I hope you enjoyed this week's podcast. We'd like to say,

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Speaker 1: now you ever see like those news episodes where they're

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Speaker 1: so serious and their voices are like, well, thank you

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Speaker 1: for joining us again for another week of brown and Vision.

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Speaker 3: You're so silly tonight. I know.

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Speaker 1: I don't know why I love it. Oh yeah, I

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01:00:02,760 --> 01:00:05,080
Speaker 1: like Meanwhile, maybe because I literally I set my alarm

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Speaker 1: for five minutes before we were going live, and I

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01:00:06,880 --> 01:00:07,320
Speaker 1: woke up.

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Speaker 2: Like, oh where am I?

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Speaker 1: Where am I? Okay, so I think I'm a little loopy.

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Speaker 3: Are you doing anything special for Thanksgiving?

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Speaker 1: Are you?

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Speaker 3: Did you decide which family you're going to go to.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna do both.

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Speaker 1: I'm super excited because usually my family we would do

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Speaker 1: a rotation. And so this year, my mom texts everyone

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Speaker 1: she said, yay, that our house this year, which I

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Speaker 1: really enjoyed because you know, it's nice to go home.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I love going to my aunts and uncles,

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Speaker 1: but it's nice to go home. So yeah, all of

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Speaker 1: us will be there, and Superman is coming. I specifically

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Speaker 1: asked my mom. I called her and I said, Mommy,

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Speaker 1: I love you, like you're not always super welcoming to

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Speaker 1: Superman because my mom is like a hard nut to

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Speaker 1: crack kind of you know, and I'm you know, and

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Speaker 1: I'm like, so he's kind of here to stay, and

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Speaker 1: I would appreciate it if you could call him personally

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Speaker 1: and invite him so he can feel comfortable because he,

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Speaker 1: you know, my dad is like me, he's like, oh, hey,

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Speaker 1: how you doing, you know, like very like jovial, open,

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Speaker 1: you know. My mom's not really like that, and she's

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Speaker 1: just always been like that, just kind of like very reserved,

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Speaker 1: like you again, I guess you're back, you know.

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Speaker 2: And so surprisingly I thought she was gonna I thought

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Speaker 2: there was gonna be.

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Speaker 1: Some pushback and she just said okay. And I was like,

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Speaker 1: oh that was easy. I thought I was gonna have

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Speaker 1: to be like mommy please, but no, but no, she

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Speaker 1: said okay. And so she called him and he was like, Tiffany,

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Speaker 1: your mom called me and in fighting me thanks Killy,

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Speaker 1: I was like, say it.

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Speaker 2: Ain't so so that was great.

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Speaker 3: Does he really talk like that? Does he listen and

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Speaker 3: think that your impression of him is accurate because you

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Speaker 3: know he does not.

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Speaker 1: Talk like that at all. These were like.

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Speaker 4: Right, more like yo yo, babe, yo, yo babe yo yo,

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Speaker 4: your mom called yo. Yeah, Like he has got this

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01:01:48,440 --> 01:01:50,320
Speaker 4: like deep voice and he's like bought and bread in

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01:01:50,360 --> 01:01:52,280
Speaker 4: the food. So you know, drug got the swag that

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Speaker 4: I don't have, so I don't even try to imitate it.

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Speaker 4: So yeah, so he's just really happy. So he's gonna

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Speaker 4: we're gonna go there. First we're in.

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Speaker 1: Early thanksgiin family, so our mom's like between three and four,

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Speaker 1: we go by like five, we eat by like six seven,

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Speaker 1: we're out, and so we're there, I know, and then

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Speaker 1: but then we always have like so he's going to

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Speaker 1: his sisters after, So I'm gonna go to his sisters

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Speaker 1: with him, and like the rest of my sisters are

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01:02:14,600 --> 01:02:16,560
Speaker 1: gonna go to my best friends because she's friends of

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Speaker 1: the family, so they're gonna go there, and then maybe

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Speaker 1: just I don't know, hop So it'll be a two

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Speaker 1: family Thanksgiving Day, which is nice.

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Speaker 3: It's so nice to you guys, your families live close

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Speaker 3: together like that.

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Speaker 1: It is Honestly, I have to say, I always was

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Speaker 1: one of those people who was like, I don't want

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Speaker 1: to be in Jersey my life, but it's as I

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Speaker 1: get older, I really appreciate the fact that, honestly that

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Speaker 1: everyone is within a drive away and honestly, like a

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Speaker 1: twenty five minute drive away.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's so, it's just invaluable. Like I'm gonna be schleppin'

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Speaker 3: a Wisconsin for the rest of my life. Not necessario milk. Oh,

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01:02:53,800 --> 01:02:57,400
Speaker 3: there's nothing there. There's nothing. There's nothing there but for me.

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Speaker 2: So where are you gonna go? What are you gonna do?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Well, Thanksgiving, we're actually hanging out. We're going to be

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Speaker 3: in the city and we're going to be hanging out,

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Speaker 3: I think with some of his cousins who just had

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Speaker 3: a little baby. So we'll be hanging out there and

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Speaker 3: just keeping it low key. This year, Christmas, We're heading

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Speaker 3: to Wisconsin, so we're gonna this is this is fiance's

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01:03:17,360 --> 01:03:19,439
Speaker 3: family is Thanksgiving, and then we usually knew my family

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Speaker 3: for Christmas. So I'm really excited. I can't wait to

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Speaker 3: tell you guys when I got my mom for Christmas.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, but I can't tell you. I want

1390
01:03:27,960 --> 01:03:30,120
Speaker 3: to know she's going to pee herself. I might record

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01:03:30,160 --> 01:03:34,080
Speaker 3: it all right anyway, the pee or the excitement. The excitement.

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Speaker 3: I bought it way back in August. You know how

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01:03:36,200 --> 01:03:38,520
Speaker 3: I buy things way in again, You're.

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Speaker 1: Like literally the only person on the face of the

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Speaker 1: planet that does that. I just want you to know

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Speaker 1: that everybody else like Christmas Eve. I'm like, so I

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01:03:46,760 --> 01:03:47,680
Speaker 1: should order this day.

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Speaker 3: Also, I discovered a website called Secret Santa Generator, which

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Speaker 3: is how we did our Secret Santa with my siblings

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Speaker 3: this year. I just did it today, super easy. Yeah,

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01:03:59,200 --> 01:04:02,080
Speaker 3: it's awesome. You can even put rules of like who

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Speaker 3: like so, for example the married couples. I was like,

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01:04:04,520 --> 01:04:06,360
Speaker 3: so and so can't buy for her husband, and so

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01:04:06,440 --> 01:04:08,360
Speaker 3: and so like I can't buy for my fiance, you

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01:04:08,400 --> 01:04:13,000
Speaker 3: can't buy for me. I sends you an email with

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01:04:13,560 --> 01:04:16,560
Speaker 3: who you're assigned to now the email goes directly to

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Speaker 3: your spam folder because Gmail knows Secret Santa sounds spammy,

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01:04:20,280 --> 01:04:22,680
Speaker 3: but so long as you catch it and spam it,

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01:04:22,800 --> 01:04:23,520
Speaker 3: it totally works.

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Speaker 2: So I like that.

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01:04:25,320 --> 01:04:26,960
Speaker 1: I'm going to use that because I'm doing you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm taping that segment and they want me to come

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Speaker 1: with holiday gift ideas.

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01:04:29,720 --> 01:04:30,920
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, I'm doing that one.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. Okay, I'm gonna oh, you're going to see

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01:04:33,640 --> 01:04:35,680
Speaker 1: that on my national television spot. And I'm not going

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01:04:35,760 --> 01:04:36,360
Speaker 1: to give you credit.

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01:04:37,560 --> 01:04:40,240
Speaker 3: Well, maybe vet them all before you put it on

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Speaker 3: national television.

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Speaker 2: But I'm like, but you use it.

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01:04:43,840 --> 01:04:45,640
Speaker 1: I'm like, Mandy use it. So if it doesn't go well,

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01:04:45,680 --> 01:04:50,640
Speaker 1: I'm going to be like Mandy magnify money. She used it,

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01:04:50,800 --> 01:04:53,640
Speaker 1: and so if you have any complaints please direct them

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01:04:53,680 --> 01:04:53,920
Speaker 1: to her.

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Speaker 3: Yes, that'll work for you, all right.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, enjoy your turkey, and please don't be one of

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01:05:01,560 --> 01:05:05,000
Speaker 1: those people that post overcooked vegetables online because I will

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01:05:05,080 --> 01:05:05,360
Speaker 1: judge you.

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01:05:05,920 --> 01:05:09,760
Speaker 3: Don't do it, just you know, order something from the delivery.

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01:05:09,960 --> 01:05:14,200
Speaker 3: Don't abuse vegetables or turkey this holiday season. There's enough

1431
01:05:14,280 --> 01:05:16,720
Speaker 3: madness in the world. You don't need to be abusing animals.

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Speaker 3: And plants.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and if you're feeling sad, definitely click on the

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01:05:19,960 --> 01:05:24,400
Speaker 1: hashtag Thanksgiving with Black Families or Thanksgiving a Black Family

1435
01:05:24,520 --> 01:05:25,400
Speaker 1: that those are hilarious.

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01:05:25,400 --> 01:05:26,560
Speaker 2: Every year the memes are hilarious.

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01:05:26,600 --> 01:05:27,280
Speaker 1: It'll make your day.

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01:05:27,440 --> 01:05:30,640
Speaker 3: Oh no, I'm homesick, I want some corn bread stuff and.

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01:05:31,840 --> 01:05:32,600
Speaker 2: We're gonna end like this.

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Speaker 1: Niki da da Ain't no mountain.

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01:05:37,560 --> 01:05:40,640
Speaker 3: Sound like the African version of Nigerian version of Ain't

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01:05:40,640 --> 01:05:41,080
Speaker 3: no mountain?

1443
01:05:42,320 --> 01:05:45,960
Speaker 2: No, you forgot Nuki dada already feeling I know, but.

1444
01:05:46,040 --> 01:05:48,720
Speaker 3: It sounds like didn't you just say, ain't no mountain?

1445
01:05:48,720 --> 01:05:49,000
Speaker 3: Ain't no?

1446
01:05:49,120 --> 01:05:50,640
Speaker 2: See that's part of it.

1447
01:05:50,840 --> 01:05:52,560
Speaker 3: It goes like like, ain't no mountain high enough?

1448
01:05:52,720 --> 01:05:56,320
Speaker 2: Just saying bye. Brandon Bishop podcast folk about it.

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01:05:56,600 --> 01:05:58,360
Speaker 3: Let me know bye