1 00:00:01,920 --> 00:00:04,640 Speaker 1: Hey there, folks. It is Thursday, September fourth, and we 2 00:00:04,800 --> 00:00:08,639 Speaker 1: have to admit we were a little surprised and taken 3 00:00:08,680 --> 00:00:13,680 Speaker 1: aback by a lot of reader's reaction to our ask 4 00:00:13,960 --> 00:00:18,240 Speaker 1: Amy and TJ Yahoo advice column for this week and 5 00:00:18,280 --> 00:00:21,320 Speaker 1: welcome to this ask Amy and TJ audition of our 6 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:24,320 Speaker 1: Amy and TJ podcast and robes. This had to do, 7 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:26,240 Speaker 1: at least the person that wrote in, had to do 8 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:30,920 Speaker 1: with age gaps in relationships. Who knew that this was 9 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:32,600 Speaker 1: something that really struck. 10 00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:34,280 Speaker 2: A nerve with the right because people seem to have 11 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:37,600 Speaker 2: very strong opinions, and oftentimes I was under the impression 12 00:00:37,640 --> 00:00:39,720 Speaker 2: and maybe this is just a sampling with people who 13 00:00:39,720 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 2: wrote in, but most people tend to be skeptical of 14 00:00:43,400 --> 00:00:47,880 Speaker 2: a major age gap because they're concerned about just all 15 00:00:47,920 --> 00:00:51,280 Speaker 2: the obvious things that would Relationships are hard enough, putting 16 00:00:51,360 --> 00:00:54,840 Speaker 2: a huge age gap between two folks makes it even harder. 17 00:00:54,880 --> 00:00:57,240 Speaker 2: So I would have thought that most people would be 18 00:00:57,360 --> 00:01:01,840 Speaker 2: discouraging this young woman, Cassie, from trying to start again 19 00:01:02,240 --> 00:01:04,319 Speaker 2: with a man who's twenty five years for senior. But 20 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:09,119 Speaker 2: I actually read a lot of very different comments than 21 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:10,440 Speaker 2: I was expecting, you know. 22 00:01:10,360 --> 00:01:12,880 Speaker 1: And a lot of when you talk about age gaps. 23 00:01:12,959 --> 00:01:15,920 Speaker 1: Age gaps, you called it experience gaps or. 24 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:18,080 Speaker 2: Yes, right, I think it's I think that's a good 25 00:01:18,120 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 2: way to put it, because people are young at hard 26 00:01:19,920 --> 00:01:23,480 Speaker 2: and old souls and you can find a lot of commonalities, 27 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:25,880 Speaker 2: but a lot of the issues arise when you have 28 00:01:25,920 --> 00:01:29,240 Speaker 2: an experience gap, and there can be a power gap. 29 00:01:29,360 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 1: Then that ensues in her dynamic, We're going to read 30 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:36,640 Speaker 1: the full question at least from our reader, but I 31 00:01:36,680 --> 00:01:40,040 Speaker 1: think most of the concern often times comes when the 32 00:01:40,200 --> 00:01:43,680 Speaker 1: gap has to do with someone who was not just younger, 33 00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:48,200 Speaker 1: but eighteen nineteen twenty dating somebody who was fifty sixty seven. 34 00:01:48,360 --> 00:01:50,360 Speaker 1: You look at that experience gap. I think if you 35 00:01:50,400 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 1: talk about it adults who are I don't know, a 36 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:55,320 Speaker 1: thirty year old and a fifty year old or a 37 00:01:55,360 --> 00:01:57,920 Speaker 1: sixty five year old, that it feels like two adults 38 00:01:57,960 --> 00:01:58,919 Speaker 1: still making a decision. 39 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:02,680 Speaker 2: Once you've had a experiences enough that you can go 40 00:02:02,800 --> 00:02:06,360 Speaker 2: into a relationship with that wisdom. I think that's a 41 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:10,440 Speaker 2: completely different conversation. And this is interesting the reader who 42 00:02:10,480 --> 00:02:14,080 Speaker 2: wrote in Cassie she did have the experience when she 43 00:02:14,200 --> 00:02:17,200 Speaker 2: was young, a freshman in college, and then after that 44 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:20,880 Speaker 2: attempt at a relationship with a major age gap ended, 45 00:02:20,960 --> 00:02:24,840 Speaker 2: she's now considering restarting it thirteen years later. So now 46 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:28,040 Speaker 2: she is almost forty, and so now she is a 47 00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:31,400 Speaker 2: bona fide grown up, and so it is different, and 48 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:33,079 Speaker 2: so should we just go ahead and read the question 49 00:02:33,120 --> 00:02:36,440 Speaker 2: to refresh? If you all didn't remember, you didn't get 50 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:38,639 Speaker 2: a chance to read the column. Here is what Cassie 51 00:02:38,680 --> 00:02:40,800 Speaker 2: wrote to us Amy and TJ. When I was a 52 00:02:40,800 --> 00:02:42,680 Speaker 2: freshman in college, I fell in love with a man 53 00:02:42,720 --> 00:02:46,120 Speaker 2: twenty five years older than me. The connection was unshakable, 54 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:49,079 Speaker 2: but I was young and he was newly divorced, co 55 00:02:49,200 --> 00:02:52,800 Speaker 2: parenting eight kids. It didn't work. I love that she 56 00:02:52,800 --> 00:02:54,720 Speaker 2: didn't need to make an explanation as to why it 57 00:02:54,720 --> 00:02:58,320 Speaker 2: didn't work. It's been thirteen years. I'm about to turn forty, 58 00:02:58,400 --> 00:03:01,120 Speaker 2: and he stepped back into my life. I think we've 59 00:03:01,160 --> 00:03:03,160 Speaker 2: both grown a lot and might be ready for a 60 00:03:03,280 --> 00:03:06,880 Speaker 2: real relationship. He worries that my parents and friends won't approve, 61 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:09,600 Speaker 2: but I don't want to crowdsource my relationship. If we 62 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:12,880 Speaker 2: try again, will it be the same old story or 63 00:03:12,919 --> 00:03:14,600 Speaker 2: could it be for real this time? 64 00:03:14,800 --> 00:03:17,960 Speaker 1: Cassie, Yeah, it could be for real. I think we 65 00:03:18,080 --> 00:03:21,600 Speaker 1: ultimately gave essentially warnings right heads up about this, it's 66 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 1: up about that. The concern was that she was so young, 67 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:26,720 Speaker 1: and what did they have in common at that time? 68 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:30,040 Speaker 1: And yes, things are different now, but it was essentially 69 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:33,880 Speaker 1: a go for it with caution, Yes, with an open 70 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:35,960 Speaker 1: mind to what your challenges are going to be. But 71 00:03:36,080 --> 00:03:37,920 Speaker 1: we're grown folks. Life is too short. 72 00:03:38,160 --> 00:03:39,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, at this point, I feel like she doesn't have 73 00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:41,880 Speaker 2: a lot to lose, in the sense that she's had 74 00:03:41,880 --> 00:03:45,080 Speaker 2: the experiences on her own, doing her own thing, and 75 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:47,720 Speaker 2: now she's come back and maybe perhaps that connection a 76 00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 2: lot of connections, It might be real, but it might 77 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:53,400 Speaker 2: not be the right time, and so maybe it is now. 78 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:55,640 Speaker 2: And I just felt like it couldn't hurt to try. 79 00:03:55,920 --> 00:03:59,680 Speaker 1: And you again, if anybody's been listening to these, you know, 80 00:03:59,760 --> 00:04:02,160 Speaker 1: that is the one that usually goes through all of 81 00:04:02,200 --> 00:04:04,160 Speaker 1: the reader comments and the theme the first thing I 82 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:06,280 Speaker 1: always ask you, did you get more men than women 83 00:04:07,240 --> 00:04:07,560 Speaker 1: this time? 84 00:04:07,640 --> 00:04:10,680 Speaker 2: I definitely, you know what, I actually put a nice 85 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 2: mix of men and women, But still I saw a 86 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:16,080 Speaker 2: lot of men. I actually some of them were so 87 00:04:16,360 --> 00:04:21,000 Speaker 2: similar about age gaps, all kind of saying the same thing, 88 00:04:22,279 --> 00:04:24,680 Speaker 2: expressing the same experiences that I actually kind of had 89 00:04:24,680 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 2: to just pick among the many men who all said 90 00:04:27,920 --> 00:04:28,800 Speaker 2: and felt the same thing. 91 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:32,680 Speaker 1: Can I ask, then, did you notice any theme that women, 92 00:04:33,640 --> 00:04:39,480 Speaker 1: I guess were less enthusiastic about age gap relationships and 93 00:04:39,520 --> 00:04:41,279 Speaker 1: about this question or was it still split? 94 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:41,880 Speaker 3: I think it. 95 00:04:42,040 --> 00:04:45,479 Speaker 2: I think a lot of most people were for the 96 00:04:45,520 --> 00:04:47,839 Speaker 2: age gap. Yeah, I mean that was really that really 97 00:04:47,839 --> 00:04:50,279 Speaker 2: took me back. So I'll all jump in with and 98 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:52,960 Speaker 2: some of these folks, I don't know if they're men 99 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:55,680 Speaker 2: or women. Sneed Maker is one of them. I don't know, 100 00:04:56,040 --> 00:04:58,599 Speaker 2: but this is what sneed Maker said, and this was. 101 00:04:58,600 --> 00:04:59,960 Speaker 3: One of the skeptical reas. 102 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:03,680 Speaker 2: If you have to seek advice, then that is a 103 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:04,479 Speaker 2: red flag for me. 104 00:05:04,839 --> 00:05:05,799 Speaker 3: What is the concern? 105 00:05:06,279 --> 00:05:09,000 Speaker 2: If they are both comfortable with the age difference, both 106 00:05:09,120 --> 00:05:12,000 Speaker 2: understand and accept their roles, and see the same future 107 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:13,839 Speaker 2: for themselves, why question it? 108 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:16,440 Speaker 1: Okay, I can understand two degree, but I think it's 109 00:05:16,440 --> 00:05:19,479 Speaker 1: healthy to question any relationship if be the same age. 110 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:21,719 Speaker 1: It doesn't matter where you are. Of course, you should 111 00:05:21,880 --> 00:05:25,719 Speaker 1: have a little level of skepticism and always seek counsel 112 00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:29,039 Speaker 1: from people you trust. Maybe you don't write into Yahoo 113 00:05:29,120 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 1: dot com, But I think it's always good to seek 114 00:05:32,120 --> 00:05:32,720 Speaker 1: some counsel. 115 00:05:32,920 --> 00:05:36,560 Speaker 2: I don't know anyone who, regardless of age difference, who 116 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 2: isn't or who is completely sure, is completely comfortable and 117 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:45,040 Speaker 2: how they feel and how they view their relationship. Most 118 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:48,440 Speaker 2: people want to ask whether it's a therapist, your mom, 119 00:05:48,520 --> 00:05:53,159 Speaker 2: your best friend, your sister. Isn't that what we go 120 00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 2: in because love can be blind sometimes, and sometimes people 121 00:05:56,680 --> 00:05:59,080 Speaker 2: who love us can see things more objectively, or people 122 00:05:59,080 --> 00:06:01,360 Speaker 2: who actually I don't even know us can see things 123 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:03,720 Speaker 2: more objectively because you're not looking at things through emotion. 124 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:07,680 Speaker 2: You're actually looking at facts versus feelings. And I do 125 00:06:07,720 --> 00:06:11,279 Speaker 2: think that it's I think it's I applaud Cassie and 126 00:06:11,320 --> 00:06:13,920 Speaker 2: other people who are willing to be vulnerable and say, 127 00:06:13,920 --> 00:06:17,080 Speaker 2: what do you think. I think that's healthy. But sneaed 128 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:20,599 Speaker 2: Meeker thinks it's a red flag all right. Jane Jane 129 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:23,719 Speaker 2: writes in and says this, I'm assuming children are not 130 00:06:23,839 --> 00:06:27,279 Speaker 2: in the picture for you. You would have stepchildren and grandchildren, 131 00:06:27,360 --> 00:06:29,839 Speaker 2: so that might work. If you still have lots of 132 00:06:29,880 --> 00:06:32,040 Speaker 2: things in common, then I say go for it. You 133 00:06:32,120 --> 00:06:34,400 Speaker 2: might have to end up taking care of him health 134 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:36,960 Speaker 2: wise sooner than you had hoped for, but that can 135 00:06:37,040 --> 00:06:38,720 Speaker 2: happen in any relationship. 136 00:06:39,080 --> 00:06:40,800 Speaker 3: I thought that was such a good point. 137 00:06:41,040 --> 00:06:43,800 Speaker 1: That was very practical, to look at what you're like. 138 00:06:43,880 --> 00:06:45,640 Speaker 1: It had none to do with love and feeling. This 139 00:06:45,680 --> 00:06:48,320 Speaker 1: is practical. This is what your challenges. These are what 140 00:06:48,320 --> 00:06:50,320 Speaker 1: it's going to be, and you have to consider that. 141 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 1: And she didn't mention. I think about a forty year 142 00:06:52,240 --> 00:06:54,280 Speaker 1: old woman. Maybe she never wanted to have kids, maybe 143 00:06:54,279 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 1: she does have kids. Who knows. 144 00:06:56,560 --> 00:06:58,320 Speaker 2: I feel like she would have mentioned that because that 145 00:06:58,320 --> 00:06:59,880 Speaker 2: would have been a complicating factor. 146 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:00,640 Speaker 1: It's a issue. 147 00:07:00,720 --> 00:07:03,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, by the mere fact that she chose not to 148 00:07:03,440 --> 00:07:06,000 Speaker 2: even acknowledge it or talk about it, it seems like that 149 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 2: isn't a sticking point. I question that as well when 150 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:11,040 Speaker 2: we were reading through it. But he does have eight 151 00:07:11,160 --> 00:07:14,520 Speaker 2: children with another woman, so there will still be lots 152 00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:17,240 Speaker 2: of family. Hopefully he's got a good relationship with them, 153 00:07:17,240 --> 00:07:19,720 Speaker 2: and hopefully they can come around to her. She didn't 154 00:07:19,760 --> 00:07:23,040 Speaker 2: really explain if that was an issue at the time. 155 00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:25,040 Speaker 2: Seems like it might have been the fact that she 156 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:27,600 Speaker 2: put it in there initially that he was co parenting 157 00:07:27,600 --> 00:07:30,080 Speaker 2: eight children after being recently divorced. So they're all grown 158 00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:32,720 Speaker 2: now and potentially around the same age as her, So 159 00:07:33,200 --> 00:07:36,640 Speaker 2: you know, it's one of those things where that could 160 00:07:36,720 --> 00:07:38,760 Speaker 2: still be a big, full. 161 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:39,240 Speaker 3: Beautiful family. 162 00:07:39,320 --> 00:07:41,800 Speaker 2: You don't have to give birth to children to enjoy 163 00:07:41,840 --> 00:07:44,920 Speaker 2: them and experience them and have them be a big 164 00:07:44,920 --> 00:07:45,680 Speaker 2: part of your life. 165 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:47,160 Speaker 3: So I thought that was really good. 166 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:50,200 Speaker 2: And the thing about taking care of someone, Yeah, someone 167 00:07:50,240 --> 00:07:52,640 Speaker 2: can get in an accident, someone can get sick, someone 168 00:07:52,640 --> 00:07:53,239 Speaker 2: can get cancer. 169 00:07:53,280 --> 00:07:56,280 Speaker 3: You never know. And that's love is not about that. 170 00:07:56,640 --> 00:07:59,240 Speaker 2: It's about knowing when you go into it that it's 171 00:07:59,240 --> 00:08:01,080 Speaker 2: about taking care of another regardless. 172 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:03,160 Speaker 1: And she knows she's going to have to look sixty. 173 00:08:03,480 --> 00:08:04,920 Speaker 1: He's sixty five now, it would be. 174 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:06,760 Speaker 3: Somewhere around there. Yeah, that would make sense. 175 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:10,000 Speaker 1: I mean a forty year old woman forty five, fifty 176 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:12,160 Speaker 1: fifty plus. I mean, you keep going. And they were 177 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:15,200 Speaker 1: very active fault. When you think about a guy in 178 00:08:15,200 --> 00:08:17,200 Speaker 1: the next ten years, he's going to be seventy five 179 00:08:17,360 --> 00:08:21,360 Speaker 1: or eighty. Fine, you can be, but generally speaking, they're 180 00:08:21,400 --> 00:08:22,559 Speaker 1: not as acting. 181 00:08:22,640 --> 00:08:25,240 Speaker 2: No, And someone actually several people wrote in and was 182 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:26,440 Speaker 2: actually doing the numbers game. 183 00:08:26,640 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 3: So just think about it. 184 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:29,600 Speaker 2: When you're fifty, he's going to be seventy five. How's 185 00:08:29,640 --> 00:08:31,200 Speaker 2: that going to feel? It might feel fine when you're 186 00:08:31,200 --> 00:08:33,760 Speaker 2: forty and he's sixty five. What about when you were 187 00:08:33,760 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 2: sixty and he's eighty five. How's that going to feel? 188 00:08:35,960 --> 00:08:38,160 Speaker 2: Just they were just suggesting she really think about it. 189 00:08:38,200 --> 00:08:41,280 Speaker 2: I'm sure she has, but to really actually put those 190 00:08:41,360 --> 00:08:43,360 Speaker 2: numbers in front of you and say, am I okay 191 00:08:43,360 --> 00:08:43,679 Speaker 2: with this? 192 00:08:43,720 --> 00:08:45,920 Speaker 1: And it might not matter to her anyway, But why 193 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:48,520 Speaker 1: should that factor in? If you feel the way you feel, 194 00:08:48,559 --> 00:08:50,920 Speaker 1: that's exactly supposed to be. Oh, something's going to happen 195 00:08:50,920 --> 00:08:53,440 Speaker 1: down the road. We hear, we're now and I don't know. 196 00:08:53,800 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 1: The more I we've talked about this, I'm leaning more 197 00:08:56,679 --> 00:08:59,400 Speaker 1: into that area of go for it. My only hesitation 198 00:08:59,720 --> 00:09:06,520 Speaker 1: was as a parent, thinking about my daughter at eighteen 199 00:09:07,240 --> 00:09:10,720 Speaker 1: dating somebody that was forty three. Yeah, at the time, 200 00:09:11,080 --> 00:09:13,520 Speaker 1: I would never get over that with this guy. 201 00:09:13,800 --> 00:09:16,560 Speaker 2: Well, especially if the guy would be your age like 202 00:09:16,640 --> 00:09:19,240 Speaker 2: that would be alarming and disturbing. But we have friends 203 00:09:19,240 --> 00:09:21,480 Speaker 2: who were in that situation and it turned out okay. 204 00:09:21,520 --> 00:09:23,920 Speaker 2: And you know how I think about Kathy Lee Gifford 205 00:09:23,920 --> 00:09:26,800 Speaker 2: and Frank Gifford. I actually got to see a little 206 00:09:26,800 --> 00:09:28,720 Speaker 2: bit of their relationship up close, and she talked a 207 00:09:28,720 --> 00:09:30,319 Speaker 2: lot about it. We would all be in the makeup 208 00:09:30,400 --> 00:09:32,440 Speaker 2: room at the Today Show, and she met him when 209 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:34,520 Speaker 2: she was I think in her twenties and he was 210 00:09:34,640 --> 00:09:39,360 Speaker 2: in his fifties or forties, forties, fifties, and they had 211 00:09:39,440 --> 00:09:41,800 Speaker 2: a beautiful love story. From everything I could hear from 212 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:44,120 Speaker 2: her and everything I saw with my own two eyes, 213 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:48,920 Speaker 2: it was beautiful until the very end, and she was justugh. 214 00:09:49,080 --> 00:09:51,679 Speaker 2: I mean when she lost him, she was devastated. So 215 00:09:52,000 --> 00:09:54,080 Speaker 2: that was a real love story from my vantage point. 216 00:09:54,160 --> 00:09:58,400 Speaker 1: I think from the did we or do we? If 217 00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:00,920 Speaker 1: you take out the college part of story, does it 218 00:10:01,040 --> 00:10:03,839 Speaker 1: change how you view it? Yes, it does for me too. 219 00:10:03,960 --> 00:10:04,160 Speaker 3: Yeah. 220 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:06,199 Speaker 1: She just said, I'm forty and thinking about dating a 221 00:10:06,240 --> 00:10:09,040 Speaker 1: sixty three, sixty five year old guy. Okay, yeah, I 222 00:10:09,080 --> 00:10:11,280 Speaker 1: think something about the dynamic early on I was trying 223 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:14,040 Speaker 1: to understand and it maybe it doesn't matter, but I 224 00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:15,520 Speaker 1: I just think about an eighteen year old girl. 225 00:10:15,640 --> 00:10:18,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, that's and that is a big difference. So 226 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:21,079 Speaker 2: here are now a few of the reader's comments who 227 00:10:21,800 --> 00:10:24,280 Speaker 2: shared their own experiences, which I think is really cool. 228 00:10:24,679 --> 00:10:27,440 Speaker 3: I think that makes it feel even more. 229 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:29,520 Speaker 2: Personal, just the fact that other people are in her 230 00:10:29,559 --> 00:10:31,800 Speaker 2: boat or have been in her boat and are giving advice. 231 00:10:31,840 --> 00:10:35,200 Speaker 2: So Todd wrote in and said, I'm thirty five and 232 00:10:35,320 --> 00:10:38,600 Speaker 2: my girlfriend just turned fifty one. All three of her 233 00:10:38,679 --> 00:10:42,160 Speaker 2: kids just graduated college. We started seeing each other in 234 00:10:42,160 --> 00:10:44,640 Speaker 2: November of last year, and I can't tell you just 235 00:10:44,760 --> 00:10:47,480 Speaker 2: how happy we both are together. Neither of us come 236 00:10:47,480 --> 00:10:50,800 Speaker 2: from wealth. We both have our differences, including our politics. 237 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:53,360 Speaker 2: It took some time for us to adjust, but it 238 00:10:53,440 --> 00:10:55,760 Speaker 2: is worth it in my eyes. We are both we 239 00:10:55,880 --> 00:10:58,320 Speaker 2: both are honest with each other, and we look forward 240 00:10:58,320 --> 00:11:00,600 Speaker 2: to seeing what the future holds. I make her happy 241 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:02,040 Speaker 2: and she makes me happy. 242 00:11:02,320 --> 00:11:05,320 Speaker 1: Sounds like an adult. Thank you, Todd. Yes, that's what 243 00:11:05,360 --> 00:11:09,040 Speaker 1: it's all about. It almost sounds like their situation. It's 244 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:10,880 Speaker 1: he didn't even have to mention his aide. What difference 245 00:11:10,880 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 1: does it make because take out what he said there. 246 00:11:13,320 --> 00:11:15,680 Speaker 1: Everything else is kids out of college, you see each other. 247 00:11:16,760 --> 00:11:17,880 Speaker 1: It's just a relationship. 248 00:11:17,960 --> 00:11:20,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, and even with political differences. We've had readers write 249 00:11:20,640 --> 00:11:22,920 Speaker 2: in about that and how that's tearing their relationship apart. 250 00:11:22,920 --> 00:11:26,160 Speaker 2: He's like, look, it's we had to adjust, but we're 251 00:11:26,160 --> 00:11:29,360 Speaker 2: honest with each other and we are focused on making 252 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:29,959 Speaker 2: each other happy. 253 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:31,240 Speaker 3: Isn't that what it's all about? 254 00:11:32,880 --> 00:11:35,520 Speaker 1: Well, Todd, thank you for that. But man Todd ain't 255 00:11:35,559 --> 00:11:38,960 Speaker 1: got nothing on Anita and Pete. Yeah, Jay, who also 256 00:11:39,080 --> 00:11:44,040 Speaker 1: wrote in one of them, took very very serious, heated 257 00:11:44,559 --> 00:11:49,160 Speaker 1: and even offensive issue with the advice that Robot and 258 00:11:49,200 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 1: I gave Cassie. You'll see which one. 259 00:12:01,000 --> 00:12:01,680 Speaker 3: Welcome aback. 260 00:12:02,520 --> 00:12:05,880 Speaker 2: I can't get that out of my brain. I think 261 00:12:05,920 --> 00:12:07,920 Speaker 2: it's going to happen at least once a week, but 262 00:12:08,120 --> 00:12:08,600 Speaker 2: maybe more. 263 00:12:08,720 --> 00:12:11,680 Speaker 1: I hope more, because. 264 00:12:10,840 --> 00:12:11,640 Speaker 3: I'm taken aback. 265 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:12,800 Speaker 1: You're taking it back? 266 00:12:13,160 --> 00:12:14,280 Speaker 3: Why do I do that? 267 00:12:14,520 --> 00:12:17,000 Speaker 2: It's funny how your brain gets into patterns and then 268 00:12:17,360 --> 00:12:18,839 Speaker 2: I can't break out of it. Now I'm going to 269 00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:21,040 Speaker 2: start stressing about it. So welcome back. 270 00:12:21,160 --> 00:12:26,640 Speaker 1: Welcome back. Used to have an issue with backlash and 271 00:12:26,679 --> 00:12:29,520 Speaker 1: always came out as blacklash. That used to be funny too. 272 00:12:29,720 --> 00:12:30,880 Speaker 1: I hope we can bring that one back. 273 00:12:30,920 --> 00:12:33,160 Speaker 2: I hope that one never comes out of my mouth again. 274 00:12:33,600 --> 00:12:36,240 Speaker 2: Oh my goodness. All right, welcome back to this edition 275 00:12:36,440 --> 00:12:38,839 Speaker 2: of Amy and TJ. This is our ask Amy and 276 00:12:38,920 --> 00:12:41,800 Speaker 2: TJ edition, but it's our favorite version of it because 277 00:12:41,840 --> 00:12:43,440 Speaker 2: we're talking about what you. 278 00:12:43,880 --> 00:12:45,520 Speaker 3: The reader wrote in. 279 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:48,840 Speaker 2: Under the comment section to our reader who asked us 280 00:12:48,840 --> 00:12:51,600 Speaker 2: a question about what she should do, and so this 281 00:12:51,679 --> 00:12:53,680 Speaker 2: of course was Cassie asking if she should give it 282 00:12:53,720 --> 00:12:56,000 Speaker 2: a try. There's a twenty five year age gap, and 283 00:12:56,040 --> 00:12:59,480 Speaker 2: this is round two. She's now nearly forty. Should she 284 00:12:59,520 --> 00:13:02,400 Speaker 2: make it worse? Could it actually work? That's kind of 285 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:03,840 Speaker 2: one of the bigger questions she's asking. 286 00:13:03,920 --> 00:13:05,280 Speaker 1: No, I have a quote. Do you have an indication 287 00:13:05,320 --> 00:13:06,880 Speaker 1: of how long they dated the first time? 288 00:13:06,960 --> 00:13:08,560 Speaker 2: Well, it must have been for a while, because some 289 00:13:08,679 --> 00:13:11,760 Speaker 2: readers actually put in this so it's funny. Everyone notices 290 00:13:12,120 --> 00:13:14,760 Speaker 2: she said she was a freshman in college when they met. Okay, 291 00:13:14,800 --> 00:13:19,560 Speaker 2: so that means say that means she's nineteen. Then she 292 00:13:19,720 --> 00:13:23,959 Speaker 2: says thirteen years later, she's almost forty. Yep, so they 293 00:13:24,040 --> 00:13:27,440 Speaker 2: must have been seeing each other for several several years. 294 00:13:27,520 --> 00:13:29,360 Speaker 2: It just didn't work. But it must have gone on 295 00:13:29,440 --> 00:13:31,480 Speaker 2: for quite some time. If you do the math, she 296 00:13:31,559 --> 00:13:35,720 Speaker 2: had to have been seeing him for at least seven 297 00:13:35,840 --> 00:13:36,640 Speaker 2: years or so. 298 00:13:36,840 --> 00:13:39,760 Speaker 1: I have to say I did not initially factor that 299 00:13:39,920 --> 00:13:42,960 Speaker 1: in because all I'm thinking when she said it when 300 00:13:43,000 --> 00:13:45,600 Speaker 1: I was a freshman, I fell in love and that 301 00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:48,000 Speaker 1: was it the connection. But it didn't work. She didn't 302 00:13:48,000 --> 00:13:50,079 Speaker 1: say how long it went. Right Now, when you think 303 00:13:50,080 --> 00:13:51,960 Speaker 1: about it that way, this wasn't just an eighteen year 304 00:13:51,960 --> 00:13:54,480 Speaker 1: old girl. She might have been into her twenties. I 305 00:13:54,520 --> 00:13:55,439 Speaker 1: mean she had to have been. 306 00:13:55,880 --> 00:13:59,439 Speaker 2: Oh if she's now almost forty and they were apart, 307 00:13:59,600 --> 00:14:02,080 Speaker 2: they were broken up so to speak, for thirteen years, 308 00:14:02,720 --> 00:14:05,640 Speaker 2: that tells you up until twenty seven, even me, Yeah, 309 00:14:05,800 --> 00:14:07,120 Speaker 2: she was with this guy. 310 00:14:07,200 --> 00:14:09,560 Speaker 1: So to a lot of the argument being made and 311 00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:14,280 Speaker 1: the concern I certainly had, she did kind of go 312 00:14:14,360 --> 00:14:18,000 Speaker 1: through and have an adult relationship with him, not just 313 00:14:18,040 --> 00:14:18,880 Speaker 1: a kid in college. 314 00:14:19,000 --> 00:14:21,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, but she's also had thirteen years on her own 315 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:24,080 Speaker 2: to see what else is out there, what she wants, 316 00:14:24,120 --> 00:14:27,040 Speaker 2: who she is, and where she wants to be. So 317 00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:31,680 Speaker 2: Anita writes in my late husband was fifteen years older 318 00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:35,160 Speaker 2: than me and a very different generation. We met late 319 00:14:35,200 --> 00:14:38,480 Speaker 2: in life too. We had twenty eight years total together 320 00:14:38,800 --> 00:14:41,320 Speaker 2: when we married, and I retired within a few months. 321 00:14:41,600 --> 00:14:44,920 Speaker 2: I knew I had only an unknown period of time. 322 00:14:45,200 --> 00:14:49,280 Speaker 2: We had eleven years married. We really enjoyed those retirement 323 00:14:49,360 --> 00:14:53,360 Speaker 2: married years evermore, I was very, very lucky to have him. 324 00:14:53,360 --> 00:14:55,000 Speaker 3: That makes me like, actually get emotional. 325 00:14:55,080 --> 00:15:01,880 Speaker 1: It's beautiful, you know we're hearing. Wow, isn't this something 326 00:15:02,880 --> 00:15:05,880 Speaker 1: I'm trying to want to single out a couple? But 327 00:15:05,920 --> 00:15:10,480 Speaker 1: maybe I will coach Belichick. I have no idea what's 328 00:15:10,480 --> 00:15:13,760 Speaker 1: going on in that relationship. But when something like that 329 00:15:13,800 --> 00:15:16,080 Speaker 1: comes out, what are people The first thing, the first 330 00:15:16,200 --> 00:15:19,720 Speaker 1: voices you hear are the loudest ones making fun and 331 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:23,040 Speaker 1: making comments on Twitter, trying to get followers and doing 332 00:15:23,280 --> 00:15:26,320 Speaker 1: all this stuff, trying to just attack, attack, attack, when 333 00:15:26,360 --> 00:15:28,760 Speaker 1: we have to realize there are so many other people 334 00:15:28,840 --> 00:15:33,960 Speaker 1: out there who have had wonderful experiences that don't look traditional. 335 00:15:34,560 --> 00:15:37,520 Speaker 1: What is love supposed to look like. It's supposed to 336 00:15:37,560 --> 00:15:39,720 Speaker 1: look like two people who fell in love in college 337 00:15:39,800 --> 00:15:41,960 Speaker 1: or right outside of college, that got married at a 338 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:44,920 Speaker 1: beautiful ceremony, They had two kids, and they stayed together 339 00:15:45,120 --> 00:15:50,400 Speaker 1: and died in their late eighties surrounded by family. If 340 00:15:50,400 --> 00:15:56,239 Speaker 1: it doesn't look like that, you're a bad person. Nobody's 341 00:15:56,240 --> 00:15:57,920 Speaker 1: shit looks like that, does it. 342 00:15:57,920 --> 00:15:59,320 Speaker 3: It's extremely rare. 343 00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:01,000 Speaker 1: But we hope while we hold on to that. So 344 00:16:01,120 --> 00:16:03,080 Speaker 1: to your point of what this woman is saying, the 345 00:16:03,240 --> 00:16:06,240 Speaker 1: number of people who would have attacked Belichick, but there's 346 00:16:06,280 --> 00:16:09,160 Speaker 1: a conversation about Belichick that another group of people are 347 00:16:09,200 --> 00:16:12,600 Speaker 1: having who can relate to You're living, who are living 348 00:16:12,880 --> 00:16:16,880 Speaker 1: and not condemning because they live something that can look different. 349 00:16:17,040 --> 00:16:17,680 Speaker 3: It's okay. 350 00:16:17,800 --> 00:16:21,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, I know it's still taboo, right, age guys, absolutely. 351 00:16:20,760 --> 00:16:22,040 Speaker 3: But I thought it was really cool. 352 00:16:22,160 --> 00:16:24,360 Speaker 2: I was surprised at how many people came out, told 353 00:16:24,400 --> 00:16:27,240 Speaker 2: their stories and were in full support of her going 354 00:16:27,280 --> 00:16:31,920 Speaker 2: for it for those reasons from actually lived experiences, all right, 355 00:16:31,960 --> 00:16:37,000 Speaker 2: So Pete, Pete came out swinging. When he started out 356 00:16:37,040 --> 00:16:40,360 Speaker 2: with a little attack on TJ and me, he said, 357 00:16:40,720 --> 00:16:43,760 Speaker 2: these two don't know what they are talking about, and 358 00:16:43,800 --> 00:16:46,200 Speaker 2: the majority of the comments are lost in the weeds. 359 00:16:46,680 --> 00:16:49,440 Speaker 2: I married my wife when I was twenty going on 360 00:16:49,480 --> 00:16:53,000 Speaker 2: twenty one and she was thirty eight. We had a 361 00:16:53,200 --> 00:16:57,480 Speaker 2: wonderful forty one years, four months and four days together 362 00:16:57,760 --> 00:17:01,120 Speaker 2: until I lost her in February of twenty fifth. Haven't 363 00:17:01,160 --> 00:17:04,199 Speaker 2: even thought about having a date since that time. So 364 00:17:04,440 --> 00:17:07,120 Speaker 2: don't tell me about an age difference being a problem 365 00:17:07,160 --> 00:17:07,920 Speaker 2: in a marriage. 366 00:17:08,840 --> 00:17:11,560 Speaker 1: That's his experience, and an emotional one. 367 00:17:11,560 --> 00:17:13,800 Speaker 3: It sounds like he's still grieving an emotional one. 368 00:17:13,800 --> 00:17:16,480 Speaker 1: And that's okay. And so when I you know, I'm 369 00:17:16,480 --> 00:17:20,120 Speaker 1: always about words and how we write. It's not usually 370 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:22,639 Speaker 1: what we say is how we say it. Yeah, and okay, 371 00:17:22,640 --> 00:17:25,040 Speaker 1: he starts out, and it set me off right immediately 372 00:17:25,080 --> 00:17:27,120 Speaker 1: just say what we don't know what they're talking about, 373 00:17:27,480 --> 00:17:29,160 Speaker 1: and that's his opinion. Who knows, he's kind of tongue 374 00:17:29,160 --> 00:17:31,280 Speaker 1: in cheek and saying it. But every he's even making 375 00:17:31,320 --> 00:17:35,480 Speaker 1: the point that I was previously making his experience. Even 376 00:17:35,520 --> 00:17:38,040 Speaker 1: though he was taking issue with us, he had a 377 00:17:38,040 --> 00:17:41,960 Speaker 1: different experience that was positive. That doesn't mean that there 378 00:17:42,000 --> 00:17:45,359 Speaker 1: aren't warning signs or words of caution for people who 379 00:17:45,480 --> 00:17:48,840 Speaker 1: do find themselves in relationships with age gaps. 380 00:17:48,920 --> 00:17:49,800 Speaker 3: Yes, age gaps. 381 00:17:49,800 --> 00:17:52,600 Speaker 2: And look, you could look at our relationship and say 382 00:17:53,040 --> 00:17:55,840 Speaker 2: an interracial relationship. So the argument people make is an 383 00:17:55,880 --> 00:17:59,399 Speaker 2: experience gap, but it's also making relationships which were already 384 00:17:59,400 --> 00:18:03,320 Speaker 2: hard hard when you have things not in common like that. 385 00:18:03,800 --> 00:18:05,560 Speaker 2: So the same thing could be said about you and 386 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:09,200 Speaker 2: me that we have such different experiences, different cultural experiences, 387 00:18:09,240 --> 00:18:11,040 Speaker 2: different reactions to things based. 388 00:18:10,800 --> 00:18:13,000 Speaker 3: On how we look and how we were. 389 00:18:12,960 --> 00:18:16,240 Speaker 2: Raised, And so why would you choose to be with 390 00:18:16,280 --> 00:18:19,760 Speaker 2: someone when you already have extra problems that you wouldn't 391 00:18:19,800 --> 00:18:21,600 Speaker 2: have if you just married someone who was your age, 392 00:18:21,640 --> 00:18:23,919 Speaker 2: who looked like you, who came from your same religious background, 393 00:18:23,960 --> 00:18:27,040 Speaker 2: who voted for the same president. And I get that, 394 00:18:27,320 --> 00:18:33,320 Speaker 2: but sometimes those differences are what make the relationship better 395 00:18:34,000 --> 00:18:37,360 Speaker 2: and sweeter and more interesting, and you learn more and 396 00:18:37,680 --> 00:18:39,879 Speaker 2: maybe you even like I don't want to compare, but 397 00:18:40,840 --> 00:18:44,720 Speaker 2: the point being, sometimes those differences can actually create a 398 00:18:44,720 --> 00:18:47,159 Speaker 2: spark that continues until the very end. 399 00:18:47,240 --> 00:18:49,840 Speaker 1: And you know, a lot of people again not making 400 00:18:49,840 --> 00:18:53,959 Speaker 1: a direct comparison, we're not saying that, but people walking 401 00:18:54,000 --> 00:18:58,960 Speaker 1: down the street with those big age gaps sometimes might 402 00:18:59,040 --> 00:19:03,440 Speaker 1: get looks the way an interracial couple might have decades ago. Yep, 403 00:19:03,520 --> 00:19:06,160 Speaker 1: because you're looking at it's not common or it's taboo, 404 00:19:06,320 --> 00:19:08,800 Speaker 1: that shouldn't be done for different reasons or whatever reasons 405 00:19:08,840 --> 00:19:11,200 Speaker 1: you have to think it's wrong. But yeah, so your point, 406 00:19:11,200 --> 00:19:14,520 Speaker 1: and right, that is still I don't care who you 407 00:19:14,560 --> 00:19:17,000 Speaker 1: are anywhere you go. I don't. I'm trying to think 408 00:19:17,040 --> 00:19:18,880 Speaker 1: of some friends we know with age gaps or something. Now, 409 00:19:18,920 --> 00:19:20,879 Speaker 1: there was another couple we knew they're not together anymore, 410 00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:23,840 Speaker 1: but still they it worked. But it's always you always 411 00:19:23,840 --> 00:19:25,880 Speaker 1: think about it crosses your mind. Oh when you see 412 00:19:25,880 --> 00:19:26,760 Speaker 1: an age gap. 413 00:19:26,520 --> 00:19:30,520 Speaker 2: And oh, people go, is he rich? Yeah, right exactly, 414 00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:33,920 Speaker 2: I totally get that, all right, an age gap with us, 415 00:19:35,520 --> 00:19:36,360 Speaker 2: that's true, that's true. 416 00:19:36,400 --> 00:19:37,800 Speaker 3: I'm four and a half years older. Than you. 417 00:19:37,880 --> 00:19:42,560 Speaker 1: People ask me all the time, you have to have money. 418 00:19:46,359 --> 00:19:50,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's funny. All right, let's move on to our 419 00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:54,760 Speaker 2: final reader comment. And this is short but sweet, and 420 00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:56,560 Speaker 2: I actually liked what he had to say. I say, he, 421 00:19:56,680 --> 00:19:57,120 Speaker 2: I don't know. 422 00:19:57,080 --> 00:20:00,320 Speaker 3: It's j Jay. I guess could be a sheet as well. 423 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:03,719 Speaker 2: My wife of twenty eight years was nineteen when I 424 00:20:03,760 --> 00:20:07,480 Speaker 2: met her, and I was a thirty eight year old divorcee. 425 00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:10,439 Speaker 2: Seems I had to learn what not to do in 426 00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:14,840 Speaker 2: a marriage to finally get it right. He's just saying 427 00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:18,480 Speaker 2: he was divorced much like this guy, and he met 428 00:20:18,560 --> 00:20:20,679 Speaker 2: someone who was nineteen. They've been together for twenty eight 429 00:20:20,760 --> 00:20:24,080 Speaker 2: years and the marriage has worked really, really well versus. 430 00:20:23,760 --> 00:20:25,920 Speaker 3: His other one. Maybe she was more age appropriate. It 431 00:20:26,000 --> 00:20:26,520 Speaker 3: didn't work. 432 00:20:26,800 --> 00:20:29,960 Speaker 2: So he's learned just from having had a you know, 433 00:20:30,359 --> 00:20:32,720 Speaker 2: I hate to say failed, but a relationship that ended 434 00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:35,000 Speaker 2: with someone who might have been his age, and he 435 00:20:35,080 --> 00:20:39,479 Speaker 2: took those lessons and it's working. So however, you figure 436 00:20:39,480 --> 00:20:42,000 Speaker 2: out what you need to do better, differently whatever to 437 00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:44,680 Speaker 2: make a relationship work. The age thing he's saying wasn't 438 00:20:44,680 --> 00:20:46,920 Speaker 2: the issue. It was perhaps even it was him having 439 00:20:46,960 --> 00:20:49,040 Speaker 2: to correct some behaviors. 440 00:20:49,280 --> 00:20:51,199 Speaker 1: You think he told his ex wife, thank you for 441 00:20:51,240 --> 00:20:53,880 Speaker 1: making me a better man. I'm kidding, that's always an 442 00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:56,640 Speaker 1: obviously you didn't say that. Well, yes, to his point 443 00:20:56,680 --> 00:21:00,119 Speaker 1: thirty eight and nineteen, I bet you her parents and 444 00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:02,720 Speaker 1: folks around her raised some eyebrows and pulled her to 445 00:21:02,760 --> 00:21:05,399 Speaker 1: the side and had some conversations. You just naturally do 446 00:21:05,520 --> 00:21:08,199 Speaker 1: that by somebody that young, And that's okay. We're not 447 00:21:08,240 --> 00:21:11,399 Speaker 1: saying anti this or that, but when it comes to 448 00:21:11,440 --> 00:21:15,199 Speaker 1: somebody seventeen, eighteen, nineteen years old, that's different type of 449 00:21:15,240 --> 00:21:16,080 Speaker 1: an age gap. 450 00:21:16,440 --> 00:21:19,359 Speaker 2: Yes, even my twenty two year old recently told me 451 00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:21,040 Speaker 2: she went on a third date, which is a big 452 00:21:21,040 --> 00:21:23,320 Speaker 2: deal for her, and I said, what does he do? 453 00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:27,240 Speaker 2: And she told me he was he had a profession 454 00:21:27,359 --> 00:21:29,720 Speaker 2: upstate and anyway, it just sounded old, and I was like, 455 00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:31,320 Speaker 2: please tell me how old he is. And he's like, 456 00:21:31,440 --> 00:21:32,840 Speaker 2: don't worry, mom, he's twenty three. 457 00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:33,720 Speaker 3: But it's funny. 458 00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:35,680 Speaker 2: I even started to go, wait, who is this man? 459 00:21:35,800 --> 00:21:38,920 Speaker 2: How old is he? Why are you seeing him? It's 460 00:21:38,960 --> 00:21:40,840 Speaker 2: just a it's a natural concern of a parent. I 461 00:21:40,840 --> 00:21:42,240 Speaker 2: have a nineteen year old, and that's okay. Can you 462 00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:44,879 Speaker 2: imagine Ifnnilie said she was dating a thirty eight year 463 00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:45,320 Speaker 2: old man. 464 00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:47,920 Speaker 1: We'd be on the way to Colorado right now, So. 465 00:21:47,960 --> 00:21:50,639 Speaker 2: I understand is a natural reaction, but I love hearing 466 00:21:50,680 --> 00:21:53,560 Speaker 2: these vantage, like being able to look back and say, hey, 467 00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:56,720 Speaker 2: twenty eight years later, we're still going strong. Love is love, 468 00:21:56,760 --> 00:21:58,760 Speaker 2: and it might not look the way you think it should, 469 00:21:58,840 --> 00:21:59,800 Speaker 2: but it works for us. 470 00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:01,760 Speaker 1: And that's the only thing we're always hoot and holler about. 471 00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:04,200 Speaker 1: I do especially just try to respect and give people 472 00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:06,520 Speaker 1: a little grace for that situations. You might not agree 473 00:22:06,560 --> 00:22:08,280 Speaker 1: with it, but you don't have to attack them for 474 00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:10,760 Speaker 1: not being like you, looking like you, talking like you, 475 00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:14,520 Speaker 1: thinking like you. Yeah, it's okay, So we always really 476 00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:17,560 Speaker 1: this was one of the more interesting ones. But I 477 00:22:17,600 --> 00:22:19,639 Speaker 1: want to say thank you to the readers who have 478 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:22,760 Speaker 1: been writing in and being vulnerable. They are sharing details 479 00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:25,960 Speaker 1: about their own stories that have helped in part of 480 00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:28,920 Speaker 1: the conversation robes. And this is a big one because 481 00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:31,560 Speaker 1: it has been a big deal lately Belichick in particular 482 00:22:31,680 --> 00:22:35,000 Speaker 1: YEP talking about age gaps and to see a calm, 483 00:22:35,119 --> 00:22:39,280 Speaker 1: reason and even loving conversation happening around the same topic 484 00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:41,679 Speaker 1: but just in a different environment. Now, I love it. 485 00:22:41,800 --> 00:22:45,399 Speaker 2: Yes, sank you all yes, please. 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