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Speaker 1: Here It is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject. I

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Speaker 1: went home early, and so did he. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: my husband and I are down to one car because

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Speaker 1: he hit debris in the road after an ice storm

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Speaker 1: in our city. I hate having to be dropped off

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Speaker 1: at work because I have a flexible schedule and I

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Speaker 1: can work from home. He's in sales, so he has

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Speaker 1: to have his own transportation. Last Friday, I chose to

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Speaker 1: stay home and work, so I had sex with my

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Speaker 1: man and told him to have a great day. Ten am,

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Speaker 1: I got a call to come to the office because

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Speaker 1: the client had popped up in town. I called my

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Speaker 1: away to pick me up. My boss picked me up instead.

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Speaker 1: My husband called me around one pm to see if

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Speaker 1: around five pm. We wrapped up our meeting around three

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Speaker 1: my husband getting out of my car. I could tell

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Speaker 1: As he drove away, I called, but he didn't answer.

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Speaker 1: He texted me to see if I needed a ride.

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Speaker 1: I texted back that I was already home, and I

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Speaker 1: why was he texting me and not answering my calls.

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Speaker 1: He never responded that night. He said I was making

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Speaker 1: didn't answer my calls because he didn't want to be

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Speaker 1: embarrassed in front of his coworker. What if I hadn't

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Speaker 1: busted him, do you think he would have admitted it

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Speaker 1: he wouldn't have. He wouldn't have admitted anything to you.

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Speaker 1: He was thinking he could get away with whatever he

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Speaker 1: he had you at Bay, you were off at work

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Speaker 1: doing your thing and everything. He would check on you

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Speaker 1: But the fact that he had your car and couldn't

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Speaker 1: he didn't seem like he really I don't cared whether

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Speaker 1: seems kind of crazy to me. And not only that

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Speaker 1: a wrong move on his part. You never bring another

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Speaker 1: That's why this whole thing is stupid. And he was

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Speaker 1: more worried about being embarrassed in front of his coworker.

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Speaker 1: That's what he's calling her his coworker than answering your call. Why,

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Speaker 1: I mean to me, that proves that he shouldn't have

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Speaker 1: Shouldn't have, you know, put her before you being embarrassed

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Speaker 1: this is just wrong on his part to me, Steve,

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Speaker 1: you know, I'm sometimes amazed at Shirley's direction. She is

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Speaker 1: she is so pro tradition, she is so pro integrity. Okay,

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Speaker 1: makes me sick. Whatever, man, whatever, an all these rations

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Speaker 1: I just think the dude, it's stupid. Man. I don't

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Speaker 1: understand dudes. Man, what y'all be thinking about? Man, all

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Speaker 1: this is irrelevant that y'all had two cars, but you're

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Speaker 1: about that. Let's start moving these stories along a little bit. Now,

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Speaker 1: come on your relevant ass much information. Get this list

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Speaker 1: like badass reading. Now that's why I don't like novels

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Speaker 1: and stuff. Just what is wrong? Let's just find out

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Speaker 1: who is seeing? Who is he and what is he

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Speaker 1: to you? It's Bill Withers. That's how we wrote some

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Speaker 1: my friends. Let's just get these songs. Get to it.

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Speaker 1: What is all this stuff dropped off? At work? I

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Speaker 1: Nothing here is all you need to know. I chose

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Speaker 1: Because that's really what this damn letter. Okay, see all

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Speaker 1: she wanted to say was I had sex with my

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Speaker 1: all the angle built up in this letter after that

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Speaker 1: just calls it in because of I gave him some

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Speaker 1: sexist m h. He gonna pull up in this driveway

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Speaker 1: just helping a woman. Huh. See that's what this letter

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Speaker 1: is about. He was wrong for that, and so when

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Speaker 1: I come back and straightened out, this is what's wrong,

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Speaker 1: all right? Hang on, Steve part two of your Strawberry

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Speaker 1: letter responses coming up at twenty three minutes after the

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Speaker 1: hour today. Subject I went home early, and so did he.

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening,

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Speaker 1: all right, Come on, Steve, Let's recap today's Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: The subject is I went home early and so did he.

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Speaker 1: We have a situation hill. Somebody got dropped off at work.

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Speaker 1: Somebody supposed to pick somebody else. Somebody got off early

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Speaker 1: all this hill. Somebody messed up Marando with on debris

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Speaker 1: none of that means a damn thing. I had sex

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Speaker 1: This is what this letter is about. So after that,

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Speaker 1: the client popped up. So your boss came and picked

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Speaker 1: you up. Now, you didn't tell us whether your boss

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Speaker 1: thinking it's a man. See because when we talk about

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Speaker 1: who riding who, see, when you ride with a man,

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Speaker 1: ain't no damn problem your boss coming to pick your

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Speaker 1: How do you know where you stay? How your boss

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Speaker 1: know where you stay? How many times he hadn't been

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Speaker 1: I turned all this on you because you've been to

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Speaker 1: see if I had made it to work, and I

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Speaker 1: told him, see, because you had called him to bring you,

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Speaker 1: it and would need to be picked up around five.

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Speaker 1: We wrapped up by meeting around three thirty. My boss

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Speaker 1: dropped me off at home. Oh he brought you back. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but see you knew at three thirty though, that you

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Speaker 1: So you wrapped your meeting at three thirty, and then

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Speaker 1: so I looked out our cameras. It was my husband

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Speaker 1: getting out of my car after we'd had sex this

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Speaker 1: As he drove away. I called, but he didn't answer.

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Speaker 1: over him. Now, I was with my co worker, co worker,

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Speaker 1: Shirley says it's his so called co worker. I believe

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Speaker 1: he should have bought her to the house. I believe

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Speaker 1: that's your boss. But why is your boss at my house?

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Speaker 1: And why is you going out there getting in this

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Speaker 1: You never tell the truth, the truth that it was

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