1
00:00:01,920 --> 00:00:04,920
Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you need

2
00:00:04,960 --> 00:00:09,280
Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please

3
00:00:09,320 --> 00:00:12,959
Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and

4
00:00:13,080 --> 00:00:16,640
Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. Okay, we could be reading your

5
00:00:16,720 --> 00:00:19,680
Speaker 1: letter live on the air, just like we're going to

6
00:00:19,760 --> 00:00:23,040
Speaker 1: read this one right here, right now. Okay, all right,

7
00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:25,560
Speaker 1: let's go buggle up, Hold on tight. We got it

8
00:00:25,600 --> 00:00:28,800
Speaker 1: for you. Here. It is the Strawberry Letter. Subject. I

9
00:00:28,840 --> 00:00:33,080
Speaker 1: didn't feel respected or protected that day, Dear Stephen Shirley.

10
00:00:33,400 --> 00:00:37,040
Speaker 1: I'm a twenty eight year old women's lightweight mm A

11
00:00:37,360 --> 00:00:40,520
Speaker 1: fighter and I've been fighting for the past thirteen years.

12
00:00:41,159 --> 00:00:44,000
Speaker 1: I've had the same coach since I started, and he's

13
00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:46,760
Speaker 1: been a great role model in my life. His motto

14
00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:50,760
Speaker 1: is ladies should be respected and protected at all times.

15
00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:54,560
Speaker 1: He has a twenty year old son that works as

16
00:00:54,560 --> 00:00:57,560
Speaker 1: a trainer for the female fighters and he travels with

17
00:00:57,680 --> 00:01:01,000
Speaker 1: us over the holidays. Me and two other fighters had

18
00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:03,640
Speaker 1: a match out of town and Coach his son went

19
00:01:03,680 --> 00:01:06,399
Speaker 1: with us. After the fight, we all went to a

20
00:01:06,480 --> 00:01:10,560
Speaker 1: bar to celebrate, and Coach his son and coach a

21
00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:13,360
Speaker 1: son came with us. I bought a few beers for him.

22
00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:16,760
Speaker 1: Because Coach was not around, he got tipsy and started

23
00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:21,000
Speaker 1: flirting with me. I was drinking whiskey and feeling real good,

24
00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:25,240
Speaker 1: so I flirted back. He went back to my hotel

25
00:01:25,319 --> 00:01:29,040
Speaker 1: room with me and we made love. It was the

26
00:01:29,080 --> 00:01:33,399
Speaker 1: best sex I had ever had. We're dating now, and

27
00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:36,520
Speaker 1: I'm tired of hiding it from Coach. I decided to

28
00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:39,320
Speaker 1: go see Coach and tell him that his son and

29
00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:44,320
Speaker 1: I are dating. It didn't go well. He was furious

30
00:01:44,400 --> 00:01:48,160
Speaker 1: and told me to stay away from his son. So

31
00:01:48,200 --> 00:01:51,040
Speaker 1: I asked Coach if I could fight him for his son.

32
00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:54,960
Speaker 1: I was surprised that he agreed to fight me a woman,

33
00:01:55,800 --> 00:01:58,360
Speaker 1: for he is sixty two years old and he had

34
00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:01,040
Speaker 1: a stroke in two thousand and eight team, so I

35
00:02:01,080 --> 00:02:04,840
Speaker 1: did not want to hurt him well. Two seconds into

36
00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:08,200
Speaker 1: the fight, he slammed me to the floor so hard

37
00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:14,600
Speaker 1: that I passed out and urinated on myself. When I

38
00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:18,120
Speaker 1: came to, he called me a fool and told me

39
00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:21,240
Speaker 1: to get out. I guess Coach no longer thinks women

40
00:02:21,280 --> 00:02:24,720
Speaker 1: should be respected and protected. I am thinking about pressing

41
00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:27,680
Speaker 1: charges because he could have really hurt me. I know

42
00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:30,120
Speaker 1: the rules of the game. I lost the fight, so

43
00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:33,519
Speaker 1: I have to leave his son alone. But I can't

44
00:02:33,760 --> 00:02:36,720
Speaker 1: I really like him. Should I go back in and

45
00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:56,880
Speaker 1: try to reason with coach or just forget about his son? Yeah? Lee,

46
00:02:59,040 --> 00:03:01,400
Speaker 1: I unders can't believe first of all, that you would

47
00:03:01,440 --> 00:03:05,200
Speaker 1: fight a man over a man. I can't believe that.

48
00:03:06,200 --> 00:03:09,480
Speaker 1: I can't. I can't believe that. And while I'm not

49
00:03:09,560 --> 00:03:12,799
Speaker 1: surprised that this man won, he is your coach after all,

50
00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:15,360
Speaker 1: I'm not surprised he won, I am surprised that he

51
00:03:15,400 --> 00:03:19,360
Speaker 1: didn't respect or protect you, like his motto says that day.

52
00:03:19,440 --> 00:03:23,160
Speaker 1: I just this, This whole thing is crazy. Uh, the

53
00:03:23,200 --> 00:03:29,880
Speaker 1: fact that he agreed to fight you because just because

54
00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:32,440
Speaker 1: you're dating his son. I mean, is there a rule

55
00:03:32,520 --> 00:03:34,800
Speaker 1: that you can't date his son? Is that stated in

56
00:03:34,880 --> 00:03:38,880
Speaker 1: the by laws or something? You know, you thought you

57
00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:41,560
Speaker 1: would hurt him because he had a stroke a couple

58
00:03:41,600 --> 00:03:44,120
Speaker 1: of years ago. But he slammed you to the ground

59
00:03:44,160 --> 00:03:48,520
Speaker 1: two seconds into the fight with no remorse anything, and

60
00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:50,560
Speaker 1: then he called you a fool and told you to

61
00:03:50,600 --> 00:03:55,120
Speaker 1: get out. What kind of man does this to a woman,

62
00:03:56,320 --> 00:03:59,000
Speaker 1: takes a fight with a woman. I mean, you're grown,

63
00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:00,920
Speaker 1: his son has grown. You. Guys should be able to

64
00:04:02,200 --> 00:04:04,440
Speaker 1: date whoever you want to date. I mean, how is

65
00:04:04,480 --> 00:04:09,600
Speaker 1: this hurting anything? But yeah, this is crazy. You lost

66
00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:11,200
Speaker 1: the fight, so you think you have to leave a

67
00:04:11,280 --> 00:04:15,000
Speaker 1: son alone, but you can't because you really like him.

68
00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:18,360
Speaker 1: So it sounds like either you leave us son alone

69
00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:22,320
Speaker 1: and you continue to fight and be coached by this

70
00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:25,039
Speaker 1: same coach who slammed you to the ground, or you

71
00:04:25,440 --> 00:04:28,599
Speaker 1: let this young man go and, you know, sign up

72
00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:32,000
Speaker 1: with another organization where you can fight. I don't know,

73
00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:37,320
Speaker 1: I don't know, but I mean, I just think the

74
00:04:37,360 --> 00:04:39,720
Speaker 1: coach was just wrong on so many levels to do

75
00:04:39,760 --> 00:04:42,320
Speaker 1: that to you, and you should have never agreed to it.

76
00:04:42,400 --> 00:04:46,320
Speaker 1: You just should have never agreed to it. Okay, Steve Shirley,

77
00:04:46,640 --> 00:04:49,480
Speaker 1: I agree with Shirley's answer. I would like to submit

78
00:04:50,080 --> 00:04:54,520
Speaker 1: Shirley's answer as the official answer for the Steve Harvey

79
00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:58,520
Speaker 1: Morning Show. Thank Lord, not mine. I would like to

80
00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:03,160
Speaker 1: submit Shirley's response was so spot on. It says a

81
00:05:03,160 --> 00:05:06,000
Speaker 1: lot of things that I feel and have had a

82
00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:10,919
Speaker 1: lot of my values in it. Make Shirley's response our

83
00:05:11,400 --> 00:05:18,000
Speaker 1: response to this strawberry letter that said if I wasn't

84
00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:22,680
Speaker 1: on this show and I did not have the values

85
00:05:22,720 --> 00:05:25,080
Speaker 1: that I have and was not raised in a Christian

86
00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:29,760
Speaker 1: family household. Here's how I answer this letter. First of all,

87
00:05:31,640 --> 00:05:36,360
Speaker 1: you're twenty eight and you are lightweight MMA fighter. When

88
00:05:36,440 --> 00:05:41,719
Speaker 1: women are lightweight, ass really is lightweight. You've been fighting

89
00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:45,080
Speaker 1: for thirteen years. You had the same coach. His motto

90
00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:48,720
Speaker 1: is ladies should be respected and protected. It all time. Now.

91
00:05:48,760 --> 00:05:50,880
Speaker 1: He got this twenty year old board and worked as

92
00:05:50,880 --> 00:05:53,800
Speaker 1: a training y'all got the traveling. One night, y'all went

93
00:05:53,800 --> 00:05:55,880
Speaker 1: out and you got some drinks. You bought a song,

94
00:05:56,320 --> 00:06:00,240
Speaker 1: some some beer money, but you had whisked right hill.

95
00:06:00,680 --> 00:06:05,159
Speaker 1: This square is all turning the boy head bill, your

96
00:06:05,240 --> 00:06:10,479
Speaker 1: little last lightweight head whiskey, whiskey running off through you.

97
00:06:11,040 --> 00:06:15,120
Speaker 1: He got tipsy, started flirting with me. You was drinking whiskey,

98
00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:20,080
Speaker 1: felt real good, flirted back, went back to the hotel room.

99
00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:23,159
Speaker 1: Me and him made love. It was the best sex

100
00:06:23,400 --> 00:06:26,479
Speaker 1: I've ever had. Well, let's cause you a damn fighter.

101
00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:31,960
Speaker 1: What does that mean? Che been whipping folks. As you know,

102
00:06:33,360 --> 00:06:36,440
Speaker 1: people don't really make good lovers. I'm just gonna explain

103
00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:42,360
Speaker 1: that two rough. Yeah. I'll be back in all too. Yeah,

104
00:06:42,440 --> 00:06:45,280
Speaker 1: all right, we'll have part two of Steve's response coming

105
00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:49,160
Speaker 1: up at twenty three minutes after two hours, subject, I

106
00:06:49,200 --> 00:06:52,600
Speaker 1: didn't feel respected or protected that day. We'll be back

107
00:06:52,680 --> 00:06:58,159
Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve. Come on,

108
00:06:58,240 --> 00:07:01,720
Speaker 1: let's recap the strawberry letter for today's subject. I didn't

109
00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:05,919
Speaker 1: feel respected or protected that day. Well, it's twenty eight

110
00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:08,800
Speaker 1: year old woman who's a lightweight MMA fighter. That means

111
00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:13,200
Speaker 1: they kicking all in the head, stumping, you know, putting

112
00:07:13,320 --> 00:07:18,360
Speaker 1: knees in your jaw, all in a cage. All this

113
00:07:18,520 --> 00:07:23,840
Speaker 1: happened in a cage. She twenty eight. Got a mail trainer,

114
00:07:23,880 --> 00:07:26,400
Speaker 1: he's sixty two. His model, His ladies should be respected

115
00:07:26,640 --> 00:07:28,920
Speaker 1: and protected all time. He got twenty year old son

116
00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:31,600
Speaker 1: that trains the female fighter, and he traveled with him.

117
00:07:31,680 --> 00:07:33,600
Speaker 1: Then they went on this trip and after the fight,

118
00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:36,080
Speaker 1: they went out to a bar one night, and the

119
00:07:36,120 --> 00:07:38,360
Speaker 1: coach's son came with us. So you brought a few

120
00:07:38,400 --> 00:07:40,600
Speaker 1: bids for him because you know, his daddy wasn't there,

121
00:07:41,320 --> 00:07:43,480
Speaker 1: and you know, just get him a little high and

122
00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:46,960
Speaker 1: me and he got tipsy and started flirting with you, Yola.

123
00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:52,200
Speaker 1: Last little lightweight with drinking whiskey, feeling good, got to

124
00:07:52,280 --> 00:07:54,960
Speaker 1: flirting back. Y'all went back to the hotel room and

125
00:07:55,040 --> 00:07:58,280
Speaker 1: made love. Here was a letter start. It was the

126
00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:01,320
Speaker 1: best sex I've ever had. And like I said, earlie,

127
00:08:01,360 --> 00:08:05,280
Speaker 1: it's because you are fighter. Yes, it's the best sex

128
00:08:05,440 --> 00:08:09,640
Speaker 1: you ever had. That because you were sleeping with a trainer,

129
00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:15,280
Speaker 1: a person who trained fighters. Fighters traditionally are not known

130
00:08:15,320 --> 00:08:19,320
Speaker 1: as good love us because they too damn rough. Your

131
00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:22,720
Speaker 1: ass is rough. That's why you buy yourself. Now you've

132
00:08:22,720 --> 00:08:25,560
Speaker 1: been jumping on me and woking the ass for thirteen years.

133
00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:29,640
Speaker 1: You're too rough? Were making love? What is you choking

134
00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:33,800
Speaker 1: me for? This is supposed to be loved. Get your

135
00:08:34,000 --> 00:08:39,720
Speaker 1: elbow out of my damn y'all girl, were making love? Nah,

136
00:08:39,840 --> 00:08:43,760
Speaker 1: I don't want my damn backcrack. We're making love? What

137
00:08:43,800 --> 00:08:45,800
Speaker 1: did you do? I don't want to be in a

138
00:08:45,880 --> 00:08:49,760
Speaker 1: fool nelson? Why are you humping me letting my neck go?

139
00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:58,520
Speaker 1: I don't want this? You're too damn rough. So now

140
00:08:58,600 --> 00:09:01,199
Speaker 1: they're dating it. She tied the keeping it from the coach.

141
00:09:01,240 --> 00:09:03,320
Speaker 1: So she tried to decide to go and there see

142
00:09:03,320 --> 00:09:05,880
Speaker 1: the coaching tell him to her and her son is dating.

143
00:09:05,960 --> 00:09:08,719
Speaker 1: He didn't go good. You damn writer ain't go bed.

144
00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:12,200
Speaker 1: Why does he dangn your crazy ass fault. You're too

145
00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:16,480
Speaker 1: wild for my son. I want to have grandkids. I

146
00:09:16,520 --> 00:09:18,640
Speaker 1: want my son to have a national little lady coming

147
00:09:18,679 --> 00:09:20,920
Speaker 1: to the house. Want nobody in there? Off, you're crazy,

148
00:09:21,080 --> 00:09:24,200
Speaker 1: You're a fighter. This was happening. I'm telling you, this

149
00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:27,280
Speaker 1: is what happened. Coach don't want his son dating nobody

150
00:09:27,360 --> 00:09:31,360
Speaker 1: rough like you too, damn rough. I told you so.

151
00:09:31,480 --> 00:09:33,680
Speaker 1: I asked the coach if I could fight him for

152
00:09:33,760 --> 00:09:38,920
Speaker 1: his son. Who'll say that? Yeah, white woman goes for hand.

153
00:09:38,960 --> 00:09:41,800
Speaker 1: I tell you what, I kick your ass for you, boy,

154
00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:47,160
Speaker 1: I can't believe that. I ask you how Yeah, how

155
00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:50,000
Speaker 1: about that? I'll fight you for your son? See right,

156
00:09:50,080 --> 00:09:53,480
Speaker 1: the little girl, see you write you too, damn rough.

157
00:09:53,520 --> 00:09:55,160
Speaker 1: That's why you ain't got aboudy. That's why you ain't

158
00:09:55,160 --> 00:09:57,240
Speaker 1: gonna keep this boy. You're not gonna be able to

159
00:09:57,320 --> 00:10:00,080
Speaker 1: keep this boy because you're too damn rough. Then I

160
00:10:00,160 --> 00:10:03,360
Speaker 1: was surprised he agreed to fight me. Now you are

161
00:10:03,280 --> 00:10:06,440
Speaker 1: a little surprised at that because he's sixty two. That's

162
00:10:06,440 --> 00:10:08,520
Speaker 1: a year less than me. He had a stroke in

163
00:10:08,559 --> 00:10:11,599
Speaker 1: two out and eighteen. Obviously he's fully recovered from it.

164
00:10:13,400 --> 00:10:18,320
Speaker 1: Obviously that stroke can't take a full set in. See

165
00:10:18,320 --> 00:10:20,400
Speaker 1: you now what your little ignor dances need to learn

166
00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:23,760
Speaker 1: before you start jumping inviting me into ass whoopers men

167
00:10:23,920 --> 00:10:26,480
Speaker 1: strip is different. Now, there's a lot of women that

168
00:10:26,480 --> 00:10:28,440
Speaker 1: can whoop a lot of men, but you is a

169
00:10:28,600 --> 00:10:34,920
Speaker 1: lightweight mm A fighter that's one hundred and twelve. Now,

170
00:10:34,920 --> 00:10:36,960
Speaker 1: you just set up in there, grab just sixty two,

171
00:10:37,040 --> 00:10:39,600
Speaker 1: old man. But but see you're not telling me about

172
00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:41,600
Speaker 1: to argue your because when you said it didn't du

173
00:10:41,760 --> 00:10:44,240
Speaker 1: go good, you left a bunch of stuff out. You

174
00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:46,439
Speaker 1: called him your old ass. Don't tell me what to do.

175
00:10:46,559 --> 00:10:50,360
Speaker 1: Who the hell you called low? I called your ass? Oh,

176
00:10:50,520 --> 00:10:53,360
Speaker 1: your old ass man. I'll fight you for yourself. Well,

177
00:10:53,400 --> 00:10:55,600
Speaker 1: I'll tell you what. Run your little mok ass over here.

178
00:10:55,800 --> 00:10:58,160
Speaker 1: And that's what you did. And you ran over that.

179
00:10:58,400 --> 00:11:01,600
Speaker 1: He didn't punch you in nothing, but he slammed two

180
00:11:01,640 --> 00:11:04,920
Speaker 1: seconds into the fight. He slammed me. So he didn't

181
00:11:04,920 --> 00:11:08,520
Speaker 1: punch you. He just slammed you to the ground. Now

182
00:11:08,559 --> 00:11:13,160
Speaker 1: your last passed out quick running up on these men

183
00:11:13,800 --> 00:11:16,560
Speaker 1: over that. Y'all in the ring fighting for a man,

184
00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:20,400
Speaker 1: but you ain't a man. Ain't you fight another man?

185
00:11:20,559 --> 00:11:24,200
Speaker 1: You passed out and NATed on yourself. Now that I

186
00:11:24,240 --> 00:11:28,280
Speaker 1: can relate to directly. Well, I have felt so hard.

187
00:11:28,360 --> 00:11:33,640
Speaker 1: I peered old myself. I fell down some steps when

188
00:11:33,679 --> 00:11:36,440
Speaker 1: I was about twelve years old. I fell down some steps,

189
00:11:36,559 --> 00:11:38,600
Speaker 1: and when I got to the bottom of them steps,

190
00:11:38,920 --> 00:11:46,800
Speaker 1: I started peeing. What yes, yes, So you understand whish

191
00:11:46,800 --> 00:11:49,720
Speaker 1: how she feels. I was sitting on my steps one time.

192
00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:52,480
Speaker 1: I was sitting on my partner am step. He had

193
00:11:52,520 --> 00:11:55,960
Speaker 1: this big Labrador retriever and I didn't know the labrador

194
00:11:56,000 --> 00:11:59,040
Speaker 1: had got out the door. Next thing I know, I

195
00:11:59,200 --> 00:12:04,000
Speaker 1: turned around. He licked my ill, but he barked as

196
00:12:04,000 --> 00:12:08,920
Speaker 1: soon as he did. Adam right there. I pee right there,

197
00:12:09,559 --> 00:12:12,719
Speaker 1: so I've handsome you and nat on myself phone about you.

198
00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:16,200
Speaker 1: He called me a fool and told me to get out.

199
00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:19,120
Speaker 1: I guess coach no longer thinks women should be respected

200
00:12:19,160 --> 00:12:21,319
Speaker 1: and potect. He shouldn't have did that. Tell y'all ten out,

201
00:12:21,640 --> 00:12:23,880
Speaker 1: he shouldn't have did that. And I'm thinking about press

202
00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:27,120
Speaker 1: and charge, press charge for what y'all was in the

203
00:12:27,440 --> 00:12:31,240
Speaker 1: MMA ring. And y'all you asked the man and you

204
00:12:31,320 --> 00:12:35,079
Speaker 1: got slammed, you passed out. You can't press charges for that,

205
00:12:35,360 --> 00:12:38,600
Speaker 1: and then expect you can't put this man daddy in jail.

206
00:12:38,880 --> 00:12:41,560
Speaker 1: And think he gonna still like you. You're too raw.

207
00:12:44,440 --> 00:12:49,960
Speaker 1: You're too damn raw. All Right, daddy, all right. You

208
00:12:50,000 --> 00:12:53,160
Speaker 1: can post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve

209
00:12:53,200 --> 00:12:56,600
Speaker 1: Harvey FM, on Instagram and Facebook, and don't forget to

210
00:12:56,800 --> 00:12:59,720
Speaker 1: check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now coming

211
00:12:59,760 --> 00:13:02,240
Speaker 1: up a forty six minutes after the hour from the Talk,

212
00:13:02,240 --> 00:13:05,760
Speaker 1: it will be our girl Cheryl Underwood. Right after this,

213
00:13:06,400 --> 00:13:09,120
Speaker 1: you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show