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Speaker 3: Oh you know, I've been really into love on the

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Speaker 4: Hey, guys, thank you so much for having me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's way harder to lie about yourself when

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Speaker 4: No, she hasn't gotten back. And I'm also not someone

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Speaker 1: I guess we'll see. Oh yeah, I'm gonna die number

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Speaker 1: this Steph?

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Speaker 2: Hey, wow, I'm all uncomfortable.

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Speaker 1: Funds is on the show with us today.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, has not clicking?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe you explain it oh, okay.

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Speaker 3: Well, Steph, you met a great guy who you went

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Speaker 5: Who's this guy you're talking about.

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Speaker 2: I'm really bad with names that I forgot to write Joe,

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Speaker 1: It's okay, pass the baton to me. The guy's name

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Speaker 2: That's what I was gonna say, Trey.

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Speaker 2: Do you remember Trey?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: I feel kind of bad about that one. Oh you do?

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Speaker 5: Honestly, I don't even know if I should like telling

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Speaker 1: Oh, it's embarrassing. Is it embarrassing for you or is

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Speaker 5: Okay, well, I mean, I guess I can tell you it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, basically, I'm friends with some of the people that

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Speaker 3: Oh. He had actually mentioned that about the speed dating

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Speaker 2: A lot of guys.

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Speaker 5: Ye, yeah, that would be because sometimes they give people

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Speaker 3: You whoa, Well you went on a second date after that,

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Speaker 1: They point were you paid to go out with him

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Speaker 5: No, No, not at all. It was just the initial

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Speaker 3: I'm confused, though, were you interested in him or were

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Speaker 4: That was part of it.

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Speaker 5: But I mean, he's really cute, He's really nice. Anyone

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Speaker 1: Are you sure he's really cute? Like how cute is he?

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Speaker 2: Okay he was cute?

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Speaker 1: So where is your head at now, Steph, Because according

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Speaker 5: Well, I don't know. Sometimes I'm just really non confrontational,

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Speaker 2: Bad news.

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Speaker 1: But initially that's how they met, Like she was paid

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Speaker 2: And I can see how specifically anybody just to be there.

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Speaker 1: Sure, anybody, but anyone finding out the person they really

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Speaker 1: to feel good. It is cute. I hear you that

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Speaker 1: we already got it out of the world, like abandoned,

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Speaker 5: No no, no, no, no, no, no, yeah, please you not say

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Speaker 1: I can't not say that to you, because the truth is, Hey.

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Speaker 4: How's it going Stuffrey.

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Speaker 5: I'm really sorry you had to find out like this

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Speaker 4: I totally understand the awkwardness of not wanting to like

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Speaker 4: It's more about how it ends up.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So, Trey, you're not offended at all or put

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Speaker 4: Be there, honestly not. That's kind of up to the organizer.

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Speaker 4: I mean, she got Bobby's there. However, they get there

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Speaker 3: If anything, you should be you should feel guilty stuff

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Speaker 4: Event, You know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: You should pay him thirty dollars to make it even

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Speaker 3: For him, I was just going to have her give

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Speaker 1: You can always send it to us too, I mean,

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Speaker 1: we can always start. But Steph, what do you think

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Speaker 5: I don't know. I just I enjoyed your company.

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Speaker 4: I enjoyed talking with you nice.

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Speaker 5: I just got like nervous and like I said, I

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Speaker 1: But it's out there now, Yeah, and I feel some

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Speaker 3: And you don't even realize that, Steph, you're really good

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Speaker 2: The entire night.

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Speaker 1: That's why this is going to be kind of tricky,

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Speaker 1: because I want to offer to send you on another

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Speaker 2: I see where we're at, Ben is a charity.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not going to offer to pay for you

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Speaker 4: Honestly, I don't want this to be more confused or

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Speaker 2: It's a gift cards.

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Speaker 4: Still, So Steph, will you go out with me again?

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Speaker 4: Can we try running it back and doing it again? Yeah?

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Speaker 5: I mean I think I'm gonna say yes. It's not

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Speaker 2: That's kind of a backwards compliment. But well, I.

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Speaker 5: Mean, this is such an odd way of going about it.

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Speaker 5: It's not like I feel pressure from you or anything

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Speaker 1: Irative right, right, exactly? This is good. Nobody ever would

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Speaker 1: call him that. Congratulations Trey, and congratulations Steph. You're both

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Speaker 1: going to meet up one more time and we're not

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Speaker 1: gonna pay for it. Jeff in the morning, what a

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Speaker 2: I think they're so cute.

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Speaker 1: My friend paid me to meet him. Yeah, and then

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Speaker 3: I mean it is perfect because it's funny, a little

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Speaker 1: Yeah, woman, Yes, you just don't hear that enough in

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Speaker 1: he was. Allegedly, we said not to say it during

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Speaker 1: the call. It calls over.

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Speaker 2: It was killing you, wasn't it.

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Speaker 4: I did a.

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Speaker 1: Great job and you can all thank me for not

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Speaker 1: bringing it up later.

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Speaker 2: Boy, if that's the bar.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, if you want to thank us, or if you

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Speaker 1: just want our help, we're available online. You can email

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Speaker 1: the show. We'll call that person who's not calling you back,

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Speaker 1: and go check out all of our second dates wherever

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