WEBVTT - Two Rooms and a Trust Fund Baby 0:00:01.000 --> 0:00:06.000 This is the most dramatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:07.400 --> 0:00:10.200 Chris Harrison, loren Zema coming to you. Happy New Year, everybody. 0:00:10.320 --> 0:00:13.119 I hope your new year has started off great. It 0:00:13.160 --> 0:00:15.160 has been a wonderful year for us thus far. 0:00:15.320 --> 0:00:17.720 I just found a false eyelash stuck to my shirt. 0:00:18.280 --> 0:00:21.759 So that's what's happening in twenty twenty four, you know, 0:00:22.440 --> 0:00:23.639 starting off with a real bang. 0:00:23.760 --> 0:00:26.639 I find these everywhere and then sometimes I think they're spiders. 0:00:26.840 --> 0:00:31.200 Is anybody else like elz where you know she essentially 0:00:31.200 --> 0:00:34.360 has like a tackle box full of eyelashes, Like is 0:00:34.760 --> 0:00:35.120 a year? 0:00:35.200 --> 0:00:36.160 You're a big heep? 0:00:36.159 --> 0:00:37.760 People aren't doing that? I recommend it. 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:42.479 First of all, you can get false eyelash cases on Amazon, 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:45.400 which is incredible because I'm a big dirty lash babe. 0:00:45.720 --> 0:00:49.040 You can reuse those, Okay, pick the glue off or don't. 0:00:49.080 --> 0:00:51.480 Sometimes the glue gives it a little more added structure, 0:00:51.600 --> 0:00:54.360 the elder glue. But I love an elder lash, a 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:56.160 vintage strip. 0:00:56.760 --> 0:01:00.279 So I actually took wine you wanted to pack. Yeah. 0:01:00.440 --> 0:01:03.279 Now, the cases that you can get on Amazon, some 0:01:03.360 --> 0:01:04.680 of them actually have the shapes. 0:01:04.760 --> 0:01:06.720 You can form your lash back to the shape, which 0:01:06.760 --> 0:01:07.120 is great. 0:01:07.440 --> 0:01:09.039 But if you don't want to go that route because 0:01:09.040 --> 0:01:10.800 it takes a little time, it's a little more time 0:01:10.800 --> 0:01:13.640 incent and intensive to put the lash back. 0:01:13.440 --> 0:01:17.119 On the curvature. I literally buy a tackle box. 0:01:17.160 --> 0:01:20.520 I keep my earrings and I keep false eyelashes in 0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:23.160 a plastic box that's supposed. 0:01:22.800 --> 0:01:24.399 To be for like bait and tackle stuff. 0:01:24.560 --> 0:01:26.320 No, it makes sense. I mean they're very use. 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:28.920 I'm just curious that, like if you know you can 0:01:29.000 --> 0:01:32.399 leave your comments at the most dramatic pod but ever, 0:01:32.600 --> 0:01:35.160 But I was just curious because you know you're you're 0:01:35.160 --> 0:01:35.960 a big lash person. 0:01:36.000 --> 0:01:36.880 I was like, I don't want. 0:01:36.720 --> 0:01:39.959 To ask you a really honest question, Huh, how do 0:01:40.080 --> 0:01:43.600 you feel when you see me without fake eyelashes on? 0:01:43.680 --> 0:01:43.920 Now? 0:01:44.600 --> 0:01:47.960 Because I I just feel like I'm two different people. 0:01:48.480 --> 0:01:51.120 But I'm okay with that. Do you feel like I'm 0:01:51.160 --> 0:01:53.240 two different people with an eyelash on? 0:01:53.480 --> 0:01:57.080 Or I feel like it gives you power. It's like armor, 0:01:57.240 --> 0:01:59.360 It's a you thing, Like it gives you power, and 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:01.480 I think you feel it. You know, like if you're 0:02:01.520 --> 0:02:03.559 in a great outfit, you know you have that perfect 0:02:03.600 --> 0:02:06.320 black dress or whatever it is, and you know that's 0:02:06.360 --> 0:02:08.600 it's your go to it's your money outfit. We all 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:11.359 have it. That that great shirt or that great pair 0:02:11.400 --> 0:02:14.320 of boots. What's your armor for me? 0:02:14.400 --> 0:02:17.480 It's a great suit. I love a good suit. Yeah, 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:19.320 suit and tie. I feel good. 0:02:19.520 --> 0:02:22.799 You do. You have an added air of confidence. It's 0:02:22.840 --> 0:02:23.560 your home base. 0:02:23.680 --> 0:02:25.480 Yeah, I feel and it's why you know I obviously 0:02:25.480 --> 0:02:26.639 I did it for many, many years. 0:02:26.880 --> 0:02:30.360 It's interesting you yeah, you really, You've probably spent so 0:02:30.520 --> 0:02:33.240 much of your life in a suit, given the hours 0:02:33.240 --> 0:02:33.800 of filming. 0:02:33.880 --> 0:02:36.600 But it also goes back to my family, my grandfather, 0:02:36.639 --> 0:02:38.120 who I looked up to very much, as you know, 0:02:38.240 --> 0:02:41.320 like he was a clothes hound and he loved suits 0:02:41.360 --> 0:02:44.120 and ties. And I would go into his closet and 0:02:44.160 --> 0:02:47.240 pick out ties. And obviously, you know, my cousin owns 0:02:47.320 --> 0:02:50.480 Ken's Manshop in Dallas, and that's the habit ashery I 0:02:50.520 --> 0:02:52.840 go to and like we we love clothes in our family, 0:02:52.919 --> 0:02:55.120 and then find men's wear and I love that. 0:02:55.120 --> 0:02:56.800 That is my power. That's where I feel well. 0:02:56.880 --> 0:02:57.560 Habit ashery. 0:02:57.639 --> 0:03:01.240 No, I wouldn't even try because I might be able to, 0:03:01.360 --> 0:03:01.840 but I would. 0:03:02.000 --> 0:03:04.280 You love to say it. Oh yeah, all right, it's 0:03:04.320 --> 0:03:06.440 the new year, yes, babe. We haven't asked each other 0:03:06.480 --> 0:03:08.359 this do you have a New Year's resolution. 0:03:08.720 --> 0:03:10.600 I'm not a resolution person. I'm really not. 0:03:10.680 --> 0:03:12.720 I've never had a processing that. 0:03:12.840 --> 0:03:15.600 Yeah, I've never It's nothing, not much resolve. Well, it's 0:03:15.600 --> 0:03:17.480 not that I don't know, that's not true. It's not 0:03:17.520 --> 0:03:18.400 that I don't have goals. 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:19.440 I have a ton of results. 0:03:19.480 --> 0:03:21.639 I have a lot of goals in mind and things 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:22.639 I like to accomplish. 0:03:22.919 --> 0:03:25.200 You know what my thought on it is. I think 0:03:25.240 --> 0:03:27.880 it's often setting yourself up to fail. I don't know, 0:03:27.919 --> 0:03:29.880 and it's like we all have all this energy and 0:03:29.880 --> 0:03:31.960 then you just feel like crap in February when you 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:33.520 haven't done it all. 0:03:33.720 --> 0:03:36.040 Well, look at the gym this week. If you go 0:03:36.080 --> 0:03:38.720 to a gym, Sure your gym is four x the 0:03:38.760 --> 0:03:41.440 population this week. Because I was like the new you 0:03:41.560 --> 0:03:46.040 and all that. And my suggestion is to your point, 0:03:46.240 --> 0:03:49.440 don't set yourself self up to fail. Set yourself up 0:03:49.440 --> 0:03:53.440 to succeed. Do things that are bite size and digestible. 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:56.440 You know, don't if you're not going to keep up 0:03:56.440 --> 0:03:58.600 with it, if you're not this type of person, don't 0:03:58.640 --> 0:04:01.400 get up at four am and go to Johnny's boot 0:04:01.440 --> 0:04:05.200 camp and you know you're being electrocuted and you're climbing 0:04:05.200 --> 0:04:08.360 over barbed wire. That's if that's not you, don't do 0:04:08.440 --> 0:04:10.200 that because that's not sustainable. 0:04:10.280 --> 0:04:11.920 Do something you are going to stick with. 0:04:12.400 --> 0:04:14.360 Get so mad at myself that I can't remember this 0:04:14.400 --> 0:04:16.680 book right now. I read this great book a couple 0:04:16.720 --> 0:04:18.359 of years ago about habit forming. 0:04:18.600 --> 0:04:19.760 Yeah, what is it? 0:04:19.880 --> 0:04:20.560 Thirty days? 0:04:21.200 --> 0:04:24.880 No, it's it's this guy really gets into the science 0:04:25.040 --> 0:04:28.280 of forming habits, Like because I do believe, for example, 0:04:28.360 --> 0:04:30.919 in the power of your mind, and like, if you 0:04:30.960 --> 0:04:33.200 think something over and over again, I think it's more 0:04:33.320 --> 0:04:34.919 likely to happen if you think about it, if you 0:04:34.920 --> 0:04:37.599 get yourself to do it. And he talks about these 0:04:37.640 --> 0:04:40.799 small ways of forming habits and how much more powerful 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:43.640 that is. Like if you say my new year's resolution 0:04:43.800 --> 0:04:46.040 is I'm going to write a book, that's a lot 0:04:46.160 --> 0:04:49.760 harder and a lot less likely to be achieved than 0:04:49.800 --> 0:04:52.719 it is to say my new year's resolution is every 0:04:52.760 --> 0:04:56.200 morning I'm going to write one fat Like, that's a 0:04:56.240 --> 0:04:57.080 lot more achievable. 0:04:57.160 --> 0:04:59.479 Set an action you can accomplish. And if you do 0:04:59.560 --> 0:05:04.240 that in the conventional thought is thirty days breaks or 0:05:04.360 --> 0:05:07.679 makes a habit. If you can do something for a month, 0:05:08.120 --> 0:05:09.520 you will continue. 0:05:09.160 --> 0:05:10.360 Your comic habits. 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:11.839 That's the post you're more likely to continue. 0:05:11.880 --> 0:05:12.040 Yeah. 0:05:12.040 --> 0:05:13.080 Oh yeah, that's a great book. 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:14.040 You've read it. 0:05:14.400 --> 0:05:16.560 I have pulled things out of that book, and that 0:05:16.920 --> 0:05:19.799 book I think is part of the thirty day Process. 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:22.679 By James Clear. Gosh, wow, I'm still learning things about 0:05:22.680 --> 0:05:26.640 you now. We might not have New Year's resolutions, but 0:05:27.279 --> 0:05:31.520 I am going to do a dry January situation. 0:05:32.560 --> 0:05:35.279 I love that, and I would be right there with you, 0:05:35.320 --> 0:05:36.560 and I would do a fast as well. 0:05:36.680 --> 0:05:39.680 You know what I realized it was doing prepping for 0:05:39.760 --> 0:05:43.000 the wedding. When I took about a month off from 0:05:43.000 --> 0:05:45.280 it and I didn't even go a full month without drinking. 0:05:45.440 --> 0:05:47.680 I changed it to I'd allow myself like one glass 0:05:47.680 --> 0:05:50.719 of wine a week. I really felt great, and so 0:05:50.800 --> 0:05:52.080 I think that reset is good. 0:06:04.040 --> 0:06:09.240 The big headline that we should get into, Oh yes, 0:06:09.520 --> 0:06:10.919 is sleeping in separate bedrooms. 0:06:11.000 --> 0:06:12.440 Oh. 0:06:12.480 --> 0:06:14.240 I didn't think that was where you're going with that. 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:16.320 I think a lot of people are looking for you 0:06:16.400 --> 0:06:18.839 to weigh in on some other breaking news. 0:06:19.000 --> 0:06:21.320 Yes, but first let's talk about it. Okay. 0:06:21.360 --> 0:06:24.200 We got sent these articles by several people, including our 0:06:24.240 --> 0:06:28.200 producer Kendall. A lot of celebrities talking about sleeping in 0:06:28.240 --> 0:06:32.680 separate bedrooms lately, including Cameron Diaz, who I don't think 0:06:32.720 --> 0:06:35.320 does sleep in separate bedrooms with her husband Benji Madden, 0:06:35.360 --> 0:06:38.000 but they've been married since twenty fifteen, and she said 0:06:38.040 --> 0:06:41.120 that she wishes it would be normalized to sleep in 0:06:41.160 --> 0:06:46.760 separate bedrooms or maybe even in separate houses. Well, I 0:06:46.760 --> 0:06:50.000 remember Gwyneth Paltrow when she was kind of I think 0:06:50.040 --> 0:06:53.600 only because they had different their own kids and they 0:06:53.600 --> 0:06:56.440 were kind of transitioning into living together. She talked about 0:06:56.480 --> 0:06:59.480 with her husband Brad how they were in separate houses 0:06:59.480 --> 0:07:03.920 for a long time time. Dean McDermott just came out 0:07:03.960 --> 0:07:07.320 and was talking about how his split with Tory Spelling 0:07:07.440 --> 0:07:11.560 was largely affected because she like let their pets. 0:07:11.200 --> 0:07:12.239 In the bedroom a lot. 0:07:12.600 --> 0:07:15.440 So, I you know, that becomes a question who is 0:07:15.480 --> 0:07:19.280 allowed in your marital bedroom, including should your own spouse 0:07:19.320 --> 0:07:21.800 be we sleep in the same bed babe? 0:07:21.800 --> 0:07:22.640 Should we split up? 0:07:22.680 --> 0:07:26.280 No? Why I'm not at you like I get for 0:07:26.360 --> 0:07:28.320 maybe medical purposes or whatever, you need to sleep in 0:07:28.320 --> 0:07:29.440 separate beds or whatever. 0:07:29.880 --> 0:07:32.560 The Queen of England and Prince Philip, you know, always 0:07:32.560 --> 0:07:35.440 slept in separate bedrooms really together of a long time 0:07:36.080 --> 0:07:36.680 and there's you. 0:07:36.680 --> 0:07:38.320 Know, lots of rumors about things that happened in the 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:40.560 West wing as well, But I think those are arrangements. 0:07:40.560 --> 0:07:45.240 It's not a I think a happy marriage is a 0:07:45.240 --> 0:07:49.160 happy home and is a happy bedroom and sleeping together. 0:07:49.640 --> 0:07:53.880 I cannot imagine living in the same house and going 0:07:53.880 --> 0:07:54.720 into separate bedrooms. 0:07:54.720 --> 0:07:55.920 All right, I'll see you tomorrow. 0:07:56.160 --> 0:07:57.560 I feel like i'd miss you. 0:07:57.760 --> 0:07:59.960 I want to cuddle with you. I mean sometimes we 0:08:00.120 --> 0:08:02.840 fall asleep just like with a foot touching each other, 0:08:03.000 --> 0:08:07.080 or this is so deevy, but holding hands or I 0:08:07.080 --> 0:08:10.200 think that that physical touch and affection is so important. 0:08:10.480 --> 0:08:12.000 And I know there's a lot of women out there going. 0:08:12.160 --> 0:08:15.440 You don't know how bad my husband snores, right, I 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:18.800 would throw him into another house or off a cliff. 0:08:19.000 --> 0:08:21.240 Carson Daley has said he has sleep apnea, so he 0:08:21.280 --> 0:08:23.800 says for him and his wife, it's been important because 0:08:23.800 --> 0:08:26.560 he has a sleep apnea machine in order for her 0:08:26.600 --> 0:08:29.400 to sleep well, she has to go into another room. 0:08:30.120 --> 0:08:35.400 I will say, I see the desire to like maintain 0:08:35.600 --> 0:08:38.599 the feel of dating. One thing that stuck with me. 0:08:39.160 --> 0:08:42.720 Drinda Medley, formerly of Real Housewives of New York. She 0:08:42.920 --> 0:08:45.640 said once that her and her husband, Richard, used to 0:08:45.720 --> 0:08:49.439 do a surprise date night every single week, like they 0:08:49.480 --> 0:08:52.640 would plan and the other person wouldn't know what was planned. 0:08:53.000 --> 0:08:55.319 And they I think had an agreement that they always 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:57.439 had to go to a restaurant they'd never tried before. 0:08:57.480 --> 0:08:58.599 And they lived in New York, so that was a 0:08:58.640 --> 0:09:02.160 little easier. But they did a new and surprising date 0:09:02.240 --> 0:09:04.920 every single week, and I love that, and I was thinking, 0:09:04.920 --> 0:09:07.160 you know, maybe that's in New Year's resolution. I think 0:09:07.200 --> 0:09:09.960 we could try a different restaurant in Austin every week 0:09:10.000 --> 0:09:11.320 and not repeat for a long time. 0:09:11.400 --> 0:09:13.000 We always say that when we're in New York. It's 0:09:13.000 --> 0:09:14.680 like we hate to repeat things in New York as 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:17.560 much as we love the restaurants, because there's always something new. 0:09:17.960 --> 0:09:20.600 I think that you are very fresh. Life is going 0:09:20.679 --> 0:09:25.360 to become. You know, your your safe place and your 0:09:25.400 --> 0:09:27.600 box you play in, so you gotta try a new things. 0:09:27.640 --> 0:09:31.320 We're anti separate bedrooms, definitely anti separate houses. That makes 0:09:31.440 --> 0:09:33.240 that just makes no sense. You're not married, just. 0:09:33.440 --> 0:09:35.640 You could be like picking your spouse up for a 0:09:35.720 --> 0:09:36.600 date at their houses. 0:09:36.679 --> 0:09:40.280 That's right, that's just no, that's nonsensical. It's bizarre. You're 0:09:40.320 --> 0:09:43.280 living in two houses. But what do you think about 0:09:43.400 --> 0:09:47.040 two different toilets. So we were just at a party, 0:09:47.160 --> 0:09:48.679 at a house part. I don't know if you noticed this, 0:09:48.760 --> 0:09:51.839 because I'm a snoop going through the house and they 0:09:51.840 --> 0:09:52.320 had his. 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:53.840 In her toilets. 0:09:53.960 --> 0:09:56.120 Oh they Oh, no, there was his in her closets 0:09:56.440 --> 0:09:58.160 and then eat by their closets. 0:09:58.200 --> 0:10:00.000 They had each of they had their own come up. 0:10:00.440 --> 0:10:03.679 Yes, like shared a bathroom, Yes, had counters in the 0:10:03.720 --> 0:10:06.400 same bathroom, but then had each their own little water closet. 0:10:06.600 --> 0:10:06.840 Yeah. 0:10:07.720 --> 0:10:09.840 I don't think it's not necessary to me. 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:12.679 I think what's most important if you can have it, 0:10:12.800 --> 0:10:15.680 is a closed door to your toilet. But I don't 0:10:15.679 --> 0:10:18.640 think I need to closed door toilets have the same bathroom. 0:10:19.120 --> 0:10:20.800 One more question, do you this? 0:10:21.280 --> 0:10:21.439 Uh? 0:10:21.559 --> 0:10:24.880 No, I don't think so. I don't think you need two. 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:30.640 Okay, this person had a urinal the male side had 0:10:30.800 --> 0:10:33.600 he had a traditional toilet, and then he literally had 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:34.880 a urinal like you would see it. All. 0:10:34.920 --> 0:10:36.680 That's a you question, do you need a urinal? 0:10:37.400 --> 0:10:37.559 No? 0:10:37.640 --> 0:10:41.240 I mean I get I guess I get the ease 0:10:41.280 --> 0:10:44.880 of it, but I just it was I saw it, 0:10:44.920 --> 0:10:47.160 and I go, oh. 0:10:46.280 --> 0:10:50.120 A home urinalme churinl Yeah, a year a home. 0:10:50.280 --> 0:10:52.960 I had a here's this true, Storgio, I had a 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:55.920 former family member. He had a urinal in his house. 0:10:56.240 --> 0:10:58.680 He also he worked in his garage a lot. He 0:10:58.760 --> 0:10:59.800 had one in his garage. 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:01.040 He's like, well, I don't want to go. 0:11:01.120 --> 0:11:02.840 Why do you just go outside on a tree? 0:11:03.160 --> 0:11:06.560 Right now? That's that's true. Who you can You're already 0:11:06.600 --> 0:11:07.000 out there? 0:11:07.080 --> 0:11:10.520 Ye yeah, well you have. 0:11:10.920 --> 0:11:12.400 That was a really hot take for me. I didn't 0:11:12.440 --> 0:11:14.600 know you were so strongly against separate bedrooms. 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:15.480 Yes, for sure. 0:11:15.520 --> 0:11:17.800 Now I think it's important that you stick together. Well, 0:11:17.840 --> 0:11:19.240 I think you get a lot of things done at 0:11:19.240 --> 0:11:19.960 the at the end of the. 0:11:20.000 --> 0:11:21.960 Day, at the end of the night's bedroom. 0:11:22.120 --> 0:11:24.480 Well, I mean, obviously you get a lot of things done, 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:27.560 and I think it would but even after even after 0:11:27.600 --> 0:11:30.280 you got those things done to say okay, high five, 0:11:30.320 --> 0:11:31.439 and you go your separate ways. 0:11:31.720 --> 0:11:34.840 I think about my mom, for example, my mom is 0:11:34.920 --> 0:11:37.600 much more of that generation, like she didn't really like 0:11:37.640 --> 0:11:40.160 my dad us here without makeup on, you know. She 0:11:40.400 --> 0:11:44.079 like my mom and dad would in our house, my 0:11:44.160 --> 0:11:46.120 dad would kind of use the guest bathroom or and 0:11:46.120 --> 0:11:48.320 they would have totally separate bathrooms and be a bit 0:11:48.400 --> 0:11:51.719 more separate, Like, I think this is a newer construct 0:11:51.880 --> 0:11:53.520 and I would be interested, like, why do you think 0:11:53.520 --> 0:11:54.120 it's happened? 0:11:54.480 --> 0:11:57.200 Why have we moved towards so much togetherness. 0:11:56.679 --> 0:11:59.080 Because it's impossible to buy a house now. No one 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:03.200 just has to interest rates or at six percent, no 0:12:03.200 --> 0:12:03.959 one can afford it. 0:12:04.320 --> 0:12:07.120 Yeah. No, but you're even in the tiny house that 0:12:07.200 --> 0:12:09.720 I grew up in. My parents were kind of the same. 0:12:09.760 --> 0:12:13.000 They did they had different bathrooms, they didn't share, they didn't. 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:14.800 Have his and hers. Our bathrooms weren't big enough for that. 0:12:14.880 --> 0:12:16.960 But yeah, it is interesting. 0:12:16.960 --> 0:12:18.520 It is maybe more of a modern thing that we're 0:12:18.520 --> 0:12:20.319 more on top of each other, more together. 0:12:21.080 --> 0:12:23.480 And I think it might be something interesting about like 0:12:23.559 --> 0:12:25.880 needing your partner to be everything for you. I'm really 0:12:25.920 --> 0:12:28.680 getting deep now, but your you know, we were we 0:12:28.720 --> 0:12:30.920 talked about that in another episode, that like, your partner 0:12:31.440 --> 0:12:33.559 doesn't have to be everything for you. You can get 0:12:33.559 --> 0:12:38.880 fulfillment from friends and from family and mentors and you know, 0:12:39.040 --> 0:12:44.520 but you can share a bathroom but don't have to 0:12:44.559 --> 0:12:49.360 have two separate toilets. That's my big take away. I 0:12:49.360 --> 0:12:51.240 didn't think I was going to go so deep on this. 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:59.679 I'm sorry. 0:13:03.520 --> 0:13:07.280 Let me switch to a headline that I actually want 0:13:07.280 --> 0:13:08.600 to know your thoughts on because you and I have 0:13:08.720 --> 0:13:14.480 never discussed it. Daniel Craig, Ashton Kutcher, Yes, and more 0:13:14.520 --> 0:13:18.000 celebrity parents have spoken out as of late. Anderson Cooper 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:22.400 Bill Gates had famously waited on this on not leaving 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:29.000 their children inheritances, Daniel Craig, James Bond says, I don't 0:13:29.000 --> 0:13:31.560 want to leave great sums to the next generation. My 0:13:31.640 --> 0:13:34.120 philosophy is get rid of it, give it away before 0:13:34.120 --> 0:13:37.280 you go. Ashton Kutcher has said he is not. He 0:13:37.320 --> 0:13:40.240 and Mila Kunis are not setting up trusts for their kids. 0:13:40.280 --> 0:13:42.240 They're going to give all their money away to charity. 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:45.760 Anderson Cooper, who is from a rich family the Vanderbilts, 0:13:46.280 --> 0:13:48.880 said that he does not intend to leave a quote 0:13:48.880 --> 0:13:51.760 pot of gold for his son. Where do you fall 0:13:51.800 --> 0:13:55.360 on that and leaving money to the kids. I don't 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:56.720 even know if you've discussed this with them. 0:13:57.240 --> 0:14:00.439 It's well, I find it very interesting, and look, I 0:14:00.960 --> 0:14:03.920 understand where these people are coming from. I understand that 0:14:05.360 --> 0:14:10.480 gross amounts of wealth heaped upon somebody can do more 0:14:10.520 --> 0:14:13.959 harm than good. And again, I know everyone's sitting there thinking, hey, 0:14:14.040 --> 0:14:16.520 keep it on me. I'll take those problems. But I 0:14:16.600 --> 0:14:21.040 understand that. You know, there's a long list of problem 0:14:21.160 --> 0:14:24.280 children in the world who got rich quick or had 0:14:24.320 --> 0:14:27.840 so much money. You know, time is the devil's play shop, 0:14:27.880 --> 0:14:30.720 and there's a lot of a lot of names on 0:14:30.760 --> 0:14:31.120 that line. 0:14:31.160 --> 0:14:34.680 I think it's very disunderstand it's more difficult than it. 0:14:35.400 --> 0:14:38.600 It's very difficult to raise a child with a ton 0:14:38.640 --> 0:14:42.120 of money and have them turn out great. Like it's 0:14:42.160 --> 0:14:42.600 a task. 0:14:42.760 --> 0:14:46.920 Yeah, But I think more importantly it's maybe I'm a 0:14:46.920 --> 0:14:50.120 glass half full person as opposed to worrying about what 0:14:50.200 --> 0:14:53.000 you're going to leave them. I'm more worried about with 0:14:53.080 --> 0:14:56.880 our kids. What am I teaching them? Am I teaching 0:14:56.920 --> 0:14:59.400 them the value of a dollar? Am I teaching them 0:14:59.440 --> 0:15:03.320 the value of being a hard working human being? Do 0:15:03.360 --> 0:15:07.520 they have drive? Do they want to achieve on their own? 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:11.160 You know, I have such admiration for one of our 0:15:11.560 --> 0:15:14.800 very dear friends, Andrew Firestone, one of the most famous 0:15:14.840 --> 0:15:17.880 families and famous names in America, and you know, an 0:15:17.880 --> 0:15:21.840 American icon. Every one of his brother's sisters would ever 0:15:21.840 --> 0:15:24.960 have gone on to do great things. That entrepreneurial spirit. 0:15:25.400 --> 0:15:28.200 How do I instill in them that drive to be 0:15:28.760 --> 0:15:32.080 giving people, to be caring, people to be driven. 0:15:32.160 --> 0:15:32.800 Hard working. 0:15:32.880 --> 0:15:35.560 That that, to me is more important than am I 0:15:35.600 --> 0:15:38.040 worried about giving them a million dollars later on? Because 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:40.640 if I've done the work, then it doesn't matter what 0:15:40.720 --> 0:15:43.680 I give them later. They're going to use that for good. 0:15:44.160 --> 0:15:46.440 They'll use it to build a business, they'll use it 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:49.280 to hire people, they'll use it to give to charity. 0:15:49.440 --> 0:15:52.240 So it's more important what's the human being I'm raising 0:15:52.240 --> 0:15:54.960 as opposed to I've done a crappy job. 0:15:55.000 --> 0:15:57.720 I don't want to give them fifty million dollars. Screw them. 0:15:58.080 --> 0:15:59.880 And look a lot of these people too, I'm like, 0:16:00.440 --> 0:16:04.680 were you entitled? Did you grow up under that nice 0:16:04.680 --> 0:16:07.120 silver spoon and now you just don't want to give 0:16:07.160 --> 0:16:07.600 it to them? 0:16:07.960 --> 0:16:09.880 I completely agree. 0:16:10.000 --> 0:16:12.280 I think that. I think you just said it so well. 0:16:12.360 --> 0:16:16.000 I can't imagine. Especially, I mean, you were joking before 0:16:16.040 --> 0:16:20.720 about how much housees cost today. I think it's I 0:16:20.800 --> 0:16:25.120 think it's easier said than done to like say, hey, 0:16:25.160 --> 0:16:28.560 figure it out, you know, like I look at you know, 0:16:29.560 --> 0:16:33.120 my grandparents, for example, grew up with very little and 0:16:34.680 --> 0:16:38.800 didn't even have high school educations. Moved to Chicago when 0:16:38.840 --> 0:16:42.440 they were teenagers to try to find work. Now, eventually 0:16:42.520 --> 0:16:44.440 they through hard work, they were able to buy a 0:16:44.480 --> 0:16:47.960 home in Chicago and start a business, and they. 0:16:48.080 --> 0:16:51.960 Built a beautiful life. It's I think it's. 0:16:51.800 --> 0:16:54.240 Really hard today to buy a starter home in Chicago, 0:16:54.680 --> 0:16:57.680 you know. And so if you've worked hard and you 0:16:57.800 --> 0:17:00.680 have money and you can remove some of those obstacles, 0:17:00.840 --> 0:17:04.000 well yeah, I mean it's really difficult to be a 0:17:04.040 --> 0:17:05.480 young person starting out today. 0:17:05.520 --> 0:17:09.200 And and I don't know these celebrities we're talking about, 0:17:09.280 --> 0:17:12.439 but at the same time, those children are growing up 0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:14.800 on the Upper West Side, they're growing up in Beverly Hills, 0:17:14.840 --> 0:17:17.679 behind gates, They're going to private schools, they're going on 0:17:17.880 --> 0:17:20.159 the private jet to the ski trips they're going So 0:17:20.640 --> 0:17:23.920 they've already been living this life. If you haven't done 0:17:23.920 --> 0:17:26.760 the work with them now, it doesn't matter what you're 0:17:26.800 --> 0:17:28.200 giving them when you pass away. 0:17:28.320 --> 0:17:30.760 Also, like you know, I kind of question these quotes. 0:17:30.800 --> 0:17:33.160 It's like, what are are we really talking about nothing? 0:17:33.240 --> 0:17:33.440 Yes? 0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:34.960 Or are you just like I'm not going to leave 0:17:35.000 --> 0:17:35.800 them everything. 0:17:35.840 --> 0:17:37.800 Well, they're not getting a one hundred million, They're only 0:17:37.800 --> 0:17:39.560 going to get forty five. 0:17:39.680 --> 0:17:43.000 I mean, yeah, Okay, Well, so. 0:17:43.200 --> 0:17:45.840 I disagree, and you and I agree on this, and 0:17:45.880 --> 0:17:48.479 that's why one of the reasons I love you, And 0:17:48.520 --> 0:17:50.520 it's your mom's famous quote, you do the work now, 0:17:50.560 --> 0:17:53.000 you put in the time now. If you haven't done 0:17:53.040 --> 0:17:55.159 the work now, while these kids are in private schools 0:17:55.160 --> 0:17:56.840 and doing it, they know, living the life with all 0:17:56.840 --> 0:18:00.200 their other rich friends and celebrity friends, it doesn't matter. 0:18:01.000 --> 0:18:03.320 They're what you're going to do to them later the 0:18:03.480 --> 0:18:06.280 that ship is sailed. Every parent knows that you got 0:18:06.320 --> 0:18:07.160 to put in the work now. 0:18:08.160 --> 0:18:09.440 Well, honey, happy New Year. 0:18:10.040 --> 0:18:13.959 And I think you know we talked at the end 0:18:14.000 --> 0:18:17.159 of the year over our Christmas dinner about everything we 0:18:17.160 --> 0:18:20.120 were so grateful for. We had a tradition of going 0:18:20.160 --> 0:18:22.120