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Speaker 1: This is the most dramatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 1: Chris Harrison, loren Zema coming to you. Happy New Year, everybody.

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Speaker 1: I hope your new year has started off great. It

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Speaker 1: has been a wonderful year for us thus far.

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Speaker 2: I just found a false eyelash stuck to my shirt.

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Speaker 1: So that's what's happening in twenty twenty four, you know,

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Speaker 1: starting off with a real bang.

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Speaker 3: I find these everywhere and then sometimes I think they're spiders.

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Speaker 1: Is anybody else like elz where you know she essentially

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Speaker 1: has like a tackle box full of eyelashes, Like is

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Speaker 1: a year?

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Speaker 4: You're a big heep?

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Speaker 2: People aren't doing that? I recommend it.

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Speaker 3: First of all, you can get false eyelash cases on Amazon,

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Speaker 3: which is incredible because I'm a big dirty lash babe.

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Speaker 3: You can reuse those, Okay, pick the glue off or don't.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes the glue gives it a little more added structure,

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Speaker 3: the elder glue. But I love an elder lash, a

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Speaker 3: vintage strip.

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Speaker 4: So I actually took wine you wanted to pack. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Now, the cases that you can get on Amazon, some

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Speaker 3: of them actually have the shapes.

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Speaker 2: You can form your lash back to the shape, which

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Speaker 2: is great.

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Speaker 3: But if you don't want to go that route because

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Speaker 3: it takes a little time, it's a little more time

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Speaker 3: incent and intensive to put the lash back.

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Speaker 2: On the curvature. I literally buy a tackle box.

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Speaker 3: I keep my earrings and I keep false eyelashes in

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Speaker 3: a plastic box that's supposed.

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Speaker 2: To be for like bait and tackle stuff.

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Speaker 4: No, it makes sense. I mean they're very use.

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Speaker 1: I'm just curious that, like if you know you can

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Speaker 1: leave your comments at the most dramatic pod but ever,

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Speaker 1: But I was just curious because you know you're you're

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Speaker 1: a big lash person.

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Speaker 4: I was like, I don't want.

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Speaker 3: To ask you a really honest question, Huh, how do

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Speaker 3: you feel when you see me without fake eyelashes on?

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Speaker 4: Now?

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Speaker 3: Because I I just feel like I'm two different people.

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Speaker 3: But I'm okay with that. Do you feel like I'm

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Speaker 3: two different people with an eyelash on?

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Speaker 1: Or I feel like it gives you power. It's like armor,

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Speaker 1: It's a you thing, Like it gives you power, and

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Speaker 1: I think you feel it. You know, like if you're

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Speaker 1: in a great outfit, you know you have that perfect

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Speaker 1: black dress or whatever it is, and you know that's

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Speaker 1: it's your go to it's your money outfit. We all

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Speaker 1: have it. That that great shirt or that great pair

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Speaker 1: of boots. What's your armor for me?

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Speaker 4: It's a great suit. I love a good suit. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: suit and tie. I feel good.

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Speaker 3: You do. You have an added air of confidence. It's

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Speaker 3: your home base.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel and it's why you know I obviously

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Speaker 1: I did it for many, many years.

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Speaker 3: It's interesting you yeah, you really, You've probably spent so

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Speaker 3: much of your life in a suit, given the hours

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Speaker 1: But it also goes back to my family, my grandfather,

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Speaker 1: who I looked up to very much, as you know,

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Speaker 1: like he was a clothes hound and he loved suits

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Speaker 1: and ties. And I would go into his closet and

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Speaker 1: pick out ties. And obviously, you know, my cousin owns

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Speaker 1: Ken's Manshop in Dallas, and that's the habit ashery I

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Speaker 1: go to and like we we love clothes in our family,

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Speaker 1: and then find men's wear and I love that.

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Speaker 4: That is my power. That's where I feel well.

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Speaker 2: Habit ashery.

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Speaker 1: No, I wouldn't even try because I might be able to,

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Speaker 3: You love to say it. Oh yeah, all right, it's

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Speaker 3: the new year, yes, babe. We haven't asked each other

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Speaker 3: this do you have a New Year's resolution.

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Speaker 4: I'm not a resolution person. I'm really not.

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Speaker 2: I've never had a processing that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I've never It's nothing, not much resolve. Well, it's

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Speaker 1: not that I don't know, that's not true. It's not

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Speaker 1: that I don't have goals.

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Speaker 2: I have a ton of results.

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Speaker 1: I have a lot of goals in mind and things

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Speaker 1: I like to accomplish.

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Speaker 3: You know what my thought on it is. I think

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Speaker 3: it's often setting yourself up to fail. I don't know,

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Speaker 3: and it's like we all have all this energy and

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Speaker 3: haven't done it all.

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Speaker 1: Well, look at the gym this week. If you go

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Speaker 1: population this week. Because I was like the new you

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Speaker 1: and all that. And my suggestion is to your point,

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Speaker 1: don't set yourself self up to fail. Set yourself up

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Speaker 1: to succeed. Do things that are bite size and digestible.

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Speaker 1: You know, don't if you're not going to keep up

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Speaker 1: with it, if you're not this type of person, don't

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Speaker 1: get up at four am and go to Johnny's boot

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Speaker 1: camp and you know you're being electrocuted and you're climbing

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Speaker 1: over barbed wire. That's if that's not you, don't do

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Speaker 1: that because that's not sustainable.

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Speaker 4: Do something you are going to stick with.

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Speaker 3: Get so mad at myself that I can't remember this

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Speaker 3: book right now. I read this great book a couple

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Speaker 3: of years ago about habit forming.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what is it?

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Speaker 4: Thirty days?

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Speaker 3: No, it's it's this guy really gets into the science

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Speaker 3: of forming habits, Like because I do believe, for example,

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Speaker 3: in the power of your mind, and like, if you

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Speaker 3: think something over and over again, I think it's more

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Speaker 3: likely to happen if you think about it, if you

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Speaker 3: get yourself to do it. And he talks about these

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Speaker 3: small ways of forming habits and how much more powerful

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Speaker 3: that is. Like if you say my new year's resolution

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Speaker 3: is I'm going to write a book, that's a lot

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Speaker 3: harder and a lot less likely to be achieved than

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Speaker 3: it is to say my new year's resolution is every

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Speaker 3: morning I'm going to write one fat Like, that's a

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Speaker 3: lot more achievable.

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Speaker 1: Set an action you can accomplish. And if you do

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Speaker 1: that in the conventional thought is thirty days breaks or

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Speaker 1: makes a habit. If you can do something for a month,

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Speaker 1: you will continue.

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Speaker 2: Your comic habits.

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Speaker 4: That's the post you're more likely to continue.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, that's a great book.

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Speaker 2: You've read it.

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Speaker 1: I have pulled things out of that book, and that

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Speaker 1: book I think is part of the thirty day Process.

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Speaker 3: By James Clear. Gosh, wow, I'm still learning things about

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Speaker 3: you now. We might not have New Year's resolutions, but

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Speaker 3: I am going to do a dry January situation.

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Speaker 1: I love that, and I would be right there with you,

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Speaker 1: and I would do a fast as well.

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Speaker 3: You know what I realized it was doing prepping for

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Speaker 3: the wedding. When I took about a month off from

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Speaker 3: it and I didn't even go a full month without drinking.

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Speaker 3: I changed it to I'd allow myself like one glass

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Speaker 3: I think that reset is good.

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Speaker 1: The big headline that we should get into, Oh yes,

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Speaker 1: is sleeping in separate bedrooms.

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Speaker 3: I didn't think that was where you're going with that.

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Speaker 3: I think a lot of people are looking for you

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Speaker 3: to weigh in on some other breaking news.

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Speaker 2: Yes, but first let's talk about it. Okay.

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Speaker 3: We got sent these articles by several people, including our

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Speaker 3: producer Kendall. A lot of celebrities talking about sleeping in

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Speaker 3: separate bedrooms lately, including Cameron Diaz, who I don't think

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Speaker 3: does sleep in separate bedrooms with her husband Benji Madden,

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Speaker 3: but they've been married since twenty fifteen, and she said

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Speaker 3: that she wishes it would be normalized to sleep in

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Speaker 3: separate bedrooms or maybe even in separate houses. Well, I

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Speaker 3: remember Gwyneth Paltrow when she was kind of I think

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Speaker 3: for a long time time. Dean McDermott just came out

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Speaker 2: In the bedroom a lot.

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Speaker 3: So, I you know, that becomes a question who is

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Speaker 3: allowed in your marital bedroom, including should your own spouse

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Speaker 3: be we sleep in the same bed babe?

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Speaker 2: Should we split up?

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Speaker 1: No? Why I'm not at you like I get for

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Speaker 3: The Queen of England and Prince Philip, you know, always

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Speaker 3: and there's you.

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Speaker 1: Know, lots of rumors about things that happened in the

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Speaker 1: West wing as well, But I think those are arrangements.

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Speaker 1: It's not a I think a happy marriage is a

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Speaker 3: I cannot imagine living in the same house and going

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Speaker 4: All right, I'll see you tomorrow.

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Speaker 2: I feel like i'd miss you.

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Speaker 3: I want to cuddle with you. I mean sometimes we

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Speaker 1: And I know there's a lot of women out there going.

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Speaker 1: You don't know how bad my husband snores, right, I

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Speaker 3: I will say, I see the desire to like maintain

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Speaker 3: Drinda Medley, formerly of Real Housewives of New York. She

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Speaker 3: said once that her and her husband, Richard, used to

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Speaker 3: And they I think had an agreement that they always

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Speaker 3: you know, maybe that's in New Year's resolution. I think

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Speaker 3: we could try a different restaurant in Austin every week

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Speaker 1: We always say that when we're in New York. It's

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Speaker 1: like we hate to repeat things in New York as

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Speaker 1: much as we love the restaurants, because there's always something new.

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Speaker 3: I think that you are very fresh. Life is going

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Speaker 3: to become. You know, your your safe place and your

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Speaker 3: box you play in, so you gotta try a new things.

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Speaker 1: We're anti separate bedrooms, definitely anti separate houses. That makes

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Speaker 1: that just makes no sense. You're not married, just.

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Speaker 3: You could be like picking your spouse up for a

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Speaker 1: That's right, that's just no, that's nonsensical. It's bizarre. You're

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Speaker 1: living in two houses. But what do you think about

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Speaker 1: two different toilets. So we were just at a party,

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