1
00:00:01,120 --> 00:00:11,240
Speaker 1: When you changed, I wasn't will Yeah, I thank you?

2
00:00:11,280 --> 00:00:15,720
Speaker 1: Tell me subject, what's love got to do with it? No?

3
00:00:18,200 --> 00:00:20,920
Speaker 1: I just want my name, Mike, I just want my name. Hello, morning,

4
00:00:20,960 --> 00:00:23,479
Speaker 1: Cruise Straight to the point. I've been married for twenty

5
00:00:23,560 --> 00:00:28,960
Speaker 1: four years to a wonderful man. He cooks, cleans, you

6
00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:31,480
Speaker 1: name it, he does it, and also loves to buy

7
00:00:31,520 --> 00:00:35,400
Speaker 1: me gifts, anything to make me happy. The problem is,

8
00:00:36,120 --> 00:00:40,160
Speaker 1: I'm not happy. We have no intimacy. If we make love,

9
00:00:40,400 --> 00:00:45,320
Speaker 1: it is if I'm lucky wow two times a year.

10
00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:48,199
Speaker 1: And because of this, we have grown apart. We have

11
00:00:48,280 --> 00:00:51,239
Speaker 1: become more like best friends. We talked about everything, and

12
00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:54,160
Speaker 1: I've let him know that I'm unhappy with our physical relationship.

13
00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:57,400
Speaker 1: I cry myself to sleep sometimes. That's how desperate I

14
00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:00,720
Speaker 1: am for physical attention. I got tired of dying and left.

15
00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:03,720
Speaker 1: Was I wrong for leaving him? Now he is the

16
00:01:03,720 --> 00:01:06,200
Speaker 1: one crying and tell me telling me he misses me.

17
00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:09,959
Speaker 1: I miss his companionship. But that's about it? Should I

18
00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:12,919
Speaker 1: stay in a loveless marriage? Everybody keeps telling me twenty

19
00:01:12,920 --> 00:01:14,840
Speaker 1: four years is a lot to give up on. But

20
00:01:15,319 --> 00:01:19,360
Speaker 1: is companionship more important than being in love? I am

21
00:01:19,440 --> 00:01:22,000
Speaker 1: forty five and he is forty seven and he doesn't

22
00:01:22,080 --> 00:01:25,480
Speaker 1: have health issues. No, that is not the problem, if

23
00:01:25,520 --> 00:01:29,080
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Please advise you've been putting

24
00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:33,480
Speaker 1: up with this for twenty four years. Twenty four years.

25
00:01:33,600 --> 00:01:36,680
Speaker 1: That is a long long time. I don't unders. I

26
00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:39,640
Speaker 1: just don't understand how you can let one of the

27
00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:43,720
Speaker 1: most important ingredients in a marriage, it's intimacy and physical love,

28
00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:49,280
Speaker 1: just go unaddressed for for for so long. And like

29
00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:51,800
Speaker 1: you said, you guys are like roommates, like best friends,

30
00:01:51,840 --> 00:01:57,120
Speaker 1: like brothers and sisters, and you really really need some help. Um.

31
00:01:57,320 --> 00:01:59,639
Speaker 1: You say you've mentioned it, but have you really talked

32
00:01:59,640 --> 00:02:01,920
Speaker 1: to him? I mean, have you guys tried to get

33
00:02:01,960 --> 00:02:05,760
Speaker 1: some help. I'm just glad you finally woke up and

34
00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:07,840
Speaker 1: made a move. And no, I don't think you did

35
00:02:07,920 --> 00:02:11,040
Speaker 1: the wrong thing by leaving him, but it just might

36
00:02:11,080 --> 00:02:13,480
Speaker 1: be too late. Um, you let it go too long.

37
00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:17,200
Speaker 1: I don't know, especially if he doesn't have any health issues, Steve,

38
00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:22,440
Speaker 1: I disagree with leaving the man. I disagree with what

39
00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:26,919
Speaker 1: you're saying, Sherlotte. Um, here here's a deal. It does

40
00:02:26,960 --> 00:02:29,000
Speaker 1: not say in the letter that this has been going

41
00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:31,840
Speaker 1: on for twenty four years. It says in the letter

42
00:02:31,919 --> 00:02:35,280
Speaker 1: nearly that they've been married twenty four years. The problem

43
00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:38,840
Speaker 1: is they have no intimacy whenever that started. I'm pretty

44
00:02:38,880 --> 00:02:40,360
Speaker 1: sure when they got and it was getting to know

45
00:02:40,400 --> 00:02:43,519
Speaker 1: each other, it wasn't twice a year. Uh, And I'm

46
00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:47,160
Speaker 1: sure in the early years it wasn't. Now here's a deal.

47
00:02:47,320 --> 00:02:48,960
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna get to it, and I'm gonna tell

48
00:02:49,000 --> 00:02:54,000
Speaker 1: you real talk. Hire. This man is forty seven years old. Ladies,

49
00:02:54,080 --> 00:02:57,359
Speaker 1: let me tell you something what you may not know

50
00:02:57,560 --> 00:03:00,239
Speaker 1: is a health issue. If you know what I'm mean,

51
00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:05,720
Speaker 1: can be just that. Once a man turns thirty five

52
00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:10,600
Speaker 1: years old, this is medical thirty five years old. His

53
00:03:10,840 --> 00:03:16,440
Speaker 1: testosterone levels are not the same, well, they start to.

54
00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:19,560
Speaker 1: They don't produce as much, you know, especially if you're

55
00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:23,640
Speaker 1: not exercising or people who have diabetes. That's a health issue.

56
00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:27,160
Speaker 1: But people on impotency comes a lot with diabetes. I'm

57
00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:30,000
Speaker 1: gonna come back and share with you something I've learned

58
00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:33,200
Speaker 1: from age thirty five that might be able to help.

59
00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:35,680
Speaker 1: And if it's for me and out there listening, this

60
00:03:35,800 --> 00:03:39,560
Speaker 1: is a no joke Strawberry letter, because I'm gonna talk

61
00:03:39,600 --> 00:03:43,560
Speaker 1: to men who are over forty and I'm gonna share

62
00:03:43,640 --> 00:03:47,119
Speaker 1: something with you that I've learned, and if you implemented

63
00:03:47,200 --> 00:03:50,480
Speaker 1: in your life, it can change all of this for you,

64
00:03:50,720 --> 00:03:53,000
Speaker 1: and maybe your wife won't have to be disappointed. And

65
00:03:53,080 --> 00:03:55,120
Speaker 1: all this here it really has nothing to do with

66
00:03:55,160 --> 00:03:59,400
Speaker 1: the health issue. It really really doesn't know. She don't

67
00:03:59,440 --> 00:04:02,400
Speaker 1: know though. All Right, we'll have part two of Steve's

68
00:04:02,440 --> 00:04:05,120
Speaker 1: response to the Strawberry letter coming up at twenty three

69
00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:07,560
Speaker 1: after the hour. All right, come on, let's get to

70
00:04:07,600 --> 00:04:10,720
Speaker 1: part two of your response Steve to today's Strawberry letter.

71
00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:14,160
Speaker 1: Oh f show. I've been married for twenty four years

72
00:04:14,200 --> 00:04:17,240
Speaker 1: to a wonderful man. He cooks, cleans, you name it,

73
00:04:17,279 --> 00:04:20,520
Speaker 1: he does it, and also loves to buy me gifts,

74
00:04:20,839 --> 00:04:24,320
Speaker 1: anything to make me happy. Problem me is, I'm not happy.

75
00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:28,040
Speaker 1: We have no intimacy. We if we make love is

76
00:04:28,360 --> 00:04:31,720
Speaker 1: if I'm lucky two times a year. Because it is,

77
00:04:32,080 --> 00:04:34,919
Speaker 1: we've grown apart, we become more like best friends. We

78
00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:38,760
Speaker 1: talked about everything. Uh. I have let him know that

79
00:04:38,839 --> 00:04:41,800
Speaker 1: I'm not happy with our physical relationship. I cried myself

80
00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:44,880
Speaker 1: to sleep sometimes, That's how desperate I am for physical attention.

81
00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:48,040
Speaker 1: I got tired of the crying and left. Was I wrong?

82
00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:50,880
Speaker 1: For leaving him. Now he's the one crying, telling me

83
00:04:50,920 --> 00:04:54,160
Speaker 1: he misses me. I miss his companionship. But that's about it.

84
00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:57,520
Speaker 1: Should I stay in a loveless marriage? Everybody keeps telling

85
00:04:57,520 --> 00:04:59,320
Speaker 1: me twenty four years there's a lot to give up on,

86
00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:03,680
Speaker 1: but it's companionship more important than being in love. I'm

87
00:05:03,760 --> 00:05:08,279
Speaker 1: forty five, he's forty seven. He doesn't have health issues. No,

88
00:05:08,680 --> 00:05:10,640
Speaker 1: that's not the problem. If you know what I mean,

89
00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:13,960
Speaker 1: please advise. I advise your man to go to the doctor.

90
00:05:14,839 --> 00:05:17,040
Speaker 1: Because see, what you think is not a health issue.

91
00:05:17,360 --> 00:05:20,039
Speaker 1: See people think, you know because a man it's not

92
00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:25,040
Speaker 1: doesn't have what they can label clinically as impotency. Or

93
00:05:25,160 --> 00:05:28,919
Speaker 1: you think, cause a man uh doesn't have diabetes or

94
00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:32,120
Speaker 1: you know something like that, that that's the physical problems.

95
00:05:32,760 --> 00:05:37,000
Speaker 1: It's far beyond that. Do you think, though, Well, yeah,

96
00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:40,279
Speaker 1: I'm just saying. You know. See, here's what men won't

97
00:05:40,279 --> 00:05:43,480
Speaker 1: won't do. This subject is taboo with men. How to

98
00:05:43,560 --> 00:05:46,000
Speaker 1: slow down because well, I ain't feeling in no more.

99
00:05:46,400 --> 00:05:49,839
Speaker 1: There's a thing called libido, which is the male sex

100
00:05:49,960 --> 00:05:54,200
Speaker 1: drive or anybody's sex drive, male or female. If you're

101
00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:58,440
Speaker 1: not having it, it could be because your testosterone levels

102
00:05:58,800 --> 00:06:01,720
Speaker 1: are not what they were when you were thirty thirty five.

103
00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:07,520
Speaker 1: They stopped producing. Now if you're not exercising, exercising produces

104
00:06:07,560 --> 00:06:12,599
Speaker 1: releases growth hormones, testosterone. They have new medicines out there,

105
00:06:13,040 --> 00:06:17,520
Speaker 1: age management. Every dude that's thirty five forty should go

106
00:06:17,600 --> 00:06:22,040
Speaker 1: get your blood taken by a doctor who is equipped

107
00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:25,599
Speaker 1: to talk about age management and see what your levels are.

108
00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:33,000
Speaker 1: Sometimes estrogen raises in a man, testosterone lowers. You have

109
00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:37,200
Speaker 1: a libido problem. Sometimes you don't have enough growth hormones

110
00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:41,120
Speaker 1: in your body, enough testosterone. It changes so many things

111
00:06:41,440 --> 00:06:44,920
Speaker 1: and you it will never show up as a disease

112
00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:48,479
Speaker 1: or a health issue. And I recommend me and go

113
00:06:48,600 --> 00:06:51,080
Speaker 1: do that, all right, Steve, you know we gotta get

114
00:06:51,080 --> 00:06:53,280
Speaker 1: out of here. You can email us or instagram us

115
00:06:53,279 --> 00:06:56,680
Speaker 1: your thoughts at my Girl Shirley. You're listening to the

116
00:06:56,800 --> 00:06:58,200
Speaker 1: Steve Harvey Morning Show.