Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beccatelly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio Podcast.
Speaker 1: Hello everybody, it is twenty twenty three. It is a
Speaker 1: new year, and it is a new era of scrubbing in.
Speaker 2: It is a scrub aissance.
Speaker 3: It is a scrub aissance.
Speaker 2: What does that mean?
Speaker 4: We never discussed what the scrub aissance meant, like, we
Speaker 4: never said, like what that entailed?
Speaker 2: Is it anything?
Speaker 3: It's a revival, it's a rebirth.
Speaker 1: It's a rejuvenation, and it is exemplified in our what
Speaker 1: do you call that thing that we just updated our logo,
Speaker 1: our logo, and it is represented in our logo. Well,
Speaker 1: the thing is twenty fifteen is not us anymore. We
Speaker 1: are twenty twenty three scrubbing in.
Speaker 4: That's right, that's right. Well we didn't start in twenty fifteen, so.
Speaker 3: That scrubbing it is out I'm so glad.
Speaker 4: Not scrubbing in never existed, so therefore it's definitely out right.
Speaker 1: So twenty seventeen, twenty seventeen, scrubbing in is no longer.
Speaker 5: You're two thousand and late, isn't that thing?
Speaker 4: Fergie said that, Yes, Fergie said that about twenty years ago.
Speaker 6: Right exactly.
Speaker 5: So don't be that pink logo was.
Speaker 3: Two late two thousand night.
Speaker 4: But seriously, it is crazy because the original scrubbing in
Speaker 4: photo was just me because I it was just me
Speaker 4: when we started, and we had that for a while,
Speaker 4: just me. Yeah, and then we did me and you
Speaker 4: and that was twenty eighteen and that was right, I
Speaker 4: meant Haley, And that was up against a wall.
Speaker 1: I remember, we were like up against a white wall
Speaker 1: in the break.
Speaker 2: Room right here, back to back in our scrub, back
Speaker 2: to back.
Speaker 3: In our scrubs, and you know, it was cute.
Speaker 1: It was like two gals find two gal pals finding
Speaker 1: their way around town, you know, romping around town, romping
Speaker 1: around around.
Speaker 3: In our scrubs.
Speaker 1: And those two gal pals have blossomed, they have cocooned,
Speaker 1: they have butterflied, and they are women now in suits.
Speaker 2: We are women in suits.
Speaker 7: Yeah, and you know, like modern women in suits, modern
Speaker 7: women in suits, you know, in like how doctors go
Speaker 7: from wearing scrubs every day and then they they start
Speaker 7: wearing like once they get to a certain level, they
Speaker 7: wear like nice dress clothes.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what we did.
Speaker 8: We became.
Speaker 3: Attending attending lead surgeons. No longer interns.
Speaker 4: I just want you all to know that when you
Speaker 4: Google my name, it says healthcare professional next to it,
Speaker 4: so yes, wow, you can look it up right now.
Speaker 2: Someone pointed out on the scrubbing and Facebook.
Speaker 3: Group, it's so good.
Speaker 2: Professional and you know, it's funny.
Speaker 4: And before I went on The Bachelor, I was a
Speaker 4: chiropractic assistant, which basically no, because like I didn't do
Speaker 4: anything healthcare related.
Speaker 1: Like I in the healthcare world, there were healthcare adjacent.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was definitely adjacent to the Google search. Yeah
Speaker 4: they should say healthcare professional adjacent. Yeah, but yeah, I
Speaker 4: just felt like we needed to.
Speaker 2: It was just time.
Speaker 3: It was time. And you know, you know what comes
Speaker 3: with time.
Speaker 1: Wis change and change, wisdom and change hand in hand.
Speaker 2: What do you feel wiser about going into twenty twenty three?
Speaker 3: So many things?
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, had I know now in twenty twenty three,
Speaker 1: In twenty eighteen, I probably would have done everything the same,
Speaker 1: But I just feel a lot more knowledgeable now.
Speaker 2: You would have done everything the same, probably.
Speaker 3: Because I don't regret anything.
Speaker 2: I like that self awareness.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like you know yourself enough to like you wouldn't
Speaker 4: necessarily have done anything different, right, but you would be
Speaker 4: aware of the things that maybe you could have done different.
Speaker 1: Correct, I'd be like, girl, this storm is not lasting forever.
Speaker 1: The sunshine's coming out tomorrow. Yeah, I feel.
Speaker 2: Like that's Is that not how you lived your life?
Speaker 1: Yeah, there was some dark times. It sprinkled in. There's
Speaker 1: some dark moments.
Speaker 2: So what is twenty twenty three hold in your mind?
Speaker 3: I'll tell you what twenty twenty three holds. Can get
Speaker 3: a drum roll? Please?
Speaker 5: Absolutely you can.
Speaker 1: Here it comes, get ready and we are one step
Speaker 1: closer to this project.
Speaker 4: Patrick Dempsey, why was I thinking like your book, like
Speaker 4: all these things and Patrick.
Speaker 1: I mean personally, there's a lot going on twenty twenty
Speaker 1: three podcast wise, I think my biggest goal is to
Speaker 1: get Patrick Dempsey on this podcast in the flesh in
Speaker 1: the studio, back to back.
Speaker 2: Well, we did have an update on this.
Speaker 3: Yes, so we have a lead.
Speaker 4: So we know a guy who knows a.
Speaker 3: Guy who knows no hold on this is the connection.
Speaker 1: So this guy, yeah, no, he knows the guys who
Speaker 1: did like he endorses this water and it's a sister
Speaker 1: company to the water that I endorsed at Kiss like
Speaker 1: last year or something. And this is real this is real,
Speaker 1: this is legit, And so he said he's going to
Speaker 1: tell these people about scrubbing in to get Patrick on.
Speaker 6: Listen Wood.
Speaker 1: I don't want us to share his name because I
Speaker 1: don't know if he wants me to share his name.
Speaker 1: But he works for iHeartMedia on the East Coast. He's
Speaker 1: like an on air personality. I was like, so, I
Speaker 1: was like, how did you know I did that endorsement?
Speaker 1: You know, but it makes me feel like we're one
Speaker 1: step closer to Patrick Depsy Patrick deps.
Speaker 4: And it might just be one literally one step, like
Speaker 4: I think it's just maybe one step closer, but it's
Speaker 4: closer than we were before.
Speaker 1: That was closer than we were in twenty twenty two. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and you know what one step closer, just one step
Speaker 1: forward is fine? Oh you it's progress progress, Yeah, and
Speaker 1: that's all.
Speaker 3: We're looking for.
Speaker 5: Will we settle for a zoom interview with Patrick Dempsey?
Speaker 1: It's not the goal, right, it's not the goal.
Speaker 4: But yes, but yes, they answer to that, we'll settle.
Speaker 1: Well, you know that brings up an interesting point about settling.
Speaker 4: Oh wow, okay, I also want to talk about you
Speaker 4: and Robbie's gas station.
Speaker 1: That's what I was going to talk about because I
Speaker 1: feel like when we settle in life, when we're desperate, Yes, Mark,
Speaker 1: can I help you? No?
Speaker 5: No, No, I just make sure my off because I
Speaker 5: was clearing my.
Speaker 3: You know, we were on this I was gonna say
Speaker 3: cross country road trip.
Speaker 1: We were not. We were just on a road trip
Speaker 1: to northern California. But we were desperate for gas and
Speaker 1: it was cold times outside and we were desperate. We
Speaker 1: hadn't seen a gas station in a very long time.
Speaker 5: This isn't California cold. This is legitimate winter cold.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I mean yeah, you're in the mountains.
Speaker 3: In the mountains.
Speaker 1: So we pull over and this like gas station. The
Speaker 1: gas thing is like like making all these like like
Speaker 1: it looks like it's going to explode. I'm like, what
Speaker 1: are we putting in our cars? This gasoline? I'm not
Speaker 1: quite sure. Go into the bathroom, there's no bathroom. That's
Speaker 1: a porta potty. There's no toilet paper in there. So
Speaker 1: I had a pee in the woods with a napkin
Speaker 1: from our own car, from our own snacks that I packed.
Speaker 1: And I was like, that was a treacherous experience and
Speaker 1: like crazy, right, we get back in the car, and
Speaker 1: we start making our way back. One foot in front
Speaker 1: of us is a glorious seventy six station and a
Speaker 1: glorious mobile station with bright lights, welcoming signs, snacks, functioning bathrooms.
Speaker 1: And I was like, this is such a metaphor for life.
Speaker 1: If you're desperate and you just pull over to the
Speaker 1: next best thing that you see, you're gonna end up
Speaker 1: at this rickety gas station wiping your vagina with a.
Speaker 3: Rough napkin from sprouts up the street.
Speaker 1: Yeah, which is probably biodegradable, yes, for sure. Or you
Speaker 1: can have your standards high and not settle, and right
Speaker 1: up the road you're gonna get a nice, shiny partner.
Speaker 5: Mm hm, I'm not sure this ANALOGI work.
Speaker 2: See, I think it.
Speaker 4: I think both of y'all's analogies really resonated with me.
Speaker 3: Oh so, then Robbie's counter.
Speaker 4: You know, lawyers love to counter, and he loves counter.
Speaker 1: He was like, or is it you're always looking for
Speaker 1: the next best thing. You're not happy satisfied? We got gas,
Speaker 1: Our car got gas, great gas. We're driving, we're on
Speaker 1: the road. We got to use the restroom. There's a
Speaker 1: reliable gas station. We got what we needed. You can
Speaker 1: get what you need? Are you gonna waste your time?
Speaker 1: Just go into the bigger, better thing?
Speaker 4: Which is interesting because your whole thing throughout the years
Speaker 4: of this podcast has been steady Eddie.
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, that is correct. I want steady Eddie, but
Speaker 3: I don't want rickety Rick.
Speaker 1: I'm not sure what he's spewing out of his hose.
Speaker 3: I don't know what's fine.
Speaker 2: Y'all got home.
Speaker 3: We didn't get home.
Speaker 1: It happened to be gas gasoline, but I wasn't sure
Speaker 1: at the moment.
Speaker 3: I was like, this feels.
Speaker 4: I just feel like depending on where you are in
Speaker 4: life depends on whose analogy resonates with you the most,
Speaker 4: because I've been in both. You know, I think we've
Speaker 4: all experienced where we're like, if I had just been
Speaker 4: a little more patient, I could have gotten something maybe better.
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, in so many ways.
Speaker 4: But you know what, those new gas stations are gonna
Speaker 4: be old one day, and are you going to be
Speaker 4: looking for the next newest thing?
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, no, I'm just joking, totally loyal, but you know,
Speaker 1: for the purposes, yes, for the purposes of this debate, yes, yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: it was interesting.
Speaker 4: It was funny to see and that is the most
Speaker 4: Robbie thing I've ever seen him, taking your hopeful analogy
Speaker 4: and being like, let me lawyer this real quick.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 1: It was funny because I shared a little bit of
Speaker 1: a thing in the instagram cut him off, and so
Speaker 1: many people were dming me like I wanted to hear
Speaker 1: his side, and I was.
Speaker 3: Like, oh, here, give them, give them what they want.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 4: You also brought up the snacks that y'all had, yes,
Speaker 4: which was a lot of snacks, healthy pre packed snacks.
Speaker 3: Mostly from the earth.
Speaker 2: Yeah, mostly from the earth.
Speaker 4: I had an interesting experience on my Haley and I
Speaker 4: went to Joshua Tree and by the way, it takes
Speaker 4: two and a half hours to get there.
Speaker 1: To take you six hours. Oh yeah, yeah with Phoebe.
Speaker 2: Car it was really bad. We left on Friday. It
Speaker 2: was so bad.
Speaker 4: Well, I don't know if people were Yeah, I think
Speaker 4: people were just like leaving la.
Speaker 2: I don't know if Vegas. Is that the same way
Speaker 2: you go?
Speaker 1: Yeah, it took us like eleven to get back from Tahoe.
Speaker 5: Eleven hours from Tahoe.
Speaker 4: That would send me eleven hours from Tahoe, I think
Speaker 4: would send me into.
Speaker 1: But it's like double triple what it should have been
Speaker 1: like yours.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's bad.
Speaker 4: Yeah, But Haley had ordered all of our groceries because
Speaker 4: we just got an airbnb and like we normally just
Speaker 4: like stand and cook and stuff. And it was all
Speaker 4: from like sprouts, which in Whole Foods, which is like healthy,
Speaker 4: you know. So I was like browsing the snacks on
Speaker 4: the app when she was ordering, thinking, my god, we're
Speaker 4: starting off the new year with organic only. I I
Speaker 4: got like pizza rolls and bagel bites, but they were
Speaker 4: like all natural ingredients.
Speaker 2: They're just still great.
Speaker 4: So that was like it kind of made me think
Speaker 4: like maybe I can do it, like not as so
Speaker 4: much a healthier life, not like a step up, a
Speaker 4: step a step forward.
Speaker 3: Progress progress, yes, Mecca.
Speaker 4: But I was thinking about how I love road trips
Speaker 4: and I love like the snacks on road trips, and
Speaker 4: I was thinking about Rob. Yeah, but he's healthy, so
Speaker 4: he is he is like he do.
Speaker 1: We are very similar. We're like food compatible. We do
Speaker 1: enjoy eating kind of the same way. But it is
Speaker 1: funny because I think I'm I'm like on the totally
Speaker 1: opposite of the pendulum right now because of my hashimotos.
Speaker 1: I'm so aware of like every little thing that I'm
Speaker 1: eating and I'm trying to just eat super like whole foods,
Speaker 1: not processed, super clean, and I like threw out all
Speaker 1: of our plastic tupperware and he was trying to like
Speaker 1: find tupperword to put the stuff in, and he was like,
Speaker 1: where's all of our stuff?
Speaker 2: I was like, so what are you using instead?
Speaker 1: Glass jars and like just like glass containers and.
Speaker 5: Why is that for anyone who's not familiar with the
Speaker 5: reasons to get rid of their tupperware.
Speaker 1: There's a lot of toxins and plastic anything, and so
Speaker 1: it's really bad when it's touching your food. So I
Speaker 1: donated it to the dog shelter with a lot of
Speaker 1: other Sunnies things. I didn't want to just toss in
Speaker 1: the trash. But it was really funny because he was
Speaker 1: like rummaging through and he was just like, where's all
Speaker 1: of our Yeah, you can use these amazing glass jars,
Speaker 1: Mason jars.
Speaker 2: He was not prepared for Tanya twenty three.
Speaker 4: Not prepared, but happy about it. Yeah, yeah, sure, he bumming.
Speaker 4: He's very willing to go along with all your things.
Speaker 3: Yeah my antics.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Yeah, he's in.
Speaker 4: It for because he knows he'll probably last for three
Speaker 4: to six months and then you're on to the next thing.
Speaker 3: So not true, Becca Tilly, Not true, Not with this one.
Speaker 1: This is gonna last a full year. Oh good, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's how long I have to give it.
Speaker 4: Well, I had the weirdest holiday season I think ever.
Speaker 4: This is the first well there's been one Christmas where
Speaker 4: I wasn't with family, but I was with my well
Speaker 4: I was with family, just like not my whole family.
Speaker 4: This is the first Christmas I wasn't with any family
Speaker 4: on Christmas.
Speaker 3: What do you want to tell us about that?
Speaker 4: In the second you mean after a break, yeah, yeah, break, Yeah,
Speaker 4: we can do that. So I think everyone had interesting
Speaker 4: Christmas holiday season this year, with like the winter storm
Speaker 4: in the Midwest and the eastle flights canceled flights like,
Speaker 4: oh my gosh.
Speaker 5: We were supposed to fly back from Wisconsin on Southwest
Speaker 5: and we panicked and just canceled it and bought a
Speaker 5: flight home on American. And I gotta say, because every
Speaker 5: airline will screw you at some point, it couldn't have
Speaker 5: gone smoother. Both flights left on time, bags were waiting
Speaker 5: for us when we got there. It was phenomenal. And
Speaker 5: our original Southwest flights that we canceled left three hours late,
Speaker 5: led to a half an hour before our connecting flight,
Speaker 5: and so I don't know that we would have made it.
Speaker 5: We may have gotten stranded in Phoenix all night.
Speaker 1: So yeah, it was wild. That's why I saw this happening.
Speaker 1: Our trip to Tahoe was like last minute, and Robbie's like,
Speaker 1: let's just fly into Reno, and I'm like, I am
Speaker 1: not flying anywhere right now because this is just mayhem.
Speaker 4: Well, I had booked my flight and was supposed to
Speaker 4: get their Christmas Eve in the morning, and then my sister, Heink,
Speaker 4: who's in Denver, her flight got canceled going out. So
Speaker 4: I was like, well, why don't you fly to l
Speaker 4: so that you're at least with me if anything happens,
Speaker 4: You're not like alone in Denver. So we book her
Speaker 4: flight on Southwest the night before that one gets canceled,
Speaker 4: and I had rebooked us to go on a flight
Speaker 4: together separate from my fight, So I canceled my original flight.
Speaker 4: That one made it to Louisiana. By the way, I
Speaker 4: wasn't on it because I canceled it so that I
Speaker 4: could be with my sister. She never made it to
Speaker 4: LA the flight. The flight I booked for us got canceled,
Speaker 4: and so I was like, you know what, I'm not
Speaker 4: going to stress about it. I'm with Haley's family, Like,
Speaker 4: I'm excited to spend Christmas with Haley. I'm not going
Speaker 4: to like panic. I'll see my family after Christmas. So
Speaker 4: I booked my flight to go home the day after Christmas.
Speaker 4: I on Christmas Day come down with the worst sore throat.
Speaker 4: I am not kidding. I have ever felt as an adult.
Speaker 4: I may have felt bad when I was a kid.
Speaker 2: I had that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I am not kidding. I cannot remember the last
Speaker 4: time my throat felt like this. I had no other symptoms,
Speaker 4: just like, didn't you want to speak, didn't even want
Speaker 4: to swallow my own spit.
Speaker 2: It was horrible. So this happens on Christmas night.
Speaker 4: So I don't even say bye to everyone because I'm
Speaker 4: so sick that I'm like, I don't even want to
Speaker 4: be near anybody. And all night I was just writhing
Speaker 4: in pain. And I got a doctor's appointment and went
Speaker 4: in immediately that morning, I had to cancel my flight.
Speaker 4: I was like, Okay, I can't even speak Haley was
Speaker 4: standing outside of the doctor's office and she heard me talking,
Speaker 4: but she was like, I'm not sure if this is
Speaker 4: Becca's room because that is not Becca's voice. And the
Speaker 4: doctor was asking Haley. She was like, I don't know
Speaker 4: if she tipped. Is this her normal voice? And she
Speaker 4: was like no, I've.
Speaker 1: Literally never heard this before.
Speaker 4: So she did, like a throat swab, give me a
Speaker 4: steroid shot, give me antibiotics, and within the next day,
Speaker 4: I was like significantly improved, but it was horrible. It
Speaker 4: with strep throat, which I got as a kid, like
Speaker 4: all the time. I haven't had it since then, and
Speaker 4: I'm just so grateful that I was able to get
Speaker 4: in and get medicine because I would have been like,
Speaker 4: it would have been worse. So I might go home tomorrow,
Speaker 4: I'm not sure.
Speaker 1: Unexpected plot twist.
Speaker 3: I got out of here.
Speaker 4: Bye, But it was it was a it was just
Speaker 4: like a different holiday, Like it was kind of weird.
Speaker 1: It was like hot here. Yeah, it was weird. Look,
Speaker 1: So we were going up to Tahoe the night before.
Speaker 1: We were driving. I'm up all night, every hour, I'm
Speaker 1: going to the bathroom and I'm like, are you freaking kidding? Me,
Speaker 1: I have a UTI the night before We're about to
Speaker 1: drive to Tahoe. I was like texting back at three
Speaker 1: o'clock in the morning.
Speaker 3: Used to get these all the time, all the time,
Speaker 3: but it's been so long.
Speaker 5: Knock on wood, the Uti is come.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 1: It was very it was very unexpected plot twist, and
Speaker 1: happy that it happened to twenty twenty two because I
Speaker 1: am not bringing that energy into twenty twenty three. Ugh no,
Speaker 1: but I like powered through. I like called my GUYO
Speaker 1: right away and like, these doctors are amazing. Like I
Speaker 1: called her office and then I was like, if it's
Speaker 1: an emergency, press eight, and I pressed eight. She's like hello,
Speaker 1: doctor Collins, And I was like what what.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I was like, wow, it's pretty amazing.
Speaker 3: I've never had like that before. I always got urgent care,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean.
Speaker 5: Yeahs call center.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but no, it wasn't after hours. I called like
Speaker 1: in the morning. It was like nine am or something.
Speaker 1: But yeah, it was pretty amazing. So I got my
Speaker 1: meds and I was like, you know what, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: do this. We're gonna do this. We're gonna we're gonna
Speaker 1: get there. We get there, Robbie. So excited ski. He
Speaker 1: like loves skiing. Veniver ski just the two of us
Speaker 1: because last time we had the kids.
Speaker 3: And we get there.
Speaker 1: The first day we get there, it's raining and like
Speaker 1: I don't know if you, I don't really know much
Speaker 1: about skiing and stuff, but you can't ski in the
Speaker 1: rain because it like it gets really slushy and I'm
Speaker 1: not like a good skier, and so everything was like closed.
Speaker 1: The wind was crazy, so they were closing all the
Speaker 1: whatever the thing's gondolas go through. So it's like it's fine, well,
Speaker 1: ski tomorrow. So we like played cards, got drunk and
Speaker 1: just had like a fun snow day. Right the next day,
Speaker 1: we won't wake up and it's like a blizzard.
Speaker 2: It is crazy.
Speaker 1: They're getting so they're getting pounded. Nothing is working on
Speaker 1: the mountains, geez. So we're snowed in again day two.
Speaker 1: So that day we actually like went like frolicked and
Speaker 1: like made like did all that.
Speaker 5: Like pictures are from Yeah, yeah, I got scrubbers. I
Speaker 5: heard from saying Tanya need to stop posting pictures.
Speaker 2: He's engaged.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, so I'm not engaged. I'm not hiding it
Speaker 1: would never hide that. We'll be very excited to not
Speaker 1: hide that.
Speaker 4: Say, like, out of all the people who would hide it.
Speaker 5: It was never gonna no anything.
Speaker 6: No.
Speaker 1: So yeah, so no, I'm not engaged, but you know,
Speaker 1: still really just feeling it, just feeling the energy, you know,
Speaker 1: just feeling the bejeweled energy, you know, manifestation.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, I have high plans.
Speaker 1: I have a lot of plans for twenty twenty three.
Speaker 1: So it's time to get.
Speaker 3: The show on the road. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm saying.
Speaker 4: I'm saying.
Speaker 2: I know what I'm saying. No, I can't do those
Speaker 2: plans until we got till we got joy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, till we're jeweled.
Speaker 1: So you know, okay, no pressure or anything, but sure,
Speaker 1: no pressure, No, no, no pressure.
Speaker 2: He's yeah, I'm sure you chill.
Speaker 3: Yeah, super chill.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm basically like ice Queen, like the ice cool. Yeah.
Speaker 4: We So every time we go on a New Year's trip,
Speaker 4: we typically just do nothing in rest, and it was
Speaker 4: this year was we did nothing. Like Caroline, my sister
Speaker 4: had gotten Haley, this paint by numbers thing for which
Speaker 4: is first all.
Speaker 1: The fact that your sister got Haley that like made
Speaker 1: me emotional.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was really that it's really cute.
Speaker 4: She got it for her in April for her birthday,
Speaker 4: and when we opened it, it was so many tiny
Speaker 4: numbers that we both kind of just rolled it back
Speaker 4: up and we're like, we'll revisit, and so I was
Speaker 4: we were talking about it and Haley before we left,
Speaker 4: she was like, we should bring like a puzzle or
Speaker 4: something to work on. I was like, what about that
Speaker 4: paint by numbers thing? So we opened it, and Haley's
Speaker 4: very much like she loves painting, but she doesn't like
Speaker 4: any rules or restrictions, so like that was very stressful
Speaker 4: for her, whereas I like rules and like borders, like
Speaker 4: I always did well in art if I had.
Speaker 1: Like color inside.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, So I just like I'm talking for however
Speaker 4: long five days, I just would like sit and work
Speaker 4: on it, like while we were just relaxing, listen to music,
Speaker 4: and it is the coolest thing. We finished it last
Speaker 4: night and I'm gonna frame it. But it was like
Speaker 4: I had the best time, and I was thinking if
Speaker 4: I was if I lived alone and I was just
Speaker 4: like single, and I would make myself dinner and get
Speaker 4: one of those things and just sit and listen to
Speaker 4: music and or listen to podcasts and just really I
Speaker 4: loved it.
Speaker 2: I learned a lot about myself on this trip.
Speaker 1: What did you What else did you learn?
Speaker 4: I also started reading this book called The Untethered Soul. Oh,
Speaker 4: I'm I need you to read it after I'm done.
Speaker 4: Was I'm just on chapter I'm like on the first
Speaker 4: couple chapters. It's just about like learning about yourself and
Speaker 4: like finding peace. The first chapter is talking about your
Speaker 4: inner voice, like do y'all I'm assuming y'all have like
Speaker 4: inner dialogue, like if you're in a situation. I did
Speaker 4: this a lot while I was like dealing with difficult
Speaker 4: things in my relationship with Haley, like navigating telling people
Speaker 4: or whatever. I would have these internal conversations about how
Speaker 4: it would go, and I would play both roles.
Speaker 2: Do you'll do that? I do this with everything?
Speaker 1: And how's exhausting.
Speaker 2: I think you if you're once, you're aware of it.
Speaker 2: I think you realize you do it.
Speaker 4: But he's talking about your inner voice and how if
Speaker 4: if you personified your inner voice, like if you like
Speaker 4: personified that person, gave it a name, and you pretended
Speaker 4: that you were hanging out with him, you would be
Speaker 4: like I am so annoyed by this person.
Speaker 2: They have a thought on everything.
Speaker 4: They're always like doubting or not trusting something, or they
Speaker 4: always have like a negative response if something's like you
Speaker 4: should you know? For me, my inner voice sometimes is
Speaker 4: like don't do that, like what if it goes wrong
Speaker 4: or what if someone has reaction to it? And so
Speaker 4: it was saying like if you personified that voice, you
Speaker 4: would never keep them around. You'd be like, I gotta
Speaker 4: give this person out of my life. And how annoying
Speaker 4: it is and how crucial it is that we like
Speaker 4: listen to that voice so often and there's no truth
Speaker 4: to it.
Speaker 2: It's like our own thing made up.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but it's so fascinating and I can't wait to
Speaker 4: finish it. I saw this girl that I love on Instagram,
Speaker 4: Amber filler Up, and she recommended she's like a changed
Speaker 4: my life.
Speaker 1: I would love to change my life. That's part of
Speaker 1: the renaissance. Pass that book on over red Rover.
Speaker 4: But anyways, I'm I really enjoyed reading. I just loved
Speaker 4: being I was on my phone, like I took photos
Speaker 4: and stuff, and like I was on social media but
Speaker 4: not I like spent so much time off of it,
Speaker 4: and I loved it. I had the best time.
Speaker 3: Great, I love that.
Speaker 1: Can't wait to get the book, can't wait to give
Speaker 1: it to you. No, another book is coming out in January.
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's talk about it. Should we take a break
Speaker 2: and come back?
Speaker 8: And I know there's so.
Speaker 1: Much that I feel like, there's so much more that
Speaker 1: I want to talk about, because like we haven't seen
Speaker 1: each other in like a really long time, and like
Speaker 1: there's just so much to get to. Like I don't
Speaker 1: know what order to go in, but I guess we always.
Speaker 3: Have next week.
Speaker 2: There's always next week.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the good thing.
Speaker 2: Let's take a break and we'll come back with the
Speaker 2: sunshine mine.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So before we went on a break, we were saying,
Speaker 4: there's another book coming out soon.
Speaker 1: There's another book coming out soon jan thirty one, Jan
Speaker 1: three to one.
Speaker 5: That's four weeks from today to you and me, it's
Speaker 5: so crazy.
Speaker 2: It's happening.
Speaker 1: It's happening. It's like so crazy. Because I was kind
Speaker 1: of gearing up for stuff around the holidays. I took
Speaker 1: time off. I took like a the two weeks from
Speaker 1: Christmas to New Year, and I was like, I really
Speaker 1: need to get some book stuff done off my plate
Speaker 1: because come Jan, come Jen one, it's gonna be full
Speaker 1: steam ahead. And I'm really glad I did that because
Speaker 1: now it's like not so overwhelming, but it's like so like,
Speaker 1: we just have so much coming up.
Speaker 3: We're gonna do a book signing at the.
Speaker 2: Grove that is so cool.
Speaker 3: It's gonna be so cool.
Speaker 1: So that's gonna happen, and then we're gonna be on
Speaker 1: Good Morning America.
Speaker 2: I mean that was so epic, I know.
Speaker 1: So it's like just kind of gearing up for all
Speaker 1: of all of the fun of it, the excite, I mean,
Speaker 1: all of it's like really fun and exciting, but it's just, yeah,
Speaker 1: the release, the release, it's like so much build up,
Speaker 1: so much time, so much energy, so much effort into
Speaker 1: this project, and like now it's like here, Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: like happening. It's almost like I'm giving birth, you know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it really you're giving birth.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because you've been working on this for a long
Speaker 4: time years and it's finally come to fruition.
Speaker 1: It has come to ruition. Twenty twenty three, twenty twenty three,
Speaker 1: I'm going to be a published author. Wow, New York
Speaker 1: Times best selling auth that's right, that's right. Fingers crossed.
Speaker 1: But I did have a confession to make okay, so
Speaker 1: I said on the podcast, which was like, I can't remember.
Speaker 1: A couple of months ago, I was like, oh my gosh, Oh,
Speaker 1: I thought you're gonna do the drum roll. No, it's
Speaker 1: really not that big of a yeah, it's a little
Speaker 1: bit of.
Speaker 5: A long drum roll.
Speaker 1: I think I have more gray hairs than I thought.
Speaker 1: A couple of months ago, I was getting my hair
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh my gosh, I found my
Speaker 1: first gray.
Speaker 3: This is so exciting.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you were excited.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I cut it out.
Speaker 1: I had tawny like cut it out of my head.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh yeah, I saved that sucker. And
Speaker 1: I did a melt before the holidays to give my
Speaker 1: hair a break from the bleach before I like ramp
Speaker 1: up because I'm gonna go full blue each for the
Speaker 1: book release. Oh wow yeah yeah, yeah, she's gonna be
Speaker 1: real blonde for a book launch week. But so I
Speaker 1: did give my hair a break over the holidays, and
Speaker 1: so my roots are like really brown, and I'm seeing
Speaker 1: so many more.
Speaker 3: Grays in there now.
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, maybe it's because my hair is darker.
Speaker 1: I can see them more, and I couldn't see them
Speaker 1: before because my hair was so blonde. But there's like
Speaker 1: a lot of grays in there. Well, I mean I
Speaker 1: don't even welcome, like definitely a handful or more.
Speaker 4: Well, yeah, I mean, I'm sure when your hair is
Speaker 4: like bleach blonde, you don't see gray hair.
Speaker 8: I know.
Speaker 1: But it made me more aware of I guess my
Speaker 1: age because I always feel like I'm twenty five too.
Speaker 4: Well, I feel twenty seven. That's like my age, That's
Speaker 4: what I say, twenty six.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel twenty five like I feel twenty five.
Speaker 1: And then I saw those hairs and I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I'm in my thirties.
Speaker 2: We are indeed in our thirties.
Speaker 3: Mid thirties.
Speaker 1: I am in my mid thirties, and here we are.
Speaker 4: You may I got my first gray hairs a like
Speaker 4: twenty three, So I'm like way wiser than you, et cetera.
Speaker 2: Way wiser, so way wiser.
Speaker 1: So that was my confession. And then I also watched
Speaker 1: a lot of stuff over the holidays.
Speaker 2: What I just remembered? What did you watch?
Speaker 3: What did you remember?
Speaker 1: I watched so many things, like we could watch we
Speaker 1: could talk about the Harry and Meghan documentary. We could
Speaker 1: talk about the Recruit, we.
Speaker 5: Could talk about Glass Onion.
Speaker 1: Glass Onion, we could talk about Matilda the musical. We
Speaker 1: could talk about else. I watched, Oh, we started watching
Speaker 1: the show you posted about Sisters. Yeah, and then we're
Speaker 1: going to watch Kaleidoscope too.
Speaker 4: Okay, I want to watch Kaleidoscope. The only thing I
Speaker 4: watched that you listed was Glass Onion. I saw that
Speaker 4: in theaters a few so lame.
Speaker 1: I hated it too. I loved fun.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I know, I had no issue with the second one.
Speaker 5: I thought it was really fun.
Speaker 1: I do have a confession about that movie, which won
Speaker 1: the first one, the second, the.
Speaker 2: Second one, the Glass Onion.
Speaker 4: We saw it in theaters and I may or may
Speaker 4: not have taken an edible before, thinking like this could
Speaker 4: be fun. I got so anxious in the theater and thought,
Speaker 4: what if I I literally I don't do this normally
Speaker 4: want to take an edible because I think I'm just
Speaker 4: at home, comfortable in my house. I was like, what
Speaker 4: if I can't get out of here in the theater,
Speaker 4: Like what if I can't get out of the theater?
Speaker 4: Like and then we were in the middle section, like
Speaker 4: we were right in the middle of the road, So would.
Speaker 1: To be able to get out of the theater that's
Speaker 1: like there's doors.
Speaker 4: I don't know I could. I just my brain was
Speaker 4: like doing its thing. So I had the worst experience
Speaker 4: watching that movie. So and then on top of that,
Speaker 4: I hated the movie.
Speaker 5: So I was just like all of it was like
Speaker 5: this you or was you the edible responsible for the movie?
Speaker 4: That's a good question, But I Haley also didn't like it,
Speaker 4: So I wonder if also those expectations, like when you
Speaker 4: pay money and go to a theater, you have a
Speaker 4: certain amount of expectation.
Speaker 5: I watched it on a plane on Netflix on my
Speaker 5: iPad and I found it delightful because I'm just killing
Speaker 5: time on Yeah, so that might be a difference there.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I watched it at home and it was bad.
Speaker 4: But I'm kind of like when I go to a theater,
Speaker 4: my expectations really, I'm like, I have popcorn and candy
Speaker 4: and a drink. I'm chilling, like I'm honestly happy, no
Speaker 4: matter what the problem was. I ate all my food
Speaker 4: before we were even like halfway through the movie, So
Speaker 4: then I was just anxious and like full, what's.
Speaker 5: Your beef with it. Tony didn't really articulate properly.
Speaker 3: What like articulated because it's so so bad.
Speaker 5: I like, you're not part of this discussion.
Speaker 7: I know.
Speaker 6: I loved it. I love the Yes. I watched it
Speaker 6: on Netflix and my wife and I loved it every
Speaker 6: second of it. I thought it was such a fun
Speaker 6: improvement from the first movie.
Speaker 2: Fun improvement. Interesting, that was a step up.
Speaker 6: Wow, the tone had changed completely, Yes, and it was
Speaker 6: I mean much like the first movie was making fun
Speaker 6: of like old money and stuff like that. I thought
Speaker 6: this was a really fun way to make fun of,
Speaker 6: like you know, the the Tesla's and then netflixes and things,
Speaker 6: the disruptors I love.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I did like that.
Speaker 6: Take an air out of those things. I thought it
Speaker 6: was really funny. And I love who Done It's. I
Speaker 6: love mysteries. I love that kind of garbage. I love
Speaker 6: those kind of archetypes, all of those characters. I had
Speaker 6: a great time.
Speaker 4: Wow, all right, well, fifty to fifty here in the
Speaker 4: scrubbing in room.
Speaker 1: Maybe sound off scrubbers, yea.
Speaker 5: But she was laying on the beach. I probably not.
Speaker 4: Hana was living her best life in the life, She's
Speaker 4: living her best life now she was.
Speaker 3: Still another podcast.
Speaker 2: Okay, well we watch.
Speaker 4: Let me just say, since I think my attention span
Speaker 4: has clapped since I've had TikTok, which I'm trying to limit.
Speaker 3: As well, Yeah, I have something too.
Speaker 1: I'll get to after you, okay.
Speaker 4: And so we started watching, and so Haley will start
Speaker 4: a series and if I'm not instantly hooked, I can't
Speaker 4: like pay attention, so I'll just like play on my
Speaker 4: phone or something and she'll watch the whole thing and
Speaker 4: I'll just like to jime in when I can or
Speaker 4: want to. But we started Bad Sisters. It's on Apple TV,
Speaker 4: you guys. It was one of the best shows I
Speaker 4: have watched in a very long time because then I
Speaker 4: watched it.
Speaker 1: So we watched the first episode and I was hooked.
Speaker 3: I was like, I want to watch it.
Speaker 4: It is everything. It has everything you could want to show.
Speaker 4: It has everything that I would want to show. It
Speaker 4: had like the sisters, the sister relationship, which I thought
Speaker 4: was so funny.
Speaker 2: They're all Irish, so like the accents for great.
Speaker 4: I just love that it's funny, but it's dark and
Speaker 4: like it is just incredible.
Speaker 3: I really like the first episode.
Speaker 4: I can't recommend the show enough if you have time
Speaker 4: and want to binge a show Bad Sisters on Apple TV.
Speaker 3: Yeah, give yeah. I'm excited to finish.
Speaker 2: And like, I think there's gonna be a season two.
Speaker 4: But I have mixed feelings about it because I'm like,
Speaker 4: it was so good.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I always get weird about like sequels and season twos.
Speaker 4: So that's a little bit about me.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the list is going to go on and on
Speaker 1: and on, but this one. So in my new person
Speaker 1: suit of my health, health is wealth in twenty twenty three,
Speaker 1: healing from the inside out.
Speaker 3: You are what you eat. Yeah, okay, it's my mentality.
Speaker 2: It's not always been is this, but it's.
Speaker 3: Newer because I'm so.
Speaker 2: Focused on like something specific.
Speaker 1: Something specific like beating my hashimotos okay, like in a
Speaker 1: non medical way.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So I started, I was like, I we were in
Speaker 1: Tahoe and this like pizza place had all there. They
Speaker 1: were like, we can do any of our pizzas gluten
Speaker 1: free for you, Like they were so accommodating, and I
Speaker 1: was like, first of all, I think the waiter that
Speaker 1: we had was the best waiter I've ever had my
Speaker 1: entire life.
Speaker 3: I love that yeah, gave him like the biggest no boot.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it was this shoot tied on no better
Speaker 1: than no boot because he was just so like not
Speaker 1: just on it, but like kind and courteous and just
Speaker 1: like all I was like, wow, like we literally robb me.
Speaker 3: I could stop talking, like remember.
Speaker 5: His name because you should shout this guy out.
Speaker 1: It was two there was two guys on the he
Speaker 1: wrote like two names. I think it was like Brian
Speaker 1: and Evan on the bill, so.
Speaker 5: I don't know which one was.
Speaker 1: But I was like we were eating our eating it
Speaker 1: and we were like, oh my gosh, this gluten free
Speaker 1: pizza was like amazing.
Speaker 3: It was so good.
Speaker 1: And I was like, after I've been like doing all
Speaker 1: this stuff and I've been posting about it, people are
Speaker 1: very curious and want to know more about like gluten
Speaker 1: free options and like all this gluten free stuff, and
Speaker 1: it's like very undersaturated, Like there's not like I have
Speaker 1: to do all this research. I'm just doing it on
Speaker 1: my own. Like I'm just buying all the different things
Speaker 1: and seeing what I like best. And so I'm like
Speaker 1: going to be the gluten free gal. Might start a
Speaker 1: TikTok of gluten free gal and like rate all my
Speaker 1: experiences at different places that I go to about like
Speaker 1: how gluten friendly they are, best products that I'm consuming,
Speaker 1: Like I'm going to be one of those TikTokers that's
Speaker 1: like rating my gluten free life.
Speaker 4: I love that for you. I love it for me too,
Speaker 4: great idea. I think it's very helpful.
Speaker 1: It's so helpful because I've been doing all this research.
Speaker 1: I'm like doing all this research and I can't find anything.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, I'll just be the guinea pig and
Speaker 1: start doing it myself.
Speaker 2: And you know what's crazy is like Blaize new Child.
Speaker 1: Yeah, watch, there's like fifty others going free lifestyle has
Speaker 1: been around for a minute.
Speaker 8: But I love that.
Speaker 2: You'll have your own take on it, the Tanya take.
Speaker 3: The Tanya take. Yeah, but it was I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm very like into it, like very very interested in
Speaker 1: this whole world.
Speaker 2: Do you know who Alex Earl is?
Speaker 8: Yes?
Speaker 1: Why do I know her? I follow her on Instagram?
Speaker 2: Oh on Instagram? Yeah, she's blown up on TikTok. She's
Speaker 2: are you talking about that?
Speaker 1: She's like young Montera. She was just like on a
Speaker 1: yacht somewhere. Yeah, it has.
Speaker 4: Been fascinating because I am a thirty four year old
Speaker 4: woman and she's like twenty two or twenty three, I
Speaker 4: don't know.
Speaker 2: She's like he's young, still in college.
Speaker 4: And I find myself watching every video she makes, and
Speaker 4: there's nothing like it's like get ready with me videos.
Speaker 4: There's nothing like groundbreaking about what she does, right, But
Speaker 4: I think it's a fact that she does it in
Speaker 4: a way that's very like she's very open about like
Speaker 4: anything she's had done, she has, like she's struggled with acne.
Speaker 2: She talks about her acne shows. You know, she's just
Speaker 2: very like it feels like you're with.
Speaker 1: Your friend, Yeah that's nice, or a young yeah, young galpal.
Speaker 2: But it's fascinating, like she's just blown up.
Speaker 4: And she did a live where she was talking about
Speaker 4: her breakup with her boyfriend who's a major league baseball player.
Speaker 8: Oh my, and she.
Speaker 4: Was just talking like she was just talking like she
Speaker 4: was on FaceTime with her best friends, but she's on
Speaker 4: a TikTok live and she was just basically saying like
Speaker 4: he wouldn't post photos of her on his Instagram, like
Speaker 4: they went to.
Speaker 2: A wedding and he posted throw me.
Speaker 4: He posts like they took a bunch of photos together
Speaker 4: and he posted just a photo of himself, and she
Speaker 4: was like, what the heck?
Speaker 2: Like why won't he post me?
Speaker 4: And I think he he had she she mentioned, like
Speaker 4: he had a hard time with like the social media
Speaker 4: world like her blowing up so fast, and and then
Speaker 4: all these people are now like dragging this guy who
Speaker 4: probably was just like I don't know what his story is,
Speaker 4: but she and so she releases it.
Speaker 2: She's like, don't be mean to him.
Speaker 4: Like I'm still getting used to this world of like
Speaker 4: being having these this many So.
Speaker 3: Are you saying that I should.
Speaker 1: Talk to emulate my freaking out like I would like
Speaker 1: Alex Earl.
Speaker 4: Yeah, very different vibe what y'all will be doing, but
Speaker 4: like I think the same tone of just like it
Speaker 4: being your just your experience and not making it too
Speaker 4: aesthetic or whatever.
Speaker 3: I'm not an esthetic.
Speaker 1: I know that about you, So I don't have an aesthetic.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you, I think you'll do really well
Speaker 1: with that.
Speaker 3: Wow, Like that unabridged is that the right word?
Speaker 2: Unfiltered?
Speaker 3: Varnished, unfiltered?
Speaker 2: Did you know unfiltered was my word for last year?
Speaker 3: I didn't even know that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I didn't remember. I went back and listened to
Speaker 2: a podcast.
Speaker 5: What's your Word for twenty three? I know Tanya's renaissance.
Speaker 2: I think that mine. I don't have a word.
Speaker 5: Wow, no word, it's just don't.
Speaker 1: Know word, no no direction. Well I just didn't have
Speaker 1: lessly living through twenty twenty three.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: But I also I think if a word comes up
Speaker 4: where I'm like, that's my word, it doesn't have to
Speaker 4: be like right now, like it can.
Speaker 2: I don't want to just throw out a word. To
Speaker 2: throw out a word.
Speaker 3: You know you know it? Though?
Speaker 2: Do you know it?
Speaker 3: I think you do?
Speaker 4: Do you know?
Speaker 2: One? For me is that you're thinking about?
Speaker 1: No, I think in your gut you know one right now? No,
Speaker 1: I really don't have I think you do.
Speaker 4: Okay, Well, if it comes to me like it's come to.
Speaker 1: You, like think about like that water works that you
Speaker 1: were doing Paint by numbers. Yeah, you're in this. You're
Speaker 1: in a very content place.
Speaker 2: I like contentment.
Speaker 4: That was like one word I was thinking about the
Speaker 4: whole time I was in Joshua Trees a contentment.
Speaker 1: It's like I'm a a w S wizard wordsmith. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I just know you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I told you.
Speaker 3: Oh, I'll say it for next week.
Speaker 2: I told, well, that's a tease. I'm curious, what is it?
Speaker 1: Well, because I haven't given you your Christmas gift yet.
Speaker 1: Your Christmas gift was not ready in time, doesn't have
Speaker 1: a word on it for me. Yeah. So what I
Speaker 1: did this year for like my best friends is I
Speaker 1: thought of a word that I saw for them in
Speaker 1: twenty twenty three, the word that I want, like that
Speaker 1: I saw for them, like in their lives. And I
Speaker 1: spent a lot of time thinking about these words for them,
Speaker 1: and so I got, well, I don't tell you what
Speaker 1: it is, but it has the word on it time.
Speaker 5: This is the New Year's show. Shouldn't you tell her?
Speaker 1: Yeaht me tell you what it is. The word that
Speaker 1: I fiked for you harmony.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, I love that. That's a great word. Maybe
Speaker 2: that's maybe I just take your.
Speaker 1: Thought for me and and I would be honored if
Speaker 1: you took it.
Speaker 2: Harmony.
Speaker 1: I love that, I know, because it's just like really
Speaker 1: embodies I feel like where you're at. But also your goal,
Speaker 1: Like your goal is just like harmony. Everybody getting along,
Speaker 1: everybody like Yeah, wow, I love that.
Speaker 2: I can't wait to see what.
Speaker 1: Robbie helped a lot with that one, because I was
Speaker 1: like I had like the essence I just couldn't think of,
Speaker 1: like I couldn't condense it down.
Speaker 3: Thanks Robby Ying and Yang.
Speaker 1: You know, yeah, that's what we are, A team, team,
Speaker 1: a team where team team partners.
Speaker 3: Yeah, partners.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's a partner.
Speaker 3: He's a partner.
Speaker 2: What are things you're leaving behind in twenty twenty three.
Speaker 1: That's a great question, Becka. I'm leaving gluten behind.
Speaker 2: No gluten behind. Yeah, yeah, gone, Yeah, she's really gone.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm also trying to like be less stressy. I
Speaker 1: get very stressy about stuff. Like even when we were
Speaker 1: driving back from Tahoe, I was like the roads were
Speaker 1: all closed and took us eleven hours, and I was
Speaker 1: like panicking that we're gonna to spend the night and
Speaker 1: then I'm going through my brain of like I'm gonna
Speaker 1: have to send my trending reports to Sam to type
Speaker 1: up and send into Mark and like I'm going just
Speaker 1: so far down the line. And we ended up getting
Speaker 1: home the same day, you know what I mean. So
Speaker 1: I was just like panicking, and I got mad at Robbie.
Speaker 4: And this is the thing about this book I'm reading
Speaker 4: that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Tell me what is it?
Speaker 2: What's talking about?
Speaker 4: How that inner voice is just like always a like
Speaker 4: it's always there and you can't like once you're able
Speaker 4: to separate it from yourself and go like you're not real,
Speaker 4: Like what you're what you're doing is not actually happening
Speaker 4: right now, it's.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you, guys, this is the Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna set the scene for you. We pull up and
Speaker 1: there's about one hundred cars stopped right and there's like
Speaker 1: a little police I don't know, it's not a car,
Speaker 1: but it's like a little police stop, and one by one,
Speaker 1: the first car in the row is stopping at the
Speaker 1: policeman stop and then turning right around and going back,
Speaker 1: so basically meaning we'd have to go back the two
Speaker 1: and a half hours we already drove back into town
Speaker 1: and I'm sitting here and we're like one hundred cars deep.
Speaker 1: So I'm like and Robbie's like, should we just turn
Speaker 1: around now? And why are we waiting to get to
Speaker 1: the front to then turn around, you know, And He's like, no,
Speaker 1: let's just wait it out. Let's see cause they're was
Speaker 1: like one car that went You're like hmm, one out
Speaker 1: of like a hundred. And then we roll up, roll
Speaker 1: down the window, and uh, Robbie's like, tell me the
Speaker 1: good news first, and he's like, where are you guys headed?
Speaker 1: And we're like la, and he goes go on, oh wow,
Speaker 1: let's us through. And I was like this whole time,
Speaker 1: that whole weight in that line. I'm sitting here thinking
Speaker 1: how stressed I am. I have to like all this
Speaker 1: stuff with Sonny. You have to can't talk to her babysitter,
Speaker 1: make sure that they're you know. I mean like I'm
Speaker 1: going through all these things. We're not getting home. We're
Speaker 1: not getting home. And I didn't need to do any
Speaker 1: of it. And I was getting mad at him. I
Speaker 1: was like, we're never coming up to the mountain fountains.
Speaker 3: Again, Like this is so dumb.
Speaker 1: And my I could have saved myself twenty minutes of
Speaker 1: the like panic, Yeah, I just been chill. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: need more chill in my life.
Speaker 4: It's like kind of like letting go of control really,
Speaker 4: because like you didn't have control over the situation right
Speaker 4: regardless of what happened, So it's kind of like you
Speaker 4: don't have control like everything that's gonna happen is going
Speaker 4: to happen, whether you're you're like ready for it or not.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think my mind was in like I said,
Speaker 1: we should just go to Santa Barbara, And I'm like,
Speaker 1: if we would have gone Santa Barbara had this problem,
Speaker 1: it would have been snowed in and like you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, not where like my mind goes. But
Speaker 1: it's again, it's not a good place to be because
Speaker 1: like we're here, you know. Yeah, it's interesting, it's interesting,
Speaker 1: our little new one. You're leaving stress behind.
Speaker 3: I'm trying.
Speaker 1: Okay, she's trying.
Speaker 2: She's got a tight gruss, she got really hold on.
Speaker 1: I live my life being high strong, So this is
Speaker 1: gonna be tough. Yeah, well on clench.
Speaker 5: Well, I have something for us that might be a
Speaker 5: nice way to wrap up the New Year's show. This
Speaker 5: from Caitlin Shippy, who sent this to me as a
Speaker 5: DM on Instagram just before Christmas. She said, I just
Speaker 5: wanted to email in to say that the podcast had
Speaker 5: to mention in my wedding speech yesterday. Wow, I I
Speaker 5: as the South African Tanya stood by myself African Becca,
Speaker 5: as she said, I do. I thank her for being
Speaker 5: the Beckett and my Tanya in my wedding speech, I
Speaker 5: just wanted to say thank you for touching our hearts
Speaker 5: on a weekly basis. We have often discussed how we
Speaker 5: listen to your podcast if we're having a bad day.
Speaker 5: Here is the audio from the actual wedding speech in
Speaker 5: South Africa.
Speaker 1: And also, thank you for always being made me.
Speaker 2: Your friendship does mean.
Speaker 8: A lot to see.
Speaker 6: And last but not least, my Dix, thank you for
Speaker 6: being the becket to my Tanya.
Speaker 1: You are the most selfless person on this planet.
Speaker 8: I don't know what I would do without you.
Speaker 2: My He's ask everyone to raise their glasses.
Speaker 6: To toast the new couple.
Speaker 5: Congratulations, Hi, congratulations. I think that's so sweet. Is just
Speaker 5: the best And you can almost hear the crowd going, who.
Speaker 2: Mark, that doesn't matter?
Speaker 1: Mark, that was so unnecessary, Like what a blow to
Speaker 1: the end of the show.
Speaker 5: No, it's so sweet.
Speaker 3: I'm very out of our say.
Speaker 5: I thought that was really nice. I love the effect
Speaker 5: that you two have had on your listeners all over
Speaker 5: the world. Have you ever been to South Africa, either
Speaker 5: one of you? No, Well, look at that there are
Speaker 5: South Africans praising you. Guys. Is the inspiration for their relationship.
Speaker 5: And I love that South African.
Speaker 1: Actually, I know.
Speaker 4: It'd be so nice. It's just so peaceful, it's so sweet.
Speaker 4: I love that so much.
Speaker 1: You know what, scrubbing in or scrubbers. We are going
Speaker 1: to deliver in twenty twenty three. We are going to deliver.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we are, We're going to deliver.
Speaker 4: Speaking of, one thing I'm leaving behind in twenty twenty
Speaker 4: three is not getting fast food delivered. Like, if I
Speaker 4: want to have fast food, then I have to get
Speaker 4: up and go get it.
Speaker 2: And I just think, thank you because I think that.
Speaker 4: If it's not fast enough for me to get in
Speaker 4: my car and sit in a drive through to get it,
Speaker 4: then I don't need it.
Speaker 2: Good for you, Thank you so much.
Speaker 5: You're gonna save money, You're gonna save calories in the
Speaker 5: long term. I like it.
Speaker 6: It tastes better when it's fresh.
Speaker 2: It's so much better. Fries bye, Yeah, Saggia Frieser bye.
Speaker 5: They're twenty two, twenty.
Speaker 1: Two two and late two thousand lame.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So that was just you've set me up with the
Speaker 2: delivery delivering.
Speaker 1: Wow. I mean, what a great goal.
Speaker 4: Thank you so much for I have other goals too,
Speaker 4: but I was just one that felt, what are you
Speaker 4: all leaving behind?
Speaker 2: Mark and Easton?
Speaker 4: What's one thing you're leaving behind and one thing you're
Speaker 4: wanting to do in twenty twenty.
Speaker 6: Three, I am leaving behind doing saying yes to everything
Speaker 6: that comes across my desk because I don't need to.
Speaker 6: And you know, I said no to someone this morning
Speaker 6: and it felt so good. It may have involved another
Speaker 6: podcast that we do, and I was very happy to
Speaker 6: say no to that. And what is something I'm bringing
Speaker 6: into twenty twenty three As I'm going to bed earlier?
Speaker 6: Dang it, I'm getting more sleep. I went to bed
Speaker 6: early last night. It felt so good when I woke
Speaker 6: up at four am today and getting sleep is number
Speaker 6: one baby.
Speaker 3: You know what's so funny?
Speaker 1: I had that like giddy feeling last night because we've
Speaker 1: been off for like two weeks and so I like
Speaker 1: get I get that giddy like first day back at
Speaker 1: school thing. Like last night, I couldn't go to sleep
Speaker 1: till like eleven PM, and like Robbie was like, you
Speaker 1: need to go to sleep. We're waking up early.
Speaker 3: I was like I can't.
Speaker 1: Like but what if it's what if the roads are
Speaker 1: you know, still wet in the morning and there's any
Speaker 1: more traffic.
Speaker 4: Sho.
Speaker 1: I set my alarm earlier, like, I'm like, I've never
Speaker 1: done this before.
Speaker 3: It's so funny.
Speaker 2: I love that. That means you're doing something you love.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was very giddy last night, but now I'm
Speaker 1: tired because.
Speaker 4: I imagine most people had like the well Monday scaries
Speaker 4: of like going back, you know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I imagine most people felt that. But I love
Speaker 2: that you were giddy.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I was like packed all my stuff. I
Speaker 1: packed my you know, like my normally my clothes in
Speaker 1: the bathroom so that I could like change, you know,
Speaker 1: I did my whole routine.
Speaker 3: It was fun.
Speaker 2: Mark.
Speaker 5: I'm looking for simplicity in twenty twenty three, a little
Speaker 5: bit more calmness, because having two teenagers is very hectic,
Speaker 5: especially when one they're both performers and they've got shows
Speaker 5: and rehearsals and fittings and all this kind of crazy
Speaker 5: stuff going on. It can be very hectic in house.
Speaker 5: So I want things to be simple, calm.
Speaker 1: People are wanting a lot more peace and calmness in
Speaker 1: the new year. I find that to be a theme.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
Speaker 5: Yeah. It was a lovely break, very relaxing, We had
Speaker 5: lots of fun stuff in Wisconsin. It was really fun.
Speaker 5: We went duck pin bowling. You probably don't even know
Speaker 5: what that is. Nobody seems to. It's like bowling, but miniature.
Speaker 5: It's like miniature bowling. Nope, no ducks involved.
Speaker 6: Really tiny ball right, like a shot put.
Speaker 5: Tiny ball like a shot put, tiny pins, short lane
Speaker 5: and actual teenagers behind the pins setting them back up
Speaker 5: for you. And it was so fun. We lost every
Speaker 5: went sledding, we built the Snowman. We did really fun stuff.
Speaker 5: We watched about one hundred episodes of Family Food because
Speaker 5: my god, there is never a time of day family
Speaker 5: feud is not on television.
Speaker 1: I know it's we should make that a goal of
Speaker 1: if they do not though they do some sort of
Speaker 1: family feuds, but like show style, we should get on it.
Speaker 2: I feel like that's a that's achievable.
Speaker 1: You think so, yeah, I think it'd be so fun
Speaker 1: like the podcast, Yeah, Family, Yeah, it'd be so fun.
Speaker 5: Steve Harvey is very good.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's really really Yeah.
Speaker 3: So timing is just like perfect.
Speaker 5: Yeah, a lot of family feud, a lot of crossroad puzzles,
Speaker 5: very chilling, and want to pull that chill into the
Speaker 5: new year.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's all I felt too, of like the like
Speaker 4: because Haley and I both said, it's just been so
Speaker 4: nice to rest.
Speaker 2: I can do nothing, and I was like, we should
Speaker 2: do this more.
Speaker 1: Like I know, I feel like it's so we jam
Speaker 1: pack our schedule.
Speaker 3: Yes, it's why.
Speaker 2: It's like not you can't say no, but you really can.
Speaker 1: Like it's but you can't, so then you do, and
Speaker 1: then you run yourself tired, and then you're running on empty.
Speaker 2: Then you have strap throat on Christmas Day and now to.
Speaker 1: Go to the dingy gas station. Yeah, just a bad cycle.
Speaker 1: Dingy dingy rickety chicken rickety rick rickety slickety rick well
Speaker 1: rinckety dick.
Speaker 2: I don't think we have time for emails.
Speaker 5: I don't do it either.
Speaker 3: It's okay.
Speaker 2: I mean, it's up to you do whatever we.
Speaker 5: Want, right, we do want emails. We have to take
Speaker 5: another break up to you guys, but it's twenty three.
Speaker 5: I don't know one of the I feel like.
Speaker 1: Describers would like an email.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I love you.
Speaker 2: We'll take another break and we'll be back with email.
Speaker 1: You're right back, really.
Speaker 5: All right?
Speaker 4: We can't in the first episode of the year without
Speaker 4: an email.
Speaker 3: Nope, we can't.
Speaker 5: Anonymous says advice needed. Should I break up with my boyfriend? Well, honestly,
Speaker 5: if just the fact that you're asking us that question
Speaker 5: is probably a yes. But let's look at the evidence.
Speaker 5: I've been dating my boyfriend two and a half years.
Speaker 5: We moved in to get the last year into a
Speaker 5: new house that he bought. We haven't had the most
Speaker 5: stable relationship. We've had fights where we've said mean things
Speaker 5: to each other when we were drunk. Other than that,
Speaker 5: I'm starting to realize we have nothing in common. I
Speaker 5: love to watch movies and TV shows and read books.
Speaker 5: He can't stand movies or TV shows and is not
Speaker 5: interested in reading. What odd like typical night looks like
Speaker 5: me watching TV alone. My boyfriend's in the other room
Speaker 5: gaming there it is Additionally, he does not know how
Speaker 5: to communicate with me, whether it's planning things or expressing
Speaker 5: his feelings. He cannot communicate with me. I feel like
Speaker 5: he'll never say I love you first or show me
Speaker 5: any affection. These are things I don't think I would need,
Speaker 5: but now that I'm getting older, I feel like it's
Speaker 5: non negotiable for me. I have a lot of self
Speaker 5: esteem issues where I think that I will never have
Speaker 5: anyone else like me physically, and worry that his relationship
Speaker 5: and this relationship is the best I can do.
Speaker 1: Oh No, A couple of.
Speaker 5: Things and there were interesting. I don't know how old
Speaker 5: you are, but you mentioned that you're older, but that
Speaker 5: could be in anything from twenty to sixty, honestly, And
Speaker 5: I will never have anyone else like me physically. What
Speaker 5: does that mean?
Speaker 1: Like she says she has low self esteem, so she
Speaker 1: doesn't feel maybe she'sn't desirable or.
Speaker 5: Worthy or so she's seeking out other fours. But you
Speaker 5: are not a four to somebody else, You're an eight.
Speaker 4: Well, It's also like I think the thing is not
Speaker 4: having things in common isn't a deal breaker to me
Speaker 4: because I think having different interests. To be honest, Haley
Speaker 4: and I have a lot of similar interests, but we
Speaker 4: also have a lot of different interests and it's only
Speaker 4: opened to me up to liking new things and same
Speaker 4: for her. But I think if he's not will the
Speaker 4: problem that I'm seeing is that he's not willing.
Speaker 2: To meet you.
Speaker 4: And I think I really have seen like so much
Speaker 4: improvement with couples therapy in this area of like communication
Speaker 4: and like meeting each other in the middle. But I
Speaker 4: think that he has to be willing to do that.
Speaker 4: And I think that you know that you're settling for
Speaker 4: a relationship that's not great because you're worried you can't
Speaker 4: do better.
Speaker 2: But you can do better. This is the gas station analogies.
Speaker 1: This is littering gas analogy because you don't think you
Speaker 1: can get better.
Speaker 3: But that's the thing, Like you can.
Speaker 1: And the thing is you don't want the rinkity dickity
Speaker 1: gas station and you could be on a throne right
Speaker 1: up the road. Yes, but no, in all honesty, I
Speaker 1: don't think having some different interests is that big of
Speaker 1: a deal because a, yeah, like you can kind of
Speaker 1: me in the middle and you can do different things,
Speaker 1: and like you're never going to find somebody that is
Speaker 1: exactly like you and like to spend their time doing
Speaker 1: exactly what you like to do, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Like I same with me and Robbie, Like we don't
Speaker 1: necessarily like when we were driving up, we wanted to
Speaker 1: listen to different things and we met in the middle
Speaker 1: and we found me we both liked. But so it's
Speaker 1: not so much of a different interest to me. It's
Speaker 1: the fighting, and like if you're questioning it so much,
Speaker 1: Like I just to me, why would you settle and
Speaker 1: marry this person now and then spend the rest of
Speaker 1: your life in this miserable type of relationship? Like wouldn't
Speaker 1: you rather be single? Like doing what you want all
Speaker 1: the time, and like getting to enjoy your time and
Speaker 1: your space and like not having to deal with that,
Speaker 1: Like I would rather be single than in a relationship
Speaker 1: like that.
Speaker 5: Picture yourself in five years. This is an exercise.
Speaker 8: Married.
Speaker 5: When I was dating. As I did this, I pictured
Speaker 5: myself in five years married to her, I pictured myself
Speaker 5: in five years. We were totally not part of each
Speaker 5: other's lives, and the idea of not being part of
Speaker 5: each other's lives and not seeing her on a daily
Speaker 5: basis was ludicrous to me. It was laughable. That's when
Speaker 5: I knew it's time to propose. So think about that,
Speaker 5: your life in five years married to him, kids with him,
Speaker 5: or your life in five years and you don't even
Speaker 5: know him, Yeah, which sounds more appealing, Which sounds more ludicrous?
Speaker 5: Just think about that. Because I don't love this. I mean,
Speaker 5: maybe you can make a compromise. You know, you watch
Speaker 5: White Lotus together and then he teaches you one of
Speaker 5: the games that he likes and you can do it
Speaker 5: each other together.
Speaker 3: I mean, I wouldn't want to play any gaming games if.
Speaker 2: That's important to him, Yes, exactly, I think. But he
Speaker 2: has to be willing to do that for her too.
Speaker 4: And I just the non affection, not saying I love you,
Speaker 4: like that's a big deal. I mean that's like, if
Speaker 4: that's important to you, then I think that you need
Speaker 4: to be with someone who's able to fulfill those things
Speaker 4: that you need. And I think, right off the bat,
Speaker 4: Mark said the fact that you're emailing asking I think
Speaker 4: you know the answer.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you know the answer to and you're
Speaker 1: ceramic what is it? Ceramic throne is right around the corner,
Speaker 1: it really is. And you have to believe what was
Speaker 1: her name? This is an anonymous, anonymous, beautiful name. You
Speaker 1: have to believe it for yourself, like you really really do.
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people struggle with self esteem issues.
Speaker 1: And it's like because I think you're just constantly comparing
Speaker 1: to this these perfect like I think it happens a
Speaker 1: lot on social media unfortunately, because you're just bombarded with
Speaker 1: these like beautiful, perfect images. But none of it's reality,
Speaker 1: and it's like it's really causing people to have, you know,
Speaker 1: insecurity and self worth issues when it's just not the
Speaker 1: reality and it's not the case. So I think you're
Speaker 1: gonna meet an amazing match. You sound like an awesome
Speaker 1: world if you listen to this podcast.
Speaker 5: You're cool, so agreed, and you are not. I don't
Speaker 5: know what you think about yourself physically, it's not that.
Speaker 1: I hope this gives you the courage or the empowerment
Speaker 1: that you need to make the right step.
Speaker 4: I also think last thing I'll say with the self
Speaker 4: esteem thing.
Speaker 2: You really have to learn to love.
Speaker 4: The person that you are before you can expect someone
Speaker 4: else to do that for you.
Speaker 2: And I think that preach Becca, No, I think it's
Speaker 2: so important.
Speaker 4: Like I don't think people realize, like, you can go
Speaker 4: from the next relationship to relationship a relationship and you're
Speaker 4: always gonna have that same issue of feeling like you're
Speaker 4: not good enough if you don't love yourself. So I
Speaker 4: think you learn to be alone and enjoy the things
Speaker 4: that you love and learn to love who you are
Speaker 4: and find someone who can make.
Speaker 2: You feel that way.
Speaker 4: Yeah, all right, Well on that note, happy twenty twenty three.
Speaker 2: Excited for this year with you all going into our
Speaker 2: sixth year. It'll be six coming up.
Speaker 3: Sweet six.
Speaker 4: Yeah you know what they say this sweet six. All right,
Speaker 4: here's to a new scrubbing in era.
Speaker 3: Cheers everybody, We love you.
Speaker 6: Watch we.
Speaker 5: Can keep going.
Speaker 1: Okay, Wow, we just kidding.
Speaker 3: When we say bye doesn't mean bye. We're still here.
Speaker 4: Wait, so don't forget to watch the Easti's go ahead Easton.
Speaker 6: Thank You Easty Awards are an or show I do
Speaker 6: every year on Instagram Live. There's Sunday, January eighth at
Speaker 6: five pm. Everyone in this room has done the East
Speaker 6: Awards before. We so kind of present. We have a
Speaker 6: lot of really fun celebrity guests this year.
Speaker 1: Yeah we were not asked back. Yeah, we were a
Speaker 1: great dog.
Speaker 6: I don't want to bug you guys.
Speaker 3: A book to promote.
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, that's the place.
Speaker 8: Viewers.
Speaker 5: Then no, thank you, Good morning America.
Speaker 6: Yeah, if you want to do it, there's a room.
Speaker 5: Why was it moved off of New Year's for the
Speaker 5: first time ever?
Speaker 6: New Year's is always really hectic. I I just wanted
Speaker 6: to move it. I've been wanting to move it and
Speaker 6: I always forget to.
Speaker 5: So this is there a specific person who couldn't do
Speaker 5: it on New Year's and that's why you moved it
Speaker 5: to accommodate that person.
Speaker 6: No, I'm doing it. I decided to do it on
Speaker 6: a Sunday, which is when other award shows do it.
Speaker 6: We're doing it at night like other award shows. It's
Speaker 6: a real award show.
Speaker 8: Uh.
Speaker 6: And all the celebrity things are pre recorded, so I
Speaker 6: don't have to worry about their us.
Speaker 4: Uh.
Speaker 3: There you go.
Speaker 6: Yeah, nothing's live. But we got some really big names.
Speaker 6: I got some big musical numbers planned performed by me,
Speaker 6: and I'm really excited. I did a lot of extra
Speaker 6: stuff this year I don't normally do.
Speaker 4: We should rent out like the iHeart Studio or iHeart
Speaker 4: Theater one day and like self like literally do like
Speaker 4: a raffle, sell tickets and stuff and and like have
Speaker 4: do a full thing.
Speaker 6: I would love.
Speaker 1: I mean, but like, who's gonna come up to accept
Speaker 1: the award for like Fruit of the Year or whatever.
Speaker 4: We'll have the fruit decorated or someone holding us like
Speaker 4: someone yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, probably could be your hand model.
Speaker 6: Oh yeah I did this at the here it kissed one. Yeah,
Speaker 6: there was so much fun. I wanted to do it.
Speaker 6: You know, maybe we will do this that hasn't been
Speaker 6: that hasn't been announced yet.
Speaker 5: Maybe maybe will come fun.
Speaker 6: Yeah, if you're discovering you want to come, let me
Speaker 6: know because we can make this happen. But yeah, it's
Speaker 6: gonna be a lot of fun. And uh again, I
Speaker 6: just want to thank all you guys. You guys have
Speaker 6: all done begging time don multiple times and it means
Speaker 6: so much to me. It's when I call in all
Speaker 6: the favors from everyone we do podcasts with and they're
Speaker 6: also kind. But I'm really excited and it thinks a
Speaker 6: lot of fun.
Speaker 5: Can you tease any celebrity involvement surprises?
Speaker 6: You know, here's the what I can tease icons from
Speaker 6: the nineties to two thousands.
Speaker 2: I have an idea. I have an idea.
Speaker 3: Our stars blind potentially.
Speaker 2: Do they meet anything?
Speaker 6: Yes, yes they do.
Speaker 5: Wow.
Speaker 3: Do they work in coffee shops?
Speaker 6: No? Okay, absolutely not.
Speaker 2: It's like Tanya has on right now. I think that's
Speaker 2: the same person.
Speaker 3: I don't even know.
Speaker 6: No, tune in.
Speaker 2: Enough spoilers.
Speaker 6: Yes, all right.
Speaker 2: On that note, we're officially out by