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Speaker 1: I love her, not, Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a thirty

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Speaker 1: six year old male and I misjudged my fiance. I

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Speaker 1: distance relationship for five months. When I first visited her,

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Speaker 1: I should have known better than pursue her. Than to

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Speaker 1: But she was always well put together and she had

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Speaker 1: her own tax business, so I gave it a chance.

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Speaker 1: She is the most beautiful woman I've ever met, with

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Speaker 1: long golden brown hair and freckles on her nose. She's

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Speaker 1: also got a body like Serena Williams. So after just

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Speaker 1: five months of dating, I asked her to marry me.

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Speaker 1: She was overjoyed and said she wanted to bring the

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Speaker 1: came with the kids on a Sunday. We got them

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Speaker 1: eight year old said his mom bought it so he

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Speaker 1: could have his own room. The six year old girl

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Speaker 1: was sitting there playing with my laptop. My fiance was

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Speaker 1: I told her the house was a mess, and she

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Speaker 1: This was just the first day. Now it's been three

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Speaker 1: made herself at home and thinks we're still getting married.

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Speaker 1: How do I tell her it's time for her and

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Speaker 1: you can afford to get a bigger house and a

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Speaker 1: to work. Period, the same, same, same behavior, lazy, nasty, sinky,

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Speaker 1: all that it's gonna get even worse when you marry

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Speaker 1: this woman. Okay, so you got to stop the madness.

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Speaker 1: Now you've only known her for five months. You've only

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Speaker 1: known her for five months, that's no time at all.

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Speaker 1: She said yes to her your proposal right away because

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Speaker 1: her mom, her two sisters, and her two nieces. That's

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Speaker 1: pretty crowded. It's two crowded. Um. So, uh, you know,

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Speaker 1: I just think because because don't I'll put it this way.

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Speaker 1: Don't you think it's a little odd that she didn't say,

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Speaker 1: let's wait a while after you proposed, you know, let's

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Speaker 1: wait a little while. What's the rush. I would like

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Speaker 1: to get to know you a little better. Um. I

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Speaker 1: have to be sure about who I bring my kids around.

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Speaker 1: Et cetera, et cetera. Usually women with kids required that

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Speaker 1: you know, but but not this one. She was. She

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Speaker 1: and her kids will um, you know, have their own place.

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Speaker 1: She was thinking, they'll have their own rooms with you. This,

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Speaker 1: this is great, this is perfect for them. So to you,

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Speaker 1: and I say, if you don't want to marry her,

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Speaker 1: if you guys get married. Steve, Wow, this letter so stupid.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. You know this thirty six year old

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Speaker 1: male has misjudged his fiance. But let me tell you

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Speaker 1: how quickly he misjudging. Now, he met this woman on

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Speaker 1: social media long distance relationship for five most and you

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Speaker 1: She thirty two years old. She lived with her mama,

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Speaker 1: that's a lot doog a, a lot of people living

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Speaker 1: what you said, she's always well put together, and she

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Speaker 1: got her own tax business, so I gave it a chance. Dog,

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Speaker 1: real reason. She's the most beautiful woman I've ever met,

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Speaker 1: She also got a body like Serena Williams. Now you

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Speaker 1: got that everybody. Then guess what? So after five months

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Speaker 1: freckles on the nose, long golden brown hell and the

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Speaker 1: asked her to marry you. So you didn't ignore her

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Speaker 1: living conditions, right, the three kids, to staying with her mama,

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Speaker 1: of the body like Serena william Don't what this is

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Speaker 1: all about? Five months of that Serena Williams body and

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Speaker 1: you asked her to marry you. Then your dumb ass, Well,

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Speaker 1: she says she wants you to meet the kids. She

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Speaker 1: she ain't left after the break. Hang god, all right,

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Speaker 1: we'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour, subject she loves me,

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Speaker 1: I love her not. We'll get back into it right

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Speaker 1: after this. You're listening, all right, Come on, Steve, let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's strawberry letter. That's up, Jake, she loves me,

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Speaker 1: I love her not. Yeah, we got a problem with

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Speaker 1: this letter right here, thirty six year old man. Didn't

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Speaker 1: misjudge your fiance. You didn't misjudge her. You didn't miss

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Speaker 1: judge your dog. You didn't pay attention to it. You

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Speaker 1: didn't misjudge. You passed the other judgment. See, you didn't

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Speaker 1: misjudge her. When you found out you saw on social

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Speaker 1: media highlight reel was incredible. She on I g with

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Speaker 1: all the banging outfits, everything, all this hell. But when

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Speaker 1: most beautiful woman I've ever met, long, golden brown hair,

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Speaker 1: So after five months of Dayton, five damn months you

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Speaker 1: and now you want to get married, boy, you do.

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Speaker 1: She was overjoyed. Chiley said she wanted to bring the

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Speaker 1: the next week she came with the kids on a Sunday.

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Speaker 1: We got them settled. He gonna work on Monday. He

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Speaker 1: that fried chicken and ball and chitlings. The two year

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Speaker 1: old diaper is off and in the middle of the

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Speaker 1: floor that was the chitlings right now. Because that two

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Speaker 1: My little grandson could do that. He took a dive

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Speaker 1: he got his damn daddy, I'm not touching it, then

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Speaker 1: left to dive. In the middle of the floor that

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Speaker 1: was an a mattress in your office. The eight year

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Speaker 1: old said, his mom bought it so he could have

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Speaker 1: his own room. So now this boy got his own room.

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Speaker 1: The six year old girl was sitting there playing with

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Speaker 1: your laptop and your fiance. The most beautiful woman in

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Speaker 1: the world, with the long brown hair, with the freckles

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Speaker 1: TV in her bonnet and pajamas. Bonnet, bonnet, you gotta

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Speaker 1: keep your hair together all day, old the bonnet. I

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Speaker 1: told her the house was a mess. She said, that's

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Speaker 1: So now babay kids have moved into your house. You

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Speaker 1: So now it's been three weeks, all we do is

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Speaker 1: I ain't in love with you no more. I don't

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Speaker 1: I'm not even in love with you anymore. A matter

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Speaker 1: of fact, I misjudged you. A matter of fact. It's

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Speaker 1: You gotta get out of there, and the best way

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Speaker 1: to do it is just to say it. That's right,

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Speaker 1: This ain't good right here, man coming home, damn, sending

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Speaker 1: them in my laptop like six, playing on like this,

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Speaker 1: like this a tablet or something. Say no, toy. That's

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Speaker 1: what happened, Steve. Right when you only have known someone

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Speaker 1: for five months, that's exactly right. But five months and

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Speaker 1: to you? Now? She obviously good at it. I got that.

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Speaker 1: She's a beaut of oil. Yeah she didn't turned you out, now, Bro,

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Speaker 1: this woman though. First of all, you ain't in love

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Speaker 1: no kids. Now you got a whole family. It's a lot.

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Speaker 1: This is a lot. This way, it passed a lot. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's too much. Yeah, yeah, I just drive, but it's

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Speaker 1: his house every day. Yeah. I just ruined my credit

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Speaker 1: for seven years. Man, that's all right. I'm gonna put

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