1
00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,560
Speaker 1: The questions are going to get intense or hashtag topics

2
00:00:03,760 --> 00:00:06,280
Speaker 1: if I'm brave enough. I still don't know if I'm

3
00:00:06,320 --> 00:00:18,400
Speaker 1: brave enough to click on a couple of these topics.

4
00:00:19,440 --> 00:00:22,400
Speaker 1: Welcome to the podcast, guys. One of my best buddies.

5
00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:26,200
Speaker 1: One of my favorite guests is back. Your favorite guests too,

6
00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:30,560
Speaker 1: Bernie Calcote, Welcome back to the podcast Glad to be back.

7
00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:35,000
Speaker 1: This is episode one of three. On this podcast, we

8
00:00:35,120 --> 00:00:38,400
Speaker 1: answer questions as if we're sitting around a campfire. You

9
00:00:38,440 --> 00:00:41,560
Speaker 1: have a question, and then me and Bernie walk it through.

10
00:00:41,640 --> 00:00:44,000
Speaker 1: We have no notes on this table, we don't have

11
00:00:44,080 --> 00:00:47,160
Speaker 1: anything here to look at, and we're going to walk

12
00:00:47,200 --> 00:00:50,199
Speaker 1: through it as if we're hearing it real time. I

13
00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:53,280
Speaker 1: have read some of these questions. Burn I was going

14
00:00:53,360 --> 00:00:56,920
Speaker 1: to tell you we've been talking for like thirty minutes

15
00:00:56,920 --> 00:01:00,360
Speaker 1: about our own stuff, which is just what we do.

16
00:01:00,920 --> 00:01:03,320
Speaker 1: But I was going to tell you if we hadn't

17
00:01:03,440 --> 00:01:05,479
Speaker 1: done that, I was going to tell you that these

18
00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:09,360
Speaker 1: questions today are pretty intense. It's gonna be a pretty

19
00:01:09,360 --> 00:01:12,560
Speaker 1: intense episode. Awesome. And I was gonna I was going

20
00:01:12,640 --> 00:01:15,280
Speaker 1: to break or rule and do something I've never done before.

21
00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:17,160
Speaker 1: And I was going to show you some of these

22
00:01:17,200 --> 00:01:21,039
Speaker 1: questions before we even started the podcast. Okay, but you

23
00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:23,960
Speaker 1: didn't do I didn't do that. So we're sticking with

24
00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:32,280
Speaker 1: the rule there is no preparation beforehand, so you're with

25
00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:35,520
Speaker 1: that kind of introduction to you ready for this? Yeah,

26
00:01:35,600 --> 00:01:38,759
Speaker 1: I mean I'm not ready, but you know, Okay, all right,

27
00:01:39,440 --> 00:01:41,280
Speaker 1: let me let me dive in. Well, I think we're

28
00:01:41,280 --> 00:01:44,840
Speaker 1: gonna hit some things that we we might we might

29
00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:47,360
Speaker 1: go deeper on episode one of three than we typically do.

30
00:01:47,480 --> 00:01:49,480
Speaker 1: So buckle up your seat belts if you're commuting to

31
00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:51,280
Speaker 1: work right now, if you're over the road, truck or

32
00:01:51,320 --> 00:01:53,560
Speaker 1: whatever you're doing. However, you listen to this podcast on

33
00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:57,800
Speaker 1: the Monday morning. Thank you for that. There's no there's

34
00:01:57,840 --> 00:01:59,840
Speaker 1: no total easy way into this, but I'm gonna start

35
00:01:59,840 --> 00:02:02,560
Speaker 1: with me. Let me just say real quick for me,

36
00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:06,160
Speaker 1: Angria is like, before we answer any of these questions,

37
00:02:06,320 --> 00:02:11,520
Speaker 1: just know that we do it with the most humility possible.

38
00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:17,680
Speaker 1: We understand that we are just two broken people trying

39
00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:21,480
Speaker 1: to trying our best to abide in God's love and

40
00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:25,600
Speaker 1: accept what we did not earn. And some of these

41
00:02:25,720 --> 00:02:32,560
Speaker 1: views and these answers really represent our experience and our

42
00:02:32,720 --> 00:02:36,760
Speaker 1: understanding of life and of God's word at this moment

43
00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:41,400
Speaker 1: in time, because there has definitely been even recently where

44
00:02:41,400 --> 00:02:45,040
Speaker 1: I have dug deeper into God's word and realized, Wow,

45
00:02:45,600 --> 00:02:47,680
Speaker 1: I thought it meant this, and it means that, and

46
00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:51,560
Speaker 1: that would some in some way change and answer that

47
00:02:51,600 --> 00:02:54,799
Speaker 1: I may give to a podcast listener. So this, this

48
00:02:54,919 --> 00:03:01,160
Speaker 1: is like this moment in time that this is kind

49
00:03:01,160 --> 00:03:03,880
Speaker 1: of where we feel like God has brought us in

50
00:03:03,919 --> 00:03:07,520
Speaker 1: what He's taught us through his word and through our experience,

51
00:03:08,160 --> 00:03:11,840
Speaker 1: and so please we pray that you receive it with

52
00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:15,480
Speaker 1: that same attitude. I think that was a really eloquent

53
00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:19,520
Speaker 1: way of saying sometimes we're wrong. Yes, sometimes we're wrong,

54
00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:24,200
Speaker 1: and it would never be our intention of what this

55
00:03:24,280 --> 00:03:29,440
Speaker 1: podcast is answering your questions to a specific email, Grangersmith

56
00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:32,880
Speaker 1: podcast at gmail dot com. If you have anything, email

57
00:03:32,919 --> 00:03:35,480
Speaker 1: that podcast and I read through them. Now the intensity

58
00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:39,160
Speaker 1: of your questions has raised over the last few years.

59
00:03:39,480 --> 00:03:41,880
Speaker 1: It started out how do you play guitar? And I

60
00:03:41,880 --> 00:03:45,080
Speaker 1: think it's really gotten to a point where people are

61
00:03:45,600 --> 00:03:49,480
Speaker 1: we're seeing the broken state of the world right now,

62
00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:53,120
Speaker 1: and people have people are dealing with some serious issues,

63
00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:56,720
Speaker 1: they're struggling, and they're fine they're trying to find answers

64
00:03:56,720 --> 00:03:59,640
Speaker 1: however they can, and and I feel the way of that.

65
00:03:59,680 --> 00:04:01,920
Speaker 1: I feel the responsibility of that, although I know that

66
00:04:01,960 --> 00:04:05,200
Speaker 1: I'm not the final answer. We're just burning and are

67
00:04:05,200 --> 00:04:08,840
Speaker 1: going to walk through how how we would answer it

68
00:04:08,920 --> 00:04:10,840
Speaker 1: or how we would deal with it if it was

69
00:04:10,880 --> 00:04:13,920
Speaker 1: in our life. So I think Burne's saying the right

70
00:04:14,040 --> 00:04:16,560
Speaker 1: He's saying all the right things that we're not. We're

71
00:04:16,560 --> 00:04:20,080
Speaker 1: not always right, but we will we come with the

72
00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:23,160
Speaker 1: most humble heart. The crazy thing about this is how

73
00:04:23,200 --> 00:04:25,480
Speaker 1: this podcast has become one of the top podcasts and

74
00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:30,000
Speaker 1: all of music genres. And it's just blow my mind

75
00:04:30,040 --> 00:04:32,760
Speaker 1: that with the intensity of the questions that have come in,

76
00:04:33,200 --> 00:04:36,360
Speaker 1: it has raised the popularity of this podcast. So I

77
00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:38,240
Speaker 1: also feel the way of that, and I feel the

78
00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:41,720
Speaker 1: way to the listeners and we love you guys seriously, Yeah,

79
00:04:41,839 --> 00:04:46,479
Speaker 1: y'all are awesome. I mean, the the amount of engagement

80
00:04:46,520 --> 00:04:49,279
Speaker 1: that they have and the amount of questions and like

81
00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:52,240
Speaker 1: how specific they are, and the eagerness to listen, and

82
00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:55,200
Speaker 1: the you know, the comments back of how much they

83
00:04:55,320 --> 00:04:57,840
Speaker 1: enjoy it. You tell me the stories about at the

84
00:04:57,839 --> 00:05:02,840
Speaker 1: meet and greets, how they reference the podcast asked that's awesome, man.

85
00:05:03,200 --> 00:05:05,159
Speaker 1: Well let's start with this one. It says I would

86
00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:08,279
Speaker 1: like to stay anonymous. That's how it starts. Well, one

87
00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:15,360
Speaker 1: warning when you when you say this, they anonymous. We

88
00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:21,080
Speaker 1: can't guarantee that Grandeur will not say your name. Just disclaimer.

89
00:05:21,160 --> 00:05:22,840
Speaker 1: Just put that out there. I'm gonna work so hard

90
00:05:22,880 --> 00:05:26,279
Speaker 1: on it has But it says, first of all, I

91
00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:29,479
Speaker 1: love the podcast, keep doing great things. And then it

92
00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:33,559
Speaker 1: says I'm in my second trimester of pregnancy. My sister

93
00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:36,159
Speaker 1: and her husband have been trying to get pregnant for

94
00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:39,320
Speaker 1: over a year now, and they've been very angry at

95
00:05:39,360 --> 00:05:41,760
Speaker 1: me and my fiance ever since we told them the

96
00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:44,440
Speaker 1: news that we were pregnant. I've tried to be sensitive

97
00:05:44,480 --> 00:05:48,599
Speaker 1: and sympathetic about their infertility, and they've made it very

98
00:05:48,600 --> 00:05:51,279
Speaker 1: clear that it was important to them that they had

99
00:05:51,320 --> 00:05:54,880
Speaker 1: the first grand beary bey baby in the family parentheses,

100
00:05:54,880 --> 00:05:57,279
Speaker 1: which I don't understand why it's so important. Each grand

101
00:05:57,320 --> 00:05:59,240
Speaker 1: baby will be loved just as much as the first,

102
00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:03,920
Speaker 1: and that's why they are so upset. They've also said

103
00:06:03,920 --> 00:06:06,120
Speaker 1: some pretty nasty things about me and my fiance and

104
00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:08,440
Speaker 1: have made it clear that they will not support us.

105
00:06:09,080 --> 00:06:11,760
Speaker 1: I've been nothing but kind and apologetic to them, and

106
00:06:11,800 --> 00:06:14,640
Speaker 1: I find their words hurtful. How do I go about

107
00:06:14,680 --> 00:06:18,000
Speaker 1: saving this relationship with my sister while being sensitive about

108
00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:21,240
Speaker 1: their infertility? Or do I push their toxic behavior away

109
00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:24,240
Speaker 1: and do its best for my baby and my fiance.

110
00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:30,080
Speaker 1: I told my twin sister, who was married, that had

111
00:06:30,120 --> 00:06:32,240
Speaker 1: they been the first ones to get pregnant first, they

112
00:06:32,279 --> 00:06:34,479
Speaker 1: wouldn't be as angry because they didn't have a baby

113
00:06:34,520 --> 00:06:37,440
Speaker 1: outside of marriage. Like me, I feel that the problem

114
00:06:37,520 --> 00:06:40,960
Speaker 1: isn't that my fiance and I got pregnant outside of marriage,

115
00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:43,880
Speaker 1: but something deeper that they won't say. Sorry for the

116
00:06:43,920 --> 00:06:49,120
Speaker 1: long email, Thanks for in advance. I don't have a

117
00:06:49,160 --> 00:06:52,520
Speaker 1: reference to where they were they where Anonymous lives. But

118
00:06:52,880 --> 00:06:56,320
Speaker 1: we have a twin sister married, trying to get pregnant,

119
00:06:56,360 --> 00:07:01,920
Speaker 1: struggling with infertility, and then the other twin is now pregnant.

120
00:07:02,920 --> 00:07:04,680
Speaker 1: Where do we go with the spurns? Where do we

121
00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:09,920
Speaker 1: start with this? Anonymous here does she have a specific

122
00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:14,960
Speaker 1: question that you could read again? That question is twofold.

123
00:07:16,040 --> 00:07:18,280
Speaker 1: How do I go about saving this relationship with my

124
00:07:18,360 --> 00:07:22,120
Speaker 1: sister while being sensitive about their infertility? Or do I

125
00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:25,280
Speaker 1: push their toxic behavior away and do its best for

126
00:07:25,400 --> 00:07:31,240
Speaker 1: my baby and my fiance. M hm, Anonymous, This one

127
00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:34,480
Speaker 1: hits pretty close to home, Grangeuron, I just spent about

128
00:07:34,520 --> 00:07:41,600
Speaker 1: an hour talking about something very similar. Yeah, when do

129
00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:50,960
Speaker 1: you when do you continue to expose yourself to potential

130
00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:57,280
Speaker 1: you know, manipulation or toxic relationship? When do you know,

131
00:07:58,000 --> 00:08:00,760
Speaker 1: preserve and when do you sacker vice for the sake

132
00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:05,000
Speaker 1: of reconciliation. It's a great question. Yeah, infertility is is

133
00:08:05,080 --> 00:08:09,080
Speaker 1: no joke, and it it hurts, It hurts, It hurts families.

134
00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:15,720
Speaker 1: There is a there's a certain level when infertility, whether

135
00:08:15,720 --> 00:08:18,160
Speaker 1: they admit it or not, makes the woman feel lesser

136
00:08:18,240 --> 00:08:22,040
Speaker 1: of a woman. There is a there is a innate

137
00:08:22,120 --> 00:08:27,360
Speaker 1: desire and a woman to to to pro create and

138
00:08:27,400 --> 00:08:31,040
Speaker 1: to be useful her make her body useful in the

139
00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:34,800
Speaker 1: in the way that it's it's created to be used.

140
00:08:35,440 --> 00:08:38,960
Speaker 1: And when it doesn't work that way, then that I

141
00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:42,240
Speaker 1: think they feel, Like I said, whether they admitted or not,

142
00:08:42,280 --> 00:08:45,560
Speaker 1: there is a there's an idea that that an evil

143
00:08:45,600 --> 00:08:47,920
Speaker 1: idea that creeps into their head that they are lesser

144
00:08:48,280 --> 00:08:51,959
Speaker 1: of a woman. I first want to say, Anonymous, I

145
00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:54,920
Speaker 1: do Burnie and I both agree that it's very, very

146
00:08:54,920 --> 00:08:59,040
Speaker 1: important that you do get married that that. I don't

147
00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:01,240
Speaker 1: think that's the issue with this question. I don't think

148
00:09:01,280 --> 00:09:04,160
Speaker 1: that's the issue with your twin sister. I think you

149
00:09:04,160 --> 00:09:06,240
Speaker 1: would know that. I think that would be very clear.

150
00:09:06,400 --> 00:09:09,760
Speaker 1: She would say you should be married. So, although I

151
00:09:09,760 --> 00:09:12,560
Speaker 1: don't think that's part of your problem, on the outside

152
00:09:12,559 --> 00:09:15,000
Speaker 1: of your question, I do think it's very important that

153
00:09:15,080 --> 00:09:18,319
Speaker 1: you hustle this marriage along, that you don't did the wedding,

154
00:09:18,559 --> 00:09:20,560
Speaker 1: and that you don't sit on this engagement for a

155
00:09:20,600 --> 00:09:26,080
Speaker 1: long time and make some big, extravagant, expensive many multiple

156
00:09:26,160 --> 00:09:28,439
Speaker 1: guests make a big deal out of it. I think

157
00:09:28,480 --> 00:09:31,280
Speaker 1: that will also hurt the relationship with their sister. But

158
00:09:31,440 --> 00:09:35,320
Speaker 1: for many other reasons, I think you rush this process along.

159
00:09:35,880 --> 00:09:39,040
Speaker 1: I personally believe, and I've said it before on here,

160
00:09:39,160 --> 00:09:43,040
Speaker 1: that I think in this culture we kind of idolize

161
00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:47,160
Speaker 1: the wedding ceremony more than it should be, when what

162
00:09:47,320 --> 00:09:50,280
Speaker 1: it represents is far greater than how you present it

163
00:09:50,440 --> 00:09:53,240
Speaker 1: in one day, and the dress and the flowers and

164
00:09:53,280 --> 00:09:55,720
Speaker 1: the band and the guests and the food and the

165
00:09:55,880 --> 00:09:59,400
Speaker 1: venue and the preacher and everything. We just kind of

166
00:09:59,440 --> 00:10:03,320
Speaker 1: idolize that, and I think it has become blown way

167
00:10:03,360 --> 00:10:06,720
Speaker 1: out of proportion. I think it's important. It's important to

168
00:10:06,760 --> 00:10:12,840
Speaker 1: celebrate that. Yeah, it's important. But the wedding day industry

169
00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:19,280
Speaker 1: blowing up the way that it has versus the statistics

170
00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:24,360
Speaker 1: of divorce and marriage is kind of not in line

171
00:10:24,360 --> 00:10:25,840
Speaker 1: with where it needs to be. Like we need to

172
00:10:25,840 --> 00:10:28,199
Speaker 1: focus on like our marriages and not just the wedding.

173
00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:30,400
Speaker 1: I think that's what you're getting at. Yeah, absolutely, so

174
00:10:30,480 --> 00:10:35,240
Speaker 1: I would lean in hard to your fiance and wrap

175
00:10:35,280 --> 00:10:38,120
Speaker 1: this up pretty quick. Go to the justice of the peace,

176
00:10:38,160 --> 00:10:41,640
Speaker 1: get your license, have a small if it's if it's

177
00:10:41,679 --> 00:10:44,640
Speaker 1: about if you're prolonging because of a venue that's booked

178
00:10:44,800 --> 00:10:48,800
Speaker 1: till October of twenty twenty three or whatever, just make

179
00:10:48,880 --> 00:10:53,240
Speaker 1: that a fun reception, plan a big tenure anniversary party,

180
00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:55,960
Speaker 1: and put a lot of eggs in that basket. But

181
00:10:56,040 --> 00:10:59,840
Speaker 1: don't prolong this. I would say, get this done pretty quick.

182
00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:03,160
Speaker 1: But I don't think that's the underlying issue of why

183
00:11:03,240 --> 00:11:05,640
Speaker 1: her sister's matt. I think this is an infertility thing.

184
00:11:07,920 --> 00:11:11,640
Speaker 1: So I think anonymous, I think you lean into your

185
00:11:11,679 --> 00:11:18,280
Speaker 1: sister with nothing but grace and humbleness and kindness, which

186
00:11:18,480 --> 00:11:22,840
Speaker 1: you say that you're doing. I would say, lean harder,

187
00:11:23,720 --> 00:11:29,960
Speaker 1: lean into that harder, now I'm listening to your answer

188
00:11:30,080 --> 00:11:33,160
Speaker 1: because like I'm processing it and something that's happened in

189
00:11:33,200 --> 00:11:36,640
Speaker 1: my own life, Like, how do we so I'm with you, anonymous,

190
00:11:36,640 --> 00:11:38,560
Speaker 1: how do we lean in harder? What does that look like?

191
00:11:40,600 --> 00:11:44,559
Speaker 1: I mean, maybe it means meeting her where she is

192
00:11:44,720 --> 00:11:52,560
Speaker 1: and truly trying to empathize and show her that your

193
00:11:52,600 --> 00:11:56,640
Speaker 1: heart is broken with her broken heart if she really

194
00:11:56,720 --> 00:12:00,280
Speaker 1: is broken with this inability to have a baby, and

195
00:12:00,320 --> 00:12:03,560
Speaker 1: like she's struggling with this, like going to her and

196
00:12:03,600 --> 00:12:06,360
Speaker 1: be like cis like I am just devastated with you,

197
00:12:06,600 --> 00:12:09,640
Speaker 1: Like I really I hate that this is how this

198
00:12:09,760 --> 00:12:12,640
Speaker 1: is going. I do wish it was different. I wish

199
00:12:13,120 --> 00:12:15,280
Speaker 1: it could be like this and talk about it and

200
00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:19,960
Speaker 1: you know, maybe talk to her about like, you know,

201
00:12:20,160 --> 00:12:23,320
Speaker 1: if there's anything else going on that is keeping her

202
00:12:23,440 --> 00:12:31,880
Speaker 1: from accepting what reality is. Yeah, I think that that

203
00:12:31,960 --> 00:12:36,400
Speaker 1: can be sometimes very destructive in every kind of relationship,

204
00:12:36,400 --> 00:12:38,480
Speaker 1: whether it's your marriage, with your kids, with your friends,

205
00:12:38,640 --> 00:12:45,400
Speaker 1: is when we are unable to control something and then

206
00:12:45,480 --> 00:12:49,480
Speaker 1: we respond in a way that is not accepting of

207
00:12:50,480 --> 00:12:54,360
Speaker 1: the reality that God has put in front of us.

208
00:12:55,800 --> 00:12:58,800
Speaker 1: I'm kind of thinking now that maybe I misinterpreted one

209
00:12:58,840 --> 00:13:01,880
Speaker 1: part of this, she said in this last paragraph, they

210
00:13:01,920 --> 00:13:04,360
Speaker 1: also told my twin sister, who is married, that they

211
00:13:05,240 --> 00:13:07,120
Speaker 1: should have been the ones to get pregnant. So so

212
00:13:07,200 --> 00:13:10,240
Speaker 1: that's not the twin. So there's it's another sister. It's

213
00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:12,880
Speaker 1: another sister. And then you have the older sister. Maybe

214
00:13:12,880 --> 00:13:15,439
Speaker 1: that's probably the older sister, which is the hierarchy of

215
00:13:15,480 --> 00:13:17,720
Speaker 1: they should have had the baby first. Okay, okay, that

216
00:13:17,760 --> 00:13:21,720
Speaker 1: makes sense. I'm pulling this together. You could use your

217
00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:25,320
Speaker 1: twin sister as an asset to this problem. I think

218
00:13:25,360 --> 00:13:30,360
Speaker 1: this this might be a three sister conversation. And and

219
00:13:31,720 --> 00:13:33,720
Speaker 1: I think the one the one thing you don't do

220
00:13:33,840 --> 00:13:36,360
Speaker 1: is push her away. That was your one of your questions.

221
00:13:36,440 --> 00:13:39,960
Speaker 1: Do I push push their toxic behavior away? You could,

222
00:13:40,080 --> 00:13:41,959
Speaker 1: you could push their toxic behavior away, but you don't

223
00:13:42,000 --> 00:13:47,040
Speaker 1: push her away because she's your sister. And I just

224
00:13:47,080 --> 00:13:50,240
Speaker 1: think you just overwhelm her with grace and you take

225
00:13:50,280 --> 00:13:52,520
Speaker 1: the hit, you take the blows. Yeah. I feel like

226
00:13:52,520 --> 00:13:54,840
Speaker 1: you said this on the last podcast with Parker or

227
00:13:54,880 --> 00:13:58,960
Speaker 1: maybe the one before where everything that you all this

228
00:13:59,080 --> 00:14:02,240
Speaker 1: toxic behavior or whatever she's saying to you, if you

229
00:14:02,440 --> 00:14:06,080
Speaker 1: just come back to her immediately with humility, No, I

230
00:14:06,160 --> 00:14:11,920
Speaker 1: know You're absolutely right. It's like she can't keep going like, yes,

231
00:14:12,040 --> 00:14:15,119
Speaker 1: that's where that you know, like approaching it with humility

232
00:14:15,800 --> 00:14:18,439
Speaker 1: even though anonymous. We know that's not an easy thing

233
00:14:18,640 --> 00:14:21,160
Speaker 1: to do. It's not gonna be easy for her to do.

234
00:14:21,360 --> 00:14:24,040
Speaker 1: And maybe just like take like you're saying, just take

235
00:14:24,040 --> 00:14:30,840
Speaker 1: the blow and like and also understanding that this is family,

236
00:14:31,520 --> 00:14:36,760
Speaker 1: this is a sister, this is a lifetime and maybe

237
00:14:36,760 --> 00:14:40,360
Speaker 1: this is something that's going to take four or five years.

238
00:14:40,520 --> 00:14:43,120
Speaker 1: Are you Are you willing to kind of like take

239
00:14:43,160 --> 00:14:47,400
Speaker 1: the small little steps, hey, you know, in the next month,

240
00:14:47,840 --> 00:14:50,680
Speaker 1: I hope to just like have coffee with her and

241
00:14:51,880 --> 00:14:54,760
Speaker 1: listen and ask some questions and then maybe by the

242
00:14:54,840 --> 00:14:57,120
Speaker 1: end of the year we can get to the point

243
00:14:57,120 --> 00:15:02,280
Speaker 1: where it's not the main focus. And yeah, totally. I

244
00:15:02,320 --> 00:15:04,880
Speaker 1: think the last thing I might say here is that

245
00:15:04,960 --> 00:15:09,800
Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't glorify this baby to your sister very often.

246
00:15:10,160 --> 00:15:13,240
Speaker 1: Like I wouldn't be texting her pictures of the sonogram

247
00:15:13,560 --> 00:15:17,640
Speaker 1: and saying, you know, third, try master, here we come.

248
00:15:17,880 --> 00:15:21,680
Speaker 1: You know, so excited about October fifth, you know, or whatever.

249
00:15:23,080 --> 00:15:25,680
Speaker 1: You might lay off that kind of stuff. You might

250
00:15:25,960 --> 00:15:29,000
Speaker 1: might just downplay this a little bit more. Maybe maybe

251
00:15:29,040 --> 00:15:32,040
Speaker 1: you're on Instagram posting tons of pictures of the new

252
00:15:32,400 --> 00:15:34,920
Speaker 1: nursery that you just made and the new crib you

253
00:15:34,960 --> 00:15:37,440
Speaker 1: just bought, and maybe maybe for your sister's sake, you

254
00:15:37,440 --> 00:15:39,680
Speaker 1: pumped the brakes on that a little bit out of

255
00:15:39,720 --> 00:15:43,080
Speaker 1: respect for her pain. This baby is going to be

256
00:15:43,320 --> 00:15:46,960
Speaker 1: a huge blessing to you, and you're you're very very

257
00:15:47,120 --> 00:15:49,840
Speaker 1: very soon to be husband. We hope this is going

258
00:15:49,880 --> 00:15:51,440
Speaker 1: to be a huge blessing. And so that you don't

259
00:15:51,440 --> 00:15:56,680
Speaker 1: need to glorified anymore externally to convince anyone else of that. No,

260
00:15:57,080 --> 00:16:01,000
Speaker 1: I completely agree. You also do have to understand that

261
00:16:01,040 --> 00:16:05,920
Speaker 1: you cannot change anyone's heart. So all you can do,

262
00:16:06,000 --> 00:16:08,280
Speaker 1: all you can control is the way that you respond.

263
00:16:09,400 --> 00:16:12,000
Speaker 1: You can control the amount of grace and patience and

264
00:16:12,080 --> 00:16:15,520
Speaker 1: humility that you come with. If your sister is still

265
00:16:15,600 --> 00:16:18,080
Speaker 1: harboring and it may not be against you, it may

266
00:16:18,120 --> 00:16:20,840
Speaker 1: have nothing to do with you, it may just be

267
00:16:21,200 --> 00:16:27,320
Speaker 1: probably a lot of jealousy, a lot of insecurity, and

268
00:16:27,360 --> 00:16:31,280
Speaker 1: so just continue to you know that, that would just

269
00:16:31,320 --> 00:16:34,080
Speaker 1: be My advice is like, continue to pursue with humility,

270
00:16:34,680 --> 00:16:37,160
Speaker 1: and when you're not with her, just continue to intercede

271
00:16:37,200 --> 00:16:41,160
Speaker 1: and pray for her. Heart, that God would restore what's

272
00:16:41,200 --> 00:16:44,560
Speaker 1: broken and what she feels like is lost and missing,

273
00:16:45,200 --> 00:16:50,160
Speaker 1: that God would be what fills that, and then hopefully

274
00:16:50,200 --> 00:16:56,160
Speaker 1: that relationship can start to kind of bond again around that. Yeah,

275
00:16:56,240 --> 00:16:58,000
Speaker 1: I think this is going to get the situation is

276
00:16:58,000 --> 00:17:00,520
Speaker 1: going to get worse before it gets better. Prepared for that,

277
00:17:00,920 --> 00:17:03,000
Speaker 1: you're only in the second trimester. I will also say

278
00:17:03,040 --> 00:17:07,239
Speaker 1: that one year of infertility is not that long in

279
00:17:07,320 --> 00:17:11,840
Speaker 1: terms of people dealing with infertility, right, Yeah, thank you

280
00:17:11,880 --> 00:17:14,840
Speaker 1: so much for this email, and we wish the best

281
00:17:14,840 --> 00:17:16,679
Speaker 1: for you. Yeah, keep us posted too. I'd love for

282
00:17:16,680 --> 00:17:18,840
Speaker 1: you to email back in because a lot of times

283
00:17:18,840 --> 00:17:24,120
Speaker 1: we hear these questions and we give advice and kind

284
00:17:24,119 --> 00:17:25,919
Speaker 1: of send you off and hope for the best. But

285
00:17:25,960 --> 00:17:30,200
Speaker 1: we really do would love to hear like how things

286
00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:33,920
Speaker 1: progress and what we could learn maybe from you know,

287
00:17:33,960 --> 00:17:35,800
Speaker 1: like if we gave terrible advice. It's like, hey, y'all

288
00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:39,680
Speaker 1: should never tell anybody that. Absolutely, it'd be great. Next question,

289
00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:41,960
Speaker 1: says Granger. First, let me say thank you for your

290
00:17:42,000 --> 00:17:45,120
Speaker 1: music and yegee Nation, and thank you for allowing God

291
00:17:45,160 --> 00:17:47,280
Speaker 1: to work in your life. It's inspiring and helps me

292
00:17:47,359 --> 00:17:49,480
Speaker 1: each day to be a better husband and a man,

293
00:17:50,200 --> 00:17:53,199
Speaker 1: Thank you, buddy. Recently, my wife and I started the

294
00:17:53,240 --> 00:17:56,199
Speaker 1: process to adopt a nineteen year old young man. We

295
00:17:56,240 --> 00:17:59,280
Speaker 1: have known him for years and when we worked at

296
00:17:59,320 --> 00:18:03,480
Speaker 1: the children's home as his house parents, we stayed in

297
00:18:03,520 --> 00:18:06,600
Speaker 1: touch with him and he has had a very special

298
00:18:06,640 --> 00:18:10,320
Speaker 1: place in our hearts. But he's always lacked that sense

299
00:18:10,320 --> 00:18:13,719
Speaker 1: of family. His dad isn't really in his life, and

300
00:18:13,840 --> 00:18:16,960
Speaker 1: neither is his mom. But in a recent phone call,

301
00:18:17,080 --> 00:18:19,679
Speaker 1: I had a conversation with him that started and we

302
00:18:19,720 --> 00:18:22,440
Speaker 1: started talking about family, and by the time it was over,

303
00:18:22,800 --> 00:18:24,760
Speaker 1: we invited him to be a part of our family,

304
00:18:24,800 --> 00:18:26,919
Speaker 1: and then he revealed to us in tears, that that

305
00:18:27,160 --> 00:18:30,760
Speaker 1: is what he has always wanted. It's we have an

306
00:18:30,800 --> 00:18:33,080
Speaker 1: amazing lawyer who has helped us and that's been such

307
00:18:33,119 --> 00:18:36,399
Speaker 1: a blessing, and we could be that family that he

308
00:18:36,440 --> 00:18:40,640
Speaker 1: has never had. We said that we're the only one.

309
00:18:40,800 --> 00:18:42,400
Speaker 1: He said that we're the only ones that love him,

310
00:18:42,560 --> 00:18:45,359
Speaker 1: care about him, or even call him. And this morning

311
00:18:45,400 --> 00:18:47,719
Speaker 1: he texted me to say, hi, dad, how are you.

312
00:18:48,040 --> 00:18:50,800
Speaker 1: My heart melted and yes, I've always loved him like

313
00:18:50,840 --> 00:18:52,760
Speaker 1: a son. We have no other kids of our own,

314
00:18:53,440 --> 00:18:55,879
Speaker 1: and because my wife has struggled with infertility and the

315
00:18:55,960 --> 00:18:59,160
Speaker 1: chances of pregnancy is low, so this is different for us,

316
00:18:59,240 --> 00:19:02,760
Speaker 1: even as former parents foster parents. He has a good

317
00:19:02,760 --> 00:19:05,760
Speaker 1: heart and just a good old country boy, but he

318
00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:08,639
Speaker 1: does need a good to get his ged or diploma,

319
00:19:09,280 --> 00:19:12,040
Speaker 1: and he is in a relationship with a girl who

320
00:19:12,119 --> 00:19:14,080
Speaker 1: is not good for him. I need advice on how

321
00:19:14,119 --> 00:19:16,080
Speaker 1: to encourage this young man to do the right thing.

322
00:19:16,480 --> 00:19:19,760
Speaker 1: I want to be the best man he can, not

323
00:19:19,800 --> 00:19:22,760
Speaker 1: only for himself, but for the Lord as well. We

324
00:19:22,840 --> 00:19:26,280
Speaker 1: look forward to sharing life with this young man. The

325
00:19:26,359 --> 00:19:31,480
Speaker 1: lights just flickered for some reason. Why I was reading this.

326
00:19:31,480 --> 00:19:35,760
Speaker 1: This comes from Brian. I'm not sure where Brian's from.

327
00:19:35,840 --> 00:19:38,560
Speaker 1: Thank you for the email, and thank you for your

328
00:19:40,240 --> 00:19:43,520
Speaker 1: heavy heart, you and your wife. And this is a

329
00:19:43,560 --> 00:19:47,200
Speaker 1: great follow up to the infertility question, you know, following

330
00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:51,400
Speaker 1: it up with an adoption, a really really unique adoption

331
00:19:51,480 --> 00:19:56,320
Speaker 1: situation of a nineteen year old. But go ahead, Burns. Yeah,

332
00:19:56,359 --> 00:19:58,080
Speaker 1: I was just gonna say it sounds like the question

333
00:19:58,280 --> 00:20:02,680
Speaker 1: is not should we move forward with adopting him, or

334
00:20:02,720 --> 00:20:05,360
Speaker 1: should we move forward with or or how do we

335
00:20:05,400 --> 00:20:07,080
Speaker 1: make him a part of our family? It sounds like

336
00:20:07,119 --> 00:20:11,440
Speaker 1: they've had that conviction, They've moved forward with it. Everybody's

337
00:20:11,480 --> 00:20:15,000
Speaker 1: in agreeance. It's more like, how do we transition to

338
00:20:16,240 --> 00:20:22,040
Speaker 1: being parent leader figures for him? And now as we're

339
00:20:22,040 --> 00:20:26,359
Speaker 1: taking on a new role in this in this boy's life. Yeah,

340
00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:29,679
Speaker 1: this young man's life at nineteen. That is tough. That

341
00:20:29,800 --> 00:20:32,840
Speaker 1: is tough. I personally have never come across this kind

342
00:20:32,880 --> 00:20:36,080
Speaker 1: of situation. I know that you have an adopted child,

343
00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:38,480
Speaker 1: but you adopted her as a baby, as an infant, right,

344
00:20:38,960 --> 00:20:42,480
Speaker 1: she was foster care for the first year of her life. Okay, yeah,

345
00:20:42,560 --> 00:20:45,080
Speaker 1: so she came at seven weeks to us, but okay,

346
00:20:45,520 --> 00:20:49,080
Speaker 1: a little different than nineteen for sure. My first thought

347
00:20:50,040 --> 00:20:55,000
Speaker 1: is is WHOA. I don't think I would immediately start

348
00:20:55,000 --> 00:21:00,440
Speaker 1: implementing a father figure in his relationship with a girl

349
00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:04,560
Speaker 1: and getting his g and ged or diploma. Did you

350
00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:08,440
Speaker 1: think that? It's like we came right out of adoption

351
00:21:08,760 --> 00:21:11,600
Speaker 1: and tears and melted hearts and we're right into, hey,

352
00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:14,960
Speaker 1: we need them to break up with his girlfriend. Yeah,

353
00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:17,399
Speaker 1: there's there's a few things that jumped out that I

354
00:21:17,440 --> 00:21:20,680
Speaker 1: feel like both sides maybe jumping the gun a little bit,

355
00:21:21,160 --> 00:21:24,679
Speaker 1: and and I could be wrong here, we're hearing this

356
00:21:24,800 --> 00:21:27,000
Speaker 1: first time and you're not, you know, around the campfire,

357
00:21:27,040 --> 00:21:29,240
Speaker 1: So I can't ask you a bunch of questions. But

358
00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:33,479
Speaker 1: for the boy, and I don't know how long they

359
00:21:33,480 --> 00:21:36,399
Speaker 1: said that they were in, you know, some kind of

360
00:21:36,400 --> 00:21:39,800
Speaker 1: foster care situation maybe with him before, but for him

361
00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:44,440
Speaker 1: to like start texting this guy good morning, dad and

362
00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:47,399
Speaker 1: calling him dad, like I don't know how soon it is,

363
00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:50,159
Speaker 1: but it feels like this they had this conversation and

364
00:21:50,200 --> 00:21:52,440
Speaker 1: then it was like, I'm gonna just start doing this.

365
00:21:55,560 --> 00:21:58,399
Speaker 1: I feel like there may be some kind of like

366
00:22:01,920 --> 00:22:09,119
Speaker 1: longing for that in the boy that I would I

367
00:22:09,160 --> 00:22:11,359
Speaker 1: don't know if I would necessarily tell him not to

368
00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:19,040
Speaker 1: do that, but that this is the same people that

369
00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:23,520
Speaker 1: he's known for a long time, and I feel like

370
00:22:23,600 --> 00:22:26,280
Speaker 1: there should just be like a natural progression of like

371
00:22:27,040 --> 00:22:30,680
Speaker 1: as it was, we're just continuing to go deeper together.

372
00:22:31,560 --> 00:22:34,720
Speaker 1: And then the same thing with the parents, Like it's

373
00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:37,680
Speaker 1: it feels like they're both they were kind of at

374
00:22:37,720 --> 00:22:42,960
Speaker 1: a certain level together of relationship and care for each other,

375
00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:45,960
Speaker 1: and then they just kind of had this conversation. It

376
00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:48,480
Speaker 1: was like, well, let's just go jump into the deep

377
00:22:48,560 --> 00:22:51,840
Speaker 1: end now instead of like, well, no, just keep waiting

378
00:22:51,880 --> 00:22:56,800
Speaker 1: out into the water together. Yeah, yeah, don't just like,

379
00:22:57,600 --> 00:23:00,240
Speaker 1: take the list, just one step at a time. Just

380
00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:02,960
Speaker 1: keep waiting out in the water. Okay, okay. So here's

381
00:23:03,000 --> 00:23:05,320
Speaker 1: what I hear. What I hear you saying wading out

382
00:23:05,320 --> 00:23:08,040
Speaker 1: into the water. I think this is what this might mean.

383
00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:10,240
Speaker 1: You say, he's a good country boy. I think that

384
00:23:10,359 --> 00:23:13,919
Speaker 1: means you say, hey, he doesn't have to say have

385
00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:18,720
Speaker 1: his name here, but hey, son, I booked us a

386
00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:23,440
Speaker 1: trip in October to Montana, and we're going to go out,

387
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:26,720
Speaker 1: me and you. We're gonna go trout fishing in this lake.

388
00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:30,560
Speaker 1: We're gonna spend seven days, me and you, and we're

389
00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:32,760
Speaker 1: gonna go out. We're gonna camp, We're gonna fish, we're

390
00:23:32,760 --> 00:23:35,560
Speaker 1: gonna hike, we're gonna take in this incredible the incredible

391
00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:41,400
Speaker 1: mountains of Montana or wherever. And during that trip, you

392
00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:46,520
Speaker 1: start instilling. First of all, you're there for him forever.

393
00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:51,720
Speaker 1: Now you will start encouraging. You said, how do I

394
00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 1: need to encourage him? How to do the right thing?

395
00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:58,240
Speaker 1: You show him? And and in this camping trip, when

396
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:00,199
Speaker 1: you're out there in the mountains and you hear this

397
00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:06,000
Speaker 1: beautiful stream rolling by, and you say, tell me about

398
00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:11,119
Speaker 1: your girlfriend, what's she like? Like, I said, how do

399
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:14,040
Speaker 1: you feel about her, and how does she make you

400
00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:17,199
Speaker 1: feel good about yourself? And just walk through it. And

401
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,720
Speaker 1: then as he brings up the red flags, you make

402
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:23,280
Speaker 1: him answer those red red flags for himself. So instead

403
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:26,960
Speaker 1: of just becoming right in with this iron fist, he's like, yeah,

404
00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:29,720
Speaker 1: she's great, Well she does you know, she does get

405
00:24:29,720 --> 00:24:33,760
Speaker 1: on me a lot about my bad this habit, and

406
00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:35,439
Speaker 1: then you just go, well, how does that? How does

407
00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 1: that make you feel? No, man, I think you just

408
00:24:38,840 --> 00:24:42,480
Speaker 1: nailed it. This is the answer to his question. Because

409
00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 1: whether it's in you know, parenting, marriage, business, wherever you are,

410
00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:57,160
Speaker 1: I feel like the best leaders know how to ask

411
00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:05,480
Speaker 1: these profound, impact amazing questions. Yeah, that just draw the

412
00:25:05,560 --> 00:25:08,680
Speaker 1: truth out of people instead of you trying to force

413
00:25:08,720 --> 00:25:11,920
Speaker 1: it into him. Yeah, so you're absolutely right. Take him

414
00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:14,040
Speaker 1: on this trip. Me and Grangel will go to if

415
00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:19,000
Speaker 1: y'all love to fish up there, but and just go

416
00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:21,400
Speaker 1: ask him a bunch of questions in a way that's

417
00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:25,600
Speaker 1: like I genuinely want to know these things, because I

418
00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:30,119
Speaker 1: guarantee you this kid is nineteen now, so he's not

419
00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:34,119
Speaker 1: a kid, he's an adult. And knowing kids that have

420
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:36,720
Speaker 1: been through a lot in their life, whether it's foster

421
00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:40,080
Speaker 1: care or otherwise. He's resilient. He's stronger than you think,

422
00:25:40,119 --> 00:25:41,800
Speaker 1: and he doesn't need you to tell him what to do.

423
00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:45,680
Speaker 1: He just needs you to help guide him and process

424
00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:47,720
Speaker 1: with him. There's a good chance you come back from

425
00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:49,840
Speaker 1: this camping trip and the first thing he does is

426
00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:53,120
Speaker 1: break up with his girlfriend and start pursuing a ged Yeah,

427
00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:57,600
Speaker 1: without you even saying it. Yep, it's a great question. Brother.

428
00:25:58,119 --> 00:26:05,480
Speaker 1: Let's take a break and we'll be right back. Podcast

429
00:26:05,480 --> 00:26:08,359
Speaker 1: has brought to you guys today by Athletic Greens. One

430
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:12,520
Speaker 1: tasty scoop of Athletic Greens contained seventy five vitamins, minerals,

431
00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:16,760
Speaker 1: and whole food sourced ingredients, including a multivitamin, multimineral, probiotic,

432
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:20,359
Speaker 1: green superfood blend, and more. They all work together to

433
00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:23,879
Speaker 1: fill the nutritional gap in your diet, increase energy and focus,

434
00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:27,520
Speaker 1: aid with digestion, and supports a healthy immune system, all

435
00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:30,040
Speaker 1: without the need to take multiple products. So what the

436
00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:33,280
Speaker 1: heck is Athletic Greens. I could tell you personally because

437
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:35,960
Speaker 1: I started reading it on this podcast. They sent me

438
00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:38,679
Speaker 1: a sample. I took that sample. I liked it so

439
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:42,080
Speaker 1: much that then I went to their website and subscribed

440
00:26:42,400 --> 00:26:45,399
Speaker 1: to a monthly subscription Athletic Greens. It comes in the mail.

441
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:50,280
Speaker 1: It's an amazing product. It's a green superfood powder and

442
00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:52,679
Speaker 1: you take one scoop of it. I take two. You

443
00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:55,000
Speaker 1: could put it in water, you put it in juice.

444
00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:57,360
Speaker 1: I put it in a protein shake in the mornings,

445
00:26:57,600 --> 00:27:00,760
Speaker 1: and it gives me everything I need in my greens

446
00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 1: that don't have to sit there and eat salad all day.

447
00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:05,840
Speaker 1: And I feel better doing it, and I know that

448
00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 1: I'm getting what I need because it's Athletic Greens and

449
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:15,320
Speaker 1: they have an incredible track record. It's lifestyle friendly, it's keto, paleo, vegan,

450
00:27:15,440 --> 00:27:18,440
Speaker 1: dairy free, gluten free, it contains less than one gram

451
00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:21,320
Speaker 1: of sugar without compromising taste, so you could have it

452
00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:25,200
Speaker 1: no matter what kind of diet or not diet you're on.

453
00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:28,320
Speaker 1: It works with everything. Right now, Athletic Greens is doubling

454
00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:31,600
Speaker 1: down on supporting your immune system and they're offering my

455
00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:34,399
Speaker 1: audience a free one year supply of Vitamin D and

456
00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:37,760
Speaker 1: five free travel packs with your first purchase. Visit my

457
00:27:37,800 --> 00:27:40,400
Speaker 1: link today and you'll basically never have to buy vitamin

458
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:45,480
Speaker 1: D again. This is a company that is really obsessed

459
00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 1: with having the correct formula for your body, and they

460
00:27:49,080 --> 00:27:52,720
Speaker 1: call it the one holistic formula based on the latest research,

461
00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:55,920
Speaker 1: producing fifty three iterations over the last decade and counting.

462
00:27:56,240 --> 00:28:00,960
Speaker 1: They invest the most absorbable and natural worst of each

463
00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 1: ingredient they invest in. So basically, that's that's a whole

464
00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:09,000
Speaker 1: bunch of science saying this stuff is legit, it's it's

465
00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:12,280
Speaker 1: all natural, and it's really good for you. So here's

466
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:15,920
Speaker 1: what you do. Visit Athleticgreens dot com slash granger. Join

467
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:18,920
Speaker 1: health experts, athletes, and health conscious go getters around the

468
00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:21,520
Speaker 1: world who want to make a daily commitment to their

469
00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:26,080
Speaker 1: health again. Simply visit Athleticgreens dot com slash granger and

470
00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:29,000
Speaker 1: get your free your supply of Vitamin D and five

471
00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:36,240
Speaker 1: free travel packs today. All right, Bernie, Round two, I'm

472
00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:38,680
Speaker 1: going to turn up the heat on you. Okay, the

473
00:28:39,080 --> 00:28:42,800
Speaker 1: questions are going to get intense or hashtag topics if

474
00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:45,320
Speaker 1: I'm brave enough. I still don't know if I'm brave

475
00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 1: enough to click on a couple of these topics. Okay,

476
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:52,479
Speaker 1: let me start with Let me start with an easy

477
00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:54,520
Speaker 1: This is super easy. We can make this quick. The

478
00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:58,760
Speaker 1: subject is, Bernie, what is Bernie's educational background. Has he

479
00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:09,040
Speaker 1: studied religion, theology or psychology. Well, I am a college dropout,

480
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 1: and I'm only a college dropout because I went to

481
00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 1: one community college class and I left before it actually started.

482
00:29:19,600 --> 00:29:22,280
Speaker 1: So am I technically a college dropout? Or I mean

483
00:29:22,320 --> 00:29:24,640
Speaker 1: I registered, but I never went to the one class

484
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:26,600
Speaker 1: and then I never went back ever again. So it's

485
00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:31,200
Speaker 1: just naturally smart, that's the answer to her question. My

486
00:29:31,280 --> 00:29:36,720
Speaker 1: education is on the streets. Okay, yeah, okay, So no, no,

487
00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 1: I have not studied formally studied theology. I have not

488
00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:49,360
Speaker 1: formally studied psychology, but on my own I have studied

489
00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:53,760
Speaker 1: both of those things. I think far more intensely than

490
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 1: I would have if I would have gone when I

491
00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 1: was nineteen. Yeah, I totally get that. So I've heard

492
00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:01,440
Speaker 1: it couple people every once in a while. If you're

493
00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:03,720
Speaker 1: watching on YouTube, I've seen some kind of comment that says,

494
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:05,480
Speaker 1: why is Granger looking at his phone while the other

495
00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:08,960
Speaker 1: person's talking, Because I'm not just sitting here scrolling through Twitter.

496
00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:12,280
Speaker 1: I'm literally I'm looking at either the my phone's on

497
00:30:12,320 --> 00:30:15,320
Speaker 1: airplane mode. I'm either looking at the question or seeing

498
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 1: how to tie in another question to what he's saying, Okay,

499
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:22,800
Speaker 1: calmed down, guys. This title is this is a tough one.

500
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:28,200
Speaker 1: It's called My Decimation of Faith. It says, Hey, Granger,

501
00:30:28,200 --> 00:30:30,120
Speaker 1: my name is Thomas. I'm twenty years old. I'm a

502
00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:36,160
Speaker 1: college student twenty one in December. From ages thirteen to eighteen,

503
00:30:36,200 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 1: I was extremely strong in the church I attended. I

504
00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:43,640
Speaker 1: believed youth groups, retreats, anything else you can imagine, I

505
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:46,760
Speaker 1: did it. At age eighteen, my faith was shaken when

506
00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:50,720
Speaker 1: I started asking questions that the consensus that I received

507
00:30:50,720 --> 00:30:55,400
Speaker 1: from every conversation was to just have faith. And everyone

508
00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:57,720
Speaker 1: knows it's pretty difficult to have faith in someone you've

509
00:30:57,760 --> 00:31:01,320
Speaker 1: never met. What really has twisted me away from Christianity

510
00:31:01,440 --> 00:31:04,640
Speaker 1: is this. When you get to heaven, God either tells

511
00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 1: you well done, my good and faithful servant, or he

512
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:10,640
Speaker 1: turns you away. You're let into heaven by developing a

513
00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:13,040
Speaker 1: relationship with him. But if the only way to get

514
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:15,640
Speaker 1: into heaven is to have a relationship with Christ, this

515
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:18,280
Speaker 1: accounts for roughly thirty one percent of the world's population.

516
00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 1: The other sixty nine percent never makes it, and that's

517
00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:27,120
Speaker 1: the only logical explanation that they would just have to

518
00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:30,120
Speaker 1: go to hell without a relationship with Christ, I find

519
00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:33,680
Speaker 1: it extremely hard to believe that an almighty God who

520
00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:36,680
Speaker 1: loves the entire world sends the other sixty nine percent

521
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:43,240
Speaker 1: of all the population to help. This, amongst other similar reasons,

522
00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:47,520
Speaker 1: is why I believe that this has driven me from

523
00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:49,680
Speaker 1: the church and I don't even consider myself religious at

524
00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:52,240
Speaker 1: all anymore. The kicker is that I'm going through a

525
00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:54,640
Speaker 1: really tough time and I remember being able to pray

526
00:31:55,080 --> 00:31:57,520
Speaker 1: and feel some sort of relief, which I have a

527
00:31:57,560 --> 00:32:01,000
Speaker 1: desire to have back. So who do I too when

528
00:32:01,080 --> 00:32:06,720
Speaker 1: there isn't anyone there? Thanks Thomas. PS. I'm a huge

529
00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:09,600
Speaker 1: fan of you in your role model for everyone in

530
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:14,920
Speaker 1: the advice you provide with or without religion involved. I

531
00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:16,240
Speaker 1: told you I was turning out the heat on you

532
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:23,080
Speaker 1: turns Thomas, don't see where you're from. Brother, Thank you,

533
00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 1: thank you. That's a man. That is a great question,

534
00:32:26,320 --> 00:32:29,120
Speaker 1: and I think there's a lot of people on all

535
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:35,360
Speaker 1: sides of the fences that go, yeah, that's a great question. Absolutely.

536
00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:40,320
Speaker 1: I think it's awesome that you're writing in the question.

537
00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:43,840
Speaker 1: First of all, there's something so I'm gonna keep this

538
00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:46,720
Speaker 1: really civil. Granger will probably jump in a little deeper

539
00:32:46,720 --> 00:32:48,840
Speaker 1: and then I'm gonna I can come in as well,

540
00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:52,240
Speaker 1: but I might just answer it and I'll go. Actually,

541
00:32:52,480 --> 00:32:55,000
Speaker 1: I actually tattooed this on my body that I believe

542
00:32:55,080 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 1: this so much. There's the word seek. I really believe Eve.

543
00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 1: The reason I put this on my body is one

544
00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:06,560
Speaker 1: because I don't if I ever get to a place

545
00:33:06,560 --> 00:33:09,520
Speaker 1: where I feel like I have found everything, I need

546
00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:12,240
Speaker 1: to be reminded that in this life I need to

547
00:33:12,280 --> 00:33:15,400
Speaker 1: continue and continue to seek more and more of Jesus,

548
00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:18,240
Speaker 1: more and more of Truth, more and more of Him.

549
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:22,320
Speaker 1: Never get to a place where I'm oh, I got it.

550
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 1: And the other part of that is to get to

551
00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:32,280
Speaker 1: a place where I tell people this is what you need,

552
00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:35,600
Speaker 1: because I think that's going to probably for you. What

553
00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:38,240
Speaker 1: was his name, Thomas, Thomas. I think that may go

554
00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:41,680
Speaker 1: in one ear and out the other. But brother, I

555
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:45,760
Speaker 1: would just beg you to continue to seek, and I

556
00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:50,800
Speaker 1: have complete faith that you are going to find what

557
00:33:50,880 --> 00:33:54,640
Speaker 1: you are looking for. Yeah, seeking you will find. Knocking,

558
00:33:54,680 --> 00:33:58,120
Speaker 1: the door will be opened. You say here, you kind

559
00:33:58,160 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 1: of answered a little bit yourself when you say I

560
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:03,080
Speaker 1: remember being able to pray and feeling some sort of relief,

561
00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:06,440
Speaker 1: and I have a desire, a desire. It's an interesting

562
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:09,960
Speaker 1: word to say to have that back. But who do

563
00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:13,400
Speaker 1: I pray to when there isn't anyone there? The answer

564
00:34:13,480 --> 00:34:16,560
Speaker 1: to that is, you don't. You don't pray to anyone

565
00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:18,440
Speaker 1: that's not there. Why would you pray? Why would you

566
00:34:18,480 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 1: do that? That's a that's a ridiculous idea. You're not ridiculous,

567
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:26,360
Speaker 1: that's a but that's a ridiculous idea. That is as

568
00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 1: a Bible would say, that's a foolish idea. Yeah, or

569
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 1: you'd just be praying to yourself because you're living in

570
00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:36,799
Speaker 1: a self centered, self controlled world. That really is we're

571
00:34:36,800 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 1: just floating here. Yeah, we're we are a cosmic startust

572
00:34:40,719 --> 00:34:44,200
Speaker 1: that happened by accident. If you believe in that worldview,

573
00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:48,680
Speaker 1: the atheistic worldview is that we we really are an accident.

574
00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:53,400
Speaker 1: I heard it put this way, like, in the atheistic worldview,

575
00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:57,800
Speaker 1: we're we're a total cosmic accident. So in that case,

576
00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:03,800
Speaker 1: nothing else matters. You're offering Thomas doesn't matter. Your your

577
00:35:04,080 --> 00:35:08,839
Speaker 1: desire to get to have relief doesn't matter. It's like

578
00:35:09,239 --> 00:35:13,040
Speaker 1: looking at as you look at a sunset on the

579
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:16,160
Speaker 1: beach and you go, this is an incredible sunset. That's

580
00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,479
Speaker 1: the image of God, saying, that's the image of God

581
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:21,680
Speaker 1: within you thinking that, But an atheist wouldn't think that

582
00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:25,160
Speaker 1: that's that'd be the equivalent of you open up the

583
00:35:25,160 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 1: fridge and you spill milk on the ground, and milk

584
00:35:28,239 --> 00:35:30,799
Speaker 1: goes boom, hits the ground and it just spills on

585
00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:33,239
Speaker 1: your kitchen floor. You don't look at the spilled milk

586
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:38,319
Speaker 1: and go, that's so beautiful, look at the shapes and colors. No,

587
00:35:38,440 --> 00:35:41,800
Speaker 1: you don't. You just go, that's a mess. Yeah, incident.

588
00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 1: And that's what a sunset is in that kind of worldview.

589
00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:48,200
Speaker 1: It's an It's just a mess. It's there's no order,

590
00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 1: it's just a random, just explosion. And so, Thomas, you

591
00:35:55,640 --> 00:36:04,320
Speaker 1: don't I have a reason to empathize with your suffering.

592
00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:06,399
Speaker 1: I have a reason to cry with you when you're

593
00:36:06,440 --> 00:36:10,279
Speaker 1: in pain. I have a reason to celebrate during when

594
00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:14,319
Speaker 1: you have a great achievement. That's the Christian worldview is

595
00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:17,880
Speaker 1: we have a basis for that. I reject the idea

596
00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:24,239
Speaker 1: that just have faith. Hey, Thomas, I'm with you on that.

597
00:36:25,360 --> 00:36:29,719
Speaker 1: You say, the best consistency you could consensus you can

598
00:36:29,760 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 1: get is just have faith. Dude, I agree I think

599
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:39,640
Speaker 1: that's terrible. If you're driving in a car blindfolded and

600
00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:44,120
Speaker 1: you have four ball tires and you're going down a

601
00:36:44,200 --> 00:36:49,279
Speaker 1: windy mountain road, I don't say, hey, Thomas, just have

602
00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:51,560
Speaker 1: faith man, that car is going to get there. You're

603
00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:55,520
Speaker 1: gonna go. That's ridiculous. You need a basis of your faith. Now,

604
00:36:55,520 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 1: in the Christian worldview, our basis is the Bible. Our

605
00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:02,560
Speaker 1: basis is God's word. That there is a million reasons,

606
00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:05,120
Speaker 1: and that's a different conversation of why we could believe

607
00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:08,080
Speaker 1: that the Bible comes from God, and why the Bible

608
00:37:08,239 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 1: is true, and why the way that it was written

609
00:37:12,760 --> 00:37:14,719
Speaker 1: and over the course of how many years and by

610
00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:17,920
Speaker 1: how many people, and the reason that it's still alive

611
00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:21,520
Speaker 1: and well today. There's many reasons why we believe that

612
00:37:21,560 --> 00:37:23,920
Speaker 1: the Bible is true. And so we base our faith

613
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:28,200
Speaker 1: on those words, the word of God, not on a

614
00:37:28,239 --> 00:37:32,120
Speaker 1: blindfold on a mountain road. So that the thought within

615
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 1: you that says something's wrong, I don't feel right. I

616
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:41,719
Speaker 1: need to correct this through some kind of prayer. That

617
00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:44,440
Speaker 1: is the image of God inside you. That is what

618
00:37:44,480 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 1: Bernie's saying about. Seek that seek that thought. Yeah, I'm

619
00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:52,520
Speaker 1: really go ahead, No, no no, go ahead. I was just

620
00:37:52,520 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 1: gonna say, I'm realizing now that you said this guy's twenty.

621
00:37:55,880 --> 00:37:58,680
Speaker 1: Was that right, Thomas said? Twenty years old? Thomas is

622
00:37:58,719 --> 00:38:06,879
Speaker 1: twenty Thomas, I I can relate to this more than

623
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:10,279
Speaker 1: you probably know. Whenever I was twenty, I remember being

624
00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:14,799
Speaker 1: in Nashville, was a room with Kevy keV and I

625
00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:21,160
Speaker 1: remember talking with Melody one time, and I just kind

626
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:23,440
Speaker 1: of had this these things in the Bible that I

627
00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:25,239
Speaker 1: was just like, I just can't get my head around that.

628
00:38:26,160 --> 00:38:29,400
Speaker 1: Twenty This age that he is is a very formative

629
00:38:29,440 --> 00:38:34,000
Speaker 1: time in our belief system, in everything, and I just

630
00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:38,239
Speaker 1: remember growing up the way I did, and the kind

631
00:38:38,239 --> 00:38:39,959
Speaker 1: of some events that had happened in my life brought

632
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:42,160
Speaker 1: me to a place whenever I was like, you know,

633
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:45,640
Speaker 1: twenty twenty one, that I was reading the Bible, I

634
00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:48,239
Speaker 1: was just like, well, why is this true? I don't

635
00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:50,560
Speaker 1: know if this is true? Why? You know, You're just

636
00:38:50,680 --> 00:38:52,879
Speaker 1: kind of in that place of questioning why is any

637
00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:57,200
Speaker 1: other religion true? Which is great, Like I think that

638
00:38:57,280 --> 00:38:59,760
Speaker 1: we can be told like you don't need a question anything.

639
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:03,799
Speaker 1: Oh God wants us to like to dig in and

640
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:05,719
Speaker 1: wrestle with him, and so what I did, and this

641
00:39:05,760 --> 00:39:08,360
Speaker 1: would Thomas, this would be my advice, just practical advice.

642
00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,280
Speaker 1: And this is what I did. And Kevy keV can

643
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:15,959
Speaker 1: attest to this. I took my Bible and I took

644
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:18,560
Speaker 1: some music. And back then, back in the day, it

645
00:39:18,640 --> 00:39:21,760
Speaker 1: was like the disc play, the CD portable disc player.

646
00:39:22,560 --> 00:39:25,360
Speaker 1: And I went out in the woods for hours and

647
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:28,840
Speaker 1: hours and hours, and I took my journal, my journal,

648
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:33,879
Speaker 1: some music, and the Bible, and I would just go

649
00:39:34,000 --> 00:39:37,400
Speaker 1: and sit and I would just wrestle, and I would pray,

650
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 1: and I would look and I would read, and I

651
00:39:39,120 --> 00:39:42,160
Speaker 1: would write, and I would just wrestle through all of this.

652
00:39:42,239 --> 00:39:48,640
Speaker 1: And I feel like what came out on the other side,

653
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:51,960
Speaker 1: I really found something different than what I thought I

654
00:39:52,040 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 1: was looking for, but something far better. And so I think,

655
00:39:55,840 --> 00:39:57,960
Speaker 1: you know, Thomas, that would be my advice. Man, go

656
00:39:58,080 --> 00:40:01,600
Speaker 1: lose yourself in the woods. I actually still p that's awesome.

657
00:40:01,760 --> 00:40:03,719
Speaker 1: I think that this is something we all need to do.

658
00:40:03,800 --> 00:40:06,200
Speaker 1: And Jesus did it, said more often than not, he

659
00:40:06,280 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 1: would retreat from the others to pray and be with

660
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:13,879
Speaker 1: the Father, like go lose yourself in the woods, take

661
00:40:13,880 --> 00:40:17,560
Speaker 1: the word of God with you, pray, write in a journal,

662
00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:19,640
Speaker 1: write all the stuff that you're thinking and then just

663
00:40:19,719 --> 00:40:22,640
Speaker 1: kind of be still. So I want to dig into

664
00:40:22,680 --> 00:40:26,239
Speaker 1: the thirty one and sixty nine percent. Okay, here we go.

665
00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:28,239
Speaker 1: All right, I'm gonna go I'm just going to jump

666
00:40:28,280 --> 00:40:31,359
Speaker 1: in headdeep because, like I said, Thomas, it's a great

667
00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:35,279
Speaker 1: question and take what Bernie said and wrestle with this.

668
00:40:35,719 --> 00:40:37,799
Speaker 1: But I want to ask you a few questions, which

669
00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:39,400
Speaker 1: is hard on this podcast because I don't get to

670
00:40:39,440 --> 00:40:42,439
Speaker 1: hear your retort. I want to ask you a few questions. One,

671
00:40:43,840 --> 00:40:48,600
Speaker 1: you say you consider yourself not religious anymore, So what

672
00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:51,920
Speaker 1: does it matter if sixty nine percent aren't saved? What

673
00:40:51,960 --> 00:40:55,080
Speaker 1: does it matter to you? Doesn't matter if anybody's saved,

674
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:58,680
Speaker 1: nothing matters. We're a cosmic accident that in that kind

675
00:40:58,719 --> 00:41:02,319
Speaker 1: of worldview. So then you go, well, well, maybe there

676
00:41:02,440 --> 00:41:03,680
Speaker 1: is a god out there, but I just don't know

677
00:41:03,680 --> 00:41:06,279
Speaker 1: if it's possible for us to know him. So then

678
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 1: I would say this, if there is a god out

679
00:41:08,080 --> 00:41:13,400
Speaker 1: there and a creator, and and he would say and

680
00:41:13,440 --> 00:41:18,520
Speaker 1: I would ask you this, Thomas, so should he save everybody?

681
00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:22,960
Speaker 1: Every single person, every single human that ever was or

682
00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:26,160
Speaker 1: ever will be. Should he save them all, regardless of

683
00:41:26,200 --> 00:41:30,160
Speaker 1: their lives? And then you might say, well, like maybe

684
00:41:30,200 --> 00:41:34,759
Speaker 1: not like the rapist murderers. Then so then I would say, okay, well,

685
00:41:34,840 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 1: what's the level of rape and murder? Where where's the cutoff? Like, Oh,

686
00:41:41,200 --> 00:41:44,040
Speaker 1: we're gonna work the rapers and the murderers are going

687
00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:47,400
Speaker 1: to go to hell. But the ones that just rape

688
00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:50,880
Speaker 1: maybe will just save them. No, we shouldn't. We shouldn't

689
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:53,719
Speaker 1: save them either. Okay, well how about this, Thomas, how

690
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:58,399
Speaker 1: about just the like the the verbally abusive, we will

691
00:41:58,760 --> 00:42:01,759
Speaker 1: will save them, but not the physically abusive. But my

692
00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:04,839
Speaker 1: point is, where would the cutoff be to who is good?

693
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:09,200
Speaker 1: Because the Bible says none of us are. The Bible

694
00:42:09,239 --> 00:42:13,319
Speaker 1: says we're all sinners, none of us are worthy of

695
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:17,239
Speaker 1: being saved. And that goes for you, Thomas, that goes

696
00:42:17,239 --> 00:42:20,480
Speaker 1: from me and Bernie and everybody listening. The Bible says

697
00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:25,920
Speaker 1: none of us are worthy of being in the presence

698
00:42:25,920 --> 00:42:32,080
Speaker 1: of the almighty Creator because we're wretched. Have you ever lied?

699
00:42:33,120 --> 00:42:34,640
Speaker 1: Have you ever told a fib in your life? Then

700
00:42:34,640 --> 00:42:37,239
Speaker 1: you're a liar. Have you ever stole anything, then you're

701
00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:41,239
Speaker 1: a thief? Right. None of us could rebut that and

702
00:42:41,280 --> 00:42:44,799
Speaker 1: go no, actually, pretty perfect. None of us could say that.

703
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:49,040
Speaker 1: So with that kind of mentality, and you realize that

704
00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:52,120
Speaker 1: there is no cutoff of being between good and bad,

705
00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:55,560
Speaker 1: between heaven and hell, then what if God said this,

706
00:42:56,360 --> 00:43:00,600
Speaker 1: You're all bad, You've all messed up. So I'm going

707
00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:03,120
Speaker 1: to send you a savior. I'm gonna send you a

708
00:43:03,160 --> 00:43:06,480
Speaker 1: savior to take on all of your pain, to take

709
00:43:06,480 --> 00:43:09,480
Speaker 1: on all of your guilt and all of your sin

710
00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:13,480
Speaker 1: and take all of that burden. Believe in him and

711
00:43:13,560 --> 00:43:16,359
Speaker 1: you'll be saved. So you could look at it this way.

712
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:22,080
Speaker 1: God loved the world. He loved He so loved the

713
00:43:22,239 --> 00:43:28,520
Speaker 1: entire world, like you said, enough to send his only

714
00:43:28,600 --> 00:43:35,800
Speaker 1: begotten son, which means holy set apart son to Earth

715
00:43:36,239 --> 00:43:39,719
Speaker 1: to take the replacement of that all that mess up.

716
00:43:41,160 --> 00:43:45,640
Speaker 1: But he doesn't. This is key to your question. He

717
00:43:45,840 --> 00:43:50,359
Speaker 1: doesn't love the world enough for you to reject his son.

718
00:43:51,360 --> 00:43:53,360
Speaker 1: He loves the world enough to send his son for

719
00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:57,480
Speaker 1: those to believe, but not enough for you to reject him.

720
00:43:58,719 --> 00:44:00,560
Speaker 1: So when you get down on your knee and you

721
00:44:00,600 --> 00:44:02,600
Speaker 1: decide that you're going to say a prayer for relief

722
00:44:02,880 --> 00:44:05,840
Speaker 1: and you don't know who to pray, to follow Bernie's

723
00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:08,440
Speaker 1: advice and seek and say, God, I heard this message.

724
00:44:08,440 --> 00:44:11,680
Speaker 1: And what I told you guys was the gospel. There

725
00:44:11,800 --> 00:44:16,920
Speaker 1: is an almighty, holy God Creator that became flesh, that

726
00:44:17,040 --> 00:44:20,040
Speaker 1: came to this earth two thousand years ago to take

727
00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:22,640
Speaker 1: on all that pain. He lived a perfect life and

728
00:44:22,680 --> 00:44:25,640
Speaker 1: took on the burden of all your pain, Thomas, and

729
00:44:25,680 --> 00:44:27,840
Speaker 1: all your mess ups and all mine and all Bernie's.

730
00:44:28,120 --> 00:44:33,120
Speaker 1: He took that on himself, was killed, was crucified, and

731
00:44:33,200 --> 00:44:37,880
Speaker 1: took it all on himself, and then was resurrected, proving

732
00:44:38,239 --> 00:44:40,799
Speaker 1: his identity in front of hundreds of people. And this

733
00:44:40,840 --> 00:44:43,960
Speaker 1: happened on this earth, the same soil where we walk.

734
00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:47,360
Speaker 1: This happened. And that is the message of the gospel

735
00:44:47,719 --> 00:44:50,520
Speaker 1: if you choose to believe in him. So when you pray,

736
00:44:50,680 --> 00:44:53,920
Speaker 1: ask that say God, I heard the story of this

737
00:44:54,000 --> 00:44:57,040
Speaker 1: guy Jesus, and I just can't I wrestle with the

738
00:44:57,040 --> 00:44:59,520
Speaker 1: fact that not everyone's going to go to heaven. But then,

739
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:02,160
Speaker 1: but then I heard on the podcast and Grangeer was

740
00:45:02,200 --> 00:45:05,160
Speaker 1: talking that, you know, but maybe he's right that maybe

741
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:07,840
Speaker 1: none of us deserve it. So if thirty one percent

742
00:45:07,920 --> 00:45:09,279
Speaker 1: get in, like you said, I don't know where that

743
00:45:09,360 --> 00:45:12,239
Speaker 1: number comes from, but if thirty one percent, how could

744
00:45:12,239 --> 00:45:15,080
Speaker 1: that even be possible that you would allow thirty one

745
00:45:15,120 --> 00:45:18,360
Speaker 1: percent when we're all bad. Let me know more about that.

746
00:45:18,840 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 1: I believe this. I don't want to have blind faith.

747
00:45:21,680 --> 00:45:23,400
Speaker 1: I don't want to drive on a mountain by myself

748
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:27,799
Speaker 1: with a blindfold on. That's ridiculous, that's foolish. I want

749
00:45:27,800 --> 00:45:30,080
Speaker 1: to believe in you because this is what the Word says.

750
00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:34,920
Speaker 1: Seek and you will find knock and the door will

751
00:45:34,920 --> 00:45:37,000
Speaker 1: be open. And if you have to tattoo it on

752
00:45:37,080 --> 00:45:40,759
Speaker 1: your wrist like Burnie Good, I think that's great. So

753
00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:45,200
Speaker 1: before Thomas, before you go out into the woods, listen

754
00:45:45,680 --> 00:45:48,279
Speaker 1: back to everything Granger just said. Maybe write it down

755
00:45:48,320 --> 00:45:51,839
Speaker 1: so that you can leave your phone at home and uh,

756
00:45:52,400 --> 00:45:54,839
Speaker 1: but you can listen to those words, take the Word

757
00:45:54,880 --> 00:45:58,920
Speaker 1: with you and go seek. Man. That's the power of

758
00:45:58,960 --> 00:46:02,359
Speaker 1: what we're saying here. Is not in us convincing you.

759
00:46:02,800 --> 00:46:05,400
Speaker 1: It's not in us convincing anyone listening to this podcast

760
00:46:05,600 --> 00:46:09,120
Speaker 1: on how eloquent my words are, how accurate I speak them,

761
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:12,920
Speaker 1: or how how influenced Dike can be to you. I

762
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:19,399
Speaker 1: cannot convince you intellectually, or psychologically or physiologically, whatever any

763
00:46:19,480 --> 00:46:24,719
Speaker 1: other ologies. I cannot convince you. But the power of

764
00:46:24,760 --> 00:46:29,359
Speaker 1: that message the power of the gospel. Can I'll leave

765
00:46:29,360 --> 00:46:36,240
Speaker 1: you with that. Yep? All right, all right, we're waiting

766
00:46:36,280 --> 00:46:43,560
Speaker 1: out in the water. We're in the water. Man. I struggle, guys,

767
00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:47,600
Speaker 1: because some of these questions are let me go to

768
00:46:47,640 --> 00:46:49,640
Speaker 1: this one. This is a good transition. It's called how

769
00:46:49,640 --> 00:46:51,640
Speaker 1: do you know if you're saved? Let's go there. It

770
00:46:51,880 --> 00:46:53,320
Speaker 1: might be a good transition of what we just We

771
00:46:53,400 --> 00:46:55,600
Speaker 1: might be able to piggyback on that last message, but

772
00:46:55,640 --> 00:46:58,240
Speaker 1: it says, Hey, Granger, my name is A J. Komer.

773
00:46:58,320 --> 00:47:01,719
Speaker 1: I'm from Fort Worth, Texas. Shout out to tech. First off,

774
00:47:01,760 --> 00:47:04,640
Speaker 1: I love what you're doing for all these people you

775
00:47:04,680 --> 00:47:07,360
Speaker 1: have pulled. You have pulled me and probably many others

776
00:47:07,360 --> 00:47:11,319
Speaker 1: closer to God simply through this podcast. I pray that

777
00:47:11,360 --> 00:47:15,040
Speaker 1: you're right, Aj. I have one question when it comes

778
00:47:15,080 --> 00:47:18,080
Speaker 1: to all of this, how do you know that you're saved?

779
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:20,840
Speaker 1: I know this is a very vague question to ask,

780
00:47:21,239 --> 00:47:22,920
Speaker 1: but what I mean is this, how do you know

781
00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:26,359
Speaker 1: that Jesus has forgiven you of all your sins and

782
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:29,080
Speaker 1: will allow you to join Him in many others in heaven.

783
00:47:31,880 --> 00:47:36,319
Speaker 1: That's a great piggyback from what we just said. Yeah, so, uh,

784
00:47:36,960 --> 00:47:41,359
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take I'm gonna take this one go. How

785
00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:45,480
Speaker 1: do you know that? Can you read the question one

786
00:47:45,480 --> 00:47:47,320
Speaker 1: more time? Because I want to make sure I'm answering

787
00:47:47,320 --> 00:47:50,799
Speaker 1: it specifically. So it sounds like aj has listened to

788
00:47:50,800 --> 00:47:54,080
Speaker 1: this podcast and he's curious. He's in the seeking mode.

789
00:47:54,200 --> 00:47:56,400
Speaker 1: He's ready to tattoo seek on his on his wrist.

790
00:47:56,840 --> 00:47:59,840
Speaker 1: He says, I have one question, how do you know

791
00:47:59,880 --> 00:48:03,000
Speaker 1: that you're saved? How do you know that Jesus has

792
00:48:03,040 --> 00:48:06,800
Speaker 1: forgave That's what he said, you of all your sins

793
00:48:06,840 --> 00:48:09,000
Speaker 1: and will allow you to join him and many others

794
00:48:09,000 --> 00:48:13,320
Speaker 1: in heaven. Okay, I'm just going to pray that I

795
00:48:13,360 --> 00:48:16,440
Speaker 1: communicate this correctly because I have been studying this in

796
00:48:16,480 --> 00:48:20,279
Speaker 1: the Book of Luke, and I'm not the smartest. Some

797
00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:22,759
Speaker 1: of you may think differently, but I'm not the smartest,

798
00:48:22,840 --> 00:48:26,319
Speaker 1: and retaining this and reciting it is really tough. But

799
00:48:26,560 --> 00:48:28,480
Speaker 1: there's a couple of things that I go back to

800
00:48:28,920 --> 00:48:32,680
Speaker 1: a couple of stories that Jesus talked about, the story

801
00:48:33,120 --> 00:48:36,480
Speaker 1: the parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector, and

802
00:48:37,800 --> 00:48:41,279
Speaker 1: the parable of the children come the children entering the

803
00:48:41,360 --> 00:48:45,440
Speaker 1: Kingdom of God. So if we go back to how

804
00:48:45,640 --> 00:48:48,680
Speaker 1: so question is, how do we know that we are forgiven? Okay,

805
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:51,439
Speaker 1: so let's look at this is this is Jesus right,

806
00:48:51,840 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 1: He was there in the beginning, created all of this.

807
00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:57,959
Speaker 1: This is all, you know, moving towards the glory of him.

808
00:48:58,120 --> 00:49:01,560
Speaker 1: He knows the beginning and the end. Okay, he's speaking

809
00:49:01,600 --> 00:49:07,480
Speaker 1: this and he says, this is parable about this Pharisee,

810
00:49:08,120 --> 00:49:17,040
Speaker 1: who in that culture was very revered and respected, and

811
00:49:17,120 --> 00:49:20,839
Speaker 1: he kind of went up to the temple for this

812
00:49:20,920 --> 00:49:25,440
Speaker 1: time of sacrifice and was really praying to himself, but

813
00:49:25,480 --> 00:49:29,319
Speaker 1: he acknowledged God, and he was saying, I've done all

814
00:49:29,360 --> 00:49:31,799
Speaker 1: of these things. I've kept your commandments. I give to

815
00:49:31,840 --> 00:49:36,640
Speaker 1: the poor. And then he says, I haven't done this,

816
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:41,520
Speaker 1: and I haven't done that, like the adulterers and prostitutes,

817
00:49:41,520 --> 00:49:44,200
Speaker 1: and definitely like that tech, not like that tax collector.

818
00:49:44,840 --> 00:49:49,279
Speaker 1: So he is separating himself and trying to work and

819
00:49:49,440 --> 00:49:54,680
Speaker 1: show that, Hey, this is how I am worthy of

820
00:49:54,719 --> 00:50:00,759
Speaker 1: atonement and this repentance that you're talking about, this this

821
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:03,040
Speaker 1: salvation that you're talking about. This is the way that

822
00:50:03,080 --> 00:50:06,439
Speaker 1: he Jesus says this, This was what the Pharisee did.

823
00:50:07,480 --> 00:50:10,640
Speaker 1: But then a tax collector, which in that culture was

824
00:50:10,760 --> 00:50:13,640
Speaker 1: like the lowest of loads of the earth, the scum

825
00:50:13,680 --> 00:50:15,400
Speaker 1: of the earth. They had turned on their own people,

826
00:50:15,400 --> 00:50:17,759
Speaker 1: and then we're taxing them and taking advantage of them.

827
00:50:17,800 --> 00:50:25,960
Speaker 1: They were just outcasts that from far off, the tax

828
00:50:26,000 --> 00:50:34,520
Speaker 1: collector saw what was happening, and he said, have mercy

829
00:50:35,000 --> 00:50:41,440
Speaker 1: on me. This sinner not a sinner. He's saying, the

830
00:50:41,640 --> 00:50:45,280
Speaker 1: sinner like I'm the worst. I recognize I am the worst.

831
00:50:45,920 --> 00:50:48,720
Speaker 1: And not only that I have nothing, I haven't done anything.

832
00:50:48,760 --> 00:50:52,000
Speaker 1: I've actually done everything against what this is saying for

833
00:50:52,080 --> 00:50:58,760
Speaker 1: my salvation. But then Jesus says, this is the one

834
00:50:58,840 --> 00:51:03,040
Speaker 1: that went down just afy, and the other did not

835
00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:08,040
Speaker 1: go down justified. He didn't go down saved the Pharisee

836
00:51:08,080 --> 00:51:11,520
Speaker 1: although he was doing all this stuff. But the tax

837
00:51:11,560 --> 00:51:17,760
Speaker 1: collector who had done nothing but wrong and then come

838
00:51:18,000 --> 00:51:21,200
Speaker 1: and just pleaded for mercy. And in the original text,

839
00:51:21,200 --> 00:51:25,360
Speaker 1: this is like saying, hey, let this like, you be

840
00:51:25,600 --> 00:51:28,880
Speaker 1: the propitiation for me, You be the sacrifice so that

841
00:51:29,000 --> 00:51:30,920
Speaker 1: I can be here, so that I can be saved.

842
00:51:31,239 --> 00:51:37,000
Speaker 1: He recognized this right. So what that tells us is

843
00:51:37,040 --> 00:51:39,920
Speaker 1: that this kind of like anything that we can do

844
00:51:40,000 --> 00:51:42,840
Speaker 1: to earn this salvation and to feel like we are saved,

845
00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:49,120
Speaker 1: there's nothing. But then the very next passage in Luke,

846
00:51:49,160 --> 00:51:53,160
Speaker 1: he talks about the children coming to him, and the

847
00:51:53,200 --> 00:51:56,319
Speaker 1: disciples actually rebuked and said, and you know, the parents

848
00:51:56,360 --> 00:52:01,879
Speaker 1: were bringing even these infants Jesus and the disciples were

849
00:52:01,920 --> 00:52:07,120
Speaker 1: like no, no, And Jesus said, let them come to

850
00:52:07,160 --> 00:52:13,799
Speaker 1: me now in the text, now present, and don't ever

851
00:52:13,960 --> 00:52:17,240
Speaker 1: hinder them from coming to me. Moving forward, he's teaching

852
00:52:17,280 --> 00:52:24,680
Speaker 1: him saying, hey, because unless you receive the gospel, receive

853
00:52:24,719 --> 00:52:27,839
Speaker 1: the kingdom as a child, you will not enter it.

854
00:52:28,480 --> 00:52:31,480
Speaker 1: So then it makes me think like, okay, what does

855
00:52:31,480 --> 00:52:36,000
Speaker 1: a child have to offer? Can they take care of themselves?

856
00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:39,839
Speaker 1: Can they provide for themselves? No? They are fully reliant

857
00:52:40,200 --> 00:52:44,920
Speaker 1: on their parents. So how do you know that you

858
00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:49,520
Speaker 1: are saved? How do you know that you will accompany

859
00:52:49,680 --> 00:52:52,680
Speaker 1: that Jesus has saved you, and that you will accompany

860
00:52:52,719 --> 00:52:56,360
Speaker 1: many others. I have to believe one, that you have

861
00:52:57,320 --> 00:53:03,440
Speaker 1: put your faith in Jesus, and that you have given

862
00:53:03,520 --> 00:53:08,440
Speaker 1: him every square inch of your life, and that you

863
00:53:08,480 --> 00:53:12,040
Speaker 1: go to him each morning and throughout the day saying, Jesus,

864
00:53:12,080 --> 00:53:16,680
Speaker 1: have mercy, Please have mercy on me the sinner. I

865
00:53:16,719 --> 00:53:25,080
Speaker 1: rely on you for everything, and I think that what

866
00:53:25,120 --> 00:53:28,600
Speaker 1: the Gospel or what the Word continues to tell us

867
00:53:28,600 --> 00:53:32,680
Speaker 1: in different places is there is a piece that surpasses

868
00:53:33,080 --> 00:53:37,600
Speaker 1: understanding that will cover your heart in your mind. Yep.

869
00:53:39,000 --> 00:53:41,440
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's helpful. And maybe that's just

870
00:53:42,000 --> 00:53:44,560
Speaker 1: something that I've personally been kind of digging into with,

871
00:53:44,760 --> 00:53:48,000
Speaker 1: you know, a group of guys and has just opened

872
00:53:48,000 --> 00:53:51,160
Speaker 1: my eyes. I was more in the camp of, well,

873
00:53:51,200 --> 00:53:52,759
Speaker 1: I got to do these things, and I have to

874
00:53:52,800 --> 00:53:56,120
Speaker 1: show people that I'm doing these things because then maybe

875
00:53:56,160 --> 00:53:59,160
Speaker 1: I'll feel better about my own salvation. And the Word

876
00:53:59,239 --> 00:54:01,680
Speaker 1: just kind of said, dude, you got it all wrong, man.

877
00:54:01,960 --> 00:54:04,560
Speaker 1: So kind of what you're saying, Bernie, you're kind of

878
00:54:05,280 --> 00:54:07,000
Speaker 1: answering it in the way that he asked it, because

879
00:54:07,000 --> 00:54:08,759
Speaker 1: he asked, how do you know? And that's why you

880
00:54:08,800 --> 00:54:11,160
Speaker 1: answered it that way, how do you know that you're saved?

881
00:54:11,160 --> 00:54:14,200
Speaker 1: Because he didn't say how are you saved? How do

882
00:54:14,239 --> 00:54:19,160
Speaker 1: you know? And so that's I love that. I love

883
00:54:19,200 --> 00:54:23,720
Speaker 1: that and I want to dig into how are you?

884
00:54:23,719 --> 00:54:25,839
Speaker 1: You answered how do you know? I'm gonna answer how

885
00:54:25,840 --> 00:54:28,840
Speaker 1: are you? Because the Bible is very clear about how

886
00:54:28,880 --> 00:54:35,920
Speaker 1: are you saved? You're saved by grace, meaning sheer love

887
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:42,000
Speaker 1: of God, unmerited faith, unmerited favor. Great, you're saved by

888
00:54:42,239 --> 00:54:47,360
Speaker 1: unmerited favor through faith. Believe. Believing is the only requirement.

889
00:54:48,040 --> 00:54:50,759
Speaker 1: Believing in that message and the message I said in

890
00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:57,000
Speaker 1: the last question. And you're saved by unmerited favor. That's it.

891
00:54:57,239 --> 00:54:59,480
Speaker 1: And you could find this over and over. This is

892
00:54:59,520 --> 00:55:03,400
Speaker 1: what's set, guys. This is what separates Christianity from every

893
00:55:03,840 --> 00:55:07,439
Speaker 1: other religion. And I'll take the heat, I'll take the fire.

894
00:55:07,520 --> 00:55:09,399
Speaker 1: I'll jump in head first right now and just say

895
00:55:09,400 --> 00:55:14,799
Speaker 1: this is what separates it from Buddhism, Islam, Judaism, LDS,

896
00:55:14,920 --> 00:55:22,800
Speaker 1: Jehovah's witness, scientology, every other one is faith plus works.

897
00:55:22,920 --> 00:55:29,200
Speaker 1: Typically works, something that you do, something you act on.

898
00:55:29,800 --> 00:55:35,400
Speaker 1: But Christians don't believe. That's very very clear in the

899
00:55:35,440 --> 00:55:39,279
Speaker 1: scriptures over and over and all that every time it's said.

900
00:55:39,320 --> 00:55:43,319
Speaker 1: It harmonizes beautifully with all the scriptures. But it's very

901
00:55:43,360 --> 00:55:48,520
Speaker 1: clear you're saved by faith, by grace, through faith, not

902
00:55:48,880 --> 00:55:52,440
Speaker 1: by works. Lest no man should boast you are not

903
00:55:52,520 --> 00:55:54,680
Speaker 1: saved by anything that you do. You are a sinner,

904
00:55:54,760 --> 00:55:58,960
Speaker 1: aj and I'm a sinner, and everybody else that's emailed

905
00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:03,120
Speaker 1: and everyone that's listening. We do not deserve it. We

906
00:56:04,000 --> 00:56:08,319
Speaker 1: deserve punishment for who we are, and that punishment is

907
00:56:08,360 --> 00:56:10,400
Speaker 1: paid in full. It's see. And have you ever heard

908
00:56:10,400 --> 00:56:14,880
Speaker 1: the analogy of the judge. It's like the analogy of this.

909
00:56:14,880 --> 00:56:19,240
Speaker 1: This kid gets arrested and he goes to face the judge,

910
00:56:19,480 --> 00:56:22,560
Speaker 1: and the judge is his father, and he stands. He

911
00:56:23,040 --> 00:56:26,000
Speaker 1: sits there on the stand, and the judge, who is

912
00:56:26,239 --> 00:56:30,200
Speaker 1: a well established judge, looks at his own son, at

913
00:56:30,200 --> 00:56:34,000
Speaker 1: the crime that he's done. The judge has to hit

914
00:56:34,080 --> 00:56:36,759
Speaker 1: him with punishment. The judge can't say, well, you're my son,

915
00:56:36,800 --> 00:56:39,200
Speaker 1: so I'm gonna let you free. Someone has to pay

916
00:56:39,239 --> 00:56:41,759
Speaker 1: for this. So the judge does, well, your penalty is

917
00:56:41,800 --> 00:56:47,920
Speaker 1: fifty thousand dollars, and the the kid goes, well, that's great, judge. Father.

918
00:56:49,000 --> 00:56:52,480
Speaker 1: Obviously the kid does not have fifty thousand dollars. So

919
00:56:52,520 --> 00:56:57,759
Speaker 1: then the judge sentences him to the fifty thousand dollars fine.

920
00:56:57,880 --> 00:57:00,840
Speaker 1: He steps away from the podium, take off his garment,

921
00:57:01,640 --> 00:57:03,920
Speaker 1: He goes around the bench and he puts his arm

922
00:57:03,920 --> 00:57:05,319
Speaker 1: around the kid and he goes, I'm gonna pay this

923
00:57:05,320 --> 00:57:09,040
Speaker 1: for you. This is your penalty, but I'm gonna pay

924
00:57:09,080 --> 00:57:11,440
Speaker 1: it for you. And that's that is the story of

925
00:57:11,480 --> 00:57:15,560
Speaker 1: the Gospel. Your faith is the only requirement. There is

926
00:57:15,560 --> 00:57:19,640
Speaker 1: no works. That now, no works is a reflection of

927
00:57:19,680 --> 00:57:21,600
Speaker 1: the faith. How do you know you have a living faith?

928
00:57:21,640 --> 00:57:24,280
Speaker 1: How do you know you're saved because you're you're gonna

929
00:57:24,320 --> 00:57:27,560
Speaker 1: work the way? How you live your life after the faith,

930
00:57:28,320 --> 00:57:31,480
Speaker 1: after you're saved, after all that grace at how you

931
00:57:31,520 --> 00:57:33,919
Speaker 1: live your life after that is a reflection. And that's

932
00:57:33,920 --> 00:57:37,040
Speaker 1: why we see in James two he says that that

933
00:57:37,200 --> 00:57:40,160
Speaker 1: faith without works is dead. The fruits of the spirit

934
00:57:40,200 --> 00:57:42,919
Speaker 1: are fruth. You're you're gonna know, you're gonna you're gonna

935
00:57:42,920 --> 00:57:46,240
Speaker 1: be overwhelmed by a conscience that goes I probably shouldn't

936
00:57:46,240 --> 00:57:48,080
Speaker 1: speak talk like that. I probably should clean up my

937
00:57:48,080 --> 00:57:51,640
Speaker 1: filthy mouth. I probably shouldn't say that, I should probably

938
00:57:51,640 --> 00:57:54,280
Speaker 1: shouldn't look at that girl in that way. You know,

939
00:57:54,400 --> 00:57:56,640
Speaker 1: the list goes on and on. I probably shouldn't take

940
00:57:56,680 --> 00:57:58,960
Speaker 1: this five dollars from this guy because he accidentally left

941
00:57:59,000 --> 00:58:00,760
Speaker 1: on the counter. I should probably go run him down

942
00:58:00,800 --> 00:58:03,880
Speaker 1: and give him his five bucks back. That's the overwhelming

943
00:58:04,240 --> 00:58:08,040
Speaker 1: conviction that you'll have after faith. But Christianity, guys is

944
00:58:08,800 --> 00:58:13,200
Speaker 1: saved by grace through faith alone, not by works. It's

945
00:58:13,240 --> 00:58:17,000
Speaker 1: not anything after that, and that's what separates us from

946
00:58:17,640 --> 00:58:21,080
Speaker 1: LDS and Islam and Judaism and Buddhism and hindu I'm

947
00:58:21,080 --> 00:58:22,960
Speaker 1: going to say it. I said this twice. I said

948
00:58:22,960 --> 00:58:26,520
Speaker 1: the list twice, so there's absolutely no confusion on where

949
00:58:26,720 --> 00:58:29,800
Speaker 1: my conviction is. And then anyone that listening, if anyone's

950
00:58:30,000 --> 00:58:32,840
Speaker 1: any confused at all on the Christ that I follow,

951
00:58:33,280 --> 00:58:39,480
Speaker 1: I follow the one of the scriptures solely, scripture Scripture US,

952
00:58:39,640 --> 00:58:43,960
Speaker 1: I think is the Latin by the scriptures only, and

953
00:58:45,000 --> 00:58:49,480
Speaker 1: we believe that the God's word has maintained. The flowers

954
00:58:49,480 --> 00:58:53,200
Speaker 1: will fade, but the word of God will never die,

955
00:58:53,560 --> 00:58:56,440
Speaker 1: and we believe that we believe that it's it's the

956
00:58:56,440 --> 00:58:59,800
Speaker 1: word of God. I kind of feel like I kind

957
00:58:59,800 --> 00:59:03,160
Speaker 1: of like we're hitting these two questions hard. And I

958
00:59:03,160 --> 00:59:06,160
Speaker 1: apologize to anyone that's like, I don't know, but but

959
00:59:07,240 --> 00:59:10,040
Speaker 1: this really important stuff. Don't apologize. Man. Those guys that

960
00:59:10,080 --> 00:59:11,720
Speaker 1: are out there that are listening to it that feel

961
00:59:11,720 --> 00:59:21,240
Speaker 1: that way, hopefully they respect you enough to to at

962
00:59:21,320 --> 00:59:25,440
Speaker 1: least recognize. He's standing up for what he believes, and

963
00:59:25,480 --> 00:59:28,600
Speaker 1: he's doing it in a way that not many other

964
00:59:29,240 --> 00:59:33,680
Speaker 1: people with your kind of platform would do. There's definitely some,

965
00:59:33,880 --> 00:59:39,400
Speaker 1: but they can believe different things and still have respect

966
00:59:39,400 --> 00:59:41,360
Speaker 1: for you, so I wouldn't apologize. Man. Thank you man.

967
00:59:41,400 --> 00:59:43,480
Speaker 1: And I think we started this podcast by saying, I'm

968
00:59:43,480 --> 00:59:46,240
Speaker 1: going to answer these questions with you the best way

969
00:59:46,280 --> 00:59:49,680
Speaker 1: that I know how. And here's the question subject, how

970
00:59:49,720 --> 00:59:51,560
Speaker 1: do you know if you're saved? That's where I'm going

971
00:59:51,640 --> 00:59:54,240
Speaker 1: to go. Yeah, I'm going to tell you aj exactly

972
00:59:55,200 --> 00:59:57,160
Speaker 1: what I believe, and I'm going to give you the

973
00:59:57,480 --> 01:00:00,240
Speaker 1: best evidence that I can with that belief so that

974
01:00:00,280 --> 01:00:04,640
Speaker 1: we're not on the mountain driving blindly Burn's run of time. Dude.

975
01:00:04,720 --> 01:00:08,000
Speaker 1: All right, man, this is fun. Yeah, appreciate you so much.

976
01:00:08,760 --> 01:00:11,120
Speaker 1: Love you guys. We'll see you soon. Yege, thank you

977
01:00:11,160 --> 01:00:14,200
Speaker 1: thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith Podcast. I appreciate

978
01:00:14,400 --> 01:00:16,400
Speaker 1: all of you guys. You could help me out by

979
01:00:16,480 --> 01:00:20,320
Speaker 1: rating this podcast on iTunes. If you're on YouTube, subscribe

980
01:00:20,320 --> 01:00:23,720
Speaker 1: to this channel, hit that little like button and notification

981
01:00:23,840 --> 01:00:27,720
Speaker 1: spell so that you never miss anytime I upload a video.

982
01:00:28,040 --> 01:00:29,680
Speaker 1: If you have a question for me that you would

983
01:00:29,680 --> 01:00:35,160
Speaker 1: like me to answer, email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com.

984
01:00:35,560 --> 01:00:35,640
Speaker 1: Ye