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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please

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Speaker 1: live on the air, just like we're going to read

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Speaker 1: this one right here. It's for you, Jay, It could

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Speaker 1: be you you never know, could be your letter you

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Speaker 1: never know. Buckle up and hold on tight. We got

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Speaker 1: it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter subject.

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Speaker 1: We've all been waiting for this one subject. It's the

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Speaker 1: d for me, all right, Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a

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Speaker 1: thirty eight year old woman that has been married for

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Speaker 1: fourteen years and we have two children together. I realize

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Speaker 1: when you are married, people change over time and sometimes

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Speaker 1: it's not even worth it to try to work things out.

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Speaker 1: I am at that point with my husband. He's changed

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Speaker 1: into an evil monster. He has always been overctive, possessive,

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Speaker 1: and extremely jealous, but in the past few years it's

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Speaker 1: gotten worse. He has always accused me of cheating, So

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Speaker 1: guess what I finally did it. When I leave the house,

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Speaker 1: he wants me to take the kids with me. So

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Speaker 1: I take them. My dad knows what's up with me

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Speaker 1: and my new boo, so he keeps the kids if

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Speaker 1: I have a date with my new man. At first,

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Speaker 1: I was a nervous wreck, but you already know women

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Speaker 1: are better cheaters, so I eased into the role. Eventually.

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Speaker 1: My new boo is attentive and compliment me whether I'm

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Speaker 1: looking bummy or if I'm all fixed up. I visited

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Speaker 1: his church, and I've met his co workers, and all

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Speaker 1: of that is fine and good, but it's the d

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Speaker 1: for me. It's the dough. Okay, this guy is loaded

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Speaker 1: and he gives freely to me without me having to

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Speaker 1: hint or ask. I'm smart enough to save all the

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Speaker 1: money for a rainy day and have it in a

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Speaker 1: special account my husband can't find it. Now that we've

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Speaker 1: been together for almost six months, my boo is ready

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Speaker 1: to have me full time. He's been asking me to

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Speaker 1: consider getting a divorce, and I'm seriously considering it since

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Speaker 1: my husband is more like a prison warden than my husband.

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Speaker 1: My boo is sixteen years older and his children are

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Speaker 1: all grown, so he said he'd welcome my two children

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Speaker 1: into his home. So it's about to be the d

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Speaker 1: for me again, it's divorced time. Do you think I've

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Speaker 1: been with my boo long enough to make the big

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Speaker 1: D decision? Please advise? All right, here's my question for you,

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Speaker 1: lady letter writer? Why did you write us? I mean really,

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Speaker 1: why did you write us? What do you want Steve

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Speaker 1: and I to give you the okay to pack up

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Speaker 1: and leave your husband? You seem to have it all

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Speaker 1: worked out for yourself already, so you don't need us.

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Speaker 1: Why did you write us? You've got the man with

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Speaker 1: the D. You even got your dad on board helping

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Speaker 1: you out with the kids. So unless there's something keeping

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Speaker 1: you there, what's stopping you from moving on? If you

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Speaker 1: if you want to leave your so called evil monster

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Speaker 1: prison warden of a husband, leave, I mean, why do

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Speaker 1: you need us to tell you that? I say, go

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Speaker 1: ahead and get your D. Girl, Go ahead, get your

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Speaker 1: D since it's the D for you, doe and divorce.

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Speaker 1: Just always remember the grass isn't greener on the other side, Okay,

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Speaker 1: just remember that, all right, Steve? Well, you know, let's

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Speaker 1: look at this letter study eighty old woman, be married,

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Speaker 1: fourteen years, two children together. Realize that over the years,

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Speaker 1: people change and sometimes it ain't even worth it trying

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Speaker 1: to work out. She's already saying this. I'm at the

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Speaker 1: point with my husband now he's been changing to this

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Speaker 1: evil moms. You always been old protectives. That'sn't all that jealous,

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Speaker 1: and he's always accused me cheating, So guess what I

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Speaker 1: did it. Two wrongs don't ever make a right. But

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Speaker 1: let's try and see if this can work out. When

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Speaker 1: I leave the house, he wants me to take kids

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Speaker 1: with it, so I take them. My dad knows what's

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Speaker 1: At first, I was a neighbor's wreck. But we already

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Speaker 1: know women are better cheating, So I used into the

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Speaker 1: road my new boots. A tenant compliments me whether I'm

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Speaker 1: looking bumming or if I'm fixed up. I visited his church,

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Speaker 1: and I've met his co workers. All of that is

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Speaker 1: fine and good, but it's the d for me. It's

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Speaker 1: the dope, the damned dope. Okay, so the man got money, well,

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Speaker 1: now he's loaded and he always giving your money. Now,

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Speaker 1: I think we're getting into what made this letter start

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Speaker 1: up at the beginning where you think it is at

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Speaker 1: that point where it ain't there need it ain't you

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Speaker 1: said the key word worth, it's not worth trying to

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Speaker 1: work things out. Well, I guess it ain't worth it,

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Speaker 1: no mo since you got a man with all this

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Speaker 1: damn doughe see how this worked. It's amazing how you

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Speaker 1: start telling on yourself fourteen years now, all of a sudden,

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Speaker 1: here a monster because you didn't met this new man.

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying the man ain't a monster. I ain't

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Speaker 1: saying y'all to stay there, but it shouldn't got worse

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Speaker 1: since you met this man with this dope, because your

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Speaker 1: man is a direct opposite. He's attentive, compliment. You gives

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Speaker 1: you money without you ask, and you smart enough to

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Speaker 1: save it for a rainy day. How much you didn't

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Speaker 1: save that? Wonder wish I could get that? How much

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Speaker 1: she probably got? About how long she say they've been

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Speaker 1: dating six months? Five grand? She got about that a

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Speaker 1: five hundred? How? No, not for real? I know how

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Speaker 1: people think. I don't know how people think. Because you

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Speaker 1: ain't saving all that money. You got to be buying something.

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Speaker 1: You know he's giving your money. You got buy a

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Speaker 1: dress or something, pantyhole lingerise something you got shot up

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Speaker 1: some new jaw glitter. You gotta get something glitter had

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Speaker 1: this ain't reck with glitter. That's ain't you glitter down

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Speaker 1: at the craft though, the good kind of you got

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Speaker 1: Dave glitter coming to jaw called sugar and you don't

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Speaker 1: look at you A lot of hand some of them

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Speaker 1: sugar on me. Back in my past life, I know

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Speaker 1: what you can't hardly get it off. He to be

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Speaker 1: all in your mush hair, all being all in your

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Speaker 1: hold on, hold on. About two weeks. We'll have part

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Speaker 1: two of Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after the hour. Subject it's the D for me. We'll

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Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening morning show.

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Speaker 1: All right, here we go. Let's recap the Strawberry letter today, Steve.

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Speaker 1: Subject it is the D for me. Thirty year old

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Speaker 1: woman tired of this marriage. She'd been in for fourteen years,

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Speaker 1: they got two kids. She'd met this older man that's

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Speaker 1: sixteen years older than her, makes him fifty four. I

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Speaker 1: didn't say that earlier, but I'm just giving you the

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Speaker 1: quicker update. And his demand has always been jealous, and

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Speaker 1: he's worse now. He's an evil monster. Always been accusing

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Speaker 1: her cheating. So guess what she says. She went on

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Speaker 1: and then and she then got good at it, her

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Speaker 1: new boot fifty four. Also, i'd like to add in

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Speaker 1: that once you cross the age of forty, you can

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Speaker 1: stop referring to each other as a boot too old

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Speaker 1: to be a boot. No such thing as a cute

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Speaker 1: as old ghost. Ain't no such thing as no forty

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Speaker 1: year old boot. You're dating this old ass man, you

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Speaker 1: thirty eight fifty four. All right, so you visited his church,

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Speaker 1: you've met his co workers, and she said, all that's

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Speaker 1: finely good, but it's the d for me. It's the dope.

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Speaker 1: This guy's loaded and he gives me without asking. And

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Speaker 1: I'm smart enough saving all the money for a rainy day. Well,

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Speaker 1: you ain't saving all of it, Let's be honest. I

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Speaker 1: have a special account so my husband can't find it. Now,

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Speaker 1: we've been together for almost six months and my boot

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Speaker 1: is ready to have me for a time. He's been

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Speaker 1: asking me to consider getting a divorce, and I'm seriously

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Speaker 1: considering it since my husband is more like a prison

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Speaker 1: ward than my husband. That my boot, which I've told

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Speaker 1: you to quit using that word's sixteen years older. His

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Speaker 1: children are all grown. So he said he welcomed my

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Speaker 1: into this line carefully welcome your two children into his home.

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Speaker 1: You gotta start hearing stuff like our home. You gotta

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Speaker 1: start hearing stuff like our money. You need to start

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Speaker 1: hearing stuff like our account or you're just finna get bought,

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Speaker 1: because that's what he's been doing. He's been purchasing. Now,

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying he's not a nice guy and he

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Speaker 1: don't love y'all. Ain't saying none of that. And I'm

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Speaker 1: not saying he don't really want you, because it sounds

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Speaker 1: like you do. But you gotta be careful with me

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Speaker 1: and the Scott stuff. That ain't talking about hours. So

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Speaker 1: now you say he welcome to two kids. So now

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Speaker 1: it's about to be the D for me again, but

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Speaker 1: it's divorced this time. Do you think I've been with

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Speaker 1: my boot long enough to make the big D decision?

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Speaker 1: Please advise. Well, let's look at all the d's you're

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Speaker 1: talking now. It's all started when you went out on

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Speaker 1: the date that was a D. You went out on

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Speaker 1: a day and you started dating somebody as old enough

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Speaker 1: be your daddy. That's another DAN. But then when you

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Speaker 1: told you to take the kids with you, you drove

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Speaker 1: your other D into it. You took him over your

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Speaker 1: damn daddy house. Oh that's a double D. Your damn daddy.

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Speaker 1: So you took him over your daddy's house. Now your

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Speaker 1: daddy in on the dirty D. That's two mold ds.

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Speaker 1: You old daddy is in on the dirty D. And

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Speaker 1: the kids don't even know. Here's another D. What you

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Speaker 1: doing now you are face with another D, which is

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Speaker 1: a decision. Now in this decision, you're starting to have

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Speaker 1: if Sherley, have I been with my bootlonger know to

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Speaker 1: make the big D decision? Hell, we don't know. We

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Speaker 1: don't know if y'all over there talking or he just

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Speaker 1: buying stuff. Now you to say about thirty five, I

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Speaker 1: said she ain't got no five thousand in no dog

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Speaker 1: on six months shoulder. Okay, And so now all it

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Speaker 1: is is coming back because we're dealing with another D deception. WHOA,

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Speaker 1: I'll be damned damn. And now you're talking about divorce.

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Speaker 1: You're dating the man that's a D an old enough

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Speaker 1: to be your daddy. That's a d And your damn

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Speaker 1: the kids. Now that right there is all bought about.

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Speaker 1: Because you're new daddy. It's got plenty of dope. Now

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Speaker 1: you faced with a decision is it time for the

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Speaker 1: other date, which is called divorce? And your decision is

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Speaker 1: full of doubt because you don't know what to do.

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Speaker 1: That's another damn. This is dumb, you dumb, And I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna help you out with all of it. I got

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Speaker 1: news for you. Gotta be ready for another d because

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Speaker 1: he gonna get tired of your ass. And it's gonna

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Speaker 1: be the last D because you're gonna get dumped. Now

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Speaker 1: you're gonna wind up in the damn mother d the doghouse.

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Speaker 1: You're trying to get back in the crib, but you

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna be able to get back in the crib

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Speaker 1: because of what you did? What what you didn't done? Yes,

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Speaker 1: she can't get back in the door. All right? Steve? Good?

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