1 00:00:01,360 --> 00:00:04,680 Speaker 1: Hey, Hurdler's Emily a body here checking in with another 2 00:00:04,760 --> 00:00:08,320 Speaker 1: installment of Hurdle Moment from Hurdle, a podcast that talk 3 00:00:08,400 --> 00:00:12,160 Speaker 1: to everyone from entrepreneurs to top CEOs and athletes about 4 00:00:12,160 --> 00:00:15,480 Speaker 1: how they've gotten through tough times hurdles of sorts by 5 00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:19,640 Speaker 1: leaning in to wellness. God, I just feel like there 6 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:22,840 Speaker 1: isn't enough time to do all the things I want 7 00:00:22,880 --> 00:00:23,959 Speaker 1: to do lately. 8 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:25,120 Speaker 2: Can I get a name? Man? 9 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:29,280 Speaker 1: This week, I am going to be talking about the 10 00:00:29,320 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 1: things we want to let go of going into the 11 00:00:32,400 --> 00:00:32,840 Speaker 1: new year. 12 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:33,320 Speaker 2: Now. 13 00:00:33,560 --> 00:00:36,560 Speaker 1: I can't take all of the credit for this subject. 14 00:00:36,720 --> 00:00:41,720 Speaker 1: I went to a really awesome event of sorts I 15 00:00:41,720 --> 00:00:43,879 Speaker 1: guess you could call it last week here in New 16 00:00:43,960 --> 00:00:46,480 Speaker 1: York City, and that was called Medi Club. I will 17 00:00:46,520 --> 00:00:51,400 Speaker 1: link to Medi Club in the details to this episode. Basically, 18 00:00:51,400 --> 00:00:54,080 Speaker 1: what Medi Club is is a bunch of New Yorker 19 00:00:54,120 --> 00:00:58,040 Speaker 1: getting together not just to meditate, but to communicate, to 20 00:00:58,160 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 1: open up, to understand that it's. 21 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:02,960 Speaker 2: Okay to be vulnerable in front of other people. 22 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:06,920 Speaker 1: And there's just no better way to describe the once 23 00:01:07,040 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: monthly meeting than special. At Medi Club, every month, someone 24 00:01:12,120 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 1: gives what they call a share, and this month the 25 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:20,000 Speaker 1: share ended with a prompt posed to the attendees, which 26 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 1: was what do you want to leave behind or maybe 27 00:01:23,560 --> 00:01:27,319 Speaker 1: walk away from in twenty twenty. Now. It's so funny 28 00:01:27,319 --> 00:01:29,720 Speaker 1: because I thought to myself, if this was two years ago, 29 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:33,640 Speaker 1: in twenty seventeen, I would have given you someone's name 30 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:36,880 Speaker 1: right like an ex boyfriend. But this year I did 31 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:40,360 Speaker 1: a lot more soul searching and I felt as though 32 00:01:40,720 --> 00:01:44,840 Speaker 1: the answer that I came up with was satisfying, and 33 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:45,959 Speaker 1: I'm excited. 34 00:01:45,560 --> 00:01:46,840 Speaker 2: To share it with you. Guys. 35 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:48,680 Speaker 1: I just want to throw a note in here. The 36 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 1: holidays can be stressful and chaotic. Work is winding down 37 00:01:52,440 --> 00:01:55,440 Speaker 1: for the year. You're probably trying to do everything at once. 38 00:01:55,560 --> 00:01:59,840 Speaker 1: If you're anything like me and tackle what feels like everest, 39 00:02:00,200 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 1: I want you to know that you're not alone, that 40 00:02:03,440 --> 00:02:05,480 Speaker 1: we're all feeling a little bit stressed. I know I 41 00:02:05,520 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 1: certainly am, and that we're going to make it through. 42 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:11,120 Speaker 1: The light is at the end of the tunnel. And 43 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:14,200 Speaker 1: if the new year December thirty first, January first is 44 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:17,560 Speaker 1: good for anything, as you know, it's the perfect time 45 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 1: to start fresh, So no need to. 46 00:02:20,880 --> 00:02:25,200 Speaker 2: Wait until jan one to jump start change. 47 00:02:25,360 --> 00:02:29,600 Speaker 1: To feel inspired right now is just as good, So 48 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:34,360 Speaker 1: take a deep breath, let it out. I remember that 49 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:38,720 Speaker 1: we've got this at Emily Body at Hurdle podcast. 50 00:02:39,240 --> 00:02:55,120 Speaker 2: And with that, let's get to hurdling. What do I 51 00:02:55,200 --> 00:02:58,000 Speaker 2: want to let go of in twenty twenty? 52 00:02:58,760 --> 00:03:01,040 Speaker 1: Like I said, it would be a lot easier just 53 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:03,519 Speaker 1: to say I want this person out of my life, 54 00:03:03,639 --> 00:03:06,640 Speaker 1: or maybe something aesthetic like I want to lose a 55 00:03:06,639 --> 00:03:07,519 Speaker 1: certain amount of weight. 56 00:03:07,600 --> 00:03:10,399 Speaker 2: But you know me, my goals are a little bit 57 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:12,680 Speaker 2: more self development friendly. 58 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:17,079 Speaker 1: And so while I was sitting there inside of Escape 59 00:03:17,160 --> 00:03:20,760 Speaker 1: where they held the med Club event, I was thinking 60 00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 1: about the things that make. 61 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:25,919 Speaker 2: Me frustrated, and what I realized was. 62 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:28,680 Speaker 1: That one of the biggest things that I felt held 63 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:32,640 Speaker 1: me back in twenty nineteen was self doubt. Right, we 64 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:35,840 Speaker 1: go through these periods where we set goals and we 65 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:39,520 Speaker 1: strive for them, and sometimes and aiming for these big, 66 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:44,560 Speaker 1: lofty ideas, we get scared and intimidated and almost second 67 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 1: guess what we are capable of. The reality is And 68 00:03:47,840 --> 00:03:50,560 Speaker 1: what I've seen this year is when I shoved self 69 00:03:50,720 --> 00:03:54,200 Speaker 1: doubt to the side, I was truly able to reach 70 00:03:54,280 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 1: for my full potential now. Of course, first and foremost 71 00:03:57,520 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 1: a great example of this is with my t for Chicago. 72 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:02,840 Speaker 2: When I ran the. 73 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:07,600 Speaker 1: Chicago Marathon this year, I was including more speedwork than 74 00:04:07,600 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 1: ever in my routine. I was hitting paces that I 75 00:04:10,040 --> 00:04:13,800 Speaker 1: had never hit before. And that's because I stopped believing 76 00:04:13,840 --> 00:04:16,920 Speaker 1: that I was just this one type of runner. I 77 00:04:17,000 --> 00:04:22,520 Speaker 1: stopped believing that I was only capable of running as 78 00:04:22,560 --> 00:04:25,960 Speaker 1: fast as possible at an eight minute mile, for example. 79 00:04:26,360 --> 00:04:30,960 Speaker 1: When I stopped doubting myself, when I allowed myself to 80 00:04:31,080 --> 00:04:35,440 Speaker 1: reach for more, that is when I accomplished more, and 81 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:39,120 Speaker 1: it was this really beautiful unlock for the things that 82 00:04:39,160 --> 00:04:43,640 Speaker 1: I wanted outside of running as well. Think about your relationships, 83 00:04:43,680 --> 00:04:47,240 Speaker 1: maybe even with dating, when you stop doubting what you 84 00:04:47,360 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 1: have to offer, what you have to bring to the table, 85 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:52,600 Speaker 1: when you open yourself up and be authentic to who 86 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:55,279 Speaker 1: it is that you really are. Oftentimes when we're busy 87 00:04:55,320 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 1: wondering am I good enough? Am I successful enough? Am 88 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:02,640 Speaker 1: I pretty enough? Is my body okay? Not even a 89 00:05:02,680 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 1: question we should be asking ourselves. Right When we have 90 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:08,880 Speaker 1: these thoughts and allow in that negativity, it doesn't exactly 91 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:15,359 Speaker 1: set you up to find promising, uplifting relationships. What I 92 00:05:15,400 --> 00:05:18,760 Speaker 1: will say about my last serious relationship back in twenty 93 00:05:18,800 --> 00:05:22,320 Speaker 1: seventeen was that when I met this person, I was 94 00:05:22,360 --> 00:05:25,440 Speaker 1: going through a time that I was feeling really empowered. 95 00:05:25,560 --> 00:05:27,719 Speaker 1: I was really just getting my feet under me when 96 00:05:27,720 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 1: it came to my freelance writing business. I remember showing 97 00:05:31,520 --> 00:05:34,440 Speaker 1: up to that first date and my photo was in 98 00:05:34,480 --> 00:05:37,000 Speaker 1: a magazine spread, and I was super amped about that. 99 00:05:37,360 --> 00:05:41,680 Speaker 1: I was just not necessarily looking for anything. I was 100 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:44,160 Speaker 1: in a really good place with who I was. And 101 00:05:44,800 --> 00:05:47,240 Speaker 1: so many times when I've sat down on a date, 102 00:05:47,279 --> 00:05:49,719 Speaker 1: whether it was that date or another date, I come 103 00:05:49,760 --> 00:05:52,080 Speaker 1: to the table with this understanding that I really want 104 00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:56,000 Speaker 1: to be the best version of myself, and that in relationships, 105 00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:58,800 Speaker 1: I want to meet someone who also feels that same way. 106 00:05:58,880 --> 00:06:00,920 Speaker 1: I don't want it to be a fifty to fifty 107 00:06:00,920 --> 00:06:03,440 Speaker 1: split where I need that person to be a better me. 108 00:06:03,880 --> 00:06:04,760 Speaker 2: I want to be good. 109 00:06:05,040 --> 00:06:07,480 Speaker 1: I want them to be good and together, well, then 110 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:10,919 Speaker 1: maybe we have the opportunity to level up. Anyway, I 111 00:06:10,920 --> 00:06:13,520 Speaker 1: feel like I'm getting a little bit rambly. Basically, the 112 00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 1: point of this discussion, the point of all of this nonsense, 113 00:06:17,560 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 1: the point of these words, is that in twenty twenty, 114 00:06:21,120 --> 00:06:23,520 Speaker 1: I want to let go of this self doubt. I 115 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:27,440 Speaker 1: want to truly believe and I mean that with so 116 00:06:27,760 --> 00:06:31,400 Speaker 1: much of my heart that I am capable and I 117 00:06:31,440 --> 00:06:34,839 Speaker 1: am worthy. Now, I know it's not something that just 118 00:06:34,880 --> 00:06:39,080 Speaker 1: happens overnight, but it can happen with the power of 119 00:06:39,279 --> 00:06:44,599 Speaker 1: writing things down, saying things out loud, positive affirmations. Every 120 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:46,880 Speaker 1: day before I walk out of my apartment, I'm staring 121 00:06:46,880 --> 00:06:49,240 Speaker 1: at them right now. I look at these two post 122 00:06:49,240 --> 00:06:51,640 Speaker 1: its on the door. One of them says you can, 123 00:06:51,920 --> 00:06:55,360 Speaker 1: you will to good. The second one says you are kind, 124 00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:59,640 Speaker 1: you are capable, you are worthy, You've got this and 125 00:06:59,720 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 1: so so when you start to say these things to yourself, 126 00:07:02,720 --> 00:07:05,840 Speaker 1: when you truly do the work to believe that you 127 00:07:06,320 --> 00:07:10,240 Speaker 1: have a lot to offer, that's when we have the 128 00:07:10,280 --> 00:07:14,720 Speaker 1: opportunity to let go of that self doubt. Now, one 129 00:07:14,800 --> 00:07:18,520 Speaker 1: other thing I definitely want to leave behind in twenty 130 00:07:18,640 --> 00:07:22,040 Speaker 1: nineteen is I want to let go of this idea 131 00:07:22,080 --> 00:07:24,200 Speaker 1: that I feel like I have to do it all now. 132 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:27,200 Speaker 1: Kind of like Therpie in a way, I feel as 133 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:29,480 Speaker 1: though I have to do it all sometimes because maybe 134 00:07:29,520 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 1: I don't have the means to find someone else to help. 135 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 2: Me do it. 136 00:07:32,680 --> 00:07:37,080 Speaker 1: But the reality with that statement is that if I 137 00:07:37,240 --> 00:07:39,240 Speaker 1: feel as though I don't have the means that just 138 00:07:39,320 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 1: might be because I'm not prioritizing it or I'm not 139 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:45,440 Speaker 1: solution oriented. So I want to let go of feeling 140 00:07:45,480 --> 00:07:47,120 Speaker 1: like I have to do it all. I feel like 141 00:07:47,160 --> 00:07:49,760 Speaker 1: this is something that whenever I have dinner with a girlfriend, 142 00:07:50,160 --> 00:07:51,840 Speaker 1: we totally commiserate on. 143 00:07:52,560 --> 00:07:56,720 Speaker 2: You don't want to feel weak, you want to feel capable. 144 00:07:56,800 --> 00:08:00,120 Speaker 2: You want to feel like you've got this right, and 145 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:03,920 Speaker 2: I can totally sympathize. The reality is is that sometimes 146 00:08:04,280 --> 00:08:07,320 Speaker 2: you have to say no. Sometimes you have to think of. 147 00:08:07,240 --> 00:08:10,680 Speaker 1: What your big goals are, what your values are, and 148 00:08:10,720 --> 00:08:14,840 Speaker 1: when opportunities or situations arise that make you feel like 149 00:08:14,880 --> 00:08:17,920 Speaker 1: you need to say yes, take a step back and 150 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:21,640 Speaker 1: ask yourself, where does this align with what it is 151 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:22,840 Speaker 1: that I want? 152 00:08:23,040 --> 00:08:26,520 Speaker 2: Where does this align with my ultimate goals. It can be. 153 00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:29,160 Speaker 1: Something as simple as someone asking you if you want 154 00:08:29,160 --> 00:08:31,200 Speaker 1: to grab a drink after work when you know that 155 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:35,640 Speaker 1: you have laundry and errands and work and god knows 156 00:08:35,640 --> 00:08:37,960 Speaker 1: what else to do before your head. It's the pillow. 157 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:40,120 Speaker 1: If you grab a drink with this person, then you 158 00:08:40,160 --> 00:08:42,880 Speaker 1: probably won't be going to bed until maybe eleven thirty 159 00:08:42,920 --> 00:08:45,280 Speaker 1: when it's all said and done, and then you have 160 00:08:45,320 --> 00:08:47,280 Speaker 1: an early morning to the next day. Your day is 161 00:08:47,280 --> 00:08:49,640 Speaker 1: going to start off on the wrong foot because you're overtired. 162 00:08:49,880 --> 00:08:53,280 Speaker 1: I mean, one thing just waterfalls into the next, and 163 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:55,760 Speaker 1: before you know it, you're asking yourself, why did I 164 00:08:55,800 --> 00:08:59,280 Speaker 1: say yes in the first place. So let me be 165 00:08:59,360 --> 00:09:02,400 Speaker 1: the person tell you it's okay to say no. It's 166 00:09:02,480 --> 00:09:06,719 Speaker 1: okay not to do it all instead of doing everything. 167 00:09:07,080 --> 00:09:09,880 Speaker 1: Sometimes it's just so much better. And this is a 168 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:11,640 Speaker 1: lesson that I am learning to. 169 00:09:11,840 --> 00:09:15,080 Speaker 2: Focus on a few things, to give a few things 170 00:09:15,120 --> 00:09:21,040 Speaker 2: your full undivided attention, and most importantly, not get down 171 00:09:21,080 --> 00:09:25,280 Speaker 2: on yourself for needing to dial it back. It is okay. 172 00:09:25,600 --> 00:09:28,720 Speaker 1: Sometimes in these instances where I feel like my world 173 00:09:28,840 --> 00:09:31,800 Speaker 1: is crumbling around me, I look at myself in the 174 00:09:31,840 --> 00:09:34,679 Speaker 1: mirror and I just remind myself that I am doing 175 00:09:34,720 --> 00:09:37,640 Speaker 1: the best I can with what I have, and that 176 00:09:38,320 --> 00:09:38,839 Speaker 1: is enough. 177 00:09:39,120 --> 00:09:40,440 Speaker 2: So this is what I want from you. 178 00:09:40,640 --> 00:09:43,280 Speaker 1: I want you to ask yourself, what is it that 179 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:46,760 Speaker 1: you want to like go of going into twenty twenty? 180 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:50,720 Speaker 1: What is it that you want to leave behind this year. 181 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 1: It's a really, you know, thought provoking question because I 182 00:09:53,920 --> 00:09:57,040 Speaker 1: think so often what we do is we ask ourselves 183 00:09:57,080 --> 00:09:58,560 Speaker 1: what is it that we want to go for what 184 00:09:58,640 --> 00:10:00,000 Speaker 1: is it that we want to obtain? 185 00:10:00,760 --> 00:10:04,200 Speaker 2: But it's okay to let go. It feels really good 186 00:10:04,240 --> 00:10:07,959 Speaker 2: to shed, and so shud away. Write it down. 187 00:10:08,280 --> 00:10:11,200 Speaker 1: Tag me on Instagram, send me a DM. Let me 188 00:10:11,320 --> 00:10:13,720 Speaker 1: know what it is that you are trying to break 189 00:10:13,960 --> 00:10:17,400 Speaker 1: free from and understand that it might not be something 190 00:10:17,440 --> 00:10:21,080 Speaker 1: that happens right away or overnight, but putting it into 191 00:10:21,120 --> 00:10:24,520 Speaker 1: the universe, writing that one or two or maybe three 192 00:10:24,520 --> 00:10:28,800 Speaker 1: things down, it's the first step towards something good. And 193 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:32,920 Speaker 1: that's it for now. Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys 194 00:10:33,000 --> 00:10:33,400 Speaker 1: next time.