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Speaker 1: First date of follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 1: Attorneys online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Ruby is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Jordan's.

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Speaker 3: So in a few minutes we'll call.

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Speaker 2: Him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghostinger

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Speaker 2: and maybe get her another date. But first, Ruby, how

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Speaker 2: long has it been since you heard from Jordan?

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Speaker 4: Hi, it's been nine days, okay.

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Speaker 3: Oh, okay.

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Speaker 1: How many times have you tried to reach out to him?

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Speaker 5: So I did a double text and I sent one

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Speaker 5: Instagram reel? Okay, yeah, that last text was two days ago.

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Speaker 3: So you didn't make the reel.

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Speaker 4: I just sent like a.

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Speaker 5: Top gun like real, like a jet reel. So I said, like, oh,

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Speaker 5: still feeling the need for speed?

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Speaker 1: So yeah, well, I'm sure that's an inside joke somewhere.

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Speaker 1: So questions, Well, I don't can tell us about.

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Speaker 5: Your date, Ruby, Yeah, it was an incredible date.

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Speaker 4: We went to an aviation museum.

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Speaker 3: Uh oh and top gun fan so oh okay.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it was my idea.

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Speaker 5: And he even did that quote he said, like I

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Speaker 5: feel the need for speed in front of me with

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Speaker 5: the jets and it felt perfect.

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Speaker 3: It's like the fantasy.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it was like kind of my dream day, honestly.

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Speaker 5: Like we grabbed burgers after two and then we talked

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Speaker 5: about our childhoods for like two hours maybe, and he

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Speaker 5: told me about how he built model planes with his grandpa.

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Speaker 5: I guess I'm confused why, Like, I don't know why

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Speaker 5: he's not talking like texting me. But we also kissed

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Speaker 5: in the parking lot and he really kissed me.

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Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, so it was like a good kiss. You

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Speaker 2: don't know why he's ghosting.

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Speaker 4: Yes, Like why would you kiss me and start to

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Speaker 4: ghost me? It doesn't make sense to me.

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Speaker 2: Is there anything you can think of that would be

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Speaker 2: something that happened on the date that was awkward?

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 5: Maybe I like talked about like my hedgehog that passed

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Speaker 5: away during COVID.

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Speaker 3: I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 5: I showed him a picture, right, it's the earn of

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Speaker 5: my hedgehog. She's a little tiny pick, like a tiny

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Speaker 5: and pink. Or maybe I asked him any questions about

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Speaker 5: his grandpa.

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I was just curious, Like I didn't mean to make

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Speaker 5: a therapy or anything.

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Speaker 3: What why do you think the hedgehog would be a

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Speaker 3: reason you wouldn't call you back.

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Speaker 5: I just felt pretty emotional when I showed it to him,

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Speaker 5: like I started to cry, because it really was a

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Speaker 5: good she was really a good emotional support for me, Like, yeah.

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Speaker 3: Maybe this was a hymn thing.

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Speaker 1: You know how some people get really overwhelmed by other

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Speaker 1: people's emotions and if you're somebody that can't really like

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Speaker 1: carry your emotions, like well or.

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Speaker 3: You it's too much.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, like maybe he really liked you, but

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Speaker 1: then was like I don't know how to express myself.

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Speaker 5: I hope he's like in an act, like he got

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Speaker 5: to an accident and he's in the hospital.

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Speaker 4: You know, like.

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Speaker 3: He's doing okay, he just had a really good reason.

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Speaker 3: I get where you're going.

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Speaker 6: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: All right, Ruby, Well, we'll play a song come back,

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Speaker 2: and then call him and see if he'll tell us

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Speaker 2: why he's ghosting you and maybe get you a second.

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Speaker 3: Date if you still want one.

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Speaker 2: Okay, yes, all right, we'll get your first date follow

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Speaker 2: up next. Right in the middle of your first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and if you're just joining us, Ruby is

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Speaker 2: on the phone and she's getting ghosted by Jordan So

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Speaker 2: we're about to call Jordan and see if he'll tell

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Speaker 2: us why he's ghostinger and maybe get her a second date.

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Speaker 2: But before we do that, Ruby, why don't you break

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Speaker 2: down your situation again for us real quick?

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Speaker 5: Hi? Yeah, So I went on an amazing date and

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Speaker 5: it's been nine days since he hasn't texted me back.

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Speaker 4: And we went to an aviation museum. So we had

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Speaker 4: a great time.

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Speaker 5: He kissed me like really hard, and oh yeah, I

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Speaker 5: think I overshared about bubbles, my hedgehogs who passed away.

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Speaker 5: And yeah, maybe I scared him by having like big emotions.

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Speaker 4: I'm not sure. I think he like.

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Speaker 5: Might be in the hospital or an action, because I

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Speaker 5: honestly he really led me on.

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Speaker 3: Okay, well I hope not. Are you ready for us

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Speaker 3: to call him?

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Speaker 4: No, but I guess we have to do it all right?

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Speaker 3: Here we go. Hello, Hi, man, speak to Jordan.

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Speaker 4: Please, uh speaking?

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Speaker 3: Hey Jordan, how are you? This is a radio show.

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Speaker 3: It's called The Jewbell Show. Hi Jordan, I'mina. Hi, I'm

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Speaker 3: Victoria and my name is Jewbell.

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Speaker 4: What is how many people? What is this party?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's three people on the phone. It's a radio

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Speaker 2: show called the Jewel Show. Have you ever listened to us?

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Speaker 6: I think I have. Actually, I just don't know why

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Speaker 6: you're calling me now.

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Speaker 2: Well, we're calling you because we do a segment on

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Speaker 2: the show called the First Date follow Up. And what

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Speaker 2: that is is if you go on a date with

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Speaker 2: somebody and then end up ghosting them, that person can

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Speaker 2: email us to get you on the phone and ask

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Speaker 2: why you're ghosting them. So we got an email about you.

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Speaker 4: Oh no, okay, it's Ruby, isn't it.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it is Ruby. Congratulations. Do you mind telling us

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Speaker 2: why you're a ghostinger?

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Speaker 6: I don't know. It just it's we had one nice

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Speaker 6: date that.

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Speaker 4: It got a little weird what happened.

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Speaker 6: The date was awesome actually, but Ruby's awesome. She's smart, funny,

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Speaker 6: definitely interesting. But then she she told me about her

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Speaker 6: dead hedgehog within twenty minutes of meeting me and cried

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Speaker 6: like real tears.

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Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, we talked to her about your day. She

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Speaker 2: did tell us that par she thought that might be

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Speaker 2: one of the reasons.

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Speaker 1: We found that kind of hard to believe because it

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Speaker 1: just feels a little bit, you know, harsh.

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Speaker 6: Well, yeah, I mean I didn't want it to be

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Speaker 6: like I mean, she really cried.

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Speaker 3: Did you comfort her?

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Speaker 7: I tried, but it was just a little overwhelming for me.

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Speaker 4: So we finished out the date and that this seemed

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Speaker 4: like enough for me. It is a sign that might

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Speaker 4: not be the best to come.

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Speaker 3: The hedgehog thing, that's it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, well, you know what, it's not even just that.

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Speaker 6: She she also at one point showed me this this

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Speaker 4: It was really a lot but the hedgehog.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so there's a lot of hedgehog.

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Speaker 4: Memorial for hedgehog. It was a lot of hedgehog, a

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Speaker 4: lot of tears, a lot of hedhog.

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Speaker 2: All right, well, thank you for telling us why you're

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Speaker 2: a ghostinger. Now, Jordan, I let you know that Ruby

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Speaker 2: is on the phone and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 4: Uh yeah, HydroD In, it's Ruby. How are you are you? Ruby?

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Speaker 4: You've been ghosting me, haven't you? Yeah?

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Speaker 6: I mean you've been listening in so I guess you

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Speaker 5: Wow, you are a jerk, and you're ghosting me because

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Speaker 5: of bubbles. You seem to have like run away.

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Speaker 4: From commitment or any like issues that require guests.

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Speaker 5: It seems yeah, it's like you never had a pet,

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Speaker 5: or you've never felt deep emotion for something for anybody.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I mean this, hold on, this is a lot.

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Speaker 6: This is what I mean. This is a lot. This

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Speaker 6: was the first day and it's not even because of Bubbles.

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Speaker 6: It's because you told me about Bubbles being dead within

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Speaker 6: it for another twenty minutes, and it's like you wanted

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Speaker 5: It's just I mean, come on, it's it's a lot

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Speaker 5: on date one. So okay, I'm so sorry for having

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Speaker 5: a heart. I guess we should have talked about something

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Speaker 5: more superficial, like crypto or like sports injuries. I guess

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Speaker 5: I really thought you were someone else, but like it

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Speaker 5: seems like you're showing me that you really are just

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Speaker 6: I mean, you kind of should be a little lighter.

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Speaker 4: I'm the first meet.

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Speaker 5: I mean, we're the point of dating is like what marriage? Right,

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Speaker 5: So like we're supposed to jump in, dive in pretty deep, not.

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Speaker 6: In twenty minutes of meeting someone, and then that me think, well,

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Speaker 4: Crying about it.

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Speaker 5: You're counting the time when you meet someone on a date, like, oh,

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Speaker 5: there's a time where twenty minutes that's when she cried,

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, bye way.

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Speaker 4: Why did you kiss me after? Why did you leave

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Speaker 6: I mean, I guess I just kind of felt bad.

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Speaker 6: It's I mean, you've been like mourning this.

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Speaker 5: Hedgehog for years and oh, oh my god, you are

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Speaker 5: my first kid. Whoa, Yeah, that was my first kiss, Jordan. Oh,

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Speaker 5: I like you ruined my dream of like my first

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Speaker 6: So I didn't know that. I mean I would have

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Speaker 3: Oh, I just can't believe that.

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Speaker 7: Oh it's it's okay, it's all. We all go through things.

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Speaker 7: It gets better, it'll be You'll be fine.

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Speaker 6: I didn't know it was your first kiss, and I

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Speaker 6: am sorry I ruined that moment for you.

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Speaker 4: You just don't ever do that to a girl again.

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Speaker 3: Ruby.

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Speaker 1: Thinking about it like this, how many people actually end

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Speaker 1: up with the person that they kiss for the first time,

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Speaker 1: like their very first kiss, Like, who's with that person?

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Speaker 4: I just wanted mine to be special.

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Speaker 5: I was been waiting for years for this moment, you know,

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Speaker 5: like I'm waiting.

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Speaker 6: Hold on, wait a minute. I thought that you've had

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Speaker 6: boyfriends before.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, well I may have cuddled with them, but I've

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Speaker 4: never kissed them. Well, we talked a little about this.

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Speaker 4: I thought it was more than just cuddling. I sucked

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Speaker 4: with six people, but I've never kissed them.

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Speaker 3: Oh oh oh why not?

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Speaker 5: Because I was trying to save it for my soulmates

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Speaker 5: and Jordan kissed me. So now I really have to

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Speaker 5: rethink my life is honestly.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean maybe you should have started with the

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Speaker 6: kiss and then save the other stuff for the.

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Speaker 3: Soulmate way to do it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, well not your opinion, but you really ruined my kiss,

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Speaker 5: so off Jordan's Oh you will first da