WEBVTT - I Cannot Think About Porn And NOT Think About What He Said! 0:00:00.320 --> 0:00:02.600 He told me something, well, he said something on the 0:00:02.600 --> 0:00:04.840 documentary and then we talked about it, but it has 0:00:04.960 --> 0:00:07.880 stuck with me about the porn industry ever since he 0:00:07.960 --> 0:00:10.600 said it. I cannot think about porn and not think 0:00:10.640 --> 0:00:24.799 about what he said. What's tip? Everybody, Welcome to the podcast. 0:00:25.560 --> 0:00:27.600 One of my favorite people in the whole planet is 0:00:27.640 --> 0:00:30.840 on this episode helping me answer these questions. Bernie Calcote, 0:00:30.840 --> 0:00:32.880 Thanks for having me back, man, Thanks for being back, 0:00:33.360 --> 0:00:35.800 probably your hundredth. 0:00:35.760 --> 0:00:37.720 Yeah, a lot of episodes and I've listened to the 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:39.839 last few with you by yourself, and even though you 0:00:39.840 --> 0:00:41.400 didn't say it, I could tell. 0:00:41.280 --> 0:00:43.519 In your voice you were like, I mean, it's Bernie, 0:00:43.960 --> 0:00:44.919 Bernie back so here. 0:00:44.960 --> 0:00:50.600 I am absolutely absolutely. What we do is we answer 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:52.880 your questions. We don't talk about us. We talk about 0:00:52.920 --> 0:00:55.280 us before we start recording, which is what we've been doing, 0:00:55.400 --> 0:00:57.600 you know, for the last hour or at least the 0:00:57.600 --> 0:01:00.279 time you got here. But what we do on this 0:01:00.320 --> 0:01:03.640 podcast as we record, as answer your questions. You email 0:01:04.840 --> 0:01:07.960 podcast at grangersmith dot com and I've got a bunch 0:01:08.280 --> 0:01:09.960 a bunch of questions. You want to jump into these, 0:01:10.080 --> 0:01:13.080 Let's do it, man. Okay, this first one comes from 0:01:13.120 --> 0:01:15.960 anonymous It says, Hey, Granger, I love your podcast and 0:01:16.120 --> 0:01:18.800 continue to draw wisdom from it each and every time 0:01:18.840 --> 0:01:21.120 I listen to it. I'm a senior in high school 0:01:21.160 --> 0:01:24.240 and I've been fighting the following issues for the past 0:01:24.280 --> 0:01:29.160 few years, and honestly, pornography has been something that has 0:01:29.319 --> 0:01:32.160 continually eaten away at me and gotten to the point 0:01:32.160 --> 0:01:35.480 where I find it even hard to find anything worth 0:01:35.520 --> 0:01:38.520 of value in myself. When I get up in the morning, 0:01:38.840 --> 0:01:42.039 it is relentless, like a wave that comes at me 0:01:42.120 --> 0:01:45.360 and drives me down wherever I try to reach out 0:01:45.440 --> 0:01:48.040 to God, and it makes me feel like I'm continually 0:01:48.080 --> 0:01:50.960 in a cycle of failure. Because of this, I hate 0:01:51.000 --> 0:01:54.320 myself as I have an addiction for it. I struggle 0:01:54.320 --> 0:01:56.560 to see any aspect of what I do in life 0:01:56.600 --> 0:01:59.520 as something to be proud of. And I've never been 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:03.080 able to stand out in academics, sports, or even had 0:02:03.120 --> 0:02:06.600 a close friend throughout my life, and a similar part 0:02:06.600 --> 0:02:10.359 of me hates my addiction. It hates myself even more 0:02:10.400 --> 0:02:12.959 for my failures in these areas of life. I just 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:16.200 feel like I'm unnecessary in the life I live in. 0:02:17.639 --> 0:02:19.079 I know that this is a sob story, and it 0:02:19.080 --> 0:02:22.840 feels pathetic even writing it. But I've been so tired 0:02:23.400 --> 0:02:26.480 out of my failures that if you can give me 0:02:26.520 --> 0:02:28.720 any advice or tough love on how to rely on 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:31.440 my faith in Christ to combat these things, I would 0:02:31.440 --> 0:02:36.200 greatly appreciate it. What a way to start off the episode. 0:02:36.240 --> 0:02:40.080 Hum burns, Yeah, he asked for Granger's tough love. Who 0:02:41.040 --> 0:02:42.160 He's opening a gate? 0:02:44.600 --> 0:02:47.639 All right. The first thing I'm gonna do is I'm 0:02:47.639 --> 0:02:53.640 gonna look up my boy Joshua. Here. I got it, Bernie, 0:02:53.639 --> 0:02:56.880 I gotta tell you about this guy Joshua. So we 0:02:56.919 --> 0:03:00.639 went to Tyler and Parker and Chris and I went 0:03:00.680 --> 0:03:04.480 to this David Platt, you know David Platte. We went 0:03:04.520 --> 0:03:10.160 to this radical retreat in Jackson, Wyoming. And it's basically 0:03:10.280 --> 0:03:14.320 like Platt invited these these people in different spheres of 0:03:15.400 --> 0:03:19.280 Christianity of influence to come together. And you know, David, 0:03:19.280 --> 0:03:22.880 it's all about, you know, reaching the unreached people. And 0:03:22.919 --> 0:03:26.080 so he brings people from all different walks of influence, 0:03:26.200 --> 0:03:28.160 puts them together in a room. And then we just 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:32.040 had three days of just like telling each other, and 0:03:32.120 --> 0:03:34.360 we would divide up into groups and tell each other. 0:03:34.639 --> 0:03:39.960 You know how we have seen positive effects of our 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:44.240 form of evangelism and how we've been able to reach 0:03:44.320 --> 0:03:48.240 different groups. And then we would listen to each other 0:03:48.440 --> 0:03:51.880 and just kind of encourage and build on each other. Well, 0:03:51.920 --> 0:03:55.320 one of these guys there, his name is Joshua Broom. 0:03:55.480 --> 0:03:58.200 That is b R O O M E. And his 0:03:58.440 --> 0:04:01.800 Instagram I'm looking at it right now is at I 0:04:01.840 --> 0:04:07.800 am Joshua Broome And so I'll try to tell the 0:04:07.800 --> 0:04:09.720 story the best I can. Get off the plane in 0:04:09.840 --> 0:04:13.480 Jackson and there's this guy and we could all I 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:15.200 could tell that the people that were actually going to 0:04:15.280 --> 0:04:19.720 this event, and he says, hey, man, I'm Joshua, and 0:04:19.760 --> 0:04:22.000 I'm like, I'm Granger and you're going to the David 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:25.720 Platt Thay. Yeah. Cool where you're from? You know? He's like, well, 0:04:25.920 --> 0:04:29.120 I currently live in Dallas. I'm from North Carolina. And 0:04:29.160 --> 0:04:31.520 I was like, cool, man, what's your story? And he said, well, 0:04:31.560 --> 0:04:34.880 I was in the porn industry for a long time 0:04:35.720 --> 0:04:39.159 before I was saved and Jesus saved me as I 0:04:39.240 --> 0:04:42.120 came out of it. And he's like, now I travel 0:04:42.120 --> 0:04:44.679 around and I tell people the evils of the porn 0:04:44.720 --> 0:04:47.120 industry and what it really is. The face of it, 0:04:47.800 --> 0:04:51.800 and I tell him the Gospel and I was like, dude, 0:04:52.000 --> 0:04:55.599 I think I saw a documentary about you. And he 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:58.960 was like, yeah, probably, I've told my story about and 0:04:59.040 --> 0:05:01.440 I started thinking about it. I had a couple of 0:05:01.520 --> 0:05:04.080 years before that. I was on a plane and going 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:07.440 to a random concert and I watched this random documentary 0:05:07.480 --> 0:05:10.160 on YouTube about this guy who was a porn star 0:05:10.680 --> 0:05:13.360 that came out of it, was saved radically and came 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:16.760 out of it. And here I am with him, and 0:05:16.800 --> 0:05:19.840 I was like, dude, and you met your wife at 0:05:19.839 --> 0:05:21.960 the gym in North Carolina and then you worked at 0:05:22.000 --> 0:05:25.960 the like I knew his whole story, and ironically he 0:05:26.040 --> 0:05:30.599 knew mine. It's so crazy that those kind of things happened. 0:05:30.680 --> 0:05:33.560 But now this is the first porn question that we've 0:05:33.560 --> 0:05:37.279 had a bunch of come to me on this podcast, 0:05:37.320 --> 0:05:39.000 and this is the first time I've gotten one since 0:05:39.000 --> 0:05:41.680 I've known Joshua. So first thing, Anonymous, I want you 0:05:41.720 --> 0:05:45.840 to follow at I am Joshua Broom. This dude's story 0:05:46.160 --> 0:05:50.560 is unbelievable how he got into it. He just wanted 0:05:50.600 --> 0:05:53.760 to be an actor, moved to LA was eating lunch 0:05:53.800 --> 0:05:56.440 one day and these really pretty girls came up and 0:05:56.520 --> 0:05:59.080 were like, you're so handsome. Are you an actor or 0:05:59.080 --> 0:06:02.039 are you a model? And he was like I'm trying 0:06:02.040 --> 0:06:04.359 to be you know. He was pretty monest about it 0:06:04.400 --> 0:06:06.720 and like, well, hey, here's a number here. This is 0:06:06.760 --> 0:06:10.600 the director and he like does these short films and 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:12.440 it's a great way to get into the industry. And 0:06:13.080 --> 0:06:16.560 sure enough it was like soft porn, and then that 0:06:16.800 --> 0:06:18.599 he met some people through that that then that turned 0:06:18.600 --> 0:06:20.479 into one more and it was always like, if I 0:06:20.560 --> 0:06:23.159 do one more thing, then hopefully that'll just kick me 0:06:23.200 --> 0:06:25.560 into what I really want to do and be an actor. 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:29.080 And it's just this deep dark hole he just fell 0:06:29.120 --> 0:06:33.520 into and it got bad, really bad, and he was 0:06:33.560 --> 0:06:36.120 making a lot of money and it was really bad. 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:39.599 He told me something, well, he said something on the 0:06:39.640 --> 0:06:41.840 documentary and then we talked about it. But it has 0:06:41.960 --> 0:06:44.919 stuck with me about the porn industry ever since he 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:47.640 said it. I cannot think about porn and not think 0:06:47.640 --> 0:06:52.839 about what he said. It is this when you watch porn, Anonymous, 0:06:52.880 --> 0:06:56.560 I'm talking to you now, When you watch porn, most 0:06:56.880 --> 0:07:01.080 likely you're watching two dead people because they committed suicide. 0:07:02.920 --> 0:07:07.240 It's like a ninety chance the girl is dead and 0:07:07.279 --> 0:07:10.040 like a seventy percent chance the guy is dead. Wow, 0:07:11.000 --> 0:07:15.520 you're watching two dead people having sex and they've already 0:07:15.560 --> 0:07:20.000 killed themselves because of what you're watching. Wow, because of 0:07:20.080 --> 0:07:24.720 the trap that they're in, the drugs, the numbing, just 0:07:24.720 --> 0:07:30.560 to try to forget the intimacy is nothing. They hate 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:34.760 intimacy and it means absolutely nothing to them. It has 0:07:35.000 --> 0:07:42.120 made them, it has dehumanized them crazy stuff. Yeah, followed 0:07:42.360 --> 0:07:45.320 followed Joshua, and then I'm gonna shut up and let 0:07:45.320 --> 0:07:47.400 Burns talk about this a little bit too. 0:07:48.160 --> 0:07:51.240 Oh that's really good. Okay, this was anonymous no name. 0:07:51.360 --> 0:07:56.480 Yeah, Okay, Well, first let me just say like I'm 0:07:56.520 --> 0:07:57.920 a good buddy of Grangeer. 0:07:57.960 --> 0:07:59.160 We've known each other a long time. 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:02.200 If you haven't listened to this podcast when I've been on, like, 0:08:02.280 --> 0:08:05.240 I'm just a dude. I'm really here representing most of you, guys. 0:08:05.760 --> 0:08:07.640 I'm an everyday dude, just like you. 0:08:08.240 --> 0:08:08.840 Trying to. 0:08:10.560 --> 0:08:15.960 Really wrestle with God through life and cling to his 0:08:16.040 --> 0:08:20.280 word and understand my own faith claims and what that 0:08:20.360 --> 0:08:24.760 means and how to live that out practically. And when 0:08:24.760 --> 0:08:26.640 these questions come in, I just want to make sure 0:08:26.680 --> 0:08:27.720 you understand, like. 0:08:29.160 --> 0:08:29.880 I'm just a dude. 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:33.920 Okay, So these are my thoughts, my initial responses based 0:08:33.960 --> 0:08:37.240 on my experience as of now. Like Granger said before, 0:08:37.600 --> 0:08:39.680 I could listen back to this in five years and 0:08:39.679 --> 0:08:43.320 be like a man, I would answer that this way now. 0:08:43.440 --> 0:08:46.520 But in this moment, this is the thing that jumps 0:08:46.559 --> 0:08:50.959 out to me, and man, unfortunately, porn is just one 0:08:51.120 --> 0:08:56.880 of the things that I see that this happening in. 0:08:58.440 --> 0:08:59.400 Or an effect of it. 0:09:00.400 --> 0:09:05.680 And I've been studying Colossians three. I don't know if 0:09:05.679 --> 0:09:09.560 we talked about this, but set your mind on things above, 0:09:10.240 --> 0:09:13.600 not on the things of this earth. I've really been 0:09:13.880 --> 0:09:17.760 thinking through a lot of passages that talk about the mind. 0:09:17.880 --> 0:09:18.559 I don't think. 0:09:19.000 --> 0:09:22.439 I think a lot of times we overspiritualize a lot 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:25.920 of things, and we don't really consider how many times 0:09:25.960 --> 0:09:30.640 the Bible actually talks about our minds. And so then 0:09:30.760 --> 0:09:36.680 I start to consider versus like that or a mind 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:39.920 set on the flesh is death, a mind set on 0:09:39.960 --> 0:09:45.600 the spirit is peace and life. Guys, there is a 0:09:46.000 --> 0:09:52.840 mind focus problem in our culture. We don't consider the 0:09:52.880 --> 0:09:56.280 things that we consume the way that we can. I mean, 0:09:56.320 --> 0:10:00.480 and honestly, like we're not set up to really put 0:10:00.679 --> 0:10:04.120 facts to what we consume the way we do nutrition, like, oh, 0:10:04.120 --> 0:10:06.079 we know it has that much sodium, it has that 0:10:06.160 --> 0:10:12.920 much sugar. With the things that we're consuming, I think 0:10:12.960 --> 0:10:16.000 we just have to consider, like how are those things 0:10:17.040 --> 0:10:23.400 affecting us? How are we controlling our media intake, diet. 0:10:23.559 --> 0:10:26.400 Like I really believe that if we stopped and thought 0:10:26.400 --> 0:10:29.920 about that, there would be a moment of shock, like, 0:10:30.080 --> 0:10:34.440 oh my gosh, now I know why there's these issues 0:10:34.440 --> 0:10:35.240 with my husband. 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:36.319 I know why there's these. 0:10:36.160 --> 0:10:39.920 Issues struggling with pornography and a lot of what that does. 0:10:41.120 --> 0:10:44.720 If you think about a television, like setting the channel 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:47.120 to what you want to watch, A lot of you anonymous. 0:10:47.200 --> 0:10:49.640 You may be like, what I want to watch is 0:10:50.000 --> 0:10:54.760 God's word for my life. Yeah, but your remote is broken. 0:10:55.679 --> 0:10:59.439 Yeah, you cannot change that channel. 0:10:59.480 --> 0:11:01.800 And I think a lot of that has been habitual 0:11:02.160 --> 0:11:06.040 and a lot of it's cultural, and so I'm not 0:11:06.200 --> 0:11:10.320 exactly sure how Besides, like talking with someone like Joshua 0:11:10.559 --> 0:11:14.360 finding some professional help, because once you're into an addictive state, 0:11:14.720 --> 0:11:17.960 you really need some professional help and guidance to help 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:21.760 you fix that remote so that when that thing flashes. 0:11:22.200 --> 0:11:24.760 And for this person, it may be pornography, it may 0:11:24.760 --> 0:11:27.720 be something else for you. It may be retail shopping, 0:11:27.760 --> 0:11:30.480 it may be alcohol, it may be something. But you 0:11:30.600 --> 0:11:34.880 need your remote to be sharp, so it switches back 0:11:34.880 --> 0:11:37.000 to the channel that you want to be on if 0:11:37.000 --> 0:11:40.599 it's not, if there's a glitch, or it just starts shuffling, 0:11:40.960 --> 0:11:44.600 because a lot of what we do is shuffle. I mean, guys, 0:11:44.720 --> 0:11:47.679 it just I feel like this is a real problem 0:11:47.720 --> 0:11:51.520 and this is just one of the outcomes that can 0:11:51.559 --> 0:11:52.120 come from it. 0:11:52.400 --> 0:11:56.040 Yeah, let me back up exactly what you said. With 0:11:56.160 --> 0:12:00.000 Philippians one nine, Paul's talking to his church and Philip High. 0:12:00.440 --> 0:12:03.600 He says, it is my prayer that your love may 0:12:03.640 --> 0:12:09.760 abound more and more with knowledge and all discernment, so 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:12.840 that you may approve what is excellent, and so be 0:12:12.920 --> 0:12:15.280 pure and blameless for the day of Christ, filled with 0:12:15.320 --> 0:12:18.280 the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ to 0:12:18.360 --> 0:12:20.680 the glory and prayers of God. So what Bernie's saying 0:12:20.800 --> 0:12:26.600 is that your love is going to grow with knowledge, 0:12:26.920 --> 0:12:31.199 and I don't think I don't think we think about 0:12:31.240 --> 0:12:34.600 that that. Like Bernie said, how many times the Bible 0:12:34.679 --> 0:12:39.560 talks about knowledge and that our love grows, our love 0:12:39.600 --> 0:12:43.280 for God grows with our knowledge. Of him. How do 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:46.200 you get knowledge of him? You stick your nose in 0:12:46.280 --> 0:12:50.760 the word. And Bernie said, habitual. It's like making a 0:12:50.840 --> 0:12:54.640 habit of saying, hey, I don't want to do it. 0:12:54.960 --> 0:12:58.280 The beginning of a habit usually accompanies I don't really 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:01.000 want to and I'm too tired, or I don't understand it, 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:03.440 or like if you're going to run, you don't just 0:13:03.559 --> 0:13:06.120 start and love running at the very beginning. It's you 0:13:06.240 --> 0:13:11.360 create a habit. We can go to Second Peter. Make 0:13:11.440 --> 0:13:18.520 every effort to supplement your faith and virtue with knowledge. 0:13:19.120 --> 0:13:22.960 He Second Peter is actually great because he continues that 0:13:23.640 --> 0:13:30.200 this idea his divine This is first, This is Second Peter. One. Three. 0:13:30.679 --> 0:13:33.040 His divine power has granted to us all things that 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:36.880 pertain to life and godliness. How how Peter, through the 0:13:37.000 --> 0:13:40.560 knowledge of Him who called us to his own glory 0:13:40.600 --> 0:13:45.640 and excellence. We have to see this. We have to 0:13:45.640 --> 0:13:48.560 see that that here's another one. This is a one too. 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:51.920 May grace and peace be multiplied to you in the 0:13:52.000 --> 0:13:55.800 knowledge of God. So we have to see that what 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:59.920 we're watching, what we're consuming, what we're putting into our minds, 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:06.280 uh is is making us who we are. So you 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:10.560 may say I don't watch porn, but I watch HBO 0:14:10.960 --> 0:14:14.920 and occasionally there's nudity in it. So it's like softening 0:14:14.960 --> 0:14:17.600 you for that. It's like that, is that nudity okay? 0:14:18.320 --> 0:14:21.520 Or is that porn Hub? Well, no, porn Hub's bad, Granger, 0:14:21.560 --> 0:14:24.080 but you know it's like boobs every one while it's 0:14:24.120 --> 0:14:27.840 not bad, right is it? You're softening yourself for that. 0:14:29.040 --> 0:14:32.600 So that's the knowledge behind what we're saying. And so 0:14:32.640 --> 0:14:36.000 I've given you so far. We've given you the habit 0:14:36.120 --> 0:14:39.720 and the knowledge, the idea behind it, the biblical backing 0:14:39.760 --> 0:14:41.880 behind it. And we've I've given you this guy Joshua 0:14:41.960 --> 0:14:44.880 Broom to follow maybe watch some videos. But now let's 0:14:44.880 --> 0:14:48.680 get practical. What can you do right now? And we've 0:14:48.680 --> 0:14:53.800 said this countless times on this podcast, but covenantiyes dot com. 0:14:53.880 --> 0:14:55.640 Yeah, Covenant Covenant Eyes. 0:14:55.440 --> 0:14:58.200 Covenant eyes dot com came from Chad Warren a long 0:14:58.240 --> 0:15:01.920 time ago. Yep, dude, that that's a practical way. Like, hey, 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:03.960 you want to take this knowledge, you want to take 0:15:03.960 --> 0:15:07.400 that habit. We've talked about that channel, that remote that's 0:15:07.440 --> 0:15:09.800 broken that Bernie's talking about. I tell you right now 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:12.440 how to put new batteries in that remote. You sign 0:15:12.520 --> 0:15:15.400 up at covenanties dot com. And what that does is 0:15:15.760 --> 0:15:18.400 it you you sign up all your you log in 0:15:18.480 --> 0:15:21.640 all your IP addresses, your phone, computer, iPad, whatever you got, 0:15:21.640 --> 0:15:25.560 whatever you're watching, and and you log in with like 0:15:26.000 --> 0:15:30.200 your mother in laws, I don't think, maybe your mother, 0:15:30.360 --> 0:15:34.280 your sister, some somebody that's a really big accountability in 0:15:34.320 --> 0:15:37.640 your life, and it shoots them a message. If you 0:15:37.720 --> 0:15:40.920 go to a porn site that's putting new batteries in 0:15:40.960 --> 0:15:41.920 that remote. 0:15:42.440 --> 0:15:45.240 Yeah, I dare you to do that. I dare you 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:48.760 to put your mom as the contact. Yes, and see 0:15:48.760 --> 0:15:49.280 what happens. 0:15:49.480 --> 0:15:49.600 Uh. 0:15:49.800 --> 0:15:52.040 There's another couple of things that I'll say, and then 0:15:52.160 --> 0:15:55.160 we can move on. A book is called there's a 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:57.480 book that I recommend called every Man's Battle. I don't 0:15:57.480 --> 0:15:59.840 know if you've read this, but it's really good. It 0:16:00.120 --> 0:16:07.760 has some practical you know, bouncing your eyes. There's some 0:16:07.840 --> 0:16:11.480 really practical things in that book that I would highly recommend. 0:16:11.560 --> 0:16:14.040 And the other thing, and Granger and I have talked 0:16:14.040 --> 0:16:16.600 about this, you know, for years and years and I'm 0:16:16.640 --> 0:16:20.280 not even sure if you still do it, but mental exercise, 0:16:20.560 --> 0:16:23.760 like some call meditation, there's a lot of different ways 0:16:23.760 --> 0:16:26.200 you can do this. But I deeply believe in this. 0:16:26.320 --> 0:16:29.400 I deeply believe that if you're training your mind to 0:16:30.040 --> 0:16:32.920 be able to focus on what you want to focus on, 0:16:33.000 --> 0:16:36.120 which for me, it's like spirit, I want to hear you, 0:16:36.160 --> 0:16:37.400 I want to walk in the spirit. 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:39.240 I want to hear your word. I want it to be. 0:16:39.280 --> 0:16:40.480 What's on my mind. 0:16:41.440 --> 0:16:47.600 By practicing mental exercise when I'm aware, like very acutely aware, 0:16:47.640 --> 0:16:50.640 when I start to get distracted on something that's not 0:16:51.520 --> 0:16:53.640 and then I can gently come back so I don't 0:16:53.680 --> 0:16:57.040 get so far into the woods before I get to 0:16:57.120 --> 0:17:00.240 come back to where I need to be or where 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:03.120 I want to be mentally. So find in some kind 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:05.959 of mental exercise where you can like help that remote 0:17:05.960 --> 0:17:08.080 to switch back and switch back to where you want 0:17:08.119 --> 0:17:13.480 it to be. It doesn't happen overnight. It takes a 0:17:13.520 --> 0:17:17.919 long time to build that habit. But the other thing 0:17:17.920 --> 0:17:19.760 I would do is get off of social media. 0:17:20.000 --> 0:17:22.040 Period. That's good. 0:17:22.160 --> 0:17:24.840 I'll probably end every question like that. Get off of 0:17:24.880 --> 0:17:25.400 social media. 0:17:25.560 --> 0:17:27.359 Just give it a break for a while, guys, and 0:17:27.440 --> 0:17:32.879 let your mind just fast and recover from consuming so much, 0:17:32.960 --> 0:17:34.320 and just see what it does to your mind. 0:17:34.400 --> 0:17:36.560 So I alsome, I don't think I could end the 0:17:36.600 --> 0:17:39.440 question without saying one more thing, and that is this. 0:17:41.000 --> 0:17:43.800 That's addressing your idea that you feel like a failure, 0:17:44.760 --> 0:17:47.560 continuous cycle of failure. You're not good enough for God, 0:17:48.560 --> 0:17:52.600 you hate your addiction. You say all of those things 0:17:52.600 --> 0:17:55.919 would be I'd be remiss to not tell you that 0:17:55.920 --> 0:17:58.080 that is the gospel and that you're at a good 0:17:58.119 --> 0:18:02.800 heart position to receive the Gospel of grace. 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