1 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:09,680 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning, 2 00:00:10,800 --> 00:00:16,600 Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 3 00:00:16,600 --> 00:00:19,880 Speaker 1: tip is for when you are making a decision with 4 00:00:20,040 --> 00:00:26,720 Speaker 1: family or friends, don't assume that consensus is best. Instead 5 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:31,760 Speaker 1: of settling for the lowest common denominator, consider taking turns 6 00:00:31,840 --> 00:00:36,680 Speaker 1: choosing so that everybody gets their top choice. From time 7 00:00:36,720 --> 00:00:42,800 Speaker 1: to time, so many of us sometimes find ourselves needing 8 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:46,440 Speaker 1: to make a collective decision about what everyone is going 9 00:00:46,520 --> 00:00:50,280 Speaker 1: to do. What's a movie that everyone can enjoy for 10 00:00:50,520 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 1: family movie night? Maybe you are trying to please your 11 00:00:54,320 --> 00:00:59,320 Speaker 1: active toddler, your elementary schooler who's into Pixar, your middle 12 00:00:59,320 --> 00:01:02,760 Speaker 1: schooler who's a diehard Harry Potter fan, your mother in 13 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:06,800 Speaker 1: law who likes classic musicals, and your partner who just 14 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 1: wants everyone to stay put for the entire time. What 15 00:01:11,400 --> 00:01:14,600 Speaker 1: books should you read for book club next month? When 16 00:01:14,640 --> 00:01:19,959 Speaker 1: members have different tastes and different schedules. Where should you 17 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:22,920 Speaker 1: go for your monthly girls' night out this month when 18 00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:26,720 Speaker 1: people are coming from different directions and have a variety 19 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 1: of tastes and budgets. We've all been in situations like 20 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:34,640 Speaker 1: these where you may be able to reach a consensus 21 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 1: through collective decision making, but that process doesn't necessarily lead 22 00:01:40,200 --> 00:01:44,000 Speaker 1: to an option that everyone is thrilled with, even if 23 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:49,080 Speaker 1: it is satisfactory to everyone. A lot of people have 24 00:01:49,200 --> 00:01:52,120 Speaker 1: a working assumption that consensus is the way to go, 25 00:01:53,280 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 1: but that may not always be the best way to 26 00:01:56,000 --> 00:02:00,640 Speaker 1: maximize happiness. Over time, you may find yourself at the 27 00:02:00,680 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 1: same inoffensive restaurant for every girl's Night and watching Mary 28 00:02:05,200 --> 00:02:10,360 Speaker 1: Poppins over and over again. So instead of aiming for 29 00:02:10,480 --> 00:02:16,840 Speaker 1: consensus every time, consider taking turns and letting everyone choose 30 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 1: exactly what they want. When it is their turn. You 31 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 1: choose the movie this week, your little guy the week 32 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 1: after that, then the elementary schooler, the middle schooler, your 33 00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:28,799 Speaker 1: mother in law, then your husband. Then it is your 34 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:33,760 Speaker 1: turn again. Everybody will broaden their viewing experience, and you 35 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 1: may discover movies that you never would have tried otherwise. 36 00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:41,480 Speaker 1: For your book club, all the members could take turns 37 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:45,680 Speaker 1: choosing the book At a small plates restaurant. If each 38 00:02:45,720 --> 00:02:48,640 Speaker 1: person orders the two or three dishes they are most 39 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:52,040 Speaker 1: excited about, and then you share them all, it tends 40 00:02:52,120 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 1: to work out. Of course, you can set parameters for 41 00:02:56,440 --> 00:03:00,799 Speaker 1: these choices. Maybe all book Club picks need to be 42 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:06,200 Speaker 1: under four hundred pages. Family movie night might be limited 43 00:03:06,240 --> 00:03:11,040 Speaker 1: to G or PG options. Restaurants for girls' night out 44 00:03:11,160 --> 00:03:13,960 Speaker 1: might need to fit within a certain budget per person. 45 00:03:15,360 --> 00:03:19,160 Speaker 1: But within these parameters, when it is your turn to choose, 46 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:24,200 Speaker 1: you get to choose freely. The upside of this method 47 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:27,120 Speaker 1: is that people tend to choose things that they think 48 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 1: are actually good when they get a free choice. Do 49 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 1: I think this movie is or will be amazing is 50 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:40,760 Speaker 1: an entirely different question than do I think five people 51 00:03:40,800 --> 00:03:47,200 Speaker 1: with different interests won't all hate this movie? Amazing raises 52 00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:51,680 Speaker 1: the possibility of the choice being something really cool, even 53 00:03:51,720 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 1: if it isn't what you would have picked. Sometimes consensus 54 00:03:57,360 --> 00:04:00,320 Speaker 1: yields a decision that everyone can deal with, but no 55 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 1: one loves. When multiple options can be pursued over time, 56 00:04:06,120 --> 00:04:11,240 Speaker 1: taking turns can lead to more satisfaction. You know you 57 00:04:11,280 --> 00:04:14,200 Speaker 1: will be thrilled with the option every time your turn 58 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:20,279 Speaker 1: rolls around, and something unexpected might delight you when it 59 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:25,960 Speaker 1: is someone else's turn. In the meantime, this is Laura. 60 00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:31,760 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of 61 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:40,920 Speaker 1: our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear from you. 62 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:43,799 Speaker 1: You can send me your tips, your questions, or anything else. 63 00:04:44,600 --> 00:04:48,120 Speaker 1: Just connect with me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram at 64 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:54,560 Speaker 1: Before Breakfast Pod. 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