Speaker 1: Peaks of the planet charlamagine the God here and as
Speaker 1: we come close to closing out this year, I just
Speaker 1: want to say thank you for tuning it into the
Speaker 1: Black Effect podcast network. There have been so many great
Speaker 1: moments over the past year. Take a listen to some
Speaker 1: of those captivating moments in this special best of episode.
Speaker 2: Hey, Jess, I need some on relationship advice, as in,
Speaker 2: how do you get rid of someone who just won't
Speaker 2: let relationship go. I'm completely over the father of my children.
Speaker 2: We've been together almost ten years and I was completely
Speaker 2: in love with that man and thought he was my
Speaker 2: best friend and somate. It must have been the sex
Speaker 2: because I was completely digmatized. He played me damn near
Speaker 2: the entire relationship, but I didn't find out until two
Speaker 2: years ago, and it's.
Speaker 3: Been a complete mess.
Speaker 2: I suspected him cheating and things fell off, but I
Speaker 2: never had proof or he made it seem like I
Speaker 2: was crazy. Two years ago, I was eight months pregnant
Speaker 2: and engaged at him. I picked up his pants and
Speaker 2: his phone fell out his pocket unlocked. It's like God
Speaker 2: was basically telling me to see the truth. What was
Speaker 2: in the phone way more than I ever expected and
Speaker 2: he was complete slut, even fucking around with women I
Speaker 2: knew and saying them money as gifts while not helping
Speaker 2: with the household. To make it worse, he messed with
Speaker 2: women at the apartment complex we've lived at, even our
Speaker 2: most recent place.
Speaker 3: I'm so over his lives and bullshit.
Speaker 2: Last year, I was ready to get my own place,
Speaker 2: but he guilt tripped me and said it was best
Speaker 2: for the kids to stay together another year. Well, this
Speaker 2: year has been hell. He's so tossic and it still
Speaker 2: has drama with females coming to my door. Tells me
Speaker 2: I'm making things up. I can't deal with this. So
Speaker 2: recently I got my own place without him knowing. The
Speaker 2: lease is almost up, and I'm doing everything in my
Speaker 2: power to jump start this man into finding a place
Speaker 2: to live or even rehome him to another bitch for
Speaker 2: all I care, But he refuses to accept it and
Speaker 2: still makes it seem like we are going to be together.
Speaker 2: His family refuses to help and even encourages him to
Speaker 2: stay with me. I don't even know what to do
Speaker 2: to get rid of this man because he literally needs
Speaker 2: me for everything housing and transportation. Yes, he works, but
Speaker 2: rarely helps with household bills. I don't want the father
Speaker 2: of my kids on the street, and he still needs
Speaker 2: to watch the kids while I work, but I also
Speaker 2: don't want him laid up in my new apartment. Think
Speaker 2: he could say there, we don't have family that can
Speaker 2: help with the kids, so it's just us taking care
Speaker 2: of them. So we're basically stuck with each other. Any
Speaker 2: advision be homing my baby daddy? And so don't fill
Speaker 2: in the blinks. They are not having sex at all,
Speaker 2: and there's no chance of ever getting back together.
Speaker 4: Just big with everything, y'all. Listen, I have but everything
Speaker 4: before I jump into our story. I got everything bagel
Speaker 4: for the first time, so it's gonna have my breath
Speaker 4: like real oniony but the cream cheese and it's tosted
Speaker 4: to with extra butter. Baby, thank you, That's all I
Speaker 4: gotta say.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 4: I do not like calling my beautiful black woman clowns,
Speaker 4: but baby, i'd be lying if I say you as
Speaker 4: in lying, you are a clown. And sometimes we have
Speaker 4: to tell each other this so we can pick ourselves up.
Speaker 4: And that'slves off and try again. Why are you worried
Speaker 4: about a man who don't give a damn about your
Speaker 4: feelings at the end of the day being put out
Speaker 4: on a damn street.
Speaker 3: Oh, because he the father of my children.
Speaker 4: He didn't give a fuck that she was the mother
Speaker 4: of his kids when he was cheating on your ass
Speaker 4: for the past ten years. What you just found out
Speaker 4: about two years ago, all because his phone was slipped
Speaker 4: out the pocket and you.
Speaker 3: Washing his clothes. What I believe.
Speaker 4: If he ain't putting his hands on you, if he
Speaker 4: ain't got no gun to your head, if he is
Speaker 4: not holding your children hostage, if he ain't doing none
Speaker 4: of this, car, you can leave his ass.
Speaker 3: Let him be on the fucking streets now. Listen.
Speaker 4: What he may do is go be with somebody else
Speaker 4: for the convenience of it. Because he seems to like
Speaker 4: being taken care of. And his family raised them wrong.
Speaker 4: Don't give a fuck with nobody say they raise them wrong,
Speaker 4: because they're still encouraging his cheating ass to be with you.
Speaker 4: That's because you're taking care of him. You're not responsible
Speaker 4: for your children's father. You're responsible for the children, just
Speaker 4: like he is. Leave his ass some about Oh, and
Speaker 4: don't there's no feeling the blanks. We're not sleeping together,
Speaker 4: We're not what happens when you want to date the
Speaker 4: fuck because I know he's still dating, he just probably
Speaker 4: ain't bringing the bitches around you. And also, if you're
Speaker 4: able to take care of him, then you should be
Speaker 4: able to take care of getting a babysit up for
Speaker 4: your kids.
Speaker 3: Why you gotta do anything? I don't care. I do
Speaker 3: not care.
Speaker 4: I see mom's do it all the time without their families,
Speaker 4: without friend groups, without support groups, all that. Like we
Speaker 4: do it women, We do it all. No discredit to men,
Speaker 4: because every man out there and not like that. And
Speaker 4: we have a lot of heartworking dads. But women, come on, now,
Speaker 4: we do this shit. You feel sorry for him yourself?
Speaker 4: A soft spot for him? That's crazy. He didn't have
Speaker 4: not one fucking soft spot for you. You can't seem
Speaker 4: to shake them. You can't, girl, like I said, unless
Speaker 4: he beating your ass up and down the house, or
Speaker 4: like I said, holding you hostage, gun to your head,
Speaker 4: all that. You can walk the fuck out of his
Speaker 4: life period. Get a restraining order. Oh, but then he
Speaker 4: can't see the kids. See what I'm unning about that?
Speaker 4: When he was with Denise, Vanessa and Rudy and Clara,
Speaker 4: he wasn't thinking about none of that, girl, No, I think.
Speaker 3: You have lost your everlast of mind.
Speaker 4: And I'm sorry for all my aggression, but sweetie, you
Speaker 4: can do better. And sometimes a lot of us women
Speaker 4: need to be told that by other women who are
Speaker 4: completely unbiased. Like I'm not your friend, I don't know you,
Speaker 4: never saw you a day in my life, you know
Speaker 4: what I'm saying, So I don't know you. This is
Speaker 4: just like anonymous. You know, I'm hearing a story and
Speaker 4: I'm telling another woman what she could do, what she
Speaker 4: should do.
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. You still love him? I
Speaker 3: know you do. You know I'm not saying that you
Speaker 3: are attracted to him or you don't.
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying, because all right, taking account
Speaker 4: me and my son's father, we are way past intimacy.
Speaker 4: We're not, you know, attracted to each other anymore. I
Speaker 4: haven't dated Rome since before our baby turned one year old.
Speaker 4: Like that's just how that is, you know. And I
Speaker 4: often say that we're like brother and sister. So I
Speaker 4: would give Rome the shirt off my back, yes I will,
Speaker 4: but I would not give him a place to stay
Speaker 4: in my house because I am in a relationship.
Speaker 3: I'm moving forward. That's just that's a no.
Speaker 4: No.
Speaker 3: There are still boundaries. That's why I'm telling you this.
Speaker 4: There are still boundaries that has to be set and
Speaker 4: have to be put between you and your baby daddy.
Speaker 4: What's wrong with him getting a fucking job if he
Speaker 4: ain't got no record with even niggas with records, fuck
Speaker 4: a record. Even men with records are able to get jobs.
Speaker 4: He got to start from somewhere. You cannot carry him
Speaker 4: as one of your kids. That's just not what it is.
Speaker 4: That's not what it's supposed to be.
Speaker 2: Hey, Jess, I can't believe I'm even saying this, but
Speaker 2: I'm very much attracted to my sister in law.
Speaker 3: Wait a mint, and what the hell is going on? Oh?
Speaker 4: I can't even believe I'm saying this. I can't believe
Speaker 4: you feel that way with that fire All right, go ahead.
Speaker 2: Me and my fiance have been together for almost sixty
Speaker 2: years now. I'm thirty years old, in my fiance is
Speaker 2: thirty one. Don't get me wrong. I love my girl
Speaker 2: and I want to be with her. I don't know
Speaker 2: where these feelings for my sister in law came from,
Speaker 2: but here we are. This certain law has always been
Speaker 2: around and me and her are real close because we
Speaker 2: bonded over smoking. Even showed her how to roll her
Speaker 2: first blunt. She ended up moving to Virginia last year
Speaker 2: because her husband is in the military and got stationed
Speaker 2: out there. She came back here to Arizona after being
Speaker 2: going for about seven months. She started for like two months,
Speaker 2: and I didn't even I didn't get the feelings until
Speaker 2: like two days before she was about to leave. I
Speaker 2: always thought she looked good, but never looked at her
Speaker 2: in the way I do now. We have been texting
Speaker 2: every day since she has left and went back to Virginia.
Speaker 2: Nothing crazy, just TikTok videos and talk about random shit.
Speaker 2: I would never tell her how I feel because I
Speaker 2: don't want her sister my fiance to find out and
Speaker 2: wanted want to mess up our close relationship either.
Speaker 4: Well, if you got damn wife listened to ca't Fley
Speaker 4: reckless baby, you'll be divorced by them all.
Speaker 3: Wait.
Speaker 2: I don't know what to do. You ever, just think
Speaker 2: sometimes you ended up with the wrong sister.
Speaker 3: Oh god, Oh my god.
Speaker 2: The sister in law is ambitious, sexy, and a hustler.
Speaker 2: My fiance, on the other hand, isn't too ambitious. I
Speaker 2: think that's the reason I'm so attracted to my sister
Speaker 2: in waw help me out, give me some advice on
Speaker 2: what I should do here?
Speaker 3: Oh my god, what is the matter with you?
Speaker 4: You already married to the system, be married yet you're
Speaker 4: not married yet?
Speaker 3: Talking about no they ain't married yet? Girl would still hope?
Speaker 4: Oh gosh, Okay, Now I'm not even gonna lie negger
Speaker 4: like I've never been in this situation, but not the same.
Speaker 3: Not not mess with the wrong brother, no, but the friend.
Speaker 4: Like you know how you be like, damn, I gonna
Speaker 4: mess with the wrong friend because you jumping out. They
Speaker 4: are early in shaite. You see this nigga drive like
Speaker 4: you cute, He got his head on straight. And then
Speaker 4: you see another nigga got his head on a little straight.
Speaker 4: You be like this onn boy, Damn, I made a choice.
Speaker 4: She was quick, all right. So I've been in that
Speaker 4: situation before, however I did not act on it.
Speaker 3: But this is even worse because these are siblings. Bookie,
Speaker 3: the fuck? What the fuck is wrong with you?
Speaker 4: Your fiance is going to be mighty pissed with you.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 4: You said you didn't want to sell the sister. How
Speaker 4: you feel do you think the sister feels the same
Speaker 4: about you. That's something that you didn't let me know.
Speaker 4: And then I'm bonding over smoking baby, I even sort
Speaker 4: of how to roll her first blunt.
Speaker 3: What the hell is yo? That is crazy? That is
Speaker 3: so crazy to me.
Speaker 4: It's a little childish, you know, y'all bonding over being
Speaker 4: high and shit, that's crazy. But you said there are
Speaker 4: certain things that you do like about her, her ambition
Speaker 4: and so on and so forth. Are you insinuating that
Speaker 4: your fiance does not have ambition, she does not have
Speaker 4: like goals and you know, potential success? Is that what
Speaker 4: she lacks? Because I'm trying to figure out how you
Speaker 4: are more into her sister? And then you said at
Speaker 4: first you wasn't you know, did the we do all
Speaker 4: that like make you attract this her two days before
Speaker 4: she left? And then honestly, I don't think it's just
Speaker 4: innocent tiktoks and random shit that y'all was speaking about.
Speaker 4: If you feel this strongly about her, and if you're
Speaker 4: writing me about her, it has to what you think, Taylor,
Speaker 4: I feel like it's it's definitely more.
Speaker 3: Don't get to Hay, just answer, and that's it.
Speaker 2: I think this sister likes him too, because why are
Speaker 2: you talking to my fiancees like y'all too close to talking?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, do you believe they don't they did anything.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I wouldn't just jump ahead and say like, yeah,
Speaker 4: they've had sex, but I do believe that they've probably
Speaker 4: had conversations about it lightly or they have mentioned, oh,
Speaker 4: if I could be with you, this will happen if
Speaker 4: you weren't dating my sister, or I wish things were
Speaker 4: different those type of situations, as innocent as they could
Speaker 4: probably get it without crossing that line of physical intimacy
Speaker 4: or whatever.
Speaker 3: But I but what was the question again? How do
Speaker 3: I go about it? Or what the hell? Because what
Speaker 3: do you do? Well?
Speaker 4: The whole family knows you, so say if you do
Speaker 4: act like you in the movie, because they do the
Speaker 4: shit in the movies, they'll leave what they wit and
Speaker 4: go with who that heart lies with the family gonna
Speaker 4: hate your ass, favel because if this is your fiance
Speaker 4: the sister, you've met her family already, and they'll hate
Speaker 4: the sister and they'll hate you. They're gonna be looking
Speaker 4: at you off and the rest of you all lives
Speaker 4: like these clown ways holes. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 4: They're gonna look at y'all real crazy. And then think
Speaker 4: about the heartbreak that the sister would feel, that your
Speaker 4: future wife would feel and you tal much y'all wanted
Speaker 4: to find out. This is a big secret that you
Speaker 4: would be keeping from her. I have no idea how
Speaker 4: this will play out for you, but I do think
Speaker 4: both of your asses need to be put on blast.
Speaker 4: And I'm sorry you are very wrong, and you should
Speaker 4: go about it by first sitting down with your fiance,
Speaker 4: telling your fiance how you feel. I know he probably
Speaker 4: listening to this shit like bitch, I would never go
Speaker 4: sit down with my but I think you should because
Speaker 4: this feeling is not gonna go away. And then you
Speaker 4: let her sister and then you talk to the sister like, well,
Speaker 4: I told her so where sol? And for some reason,
Speaker 4: I don't know if the sister will be with him though.
Speaker 3: I just think it's or the.
Speaker 2: Sister could be trapping the fiance like see, I told
Speaker 2: you he need shit, nigga.
Speaker 4: M If they play a little games like that and
Speaker 4: my baby drop, I'm hungry, I'm pregnant the baby.
Speaker 3: If they playing little games like that, bitch.
Speaker 4: I ain't gonna lie. I would do that, sho, I
Speaker 4: ain't gonna lie. Uh my sister, I would cry lad
Speaker 4: on thinking everything. They'll be like, I got you. But
Speaker 4: that's why you not if they really doing that's all petty.
Speaker 4: That shit that I did in my early twenties, late teen,
Speaker 4: It's like, no, we're not doing that just is somebody's life.
Speaker 4: Y'all planning on walking down the aisle, be real with
Speaker 4: your wife. Sarpy can get you do any and everything.
Speaker 4: Tom he was all wounds. I don't know about this one,
Speaker 4: but buddy, you gotta be honest with the one that
Speaker 4: you're walking down the aisle with because when y'all exchange
Speaker 4: those vows, y'all are best friends. You're making a commitment,
Speaker 4: like you gotta be honest, and sometimes honesty definitely pierces,
Speaker 4: like it hurts. But Tom hells all wounds, and I
Speaker 4: think that she would respect your honesty. She probably want
Speaker 4: to beat the hell out of her sister and push
Speaker 4: back the wedding, if not break up with your ass.
Speaker 4: But at least you got your truth out because if
Speaker 4: you don't tell her, i'mna tell him.
Speaker 3: So we got we got his name. His name is Jeremy.
Speaker 4: Jeremy Jeremy Taylor Jeremy. Like I said, I will find
Speaker 4: your wife, your fiance and tell her. If you don't
Speaker 4: tell them, giving you two weeks, get back with me,
Speaker 4: update me.
Speaker 3: Love you.
Speaker 4: I am a seventeen year old woman who lives in Nigeria.
Speaker 4: I was born in the US, but I am from
Speaker 4: Congo and have spent most of my life living in Africa.
Speaker 4: I'm in the serious need of your help. Oh wait
Speaker 4: a minute, is this about some money, because I don't.
Speaker 4: Oh well, okay, girl, Well you start off like that
Speaker 4: and be like I'm in serious need of your help.
Speaker 3: It's like, oh no, no, no, no, okay, Okay.
Speaker 4: My dad is cheating on my mom, who is currently
Speaker 4: in North America trying to find a job so we
Speaker 4: can finance me going to university. Okay, this is not
Speaker 4: the first time my father has been unfaithful. Once my
Speaker 4: mom packed her bags and threatened to leave, he begged
Speaker 4: her on his dusty as.
Speaker 3: Knees not to go. I know it's right.
Speaker 4: I had to carry her thirty pounds suitcases up the
Speaker 4: stairs when she decided to stay, and I was only twelve. Okay,
Speaker 4: the same thing happened about two years later, but this
Speaker 4: time she went back to Cameroon, threatened to divorce him,
Speaker 4: but was magically cooking his favorite meal in the kitchen
Speaker 4: two months later.
Speaker 3: Oh, I see what are we going? Okay?
Speaker 4: My dad's infidelity has been a consistent issue in their marriage,
Speaker 4: and I know my mom will not leave him. He's
Speaker 4: a good father most of the time, and I could
Speaker 4: care less if they are together or not, because I
Speaker 4: honestly think they're better parents when they are apart. About
Speaker 4: two years ago, when we were moving to a new
Speaker 4: city in Nigeria, we lived alone with my dad. I
Speaker 4: had to do all the motherly duties which I am
Speaker 4: used to modern slavery type things. Girl, okay, okay, baby.
Speaker 3: He was cheating then too.
Speaker 4: I found condoms in the trash can and he was
Speaker 4: coming late every night. I decided to mind my own
Speaker 4: business as I had my own shit to deal with,
Speaker 4: and honestly, I was hoping my mother was doing her
Speaker 4: thing as well. This time is different, as I am
Speaker 4: too soon to leave the house and I can't have
Speaker 4: my brother having to pick.
Speaker 3: Up after my sloppy, horny father. I'm sorry, I do
Speaker 3: not mean to laugh.
Speaker 4: I'm just trying to figure out what is the problem,
Speaker 4: like you know what I'm saying, Like, okay, because it
Speaker 4: seems like more of a venting session. But I got you, baby.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna keep on because it's about four more progress,
Speaker 4: all right. He is so disrespectful and does not even
Speaker 4: have the decency to cover his tracks. He bought cheap
Speaker 4: ass condoms when we went grocery shopping and thought he
Speaker 4: was slick, making me go get salad while he quickly
Speaker 4: paid for it. We are a carnivorous family. Yeah, okay, girl,
Speaker 4: so do everybody else. I don't have to You don't
Speaker 4: have to say we are a carnivorous family. Oh, let
Speaker 4: me finish. Nobody in this bitch eats salads. Oh a girl.
Speaker 4: I'm like, all right, but you did, and I have
Speaker 4: to say we're not. We are a carnivorous family. Like girl, okay,
Speaker 4: so technical, I know she going to college. Okay, nobody
Speaker 4: in this bitch salas. Later that night, he gave me
Speaker 4: the receipts to throw away and I saw condoms written
Speaker 4: at the top of the receipt. His first chaps were
Speaker 4: his priority before our school snacks. He has come home
Speaker 4: twice with dirty cheats that have wet spots on them.
Speaker 4: Dirty draws, you mean that have wet spots on them,
Speaker 4: and he asked me to put them in the washing
Speaker 4: machine so it can be ready for the next bitch.
Speaker 4: STDs still exist, They certainly did. I am not an idiot.
Speaker 4: I am not one of the boys, so I don't
Speaker 4: know why he thinks it's okay to be so oblivious
Speaker 4: with his adultery. I don't want to tell my mom,
Speaker 4: as she won't leave him, and she is just going
Speaker 4: to be stressed out on the other side of the world,
Speaker 4: all right, because your mom is in North America and
Speaker 4: your dad is somewhere else. Okay, this is none of
Speaker 4: my business, so so what the fuck is you telling
Speaker 4: me for?
Speaker 3: But I am.
Speaker 4: Already stressed out with school and teenager shit, so him
Speaker 4: adding this to my plate is rev I already think
Speaker 4: men are trash, and he is just reinforcing that narrative
Speaker 4: for me. If I don't sell my mom, I also
Speaker 4: fear bad karma might come to me. But I also
Speaker 4: feel as though telling her selfish of me, as it
Speaker 4: would just relieve my guilt.
Speaker 3: Hmm. I need help.
Speaker 4: My friends ain't shit, respectfully, damn and I go to
Speaker 4: a predominantly white school, so I could barely afford my scholarship.
Speaker 3: The counselors and teachers there are no use. Girl.
Speaker 4: You did a good job of making your life sound
Speaker 4: like the most shittiest of all shit lives in the world.
Speaker 3: Honey, Like, let me tell you something.
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna say we all have a cheating father,
Speaker 4: because you know, I don't know about everybody, but yes,
Speaker 4: I had a cheating father. And the reason why I say, hey,
Speaker 4: it is because he's not a cheater anymore. My mom
Speaker 4: end up getting the strength to leave after just you know,
Speaker 4: after many, many, many affairs or whatever. But like your
Speaker 4: mom will get the strength to leave. I do understand.
Speaker 4: I thought the same thing about my mom at first.
Speaker 4: You know, my mother gonna listen to this, like bitch.
Speaker 4: First of all, don't try, you know, But yeah, I
Speaker 4: think that, you know, every woman has a breaking point.
Speaker 4: And who's to say that your mom is not doing her,
Speaker 4: you know, but still in love with your father, you
Speaker 4: know what I'm saying. Who's to say that your dad
Speaker 4: is not in love with his wife but he's still
Speaker 4: doing him, you know what I'm saying. And who's to
Speaker 4: say that This is not this comes from. This is
Speaker 4: deeply rooted. You get what I'm saying, Like this is
Speaker 4: like generational although men at a certain age, man you
Speaker 4: should know right for wrong. You got a woman that's
Speaker 4: down for you. You got a wife. You cannot cheat
Speaker 4: on her. That's just how some men are wired. You
Speaker 4: get what I'm saying. As far as you complaining about
Speaker 4: all the things you had to do for your mom,
Speaker 4: I get it.
Speaker 3: I get it. But you are a child just like
Speaker 3: she a mother. You get what I'm saying.
Speaker 4: You're talking about carrying thirty pounds bags up to the Listen.
Speaker 4: Let me tell you something right now, my son is
Speaker 4: twelve years old. I ain't lifting shit around that little bit.
Speaker 4: You understand. Yeah, so we gonna carry thirty forty fifty
Speaker 4: pound bags for me too. I get it, I understand.
Speaker 4: But I'm gonna let you know. You do sound like
Speaker 4: a bread a little bit, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4: Because they still trying to figure out how they can
Speaker 4: pay for you to get to school, to get through school.
Speaker 3: I get it.
Speaker 4: Your friends ain't shit. Get rid of them, make some
Speaker 4: new ones. You understand what I'm saying. Everything you told
Speaker 4: me is solvable. Everything you sold me is solvable. It
Speaker 4: just seems like the only real, real, real issue. And
Speaker 4: I'm not discrediting you for anything that you're going through,
Speaker 4: but the real issue is that you really really have
Speaker 4: a herding bone from your dad, like and I think
Speaker 4: that that should result to therapy whenever you're ready. I
Speaker 4: know you probably like, hell no, because you fed up
Speaker 4: with him. You only got one mom. He cheating on
Speaker 4: her bench, cheating on her. She ain't strong enough to leave,
Speaker 4: what have you?
Speaker 3: Whatever?
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying, I understand, But you can
Speaker 4: clearly learn not to be that woman from your mom.
Speaker 4: But we don't know what all she dealing with either.
Speaker 4: Do you talk to your mom? Do you see what
Speaker 4: else she going through? All this moving back and forth
Speaker 4: and shit, trying to be a mom, trying to provide,
Speaker 4: still trying to be a wife. At the end of
Speaker 4: the day, you said she was cooking his favorite meal
Speaker 4: two months after catching them cheating. Trusting me, I get
Speaker 4: all of that shit. I've seen it myself, so I
Speaker 4: get it.
Speaker 3: I get it.
Speaker 4: Figure out how to get a job as well. Like
Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying, You got teenage shit going on,
Speaker 4: Go get yourself a job. You know what I mean,
Speaker 4: because at some point, if we see we can't rely
Speaker 4: on our parents, we got to make it happen for ourselves.
Speaker 4: We can't sit in sulk in misery. You understand what
Speaker 4: I'm saying, So fuck all that teenage shit. I understand,
Speaker 4: I understand. But if you got people that ain't shit,
Speaker 4: drop them. You're still young. You got a lot of
Speaker 4: life to live. Go get you a job, help your
Speaker 4: parents put you through school, Help your mother put you
Speaker 4: through school. I guarantee you won't regret it, because this
Speaker 4: is your future. It ain't theirs, it's yours.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 4: Sometimes as kids, we feel very entitled, you know, and
Speaker 4: we always say things, you know, we always feel that
Speaker 4: our parents should be doing this or should be doing that,
Speaker 4: And no, it's my parents' job, all right. If they
Speaker 4: ain't doing it, who's gonna do it? You?
Speaker 3: So get yourself together. You understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 4: Figure out exactly what you need to do to man
Speaker 4: that relationship with your father, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4: And it has to be a two player game. It
Speaker 4: can't be just you. It don't even seem like it's
Speaker 4: gonna be just you. You know what I'm saying. Now, I
Speaker 4: will say him putting you through shit, like giving you
Speaker 4: a receipt where you did see that condoms were on there,
Speaker 4: or him making you go buy salad even though y'all
Speaker 4: be eating meat and shit, you know what I mean,
Speaker 4: just so you wouldn't see him by the condoms and shit,
Speaker 4: or him making you wash his dirty drawers and shit
Speaker 4: and all of that type of shit. These are the
Speaker 4: things that you can bring up to him. You get
Speaker 4: what I'm saying. You got to bring this type of
Speaker 4: shit up, whether you do it in a therapy session,
Speaker 4: whether you do it in a conversation with just you
Speaker 4: and your dad, or whatever. You know, But I just want,
Speaker 4: I want, I need y'all to get past that hump
Speaker 4: one day in your life, because just like you get
Speaker 4: one mom, you got one Dad.
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