Speaker 1: Hell, we suck at being newlyweds with Dean Angler.
Speaker 2: Kaylen Lurkey and Jared haven An, iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 1: What is going on everyone out there that sucks at
Speaker 1: being newlyweds?
Speaker 3: Just like, uh, I hate this intro, bro, you're sounding seductive.
Speaker 1: It's a beautiful day here in Bali, Indonesia. I'm joined
Speaker 1: by my beautiful fiance Kaylen Miller Keys Jared Habn And
Speaker 1: before we start today's episode, I just want to say
Speaker 1: one thing. Hah Bieber.
Speaker 4: Had Biebert, kaylenlyn.
Speaker 1: Ah Bieber Day, due.
Speaker 2: You.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much all you cool cats and kittens
Speaker 1: out there. Really appreciate you taking the time to listen
Speaker 1: to us sing that song for the beautiful cabin so much.
Speaker 1: All right, well let's start the episode.
Speaker 3: Nothing has ever got to sync up, especially when we
Speaker 3: start singing Kylen, happy birthday?
Speaker 4: Thank you?
Speaker 1: Is Dean spoiling you?
Speaker 2: No? And my birthday's technically over here in Bali. It's
Speaker 2: my birthday in America. So I guess I get two
Speaker 2: birthdays this year.
Speaker 1: What time is it in Bali? It's eight am Friday
Speaker 1: morning right now. It's what it's like eight pm Thursday
Speaker 1: night for you in Rhode Island.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's five pm for AA.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so we took off. We left LA at twelve
Speaker 1: in the morning. On Kaylen's birthday, landed in Taiwan. Was
Speaker 1: it Friday? No?
Speaker 2: Was it?
Speaker 1: It was on her birthday. We were just traveling all
Speaker 1: day for the birthday. Which is funny because we were
Speaker 1: traveling all day for my birthday. This year. For my birthday,
Speaker 1: I took us to Japan. This year, for Kalin's birthday,
Speaker 1: she took us to Bali. Yeah, that's how we do it.
Speaker 5: Last year for my birthday, I took us to Mexico City.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I took us sky diving.
Speaker 3: Well, you guys should definitely keep taking advantage of this,
Speaker 3: because I promise you one day in the near future,
Speaker 3: your birthday is going to consist of, oh, yeah, it's
Speaker 3: your birthday.
Speaker 1: Have a birthday.
Speaker 3: Do you want to like go to dinner or something,
Speaker 3: if we have time, if the kids aren't acting up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, birthdays. Birthdays are the second most important holidays
Speaker 1: out there, I think.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just hard when you're traveling. Like Dean didn't
Speaker 2: have a great birthdays. We were traveling on his birthday.
Speaker 2: I didn't have a great birthdays. We were traveling on mine,
Speaker 2: but we're making the best of it.
Speaker 5: Today. We're gonna go get massages right after this.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're shopping now.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're in Bali. It's just oh my god, I didn't.
Speaker 2: I forgot how long it is to get there here.
Speaker 2: It's fifteen hours. It was like a twenty twenty five
Speaker 2: hour travel day.
Speaker 5: Who's a little tired.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm the type of person. I'm such a loser.
Speaker 3: I judge people who when I say like, oh, what
Speaker 3: are some of the things that you like, They're like, oh,
Speaker 3: I like to travel, And I'm like, ah, we're just
Speaker 3: I don't think you and I are on the same wavelengths.
Speaker 3: I hate traveling. I'm the type of person bally looks great,
Speaker 3: looks beautiful. I mean, I'm sure, of course I would.
Speaker 3: I don't want to go. I gotta be honest. I
Speaker 3: have no desire to go because all I could think
Speaker 3: about is the twenty hour travel that's going to lead
Speaker 3: to and from this destination.
Speaker 1: Yeah, now that's reasonable. I've noticed too. Whenever I get
Speaker 1: back from like a big trip, I'll tell some of
Speaker 1: my friends like, oh, yeah, I just got back from wherever,
Speaker 1: and they're like, oh I was it, and every time
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I was all right, I don't really Ever,
Speaker 1: I'm never really like, oh it was awesome. I mean,
Speaker 1: like there are certain trips like Pakistan is awesome, but
Speaker 1: like really it wasn't. It's never it's I don't really
Speaker 1: enjoy traveling until I'm back home thinking about what I
Speaker 1: had just done, you know.
Speaker 5: Which I think is just like human nature. We're just
Speaker 5: never really happy.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: We travel just to make ourselves feel better about home.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, they're like, oh you know what I did
Speaker 3: miss this place?
Speaker 1: Yeah right, this couch is really comfortable now I think
Speaker 1: about it. It gives you like good stories, and it
Speaker 1: makes you more like interesting and gives you interesting experiences.
Speaker 1: But like traveling, you know, it takes a lot out
Speaker 1: of you. It's tiring.
Speaker 3: It's funny coming from two people who are constantly traveling.
Speaker 5: Yeah, this is our last international trip before the wedding,
Speaker 5: so we're soaking it in.
Speaker 1: I mean, the only reason I travel so much is
Speaker 1: just because I'm like running away from all my problems
Speaker 1: in the US, whether I'm like living in the truck
Speaker 1: in Colorado flying to Pakistan, I'm just running away from
Speaker 1: all my problems. What are your problems? Oh my god,
Speaker 1: where do I begin? How much time do you have?
Speaker 5: We'll soft three.
Speaker 1: There's so many I don't even know where to begin. Anyways. Anyways, Jared,
Speaker 1: what's up with you?
Speaker 4: Man?
Speaker 1: What's going on?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 3: You know, just loving the dreams. Spend a lot of
Speaker 3: time at the coffee shop. I golf today, though, which
Speaker 3: was awesome. That was a lot of fun.
Speaker 1: I saw that, so that was exciting. What else is
Speaker 1: new in the world of Jared? Let's stick Let's stick
Speaker 1: on the golf subjects for a second. How'd you do?
Speaker 1: How'd you play on golf? Dude?
Speaker 3: I can't believe I'm about to say this. I shot
Speaker 3: in eighty five. It's the bestuffve ever played.
Speaker 1: That's great, I know.
Speaker 3: But we don't have to stick on golf, even though
Speaker 3: I do try to get Ashley to come golf with
Speaker 3: me because I get why she doesn't want to do it.
Speaker 3: Like I view it as a bonding experience. I'm like, hey,
Speaker 3: come drive the cart like we've talked about many times.
Speaker 3: She's just not into it. But uh yeah, I mean,
Speaker 3: what's new in the Haven household? Dawson is getting big.
Speaker 3: He's like in his prime right now because a few
Speaker 3: months ago, Dawson wasn't sleeping through the night and he
Speaker 3: maybe just was going through something because he was constantly crying.
Speaker 3: This kid wasn't awake for more than five minutes without
Speaker 3: starting to sob, and it was getting very stressful for
Speaker 3: Ashley and I to always be constantly around that because
Speaker 3: we loved Dawson more than anything, but it was just
Speaker 3: he I don't know if it was just growing pains,
Speaker 3: if his body was changing, if he was teething, but
Speaker 3: there was like two months where it was like, oh
Speaker 3: my god, like he's Dawston. You got to relax, buddy.
Speaker 3: He has turned a corner.
Speaker 1: He is so happy.
Speaker 3: Now I walk through the door, he's able to say dad, dad,
Speaker 3: So he literally like he gets excited now.
Speaker 1: He puts his arms up. He knows to do that,
Speaker 1: and he's like, dadda.
Speaker 3: I'm like, ash just kill me now because his life
Speaker 3: is never gonna get better than this.
Speaker 1: Nice I saw that video you posted. He takes his
Speaker 1: sunglasses off, looks out into the distance, puts him back
Speaker 1: on speeds away on his little on his little race car.
Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, he's just like he's always looking around. He's
Speaker 3: discovering things and he gets excited about everything. He's just
Speaker 3: really happy right now, much more than I've ever seen him.
Speaker 3: And the fact that he's happy, chubby and speaks gibberish
Speaker 3: and as cute as he is, it's just like, you
Speaker 3: just need to like stay in this spot for at
Speaker 3: least another seventy years, uh, because I never want you
Speaker 3: to change from what you are now. You're sleeping through
Speaker 3: the night, you're just happy, and he's just like, boh
Speaker 3: that that thought boop bo Like you can tell he's
Speaker 3: trying to form words and in his head he's saying
Speaker 3: something like he is speaking, but he just can't make
Speaker 3: the words yet. So it's like hot that boop eat
Speaker 3: that bo ba And I'm like, yeah, bro, yeah, I
Speaker 3: get it man. And then he'll just be like that
Speaker 3: ba my mom ba ball and I'm like, bro, you
Speaker 3: were just the You're killing you, Like I literally want
Speaker 3: to eat you because you're so fucking cute. Excuse my language,
Speaker 3: but it's just like, sometimes you need a good f
Speaker 3: bomb to really describe how impactful something is, and his
Speaker 3: level of cuteness is like shooting through the roof right now.
Speaker 3: It's pretty were you a pretty chubby baby. Yeah, I
Speaker 3: was a little chub chubbs.
Speaker 4: Uh.
Speaker 3: I stayed chubby till so I was a little chubby baby,
Speaker 3: and then I was born chubby, my poor mother. I
Speaker 3: was ten pounds two ounces. I was a big I
Speaker 3: was a watermelon, so that was troublesome. And then I
Speaker 3: stayed a little chubbs then thinned out at three or
Speaker 3: four and then put some more weight back on, probably
Speaker 3: because my dad took me in McDonald's all the time.
Speaker 3: I have very fond memories of Ronald McDonald though, and
Speaker 3: like I would we would like go out to eat
Speaker 3: mc McDonald's. Like that's what I want to do with Dawson.
Speaker 3: It's just like go you know how they have those
Speaker 3: like plastic booths that are so uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: Dude.
Speaker 3: That was like at least three nights a week from
Speaker 3: my dad and I and uh, because they had back
Speaker 3: then they had like the twenty I don't know if
Speaker 3: they still do, but they had like the twenty piece
Speaker 3: chicken and nuggets for like two ninety nine. You know,
Speaker 3: Fish fil A's. I was a big fish fil A
Speaker 3: kid too, But yeah, I was chubby, and then once
Speaker 3: I started playing sports in high school, I started thinning out, well,
Speaker 3: it would.
Speaker 1: Take him three days a week because you don't want
Speaker 1: him to be chubby the same way you were. You
Speaker 1: want them to lean out a little earlier on the y.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's gonna be like a once a month saying, hey,
Speaker 3: like tonight we're getting McDonald's, so that's gonna be good.
Speaker 3: But I also have no doubt that he's he's actually
Speaker 3: I feel like starting thingming out now because he's growing.
Speaker 3: But once he starts walking, because he's still not walking,
Speaker 3: he's delayed in that, but he's standing and he definitely,
Speaker 3: like you could see that he's starting to have the
Speaker 3: capability of it.
Speaker 1: He's just late.
Speaker 3: And as soon as he starts walking, dude, he's going
Speaker 3: to thin out so fast because he can't stop crawling now.
Speaker 3: And once he starts walking, he's gonna be running. And
Speaker 3: only does his throw balls that he just loves it, dude,
Speaker 3: it's like my dream cone true. He's just like he's
Speaker 3: grabbing balls and throwing.
Speaker 1: Them at me. I'm like, yeah, bro, keep throwing. He
Speaker 1: throwing Let's see how far you could throw this thing.
Speaker 3: So that's pretty awesome.
Speaker 1: Nice dude. Babies are sick, especially with fat cute little
Speaker 1: babies that sleep through the night. I know.
Speaker 3: So now because we're we're still on the same trajectory
Speaker 3: of that, you know, we want to start for a
Speaker 3: second probably here in the next couple of months. And
Speaker 3: now I'm we're getting into that stage which is what
Speaker 3: everybody tells us, which is at some point it's going
Speaker 3: to get easier. And then you get in the mindset, oh,
Speaker 3: we could we could have another one, like we could
Speaker 3: do this, and you just kind of like start forgetting
Speaker 3: about everything else. Yeah, and we haven't forgotten, but we're
Speaker 3: in the stage now which is like, oh, like if
Speaker 3: the second kid's easier, like we got this, Dawson's starting
Speaker 3: to become easier now. But then of course, like Astuley
Speaker 3: will get pregnant, probably throw up constantly, and then you know,
Speaker 3: I'll be at the shop and we have to take
Speaker 3: care of Dawson, and then our next kid will probably
Speaker 3: be just as high maintenance as Dawson and not sleep
Speaker 3: in the night, and then we'll be like, what the
Speaker 3: hell did we do to ourselves.
Speaker 1: It's kind of like traveling, you know, you go and
Speaker 1: you do it and you're like, oh, okay, this this
Speaker 1: isn't that great, but then you look back a little
Speaker 1: bit later on and you're like, oh, actually this is
Speaker 1: really cool. Uh or that was really cool. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: like why do you know?
Speaker 3: You just look back at traveling and you're like, oh,
Speaker 3: that's not really that great, and then you end up
Speaker 3: in BALI. That's like us with kids. You know, you're like, oh, what,
Speaker 3: Like there were some cool parts, but there was not
Speaker 3: cool parts too. Yeah, the shade goes down automatically. What's
Speaker 3: going on with the automatic shade? How do you get
Speaker 3: that in your house? Ashley's very fancy with this. This
Speaker 3: was she I didn't know this was the thing. She
Speaker 3: met with blinds and curtain companies. I was like, ash
Speaker 3: because we had nothing on. The windows was bare, so
Speaker 3: I was like, I can get like, I can get
Speaker 3: blind She's like, no, we're just gonna get nice looking blinds.
Speaker 3: We're gonna get nice looking curtains. So they came in
Speaker 3: and then they started pitching us on all this stuff.
Speaker 3: How it like can go automatically down as soon as
Speaker 3: the sun sets, and like there's remotes. Bro, I'm not kidding,
Speaker 3: there's remotes. I press remote and like I can control
Speaker 3: which curtain is going down, which one's going up. It's
Speaker 3: very fancy, also very useless, because I could just go
Speaker 3: and then it'd be down.
Speaker 1: Sounds expensive. Automatic shades are so expensive.
Speaker 3: Dude, it's so expensive. Ashley. I was like, Ashley, what
Speaker 3: are we doing? And then she was like, oh, we'll
Speaker 3: just spend the extra money. We'll get it nice. And
Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't know. And now we're doing the
Speaker 3: lawn too. Dude adds up so fast. Oh oh my god,
Speaker 3: it's crazy. I'm like, actually, I will do it.
Speaker 2: Those are the two most expensive things. I feel like
Speaker 2: window treatments in the backyard, dude.
Speaker 3: Dirt freaking dirt. You know how expensive dirt is. Just like,
Speaker 3: I will go shovel some up.
Speaker 5: Yeah, rocks too. We spent thousands of dollars on rocks.
Speaker 1: We Hey, if you need anyone to build you a deck,
Speaker 1: I'll fly out for the weekend and build you a
Speaker 1: nice deck. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I can't wait for you to come and just buy
Speaker 3: me a deck that's like thirty seven degrees and slanted.
Speaker 1: Oh no, I'm not gonna buy you. I'm gonna build
Speaker 1: you a deck. It's gonna be now flat from side
Speaker 1: to side, front to back. It's going to be as
Speaker 1: big as you want it, in any shape that you
Speaker 1: want it to be. It'll last a couple of years.
Speaker 3: A couple of years, isn't a deck supposed to last?
Speaker 3: Way more than that.
Speaker 1: The deck will out last the house. Just trust me,
Speaker 1: I'll whatever you get quoted on a deck, I'll cut
Speaker 1: it in half, come out and build it in a
Speaker 1: weekend and then uh and then I'll leave.
Speaker 5: He did that to one of our friends. They got
Speaker 5: quoted something insane.
Speaker 2: So Dean built them a little bait deck model and
Speaker 2: brought it to them and he's like, I'll build you
Speaker 2: the deck for a quarter of what they charged them.
Speaker 1: They were trying to charge him one hundred grand for
Speaker 1: a deck, but also like some backyard stuff, well yeah,
Speaker 1: and like some rocks and some pavers and stuff.
Speaker 3: I've nevers you better get more than just some backyard
Speaker 3: stuff for one hundred grand with the deck.
Speaker 1: Holy correct. I mean they are kind of like a
Speaker 1: little bougieer of a couple. But like the fact that
Speaker 1: you could even get one hundred thousand dollars quote in
Speaker 1: their backyard, which was like five hundred square feet is
Speaker 1: mind blowing to me. It's just expensive and like all
Speaker 1: these contractors know that people want a nice backyard, so
Speaker 1: they're like overcharging. I don't know, Caylen.
Speaker 3: I got a question for you, is do you think
Speaker 3: that would you categorize Dean as a handyman?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 5: For sure. He can do anything. He like, literally can
Speaker 5: do anything in the house.
Speaker 2: It's so crazy because I was thinking before I was
Speaker 2: with Dean, I would task grab it everything. And the
Speaker 2: only thing I used task grab it for now is
Speaker 2: for like pulling up the weeds in the front yard. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Cool, I don't like pulling weeds.
Speaker 3: Yay, No, I get it, you're above that. Ah. But
Speaker 3: so when you say you can do anything, like like,
Speaker 3: if there's a pipe that's leaking, Dean's on it.
Speaker 1: Oh, I'll fix it. I'll fix it.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: No, seriously, he can do anything electrical, he can hang things,
Speaker 2: he can build things.
Speaker 3: You can do electrical work. You're telling me you're not
Speaker 3: gonna zap yourself.
Speaker 1: I mean I've zapped myself a few times. I've rerated
Speaker 1: a few outlets, I've hung a bunch of new light fixtures.
Speaker 1: I did all the electrical in my van that thinks
Speaker 1: still hasn't burned down yet. My thing with it is
Speaker 1: like a The amount of information out there to learn
Speaker 1: how to do this stuff is so plentiful, like YouTube
Speaker 1: and blogs and stuff on the internet. You could learn
Speaker 1: how to do anything pretty quickly, or at least I
Speaker 1: get a general understanding of how to do it. And
Speaker 1: we had contractors come in and do our backyard some stuff,
Speaker 1: and they were the worst. They made us a beautiful
Speaker 1: pool and we like that, but like they just sucked
Speaker 1: and they were so expensive. And I was like, if
Speaker 1: we're gonna get a job done, like if it's going
Speaker 1: to be not super super nice, I'll just do it
Speaker 1: and it'll be equally as shitty, but we'll save ourselves,
Speaker 1: you know, however, eighty percent of the money and I'll
Speaker 1: just do it myself and I'll learn a new skill
Speaker 1: in the meantime too, for the next house.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And I feel like for a pergola, I could be
Speaker 2: misquoting them, but I think they quoted us at like
Speaker 2: fifteen thousand or something, maybe twenty thousand, and Dean probably
Speaker 2: built it for two.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, for two. And I built it in a weekend. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I built it. The wood was like five hundred, yeah,
Speaker 1: and the brackets were like fifteen hundred. So yeah, two
Speaker 1: grand beautiful pergola.
Speaker 3: Kaylyn, do you find Dean's handiness that's a word that
Speaker 3: something you're attracted to.
Speaker 5: Yeah, in two ways.
Speaker 2: One, I think it's Yeah, it's like hot to see
Speaker 2: him back back in the backyard, like sweaty with his
Speaker 2: muscles stirty. Yeah, also hot that he's saving us thousands
Speaker 2: and thousands and thousands of dollars.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Well, I am the stay at home husband, so I
Speaker 1: do need to pull my own keep. So I'm saving
Speaker 1: us money while you're making us money. It's a good
Speaker 1: system we have. What was I going to say, Oh,
Speaker 1: she doesn't love how I'll start a project and get
Speaker 1: like halfway through it and then not finish shit, or
Speaker 1: like I'll make a mess and she'll be really mad
Speaker 1: about the mess in the garage.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we now need new stools because he painted the
Speaker 2: perkole of black and got black paint on everything.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, there's a drop of paint on the
Speaker 1: stool that we have.
Speaker 2: Spelling Easton just reminded me he spilled black paint all
Speaker 2: over our carpet and we had to rip up the carpet.
Speaker 1: Oh as if we were already planning on ripping.
Speaker 2: Up the carpet when I, oh, I still just I
Speaker 2: can picture it perfectly in my emotions when I walked
Speaker 2: out to see a whole bucket of black paint just spilled.
Speaker 5: Across our carpet.
Speaker 1: Yes, but we had already like it's fine, I'll clean
Speaker 1: it up. We had already decided at that point that
Speaker 1: we before that point, that we were going to place
Speaker 1: the carpet, which I did, by the way, thank you
Speaker 1: very much.
Speaker 5: You did.
Speaker 2: Also, you spilt it in the bathroom all over the
Speaker 2: tile in the grout. We had to like go in
Speaker 2: with the grout like with toothbrushures.
Speaker 1: Oh, we had to.
Speaker 5: Yes, yes, I was there, Oh, you were there, and
Speaker 5: I helped. I did more than you.
Speaker 1: Scrubbed for two seconds and you're like, yeah, you got this. No,
Speaker 1: not even that. I was like, I got this, I
Speaker 1: spilt it, I'll do it.
Speaker 5: We're playing into Easton's hand, but ye just saying.
Speaker 3: I like how Easton just lights a match and then
Speaker 3: just tosses it and lets whatever happen happens.
Speaker 1: Whenever I'm whenever I mess up like that, I take
Speaker 1: it upon myself to remedy the situation. I didn't make
Speaker 1: you scrub anything or ask for you to scrub anything.
Speaker 1: I always say, I'll do it. I got it, don't
Speaker 1: worry about it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so there are much more pros than there are cons.
Speaker 5: But you know there are still a few cons.
Speaker 1: Okay, sorry, I'm saving you hundreds of thousands of dollars
Speaker 1: every day?
Speaker 5: Is it hundreds now every day?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 1: Yes, it's that much every single day, maybe more.
Speaker 3: And I think those should be like your your wedding
Speaker 3: vallus towards Dean, like, there's some pros and there's some cons,
Speaker 3: but I think the pros outweigh the cons exactly, I do,
Speaker 3: I do. What was I going to say? Yeah, because
Speaker 3: I'm picturing Dean to be like Jack from This Is Us,
Speaker 3: because I feel like that's why so many women are
Speaker 3: attracted to Milo vent Emilia from that show. Because he
Speaker 3: was a handy. He was good looking obviously, first and foremost,
Speaker 3: he had a mustache, which Dean has a mustache right now,
Speaker 3: long hand, long hair, and so like. Of course, he
Speaker 3: was good looking and charming and all these things, but
Speaker 3: also was able to get his hands dirty and like
Speaker 3: open up the hood and fix the car, you know
Speaker 3: what I mean.
Speaker 1: So Dean has those qualities.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Oh my God, it's so nice. And I talked
Speaker 2: to my friend's husbands and they're just like, Wow, you're
Speaker 2: so lucky. You don't know how lucky you are. And
Speaker 2: I'm like, no, no, I do I know how lucky
Speaker 2: I am. You think they might be right that you
Speaker 2: might not be you know how lucky I am. You
Speaker 2: might not be fully aware of just how lucky you
Speaker 2: really are. No, Because then my friends like their husbands
Speaker 2: and maybe they're don't have the time, but I think
Speaker 2: most of their husbands just don't want to learn how
Speaker 2: to do it or like buy the right tools. I
Speaker 2: don't know what it is, but like simple things that
Speaker 2: Dean did in like an hour, their husbands are like,
Speaker 2: we're just going to hire someone.
Speaker 1: To do it, or somebody to say they don't have
Speaker 1: the time. That's basically the saying them saying I don't
Speaker 1: want to.
Speaker 3: I want to. Here's the thing, because I actually don't
Speaker 3: have the time. Because a lot of actually and I
Speaker 3: go back and forth on this because I say, hey,
Speaker 3: I want to do it, like the lawn. I was like,
Speaker 3: I can do it. I can do this. She's like,
Speaker 3: when are you going to have the time to do it?
Speaker 3: I said, I don't know. I mean, obviously it will
Speaker 3: take a little while for me to make sure that
Speaker 3: everything's going through. I've never done this before, but I'd
Speaker 3: like to learn and I want to do it. And
Speaker 3: she's like, nope, I'm just hiring people so it gets
Speaker 3: done properly and it gets done fast and we have
Speaker 3: a lawn. I'm like, all right, whatever, I guess I'll
Speaker 3: go straight to hell.
Speaker 1: But the garage. See, that's the other thing she never
Speaker 1: lets me.
Speaker 3: This is bullshit. Actually, the more I think about it now,
Speaker 3: I'm just venting. You guys are like my therapy session
Speaker 3: because she never lets me do like even the garage.
Speaker 3: The garage should be my space. That is my space,
Speaker 3: that's me, that's my area. And yet it's like she
Speaker 3: wants everything organized in her fashion. And I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 3: I get that, but I can organize this and just
Speaker 3: tell you where things are. But she doesn't want that.
Speaker 3: She wants to be the one who's in control and
Speaker 3: organize everything and has everything in its little place where
Speaker 3: it belongs in her mind. And I'm like, this is ridiculous.
Speaker 3: So I can't get anything done because if I do something,
Speaker 3: she'll just redo it at some point and then it
Speaker 3: get so frustrated.
Speaker 2: I just give up with a garage. I had to
Speaker 2: give up control on that. And it's fully dean space.
Speaker 2: He like, I've got my clothes out there, like my
Speaker 2: winter clothes. I'll switch out winter to summer, and that's
Speaker 2: all that's out there, minus my tennis rackets. But Dean
Speaker 2: has like fully organized done. It's like his space, it's
Speaker 2: his workshop. And I was like, you know what, you
Speaker 2: do it and you did a great job organizing.
Speaker 1: I was going to say the opposite, and you have
Speaker 1: too much of a hand in the garage, similar to
Speaker 1: what Jared just said, you're moving stuff around.
Speaker 2: No, all I have is my I switch out my
Speaker 2: winter clothes and summer clothes, so when it's summer, my
Speaker 2: winter clothes are out there, and that's all.
Speaker 1: That's out there, I guess. So yeah, so you're moving
Speaker 1: stuff in and out of there all the time, and
Speaker 1: I'm losing tools, I'm.
Speaker 5: Losing Oh my gosh. Okay, Jean loses everything and blames
Speaker 5: it on me.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm not evenna. You will give about this right now?
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's crazy, How Caitlin do you do this? Because
Speaker 3: Ashley will just move things and not tell me, and
Speaker 3: it's so frustrating when I'm looking for it, like my keys.
Speaker 3: It's it's so when we walk in, there's a little desk,
Speaker 3: draw cupboard area or whatever the hell you want to
Speaker 3: call it, right to the right of the door. So
Speaker 3: I always put my keys on top of there because
Speaker 3: it's right there. And I'm always walking in and out
Speaker 3: of that door, and my keys are right there, and
Speaker 3: she'll always just come and move them and put them,
Speaker 3: usually in the kitchen island like a bowl, but sometimes
Speaker 3: she'll just and it's like so frustrating to me because
Speaker 3: it's just like, let me leave my keys there, because
Speaker 3: then I walk to the front door and the keys
Speaker 3: aren't there, and then I have to go look for
Speaker 3: him because sometimes she puts them in her freaking purse
Speaker 3: for some reason. My point being is that just let
Speaker 3: the keys be right there. It's not it's it's it's
Speaker 3: not a distraction, it doesn't look ugly. These are where
Speaker 3: the keys belong. This is where I put the keys,
Speaker 3: So don't pull them, don't move them unless you tell
Speaker 3: me that you move them, so I know where they are,
Speaker 3: so I'm not looking for an extra three minutes and
Speaker 3: losing my goddamn mind because I can't find the keys.
Speaker 1: Yeah, story of my life. Kalen moves things, doesn't realize
Speaker 1: that she's moving, and then I don't know where anything is.
Speaker 1: And then just even the other day, I was looking
Speaker 1: for something for like a month. I looked in Enjoy
Speaker 1: that I didn't even know existed in our kitchen, and
Speaker 1: sure enough it was in there. It's just, you know,
Speaker 1: it is what it is. I guess it's the pros
Speaker 1: and the cons. Right, pros and cons wedding valves right there.
Speaker 1: Kalen desperately wants to move on to another subject. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so well we should, we should.
Speaker 3: I know that we're losing time here, and we really
Speaker 3: buried well, we didn't bury the lead, but we haven't
Speaker 3: talked about the lead, which is Kaylin, it's your twenty
Speaker 3: eighth birthday. Even though in Bob it's past your birthday,
Speaker 3: it's still your birthday. So you just turned twenty eight. Yeah, like,
Speaker 3: I guess, are you? Do you like think about the
Speaker 3: macro on birthdays to be like, oh my god, a
Speaker 3: whole year has gone by and now I'm a year older,
Speaker 3: And do you look back and reminisce and think about
Speaker 3: all the things that have changed.
Speaker 2: No, I'm not really much of a birthday person, and
Speaker 2: like some of my friends will have like huge birthday
Speaker 2: parties every year, like have to do something every year,
Speaker 2: and I'd rather like go on a trip, just be somewhere.
Speaker 2: I'm not a huge birthday person. And the only thing
Speaker 2: I think about is the fact that I'm getting older.
Speaker 2: And I know I'm twenty eight, but thirty is coming
Speaker 2: up in two years, So that's kind.
Speaker 1: Of all that I've been thinkingful, Welcome to the potty pal. Yeah, potty,
Speaker 1: I have potty.
Speaker 3: You know. I just really wanted to go my good
Speaker 3: old New England voice there. I have something that I
Speaker 3: think maybe will blow your mind. So you are twenty
Speaker 3: eight years old now. So when you were telling people
Speaker 3: many years from now, when they ask you how old
Speaker 3: are you when you got married, You're gonna say twenty eight.
Speaker 3: So you are the age now that you are getting
Speaker 3: married in And I think that's kind of when you think,
Speaker 3: when you think about that, that's crazy. Yeah, that is
Speaker 3: pretty cool, Like you are the age now when you
Speaker 3: tell people, because people, you know, they always asked like, oh,
Speaker 3: how old are you when you got married? I was
Speaker 3: twenty eight and you were twenty eight. You were married
Speaker 3: in like now you are the age you're getting married at.
Speaker 2: I like it.
Speaker 1: How old were you when you got married?
Speaker 3: I was thirty Damn I was old. So Ashley was
Speaker 3: thirty one then, yeah, Ashley was thirty one and I
Speaker 3: was thirty. I'm thirty two, so you got me beat
Speaker 3: by two years, so that's pretty good. Yeah, that's crazy, man.
Speaker 3: I feel like thirty was so young, Like holy shit,
Speaker 3: I feel like I got married young, which obviously I didn't.
Speaker 1: I was thirty. Yeah, my brother got married at thirty eight.
Speaker 1: I'm still ahead of him. Other brother got married at
Speaker 1: thirty six, so I'm still ahead of them by by
Speaker 1: four and six years. That's pretty good, just two years
Speaker 1: behind Jared. But yeah, it's interesting, you know, especially when
Speaker 1: she's starving kids. I guess like you weren't here last
Speaker 1: week for the interview we had with the young couple
Speaker 1: that's married but they were like twenty two and they're
Speaker 1: twenty one, twenty one and twenty two and they're having
Speaker 1: their first baby, and it's like there's just a lot
Speaker 1: of pros that go into having a baby young like that,
Speaker 1: but also a lot of cons, Like you miss out
Speaker 1: on a little bit of your independence in your twenties
Speaker 1: where you learn so much about yourself. But like, imagine
Speaker 1: being thirty, imagine being your age right now and Dawson
Speaker 1: is twelve years old.
Speaker 3: No, I couldn't think about it like I think about
Speaker 3: my mom all the time, because my mom was twenty
Speaker 3: when she had my sister, and she was twenty two
Speaker 3: when she had me. So like at so Kalin right now,
Speaker 3: at twenty eight, if you were my mom, you would
Speaker 3: have two kids, one six years old and one eight
Speaker 3: year old.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's terrifying, crazy yea. But also let me ask
Speaker 1: let me ask you this, how much do you feel close?
Speaker 1: I mean, obviously you love your parents. Do you feel
Speaker 1: closer to your mom because you guys are sort of
Speaker 1: close that you guys are close in age, You're closer
Speaker 1: in age to your mom than you are from being born. So,
Speaker 1: but does she still feel like your mom or does
Speaker 1: she feel like a No, she feels like an old lady. No,
Speaker 1: she does.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she doesn't feel young. I don't think she'll because
Speaker 3: she's my parent, you know, so she'll never feel young.
Speaker 3: And I don't necessarily feel closer to her because we're
Speaker 3: closer in age. But sometimes I do remind myself because
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, my mom's still in her fifties, which
Speaker 3: feels so young because I'm in my thirties, right.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm just saying, like even some of the
Speaker 1: some of my best friends that I golf with, like
Speaker 1: one of them is like forty six, and that's that
Speaker 1: could be the age of one of our parents, you know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean that's obviously that's like pretty not kind of
Speaker 1: that lustream, but like it's kind of close, like they're
Speaker 1: they could have gone to high school together, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. Yeah, that's crazy.
Speaker 3: So another year older and we're spending it in Bali.
Speaker 5: It's uh, it's a good place to spend your birthday.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well we haven't really left the hotel yet, so
Speaker 1: she woke up. Yeah. Yeah, we got in late last night,
Speaker 1: early morning this morning, and now we're gonna go birthday shopping.
Speaker 1: Kiln's got a two hundred dollars budget.
Speaker 5: Two hundred.
Speaker 1: All right, we'll give you two fifty this year.
Speaker 5: No, no, no, I saw way more on your birthday.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah you did. It's not about who spends more, okay,
Speaker 1: It's about the experiences we make along the way. So, yeah,
Speaker 1: we're gonna go out and have a nice little birthday
Speaker 1: shopping spree. And do you remember the birth birthday gift
Speaker 1: you ever got, Kayla.
Speaker 5: Oh, that's a good question. Dean got me flights a
Speaker 5: flight to Spain one time. That was nice, to.
Speaker 1: Japan one time.
Speaker 5: Yeah, Japan, yep, I forgot about that one too. Yeah.
Speaker 5: I like flights.
Speaker 1: I like flights. The flights are cool because they lead somewhere.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not really I don't really need more stuff,
Speaker 2: so it's hard to like. I don't I don't want, like,
Speaker 2: I don't know, I don't really need anything. So I'd
Speaker 2: rather go on a trip. Sounds like, sounds like someone I.
Speaker 1: Know me.
Speaker 5: My birthday trip.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no fun. Yeah that's great. Yeah, I'll feel let
Speaker 1: you take me to Bali every year for your birthday.
Speaker 1: That sounds I think I.
Speaker 5: Was thinking this on the way here.
Speaker 2: I think this is the last time I'm going to
Speaker 2: come to Bali unless we're like on a big trip
Speaker 2: in Indonesia Asia and and we stop here.
Speaker 5: But it's so far, it is so far, and it's
Speaker 5: both of our second times coming here.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're still not even through the trip yet though,
Speaker 1: And you've already decided that because the flight.
Speaker 2: Was so long yesterday and we flew economy because there's
Speaker 2: no way we're paying for first class tickets.
Speaker 5: They're crazy.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm yeah, yeah, Well I don't really like this
Speaker 1: is that we're working on right here, where we're holding
Speaker 1: the we're sharing a microphone essentially, so you can't almost
Speaker 1: say something, and then she'll put it right in front
Speaker 1: of my face, like.
Speaker 5: Just in case you want to say anything.
Speaker 1: It's almost like you're like expecting me to say something.
Speaker 5: It's a just in case thing.
Speaker 1: And then I feel pressure like, oh crap, now I
Speaker 1: have to say something. What do I say?
Speaker 3: Well, it's a good thing you don't host the podcast
Speaker 3: or anything.
Speaker 1: That will do it.
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