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Speaker 2: So let's get into the first one.
Speaker 3: Hey, Jess, So I'm just trying to make this quick.
Speaker 3: So basically, I just got broken up with three days
Speaker 3: ago from with my man.
Speaker 4: We were together for him, well, yesterday would have been ten.
Speaker 3: Months, so I guess we were together for almost ten
Speaker 3: months and.
Speaker 4: There are ten months in total. Like they weren't bad,
Speaker 4: but I feel like the last two months we kind
Speaker 4: of just.
Speaker 3: Like argued about a lot, like and honestly, like some
Speaker 3: of the arguments woul be intense, but I feel like
Speaker 3: half the time the arguments were something like over He
Speaker 3: started it because he would just like try so hard
Speaker 3: to like control my every move, and that's not like
Speaker 3: what I wanted to allow. Like I feel like he
Speaker 3: wanted to like control everything that I did, you know,
Speaker 3: like he wanted me.
Speaker 4: To do what he said and how he said it.
Speaker 3: So, for example, like if he told me to go
Speaker 3: right when I was originally going straight, I would be
Speaker 3: questioning it, like why.
Speaker 4: Do you want me to go right? You know which
Speaker 4: one was straight? And he just gets so angry like
Speaker 4: and be like, oh.
Speaker 3: My god, you don't listen, like if I'm telling you
Speaker 3: to do something like just do what kind of vibes?
Speaker 4: And that's not the same timing that I like.
Speaker 3: To be on, Like, you know, if I'm curious about something,
Speaker 3: I'm curious, you know, like just answer.
Speaker 4: The question like why do you want me to go right?
Speaker 4: When usually I would go straight?
Speaker 3: But yeah, So I feel like a lot of our
Speaker 3: arguments was over that and they got bigger and like
Speaker 3: blown out of proportion. And at one point, I remember
Speaker 3: I hung out with my friend. So I was at
Speaker 3: his house or whatever, and he fell asleep. So I
Speaker 3: went to go hang out with my friend and I
Speaker 3: told him I I'll be back. I'm gonna go get pillows.
Speaker 3: I mean, I guess my mistake was not saying which
Speaker 3: friend that I was gonna hang out with or whatever,
Speaker 3: or saying that I was gonna include a friend in
Speaker 3: going to get the pillows, and when he woke up,
Speaker 3: he texted me. I told him, okay, like I'm gott
Speaker 3: to drop my friend off and then I'm gonna come back.
Speaker 3: And he was just like, wait a minute, you're not home,
Speaker 3: and then he started snapping on me, and then I
Speaker 3: went over to talk to him. He's like, don't don't
Speaker 3: come near my apartment, like I don't want you here,
Speaker 3: Like I'm not opening the door for you, so get
Speaker 3: out of here because my neighbors can hear.
Speaker 4: You talking like stuff like that.
Speaker 3: And I'm just like, bro, there's like you got me
Speaker 3: sitting out each side of your apartment crying over you
Speaker 3: and you don't even care, and just like get out
Speaker 3: of here because.
Speaker 4: My neighbors can hear. And then another time we got
Speaker 4: to argument. I'm sorry, it's just like I want you
Speaker 4: to grasp.
Speaker 3: But these arguments were like like because every time we
Speaker 3: would argue, I would never call him out of his name,
Speaker 3: nothing like that, Like I'm really a sensitive person, and
Speaker 3: I feel like he knew. He knew that I was
Speaker 3: super sensitive and he played on that. You know, mind
Speaker 3: you I'm twenty and he's twenty seven and he's Dominican,
Speaker 3: but like straight from the island, So I know.
Speaker 4: Like already I was going into a no way, Like
Speaker 4: you know, they have.
Speaker 3: Their own like ways and stuff like that, you know,
Speaker 3: their own traditions and beliefs. Yeah, I already knew, like
Speaker 3: it wasn't going to be like, you know, a walk
Speaker 3: in the park because of.
Speaker 4: How different we grew up the culture.
Speaker 3: But yeah, one time we got into an argument all
Speaker 3: because I asked him what he wanted to eat in
Speaker 3: Walmart and he gets mad because he he would tell
Speaker 3: me like it's kind of like as a woman, like
Speaker 3: it's my job to figure that whole thing out, like
Speaker 3: you know, like he shouldn't have to tell me. I
Speaker 3: should just know or know what to do, you know.
Speaker 3: So we got into this whole argument and walmmar and
Speaker 3: then he was talking we when we got back in
Speaker 3: the car, he was like, oh, like, the only reason
Speaker 3: I didn't leave you is because your sister's here with me,
Speaker 3: But I would have made you walk from Walmart or whatever.
Speaker 3: And girl telling me that he doesn't mind breaking up
Speaker 3: with me because we don't have no kids together, so
Speaker 3: he really has no time, no obligations, stuff like that,
Speaker 3: And I feel like those are the type of things
Speaker 3: that I used to always tell myself.
Speaker 4: I would never allow, like for somebody to.
Speaker 3: Talk to me like that, you know, because I felt like,
Speaker 3: you don't really love me if you could talk to
Speaker 3: me like that.
Speaker 4: But the times where it was good, it was good,
Speaker 4: you know.
Speaker 3: So it was just like I let like those good
Speaker 3: times not define the bad ones, you know, Like I
Speaker 3: saw it as MM, well, we have good times, you know.
Speaker 3: When we're happy. We're happy. He's so sweet. He says
Speaker 3: the nicest things to me, calls me beautiful. I told
Speaker 3: him so much about my life and my family, like
Speaker 3: things that I've never told anybody, even be vulnerable around
Speaker 3: him like this. I have been in one of the relationship,
Speaker 3: but I don't really count it because it was like
Speaker 3: a seak basically, and got my heart broken in that.
Speaker 3: And I was only seventeen at the time.
Speaker 4: Now that I'm twenty.
Speaker 3: Me and him met when I was nineteen, Like I said,
Speaker 3: we were together for it's almost ten months and I
Speaker 3: turned twenty with him, and I did a lot of
Speaker 3: things with him, like a lot of first as far
Speaker 3: as life goes as relationship wise and stuff like that,
Speaker 3: like real relationship. And we work at the same job,
Speaker 3: so now that we're broken up, I stuff.
Speaker 4: To see him.
Speaker 3: I haven't even gotten to why we broke up. I'm sorry,
Speaker 3: I know this is kind of long, but up. We
Speaker 3: went on a beach shape for three days, for two nights,
Speaker 3: three days to Ocean City, New Jersey, and it was me,
Speaker 3: him and my parents, and then my nephew and his son.
Speaker 3: For reference, my nephew is nine, his son is four.
Speaker 3: This is my third time seeing his son. So I
Speaker 3: never met a son previously because of the fact that
Speaker 3: he was always like he's never.
Speaker 4: Introduced his kid to any of the girl that he's.
Speaker 3: Updated outside of the mother, so like he wanted to
Speaker 3: take his time, make sure that everything felt right with
Speaker 3: me and him whatever whatever. So nine months and he
Speaker 3: finally decided to introduce me to his son. The first
Speaker 3: time him was at a cookout, and then the second
Speaker 3: time it was just like, I was at his apartment
Speaker 3: for a few hours. And then this trip would have
Speaker 3: been the third time and my first time spending nights.
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Speaker 4: So the first nine he was pretty good.
Speaker 3: I mean, his kid had some has some severe ADHD
Speaker 3: that he's truly in denial about. Like, I have a
Speaker 3: lot of nieces and nephews, like over sixteen, and a
Speaker 3: lot of them have ADHD. So I know the signs
Speaker 3: that I know how to tell. And so does my mother.
Speaker 3: You know, she's a mom like and a grandmother at that,
Speaker 3: so she definitely knows. And she was even saying it
Speaker 3: and he was just like no, Like he's only four,
Speaker 3: so you know he's.
Speaker 4: Just naturally hype or whatever. And it's like, okay, you
Speaker 4: know what, you can be in denial about it. I said,
Speaker 4: you's your kid, you know.
Speaker 3: Then he at one point even told me like because
Speaker 3: every time I felt like his kid was doing something
Speaker 3: that he should have done, I told him, I told
Speaker 3: my boyfriend, as him being his father, you know, it's
Speaker 3: your choice however you choose to go about talking to him,
Speaker 3: discipline him all that. So he told me like, oh,
Speaker 3: you know, you could say something too. So at one point,
Speaker 3: his son had his feet on the pillow, and it's
Speaker 3: a big pet peeve of mine, like to have your
Speaker 3: feet on the pillow that people are putting their heads on,
Speaker 3: especially when you're running around everywhere bay your foot, you know,
Speaker 3: around this airbnb, like and outside of the airbnb. So
Speaker 3: I told him like, hey, get your feet off the
Speaker 3: pillow because that's not what it's for.
Speaker 4: And I think my man got offended by that.
Speaker 3: Like I said, he's Dominican, so his English wasn't the best,
Speaker 3: but he knew a lot.
Speaker 4: But I feel like so he made this thing up
Speaker 4: in his head that I said that.
Speaker 3: I said I didn't want to sleep with my boyfriend
Speaker 3: because his son was with him. So after that, he
Speaker 3: was like super offended, but he.
Speaker 4: Didn't say anything to me that night.
Speaker 3: And then our first night there, I slept with him
Speaker 3: and his child, but his son peed the bed. So
Speaker 3: the next night I didn't want to sleep there because
Speaker 3: you know, I was like, I don't want to sleep
Speaker 3: on blanket side have.
Speaker 4: Pists on them, you know. Like granted, now.
Speaker 3: Thinking back on it, I should have to my mom
Speaker 3: because she just suggests, like, let's go.
Speaker 4: To the laundry mat. Let's find a laundrum mat around
Speaker 4: here and go wash your blankets.
Speaker 3: But I was just thinking, like I'm on vacation, like
Speaker 3: I don't really feel like it, and my man didn't
Speaker 3: want to either, so yeah, I could have tried more
Speaker 3: for a solution, but I was just like no, like
Speaker 3: we can sleep in the living room or something like
Speaker 3: I kind of don't want to sleep on that bed
Speaker 3: with you know. It was a huge puddle of piss basically.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 3: And then for him, he was like a dried like
Speaker 3: it doesn't make a difference, you know, Like for me,
Speaker 3: he's like a big pet peeve where I'm sleeping. I
Speaker 3: wanted to be clean, like I don't know, and he
Speaker 3: just got super offended by that.
Speaker 4: The next morning, on our.
Speaker 3: Third day, when it was time for us to leave
Speaker 3: and stuff, I woke up early started cleaning the airbnb
Speaker 3: to make sure everything was good for when we left,
Speaker 3: and suddenly he was just like, oh, you want breakfast?
Speaker 4: And I was like okay, yeah.
Speaker 3: Then I went up to him, He's like, oh, he's
Speaker 3: not happy. He doesn't want to go to the beach today.
Speaker 3: So you didn't tell me, And just the next day
Speaker 3: everything was coming up beut how he felt. He was
Speaker 3: mad that I said I need to adjust his son.
Speaker 3: He's like, you've been with me for nine months and
Speaker 3: you know I had a son, so what is there
Speaker 3: to adjust to? And I'm like I've been with you
Speaker 3: for nine months, but those nine months has just been
Speaker 3: me and you, sleeping together, doing everything together. Adjust me
Speaker 3: and you I just met your son this month out
Speaker 3: of the nine months, Like, so yeah, I need to adjust.
Speaker 3: Then he started like projecting his childhood trauma on to me,
Speaker 3: talking about oh like his stepmom said the same thing
Speaker 3: with his dad and that she never adjusted to him
Speaker 3: as a kid. And I'm like, but that's not me.
Speaker 3: And it was just like a whole lot of back
Speaker 3: and forth and he's just like I made.
Speaker 4: Up my mind.
Speaker 3: You're not going to change my mind. Like I hate
Speaker 3: you for the way he was treating my son about
Speaker 3: the pea. He's like, I'm not going to.
Speaker 4: Forget I hate you, he said.
Speaker 3: You know, Jitless said, I'm not going to forgive you
Speaker 3: about my.
Speaker 4: Son's pee, okay. And it's so crazy to me because
Speaker 4: we were just okay.
Speaker 3: Saturday, we got into like a little bickering about him
Speaker 3: feeding my parents and stuff, but just not feeding me,
Speaker 3: and that was it.
Speaker 4: But then I didn't think like anything more into that.
Speaker 3: I guess he went to sleep that night and was
Speaker 3: just in his head because I didn't sleep with him,
Speaker 3: because how I see this. If I would have set
Speaker 3: in that bed that night, we would still being in
Speaker 3: a relationship. But then I'm also seeing it like maybe
Speaker 3: this is a sign from God, Like I don't deserve this,
Speaker 3: exactly comfortable with this person. This is my first real relationship.
Speaker 3: I normally twenty and I have more time, but I
Speaker 3: don't know.
Speaker 4: It's just like right now, I cannot see myself with
Speaker 4: anybody else.
Speaker 2: That's not a relationship.
Speaker 3: Anybody move on quickly because he really doesn't care, and
Speaker 3: I don't know. He says he loved me, but how
Speaker 3: can you love me and be like this to me
Speaker 3: that he's acting like he treated me, not like I
Speaker 3: cheated on him. And this is all because you're angry
Speaker 3: and you're offended, and he's like, I love my son
Speaker 3: more than I love you, as you should. I'm never
Speaker 3: going to be that person who's like, choose me over
Speaker 3: your son, But damn have some more respect for the
Speaker 3: relationship that we did have, like and I never treated
Speaker 3: him bad. I would help him pay his bills, help
Speaker 3: him with everything when he got his new apartment, helped
Speaker 3: him find an apartment, all.
Speaker 4: Of that good stuff.
Speaker 3: I did so much for him when his mom kicked
Speaker 3: him out at the age of twenty.
Speaker 4: Seven years old.
Speaker 3: I helped him with the place to say, even though
Speaker 3: he's always saying like I had other options, I'd be
Speaker 3: grateful for what I did for you. You know, I
Speaker 3: feel like he was never grateful for what I did
Speaker 3: And anytime I cooked ROMI, he would never say thank you.
Speaker 3: It was just something that was I had to do
Speaker 3: as a woman, you know, it was my role as
Speaker 3: a woman. And so yeah, I don't know a lot
Speaker 3: of this is just like it's bittersweet for me because.
Speaker 4: I truly love him. I still love him.
Speaker 3: Even though I know he had his moments where he
Speaker 3: treated me like shit. There was that moment where he
Speaker 3: treated me like a queen, and so I just feel
Speaker 3: like there's nobody out there whos gonna accept me with
Speaker 3: everything like my bond and stuff like that, like all
Speaker 3: that because I loved me some like hispanics and stuff.
Speaker 3: So have some more respect for the relationship that we
Speaker 3: did have, like and I never.
Speaker 4: Treated him bad.
Speaker 3: I would help to pay his bills, help him with
Speaker 3: everything when he got his new apartment, helped him find
Speaker 3: an apartment, all of that good stuff. I guess my
Speaker 3: max that I want to be faked, is like, how do.
Speaker 4: I move on now? Like I don't know, Like it's.
Speaker 3: So hurtful, But at the same time, it's just like
Speaker 3: I feel like maybe this was needed, Like maybe we
Speaker 3: were incompatible. I really wanted us to be compatible. We
Speaker 3: felt compatible. I don't even know where we went wrong.
Speaker 3: I don't know why he started like mentally abusing me
Speaker 3: and gaslighting me and manipulating me.
Speaker 4: Like I just don't understand. It's so confusing to me.
Speaker 3: Like we were just just on sat On Friday, you
Speaker 3: were talking about, oh, do you want to marry me?
Speaker 3: Like as a joke, and then on Saturday morning You're like,
Speaker 3: I want to break up? And now Monday, I talked
Speaker 3: to him on the phone. He's like, stop calling me.
Speaker 3: I don't want to hear good morning from you. I
Speaker 3: don't hear nothing from you. I don't want to be
Speaker 3: your friend because if I get a new girl, and
Speaker 3: I don't want you to think you have a say
Speaker 3: or anything like that. And I'm just like, bro, do
Speaker 3: you have something you're talking to you? He say no,
Speaker 3: But I'm just saying because he thinks I'm going to
Speaker 3: be like one of his other.
Speaker 4: Crazy exxes and that's not me.
Speaker 3: My whole thing yesterday is just don't treat me like you.
Speaker 4: Just fucked three times and that's it.
Speaker 3: Like put some respect on what we had and what
Speaker 3: I did for you.
Speaker 4: I don't know, I don't know, but yeah, what do
Speaker 4: you think do you think? Like? I don't think there's
Speaker 4: no going back for and honesty my family.
Speaker 3: She's talking about, oh, like he's gonna try to come back,
Speaker 3: and I don't see it. He's like a very stubborn,
Speaker 3: set in his way man, like he thinks this is
Speaker 3: like old school type of days and it's not. This
Speaker 3: is twenty twenty three. I don't believe in those gender rules.
Speaker 3: Whatever I can do, you can do too. And he
Speaker 3: would cook and stuff, but still I feel like he
Speaker 3: was just always trying to be little me. I'm sorry
Speaker 3: I'm dragging this on, but I love you, thank you
Speaker 3: so much, And I'm going to listen to your podcast
Speaker 3: today where I'm at work to.
Speaker 4: Get me through.
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Speaker 2: Well, thank you, beautiful girl.
Speaker 1: I'm glad I can tell by your last name that
Speaker 1: you a little Latin. I tho you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: so you like your island men, your Caribbean men. When
Speaker 1: you first started telling me your story, until you started
Speaker 1: answering your questions about him, I was like, Okay.
Speaker 2: Is he older than you? Is he the child? Is
Speaker 2: he African? Jesus Christ?
Speaker 1: Just the way you said that, he's controlling and you're
Speaker 1: a sensitive person, you know what I'm saying. And then
Speaker 1: he broke up with you, you know, and then just how
Speaker 1: he's all over the place. I'm gonna tell you something
Speaker 1: right now, it's bigger than you. I'm just gonna shop
Speaker 1: your neck with that, like it is bigger than you.
Speaker 1: This ain't even about you. You said something that stuck out.
Speaker 1: You said, he projects. He started projecting his childhood trauma
Speaker 1: and his differences and his own deeply rooted issues on me,
Speaker 1: comparing them to what we're going through now. People do
Speaker 1: that when they're so deeply swallowed by their trauma and
Speaker 1: it still affects them, but they don't know how to
Speaker 1: express that they're even still feeling trauma or even still
Speaker 1: haunted by trauma. You know, he may not even know subconsciously.
Speaker 1: That's just probably how he's been since.
Speaker 2: He was little. You know.
Speaker 1: So people grow up thinking that they're fucking normal and
Speaker 1: they're really fucked up mentally.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean.
Speaker 1: And it's very very hard to get a man to
Speaker 1: see that he's fucked up, especially if he's been fucked
Speaker 1: up for some time. You know, you said he projected
Speaker 1: shit talking about his stepdad and his mom, or his
Speaker 1: mom and stepdad what, you know, whatever the parents' rules
Speaker 1: were you, that's what you said.
Speaker 2: You understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And I just, in my opinion, I feel like this
Speaker 1: is deeper than you, This is bigger than you.
Speaker 2: This has nothing to do with you. Just like when
Speaker 2: his son pissed.
Speaker 1: Into bed and he made a big ass dal out
Speaker 1: of it, you know, telling you, you know, because you
Speaker 1: don't want to sleep in a pissy ass bed that
Speaker 1: could not only fuck your skin up, it could give
Speaker 1: you bedbugs and all types of rashes and shit. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. That wasn't about no piss. It
Speaker 1: was bigger than a piss. It wasn't about that. He
Speaker 1: was also projecting as well.
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Everything that he does is a projection of how he's
Speaker 1: been treated or how he has lived up until this point.
Speaker 2: You know, or how he was raised.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you know his baby mother, but
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna say look to her for insight, but
Speaker 1: I would ask him about his relationship. I mean, if
Speaker 1: y'all were together for a year, well you said ten months,
Speaker 1: y'all just you know, he just broke up with you.
Speaker 1: But have you ever asked him about why he didn't
Speaker 1: make it with his son's mother or what happened in
Speaker 1: that relationship. Sometimes when you get in a new relationship,
Speaker 1: sometimes people carry baggage over from their last relationship into
Speaker 1: their new relationship, which warrants a conversation about the previous
Speaker 1: relationships between the people that are in the new relationships
Speaker 1: or whatever. And I don't know if you have ever
Speaker 1: had that, if you two ever had that conversation, but
Speaker 1: it just sounds like he's been this way for a
Speaker 1: long time. And then also culturally you two are different,
Speaker 1: and I'm just going off of what you said, and
Speaker 1: also having dealing with a Caribbean guy myself before. They
Speaker 1: are controlling, you know, I'm he wasn't mean. This guy
Speaker 1: wasn't mean. He was just very controlling. And their culture
Speaker 1: is very different. You know, women are subjected to do
Speaker 1: this that and the other and nothing else. In certain cultures,
Speaker 1: you know, and in men, they have to be the
Speaker 1: head of household and they have to do this and
Speaker 1: not do this because this is for women. And they,
Speaker 1: you know, they believe in gender rules, so that culturally, that's.
Speaker 2: Where he comes from. So he was never going to
Speaker 2: change that.
Speaker 1: Even with the other example that you gave me, when
Speaker 1: you hung out with your friend to go get pillows
Speaker 1: and you know, and you called him and he was
Speaker 1: shocked to find out that you weren't home.
Speaker 2: He just wants to always be in control of your
Speaker 2: every move.
Speaker 1: And stuff like that. You know, you met him young.
Speaker 1: You met him when you were seventeen.
Speaker 4: It's not like you.
Speaker 1: Said, and y'all started dating officially at twenty or something.
Speaker 4: I'm a girl.
Speaker 1: I might be getting you mixed up with something I
Speaker 1: read here at breakfast club today because this is where
Speaker 1: I'm doing this episode from. But I don't have time
Speaker 1: to go back and listen to your whole story. That
Speaker 1: was a long ass story. But I know that you
Speaker 1: are younger than him, but he seems like he's like
Speaker 1: way older Jesus Christ. And then now you said leading
Speaker 1: to the breakup, the reason for the breakup was the
Speaker 1: family trip.
Speaker 4: You know, his kid got the.
Speaker 1: ADHD and he even gave you a permission to verbally
Speaker 1: discipline him. But when you actually said something about the
Speaker 1: little boy's feet being on a pillow where people laid
Speaker 1: their heads, ultimately he kind of got upset. And I
Speaker 1: think you said, well, I ain't gonna think I know
Speaker 1: if I am mistaken. You said that this nigga told
Speaker 1: you that he hates you for the way you treat
Speaker 1: his son. That's a fucking red flag. If everything else
Speaker 1: before wasn't a red flag, I don't care how vulnerable
Speaker 1: a man makes you feel, how good he makes you feel.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you said, when it's good, it's good, but when
Speaker 2: it's bad, it's bad.
Speaker 1: Which one is worse to you? Which one is greater?
Speaker 1: Him treating you like shit or him treating you like
Speaker 1: a queen? Let's be honest, because because no man that
Speaker 1: treats you like a queen can equally treat you like
Speaker 1: shit too. You understand what I'm saying. That sounds like
Speaker 1: a nigga with schizophrenia. That sounds like a nigga diagnosed
Speaker 1: with bopolar disorder. That's what that sounds like. That sounds
Speaker 1: like a mental illness. That's what the fuck that sounds like.
Speaker 1: How can you flip flop on me like this? How
Speaker 1: can you uplift me and then degrade me the next day?
Speaker 1: How on Saturday we're talking about marriage and on Sunday
Speaker 1: you don't want me to fucking call you if he
Speaker 1: has somebody or not. This is still not good. It's
Speaker 1: still not good. I want you to pay attention. You
Speaker 1: understand what I'm saying. It's bigger than you, and it's manipulation,
Speaker 1: and it's narcissistic and it's projection, and it's not good
Speaker 1: for you. You're already a sensitive person and you're already
Speaker 1: talking about you not thinking he care. And listen, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell you something. He helps you dodge bullet. You
Speaker 1: dodged a good ass bullet. You dodged a bullet. He
Speaker 1: has no obligations to you. He sat and told you
Speaker 1: the only reason why he didn't leave your answer is
Speaker 1: because he didn't want to embarrass you in front of
Speaker 1: your fucking family.
Speaker 4: Are you crazy?
Speaker 2: No, this is a serious question, beautiful woman. Are you crazy?
Speaker 1: You cannot let him be the dictator of your value.
Speaker 4: That's what it is.
Speaker 1: He's never nobody's ever made me feel this way. You're
Speaker 1: damn right, Nobody ever made you feel like shit like this?
Speaker 4: Did they?
Speaker 1: I ain't talking about the queen. Put you can make
Speaker 1: yourself feel like a queen. You can make yourself feel
Speaker 1: like shit. Would you ever cause your self harm like that?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: Right, don't ever let a motherfucker do that. I don't
Speaker 1: give a fuck what culture, what island he's from. I
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck what race he is, what color
Speaker 1: skin he got, how much money he got, how much
Speaker 1: trauma he had, And you want to be sensitive to
Speaker 1: him because you want to walk on eggshells and don't
Speaker 1: want to piss them off.
Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck about none of that.
Speaker 1: You're a woman. You deserve better, and he deserves some help,
Speaker 1: but he's not gonna get it. You ain't responsible for
Speaker 1: getting him help. Trust me, baby, nine months versus nine
Speaker 1: years as a whole hell of a lot better than
Speaker 1: for you being stuck and not being able to get out.
Speaker 1: Because a man will take everything from you if you
Speaker 1: let him. He'll take your dignity, he'll take your pride,
Speaker 1: he'll take everything from you. He don't respect you. I
Speaker 1: don't care what you say, he don't. And if he's
Speaker 1: moved on, let us fucking ass move on.
Speaker 2: That's it.
Speaker 1: It's so many men out there that's waiting for a
Speaker 1: queen that's waiting. Listen, I'm serious, check back in with
Speaker 1: me because I don't like this.
Speaker 2: I do not like this.
Speaker 4: Girl.
Speaker 1: You don't piss me off, So check back, check back in,
Speaker 1: and I love you.
Speaker 4: I love you.
Speaker 1: I hope you listen to this and you really get something,
Speaker 1: take something great from this, because if you have to
Speaker 1: ask yourself, is this really what love is? Did you
Speaker 1: ever love me? Then it was never that understand And
Speaker 1: he's in his own way. This has nothing to do
Speaker 1: with you, baby girl. He took nine months to introduce
Speaker 1: you to you to a child. I know some people
Speaker 1: that takes more, takes longer. You just you know, it
Speaker 1: just sounds like he's so fucking screwed up. He needs
Speaker 1: help and he does not need a relationship. He doesn't
Speaker 1: because even the next girl ain't ain't gonna get treated
Speaker 1: no better than you. You know what I'm saying, So
Speaker 1: wake up, seriously, wipe the cruss upb out your eyes,
Speaker 1: look in the mirror, and gain your confidence back. And
Speaker 1: the soul search, find who you are. Find who you are,
Speaker 1: because I'm I'm a little afraid for you that you
Speaker 1: stay this a little too long now nine months saying shit,
Speaker 1: but I can only imagine how it feels when you're
Speaker 1: being shitted on and constantly ridiculed and degraded every other
Speaker 1: fucking day.
Speaker 2: It probably felt like nine years.
Speaker 1: But what I'm scared is that this kind of scarred you,
Speaker 1: This fucked you up because you're still upset that he's
Speaker 1: not even telling you to come back. I know you
Speaker 1: better be done with this shit, and you better update me.
Speaker 1: You might need therapy after this. Nigga, your damn self.
Speaker 1: You see, I hurt people, hurt people, and then you
Speaker 1: will continue to cycle to hurt another person if you
Speaker 1: don't get help after this shit. Okay, I love you,
Speaker 1: check back in Damn. That story took up the whole
Speaker 1: damn episode. But it's all right. It's all right. We
Speaker 1: come to the end of getting another just fixed my mess.
Speaker 1: Being carefully reckless with your girl justs hilarious. I'll see
Speaker 1: you next week and then my deepest Paan voice peace.
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