Speaker 1: Hello, Welcome, We Knows Parenting. Hello, you're a listener to know.
Speaker 1: It's a warm, welcoming, friendly show where two parents, real parents,
Speaker 1: Peter and Beth talk about their lives. They're friendly and fun.
Speaker 1: What is this? You're like the crime dog? What's the
Speaker 1: take a bite out of crime gruff? I'm gruff the
Speaker 1: crime dog. Do you know where your children are? Um?
Speaker 1: I know that's not the crime dog, but it's a
Speaker 1: similar You know where your children are? I'm a crime dog.
Speaker 1: These are this is your brain on drugs. I just
Speaker 1: got your children doing crimes. Um, I just got your
Speaker 1: children doing crimes. Uh. So he catches your kids. He
Speaker 1: doesn't help kids. Remember the nineties? It ah, but everyone
Speaker 1: everything seems so simple and you could just cut down
Speaker 1: on crime. Um, just say no, just don't be poor,
Speaker 1: don't you dare? Okay, So we're doing a little different
Speaker 1: this week because it's the morning time, so people are
Speaker 1: getting us. What a nightmare? Right eyed and bushy tail?
Speaker 1: You're how would you were out late? You? I thought,
Speaker 1: up until this moment when we started recording, I thought
Speaker 1: you were surprisingly chipper for how late you were out
Speaker 1: last night. But right now you're really playing up the
Speaker 1: the malaise. I would call this a literal hangover. Wow,
Speaker 1: you would go there, you would go all the way there,
Speaker 1: would I would be so bold? Do you point out
Speaker 1: that I had mm hmm, I don't think I had.
Speaker 1: I think I had three drinks, but I did not
Speaker 1: eat all day because it was a very busy day,
Speaker 1: the big annual Story Pirates party to welcome the new
Speaker 1: Pirates and put on a show. It is an insane
Speaker 1: amount of work and it's super fun. I let my
Speaker 1: hair down, um, as I do sort of once a year,
Speaker 1: and it's harder and harder the older you get. It
Speaker 1: really is. I was. I just was at this birthday
Speaker 1: party the day and one of the mom's there was like,
Speaker 1: I had one and a half drinks last night and
Speaker 1: I feel horrible. Um, it's I don't it's like a
Speaker 1: parenthood and aging or something. I don't know. My body
Speaker 1: just doesn't like it. It's almost like it's it's almost
Speaker 1: like it's poison that we put into our bodies. Um,
Speaker 1: you know, you know, I'm gonna plug another great podcast
Speaker 1: stuff you should know. There's an episode about what a
Speaker 1: what a hangover is? Right, and it's just poisoning your
Speaker 1: body it's it's it's like fourteen things. One of them
Speaker 1: is alcohol. Alcohol goes into your stomach and then he
Speaker 1: gets broken. He gets broken down into this Uh. This
Speaker 1: component is basically poison, and then your liver gives you
Speaker 1: another thing that neutralizes the poison. But when you have
Speaker 1: a certain amount alcohol, your liver runs out of that thing,
Speaker 1: and so there's just this poison going through your veins
Speaker 1: until your liver can make more while you're incredibly dehydrated.
Speaker 1: Go listen to that episode any one of the Best podcast.
Speaker 1: I'm sure most of our listeners have never experienced to
Speaker 1: hangover before and are dying to know what we're talking about. Um, okay,
Speaker 1: so you were out. We um, let's get to her
Speaker 1: a week. I guess parenting. What has been happened? You
Speaker 1: went to a birthday party without me? I went to
Speaker 1: a birthday party. It was it was good. Our kids.
Speaker 1: Brain was a little crazy. He he saunters into any
Speaker 1: like child based location. Shin like the King of the Hill,
Speaker 1: Like he's like, don't worry, I'm here. He's like just
Speaker 1: bossing everyone, like he's so comfortable. He's never been to
Speaker 1: this house before. He's like, it's all these little girls mostly,
Speaker 1: and then his one former friend from um daycare who
Speaker 1: hates him, uh, and Bran is like, so chipper and
Speaker 1: he's like, I'm going to get because they're doing there's
Speaker 1: this thing in our town and I don't know if
Speaker 1: it's like everywhere or just specifically our town, but um,
Speaker 1: there they hire these local women to paint faces and
Speaker 1: do these glitter tattoos where they like put a bunch
Speaker 1: of glue on a kid's arm and then sprinkled glitter
Speaker 1: all over it. Um. And so they I've seen this
Speaker 1: now at like a couple of birthday parties, and so
Speaker 1: brand is like waiting in line and he's like talking
Speaker 1: about the tattoos and he'll just like say whatever. He's
Speaker 1: thinking like you and he's like, oh, you gotta get
Speaker 1: these tattoos, like he's like and then and then this
Speaker 1: kid who he used to go to daycare with, who's
Speaker 1: like slightly a bully to him, just kept being like
Speaker 1: that's not interesting, that's not funny. Like he just was
Speaker 1: like shutting it down, and the woman doing the face
Speaker 1: paint was like laughing at him because it was just
Speaker 1: such a like like odd couple dynamic of like Britain
Speaker 1: just being like gregarious and being like just rolling with
Speaker 1: it and being insulted and being like, oh yeah, well
Speaker 1: you gotta get that, like and um Britain like any
Speaker 1: any what's the any news is good news. Any attention
Speaker 1: he's getting is good attention because he has the attention.
Speaker 1: Well not any attention is not good attention according to
Speaker 1: but he also when so they sat down at the
Speaker 1: table to eat like pizza or whatever, and all the
Speaker 1: kids are sitting there in print is like, hey, why
Speaker 1: is six afraid of seven? It was like because seven
Speaker 1: eight nine, And then everyone's laughing and he's like it's
Speaker 1: like it's not eight like the number, it's eight like
Speaker 1: eating and he's like he's just like holding court like
Speaker 1: so proud of himself. And then I'm proud of that's
Speaker 1: that is the most me thing in the world. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you were like, oh, does people need someone to talk
Speaker 1: right now? I'll tell you a story specifically to go
Speaker 1: here's a joke everyone last, and then goes, let me
Speaker 1: explain why you liked what I did. Right, You're like,
Speaker 1: here's the philosophy of comedy. Um, we're all just pattern
Speaker 1: recognition machines. So may then she she was like, really, enjoying.
Speaker 1: It was a very girly birthday party and Mayone is
Speaker 1: loving it. And then and then you know, they together
Speaker 1: face painted. She had a unicorn face paint and sparkly tattoo.
Speaker 1: And then we get home, like it's like an hour
Speaker 1: or two later. I'm laying in bed with her and
Speaker 1: she goes, Mommy, I liked eating the cake. And I
Speaker 1: was like, oh good, did you also like getting your
Speaker 1: face painted and getting a glitter tattoo? And she goes,
Speaker 1: I liked eating the cake. It's like, that's my girl.
Speaker 1: That's my girl. She did love the face paint and everything,
Speaker 1: but like just in that moment, she's like, I'm talking
Speaker 1: about the cake. She loved the cake. What you said
Speaker 1: it the first time? It was as if people expected
Speaker 1: her not to. I think she just wanted to make
Speaker 1: a mental note where she was like, hey, just so
Speaker 1: you know, like I love cake and if you want
Speaker 1: to keep it around the house, like that's ever an option.
Speaker 1: I'm in, Yeah. Um, well, we're going to a birthday
Speaker 1: party this coming weekend as well. And I asked Brinn
Speaker 1: what his friend likes and he said lions. And I
Speaker 1: asked him again later and he said lions again, So
Speaker 1: I was I said, this feels right, So we bought
Speaker 1: them some lions. But part of me thinks this kid
Speaker 1: has no particular feelings about lions. It's very possible, but
Speaker 1: I think lions are a fine gift for anyone. It's lions, honestly,
Speaker 1: for whom are lions not a good way? So are
Speaker 1: those like toy lines laying on the counter the only
Speaker 1: thing that you got that kid? Yeah, because I thought
Speaker 1: they were bigger, but they're fine. Well, my big thing,
Speaker 1: and I've probably already said this in the podcast, is
Speaker 1: just give people a few books. Doesn't take up a
Speaker 1: lot of space, it's not expensive, good good thought. There's
Speaker 1: a book for today. I could go. The families are
Speaker 1: welcome with that. Did you give him money? I did? Okay, Um, no,
Speaker 1: we're not involved parents. He can handle it. Oh we
Speaker 1: have parent teacher conferences tomorrow, Yeah, which you're going to.
Speaker 1: I'm kind of dreading it, only because not that it's
Speaker 1: going to be bad, but like you know exactly what
Speaker 1: they're going to say, which is like Britain's smart, but
Speaker 1: he doesn't pay attention and is always like like not
Speaker 1: listening and try like trying to have fun with his friends.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm very upset that I can't be there. Yeah,
Speaker 1: well I have a good reason I have to. I
Speaker 1: now have many reasons. You're not necessarily upset that you
Speaker 1: won't be I know. I think it's maybe better than
Speaker 1: one of us goes, well, I feel like last time,
Speaker 1: you like they were like saying that stuff, but then
Speaker 1: they're like, and he's really smart, or like he's really
Speaker 1: funny or whatever, and then you are you hear things
Speaker 1: like that and you're like, oh, yeah, let me tell
Speaker 1: you a tale of how great my son is. And
Speaker 1: then you start talking for so long and I'm like,
Speaker 1: they know him, like this is for them to give
Speaker 1: us feedback. Um. I love my children and myself. If
Speaker 1: that's not clear, okay, um. And then big news we
Speaker 1: saw our baby nephew so cute. You met that, you
Speaker 1: met Sam and Race on the podcast The Baby, the
Speaker 1: the big secret announcement, the big secret announcement that they
Speaker 1: were pregnant several months ago. And now here we are.
Speaker 1: I have a baby and he's so cute and he's
Speaker 1: a little tiny baby. He's early, um but healthy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and Maven is a fand him she wanted to hold
Speaker 1: this baby for as long as we would let her,
Speaker 1: and she would just stare lovingly at him and smile,
Speaker 1: and she would like she was talking to Rasa about
Speaker 1: his toys and stuff and being like, I think this
Speaker 1: will be his favorite toy. Like she's like very ready,
Speaker 1: like in her mind he's like a full person that
Speaker 1: she's friends with. Well, she's been tucking in stuffed animals
Speaker 1: and baby dolls for years now and to have one
Speaker 1: look at her. And then Brian on the other hand,
Speaker 1: we had him try to hold the baby for about
Speaker 1: two seconds, wherefore he just like basically started like pushing
Speaker 1: the baby off of him and mechanicked. He goes, yeah,
Speaker 1: all the baby, and we put him. We had these
Speaker 1: pillows set up and just put him on his lap
Speaker 1: on the couch and then he has two secondly looks
Speaker 1: up at me. He goes, okay, I'm done, and he rolls.
Speaker 1: The baby literally had to push towards his knees and
Speaker 1: off the who and he really panicked. You can feel
Speaker 1: this live squirming thing on right. I mean when if
Speaker 1: you think about it, like the sensation of holding like
Speaker 1: a warm, heavy baby, like it's the limp body of
Speaker 1: a baby that makes it feel like nothing else. I mean,
Speaker 1: it's also the thing that made me. I picked up
Speaker 1: that baby. I was like, oh my god, tiny baby.
Speaker 1: And then well, I'm an adult, you go into like
Speaker 1: protective mode. I a weird thing happened to me, which
Speaker 1: is obviously the sense of memory. You just totally forget
Speaker 1: this huge part of your life. There was that time
Speaker 1: where you were walking around with a tiny baby and
Speaker 1: I had to get up and I had to just
Speaker 1: leave the room so I could start pacing and like
Speaker 1: bobbing the baby up and down. And the thing that
Speaker 1: was the most emotional for me is, you know, bobbing
Speaker 1: up and down and you can sort of feel the
Speaker 1: weight of the baby bounce in your arms as they
Speaker 1: like I spent hours doing this, you know, in the
Speaker 1: middle of the night, and I was like, I just
Speaker 1: want to do this for twenty minutes. I know that
Speaker 1: it's not my responsibility. The other funny thing is like,
Speaker 1: so when we go places, Maven is usually pretty shy
Speaker 1: at first, like she's not shyed towards kids so much
Speaker 1: or like little girls, but adults. And she walked in
Speaker 1: there and raised his mom, who was visiting from Bosnia
Speaker 1: to help out with the baby. Just like sort of
Speaker 1: immediately like was talking to Maven, and like Maven is
Speaker 1: like sitting in her lap and she's like telling may
Speaker 1: Haven how beautiful she is or whatever, and like Mayven
Speaker 1: just was like eating it up right away. They connected that,
Speaker 1: they really connect. Well. I think part of it was
Speaker 1: like she's a mother of three girls, and she was
Speaker 1: just like, hello, beautiful girl, like it was just and
Speaker 1: has three grandsons and has three Yeah unfortunately, um boy,
Speaker 1: that's yeah. Well. I we walked in and I realized
Speaker 1: I hadn't seen raised his mom since they got married
Speaker 1: in Sarajevo, and that was two months after Maven was born,
Speaker 1: born in a car, and she saw Maven at the wedding. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And so we walked into their apartment and I saw
Speaker 1: her see Maven, and just the look on her face
Speaker 1: I could see all that time in the shock in
Speaker 1: that life was like that tiny baby that danced at
Speaker 1: my daughter's wedding. Um yeah, it's crazy. Time flies when
Speaker 1: you're having kids. Great family, great family, great family. It
Speaker 1: was a really fun wedding, I will say, like one
Speaker 1: of the most fun. Now we're just like way off topic,
Speaker 1: but um yeah, um, they don't do wedding speeches. Really
Speaker 1: there's some interesting mixes, mixing, mixing of cultural norms between
Speaker 1: the American and Bosnian family. Everyone was awesome and super positive,
Speaker 1: but we had a rehearsal dinner, which I guess really
Speaker 1: isn't a thing. But then we did speeches, which is
Speaker 1: definitely not a thing. And boy, I'll tell you, I
Speaker 1: crush a rehearsal dinner speech. And you were sad that
Speaker 1: you couldn't. I did not connect with that audience who
Speaker 1: had no idea what you're saying. I have them, dude,
Speaker 1: I was saying. And we were an L shaped restaurant
Speaker 1: and I was my me and my brothers. You are like,
Speaker 1: really him tonight? Yeah, And I was like, well, my
Speaker 1: brother performing just bombed. I'm gonna pick it up. Nope,
Speaker 1: I just bombed. And then my dad gets up there,
Speaker 1: he's the last one, and he goes, I have a
Speaker 1: few things to say, you know. My dad, very sort
Speaker 1: of stoic, distinct confident man, gets up and delivers a
Speaker 1: full speech in Bosnian, and the whole room suddenly perks
Speaker 1: up like like they're like, why the hell are these
Speaker 1: speeches happening? And you can see everyone paying attention and
Speaker 1: he brought the house down because felt Bosnian speech. Your
Speaker 1: dad wrote a speech. Then he knew a guy, a
Speaker 1: Bosnian guy outside Chicago who he became friendly with, who
Speaker 1: helped coach him through learning this speech in Bosnian. Well,
Speaker 1: he didn't know this guy. He had to find somebody
Speaker 1: through his brother, but it was like through their community.
Speaker 1: Like it wasn't like he was two degrees of separation,
Speaker 1: but he like this, I helped him, and your dad
Speaker 1: like perfectly practiced a full Bosnian speech, not speaking the
Speaker 1: language at all. You would record the speech, send it
Speaker 1: to the guy. The guy would give him notes to
Speaker 1: call him back. Um. And then my favorite part is
Speaker 1: like at the end of the speech, people are like crying,
Speaker 1: like they love the speech, it's beautiful. They can't believe
Speaker 1: this man took all this time to do this. And
Speaker 1: your mom is like like responding to everyone loving it,
Speaker 1: and she's like, well, I didn't understand the word he
Speaker 1: was saying. Classic your mom My mom My mom? Who
Speaker 1: is the best? Is my favorite thing is that like
Speaker 1: she's so positive and she's so just like everyone's great
Speaker 1: and surprisingly unsentimental. Well she also just says whatever she's thinking.
Speaker 1: So it's like there's no malice in what she's saying.
Speaker 1: She's just like, hmm, well, uh, that's I am my
Speaker 1: mother's son. Um, that was a great wedding. This is
Speaker 1: a great baby as as a result, I'm I'm so
Speaker 1: excited to get to know this little person. And I
Speaker 1: think Mayven is really going to step into her power
Speaker 1: as like protective older cousin. She's like, yes, guess what,
Speaker 1: I'm not the youngest anymore. He's going to like reading
Speaker 1: books and um, Bryn is won't Britton and the letter
Speaker 1: N Can we talk about that he put the letter? Yeah,
Speaker 1: he refuses to do end the correct way and it's
Speaker 1: not just a little kid thing where he's mixing up
Speaker 1: letters and doing them backwards, you know. And I maybe
Speaker 1: made a mistake by be like, oh hey, they're some
Speaker 1: these papers, these are great work from school. I pretty
Speaker 1: much never correct them on their writing. Like Mayven is
Speaker 1: writing like full words like not like she needs helps
Speaker 1: spelling everything obviously, and she doesn't always know what a
Speaker 1: letter looks like, but you can explain it to her
Speaker 1: and she'll write it. And like it's really unpredictable with
Speaker 1: both of them when they're going to write the whole
Speaker 1: words backwards or when the letters are just going to
Speaker 1: be like strown around the page instead of in a
Speaker 1: in a complete word. But yeah, like she'll start writing
Speaker 1: letters and it'll be like she'll write like right to
Speaker 1: left on the page and going downwards, like it's just
Speaker 1: like where where are these letters following her feelings? But
Speaker 1: I'm every time, I'm just like so impressed that she's
Speaker 1: writing letters, and I'm just like a great job. Has
Speaker 1: much better control of her hands and self. But the
Speaker 1: thing is like with Brin, he will take notes. He
Speaker 1: likes corrections. Like you saw he just wrote the full
Speaker 1: alphabet on this board and you got two of the
Speaker 1: letters backwards, but not so long ago, there'll be more
Speaker 1: of them. And he just has dug in on the
Speaker 1: letter end because it's in his name. And so I
Speaker 1: brought it up like the wrong way once and he's
Speaker 1: just like, I know, I want to do it this way.
Speaker 1: You need to let it go. Let it happen at
Speaker 1: school when his peers bully him. Just let the bullies
Speaker 1: take care of the parenting. Um. The last thing I
Speaker 1: want to talk about is so our kids are not
Speaker 1: super athletic, um, and they never really they don't have
Speaker 1: a lot of practice with just like throwing, you catching,
Speaker 1: because we don't give them that practice, right, but brand
Speaker 1: is suddenly into it. He wants to. We got this
Speaker 1: little like half to play football. It's easy to catch,
Speaker 1: and he's like, let's because he's at after school with
Speaker 1: these other boys and they're all just throwing balls around
Speaker 1: all afternoon. It's true. So we found at sam Ury
Speaker 1: says out back there was these velcrow gloves, you know,
Speaker 1: velcro palette and then the velcro ball. Um, so it's
Speaker 1: easy catch. And so we started doing this and it
Speaker 1: was fun and Brent's throwing was not great and I'm
Speaker 1: trying to coach him, but him also just like just
Speaker 1: let him have fun. And then finally he just drops
Speaker 1: his thing and puts it back on the wrong hand
Speaker 1: and then suddenly he could throw. But just realized he's
Speaker 1: a lefty. Yeah, you know, when he's little, we thought
Speaker 1: he was a lefty. And then he's sort of gravitated
Speaker 1: to his right hand and then he's back Suddenly he's
Speaker 1: just throwing with his left hand and he was great
Speaker 1: at it, and throwing his was awesome. Well, I mean
Speaker 1: these are the things that involved parents. No, Um, yeah,
Speaker 1: he's a lefty, and now it's time for everyone's favorite segment,
Speaker 1: Would you Knows? This is where we posit a parenting
Speaker 1: hypothetical or something just insane to the other to see
Speaker 1: to ask a question Would you know? This one comes
Speaker 1: to us from a listener. UM. Her name is Raina,
Speaker 1: and she says, I'm Rana, mother of two year old
Speaker 1: c c in parentheses Cecilia, and pregnant with baby number two.
Speaker 1: I'm in the bathroom contouring a jawline, only one chin
Speaker 1: and some cheekbones right now, while Paw Patrol is babysitting
Speaker 1: my kid in the living room and he guesses on
Speaker 1: how pregnant I am. Yep, you guessed it. Eight months.
Speaker 1: I'm a little late to the pod, so I've been binging.
Speaker 1: Uh sorry, I've been binging we knows parenting for weeks now,
Speaker 1: prepping for life with two kids and our future looks bright.
Speaker 1: Question mark, ha ha. I live in the coldest place
Speaker 1: on earth, Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada. You'd love it, beth, I
Speaker 1: brought for listeners. Just know that I hate the cold
Speaker 1: so much. Um, She says, I brought my husband here
Speaker 1: four years ago after we lived in the US for
Speaker 1: nine years together. He's from Western New York and constantly
Speaker 1: complains about the cold here. I'd tell him that these
Speaker 1: are the consequences of falling in love with a Canadian?
Speaker 1: Am I right? Uh? Any who? I woke up last
Speaker 1: night at two I am needing to peeper as per usual,
Speaker 1: and the thought of a hypothetical for Peter. Oh, and
Speaker 1: thought about hypothetical to Peter. So here goes Peter. You
Speaker 1: have an audition of a lifetime Tomorrow is a city.
Speaker 1: The role is for an amazing part that would relocate
Speaker 1: the family to sunny l A. Beth is away on
Speaker 1: a girl's trip out of the country and can only
Speaker 1: be reached at certain times of the day. You seamlessly
Speaker 1: put the kids to bed and have a cocktail to
Speaker 1: relax before heading off to bed yourself. You're feeling good
Speaker 1: about the audition tomorrow and fall asleep unmedicated except for
Speaker 1: the booze. Of course, you wake up in the middle
Speaker 1: of the night to the most vivid dream you've ever had.
Speaker 1: Ten year old Brian comes to you and warns you
Speaker 1: not to go to the audition tomorrow. No explanation as
Speaker 1: to why you shouldn't go or what would happen if
Speaker 1: you would go Beth, your spirit guide and sounding board
Speaker 1: is not answering your calls or messages to debrief you
Speaker 1: from this dream. You finally get back to sleep after
Speaker 1: the dream and wake up thinking did that dream really happen? Nah,
Speaker 1: it was just a dream. You're now getting the kids
Speaker 1: ready for school slash daycare. Print is eating breakfast and
Speaker 1: chatting about about stuff five year olds to talk about.
Speaker 1: He says to you, dead in the eye, Daddy, I
Speaker 1: saw you in my dream last night. You've been warned.
Speaker 1: He snaps back to his adorable self and continues talking
Speaker 1: about random ship that five year olds to talk about.
Speaker 1: Is pepper pigs still a thing at age five? We
Speaker 1: don't know. We only have a two year old. What
Speaker 1: do you do? That's a great question. Um. I like
Speaker 1: how this was littered with details of our lives. This
Speaker 1: person is paying closer to person is binging right now.
Speaker 1: This person is binging. What do you do? Peter? What
Speaker 1: do you do? Great? Would hitting all the buttons hitting?
Speaker 1: I'm trying to really put myself in this place and
Speaker 1: to really be honest about what I would do. Can
Speaker 1: I tell a quick story? Is like we I was
Speaker 1: having Um, like many people, I have some anxiety that
Speaker 1: you know, especially happens in moments of stress. And like
Speaker 1: two weeks ago, we were doing like our Friday night
Speaker 1: family dinner thing where we got to eat sometimes, and
Speaker 1: I had had a long day of working. It was
Speaker 1: one of those things where you're like working down to
Speaker 1: the wire and like trying to get something out the
Speaker 1: door over email, and like then you're just like you
Speaker 1: in a perfect world, you would like breathe and decompressed
Speaker 1: before you hang out with your kids, but I was
Speaker 1: just like rushing, and then I would just like still
Speaker 1: keyed up, and then we get to the dinner and
Speaker 1: our kids are being crazy and like touching all the
Speaker 1: chopsticks on the table and everything, and like I was
Speaker 1: like just sort of like trying to manage it. And
Speaker 1: clearly my anxiety was very visible. And Brin turned to
Speaker 1: me at one point during dinner and he goes, Everything's
Speaker 1: going to be okay, and I was like, are you
Speaker 1: kidding me? Like what was like it felt honestly like
Speaker 1: a message from above, like someone was like I need
Speaker 1: to tell it. Like it was like so weird, Mama,
Speaker 1: Everything's going to be Like he just turned me so
Speaker 1: serious in the middle of it, and like grant that
Speaker 1: I was telling him to like calm down and like
Speaker 1: sit still and like you know whatever he was doing.
Speaker 1: But like, as it was so bizarre, can we acknowledged
Speaker 1: I just want to acknowledge that there's a toddler next
Speaker 1: door screaming. And this is partly why we don't record
Speaker 1: in the middle of the day. I have like sort
Speaker 1: of a weird like shaden freud about this toddler next
Speaker 1: door because he, like you know, for so much of
Speaker 1: our lives in this apartment, we've we had one or
Speaker 1: another toddler, and so like I have such vivid memories
Speaker 1: of like having to carry them up the stairs and
Speaker 1: them crying, and now like we so are building. We
Speaker 1: live in a series of co op buildings all clustered together,
Speaker 1: which a lot of families and stuff, and there's like
Speaker 1: you know, bushes and like stuff, and you know there's
Speaker 1: you know, like like bushes. Well, yeah, and the kids
Speaker 1: run around, but like inevitably when you have the little kids,
Speaker 1: they run behind the bushes, like between the wall of
Speaker 1: the building and the bushes, and they're hiding. And then
Speaker 1: it's like you're worried about them, like doing something dangerous
Speaker 1: and like, I see this kid all the time out
Speaker 1: the window, like in the bushes. His parents are like,
Speaker 1: come on like and I'm just like, wow, that really
Speaker 1: brings me back and I'm so glad I'm not there anymore. Yeah,
Speaker 1: this kid is a screaming kid. We met me, he's
Speaker 1: just a toddler. No, you mean yeah. But I met
Speaker 1: the parents and the first time I met the dad,
Speaker 1: he with his son and he's like, hey, this is whomever.
Speaker 1: I remember his name, the kid. But he's like, I
Speaker 1: gotta warn you, this one's pretty loud. And I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't know. My two will give you a run
Speaker 1: for more for his money. But um, well, the thing is,
Speaker 1: if we were on their side of the wall, would
Speaker 1: be like, those kids are pretty loud. Yeah. I didn't
Speaker 1: realize that when we had our elderly neighbor living there
Speaker 1: who we share the kitchen wall with, Like, I didn't
Speaker 1: realize how thin the wall was. And now when they
Speaker 1: have people over on like a Sunday and I'm in
Speaker 1: the kitchen, I'm like, oh, I can hear like full
Speaker 1: words that straight through. Also, our new neighbor over here
Speaker 1: we also moved in replaced an older woman, it's not
Speaker 1: very loud, but she had a party there the other
Speaker 1: day and I was like, I can hear everything. Yeah,
Speaker 1: suddenly you're like, oh, you can hear exactly what we're
Speaker 1: watching on TV. Yeah, I realized. I was like, I
Speaker 1: know our TV is too loud. No one's complaining. The
Speaker 1: only complained about much more embarrassing things. Okay, so back
Speaker 1: to the question, Peter, what do you do? All right? So,
Speaker 1: if I'm being honest, mm hmm, I don't. I don't
Speaker 1: think it would stop me. And I think it would
Speaker 1: be a combination of things. One, I know that when
Speaker 1: I'm locked in on something I'm excited about, I can
Speaker 1: have pretty intense attention blindness. Yeah, if I'm really excited
Speaker 1: about an audition and that that's what I'm focused on,
Speaker 1: and I can justify a way you're like the last
Speaker 1: person who's going to respond to a sign, Like, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's so funny. I was talking. I was telling my
Speaker 1: friend about signs I've I've recently become closer with this
Speaker 1: friend who, um, she and I both have dead brothers
Speaker 1: who died or like you know, roughly ten years ago,
Speaker 1: and like, so we'll talk a little bit about like
Speaker 1: signs and like like feeling their presence and stuff, and
Speaker 1: like since we started talking about it, she's like, I
Speaker 1: feel like I see so many more signs whatever. But
Speaker 1: she was she was like, before I started talking to
Speaker 1: you about this, I was like, Steve Martin in, Uh,
Speaker 1: what is the movie? He's like, there's some Steve Martin
Speaker 1: movie where he's like looking up and he's like, just
Speaker 1: give me a sign and then like the wind comes
Speaker 1: and everything starts shaking and it's like clearly like this huge,
Speaker 1: like voice of God moment, and he goes I forget
Speaker 1: the line, but he's just like anything, can I get
Speaker 1: a sign? And it's like that's you, that's You're c Martin. Um,
Speaker 1: well that might be true. Yeah, but I also say
Speaker 1: like when you're when you're like, now that we've been
Speaker 1: talking about signs, suddenly we see way more signs. Like yeah,
Speaker 1: because you're talking about signs right anyway, Alright, well this
Speaker 1: is not the debate. But you're right, give me an
Speaker 1: God forbid we focus on a positive thing in our lives, Peter.
Speaker 1: I Also, I also wouldn't believe it because Brin does
Speaker 1: things like that where he's like, Mama, it's gonna be okay.
Speaker 1: He did say the other day something about like I
Speaker 1: think when we were at your brother's place where he
Speaker 1: was like talking about how he saw you do something
Speaker 1: when you were a kid, and he was like, that's
Speaker 1: when I was old Bryan. He was like, I was there,
Speaker 1: but that Bryant died and I was like the second,
Speaker 1: the second, the second he said that I could feel
Speaker 1: you suddenly go tell me more. Yeah. Well then he
Speaker 1: just like completely yeah that it was not speaking nonsense,
Speaker 1: but um, yeah, I mean that's my general mode is that,
Speaker 1: like it's free association. Um, and when stuff like that happens,
Speaker 1: even if it's like that direct, you know, I'm not
Speaker 1: going to say I'm right, but uh, you know it's
Speaker 1: the Oh it's in your mind, so you notice it.
Speaker 1: You're literally a dream message and your own son speaking
Speaker 1: to you being like Daddy, don't do this, and you're like, Noah,
Speaker 1: that's nothing. I wouldn't believe. I know, I'd still I'd
Speaker 1: be like, that's crazy, that's that's amazing. Anyway, See you guys,
Speaker 1: I gotta go to my audition. Ah boy, is that true? Well,
Speaker 1: scenario I get to move somewhere warm, I guess before
Speaker 1: California falls into the sea and yeah, then we all
Speaker 1: die in an earthquake. Was fire? Um boy, it's true,
Speaker 1: I think. And it's also like the the example. Um actually,
Speaker 1: she's kind of follow up email to this to clarify
Speaker 1: one point because I think that she goes and he said,
Speaker 1: I saw you in my dream. You've been warned, Like
Speaker 1: if Brin said that, I mean, like that's something Brinton
Speaker 1: would say. But she's kind of follow up where she goes,
Speaker 1: lack of sleep, sheer, exhaustion and preigo brain are to blame.
Speaker 1: We'll go with that. This is an addendum. What I
Speaker 1: meant for Bread to say at the breakfast table was, Daddy,
Speaker 1: I saw you in your dream last night. You've been warned.
Speaker 1: Although now that I say that, I have the same
Speaker 1: reaction that your son literally knows what your dream was
Speaker 1: last night, and you're like, no, it's nothing. He this
Speaker 1: statement doesn't say that he knows the details. He said,
Speaker 1: I saw you in your dream. What would it take
Speaker 1: for you He would have to describe the dream, He
Speaker 1: would have to go, Daddy, I was a ten year
Speaker 1: old in your dream, and I warned you not to
Speaker 1: go to that audition. Didn't you see Harry Potter when
Speaker 1: the what's it called, Uh, she has a vision, it's
Speaker 1: a flash, and then she's back to herself. That's how
Speaker 1: Britan is. He's like, oh, that's when I was old Briton.
Speaker 1: He died. Now I'm going to talk about peanuts like
Speaker 1: He's like, he's not, like he's just getting these flashes,
Speaker 1: you know, like you can't you know, well that's that. Um,
Speaker 1: I don't agree. Uh, he's got Oh my god. So
Speaker 1: when we were at Raisis when he was talking to
Speaker 1: my brother Michael about about his thoughts. Oh yeah, oh
Speaker 1: my god, what did he say? He's like, oh, these
Speaker 1: are my thoughts. Well, we were asking him how he
Speaker 1: felt about the baby and he was like I don't know.
Speaker 1: They were like how we're Michael's like, what are your
Speaker 1: feelings or your thoughts or something on the baby and
Speaker 1: he was like, uh, you know, my thoughts they just
Speaker 1: run away out of my head. They're gone. They're gone
Speaker 1: now they left, and it was like, your thoughts are gone.
Speaker 1: He goes, yeah, they're really sleepy. They pooped their pants.
Speaker 1: And then he goes on this whole thing about his thought.
Speaker 1: He goes, I don't remember because my thoughts they're gone. Uh,
Speaker 1: And there's like, Maven, are your thoughts gone? And she's
Speaker 1: like no. And it was a perfect metaphor to how
Speaker 1: they and we process things, which is Maven and you
Speaker 1: retain the thoughts and feelings and Britain I just barf
Speaker 1: them out. They shipped themselves and then we happily walk away. Um.
Speaker 1: So I would remain skeptical and go to the audition
Speaker 1: because I'm selfish. You'll never change, You'll you'll lead your
Speaker 1: family to their demise, but you're focused on the prize.
Speaker 1: I'll love them all the way there. This has been
Speaker 1: Would you know this next segment it's called Listeners Want
Speaker 1: to Know. It's where we share questions and comments from
Speaker 1: you guys. Oh boy, So if you've been listening recently,
Speaker 1: you might be aware that we're redoing our bathroom. Beth
Speaker 1: has been working very hard. She's in charge of the
Speaker 1: design and she's doing essentially everything. The fun thing about
Speaker 1: renovation is you order things online h during mercury retrograde
Speaker 1: in this case, and you don't really know until they
Speaker 1: arrive what they're quite going to look like, or what
Speaker 1: the condition is going to be, or maybe whether they're
Speaker 1: going to arrive and huge enormous boxes on palettes that
Speaker 1: you they refuse to deliver up to your apartment, and
Speaker 1: you then have to go downstairs when your husband gets
Speaker 1: homes to dismantle these enormous boxes and carry a vanity
Speaker 1: upstairs to your living room. You never know when that's
Speaker 1: going to happen. You don't. It's just it's so unpredictable. Um,
Speaker 1: But I want to say, we've had a few people
Speaker 1: reach out with advice and offer help. I want to
Speaker 1: give a big shout out to Matt who's written in before.
Speaker 1: People have been very helpful, a construction manager, and he
Speaker 1: volunteered to help us with this. He volunteered to like
Speaker 1: deal directly with our contract or for us, which is
Speaker 1: very nice. Man. I want to say, we almost called you.
Speaker 1: We're we're in good shape, but we're doing okay. I
Speaker 1: really we really appreciate that. Like yesterday, I was trying
Speaker 1: to confirm something with our contractor over email. I'm going
Speaker 1: to keep derailing this email, but like I our contractor
Speaker 1: is like I don't think English is his first language.
Speaker 1: And he's a very nice guy and like very very
Speaker 1: like trying to be helpful. But he replied to an
Speaker 1: email and there was like a TYPEO. So instead of
Speaker 1: him saying you need he I was like, what kind
Speaker 1: of valves do we need for the he I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure we're responsible for buying these shut off
Speaker 1: valves for the sink and the toilet everything. And he's like,
Speaker 1: he said you three valves three eights and then there's
Speaker 1: like a jarbild numbers and so I managed to like
Speaker 1: like he then replied to that email someone he's like
Speaker 1: see seeing multiple people on the staff, so someone clearly
Speaker 1: it was like your email wasn't clear. And then he's
Speaker 1: replied to email and he goes, you need three valves
Speaker 1: And then I was like, okay, he's saying we need
Speaker 1: three valves. That are those jarbil numbers at the top,
Speaker 1: And I googled it and I think I figured out,
Speaker 1: but I was like, I'm trying to learn how to
Speaker 1: be more direct and just like not being around the
Speaker 1: Bushwire replied to him with an image of the product
Speaker 1: I found and was like, is this what you're talking about?
Speaker 1: Because I was like, what is happening here? Why can't
Speaker 1: there be like if I was running a company like
Speaker 1: this with like like clients, I would have like a
Speaker 1: PDF or something with every person and be like, here's
Speaker 1: the usual deal, here's the information, like do you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, like the basics because they say things
Speaker 1: to you like you need a shower body. And then
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, but what is a shower body? What
Speaker 1: did they constitute that mean? Right? Like? And then I'm
Speaker 1: like looking it up, but I find like the shower parts,
Speaker 1: but I'm like, there's clearly something missing here. So that's
Speaker 1: why I was like emailing about valves and I found
Speaker 1: the valve for the shower and it's like, I think
Speaker 1: I have what I need, but at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, I don't know. Well, I saw this full
Speaker 1: email exchange later and it it looked like there was
Speaker 1: some very prompt communication going on. Ultimately it was it
Speaker 1: was fine. It's just I think it's like, coupled with
Speaker 1: the timeline of all this and that we're doing the
Speaker 1: renovation at Christmas, everything feels really urgent and I'm like,
Speaker 1: I need to order this stuff now and I don't
Speaker 1: really have time to figure out if I'm doing it right. Um.
Speaker 1: I like that. Whoever replied back, they reply back with
Speaker 1: another image from like a Google search and with an
Speaker 1: actual arrow on it, pointing to the thing. I was like,
Speaker 1: someone knows how to do markup. I don't think I
Speaker 1: saw that email. Oh yeah, it was in reply to yours.
Speaker 1: They put a image with an arrow on it. Okay, anyway,
Speaker 1: get you the question. This is from Suzanne. Am I
Speaker 1: too late with reno advice a little bit, but we
Speaker 1: gonna read it because there's some thoughtful advice here. Hi,
Speaker 1: Beth and Peter. I'm a big fan of the podcast
Speaker 1: and even came to saw you in Brooklyn. Oh. I
Speaker 1: think about writing all the time, but I am a
Speaker 1: capital S a h M single, stay at home, stay
Speaker 1: at home mom. Okay, great, I'm nursing. I was like
Speaker 1: some stay at home mom to an eighteen month old
Speaker 1: and cannot keep one thought in my head for long.
Speaker 1: Funny side note, I'm not only a stay at home mom,
Speaker 1: but my husband travels Monday through Thursday, not a U S. Senator,
Speaker 1: So I'm alone with my thought. We had a senator's
Speaker 1: wife on our hands, were finally almost that one. So
Speaker 1: I am alone with my toddler four days and three
Speaker 1: nights a week. I am basically living Beth's worst nightmare.
Speaker 1: It is. Anyways, onto renovation advice between two houses. I
Speaker 1: have renovated five bathrooms, so hopefully you can benefit from
Speaker 1: my mistakes and I wins number one. There's what follows
Speaker 1: is a very neat list um which I respond positively to.
Speaker 1: Number one priority Number one is a good contractor. I
Speaker 1: cannot stress this enough. A good contractor contractor will be
Speaker 1: a collaborative, be collaborative, and have an eye for design
Speaker 1: to suggest things you may not have thought of. A
Speaker 1: great contractor won't make any design decisions without you, and
Speaker 1: a bad contractor will never come back to finish the
Speaker 1: second code of paint or install the last base board
Speaker 1: he needed to go to home depot for whatever type
Speaker 1: you have. Don't make that final payment until the final
Speaker 1: base board is in place. Have we We've probably already
Speaker 1: paid this guy in full. No, we haven't paid him
Speaker 1: at all. I last email I had with him is
Speaker 1: let me know how it deposit anyway. Pin Number two.
Speaker 1: Pinterest is a really really great place to find design inspiration.
Speaker 1: Just oh that finding the same products you see on
Speaker 1: the screen can take some serious investigation. I really only
Speaker 1: use it for inspiration and go from there. I feel
Speaker 1: like you use that a little bit. I didn't really
Speaker 1: have time to like completely like vision board the whole thing,
Speaker 1: although I did. I guess I did photoshop a little
Speaker 1: vision board together when I was trying to decide on tiles,
Speaker 1: just a little vision I mean, you just want to
Speaker 1: throw some things together and bounce ideas off your friends.
Speaker 1: But I, um, you know you didn't bounce ideas off
Speaker 1: of I did. I asked you about the tile, and
Speaker 1: then that there was like tile, it was like out
Speaker 1: of stock or something, and then I ended up looking
Speaker 1: at different times. I'm not complaining. I have a hundred
Speaker 1: percent faith in your design choices, but I okay, so yeah,
Speaker 1: I haven't. I didn't do a ton of interesting, but
Speaker 1: I did, like when I was searching, we need like
Speaker 1: there's so many like little details that become bizarrely frustrating,
Speaker 1: which is like we were tiling up to like four
Speaker 1: tie around the entire bathroom, and then that in our
Speaker 1: bathroom is so tiny, so that's really limiting our choices.
Speaker 1: So like a toilet paper holder needs to be made
Speaker 1: out of white tile to match. You can't just like
Speaker 1: buy random ones and then are so we're doing like
Speaker 1: subway tiles. So there's like a certain look to that,
Speaker 1: and then if you look at white tile toilet paper holders,
Speaker 1: there's like a lot of them have this sort of
Speaker 1: like seventies like split level home feel, if that makes sense.
Speaker 1: And I like, this toilet role holder is a real
Speaker 1: split level ranch. It just feel it has like a
Speaker 1: feel to it that doesn't feel subway tilely to me.
Speaker 1: And then I found one online like on Pinterest that
Speaker 1: was like, oh, that's exactly what I need. And then
Speaker 1: I go to the link and it was this company
Speaker 1: that like reconfigures. They take like molds from like nineteen twenties,
Speaker 1: like tile things, and they use the old molds and
Speaker 1: they remake the tile. But of course to buy that one,
Speaker 1: it was like a hundred and sixty dollars or something
Speaker 1: for this tiny piece of tile that you know costs
Speaker 1: like five cents to me. So then I finally found
Speaker 1: a similar thing actually like randomly that looks like pretty
Speaker 1: similar for I don't know, like thirty bucks or something,
Speaker 1: and I was like so happy, and I had a
Speaker 1: similar thing happened with like I would get. I picked
Speaker 1: out faucet and shower head and like the same company,
Speaker 1: Cohler has like a whole matching thing of like um
Speaker 1: hooks and towel rods and stuff. But of course, like
Speaker 1: for this tiny coat hook that's like literally like a
Speaker 1: tiny circle, the Cohler company charges like eighty bucks for it.
Speaker 1: And then I found a similar one for like, you know,
Speaker 1: eighteen dollars or something, So I was like, Okay, I
Speaker 1: just like I this one is cheap enough that I
Speaker 1: can order it and see how well it matches, and
Speaker 1: like then figure out if I want to buy the
Speaker 1: other matching hardware that they make, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: But like, it's just like this stuff is so expensive
Speaker 1: and you just don't know until it shows up if
Speaker 1: it's going to be right. Well, this next point speaks
Speaker 1: to that a little bit. Three. Also, some stuff I'm
Speaker 1: interest is really expensive and sometimes unrealistic, so you find
Speaker 1: ways to compromise. When the plaid tile floor I was
Speaker 1: dying for was going to be two thousand dollars, I
Speaker 1: had to acquiesce uh. And we are finding other ways
Speaker 1: to make me a preppy bathroom reminiscent of a golf clubhouse.
Speaker 1: That sounds cute. We bought a former golf course. It's
Speaker 1: a long story. What we bought a former golf What
Speaker 1: does your husband's definitely a senator, a senator's wife. We
Speaker 1: had a wait, wait, okay, Susanne, you bought a former
Speaker 1: golf course or you bought a formal former golf clubhouse.
Speaker 1: I need to know because a golf course is a
Speaker 1: lot of way. We live in the land of golf courses,
Speaker 1: country clubs, in western golf course. You ever looked at
Speaker 1: Google Maps and where we live, it's like golf course.
Speaker 1: Don't get me started on golf courses. That being said,
Speaker 1: since I didn't get my flooring, I splurge for a
Speaker 1: beautiful mirror that even my husband had to admit was
Speaker 1: worth the dollar side uh number four. I Kea is
Speaker 1: great for small designs and a lot of times their
Speaker 1: cabinets can be customized, so if you see a vanity
Speaker 1: you want from them, you can just buy the box
Speaker 1: for the vanity and your contractor can make doors. Well
Speaker 1: it's too late for that, but I will say, like,
Speaker 1: where I am putting my money in the bathroom is
Speaker 1: like because it's so tiny, I am like obsessive about storage.
Speaker 1: So I did get like the biggest bathroom mirror, medicine
Speaker 1: cabinet I could find and fit into space. And then
Speaker 1: we have one of those little I don't know what
Speaker 1: you call these things in our building, our our apartments
Speaker 1: probably built in the nineteen sixty, nineteen sixty exactly right.
Speaker 1: And then they have these weird like doors on the wall,
Speaker 1: like I think it's a hamper, I guess, but it
Speaker 1: doesn't really make sense of its metal door. It opens
Speaker 1: at the top, has a little uh lift up hatch
Speaker 1: like a hamper. Yeah, built in the wall, but then
Speaker 1: the bottom part you open like a diaper trash. Anyway,
Speaker 1: it's just like weird, and we keep toilet paper in it.
Speaker 1: And it was like one of those things where the
Speaker 1: contractor was like, well, I can They don't make these anymore.
Speaker 1: You can't replace this, and I was like, yeah, I know,
Speaker 1: we don't know what it is. Yeah. I was like
Speaker 1: I know, I'm not asking for one of these weird,
Speaker 1: confusing things, and and he was like, so I can
Speaker 1: paint it or take it out, and I was like,
Speaker 1: well can we like you can we have storage here
Speaker 1: like some sort of thing, because again the bathroom is
Speaker 1: so small I cannot over emphasize that. And he was like, oh,
Speaker 1: we could build in like custom shelving and do a
Speaker 1: little cabinet and I'm like, Yeah, that would make way
Speaker 1: more sense than this thing, which is a cabinet but
Speaker 1: looks bizarre. Um, so I am paying him to do that,
Speaker 1: and that's like a big splurge. Number five Wayfair, Wayfair, Wayfair.
Speaker 1: My contractor has been stocked shocked at the great stuff
Speaker 1: I've gotten from Wayfair, and at really good prices. I'm
Speaker 1: talking stinks, toilets, fixtures, et cetera. We've gotten our shower
Speaker 1: systems from Amazon at our at our contractor's advice, he's
Speaker 1: finding these knockoffs on Amazon can be pretty close to
Speaker 1: stuff he sees at three times the price. I could
Speaker 1: go on and on, but I'll stop there. Seriously, you
Speaker 1: have any questions at all, happily answer anything. If Mike
Speaker 1: Toddler lets me touch my computer. Good luck with the reno.
Speaker 1: Best Tusanne. PS. My husband is a senator. Did you
Speaker 1: say that I wish? Yes, this is a senator's way.
Speaker 1: Um okay. So here's what I have to say about Wayfair, though,
Speaker 1: is that a few months back they were in the news.
Speaker 1: People were boycotting them because Wayfair was supplying beds to
Speaker 1: the uh border camps where they're keeping all the children
Speaker 1: and separating children from their parents and everything, and so
Speaker 1: people are trying to avoid Wayfair. I can't remember if
Speaker 1: they resolved it, but I feel like Wayfair did that
Speaker 1: thing where they like do an apology, but they don't
Speaker 1: change their policies are actually corrected in any way, so
Speaker 1: I don't I'm trying to avoid Wayfair, even though they
Speaker 1: have very cheap things. Um, most of the stuff I got,
Speaker 1: I was getting a lot of cheap stuff on build
Speaker 1: dot com, which has not arrived yet. I'm sure someone
Speaker 1: will probably write in and tell me like build dot
Speaker 1: com is like owned by Wayfair. I have not researched this,
Speaker 1: but I also got our vanity from a website called
Speaker 1: Signature Hardware, which is like sort of much cheaper, you know,
Speaker 1: restoration hardware whatever, it's like, it's like a way cheaper,
Speaker 1: and that's why how much we hate restoration hardware. But anyway,
Speaker 1: Signature Hardware, you must now know, will deliver your items
Speaker 1: in enormous boxes on palettes that they refuse to deliver
Speaker 1: inside your home. They only will leave it on the
Speaker 1: curb and make you figure it out and make all
Speaker 1: of your neighbors walk past two giant boxes, so you'll
Speaker 1: have to write a note on the box that says sorry,
Speaker 1: we'll take care of later. Yeah, I just felt I know, well,
Speaker 1: it was a whole saga because the guy showed up
Speaker 1: and he was already mad because he was like he
Speaker 1: this is literally what happens to him all day long.
Speaker 1: He works for a shipping company that is hired by
Speaker 1: Signature Hardware, and the communication is very bad, so they're
Speaker 1: not really warning people what's about to happen. So all
Speaker 1: day long he's dealing with people who are mad at him,
Speaker 1: the delivery guy who didn't create this system. So I
Speaker 1: felt for him. But he's explaining this to me, and
Speaker 1: I'm just like, well, I don't know if I can
Speaker 1: take the shipment because now it's like four thirty pm.
Speaker 1: I have to go get the kids soon. You're trying
Speaker 1: to give me huge paletts. I'm one woman. I can't
Speaker 1: physically like. So then I'm like, Okay, let me see
Speaker 1: if I can go get like the porters who work
Speaker 1: in our building, and maybe I can pay them, but
Speaker 1: of course they have like no cash on me, and
Speaker 1: I'm trying to like I go into the like the
Speaker 1: break room of the porters, and I start telling them
Speaker 1: like what's happening and trying to and they all stared
Speaker 1: blankly at me and did like a masterful like gaze
Speaker 1: into the distance, where like they like very much pretended
Speaker 1: to not know what I was talking about and like
Speaker 1: not really listening to me and just like sort of
Speaker 1: all trying to like shrug it off at once. And
Speaker 1: finally one of them was like, UM, I can go
Speaker 1: get you the uh hand truck or whatever and like
Speaker 1: and I'm like okay, like and he is going to
Speaker 1: help me, and then he's walking. He's like walking with me,
Speaker 1: and he's like, yeah, I can get it to you,
Speaker 1: but like I'm off in ten minutes, so like I'll
Speaker 1: just give it to you and you can bring it back.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I'm still one woman. I can't do this.
Speaker 1: And I have like all of these things, a hand cart,
Speaker 1: all these will not get anything up a flight of stairs, yeah,
Speaker 1: like two flights of stairs basically, So I'm like, oh
Speaker 1: my god. So then I have to go back to
Speaker 1: this delivery guy and I'm like I can't get any
Speaker 1: help with this. I like I don't. I'm like I
Speaker 1: really just want to reject the delivery and like deal
Speaker 1: with it later I'm like, I don't know what to
Speaker 1: do with this, because if I sign off on this
Speaker 1: and I suddenly have all this stuff, that's and I
Speaker 1: was like looking at the sky, like is it gonna rain?
Speaker 1: He's going to leave this on the sidewalk, like what's happening?
Speaker 1: And I have to go get my kids. This is
Speaker 1: all like all of this this week has been so
Speaker 1: mercury retrograde. So I like talking to the guy and
Speaker 1: he's and then a delivery guy was like nice and
Speaker 1: trying to work with me, even though he was still
Speaker 1: very annoyed at the system. And he's explaining it to me,
Speaker 1: and he's like this happens to me all day people
Speaker 1: like I'll meet people like you, like he's like, but
Speaker 1: he's like this one woman last week is like cussing
Speaker 1: me out and like calling the cops on me because
Speaker 1: of this, And I'm like, I feel for you, but
Speaker 1: I just like don't. I don't really know what to
Speaker 1: do here right now, like what is happening? And so
Speaker 1: he's like, I've got an idea. He like wheels his
Speaker 1: like um whole thing that is able to carry palettes
Speaker 1: of wood, and he wheels it over in front of
Speaker 1: our front door, so that the entrance to our building
Speaker 1: is like flanked by two enormous boxes. And I'm just like,
Speaker 1: I guess I'll just feel it later. This whole thing
Speaker 1: before was they were just still in the truck. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and he like, just like here, take it. Well, he
Speaker 1: was like, my job just to go put it on
Speaker 1: the sidewalk, which, as you know, is like still like
Speaker 1: a hundred yards from our front door. So in the
Speaker 1: end it compromises that he took it to the door.
Speaker 1: He took it to the door. He I understand where
Speaker 1: he's coming from, because he's like, I need to make
Speaker 1: this delivery. I need you to sign this piece of paper.
Speaker 1: I need to move on with my life. My day
Speaker 1: is ending, and like like I feel for him. But
Speaker 1: I was just like, what is happening and so and
Speaker 1: it made no sense too, because again our bathroom is tiny.
Speaker 1: The vanity I ordered his twenty four inches, I was like,
Speaker 1: what why are these boxes so big? We bought two
Speaker 1: um smart cars. It was making me so nervous that
Speaker 1: I was like, like, they sent the wrong thing. I'm
Speaker 1: going to be stuck with it. This is like it
Speaker 1: turns out one of them was a giant empty box
Speaker 1: to prop up the mirror. Yeah, yeah, but it was
Speaker 1: still just like such needless packaging. Um. Anyway, it was
Speaker 1: a nightmare. Well, but we figured it out. Suzanne, thank
Speaker 1: you so much for your advice. Why do you live
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