WEBVTT - You’ve Been Warned! 0:00:12.960 --> 0:00:17.599 Hello, Welcome, We Knows Parenting. Hello, you're a listener to know. 0:00:18.400 --> 0:00:22.840 It's a warm, welcoming, friendly show where two parents, real parents, 0:00:22.840 --> 0:00:25.800 Peter and Beth talk about their lives. They're friendly and fun. 0:00:26.760 --> 0:00:30.720 What is this? You're like the crime dog? What's the 0:00:31.560 --> 0:00:35.640 take a bite out of crime gruff? I'm gruff the 0:00:35.640 --> 0:00:41.840 crime dog. Do you know where your children are? Um? 0:00:41.880 --> 0:00:43.400 I know that's not the crime dog, but it's a 0:00:43.440 --> 0:00:45.680 similar You know where your children are? I'm a crime dog. 0:00:47.040 --> 0:00:48.919 These are this is your brain on drugs. I just 0:00:48.920 --> 0:00:52.239 got your children doing crimes. Um, I just got your 0:00:52.280 --> 0:00:56.800 children doing crimes. Uh. So he catches your kids. He 0:00:56.840 --> 0:01:02.520 doesn't help kids. Remember the nineties? It ah, but everyone 0:01:02.520 --> 0:01:05.399 everything seems so simple and you could just cut down 0:01:05.400 --> 0:01:10.680 on crime. Um, just say no, just don't be poor, 0:01:12.120 --> 0:01:15.720 don't you dare? Okay, So we're doing a little different 0:01:16.040 --> 0:01:20.680 this week because it's the morning time, so people are 0:01:20.680 --> 0:01:23.600 getting us. What a nightmare? Right eyed and bushy tail? 0:01:24.120 --> 0:01:28.720 You're how would you were out late? You? I thought, 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:31.440 up until this moment when we started recording, I thought 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:34.160 you were surprisingly chipper for how late you were out 0:01:34.240 --> 0:01:37.959 last night. But right now you're really playing up the 0:01:37.959 --> 0:01:46.080 the malaise. I would call this a literal hangover. Wow, 0:01:47.120 --> 0:01:49.080 you would go there, you would go all the way there, 0:01:49.280 --> 0:01:53.400 would I would be so bold? Do you point out 0:01:53.440 --> 0:01:58.760 that I had mm hmm, I don't think I had. 0:01:58.800 --> 0:02:01.680 I think I had three drinks, but I did not 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:04.559 eat all day because it was a very busy day, 0:02:05.080 --> 0:02:07.760 the big annual Story Pirates party to welcome the new 0:02:07.760 --> 0:02:10.480 Pirates and put on a show. It is an insane 0:02:10.480 --> 0:02:12.800 amount of work and it's super fun. I let my 0:02:12.880 --> 0:02:17.360 hair down, um, as I do sort of once a year, 0:02:17.880 --> 0:02:20.120 and it's harder and harder the older you get. It 0:02:20.240 --> 0:02:22.880 really is. I was. I just was at this birthday 0:02:22.880 --> 0:02:24.600 party the day and one of the mom's there was like, 0:02:24.639 --> 0:02:26.600 I had one and a half drinks last night and 0:02:26.639 --> 0:02:31.800 I feel horrible. Um, it's I don't it's like a 0:02:31.880 --> 0:02:36.040 parenthood and aging or something. I don't know. My body 0:02:36.120 --> 0:02:41.680 just doesn't like it. It's almost like it's it's almost 0:02:41.680 --> 0:02:44.640 like it's poison that we put into our bodies. Um, 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:49.480 you know, you know, I'm gonna plug another great podcast 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:52.440 stuff you should know. There's an episode about what a 0:02:53.080 --> 0:02:56.160 what a hangover is? Right, and it's just poisoning your 0:02:56.160 --> 0:03:00.440 body it's it's it's like fourteen things. One of them 0:03:00.840 --> 0:03:04.200 is alcohol. Alcohol goes into your stomach and then he 0:03:04.240 --> 0:03:11.080 gets broken. He gets broken down into this Uh. This 0:03:11.160 --> 0:03:14.720 component is basically poison, and then your liver gives you 0:03:14.800 --> 0:03:18.720 another thing that neutralizes the poison. But when you have 0:03:18.760 --> 0:03:21.160 a certain amount alcohol, your liver runs out of that thing, 0:03:21.360 --> 0:03:24.000 and so there's just this poison going through your veins 0:03:24.040 --> 0:03:28.120 until your liver can make more while you're incredibly dehydrated. 0:03:28.160 --> 0:03:30.760 Go listen to that episode any one of the Best podcast. 0:03:30.760 --> 0:03:33.320 I'm sure most of our listeners have never experienced to 0:03:33.400 --> 0:03:39.040 hangover before and are dying to know what we're talking about. Um, okay, 0:03:39.160 --> 0:03:43.240 so you were out. We um, let's get to her 0:03:43.200 --> 0:03:48.880 a week. I guess parenting. What has been happened? You 0:03:48.880 --> 0:03:50.640 went to a birthday party without me? I went to 0:03:50.680 --> 0:03:53.400 a birthday party. It was it was good. Our kids. 0:03:53.520 --> 0:03:58.280 Brain was a little crazy. He he saunters into any 0:03:58.400 --> 0:04:02.440 like child based location. Shin like the King of the Hill, 0:04:02.560 --> 0:04:06.440 Like he's like, don't worry, I'm here. He's like just 0:04:06.480 --> 0:04:09.080 bossing everyone, like he's so comfortable. He's never been to 0:04:09.120 --> 0:04:12.320 this house before. He's like, it's all these little girls mostly, 0:04:12.480 --> 0:04:16.240 and then his one former friend from um daycare who 0:04:16.560 --> 0:04:19.839 hates him, uh, and Bran is like, so chipper and 0:04:19.880 --> 0:04:22.719 he's like, I'm going to get because they're doing there's 0:04:22.760 --> 0:04:24.080 this thing in our town and I don't know if 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:27.479 it's like everywhere or just specifically our town, but um, 0:04:28.120 --> 0:04:33.640 there they hire these local women to paint faces and 0:04:33.680 --> 0:04:36.000 do these glitter tattoos where they like put a bunch 0:04:36.000 --> 0:04:37.919 of glue on a kid's arm and then sprinkled glitter 0:04:37.960 --> 0:04:41.960 all over it. Um. And so they I've seen this 0:04:42.120 --> 0:04:44.240 now at like a couple of birthday parties, and so 0:04:44.640 --> 0:04:46.559 brand is like waiting in line and he's like talking 0:04:46.600 --> 0:04:49.440 about the tattoos and he'll just like say whatever. He's 0:04:49.480 --> 0:04:51.920 thinking like you and he's like, oh, you gotta get 0:04:51.920 --> 0:04:55.520 these tattoos, like he's like and then and then this 0:04:55.640 --> 0:04:57.599 kid who he used to go to daycare with, who's 0:04:57.680 --> 0:05:00.440 like slightly a bully to him, just kept being like 0:05:01.920 --> 0:05:05.320 that's not interesting, that's not funny. Like he just was 0:05:05.400 --> 0:05:08.359 like shutting it down, and the woman doing the face 0:05:08.400 --> 0:05:11.360 paint was like laughing at him because it was just 0:05:11.400 --> 0:05:15.560 such a like like odd couple dynamic of like Britain 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:18.400 just being like gregarious and being like just rolling with 0:05:18.440 --> 0:05:21.039 it and being insulted and being like, oh yeah, well 0:05:21.200 --> 0:05:25.880 you gotta get that, like and um Britain like any 0:05:26.240 --> 0:05:30.640 any what's the any news is good news. Any attention 0:05:30.680 --> 0:05:33.799 he's getting is good attention because he has the attention. 0:05:34.720 --> 0:05:39.120 Well not any attention is not good attention according to 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:43.000 but he also when so they sat down at the 0:05:43.040 --> 0:05:45.160 table to eat like pizza or whatever, and all the 0:05:45.240 --> 0:05:48.600 kids are sitting there in print is like, hey, why 0:05:48.680 --> 0:05:52.000 is six afraid of seven? It was like because seven 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:55.160 eight nine, And then everyone's laughing and he's like it's 0:05:55.160 --> 0:05:58.560 like it's not eight like the number, it's eight like 0:05:58.640 --> 0:06:01.760 eating and he's like he's just like holding court like 0:06:01.839 --> 0:06:07.400 so proud of himself. And then I'm proud of that's 0:06:08.160 --> 0:06:11.120 that is the most me thing in the world. Yeah, 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:13.360 you were like, oh, does people need someone to talk 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:16.560 right now? I'll tell you a story specifically to go 0:06:16.680 --> 0:06:19.159 here's a joke everyone last, and then goes, let me 0:06:19.200 --> 0:06:21.680 explain why you liked what I did. Right, You're like, 0:06:21.760 --> 0:06:27.320 here's the philosophy of comedy. Um, we're all just pattern 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:34.920 recognition machines. So may then she she was like, really, enjoying. 0:06:34.920 --> 0:06:37.120 It was a very girly birthday party and Mayone is 0:06:37.120 --> 0:06:39.279 loving it. And then and then you know, they together 0:06:39.400 --> 0:06:43.080 face painted. She had a unicorn face paint and sparkly tattoo. 0:06:43.600 --> 0:06:47.039 And then we get home, like it's like an hour 0:06:47.160 --> 0:06:48.960 or two later. I'm laying in bed with her and 0:06:49.040 --> 0:06:53.800 she goes, Mommy, I liked eating the cake. And I 0:06:53.920 --> 0:06:56.800 was like, oh good, did you also like getting your 0:06:56.800 --> 0:06:59.920 face painted and getting a glitter tattoo? And she goes, 0:07:01.120 --> 0:07:05.600 I liked eating the cake. It's like, that's my girl. 0:07:05.920 --> 0:07:09.000 That's my girl. She did love the face paint and everything, 0:07:09.000 --> 0:07:11.200 but like just in that moment, she's like, I'm talking 0:07:11.240 --> 0:07:15.160 about the cake. She loved the cake. What you said 0:07:15.160 --> 0:07:19.360 it the first time? It was as if people expected 0:07:19.360 --> 0:07:22.320 her not to. I think she just wanted to make 0:07:22.360 --> 0:07:24.320 a mental note where she was like, hey, just so 0:07:24.400 --> 0:07:26.000 you know, like I love cake and if you want 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:29.320 to keep it around the house, like that's ever an option. 0:07:29.760 --> 0:07:34.400 I'm in, Yeah. Um, well, we're going to a birthday 0:07:34.440 --> 0:07:38.960 party this coming weekend as well. And I asked Brinn 0:07:39.040 --> 0:07:43.360 what his friend likes and he said lions. And I 0:07:43.360 --> 0:07:45.640 asked him again later and he said lions again, So 0:07:45.720 --> 0:07:47.880 I was I said, this feels right, So we bought 0:07:47.920 --> 0:07:52.680 them some lions. But part of me thinks this kid 0:07:52.800 --> 0:07:56.400 has no particular feelings about lions. It's very possible, but 0:07:56.720 --> 0:08:00.800 I think lions are a fine gift for anyone. It's lions, honestly, 0:08:01.400 --> 0:08:04.880 for whom are lions not a good way? So are 0:08:04.920 --> 0:08:07.240 those like toy lines laying on the counter the only 0:08:07.240 --> 0:08:09.280 thing that you got that kid? Yeah, because I thought 0:08:09.280 --> 0:08:14.960 they were bigger, but they're fine. Well, my big thing, 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:16.800 and I've probably already said this in the podcast, is 0:08:16.880 --> 0:08:19.720 just give people a few books. Doesn't take up a 0:08:19.720 --> 0:08:24.760 lot of space, it's not expensive, good good thought. There's 0:08:24.800 --> 0:08:28.960 a book for today. I could go. The families are 0:08:29.000 --> 0:08:33.720 welcome with that. Did you give him money? I did? Okay, Um, no, 0:08:33.880 --> 0:08:37.040 we're not involved parents. He can handle it. Oh we 0:08:37.120 --> 0:08:41.840 have parent teacher conferences tomorrow, Yeah, which you're going to. 0:08:44.240 --> 0:08:46.520 I'm kind of dreading it, only because not that it's 0:08:46.520 --> 0:08:49.480 going to be bad, but like you know exactly what 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:52.160 they're going to say, which is like Britain's smart, but 0:08:52.320 --> 0:08:57.120 he doesn't pay attention and is always like like not 0:08:57.360 --> 0:09:01.640 listening and try like trying to have fun with his friends. 0:09:01.760 --> 0:09:05.760 I'm I'm very upset that I can't be there. Yeah, 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:08.000 well I have a good reason I have to. I 0:09:08.080 --> 0:09:11.360 now have many reasons. You're not necessarily upset that you 0:09:11.360 --> 0:09:14.480 won't be I know. I think it's maybe better than 0:09:14.600 --> 0:09:17.920 one of us goes, well, I feel like last time, 0:09:18.400 --> 0:09:21.480 you like they were like saying that stuff, but then 0:09:21.480 --> 0:09:24.400 they're like, and he's really smart, or like he's really 0:09:24.440 --> 0:09:27.079 funny or whatever, and then you are you hear things 0:09:27.160 --> 0:09:30.040 like that and you're like, oh, yeah, let me tell 0:09:30.120 --> 0:09:32.200 you a tale of how great my son is. And 0:09:32.200 --> 0:09:35.600 then you start talking for so long and I'm like, 0:09:35.679 --> 0:09:39.280 they know him, like this is for them to give 0:09:39.400 --> 0:09:46.080 us feedback. Um. I love my children and myself. If 0:09:46.160 --> 0:09:50.760 that's not clear, okay, um. And then big news we 0:09:50.840 --> 0:09:56.559 saw our baby nephew so cute. You met that, you 0:09:56.640 --> 0:10:00.080 met Sam and Race on the podcast The Baby, the 0:10:00.080 --> 0:10:03.480 the big secret announcement, the big secret announcement that they 0:10:03.480 --> 0:10:06.120 were pregnant several months ago. And now here we are. 0:10:06.160 --> 0:10:09.680 I have a baby and he's so cute and he's 0:10:09.720 --> 0:10:14.319 a little tiny baby. He's early, um but healthy. Yeah, 0:10:14.400 --> 0:10:20.560 and Maven is a fand him she wanted to hold 0:10:20.600 --> 0:10:22.680 this baby for as long as we would let her, 0:10:23.440 --> 0:10:26.520 and she would just stare lovingly at him and smile, 0:10:26.920 --> 0:10:30.040 and she would like she was talking to Rasa about 0:10:30.080 --> 0:10:32.280 his toys and stuff and being like, I think this 0:10:32.360 --> 0:10:35.959 will be his favorite toy. Like she's like very ready, 0:10:36.000 --> 0:10:38.600 like in her mind he's like a full person that 0:10:38.840 --> 0:10:42.760 she's friends with. Well, she's been tucking in stuffed animals 0:10:42.800 --> 0:10:46.440 and baby dolls for years now and to have one 0:10:46.840 --> 0:10:49.560 look at her. And then Brian on the other hand, 0:10:49.679 --> 0:10:52.000 we had him try to hold the baby for about 0:10:52.040 --> 0:10:55.040 two seconds, wherefore he just like basically started like pushing 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:59.640 the baby off of him and mechanicked. He goes, yeah, 0:10:59.679 --> 0:11:02.800 all the baby, and we put him. We had these 0:11:02.840 --> 0:11:04.680 pillows set up and just put him on his lap 0:11:04.679 --> 0:11:07.360 on the couch and then he has two secondly looks 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:10.360 up at me. He goes, okay, I'm done, and he rolls. 0:11:10.520 --> 0:11:15.320 The baby literally had to push towards his knees and 0:11:15.600 --> 0:11:20.920 off the who and he really panicked. You can feel 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:24.160 this live squirming thing on right. I mean when if 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:26.600 you think about it, like the sensation of holding like 0:11:27.160 --> 0:11:31.080 a warm, heavy baby, like it's the limp body of 0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:33.840 a baby that makes it feel like nothing else. I mean, 0:11:33.880 --> 0:11:36.240 it's also the thing that made me. I picked up 0:11:36.240 --> 0:11:39.920 that baby. I was like, oh my god, tiny baby. 0:11:40.040 --> 0:11:41.960 And then well, I'm an adult, you go into like 0:11:42.040 --> 0:11:47.000 protective mode. I a weird thing happened to me, which 0:11:47.040 --> 0:11:50.200 is obviously the sense of memory. You just totally forget 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:54.320 this huge part of your life. There was that time 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:57.640 where you were walking around with a tiny baby and 0:11:57.679 --> 0:12:00.240 I had to get up and I had to just 0:12:00.360 --> 0:12:02.840 leave the room so I could start pacing and like 0:12:03.640 --> 0:12:06.960 bobbing the baby up and down. And the thing that 0:12:07.120 --> 0:12:11.120 was the most emotional for me is, you know, bobbing 0:12:11.200 --> 0:12:13.000 up and down and you can sort of feel the 0:12:13.160 --> 0:12:18.439 weight of the baby bounce in your arms as they 0:12:18.520 --> 0:12:21.360 like I spent hours doing this, you know, in the 0:12:21.400 --> 0:12:23.480 middle of the night, and I was like, I just 0:12:23.520 --> 0:12:26.480 want to do this for twenty minutes. I know that 0:12:26.520 --> 0:12:29.400 it's not my responsibility. The other funny thing is like, 0:12:29.920 --> 0:12:32.559 so when we go places, Maven is usually pretty shy 0:12:32.600 --> 0:12:35.560 at first, like she's not shyed towards kids so much 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:39.840 or like little girls, but adults. And she walked in 0:12:39.880 --> 0:12:43.240 there and raised his mom, who was visiting from Bosnia 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:45.960 to help out with the baby. Just like sort of 0:12:46.000 --> 0:12:49.760 immediately like was talking to Maven, and like Maven is 0:12:49.800 --> 0:12:53.720 like sitting in her lap and she's like telling may 0:12:53.760 --> 0:12:55.920 Haven how beautiful she is or whatever, and like Mayven 0:12:56.000 --> 0:12:59.560 just was like eating it up right away. They connected that, 0:12:59.640 --> 0:13:01.520 they really connect. Well. I think part of it was 0:13:01.640 --> 0:13:04.400 like she's a mother of three girls, and she was 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:08.200 just like, hello, beautiful girl, like it was just and 0:13:08.320 --> 0:13:17.800 has three grandsons and has three Yeah unfortunately, um boy, 0:13:17.240 --> 0:13:21.440 that's yeah. Well. I we walked in and I realized 0:13:21.440 --> 0:13:24.360 I hadn't seen raised his mom since they got married 0:13:25.280 --> 0:13:29.600 in Sarajevo, and that was two months after Maven was born, 0:13:30.960 --> 0:13:34.720 born in a car, and she saw Maven at the wedding. Yeah, 0:13:34.840 --> 0:13:38.199 And so we walked into their apartment and I saw 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:41.880 her see Maven, and just the look on her face 0:13:42.840 --> 0:13:46.680 I could see all that time in the shock in 0:13:46.760 --> 0:13:50.600 that life was like that tiny baby that danced at 0:13:50.640 --> 0:13:55.679 my daughter's wedding. Um yeah, it's crazy. Time flies when 0:13:55.720 --> 0:14:00.079 you're having kids. Great family, great family, great family. It 0:14:00.320 --> 0:14:04.600 was a really fun wedding, I will say, like one 0:14:04.640 --> 0:14:07.480 of the most fun. Now we're just like way off topic, 0:14:07.559 --> 0:14:16.320 but um yeah, um, they don't do wedding speeches. Really 0:14:18.160 --> 0:14:23.640 there's some interesting mixes, mixing, mixing of cultural norms between 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:28.400 the American and Bosnian family. Everyone was awesome and super positive, 0:14:28.440 --> 0:14:31.520 but we had a rehearsal dinner, which I guess really 0:14:31.560 --> 0:14:33.760 isn't a thing. But then we did speeches, which is 0:14:33.800 --> 0:14:38.840 definitely not a thing. And boy, I'll tell you, I 0:14:39.080 --> 0:14:43.520 crush a rehearsal dinner speech. And you were sad that 0:14:43.560 --> 0:14:47.920 you couldn't. I did not connect with that audience who 0:14:47.960 --> 0:14:50.560 had no idea what you're saying. I have them, dude, 0:14:50.600 --> 0:14:52.720 I was saying. And we were an L shaped restaurant 0:14:53.480 --> 0:14:58.400 and I was my me and my brothers. You are like, 0:14:59.320 --> 0:15:01.800 really him tonight? Yeah, And I was like, well, my 0:15:01.880 --> 0:15:04.880 brother performing just bombed. I'm gonna pick it up. Nope, 0:15:04.920 --> 0:15:08.520 I just bombed. And then my dad gets up there, 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:11.680 he's the last one, and he goes, I have a 0:15:11.760 --> 0:15:13.760 few things to say, you know. My dad, very sort 0:15:13.800 --> 0:15:22.000 of stoic, distinct confident man, gets up and delivers a 0:15:22.120 --> 0:15:28.400 full speech in Bosnian, and the whole room suddenly perks 0:15:28.520 --> 0:15:30.600 up like like they're like, why the hell are these 0:15:30.600 --> 0:15:33.720 speeches happening? And you can see everyone paying attention and 0:15:33.760 --> 0:15:38.440 he brought the house down because felt Bosnian speech. Your 0:15:38.520 --> 0:15:41.720 dad wrote a speech. Then he knew a guy, a 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:45.640 Bosnian guy outside Chicago who he became friendly with, who 0:15:45.680 --> 0:15:49.840 helped coach him through learning this speech in Bosnian. Well, 0:15:49.880 --> 0:15:52.080 he didn't know this guy. He had to find somebody 0:15:52.920 --> 0:15:55.880 through his brother, but it was like through their community. 0:15:56.200 --> 0:15:58.359 Like it wasn't like he was two degrees of separation, 0:15:58.720 --> 0:16:02.200 but he like this, I helped him, and your dad 0:16:02.280 --> 0:16:06.040 like perfectly practiced a full Bosnian speech, not speaking the 0:16:06.120 --> 0:16:08.360 language at all. You would record the speech, send it 0:16:08.440 --> 0:16:10.880 to the guy. The guy would give him notes to 0:16:10.880 --> 0:16:15.280 call him back. Um. And then my favorite part is 0:16:15.320 --> 0:16:18.280 like at the end of the speech, people are like crying, 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:21.720 like they love the speech, it's beautiful. They can't believe 0:16:21.840 --> 0:16:24.040 this man took all this time to do this. And 0:16:24.120 --> 0:16:27.120 your mom is like like responding to everyone loving it, 0:16:27.160 --> 0:16:29.000 and she's like, well, I didn't understand the word he 0:16:29.080 --> 0:16:39.080 was saying. Classic your mom My mom My mom? Who 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:42.840 is the best? Is my favorite thing is that like 0:16:43.440 --> 0:16:47.600 she's so positive and she's so just like everyone's great 0:16:48.240 --> 0:16:53.160 and surprisingly unsentimental. Well she also just says whatever she's thinking. 0:16:53.240 --> 0:16:56.160 So it's like there's no malice in what she's saying. 0:16:56.240 --> 0:17:01.400 She's just like, hmm, well, uh, that's I am my 0:17:01.480 --> 0:17:06.960 mother's son. Um, that was a great wedding. This is 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:10.560 a great baby as as a result, I'm I'm so 0:17:10.600 --> 0:17:12.560 excited to get to know this little person. And I 0:17:12.560 --> 0:17:15.680 think Mayven is really going to step into her power 0:17:15.760 --> 0:17:18.760 as like protective older cousin. She's like, yes, guess what, 0:17:18.840 --> 0:17:21.280 I'm not the youngest anymore. He's going to like reading 0:17:21.440 --> 0:17:32.359 books and um, Bryn is won't Britton and the letter 0:17:32.560 --> 0:17:37.160 N Can we talk about that he put the letter? Yeah, 0:17:37.240 --> 0:17:41.640 he refuses to do end the correct way and it's 0:17:41.640 --> 0:17:43.679 not just a little kid thing where he's mixing up 0:17:43.760 --> 0:17:47.320 letters and doing them backwards, you know. And I maybe 0:17:47.400 --> 0:17:50.040 made a mistake by be like, oh hey, they're some 0:17:50.200 --> 0:17:53.480 these papers, these are great work from school. I pretty 0:17:53.560 --> 0:17:56.639 much never correct them on their writing. Like Mayven is 0:17:56.680 --> 0:17:59.840 writing like full words like not like she needs helps 0:18:00.000 --> 0:18:02.639 spelling everything obviously, and she doesn't always know what a 0:18:02.720 --> 0:18:05.040 letter looks like, but you can explain it to her 0:18:05.119 --> 0:18:08.560 and she'll write it. And like it's really unpredictable with 0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:10.200 both of them when they're going to write the whole 0:18:10.240 --> 0:18:12.639 words backwards or when the letters are just going to 0:18:12.680 --> 0:18:15.399 be like strown around the page instead of in a 0:18:15.600 --> 0:18:20.159 in a complete word. But yeah, like she'll start writing 0:18:20.240 --> 0:18:23.560 letters and it'll be like she'll write like right to 0:18:23.680 --> 0:18:26.959 left on the page and going downwards, like it's just 0:18:27.000 --> 0:18:29.560 like where where are these letters following her feelings? But 0:18:29.640 --> 0:18:31.720 I'm every time, I'm just like so impressed that she's 0:18:31.720 --> 0:18:34.080 writing letters, and I'm just like a great job. Has 0:18:34.240 --> 0:18:39.520 much better control of her hands and self. But the 0:18:39.520 --> 0:18:43.520 thing is like with Brin, he will take notes. He 0:18:43.560 --> 0:18:46.200 likes corrections. Like you saw he just wrote the full 0:18:46.200 --> 0:18:48.760 alphabet on this board and you got two of the 0:18:48.840 --> 0:18:51.919 letters backwards, but not so long ago, there'll be more 0:18:52.000 --> 0:18:55.000 of them. And he just has dug in on the 0:18:55.080 --> 0:18:57.639 letter end because it's in his name. And so I 0:18:57.720 --> 0:19:00.880 brought it up like the wrong way once and he's 0:19:00.920 --> 0:19:04.120 just like, I know, I want to do it this way. 0:19:04.200 --> 0:19:05.879 You need to let it go. Let it happen at 0:19:05.920 --> 0:19:09.400 school when his peers bully him. Just let the bullies 0:19:09.640 --> 0:19:14.560 take care of the parenting. Um. The last thing I 0:19:14.560 --> 0:19:17.720 want to talk about is so our kids are not 0:19:17.920 --> 0:19:23.359 super athletic, um, and they never really they don't have 0:19:23.400 --> 0:19:26.000 a lot of practice with just like throwing, you catching, 0:19:26.240 --> 0:19:30.760 because we don't give them that practice, right, but brand 0:19:30.840 --> 0:19:33.480 is suddenly into it. He wants to. We got this 0:19:33.520 --> 0:19:35.880 little like half to play football. It's easy to catch, 0:19:35.920 --> 0:19:38.080 and he's like, let's because he's at after school with 0:19:38.119 --> 0:19:40.320 these other boys and they're all just throwing balls around 0:19:40.640 --> 0:19:43.919 all afternoon. It's true. So we found at sam Ury 0:19:44.000 --> 0:19:48.240 says out back there was these velcrow gloves, you know, 0:19:48.359 --> 0:19:52.040 velcro palette and then the velcro ball. Um, so it's 0:19:52.080 --> 0:19:54.439 easy catch. And so we started doing this and it 0:19:54.520 --> 0:19:59.080 was fun and Brent's throwing was not great and I'm 0:19:59.080 --> 0:20:01.000 trying to coach him, but him also just like just 0:20:01.080 --> 0:20:04.560 let him have fun. And then finally he just drops 0:20:04.600 --> 0:20:07.320 his thing and puts it back on the wrong hand 0:20:08.359 --> 0:20:12.760 and then suddenly he could throw. But just realized he's 0:20:12.760 --> 0:20:15.640 a lefty. Yeah, you know, when he's little, we thought 0:20:15.640 --> 0:20:17.480 he was a lefty. And then he's sort of gravitated 0:20:17.520 --> 0:20:21.600 to his right hand and then he's back Suddenly he's 0:20:21.640 --> 0:20:23.399 just throwing with his left hand and he was great 0:20:23.400 --> 0:20:28.040 at it, and throwing his was awesome. Well, I mean 0:20:28.080 --> 0:20:34.720 these are the things that involved parents. No, Um, yeah, 0:20:35.119 --> 0:20:52.160 he's a lefty, and now it's time for everyone's favorite segment, 0:20:52.800 --> 0:20:57.399 Would you Knows? This is where we posit a parenting 0:20:57.600 --> 0:21:03.400 hypothetical or something just insane to the other to see 0:21:03.520 --> 0:21:07.000 to ask a question Would you know? This one comes 0:21:07.040 --> 0:21:10.520 to us from a listener. UM. Her name is Raina, 0:21:11.200 --> 0:21:13.840 and she says, I'm Rana, mother of two year old 0:21:13.880 --> 0:21:18.280 c c in parentheses Cecilia, and pregnant with baby number two. 0:21:18.680 --> 0:21:22.320 I'm in the bathroom contouring a jawline, only one chin 0:21:22.480 --> 0:21:25.520 and some cheekbones right now, while Paw Patrol is babysitting 0:21:25.520 --> 0:21:27.960 my kid in the living room and he guesses on 0:21:28.000 --> 0:21:30.840 how pregnant I am. Yep, you guessed it. Eight months. 0:21:30.920 --> 0:21:33.040 I'm a little late to the pod, so I've been binging. 0:21:34.359 --> 0:21:37.200 Uh sorry, I've been binging we knows parenting for weeks now, 0:21:37.200 --> 0:21:40.080 prepping for life with two kids and our future looks bright. 0:21:40.240 --> 0:21:44.320 Question mark, ha ha. I live in the coldest place 0:21:44.359 --> 0:21:49.399 on earth, Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada. You'd love it, beth, I 0:21:49.520 --> 0:21:52.280 brought for listeners. Just know that I hate the cold 0:21:52.320 --> 0:21:55.199 so much. Um, She says, I brought my husband here 0:21:55.240 --> 0:21:57.520 four years ago after we lived in the US for 0:21:57.680 --> 0:22:00.560 nine years together. He's from Western New York and constantly 0:22:00.560 --> 0:22:03.160 complains about the cold here. I'd tell him that these 0:22:03.160 --> 0:22:05.440 are the consequences of falling in love with a Canadian? 0:22:06.040 --> 0:22:10.480 Am I right? Uh? Any who? I woke up last 0:22:10.560 --> 0:22:13.040 night at two I am needing to peeper as per usual, 0:22:13.119 --> 0:22:16.359 and the thought of a hypothetical for Peter. Oh, and 0:22:16.400 --> 0:22:19.479 thought about hypothetical to Peter. So here goes Peter. You 0:22:19.520 --> 0:22:22.560 have an audition of a lifetime Tomorrow is a city. 0:22:23.440 --> 0:22:26.560 The role is for an amazing part that would relocate 0:22:26.600 --> 0:22:30.080 the family to sunny l A. Beth is away on 0:22:30.119 --> 0:22:32.480 a girl's trip out of the country and can only 0:22:32.520 --> 0:22:36.240 be reached at certain times of the day. You seamlessly 0:22:36.240 --> 0:22:37.919 put the kids to bed and have a cocktail to 0:22:37.960 --> 0:22:40.679 relax before heading off to bed yourself. You're feeling good 0:22:40.680 --> 0:22:43.760 about the audition tomorrow and fall asleep unmedicated except for 0:22:43.760 --> 0:22:45.880 the booze. Of course, you wake up in the middle 0:22:45.880 --> 0:22:48.600 of the night to the most vivid dream you've ever had. 0:22:49.040 --> 0:22:51.199 Ten year old Brian comes to you and warns you 0:22:51.240 --> 0:22:53.919 not to go to the audition tomorrow. No explanation as 0:22:53.960 --> 0:22:55.680 to why you shouldn't go or what would happen if 0:22:55.680 --> 0:22:58.879 you would go Beth, your spirit guide and sounding board 0:22:59.000 --> 0:23:02.080 is not answering your calls or messages to debrief you 0:23:02.160 --> 0:23:05.320 from this dream. You finally get back to sleep after 0:23:05.359 --> 0:23:08.520 the dream and wake up thinking did that dream really happen? Nah, 0:23:08.680 --> 0:23:11.240 it was just a dream. You're now getting the kids 0:23:11.240 --> 0:23:13.960 ready for school slash daycare. Print is eating breakfast and 0:23:14.040 --> 0:23:16.560 chatting about about stuff five year olds to talk about. 0:23:16.880 --> 0:23:19.919 He says to you, dead in the eye, Daddy, I 0:23:19.960 --> 0:23:22.680 saw you in my dream last night. You've been warned. 0:23:23.280 --> 0:23:26.280 He snaps back to his adorable self and continues talking 0:23:26.280 --> 0:23:28.480 about random ship that five year olds to talk about. 0:23:28.880 --> 0:23:31.240 Is pepper pigs still a thing at age five? We 0:23:31.320 --> 0:23:33.800 don't know. We only have a two year old. What 0:23:33.880 --> 0:23:39.280 do you do? That's a great question. Um. I like 0:23:39.400 --> 0:23:42.159 how this was littered with details of our lives. This 0:23:42.200 --> 0:23:45.600 person is paying closer to person is binging right now. 0:23:46.320 --> 0:23:50.600 This person is binging. What do you do? Peter? What 0:23:50.640 --> 0:23:54.320 do you do? Great? Would hitting all the buttons hitting? 0:23:56.240 --> 0:24:00.840 I'm trying to really put myself in this place and 0:24:00.920 --> 0:24:04.720 to really be honest about what I would do. Can 0:24:04.760 --> 0:24:07.199 I tell a quick story? Is like we I was 0:24:07.320 --> 0:24:11.880 having Um, like many people, I have some anxiety that 0:24:12.359 --> 0:24:16.360 you know, especially happens in moments of stress. And like 0:24:16.520 --> 0:24:19.160 two weeks ago, we were doing like our Friday night 0:24:19.240 --> 0:24:22.240 family dinner thing where we got to eat sometimes, and 0:24:22.480 --> 0:24:23.800 I had had a long day of working. It was 0:24:23.800 --> 0:24:26.000 one of those things where you're like working down to 0:24:26.040 --> 0:24:27.919