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Speaker 1: All right, guys, welcome to give them Laala podcast with

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Speaker 1: Gigi filling in for.

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Speaker 2: La La Kift.

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Speaker 1: Love it already amazing, so my practice paid off.

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Speaker 2: It didn't seem like you got a lot of it,

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Speaker 2: but it worked.

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Speaker 3: Oh that was good. That was good.

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Speaker 4: What's uh? What's how are you feeling? How are you

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Speaker 4: feeling about this? I know you have a little something

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Speaker 4: to say for everyone. We have a little surprise.

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Speaker 1: Oh, we have a huge surprise in the house. Let's

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Speaker 1: give it up for.

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Speaker 2: You are a treasure.

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Speaker 4: You are you are literally you are the best ever.

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Speaker 5: I feel like I should be walking out on like

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Speaker 5: a talk show. I love it.

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Speaker 4: Lala, welcome back to the gift to your podcast. They

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Speaker 4: give them all a podcast. How are you feeling?

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Speaker 5: I feel so bad because I walked in and saw

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Speaker 5: producers and like didn't give them the warmest of welcome.

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Speaker 5: You didn't well, because it just feels like I haven't

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Speaker 5: been gone. Oh and then I realized I haven't been

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Speaker 5: in studio for over a month. And then I came

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Speaker 5: in and gave him a warm Hi. It doesn't feel

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Speaker 5: like we skipped a beat. And here I am, like

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Speaker 5: not pregnant anymore. Two weeks postpart looking amazing, by the way,

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Speaker 5: Oh tell me more.

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Speaker 6: Yes.

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Speaker 5: I went to a parent mixer the other night and

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Speaker 5: the moms were so nice to me, and I was like,

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Speaker 5: I don't have a man, so like, please tell me

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Speaker 5: how hot I am again, like this whole entire night,

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Speaker 5: Just tell me you can't believe I gave birth, you know,

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Speaker 5: like all the things that like usually someone's partner says

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Speaker 5: to them and like, my mom tells me, but like,

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Speaker 5: you guys are hot bitches. Can you also tell me

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Speaker 5: she just.

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Speaker 2: Got thrown under the bus.

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Speaker 7: This is a hot bitch. Looks amazing, she really does.

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Speaker 7: She has the balance back.

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Speaker 5: And there is not a dig at you not being

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Speaker 5: you're a hot bitch, but you're my mom, Like you

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Speaker 5: have to say, like you look great, sweetie.

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Speaker 7: No I don't. I don't have to say anything.

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Speaker 2: That's true.

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Speaker 3: She doesn't have to, but she does.

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Speaker 4: You do look amazing, but your energy seems amazing. Is

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Speaker 4: there a big difference between how are you feeling how

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Speaker 4: you're feeling now two weeks postpartum with Sosa versus how

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Speaker 4: you felt with.

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Speaker 5: Oh, I feel like I was wrecked with oh.

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Speaker 3: Really?

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Speaker 5: Yeah? Because I had never given birth before, it was

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Speaker 5: like such a shock to my body, even though like, yes,

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Speaker 5: they say that just giving birth, like your body knows

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Speaker 5: what to do, right. But Sosa was two pounds heavier

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Speaker 5: than Ocean at birth and two inches longer, and I

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Speaker 5: feel like she the birthing process with her and just

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Speaker 5: like coming home from the hospital and recovering like I'm

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Speaker 5: kind of killing it. They give you pain meds. My

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Speaker 5: Obi was like, how are we on a scale of

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Speaker 5: are we needing like not much? And I was like,

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Speaker 5: I mean, I'm pretty much at a one, and maybe

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Speaker 5: because the hospital was keeping me pretty stable with the

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Speaker 5: pain meds, but dude, I haven't taken them at all.

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Speaker 5: Whereas with Ocean, I was like sobbing, someone put a

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Speaker 5: pain medication inside of me because my vagina feels like

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Speaker 5: it's going to explode all over the walls.

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Speaker 3: Really not to be too grad.

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Speaker 5: You're welcomed, You're welcome, my goodness.

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Speaker 1: No, And you know, I wasn't there for the birthing

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Speaker 1: experience for Ocean in the room right when it happened. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but I was there with Sosa and it was so beautiful.

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Speaker 7: You guys, just was there.

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Speaker 4: It was quite literally, yeah, I want to hear what

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Speaker 4: you both think, because I've never been in the room

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Speaker 4: for a birth and it was life changing. And I'm

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Speaker 4: not even saying that lightly. I was like, oh my god,

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Speaker 7: It was beautiful, golden.

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Speaker 4: And not being there for Oceans inside the room for

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Speaker 4: Ocean's birth was obviously not your choice, but like, yes, yes, yes, yes,

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Speaker 5: No, it it really was. I went in, I was

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Speaker 5: I asked to be induced. A lot of people, I

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Speaker 5: think they kind of just let the baby run the

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Speaker 5: if I go over, like that's the game plan if

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Speaker 5: you want to kickstart labor. I have a night nurse

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Speaker 5: who's also a doula, and so Stocy and I were

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Speaker 5: in constant communication. She's like, if you're done, like, call

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Speaker 5: so and so. She'll have you go through this, that

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Speaker 5: and the other so that it'll kick start labor. And

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Speaker 5: I'm like, no, no, I don't think anyone understands we're

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Speaker 7: Roll with it.

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Speaker 5: But up until what it was my birthday September second,

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Speaker 5: and like she's still not here, I'm not feeling anything like, Okay,

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Speaker 5: the birthing plan is happening the way that it's supposed to.

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Speaker 5: Sosa is a bad a little bad ass. She didn't

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Speaker 5: want to share a birthday with me, so she came

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Speaker 5: the next day. She's September third, which is so wild.

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Speaker 5: I'm like, oh my gosh, my little virgo back to

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Speaker 5: back birthdays. They induced me at what four thirty am.

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Speaker 7: We got there at four, check you in, got you

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Speaker 5: And it was myself, obviously, Jess was there, my mom

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Speaker 5: full of women who I love and adore as I

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Speaker 7: The love of our lives, the second love.

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Speaker 5: The whole thing was like, that's so perfect.

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Speaker 7: No, it was. It was absolutely beautiful.

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Speaker 6: Walking into the room after after Yeah, it was just

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Speaker 6: even the energy was very like it was beautiful walking

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Speaker 5: It was so calm, it was just like feminine energy.

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Speaker 5: I was giving birth to a little girl, knowing that,

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Speaker 5: like I chose to do motherhood by myself. It was

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Speaker 5: moment that I reached out to California Cryo Bank and

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Speaker 5: freaking doing this. And then all the female nurses. It

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Speaker 5: was just like a room full of fucking female forces.

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Speaker 4: Right, it was so beautiful.

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Speaker 3: It was so beautiful.

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Speaker 4: No, we were all on cloud nine.

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Speaker 5: But I will say the most terrifying part was the

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Speaker 5: initial IV that I like basically passed out with with Ocean.

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Speaker 5: I did not pass out with the initial IV.

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Speaker 4: I I walk.

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Speaker 5: In, They're like, so we're gonna start you on potocin first,

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Speaker 5: and I was like, nah, no, no, no, no, na,

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Speaker 5: hail to the nanana. No, no, it's not stupid though, it's

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Speaker 5: to kick start labor. But why would I want you

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Speaker 5: to kick start labor without turning me in the humpty.

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Speaker 7: Dupty first out the pain.

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Speaker 5: I was like, no, we're going to first give me

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Speaker 5: the humpty dubby medicine and you know it is all

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Speaker 5: an epidural.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, And you know.

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Speaker 1: What's so crazy is obviously I gave birth thirty some

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Speaker 4: We walked out of the cheryl and I walked out

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Speaker 2: Yeah question, Yeah.

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Speaker 6: Was it done the same though? Don't makes sense like

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Speaker 6: this sitting, which, sure it was.

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Speaker 1: I didn't see the procedure because obviously I was turned

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Speaker 5: They shove a giant needle into your spine and.

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Speaker 1: Your spine, yeah, I didn't want and I did not

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Speaker 5: A little I can't imagine why dignifying.

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Speaker 4: Did you have any so you said, with the ocean

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Speaker 4: you had, you know, the ivy you passed out. Did

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Speaker 5: With the epidural and the initial just like thing that

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Speaker 5: I want to, So all is good. I don't pass

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Speaker 5: He put me on my back and I was like,

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Speaker 5: my side. He acted unfazed. It happened again, except this

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Speaker 5: time they were like they had me in butterfly position

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Speaker 7: I out. Oh.

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Speaker 5: I remember turning my head because I knew I was

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Speaker 7: It looked like you're having a season.

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Speaker 1: Lisa and I were just fixated and you started your

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Speaker 1: hands started shaking, and.

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Speaker 7: I'm like, we have a problem.

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Speaker 4: We have a problem.

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Speaker 7: We have a problem.

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Speaker 4: Something's wrong, something's very wrong. It was actually, I do

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Speaker 4: have to say, my hand was I've never seen anything

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Speaker 4: like that. My hand was shaking. Actually I've seen it

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Speaker 4: once with Katie, but not throwing up. My hand was shaky.

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Speaker 4: And when Lala, when Lala came to, my hand's shaking

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Speaker 4: under and Lala's like, did I just go out? And

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Speaker 4: I'm like yeah, but it was nothing. It was it

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Speaker 4: was nothing. You're fine.

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Speaker 6: I'm like you, I'm never going in a room to

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Speaker 6: see even my wife. All I'm saying is a Saw movie,

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Speaker 6: the Conjuring. Just a hell hole in that room.

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Speaker 4: Okay, So, but so people understand it was every time

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Speaker 4: you were put on your back, it was just a

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Speaker 4: feeling you had in what like your head, your body.

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Speaker 4: Did you get dizzy.

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Speaker 5: She must Sosa must have been positioned in a way

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Speaker 1: Not We're not mourning people. We're not four o'clock in

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Speaker 4: Yeah, well that's true. I get sick too.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, it's notice and Cheryl does too.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. I was already feeling like I had a headache

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Speaker 9: But they gave you you can clear thing, so they

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Speaker 5: Yeah, No, that was I think one of my biggest concerns.

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Speaker 7: I got a pink drink or whatever.

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Speaker 5: She went to Starbucks, shout out Starbucks multiple multiple times.

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Speaker 4: Just twice, I am exhausted.

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Speaker 5: No, why did she walk in after I had passed out?

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Speaker 5: After I had passed out? Hell of times? My mom

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Speaker 4: I am exhausted. And then a couple of times for

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Speaker 3: We need to sleep, we need to sleep here I am.

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Speaker 5: I'm like, they're coming in every I'm passing out. I've

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Speaker 5: They're coming in to change my bag, my pea bag

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Speaker 7: I just wanted to share with you.

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Speaker 5: Let me tell you something. When a woman is laboring

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Speaker 5: and then I'm being fisted every fifteen minutes.

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Speaker 1: I left and literally you went from a sixth to.

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Speaker 2: What they had.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I keep telling that story.

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, Lisa says to my sister in law.

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Speaker 5: We've got plenty of times. She's got a six.

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Speaker 7: We had a crust snack.

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Speaker 5: They were enjoying a beautiful day and we had it.

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Speaker 2: Up on yourself.

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Speaker 4: You remember that. It was exhausted where Lisa was like, no,

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Speaker 4: And I said, and I was like, She's like, we

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Speaker 7: You guys come treating Starbucks.

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Speaker 5: So that's why Easton, I'm watching. I'm watching Cheryl, my

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Speaker 5: like someone needs to stay back. And my mom could

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Speaker 2: No.

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Speaker 5: I was like, come on, come on, it's gonna be

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Speaker 2: It's my tree.

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Speaker 7: I'm a bribe. It was.

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Speaker 5: It was probably fifteen minutes they had been they had left.

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Speaker 5: The nurse came in. She feels me goes. That's when

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Speaker 5: I mean there were times that the nurse came in

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Speaker 7: Wow. I did not know see me leaving you guys?

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Speaker 7: What's good? Gotcha where you were?

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Speaker 2: Mom?

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Speaker 5: Enough enough out of you?

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Speaker 4: Keep going.

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Speaker 5: So the slightest set of pressure there, accountability, it has

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Speaker 2: His old dog new tricks exactly.

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Speaker 7: But I love you, guys.

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Speaker 5: I love you too. Nurse comes in says, oh, we're there,

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Speaker 7: Isn't that I came? I was exhausted.

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Speaker 4: I think it was either no, no, that's when you

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Speaker 5: Just trotting, meander, meandering.

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Speaker 7: Morning of the third, and y she had to change

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Speaker 5: And she's like, there's a chance that the baby may

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Speaker 5: But everyone gets so excited because our baby's coming. I'm

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Speaker 7: How into the queen position.

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Speaker 5: No, no, no, it's called throne's position.

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Speaker 4: I'm not even like, I'm not being sarcastic. It was

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Speaker 5: Oh, I was fully straight up. I had to hold

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Speaker 5: And she's got the head to prove that.

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Speaker 7: She's beautiful head, the most.

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Speaker 5: Gorgeous head you've ever seen in your life.

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Speaker 7: Round, perfect round, and perfect beautiful.

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Speaker 1: She really is beautiful. And I'll tell you something. The

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Speaker 4: And hey, you're jumping up too far.

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Speaker 5: Oh I haven't reached yet.

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Speaker 7: We were talking about her beautiful head.

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Speaker 5: Mybi my Obie, who is the most fabulous Obie in

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Speaker 4: He is a man.

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Speaker 5: He's a man, a straight man, straight man. He's got

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Speaker 7: I adore that man.

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Speaker 5: I adore him, so tilts me back. Jessica started recording

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Speaker 4: And you guys, I started recording before before the first

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Speaker 4: push correct it.

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Speaker 7: I was.

445
00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:02,520
Speaker 4: I have never been more shocked in my life. I

446
00:22:02,560 --> 00:22:06,280
Speaker 4: thought there was gonna be an hour and thirty minute

447
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:08,679
Speaker 4: long video I did. I thought, you push, and then

448
00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:11,440
Speaker 4: it's like the head is here, and then twenty minutes later,

449
00:22:11,640 --> 00:22:15,280
Speaker 4: the shoulders are on. I didn't understand, but.

450
00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:17,600
Speaker 7: Tell him about when well it.

451
00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:21,720
Speaker 5: Was in the video. It got a little now that

452
00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:23,800
Speaker 5: I know what was going on. I didn't at first,

453
00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:27,880
Speaker 5: but during like my second to last push, he kind

454
00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:30,800
Speaker 5: of stands up really fast and he's fixated on the

455
00:22:30,840 --> 00:22:35,640
Speaker 5: monitor and he's making eyes with the nurse who's reading

456
00:22:35,760 --> 00:22:37,920
Speaker 5: things to him that I clearly don't understand because I'm

457
00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:42,879
Speaker 5: not a doctor, and he looks nervous and I'm like

458
00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:45,760
Speaker 5: he goes, I'm like, is everything okay? And he goes, YEP.

459
00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:48,160
Speaker 5: I just want you to keep pushing. We're gonna keep pushing.

460
00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:49,320
Speaker 5: And I was like, tell me when to go. He's like,

461
00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:52,000
Speaker 5: I want you to go right now. The cord was

462
00:22:52,560 --> 00:22:57,280
Speaker 5: wrapped around her neck a couple of times, and he

463
00:22:57,920 --> 00:23:01,119
Speaker 5: stayed calm because I could see that something was wrong,

464
00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:05,080
Speaker 5: but he didn't let me know that. She comes out,

465
00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:08,439
Speaker 5: they put her on my chest and I go to

466
00:23:08,680 --> 00:23:12,239
Speaker 5: hug her, but you know, embrace my baby. But the

467
00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:14,760
Speaker 5: way that the nurse is acting with the baby and

468
00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:18,440
Speaker 5: she's not crying, she does one cry and then it stops,

469
00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:20,800
Speaker 5: and my hands are freezing. So I'm like, I'm not

470
00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:23,080
Speaker 5: touching her because I don't want to like send her

471
00:23:23,080 --> 00:23:25,639
Speaker 5: into shock. And I keep asking you recorded this. I

472
00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:27,560
Speaker 5: keep asking the nurse is she okay?

473
00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:28,280
Speaker 7: Is she okay?

474
00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:31,680
Speaker 5: And they're like rubbing her chest, sucking things out of

475
00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:36,600
Speaker 5: her mouth. Apparently, for Mama, it was great that she

476
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:39,280
Speaker 5: came out so quickly because I didn't have to push

477
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:42,720
Speaker 5: very many times. But with a fast birth like that,

478
00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:49,040
Speaker 5: she swallowed a lot of fluid, amnionic fluid, to the

479
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:54,400
Speaker 5: point where during our stay in the hospital they were

480
00:23:54,440 --> 00:23:58,640
Speaker 5: going to discharge me the next day. But she had

481
00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:01,480
Speaker 5: so much fluid that she was vomiting all the food

482
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:06,920
Speaker 5: she had. She had an appetite, she was breathing okay,

483
00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:09,919
Speaker 5: like everything seemed. She had her coloring, her tummy was soft.

484
00:24:10,720 --> 00:24:13,159
Speaker 5: But then the nurses come in and they're like, we're

485
00:24:13,160 --> 00:24:15,840
Speaker 5: going There was one time that I think she she

486
00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:18,440
Speaker 5: turned purple because the nurse called in a bunch of

487
00:24:18,480 --> 00:24:20,440
Speaker 5: other nurses. She was freaked out.

488
00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:21,520
Speaker 4: This was the next day.

489
00:24:21,760 --> 00:24:27,320
Speaker 5: This was the next day. She They then bring in

490
00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:32,359
Speaker 5: a specialist and they're like, we want a surgeon to

491
00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:35,520
Speaker 5: look at her, because you know, this isn't normal. And

492
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:39,439
Speaker 5: we've we've we got ten millileters of amniotic fluid out

493
00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:42,720
Speaker 5: of her stomach the first time, then we got another eight,

494
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:46,159
Speaker 5: then we got another however many millileters, and they go

495
00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:48,280
Speaker 5: and now we're draining it through the nose and it

496
00:24:48,320 --> 00:24:53,440
Speaker 5: won't stop. And they said, we're either going to have

497
00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:56,920
Speaker 5: pediatric surgery deal with it, or we want to keep

498
00:24:56,960 --> 00:24:59,240
Speaker 5: her in the nickeo. And so of course I'm beside myself.

499
00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:02,719
Speaker 5: I'm like, what the fuck? I had nothing? But and

500
00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:06,639
Speaker 5: they come in and they're like, what was your pregnancy like?

501
00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:10,639
Speaker 5: And I'm like it was perfect, Like literally.

502
00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:13,120
Speaker 7: They were just kind of perplexed for a minute.

503
00:25:13,160 --> 00:25:15,679
Speaker 5: That they were perplexed. But as someone who's not a

504
00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:17,639
Speaker 5: doctor and I don't know these things, I had a

505
00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:21,680
Speaker 5: beautiful pregnancy. She kicked my ass, she was active every

506
00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:24,359
Speaker 5: there were no concerns, right, there were a ton of

507
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 5: concerns with Ocean, and Ocean went home a healthy baby.

508
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:30,840
Speaker 5: So I'm like what, I started feeling guilty. I'm like,

509
00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:33,720
Speaker 5: what what did I do during this pregnancy that maybe

510
00:25:33,720 --> 00:25:35,919
Speaker 5: I didn't do with Ocean because you do kind of

511
00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:37,760
Speaker 5: ease up on the second pregnancy.

512
00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 4: But I don't understand why they said, what is your

513
00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:43,760
Speaker 4: pregnancy like versus it sounds like it was the labor

514
00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:45,840
Speaker 4: and she came out so fat, Like why does the

515
00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:48,720
Speaker 4: pregnancy have anything? Would have anything to do with that?

516
00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:49,960
Speaker 5: They were perplexed.

517
00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:53,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, I were trying to you know, we've we've pumped

518
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:57,240
Speaker 1: your stomach three times, we put it to you know, down, Yeah,

519
00:25:57,280 --> 00:25:57,840
Speaker 1: what could it be?

520
00:25:58,119 --> 00:25:59,720
Speaker 7: Okay, Okay, Yeah.

521
00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:02,800
Speaker 5: It didn't seem like they were trying to like say

522
00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:05,280
Speaker 5: that I had done something because they even I started

523
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:07,680
Speaker 5: crying and they were like, you did nothing wrong during fright.

524
00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:12,119
Speaker 5: We're just we're a little confused. Cut to they do

525
00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:13,879
Speaker 5: send me home. She's fine.

526
00:26:14,040 --> 00:26:14,399
Speaker 7: They're not.

527
00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:17,119
Speaker 5: They're not concerned anymore. They're like, she's just gonna have to,

528
00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:21,359
Speaker 5: you know, get it up and spit it up.

529
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:27,159
Speaker 6: Change colors, isn't that why used to be like yellow

530
00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:30,359
Speaker 6: and a little it was like Foster me, which is

531
00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:31,359
Speaker 6: like bright yellow.

532
00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:34,920
Speaker 5: Then it was it had blood in it from like.

533
00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:36,800
Speaker 2: Because I remember the nurse side.

534
00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:40,080
Speaker 6: If this still goes on, we have to keep her again,

535
00:26:40,280 --> 00:26:42,720
Speaker 6: but it was easing up when I was there.

536
00:26:42,880 --> 00:26:44,520
Speaker 5: Yes, that's very Do you remember that.

537
00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:48,199
Speaker 4: Do you remember right after you gave birth, like a

538
00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:50,920
Speaker 4: few minutes and they kind of pulled the fluid out.

539
00:26:50,920 --> 00:26:52,600
Speaker 8: Do you remember them showing you how much?

540
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:57,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, out of the thing that was the yellowish fluid.

541
00:26:58,040 --> 00:26:59,920
Speaker 4: Then they took out of her. It was a lot,

542
00:27:00,400 --> 00:27:03,359
Speaker 4: it was a ton. Yeah, So I am surprised. Actually

543
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:06,240
Speaker 4: they didn't keep her for longer, Like that's a great.

544
00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 2: I was surprised, honestly.

545
00:27:07,280 --> 00:27:09,800
Speaker 6: When I was going and back and forth, I was

546
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:11,320
Speaker 6: thinking you were going to be there at least another

547
00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:11,880
Speaker 6: night or two.

548
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:14,199
Speaker 1: I really, well, we were only supposed to stay over

549
00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:16,600
Speaker 1: night and leave, and we actually stayed two nights.

550
00:27:16,720 --> 00:27:18,680
Speaker 6: But and that was your decision. They said you could

551
00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:21,320
Speaker 6: leave or stay another night, or I would.

552
00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 5: Leave the baby, but the baby would stay.

553
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:25,000
Speaker 2: And I'm like, I'm leaving.

554
00:27:25,080 --> 00:27:27,760
Speaker 5: I Am not leaving my baby here while I go

555
00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:32,840
Speaker 5: have a nice sleep at home. First of all, I

556
00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:36,680
Speaker 5: wouldn't have a nice sleep, but like I know, yeah, no,

557
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:40,840
Speaker 5: like this is my cub, my baby, right fuck that noise?

558
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:41,560
Speaker 2: Yeah?

559
00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:44,120
Speaker 4: Yeah? But all yeah, how is she now?

560
00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 5: All is fabulous. She's gained a pound in one week.

561
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:52,400
Speaker 1: Speaking of poundage, I guess the right weight?

562
00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:54,240
Speaker 2: Did you how much?

563
00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 4: Oh?

564
00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:58,119
Speaker 7: We all had a little pot going. Jessica started it.

565
00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:02,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, I thought it was very Yeah said eight point

566
00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:05,159
Speaker 5: three pounds, eight point three pounds, and how many inches?

567
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:05,720
Speaker 4: Did you say?

568
00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 5: Like twenty two?

569
00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:08,720
Speaker 4: No, that wasn't far off, though.

570
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:11,440
Speaker 2: I said twenty one something. Maybe No, I said twenty

571
00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:13,280
Speaker 2: point something point eight or.

572
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:15,960
Speaker 8: Twenty because she was twenty point eight.

573
00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:19,159
Speaker 2: Oh, then I think I said twenty one. He did

574
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 2: the length.

575
00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:24,600
Speaker 1: But I said eight pounds, No, no, seven? Sorry, you

576
00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:28,959
Speaker 1: guys right, I said seven pounds eight ounces, and she

577
00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:32,160
Speaker 1: was she was seven pounds eight ounces right to the money,

578
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:33,159
Speaker 1: I said seven points.

579
00:28:33,600 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 4: I think right to the money. What did you guess?

580
00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:37,480
Speaker 7: You guys?

581
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:38,240
Speaker 4: Seven point two?

582
00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:38,640
Speaker 7: Maybe?

583
00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:41,640
Speaker 5: I think I was at seven three and I did

584
00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 5: like twenty one inches.

585
00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:48,160
Speaker 4: I think timing wise, we were all pretty off, except

586
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:49,840
Speaker 4: she know was close or no.

587
00:28:50,280 --> 00:28:51,960
Speaker 7: I think Ortney was close close.

588
00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 5: Courtney said she was going to come at one am,

589
00:28:54,480 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 5: and she came at ten, which is.

590
00:28:56,960 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 2: Said that that's the closest one.

591
00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:00,520
Speaker 4: I guess like she said eleven.

592
00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:06,320
Speaker 5: Then she was closest we had bets going, and all

593
00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:11,520
Speaker 5: I know is she came out and she was is

594
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:14,440
Speaker 5: the most gorgeous thing I've ever seen in my life.

595
00:29:14,560 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 2: She's a pretty baby.

596
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:19,440
Speaker 5: She is a pretty baby. And I feel like the

597
00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:22,040
Speaker 5: hospital did not have to say that they see a

598
00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 5: lot of babies. I just don't feel like they have to.

599
00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 5: And there were nurses that would come in and do

600
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 5: a double take of my child and say she is beautiful.

601
00:29:34,040 --> 00:29:36,880
Speaker 4: She has these almond eyes like she is.

602
00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:39,440
Speaker 7: She looks like.

603
00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:44,440
Speaker 2: She does she does.

604
00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:46,400
Speaker 5: I'm looking at her and I'm like, you look like

605
00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:50,800
Speaker 5: my my uncle's baby photos, my mom's baby photos. I

606
00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:52,880
Speaker 5: look identical to my mom. So clearly you look like me.

607
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:54,640
Speaker 5: And what's great.

608
00:29:57,400 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 4: Stunning? So clearly she is a ten out of she.

609
00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:08,160
Speaker 5: Looks She's so stunning. She looks just like she is.

610
00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:10,760
Speaker 6: So the best thing was Lauren when she was like

611
00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:13,160
Speaker 6: she was got done breastfeeding her and I walked in

612
00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 6: the house and she goes, I hate it.

613
00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:16,520
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm breastfeeding moll.

614
00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:25,800
Speaker 5: Ther time she opens her eyes and I'm like, is

615
00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:27,440
Speaker 5: literally can.

616
00:30:27,320 --> 00:30:31,240
Speaker 7: I tell you guys, she is so sweet like I have.

617
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:34,840
Speaker 2: Doesn't make trauma from my two.

618
00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:36,720
Speaker 4: Ocean?

619
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:41,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, they were so they were so colicky, and so

620
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:45,360
Speaker 1: I have postpart of trauma, trauma from.

621
00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:48,200
Speaker 4: From the way their health, their looks, their.

622
00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:56,440
Speaker 7: Very beautiful babies. No, I didn't mean for that holicky and.

623
00:30:56,480 --> 00:30:59,640
Speaker 1: So okay, this baby, my fingers are so crossed, but

624
00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:02,360
Speaker 1: so far she's dream baby.

625
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:07,520
Speaker 5: I cannot stop just like kissing this baby. What's different

626
00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:10,640
Speaker 5: between this baby and Ocean. We've spoken about this before,

627
00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:14,840
Speaker 5: but I remember with Ocean I cried a lot, but

628
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:19,520
Speaker 5: not out of sadness, but I couldn't. It was like

629
00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:21,640
Speaker 5: the first baby, and I feel like it was a

630
00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:24,240
Speaker 5: kind of a heavy environment that I went home.

631
00:31:24,040 --> 00:31:27,920
Speaker 7: To with with that environment.

632
00:31:27,760 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 5: Nightmare environment, and I wouldn't wish it upon anybody. This

633
00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 5: baby is like so happy and I sel.

634
00:31:36,720 --> 00:31:40,600
Speaker 1: Calm the environment though you guys, you don't even know

635
00:31:40,680 --> 00:31:43,720
Speaker 1: she's awake, like you'll you'll look at her and she's

636
00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:44,280
Speaker 1: wide awake.

637
00:31:44,480 --> 00:31:45,479
Speaker 2: Just look at her.

638
00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:49,120
Speaker 1: She's so even the night nurses have said how alert

639
00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:51,200
Speaker 1: she is, and you guys, she can pick her head up.

640
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:53,520
Speaker 4: Let's talk about that.

641
00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:56,840
Speaker 5: I told y'all, no, let's talk about it. This baby

642
00:31:56,960 --> 00:32:00,160
Speaker 5: is kicking my ass. She's headbutting my bladder. It feels

643
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:04,120
Speaker 5: like I was like, she's kicking with her heel, like

644
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:06,600
Speaker 5: that's just what it felt like. Okay, she comes out,

645
00:32:07,120 --> 00:32:08,720
Speaker 5: they lay her on my chest for the first time.

646
00:32:09,200 --> 00:32:13,440
Speaker 5: She lifts her head and I'm like, oh my god, no,

647
00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:13,840
Speaker 5: she did.

648
00:32:13,920 --> 00:32:16,600
Speaker 4: We were I was like, oh, something was in the water,

649
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:18,000
Speaker 4: Like she's gonna be.

650
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:18,960
Speaker 3: Like a spider Man of.

651
00:32:18,920 --> 00:32:24,480
Speaker 4: Sorts, truly like a superhero because she literally is minutes

652
00:32:24,560 --> 00:32:28,360
Speaker 4: old and she's just basically walking around the room, is

653
00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:31,120
Speaker 4: what it felt like. She lifted her head like, hey,

654
00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:31,880
Speaker 4: what's up.

655
00:32:32,320 --> 00:32:35,600
Speaker 5: Yeah, it was no, she was headbudding my bladder and

656
00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:37,400
Speaker 5: she does this thing with her feet where she's like

657
00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:42,240
Speaker 5: and she's so stiff, you guys, And Lauren was so stiff.

658
00:32:43,160 --> 00:32:45,760
Speaker 1: Lauren was so stiff as a child, like trying to

659
00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:46,520
Speaker 1: change her diaper.

660
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 7: Good luck.

661
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:50,560
Speaker 4: Can you tell the cute thing, Nolah, you said when

662
00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:53,280
Speaker 4: she came out and you put her on your chest,

663
00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:56,200
Speaker 4: she was literally moving the same way that.

664
00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:59,760
Speaker 5: She was moving identical. There was no difference. I was

665
00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:03,520
Speaker 5: literally looking at the little person that had been living

666
00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:07,280
Speaker 5: inside of me, and she was making the exact same

667
00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:11,080
Speaker 5: movements that she was doing in there, except now she

668
00:33:11,160 --> 00:33:13,400
Speaker 5: was upright, whereas before she was down there.

669
00:33:13,320 --> 00:33:19,080
Speaker 4: And you're like, are you kidding? Can we talk about

670
00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:21,000
Speaker 4: something that I know everyone's going to want to know

671
00:33:21,400 --> 00:33:23,040
Speaker 4: Ocean first meeting her?

672
00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:25,120
Speaker 3: You guys talk about it.

673
00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:28,560
Speaker 7: Ocean is the best big sister, like.

674
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:29,840
Speaker 4: Tell us set the scene?

675
00:33:30,160 --> 00:33:32,040
Speaker 8: Where were you? When did she get to meet her?

676
00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 7: All of it? Yeah.

677
00:33:34,160 --> 00:33:36,440
Speaker 5: I brought her to the hospital because I asked her,

678
00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:38,640
Speaker 5: I said, do you want to meet your baby's sister

679
00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:41,000
Speaker 5: at the hospital because that can be scary for kids.

680
00:33:41,080 --> 00:33:43,160
Speaker 5: Ocean does not like doctors. I said her, do you

681
00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:45,840
Speaker 5: want to wait until mom comes home? And she said

682
00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:48,719
Speaker 5: she wanted to come to the hospital. So Easton brought

683
00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:51,600
Speaker 5: her and she sits on the couch.

684
00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 2: We have ADEO, we have a video.

685
00:33:54,360 --> 00:33:57,320
Speaker 7: But can I tell you to Easton is the best uncle.

686
00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:00,880
Speaker 5: Yes, thank you, we're emotional.

687
00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:02,760
Speaker 3: No, it's beautiful.

688
00:34:02,840 --> 00:34:05,080
Speaker 4: Everyone's gonna want to know if you are comfortable to

689
00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:07,160
Speaker 4: share unless you want to keep it it's a private moment.

690
00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:08,200
Speaker 7: No.

691
00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:13,360
Speaker 5: I think I am able to have such an amazing

692
00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:17,239
Speaker 5: podcast and able to share these things because I'm on

693
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:21,960
Speaker 5: a show that's about my life and these moments weren't captured,

694
00:34:22,080 --> 00:34:24,960
Speaker 5: which you know, I do have my private moments, but

695
00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:28,920
Speaker 5: like you guys are all so supportive for listening to

696
00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:32,440
Speaker 5: the podcast, watching shows, following me on Instagram, like I

697
00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:35,799
Speaker 5: want you guys to be a part of this. But

698
00:34:35,920 --> 00:34:40,160
Speaker 5: she was so sweet and delicate, Oceanise, that when I

699
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:42,960
Speaker 5: put her on, she looks at her and she's she's

700
00:34:43,160 --> 00:34:49,120
Speaker 5: so cute. Look at how little she is, mom. And

701
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:52,000
Speaker 5: that's how the first meeting was. And then it was.

702
00:34:53,560 --> 00:34:56,560
Speaker 4: So suck. Watch me do a backflip.

703
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:02,000
Speaker 5: To the baby, and she's like, I'm gonna take her swimming.

704
00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:05,360
Speaker 4: I'm like, none of we're not taking a swimming.

705
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:08,000
Speaker 2: She wants to go to ball and bounds with her.

706
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:11,600
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, she wants she wants to go down the

707
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:12,640
Speaker 5: slide at candy Land.

708
00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:12,839
Speaker 2: Mom.

709
00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:16,680
Speaker 5: I'm like, she doesn't. She doesn't even know where she

710
00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:17,520
Speaker 5: is right now.

711
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:20,319
Speaker 1: But Sosa, I thought it was really cute because she

712
00:35:20,360 --> 00:35:22,600
Speaker 1: gave her a gift, and I thought that was really so.

713
00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:25,200
Speaker 4: I gave ocean a gift that was aful idea. What's

714
00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:29,360
Speaker 4: together a baby? Oh, another baby?

715
00:35:29,520 --> 00:35:32,120
Speaker 5: A real It looks like a real baby. And if

716
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 5: you were to wake up and a light was on

717
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:35,719
Speaker 5: it in the middle of the night, you may think

718
00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:36,360
Speaker 5: it's going to kill you.

719
00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 4: But it's You may also think it's Summer Moon. Cute,

720
00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:42,319
Speaker 4: it's Summer Moon.

721
00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 7: No, it's no.

722
00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:47,359
Speaker 4: The company may have a lawsuit because they took Summer Moon,

723
00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:51,759
Speaker 4: Summer Moon into an adult. It's like into the baby.

724
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:55,640
Speaker 1: These babies that I bought Lauren as a child American.

725
00:35:56,040 --> 00:35:57,759
Speaker 5: And by the way, it doesn't seem like it's going

726
00:35:57,840 --> 00:35:59,919
Speaker 5: to kill you. It's the cutest baby. It just looks

727
00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:02,799
Speaker 5: so it looks real that if you were to wake

728
00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:05,000
Speaker 5: up and see, you'd be like, there's a baby watching

729
00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:07,440
Speaker 5: me in this room, right, And it's I say it,

730
00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:08,000
Speaker 5: but it's the.

731
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:09,879
Speaker 7: Same brand that I bought her as a child.

732
00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:11,960
Speaker 5: And Ocean breastfeeds it while I breastfeeds.

733
00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:12,399
Speaker 2: So sad.

734
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:14,320
Speaker 7: And then she asked me the other day.

735
00:36:15,360 --> 00:36:18,040
Speaker 5: I asked my mom because I went to, like I

736
00:36:18,080 --> 00:36:21,479
Speaker 5: told you guys, a parent mixer for Ocean School, because

737
00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:23,600
Speaker 5: I needed to feel like a human being. Still, I'm like,

738
00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:26,560
Speaker 5: I need adult interaction. I need to not be covered

739
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:29,760
Speaker 5: and spit up and having my three year old bully

740
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:33,720
Speaker 5: me at bad time. All right, I just needed five minutes.

741
00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:38,440
Speaker 5: So I asked my mom, can you please feed the baby?

742
00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:40,799
Speaker 5: And Ocean looks at her and she's just you have.

743
00:36:40,719 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 7: Milk and your boobies.

744
00:36:41,600 --> 00:36:48,279
Speaker 4: G Ocean is so freaking cute. She's so cute with

745
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:51,000
Speaker 4: the baby. I do have a question though, because everyone

746
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:53,680
Speaker 4: wrote in and remember they warned you. They were like,

747
00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:56,440
Speaker 4: she's gonna act out, just be prepared to have you

748
00:36:56,520 --> 00:36:59,160
Speaker 4: had any moments like that are pretty much pretty good.

749
00:36:59,280 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 5: Here's what it is. Ocean is a firecracker, right, she

750
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:06,279
Speaker 5: is the Ocean. She can be calm one minute and

751
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:09,200
Speaker 5: then the next minute, we've got a rogue wave, duck

752
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:11,520
Speaker 5: and fucking cover wherever you possibly can.

753
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:12,280
Speaker 7: Right.

754
00:37:13,480 --> 00:37:16,719
Speaker 5: So, I think it's less that she's acting out and

755
00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:20,200
Speaker 5: more that I can't designate all my time to just

756
00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 5: her when she goes through those moments. I don't feel

757
00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:28,080
Speaker 5: like she's changed. No, No, it's just more now where

758
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:31,160
Speaker 5: it's like the whole household is having to tap in.

759
00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:33,239
Speaker 5: Like this morning, you should have seen me and Lise.

760
00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:35,760
Speaker 5: I woke up at six point thirty to feed Ocean,

761
00:37:35,760 --> 00:37:37,920
Speaker 5: got in my bed, we got her off to school.

762
00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:41,000
Speaker 5: Thank God for Teti, who drove her to school. The

763
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 5: moment she was out of the house and Sosa was asleep,

764
00:37:45,400 --> 00:37:47,719
Speaker 5: Lisa and I were passing each other on the stairs

765
00:37:47,760 --> 00:37:49,600
Speaker 5: with a basket of laundry.

766
00:37:50,360 --> 00:37:51,640
Speaker 7: It's like in the dishwasher.

767
00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:53,920
Speaker 2: It was like, oh, yeah, we have a minute.

768
00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:56,680
Speaker 1: Life has changed a bedding dress for the day. I

769
00:37:56,760 --> 00:37:58,240
Speaker 1: usually don't even get dressed anymore.

770
00:37:58,320 --> 00:38:00,959
Speaker 2: You don't have time. I've seen it, but he does.

771
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:04,640
Speaker 4: Moms used to say, or moms, I would hear. Moms

772
00:38:04,680 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 4: be like, you don't know how thankful you are to

773
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 4: like just have a moment in the shower. And I

774
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:12,279
Speaker 4: used to be like that is so dramatic, Like what

775
00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:14,120
Speaker 4: do you mean to have a moment in the shower?

776
00:38:14,160 --> 00:38:15,920
Speaker 4: You have kids, like you can get in the shower.

777
00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:19,319
Speaker 4: But from what I hear, Yeah, that's real.

778
00:38:19,520 --> 00:38:22,080
Speaker 7: I'm not even the contacts and I'm doing.

779
00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:26,560
Speaker 6: There was a comedian and he said, when you have kids,

780
00:38:26,880 --> 00:38:29,600
Speaker 6: you have no idea how much you enjoy shutting that

781
00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:33,880
Speaker 6: back door and the quiet walk to your own door

782
00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:37,160
Speaker 6: is like when you're in your car. Wow, I never

783
00:38:37,239 --> 00:38:39,200
Speaker 6: really noticed that. Yeah, Like after I put Ocean in

784
00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 6: the car and I shut her door, I'm like, all right,

785
00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:42,160
Speaker 6: five second.

786
00:38:42,200 --> 00:38:43,880
Speaker 5: It's a.

787
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:50,000
Speaker 7: Kids the best.

788
00:38:50,480 --> 00:38:52,560
Speaker 2: They're just talking all the time.

789
00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:55,000
Speaker 7: No, there's nothing better. Look at me.

790
00:38:55,440 --> 00:38:58,600
Speaker 1: I'm widowed, and what would I where would I be

791
00:38:58,680 --> 00:39:00,120
Speaker 1: if I didn't have these two angels.

792
00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:00,680
Speaker 5: That's true.

793
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:03,239
Speaker 7: I love to.

794
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:04,360
Speaker 2: Say thank you.

795
00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:06,400
Speaker 6: You really are amazing, and I don't we tell you

796
00:39:06,480 --> 00:39:08,319
Speaker 6: all the time, but I have to let everybody else

797
00:39:08,400 --> 00:39:11,200
Speaker 6: know that you really are gold, and thank you for

798
00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:12,920
Speaker 6: just keeping everybody up right.

799
00:39:13,320 --> 00:39:13,879
Speaker 2: You're the rock.

800
00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 7: I really do. But kids are a treasure.

801
00:39:16,960 --> 00:39:17,880
Speaker 3: Kids are a treasure.

802
00:39:17,960 --> 00:39:20,600
Speaker 5: But again, if you don't want them, no judgment.

803
00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:21,960
Speaker 6: It is.

804
00:39:22,440 --> 00:39:24,320
Speaker 7: I have a friend that never had kids, you guys.

805
00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:26,360
Speaker 7: She and her husband, they travel the countryside.

806
00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:29,719
Speaker 5: They okay.

807
00:39:29,840 --> 00:39:31,640
Speaker 4: See, this is why it's so funny because every time

808
00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:33,440
Speaker 4: I talk to and I know that's not what this is,

809
00:39:33,480 --> 00:39:36,640
Speaker 4: but they're like, you know, I don't get sleep. I

810
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:40,480
Speaker 4: am I haven't showered in weeks. I uh, you know,

811
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:44,440
Speaker 4: am miserable. But kids are just a treasure. Oh my god, but.

812
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:45,360
Speaker 2: That sounds selfish.

813
00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:47,759
Speaker 6: Every time I see people like I don't want kids,

814
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:49,640
Speaker 6: I'm like, you are a selfish motherfucker?

815
00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:50,280
Speaker 4: Really?

816
00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:52,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I need sleep, I want to do what

817
00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:52,440
Speaker 2: I want.

818
00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:54,960
Speaker 1: It's like, okay, and then your kids give you these

819
00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:56,360
Speaker 1: beautiful grandkids.

820
00:39:56,640 --> 00:39:59,479
Speaker 4: See see that might be me though, you guys, maybe

821
00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:02,319
Speaker 4: I'll be this selfish auntie because I've got so I've

822
00:40:02,320 --> 00:40:03,240
Speaker 4: got oh, I've.

823
00:40:03,120 --> 00:40:04,760
Speaker 5: Got Carter now, like I've got.

824
00:40:04,560 --> 00:40:05,320
Speaker 4: So many babies.

825
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:08,799
Speaker 5: I'm like, you got three kids, and you get like

826
00:40:08,840 --> 00:40:10,600
Speaker 5: the best part, Like when they act up, you don't

827
00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:13,800
Speaker 5: have to deal with it, when they discover their private.

828
00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:15,600
Speaker 2: Part, you don't have to deal with that.

829
00:40:15,719 --> 00:40:18,080
Speaker 4: I grabbed my person.

830
00:40:18,320 --> 00:40:20,319
Speaker 2: That's a that's a mama talk.

831
00:40:22,360 --> 00:40:26,120
Speaker 5: Who I will say, if you don't want like the

832
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:28,520
Speaker 5: women who come to me and they're like, I just

833
00:40:28,560 --> 00:40:30,320
Speaker 5: don't know if I want kids, I'm like, then don't

834
00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:30,680
Speaker 5: have them.

835
00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:31,600
Speaker 7: You need to know.

836
00:40:32,160 --> 00:40:34,799
Speaker 5: You it's if you if you feel like you want

837
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:37,680
Speaker 5: kids but you're waiting to be ready, you'll never be ready.

838
00:40:37,760 --> 00:40:40,799
Speaker 5: But if you don't know, don't do it right.

839
00:40:41,120 --> 00:40:44,600
Speaker 4: Okay, So in this on that note, do you feel

840
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:47,000
Speaker 4: that it seems you do the one is What do

841
00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:49,520
Speaker 4: you think about the statement one is one, two is twenty?

842
00:40:50,400 --> 00:40:53,080
Speaker 5: I think because I prepared myself so many people were

843
00:40:53,120 --> 00:40:56,640
Speaker 5: like saying things like that or two kids is no

844
00:40:56,800 --> 00:41:00,640
Speaker 5: joke that I prepared myself for it to be really hard,

845
00:41:00,680 --> 00:41:03,160
Speaker 5: and I know that those moments are gonna come where

846
00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:06,200
Speaker 5: it's like this is unbearable. I think we've got a

847
00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:09,560
Speaker 5: good system where we can pass. Like Lisa was at

848
00:41:09,560 --> 00:41:11,239
Speaker 5: her wits end last night. I could feel it.

849
00:41:11,760 --> 00:41:15,040
Speaker 1: Well, she was get done home and we tried to

850
00:41:15,040 --> 00:41:18,759
Speaker 1: put her to bed and she spills water all over

851
00:41:18,800 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 1: her bed.

852
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:20,200
Speaker 2: Well, no, you gotta say.

853
00:41:20,280 --> 00:41:26,520
Speaker 6: She gets into her backpack for today, last night, lunch

854
00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:27,160
Speaker 6: for tomorrow.

855
00:41:27,520 --> 00:41:31,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, she isn't me, that is that is me. She

856
00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:32,440
Speaker 4: got I am her.

857
00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:34,759
Speaker 1: She got in and got the seaweed and then all

858
00:41:34,760 --> 00:41:36,800
Speaker 1: of a sudden, I hear bawling and she's.

859
00:41:36,680 --> 00:41:38,439
Speaker 4: Like bite.

860
00:41:39,400 --> 00:41:41,840
Speaker 5: And we're like, wow, what are you doing that? You

861
00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:44,040
Speaker 5: would bite your tongue at ten pm?

862
00:41:44,400 --> 00:41:45,080
Speaker 4: Go to bed.

863
00:41:45,400 --> 00:41:47,439
Speaker 7: No, she kept coming out, and then she'd come out

864
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:49,240
Speaker 7: last night. What was she saying?

865
00:41:49,360 --> 00:41:51,759
Speaker 5: It's really cute because we put her to bed and

866
00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:55,040
Speaker 5: then we watched shows and then like there and she'll

867
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:58,560
Speaker 5: cut all seriously and she mom, I really like that

868
00:41:58,719 --> 00:42:01,840
Speaker 5: sounds that song. And I'm like, I'll download it and

869
00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:03,480
Speaker 5: we'll listen to it on the way to school tomorrow.

870
00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:06,040
Speaker 1: Like a bad monkey. She or, no, not bad monkey.

871
00:42:06,120 --> 00:42:07,440
Speaker 1: It was perfect couple.

872
00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:10,000
Speaker 7: Every couple she saw the theme song of That and

873
00:42:10,040 --> 00:42:11,359
Speaker 7: the Criminals.

874
00:42:10,920 --> 00:42:13,400
Speaker 5: By Megan Trainer. She's obsessed. She'd come out of her

875
00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:13,920
Speaker 5: room like this.

876
00:42:14,320 --> 00:42:16,840
Speaker 2: Oh, no, is that why she likes the criminal thing.

877
00:42:16,920 --> 00:42:20,680
Speaker 6: She's always like, you're going to jail, jail, you were bad,

878
00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:21,720
Speaker 6: You're going to jail.

879
00:42:21,760 --> 00:42:24,080
Speaker 1: I love it, Can I tell you? We put her

880
00:42:24,080 --> 00:42:26,839
Speaker 1: in her jammy, She got in bed. Then she comes

881
00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:31,959
Speaker 1: out in a full princess Tiara high yells the whole

882
00:42:32,040 --> 00:42:35,759
Speaker 1: nine yards, telling us she loves the song and dancing.

883
00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:39,320
Speaker 5: I was telling mom, we got to take the toys

884
00:42:39,320 --> 00:42:39,919
Speaker 5: out of her room.

885
00:42:40,960 --> 00:42:43,560
Speaker 7: Oh, because I wanted her. I was stacked with toys

886
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:44,919
Speaker 7: and books. There's no place for her.

887
00:42:45,200 --> 00:42:47,359
Speaker 1: So then last night she spills the water all over

888
00:42:47,360 --> 00:42:49,920
Speaker 1: the bed, Like, did you do this on purpose so

889
00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:52,080
Speaker 1: you can get in my bed or your mom's bed?

890
00:42:52,239 --> 00:42:52,839
Speaker 7: Or was this?

891
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:54,040
Speaker 5: She's so smart.

892
00:42:54,080 --> 00:42:55,200
Speaker 4: I wouldn't put that past her.

893
00:42:55,400 --> 00:42:56,240
Speaker 7: She's so smart.

894
00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 5: No, she did chilled on purpose.

895
00:42:58,239 --> 00:43:00,239
Speaker 6: No, she did because I know this because and I

896
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:02,280
Speaker 6: was watching her when you were in the hospital.

897
00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:05,200
Speaker 2: She will grab her water and put the lid on.

898
00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:09,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, she did it five six times, so yeah, No,

899
00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:13,040
Speaker 1: she ended up sleeping with me, and then she trotted

900
00:43:13,080 --> 00:43:14,359
Speaker 1: it too her mother's room.

901
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:15,640
Speaker 7: At what six.

902
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:16,840
Speaker 4: She trotted six?

903
00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:19,160
Speaker 5: What was I had just fed? So it was probably

904
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:23,640
Speaker 5: three oh three okay, three yourself. Yeah, she was, mom,

905
00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:24,960
Speaker 5: you need to cuddle me.

906
00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:28,640
Speaker 7: No, but this is what happened. You came down into

907
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:30,560
Speaker 7: my room and you tried to turn her.

908
00:43:31,719 --> 00:43:36,360
Speaker 5: Oh, make it so my child doesn't slide off the bed.

909
00:43:38,080 --> 00:43:42,799
Speaker 5: She was like schowamp. Her feet were like off. So

910
00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:45,960
Speaker 5: I turned her vertically and then she woke up and

911
00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:49,520
Speaker 5: put her head on what's called a pillow. She moves

912
00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:52,359
Speaker 5: a lot, and Lisa goes, well, that's why she came

913
00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:53,239
Speaker 5: in and moved her.

914
00:43:53,320 --> 00:43:55,360
Speaker 2: I was like, I did.

915
00:43:58,080 --> 00:43:58,719
Speaker 4: I did.

916
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:02,600
Speaker 7: Her so much. That's just so. I was just angry

917
00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:03,480
Speaker 7: that you took her from me.

918
00:44:03,520 --> 00:44:06,279
Speaker 5: I'm kidding, No, it was I got it though. You

919
00:44:06,320 --> 00:44:09,120
Speaker 5: weren't like you weren't mad, but you were ready for bed.

920
00:44:09,160 --> 00:44:11,160
Speaker 5: It was like we had tried to put her down

921
00:44:11,560 --> 00:44:14,960
Speaker 5: for like three hours. It was like enough already. And

922
00:44:14,960 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 5: then I'm thinking we'll clean out the toys. But then

923
00:44:17,080 --> 00:44:18,839
Speaker 5: she keeps putting on her clothes. I'm like, I'm gonna

924
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:19,920
Speaker 5: have to clear out the whole closet.

925
00:44:21,040 --> 00:44:24,480
Speaker 4: She's so this is such to me, such a good sign,

926
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:29,280
Speaker 4: because she's so imaginative. She is up, she's thinking, she's playing.

927
00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:32,200
Speaker 4: She's not like head in the iPad up.

928
00:44:33,480 --> 00:44:33,920
Speaker 2: Creative.

929
00:44:34,920 --> 00:44:38,399
Speaker 5: Let's just say this. When I went to this get

930
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:40,839
Speaker 5: together at her school where they had a bunch of

931
00:44:41,080 --> 00:44:45,480
Speaker 5: people come in to talk about elementary school, my first

932
00:44:46,040 --> 00:44:49,680
Speaker 5: question was, are you more academic or are you more creative?

933
00:44:50,080 --> 00:44:51,239
Speaker 5: My kids are creative?

934
00:44:52,440 --> 00:44:54,719
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I think that's going to be more academic.

935
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:55,200
Speaker 2: Yeah.

936
00:44:55,239 --> 00:44:56,640
Speaker 5: We'll see.

937
00:44:59,160 --> 00:45:00,680
Speaker 2: Though she will be Will.

938
00:45:03,680 --> 00:45:06,560
Speaker 4: Can I ask law? Because I know some people have

939
00:45:06,640 --> 00:45:11,959
Speaker 4: asked and ask society would consider you a single mom,

940
00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:13,960
Speaker 4: even though I know you don't say that because you

941
00:45:14,040 --> 00:45:15,040
Speaker 4: have you know.

942
00:45:15,400 --> 00:45:16,120
Speaker 2: Age.

943
00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:18,080
Speaker 5: Do you have.

944
00:45:18,520 --> 00:45:21,080
Speaker 8: Are you comfortable talking about the help you have right now?

945
00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:21,799
Speaker 4: If any?

946
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:22,160
Speaker 7: Yes?

947
00:45:22,239 --> 00:45:22,760
Speaker 3: Of course.

948
00:45:22,920 --> 00:45:24,960
Speaker 5: I think it's important to talk about the help that

949
00:45:25,080 --> 00:45:27,840
Speaker 5: you have. And I also think it's important for moms

950
00:45:27,880 --> 00:45:30,160
Speaker 5: to know that when you are at your wits end,

951
00:45:30,320 --> 00:45:32,799
Speaker 5: if you need to tap in a friend and you

952
00:45:32,880 --> 00:45:35,520
Speaker 5: say it's too much for me, I need a moment

953
00:45:35,560 --> 00:45:37,440
Speaker 5: and a break to not feel guilty. Even if your

954
00:45:37,440 --> 00:45:40,880
Speaker 5: baby is two weeks old and it's new and you're like,

955
00:45:40,920 --> 00:45:43,400
Speaker 5: how do I already need a break? You need a break?

956
00:45:44,560 --> 00:45:46,400
Speaker 1: Like and it's okay to ask, and it's okay to

957
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:47,759
Speaker 1: ask for help.

958
00:45:47,920 --> 00:45:50,000
Speaker 5: It's also okay to be like wow, I have this

959
00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:52,200
Speaker 5: beautiful new baby. Why am I not happy?

960
00:45:52,520 --> 00:45:55,440
Speaker 2: Put your put your oxygen mask on first.

961
00:45:55,880 --> 00:45:59,439
Speaker 5: Yes, before helping others. If you have just given birth

962
00:45:59,480 --> 00:46:02,480
Speaker 5: and you're like, why am I not connecting? Why do

963
00:46:02,600 --> 00:46:05,799
Speaker 5: I not feel happy? Because you just gave birth to

964
00:46:05,880 --> 00:46:07,879
Speaker 5: a human and it's a lot and there's a lot

965
00:46:07,880 --> 00:46:12,240
Speaker 5: of hormones happening and chemical imbalances. It's all good. Reach

966
00:46:12,280 --> 00:46:15,319
Speaker 5: out and talk to somebody about it. The help that

967
00:46:15,480 --> 00:46:19,279
Speaker 5: I have, I obviously have my brother Easton. I have

968
00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:23,319
Speaker 5: my mom, who's a tremendous amount of help. I am

969
00:46:23,480 --> 00:46:26,799
Speaker 5: fortunate enough to have been able to bring on a

970
00:46:26,880 --> 00:46:30,160
Speaker 5: night nurse who takes care of Sosa three nights a

971
00:46:30,160 --> 00:46:32,040
Speaker 5: week so that I can get some sleep and I

972
00:46:32,080 --> 00:46:35,279
Speaker 5: only have to wake up to pump. Right now, I

973
00:46:35,400 --> 00:46:38,480
Speaker 5: have a doula that I'm fortunate enough to bring in

974
00:46:38,520 --> 00:46:41,040
Speaker 5: so that I can be here in podcasts with you guys.

975
00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:44,440
Speaker 4: What's a doula like a nanny or like an infant

976
00:46:44,520 --> 00:46:45,320
Speaker 4: nanny or something.

977
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:48,839
Speaker 5: A doula is someone she's trained as a night nurse

978
00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:51,600
Speaker 5: as well, but adula is someone that you bring on

979
00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:54,160
Speaker 5: and it's you can bring them on from the time

980
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:56,400
Speaker 5: you get pregnant. They kind of help you through your

981
00:46:56,440 --> 00:47:01,919
Speaker 5: pregnancy in this stage of motherhood and baby's life. There

982
00:47:02,719 --> 00:47:05,680
Speaker 5: they're professionals on right, Like and nanny I would bring

983
00:47:05,719 --> 00:47:09,360
Speaker 5: on when my child's a little bit older. Nan Ocean's

984
00:47:09,400 --> 00:47:14,239
Speaker 5: first nanny was when she was four months. So a

985
00:47:14,360 --> 00:47:17,120
Speaker 5: doula is just someone who's like really trained on the

986
00:47:17,120 --> 00:47:20,400
Speaker 5: beginning stages of motherhood and baby's life.

987
00:47:20,680 --> 00:47:24,360
Speaker 7: Okay, and your night nurse helps to sleep train.

988
00:47:24,840 --> 00:47:29,640
Speaker 5: Yep, sleep train, get you, get me, sleep washes the pump,

989
00:47:29,760 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 5: put sit outside my door so that I can just

990
00:47:32,120 --> 00:47:35,520
Speaker 5: wake up feed. I send her a text milk's ready,

991
00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:39,800
Speaker 5: she grabs it. I have. Again, I'm fortunate enough to

992
00:47:39,920 --> 00:47:43,120
Speaker 5: have the help that I have. And that's why when

993
00:47:43,160 --> 00:47:45,360
Speaker 5: I say I'm a single mom, I don't really feel

994
00:47:45,400 --> 00:47:49,279
Speaker 5: great about using that because I know single moms who

995
00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:51,359
Speaker 5: are working two three jobs and I.

996
00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:53,719
Speaker 7: Don't know how single moms do what they do.

997
00:47:54,000 --> 00:47:58,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, super like, No, they're superheroes, they really are. Yeah, truly,

998
00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:04,880
Speaker 5: I'm am in the sense that I'm a single income household,

999
00:48:04,960 --> 00:48:07,279
Speaker 5: which there are many moms who do that, and that's

1000
00:48:07,320 --> 00:48:10,759
Speaker 5: why I think they consider me a single parent. In

1001
00:48:10,800 --> 00:48:15,240
Speaker 5: the state of California, but I don't feel that way. Yeah,

1002
00:48:15,320 --> 00:48:17,560
Speaker 5: I feel like you have a lot of support. Yeah,

1003
00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:19,160
Speaker 5: I don't feel that way. I do have a lot

1004
00:48:19,160 --> 00:48:19,640
Speaker 5: of support.

1005
00:48:20,120 --> 00:48:20,520
Speaker 7: Yeah.

1006
00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:22,840
Speaker 4: No, thank you for being like open and honest with that,

1007
00:48:22,960 --> 00:48:25,919
Speaker 4: because that is like something I definitely realized. I think

1008
00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:28,719
Speaker 4: as a nanny too. It is just like, oh, interesting

1009
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:31,880
Speaker 4: to see, you know, as a nanny years ago, like

1010
00:48:32,640 --> 00:48:35,840
Speaker 4: these certain families who get a lot of help, even

1011
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:39,080
Speaker 4: the single moms and single parents versus maybe a friend

1012
00:48:39,080 --> 00:48:41,799
Speaker 4: of mine who just had a baby but got a

1013
00:48:41,840 --> 00:48:45,279
Speaker 4: divorce and like what she's So it's everyone's on.

1014
00:48:45,400 --> 00:48:47,360
Speaker 8: You know, there's a whole spectrum. But thank you for

1015
00:48:47,400 --> 00:48:48,040
Speaker 8: talking about it.

1016
00:48:48,080 --> 00:48:51,520
Speaker 1: And I think postpudent depression needs to be talked about

1017
00:48:51,640 --> 00:48:52,799
Speaker 1: a lot because I.

1018
00:48:52,880 --> 00:48:53,680
Speaker 7: Suffered from it.

1019
00:48:54,320 --> 00:48:58,080
Speaker 1: And you're taking your placenta pills, yeah, and that wasn't

1020
00:48:58,120 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 1: a thing.

1021
00:48:58,400 --> 00:48:59,920
Speaker 7: When I was going through mine.

1022
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:02,440
Speaker 5: No, And a lot of a lot of people wrote

1023
00:49:02,440 --> 00:49:05,759
Speaker 5: in and they were very anti. And this is me

1024
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:09,840
Speaker 5: letting you know my experience with taking my placenta in

1025
00:49:10,719 --> 00:49:16,000
Speaker 5: a capsule form, I have noticed it helps me tremendously.

1026
00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:20,359
Speaker 5: At the beginning of this pregnancy or birth, I was

1027
00:49:20,840 --> 00:49:24,239
Speaker 5: sobbing a lot and my mom would say, she's been

1028
00:49:24,239 --> 00:49:26,000
Speaker 5: the one that's telling me like, did you take your

1029
00:49:26,040 --> 00:49:29,759
Speaker 5: placenta pills? Cares for care, far, cares far.

1030
00:49:30,400 --> 00:49:31,160
Speaker 2: But I liked it.

1031
00:49:33,160 --> 00:49:36,919
Speaker 1: I lived postpartum depression, I wrote firsthand.

1032
00:49:37,320 --> 00:49:41,440
Speaker 5: So from my age rough I cannot even imagine. So

1033
00:49:41,560 --> 00:49:45,759
Speaker 5: from my experience, it has helped me a lot. When

1034
00:49:45,760 --> 00:49:48,919
Speaker 5: I feel like my mood is plummeting and I'm kind

1035
00:49:48,960 --> 00:49:51,919
Speaker 5: of going, why am I feeling this way? I get

1036
00:49:51,920 --> 00:49:56,440
Speaker 5: to like, chill with my baby and live a beautiful life.

1037
00:49:56,560 --> 00:50:00,480
Speaker 5: If you're feeling depressed, I mean, I wreck amend you

1038
00:50:00,520 --> 00:50:03,600
Speaker 5: reach out to a doctor, but I would not like

1039
00:50:04,040 --> 00:50:09,160
Speaker 5: shit on taking your your placenta home or having someone encapsulated.

1040
00:50:09,400 --> 00:50:12,360
Speaker 4: My sister did not do it, and she did regret it,

1041
00:50:12,400 --> 00:50:15,680
Speaker 4: and she would be fine with me focusing or mentioning that.

1042
00:50:15,920 --> 00:50:18,560
Speaker 4: Speaking of placenta, though, I will mention I handled Lalla's

1043
00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:19,440
Speaker 4: plica like.

1044
00:50:20,560 --> 00:50:22,759
Speaker 5: No, no, no, but I feel can I tell you if

1045
00:50:22,800 --> 00:50:26,319
Speaker 5: I were more together? But I had just had the baby.

1046
00:50:26,000 --> 00:50:27,920
Speaker 2: And I was and I was exhausted.

1047
00:50:29,920 --> 00:50:34,480
Speaker 5: But over looking over at you do that. I after

1048
00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:37,840
Speaker 5: I got some sleep, I was like, I cannot believe

1049
00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:40,600
Speaker 5: I allowed Jessica to do that.

1050
00:50:40,440 --> 00:50:42,080
Speaker 4: What are you talking about? I felt like such a

1051
00:50:42,120 --> 00:50:45,000
Speaker 4: bad bitch. They were like you. So basically, what I

1052
00:50:45,080 --> 00:50:47,760
Speaker 4: understand is I don't think that the hospital can only

1053
00:50:48,239 --> 00:50:51,319
Speaker 4: handle your placenta to a certain extent. They can't put

1054
00:50:51,360 --> 00:50:53,839
Speaker 4: it in the coolers and stuff because that's for the

1055
00:50:54,400 --> 00:50:59,879
Speaker 4: company that does the placenta capsules. So the nurse was like, yeah,

1056
00:50:59,880 --> 00:51:02,000
Speaker 4: we can only do this. So I put the gloves on,

1057
00:51:02,160 --> 00:51:04,840
Speaker 4: I got the placenta out of the pan, dumped it into.

1058
00:51:04,719 --> 00:51:06,839
Speaker 3: Where it needed to be. It looked like, you know,

1059
00:51:06,920 --> 00:51:08,640
Speaker 3: like meats and.

1060
00:51:08,560 --> 00:51:12,040
Speaker 7: A sausage painting roast.

1061
00:51:13,760 --> 00:51:15,399
Speaker 4: And I dumped it on in and I said, oh,

1062
00:51:15,440 --> 00:51:19,480
Speaker 4: there's a lot on dumped it ruller and then we

1063
00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:22,000
Speaker 4: filled it. We put ice around it, and it was.

1064
00:51:22,280 --> 00:51:23,319
Speaker 7: And then got picked up.

1065
00:51:23,440 --> 00:51:24,719
Speaker 3: I was pretending I was.

1066
00:51:24,640 --> 00:51:25,680
Speaker 4: In Rai's Anatomy.

1067
00:51:25,760 --> 00:51:27,760
Speaker 8: I was in such a scene. I was like putting

1068
00:51:27,800 --> 00:51:28,960
Speaker 8: the gloves on, washing the.

1069
00:51:28,920 --> 00:51:31,439
Speaker 2: Hands, I giving rat Race with the heart.

1070
00:51:32,840 --> 00:51:35,640
Speaker 8: I don't even remember that seed, but yet.

1071
00:51:37,239 --> 00:51:42,080
Speaker 5: I love that movie. No, the placenta pills are everything.

1072
00:51:42,200 --> 00:51:45,800
Speaker 5: I recommend if.

1073
00:51:45,680 --> 00:51:48,800
Speaker 6: You don't sort to interrupt, If you don't do placenta pills,

1074
00:51:48,800 --> 00:51:52,120
Speaker 6: is there another alternate route you could take?

1075
00:51:52,239 --> 00:51:54,440
Speaker 5: You can take it home and like eat it as

1076
00:51:54,560 --> 00:51:58,360
Speaker 5: you turn it into for postpartum depression. Well yeah, just

1077
00:51:58,400 --> 00:51:59,960
Speaker 5: for we're postpartum depression.

1078
00:52:00,160 --> 00:52:02,120
Speaker 7: I am elve shots, that's what I like.

1079
00:52:02,120 --> 00:52:05,040
Speaker 6: If you don't eat, like, if you disregard your placenta

1080
00:52:05,120 --> 00:52:07,680
Speaker 6: like that, like what do like.

1081
00:52:09,360 --> 00:52:09,720
Speaker 7: Shots?

1082
00:52:09,800 --> 00:52:13,000
Speaker 1: And then they also can put you on depression medication,

1083
00:52:13,120 --> 00:52:16,040
Speaker 1: which I opted against because I was too afraid.

1084
00:52:16,320 --> 00:52:18,759
Speaker 5: But you said now because it was a different day.

1085
00:52:18,840 --> 00:52:21,080
Speaker 5: In fact, then you said now, you would have done

1086
00:52:21,120 --> 00:52:25,520
Speaker 5: that right. And I am saying it is not proven

1087
00:52:25,680 --> 00:52:32,400
Speaker 5: that the placenta pills cure or help your postpartum depression

1088
00:52:32,440 --> 00:52:34,879
Speaker 5: if you suffer from that. I am talking about from

1089
00:52:34,920 --> 00:52:38,600
Speaker 5: my personal experience, it has helped level me out. Whether

1090
00:52:38,680 --> 00:52:40,359
Speaker 5: that's scientifically proven or.

1091
00:52:40,320 --> 00:52:44,480
Speaker 2: Not, placebo effect or whatever is, it helps.

1092
00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:49,279
Speaker 5: So I'm saying, reach out to somebody, a professional if

1093
00:52:49,320 --> 00:52:50,520
Speaker 5: you are struggling.

1094
00:52:50,200 --> 00:52:53,279
Speaker 7: Even a friend. You guys like, make it known. I'm

1095
00:52:53,320 --> 00:52:55,120
Speaker 7: struggling today. I need help.

1096
00:52:55,440 --> 00:52:56,680
Speaker 5: I know that it will pass.

1097
00:52:56,920 --> 00:52:58,240
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1098
00:52:59,000 --> 00:53:03,480
Speaker 5: Yeah, I am so happy that she is here. And

1099
00:53:03,560 --> 00:53:09,080
Speaker 5: I will say, already she's she's two weeks and I'm

1100
00:53:09,200 --> 00:53:12,560
Speaker 5: not entirely sure that I'm done.

1101
00:53:14,960 --> 00:53:16,200
Speaker 2: She told me she was done.

1102
00:53:17,360 --> 00:53:19,319
Speaker 1: I know she brought her first, brought her home, and

1103
00:53:19,320 --> 00:53:22,120
Speaker 1: I said too early to tell, too early.

1104
00:53:22,000 --> 00:53:23,480
Speaker 4: You really think you could have another?

1105
00:53:23,800 --> 00:53:27,120
Speaker 5: I'm I just like love the whole thing.

1106
00:53:28,080 --> 00:53:30,560
Speaker 7: Well, and she's like she's born to have kids.

1107
00:53:30,600 --> 00:53:34,359
Speaker 1: Hello, bounce back. Yeah, the whole pregnancy. Like you, you're

1108
00:53:34,400 --> 00:53:36,080
Speaker 1: really blessed. You really are well.

1109
00:53:36,120 --> 00:53:36,600
Speaker 7: Thank you.

1110
00:53:36,800 --> 00:53:40,359
Speaker 5: Beyond that, I just enjoy it. They give me so much.

1111
00:53:40,800 --> 00:53:46,359
Speaker 7: Mama too, you are the best mom. You're beautiful at

1112
00:53:46,360 --> 00:53:46,839
Speaker 7: what you do.

1113
00:53:47,080 --> 00:53:50,839
Speaker 2: Like I wish everybody could see how great you are.

1114
00:53:51,960 --> 00:53:52,399
Speaker 7: Thank you.

1115
00:53:52,560 --> 00:53:56,640
Speaker 5: I think I'm glad that no one gets to see

1116
00:53:56,680 --> 00:53:58,360
Speaker 5: that part because it's so special.

1117
00:53:59,360 --> 00:54:00,680
Speaker 4: I like, I love it.

1118
00:54:00,880 --> 00:54:01,520
Speaker 7: I love Lalla.

1119
00:54:01,680 --> 00:54:04,040
Speaker 1: She'll have like the baby on the boob and then

1120
00:54:04,080 --> 00:54:07,080
Speaker 1: she's fixing oceans.

1121
00:54:07,200 --> 00:54:09,080
Speaker 7: It's really beautiful to I.

1122
00:54:09,000 --> 00:54:11,040
Speaker 2: Love seeing my sister in that position. It really is

1123
00:54:11,080 --> 00:54:12,120
Speaker 2: amazing and beautiful.

1124
00:54:12,440 --> 00:54:13,080
Speaker 4: Thank you, of.

1125
00:54:13,080 --> 00:54:13,879
Speaker 3: Course, best mom.

1126
00:54:13,920 --> 00:54:16,480
Speaker 4: I'm so happy from the best mama A.

1127
00:54:17,840 --> 00:54:20,279
Speaker 7: Guys, Yeah, yeah, I'm very proud of you.

1128
00:54:20,440 --> 00:54:23,399
Speaker 4: Were so welcome to the world. Miss so suck.

1129
00:54:24,960 --> 00:54:25,799
Speaker 7: I love it.

1130
00:54:26,480 --> 00:54:27,880
Speaker 5: Should we do ache and Relief?

1131
00:54:28,520 --> 00:54:29,799
Speaker 7: Yeah, let's do it.

1132
00:54:30,280 --> 00:54:32,680
Speaker 5: You got off like pretty easy, though, because you were

1133
00:54:32,680 --> 00:54:35,080
Speaker 5: supposed to be hosting the whole episode, and she's like,

1134
00:54:35,760 --> 00:54:36,480
Speaker 5: She's like, you got a.

1135
00:54:36,480 --> 00:54:38,160
Speaker 4: Good night's sleep, Why don't you come in and talk

1136
00:54:38,160 --> 00:54:40,959
Speaker 4: about her? All right, I'll come.

1137
00:54:41,560 --> 00:54:43,719
Speaker 5: Oh, do you want to start us off on the

1138
00:54:43,760 --> 00:54:44,280
Speaker 5: aching release?

1139
00:54:44,400 --> 00:54:47,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I don't really have any aches because I've

1140
00:54:48,000 --> 00:54:49,800
Speaker 1: been in such bliss with this baby.

1141
00:54:49,920 --> 00:54:50,640
Speaker 4: I love it.

1142
00:54:50,880 --> 00:54:53,840
Speaker 5: So this is the only episode that I would allow

1143
00:54:53,960 --> 00:54:55,680
Speaker 5: you to get away with no egg.

1144
00:54:55,800 --> 00:54:58,560
Speaker 7: Yeah, I have no aches. I just adore those kids

1145
00:54:58,600 --> 00:54:59,920
Speaker 7: that you've brought into this world.

1146
00:55:00,080 --> 00:55:00,560
Speaker 5: Thank you.

1147
00:55:00,760 --> 00:55:02,600
Speaker 2: Love them and your relief.

1148
00:55:02,960 --> 00:55:07,680
Speaker 4: They love the g they I mean, you have like

1149
00:55:07,760 --> 00:55:10,720
Speaker 4: the classiest, like funniest gig.

1150
00:55:11,520 --> 00:55:13,319
Speaker 8: I was gonna say Grandma, but I'm like, no, it

1151
00:55:13,360 --> 00:55:14,279
Speaker 8: doesn't work with me.

1152
00:55:14,360 --> 00:55:16,879
Speaker 7: I'm the g Yeah, I love Leno.

1153
00:55:16,880 --> 00:55:19,080
Speaker 6: She says, Hey, g can I go and pick her

1154
00:55:19,160 --> 00:55:21,319
Speaker 6: up sometimes from school when they can or learns like

1155
00:55:21,320 --> 00:55:22,359
Speaker 6: working or something law.

1156
00:55:22,800 --> 00:55:24,600
Speaker 2: Sorry, Like I'll go.

1157
00:55:24,560 --> 00:55:26,080
Speaker 6: And get her and like I wake her up in

1158
00:55:26,080 --> 00:55:29,280
Speaker 6: her knapsack, and sometimes she'll look at me and go where, Mama,

1159
00:55:29,360 --> 00:55:31,359
Speaker 6: where Gigi. I'm like, well, I'm here, you little shit.

1160
00:55:31,880 --> 00:55:34,680
Speaker 5: That made me so happy. The other day I surprised

1161
00:55:34,680 --> 00:55:37,280
Speaker 5: her and picked her up from school, and she didn't

1162
00:55:37,360 --> 00:55:39,760
Speaker 5: realize that, like I was there because you know, Easton's

1163
00:55:39,800 --> 00:55:43,080
Speaker 5: been taking her and she sees Brock and she's a

1164
00:55:43,120 --> 00:55:46,279
Speaker 5: little disoriented because she just had nap time, and so

1165
00:55:46,320 --> 00:55:50,320
Speaker 5: I've been down. I go, hi baby, and she's mama

1166
00:55:51,480 --> 00:55:52,120
Speaker 5: and she was.

1167
00:55:52,239 --> 00:55:55,399
Speaker 6: Yes, it was like the best picking her up when

1168
00:55:55,440 --> 00:55:57,439
Speaker 6: she's in like in her nap time.

1169
00:55:57,640 --> 00:55:58,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's nothing better.

1170
00:55:59,080 --> 00:56:00,640
Speaker 4: She's so cute. I love seeing her.

1171
00:56:01,080 --> 00:56:03,200
Speaker 7: Hi good.

1172
00:56:03,480 --> 00:56:05,800
Speaker 2: I love when you tell her that it's really.

1173
00:56:07,239 --> 00:56:08,880
Speaker 5: Tt what's your ache and relief?

1174
00:56:10,120 --> 00:56:13,040
Speaker 6: My relief is this baby just being here and just

1175
00:56:13,840 --> 00:56:16,440
Speaker 6: the energy and the aura in the house and just everything.

1176
00:56:16,520 --> 00:56:20,640
Speaker 6: I'm very very I'm I feel at home at home.

1177
00:56:20,800 --> 00:56:22,760
Speaker 6: It sounds weird, but like I feel great.

1178
00:56:22,880 --> 00:56:25,120
Speaker 2: And my ache is what I've just told you guys.

1179
00:56:25,160 --> 00:56:27,759
Speaker 2: I feel just very off and I don't know why.

1180
00:56:28,400 --> 00:56:33,200
Speaker 6: So I feel off today and I'm hoping it's it'll pass.

1181
00:56:33,520 --> 00:56:34,200
Speaker 5: It will pass.

1182
00:56:34,280 --> 00:56:35,960
Speaker 6: So yeah, No, I have a lot of tools that

1183
00:56:36,000 --> 00:56:38,560
Speaker 6: I can use. I've got an amazing family, and like.

1184
00:56:38,520 --> 00:56:40,960
Speaker 2: I said, home feels like home. So I feel like that.

1185
00:56:41,040 --> 00:56:43,680
Speaker 2: My ache is just I don't feel like I should.

1186
00:56:43,440 --> 00:56:46,719
Speaker 6: Be and everything like that, and I got to just

1187
00:56:46,719 --> 00:56:48,640
Speaker 6: get over that hump. But I do want to say

1188
00:56:48,640 --> 00:56:52,240
Speaker 6: thank you to everybody who d ms me and sees

1189
00:56:52,239 --> 00:56:55,160
Speaker 6: how I'm doing with the mental issues I you know,

1190
00:56:55,400 --> 00:56:56,120
Speaker 6: voiced and things.

1191
00:56:56,120 --> 00:56:59,200
Speaker 2: So that's just what the ache is. It's here again

1192
00:56:59,280 --> 00:57:01,440
Speaker 2: kind of it comes in wave. So that's okay. But

1193
00:57:01,520 --> 00:57:02,000
Speaker 2: thank you to.

1194
00:57:01,960 --> 00:57:04,719
Speaker 6: Everybody, and we love you back, love you, love you, guys,

1195
00:57:04,760 --> 00:57:05,480
Speaker 6: so thank you.

1196
00:57:05,520 --> 00:57:09,240
Speaker 8: Thanks for being honest about that too, and just feeling off.

1197
00:57:09,640 --> 00:57:18,920
Speaker 4: Maybe try Lalla's placenti pills. I said, I'd be like, Okay,

1198
00:57:19,800 --> 00:57:20,240
Speaker 4: take a nap.

1199
00:57:20,760 --> 00:57:21,480
Speaker 3: Cannibalism.

1200
00:57:21,640 --> 00:57:25,880
Speaker 2: That is cannibalism, read a book at home, read it.

1201
00:57:25,960 --> 00:57:27,400
Speaker 1: But you sit out in the sun and read a

1202
00:57:27,400 --> 00:57:28,960
Speaker 1: book sunshine.

1203
00:57:28,600 --> 00:57:32,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, twenty minutes of sunshine a day, uninterrupted.

1204
00:57:32,320 --> 00:57:32,720
Speaker 3: Guys.

1205
00:57:32,800 --> 00:57:34,520
Speaker 2: Yes, that's what I need. But there it is.

1206
00:57:34,640 --> 00:57:38,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, onto you to me my ache and relief. My

1207
00:57:38,360 --> 00:57:41,360
Speaker 4: relief is definitely just being able to be present for

1208
00:57:41,440 --> 00:57:43,720
Speaker 4: baby Sosa. That was like a gift you gave me

1209
00:57:43,760 --> 00:57:44,840
Speaker 4: and it was beautiful.

1210
00:57:44,960 --> 00:57:46,240
Speaker 5: I was so happy to have you.

1211
00:57:46,360 --> 00:57:52,480
Speaker 4: It was amazing. And also baby Carter being born just

1212
00:57:52,520 --> 00:57:55,680
Speaker 4: a few days later. I'm an auntie.

1213
00:57:56,280 --> 00:57:58,520
Speaker 5: Too, right, he was on the fifth a little boyfriend

1214
00:57:58,520 --> 00:57:59,560
Speaker 5: and girlfriend six or.

1215
00:57:59,560 --> 00:58:05,680
Speaker 4: The seventh, Okay, yeah, possibly, we'll see He's a just

1216
00:58:05,760 --> 00:58:09,080
Speaker 4: a cuteie patuity, and so that is my relief. My

1217
00:58:09,120 --> 00:58:10,960
Speaker 4: ache is that I haven't met him yet, but I

1218
00:58:11,000 --> 00:58:14,280
Speaker 4: am going home October second to the fifth, so I

1219
00:58:14,320 --> 00:58:17,680
Speaker 4: will be meeting him, chilling with him, bringing him to

1220
00:58:17,760 --> 00:58:23,720
Speaker 4: jiu jitsu, so that I won't be bringing him. Everyone relaxed.

1221
00:58:23,760 --> 00:58:25,640
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna be that's.

1222
00:58:25,520 --> 00:58:26,360
Speaker 5: Messed up, Jessica.

1223
00:58:26,480 --> 00:58:32,080
Speaker 4: He's a baby. He's a baby. No, he's so cute.

1224
00:58:32,120 --> 00:58:34,400
Speaker 5: And you sent your sister like the best of the best,

1225
00:58:35,000 --> 00:58:35,919
Speaker 5: like postpartum.

1226
00:58:36,160 --> 00:58:39,160
Speaker 8: Yeah, thank you Bige for helping out too with that.

1227
00:58:39,600 --> 00:58:42,280
Speaker 5: Well, you know, I just love when babies come into

1228
00:58:42,280 --> 00:58:45,880
Speaker 5: the mix. Yeah, I have a friend who's.

1229
00:58:44,960 --> 00:58:46,200
Speaker 7: Trying the best.

1230
00:58:46,240 --> 00:58:46,680
Speaker 4: It is.

1231
00:58:46,720 --> 00:58:52,480
Speaker 7: It's so the best, Jerry, it's the best.

1232
00:58:52,880 --> 00:58:55,520
Speaker 5: So I have I do have an ache, and I

1233
00:58:55,600 --> 00:58:59,560
Speaker 5: obviously have a relief. Okay, I'll do my relief first.

1234
00:59:00,520 --> 00:59:04,960
Speaker 5: My relief is when I was pregnant with Sosa, because

1235
00:59:04,960 --> 00:59:07,000
Speaker 5: it was a different pregnancy, and I've been very open

1236
00:59:07,000 --> 00:59:11,640
Speaker 5: about this. I'm like, how will I ever love anybody

1237
00:59:11,760 --> 00:59:15,600
Speaker 5: my own child, even as much as I love Ocean Kent, Like,

1238
00:59:15,640 --> 00:59:19,120
Speaker 5: there's no freaking way. And I had prepared myself. I

1239
00:59:19,120 --> 00:59:22,760
Speaker 5: had prepared myself during childbirth. I was like, she may

1240
00:59:22,760 --> 00:59:25,720
Speaker 5: come out and you may have a different reaction than

1241
00:59:25,720 --> 00:59:29,720
Speaker 5: you're expecting, and you may have it may take some time.

1242
00:59:30,760 --> 00:59:32,960
Speaker 5: And the moment she popped out, I was like, oh

1243
00:59:33,000 --> 00:59:35,840
Speaker 5: my gosh, I know what people mean, like, you have

1244
00:59:36,800 --> 00:59:40,360
Speaker 5: more love to give. You're fully capable, you love them

1245
00:59:40,400 --> 00:59:43,960
Speaker 5: the exact same, but you love your kids differently, right,

1246
00:59:44,520 --> 00:59:47,160
Speaker 5: So that was a huge relief that when she popped out,

1247
00:59:47,160 --> 00:59:49,800
Speaker 5: and even now, like I can't I mean, I'm just

1248
00:59:49,840 --> 00:59:52,960
Speaker 5: like I can't get enough of her, Like at night

1249
00:59:53,000 --> 00:59:54,640
Speaker 5: when it's just me and her and she's on the

1250
00:59:54,640 --> 00:59:57,160
Speaker 5: boob and we're just gazing at each other because that's

1251
00:59:57,200 --> 00:59:59,280
Speaker 5: the bonding moment right for me and her, and I'm

1252
00:59:59,360 --> 01:00:05,200
Speaker 5: just I'm fucking obsessed with her, Okay, So that was

1253
01:00:05,240 --> 01:00:10,120
Speaker 5: a huge release. Yeah, my ache is I'm upset that

1254
01:00:10,160 --> 01:00:14,360
Speaker 5: we are not more progressive with the breastfeeding thing. I

1255
01:00:14,560 --> 01:00:20,440
Speaker 5: don't like that it's kind of something where it's pushed

1256
01:00:20,440 --> 01:00:24,880
Speaker 5: on you breastfeeding. It's not asked in hospitals. They just

1257
01:00:25,040 --> 01:00:29,480
Speaker 5: say we're sending in the lactation specialist instead of saying

1258
01:00:30,000 --> 01:00:33,160
Speaker 5: do you plan on breastfeeding? Are you interested? Is it

1259
01:00:33,240 --> 01:00:36,880
Speaker 5: something you'd like to know more about. If so, we'll

1260
01:00:36,920 --> 01:00:40,520
Speaker 5: send in a specialist. I wish that it were more

1261
01:00:41,040 --> 01:00:43,840
Speaker 5: like that, and I would think in twenty twenty four

1262
01:00:44,680 --> 01:00:48,240
Speaker 5: it would be more like that, because number one, it's

1263
01:00:48,240 --> 01:00:49,800
Speaker 5: extremely difficult.

1264
01:00:50,280 --> 01:00:50,720
Speaker 7: It can be.

1265
01:00:50,840 --> 01:00:53,000
Speaker 5: I've had friends where it's like it's so isolating. I

1266
01:00:53,040 --> 01:00:55,320
Speaker 5: don't want to breastfeed my baby. I don't like it.

1267
01:00:55,320 --> 01:00:58,120
Speaker 5: It depresses me. I feel like moms should be able

1268
01:00:58,120 --> 01:01:01,200
Speaker 5: to make the call instead of like they've freshly just

1269
01:01:01,200 --> 01:01:04,640
Speaker 5: given birth and it's like lactation specialist. It's like, well,

1270
01:01:04,640 --> 01:01:06,560
Speaker 5: hold on, like this wasn't a part of my plan.

1271
01:01:06,720 --> 01:01:09,760
Speaker 5: So that is my ache. Because it happened to your sister.

1272
01:01:09,720 --> 01:01:11,640
Speaker 4: It's a great acre. It did happen to her. She

1273
01:01:11,760 --> 01:01:14,720
Speaker 4: is now officially bottle feeding the baby. But you guys,

1274
01:01:14,880 --> 01:01:16,920
Speaker 4: I did she allowed me to stay on here. She

1275
01:01:16,960 --> 01:01:20,160
Speaker 4: went in with a plan of bottle feeding. Everyone around

1276
01:01:20,200 --> 01:01:23,439
Speaker 4: her knew she ended up getting There was a lot

1277
01:01:23,440 --> 01:01:25,440
Speaker 4: that went on during her labor. She did end up

1278
01:01:25,480 --> 01:01:29,040
Speaker 4: getting a little pressured to breastfeed. She did end up

1279
01:01:29,080 --> 01:01:33,120
Speaker 4: trying it against a lot of our wishes against her,

1280
01:01:33,280 --> 01:01:35,040
Speaker 4: and she was like, this is why I had a plan.

1281
01:01:35,320 --> 01:01:37,000
Speaker 4: And now she's on the bottle. But yes, I'm glad

1282
01:01:37,040 --> 01:01:37,440
Speaker 4: you said that.

1283
01:01:37,640 --> 01:01:40,280
Speaker 7: Yeah, well, can I make a statement as well? Yes?

1284
01:01:40,720 --> 01:01:42,960
Speaker 1: I thought it was weird because we got a second

1285
01:01:43,000 --> 01:01:44,080
Speaker 1: room for me to stay.

1286
01:01:44,560 --> 01:01:47,400
Speaker 5: Yeah, they called it the dad's room.

1287
01:01:47,680 --> 01:01:50,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's not progressive, Like we're in LA if they're

1288
01:01:50,160 --> 01:01:51,280
Speaker 4: calling it the dad's.

1289
01:01:51,440 --> 01:01:55,640
Speaker 6: La right, and now they don't need it's the primary bedroom.

1290
01:01:56,040 --> 01:01:58,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, as a master yeah.

1291
01:01:58,400 --> 01:01:59,760
Speaker 2: But they're still using that term.

1292
01:01:59,800 --> 01:02:02,320
Speaker 1: And medical yes, and like what if you had a

1293
01:02:02,640 --> 01:02:03,760
Speaker 1: I stayed in the dad's room.

1294
01:02:03,880 --> 01:02:05,880
Speaker 4: It's like what if you're a single mom or you

1295
01:02:05,920 --> 01:02:06,920
Speaker 4: had a wife.

1296
01:02:07,000 --> 01:02:09,440
Speaker 7: Yeah, just throw that out there.

1297
01:02:09,440 --> 01:02:09,960
Speaker 4: Thank you, Lise.

1298
01:02:11,120 --> 01:02:13,040
Speaker 5: That was the best though. When I filled out the

1299
01:02:13,040 --> 01:02:16,400
Speaker 5: birth certificate and there was no dad information and I

1300
01:02:16,440 --> 01:02:18,640
Speaker 5: get a phone call. They're like, Hi, we're wondering if

1301
01:02:18,680 --> 01:02:21,800
Speaker 5: we can come by your room to talk about so

1302
01:02:22,040 --> 01:02:25,160
Speaker 5: say's birth certificate. And I was like, I know where

1303
01:02:25,160 --> 01:02:27,360
Speaker 5: they're coming. They were like, so, hun, are we just

1304
01:02:27,400 --> 01:02:29,880
Speaker 5: not interested in putting the dad's information? I go, I

1305
01:02:29,920 --> 01:02:33,320
Speaker 5: got a sperm donor and they go, well, great, perfect,

1306
01:02:33,360 --> 01:02:34,360
Speaker 5: that's all we needed to know.

1307
01:02:34,520 --> 01:02:41,240
Speaker 4: No, thank you dad. It is interesting. It's very interesting still,

1308
01:02:41,280 --> 01:02:43,360
Speaker 4: the energy of like are we not even the question,

1309
01:02:43,440 --> 01:02:45,320
Speaker 4: and I know that they meant well by it, and

1310
01:02:45,320 --> 01:02:47,760
Speaker 4: they were great, but the question even of like do

1311
01:02:47,800 --> 01:02:48,919
Speaker 4: you not want to put the dad?

1312
01:02:49,200 --> 01:02:50,880
Speaker 6: But I can see where they're coming from because the

1313
01:02:50,920 --> 01:02:51,880
Speaker 6: baby just was born.

1314
01:02:52,000 --> 01:02:52,960
Speaker 2: All of this is going on.

1315
01:02:53,000 --> 01:02:54,480
Speaker 6: Who knows if the dad was like, oh I got

1316
01:02:54,480 --> 01:02:56,040
Speaker 6: to fill that out, his mind was elsewhere.

1317
01:02:56,040 --> 01:02:57,640
Speaker 2: I can see where.

1318
01:02:58,040 --> 01:03:00,240
Speaker 5: I was not offended by them coming in. But it

1319
01:03:00,400 --> 01:03:04,360
Speaker 5: was so nice because it was my first experience being like.

1320
01:03:05,400 --> 01:03:08,080
Speaker 7: A baby, she's just your.

1321
01:03:10,040 --> 01:03:10,520
Speaker 4: I love it.

1322
01:03:10,640 --> 01:03:13,120
Speaker 5: I'm so happy that I got to come in and

1323
01:03:13,200 --> 01:03:14,080
Speaker 5: be with you. Guys.

1324
01:03:14,480 --> 01:03:15,680
Speaker 2: We're glad you came in too.

1325
01:03:15,800 --> 01:03:16,960
Speaker 7: Made my job really.

1326
01:03:20,360 --> 01:03:21,000
Speaker 2: Didn't want it.

1327
01:03:22,280 --> 01:03:25,120
Speaker 5: Well, this is your episode, so take us out.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for listening to the La La Podcast and hope

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Speaker 1: to see you back.

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Speaker 2: I'm right, I was terrible, but we did it. I

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Speaker 2: love YouTube stuff. YouTube drops. We all know that Wednesday.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, like copt subscribe, hit that bell for that notification

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Speaker 6: when we dropped.

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Speaker 7: You did a great job.

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Speaker 2: I've done it before. You should be that. Okay. I

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Speaker 2: do get it. Next week some week, next week, next week,

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Speaker 2: I'm the host. Perfect tune in. Please.

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Speaker 5: I love it you guys, I love you so much.

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Speaker 5: Thank you for listening to another episode of To Give

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Speaker 5: Them All Up Podcast. I will catch you the next

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Speaker 5: time I get a full night sleep.

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Speaker 2: Bye bye,